When I married my wife I was a 27 year old single father with two young children, She was 5 years my senior with a teen aged son. We soon started knotting heads. We didn't want a divorce and went for counseling. Lucky for us both he was an older guy who had been around the block. He told us we were in a power struggle. He asked my wife if I was fulfilling the role as husband, and father and she said yes. What he said next saved our marriage. He told her then it was time for her to RELAX and let me lead. He said it was normal for her to try to lead because she had too for so many years but didn't need to anymore. To her credit she listened and our marriage smoothed out. 12 years into the marriage I was offered a job in another state which meant she had to quit her career. We talked it over and I decided to take it. My mother asked her if she was going to allow me to move. To her credit her answer was where John goes I go. We spent 20 years there before I retired. My wife never worked another day outside the home. We are still married.
@@donrood7282 Yea I know. We did of course talk about moving and what it would mean. She actually was comfortable being a stay at home mom something she wouldn't have wanted to do when we first married. We both took a leap of faith. I finished some schooling and was approached by a head hunter to fill a needed slot. While our marriage isn't perfect she has always been faithful and had my back.
Perhaps thats just....Western folks' mindset? I mean....yeah, who would talk badly about their spouse? And if their spouse treat them right, why would they allow other people to talk badly about the spouse? Theres some other story where the wife's friends talk badly about her spouse....and she somehow come to believe them and believe she could do better...and then start cheating. Some even cheat with AP who trash talk her spouse. Weird mindset there....
@@fumothfan9 In other words, respect ur spouse and demand respect from ur spouse. If spouse disrespect u, demand respect and/or chastise her (privately without involving other). If...she fail to fix her treatment...then skedaddle or be prepared to skedaddle. MGTOW is an option...and some girl, when guy show that hes willing to go that path, become demure.
There's a high chance she didn't based on her responses. Had she been cheating it would've been 100% different. Also not wanting to have kids with the guy. Like wtf no girl wants to have kids with someone like that guy let alone have regular sex.
No... If its cheating, she wouldnt be home. And she wouldnt be bringing the husband to the gathering. She took him for granted. He correct that. Problem solved...for now.
The wife appears to have been promiscuous in college prior to becoming exclusive to him. She had a child and her personality changed. This is usually a good sign that there is another guy in the picture. The lack of respect, public humiliation in front of co-workers; I think she was having an affair.
Her personality didn't change, her hypergamy kicked in after the baby was born. That's what caused the change. Hypergamy instincts kick in at different times for different women. She might not have been having an affair yet at that point, but given enough time, infidelity with a coworker or superior at her company was extremely likely.
Kerri: "I only keep him around because he's a good house mule and a good father" Also Kerri: "Are you no longer happy with me? Don't you love me? You're the love of my life. I can't bear to lose you." Pathetic
@@kaytlinreynolds4657that’s a stupid lie feminists tell themselves. There is no partnership in marriage. There’s a leader then a subordinate. That’s how marriage was designed to work. The man leads, he makes the final call and the woman obeys. Yes, the woman can give her opinion but in the end, her man makes the final decision. That’s not partnership, that’s leadership.
@@theone8789 Hmmm.....no-ish. Of course...every spousal couples are different. But, its akin to captain n vice captain of a ship. Its not the same with....employer n employee.
@@kaytlinreynolds4657 Nope. KInda like...lets say what car to buy or what house to buy, where to eat, what movie to watch, vacation destination, things to do in that vacation place. Things like that. Its never a competition. That being said....a husband has to know how to talk to his wife and wife has to know how to listen to husband....n vice versa. Its a privilege of the husband to have the final say. That being said....its the privilege of the husband to be at the front when robbers appear. Soooo...choose wisely, n behave wisely.
My problem was never my wife. It was my wife's feminist sisters and mother. They found out real quick one day never to step out of line with me. Now they are scared to death of me. Just the way I like it and our relationship is all good now. What I say goes in my household, and I am never wishy washy.
'you better not embarrass me' my mother used to say that to me... This makes me wonder about this woman's mind... 6 months after becoming a mother she starts treating her husband like one of her children. So if a man does not claim his leadership role in the family he becomes another one of the children the mother/wife needs to look after... And then all respect leaves.
I would make her drop her coworkers. List every friend or family member you said those sorts of things do. Now, send them text that you can no longer remain in contact with them, attend any social events, etc. outside of work because you've been a bad wife.
Word of advice, and this is something I see guys never doing. In all my relationships, I tell the woman early on that I'm not sleeping on the couch if she's pissed at me. I'm sleeping in my own damn bed. If you're pissed at me, you sleep on the couch. The only time I'm going to be there is if I'M pissed off at YOU. And I follow through. Don't care if she gets petty and won't let me sleep, eventually I get pissed off enough to go to the couch on my own if they're being childish. Funny how it recontextualizes the situation, and I almost always get an apology first thing in the morning.
Bill burr said it best "Im not sleeping on the couch. We're both adults. Also good luck trying to get me off my side of the bed. If i wanted i'll take your side too".
This, 100%. Many years ago (late 90s) my GF of 5 years decided she wanted out of our relationship, but asked if she could continue living in my house (she'd moved in with me years before) until she got a rental. I said yes, not wanting the breakup to be any more torturous than it needed to be. Then she demanded that I sleep in the spare bed, since it 'wasn't appropriate' for us to sleep together now we were no longer a couple. I told her no; if she didn't want to sleep with me that was up to her, but it would be her in the spare bed. She then said that she had bought our bed, so she should get to sleep in it. I pointed out that HER bed was in MY house at MY discretion, a situation which could be reversed very quickly if that was what she wanted. I slept in that bed for the next few weeks until she moved out. About 6 months later, she tried to reconcile. I politely told her to get fucked.
