Every woman needs to understand that from a man’s perspective, he is the captain of his ship that is sailing the seas of life. He invites a woman to join him on his journey as his primary helper, to help him in the cabin (house), the crew (children) and general navigation. He invites her onboard so together they can have a better journey than being alone, so he can travel farther, and eventually leave a trail of other similar captains with their ships who can sail on without them. No man who wants a wife-for-life invites her onboard so he can dedicate his life to making her feel happy. He does not invite her onboard because he needs more drama - the normal storms of life are drama enough. No man in his right mind invites a woman onboard to abscond with half of the cargo of his ship, to lead a mutiny, or run off with his crew at the next port. This is the general idea of what is automatically in the mind of a man who seeks a life-time commitment to marriage. Sadly, most modern women think that they have their own ship to sail, and this leads to shipwrecks.
This is such a great & helpful picture and description. Thank you for sharing. Would you mind if I shared this and give you credit in a future video on this topic?
I wrote this to explain to my wife where our thinking was different. I assumed it was just a common background understanding. Boy was I wrong! This illustration or others like it need to be taught again and again. It is simply the working out of 1 Cor. 11:8-9 "Man does not originate from woman, but woman from man; 9 for indeed man was not created for the woman’s sake, but woman for the man’s sake."
Wow well said. And I praise Kelli for this content it is still relevant and God's way no matter what society says. I too was just reminded by the Holy Spirit that I was forgetting my husband as I am focusing on the newborn and toddler. I looked at my husband and for the first time in months I really saw him like HIM HIM and it broke my heart it was like he too was just going along accepting being neglected cuz of the babies. We immediately addressed it. Went into prayer, talked, then u know what and it was GREAT! We both feel so fresh now. I commit to never "forgetting" him again, it's all about him of course both submitted to God first.
@ThatsWhat-She. Marriage as "equal partners" is a delusion. Men and women are not equal, and this is why women practice hypergamy. A high-quality woman is one who joins a man on his journey, improves his life, and benefits from his hard work. (Granted, there are the exceptions who have personal reasons to be single, but they would be truly single, not promiscuous.) Modern civilization will collapse because it requires strong, masculine leadership. Islam’s strength is not its theology, Islam is strong because it practices patriarchy (often in gross excess). Christianity was originally a gentle patriarchy, and it nearly conquered the world (yes, it also had its flaws). When Christianity abandoned patriarchy in the early 1900s it very quickly lost its world dominance. Strong men make strong families and strong social and cultural norms. When the current rotted matriarchal social systems collapse, patriarchy will return. The only question is whether it will be a gentle patriarchy grounded in Christianity or the Islamic form that is currently ascending. Delusions are always ultimately crushed by reality.
I love that you’re happy living life in biblical roles. As a man with a daughter, I’d like to give some advice to other ladies considering doing the same. When choosing a husband, use more than just your emotion, also use discernment. If he doesn’t demonstrate that God and his Christian beliefs are foremost in his life before you are married, you need to be prepared to break it off - even if your heart doesn’t want to. He needs to demonstrate by his actions and not just words that he is dedicated to live up to his biblical role as a husband, protector and provider. So, women - choose wisely and be certain that Christ is the center of his life and, by default, Christ will be the center of your happy marriage and loving family.
The only advice my Dad gave me was "Don't marry someone because he is good looking". No guidance on what to look for, whatsoever. Funnily enough, I never asked him what I should look for either. I was too young at the time to even be thinking about marriage, so wasn't really interested. My niece is 10, goes to a Christian school and is religious, I shall pass on your advice to her when the time comes. Last time I saw her we had a chat about husbands. She already knows what she wants. She said her husband would smell of engine oil, (her Dad goes to vintage tractor shows) and have a beard, but with bald patches in it. I can't wait for her wedding day and will buy them a can of engine oil as a wedding gift :) I wonder if she will remember that conversation. Hilarious.
My father was a horrible and man and still is to his family. But it is what it is. He was very abusive and we lost our mother because of it. I knew from an early age that all men weren’t like him. I dated a few gentleman, never led to anything but I’m glad I had that experience.
I just found your channel. You are so sweet. I am 70 Years old and I quit my job when we got married and we did not have children for 5 years. I have been a homemaker and helpmeet for 50 years and 5 months and I still love it. My husband is 74 and is still practicing optometry. I have 15 grandchildren that I absolutely LOVE!! I love your vision and your passion. This is the first I have watched and will look forward to seeing the rest you have made. I still make meals from scratch, I make my cleaning products. I am now thinking about making my skincare and makeup!! Keep on keeping on! Praise the Lord!!!
My husbands purpose was defending our country in the military. So he depended on me to keep everything running smoothly at home when he had to be away. Since I was a homemaker from the start of our marriage, it all worked out perfectly.
This has been the most transcendent video i've seen to this day about homemaking. The most striking part is the description you give about being made for the husband & his vision. It reminds me so much of Christ & the Father. Thank you so much for sharing this.
I appreciate your video ! I got married 3 years ago. And right after strongly felt convicted to leave the job . It took my almost a year to submit to God. I was battling feelings of not being worthy because I didn’t make any money. That I will lose all control and won’t be respected by others etc. But When I quit I felt huge weight off of my chest. And peace. It took my a while to fully surrender and adapt the new position but now I see it as a privilege. My husband didn’t forced me , he gave me a choice . And God lead me to stay home. We don’t have kinds yet . The time I have allows me to serve people at my church, also volunteering in Christian Organization. We don’t have a lot of money. It is enough for us to live and be content . I am very grateful for this ! God is truly amazing ❤ I finally feel like a woman . I am fulfilled. By the grace of God I died to my own dreams and accomplishments. I had to fast and pray. I was compering myself with others who are working and having careers but finally found full peace ! This video is a confirmation to me that it was Gods desire for my life. So He is glorified as I prayed to be the woman He wants me to be for His Kingdom.
A proverbs 31 woman works!!! Read proverbs 31: 16,18 and 31: 24 Actually read all of proverbs 31.... slowly and carefully. She is supposed to help her husband as far as keeping the home and children, but also help the entire community and work. She is not made just to tend after her husband. 16- She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. 18-She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night. 24- She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes.
Thank you for posting this!! Raised by a single mom and not in a biblical household and learning how to be a biblical wife and mom in adulthood is hard, thank you for speaking on this! 💛
I am the homemaker while he works from home. I ensure that his breakfast is ready, his lunch is waiting on him come lunch time. And of course all the routines that go with running a home. He calls me the home CEO and allows me to make decisions during the day regarding our home. It is an honor to be home taking care of him & our home.
I used to work with an arrogant boss. He was always yelling at people and getting sick. I am a Christian, feminine woman. I always spoke in a soft tone with him and even brought him soup when he was sick! One day he started talking about his wife. He said she's always working, she is focused on "climbing the ladder" and she's always out with her girlfriends. I wish she would've come to the job to eat lunch with him. It was clear that he felt neglected and lonely. I left that job but people told me he was so pleasant when I worked there!
Do you not understand that him calling you a home CEO is like just a eufemism for being a slave? Can your husband not make his own lunch, is he a child? Quit babying an adult. It is unsexy and unproductive. One day you will look back at your life with regret because you have lost your identity living for someone else. I am SO sorry this is the reality for many women.
@@olena_duus Him calling me the home CEO is a joke between us! I am in no way a slave, for me as a Christian Wife it is an honor to do for him. We do for one another. I have no regrets!! I know exactly who I am in Christ and as a Wife!
@@olena_duus Oh my, do you not understand it was a joke! I'm the one that makes decisions about our home while he works. I have NO regrets doing anything for him, and I know exactly who I am in Christ! When you have the spouse/partner that the Lord has picked for you, all is well & we are Blessed!!!
@@starrjohnson1327it's inappropriate for your boss to be talking to you about his wife, especially negatively. Perhaps she's never around because he's so rude and demeaning?
Youre wise for quitting before. Because even now im still trying to learn what i shoukd have known before kids and i always feel rushed to get so much knowledge into me as quick as possible ha
Thank you for your video! My husband and i were raised in wordly, feminist homes, so that's the way that we have lived our marriage. After the last couple years of the Lord sanctifying us and changing our desires to follow His, we stepped out on faith, and i recently quit my job. By the world's standards, I was crazy to do it. But we're trusting His plan, and our marriage has never been better, even if we have to be super frugal. Although im learning this wisdom later in life, I pray I can pass it to my children, and that they'll remember the positive change in their parents and our family when we went from one lifestyle to the other. ❤
Thank you for speaking out about this . I recently started staying home and I absolutely love it. Our marriage has been so much more loving and less stressful and I actually don’t mind being by myself most of the time. I keep myself very busy at home and honestly I am learning so many new things and ways to optimize our household and make it run more efficiently. I recently found out I am pregnant and am so excited for the years to come. I thank the Lord every day for the way he designed me and the desires that he has given me to be a true help mate to my husband. I feel so much for feminine in this new season and like I am finally where I’m meant to be. PTL 🙏
I love your heart and agree with this partly. I agree we are to submit to our husband's and respect them, but I would like to bring up why we don't see this in marriage. I'm an older christian woman so hopefully that will give some credibility to what I write. I think where this can slip into the extreme is that God says to the woman that as part of the curse her desire will be for her husband and he would rule over her. This ruling over the woman behavior is in many marriages. If a husband has a healthy love for his wife and loves her as Christ loves the church then submission becomes easier and a joy, but when there isn't a sacrificial love given then a women can lose her identity and be abused. The Father has an identity for each of us male and female. As the Proverb 21 woman carried out her duties she made executive decisions and was well rounded in her responsibilities. She had a healthy knowing of who she was and gave from a place of being known and loved. I believe the issue is only solved when both husband and wife live a self sacrificial life.
