The Truth About Body Positivity
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- Опубліковано 29 сер 2024
- In this video I react to recent videos about me and share my personal experience within the body positive community. I talk about how I've often felt conflicted about the messaging different groups share under the banner of body positivity and how i've felt pressured since the beginning to change to fit it. Candidly, I have never felt truly accepted as part of the community, although I was often called a figure head of the movement by the media. I think its really about body acceptance vs body positivity.
These are the two creators who have gone out of their way to treat me and respect me as a human, show them some love:
Obese to Beast / obesetobeast
The Fitness Marshall : / thefitnessmarshall
I saw this quote once: "To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, be nothing."
Even then you'll get criticized for being passive.
This is so powerful x
TRUTH!!!
And even then people will criticise you for that
Omg you are the sweetest!! You’re a superstar and I’m always a DM away! 💖
You are one of the sweetest people...Both you you are actually!!!
I got off that whole "body positivity" train years ago. They weren't the ones living in my body and experiencing it start to break down and the pain. Do what's best for you!!
Same here . I’m 54 and it gets even worse as you age . Trust me ladies !🤭😥
Agreed with you ladies . I've gotten away with it for a long time . I turn 60 this year and have a lot of joint problems because of carrying all this weight. I want better for myself. That should be part of the self love pkg in my opinion.
Yep, l used to be part of of that, but I began to see that it was defying logic.
I totally agree. I have a back injury and nerve damage so too much weight on my body makes movement more difficult than it needs to be. You have to do what works best for you.
There are people who a unsubscribing to Anna’s channel, because she is trying to improve her health ... the world is nuts
There are new people subscribing too, like me. She seems great and I look forward to more of her content.
@@nottodayrose ikr, I joined after I watched this video and she is one brave gal ❤️🔥
@@nottodayrose Anna is so truely beautiful i just love that girl she lovely,she so golden and she so gorgous
@@nottodayrose yea. I just subscribed to her because she's trying to improve her health and I find it inspiring. I'd love to support her and send positive energy. ♥️
It's ok. Those people like me who are also trying to better ourselves and are looking for encouragement will take their place.
"There seems to be a sexualization of the plus-size community, under the guise of 'body positivity.' That, once you accept yourself, you should feel comfortable being seen naked or near-naked."
Thank you for addressing this. I have noticed this as well, and it always bothered me. I don't dress modestly because I'm ashamed of my body; I dress modestly because I don't have any desire to walk around in stages of undress. If I did want to dress provocatively, I would. It's not every woman's desire to be seen naked by everyone, or to be sexualized.
Fit Fatty Exactly. I dress modestly because that’s what I prefer. Of course I will wear a normal swimsuit (tank suit or modest two-piece) when everyone else is wearing a swimsuit, but the very idea of wearing a thong bikini at the beach, or a very revealing dress out in public is far too embarrassing for me.
PREACH 🙌
Indeed, such truth. I'm not hiding my large body, I LOVE me some glowing colors and pretty patterns. But I have no personal desire to have it all out on display. And that doesn't make me shamed, just not in that place.
Thank you for saying this!!!!
Fit Fatty I see this a lot and I feel like it is still giving into misogyny and that we as women need to be seen as desirable to be valued.
When I first started to lose weight (210 to 135), my doctor, who had never suggested weight loss and only told me how proud she was after I started, said “don’t tell other women you’re losing weight. They’ll get catty and try to derail you.” I thought, no, I having incredibly supportive people in my life, she (my dr) is talking crazy!
Turns out she wasn’t! This is exactly what she meant! The body positively community is extremely catty to anyone that is challenging themselves to be better, for them! What does what you’re doing here, for you, have to do with anything they are doing for them?!
How can anyone say, and genuinely believe, you are hurting other people by bettering yourself? It’s absolutely insane to me and even more insane that they have a huge community believing the exact same way!
I love this and congratulations!
I had a coworker who after sitting close to me in the office after a few weeks in the office casually mention she was a health trainer and almost shyly offer to train me. I normally hate any kind of approach and judgement because so many times it is because its to force ideals instead of opening up the conversation.
This was not the case. Fast forward to a twenty pound weight loss. She is one of my closest friends and never once talked down to me and if she didn't like what I was doing (on all topics) respected, heard, considered my feelings. That is friendship.
People need to realize the difference between judgement and discernment and cruelty and any form of objectification.
Thanks for this post and its so great you found health in all this.
Whenever you go on a journey to better yourself no matter what it might be, you soon find out who your real friends really are. Unfortunately, you realize you truly only have one or two genuine friends in life and that it’s okay. Better to have a few flowers around you then getting your life chocked out by piles up weeds surrounding you.
I think the fat people who don’t want other fat people to lose weight feel that way because ultimately they want to be treated the same as average or thin people in society. They don’t want to get overlooked for jobs, promotions, romantic interests, and in everyday practical ways like the design of airplane seats. I think they believe that if there are a higher percentage of fat people in our society, the chances of them getting discriminated against for their weight will be lower.
