@@DarkbutNotsinister legally, you're mistaken, eg, that's not how a paternity case would go, (also upvotes on a comment I am replying to doesn't equate to down votes on my comment) But its not that big of a deal.
I'm a german medical student and you really taught me to be a lot more empathetic with addicts. I had a lot of stigma and still find it hard to deal with these patients, but I try really hard to not let them feel less of a human and educate my coworkers as well. Thank you so much!
At least you're honest with your struggling in the past dealing with addicts; I can sympathise as stigma influenced my outlook until I volunteered a few hours a week in a homeless shelter while at University and I viewed situations from a different angle.
Thank you for educating yourself more about addiction, helping erase the stigma surrounding it buy educating your co workers and treating your patients who suffer from this disease in a kind way even when they're being not so kind themselves.
This is awesome!!Educating ppl to understand/empathize with addiction better is so important & Jess is amazing at that! I'm very thankful for her lol.Thank u for working hard, being more empathetic & an extra big thank u for trying to educate ur co-workers!!!!
Seriously! Why are men NEVER asked if they are going to have kids or more kids?! It is complete bullshit! I feel much more comfortable having reached 40 and people have FINALLY stopped asking me if I'm going to have kids or not. I nannied a family for so many years since I was 12 through adulthood! I feel like I've already raised 4 kids! I'm still close to them. One is flying F-35s as an Officer in the USAF, another is in research (in the marijuana industry) with an Ag degree. One is a sophomore in college, the other is in law school. I think I did pretty well! Frankly I still don't know if I want my own kids, though I lean more toward not. I may also not have a choice with endometriosis and other major health issues. Who cares though?! A woman's reproduction and uterus is not the business of anyone else!!!
I remember when I had my youngest of two, I had decided to have a tubal ligation and have no more children at 23. Dr’s kept asking if I was sure, family even asked, “what if something happens to one of the kids and you want another baby.” That’s the dumbest comment I had about my fertility/family planning. Also, I have never regretted my decision to only have two children. Also, having two boys, I got the comment, “ oh, but don’t you want to try for a girl?” 😬
but to be fair, women that usualy want other kid are talking about it all the time, when not asked. I dont care at all about other peoples lives, but if I would be "forced" into chitchat with woman that has kids(especially tiny ones under 5yo) question about if she wants/thinks about more kids, that comes to mind. And I am sure that is, because of those women that are forcing kid talking into every sentence.
I haven’t seen your videos in a hot minute because things are finally looking up! I have been sober for a little over a year now, was able to get an apartment and end our homelessness/shelter stay. You really helped me get through some of the toughest times of my life and now we are on the up and up and owe a lot of it to you and this channel. I thank you, my husband thanks you, my children thank you from the bottom of all of our hearts.
Congratulations! On getting & staying sober, & getting a place! Those are both HUGE accomplishments. Idk you but I'm proud of you!💖 Good luck to you & your family. I wish y'all the very best!
PREACH ABOUT NOT ASKING WOMAN ABOUT HAVING BABIES!!!!!!!!!! 💕. So many woman struggle and would LOVE to be a mama but just can’t And they’re reminded of that every-time they’re asked
Your response about not asking women about their uterus was spot on! As an unmarried woman I get asked all the time, don’t you want a baby? It’s no one’s darn business.
I deal with this daily other women shoving motherhood down my throat and just not understanding 1. I just feel like I would not be a good parent like financially & 2. I have cyclic vomiting syndrome & fibromyalgia plus mental healing & I’m on medication & don’t want to do that to a child. But imagine asking me about kids & I go into that response, it’s too personal I wish ppl will understand.
Oh my goodness. I am a alcoholic and I am SO happy to hear AA wasn't the path for another addict. I have a lot of religious trauma syndrome and while AA is not affiliated with any religion, the 12 steps trigger my religious trauma. I made my own way and rely on the legacy of my family. My family is loaded with addicts and what keeps me sober is knowing that I am one of the addicts who "got away".
Agreed 100%. I’ve tried 12 steps multiple times and so many people give me the “talk to the fucking doorknob as higher power it doesn’t matter” but I really cannot get past the verbiage and some of the ritual aspect of it. Super triggering for religious ptsd.
@@esthekatie All due respect to those who thrive on AA. My higher power is my own fucking logic. I drink, I do bad shit. I drink, I can't stop. I don't drink, I don't do bad shit. If I crave alcohol, I day dream about drinking and go on an imaginary trip down Drunk Lane, I usually end up in imaginary Rock Bottom. By the time I am done day dreaming, I don't want to drink anymore because again: Logic. (and having rules and boundaries set in place. I don't go to bars because: Logic and My roommate and I have made an alcohol free zone and (logically speaking) if I bring alcohol into the house, we have consented to the rule: I get kicked out).
"My kid's father is Reece." I was cheering, and then I ended up having to rewind a bit to hear the rest, because I missed it. My dad and I have a saying, "Anyone can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a dad." or something like that. I'm so glad that Reese stepped up to the plate, just like my dad did for me. 😍❤️
I’ve met two deaf inmates. The guys looked out for them and learned how to communicate with one another. It was awesome seeing them come together and brings tears to my eyes whenever I think of it
Your answer to the qu about babies is on point. I got married about 18 months ago and had a traumatic miscarriage last year, the idea of someone being like "When r u gonna have babiezz 😍😍" makes me want to throw up. My brother and his wife are also going through fertility treatment after trying for 2 years. Let's just say I'm grateful to not have a mom who isn't like "when am I getting grandbabies!!"
