I think all alpha & sigma minded men share that sentiment, I certainly do and just being in her presence would probably make me physically sick and definitely enraged (but on the inside, wouldn't give the cheating whore a chance to see me off-balance at all)! It's good bye and don't let the door hit ya where the good Lord split ya!!
So I am curious. Did you leave her? If not has the last 26 years been good, bad or the typical rollercoaster life of good and bad? Has she been faithful ever since? Where and are you two religious people, like did you attend church on a regular basis and practice your faith? Just curious and I don't mean to bring up bad feelings, so if you are not comfortable answering then don't.
No lots of good stuff raising a family and kids but the mental gymnastics will tear you apart inside. Worst is never knowing if you actually know the whole truth. Which we all know I don’t. If I knew then what I know now I would of moved on.
Yup. They've pretty much destroyed the concept of marriage. They use rings like bear traps now. They can now place it on a shelf next to chivalry and accountability- their own, at least.
13:45 Ho Lee Schidt, the daughter is GOATed for this moment. Not only did she know she really ought to tell her dad, she’s only 4 years old and knows she’s being bribed by her mom and doesn’t want to accept the gift. It isn’t her intelligence that makes her gifted, instead it’s her sense of morals and ethics at such a young age.
IQ has a large component consisting of pattern recognition. So the kid seeing something unusual, ie: not the normal daily pattern or when she got her gift [bribe] outside the normal timeline [pattern], she was quick to recognize that which then resulted in a, seemingly, out of the blue vocalization of the change in her normally observed patterns. So in this story, it actually makes a lot of sense to me that the kid has a high IQ, maybe outright, maybe just for her age, and was easily able to spot abrupt changes in daily patterns around her and then told her daddy about it because it stuck out to her. If her natural abilities are nurtured from a young age she could grow up to be very intelligent.
Not too Young and too Quick-Ridiculous(In Colonial America, most brides were under 16)!!! Your Disclaimer is TOTAL BULLSHIT...Licensed Professionals-USE!!!! Psychology Today did a Huge Study long ago-Cover Story. They discovered: Parents, Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles, Close Friends. Local Minster, Employers. ALL give much better advice than Licensed Professionals. Parents and friends know the people and situation BETTER. They are not motivated by $$$ and care more about the people who need help. Remove your stupid Disclaimer!!!!
Daughter is GOAT-AGREE!! This guy is an IDIOT; he is Embroiled in Hatred and REVENGE and Negativity. If he and wife had no Kids; Divorce would be Right. They are a Family. His wife LEAVES every "F"ing Day at 6:30...this is way way way BEYOND Insanity!!! His adventurous Wifey 1 TRILLION%....WILL NEVER CHEAT ON HIM AGAIN!! Acid corrodes the Vessel that Holds it. This guy is Destroying his Mind and Heart and Soul. Guy doing this Video is a TOTAL A-HOLE...a LOSER and MORON. Hubby does not have to pay for Child Support IF!! he takes his wife back...AS HE SHOULD. Forgive...Live...Love...be a Family again. Human beings have existed for OVER 100,00 years and MONOGAMY was NOT the Norm...EVER!!! Both Men and Women are NOT!! Designed by Biology AND!!! Evolution to be Faithful to one mate. HIs wife betrayed him in the very very worst way but...she was NOT Unfaithful to her Genetic and Biological Programming. FORGIVE...Take her back-she gave him 2 Beautiful Kids!!!
Its absolutely wild to me how cheaters can argue that you shouldn't "give up a 6 year relationship" because of cheating. You don't "give up" said relationship. You try to make peace with the fact that your partner was fine with destroying it. There is just no point in having a relationship with someone who doesn't value the relationship.
That fallacy falls in line with "You shouldn't throw away the Titanic. We can get back and sail again!" Infidelity is the iceberg and the marriage is the Titanic. The ship and the relationship are done. Leave it be and life goes on. This is the example I used on my cheating ex-wife
@@prodextron Might not be the best analogy ever. The Olympic, one of the identical sister ships of the Titanic, gained a very good reputation and got the nickname the "old reliable" by safely making it through many dangerous situations, especially during the world war up until 1935, when it was finally put out of service. But your point still stands. Its usually better to try a new approach instead of using an old one that failed in the past.
The moment I heard the comment asking to "forgive and not let a x-years of relationship go to waste" - I knew it had to be a cheater that said so. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
You know I hear this crap of "Kids are resilient" and yes they are. How about I come over and shoot you with my 44 magnum in the shoulder, because I know you won't die and you are resilient? This is HORRIBLE for the children, and one step better than an abusive relationship. Guys guys guys, you are kidding yourself if you think like this. Just one stat, for you. The vast majority of women who are lesbian had a traumatic experience in their childhood. Of this a painful divorce counts. We are talking over 75%. It is actually significantly higher but certain groups are working hard to hide this data. So let this sink in for a second. Even if you are cool with lesbians, you have to at least admit that number is staggering. If the data was more easily available I believe we would find it is closer to 90+%, but again 75 is staggering.
All the stuff she's willing to do to win him back is what she should've done in the first place if she loved him (aside from allowing him to have a one-sided open relationship that favors him).
I don’t understand. Why is the wife having a nervous breakdown when she went out of her way to destroy the marriage by her cheating? And she was having the absolute time of her life while doing it too. Any show of remorse just screams hollow in the face of her actions.
To understand this you require some knowledge of the particular evolution of human sexual biology. Have you ever noticed that while most female mammals display their ovulation status, female humans do not. This is rare amongst mammals and leads to particular problems with how to identify the males who have the fittest genes to breed the next generation. Those majority species that do display have the males gather to the female when she displays impending ovulation. The males compete in a way that shows who has the fittest genes... that male gets to mate and breed. Most males of every species are not the fittest to be passing on their genes, so humans had to solve the selection problem, and did that via the woman selecting the man that instinct tells her she should breed with. It's believed that this strategy developed as we grew big brains that take many years of nuturing to train. Human babies are normally born about 9 months premature .... they have to or the head would never be able to exit the birth canal. This is why for the next 9 months a baby is extremely dependent on it's mother. Compare this to a foal that within the day of birth is up on it's hooves and starting to learn to run about. Ok, so this means that a pregnant woman requires a long period of protection and provisions between being heavily pregnant and starting to have some independence from the baby. Even after that, she and the child need support and protection for a number of years. Essentially, she needs a pair-bonded man at her side or the breeding effort may be lost to the local sabre-toothed cat's dinner. Our biology under went some evolution to support the forming of pair-bonds, in particular, hyping up the sex drive so that the couple can mate regularly without the ovulation status trigger. This keeps the man happily with her, being rewarded with mating as he desires and in the hope that by chance, one of the matings will match the ovulation point to conceive a child. But as I pointed out earlier, most males are not fit to sire the next generation. Here evolution has stepped in and selected for the behaviour of those women who can sneak away from their pair-bonds to mate with the highest sexual valued man that is available to them. They bring back the resultant child for their cuckold to raise, as the limited number of high value men cannot provide for all the children they must father to ensure enough of each generation is breed from a good enough gene pool to keep our species from becoming extinct. Now, for a woman to sneak of to mate with another man is risky, the alpha may be a stranger and likely be a large, strong aggressive man and if caught by her pair-bond man she was most likely to be killed. So evolution has provided women with blinkers to enable her to readily follow her mating instinct. Devious sneakiness, ability to gas light to cover her tracks, ability to absolutely deny everything even when caught with the alpha still inside her... to try to avoid being killed... and most importantly, she gets a heightened sense of sexual pleasure by knowing she is cucking her pair-bond. Men notice this and call it affair-fog. Beer googles for women. It literally forces a woman to normalise/rationalise what she is doing despite her attachment to her pair-bond. Natures aim is to get her inseminated and safely home to a good man who is taking care of her. So she usually does genuinely love her pair-bond but cant stop a raging need to mate with just the right man who appears at just the right time AND she has a huge fear of death if she is faced with her pair-bond ejecting her. Remember that it is usual for a woman to leave her family, clan, tribe, valley to go and live with her pair-bond... even if her pair-bond doesn't kill her on the spot, being thrown out of the community to the wolves of the forest would likely be fatal anyway. You can see exactly this evolutionary programme in the woman of this drama. She was exposed to just the right man, she had a cover story of him being there to check on the house (no cover if spotted at a hotel or his place), manipulating the daughter to ensure that if she is carrying her alpha's child she can safely get her husband to help raise it. Her panic on being discovered and her desperation to maintain the pair-bond relationship. (In the past, and sometimes even in modern times, the ejection of the woman also meant the death of her existing children because the man can no longer be sure they are his). It's way more than just her wanting to keep her comfort zone. The major point is that the temporary alteration to her brain chemistry evaporates pretty quickly once the alpha has done his purpose or she is shocked by discovery. This is seen in this story, but she doesn't understand what had been going on in her head so she tries to explain herself but doesn't have the the accurate words to do so, so she sounds self-serving and illogical. While she was with her alpha her brain was telling her that everything was ok, she must mate and it will be over soon and this doesn't hurt her relationship with her pair-bond, because he doesn't know about her alpha couplings and his purpose is to help raise ALL of her children. And usually it is true that women doing this really don't like their alpha as a person. They do love their pair-bond and don't want to hurt him and don't logically choose to betray him. You see this even in cases where the woman separates from her pair-bond and moves to her alpha and this new relationship soon fails because without the affair fog she starts to see her alpha as a real person with real flaws that she cant stand. All women have this programming, the women caught cheating are not some sort of group of moral delinquents or flawed. They are actually acting as true human beings and what they are doing is important for the long term survival of our species. Most woman are strong minded enough and have pair-bonds of high enough value that they can resist desires they feel toward the quality men around them. But the weaker, lower masculinity of their pair-bond, the stronger the pull if a high quality man catches her eye. There is no such thing as a woman who is totally trustworthy and unshakably loyal. They are on a spectrum depending on their self control, the masculine strength of their pair-bond and the quality of the options around them.... so beware.... always.