For the wives who are in the season, knowing that they are called to come home but don’t have a husband who is in alignment, it took me years to come home. It began with the call on my heart and then combating my own flesh not wanting to do that. Then when I would give in a little bit I dealt with my husband not seeing the vision or feeling the call. This went on for some time. However, God will not give a vision to one and separate a husband/ wife. Pray. Once you’ve come to a place where you’re willing to come home and desiring to do so, begin to serve your husband well and pray that the lord would give him a heart of flesh and would begin to see signs and visions of his goodness in this call. God does miracles and he doesn’t work on our timing. His timing is beautiful.
I was so blessed to quit my job after 6 months of marriage, we are now a year and a half into our marriage & its been amazing. Now we are ready to start trying for babies ❤
How refreshing and true. Quit my job because of children and never went back to work in order to invest in them more. What a much greater vision you point to in your videos and very biblical. God bless you with children into a wonderful home you are making. I was thrown into full time homemaking after having our first son and it is soooo hard because I had never anyone teaching me this explicitly in the context of the great vision of helping my husband by building a home economy. I'm very motivated now, your content is gold, thanks Kelli :)
I appreciate your thoughts on the topic. Just some thoughts on my end - One of the first commands God gives humanity is to be fruitful and multiply, subdue the earth and fill it. Eve was a suitable helper for Adam because only a woman could help Adam in fulfilling this command. God could have spoken more people into existence, but instead He allows us as human beings, both men and women, to partake in this shared mission to create new life, with women having the special honour of carrying that new life into the world. Together, as humans, we are to love God, care for one another and cultivate the Earth. I don’t think Eve was created for Adam to cook and clean for him so that he can pursue "his mission". The mission of a husband and a wife is a shared one. When it comes to creating a household, I think husbands and wives are both equally responsible for that. How you divide up the roles/tasks will vary from couple to couple.
I've tried staying home without children and struggled with lonelines a lot. I was not involved with the church, so I didn't have a support system. I also didn't have the mindset of helping my husband specifically. It was more about me trying to homestead and work on our small side business. I went back to work after not working outside the home briefly. I don't feel as lonely since then and have started getting more involved with my church. I also am giving more of my life over to Christ and that has helped me heal in some areas that needed healing. But I know I neglect helping my husband and home because much of my time and energy go towards my job. In trying to find a solution and happy middle ground, I wonder if going part time would be beneficial. I could still get regular human interaction and at the same time have more time and energy to devote to my husband and household.
I used to work part-time in a shop - to pay the bills, but many of my older colleagues were there for the company. However, they disliked the job and the Management. I could never understand why they didn't just leave and go an do voluntary work or join an evening class if they wanted to meet people. Seemed a better way to me than putting up with a miserable boss. Even if you get a part-time job, your time isn't your own as you have to be there or else.
Your feelings are perfectly normal and especially if you live in a remote area. I think if you are homemaker, it's important to have friends through clubs, associations, charities, or just a solid group of friends with similar interests. I think a great job for a homemaker running for City Council. It's a great way to involve yourself and help make impactful decisions in your community and it's not a 9-5 job.
This is such a blessing to stumble across! I was also waiting for babies to be a stay at home wife but an injury made me have to quit my job. Now i feel like i lost my perpose and i am trying to regain my purpose in life without children and being a stay at home wife.
Im so blessed that when I got saved 2 years ago my boyfriend (now husband) and I got married in the church and reoented of our former lifestyle. Then I was having issues at work so he told me to quit and stay home... ive been home for 8 months now and its been wonderful. My husband never wants me to get another job unless its for fun 😂 hes so happy having me home and looking after things!!
Thank you for this video. I just married last year, no children yet, but I've had a longing to be home for months now. Your video helped make sense of many things I could not put into words. I thank God he has put in heart a desire to be home, I will continue to pray as I make this transition. Grace and Peace to you
I’m glad you’re addressing this. It is time for women to return home to their families. If you have to live poor, that’s ok. There is blessing in being poor. You get to see God show up and provide for you! You always end up closer to God when you experience need and must rely on Him…. So many give their children to strangers to be raised In order to work for a bigger house, a better car, etc… It is time to return to being mom, wife, home maker. I was blessed to have that opportunity. I am now going to college and I’m going into my 40s soon. But what I have learned is that I am not fulfilled working full time outside on the home because it doesn’t give me time to do what God has designed me to do, and that is care for my home and family. I LOVE getting an education and career but I will only be the helper not the main bread winner, so that I can continue to do what truly fulfills my soul. My kids are almost grown. One day I will have grandkids and I will take care of them also. I think we are also being called to return to caring for our extended family! As in, grandparents stop being SO OPPOSED to helping your children raise their children! That is your blood! Set your mind to it now and when you have grandchildren you will be ready to come along side your very own children to help them raise theirs. Parenting is hard, and we need one another! We have become such a selfish society. All this said, I do not judge any woman who HAS TO work. God knows your need and he will bless your home and your work. He is faithful and good to us, he will always make a way and he will fill in the gaps if you allow Him to.
Thank you! I’m a newlywed housewife of 2 months so far, I worked the whole 6 years we’ve been together but my husband and I knew that my calling was to be a homemaker. Once we married, my husband and I sat down discussed finances, luckily finances allow me to stay at home for him. I quit my healthcare job in February 2024 to start studying homemaking and preparing for it. We married in May 2024 and moved in together the same month. I’m still trying to find my routine, trying to figure out how GOD wants me to act and be. These videos are SO helpful, there’s so many people out there that judge homemakers. Knowing that GOD has appointed me to care for my husband and home helps me not take the judgment to heart. I think the hardest thing for me is discipline, keeping myself from worldly things and keeping myself from getting lost in the worlds wants. I know GOD is keeping me on the right track though If there are any other newlywed Christian housewives out there, let’s be friends! 😊 Have a blessed day!
I remember this stage, i was also in Healthcare. it's a huge adjustment but remember to spend time with God everyday and he will help you find joy in the everyday things❤ I love being a homemaker ❤
Congratulations on your marriage❤🎉 And I’m a homemaker with 3 toddlers I work for my husband and I’s business but from home and it’s mainly paperwork, excel spreadsheets, Word documents etc. My advice to you is first saturate yourself with God’s Word especially the ones that talk about homemaking and not being like the world. Keep praying for God to deliver you from people’s opinions, and vain philosophies when they know not the LORD neither do they regard the things of the LORD but you do and so you’ll always be weird to them and that’s ok. Also do not waste time explaining why you and your husband are living the way you do because you are to submit to your husband’s authority in everything as unto the LORD so you’re not doing anything wrong. But still people will not understand I would share very little if they ask directly tell them but keep it simple and short and move the conversation along. Give the Word every time and they will back off. Stand firm on what you’re saying too. Be bold as a lion but harmless as a dove. Serve your husband without fear! You’re in God’s will for your life and He will keep you! Don’t worry! ❤❤❤
Thank you for this video (and others I just watched tonight). My husband told me many of these things about ten years ago while I was still working. I have been slowly changing over our 15 years of marriage (crazy to think it has been that long already). I was one of the women that quit my job after having my first kid almost 13 years ago (and now we have 7). I was definitely a workaholic so it was a big deal when I quit my job. I felt the Lord telling me to. It was one of our first leaps of faith. I did eventually go back to work because I started worrying about the money... then later quit again after losing our 3rd baby 21 weeks into the pregnancy. Christian homes just don't talk about these things. A lot of these things you talk about my husband has been very aware of our entire marriage and I am learning on the way. He has a good relationship with God and God just tells him things even before they make logically sense. We see the fruit of following God all these years later. I grew up in a Christian home, but it just wasn't this way growing up. Feminism and having to be the working woman was definitely in my background. I wanted to be at the top. I wanted to not have to answer to any man. I eventually started an actual relationship with Jesus when I was 24 while dating my now husband. I had to go through a lot of stupid things to get there. :) Your videos are very refreshing. Thank you! Life has been very challenging lately. It is hard to keep the faith.
I just found your channel 🙏 Praise God for spreading this good news. I love, how you said that, you praise for your husband before you met him. I did the very same. I am now happily married and a full time home carer. I love fulfilling the purpose God created me to be. God bless you. 🦋🙏🦋
Wooow I needed this so much!!!! I came across Proverbs 31 and I desire to be that woman. I would pray to God to show me how to be that woman and now I can see how everything you said connects to Pro 31. Thank you, this is powerful, some people would say its RADICAL and outdated but is not, this is what the world need, there would certainly be less divorces. It starts with SUBMITTING yourself to GOD and pray fervently for wisdom in choosing a HUSBAND, not "fall in love" to fall out of love once everything gets real and raw!