Girl...GIRL!! Amen on the whole “asking women when they will have babies”!! So. Much. Yes. 👏🏼 Thank you for being you, your content, & brutal honesty. 🖤🖤🖤
"Because, I'm you know, old" !!! I love it! It took me 40 years to get out of the grasp of my broken family to get to this point in life! It's so awesome lol 🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤
You have the most open, compassionate spirit in these videos, even when you’re telling people something they say is disrespectful or unnecessary. Your daughters are so lucky to have a mama like you 💕
“But sometimes I make cupcakes”. 💜 Girl I get this! I tend to also bake when I have really bad depression days. Something about is so soothing. Especially frosting and decorating them, thats the best part!
Thank you for publicly bringing up depression. So many people still don’t understand how serious depression is and that sometimes the cure as bad as the problem. Thanks for the honesty!
I realized that eating disorders have a lot in common with substance addictions. (I mean it’s an addiction) the hinding, the double life, the “getting addicted to toe whole process” and so much more
I subscribed when you had 5k subs and I’m just so happy you’re still the same, never changed and still giving great content. Not to mention, you’re sober, happy and thriving!! Love you girl
I appreciate the fact that you were so honest about the fact that there are NO prison programs that helped you (or basically anyone) to succeed once released. People who have never been in jail or prison generally do NOT understand just how difficult it is. Housing/housing assistance and job placement programs would go such a long way towards helping people succeed. Our society makes it SOO difficult for felons to find stable housing and employment.
This is awesome. Cos need to do what they have to in order to stay safe BUT they also need to know the prisoners are people too that also want to be safe
Good for her and for you, for pushing her in a positive direction. We need more empathetic people in these roles. It's a tough job not everyone can do and it should only attract the right ones-the ones interested in helping people at a vulnerable stage in their lives-like your daughter. Best to you & her~ 🌠
People always look at me crazy when I say my life is boring and I LOVE it. Knowing what I'll be doing (more or less) tomorrow and the next day and the next is a really awesome feeling. Knowing by 8PM I'll be home, will have made and had dinner with my kiddo and will be winding down for the night is one of the best feelings, coming from a life a lot like your old life its such a welcome relief.
Gosh your content gives me life Jess. Seriously though, I haven't gone a day without your videos. I never lose interest with anything you have to say and your personality and passion makes it so easy to do so! Another great video 🥰
Jess, why do people deal with clearly negative places like Tic Tok and Twitter? I hear all the time about how toxic these places can be so why go there? With all I know about addiction it worries me that you take the risk. You have been through a lot and done a lot for your subscribers. You and Reece have built a good life together you are entitled to have happiness and peace in your life. Stay safe.
Not saying tiktok isn't often extremely toxic, but I haven't really seen much toxicity at all because I make a conscious choice to watch positive content and only follow people who aren't spreading toxicity. The algorithm there is really good at pretty much only showing you more content that you actually like and want to see. There's a TON of really good and positive mental health/addiction content. A lot of the people I follow have helped me get through a lot of my really bad mental health days.
@@erican3244 I am glad you found the help you needed but I have seen too much of what toxicity can do. I would not say everything about Tik Tok is bad. I wouldn’t say that about Twitter or Instagram either. I will say be very careful when in toxic places. Take care and be safe.
@@melissawachtler857 HaHa I love both of them!! I connect more so with Jess as far as our stories are mirrored!!! But when Christina does her crime storys I'm hooked!! LoL
Yeah! Mine sleeps with me when I go to bed and stays curled up in my bed when I leave until I get home. They're super independent and do their own things. They can also be babies who love to cuddle with you. You know you like Jen's cats!
Stumbled across your YP on the shorts section. I find you enlightening and intelligent. As a former Deputy with the ACSO in Northern CA, I can agree with most what you say. For myself, I went to work everyday with the realization that I was only there to make sure you didn't escape. I didn't take it personally. I didn't abuse my authority. I treated everyone with the same respect that they showed me. What is happening the the Dublin Federal Pen right now is not acceptable and anyone involved or who didn't say something needs to be fired and prosecuted. Anyone who get's their jollies off abusing others has no business in this or any other profession. I hope that this YT page allows you to move forward with your life. Raise your kids. Find a profession that fits you. The best of luck.
It’s always nice when someone else is fascinated by abnormal psychology and serial killers😂😂 ... just one more reason to love you !! Thanks so much for all you do 🙌🏼🙌🏼
Nothing inspires me more in this world than the fact that u had micah in prison & everyone said you wouldn’t get her back & not only did u get her back u built a life that people that have no felonies/addiction don’t even build. You motivate & inspire me daily.
Abnormal psych is incredibly interesting. Can’t tell you how many documentaries and videos I’ve seen on abnormal psych or serial killers. Passed my psych class this year just to take an abnormal psych class next year. SO excited for it!
I don't think I need to be the one to tell you this but you are making so much of an impact by talking about this, I love that you respect law enforcement while also recognizing the very serious need for change.
Your answer about the politics/religion Was perfectly said! I am the same way. I believe in what I want weather it’s a mixture of things or a certain thing. Either way I am on my side. If that make since lol
ive known addicts my whole life and its so painful and frustrating being their family/friend and over the past couple years watching your videos it really helped me remember that they're people too. we need more people in this word doing exactly what you're doing & I hope you never stop!!!!
I related to you so much in this video. Every time you said "I hope that made sense" I'm like "YES, DUDE, YES." Also I love the way you see mental heath and addiction. I have the exact same ideals about each disease and it took me two years to stop allowing others to control what sobriety looks like for me and in general. I was a "dry drunk" or "white knuckled it" for two years until a year ago I found that Medical marijuana is sober and it may not be for everyone but it is much better for me personally than anti depressants and anti anxiety medication. All depends! NA kinda screwed my head up for awhile in a lot of ways. So grateful to have someone I can relate to so much on this platform and thanks for all you do for this community. 👌🦋💕
You're a boss! Me and my husband got clean together almost 6 years ago. We went from banging and selling dope to leading praise and worship in church 🙌
I just started watching your videos this morning...10 hours later still here 😆 your so honest and easy to listen to....sending love and hugs to you from Dublin ireland 💞
I just want to say a huge thank you. I found your channel just under 6 months ago when I was first trying to get sober from H and M. Your channel has been one of the most useful tools I've had in being able to put that life behind me. So thank you so so much.