Very common with caught cheaters. She never intended to leave her husband (“it’s just sex, it means nothing”) or have her home life change in any significant way (“as long as he doesn’t find out then he’s not getting hurt”). She just planned to f*** this guy behind his back. She was probably telling herself that once the repair work was done then they’d go their separate ways and she would just go on with her life as if nothing ever happened. She also probably really did believe in her twisted mind that she still loved her husband. The mental gymnastics of treacherous partners is Olympic-tier. They call these people cake eaters, a reference to the phrase “having your cake and eating it too.” The plan of people who do this is to have their spouse for stability and financial support and a comfortable home life, while also having their AP or multiple APs on the side for living out pornographic sex fantasies. You might ask why they don’t simply do that with their spouses. They’ll give a million excuses, but what it usually boils down to if you read between the lines is this: the betrayal is what makes it thrilling. If it’s legitimate then it’s not taboo and therefore not fun. There’s a whole subreddit for them. Don’t visit, it’s extremely depressing how utterly delusional, selfish and entitled those people are.
I am not sure he was all that mature. While I can respect most of his actions. I mean telling his parents that can never understand what he is going through, because it has never happened to them. Well that doesn't sound very mature to me. In fact, it sounds pretty childish to me. Maybe to a teenager, or people in their 20s or even 30s it does. Before you think of me as some old boomer dude who is past it, and doesn't get it because life was easier and less complicated for my generation. Think again. I am not married, I don't have children, and life has given me it's fair share of kicks, from growing up poor, to cheating girlfriends, to murdered family members, to medical malpractice, and a whole lot more. I have also had success in sports, in work, and on and off financially as well. Sure their have been people not capable of understanding, but there have also been others that given far deeper insights on situations, I never thought possible. I am pretty sure he made it more about himself, than his friends, his parents, or even his children, for a while there anyway. Still his actions for the most part are commendable, I just hope he comes to the realization one day that he is not the only one suffering becuase of that act of betrayal from his ex wife. Still he is a great example for his daughter. She will look at him and realize oneday that she better not make the same stupid decisions her mother made. He has taught his children a lesson on morals, that for me is the best that you can hope for in a situation like that.
Actually, in today's world, when it comes to marriage, this is about as happy an ending as a man can hope for. It's just another great story for any guy considering getting married. What actually stands to me is how the daughter, Sammi, is actually more mature than the mother, Deedra. For proof I will refer to "The Stanford marshmallow experiment was a study on delayed gratification in 1972 led by psychologist Walter Mischel, a professor at Stanford University. In this study, a child was offered a choice between one small but immediate reward, or two small rewards if they waited for a period of time""As the years rolled on and the children grew up, the researchers conducted follow up studies and tracked each child’s progress in a number of areas. What they found was surprising. The children who were willing to delay gratification and waited to receive the second marshmallow ended up having higher SAT scores, lower levels of substance abuse, lower likelihood of obesity, better responses to stress, better social skills as reported by their parents, and generally better scores in a range of other life measures." I was amazed that Sammi refused the gift, preferring to wait for her birthday. Talk about delayed gratification. Deedra, the mother, on the other hand, displayed all the behaviors of instant gratification risking her marriage. I think most people (not just women) are of this mindset....so most people learn to hide their basically childish immediate gratification true selves so they can fit into society and cheat when they think they can get away with it. What this story convinces me is that this trait is inherent...the daughter had so much integrity she couldn't lie to her father no matter how much the mother tried to bribe her. The shame is that so many men have to go through divorce to learn what kind their wife is.
This man is a pillar of strength 💪 he set his mind to cutting her off and did just that. She definitely does not deserve a second chance. She was caught once by her daughter, and that was not enough to stop her from doing it again. All the suffering she is facing now... if you can even call it suffering, it is due to her own actions 🎬
The part that his ex-wife still doesn’t realize is that her daughter told on her and she did it again anyway. He waited until she did it again even with the danger of getting being found out again, she thought it was worth it. That’s the ultimate nail in the coffin. He’s never going to fold, because she’s obviously not a reliable, trustworthy woman that even knows how to play the odds of life.🤷🏾♂️😎
@@kennethsmith6367 she obviously thought that the secret with her daughter, would have never been revealed. She risked and lost everything. Poor MIL,was devastated by her daughter's betrayal, since she understood how importand person ,he was.
@Kenneth Smith agreed... I dont understand... and at the same time I do understand why these types do the dirt, and in her case, after she's busted, she wants to cry and feign self deletion. It's definitely a manipulation tactic. But she had the chance to leave that in the past and doubled down.
If she had not cheated before, it was just because she did not have the opportunity. (I don't believe it). She was very matter of fact that as long as she kept him pleased in bed that it did not matter if she got some extra Vitamin D. In their bed with the kids in the house. And for those people that you will get over it.. I caught my ex doing some shady stuff 39 years ago and we were divorced then, and it still bothers me. It is not all consuming, but probably why I am listening to these stories all these years later. That kind of betrayal just changes who you are at a base level.
@Richard Charles I can definitely tell by the way she handled the situation. She's impulsive af. She did that shit before. Thats why OP didn't have any clue. She's deceptive af. She's already made herself master of double life
First response from a cheater! 23 years ago? I bet her husband thinks about it every day. What has been a good life for her has likely been a nightmare for him.
I bet If the roles were reversed, she would be all supportive of her cheating. Time doesn't heal all wounds, it just numbs and in time, it forms a scar as a reminder of how you got hurt.
@@eelchiong6709 ah, I bet if u marry the 2nd gf, youd still be cheating. Thats the meaning behind "cheater will always cheat". Ur 2nd gf break up with u, thus consequence. Its good that u learn from it.
@@eelchiong6709 Ah, but we arent talking about the victim. We are talking about the perpetrator. Hopefully u learn the consequence and wont do it again.
@@eelchiong6709 If u come from such culture, then u ought to trash the 1st gf and the guy who cukk u. Da fukk u harm ur 2nd gf for? Honor? Thats cowardice man. Its like a big bully hit u....then u hit a guy smaller than u, who is unrelated to the big bully, and call it revenge. Thats just dishonor man. Thats no different than a guy who abuse his kids cos his dad used to abuse it and then instead of admitting the fault n try to change, the guy justify it with revenge n honor. LOL, DUDE, I come from a culture that value family bond soooo bad the unit 731 have to kill bunch of us cos we just dont know how to quit. But, seriously, ur first gf sux. Leave her be. Assume shes ded. Mourn her passing. And move on with ur life.
He handled this well. But should have pressed for full custody. Especially after she threatened self-deletion. But it all started when she cheated IN THE MARITAL BED with her kids in the house. One of them even caught her.
He did push for full custody, but because he has a pen15 the judge ruled in favor of the cheating wh*re.(and gave her "child support" even though the kids live in his home and she pays nothing to raise them) You can't win a rigged game.
Can you imagine the amount of restraint this guy had to not carry an aluminum baseball bat to the room, knowing what was going on? I don’t think I could have kept myself from ending the “window man.”
Thats....the problem with...Western law. In various developing countries, as long as the AP isnt dead or got broken bones cheated husband wont be charge with crime at all. The cops would be like "dude...if u wanna bang other people's wife, at least be smart enough to do it elsewhere n not in his house" N the AP would be branded as homewrecker n be disdained by community.
I keep thinking of the basement scene in War of the Worlds where Tim Robbins lost his mind and Tom Cruise had to do whatever he could to protect his daughter.
I separated from my xwife in 2010 when my son was 2 the divorce was finalized the end of 2012 I’ve raised my son every since 100% by myself. He’s 14 now and an absolutely amazing kid! I did have to talk to her some but not much. So yeah it can be done it’s just hard to do as a man.
That was a great story he stood up for what he believed in. he got rid of the cheater what he should have done and he still have his kids so it turned out to be as best as possible.
Great story! I suspect that due to time limitations he couldn't cover many of the usual things we see in stories of infidelity: DNA the kids, STD tests, returning to the dating pool, etc. My guess is that this wasn't her first rodeo.
The more that I think about this story, he needs to DNA the kids, even though he may not want to know if he's not the biological father. In the case of an emergency down the road where he or they need blood transfusions, bone marrow surgeries, kidney transplants, etc., I hate for him to find out he/they are not compatible donors. The other thing I'd want to find out from his ex-MIL why WW cheated (kind of like an exit interview); later on, his oldest will realize her mom and window man weren't actually "napping" and will want a full explanation. He needs to be prepared with one.
Dave handled it Like. A. Boss. No simp detected in him! And the daughter, Sammi, is a legend at age 4 already! She KNEW something was up when her mother tried to bribe her with gifts to cover up the mother's cheating. She's more perceptive than many full-grown men! Thankfully Sammi told her father about it and he bought cameras that eventually busted Deedra in the act. Deedra is manipulative, a liar, and a narcissist.
Man, that one last time gets them every time. It's like people don't wake up out of their delusion until it's too late. Had it been truly a mistake and she cut it off after the 1st time, she could have taken it to her grave. Lotta secrets in those graves!!
Female responder 1 - “you should forgive her! She can change! Once a cheater always a cheater is a lie! I know because I cheated and I’m so totally a good person now!” Also, regarding the Ex’s ridiculous offer (a very common one in these situations, btw): “I’ve got the deal of a lifetime for you, Boyo! You forgive my betrayal and forget all this ever happened, including that totally insignificant detail about how I instructed our young daughter to lie to you about it and tried to bribe her to keep the lie, and I’ll let you be just as much of a lowly scumbag as I am! Because that’s totally what you want, right? I mean you’re just as bad as me deep down, right? Right???” Good on OP for holding firm against that 304.
She still being narcissistic, simply, because she already gave him a open relationship when she cheated on him in his own home. Now she’s attempting to use an open relationship scenario to set boundaries with him to follow. That’s a true narcissist.
First female response: it wasn't a bad decision it was a full blow affair. She brought Brock over MULTIPLE times to OP's marital bed, around their sleeping children. Brides their daughter to keep quiet. It wasn't a bad decision, it was a lifestyle choice. One that she picked that destroyed her family
Obviously, s3x was unprotected, he really should get a paternity test. Since he only caught her because of his daughter, not by a change in behaviour, therefore she could have done this before.
