I CRIED AT THE DOCTOR (SELF CARE STORY TIME)
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- Опубліковано 29 сер 2024
- Health Journey update, I did it! I went to the doctor. In this story time video I fill you in on my visit, what I learned, and how I feel after. I learned my health is not a nuisance to other people, and it's ok to practice self care and take care of myself. Plus Size health can be scary, but I learned that not all my issues with doctors stem from size related fears. Some are much deeper. As I continue to work on my mental health I am learning more about myself and its exciting.
As a R.N., I completely recognize your fear. I have seen so many patients who share your fear. I am so happy you went to see a medical professional. We are your friend not your enemy. If you have a bad experience, speak up. There are many very nice doctors.
Having positive nurses many times are more important than the MD. You take the vitals and listen to the patient's initial complaint. If a nurse is willing to listen and treats you with kindness, many times you'll give more honest answers and explain all your issues.
Oh my god I’m so glad you RNS posted. I haven’t been to the dr in 3 years because of the nurses. I’m at trying to talk myself into trying again this year
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I too am an RN. When I did homecare, I used to tell my patients on my very first visit if we didn’t mesh tell me or call the office. If you got treated by a car dealer the way the dr did, would you buy a car from him or go back? Absolutely not, if you and I aren’t meshing then you aren’t getting the best care. You deserve the best. So if you aren’t meshing with someone, find someone else.
YOU DESERVE THE BEST!!!!❤️❤️❤️
Nurses are the best!
POV from a chronically ill person : I’m telling you Anna, and everyone who needs to see this. As someone who has been fighting to keep going for years, I would always tell you to go to the dr if you needed to. Just because my hurt is “worse” doesn’t mean that you should hurt too! Example I have a broken spine and all sorts of nerve damage and genuinely struggle to stay conscious. My sister got “runners knee” and I’d never think she was “moaning” because her knee was hurting. Everyone’s “crisis” is personal. You can’t compare the two. But if it’s distressing YOU then it is just as important. I’m so proud of you this year. ❤️ keep going! (In life, and to the dr if you need to!)
Amen! I hate you have nerve damage. It I so painful and no one understands the pain. Prayers for you.
That you recognize and can distinguish your past from the present means you are breaking free of old thoughts and making great progress. Keep going. Baby steps in the right direction will be enormously helpful to reaching a new level of comfort. When you feel positive results, it will get easier, and become a better way of living - really living.
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Anna…you are not now and will never be a nuisance for taking care of yourself. You are a beautiful human being inside and out and deserve all the best that life has to offer! Thank you for sharing your life with us. Love and prayers!!!
It is wonderful that you were able to identify that "stuck point" that was holding you back about seeing doctors. The more faulty beliefs you uncover and correct, the better you will feel. The truth will keep setting you free.
This conversation has so much meaning for us plus size ladies. THANK YOU!
Yes, this video is much needed. I agree. I'm glad she got over her fear and went to her appointment.
As someone who is currently working through their trauma, I understand and see you. My therapist introduced an idea to me that may help you! She said that there's a difference between Knowing something and having something Click. When something finally Clicks, it goes from Knowing to Understanding. That can take some time. I've been watching your channel for a long time and your development has been amazing and has inspired me in so many ways. Keep at it! ❤️❤️❤️
You are not crazy and everything you've unpacked is rational, clear and spot on. It's wonderful to watch you experience all this self discovery. You are an inspiration and a true help for so many of us. I can relate to almost every part of your story. You are a lovely human being. I am grateful for YOU and your courage to share your story with us. 💗
So well said!!!
Holy crap. You just summed up my life. 55 years old and my comparisons are cancers of some sort. I have a lot to unpack with this. ✌ & ❤
Thank you for being so real. Many of us out here share some or all of your feelings. It helps people to know we're not alone out here with these thoughts, feelings and fears. You're a gift to this world, and if anyone ever says otherwise... just know they're clearly wrong. Thank you for being you and thank you for sharing with us. 💙
As a gastric bypass patient, I completely get your fear! LOL My guess was Shallow Hal! Hahah! I have the identical fear about dentists! I have always had bad teeth... so many root canals that my Dad even suggested that my dentist was doing them for no reason. Fast forward basically 20 years with no dental coverage... I've had gastric bypass and due to malabsorption - I started to lose teeth and have major uncontrollable dental pain that made me finally face my fears and deal with it all. This video gives me good tears! I grew up with my Mom diagnosed with Lupus in 1980 when I was 6 & my Dad diagnosed with MS when I was 14 in 1989. I can identify with your thought processes and feelings. I, too, am non confrontational because I don't want to inconvenience anyone and I don't want to be made the priority because I am totally not used to that. Heather xo
I can totally relate to everything you said. I wish I had had the courage to speak
up and change my life. I'm 71 years old now and still living with some of the same irrational fears & not feeling worthy.