Congratulations on getting sober! You can do it no matter what..no matter how bad days may get, there's always tmrw. Always remember, if you made it through yesterday, you can make it through today, tmrw, & every day after that. It absolutely DOES get easier. Best of luck & love to you💗
It acc makes my heart hurt when people say cats hate people, I have 3 and they are thee most loving cuddly little loaves 1 of them is surgically attached to me 99% of the time they have so much love to give Give cats a chance pls
I absolutely love how every Q&A I learn something new about ya! Always appreciate your ongoing transparency. I know you said you were nervous for your Tedtalk, but I’m so ready to watch! I look down these comments (already, early) and so many people, including me, say how much you and your story has helped transform our lives for the better in some fashion. Your growth, strength, and persistence is truly admirable. Much love girl, stay safe 💕
THANK YOU FOR TALKING ABOUT PEOPLE STAYING OUT OF YOUR INTIMATE BUSINESS!! I have ALWAYS wanted children but I can have them. I’ve been with my husband for 14 years and we have decided to not have children because of personal and physical things. I HATE when I’m asked when we are going to have children. You don’t know my story, but you judge me for decisions that have been excruciating to make. Thank you for mentioning that! I hope your future plans work and you are able to figure out your secondary fertility if you want to try for more! 😘😘 I love your channel!
I always feel so proud of you when I watch your videos. You've grown so much as a person and fought so hard to have a good life, be a good mother, stay sober etc and it's truly inspiring 💜
I feel you on the wedding planning! I started planning a huge extravagant wedding. 4 years later we eloped at a cabin in the woods. I 'planned' (bought a dress, scheduled hair, makeup, and photographer) in a month and it was absolutely perfect.
Amen on not missing the life. I often think how grateful I am that I don't have to deal with that shit anymore. It's so nice to only spend time with nice people instead of crazy junkies or paranoid dealers all of the time. Not to mention not worrying about getting arrested or robbed everyday of my life.
I love how you won't give "Steve" his name back! I don't know how you keep track of the names you sub in lol. I can't wait for Hollywood! We have been waiting for years!
I LOVE that u said "dont ask if gurls wanna have kids" etc cos theres SO MANY women strugglibg with those infertility problems-theres diseases such as being born without uterus...anatomic, genetic, hormonal etc can be a reason for infertility. Thanks
I just started watching your videos a few days ago and became obsessed and love how inspiring you are. I had some jail time myself. 10 hours but still. It wasn’t fun. I’m glad I pulled through and my best life isn’t over yet. Also, when you mentioned slipkot that was bonus points right there. You’re killing it girl. Keep it up
I think all of us have an addiction of some sort. I over came one of mine and that was chewing tobacco and dip. I dipped for 5 years and I quit in November of last year. I haven't had one in 4 months and I feel so good and I've gained 10 pounds 😊
You are so amazing! My mom went to jail a couple of times and she is still struggling. Its amazing how far you have gotten, you remind me of my dad who also went to jail a couple of times. I am glad your sharing your story, and your not shy to answer any questions that anyone has. I hope your life keeps going into a positive direction.
I am a blind person, and what you referred to as a Walkingstick is not. A walking stick is what a mountain climber uses. What a blind person uses is called a long white cane. Just so you know :-)
💚💚💚💚💚💚💚 get yr medicine girl i discovered this channel last year during lockdown and i always come back ! love yr vids and the perspective of "everyday can't be a party" helps me keep my addictive tendencies at bay (no addiction yet but i know what's in my brain lol)
Just so you're aware, "handicap" is seen as insulting. It comes from the phrase "hand in cap", alluding to how disabled people are often homeless. I believe just simply "disabled" is accepted.
That's not the correct etymology. Handicap originally simply meant "disadvantage" and was a sport/game term. Hand-in-cap was an old gambling game where basically two objects were compared and if one of them was less valuable than the other, the player had to pay the difference. So from that it meant, again, a disadvantage or a gap in the abilities of players in a game or a sport competition, and then it began to be used for people with physical or mental disabilities.
TikTok really is a toxic place to be if you're vulnerable, which I am. I quited loading up clips there...not worth the negative backlash! Love your channel very much! Greetings from Germany 🤗❤️
Love you beyond words! Thank you for the continued honesty and transparency. You are just truly so amazing and have helped me in more ways than I can explain 🖤
my depression is so bad that I need to scare my self to death to relive it. I had to jump from a plane something I would never even dare to do just to shut my mind up I hated every bit of it but it did the trick and its nice knowing that when things get really bad I always have sky diving to shut my mind up even though I hate it. I'm beyond therapy or medication all I can do is manage this shit.
Yesssss! Thank you for saying that recovery is different for everyone. I've been sober for a little over 6 years and I never did all 12 steps either. After 4 months in NA I found recovery in other ways.
Great answers on more children and politics/religion. Very healthy attitude, especially in a country with only two choices. I think Americans are too obsessed with ideology and religion. Good luck in your studies, human mind is fascinating!
I love how you put a positive spin on depressive episodes for your kids not to suffer from it vicariously. You are so inspiring! Could you explain how you managed to get employers to trust you again after your stint in prison? And how will you deal with telling the hard truths to your kids when they hit the teen years?
I can't wait for you book for two reason. First, I can't wait to read it. Second, I can't wait for even more poeple to discover you as an educational resource. To me, politics is simply the way we pursue and resolve national issues, and a lot of the things I've learned from your channel must be advanced through politics. I'm so glad I found your channel, to make me a more informed voter determined to ensure my political participation helps Americans dealing with these issues. YOU ARE A VALUABLE EDUCATIONAL RESOURCE.