@@eleethtahgra7182doesn’t matter. I was afraid she was going to call the cops as well, cause when these kinds of people meet resistance they tend to immediately flatten any threat with underhanded force
Trash talking your partner breaks trust the same way infidelity does. He can never be sure she actually loves him and how she talked about him isn't how she really feels and she isn't just putting on an act to keep him around. There will always be doubt now.
Moral of the story is if you disrespect yourself, don't expect anyone else to respect you. He needed this kick in the ass to get his family in order. I'm not even shocked or surprised that she disrespected him. That's just in a woman's nature towards weak men.
We can say the same about men and weak women. Ever see a man be real charming in the begging only to become extremely abusive when he's comfortable cuz it happens a lot more often lmao
@@kaytlinreynolds4657 yeah that happens. Equally as much as the woman being very nice at the beginning and then once the relationship is established they constantly fight and nag and find everything wrong with the guy no matter how hard he tries. Equally as common.
Hey, Bud, DNA test your kid. Show her, her actions are not that of a FAITHFUL WIFE ! Her grimy Sorority learned activities (For sure,she'll take those to the grave !)may have carried over after graduation! Intimacy is no more significant than sharing a cigarette or breath mint ! Ugly-specially after she became mean and tried to start fights. Vindictively belittling you at the party, right while you were just feet away? NOT GOOD ! I would be M O R E than S U P E R - P I S T !
It’s actually far worse if you marry a woman who is an agreeable person when she is in her twenties, but starts to “find herself” when she is in her forties and becomes a b*tch. You thought you were in a real, loving relationship and slowly, bit by bit, she turns it into power contest, without you even noticing at first. But, in the long run, there is no saving such a relationship unless she comes to her senses. My ex didn’t and we divorced. I told her I felt cheated: you presented yourself as someone totally different than who you really are; if I’d known, I wouldn’t have touched you with a barge pole - and to this day she has no clue what I meant.
Underrated comment. My wife grew up with the Feminist propaganda, pushed by her mother [twice divorced]. Shortly before we met, she came to the realization that it was ruining her dating/husband prospects, and made an adjustment in her attitude towards men and relationships in general. Literally a few days later, we met up, went out, hit it off. Didn't start dating until over a month later though, as I had just come off a relationship with a cheater, and wasn't looking for anything at initial meet-up. Still, maybe a year or so into the relationship, we talked about it at length and both decided had we met and tried to go out even a month earlier, let alone years, we wouldn't have touched each other with a 10' pole...25 years married now, 30 total, and she is thrilled to be able to be a stay at home mom and wife. #Irony: every so often, other women around her age find this out about her, and tell her they envy her, as they in their 50s _don't want to work, but have to._ #Consequences of #choices.
13:40 that right there is so true. I don't know why but it seems like with some women they can reject you but then all of a sudden desire you when you are seen with other women. My mom did tell me some women like to tear each other down which would explain single women in their late 20s and 30s try to sabotage other women's relationships. I guess some people just desire that which they can't have.
A man needs to make his gal (girlfriend or wife) feel like he doesn't give a shit whether she stays or goes. He's only concerned about her trying to grab at his resources. Indifferent is the way to be perceived. She needs to know that you "want" and not "need" her in your life. When you "want" someone, they are replaceable. When you "need" someone, they aren't replaceable. You're good to her because she's good to you. This is how an Alpha keeps her wanting to please him. Otherwise, she''ll walk all over him.
That's how my relationship with my wife is. My way or the highway. There is NO EXCEPTION. If you want to be in this marriage, it is on my own terms. Leave or stay, makes no difference to me.
His mistake was that he had the looks, but he completely lacks the confidence. I, on the other hand, is average at best, but I am and was very confident growing up and it has done me wonders. Confidence goes a long way. And the way you dress helps a lot as well.
OP ,women don't respect weak men , but it took you a while ,and you finally came out of your beta shell for good, and laid the smack down ,good for you. Women want a leader not a beta follower.
People say they are best friends and get married, and then they betray each other so badly. He just got married to the wrong person. Maybe he’s learned from this and can find someone new and pick a better partner.
No excuse for her behavior especially what she was saying to her coworkers. I don't see this marriage lasting because she's just on good behavior now, but the act will eventually stop because this is who she is.
Hearing this guy describe his Junior High and HS years almost makes me feel sorry for the guy, but not quite. Geez, I was a geek/nerd/whatever the term was, and even I managed to ask a few girls out for dates and a few even became (short-term) girlfriends. I went to most every dance and usually got most of the girls I asked to at least dance one time. And believe me, I was no prize in the looks department, I was not in the popular crowd, etc. I had a sense of humor and knew how to make them laugh or listen to my anecdotes. This guy is quite frankly just sad and pathetic, and it’s NOT just due to his single Mom upbringing, although to be sure, that didn’t help.
What saved his marriage was she knew that alpha male was in there some where. She saw it before but this time she pushed a little too far. Luckily it didn't cost her her marriage but it took both of them to the brink before the ship was righted.
@@nitareed4088 nah, well, it depend. At least she now knows her boundary. Btw, since cheating didnt happen here in this story (assume it didnt happen), whats wrong with trying to save the marriage?