Exactly I know I may be crucified for saying this but it seems that a lot of women attracted to the fat acceptance movement are using the movement to mask their insecurities instead of dealing with them. Their fragility shows when they are threatened when someone in their community has chosen to lose weight. They instantly try to attack and shame them in an attempt to justify their own body. If they were truly secure in themselves they would support one another instead of tearing down women for making their own damn choices.
You’re so likeable Anna. I’ve always genetically been on the thinner side and I personally have never really given a lot of thought to your body when I watch your videos or hauls. I watch you because you’re like the human version of a light bulb or chandelier. You’re such a light to the world and you have an attitude that’s contagious. Don’t let other people try to hide your light and bring you down!!
Same here, i have always watched her for her wonderful personality. I don't care what her weight is as long as she is healthy and happy because after watching her for years i care for her and when i care for someone i want them to be healthy and happy so they can live a long life.
Anna is a truly beautiful girl she lovely ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤💐👍
Love this comment. Beautiful written with so much Truth 💞
I’m body positive…I’m positive that MY body is MY choice. Keep doing you Anna!
Yes, preach
The motto I live by is “other people’s opinion of you is none of your business.” Keep doing you!
I believe in this too. It took a few years of maturity before I could get there.
Yes ❤️
I'm mid-sized with invisible disabilities. I SO want a body-positive movement to include people with disabilities, when I've tried to enter in the past I've gotten hateful messages and told not to enter some groups. I just want to celebrate my body when it does something right, but also still love it when everything is wrong.
What do you have if I may ask? I have progressive Multiple Sclerosis and I totally understand the invisible disability statement!! Hope you're doing well
@@brielleanyez7113 Seizures and CRPS (degenerative nerve thing). You can see where the CRPS has eaten my arm but I'm not allowed to look at it in a body-positive way (according to some people).
This is why movements are stupid. People are too individualistic to form movements based on emotions.
@@MaysBreakdown I heard that the body positivity movement was originally made to accept and love scars, disabilities, and other things that you don't have any control over. But it morphed into what it is now over time. I'm not sure how true that is, but I wouldn't be surprised if it was.
@@praisethesun1172I think it was made for marginalized bodies, but don’t quote me on that
ObesetoBeast is such a kind person. Love you Anna! I’ll support you no matter what. Also you have the most amazing personality you always make me laugh so much💜
Yes, haha, I was just about to write the same thing! 😆 We love you, Anna!!! 💖 You do you, girl! Glad there are kind UA-camrs like ObesetoBeast and thefitnessmarshall supporting you too! 💜
Yes we love you Anna! We will be here forever to support you and your journey! ❤️
YES, we need more positive people. 🌺
You left me speachless. Please know that YOU were one of the people that lifted me up when I felt like crap about "waiting until I lose weight" to love myself. I saw you being your beautiful self then and now. I had to lose weight because of health issues and felt very much ostricised by the community because I had betrayed the whole movement? I don't know. I am SO proud of you for speaking up. I've been watching you for over 2 years now and I've grown from watching your videos and I'm growing in courage now too watching stand up for yourself. I support you and I see you and you're lovely 💕
There is very little positivity in the body positive community. It's a very mean girl you can't sit with us kind of group.
Sweetie I'm 62 years old and just figured me out. My body is mine and I'm finally at peace with it. I've been bigger and I've been smaller and at this very moment I'm perfect. Why you need to explain is a mystery to me. My wish for you is peace and love no matter where your personal path leads you. So know you have this old ladies support!
Yes!!!
But the thing is ......the community is diverse! There's not one kind!
TRUTH
@@cathyann3711 this old lady's too! 67
People really be attacking others for losing weight.. man jealousy IS A DISEASE.
It's the strangest phenomenon I've ever witnessed. And these are the same people who bully my daughter because she cannot gain weight. 😔 Seems like they all need serious therapy.
What kind of World are we living in? Body positivity has taken a strange turn. All of a sudden when someone decides to lose weight and DARE I SAY IT...Healthier, they’ve become all Butt Hurt. What I believe is going on is a big ole barrel of JEALOUSY. Love who you are but be happy for those who are changing their lives for the better. We don’t need to be fighting amongst ourselves.
Yes!! thank you finally someone said it...
Amen!! 🙌🏼💜💜💜💜
I was blasted last night and today by people in a “body positive group.” I responded to a post and I was called fat phobic because I go to the gym and am actively changing the way my body looks. Why can’t we celebrate others and lift each up? Why do some of these people think that losing weight means you aren’t “body positive” and that you hate all people who aren’t on your same journey. You can love yourself and still want to change things. I want to be a better me, and through weightlifting I have discovered things about myself I didn’t know. I’m here to celebrate you and your journey whatever that includes. Love yourself and love each other.
Some people cannot handle others taking control of their bodies and their health because they either can’t or won’t themselves. No one is fat phobic getting healthy and doing what they can to make sure they’re able to experience life with less pain and difficulty. When I got over 200lbs all my joints hurt. I live on the 3rd floor. Hauling groceries up made me feel like my lungs were on fire when I was done. Why would anyone want to physically hurt to be “body positive”? I don’t want to have that as my life for sure. You do what’s best for you and I think you’re awesome taking charge of your health and well-being!