Everything you say is fascinating. Years ago I was the CEO of a mental health company and we certainly could have used so many very intelligent young ladies such as you. You're nothing short of brilliant, I always enjoy your videos you have found your niche in life. You're helping so many others in making the right choices boarding the wrong ones. You have so much talent I hope you will continue to do what you are doing for many years to come. You are truly an amazing young lady.
I’m a Virgo like you, mid September, same week, everything, I’m very into these type of channels, I’m a historian and these kind of situations develop into humanity as our raw baser instincts, what you see on female and male jail it’s what we already went through developing as a human race, and possibly what we will live again as a “One world order” future, believe it or not, and it’s so interesting more so that you guys open these channels, not for money or complain, but to show people what you saw, felt and lived, still with no emotions and words to describe it, just REALITY, for example, Joe from AfterPrisonShow, he’s a Scorpio and I was a loyal subscriber, he loved me on his comment section for some reason, for almost a year, but it went downhill last month when I changed my profile pic and name, he felt like i betrayed him or something cause I’m not wearing makeup in this new pic, I wanted to be more real and less fake, he wanted nothing to do with me no more, lol, almost like a virtual cyber relationship we developed and just on a screen !!! He learned to be on an alternative type of relationship (in all senses), on jail, anyways, he blocked me and everything, like we were on a relationship Lol, i don’t know, I know I’m not a female and even if I ever happen to be locked down, it will be with males, just wanted to share this POV, and maybe it inspires you to talk about more stuff, it amazes me how females find it easy to talk about prison same sex relationships but why males (even if they slightly admit it), still won’t fully talk about it, only the smallest UA-cam prison channels does talk about it but they’re a few....... idk, I find all these behaviors very interesting and btw, I love your channel, I just never comment cause I feel, this is the point where even If I’m trans, we can’t really have anything in common to share, doesn’t it ?? 🤔🤔 or do we ?? Not ? I’m just tripping at this point lol
Really good Q&A, been here since less than 1K just never really comment. It's amazing how you've grown so much and I like the quick answers and questions, kept me watching. Love you x
I know some of you guys don't like this background and thats ok! I get it. I have 4 backgrounds lol I like to switch it up sometimes 🙂 💚
Well some of us do so neener neener 😂✌️❣️
I love it!
I love it!
@Jessica Kent this is actually my favorite backdrop
I love it!
“My kids father is Reece”. I clapped when you said that! A father is the one that raises you, not the one that is the man who helped create you. ❤️
Amen😇
Right? With the FACE?? She had a few good ones. AND HE CAN SUCK IT. With the FACE! 💜
No.... your father is responsible for making you. A decent human raises you properly. While they aren't the same, this is just a dumb comment
@@patmahan8908 As of this moment, 336 people disagree with you. The word you’re looking for is “donor”, not father.
Father/dad is earned, not given.
@@DarkbutNotsinister legally, you're mistaken, eg, that's not how a paternity case would go, (also upvotes on a comment I am replying to doesn't equate to down votes on my comment) But its not that big of a deal.
I'm a german medical student and you really taught me to be a lot more empathetic with addicts. I had a lot of stigma and still find it hard to deal with these patients, but I try really hard to not let them feel less of a human and educate my coworkers as well. Thank you so much!
At least you're honest with your struggling in the past dealing with addicts; I can sympathise as stigma influenced my outlook until I volunteered a few hours a week in a homeless shelter while at University and I viewed situations from a different angle.
Thank you for educating yourself more about addiction, helping erase the stigma surrounding it buy educating your co workers and treating your patients who suffer from this disease in a kind way even when they're being not so kind themselves.
I also work in the medical field. Jess, Christina and Jen have opened up my eyes for sure! ❤❤❤
This is awesome!!Educating ppl to understand/empathize with addiction better is so important & Jess is amazing at that! I'm very thankful for her lol.Thank u for working hard, being more empathetic & an extra big thank u for trying to educate ur co-workers!!!!
this mentality will save lives in the medical field. truly.
It makes me so upset when you have to address your infertility issues like every couple months. People are very invasive
WTF? 🙄And thanks, I fit into one of those other categories & don’t have kids.
Seriously! Why are men NEVER asked if they are going to have kids or more kids?! It is complete bullshit! I feel much more comfortable having reached 40 and people have FINALLY stopped asking me if I'm going to have kids or not. I nannied a family for so many years since I was 12 through adulthood! I feel like I've already raised 4 kids! I'm still close to them. One is flying F-35s as an Officer in the USAF, another is in research (in the marijuana industry) with an Ag degree. One is a sophomore in college, the other is in law school. I think I did pretty well!
Frankly I still don't know if I want my own kids, though I lean more toward not. I may also not have a choice with endometriosis and other major health issues. Who cares though?! A woman's reproduction and uterus is not the business of anyone else!!!
I remember when I had my youngest of two, I had decided to have a tubal ligation and have no more children at 23. Dr’s kept asking if I was sure, family even asked, “what if something happens to one of the kids and you want another baby.” That’s the dumbest comment I had about my fertility/family planning. Also, I have never regretted my decision to only have two children. Also, having two boys, I got the comment, “ oh, but don’t you want to try for a girl?” 😬
Urgh word, im infertile as well. People seem to interrogate you about it if you're female
but to be fair, women that usualy want other kid are talking about it all the time, when not asked. I dont care at all about other peoples lives, but if I would be "forced" into chitchat with woman that has kids(especially tiny ones under 5yo) question about if she wants/thinks about more kids, that comes to mind. And I am sure that is, because of those women that are forcing kid talking into every sentence.