Honestly, this is mind blowing to me. I feel like a lot of my life makes sense now. 😄 I feel like I came across this video at a crucial time in my life. It has given me so much perspective that (for sure!) Is very different from what society has been telling women for the last 20-30 years. Thank you for making this video, because of its counter cultural content it will probably not go viral, but it honestly has the potential to change lives! I am thankful for you and your ministry. Blessings ❤
Nicely done. I came home when our first child was 8. I’ve been home for 18 years now with one middle school child left at home to school. I’ve always said I wouldn’t have changed a thing, but I believe I would love to have had this mentality. I’ve beat myself up while also not being as helpful in some areas as I could be. Thank you. Where is your “first steps” program for your ancient subscribers. 😝 Truly, I hope many women (and men) will be blessed by this video.
I’m 20 years old, watching from South Africa and I mention that because I see your husband is from there too. Thank you Miss Kelli. This was a great deal helpful. God bless!💛
I just stumbled onto your channel, and I'm amazed to see and hear this from a young women. It's refreshing and wonderful to hear. And wish i knew this great wisdom as a young women. Even though I was raised in a Catholic family and a traditional home, I was still expected to get a job after getting married and focus on an outside career then being a help meet to may husband. After 13 yrs of marriage we were devoured because of it. But, now in my 2nd marriage and I'm learning to be his "help meet" that God intended me to be. Even though I'm still shamed by my sister's for not having an outside job, I'm not going to go against what God planned for my husband and myself. One of my friends recently introduced me to the book "Created to be His Help Meet" by Debi Pearl. She has also written another book for young women who aren't married yet and learning how to be that "Help Meet" for her future husband. And Debi's husband wrote a book for men to help them to understand themselves better and living for God. Thank you so much for your great wisdom and I'm look forward to seeing more videos like this from you. God bless and take care.
God said do not be unequally yoked…please be careful as this can be very harmful for you you should talk to him about the Bible and getting into it together.
Hi Leta, thank you for sharing! And I pray 1 Peter 3:1,2 is an encouragement to you- "Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct." Isn't that encouraging- without a word. We can trust and take God at his word. I bless you and your marriage.
Thank you for being bold with this message about the beauty and propriety of traditional Christian family roles. Please be encouraged to know that there are many, many people who believe this and experience the benefits of living according to God’s design for families - no matter if you have 0 children or a dozen. I love your channels!
This has blessed my heart. I whispered a prayer for the Lord to help me understand what exactly is my role as a helpmate and this has brought insight. ❤ Thank you
So glad I came across your channel! I have not been the kind of wife I should have been and I'm praying it's not too late to turn things around. I want to be a Godly wife to/for my husband...I came back to God during a painful situation please pray for restoration in my marriage and that I can finally be the Godly wife for my man! Now I'm learning these things🥰 thank you for sharing your experiences
This was a beautiful video. And what I got from this was that the baseline of every marriage is that you take care of each other. You said there are exceptions, and I completely agree with that. Each season of your life together is to help each other. Men are always pushed to the back when it comes to mental health. When you’re in a loving marriage, the wife heals the husband and makes him a better man for her. Which is part of making you one in spirit. Being cheerful doesn’t mean you have to be this fake happy woman all the time, it means that everything you do for your husband comes from a heart of love so you are happy to do it for him. When you’re truly committed to each other in love he will return that love and kindness back to you. When you really breakdown the meaning of this video to its bones and core and every video like this, whether it be a therapist talking, or a successful couple that is not Christian, everyone is saying the same thing just in different words. I love hearing someone just say, it’s okay to support your husband.
I just found tour channel and it is a breathe of fresh air to hear this message in these times. I truly believe that it is Gods purpose for us. This channel is a blessing.
THANK YOU KELLI! and thank you God! this is what more young women need to hear. hearing you talk about your convictions gives me so much hope for myself. THANK YOU!
Since having my third child I transitioned to working full time to only 14 hrs a week while kids are in school and one in a daycare just for the same hrs I work at a small church daycare. I have been considering quitting and staying home full time!!! I admire those who do ! I have the option to stay home too and just help husband as much as I can but I interpret for Spanish speakers and to see the joy in their face that I can help them in a respectful manner makes me feel real good because iv always had a calling to help some how and I see the struggle and how expensive it is to hire a interpreter and I always get told how they have never met someone so patient and helpful and non judgmental for not speaking English! I fill every time I interpret I bless someone . Although , being a submissive wife and attending my kids is my priorities . I loved your video and I envy the way you stand by your husband and want to walk in gods word when in comes to the women roll ❤️
I haven't worked since 2010, I got into a bad accident and lost my job during recovery. It was 2 months before my 21st birthday. I met my husband the following year, we were married 4 months later and he was happy to support me from the get go. A lot of my friends thought that was "controlling"... Now they see and tell me "boy was I a bad judge of character." 🤭 We didn't start having babies until year 2 of marriage. I LOVE this message! You have articulated my life very well, lol.
@@homewithkelli God bless you all as well! This is an incredibly important message to share and teach the younger girls (scriptural) but honestly even though I've been a wife for 12 years, I've learned a lot more about my role just from listening to you, even though I could already relate to it, didn't mean I couldn't still learn something. I appreciated this encouragement so much!
Praise God! So funny, everyone thinks my husband is super controlling too... im laughing because I don't have to have the pressure of a job! my husband is my boss and he's the easiest person I've ever worked for lol!!
Thank you so well articulated and clear logical understand of submission and submissiveness that respects and loves the family unite. You give hope to struggling marriages with this message in a day and age that is destroying families on the matter of work outside the home. May God bless you and your husband for being the example of Christ to so many.
In my grandmother’s day, a woman worked until she got married. My grandmother had only taught school a couple of years before she got married but she did substitute teach later in life. I quit when I was 5 months along with my first baby but I honestly never thought to quit if I wasn’t pregnant like my grandmother did!
I love this. Many people talk about being a biblical homemaker and even being his helpmeet but few talk about "what is his purpose and how do u help him in it! "I love this fresh perspective
Thank you so much for sharing this message so boldly. I remember yearning inside to be at home and live out all the things that I could do to help our home and family economy when I was working full-time before I had children. Now I have young children and I am at home and ever so energised by my role and I love how you share about it. I will be following your videos a lot! I love how you list all the aspects of the home economy and our role. I have been so challenged and motivated and excited to remember my role as my husband's helper and to support his mission as you say. I think watching your video is a defining moment for me as a wife and mother.
This is a great video. Being cheerful can be difficult if you have suffered from trauma or have mental health issues. That being said.. Pray, and find seasoned Christian wives and your Pastor during these times. Give your husband a heads up that you are having a bad mental health day and need his prayers.
Thank you for this video. I was inspired to pick up and start reading a book my inlaws gave me when I first got married called The Power of a Praying Wife. I often find that I don't know where to begin but it seems very helpful suggesting scripture passages and particular areas to pray for your husband in.
God bless you, and thank you for sharing your testimony of coming home before children. I understand that deep desire and we will be praying for you guys.
Love the prayer for our husband you share. That was so powerful. Thank you. I had prayed for our relationship or for change... For him for his situation when he needs it... But the prayer you shared made so much sense and covers so many bases. Thank you. Praying with you for our husbands. Amen.
I didn’t find Christ until 5 years into motherhood and homemaking, last year. I definitely struggled with being the helper. Now, with the Bible, it is so humbling and much easier to function in the home. The Lord has truly blessed us to be able to stay home, even before me being a faithful daughter. It’s funny (not), I went back to school online when my first child was 2. Finished a bachelors in 2 years then had my second child a few weeks later. My “Christian” in laws asked us when I was going to start working with my new degree. I had been vocal that I want to be a psychologist when my children grow MUCH older. No mom girl boss for me thanks. I was miserable back then and couldn’t imagine leaving my children to be raised by someone else. As an unbeliever, I couldn’t understand why they would even ask that. I was naively under the impression that religious people wanted the traditional family structure. But then I remembered my husband wasn’t raised in that, which caused a whole slew of issues for us. Men who had girl boss/feminist or single moms sometimes(often) have a difficult time adjusting to being the sole provider. Thank you for speaking on these things. Hopefully there are men out there doing the same for men as the provider role.
I needed this, thank you for being brave to speak up against the culture. I am blessed to be a homemaker but I sometimes feel down for it that I don’t have “my own purpose” like I’m not good enough but I am so happy to be a helper I need to own the role and be proud! Thanks for sharing.
Hi Keli, I just came across you video this morning. My first videos of yours I’m watching, but I intend to watch more. I’ve opened my heart, mind, and soul to Christ. I didn’t grow up in a household centered around Christ. However, I’m learning to create this for my family now. Thank you for sharing.❤️
This is helpful to me. We have a business and I felt like i should be “Homemaking” only and helping him was pulling me from that. However this encourages me to help him knowing it’s honoring to God.
Spot on sister! Love my cow journal, by the way. Our milk cow’s name is Elsie and she looks JUST like the cow on the journal. ❤️ Thanks again! God bless ya’ll!
@@Lanab2677 we are our husbands helpmeet. We were created for the man not the other way around. You are correct, it is not a sin to work outside of the home. Titus 2:3-5.