@@eleethtahgra7182the issue here is how does he get past knowing how she really feels about him? She pretty much admitted when she thought he couldn't hear her that she doesn't love him. It isn't that she was doing xyz and if she doesn't stop, he's gone. The whole foundation of their marriage is gone.
I will be frank here. Had my husband of almost ten years not taken the lead from GO (adding me on FB, getting my number, calling, asking me on a date), we would not be together today. That was an absolute requirement for me.
Cool. Now avoid falling into various red flags. Watch various other cheating stories in channels like mark narations rspace lost genre stories ra zone stories Avoid temptation. Dont fall into temptation. watch for red flags from husband. Shut down red flags if possible.\ One more thing....if, for some reason, one become too horny for certain opposite segg.....watch 2 girl 1 cup (u might puke, so, careful)
Bet she got knocked up by a lover and told him that they were having a baby! She completely lost all respect and love with him because he was such a simp! It took losing her babysitter and housekeeper to get her attention that he might actually leave! She is a piece of crap and he actually needed to divorce her and never look back!
16:50 I totally agree. I wouldn't do it myself. I don't know about in the States but in England there's a tradition that on Valentines Day a women can ask a bloke to marry. I think there's a thing with Leap years too. It's like a weird fun traditional thing. Not my cup of tea though. 😆
Male is on the spectrum Waiting for her to call and leaving when touch became uncomfortable You should know the person who released the study on wolves on which "alpha" "beta" etc is based withdrew the study and admitted he had misread the data. These were families not packs No such thing as beta alpha. Some men have more testosterone. Others (mainly men) have less and are more agreeable. Others such as this man are in the autism spectrum. Yet another sign is him going through the scenario in their mind. He needs to be assessed
The thing is that when he reverted to his beta self she lost respect for him. That is why she treated him the way she did and didn't respect anything that he did for her. It is a good thing he finally found his balls because she would have eventually would have had an affair. If she did have an affair she probably thought he would just take it. Good for him he finally started acting like a man instead of a wimp and a simp. He definitely saved his marriage.
I still don't see how it was salvageable. Her true feelings about him were made known. There's no getting past that and he's in lala land if he thinks she feels different about him now. She's on good behavior so he won't leave.
It's true, no matter how "strong" or hard a woman acts, she's looking for a man to take the lead. The tougher a woman acts, the stronger she expects a man to be. I'm 60 yrs old and that's something that took me too long to figure out..lol.. You don't need to be abusive, but now and then, you might have to give her a proverbial OTK spanking. Though, literal is more fun!
Its a possibility. But if it is, she wouldnt be bringing him to the party. She treat him like a kid. Theres...still emotional attachment there. In other cheating stories, wife turn cold turkey toward husband....until husband decide to separate. She didnt turn cold turkey, she just become more and more sadist. Btw...an example of extreme sadist is...wife bang other dude while husband was made to watch...
I’m friends with a couple where the husband is a complete beta doormat. He even took his wife’s last name. She talks to him like a complete dog, I think one day he will snap
Well, "All's well ends well." I never heard anything about a DNA test on his daughter, an STD panel, or the possible hiring of a PI. Maybe the OP was too thoroughly blue pilled to where he never considered those options.
All I can say is way to go, welcome to the alpha club of men who don't take shit anymore. Help others who are still blue pilled to find their gonads again. I'm proud that you handled her in the way you did, just never to forget to always watch for red flags, monitor who her friends are set boundries and stick to them, no girls night out, no trips, any drinking is done together, then have a happy life with your wife and little one
15:40 it's not that bad - 😆. I was way too young my first time. I bet a lot of younger guys today probably don't get to it until about this time or later. As for the girls, THAT would be something.
I can’t blame all of this on OP’s wife. It shows she lacks character, but OP didn’t respect himself at all, which led her to lose respect. She got to a point where she lost sight of their relationship, and treated him like he didn’t matter at all. She’s a bad choice - not wife material at all, but OP needs to work on himself. I empathize with him, having been raised by a violent narcissist single mother, but without boundaries and self-respect, no one of quality will be with him.
30:00 Ummm...yeah...unless u got family members up at the corporation...like ur father....I dont think its wise for female (who think of having a family) to climb a corporate ladder....
Still that disrespect and abusive behavior is a red flag. She can easily now divorce him and claim spousal support for life, custody of the child and sum up to assets to her favor. What I would have done is divorce her and establish a relationship out of marriage and work out financial protection for the child and her. We'll se down the read how things evolve.
You are not the kind of person that I would choose to interact with but I would ask you to treat each person as genuine as you would like to be received by me
The good thing is, shes loyal to him n want him. Also, its a good thing he reform quickly before her....abuse turn into cheating. I think the vid forgot one more lesson. Lay down the rule. Whats okay n not. If the rule is broken, then its done. In various other cheater story, OP usually said "I am not comfortable" with wife/gf seeing or texting or drinking of prospective AP. OP should have said "I dont want u to do that" or "I want u to stop doing that". If she loves OP, as they usually say after the break up, then she would stop. If she keep being hard headed n keep doing it because of "independent woman", then ditch her.
@@nitareed4088 correction: you also dont know whether she cheat or not. Also, I did admit that of the cheating possibility should the relationship continue as it is. Regarding the future of both of them, its irrelevant to the story/lesson. If u dont like dominant woman, then dont date/marry them.
@@nitareed4088 Wait...what? Why would you, a woman, marry a woman if u are hetero? Mate...you either mistype or you got wrong definition of hetero or...ur logic is messed up.
@@nitareed4088 Nope. There are women who like submissive men. And there are men who like dominating women. Thats why femdom kink exist. So, Mr Heterosexual Female....did you mistype?