I haven’t seen your videos in a hot minute because things are finally looking up! I have been sober for a little over a year now, was able to get an apartment and end our homelessness/shelter stay. You really helped me get through some of the toughest times of my life and now we are on the up and up and owe a lot of it to you and this channel. I thank you, my husband thanks you, my children thank you from the bottom of all of our hearts.
Keep going!! You’re doing amazing things!
Congratulations! On getting & staying sober, & getting a place! Those are both HUGE accomplishments. Idk you but I'm proud of you!💖 Good luck to you & your family. I wish y'all the very best!
Amazing accomplishments! So happy for you and your family, wishing you the best for you future!
Wow, great job!!
Yes! 👊🏼👊🏼 congratulations!
PREACH ABOUT NOT ASKING WOMAN ABOUT HAVING BABIES!!!!!!!!!! 💕. So many woman struggle and would LOVE to be a mama but just can’t And they’re reminded of that every-time they’re asked
I always say the “it’s two dollas, it’s only ever gonna be two dollass” part 😂
Same haha 😂 always
Same baha i love that she says that 😂💗
Me too hahah
It just started happening one day. 🤷🏻♀️
Your icon picture is amazing
Would love a video of top 5 kindest moments you have seen in prison/jail.
Your response about not asking women about their uterus was spot on! As an unmarried woman I get asked all the time, don’t you want a baby? It’s no one’s darn business.
I deal with this daily other women shoving motherhood down my throat and just not understanding 1. I just feel like I would not be a good parent like financially & 2. I have cyclic vomiting syndrome & fibromyalgia plus mental healing & I’m on medication & don’t want to do that to a child. But imagine asking me about kids & I go into that response, it’s too personal I wish ppl will understand.
we shouldn't ask you anything at all then
Oh my goodness. I am a alcoholic and I am SO happy to hear AA wasn't the path for another addict. I have a lot of religious trauma syndrome and while AA is not affiliated with any religion, the 12 steps trigger my religious trauma. I made my own way and rely on the legacy of my family. My family is loaded with addicts and what keeps me sober is knowing that I am one of the addicts who "got away".
They pretend to not be affiliated yet they push religion way too much.
Agreed 100%. I’ve tried 12 steps multiple times and so many people give me the “talk to the fucking doorknob as higher power it doesn’t matter” but I really cannot get past the verbiage and some of the ritual aspect of it. Super triggering for religious ptsd.
@@esthekatie All due respect to those who thrive on AA.
My higher power is my own fucking logic. I drink, I do bad shit. I drink, I can't stop. I don't drink, I don't do bad shit. If I crave alcohol, I day dream about drinking and go on an imaginary trip down Drunk Lane, I usually end up in imaginary Rock Bottom. By the time I am done day dreaming, I don't want to drink anymore because again: Logic. (and having rules and boundaries set in place. I don't go to bars because: Logic and My roommate and I have made an alcohol free zone and (logically speaking) if I bring alcohol into the house, we have consented to the rule: I get kicked out).
I agree religious trauma ruins everything
@@treefrog1018
That's great and I'm glad you have a really reasonable roommate.
"My kid's father is Reece."
I was cheering, and then I ended up having to rewind a bit to hear the rest, because I missed it.
My dad and I have a saying, "Anyone can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a dad." or something like that. I'm so glad that Reese stepped up to the plate, just like my dad did for me. 😍❤️
"You didn't come this far to *only* come this far" this is the greatest thing I've ever heard
My favorite
"When did you realize Reece was the one"
Jessica: "Last Thursday"
Oh I giggled! And that wink was adorable.
i did too 🤣
She’s a very interesting and adorable person on every level !
I’ve met two deaf inmates. The guys looked out for them and learned how to communicate with one another. It was awesome seeing them come together and brings tears to my eyes whenever I think of it
And separately, YES, LET'S NORMALIZE NOT ASKING WOMEN ABOUT THEIR PERSONAL REPRODUCTIVE CHOICES. GO YOU FOR SAYING IT.
PREACH! PERFECTLY SAID!
When she said that I was like Jess I be lovin you woman!
Your answer to the qu about babies is on point. I got married about 18 months ago and had a traumatic miscarriage last year, the idea of someone being like "When r u gonna have babiezz 😍😍" makes me want to throw up. My brother and his wife are also going through fertility treatment after trying for 2 years. Let's just say I'm grateful to not have a mom who isn't like "when am I getting grandbabies!!"
Girl...GIRL!! Amen on the whole “asking women when they will have babies”!! So. Much. Yes. 👏🏼 Thank you for being you, your content, & brutal honesty. 🖤🖤🖤
“My kids father is Reece” I love that you made that clear. HES A DAMN GOOD FATHER ❤️
"Because, I'm you know, old" !!! I love it! It took me 40 years to get out of the grasp of my broken family to get to this point in life! It's so awesome lol
🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤
You have the most open, compassionate spirit in these videos, even when you’re telling people something they say is disrespectful or unnecessary. Your daughters are so lucky to have a mama like you 💕
I hate how 12 step is forced upon so many. Not everyone has a "higher power" belief.
Love what your doing ♥️♥️♥️
I agree so much!
12 step program “higher power” doesn’t really mean spiritual.
@@jontaylor6068 what does it mean then?
@@jmanpolo5611 for me personally, it’s something greater then my self. It could be family, friends, a judge, a cop. It depends on the person.
@@jontaylor6068 i see
QueenJess is smashing life. And we are here for her success! Much love❤💙💯
Yassss🤗🖤😍😉
Absolutely!!!
i love your videos and podcast and everything. you have inspired me to get clean. i am 60 days sober today, i love you so much jess.
Good for you! Keep it up just for today! You can do THIS!
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“But sometimes I make cupcakes”. 💜
Girl I get this! I tend to also bake when I have really bad depression days. Something about is so soothing. Especially frosting and decorating them, thats the best part!
