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Woops. Small editing mistake at 6:15 (audio is missing). I'm such a noob, haha!
No you're not. You're human :)
@@malachijames noobs are humans too!
@@malachijames noobs are not human?
@@some3dguy humans are noobs
It's ok bro, well those problem I relate too and yeah your video will help all people facing this issue thannks bro. Stay safe. Peace
DON'T do art for the likes, DO art because it's your passion
Exactly!
This is very hollow coming from someone who is complaining about a whopping 10k likes.
Yes do it because its your passion but getting attention for your work makes you feel good and in return makes you more motivated to continue your passion.
@@sketchuyu7298 The problem here is how much attention is enough to keep you motivated... 100 likes? 1000 likes? 10.000 likes? 100.000 likes? When for you "attention" = "likes", it's like a drug: it will never be enough, and you always need more.
What is even worse: there will be ALWAYS someone who gets more "likes" than you, and the comparison will drive you crazy.
The best way is to cut the shit at the very beginning: stay away from social networks or change your paradigm about motivation and attention.
@@sketchuyu7298 I see your point and it does make you feel more confident. But don't make that take over you. Social media is and will always be a weird place... One day you're in the spotlight and get hundreds of likes, the next day you're back in your dark corner getting not even half the amount of likes you got the previous time. And THAT is what makes you very upset and de motivated and maybe even stop doing what you love. That's why I tell myself and try to tell other people that likes shouldn't be you top priority. And do what you do because YOU love it and because of some silly little heart/like.
As a fellow artist, I do struggle with this often. I almost quit creating art because of these 'expectations'.
Just a tip. Never value your work as to how others value it. I know this is hard. It is a fact that social media is designed to imprison our minds into thinking that we are more/less significant than others but it is our choice whether we let it manipulate us or use this as a catalyst for further self improvement.
I agree. I noticed when i try draw with "purpose" like drawing for a friend or a commission. Things don't go well at all, but when i draw just for drawing with no plan or any thought i do ten times better.
Yeah, I know what you mean.
Though I would abstain from using "purpose" that way:
"Purpose" commonly describes a higher, more idealistic drive, rather than a social or economic one.
So _your purpose_ would actually be the thing that solves the very issue of drawing for likes and attention.
But because you are convinced about its meaningfulness you intrinsically ascribe to it.
I have noticed that in my case it's because I'm too focused on making something look good (details and shit) while I'm still working on it because I'm worried that it will not look good in the end. And then I have spent an hour on an detailed eye when the face proportions are completely wrong because I spent too little time on getting them right earlier. But when I'm drawing for myself I'm not worried about it looking perfect and make a ton of rough sketches until I like the composition, proportions, change the colors midway etc. I don't know if it also counts for you, but that was the issue for me and you should look out for that :)
honestly it works differently for me. Sure i do love my random, spontaneous doodles/sketches but when i do hobby commissions for friends, it gives me purpose and my mind works better with a goal
@@cookielulu2356 _Never_ zoom in.
That's the protip I've heard multiple times by now, and it is quite accurate.
Rather than spending 80% of your time on 1% of the details that will be barely visible, invest that time and energy into aspects that have a bigger impact on the final piece.
Spend 1% at most of your total time in details. It decimates your progress - potentially also in terms of your art skills.
(Unless maybe if you draw something to perfection to make the next Mona Lisa, but I'd argue that's only worth it if you've reached a very high skill level to begin with - which probably won't be reached if one keeps getting lost in details.)
@@LinkEX it's kinda hard in traditional isn't it :D I think it is okay too zoom in the end to clean up your drawing/give it texture and such, as long as you keep zooming out often enough
Its comfirmed that instagram is darkweb. Their not supporting artist.
Expectations struggles are my every day struggles. Not only when it comes to my art, but also my friendships. I often expect people to do certain things I do for them and when not receiving them, I only end up feeling bad, doubting not only myself, but also the other person, our relationship.
I grew up with the mindset to please people and care too much about what they think, I often don't do or even wear things I think would make people judge me.