@@nitareed4088 Errr...sure. If you dislike such type of female, go ahead. You do you. If you say so. I mean, you sure have extensive knowledge in psychology to deem dominating woman as a mental health issue.
I dislike your wording. It is an offence for all men...(sorry) 1. Those woman are not masculine. What they show is not a maculine behavior. Those are behaving like entitled, selfish, uncaring and respectless persons. How is that masculine? Men do care- Men do protect. Men provide. Men give stability. Men have their emotions in control. Thats not how those woman behave. A realy maculine woman would be: A provider for her family, for her kids and husband. A emotional rock, giving stability. A protector, protecting husband and kids from all attacks. A caring person who ut her self interests behind those of her husband and kids. Etc.... This would be a masculine Woman! 2. That Alpha/Beta male wording is also helping and not a good description. Those men are in way overly maculine. The biggest problem is that they believe, if the a re the spuer provider and super caring, what is indeed a maculine demeanor, that they are the perfect men. BUT they totaly over do it and with that they sacrefice their selfrespect with that them self. And that is causing the real problem, because who should respect you if you cant even respect your self. 3. A leading woman is NOT a problem as long the partner is at any time able to stand up, draw a line and stay to that decission.And if that line is crossed the woman musst belive that there are severe consequences. The most important line as you rightfully explain is that, when the woman sarts to be respectless even in smaler thing, that this has conequences. That the man say, thats it. Do it again and i am gone. 4. Coming back to Nr. 1 those woman who you call "masculine", claim for them self that they are independend strong woman. They are not. They a plain respectless and entitled. By following their demands it all gets only worse. You encurage them to be even more demanding, selfish and disrespectfull. They behave like 13 year old litle teenage girls in the middel of their puberty. They never are grown up. And because they behave like teenagers, they are not grown up enough to be stable partners, and certenly aren't they woman you can marry.
Im sorry but I dont respect alpha/red pilled men. I live with self respect and integrity. Now with that being said, I would not stay with this woman because I have (wait for it) self respect. Alpha/Red Pill shit is just stupid in my opinion. Again this man found his self respect. I know how this guy feels because I been there. But going the alpha red pill way is not going benefit you. There is already men who are not with this lifestyle, and Im one of them. Keep you head up man. Have self respect for yourself you got this.
When I married my wife I was a 27 year old single father with two young children, She was 5 years my senior with a teen aged son. We soon started knotting heads. We didn't want a divorce and went for counseling. Lucky for us both he was an older guy who had been around the block. He told us we were in a power struggle. He asked my wife if I was fulfilling the role as husband, and father and she said yes. What he said next saved our marriage. He told her then it was time for her to RELAX and let me lead. He said it was normal for her to try to lead because she had too for so many years but didn't need to anymore. To her credit she listened and our marriage smoothed out. 12 years into the marriage I was offered a job in another state which meant she had to quit her career. We talked it over and I decided to take it. My mother asked her if she was going to allow me to move. To her credit her answer was where John goes I go. We spent 20 years there before I retired. My wife never worked another day outside the home. We are still married.
“If she was going to ALLOW you to move…” 😂🤣
@@donrood7282 Yea I know. We did of course talk about moving and what it would mean. She actually was comfortable being a stay at home mom something she wouldn't have wanted to do when we first married. We both took a leap of faith. I finished some schooling and was approached by a head hunter to fill a needed slot. While our marriage isn't perfect she has always been faithful and had my back.
Excellent story. Thanks for sharing!
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The fact she listened is the most shocking thing
Guaranteed she was cheating on him...she just didn't expect him to grow a pair and it shocked her ass back into line.
If he ever finds out that’s the case, I hope he sticks to his guns and leaves her high and dry.
Exactamundo! I agree
She doesn't even realise that everything about your spouse reflects back on yourself. To humiliate him is to humiliate herself.
Perhaps thats just....Western folks' mindset?
I mean....yeah, who would talk badly about their spouse? And if their spouse treat them right, why would they allow other people to talk badly about the spouse?
Theres some other story where the wife's friends talk badly about her spouse....and she somehow come to believe them and believe she could do better...and then start cheating. Some even cheat with AP who trash talk her spouse. Weird mindset there....
@@eleethtahgra7182it is
Mostly because its called taken for granted. Which happens sadly a lot. Some men but mostly women.
@@fumothfan9 In other words, respect ur spouse and demand respect from ur spouse.
If spouse disrespect u, demand respect and/or chastise her (privately without involving other).
If...she fail to fix her treatment...then skedaddle or be prepared to skedaddle.
MGTOW is an option...and some girl, when guy show that hes willing to go that path, become demure.
Exactly.
Holly crap, when she came home, she thought he knew she was having an affair. He shouldn’t have said anything and let her confess
There's a high chance she didn't based on her responses.
Had she been cheating it would've been 100% different. Also not wanting to have kids with the guy. Like wtf no girl wants to have kids with someone like that guy let alone have regular sex.
Either way wife just sounded like a typical B word. No getting around that 😂😂😂
No...
If its cheating, she wouldnt be home. And she wouldnt be bringing the husband to the gathering.
She took him for granted.
He correct that.
Problem solved...for now.
The wife appears to have been promiscuous in college prior to becoming exclusive to him. She had a child and her personality changed. This is usually a good sign that there is another guy in the picture. The lack of respect, public humiliation in front of co-workers; I think she was having an affair.
Her personality didn't change, her hypergamy kicked in after the baby was born. That's what caused the change. Hypergamy instincts kick in at different times for different women.