That woman made that video because it makes HER feel excluded and alienated, it makes HER feel bad about herself because she isn't willing to face her own issues. She is projecting onto you because of how it makes her feel. You were never negative to the "fat" community or anyone. NO ONE should be made to feel bad about taking accountability for their own body and own health. She made that video hoping to get people on her side and when it backfired, she turned off the like/dislike numbers so you can't even see them anymore. And I don't doubt she's deleting comments defending you. Please do NOT let any of this dissuade you, you do not exist on the internet to purely serve others and anything you do for your own health should never be seen like you're turning on your followers or anything. I got so effing mad watching that woman's video (via ObesetoBeast, she wasn't getting my views) and was so happy he was defending you. Her entire video was legitimately her contradicting everything she was saying and putting words into your mouth. I CANNOT.
She's definitely deleting comments. The only ones left there are the ones agreeing with her and "thanking her" for speaking on their behalf. Shame on them.
Yes!!!! I felt the same way.. I went off about it to my husband last night.. it was beyond Uncalled for.
So glad that Ana isn’t letting it stop her and just continues to push forward! She is one amazing lady!!
Alhan A Wow. When I watched it the comments were at least 80% negative.
@@JoBenny67 check her comments now. I was fuming yesterday when I saw them.
When she started talking about her lip fillers I just couldn't believe it! Preaching loving yourself the way you are, and trashing people who want to improve, then "I'm getting lip fillers because they help my self confidence" lol !!!!!! (not exactly those words but something to that effect).
No matter how much I bought into the body positivity movement during my "IDGAF" about my health, deep down I HATED being so overweight. So I left, and have been working my butt off at the gym and totally overhauled my way of eating to be healthy. I've been feeling better in years, and I know that I don't need to be perfect, but I do need to make good choices about my health.
Anna, you do what you need to do for YOU. What other people think doesn't matter. Body positivity to me means loving your body and sometimes that means changing your habits to live a healthier life. Every body should be respected, regardless of size, and that includes when people choose to change their bodies. You are an inspiration to a lot of people. Don't let people tell you how to live your life, you keep doing you. You have so many supporters 💜
AMEN. And if someone decides NOT to do anything if you are fat. You are more than your body. I am overweight. I try to lose weight, but I am not jealous of those who succeed far more than I do. I love myself either way.
Yes, yes, yes. Loving your body, to me, means giving it respect to exist, whatever your size. And if you need to change things up to be healthier and happier, you do, but for you, not Anyone else and their opinion!
People hate when you evolve because they are stuck.
💯
You are so well spoken and likable. You explained everything so well, i’m so glad you are able to make your choices and stand by them.
It is so sad how overwhelmingly negative and exclusive the “body positivity” community is. I think you are so genuine and I respect your responses to the criticism you have received. The fitness community ACCEPTS you and SUPPORTS you on this journey, no matter what it looks like for you. Go girl.
i really like how you empathize with the people criticizing you.
Came here from ObeaseToBeast and I just think you're a chill person with a great engaging personality. Keep doing you, and keep inspiring real body positivity, regardless of the community behind it.
You can only make one person happy all the time, make that you.
Everyone should do whatever makes them happy. My mom used to tell me “you are responsible for your own happiness” so do your thing girl!
No one has the “ perfect “ body. People say or think they have the “ perfect “ body, but they don’t.
Michael Caywood what about the possibility that EVERYONE has the perfect body?
Anyone else come here right after watching ObesetoBeast's reaction video?
I'm a bit late to watching it, but yup :)
Me!
Me too. The girl he critiqued in the video definitely has shame issues with her own weight to feel triggered by this girl being honest and losing weight to help her own health issues. All the best to you with your weight loss. 🌹
No, I never even heard of that.
I found out about you through ObeseToBeast's livestream and I truly think you are awesome!!! Sending so much love, lots of hugs, and all the best vibes! (:
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again and again and again: one of the biggest problems with social media right now is that ALL MESSAGES ARE NOT FOR ALL PEOPLE. And that’s totally fine!!!
I AM SO GRATEFUL FOR THIS VIDEO. I have internally felt the same way about “body positivity” for quite sometime, but felt like I needed to believe in SOMETHING in order to move towards loving myself again.. you’re right though- you can be body positive and not ascribe to one of those belief systems. To be honest, any one of those layers quickly becomes toxic to your mental health if you use it as the rule by which you navigate living in the body of a plus sized woman. The great thing is.. we are so much bigger than our bodies and WE DON’T HAVE TO FIT IN THEIR BOX! 🤗 Thank you for being unapologetically yourself and sharing it with us. I’ve followed you for a while and always love your vibrant spirit. Keep doing you! ❤️
i just wanted to drop in and say thanks for having captions!! very helpful for hoh/profoundly deaf people like myself :)
Corissa has a long track record of policing everyone's actions and making harsh generalizations due to their personal insecurities and fragility surrounding their own body. Over the years, I've seen her regurgitate the same toxic and judgmental talking points under the guise of "body positivity". Hilariously ironic and hypocritical. I would feel sorry for her, but the cattiness in making that video was over the top. Keep doing you, Anna!