Thank you and bless you! 🤍 I’ve been making so many changes in my life since coming home to Jesus just a few months ago. For the first time in my life I feel peace not having this ‘boss-babe’ business. Raised in a family where my mom always had her own career and money I was taught not to rely on a man for income. My husband and I are reading the bible and going to church since God showed me this was what I needed to do. And I find myself more and more ok with healing, resting and taking care of my husband and children. I do have a lot of praying and work to do on some parts, but I feel in my heart this is the right path. Thank you for the beautiful advice about this topic. 🤍 Kim
I 100% agree that we're to be helpers for our husband's..i on the other hand dont see anywhere in the bible that we should be basically "asking permission" to be able to have free time or whatever..that is micromanaging at that point. Husband's are not to be dominant over the wife, husband's are to love, lead and serve the wife as well. And its dangerous if we start living solely for our husband, instead of ultimately living for Christ. When we have Christ first, and then our husband second that is when things fall into place. (Children third) Yes its absolutely a good thing to help our husband's and to serve them, but there is a fine line..i know you're not trying to say that we need to live for our husband's, but i know there are some Christians out there that would take this LITERALLY. Thanks for the video and for the encouragement!
Does Christ not have dominion over man? Is Christ just supposed to love, lead, & serve the man (i.e. let him do whatever he wants)? Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
@@EdwBollings you did not get the meaning of my comment. Unless you really think that wives should worship and live for her husband? Are you saying a husband is supposed to have the same authority as God does? Sounds a bit blasphemous..I would strongly recommend you read what God says about love. And then apply that to how you carefully love your wife/husband. Not base everything on what you should get out of a marriage being the head of a household. (Assuming you're married) wives are to submit (as in allow the man to lead not control lol) and the husband's are to love and be understanding. Both are to serve each other.
We are to submit to our own husbands up to the point where we don’t break God’s laws, so yes if your husband requires you to “ask permission” to go out with your fiends, you are required to obey… if we made poor choices that is not God’s fault and we are still required to submit, thankfully that only happens when you have an unloving, ungodly husband
@@wendymtzc sorry but that is not biblical. Submitting to your own husband is having respect for him and allowing him to lead you and the family, not control you. Leading is not the same as dominance as you're alluding to. Obeying the Lord yes, but obeying your husband like you're a child no. Yes the husband can ask and communicate to his wife why they should talk to each other about plans and whatnot but to "require" her to ask permission and have it as a rule he gets to use on the wife is not respectful nor loving as he is to be to his wife. He is also to respect and submit to his wife so don't try to make it a weird dominance thing because that is VERY unbiblical and something Christians get wrong all the time. But if you want to live in that way by all means go ahead, it's just not biblical though so please don't pretend it is. God bless!
@@NS-nm8nu wives submit to your own husbands, women obey your husband, the woman was created for the man, the husband has the power to vito his wife’s vows, even Sarah called Abraham lord, are you denying all these scriptures? Of course a loving husband will not be controlling, but what if a Christian lady is in a marriage where the husband is indeed kind of controlling, are you saying she doesn’t have to submit to her husband?
Thank you for this!! The Lord has been convicting me about being a homemaker and my true purpose but I’ve felt so guilty about the idea of being home without children as if it was a wasted time unless there are children to care for. We were just married this year and I’m at the end of child bearing years so I don’t think there will be children in our future. This video has given good scriptures to reference and hope that I can still fulfill my purpose and desire to be at home without children.
Hi dear, I'm a housewife and I decided not to have children, it has been hard because I don't have any women in my life who support my decision but the love of my wonderful husband and his support is what encourages me to follow my own journey. My prayers for you and your husband, God bless you
Wow, this is such a blessing. I encourage you to keep on being anti-cultural and God cultural. Your videos have been a blessing to me and may the Lord hold remind me and hold me accountable to being a homemaker.
keepers at home in Paul's day when he wrote those word homes were also places of business. the business up front and the home part at the back . today life has evolved that places of business are outside the home, so that means women might have to go to work somewhere other than the home
I see that God is giving me the same desires you mentioned and I stopped working in phases over the first three years after being married, still yet to have kids. And this was at my husbands request which God was mirroring in my desires. I still think everyone should listen to the Lords will for them though, I didn’t marry until 33 and I know God called me into a ministry setting for all those years as a single on purpose. It wouldn’t have been possible for me to stay home all those years and I believe I learned a lot more how to be a steward of the home single than in my parents home. But that’s just my story. I used to feel very dogmatic about religious matters like this but God has led me into a place of understanding His grace makes a way for each persons uniqueness and story. I will say I remained single all those years and did not date. My husband and I were pretty darn certain we would marry each other even while just friends, but that was because we were seeking Him above all else.
My husband and I have wild schedules. While I don’t “work” outside of the home, I do: Volunteer at our kids school, I’m a coordinator for our girls American Heritage Girls Troop, I’m a financial coach at our church, I serve w our daughters at church on the weekends, my husband serves at church and we coach a marriage class together as well… on top of his EXTREMELY demanding job. Oh I’m also a precinct committeeman and attend school board meetings. I’ve never been more busy and felt so fulfilled and yet I don’t earn money outside the home… well, my husband and I have a business together as well.
As much as I like the idea of being this kind of wife, coming from a split family and being raised mainly by my mum, it is so hard to think about the idea of a man having authority over me. God forbid he abuse that role and treat me like a house slave. I like the way your husband treats you by not putting pressure on you and acknowledging the effort that you make. Although I have said that if both husband and wife are working, then both should work look after the house. But if I'm at home, I will treat it like my job. But he should still be present with his children and not just sit on the couch and zone out (granted a time to decompress is important...for both). And the husband should be willing to step up if things are getting on top of his wife or she is unwell. I loved going to my friend's parents' place where her mum stays home. Her dad came in from doing some sort of maintenance around the house, saw the washing and took initiative to hang it out. No complaints. I love seeing a husband and wife work together. I see a big gap these days with young men not know how or bothering to do basic chores because likely their mother has always done it. That same friend of mine makes time for her younger brother and cooks recipes with him so that when he goes flatting, he is prepared and doesn't live on pizza
Coming back to the Catholic church when I was 20 years old, I stopped believing in feminism. Growing up in today's world is scary. As kids we want to be accepted, when I came back to church and started confessing again I felt such a peace come over me. I've had miracles and our God is so patient/loving/ and so forgiving. Today's world teaches us to be selfish, and that sleeping around is no big deal. How is sinning/ being selfish/ hating our brothers and sisters good? Love each other and pray for the conversion of nonbelievers. God is good and blessed us by creating us.
Every woman needs to understand that from a man’s perspective, he is the captain of his ship that is sailing the seas of life. He invites a woman to join him on his journey as his primary helper, to help him in the cabin (house), the crew (children) and general navigation. He invites her onboard so together they can have a better journey than being alone, so he can travel farther, and eventually leave a trail of other similar captains with their ships who can sail on without them.
No man who wants a wife-for-life invites her onboard so he can dedicate his life to making her feel happy. He does not invite her onboard because he needs more drama - the normal storms of life are drama enough. No man in his right mind invites a woman onboard to abscond with half of the cargo of his ship, to lead a mutiny, or run off with his crew at the next port.
This is the general idea of what is automatically in the mind of a man who seeks a life-time commitment to marriage. Sadly, most modern women think that they have their own ship to sail, and this leads to shipwrecks.
This is such a great & helpful picture and description. Thank you for sharing. Would you mind if I shared this and give you credit in a future video on this topic?
Very wise (and illustrative) comment!
I wrote this to explain to my wife where our thinking was different. I assumed it was just a common background understanding. Boy was I wrong! This illustration or others like it need to be taught again and again. It is simply the working out of 1 Cor. 11:8-9 "Man does not originate from woman, but woman from man; 9 for indeed man was not created for the woman’s sake, but woman for the man’s sake."
Wow well said. And I praise Kelli for this content it is still relevant and God's way no matter what society says. I too was just reminded by the Holy Spirit that I was forgetting my husband as I am focusing on the newborn and toddler. I looked at my husband and for the first time in months I really saw him like HIM HIM and it broke my heart it was like he too was just going along accepting being neglected cuz of the babies. We immediately addressed it. Went into prayer, talked, then u know what and it was GREAT! We both feel so fresh now. I commit to never "forgetting" him again, it's all about him of course both submitted to God first.
@ThatsWhat-She. Marriage as "equal partners" is a delusion. Men and women are not equal, and this is why women practice hypergamy. A high-quality woman is one who joins a man on his journey, improves his life, and benefits from his hard work. (Granted, there are the exceptions who have personal reasons to be single, but they would be truly single, not promiscuous.)
Modern civilization will collapse because it requires strong, masculine leadership. Islam’s strength is not its theology, Islam is strong because it practices patriarchy (often in gross excess). Christianity was originally a gentle patriarchy, and it nearly conquered the world (yes, it also had its flaws). When Christianity abandoned patriarchy in the early 1900s it very quickly lost its world dominance. Strong men make strong families and strong social and cultural norms. When the current rotted matriarchal social systems collapse, patriarchy will return. The only question is whether it will be a gentle patriarchy grounded in Christianity or the Islamic form that is currently ascending. Delusions are always ultimately crushed by reality.