She might not have been having an affair yet at that point, but given enough time, infidelity with a coworker or superior at her company was extremely likely.
"When I woke in the morning, I felt the presence of someone in the room with me,"
Dayum, he became so Alpha he reached Ultra Instinct ^^
Or he's a light sleeper. I wake up and hear when the neighboring cats are about to fight.
😂😂😂 that's a good one
No men are alphas and the ones who call themselves that are actually really gross 😬🤣
Alpha Instinct
He got that 10,000 bc instincts back.
I'd still run a paternity test. She was running around in college, and that's enough to qualify as a red flag.
Kerri: "I only keep him around because he's a good house mule and a good father"
Also Kerri: "Are you no longer happy with me? Don't you love me? You're the love of my life. I can't bear to lose you."
Pathetic
"I was only joking". yeah, uh huh, ok. Glad you think I'm a joke. Glad it worked out?
I'm surprised with the way she was treating him that she wasnt cheating on him.
She was cheating, just hasn’t got caught 😅
she totally was. She thought he caught her and that's why he is pissed.
I made the mistake of getting married to a woman that wanted to wear the pants in the relationship. Didn't end well.
Maybe cuz YOU saw her as competition... why did anyone have to "wear the pants" yall are supposed to be partners
@@kaytlinreynolds4657that’s a stupid lie feminists tell themselves. There is no partnership in marriage. There’s a leader then a subordinate. That’s how marriage was designed to work. The man leads, he makes the final call and the woman obeys. Yes, the woman can give her opinion but in the end, her man makes the final decision. That’s not partnership, that’s leadership.
@@theone8789 Hmmm.....no-ish.
Of course...every spousal couples are different. But, its akin to captain n vice captain of a ship. Its not the same with....employer n employee.
@@kaytlinreynolds4657 Nope.
KInda like...lets say what car to buy or what house to buy, where to eat, what movie to watch, vacation destination, things to do in that vacation place.
Things like that.
Its never a competition. That being said....a husband has to know how to talk to his wife and wife has to know how to listen to husband....n vice versa.
Its a privilege of the husband to have the final say. That being said....its the privilege of the husband to be at the front when robbers appear.
Soooo...choose wisely, n behave wisely.
My problem was never my wife. It was my wife's feminist sisters and mother. They found out real quick one day never to step out of line with me. Now they are scared to death of me. Just the way I like it and our relationship is all good now. What I say goes in my household, and I am never wishy washy.
'you better not embarrass me' my mother used to say that to me... This makes me wonder about this woman's mind... 6 months after becoming a mother she starts treating her husband like one of her children. So if a man does not claim his leadership role in the family he becomes another one of the children the mother/wife needs to look after... And then all respect leaves.
I would make her apologize infront of all her coworkers.
I would make her drop her coworkers. List every friend or family member you said those sorts of things do. Now, send them text that you can no longer remain in contact with them, attend any social events, etc. outside of work because you've been a bad wife.
So thankful for channels like this, where men can learn how to be a men, and are not made to feel embarrassed, for being a man.
Word of advice, and this is something I see guys never doing.
In all my relationships, I tell the woman early on that I'm not sleeping on the couch if she's pissed at me. I'm sleeping in my own damn bed. If you're pissed at me, you sleep on the couch. The only time I'm going to be there is if I'M pissed off at YOU. And I follow through.
Don't care if she gets petty and won't let me sleep, eventually I get pissed off enough to go to the couch on my own if they're being childish. Funny how it recontextualizes the situation, and I almost always get an apology first thing in the morning.
Bill burr said it best
"Im not sleeping on the couch. We're both adults. Also good luck trying to get me off my side of the bed. If i wanted i'll take your side too".
This, 100%. Many years ago (late 90s) my GF of 5 years decided she wanted out of our relationship, but asked if she could continue living in my house (she'd moved in with me years before) until she got a rental. I said yes, not wanting the breakup to be any more torturous than it needed to be. Then she demanded that I sleep in the spare bed, since it 'wasn't appropriate' for us to sleep together now we were no longer a couple. I told her no; if she didn't want to sleep with me that was up to her, but it would be her in the spare bed. She then said that she had bought our bed, so she should get to sleep in it. I pointed out that HER bed was in MY house at MY discretion, a situation which could be reversed very quickly if that was what she wanted. I slept in that bed for the next few weeks until she moved out.
About 6 months later, she tried to reconcile. I politely told her to get fucked.
His BIGGEST Mistake is GETTING MARRIED
So...dont get married but still sow the seeds?
She was looking for leadership, so she yeilded. Other women would just call the cops and smash him, a MAJOR unspoken threat for a man.
Really? He didnt physically harm her tho.
@@eleethtahgra7182doesn’t matter. I was afraid she was going to call the cops as well, cause when these kinds of people meet resistance they tend to immediately flatten any threat with underhanded force
@@sircharlesross537 thats for a karen. This woman isnt a karen.
But yeah, usa n uk law sux for men regarding domestic abuse accusation.
"You better not embarrass me" sounds like a challenge and I'd be all in! I'm kind of a scary guy anyways.
*proceeds to rip a huge fart in front of wife's coworkers.*
The moment she critizised him was the moment she cheated
Trash talking your partner breaks trust the same way infidelity does. He can never be sure she actually loves him and how she talked about him isn't how she really feels and she isn't just putting on an act to keep him around. There will always be doubt now.
Moral of the story is if you disrespect yourself, don't expect anyone else to respect you. He needed this kick in the ass to get his family in order. I'm not even shocked or surprised that she disrespected him. That's just in a woman's nature towards weak men.