Thank you for publicly bringing up depression. So many people still don’t understand how serious depression is and that sometimes the cure as bad as the problem. Thanks for the honesty!
I see everyone hating this background but I love it!! Especially for stuff like this when there’s a bunch of different topics! Love you girl!
I realized that eating disorders have a lot in common with substance addictions. (I mean it’s an addiction) the hinding, the double life, the “getting addicted to toe whole process” and so much more
I subscribed when you had 5k subs and I’m just so happy you’re still the same, never changed and still giving great content. Not to mention, you’re sober, happy and thriving!! Love you girl
I appreciate the fact that you were so honest about the fact that there are NO prison programs that helped you (or basically anyone) to succeed once released. People who have never been in jail or prison generally do NOT understand just how difficult it is.
Housing/housing assistance and job placement programs would go such a long way towards helping people succeed. Our society makes it SOO difficult for felons to find stable housing and employment.
“I love my boring ass life” 🔥👏🏻 YES QUEEN! Love this so much 💛
My 16 yr old has expressed interest in being a corrections officer and I encourage her to watch your videos
This is awesome. Cos need to do what they have to in order to stay safe BUT they also need to know the prisoners are people too that also want to be safe
Good for her and for you, for pushing her in a positive direction.
We need more empathetic people in these roles. It's a tough job not everyone can do and it should only attract the right ones-the ones interested in helping people at a vulnerable stage in their lives-like your daughter.
Best to you & her~ 🌠
People always look at me crazy when I say my life is boring and I LOVE it. Knowing what I'll be doing (more or less) tomorrow and the next day and the next is a really awesome feeling. Knowing by 8PM I'll be home, will have made and had dinner with my kiddo and will be winding down for the night is one of the best feelings, coming from a life a lot like your old life its such a welcome relief.
YOU'RE SO INSPIRING IN GENERAL !!!! truly thankyou ...dont even need to comment after watching the video to know its good
Gosh your content gives me life Jess. Seriously though, I haven't gone a day without your videos. I never lose interest with anything you have to say and your personality and passion makes it so easy to do so! Another great video 🥰
Jess, why do people deal with clearly negative places like Tic Tok and Twitter? I hear all the time about how toxic these places can be so why go there? With all I know about addiction it worries me that you take the risk. You have been through a lot and done a lot for your subscribers. You and Reece have built a good life together you are entitled to have happiness and peace in your life. Stay safe.
I agree it’s SOOOO toxic ESPECIALLY tik tok romanticizes addiction
Not saying tiktok isn't often extremely toxic, but I haven't really seen much toxicity at all because I make a conscious choice to watch positive content and only follow people who aren't spreading toxicity. The algorithm there is really good at pretty much only showing you more content that you actually like and want to see. There's a TON of really good and positive mental health/addiction content. A lot of the people I follow have helped me get through a lot of my really bad mental health days.
@@erican3244 I am glad you found the help you needed but I have seen too much of what toxicity can do. I would not say everything about Tik Tok is bad. I wouldn’t say that about Twitter or Instagram either. I will say be very careful when in toxic places. Take care and be safe.
I started watching you from Christina Randall chanel....and now I'm addicted to your chanel!!!
And I watched jess first and she led me to Christinas channel
@@melissawachtler857 HaHa I love both of them!! I connect more so with Jess as far as our stories are mirrored!!! But when Christina does her crime storys I'm hooked!! LoL
Jess: “Cats don’t like humans”
My cat: Curled up in my lap purring while I watch this 😂
Same haha my 3 cats are obsessed with me 😂one of my cats was licking my face when she said that😂
Jessica, no offense but you don't understand cats. :)
Yeah! Mine sleeps with me when I go to bed and stays curled up in my bed when I leave until I get home. They're super independent and do their own things. They can also be babies who love to cuddle with you. You know you like Jen's cats!
Cats are the most by unloyal pets you can have I prefer dogs atleast they show you unconditional love
Cats are the most loving animals...they are misunderstood!
Stumbled across your YP on the shorts section. I find you enlightening and intelligent. As a former Deputy with the ACSO in Northern CA, I can agree with most what you say. For myself, I went to work everyday with the realization that I was only there to make sure you didn't escape. I didn't take it personally. I didn't abuse my authority. I treated everyone with the same respect that they showed me. What is happening the the Dublin Federal Pen right now is not acceptable and anyone involved or who didn't say something needs to be fired and prosecuted. Anyone who get's their jollies off abusing others has no business in this or any other profession. I hope that this YT page allows you to move forward with your life. Raise your kids. Find a profession that fits you. The best of luck.
It’s always nice when someone else is fascinated by abnormal psychology and serial killers😂😂 ... just one more reason to love you !! Thanks so much for all you do 🙌🏼🙌🏼
Nothing inspires me more in this world than the fact that u had micah in prison & everyone said you wouldn’t get her back & not only did u get her back u built a life that people that have no felonies/addiction don’t even build. You motivate & inspire me daily.
Abnormal psych is incredibly interesting. Can’t tell you how many documentaries and videos I’ve seen on abnormal psych or serial killers. Passed my psych class this year just to take an abnormal psych class next year. SO excited for it!
I don't think I need to be the one to tell you this but you are making so much of an impact by talking about this, I love that you respect law enforcement while also recognizing the very serious need for change.
Your answer about the politics/religion Was perfectly said! I am the same way. I believe in what I want weather it’s a mixture of things or a certain thing. Either way I am on my side. If that make since lol
I agree, I don't belong to either party!!!!
Same here
I love how brutally honest you are about EVERYTHING!
You and Reece and ro and adam should do a game like the newly wed game and we could submit questions winner buys the other dinner ❤❤❤
That should happen
@@kelandramackley7266 it would be so good ❤❤
Yesss!!!
This is an awesome idea!!