His daughter was special tbh. Wiser beyond her age. Also knowing her present was a bribe. People say it a lot but kids are brutally honest. If they feel scared sad or unhappy it is direct. Their ability to lie hasn't developed yet. I wonder what happened to the employee. Obviously fired but what else? Did he ever get his just desserts or what?
His wife is the hardest type of cheater to catch because she doesn't change her behavior with the husband, happily f'ing both of them probably on the same day. The cheaters that can't cheat on their AP are the ones that give it away with their behavior so he was lucky his kid ratted her out. But marriage should be dead in the west as it makes no sense at all for guys, even having children really should be a no go except if you do it with a surrogate. Lastly he should have vetted her better, I would bet that she was a party girl all during her college years and probably a cheater during those years as well but he jumped into a marriage with her right away which will cost him years of child support.
to the people telling him not to throw away his marriage over "a mistake", a mistake is something that can be fixed and can be forgiven. cheating is not a mistake. it is a choice that selfish assholes make and think no one will get hurt. this guy deserves to be rid of her since apparently she couldn't keep her legs closed while he was working to give them a good life
IQ has a large component consisting of pattern recognition. So the kid seeing something unusual, ie: not the normal daily pattern or when she got her gift [bribe] outside the normal timeline [pattern], she was quick to recognize that which then resulted in a, seemingly, out of the blue vocalization of the change in her normally observed patterns. So in this story, it actually makes a lot of sense to me that the kid has a high IQ, maybe outright, maybe just for her age, and was easily able to spot abrupt changes in daily patterns around her and then told her daddy about it because it stuck out to her. If nurtured correctly this girl could have a very bright future.
😂 omg I had to go running to the bathroom at almost 2AM !!! Because I didn’t want to horse laugh 😹 and wake up my 2 month old daughter. That mom was a Delilah
Why do some people get married when they are not ready to commit to one person? They haven't reached a mile stone in the marriage as yet, and they are cheating. Just sad.
When a woman gets married, she wants either security or children. She has no real love for her husband. 5 or 6 years after marriage, the face mask falls off.... it's the good old " bait and switch". We have all seen it a million times. Men are starting to figure out how they use the court system. Look at Tiger Woods. He has a team of lawyers and he still has problems with females.
I am female, & I've 2 young male relatives, growing-up without a positive alpha male in their lives. So, I seek wisdom/perspectives from channels like yours to educate them. I found it odd that Daddy was more closely attuned to Sammi than mommy! She behaved as if she were detached, with little regard for her family, until she got caught. She just felt OFF to me. I think she may have had a lot more OFF behaviors hidden away.
As a woman, yourself, I'm sure you've seen what women are capable of doing in this regard. I don't think I'm exaggerating when I say that women at 10X worse than men! As a man, I've seen what women can do!
@@francisdashwood1760 I have witnessed cheaters in action, but because my profession is heavily male dominated, most cheaters were married family men. When I first found Alpha/SSM, I was SHOCKED to learn how rampant cheating was among women. I do not know who is worse. I just know that I need to teach my young men how to protect themselves.
@@januszdworak4780 Yeah. Deedra felt OFF to me, & I think there is much more underneath her surface. But, fortunately, the OP has broken free of her, & the children are safe & healthy.
Perhaps I missed it, but there was no reference to the FIL who could have been deceased or divorced from the MIL possibly due to MIL's cheating (that could explain WW's behavior).
You can't say that marrying too young is bad, while simultaneously saying that women with HIGH BODY COUNTS are red flags. You have to risk one or the other. I married my wife when she was 19, I was guy #8!!! I KNOW that if we hadn't married, she would have been on guy #40 by the time she was 25. She's fairly well damaged from the first 8, at 25y/o she'd have been a total basket case. In reality, the ONLY good scenario is to marry A VIRGIN who has had no one else's DNA spliced into her. Yes, sperm deposits DNA into women and their unfertilized eggs. We have been lied to about this not being the case. Each DNA has its own frequency and THAT is why they get crazier and crazier the more guys that they are with. The emotional damage comes from biological(genetic) processes NOT just "feelings". Hell, I've had many women and had my heart broken a few times but that has never affected how I view reality or how I treat others. I could meet a fine babe tomorrow and fall deeply in love as I did the first time I fell in love. Women can NOT do this, they are biologically injured with each passing exposure. If you weren't her first, you'll NEVER be her 'first pick'.
@@januszdworak4780 Your mind is stuck in this feminist's paradigm. A male's virginity has nothing to do w/ his bride's condition. Your pride, arrogance and judging are telling. I use to be like you, glad that's over with. Took a lot of pain and humbling though. One thing you are correct about is the thankfulness. I am treated better than king in my house. I rescued a quality woman who was fractured and turned her into an industrious, wonderful woman, though she still will never be "my girl". so good for you that you got a virgin, I hope she never cheats on you but that may very well be the humbling experience that you need, to tone down that pride and arrogance. Have a good night. I hope you had blood on the sheets for proof or she was no virgin BTW.
This channel deserves more subs. At first I thought it would be just another boring, robot-voice Reddit copy-paste channel, but I like the occasional side comments that the host makes and the various vocal inflections to indicate disgust or disbelief.
My husband and I got married 11 months after we started our relationship. Not commonly, advised, I know. We were in our 40s so not spring chickens. That was ten years ago. We're still together.
@@engrossingwaffles6187 you are disgusting even saying that! How dare you?? He has already suffered being cheated on by both of his ex-wives. Shame on you for even suggesting such an evil thing! I don't know if you were betrayed and are taking it out on the entire female population, but there is no excuse for your behavior just now. I will be showing him this comment thread. Good day.
@LindaMeade madam it's the reality of modern-day relationships, and not hate against women. If loyalty was treated like military desertion, people would be less inclined to cheat. At this point it's as normal as breathing.I'm sure your husband had received the "I will never be disloyal to you" speech by the same two people who cheated on him previously. It's the reason why i have to ask, what makes you so unique, so sure that you won't the third heartache? It can't be love, trust or time spent together. Im sure he had those prior to you so how you be certain? There's nothing special about marriage, it's a scam. there's nothing to gain except being with a person for some years to leviate loneliness until they stray or passed away.
@@engrossingwaffles6187 and you are so willing to disparage my character online why?? I dearly love my husband and would 100% never THINK of cheating! I am never alone with any unrelated member of the opposite sex and neither is he. I also am Christian and know that one day I will give account before God sees everything I do. You have wholesale labeled all women as unfaithful. Would it be a valid statement for me to label all men as cheaters? So here we are with the logical fallacy of guilty until proven innocent. You condemned me in the courtroom of your mind without one shred of credible evidence to support your preconceived notions. "Prove that you aren't a cheater, but I will never believe you." You cling so tightly to your confirmation bias, you allow for no possibility that you could be wrong. I honestly feel sorry for you that you can't comprehend a wife who actually prizes loyalty. Your bitterness and cynicism permeate every word you have written.
Feeling what OP feels towards your cheating partner is VERY HEALTHY. Heck, it's even healthy to physically hurt your partner and their AP a bit, but of course that will go against you when the police get involved. It's not healthy to obsess over it, especially over a long period of time. That is the unhealthy part, not the anger, hate, or resentment towards the rascal who backstabbed you. And don't give second chances. Kick them out of your life immediately (with minimal ties of you have to).
I love FYA for the simple reason that a human reads the letters and does all the pronunciations correctly. He doesn’t break the sentences at the wrong places as A I does. Thank you
2 things. 1 - you cant give 100 of yourself to person A, while also giving yourself to person B, op ex-wife cant math. 2 - sideways for attention, longways for results.
Good story she probably cheated before that time as well she got caught finally making it so easy to bring the guy in their home like it was nothing. Some females are strong and don't allow a Chad or a Ray Ray to influence them but some are weak and the excitement begins. But in all good story
I was Cheated on & my ex wife was a serial Cheater. Women stick together. My mother was a cheater & said the same thing.( Just forgive & forget, its your fault for not showing enough emotion) NO. She Never Stopped Cheating. Dump her NO Second Chance's.
This man is a role model for men everywhere. Be this strong. Be this quick. Be this resolute. Only thing i want to knkw is how did it go with the construction company
A man gets cheated on. He sees it as "Why should I pay for pu$$y? I take her out to dinner, help pay the bills, take her on vacations, give her emotional support, etc... Why should I give 100% when she's giving me 80%? Why should I put up with her giving this other guy pu$$y for free?" A woman gets cheated on. She sees it as "I've completely failed him in every way, and he's found my replacement. He's unhappy with my cooking, cleaning, s-word performance, my body, my personality, etc.." This is why a woman will go ballistic when her man cheats on her- "How could you do this to me, to us, I cook, I clean, I raise your children!" And the best part: This could be the same woman who is also cheating, but won't admit it to her partner. A woman will rationalize cheating by convincing herself she's not doing it to replace her partner, but to augment her s-word life. She's just fulfilling a s-word FANTASY- s-x with the neighbor, a threesome, doing it with a grungy biker, doing it with a much older or younger man, etc... It's never done to hurt her guy, but done for her own needs. Her partner could give her great s-word experiences every time they "do the deed", and she could also cheat in order to fulfill the number ONE female craving- ATTENTION. This is why she will freak out when caught. Her security, reputation, lifestyle, income, family, and life-balance are now threatened... all because she needed to feel younger and more youthful, or because she didn't let a fantasy stay a fantasy. Once caught and threatened with breaking-up, separation, or divorce; it's not uncommon to see her begging for forgiveness and offering the one-sided open relationship for her partner. This is a strategic move for her. She knows her partner will have a much more difficult time finding "lovers" because women typically aren't interested in "hooking up" with men who admit to being in open relationships. Women call BS on this and accuse the guy of wanting to cheat on his wife or girlfriend. She's banking on this! And all the while taking advantage of keeping her "relationship" in tact with her partner... tapping all the "resources" he's provided her with.