We can say the same about men and weak women. Ever see a man be real charming in the begging only to become extremely abusive when he's comfortable cuz it happens a lot more often lmao
@@kaytlinreynolds4657 yeah that happens. Equally as much as the woman being very nice at the beginning and then once the relationship is established they constantly fight and nag and find everything wrong with the guy no matter how hard he tries. Equally as common.
Hey, Bud, DNA test your kid. Show her, her actions are not that of a FAITHFUL WIFE ! Her grimy Sorority learned activities (For sure,she'll take those to the grave !)may have carried over after graduation! Intimacy is no more significant than sharing a cigarette or breath mint ! Ugly-specially after she became mean and tried to start fights. Vindictively belittling you at the party, right while you were just feet away? NOT GOOD ! I would be M O R E than S U P E R - P I S T !
"She decided she wanted to have a kid and then quickly became pregnant." Ummm...yeah dude. Get a DNA test. It usually takes at least a few months.
Good advice.
It’s actually far worse if you marry a woman who is an agreeable person when she is in her twenties, but starts to “find herself” when she is in her forties and becomes a b*tch. You thought you were in a real, loving relationship and slowly, bit by bit, she turns it into power contest, without you even noticing at first. But, in the long run, there is no saving such a relationship unless she comes to her senses. My ex didn’t and we divorced. I told her I felt cheated: you presented yourself as someone totally different than who you really are; if I’d known, I wouldn’t have touched you with a barge pole - and to this day she has no clue what I meant.
Underrated comment.
My wife grew up with the Feminist propaganda, pushed by her mother [twice divorced]. Shortly before we met, she came to the realization that it was ruining her dating/husband prospects, and made an adjustment in her attitude towards men and relationships in general. Literally a few days later, we met up, went out, hit it off. Didn't start dating until over a month later though, as I had just come off a relationship with a cheater, and wasn't looking for anything at initial meet-up. Still, maybe a year or so into the relationship, we talked about it at length and both decided had we met and tried to go out even a month earlier, let alone years, we wouldn't have touched each other with a 10' pole...25 years married now, 30 total, and she is thrilled to be able to be a stay at home mom and wife.
#Irony: every so often, other women around her age find this out about her, and tell her they envy her, as they in their 50s _don't want to work, but have to._ #Consequences of #choices.
@@TechnoMageB5wow this is beautiful
Very good post. Thanks.
13:40 that right there is so true. I don't know why but it seems like with some women they can reject you but then all of a sudden desire you when you are seen with other women. My mom did tell me some women like to tear each other down which would explain single women in their late 20s and 30s try to sabotage other women's relationships. I guess some people just desire that which they can't have.
Fact
Did I miss something here ... Didn't he lock the door to the guess room?
She got keys?
U had to leave the key in the keyhole.
A man needs to make his gal (girlfriend or wife) feel like he doesn't give a shit whether she stays or goes. He's only concerned about her trying to grab at his resources. Indifferent is the way to be perceived. She needs to know that you "want" and not "need" her in your life. When you "want" someone, they are replaceable. When you "need" someone, they aren't replaceable. You're good to her because she's good to you. This is how an Alpha keeps her wanting to please him. Otherwise, she''ll walk all over him.
That's how my relationship with my wife is. My way or the highway. There is NO EXCEPTION. If you want to be in this marriage, it is on my own terms. Leave or stay, makes no difference to me.
Fuck, I wished I had this guy's looks. Girls ask him out without doing anything.
His mistake was that he had the looks, but he completely lacks the confidence. I, on the other hand, is average at best, but I am and was very confident growing up and it has done me wonders. Confidence goes a long way. And the way you dress helps a lot as well.
OP ,women don't respect weak men , but it took you a while ,and
you finally came out of
your beta shell for good, and laid
the smack down ,good for you. Women want a leader not a beta
follower.
People say they are best friends and get married, and then they betray each other so badly. He just got married to the wrong person. Maybe he’s learned from this and can find someone new and pick a better partner.
The real question is who was she cheating on him with & for how long
@@andrew8168 Small chance. If it were, she wouldnt be bringing him to the party.
@@eleethtahgra7182 She brought him there for kicks and giggles so she can laugh at him with the guys she sleeping with.
you need more videos, I have watched them all
She's not an "alpha " or a feminist
She's just a woman who was sick of his weak bs
Can't blame her
No excuse for her behavior especially what she was saying to her coworkers. I don't see this marriage lasting because she's just on good behavior now, but the act will eventually stop because this is who she is.
Hearing this guy describe his Junior High and HS years almost makes me feel sorry for the guy, but not quite. Geez, I was a geek/nerd/whatever the term was, and even I managed to ask a few girls out for dates and a few even became (short-term) girlfriends. I went to most every dance and usually got most of the girls I asked to at least dance one time. And believe me, I was no prize in the looks department, I was not in the popular crowd, etc. I had a sense of humor and knew how to make them laugh or listen to my anecdotes. This guy is quite frankly just sad and pathetic, and it’s NOT just due to his single Mom upbringing, although to be sure, that didn’t help.
What saved his marriage was she knew that alpha male was in there some where. She saw it before but this time she pushed a little too far. Luckily it didn't cost her her marriage but it took both of them to the brink before the ship was righted.
@@nitareed4088 nah, well, it depend. At least she now knows her boundary.
Btw, since cheating didnt happen here in this story (assume it didnt happen), whats wrong with trying to save the marriage?