With art it is the same really, I try to be the best I can at the moment, but often see people like my sketches and things I spent much less time on more, than finished pieces I worked on for hours. I expect people to like my finished art that I put a lot of work into and I get people liking stuff I spent 10% of the time on. I am grateful even for that as a small creator, but I sometimes wish the work I put more effort to was recognized better.
I wish people could just "turn off" their expectations...
Yeah me too, I also wish it would be easy to change your emotions so it doesn't affect you. Because this advice helped me but I just wished I would've seen it sooner XD
I learned a great phrase for this phenomena, and I say it all the time for any number of things. It’s “never selling too far in advance”. It was originally applied to something men do while attempting to date a girl that they just met and don’t really know. Instead of getting all worked up in the head projecting way into the future with this one girl that you don’t know( she could actually be a horrible beingat the corebut looks pretty in the outside, or simply a really bad match for you in particular). Guys are great at doing this and it is a bad habit plus it also telegraphs all the wrong things to good women. If you do this it’s your brain working you. It’s your lesser self running the show and it IS easy to begin to get help and self-improve... once you see how this ONE mental weakness has ruined good things for you sooooo many times in the past! You gotta get out of your head, and attempt to look at the world sometimes from the God’s eye view where everything is limitless and finite and interconnected. Your 5 senses are basically designed to deceive you so you constantly need to check them. Hopefully you master them, never let them get the best of you. Be realistic ANd be positive.
I don't remember explaining my WHOLE LIFE EXPERIENCE WOW
I want to get out of this mindset but it's so difficult D:
@@larrybyrd5634 yeah I see what you mean but being with someone for years is another thing I think (in my experience)
Basically you’re talking about Stoicism.
_”It's not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.”_
or
_“There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will.”_
are famous quotes by Epictetus. Read his work “The Enchiridion”.
That sounds cringey though
*if you read this you sold your soul to my cat* don’t know how you can describe the stoics as cringey....
isn‘t the enchiridion from adventure time
thats one way to put it. but stoicism still doesnt help grow a following unless your niche is stoicism, but it is good to practice it in some areas of your life. someone needs to write a handbook about life on social media.
I was going to type that
I relate so much about to what you say about meeting the metrics.
To me a way to not be involved emotionally with my posts is just to not post my drawing on Instagram as soon as I've finished them.
When I have a piece that I love, that I'm proud of, that's at that very moment that I can be touched by negative comments, not so much likes etc. So I wait, and keep them safe until I don't really care and I've moved on, at that moment I post them and yeah who cares about the likes, it becomes a score and it's not personal.
Hope it helps !
THIS !!!!!
come on man, you were reading my thoughts, i really struggle with these expectations, i think after every painting that i create and i get depressed because of this. great video and hope you upload many videos cuz i really like style :)
Sorry for the millennials for this "like-hook" addiction. It's like a drug...
What does "like-hook" mean?
@@zizfie3782 wordplay: hooked on the likes = likes addict
@@hamuArt ah, thank you
Wow this went from art to therapy... didn't know I could enjoy the mix so much.
Love watching you problem solve a piece while also voicing over with an issue, especially one you're going through. Good artists help people solve issues they dont know they have or save people the trouble sometimes of having to go through them. Well done man
Imagine small artist like us feeling the same way too but of course like me I had to use so many hashtags to get likes, because in IG world not all your followers will like your post, anyway you're a great artist😉
For the most part....this video is true.
However, during the Coronavirus pandemic, and so many people staying home....gyms and other stores being closed down....along with other bad things happening in the world right now....it does seem like now, more than ever, people are interested in seeing work that a person puts out there, whether it's on Facebook or Twitter.....whether it's attention from a celebrity or a close friend..... people want to be entertained, inspired, and assured that there's still hope in the world.
That's true not just for art, but anything that a person is good at in general.
I think that when you really put so much discipline, passion, and focus into something, and put it out into the universe.....not expecting much(or anything) in return....that's what truly matters. Someone can even get what they're looking for and more, with that mentality.
