My mother had trauma and so did my father. My father contracted polio at age 10, was in an iron lung and then in a wheelchair I believe I inherited this anxiety. My father was near death from an illness when I was 12 and I really didn't want to be alone without him and left with my mother. So I think that was an unrecognized trauma. I didn't feel upset at the time other than worrying how life would be when he died.
My family was solid "good enough" but I had trauma from the experience of being disabled and bullied extensively most of my childhood by extended family and school peers. In my 50s now I'm finally doing the hard work around processing how much baggage the trauma bought and how it affected my work life in particular.
I have anxiety and I don't remember not having anxiety. I know I have trauma from my childhood, but I didn't see what happened before I was 5yo as trauma before your video. My mother was separated from me when my younger sister was born when I was just 14 months old, back in the day when women were kept in hospital for a week after birth. During the day, I was kept by the older couple next door that I didn't really know. Also I had oral surgery in hospital in which I was kept overnight when I was about 3yo. Neither of these things were my fault or my mother's fault. Thank you for this insight
oh i had a permanent separation from my mother at about age 5 when she took her own life. Right afterwards, my dad had to go look for work in a neighboring state and i had to stay with some people from our church. i was bereft eaxh time we went there and he left. I dont feel like i got a lot of sympathy from anyone either. Then again a few months later had to spend days with another "church family" while my dad wirked and my siblings went to school. Trauma happened at that place in the form of spankings for something i didn’t do, and wasnt believed. gah. i want healing, not rehashing this crap.
both my parents recently died - mom just 4 months ago - i was their caregiver for years and now alone in the world for first time with no partner or children - my anxiety is off the charts and i had pre existing anxiety but nothing like now - permanent separation from parent - its scary
I am so sorry Mark. I hope you’ve felt better since commenting this, but just know that I feel for you, and you’re not alone in the world even if your mind makes it feel that way.
I was one that couldn’t see the trauma, but…oh, the stuff that coming to mind as I try to connect and calm my alarm. I don’t have any ill feelings toward my parents, but as the youngest of six kids, I think I fell through the cracks. Thank you for sharing your insight!
Dr. Kennedy…you sincerely deserve the Nobel prize for your all of your insight; thank you for stitching this thesis together and not only making vital sense, but healing with humor and grace. Bless you!
I love these videos - they're so helpful, I love the humour, and the subtitles would be great for the deaf - and the flashing light is VERY challenging. I've watched movies with subtitles, but if they had flashing lights I'd have turned them off. I just want to hear and appreciate what you're saying and ignore the subtitles. Please keep make them subtle so we can read them if we need to and ignore them if we don't. Much appreciated regardless, but I'm having to close my eyes, as flashing lights can also trigger migraines in some people. Many thanks for the wonderful videos!
My mother had trauma and so did my father. My father contracted polio at age 10, was in an iron lung and then in a wheelchair I believe I inherited this anxiety. My father was near death from an illness when I was 12 and I really didn't want to be alone without him and left with my mother. So I think that was an unrecognized trauma. I didn't feel upset at the time other than worrying how life would be when he died.
My family was solid "good enough" but I had trauma from the experience of being disabled and bullied extensively most of my childhood by extended family and school peers.
In my 50s now I'm finally doing the hard work around processing how much baggage the trauma bought and how it affected my work life in particular.
I have anxiety and I don't remember not having anxiety. I know I have trauma from my childhood, but I didn't see what happened before I was 5yo as trauma before your video. My mother was separated from me when my younger sister was born when I was just 14 months old, back in the day when women were kept in hospital for a week after birth. During the day, I was kept by the older couple next door that I didn't really know. Also I had oral surgery in hospital in which I was kept overnight when I was about 3yo. Neither of these things were my fault or my mother's fault. Thank you for this insight
oh i had a permanent separation from my mother at about age 5 when she took her own life. Right afterwards, my dad had to go look for work in a neighboring state and i had to stay with some people from our church. i was bereft eaxh time we went there and he left. I dont feel like i got a lot of sympathy from anyone either. Then again a few months later had to spend days with another "church family" while my dad wirked and my siblings went to school. Trauma happened at that place in the form of spankings for something i didn’t do, and wasnt believed. gah. i want healing, not rehashing this crap.
both my parents recently died - mom just 4 months ago - i was their caregiver for years and now alone in the world for first time with no partner or children - my anxiety is off the charts and i had pre existing anxiety but nothing like now - permanent separation from parent - its scary
I am so sorry Mark. I hope you’ve felt better since commenting this, but just know that I feel for you, and you’re not alone in the world even if your mind makes it feel that way.
I was one that couldn’t see the trauma, but…oh, the stuff that coming to mind as I try to connect and calm my alarm. I don’t have any ill feelings toward my parents, but as the youngest of six kids, I think I fell through the cracks. Thank you for sharing your insight!
Thank you!
Dr. Kennedy…you sincerely deserve the Nobel prize for your all of your insight; thank you for stitching this thesis together and not only making vital sense, but healing with humor and grace. Bless you!
Thank you!
I love these videos - they're so helpful, I love the humour, and the subtitles would be great for the deaf - and the flashing light is VERY challenging. I've watched movies with subtitles, but if they had flashing lights I'd have turned them off. I just want to hear and appreciate what you're saying and ignore the subtitles. Please keep make them subtle so we can read them if we need to and ignore them if we don't. Much appreciated regardless, but I'm having to close my eyes, as flashing lights can also trigger migraines in some people. Many thanks for the wonderful videos!
I don't remember not having anxiety but I definitely had trauma
When people don't think they have childhood trauma, do you have specific questions that you ask clients to help uncover it?
Btw, have a great time off Doc! ⛱️😊
good video
Thank you!