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Same here Gastric bypass in 2004 and complete fear of the dentist and HAVE to have nitrous.
My guess was Shallow Hal also!😂and I have always had bad teeth, which got even worse after weight loss surgery (I have one tooth that does NOT have a root canal- I actually had 5 teeth pulled 2 days ago to get implants. I also have no insurance- I go to Mexico). I don’t think research has made the connection between dental problems and wls but everyone in my support group has issues so we know it’s a thing. But I had bad teeth anyway- I love my new body and teeth I can fix.
“Don’t worry I see a real therapist too” is a vibe. I love it.
You’re such a good story teller, you should do a lot more story times. 💕
Yesssss!!
She is the real deal. I have been watching her for a few years now and she is quite smart, she has even wrote a book. She may have wrote a couple can't remember. Her is truly a wonderful person.
Sorry, it's she not her
Your honesty and vulnerability is so inspiring! Never be ashamed of that no matter what people on social media say. Never give anyone else that kind of power over you. You are in charge of you. :-)
What a powerful message for others with similar fears!! I lost a cousin to breast cancer and sepsis because she had such an extreme phobia of anything medical related that she did not any sort of treatment. I am wishing you the best as you work through your fears and am glad you are feeling better!
Just found your channel & holy mackerel what timing...
First off, let's do a happy dance to celebrate how big this is! Congratulations on overcoming an anxious obstacle & thank you for sharing this positive experience.
I've been putting off seeking some help that I know I need based on past traumas & I'm sure many others are in the same situation.
You are an incredible motivator. You help so many people. I wish I knew you or there was someone like you when I was growing up. Thank you for being you.
Thank you for being our inspiration girl!!! You took the first step!!! Never give up!!! So proud of you!!!
This is so relatable. I'm terrified of doctors, but THEY don't shame us as badly as WE SHAME OURSELVES. By the time I went, I had not slept in 1.5 years. Severe sleep apnea. My thyroid was so bad an endocrinologist with 30 years experience said I had the worst numbers he had ever seen. So yeah, WE need to be brave, see doctors AND speak up if they are deliberately rude. Easier said than done, but I'm going to try to be more brave too.
What an amazing breakthrough “aha” moment you had! We are all so proud of you!
Hi 👋 Sharon, how are you doing?
Thank you for being so open, you are inspiring so many by sharing your struggle. I feel very proud of you for taking that step
I am so glad you are feeling better and I am glad you are facing your fears! You're an inspiration, Anna. And I am grateful for your channel. You inspired me and helped me boost my confidence enough to also share my journey too. I'm so proud of you - because it def isn't easy.
This fear was the same for me in 2017 when I was 436lbs I just knew it was over for me. That dr comfort is something you have to have. Proud that you ripped the band aid off.
Oh my God!!! U just said what I have been feeling!!! Thank u. U don't realize how much u just helped me. I grew up with people who were in pain a lot. Who didn't go to the Dr.
Anna - amazing and powerful. YOU are powerful! Your video will touch so many people who are dealing with the same beliefs. Thank you for your honestly in sharing. I think you have saved some lives today! Be proud. We are proud of you!!!!!!
Proud of you! 💕
I’m scared of new doctors, not because of weight, but because I’ve met plenty of doctors within phychiatry that have treated me… less than stellar. And a few hearts of gold as well! But I’m always astounded that some people who choose to work with patients seem to hate their patients out of principle 🤯
I 100% understand.... and then it's their word against yours, and guess who gets believed... totally unfair. I hope things get better and you find professionals you feel comfortable with.
Wow! How profound - taking care of myself was a nuisance to others! I’ve never heard it put that way! You said it perfect Ana! For MANY of us!