Someday, the Coronavirus will be gone, people will go back to functioning normally(while not having to stay at home most of the time), and people may not be as interested with any video, artwork, comment, or Tweet that comes their way.
However, now is a really good time to just give....not only in a positive way, but selflessly.
I have a friend who does interviews for a living, and she said herself that she loves the fanart that I send towards her. Before the pandemic happened....I always put off drawing because "I didn't have time for it". I took it for granted.
I used to draw a lot as a child, and stopped in my mid-teens. Had I not started drawing again recently, she wouldn't have known about it, and I really wouldn't be the artist that I am now.
damn, this aint just about art, this is about how to live a better life...
I needed to hear this right now as I struggle with much the same issues of expectations. Thank you for your words, and keep up the good work!
I really needed this for my drawing skills and unhelpful expectations when it comes to being an animation major without many friends to connect with. All these thoughts wrap up in my head everyday. But I've learned from this.
A positive mindset will last longer than an expectation. Thanks for this.
Social media is toxic to human mind. expectations are toxic too esp. for art as you said it. art should be greated only for the enjoyment of it and/or to express one self.
Amen at this. Reason I stopped being a content creator and am now just a random consument.
i applaud u for being open about ur vulnerabilities it takes courage
When I saw the title I immediately clicked!
Btw I love your videos they really inspired me to do my own art channel💕🌻
Thx so much :D
My best art comes when i don't need it i just lesent to other artist talking and boom i find myself drawing something amazing ♥️😂
I am struggling with this at the moment with my own life, and what you said has really resonating with me.
Thank you a lot with the video, and keep uploading.
You are the reason I start drawing again , I love your videos and your style , keep it going . Hope you'll rich your best goals and will have many more , small and big ones ♥️
I'll be honest. I come to your channel because you're seem genuine and you're a great teacher. You simplify things in a good way. I'm not a patient artist and I have a lot of self doubt. But I see your art and it actually motivates me to get off my lazy ass and do something cool. So thank you dude. You've been a big help to me.
Such an important topic! It’s really easy to let external things affect how you feel about your art and life in general. Make art because it’s what you love to do. Keeping at it, despite the struggle, is a mark of character. I’m so glad your video showed up in my feed. Happy new sub here!
I feel like expectations are okay. You just have to realize that expectations are usually probability based. Even if something has 95% chance of happening there's still that 5% percent chance of it not happening. I would just say with most things expect the likely, hope for the best but, prepare for the worst.
I just saw two of your videos and I can say I love your style of art and the honesty you bring with it! Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us :)
Wonderful insight and words of wisdom. I'm in the process of realizing this recently and this helps me understand and know I'm not alone on it. Thank you
I sometimes wonder if everyone has the same problems or if I'm just exceptionally bad at some things, like focusing
You just helped me figure out a big problem in my life with this advice. Thank you so much
I needed this and watching a time lapse of you drawing was relaxing. Thank you!
Thank you very much! I learned a lot from this video. I started to feel like my art is not improving because I get very few reactions on social media. We cannot measure how good we are as an artist thru likes or shares. I'll just be patient and let time decide while I study new things like anatomy and perspectives.
I've been following you for about two years now and wow. I've seen such an improvement in your art! keep up the great work! :3
Love this advice. Great video as always!
This is true for everything in life really... Awesome content Eric!!!
Finally! I've had this exact thought about expectations. I even asked this question (whether they are bad or not) and had a lot of mixed results.
But personally I think you can always do your best and expect nothing in return. Having goals is not the same as having expectations to achieve them.
You are totally right but keep the good work. I have been in and out of art like 20 years and happens everything you mention. Now I am trying to take it back, when I hear you guys I notice that I did all the wrong stuff you share. You are inspiring me again and I am learning 3D also. So, do not ever get discouraged, you may do not have a clue of all the life you are impacting for good.