I love that you’re happy living life in biblical roles. As a man with a daughter, I’d like to give some advice to other ladies considering doing the same. When choosing a husband, use more than just your emotion, also use discernment. If he doesn’t demonstrate that God and his Christian beliefs are foremost in his life before you are married, you need to be prepared to break it off - even if your heart doesn’t want to. He needs to demonstrate by his actions and not just words that he is dedicated to live up to his biblical role as a husband, protector and provider. So, women - choose wisely and be certain that Christ is the center of his life and, by default, Christ will be the center of your happy marriage and loving family.
Yes. Indeed. The Christ center of his life and not himself..
The only advice my Dad gave me was "Don't marry someone because he is good looking".
No guidance on what to look for, whatsoever.
Funnily enough, I never asked him what I should look for either.
I was too young at the time to even be thinking about marriage, so wasn't really interested.
My niece is 10, goes to a Christian school and is religious, I shall pass on your advice to her when the time comes.
Last time I saw her we had a chat about husbands. She already knows what she wants.
She said her husband would smell of engine oil, (her Dad goes to vintage tractor shows) and have a beard, but with bald patches in it.
I can't wait for her wedding day and will buy them a can of engine oil as a wedding gift :)
I wonder if she will remember that conversation. Hilarious.
@@softsophisticate hopefully he gave you a good example of a man to look for at least.
My father was a horrible and man and still is to his family. But it is what it is. He was very abusive and we lost our mother because of it. I knew from an early age that all men weren’t like him. I dated a few gentleman, never led to anything but I’m glad I had that experience.
Riiiiiiiight because they don't ever fake or lie. Lol.
I just found your channel. You are so sweet. I am 70 Years old and I quit my job when we got married and we did not have children for 5 years. I have been a homemaker and helpmeet for 50 years and 5 months and I still love it. My husband is 74 and is still practicing optometry. I have 15 grandchildren that I absolutely LOVE!! I love your vision and your passion. This is the first I have watched and will look forward to seeing the rest you have made. I still make meals from scratch, I make my cleaning products. I am now thinking about making my skincare and makeup!! Keep on keeping on! Praise the Lord!!!
Did you end up making your own skincare and makeup?
My husbands purpose was defending our country in the military. So he depended on me to keep everything running smoothly at home when he had to be away. Since I was a homemaker from the start of our marriage, it all worked out perfectly.
Another great example! Thank you Kelli, God bless you guys, appreciate you sharing your testimony!
Another Kelli!! Hello! Thank you for yours and your husband’s sacrifice. ❤, Kelli (TN)
God bless you both and thank you for your service to our country.
@@homewithkelli I love this message! Are you a soap opera fan, honey? I had a small role on one years ago thought I'd ask.
Yes the same is true of our marriage we were also a Military family and I stayed home from the beginning. We have been married for 52 years!
This has been the most transcendent video i've seen to this day about homemaking. The most striking part is the description you give about being made for the husband & his vision. It reminds me so much of Christ & the Father. Thank you so much for sharing this.
I appreciate your video !
I got married 3 years ago. And right after strongly felt convicted to leave the job . It took my almost a year to submit to God. I was battling feelings of not being worthy because I didn’t make any money. That I will lose all control and won’t be respected by others etc.
But When I quit I felt huge weight off of my chest. And peace. It took my a while to fully surrender and adapt the new position but now I see it as a privilege. My husband didn’t forced me , he gave me a choice . And God lead me to stay home. We don’t have kinds yet . The time I have allows me to serve people at my church, also volunteering in Christian Organization.
We don’t have a lot of money. It is enough for us to live and be content . I am very grateful for this ! God is truly amazing ❤ I finally feel like a woman . I am fulfilled. By the grace of God I died to my own dreams and accomplishments. I had to fast and pray. I was compering myself with others who are working and having careers but finally found full peace ! This video is a confirmation to me that it was Gods desire for my life. So He is glorified as I prayed to be the woman He wants me to be for His Kingdom.
A proverbs 31 woman works!!! Read proverbs 31: 16,18 and 31: 24 Actually read all of proverbs 31.... slowly and carefully. She is supposed to help her husband as far as keeping the home and children, but also help the entire community and work. She is not made just to tend after her husband.
16- She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
18-She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night.
24- She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes.
childless homemaker here. so encouraging to hear someone talking about it. thank you so much❤️
Thank you for posting this!! Raised by a single mom and not in a biblical household and learning how to be a biblical wife and mom in adulthood is hard, thank you for speaking on this! 💛
I am the homemaker while he works from home. I ensure that his breakfast is ready, his lunch is waiting on him come lunch time. And of course all the routines that go with running a home. He calls me the home CEO and allows me to make decisions during the day regarding our home. It is an honor to be home taking care of him & our home.
I used to work with an arrogant boss. He was always yelling at people and getting sick. I am a Christian, feminine woman. I always spoke in a soft tone with him and even brought him soup when he was sick! One day he started talking about his wife. He said she's always working, she is focused on "climbing the ladder" and she's always out with her girlfriends. I wish she would've come to the job to eat lunch with him. It was clear that he felt neglected and lonely. I left that job but people told me he was so pleasant when I worked there!
Do you not understand that him calling you a home CEO is like just a eufemism for being a slave? Can your husband not make his own lunch, is he a child? Quit babying an adult. It is unsexy and unproductive. One day you will look back at your life with regret because you have lost your identity living for someone else. I am SO sorry this is the reality for many women.
@@olena_duus Him calling me the home CEO is a joke between us! I am in no way a slave, for me as a Christian Wife it is an honor to do for him. We do for one another. I have no regrets!! I know exactly who I am in Christ and as a Wife!
@@olena_duus Oh my, do you not understand it was a joke! I'm the one that makes decisions about our home while he works. I have NO regrets doing anything for him, and I know exactly who I am in Christ! When you have the spouse/partner that the Lord has picked for you, all is well & we are Blessed!!!
@@starrjohnson1327it's inappropriate for your boss to be talking to you about his wife, especially negatively. Perhaps she's never around because he's so rude and demeaning?
Youre wise for quitting before. Because even now im still trying to learn what i shoukd have known before kids and i always feel rushed to get so much knowledge into me as quick as possible ha
Thank you for your video! My husband and i were raised in wordly, feminist homes, so that's the way that we have lived our marriage. After the last couple years of the Lord sanctifying us and changing our desires to follow His, we stepped out on faith, and i recently quit my job. By the world's standards, I was crazy to do it. But we're trusting His plan, and our marriage has never been better, even if we have to be super frugal. Although im learning this wisdom later in life, I pray I can pass it to my children, and that they'll remember the positive change in their parents and our family when we went from one lifestyle to the other. ❤
Absolutely! And this is not humiliating at all, it’s using your skills for the main purpose you were made for
Thank you for speaking out about this . I recently started staying home and I absolutely love it. Our marriage has been so much more loving and less stressful and I actually don’t mind being by myself most of the time. I keep myself very busy at home and honestly I am learning so many new things and ways to optimize our household and make it run more efficiently. I recently found out I am pregnant and am so excited for the years to come. I thank the Lord every day for the way he designed me and the desires that he has given me to be a true help mate to my husband. I feel so much for feminine in this new season and like I am finally where I’m meant to be. PTL 🙏
I love your heart and agree with this partly. I agree we are to submit to our husband's and respect them, but I would like to bring up why we don't see this in marriage. I'm an older christian woman so hopefully that will give some credibility to what I write.
I think where this can slip into the extreme is that God says to the woman that as part of the curse her desire will be for her husband and he would rule over her. This ruling over the woman behavior is in many marriages. If a husband has a healthy love for his wife and loves her as Christ loves the church then submission becomes easier and a joy, but when there isn't a sacrificial love given then a women can lose her identity and be abused. The Father has an identity for each of us male and female. As the Proverb 21 woman carried out her duties she made executive decisions and was well rounded in her responsibilities. She had a healthy knowing of who she was and gave from a place of being known and loved. I believe the issue is only solved when both husband and wife live a self sacrificial life.
For the wives who are in the season, knowing that they are called to come home but don’t have a husband who is in alignment, it took me years to come home. It began with the call on my heart and then combating my own flesh not wanting to do that. Then when I would give in a little bit I dealt with my husband not seeing the vision or feeling the call. This went on for some time. However, God will not give a vision to one and separate a husband/ wife. Pray. Once you’ve come to a place where you’re willing to come home and desiring to do so, begin to serve your husband well and pray that the lord would give him a heart of flesh and would begin to see signs and visions of his goodness in this call. God does miracles and he doesn’t work on our timing. His timing is beautiful.
I was so blessed to quit my job after 6 months of marriage, we are now a year and a half into our marriage & its been amazing. Now we are ready to start trying for babies ❤
Praise God and God bless you! and I pray that God gives you many children!