Good for you! I have anxiety and I can relate to the feeling of “I can’t believe I waited so long , this wasn’t bad at all “ ✌️❤️
I feel every bit of this. I need to suck it up and do the same. Thanks for the inspiration.
Oh sweetie, I am so so so proud of you for going, and also for working through the mental side of it. Neither one is easy to do, but you're doing great. It sounds like this is a message that is really sinking into your heart and giving you a paradigm shift. So excited to see you keep getting better. Thank you for the update. I so appreciate and value your honesty and transparency. Hugs...feel better. ❤️
You have put into beautiful words how I have felt about focusing on ME. I didn't have I'll family members but felt my ailments weren't important enough to be discussed. I still feel that way in my early 60's! I am with a great GP, and she has been great about allowing acknowledgement and also prodding me when I need extra encouragement. Thank you for your honest post!
My mom battled cancer for 14 years during my teen and twenties. Ovary, colon and finally uterine sarcoma. It was just the 3 of us; my sister, mom and me. Every year something would happen and mom would be in ICU and we were told she wouldn't make it. My sister was accident prone and always in a cast or on crutches or something. I avoid GYN appointments. I know I have a family history, I know it's important but I just don't want to know. I just passed the age my mom died at and so it's even harder. Perhaps I need to make an appointment. We'll see.
Do it. Make the appointment. You have to take care of yourself 🤗
@@mejustine2424 right! That’s scary, better if it’s get caught early (in case)
Lucky, beating cancer for 14 years, my mom. Had cancer less year to live
I am very happy for you! Fear is never easy to overcome, but doing it alone...much harder. Be proud, you earned it. Hugs!
All hon, please don't cry, it breaks my heart!! Maybe I don't understand but I find you as an amazing person!! You are absolutely gorgeous sweet and wonderful. Please keep your head up!! Just always remember you are a wonderful person and you or unique in your own way😊
I'm so proud of you for facing your fear!! I have a very similar experience. I have panic attacks at the doctor's office every visit at this point, but I am working through it.
I did the samething. Always telling myself oh it's in my head. I will get better. So after about a year, I was going down hill. This was 2016. Well come to find out I had a bad heart. Just like my mom had. So I had heart surgery. Also again in 2018. So I am so glad you chose to go to the Dr.
You have no clue how much I relate to your concerns, especially the aversion to appearing needy or anything less than fully self-sufficient without doctors, albeit for differing superficial reasons. At 67, however, avoiding them forever is not likely an option. Congrats to you, definitely a win!!!
Thank you!!! Thought I was the only one that felt that way, thank you thank you, I'm crying here listening and now knowing I'm not crazy!!
I love your dress and eye-makeup! I think you are super brave, facing your fears and getting the medical care you need and deserve!
Great job Anna! Loving these story times!!
I'm so glad you went i waited and lost hearing in my ear and feeling on one side of my face, all because of an ear infection. I was blessed everything healed and feeling came back.I get it, I felt the same way. I'm glad I got over that fear cause I'm a breast cancer patient if i would've waited I may have made it worse I'm blessed it was caught in time .
God blessed you Anna. I used to hate doctors too. I finally found one I loved, saw him a few times. Then after one visit he shook my hand before I left his office, and the next day he died from a heart attack. I still miss him. However, I loved your words, especially about how you were afraid he would fill in the blanks with things that may not have been true. I know I look like I don't take care of myself to other people, when in fact I take excellent care of myself. It's just not the same for many of us, and we are judged every day at a glance. Thank you for your words, they were heard. Best wishes to you.
Hi Anna
Where is your lymphoma located on your body as it doesn't appear that it's in your legs at all. Being a nurse most people who suffer with this condition suffer with it in their lower legs. I'm also so glad that you have overcome your fear of seeking medical help! Good on you!!
You’re a nurse and you don’t know the difference between lymphoma and lipidema?
You are amazing! So proud of you!
You are such a hero in my eyes right now. So many people including me are scared like you. Your honesty and vulnerability being put out there like that is so amazing and you should be so proud of yourself you are an inspiration to so many!!💪🙌👏
Aww hun I’m so proud of you ,your beautiful inside and out ,your a ray of sunshine and you inspire so many but it’s ok to not be ok ,I’m so glad you went to docs because I’ve been putting off my smear and I’ve a bad leg and you have made me realise that it might be scary but we are 💪 strong enough to face anything !!hope your feeling better soon hun ,much love and thanks to you for being you from 🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧💜🥰
I am so happy you were able to go and get seen. I am a plus size girl and I am thankful in my experiences with primary care & gyn care my provider have been amazing.