Can i just say, I love how eloquent and concisely you expressed yourself. You seem remarkably intelligent and self-possessed. It's beautiful, you're beautiful, and your self perception, intellect, disposition, and diligence in improving your mental and physical health is really something to admire. Thanks for posting this xoxo
Please do NOT stop doing what you are doing... my 15 year old is looking up to you right now and is sooo incredibly inspired.
This woman is so well spoken & intelligent. She is not just the true body positivity, she is positivity, period. This message is so important for the young girls out there who fall for the toxic aspects of body “positivity”.
To be honest, I thought this was going to be a completely different video, one I wouldn't agree with. But you prove me wrong once again! You manage to word how I feel much better than I ever could. It's great to see you choose you!
I 100% AGREE WITH EVERYTHING!! You've been able to elegantly put into words thoughts and feelings I've had about this community that I just couldn't ever put into my own words and that have secretly irked me for quite a while.
Preach, sister. Body Positivity movement really does not exist ...does...not
You're amazing for doing what you're doing and refusing to be afraid of other people's toxicity. I wish you all the success and joy in your journey!
Girl i have unfollowed these so called “body positive” youtubers who are criticizing you. They are not body positive. You made a decision to improve your quality of life, to avoid chronic pain and health issues and I applaud you for being strong enough to do that and be upfront about it. 👏👏👏 Girl you nailed body positivity on the head. I know so many “thin” people who have horrible self image. Who get criticized for being to thin. The fat community has taken over this movement and made it theirs and it’s for EVERYONE! Love yourself and do what’s best for you. Your followers are here to support you. F the haters! ❤️💕
Just because you want to be healthier doesn’t mean you’re not body positive. I really don’t understand their logic. Especially when she’s getting lip injections to make herself feel better! She’s whacko
GIRL I literally just came from an @ObeseToBeast video and got randomly recommended your channel !! A big 'Hi💖' from your new subscriber/ instagram follower here!! Absolutely obsessed with your fashion sense and strong sense of self!! I'm not too high on the weight spectrum but definitely am trying to become healthier and change my lifestyle because of medical conditions (pre-arthritic knee joints at age 22 because of genetics😔😔). Your page literally helped give me so much clarity and perspective in finding a good balance between body positivity and making sure to treat the machine (my body and limbs) properly enough that I can at least stand up and walk to the bathroom on my own when I'm 45+ years old. Being shamed/teased when I try to do stairmaster or daily morning walks is something that I've def fought through and have realized is so much more valuable for me than the people whose attitude was bringing me down. Anybody that actively makes me feel bad or tries to stop me from saving my own life probably never had my best interest in mind in the first place. ILYSM girl you're just the baddest b** in the game ❤️⚡⚡
The coward that said things was clearly jealous and I only saw a HUGE wave of support for you! There was so much love and support for you. You as the real you, not even about your weight, just love and support for your wonderful, funny, real person who makes us all feel like we are your close friend. Keep being Anna because we love you! 💜
Anna, I respect you so much for not only speaking up about this, but for also doing it with grace. You’ve been an inspiration to me over the past few years in my own journey to accept my body, weight loss or not. Thank you so much for being vulnerable about this!
I feel like Alex from Learning to be Fearless is in your category. And why I love you both.
Me too.
I was thinking the same thing
And Sierra Shultzzie
Yeah I agree, because she talked about having the same issues!!!
She is terrible. For years she’s been profiting from the plus size community... promoting “body positivity”. Meanwhile she photoshops her pictures beyond recognition and lies about her size.
You are my hero. I’ve also developed some health issues that are going to necessitate a change in my weight. And, it’s scary. I so admire your bravery and candor in putting yourself out there, sharing your feelings, and standing in your truth.
I've been following you on YT for a couple years and I love the way you're doing you. Please never stop. You never needed the whole social media fakery and I've been secretly thinking you don't fit within all the "layers" you mentioned. Anyway, I rarely have a feeling I'd like to be friends with someone on the social media, but I really appreciate you as a person and enjoy following your journey :) I'm so glad you made this video. Sending lots of love!
Exactly!! Anna is the real deal!! 💜💜💜
I've followed you for a long time and you just keep growing and becoming and being such a shining light. I'm so sorry that you were hurt by a community that you also (to many people) were consider a "representative" of. There's a lesson in there somewhere (for me to ponder) about the assumptions that we make about people and their assumed "affiliations". Thank you for being so real, and brave a honest with all of us. ❤️
I tried being part of the community towards the beginning of it. It seemed like a good place, you know? I was recovering from anorexia and SH and wanted to be around people and ideals that would push me further into recovery and give me a good community and maybe friends as well through it.
Instead i was told i wasn't "fat enough", that i was "hijacking" a movement not meant for me, and degraded- even when i opened up about my ed being the reason i wanted to join the community- and my anorexia was just thrown in my face in so many ways. If i wasn't as far into my recovery as I was, I would have relapsed from that. I was told everything from i was lucky to struggle with anorexia to i should've died from it or my self harm. It is SUCH a warped community and a lot of people have such a warped mindset. The only acceptable bodies worthy of praise are bodies of a certain fatness. I'd even noticed some disabled people get side eyed from the "advocates".