How refreshing and true. Quit my job because of children and never went back to work in order to invest in them more. What a much greater vision you point to in your videos and very biblical. God bless you with children into a wonderful home you are making. I was thrown into full time homemaking after having our first son and it is soooo hard because I had never anyone teaching me this explicitly in the context of the great vision of helping my husband by building a home economy. I'm very motivated now, your content is gold, thanks Kelli :)
Wonderful to have this Biblical message out there on UA-cam! Thank you for encouraging women in all seasons to do things *God’s* ways 💕💕
I appreciate your thoughts on the topic. Just some thoughts on my end - One of the first commands God gives humanity is to be fruitful and multiply, subdue the earth and fill it. Eve was a suitable helper for Adam because only a woman could help Adam in fulfilling this command. God could have spoken more people into existence, but instead He allows us as human beings, both men and women, to partake in this shared mission to create new life, with women having the special honour of carrying that new life into the world. Together, as humans, we are to love God, care for one another and cultivate the Earth. I don’t think Eve was created for Adam to cook and clean for him so that he can pursue "his mission". The mission of a husband and a wife is a shared one. When it comes to creating a household, I think husbands and wives are both equally responsible for that. How you divide up the roles/tasks will vary from couple to couple.
I've been on this same journey with my husband, I feel like your wisdom is just what I needed in this path. Thank you.
❤ soooooo inspiring to see a younger woman with this biblical perspective! I pray God blesses you and your family ❤
I've tried staying home without children and struggled with lonelines a lot. I was not involved with the church, so I didn't have a support system. I also didn't have the mindset of helping my husband specifically. It was more about me trying to homestead and work on our small side business. I went back to work after not working outside the home briefly. I don't feel as lonely since then and have started getting more involved with my church. I also am giving more of my life over to Christ and that has helped me heal in some areas that needed healing. But I know I neglect helping my husband and home because much of my time and energy go towards my job. In trying to find a solution and happy middle ground, I wonder if going part time would be beneficial. I could still get regular human interaction and at the same time have more time and energy to devote to my husband and household.
I used to work part-time in a shop - to pay the bills, but many of my older colleagues were there for the company. However, they disliked the job and the Management. I could never understand why they didn't just leave and go an do voluntary work or join an evening class if they wanted to meet people. Seemed a better way to me than putting up with a miserable boss.
Even if you get a part-time job, your time isn't your own as you have to be there or else.
Your feelings are perfectly normal and especially if you live in a remote area. I think if you are homemaker, it's important to have friends through clubs, associations, charities, or just a solid group of friends with similar interests. I think a great job for a homemaker running for City Council. It's a great way to involve yourself and help make impactful decisions in your community and it's not a 9-5 job.
This is such a blessing to stumble across! I was also waiting for babies to be a stay at home wife but an injury made me have to quit my job. Now i feel like i lost my perpose and i am trying to regain my purpose in life without children and being a stay at home wife.
Im so blessed that when I got saved 2 years ago my boyfriend (now husband) and I got married in the church and reoented of our former lifestyle. Then I was having issues at work so he told me to quit and stay home... ive been home for 8 months now and its been wonderful. My husband never wants me to get another job unless its for fun 😂 hes so happy having me home and looking after things!!
So blessed to have found a Christian channel to listen to while doing household chores.
Thank you for this video. I just married last year, no children yet, but I've had a longing to be home for months now. Your video helped make sense of many things I could not put into words. I thank God he has put in heart a desire to be home, I will continue to pray as I make this transition. Grace and Peace to you
I’m glad you’re addressing this. It is time for women to return home to their families. If you have to live poor, that’s ok. There is blessing in being poor. You get to see God show up and provide for you! You always end up closer to God when you experience need and must rely on Him…. So many give their children to strangers to be raised In order to work for a bigger house, a better car, etc… It is time to return to being mom, wife, home maker. I was blessed to have that opportunity. I am now going to college and I’m going into my 40s soon. But what I have learned is that I am not fulfilled working full time outside on the home because it doesn’t give me time to do what God has designed me to do, and that is care for my home and family. I LOVE getting an education and career but I will only be the helper not the main bread winner, so that I can continue to do what truly fulfills my soul. My kids are almost grown. One day I will have grandkids and I will take care of them also. I think we are also being called to return to caring for our extended family! As in, grandparents stop being SO OPPOSED to helping your children raise their children! That is your blood! Set your mind to it now and when you have grandchildren you will be ready to come along side your very own children to help them raise theirs. Parenting is hard, and we need one another! We have become such a selfish society.
All this said, I do not judge any woman who HAS TO work. God knows your need and he will bless your home and your work. He is faithful and good to us, he will always make a way and he will fill in the gaps if you allow Him to.
Read proverbs 31:18 ... she works... it even says she has "earnings".
This was such a comforting response, thank you! 🙏🏼❤️
Praise JESUS!! There’s women that care about homemaking!!! This was such a blessing🙏🏾
I wish I’d heard these words as a young girl. You are wise beyond your years! ❤
Thank you! I’m a newlywed housewife of 2 months so far, I worked the whole 6 years we’ve been together but my husband and I knew that my calling was to be a homemaker. Once we married, my husband and I sat down discussed finances, luckily finances allow me to stay at home for him. I quit my healthcare job in February 2024 to start studying homemaking and preparing for it. We married in May 2024 and moved in together the same month.
I’m still trying to find my routine, trying to figure out how GOD wants me to act and be. These videos are SO helpful, there’s so many people out there that judge homemakers. Knowing that GOD has appointed me to care for my husband and home helps me not take the judgment to heart.
I think the hardest thing for me is discipline, keeping myself from worldly things and keeping myself from getting lost in the worlds wants. I know GOD is keeping me on the right track though
If there are any other newlywed Christian housewives out there, let’s be friends! 😊
Have a blessed day!
I remember this stage, i was also in Healthcare. it's a huge adjustment but remember to spend time with God everyday and he will help you find joy in the everyday things❤ I love being a homemaker ❤
Congratulations on your marriage❤🎉 And I’m a homemaker with 3 toddlers I work for my husband and I’s business but from home and it’s mainly paperwork, excel spreadsheets, Word documents etc. My advice to you is first saturate yourself with God’s Word especially the ones that talk about homemaking and not being like the world. Keep praying for God to deliver you from people’s opinions, and vain philosophies when they know not the LORD neither do they regard the things of the LORD but you do and so you’ll always be weird to them and that’s ok. Also do not waste time explaining why you and your husband are living the way you do because you are to submit to your husband’s authority in everything as unto the LORD so you’re not doing anything wrong. But still people will not understand I would share very little if they ask directly tell them but keep it simple and short and move the conversation along. Give the Word every time and they will back off. Stand firm on what you’re saying too. Be bold as a lion but harmless as a dove. Serve your husband without fear! You’re in God’s will for your life and He will keep you! Don’t worry! ❤❤❤
Congratulations! Praying for peace and happiness in your marriage ❤
Thank you for this video (and others I just watched tonight). My husband told me many of these things about ten years ago while I was still working. I have been slowly changing over our 15 years of marriage (crazy to think it has been that long already). I was one of the women that quit my job after having my first kid almost 13 years ago (and now we have 7). I was definitely a workaholic so it was a big deal when I quit my job. I felt the Lord telling me to. It was one of our first leaps of faith. I did eventually go back to work because I started worrying about the money... then later quit again after losing our 3rd baby 21 weeks into the pregnancy.
Christian homes just don't talk about these things. A lot of these things you talk about my husband has been very aware of our entire marriage and I am learning on the way. He has a good relationship with God and God just tells him things even before they make logically sense. We see the fruit of following God all these years later. I grew up in a Christian home, but it just wasn't this way growing up. Feminism and having to be the working woman was definitely in my background. I wanted to be at the top. I wanted to not have to answer to any man. I eventually started an actual relationship with Jesus when I was 24 while dating my now husband. I had to go through a lot of stupid things to get there. :)
Your videos are very refreshing. Thank you! Life has been very challenging lately. It is hard to keep the faith.
I just found your channel 🙏 Praise God for spreading this good news. I love, how you said that, you praise for your husband before you met him. I did the very same. I am now happily married and a full time home carer. I love fulfilling the purpose God created me to be. God bless you. 🦋🙏🦋
What a blessing, thank you so much for sharing your testimony of praying for your husband before you met him! God bless you!!
Wooow I needed this so much!!!! I came across Proverbs 31 and I desire to be that woman. I would pray to God to show me how to be that woman and now I can see how everything you said connects to Pro 31. Thank you, this is powerful, some people would say its RADICAL and outdated but is not, this is what the world need, there would certainly be less divorces. It starts with SUBMITTING yourself to GOD and pray fervently for wisdom in choosing a HUSBAND, not "fall in love" to fall out of love once everything gets real and raw!
Wow Kelli, this is great. My life has been 100% opposite of this but you are SO RIGHT. Keep spreading the word.
Honestly, this is mind blowing to me. I feel like a lot of my life makes sense now. 😄 I feel like I came across this video at a crucial time in my life. It has given me so much perspective that (for sure!) Is very different from what society has been telling women for the last 20-30 years. Thank you for making this video, because of its counter cultural content it will probably not go viral, but it honestly has the potential to change lives! I am thankful for you and your ministry. Blessings ❤
I am so glad to hear this! God is good!
Nicely done. I came home when our first child was 8. I’ve been home for 18 years now with one middle school child left at home to school. I’ve always said I wouldn’t have changed a thing, but I believe I would love to have had this mentality. I’ve beat myself up while also not being as helpful in some areas as I could be. Thank you. Where is your “first steps” program for your ancient subscribers. 😝
Truly, I hope many women (and men) will be blessed by this video.