OMG I LOVE HER! She is so real and happy and relatable omg!!!❤️✨
I am so happy you went and received the help you needed. Hugs to you.
I am literally so proud of you! You go!
Proud of you for doing this. I have been taking steps myself over the last few years to get over my fear of doctors. I still need to get a general practitioner, but I don’t feel too much anxiety about it. Doesn’t help when there are bad doctors out there… when I was 25, I went to see an obgyn for the first time since I was 20, and she lectured and scolded me for not going for those 4-5 years. It made me never want to go back. But the next year I switched to someone else who was much nicer. There are good and kind doctors out there, and if you have one you don’t like, you just have to keep trying (if you live in the US, of course. I know it’s different in other countries)
I am so proud of you, Anna. I really relate to your story. Thank you for sharing and being open. Love you!
Wow, that was such a powerful video, thank you. Frankly I cried the whole way through.
This breaks my heart just a little bit because I’ve been a nurse for my entire career. I hate to think people are afraid of us but I get it (we do sometimes have pokey , sharp objects-sorry!) but if you start shaming people for “causing” their illness then you’d better be fair and share the blame. Got heart disease? It was all those Big Macs. Lung disease? You must have smoked. Etc…. Don’t even get me going on liver disease.
You’re being so brave, working through your issues, and may I just say, your look today is on point!
Hi 👋 Wendi, how are you doing?
Awe honey you did the right thing so proud of you
Anna, thank you for sharing. I hear everything you said, and understand the fear.
I had this fear with dentist. One dentist berated me about my teeth. I never got permanent teeth in my molars. I had baby teeth at 40 years and was scolded for dirty teeth. My teeth were not white but they not dirty. Just discolored. It took me a long time to get over that. Finally I got a bridge and veneers. I’m happy I got over my fears. I also had trouble with a dental hygienist. She made a comment that because my teeth were yellow and I was of a certain age I should not have white teeth. I was so mad. I had wanted white teeth all my life. I got them and I’ve never looked back. I love it.
It's not an irrational fear. They do treat us badly the vast majority of the time. I'm also disabled and mentally ill and doctors often look down on me for that too. However, there are good medical professionals out there and I am so glad you found one! Your point about being desensitized to illness is such a good one too.
You should be proud of yourself! I’m so impressed with your openness and honesty; it’s so heartwarming! I have different issues but can certainly identify with the feeling of diminishing myself…something you should never do because you are worthy! Keep up the great work girlfriend!
Dear Anna
You are a beautiful person inside and outside. I was really with you in or around 13.00 minutes. Thanks for reiterating that it is okay to feel not great. Too much toxic positivity in the world. Not easy for the likes of me. Mary ❤
I'm petite but love watching your videos,I don't see colour or size.God loves you,nothing else matters.!!
So proud of you for seeking medical attention! You have to take care of you!!! Im scared to death of the dentist (bad experience as a child) and have not made appointments for several years in my life. I’m still trying to work through this!!! Thanks so much for being so real and sharing your life with us!
Tess Holiday also spoke on being afraid of Drs recently. I’m glad to hear people talk about this problem.
I’m so happy you feel better. Legit started crying. I’m proud of you.
This definitely elicits similar a feeling. I have such white coat, even with doctors I know and have been seeing for years, there’s real fear. Being larger and a woman makes it so much worse. The fear of immediate judgement and not being heard is real.
I feel you. Girl, you make me cry and laugh and cry and laugh. I admire you so much!
Your thoughts and feelings around this topic make complete sense…..thank you for sharing 🤍
Ok, most of your videos get me...this one got me to the core! I'm putting on my make up getting ready for work & the tears will not stop! I grew up in alcoholic home & am just now learning to take care of myself in my mid 40s. The part where you said: "There is so much in my life that you don't get to see, and I'm afraid you're going to fill it in with things that aren't true" -glitter&lazers SO GOOD! You INSPIRE me! I will schedule a Dr visit soon! Thank you for sharing!! Sending a hug! ❤:Tiff~
Thank you. Your word vomiting made perfect sense and I can completely identify on so many levels. Good for you!! Proud of you!