Add Jen and jarrod too! Three teams!
ive known addicts my whole life and its so painful and frustrating being their family/friend and over the past couple years watching your videos it really helped me remember that they're people too. we need more people in this word doing exactly what you're doing & I hope you never stop!!!!
“You don’t own anyone’s path” love that
no one is the gatekeeper to the path you were meant to travel on to get to where you want to be :)
I related to you so much in this video. Every time you said "I hope that made sense" I'm like "YES, DUDE, YES."
Also I love the way you see mental heath and addiction. I have the exact same ideals about each disease and it took me two years to stop allowing others to control what sobriety looks like for me and in general. I was a "dry drunk" or "white knuckled it" for two years until a year ago I found that Medical marijuana is sober and it may not be for everyone but it is much better for me personally than anti depressants and anti anxiety medication. All depends! NA kinda screwed my head up for awhile in a lot of ways.
So grateful to have someone I can relate to so much on this platform and thanks for all you do for this community. 👌🦋💕
You're a boss! Me and my husband got clean together almost 6 years ago. We went from banging and selling dope to leading praise and worship in church 🙌
I just started watching your videos this morning...10 hours later still here 😆 your so honest and easy to listen to....sending love and hugs to you from Dublin ireland 💞
Dude yes. No one talks about the physical symptoms of depression.
I just want to say a huge thank you. I found your channel just under 6 months ago when I was first trying to get sober from H and M. Your channel has been one of the most useful tools I've had in being able to put that life behind me. So thank you so so much.
Congratulations on getting sober! You can do it no matter what..no matter how bad days may get, there's always tmrw. Always remember, if you made it through yesterday, you can make it through today, tmrw, & every day after that. It absolutely DOES get easier. Best of luck & love to you💗
It acc makes my heart hurt when people say cats hate people, I have 3 and they are thee most loving cuddly little loaves 1 of them is surgically attached to me 99% of the time they have so much love to give
Give cats a chance pls
I absolutely love how every Q&A I learn something new about ya! Always appreciate your ongoing transparency. I know you said you were nervous for your Tedtalk, but I’m so ready to watch! I look down these comments (already, early) and so many people, including me, say how much you and your story has helped transform our lives for the better in some fashion. Your growth, strength, and persistence is truly admirable.
Much love girl, stay safe 💕
THANK YOU FOR TALKING ABOUT PEOPLE STAYING OUT OF YOUR INTIMATE BUSINESS!! I have ALWAYS wanted children but I can have them. I’ve been with my husband for 14 years and we have decided to not have children because of personal and physical things. I HATE when I’m asked when we are going to have children. You don’t know my story, but you judge me for decisions that have been excruciating to make. Thank you for mentioning that! I hope your future plans work and you are able to figure out your secondary fertility if you want to try for more! 😘😘 I love your channel!
Same ❤️ Stay blessed
@@ashleyann2441 you too, darlin!
I always feel so proud of you when I watch your videos. You've grown so much as a person and fought so hard to have a good life, be a good mother, stay sober etc and it's truly inspiring 💜
“I love my boring ass life; I love being in bed by 9pm.”
YESSSSSSSSSSS
I feel you on the wedding planning! I started planning a huge extravagant wedding. 4 years later we eloped at a cabin in the woods. I 'planned' (bought a dress, scheduled hair, makeup, and photographer) in a month and it was absolutely perfect.
I love how defensive you are when it comes to your family 💕
Amen on not missing the life. I often think how grateful I am that I don't have to deal with that shit anymore. It's so nice to only spend time with nice people instead of crazy junkies or paranoid dealers all of the time. Not to mention not worrying about getting arrested or robbed everyday of my life.
I love how you won't give "Steve" his name back! I don't know how you keep track of the names you sub in lol. I can't wait for Hollywood! We have been waiting for years!
Jessica: cats don't like humans
My cat right now: * begging for human affection *
I LOVE that u said "dont ask if gurls wanna have kids" etc cos theres SO MANY women strugglibg with those infertility problems-theres diseases such as being born without uterus...anatomic, genetic, hormonal etc can be a reason for infertility. Thanks
That new intro was bomb 😍! Love it! Love you! You do you boo ❤️
This background is good for answering questions for people to listen
I just started watching your videos a few days ago and became obsessed and love how inspiring you are. I had some jail time myself. 10 hours but still. It wasn’t fun. I’m glad I pulled through and my best life isn’t over yet. Also, when you mentioned slipkot that was bonus points right there. You’re killing it girl. Keep it up
I think all of us have an addiction of some sort. I over came one of mine and that was chewing tobacco and dip. I dipped for 5 years and I quit in November of last year. I haven't had one in 4 months and I feel so good and I've gained 10 pounds 😊
I love how you answer questions so honestly, you are an inspiration. ❤️
"Please stop talking about woman's uterus'" Thank you 👏👏👏👏👏 No one's business.
My uterus my business periodt
Right? I don’t know how many times Jess has said this, I know that not everyone watches every video, but still.
@@Lisasanti1 exactly!
You are so amazing! My mom went to jail a couple of times and she is still struggling. Its amazing how far you have gotten, you remind me of my dad who also went to jail a couple of times. I am glad your sharing your story, and your not shy to answer any questions that anyone has. I hope your life keeps going into a positive direction.
I miss the old opening. I’m from Chicago and I live in New Mexico now. Scenes of Chicago bring back good memories.
I love how transparent you are!! Love the background! Keep doing what you’re doing!
"The girls' father is Reese." :'( no hesitation. Beautiful
You are an inspiration. I can feel comfortable working my program as watching your care and strength. Smart. Bless you❤
I am a blind person, and what you referred to as a Walkingstick is not. A walking stick is what a mountain climber uses. What a blind person uses is called a long white cane. Just so you know :-)
Good to know thank you!