Thanks for this man, it was really helpful. I always try to think of it like a road - you have a destination and if you keep moving, you're going to get there so long as you keep that destination in mind. Meanwhile, if you lose sight of it, you're going to get lost.
Amazing speed paining and also therapy, thank you !
I agree with your observation because I have fallen into that trap too many times where I had high expectations only to walk away disappointed. This is something to really consider and work on. 💯👍
Beautiful Advice, thank you for sharing
Thanks heaps for this, def needed this today :) ❤
Finally a new video! :) I love them and your art. You are an inspiration to me. Keep it up.
Thank You Eric I really needed to hear this
Thank you for coming back! We missed you!
I'm going through the same process right now, glad to know there people who relate
Learned so much from this video!! Thank you so much! Keep up with the amazing work 💛
I am about to cry, that's exactly what's happen to me.. I need to work on that! Thanks Eric you always keep inspiring me
I made an amazing digital painting yesterday after a few weeks of drawing with a tablet while studying your tutorials. This has been a personal goal for at least 15 years, I just hadn't come around to it. Thank you for all of the well thought out content and insights.
You definitely shouldn't stop this channel, I am a new subscriber but have already been very influenced by your tips and techniques!
You are the reason I start drawing and even though it sucks i still try because I know one day i'll be like you ! Keep it up even when you have low views/likes . There will always be people who are inspired by you , and you already have one that is me !!
I understand you perfectly. I stopped making videos on youtube for a year and now I have returned in a much more relaxed way.
Your videos have been very useful to me so I hope you continue creating :)
Thank you so much!! It was really encouraging!!
this is very eye-opening. thank you for sharing this!! 💜
Really inspiring and important message, thanks for sharing
thank u so much man i relly needed this my page was small so whenever I get a truckload of like I raise my bar up and when my next post doesn't get as much I start procastinanting
Thank you sharing your thoughts man, I am struggling with this life being an artist too but I don't if I deserve to called as an artist, I just can't keep up with this fast pace world.
Yaaay!
I live how you're uploading more often lately🤗
cool and soft vid ^^ really pleasing to watch :)
you're right about struggle in art. this is really satisfying to see that i'm not alone in this :D
I recently found your channel and I really love your videos! They’re super helpful and inspiring, thank you!!
Can you do a hair tutorial? Because the hair in this video is FLAWLESS!!! And about everything you talked about is so true!! Thanks for talking about this stuff that a lot of people go through it helps a lot of people!
I was listening to this while I'm drawing. I'm really happy for your realizations. I may not be as good or as popular as you are but I was once, and believe that I'm still, in your position. Art block really sucks, that's what we think. However, we all realize something while we're in this phase and that's the good part of it. Now, just like you, I'm more focused on my growth rather than the number of likes I get from my posts because I post to see my progress and not for the likes in the first place. Anyway, don't stop creating something because there are people like me who really appreciate your works. Peace.
Great video man. Love your channel!
Hey eric. I really hear what you are saying in this video, I am in the tattoo industry and the expectations you have for yourself are huge, but the expectations others have for your are what really add up over time. Quality of art is not just an opinion in the tattoo industry, there are bad tattoos and good ones. Your career/ reputation depends on it!
I feel like I needed to hear this. thank you
I love your videos, allways teaching me something❤ keep going!!!!! God bless 🥰
That is good insight. I think all creative people and content creators struggle with this to some extent. I know that I do.
Honestly you named so many things that result in what you were talking about: people pleasing, pride, perfectionism, codependancy, lack of boundaries and lack of respect for boundaries, envy, jealousy, hatred, self hatred, the fear of man. Thank you for releasing this video. These are symptoms not only seen in the art world but in every career field when someone is defined by their career or job and their metrics instead of just doing the best that they can and feeling good and proud of putting in their best effort. It is why I have heard that it is better to tell your child, "Are you proud of yourself?" or "how proud do you feel about accomplishing this?" instead of saying, "I am proud of you." The child will look at themselves and analyze themselves to seek better improvement and be more concerned about how they feel instead of seeking validation from their parents or others outside of themselves. Also I always enjoyed your are. I got to get back into drawing again.