Correct, it's a useless scam post-marriage deal, and she'll get more eventually and he won't be able to cry about it because she'll say, "Well, you agreed to me changing the deal without your consent before, you have to do it again! Get over it and keep paying, cuck!"
Your paragraph 2: Her rationale is that she's not replacing him (even though that's the path she's on), she's just having her cake AND eating it, too! After all, she NEEDS the husband to pay the bills, watch the kids (while she's out with her "girlfriend"), fix stuff around the house, you know, all the stuff that isn't FUN, while she keeps AP for the FUN stuff!!
@@williamclayton9566, she might not necessarily be on the path of replacement. There have been recent articles of why gals cheat on their perfect husbands. One article had three gals give their reasons. 1) She needed to feel young because her husband is getting better-looking as he gets older, and she's not. She bangs younger guys to feel desired and youthful. Her husband BENEFITS from this because she initiates s-x with him more because she feels better about herself. 2) She can't engage in kinky s-xual behavior with her husband because she's too anxious- what if she's tied to the bed and the kids walk in? She also can't emotionally separate from her husband, so kinky, dominating-type sex with him makes no sense to her. She also won't let her husband do anything with her that she feels would have him see her in a degrading way. She's his wife... not his wh0re. 3) She wants something different, but not to replace what she loves the most. She loves the color red.. and red will always be her favorite color. She sometimes wants yellow or blue, but that doesn't mean yellow or blue will replace red as her favorite. Of course, these are the gals that, when caught cheating, will be begging and crying for forgiveness. "It was never meant to hurt you. It was all a mistake. I'll never do it again. Please don't leave me!"
The big point to me is that she is sorry she got caught. She now realizes at some point that she will have to get a job and go to work every day. This makes her sick. No more staying at home.
The Damage is actually done but to be honest you both have to communicate regardless of the situation those kids are in it for the long haul until they’re able to care for themselves
Once a woman breaks her vows the marriage contract should be regarded as void. Overall, it is better to stay single than put all your trust in one woman, only to be crushed if she betrays you.
Paternity test brother ,this isn’t the first time ,she is way to bold for this to be the first affair .she acts more like a pro cheater to do this with family and kids around is more like ninja level cheater. She may have never been faithful
God bless you Dave. I always wonder why they never go back to the AP? Like 304 you wanted them so badly you are willing to throw away your family away.
People that cheat have something inside them that is broken. To best understand cheating it is important to remember the act of cheating is the last link in a chain of events. Normal non-cheaters know how to break that chain early. I know of a female that is an alcoholic and over her almost 15-year marriage would start drinking again. Would not contact her AA sponsor in time. This drinking then led to hanging out in bars and this led to the backseat of cars. The husband discovered her cheating and forgave her with the promise she had to stop drinking. Of course, she did not, got drunk again, and landed in a downtown Richmond Virginia hotel. They are now divorced. A person can feel neglected and land in the arms of an AP. I'm just saying that once you are a cheater you are ALWAYS a cheater given the exact same circumstances that led up to the first time you cheated. Time and time again I see this. In that first female response, I would be willing to bet my next dividend check she is in a loveless marriage where she and her husband are just roommates! One last point. This woman is the mother of the OP's kids. Still, you can't allow her to use making herself unalive holding your morality ransom like that! My GF is a family law Attorney in Virginia. She has told me many times when her client transmits to her a threat to cause self-harm she tells them THEN to call the proper authorities and have that partner admitted to a psychiatric hospital. It's sad, but you can't let her hold you, hostage, like this.
Once a cheater always a cheater, is always true. How can a cheater uncheat? Once they cheat once, they have the capability to do it again, that is always in back of the mind of the betrayed.
@Talisi Kid it's actually like killing someone. Once you kill someone, you're a killer. You can't ever not be a killer ever again, and you know you can do it again.
Hate and anger are healthy. Hate and anger can be excellent motivators to get a person to act. Letting your hate and anger control you and manifest as wrath is what is poison. Be angry, be hateful, don't be wrathful.
While anger and hate can be useful to motivate you to do better, too much for too long can be damaging to your mental and physical health. That would be like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.
The Temporary Insanity excuse had me chuckling. You could have fun with that one. If you went insane once, what's to guarantee you won't go insane again? The next time you go crazy, will you just cheat - or will I end up with a knife in my back? If I went temporarily crazy, would you ever feel safe around me again? Any answer other than "no" is met with "you're lying and we both know it." When she answers "no", that's when you say "exactly - and that's why we can never be together again. You're lucky I don't use your insanity confession to take away our kid from you. What court would allow an insane parent to keep her kid? STUPID. All that said, the silent treatment is best here. Do not engage. There is nothing but toxicity in engaging with someone who disrespects you like that. Edit: that final update only proves she was selfish to the end. While she was offering him everything, the one thing she refused to give him was the one thing he wanted - freedom from her. #Irony #Consequences
My aunt used the same excuse when she cheated on her SIMP of a partner the stupid thing is i was the only one in the entire family who called out her BS.
The first use of the temporary insanity defense was for Dan Sick!es after he killed his wife's AP, who was the son of Frances Scott Key, author of The Star Spangled Banner. Sickles was later a general in the Civil War.
Very good brother you did great, but in the alimony! Only she can reduce the wage without court order, you just have to speak to your in-laws and get them to convince her to do that, head up and stay proud brother.
For all these people saying to forgive and reconcile. Second chances don't happen. Second is first to lose in a relationship. Complete disrespect and betrayal deserves no second chances ever.... Once a cheater will always be labeled as a cheater. - Truth.
You would think that after the daughter saw her in bed with the guy, she would stop, but to continue to bring the guy in your marital bed is a big no no.
@@noydb-1 of course she knew it was wrong, she wouldn't have told her daughter it was a secret and not to let daddy knows. She just didn't think she would get caught.
I know that I would not acknowledge her again unless in an emergency. My ex did something very similar only she was taking our young sons to the guy's house and having his nanny take the kids to a nearby park while they had sex. Then she instructed my sons not to mention any of this. I was horrified that she was not only cheating but including our innocent children in on the lie.
Most posters: Can I reconcile with my cheating wife?
This alpha: Can I raise my kids without ever talking to my cheating wife again?
Also, most soft men: "How do I take better care of her so she doesn't do this again?"
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You forgot the 24 hour a week crying part
SAVAGE.
I think all alpha & sigma minded men share that sentiment, I certainly do and just being in her presence would probably make me physically sick and definitely enraged (but on the inside, wouldn't give the cheating whore a chance to see me off-balance at all)! It's good bye and don't let the door hit ya where the good Lord split ya!!
My wife cheated 26 years ago, I still think about it everyday. It screws your head for ever. It never fades
Why did you stay? Why not get your own revenge?
So I am curious. Did you leave her? If not has the last 26 years been good, bad or the typical rollercoaster life of good and bad? Has she been faithful ever since? Where and are you two religious people, like did you attend church on a regular basis and practice your faith? Just curious and I don't mean to bring up bad feelings, so if you are not comfortable answering then don't.
@humansvd3269 26 years ago no RP content. Young and dumb early 90’s different world back then.
No lots of good stuff raising a family and kids but the mental gymnastics will tear you apart inside. Worst is never knowing if you actually know the whole truth. Which we all know I don’t.
If I knew then what I know now I would of moved on.
@@tang_nabbitchannel3898 It's isn't too late. If you don't want to leave, go get your revenge strange.
Women wonder why men don't want to get married.
Yup. They've pretty much destroyed the concept of marriage. They use rings like bear traps now. They can now place it on a shelf next to chivalry and accountability- their own, at least.
13:45 Ho Lee Schidt, the daughter is GOATed for this moment. Not only did she know she really ought to tell her dad, she’s only 4 years old and knows she’s being bribed by her mom and doesn’t want to accept the gift. It isn’t her intelligence that makes her gifted, instead it’s her sense of morals and ethics at such a young age.
Sammi is a legend at age 4!! She's more legendary than women that have lived full lives, and she's only 4!!!
IQ has a large component consisting of pattern recognition. So the kid seeing something unusual, ie: not the normal daily pattern or when she got her gift [bribe] outside the normal timeline [pattern], she was quick to recognize that which then resulted in a, seemingly, out of the blue vocalization of the change in her normally observed patterns.
So in this story, it actually makes a lot of sense to me that the kid has a high IQ, maybe outright, maybe just for her age, and was easily able to spot abrupt changes in daily patterns around her and then told her daddy about it because it stuck out to her.
If her natural abilities are nurtured from a young age she could grow up to be very intelligent.
Not too Young and too Quick-Ridiculous(In Colonial America, most brides were under 16)!!! Your Disclaimer is TOTAL BULLSHIT...Licensed Professionals-USE!!!! Psychology Today did a Huge Study long ago-Cover Story. They discovered: Parents, Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles, Close Friends. Local Minster, Employers. ALL give much better advice than Licensed Professionals. Parents and friends know the people and situation BETTER. They are not motivated by $$$ and care more about the people who need help. Remove your stupid Disclaimer!!!!
Daughter is GOAT-AGREE!! This guy is an IDIOT; he is Embroiled in Hatred and REVENGE and Negativity. If he and wife had no Kids; Divorce would be Right. They are a Family. His wife LEAVES every "F"ing Day at 6:30...this is way way way BEYOND Insanity!!! His adventurous Wifey 1 TRILLION%....WILL NEVER CHEAT ON HIM AGAIN!! Acid corrodes the Vessel that Holds it. This guy is Destroying his Mind and Heart and Soul. Guy doing this Video is a TOTAL A-HOLE...a LOSER and MORON. Hubby does not have to pay for Child Support IF!! he takes his wife back...AS HE SHOULD. Forgive...Live...Love...be a Family again. Human beings have existed for OVER 100,00 years and MONOGAMY was NOT the Norm...EVER!!! Both Men and Women are NOT!! Designed by Biology AND!!! Evolution to be Faithful to one mate. HIs wife betrayed him in the very very worst way but...she was NOT Unfaithful to her Genetic and Biological Programming. FORGIVE...Take her back-she gave him 2 Beautiful Kids!!!