💚💚💚💚💚💚💚 get yr medicine girl i discovered this channel last year during lockdown and i always come back ! love yr vids and the perspective of "everyday can't be a party" helps me keep my addictive tendencies at bay (no addiction yet but i know what's in my brain lol)
Just so you're aware, "handicap" is seen as insulting. It comes from the phrase "hand in cap", alluding to how disabled people are often homeless. I believe just simply "disabled" is accepted.
@therealz 360z Nice to hear from someone with personal experience. Thank you for sharing.
Wow, I honestly did not know that! Thank you for educating us seriously I had no idea, I’m disabled but never knew handicap was offensive 🥺
That's not the correct etymology.
Handicap originally simply meant "disadvantage" and was a sport/game term. Hand-in-cap was an old gambling game where basically two objects were compared and if one of them was less valuable than the other, the player had to pay the difference. So from that it meant, again, a disadvantage or a gap in the abilities of players in a game or a sport competition, and then it began to be used for people with physical or mental disabilities.
TikTok really is a toxic place to be if you're vulnerable, which I am. I quited loading up clips there...not worth the negative backlash! Love your channel very much! Greetings from Germany 🤗❤️
I love the way us addicts love a boring life. Just always makes me smile
Love you beyond words! Thank you for the continued honesty and transparency. You are just truly so amazing and have helped me in more ways than I can explain 🖤
“Money that the government can’t take” whew until those taxes come slapping 😩😩 self employed people get so screwed with taxes ☹️
you're an inspiration🌸 you and i have totally different lives, but both have suffered and just seeing you like this makes me want to get better:)
my depression is so bad that I need to scare my self to death to relive it. I had to jump from a plane something I would never even dare to do just to shut my mind up I hated every bit of it but it did the trick and its nice knowing that when things get really bad I always have sky diving to shut my mind up even though I hate it. I'm beyond therapy or medication all I can do is manage this shit.
Yesssss! Thank you for saying that recovery is different for everyone. I've been sober for a little over 6 years and I never did all 12 steps either. After 4 months in NA I found recovery in other ways.
WoOoOoW! Ya’ll can’t cancel me!
Love me some Tom MacDonald!!! 😜🤘🏼♥️ Also love you Jess, thank you for all you do!
“People move you know” 😂🤣 you’re a trip and you’re doing amazing 🤩 sky is the limit.
"i am a delight and he is wrong" such a virgo lol 😂 😂 😂 😂
I literally love your new intro. Also so excited for this video
Great answers on more children and politics/religion. Very healthy attitude, especially in a country with only two choices. I think Americans are too obsessed with ideology and religion.
Good luck in your studies, human mind is fascinating!
Your strength is so admirable. Love ya Jess
Thank you so much for your answer the “do you want more kids?” !!! We do need to normalize not asking this of women
I love how you put a positive spin on depressive episodes for your kids not to suffer from it vicariously. You are so inspiring! Could you explain how you managed to get employers to trust you again after your stint in prison? And how will you deal with telling the hard truths to your kids when they hit the teen years?
Cancelled by Tom Macdonald!!!! I didn’t know you liked him!!! I’m obsessed
I can't wait for you book for two reason. First, I can't wait to read it. Second, I can't wait for even more poeple to discover you as an educational resource. To me, politics is simply the way we pursue and resolve national issues, and a lot of the things I've learned from your channel must be advanced through politics. I'm so glad I found your channel, to make me a more informed voter determined to ensure my political participation helps Americans dealing with these issues. YOU ARE A VALUABLE EDUCATIONAL RESOURCE.
yay! i love your q&a videos!!
Everything you say is fascinating. Years ago I was the CEO of a mental health company and we certainly could have used so many very intelligent young ladies such as you. You're nothing short of brilliant, I always enjoy your videos you have found your niche in life. You're helping so many others in making the right choices boarding the wrong ones. You have so much talent I hope you will continue to do what you are doing for many years to come. You are truly an amazing young lady.
I’m a Virgo like you, mid September, same week, everything, I’m very into these type of channels, I’m a historian and these kind of situations develop into humanity as our raw baser instincts, what you see on female and male jail it’s what we already went through developing as a human race, and possibly what we will live again as a “One world order” future, believe it or not, and it’s so interesting more so that you guys open these channels, not for money or complain, but to show people what you saw, felt and lived, still with no emotions and words to describe it, just REALITY, for example, Joe from AfterPrisonShow, he’s a Scorpio and I was a loyal subscriber, he loved me on his comment section for some reason, for almost a year, but it went downhill last month when I changed my profile pic and name, he felt like i betrayed him or something cause I’m not wearing makeup in this new pic, I wanted to be more real and less fake, he wanted nothing to do with me no more, lol, almost like a virtual cyber relationship we developed and just on a screen !!! He learned to be on an alternative type of relationship (in all senses), on jail, anyways, he blocked me and everything, like we were on a relationship Lol, i don’t know, I know I’m not a female and even if I ever happen to be locked down, it will be with males, just wanted to share this POV, and maybe it inspires you to talk about more stuff, it amazes me how females find it easy to talk about prison same sex relationships but why males (even if they slightly admit it), still won’t fully talk about it, only the smallest UA-cam prison channels does talk about it but they’re a few....... idk, I find all these behaviors very interesting and btw, I love your channel, I just never comment cause I feel, this is the point where even If I’m trans, we can’t really have anything in common to share, doesn’t it ?? 🤔🤔 or do we ?? Not ? I’m just tripping at this point lol
Beautiful thing to teach your daughters. Be kind, be loving. Loving parents raise loving children. God bless.
I’m impressed that you recognize the issue with both Democrats and Republicans and wish for something outside of that system xx
Really good Q&A, been here since less than 1K just never really comment. It's amazing how you've grown so much and I like the quick answers and questions, kept me watching. Love you x