You speak the truth. And it's hard not to expect.
Thank you for making this video this really helps me a lot. This past few days I constantly think and have a self doubt about my art. But I think your right maybe I don't practice even more to reach my expectation and maybe I just need to go in the flow maybe thing's really dont work out in just couple of days of practice.😅
This video legit came to me at the right time. I gave a shot at instagram again and well, the results are fluctuating but I'm trying to keep my head high. Falling to self doubt and this instant gratification of social relevance gets the best of us.
My way of correcting myself when I hit a low is to think that, As creators whether it be art, writing, music etc... Its not about putting out content and waiting for the validation that you're relevant. That's wrong, that's looking through the wrong end of the lense! Its about creating content that'll put a smile on people's faces and even give them an idea to put smiles on other people's faces and make them feel good. Do things with the intention to make the world a better place.
Great video though, honestly thank you for posting it.
I waited for this video all my life. Thought I was alone because nobody was talking about it yet. I want to draw a lot but I struggle with those problems
Yo! Eric! this was soo needed bro! thanks for sharing this with us with the awesome art!
In the words of Russell Simmons. "DO YOU." Plain and simple. I love arts because it is in my blood. I do it for love. I don't it do it to please others or to be popular. That's one of the things that I have come to hate about being a graphic designer. After working for a graphic design company for a number of years, it did more harm to my creative edge which I didn't realize at the time I got laid off in 2008. It was rough. Just got a divorce and picking up the pieces afterward. The 2008 economic crisis crashed the job market and everything bottomed out for me. I lost everything and was homeless in AZ for almost two years. So to make a long story short, I've been rebuilding myself 10 years running and just got back to picking up the pencil and the sketchbook. Guess what? I'm struggling to create anything. Finally got a computer and digital tablet and all the latest software. I am at Ground Zero and don't know where to start. So I am slowly but surely getting back into the groove. The way I feel right now is DAMN IF THEY DO AND DAMN IF THEY DON'T. I love what I do. Keep up the good works. I enjoy watching your videos. It is inspiring and helpful in my journey back to where I should be.
Rodney Williams what a story... I admire you and your SOULPOWER. They most important thing a soul can possess here in this 3D realm is attitude. How one acts when confronted with adversity and if I was to be granted one wish for me or anyone,it would be to have the gift that keeps on giving, a great attitude, even before health. Because even you health can be taken away, but I would hope that when that day does come when transitory, material and earthly things get taken away that I am still able to bea Beacon of light strength and hope for others even during my own suffering.
Respect Rodney !!!!!!!!
@@larrybyrd5634 I couldn't have said it better, 100 all day.
@@cristian.ilie.018 Likewise!
Those of you who've replied to my comment. I want to apologize for such a late reply. So much going on all over this planet that it is unreal. Anyways, just know that your acknowledgment is greatly appreciated. Namasté!
After this video im just gonna say i lov u cuz u make clear everyrthing in my head.
Yes I think we need to talk about what we think sometimes the things that are tough on us.because sometimes we get happy thinking about what we are doing. we should try to work harder to give ourselves more time to improve in what we like and compare ourselves less
Sometimes a setback is just a set up for the next phase of your life
This is exactly what I needed to hear
Yes, but don't let it prevent you from putting your work out there. Try not to expect anything in return.
I relate to this in a completely different subject.
I was expecting to finish college and already be good enough to get a job and start working towards moving out. Now, I'm on my last semester and nowhere near good enough to get the kind of job that would allow me to save up. But this video made me realize that the place I live right now is not so bad that I need to move out immediately, nor is it so temporary that I need to start thinking about leaving straight away because "this boat is about to sink". It is not, so I just need to calm down and gather as much knowledge as possible so that I can build a beautiful portfolio and be proud of what I make.
I can certainly understand your plight with expectations, especially at your size! Its like a huge load of your stocks dropping in value as soon as you look away for a second.