@@nitareed4088 ergo, u assume it happened despite the lack of it being mentioned in the story.
Are u really that bitter?
@@nitareed4088 so, if shes hasnt cheated yet, whats wrong with reconciliation?
@@nitareed4088 if she hasnt cheated, despite her harsh attitude, is reconciliation possible?
@@eleethtahgra7182the issue here is how does he get past knowing how she really feels about him? She pretty much admitted when she thought he couldn't hear her that she doesn't love him. It isn't that she was doing xyz and if she doesn't stop, he's gone. The whole foundation of their marriage is gone.
I will be frank here. Had my husband of almost ten years not taken the lead from GO (adding me on FB, getting my number, calling, asking me on a date), we would not be together today. That was an absolute requirement for me.
Cool. Now avoid falling into various red flags.
Watch various other cheating stories in channels like
mark narations
rspace
lost genre stories
ra zone stories
Avoid temptation. Dont fall into temptation. watch for red flags from husband. Shut down red flags if possible.\
One more thing....if, for some reason, one become too horny for certain opposite segg.....watch 2 girl 1 cup (u might puke, so, careful)
So they moved to an area to advance her career, but he's paying most of the bills with his dead end job. What is the point of her career?
26:38 hmmm....at least shes not a narcissist. A narcissist would gaslight him saying hes insecure or something.
Women should compliment your life not complicate your life...
@27:49 As the icing on the cake he should have told her she would be sleeping in the guest room.
Bet she got knocked up by a lover and told him that they were having a baby! She completely lost all respect and love with him because he was such a simp!
It took losing her babysitter and housekeeper to get her attention that he might actually leave! She is a piece of crap and he actually needed to divorce her and never look back!
"You better not embarrass me". Then, she intentionally embarrasses him.
16:50 I totally agree. I wouldn't do it myself. I don't know about in the States but in England there's a tradition that on Valentines Day a women can ask a bloke to marry. I think there's a thing with Leap years too. It's like a weird fun traditional thing. Not my cup of tea though. 😆
The wife woke a sleep Alpha. 👏🏼👍🏽😆
Male is on the spectrum
Waiting for her to call and leaving when touch became uncomfortable
You should know the person who released the study on wolves on which "alpha" "beta" etc is based withdrew the study and admitted he had misread the data. These were families not packs
No such thing as beta alpha. Some men have more testosterone. Others (mainly men) have less and are more agreeable. Others such as this man are in the autism spectrum. Yet another sign is him going through the scenario in their mind.
He needs to be assessed
The thing is that when he reverted to his beta self she lost respect for him. That is why she treated him the way she did and didn't respect anything that he did for her. It is a good thing he finally found his balls because she would have eventually would have had an affair. If she did have an affair she probably thought he would just take it. Good for him he finally started acting like a man instead of a wimp and a simp. He definitely saved his marriage.
Eventually would have had an affair? Come on now she's likely already sleeping with one of the guys she's been insulting him in front of.
I still don't see how it was salvageable. Her true feelings about him were made known. There's no getting past that and he's in lala land if he thinks she feels different about him now. She's on good behavior so he won't leave.
Even better than finding your alpha is finding your sigma.
Oouuwee
It's true, no matter how "strong" or hard a woman acts, she's looking for a man to take the lead. The tougher a woman acts, the stronger she expects a man to be. I'm 60 yrs old and that's something that took me too long to figure out..lol.. You don't need to be abusive, but now and then, you might have to give her a proverbial OTK spanking. Though, literal is more fun!
I never heard of a woman having children for weak beta onless it's a anchor or next man child.
There's nothing wrong with being a nice guy, but don't ever set yourself on fire to keep others warm.
I never asked anyone out either - I always got shot down so I just gave up
I'd be concerned she had started an affair around the time she started bad mouthing him.
Its a possibility. But if it is, she wouldnt be bringing him to the party.
She treat him like a kid. Theres...still emotional attachment there.
In other cheating stories, wife turn cold turkey toward husband....until husband decide to separate.
She didnt turn cold turkey, she just become more and more sadist.
Btw...an example of extreme sadist is...wife bang other dude while husband was made to watch...
30:46 well, better late than never. It seems to have worked out in the end. 👍
tf is this, damn this is funny(The first part)😂
Those Kansas City girls lol
He didn't divorce her so it's just talk what kind of man stays with a rebel?!
Kerri sounds like 304 ready to settle down and this incel know it but he don't believe in him self.
I’m friends with a couple where the husband is a complete beta doormat. He even took his wife’s last name. She talks to him like a complete dog, I think one day he will snap
Well, "All's well ends well." I never heard anything about a DNA test on his daughter, an STD panel, or the possible hiring of a PI. Maybe the OP was too thoroughly blue pilled to where he never considered those options.
All I can say is way to go, welcome to the alpha club of men who don't take shit anymore. Help others who are still blue pilled to find their gonads again. I'm proud that you handled her in the way you did, just never to forget to always watch for red flags, monitor who her friends are set boundries and stick to them, no girls night out, no trips, any drinking is done together, then have a happy life with your wife and little one
If I wasn’t already laughing hard enough. 11:18 made me almost suffocate w laughter 😂
I would bet $10,000 that she was cheating on him.
17:00 it is not bad if the woman proposes, this is actually a good thing, that shows she is interested and is pursuing you.
Simps are a big part of the problem imo. This guy was pathetic and is a big part of the problem why his wife was so horrible.