Best comment. But her high IQ is a great component is telling right from wrong.
Stupid people cannot pull themselves from their primal desires.
Its absolutely wild to me how cheaters can argue that you shouldn't "give up a 6 year relationship" because of cheating.
You don't "give up" said relationship. You try to make peace with the fact that your partner was fine with destroying it.
There is just no point in having a relationship with someone who doesn't value the relationship.
That fallacy falls in line with "You shouldn't throw away the Titanic. We can get back and sail again!"
Infidelity is the iceberg and the marriage is the Titanic. The ship and the relationship are done. Leave it be and life goes on.
This is the example I used on my cheating ex-wife
@@prodextron Might not be the best analogy ever. The Olympic, one of the identical sister ships of the Titanic, gained a very good reputation and got the nickname the "old reliable" by safely making it through many dangerous situations, especially during the world war up until 1935, when it was finally put out of service.
But your point still stands. Its usually better to try a new approach instead of using an old one that failed in the past.
@@AliothAncalagon we could also use the Luisitania. She was torpedoed by a German U-boat. Torpedo=infidelity
The moment I heard the comment asking to "forgive and not let a x-years of relationship go to waste" - I knew it had to be a cheater that said so. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
"your not giving up the relationship,
Your trying too make peace with the fact that your partner was fine with destroying it"
I'm stealing this.
She nuked the family, what she did to her kids and him is unforgivable and 100% her fault. Kids are very resilient. Just do the best you can.
You know I hear this crap of "Kids are resilient" and yes they are. How about I come over and shoot you with my 44 magnum in the shoulder, because I know you won't die and you are resilient? This is HORRIBLE for the children, and one step better than an abusive relationship. Guys guys guys, you are kidding yourself if you think like this. Just one stat, for you. The vast majority of women who are lesbian had a traumatic experience in their childhood. Of this a painful divorce counts. We are talking over 75%. It is actually significantly higher but certain groups are working hard to hide this data. So let this sink in for a second. Even if you are cool with lesbians, you have to at least admit that number is staggering. If the data was more easily available I believe we would find it is closer to 90+%, but again 75 is staggering.
Yep....she didn't appreciate what she had and then start losing her mind after she lost it.
All the stuff she's willing to do to win him back is what she should've done in the first place if she loved him (aside from allowing him to have a one-sided open relationship that favors him).
I don’t understand. Why is the wife having a nervous breakdown when she went out of her way to destroy the marriage by her cheating? And she was having the absolute time of her life while doing it too. Any show of remorse just screams hollow in the face of her actions.
The nervous breakdown, came because she finally understood, she was unable to persuade her husband to forgive her.
Because her reputation and cushy life is ruined.
She's trying to make herself the victim.
To understand this you require some knowledge of the particular evolution of human sexual biology.
Have you ever noticed that while most female mammals display their ovulation status, female humans do not. This is rare amongst mammals and leads to particular problems with how to identify the males who have the fittest genes to breed the next generation. Those majority species that do display have the males gather to the female when she displays impending ovulation. The males compete in a way that shows who has the fittest genes... that male gets to mate and breed.
Most males of every species are not the fittest to be passing on their genes, so humans had to solve the selection problem, and did that via the woman selecting the man that instinct tells her she should breed with.
It's believed that this strategy developed as we grew big brains that take many years of nuturing to train. Human babies are normally born about 9 months premature .... they have to or the head would never be able to exit the birth canal. This is why for the next 9 months a baby is extremely dependent on it's mother. Compare this to a foal that within the day of birth is up on it's hooves and starting to learn to run about.
Ok, so this means that a pregnant woman requires a long period of protection and provisions between being heavily pregnant and starting to have some independence from the baby. Even after that, she and the child need support and protection for a number of years. Essentially, she needs a pair-bonded man at her side or the breeding effort may be lost to the local sabre-toothed cat's dinner.
Our biology under went some evolution to support the forming of pair-bonds, in particular, hyping up the sex drive so that the couple can mate regularly without the ovulation status trigger. This keeps the man happily with her, being rewarded with mating as he desires and in the hope that by chance, one of the matings will match the ovulation point to conceive a child.
But as I pointed out earlier, most males are not fit to sire the next generation. Here evolution has stepped in and selected for the behaviour of those women who can sneak away from their pair-bonds to mate with the highest sexual valued man that is available to them. They bring back the resultant child for their cuckold to raise, as the limited number of high value men cannot provide for all the children they must father to ensure enough of each generation is breed from a good enough gene pool to keep our species from becoming extinct.
Now, for a woman to sneak of to mate with another man is risky, the alpha may be a stranger and likely be a large, strong aggressive man and if caught by her pair-bond man she was most likely to be killed.
So evolution has provided women with blinkers to enable her to readily follow her mating instinct. Devious sneakiness, ability to gas light to cover her tracks, ability to absolutely deny everything even when caught with the alpha still inside her... to try to avoid being killed... and most importantly, she gets a heightened sense of sexual pleasure by knowing she is cucking her pair-bond.
Men notice this and call it affair-fog. Beer googles for women. It literally forces a woman to normalise/rationalise what she is doing despite her attachment to her pair-bond. Natures aim is to get her inseminated and safely home to a good man who is taking care of her.
So she usually does genuinely love her pair-bond but cant stop a raging need to mate with just the right man who appears at just the right time AND she has a huge fear of death if she is faced with her pair-bond ejecting her. Remember that it is usual for a woman to leave her family, clan, tribe, valley to go and live with her pair-bond... even if her pair-bond doesn't kill her on the spot, being thrown out of the community to the wolves of the forest would likely be fatal anyway.
You can see exactly this evolutionary programme in the woman of this drama. She was exposed to just the right man, she had a cover story of him being there to check on the house (no cover if spotted at a hotel or his place), manipulating the daughter to ensure that if she is carrying her alpha's child she can safely get her husband to help raise it. Her panic on being discovered and her desperation to maintain the pair-bond relationship. (In the past, and sometimes even in modern times, the ejection of the woman also meant the death of her existing children because the man can no longer be sure they are his). It's way more than just her wanting to keep her comfort zone.
The major point is that the temporary alteration to her brain chemistry evaporates pretty quickly once the alpha has done his purpose or she is shocked by discovery. This is seen in this story, but she doesn't understand what had been going on in her head so she tries to explain herself but doesn't have the the accurate words to do so, so she sounds self-serving and illogical.
While she was with her alpha her brain was telling her that everything was ok, she must mate and it will be over soon and this doesn't hurt her relationship with her pair-bond, because he doesn't know about her alpha couplings and his purpose is to help raise ALL of her children.
And usually it is true that women doing this really don't like their alpha as a person. They do love their pair-bond and don't want to hurt him and don't logically choose to betray him. You see this even in cases where the woman separates from her pair-bond and moves to her alpha and this new relationship soon fails because without the affair fog she starts to see her alpha as a real person with real flaws that she cant stand.
All women have this programming, the women caught cheating are not some sort of group of moral delinquents or flawed. They are actually acting as true human beings and what they are doing is important for the long term survival of our species.
Most woman are strong minded enough and have pair-bonds of high enough value that they can resist desires they feel toward the quality men around them. But the weaker, lower masculinity of their pair-bond, the stronger the pull if a high quality man catches her eye.
There is no such thing as a woman who is totally trustworthy and unshakably loyal. They are on a spectrum depending on their self control, the masculine strength of their pair-bond and the quality of the options around them.... so beware.... always.
Very common with caught cheaters. She never intended to leave her husband (“it’s just sex, it means nothing”) or have her home life change in any significant way (“as long as he doesn’t find out then he’s not getting hurt”). She just planned to f*** this guy behind his back. She was probably telling herself that once the repair work was done then they’d go their separate ways and she would just go on with her life as if nothing ever happened. She also probably really did believe in her twisted mind that she still loved her husband. The mental gymnastics of treacherous partners is Olympic-tier.
They call these people cake eaters, a reference to the phrase “having your cake and eating it too.” The plan of people who do this is to have their spouse for stability and financial support and a comfortable home life, while also having their AP or multiple APs on the side for living out pornographic sex fantasies. You might ask why they don’t simply do that with their spouses. They’ll give a million excuses, but what it usually boils down to if you read between the lines is this: the betrayal is what makes it thrilling. If it’s legitimate then it’s not taboo and therefore not fun.
There’s a whole subreddit for them. Don’t visit, it’s extremely depressing how utterly delusional, selfish and entitled those people are.
This guy is so mature. I love how he protected his kids from this and kept his daughter's secret. He couldn't have handled this better. congrats
I am not sure he was all that mature. While I can respect most of his actions. I mean telling his parents that can never understand what he is going through, because it has never happened to them. Well that doesn't sound very mature to me. In fact, it sounds pretty childish to me. Maybe to a teenager, or people in their 20s or even 30s it does. Before you think of me as some old boomer dude who is past it, and doesn't get it because life was easier and less complicated for my generation. Think again. I am not married, I don't have children, and life has given me it's fair share of kicks, from growing up poor, to cheating girlfriends, to murdered family members, to medical malpractice, and a whole lot more. I have also had success in sports, in work, and on and off financially as well. Sure their have been people not capable of understanding, but there have also been others that given far deeper insights on situations, I never thought possible.
I am pretty sure he made it more about himself, than his friends, his parents, or even his children, for a while there anyway. Still his actions for the most part are commendable, I just hope he comes to the realization one day that he is not the only one suffering becuase of that act of betrayal from his ex wife. Still he is a great example for his daughter. She will look at him and realize oneday that she better not make the same stupid decisions her mother made. He has taught his children a lesson on morals, that for me is the best that you can hope for in a situation like that.
@@新型コロナは空事ですVictim blaming. Nice. Dude can't win for losing with people like you.