As an artist, expectations aren't too much of my creative norm, I just try to make a piece with as clear of an idea I can muster from thumbnail to fininshed result. Great vid!
I needed this today.
I'm loving the consistent uploads. ♥
Really made me rethink my thoughts there! Very useful indeed 😊
All your videos have helped me grow as an artist although I don’t have any UA-cam videos of it.
Thats the best thing you can do with social media enjoy the ride and don't take it so seriously.
I totally agree
This time it’s hard for me to reach a lot of people with my arts but I don’t give up 👌
exactly...and it’s so disappointing but by the end of the day we just need to have fun and enjoy the moment we’re doing art
I just found this video and I couldn't agree more. After "rebranding" for the 7th time this year (starting new accounts because the old ones didnt succeed) I'm literally just tired.. I want to give up right away, and I lost my expectations but with it I lost all my motivation... I should have kept going when I had the chance
Wow... I enjoyed your video, I kept smiling at the things u say coz they're all true! Thank you!
I think people like rough or unfinished pieces of art more often because it makes them feel they can do something in similar quality, they seem to be "easy" to create and that's encouraging. When they look at very detailed, high quality art, they more often just acknowledge the fact that it's "fantastic"... but it doesn't make them feel like it's "possible to repeat". I hope it does make sense 😅 Many people love to watch other's art because they search for some inspiration and much more of them don't have very highly developed skills yet... so I think that's why they seem to like more unfinished things or even sketches, than these finished ones.
its nice to see that people relate. I feel the same about instagram. Its just horrible sometimes. My last post got 250 likes but i only spent
I get what he’s saying, but being disappointed about 10,000 likes.....🧐
Heldchenklein there is some thing extremely wrong with that, because your focus becomes so tunneled in just your aspirations that you don’t even realize how good 10k really is, you begin devaluing everything that has immense value and therefore you’re boycotting your own happiness over “Likes” Thats why being thankful is always better than being hungry.
@@thenamesmango7235 You can't say that. It's as if them having *their own* expectations offends you. Not everyone's the same and if it devalues the "immense value" then who really is here putting the likes on a pedestal? This statement would put a lot of peope down and make them question themselves if they've become a bad person for having *goals* and *expectations* . This isn't about the numbers. It's about how the artist would feel with seeing the numbers. They would think that their art isn't good enough and this can cause an impact on them and their mental health. Telling them to not have much expectations isnt going to help either. Not hating but this was extremely inconsiderate of you to say.
If I get one like on Twitter from someone in the world, I'm happy.
Even if I didn't get the likes....if you click "View Tweet Activity"....and look at the stats, you'll see that more people are looking at your content than you think.
Aw hey it's you from the group chat! What a coincidence :o
jauxro me?
Great video, wise words, and amazing art as always! btw I went back to your Instagram and liked that beautiful art piece of yours that didn’t get enough love ( can’t believe I actually missed it!?) :) I know it ain’t much but I’m sure in the future all your artworks will get the love and the appreciation they deserve
You are right. Like when it comes to meeting my numbers every week. initially. If I don't meet them I start to doubt my line of work or i worry about the future... But I am in reality making good money. I'm okay. I should be grateful.
I really like your content, thanks to you I have learned a lot.
I've learned that life is like a cheap fake stuff online store, no matter what item you buy you can't expect it to be like a legit stuff from their original store eventhough sometimes you get a good stuff with tose cheap price.
You mean life's all about bargaining? That'll be a problem.
You can be uncertain at times, but you'll need balance. You'll need direction and certainty.
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Your videos are so helpful and inspiring! I got the confidence of starting to work hard in digital art because of you. Thank you, tho i don’t think I’m doing it right. What I do is copy the color in the reference and put it one by one. Even tho I made the sketch I feel like I shouldn’t be doing it like this😅
Your content very inspiring💪💪
Thank you so much! Means a lot :D
Thank you for this 🥺
Thank you for this.