The body positivity movement is a joke. Its largely no better than the counterpart, with the diet pills and skeletal figures on magazines and fat shaming. It's no better. They do not care to be positive, they do not care about health- as you've experienced. They want fat women to suffer silently solely for the comfort of those who look up to them, and they don't want "thin" people in the community or celebrating themselves no matter the reason or things they've overcome simply to be healthy.
I just watched this video on ObesetoBeast channel. I had to come here and “like” this video and tell you that you hit the nail on the head with all of this! Good for you for just focusing on YOU and your journey! I started following you a few years ago for your fashion hauls and even when I thought I would never wear that, I enjoyed seeing you trying on the many different styles and being self confident in the body you have. That’s something that’s taken me a long time to do. Body positivity to me is accepting and loving my body as it is right now and as it is IF I choose to change it. I don’t think I want to belong to a “community” especially because of all the things you pointed out. Keep being true to you and let the haters find somewhere else to go!
I learned about the BP community through obese to beast and I didn’t know how toxic it was. Smh. I though it was about accepting who you are as person, learn about your behaviors and environment that got you to high risk point and then slowly(marathon style) lose the weight to get a healthier weight(not a fitness model image). I guess it make sense there’s a dark side. There will always be polarizing views in every area of life. Just how there are negligent trainers in CrossFit there is also competent ones. Everyone wants to “pick a side”..some high school stuff. But it also seems that those who attack those that are trying to better themselves through weight loss ,are too focus on gaining more viewership/monetization than adding value to their community.
When someone attacks another person for making positive changes for healthier stronger version of themselves is a huge RED flag. Period.
No matter what size we are, it’s important to discuss collectively the things to do to improve ourselves and well being. It shouldn’t be about someone being upset because they chose to diet, or what fit wear they wore or why they have decided to take action to be healthier...but to view it openly and to possibly get that same motivation to do the same. It doesn’t matter if you lost a lb or not. It’s not about that. I’ve truly learned so much from you Anna that I tell everyone! You’re the smartest I know and I just love listening to you. You have impacted me in a big way, just like you have with many others!
All the love to you girl. I agree.
Kudos for not caring what other people who know little to nothing about you say... You are an amazing person, I feel so honored to have found your video a couple of yrs ago and have continued to watch when I can and to enjoy your view on this very crazy world we are in. No one has any right to tell you or anyone else for that matter how they should live their life ! I tried for yrs to fit in and finally I just woke up and said screw it. The only person I have to impress is the one looking back at me in the mirror ! I don’t care what anyone else thinks. I admire you for your honesty, for being true to yourself and for trying to live your life to the fullest ability you can. Don’t ever change for anyone. I hope I can meet you one day , I would love to have a cup of coffee, tea, or whatever and just talk real shit... I love you for who you are and nothing else. Keep being real Anna !
I’m SO sorry! People are hateful, mean and that behavior is uncalled for. I’m glad you are speaking about it!
You’re beautiful, kind and so talented!!
I wish I had a pinkie amount of your ability’s!
I reported an add on FB for a weight loss product with you dancing by a pool.
I am way more dedicated to you videos now because I also have to keep myself in good shape diet and exercise wise because I’m an organ transplant survivor. I absolutely love this content about doing what’s best for your body, and becoming physically more active for your health. I relate to it and I appreciate content that revolves around fitness and dieting for health and quality of life, because for some people it’s a necessity and that’s a journey I don’t see a lot on this platform. Thanks for speaking about this and keep these videos coming.
Edit: I LOVE THE FITNESS MARSHAL, seriously I take his dance classes and he’s a shining ray of light.
Anna, I love you even more than I did before after watching this whole thing. You do you. That's all that matters.
Sending you love Anna! I can't imagine being the topic of discussion by people who forget to consider that you're HUMAN. You're wonderful always and I appreciate your videos so much!
I knew it was “her”. She’s a bully. I think you are true to yourself and honest, and that’s great. 😍
who is she?
I found your channel by watching ObesetoBeast do a reaction video to a couple of your videos.
1. I’m actually not surprised that people are criticizing you, because those people are miserable people that don’t want to take accountability for their lives. They hate that you are actually so positive and comfortable in your skin, and they aren’t or they wouldn’t be such haters.
2. You have such a beautiful and positive attitude and I’m glad I found your channel!
3. REAL body positivity is not only being comfortable and happy in your body but also giving it a better chance to be the best and healthiest body for life.
You may lose “followers”, but those are toxic followers. You will gain so many more wonderful and supportive ones because you’re just so amazing!
That is what's always bothered me about the body positive community. For people who are positive about their own bodies, they seem to be tripping over themselves to be negative about other people's bodies, when they try to make positive changes.