Actually, in today's world, when it comes to marriage, this is about as happy an ending as a man can hope for. It's just another great story for any guy considering getting married. What actually stands to me is how the daughter, Sammi, is actually more mature than the mother, Deedra. For proof I will refer to "The Stanford marshmallow experiment was a study on delayed gratification in 1972 led by psychologist Walter Mischel, a professor at Stanford University. In this study, a child was offered a choice between one small but immediate reward, or two small rewards if they waited for a period of time""As the years rolled on and the children grew up, the researchers conducted follow up studies and tracked each child’s progress in a number of areas. What they found was surprising.
The children who were willing to delay gratification and waited to receive the second marshmallow ended up having higher SAT scores, lower levels of substance abuse, lower likelihood of obesity, better responses to stress, better social skills as reported by their parents, and generally better scores in a range of other life measures." I was amazed that Sammi refused the gift, preferring to wait for her birthday. Talk about delayed gratification. Deedra, the mother, on the other hand, displayed all the behaviors of instant gratification risking her marriage. I think most people (not just women) are of this mindset....so most people learn to hide their basically childish immediate gratification true selves so they can fit into society and cheat when they think they can get away with it. What this story convinces me is that this trait is inherent...the daughter had so much integrity she couldn't lie to her father no matter how much the mother tried to bribe her. The shame is that so many men have to go through divorce to learn what kind their wife is.
Very interesting experiment.
PATERNITY TESTS!!! Something tells me this wasn’t Deedra’s first rodeo
You're right!
My thoughts exactly.
This man is a pillar of strength 💪 he set his mind to cutting her off and did just that. She definitely does not deserve a second chance. She was caught once by her daughter, and that was not enough to stop her from doing it again. All the suffering she is facing now... if you can even call it suffering, it is due to her own actions 🎬
It sounds like he might be weakening, though.
@@francisdashwood1760 yeah... a little. Because of the outside pressure to forgive her.
The part that his ex-wife still doesn’t realize is that her daughter told on her and she did it again anyway. He waited until she did it again even with the danger of getting being found out again, she thought it was worth it. That’s the ultimate nail in the coffin. He’s never going to fold, because she’s obviously not a reliable, trustworthy woman that even knows how to play the odds of life.🤷🏾♂️😎
@@kennethsmith6367 she obviously thought that the secret with her daughter, would have never been revealed. She risked and lost everything. Poor MIL,was devastated by her daughter's betrayal, since she understood how importand person ,he was.
@Kenneth Smith agreed... I dont understand... and at the same time I do understand why these types do the dirt, and in her case, after she's busted, she wants to cry and feign self deletion. It's definitely a manipulation tactic. But she had the chance to leave that in the past and doubled down.
These cheaters who destroy the very concept of love will then say that they "love" you when they're caught.
She didn't give him a 100% of her body she gave him 50% of her body.
If she had not cheated before, it was just because she did not have the opportunity. (I don't believe it). She was very matter of fact that as long as she kept him pleased in bed that it did not matter if she got some extra Vitamin D. In their bed with the kids in the house.
And for those people that you will get over it.. I caught my ex doing some shady stuff 39 years ago and we were divorced then, and it still bothers me. It is not all consuming, but probably why I am listening to these stories all these years later. That kind of betrayal just changes who you are at a base level.
@Richard Charles I can definitely tell by the way she handled the situation. She's impulsive af. She did that shit before. Thats why OP didn't have any clue. She's deceptive af. She's already made herself master of double life
@Richard Charles It gets tough if you bond with the kids. You are their "Dad" even if not BIOdad.
50-50 and he still has to pay child support wow
exactly sh!t is nuts!
child support is about the kids
@@lottoo5693 yes but since they were living with him , all expences were coverd by him.
@@ΧρήστοςΣοράγιας yeah ur right its fd up
@@lottoo5693 50-50 he should not have to pay child support they split the expense, the government just wants a piece of the pie.
First response from a cheater! 23 years ago? I bet her husband thinks about it every day. What has been a good life for her has likely been a nightmare for him.
I bet If the roles were reversed, she would be all supportive of her cheating.
Time doesn't heal all wounds, it just numbs and in time, it forms a scar as a reminder of how you got hurt.
@@eelchiong6709 ah, I bet if u marry the 2nd gf, youd still be cheating. Thats the meaning behind "cheater will always cheat".
Ur 2nd gf break up with u, thus consequence. Its good that u learn from it.
@@eelchiong6709 Ah, but we arent talking about the victim. We are talking about the perpetrator.
Hopefully u learn the consequence and wont do it again.
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If u come from such culture, then u ought to trash the 1st gf and the guy who cukk u.
Da fukk u harm ur 2nd gf for?
Honor? Thats cowardice man.
Its like a big bully hit u....then u hit a guy smaller than u, who is unrelated to the big bully, and call it revenge.
Thats just dishonor man.
Thats no different than a guy who abuse his kids cos his dad used to abuse it and then instead of admitting the fault n try to change, the guy justify it with revenge n honor.
LOL, DUDE, I come from a culture that value family bond soooo bad the unit 731 have to kill bunch of us cos we just dont know how to quit.
But, seriously, ur first gf sux. Leave her be. Assume shes ded. Mourn her passing. And move on with ur life.
He handled this well. But should have pressed for full custody. Especially after she threatened self-deletion. But it all started when she cheated IN THE MARITAL BED with her kids in the house. One of them even caught her.
He did push for full custody, but because he has a pen15 the judge ruled in favor of the cheating wh*re.(and gave her "child support" even though the kids live in his home and she pays nothing to raise them) You can't win a rigged game.
My God! That b*tch was a monster!
Can you imagine the amount of restraint this guy had to not carry an aluminum baseball bat to the room, knowing what was going on? I don’t think I could have kept myself from ending the “window man.”
oops....window man broken....
OP had the presence of mind to bring male family to the scene.
Why? Women are the gatekeepers of sex, it's all the wife's fault...
Thats....the problem with...Western law.
In various developing countries, as long as the AP isnt dead or got broken bones cheated husband wont be charge with crime at all.
The cops would be like "dude...if u wanna bang other people's wife, at least be smart enough to do it elsewhere n not in his house"
N the AP would be branded as homewrecker n be disdained by community.
I keep thinking of the basement scene in War of the Worlds where Tim Robbins lost his mind and Tom Cruise had to do whatever he could to protect his daughter.
Luckily this guy has a great relationship with his family, It's a terrible situation but it's great that he has a support system.
he handled it like a boss. once again there are no winners. so sad when they cannot keep thier legs together.
Other cheating females continue to give the most delusional advice possible
More like, "See? It worked for ME, not my husband."
Cos....divorce sux for husband....
Dave is a Chad. Did everything perfectly
Can't get mad at Dave he just did what any other men would do in his position.
A shitty situation turned Dave into a bad ass. I wish Dave success and happiness for him and the kids. 😎👍
I separated from my xwife in 2010 when my son was 2 the divorce was finalized the end of 2012 I’ve raised my son every since 100% by myself. He’s 14 now and an absolutely amazing kid! I did have to talk to her some but not much. So yeah it can be done it’s just hard to do as a man.
Difficult, but not impossible.
That was a great story he stood up for what he believed in. he got rid of the cheater what he should have done and he still have his kids so it turned out to be as best as possible.
Great story! I suspect that due to time limitations he couldn't cover many of the usual things we see in stories of infidelity: DNA the kids, STD tests, returning to the dating pool, etc. My guess is that this wasn't her first rodeo.
The more that I think about this story, he needs to DNA the kids, even though he may not want to know if he's not the biological father. In the case of an emergency down the road where he or they need blood transfusions, bone marrow surgeries, kidney transplants, etc., I hate for him to find out he/they are not compatible donors. The other thing I'd want to find out from his ex-MIL why WW cheated (kind of like an exit interview); later on, his oldest will realize her mom and window man weren't actually "napping" and will want a full explanation. He needs to be prepared with one.
He handled it like a boss! But we didn’t get an update on Brock was he fired and did the company reimburse him?
I'm so proud of your daughter, we need our Sammy.
Dave handled it Like. A. Boss. No simp detected in him! And the daughter, Sammi, is a legend at age 4 already! She KNEW something was up when her mother tried to bribe her with gifts to cover up the mother's cheating. She's more perceptive than many full-grown men! Thankfully Sammi told her father about it and he bought cameras that eventually busted Deedra in the act. Deedra is manipulative, a liar, and a narcissist.
You have to post more than once a week! Love your channel!
Man, that one last time gets them every time. It's like people don't wake up out of their delusion until it's too late. Had it been truly a mistake and she cut it off after the 1st time, she could have taken it to her grave. Lotta secrets in those graves!!
Female responder 1 - “you should forgive her! She can change! Once a cheater always a cheater is a lie! I know because I cheated and I’m so totally a good person now!”
Also, regarding the Ex’s ridiculous offer (a very common one in these situations, btw): “I’ve got the deal of a lifetime for you, Boyo! You forgive my betrayal and forget all this ever happened, including that totally insignificant detail about how I instructed our young daughter to lie to you about it and tried to bribe her to keep the lie, and I’ll let you be just as much of a lowly scumbag as I am! Because that’s totally what you want, right? I mean you’re just as bad as me deep down, right? Right???”
Good on OP for holding firm against that 304.
I love your content. Excellent commentary.
She still being narcissistic, simply, because she already gave him a open relationship when she cheated on him in his own home. Now she’s attempting to use an open relationship scenario to set boundaries with him to follow. That’s a true narcissist.
Op handled it great. He didn't waste no time and caught her off guard. Sucks how he has to pay a cheater.
First female response: it wasn't a bad decision it was a full blow affair. She brought Brock over MULTIPLE times to OP's marital bed, around their sleeping children. Brides their daughter to keep quiet. It wasn't a bad decision, it was a lifestyle choice. One that she picked that destroyed her family
Amen brother! Amen!
It’s a 304 deciding to going 304ing.
wonder if Brock was the first or multiple AP’s?
Obviously, s3x was unprotected, he really should get a paternity test. Since he only caught her because of his daughter, not by a change in behaviour, therefore she could have done this before.