Moon in Capricorn type energy some kind of yin sign for moon, male
15:40 it's not that bad - 😆. I was way too young my first time. I bet a lot of younger guys today probably don't get to it until about this time or later. As for the girls, THAT would be something.
Seems like this was all on the guy for not stepping up...can't blame her
I can’t blame all of this on OP’s wife. It shows she lacks character, but OP didn’t respect himself at all, which led her to lose respect. She got to a point where she lost sight of their relationship, and treated him like he didn’t matter at all. She’s a bad choice - not wife material at all, but OP needs to work on himself. I empathize with him, having been raised by a violent narcissist single mother, but without boundaries and self-respect, no one of quality will be with him.
30:00 Ummm...yeah...unless u got family members up at the corporation...like ur father....I dont think its wise for female (who think of having a family) to climb a corporate ladder....
This arrangement would not lost long.
She'll still think him as a barking per dog which needs a cuddle.
I am surprised he stayed with her, but I guess it worked out for them.
I would have given it six months to a year and she would probably start to have an affair especially if a masculine man started giving her attention.
Still that disrespect and abusive behavior is a red flag. She can easily now divorce him and claim spousal support for life, custody of the child and sum up to assets to her favor. What I would have done is divorce her and establish a relationship out of marriage and work out financial protection for the child and her. We'll se down the read how things evolve.
She got off the BC
Still waiting for you all to find out about how yaoi girls were the first to use to terms omega beta and alpha.
Yooo, how does everyone following this page feel about Andrew Tate?
We ought to form a crack commando unit to go into Romania and bust him and is brother out of prison.
You are not the kind of person that I would choose to interact with but I would ask you to treat each person as genuine as you would like to be received by me
Good stories but the askew video is pissing me off
The good thing is, shes loyal to him n want him. Also, its a good thing he reform quickly before her....abuse turn into cheating.
I think the vid forgot one more lesson. Lay down the rule. Whats okay n not. If the rule is broken, then its done.
In various other cheater story, OP usually said "I am not comfortable" with wife/gf seeing or texting or drinking of prospective AP.
OP should have said "I dont want u to do that" or "I want u to stop doing that". If she loves OP, as they usually say after the break up, then she would stop. If she keep being hard headed n keep doing it because of "independent woman", then ditch her.
@@nitareed4088
True. But for this part of the story, he manage to prevent the marriage from sinking.
@@nitareed4088 correction: you also dont know whether she cheat or not.
Also, I did admit that of the cheating possibility should the relationship continue as it is.
Regarding the future of both of them, its irrelevant to the story/lesson.
If u dont like dominant woman, then dont date/marry them.
@@nitareed4088
Wait...what? Why would you, a woman, marry a woman if u are hetero?
Mate...you either mistype or you got wrong definition of hetero or...ur logic is messed up.
@@nitareed4088
Nope.
There are women who like submissive men. And there are men who like dominating women.
Thats why femdom kink exist.
So, Mr Heterosexual Female....did you mistype?
@@nitareed4088
Errr...sure. If you dislike such type of female, go ahead. You do you.
If you say so. I mean, you sure have extensive knowledge in psychology to deem dominating woman as a mental health issue.
This is not beta. Is there anything beneath beta?
masochist.
I dislike your wording. It is an offence for all men...(sorry)
1. Those woman are not masculine. What they show is not a maculine behavior. Those are behaving like entitled, selfish, uncaring and respectless persons. How is that masculine? Men do care- Men do protect. Men provide. Men give stability. Men have their emotions in control. Thats not how those woman behave.
A realy maculine woman would be: A provider for her family, for her kids and husband. A emotional rock, giving stability. A protector, protecting husband and kids from all attacks. A caring person who ut her self interests behind those of her husband and kids. Etc.... This would be a masculine Woman!
2. That Alpha/Beta male wording is also helping and not a good description. Those men are in way overly maculine. The biggest problem is that they believe, if the a re the spuer provider and super caring, what is indeed a maculine demeanor, that they are the perfect men. BUT they totaly over do it and with that they sacrefice their selfrespect with that them self. And that is causing the real problem, because who should respect you if you cant even respect your self.
3. A leading woman is NOT a problem as long the partner is at any time able to stand up, draw a line and stay to that decission.And if that line is crossed the woman musst belive that there are severe consequences. The most important line as you rightfully explain is that, when the woman sarts to be respectless even in smaler thing, that this has conequences. That the man say, thats it. Do it again and i am gone.
4. Coming back to Nr. 1 those woman who you call "masculine", claim for them self that they are independend strong woman. They are not. They a plain respectless and entitled. By following their demands it all gets only worse. You encurage them to be even more demanding, selfish and disrespectfull. They behave like 13 year old litle teenage girls in the middel of their puberty. They never are grown up. And because they behave like teenagers, they are not grown up enough to be stable partners, and certenly aren't they woman you can marry.
How many ads are you going to put in one video?
this is why males need a strong male influence in their lives
75' is about 22m. If he could recognized her he could clearly see what she was doing. What a simp.
Im sorry but I dont respect alpha/red pilled men. I live with self respect and integrity. Now with that being said, I would not stay with this woman because I have (wait for it) self respect. Alpha/Red Pill shit is just stupid in my opinion. Again this man found his self respect. I know how this guy feels because I been there. But going the alpha red pill way is not going benefit you. There is already men who are not with this lifestyle, and Im one of them. Keep you head up man. Have self respect for yourself you got this.
Need a man to raise a Man
Women don't want to be controlled or told what to do.Ever wondered how many Alphas are still married To their first Wives?
Borrowed money from his parents, I thought his dad died and his mother never remarried