You are so SO well spoken. I can listen to you all day. You just know how to word things in a way that’s so clear. Also I think you deserve all the love and support for what you decide to do to your body. Please know that although there may be people who will backlash this video, there are 100x more people supporting you and lifting you up. Best of luck to you on your health journey 💕💕
When I saw that other youtubers were talking about you, I went straight to your channel, because I didn't want to hear what was going on with you through someone else's agenda. As a fellow big girl, I do appreciate your willingness to share yourself with us openly and honestly.
To me, body positivity means loving yourself and accepting the way you are in the moment. I recently lost 75lbs and when I was heavier I needed to accept who/how I was. I couldn’t move on with whatever path I was heading down if I didn’t stop to accept that I was even on a hike. I loved myself 75lbs heavier and I love myself now. I’ll love myself if I gain back some weight and if I loose more. So in the end, body positivity is embracing who you are and how you look while working on yourself no matter what that is.
Being Body Positive to me is loving yourself regardless of whatever, but having the willingness to change if things go awry. As long as you never discriminate against someone because of their body, YOU ARE BODY POSITIVE. And I'm glad to see more people coming out and admitting how toxic the community is, especially big name influencers.
When she liked your comment and then took it away ;-;
I can’t say it enough! I am so hear for this content! My opinion doesn’t mean anything to anyone, but me, but I want to say it just in case you want to hear it! This is the most honest and genuine I think I have seen you.. again.. I’m just a person watching a video and don’t even know you personally... it’s just a feeling I have gotten from the last few videos on this topic... thank you for this! I have never related to any statement more the “where is that group of woman who just don’t hate themselves”? Your saying thing that I have felt for years and it feels amazing to know I wasn’t crazy! You have been able to verbalize what I haven’t been able to about these communities! Again thank you!
You handled this with such class, far better than how I reacted when I saw FatGirlFlows video, which I also found because of obesetobeast. There's so much ignorance in her video, and with her audience. I defended you, not that you need it, but because everything that was said wasn't true at all. Thank you for being so sweet, and so humble.
You're such a pure soul i hope you all the happiness in this world! And remember whenever you feel like there's ppl viciously attacking you that there's ppl like me that support you ON WHATEVER you're doing! Do what you think it's right for you and live on. All love ❤️
Hey, I discovered your channel because of Obesetobeast. I'm losing weight for health too, and seeing you do it inspite of all of the hate is so inspiring. What you are saying is too real, and you seem incredibly intelligent. Keep up the good work girl!
I used to watch your videos years ago when I was really struggling with my body image. For some time a lot of my interests on UA-cam changed, but since I still follow Obese to Beast on here I saw the vid he made on you and remembered how I loved your vids and your personality.
I've just subscribed and added you on Instagram. Trying to have body positive influences on my feed is always so hard, because I feel it's either very fit people who just don't look like me or plus size people who deny that weight is an important factor when it comes to health for many people.
I am 100% here for any person of any size to be accepted and loved the way they are. To be happy and live their live to the fullest - but I also love seeing when everyone tries to look after themselves as best as they can. Not for everyone that means weight loss as a priority, but there is absolutely nothing wrong if it is for you! Every body is and everyone's needs are different and I'm so happy you are doing what is best for you!
Never would have watched FatGirlFlow before, but went there from Obese To Beast. I defended you Ana, not that you NEED that. But how dare her. She's very unpleasant to say the least.
Same and she blocked me on Instagram 🤷♀️🤣
I have half a mind to do that as well...but I'm wondering if I really want to "go down that rabbit hole" in terms of leaving a nasty comment on Fat Girl Flow's page. It can lead to a dark place.
Fat Girl Flow👉She’s so defiant that her message comes off angrily. I miss the days when she did fun stuff. Now it’s PSA. Nobody wants to hear the same old “I love my body and screw you if you want to change”. We’ve gotten the point. Let’s move on.
I did as well. I'd be willing to bet she deleted my comment, though. As I was looking through her comments, they were only positive ones towards her.
@@beth114 I noticed that too. I added the only "you are at fault. You need to apologize for how you treated Anna" comment and I don't think I'm the only one who feels this way. She can delete and block all she wants to. She is a bully regardless of her censoring her page. I also commented it on her youtube channel. I'm sure I'll be blocked as soon as she sees it. Doesn't matter. I don't want to be apart of her toxic space on the internet anyways 🤷♀️😂
Thank you so much for sharing. I think loving yourself and your body where you are at is so important. I really hate that people say you should only love your body if it is healthy. Loving your body and yourself seems the best way to make good and loving choices for that body. Good on you for standing up for what you believe in.
I’m not crying. You’re crying. No I’m crying. Thank you. I’ve never felt so seen. I love you, girl.
Lots of wisdom and maturity in this video! It is so hard, but so important, to focus on the self. When the world is shouting at us from various directions, demanding we change according to THEIR desires, it can be so hard to do what is best for ourselves apart from outside influences. When you connect something with your identity, and then couple that with a community, and then you need to leave that behind... how much harder that becomes when that community, that was once so supportive, no longer wants you. And then it turns from something that built you up to something that tears you down, and becomes toxic.