Bless her soul, lovely little Sammi.🥰
His daughter was special tbh. Wiser beyond her age. Also knowing her present was a bribe.
People say it a lot but kids are brutally honest. If they feel scared sad or unhappy it is direct. Their ability to lie hasn't developed yet.
I wonder what happened to the employee. Obviously fired but what else? Did he ever get his just desserts or what?
It definitely won’t fade. These people are full of it.
His wife is the hardest type of cheater to catch because she doesn't change her behavior with the husband, happily f'ing both of them probably on the same day. The cheaters that can't cheat on their AP are the ones that give it away with their behavior so he was lucky his kid ratted her out. But marriage should be dead in the west as it makes no sense at all for guys, even having children really should be a no go except if you do it with a surrogate. Lastly he should have vetted her better, I would bet that she was a party girl all during her college years and probably a cheater during those years as well but he jumped into a marriage with her right away which will cost him years of child support.
It’s worse, its within a few hours. Poor man is stirring another mans porridge. Disgusting
The worst thing they can say is "I love you" after getting caught. 😡
to the people telling him not to throw away his marriage over "a mistake", a mistake is something that can be fixed and can be forgiven. cheating is not a mistake. it is a choice that selfish assholes make and think no one will get hurt. this guy deserves to be rid of her since apparently she couldn't keep her legs closed while he was working to give them a good life
Lol, you can always tell the cheaters, because they are always trying to get the BS to forgive the cheater.
Best story yet!!!!!!!!! Very satisfying
IQ has a large component consisting of pattern recognition. So the kid seeing something unusual, ie: not the normal daily pattern or when she got her gift [bribe] outside the normal timeline [pattern], she was quick to recognize that which then resulted in a, seemingly, out of the blue vocalization of the change in her normally observed patterns.
So in this story, it actually makes a lot of sense to me that the kid has a high IQ, maybe outright, maybe just for her age, and was easily able to spot abrupt changes in daily patterns around her and then told her daddy about it because it stuck out to her.
If nurtured correctly this girl could have a very bright future.
Love this channel...Love these long detailed stories...
Very good story👍I love the ending❤️
I have to say, I do like the longer stories.
I would say it is not a story, but the text is from someone who has been through it.
@@aberavon I merely meant i prefer the longer format.
The ex got 71K and child support, in an at-fault state?! What a joke!
I had temporary insanity that happened multiple times.
Imagine how many times and years she's been doing this before and after their marriage?
😂 omg I had to go running to the bathroom at almost 2AM !!! Because I didn’t want to horse laugh 😹 and wake up my 2 month old daughter. That mom was a Delilah
Why do some people get married when they are not ready to commit to one person? They haven't reached a mile stone in the marriage as yet, and they are cheating. Just sad.
For women it is for prestige, security and above all $$$. It is winning the lottery or being made in the mob for them.
When a woman gets married, she wants either security or children. She has no real love for her husband. 5 or 6 years after marriage, the face mask falls off.... it's the good old " bait and switch". We have all seen it a million times. Men are starting to figure out how they use the court system. Look at Tiger Woods. He has a team of lawyers and he still has problems with females.
Im curious about how he made out with the lawsuit with the construction company
More importantly, what did Sammi get in her early birthday present?
I am female, & I've 2 young male relatives, growing-up without a positive alpha male in their lives. So, I seek wisdom/perspectives from channels like yours to educate them. I found it odd that Daddy was more closely attuned to Sammi than mommy! She behaved as if she were detached, with little regard for her family, until she got caught. She just felt OFF to me. I think she may have had a lot more OFF behaviors hidden away.
As a woman, yourself, I'm sure you've seen what women are capable of doing in this regard. I don't think I'm exaggerating when I say that women at 10X worse than men! As a man, I've seen what women can do!
@@francisdashwood1760 I have witnessed cheaters in action, but because my profession is heavily male dominated, most cheaters were married family men. When I first found Alpha/SSM, I was SHOCKED to learn how rampant cheating was among women. I do not know who is worse. I just know that I need to teach my young men how to protect themselves.
@@januszdworak4780 Yeah. Deedra felt OFF to me, & I think there is much more underneath her surface. But, fortunately, the OP has broken free of her, & the children are safe & healthy.
Perhaps I missed it, but there was no reference to the FIL who could have been deceased or divorced from the MIL possibly due to MIL's cheating (that could explain WW's behavior).
@@bobasher731 OP said Deedra’s father passed away before they met. She may not have had much for male role models / father figure growing up.
Once you cross the moral line of cheating, it gets easier and easier. Thus the saying “once a cheater always a cheater!”
You can't say that marrying too young is bad, while simultaneously saying that women with HIGH BODY COUNTS are red flags. You have to risk one or the other. I married my wife when she was 19, I was guy #8!!! I KNOW that if we hadn't married, she would have been on guy #40 by the time she was 25. She's fairly well damaged from the first 8, at 25y/o she'd have been a total basket case. In reality, the ONLY good scenario is to marry A VIRGIN who has had no one else's DNA spliced into her. Yes, sperm deposits DNA into women and their unfertilized eggs. We have been lied to about this not being the case. Each DNA has its own frequency and THAT is why they get crazier and crazier the more guys that they are with. The emotional damage comes from biological(genetic) processes NOT just "feelings". Hell, I've had many women and had my heart broken a few times but that has never affected how I view reality or how I treat others. I could meet a fine babe tomorrow and fall deeply in love as I did the first time I fell in love. Women can NOT do this, they are biologically injured with each passing exposure. If you weren't her first, you'll NEVER be her 'first pick'.
@@januszdworak4780 Your mind is stuck in this feminist's paradigm. A male's virginity has nothing to do w/ his bride's condition. Your pride, arrogance and judging are telling. I use to be like you, glad that's over with. Took a lot of pain and humbling though. One thing you are correct about is the thankfulness. I am treated better than king in my house. I rescued a quality woman who was fractured and turned her into an industrious, wonderful woman, though she still will never be "my girl". so good for you that you got a virgin, I hope she never cheats on you but that may very well be the humbling experience that you need, to tone down that pride and arrogance. Have a good night. I hope you had blood on the sheets for proof or she was no virgin BTW.
A virgin would just be tempted by social influence/pressure to start wondering what it is to be with other men. It's not safe at all.
Virgins cheat. I married one. And was in 2 long term relationships with. All 3 cheated. Getting bored is getting bored.
Women suck.
This channel deserves more subs. At first I thought it would be just another boring, robot-voice Reddit copy-paste channel, but I like the occasional side comments that the host makes and the various vocal inflections to indicate disgust or disbelief.
My husband and I got married 11 months after we started our relationship. Not commonly, advised, I know. We were in our 40s so not spring chickens.
That was ten years ago. We're still together.
Won't be long now till you cheat on him.
@@engrossingwaffles6187 you are disgusting even saying that! How dare you?? He has already suffered being cheated on by both of his ex-wives. Shame on you for even suggesting such an evil thing! I don't know if you were betrayed and are taking it out on the entire female population, but there is no excuse for your behavior just now. I will be showing him this comment thread. Good day.
@LindaMeade madam it's the reality of modern-day relationships, and not hate against women. If loyalty was treated like military desertion, people would be less inclined to cheat. At this point it's as normal as breathing.I'm sure your husband had received the "I will never be disloyal to you" speech by the same two people who cheated on him previously. It's the reason why i have to ask, what makes you so unique, so sure that you won't the third heartache? It can't be love, trust or time spent together. Im sure he had those prior to you so how you be certain? There's nothing special about marriage, it's a scam. there's nothing to gain except being with a person for some years to leviate loneliness until they stray or passed away.
@@engrossingwaffles6187 and you are so willing to disparage my character online why?? I dearly love my husband and would 100% never THINK of cheating! I am never alone with any unrelated member of the opposite sex and neither is he. I also am Christian and know that one day I will give account before God sees everything I do.
You have wholesale labeled all women as unfaithful. Would it be a valid statement for me to label all men as cheaters?
So here we are with the logical fallacy of guilty until proven innocent. You condemned me in the courtroom of your mind without one shred of credible evidence to support your preconceived notions. "Prove that you aren't a cheater, but I will never believe you." You cling so tightly to your confirmation bias, you allow for no possibility that you could be wrong.
I honestly feel sorry for you that you can't comprehend a wife who actually prizes loyalty.
Your bitterness and cynicism permeate every word you have written.
I really enjoy the stories you tell. I wish you would do that more often.
Dave handled it perfectly, the BIG loser was Deedra who for a moment of itchy scratching lost a good husband...Reaping what one has sown
Feeling what OP feels towards your cheating partner is VERY HEALTHY. Heck, it's even healthy to physically hurt your partner and their AP a bit, but of course that will go against you when the police get involved.
It's not healthy to obsess over it, especially over a long period of time. That is the unhealthy part, not the anger, hate, or resentment towards the rascal who backstabbed you.
And don't give second chances. Kick them out of your life immediately (with minimal ties of you have to).
You do a great job on these videos. Keep up the good work 👍.
Good story. Good channel. You should do more than one upload a week. Maybe two? Stay strong brothers!
So what happen to Brock? What was the settlement with the window company?
He likely got fired and the company either comped work or paid a settlement.
No problem there now. xwifen Brocky Sclong, can now hook-up any ol' timen place without guilt ! Nice, huh ?
@@deanfisher5017 nah, fun time with Brock only is good if husband is cucked. Otherwise, the it's just default boring sex
Singing "I saw mommy kissing Santa clause" 😂😂😂 same energy lol
Good man, instead of confronting his wife immediately, he waited for solid evidence
I love FYA for the simple reason that a human reads the letters and does all the pronunciations correctly. He doesn’t break the sentences at the wrong places as A I does. Thank you
2 things.
1 - you cant give 100 of yourself to person A, while also giving yourself to person B, op ex-wife cant math.
2 - sideways for attention, longways for results.
I'm only 11 minutes in. I hope he left a bad review for the window company.😁
He likely got some money back
@Richard Charles 🤣
@Richard Charles good one. But he's lucky this isn't the middle east.