I’m 20 years old, watching from South Africa and I mention that because I see your husband is from there too.
Thank you Miss Kelli. This was a great deal helpful. God bless!💛
Wow! That is amazing, what part of South Africa are you in? And God bless you my sister!
I just stumbled onto your channel, and I'm amazed to see and hear this from a young women. It's refreshing and wonderful to hear. And wish i knew this great wisdom as a young women. Even though I was raised in a Catholic family and a traditional home, I was still expected to get a job after getting married and focus on an outside career then being a help meet to may husband. After 13 yrs of marriage we were devoured because of it. But, now in my 2nd marriage and I'm learning to be his "help meet" that God intended me to be. Even though I'm still shamed by my sister's for not having an outside job, I'm not going to go against what God planned for my husband and myself.
One of my friends recently introduced me to the book "Created to be His Help Meet" by Debi Pearl. She has also written another book for young women who aren't married yet and learning how to be that "Help Meet" for her future husband. And Debi's husband wrote a book for men to help them to understand themselves better and living for God.
Thank you so much for your great wisdom and I'm look forward to seeing more videos like this from you. God bless and take care.
I love your videos. I’ve been married for 5 years to a man that isn’t a believer. Hearing all this really helps me stay encouraged.
God said do not be unequally yoked…please be careful as this can be very harmful for you you should talk to him about the Bible and getting into it together.
Hi Leta, thank you for sharing! And I pray 1 Peter 3:1,2 is an encouragement to you- "Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct." Isn't that encouraging- without a word. We can trust and take God at his word. I bless you and your marriage.
Thank you for being bold with this message about the beauty and propriety of traditional Christian family roles. Please be encouraged to know that there are many, many people who believe this and experience the benefits of living according to God’s design for families - no matter if you have 0 children or a dozen. I love your channels!
Thank you Sally! God bless you!
Amen!
This has blessed my heart. I whispered a prayer for the Lord to help me understand what exactly is my role as a helpmate and this has brought insight. ❤ Thank you
So glad I came across your channel! I have not been the kind of wife I should have been and I'm praying it's not too late to turn things around. I want to be a Godly wife to/for my husband...I came back to God during a painful situation please pray for restoration in my marriage and that I can finally be the Godly wife for my man! Now I'm learning these things🥰 thank you for sharing your experiences
I prayed right now for your marriage, and I know that God can do all things. God bless you sister!
@@homewithkelli aaw thank you so much♥️♥️
This was a beautiful video. And what I got from this was that the baseline of every marriage is that you take care of each other. You said there are exceptions, and I completely agree with that. Each season of your life together is to help each other. Men are always pushed to the back when it comes to mental health. When you’re in a loving marriage, the wife heals the husband and makes him a better man for her. Which is part of making you one in spirit. Being cheerful doesn’t mean you have to be this fake happy woman all the time, it means that everything you do for your husband comes from a heart of love so you are happy to do it for him. When you’re truly committed to each other in love he will return that love and kindness back to you. When you really breakdown the meaning of this video to its bones and core and every video like this, whether it be a therapist talking, or a successful couple that is not Christian, everyone is saying the same thing just in different words. I love hearing someone just say, it’s okay to support your husband.
I just found tour channel and it is a breathe of fresh air to hear this message in these times. I truly believe that it is Gods purpose for us. This channel is a blessing.
Thank you so much!! God bless you!
THANK YOU KELLI! and thank you God! this is what more young women need to hear. hearing you talk about your convictions gives me so much hope for myself. THANK YOU!
Since having my third child I transitioned to working full time to only 14 hrs a week while kids are in school and one in a daycare just for the same hrs I work at a small church daycare. I have been considering quitting and staying home full time!!! I admire those who do ! I have the option to stay home too and just help husband as much as I can but I interpret for Spanish speakers and to see the joy in their face that I can help them in a respectful manner makes me feel real good because iv always had a calling to help some how and I see the struggle and how expensive it is to hire a interpreter and I always get told how they have never met someone so patient and helpful and non judgmental for not speaking English! I fill every time I interpret I bless someone . Although , being a submissive wife and attending my kids is my priorities . I loved your video and I envy the way you stand by your husband and want to walk in gods word when in comes to the women roll ❤️
I haven't worked since 2010, I got into a bad accident and lost my job during recovery. It was 2 months before my 21st birthday. I met my husband the following year, we were married 4 months later and he was happy to support me from the get go. A lot of my friends thought that was "controlling"... Now they see and tell me "boy was I a bad judge of character." 🤭
We didn't start having babies until year 2 of marriage.
I LOVE this message! You have articulated my life very well, lol.
Thank you so much for sharing your testimony with this. God bless you guys!
@@homewithkelli God bless you all as well! This is an incredibly important message to share and teach the younger girls (scriptural) but honestly even though I've been a wife for 12 years, I've learned a lot more about my role just from listening to you, even though I could already relate to it, didn't mean I couldn't still learn something. I appreciated this encouragement so much!
Praise God! So funny, everyone thinks my husband is super controlling too... im laughing because I don't have to have the pressure of a job! my husband is my boss and he's the easiest person I've ever worked for lol!!
Wow, you don’t know how much this video open my eyes! Glory to the lord🙏🏻
Thank you so well articulated and clear logical understand of submission and submissiveness that respects and loves the family unite. You give hope to struggling marriages with this message in a day and age that is destroying families on the matter of work outside the home. May God bless you and your husband for being the example of Christ to so many.
Thank you, I needed this today! You answered some questions that have been bouncing around in my head. This has been God's answer to me.
Oh praise God! and God bless you, Olivia!
@@homewithkelli Thank you :) May God continue to richly bless you as well!
Same here ❤
In my grandmother’s day, a woman worked until she got married. My grandmother had only taught school a couple of years before she got married but she did substitute teach later in life. I quit when I was 5 months along with my first baby but I honestly never thought to quit if I wasn’t pregnant like my grandmother did!
I love this. Many people talk about being a biblical homemaker and even being his helpmeet but few talk about "what is his purpose and how do u help him in it! "I love this fresh perspective
My word. I'm so on fire about this message. So beautiful ♥
Praise God!!
Thank you so much for sharing this message so boldly. I remember yearning inside to be at home and live out all the things that I could do to help our home and family economy when I was working full-time before I had children. Now I have young children and I am at home and ever so energised by my role and I love how you share about it. I will be following your videos a lot! I love how you list all the aspects of the home economy and our role. I have been so challenged and motivated and excited to remember my role as my husband's helper and to support his mission as you say. I think watching your video is a defining moment for me as a wife and mother.
Wow, thank you so much for sharing your testimony with this. I'm so grateful, and excited about your journey. God bless you and your family!
Great job with this!! Thank you for spreading this biblical truth!! ❤
Thank you and God bless you!
Amen!! I've been praying for my husband for years now. Thanks for the encouragement that God will reward what is done in the secret place.
Thank you, Sister in Christ. This video is a blessing.
This is a great video. Being cheerful can be difficult if you have suffered from trauma or have mental health issues. That being said.. Pray, and find seasoned Christian wives and your Pastor during these times. Give your husband a heads up that you are having a bad mental health day and need his prayers.
Thank you for this video. I was inspired to pick up and start reading a book my inlaws gave me when I first got married called The Power of a Praying Wife. I often find that I don't know where to begin but it seems very helpful suggesting scripture passages and particular areas to pray for your husband in.
Omy!
I haven’t even watched the whole thing and I’m in Love!!!
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This is so amazing. I just found your channel. This resonated with me so on point. Will definitely be implementing this in my life.
So encouraging! Thank you! I am one that came home before we had kids. Still waiting on the kids.
God bless you, and thank you for sharing your testimony of coming home before children. I understand that deep desire and we will be praying for you guys.
Same ❤
Love the prayer for our husband you share. That was so powerful. Thank you. I had prayed for our relationship or for change... For him for his situation when he needs it... But the prayer you shared made so much sense and covers so many bases. Thank you. Praying with you for our husbands. Amen.
I'm so glad, Gob bless you guys!
I didn’t find Christ until 5 years into motherhood and homemaking, last year. I definitely struggled with being the helper. Now, with the Bible, it is so humbling and much easier to function in the home. The Lord has truly blessed us to be able to stay home, even before me being a faithful daughter.
It’s funny (not), I went back to school online when my first child was 2. Finished a bachelors in 2 years then had my second child a few weeks later. My “Christian” in laws asked us when I was going to start working with my new degree. I had been vocal that I want to be a psychologist when my children grow MUCH older. No mom girl boss for me thanks. I was miserable back then and couldn’t imagine leaving my children to be raised by someone else. As an unbeliever, I couldn’t understand why they would even ask that. I was naively under the impression that religious people wanted the traditional family structure. But then I remembered my husband wasn’t raised in that, which caused a whole slew of issues for us. Men who had girl boss/feminist or single moms sometimes(often) have a difficult time adjusting to being the sole provider. Thank you for speaking on these things. Hopefully there are men out there doing the same for men as the provider role.
I needed this, thank you for being brave to speak up against the culture. I am blessed to be a homemaker but I sometimes feel down for it that I don’t have “my own purpose” like I’m not good enough but I am so happy to be a helper I need to own the role and be proud! Thanks for sharing.