Here is body positivity to me: no one's physical form is perfect. Everyone has flaws and imperfections. Everyone has scars, cellulite, pimples, wrinkles, discolourations, moles. Everyone has health issues of some kind - or will eventually. Body positivity is accepting that. Accepting that scar as a part of you and what you went through. Accepting blemishes as normal. And taking care of yourself, of your body, so that despite any health issues you may have you can still live as full a life as possible. Body positivity is getting some exercise and a good night sleep and drinking water and taking your medication and knowing that, yeah, that isn't going to make your illness go away, but it gives your body the best chance to deal with it.
She has a weird obsession with you. There is some serious jealousy on her end. Love you, keep doing what you're doing!
SHE DOES!!! She has made snide remarks about ANNA in the past. I do believe she is jealous!!!
Of course she does. Anna is happy and gives off a light, corrisa is, more often than not, miserable. Always on the attack over nothing. Plus look at the subscriber count🤷🏼♀️
Anna, you hit the nail on the head so perfectly! I think there are many people who feel like you do! Personally, I'm just human positivity! I like to live by "don't be an asshole." We need to lift each other up in this life, life is hard enough. Also, I'm glad you said this 'out loud," it's true and these groups need to be real about their agendas. 👏 Just remember you're not alone!
Anna, I navigated the same waters years ago. I'm sorry you're having to deal with this kind of messy "fatty vs fatty" drama, but you're doing just fine, and know that this particular conflict has been going on for decades within the "movement", whatever they're choosing to call themselves at any given time.
I was very deeply involved in the late 80s - early 00s size acceptance movement, the precursor to the modern body positivity movement. Before the internet existed and then during it's earlier years.
At one point, I developed a chronic medical condition that required lifestyle changes to help manage it. I didn't want to live with the symptoms any longer. The inflammation, the pain, the mobility loss, the weakness, and the fatigue. My life was becoming more limited and I didn't want that. So I took my doctor's advice and started eating a less processed and more whole food based diet and started doing structured exercise sessions.
Not just "eating intuitively and engaging in joyful movement" but actively following a diet to reduce systemic inflammation and following a scheduled exercise program with strength, flexibility, stamina, and mobility improvement goals.
Well, that didn't go over well in the size acceptance community, especially among certain more outspoken people. Even though I censored myself and was careful not to talk openly about it at official size acceptance events "or shove it down their throats" as they liked to say, I did talk about it openly to my close friends and on my personal early internet spaces. Also, the changes were obvious. At group events I ate differently than I used to, and my body started to change. A bit in size and shape, but mostly in my mobility and energy level. I started doing more things my size acceptance community friends didn't do.
And that got me labeled a "traitor", and "not body positive", "self loathing", "falling for the fat hating medical agenda", "and "engaging in self harm behaviors".
Which made me really angry because it wasn't even about any of them, this was me, engaging in body autonomy (something they had preached loudly and often) and doing what felt right to me regarding my own body. To feel better and have a less painful, more productive, and more fulfilling life. This wasn't about vanity, it was about life quality.
How dare they try and bully me and gaslight me into believing that I was harming myself. How dare they try and pressure and mind-game me into not trusting my personal physicians' judgement. And how dare they call me out, harass me, and badmouth me for doing something to improve my life.
So I just let them talk their talk and let the ones who were hostile towards me vent their spleen. And kept publicly repeating that this isn't about any of them, their personal choices, nor about the movement, this is all about me and my exercising bodily autonomy and doing what I believed I needed to do in order to have a better life. I refused to allow them to control me or censor me, and to be honest, it put me off of the whole movement. The community started to feel toxic to me, and I distanced myself from it.
Because if we're going to preach bodily autonomy, we can't put restrictions on what types of bodily autonomy are "correct" because then we just become the flip side of the oppression coin.
By telling people that their version of body autonomy is incorrect, you are oppressing them. And that behavior needs to be checked. It robs the movement of credibility. It's hypocritical and outsiders recognize that.
Yes.
I watched the whole video and it’s exactly what it is, non existent. It’s the way I look at it to, but in my community there is nobody that really talks with me about it. So I follow lots of people that in one way or another, go to the struggles life throws at us. You’re inspirational with a clear view, I like that. Thanks for sharing.
I wish Corissa would watch this and take it to heart but highly doubt.
She didn't watch her other videos so I doubt she'll watch this one
I defended Anna on corissas instagram and got some love for it only to then get blocked by her....she never wanted to open a discussion (like she said in her video 🙄) just wanted to put more negativity out in the world
cheesetoast that sucks :( i think she has some personal biases that she needs to unpack.
Corissa is fucking toxic.
the worst thing is that Corissa said that she hasn't seen any of the videos but still criticizes the video because of what people told her ... How can you talk and criticize a video that you even didn't watch... I mean wtf...
I’ve watched you for years and appreciate your mind, your creativity, your overflowing kindness and your relentless joy in whatever vehicle you choose to drive it around in. 💜
To me, body positivity has never meant remaining stagnant, never changing your goals or outlooks, it’s simply meant loving yourself and being good to yourself in whatever way you feel is right for you, sans other people having a negative opinion on it.
Added you on Instagram. You’re more real than most people reacting to you.