Good story she probably cheated before that time as well she got caught finally making it so easy to bring the guy in their home like it was nothing.
Some females are strong and don't allow a Chad or a Ray Ray to influence them but some are weak and the excitement begins.
But in all good story
I was Cheated on & my ex wife was a serial Cheater. Women stick together. My mother was a cheater & said the same thing.( Just forgive & forget, its your fault for not showing enough emotion) NO. She Never Stopped Cheating. Dump her NO Second Chance's.
Might want to get a paternity test.
This man is a role model for men everywhere. Be this strong. Be this quick. Be this resolute. Only thing i want to knkw is how did it go with the construction company
Love your videos 👍
Good man. Wish the best for you and your kids.
A man gets cheated on. He sees it as "Why should I pay for pu$$y? I take her out to dinner, help pay the bills, take her on vacations, give her emotional support, etc... Why should I give 100% when she's giving me 80%? Why should I put up with her giving this other guy pu$$y for free?" A woman gets cheated on. She sees it as "I've completely failed him in every way, and he's found my replacement. He's unhappy with my cooking, cleaning, s-word performance, my body, my personality, etc.." This is why a woman will go ballistic when her man cheats on her- "How could you do this to me, to us, I cook, I clean, I raise your children!" And the best part: This could be the same woman who is also cheating, but won't admit it to her partner.
A woman will rationalize cheating by convincing herself she's not doing it to replace her partner, but to augment her s-word life. She's just fulfilling a s-word FANTASY- s-x with the neighbor, a threesome, doing it with a grungy biker, doing it with a much older or younger man, etc... It's never done to hurt her guy, but done for her own needs. Her partner could give her great s-word experiences every time they "do the deed", and she could also cheat in order to fulfill the number ONE female craving- ATTENTION. This is why she will freak out when caught. Her security, reputation, lifestyle, income, family, and life-balance are now threatened... all because she needed to feel younger and more youthful, or because she didn't let a fantasy stay a fantasy.
Once caught and threatened with breaking-up, separation, or divorce; it's not uncommon to see her begging for forgiveness and offering the one-sided open relationship for her partner. This is a strategic move for her. She knows her partner will have a much more difficult time finding "lovers" because women typically aren't interested in "hooking up" with men who admit to being in open relationships. Women call BS on this and accuse the guy of wanting to cheat on his wife or girlfriend. She's banking on this! And all the while taking advantage of keeping her "relationship" in tact with her partner... tapping all the "resources" he's provided her with.
Correct, it's a useless scam post-marriage deal, and she'll get more eventually and he won't be able to cry about it because she'll say, "Well, you agreed to me changing the deal without your consent before, you have to do it again! Get over it and keep paying, cuck!"
Your paragraph 2: Her rationale is that she's not replacing him (even though that's the path she's on), she's just having her cake AND eating it, too! After all, she NEEDS the husband to pay the bills, watch the kids (while she's out with her "girlfriend"), fix stuff around the house, you know, all the stuff that isn't FUN, while she keeps AP for the FUN stuff!!
@@williamclayton9566, she might not necessarily be on the path of replacement. There have been recent articles of why gals cheat on their perfect husbands. One article had three gals give their reasons. 1) She needed to feel young because her husband is getting better-looking as he gets older, and she's not. She bangs younger guys to feel desired and youthful. Her husband BENEFITS from this because she initiates s-x with him more because she feels better about herself. 2) She can't engage in kinky s-xual behavior with her husband because she's too anxious- what if she's tied to the bed and the kids walk in? She also can't emotionally separate from her husband, so kinky, dominating-type sex with him makes no sense to her. She also won't let her husband do anything with her that she feels would have him see her in a degrading way. She's his wife... not his wh0re. 3) She wants something different, but not to replace what she loves the most. She loves the color red.. and red will always be her favorite color. She sometimes wants yellow or blue, but that doesn't mean yellow or blue will replace red as her favorite. Of course, these are the gals that, when caught cheating, will be begging and crying for forgiveness. "It was never meant to hurt you. It was all a mistake. I'll never do it again. Please don't leave me!"
How true, been there.
What mother cause her own baby emotional trauma like this? What a monster
Kids usually think they are they responsible for the problem in the family…. And they are not. Shame on the mother
The big point to me is that she is sorry she got caught. She now realizes at some point that she will have to get a job and go to work every day. This makes her sick. No more staying at home.
The Damage is actually done but to be honest you both have to communicate regardless of the situation those kids are in it for the long haul until they’re able to care for themselves
crazy how the dad has to pay child support when he shares custody 50/50 thats actually criminal that they would order that.
That is so much bs that he has to pay her child support, despite 50/50 custody and having primary residency.
& I forgot to mention that None of my children were mine.
Once a woman breaks her vows the marriage contract should be regarded as void. Overall, it is better to stay single than put all your trust in one woman, only to be crushed if she betrays you.
Everything they offer after getting caught is what was withheld from you in the relationship to that point. It's a total scam.
"the pain and mistrust will fade"...
But does it disappear??!
Paternity test brother ,this isn’t the first time ,she is way to bold for this to be the first affair .she acts more like a pro cheater to do this with family and kids around is more like ninja level cheater. She may have never been faithful
God bless you Dave. I always wonder why they never go back to the AP? Like 304 you wanted them so badly you are willing to throw away your family away.
People that cheat have something inside them that is broken. To best understand cheating it is important to remember the act of cheating is the last link in a chain of events. Normal non-cheaters know how to break that chain early. I know of a female that is an alcoholic and over her almost 15-year marriage would start drinking again. Would not contact her AA sponsor in time. This drinking then led to hanging out in bars and this led to the backseat of cars. The husband discovered her cheating and forgave her with the promise she had to stop drinking. Of course, she did not, got drunk again, and landed in a downtown Richmond Virginia hotel. They are now divorced. A person can feel neglected and land in the arms of an AP. I'm just saying that once you are a cheater you are ALWAYS a cheater given the exact same circumstances that led up to the first time you cheated. Time and time again I see this. In that first female response, I would be willing to bet my next dividend check she is in a loveless marriage where she and her husband are just roommates! One last point. This woman is the mother of the OP's kids. Still, you can't allow her to use making herself unalive holding your morality ransom like that! My GF is a family law Attorney in Virginia. She has told me many times when her client transmits to her a threat to cause self-harm she tells them THEN to call the proper authorities and have that partner admitted to a psychiatric hospital. It's sad, but you can't let her hold you, hostage, like this.
Most of the time cheating occurs becaus3 they think they can get away with it
Actually it’s their mind.
Sammie needs an mvp award🎉
DNA your kids, this wasn’t her fist time
Once a cheater always a cheater, is always true. How can a cheater uncheat? Once they cheat once, they have the capability to do it again, that is always in back of the mind of the betrayed.
It’s like an alcoholic, you’re either drunk or perpetually recovering. Your choice.
@Talisi Kid it's actually like killing someone. Once you kill someone, you're a killer. You can't ever not be a killer ever again, and you know you can do it again.
@@mattl6300 there is some truth to what you say. And the Old Testament says as much,
Hate and anger are healthy. Hate and anger can be excellent motivators to get a person to act. Letting your hate and anger control you and manifest as wrath is what is poison.
Be angry, be hateful, don't be wrathful.
While anger and hate can be useful to motivate you to do better, too much for too long can be damaging to your mental and physical health. That would be like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.
The Temporary Insanity excuse had me chuckling. You could have fun with that one.
If you went insane once, what's to guarantee you won't go insane again? The next time you go crazy, will you just cheat - or will I end up with a knife in my back?
If I went temporarily crazy, would you ever feel safe around me again? Any answer other than "no" is met with "you're lying and we both know it." When she answers "no", that's when you say "exactly - and that's why we can never be together again. You're lucky I don't use your insanity confession to take away our kid from you. What court would allow an insane parent to keep her kid? STUPID.
All that said, the silent treatment is best here. Do not engage. There is nothing but toxicity in engaging with someone who disrespects you like that.
Edit: that final update only proves she was selfish to the end. While she was offering him everything, the one thing she refused to give him was the one thing he wanted - freedom from her. #Irony #Consequences
My aunt used the same excuse when she cheated on her SIMP of a partner the stupid thing is i was the only one in the entire family who called out her BS.
@@god2938 poor uncle....
The first use of the temporary insanity defense was for Dan Sick!es after he killed his wife's AP, who was the son of Frances Scott Key, author of The Star Spangled Banner. Sickles was later a general in the Civil War.
Very good brother you did great, but in the alimony! Only she can reduce the wage without court order, you just have to speak to your in-laws and get them to convince her to do that, head up and stay proud brother.
My wife and I married when I was 25 she was 22 years still married 31 years later
For all these people saying to forgive and reconcile. Second chances don't happen. Second is first to lose in a relationship. Complete disrespect and betrayal deserves no second chances ever.... Once a cheater will always be labeled as a cheater. - Truth.
Yes agree, been through it all, got back together after the, 'I won't do it again' pleading, but she did. Could write a book about her.
@@aberavon You're a kind person. Sad these people will never change their promiscuous and manipulative ways.
You would think that after the daughter saw her in bed with the guy, she would stop, but to continue to bring the guy in your marital bed is a big no no.
I guess she thought, if the kid was going to spill the beans, it would have immediately happened.
Why would she stop since she truly believes she has done nothing wrong?
@@noydb-1 of course she knew it was wrong, she wouldn't have told her daughter it was a secret and not to let daddy knows. She just didn't think she would get caught.
@@noydb-1 This is the way of an adulterous woman. She eats, she wipes her mouth, and says, "I have done no wrong." -- Proverbs 30:20
The cheater's handbook was literally written 3000 years ago.
Brock does plumbing too.
I know that I would not acknowledge her again unless in an emergency. My ex did something very similar only she was taking our young sons to the guy's house and having his nanny take the kids to a nearby park while they had sex. Then she instructed my sons not to mention any of this. I was horrified that she was not only cheating but including our innocent children in on the lie.