Wow!!! So Happy for you Anna!!! So happy you were able to realize your habit. That must have been really hard as a child to go through all of what you went through. So proud of you. 🥰
Love your video and not all doctors are equal there are some that are awful and others that actually care and are kind. It's so important to take care of yourself first and then your able to help others.
You are so genuine, well-spoken and beautiful. Thank you for this upload. I am months late but just started watching your channel and enjoy it very much! New sub!
Anna so proud for you.
I appreciate your honesty! You are giving us all the courage to address the issues we have been avoiding. Thanks for giving me inspiration to be a better person!
So happy that you went to the Dr. So glad you’re feeling better 🙏🏻🥰😍😘
I am so happy you went to a Dr. Baby steps start small. You will in time have this too. Still in South Carolina extending my hand out for you any time you need it. I'm so proud of you Anna.
Well done, you owe to yourself you are the priority. And definitely not a nuisance. Good job young lady.
Thank you for sharing this story. I am 68, taken care of others most of my life and have reached a point where I feel like there is a competition going on when I mention My chronic condition is acting up. It is demeaning. Thank you.
Anna, your insight is AMAZING!! 🤩
I found this amazing UA-cam channel called 'Psychology in Seattle". The therapist, Dr Kirk Honda, talks about everything you are 'unpacking' in this video. How childhood traumas and attachments affect us in adulthood.
Thank you for this amazing video!!
Sending you hugs and happiness!!
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What a wonderful video, thank you , everything you said regarding chronic illness and not acknowledging your own feelings of being unwell makes so much sense . Take care .
Good for you Anna! I have a wonderful relationship with my primary care doc. She's the best! Don't be afraid. They are there to help, not judge.
You go, girl!! ✨✨
I love this open and honest conversation. You are a phenomenal storyteller!!!!!
So proud of you Anna ! Glad you are feeling better
Hey girl, You got this, stay the course that will work for you! Love the blouse too!
Me too. Love the hair-do and nail polish too.
Anna... You are The most beautiful person I have seen in a looong time. Your honesty, your smile, your way of bringing some colors into this lame world. U are a truely gem!
Hope your ears feel better. I'm proud of you. I will not ask questions etc. You have way to many subscribers yo even see my comments anyway. You are becoming someone k look forward to watching now.
Hugs beautiful. Thank you for your transparency. You're an inspiration
Anna, you are a very wise woman! You have been through so much, and the fact you are able to be so raw and candid is so inspiring! Thank you Anna,, this helped me a lot, I have feared drs.Too,, we e got this girl!!!🤗
You are such a beautiful young lady inside and out you have so much value you are worth taking care of yourself do it now before you get older I'm glad you're doing good
Thank you for taking care of you. I was like you and I waited to long. Keep taking care of yourself and talking it through to help someone else.
I’m sooo proud of you!!
thank you for sharing your truth. A lot of us feel the same way that docs are scary and will judge us. I am so glad you went!!!
I suffer from chronic illness (lung & heart issues) & I'm so appreciative for you sharing this video, your feeling are totally valid and hit home. Unfortunately when my children get ill I can not even get close to them as my immune system is very low. so their comfort usually falls on my husband. These experiences definitely create holes in the hearts of our children. You are so brave & beautiful, thank you for sharing.
Totally understand the fear. I was afraid of being rejected for a surgery that I badly needed. Only when it got to the point where I couldn't walk before I was like, "ok... lets do this." I didn't want to be judged for my weight. I feel you!
I haven’t seen all of ur videos but that was the most passionate, heartfelt one yet. I cried too.
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Anna, I'm so happy for you! Keep going and build those relationships 💜 so glad you're taking care of yourself 😊
I'm glad you received care, keep fighting
I’m so happy for you Anna, that’s awesome, i feel like you are a young version of me but better. Keep up the great work and spreading your valuable knowledge and love. Xoxo
Girl you are not alone, but remember we are always around mean people. Drs do what they have to they have their own mind set. I'm proud of you let's join Noom my niece has and she looks great! You have woken up and even though you had to😂 go through a child hood of sickness someone should have told you your just as important as their illness was. Don't ever feel quilty for what you want for yourself.