I love you, and thank you. Your strength, commitment, and intelligence is amazing and inspiring. You are one hell of a woman! I love the truth bomb. I’ve experienced very similar things as you (in my own way, of course) and you articulated it and your taking control in a way I don’t think I ever could! Plus the commitment to your mental health is a reminder I definitely needed. I love love love this. For anyone who has a negative comment? I might just suggest to watch again, take notes and just let it all marinate. Anna, thank you again...I feel lucky to be able to observe your journey while getting SO much from it. I hope YOU feel freedom and relief after wanting to make this video for YEARS. Secrets keep you sick and there’s just no place or time for that anymore. Moving UP and ON. Get 👏it👏girl.
This took a lot of bravery, sis. I'm a plus-sized girl and agree with your version of body positivity. I'm sorry that you're going through so much trouble for speaking your truth.
You are so incredibly well spoken, and the fact that you even dare to put your two cents on the matter online is such an inspiration in and of itself! I think you hit the nail on its head and I hope you aren't negatively impacted by the response this video will probably get. Please take care of your mental health
Fatgirlflow’s video was very bizarre and she clearly missed the entire point of what you’re video was about! Just keep doing you, boo boo! I’m a plus size girl and I did not feel at all like you were shaming anyone WHATSOEVER, you were literally just discussing some lifestyle changes you decided to make to feel better overall
I love your videos. I am so tired of people bashing others for their weight, size, food choices, health choices, etc. You've put yourself out there in so many ways....I bet half of them aren't brave enough to do the same.
You’re so spot on. I don’t feel like I can relate to any of the “body positive” community.
Honestly I’m just striving for body neutrality and consistent self love. I think I could love myself without loving my body.
My body is an instrument not an ornament.
Also, I don’t have to identify as my body. The way my body looks doesn’t affect literally anything else in my life. It doesn’t affect my intelligence, talents, or self worth.
Thank you so much for sharing and being courageous enough to talk about this situation - I think it's a really important conversation that needs to be had (without shaming).
You are doing a great job. Keep being you and doing what is best for your mental, emotional, and physical health.
Yes Girl!!! You said what so many of us are thinking and talking with our friends about, and what has really been needed to say. This is why you are one of my favorite long distance online "girlfriends," who I can listen to, hear and see actual positive things from. You slayed this video!!!
To me body positive just means loving yourself and being confident with who you are. It doesn't mean that you can't work on or change certain things. It just means you love yourself. I bleach my hair blond. I don't hate myself because I have darker hair. I just like my hair blond.
Yes, truth. But some folks have to add layers and layers of drama to it. But I'm so in agreement of your definition.
100%
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Yes! I consider myself body positive (not in the community sense though), because I truly believe we all need see ourselves and choose good for our bodies out of love, not out of self-loathing. Change is a good thing. It’s a product of love and growth. But can also look different for different people with different stories.
I'm so proud of you! The community you created loves you and we stand behind you no matter what size you are. I'm glad you spoke about this, i've always had such a problem with the "body positive as long as you look like me" community. Get it girl! You keep doing what you're doing and keep shining your light to the world! Luv Ya Lady!
I think part of the problem is that some people confuse change/ improvement/growth with self hate/loathing. They seem to miss/ignore that you can like and love yourself and be happy with yourself and still want to change, grow or improve in some way. Somehow when someone deliberately changes/ improves something about their body, a group of people seems to think the person doesn't love them self, because they change. However, no one doubts my self love if I want to follow a new bachelor degree. Which is of course also a deliberate change, improvement and attempt at growth.
It's a double standard that comes from insecurity. Those people are projecting. If they were truly completely okay with them self, they wouldn't feel the need to feel so threatened by someone else doing things differently then they do.
Hell yes. This is encapsulates everything that I feel about the current state of the body positivity movement!
I absolutely LOVE your channel! I think I've commented before that I truly appreciate your transparency.
As a plus-size woman myself, it is so refreshing to listen to someone speak intelligently and openly about this subject.
I'm in the same category as you I am confident in my body and love how I look and feel but I do want to eat healthier and exercise to ready be healthy lol I love you
You blow me away with how self aware you are and your intelligence! Keep being your lovely positive self and thank you for allowing us to be a part of your journey.
Get it girl! I will never understand when others get mad at someone for being healthy.
Sending hugs. I don’t understand and can’t image what you went through. I appreciate the time you take to make content and putting your self out there. You are 100% ok with living your life and evolve as a human. Style, lifestyle, weight or whatever. It’s crazy to me. I’ve only gotten good vibes from your content. 💖💛✨
From my experience, the body positivity community is, ironically, one of the most negative communities I’ve seen
YOU ARE SPEAKING THE TRUTH!! Body positivity to me means to love your body no matter what it looks like/ is capable of. Doesn’t mean you have to be toxicly positive at all times it just means to show yourself love. I have been trying to lose weight almost my whole life for my health and now for my fertility as I have struggled with PCOS. And I try to love my body through it all. It should never mean to police others and shame them for wanting or trying to change their body. Why is it ok for people to gain weight but not to lose weight now?? I will never understand that. Weight is NONE of anyone’s business