Hi Keli, I just came across you video this morning. My first videos of yours I’m watching, but I intend to watch more. I’ve opened my heart, mind, and soul to Christ. I didn’t grow up in a household centered around Christ. However, I’m learning to create this for my family now. Thank you for sharing.❤️
Hi Inez, how exciting to hear the journey you've been on and how faithful God has been! God bless you and your family!
I haven’t even watched this yet but just the title alone has me jumping on the inside because I feeeeeel this !!!! ❤
This is helpful to me. We have a business and I felt like i should be “Homemaking” only and helping him was pulling me from that. However this encourages me to help him knowing it’s honoring to God.
Amen. Thank you for this video. I have a doctorate, and this message needs to be broadly spread to help marriages!!
Spot on! Thank you Kelli❤
I really enjoyed your encouragement. That was refreshing!! Specially the focus on the husband part.
Love it! Finally a Godly woman who takes her role seriously!!
I found this video to be very moving and a great comfort. Thanks you!
I'm so glad to hear it. God bless you!
Spot on sister! Love my cow journal, by the way. Our milk cow’s name is Elsie and she looks JUST like the cow on the journal. ❤️ Thanks again! God bless ya’ll!
Yayyy! I'm so glad you liked your journal and how cute, that is what your cow looks like!! I bet she is just adorable!!
I love that! “Helping our husbands becomes our career”
Praise YAHWEH for sound biblical advice🙌💛
@@Lanab2677 we are our husbands helpmeet. We were created for the man not the other way around.
You are correct, it is not a sin to work outside of the home.
Titus 2:3-5.
@@Lanab2677 shalom shalom!
I pray each and every day that this would happen to ne and now it is and im so excited and so so blessed
I find you very inspirational and just wanted to say thank you.
Thank you so much and God bless you!
I love yr video
Thank you and bless you! 🤍 I’ve been making so many changes in my life since coming home to Jesus just a few months ago. For the first time in my life I feel peace not having this ‘boss-babe’ business. Raised in a family where my mom always had her own career and money I was taught not to rely on a man for income. My husband and I are reading the bible and going to church since God showed me this was what I needed to do. And I find myself more and more ok with healing, resting and taking care of my husband and children.
I do have a lot of praying and work to do on some parts, but I feel in my heart this is the right path. Thank you for the beautiful advice about this topic. 🤍 Kim
I 100% agree that we're to be helpers for our husband's..i on the other hand dont see anywhere in the bible that we should be basically "asking permission" to be able to have free time or whatever..that is micromanaging at that point. Husband's are not to be dominant over the wife, husband's are to love, lead and serve the wife as well. And its dangerous if we start living solely for our husband, instead of ultimately living for Christ. When we have Christ first, and then our husband second that is when things fall into place. (Children third) Yes its absolutely a good thing to help our husband's and to serve them, but there is a fine line..i know you're not trying to say that we need to live for our husband's, but i know there are some Christians out there that would take this LITERALLY. Thanks for the video and for the encouragement!
Does Christ not have dominion over man? Is Christ just supposed to love, lead, & serve the man (i.e. let him do whatever he wants)?
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
@@EdwBollings you did not get the meaning of my comment. Unless you really think that wives should worship and live for her husband? Are you saying a husband is supposed to have the same authority as God does? Sounds a bit blasphemous..I would strongly recommend you read what God says about love. And then apply that to how you carefully love your wife/husband. Not base everything on what you should get out of a marriage being the head of a household. (Assuming you're married) wives are to submit (as in allow the man to lead not control lol) and the husband's are to love and be understanding. Both are to serve each other.
We are to submit to our own husbands up to the point where we don’t break God’s laws, so yes if your husband requires you to “ask permission” to go out with your fiends, you are required to obey… if we made poor choices that is not God’s fault and we are still required to submit, thankfully that only happens when you have an unloving, ungodly husband
@@wendymtzc sorry but that is not biblical. Submitting to your own husband is having respect for him and allowing him to lead you and the family, not control you. Leading is not the same as dominance as you're alluding to. Obeying the Lord yes, but obeying your husband like you're a child no. Yes the husband can ask and communicate to his wife why they should talk to each other about plans and whatnot but to "require" her to ask permission and have it as a rule he gets to use on the wife is not respectful nor loving as he is to be to his wife. He is also to respect and submit to his wife so don't try to make it a weird dominance thing because that is VERY unbiblical and something Christians get wrong all the time. But if you want to live in that way by all means go ahead, it's just not biblical though so please don't pretend it is. God bless!
@@NS-nm8nu wives submit to your own husbands, women obey your husband, the woman was created for the man, the husband has the power to vito his wife’s vows, even Sarah called Abraham lord, are you denying all these scriptures?
Of course a loving husband will not be controlling, but what if a Christian lady is in a marriage where the husband is indeed kind of controlling, are you saying she doesn’t have to submit to her husband?
I pray for my husband and my grown children. My sons and my daughter are always in my prayers that's a mother's love.
So simple. Peace in the home.
Thank you for sharing this! Great message 😊
Thank you for this!! The Lord has been convicting me about being a homemaker and my true purpose but I’ve felt so guilty about the idea of being home without children as if it was a wasted time unless there are children to care for. We were just married this year and I’m at the end of child bearing years so I don’t think there will be children in our future. This video has given good scriptures to reference and hope that I can still fulfill my purpose and desire to be at home without children.
I'm so glad you are encouraging! Congratulations on your marriage! God bless you guys!
Hi dear, I'm a housewife and I decided not to have children, it has been hard because I don't have any women in my life who support my decision but the love of my wonderful husband and his support is what encourages me to follow my own journey. My prayers for you and your husband, God bless you
Great informative video! I wish I had the luck of meeting someone with that “how can I” mindset. That help a lot in the household.
Thank you. This is a wonderful video. God knows. God bless ♥️🙏🏾
I do all the rest but I can't quit my job for financial.
Wow, this is such a blessing. I encourage you to keep on being anti-cultural and God cultural. Your videos have been a blessing to me and may the Lord hold remind me and hold me accountable to being a homemaker.
Thank you so much for your encouragement with this! God bless you!
Thanks for sharing your experiences
I needed this! Thank you! You're moving mountains!
First time seeing you!! I love you sister. Thank you for this message! The Lord Bless you!
18:17 😮 so true, I never thought of that.
I agree with you,sis!
keepers at home in Paul's day when he wrote those word
homes were also places of business. the business up front and the home part at the back .
today life has evolved that places of business are outside the home, so that means women might have to go to work somewhere other than the home
I see that God is giving me the same desires you mentioned and I stopped working in phases over the first three years after being married, still yet to have kids. And this was at my husbands request which God was mirroring in my desires. I still think everyone should listen to the Lords will for them though, I didn’t marry until 33 and I know God called me into a ministry setting for all those years as a single on purpose. It wouldn’t have been possible for me to stay home all those years and I believe I learned a lot more how to be a steward of the home single than in my parents home. But that’s just my story. I used to feel very dogmatic about religious matters like this but God has led me into a place of understanding His grace makes a way for each persons uniqueness and story. I will say I remained single all those years and did not date. My husband and I were pretty darn certain we would marry each other even while just friends, but that was because we were seeking Him above all else.
This is great. Thank you 💖
My husband and I have wild schedules. While I don’t “work” outside of the home, I do:
Volunteer at our kids school, I’m a coordinator for our girls American Heritage Girls Troop, I’m a financial coach at our church, I serve w our daughters at church on the weekends, my husband serves at church and we coach a marriage class together as well… on top of his EXTREMELY demanding job. Oh I’m also a precinct committeeman and attend school board meetings.
I’ve never been more busy and felt so fulfilled and yet I don’t earn money outside the home… well, my husband and I have a business together as well.
As much as I like the idea of being this kind of wife, coming from a split family and being raised mainly by my mum, it is so hard to think about the idea of a man having authority over me. God forbid he abuse that role and treat me like a house slave. I like the way your husband treats you by not putting pressure on you and acknowledging the effort that you make. Although I have said that if both husband and wife are working, then both should work look after the house. But if I'm at home, I will treat it like my job. But he should still be present with his children and not just sit on the couch and zone out (granted a time to decompress is important...for both). And the husband should be willing to step up if things are getting on top of his wife or she is unwell.
I loved going to my friend's parents' place where her mum stays home. Her dad came in from doing some sort of maintenance around the house, saw the washing and took initiative to hang it out. No complaints. I love seeing a husband and wife work together.
I see a big gap these days with young men not know how or bothering to do basic chores because likely their mother has always done it. That same friend of mine makes time for her younger brother and cooks recipes with him so that when he goes flatting, he is prepared and doesn't live on pizza
Coming back to the Catholic church when I was 20 years old, I stopped believing in feminism. Growing up in today's world is scary. As kids we want to be accepted, when I came back to church and started confessing again I felt such a peace come over me. I've had miracles and our God is so patient/loving/ and so forgiving. Today's world teaches us to be selfish, and that sleeping around is no big deal. How is sinning/ being selfish/ hating our brothers and sisters good? Love each other and pray for the conversion of nonbelievers. God is good and blessed us by creating us.
You are correct!!! In the original language that is the explanation and purpose