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  • Juju Chang sits down with the former reality star and her husband about her book "Counting the Cost," and what she claims were years of control and manipulation by her family.
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  • @laurasmith3430
    @laurasmith3430 Рік тому +3326

    “Honoring is not the same thing as obeying.” Thank you thank you thank you!

    • @nikkio.9990
      @nikkio.9990 Рік тому +81

      To me obeying means " I own you and you need to do what I say" And to be honest many in Christianity do think they own their children. We don't own our children. we shouldn't never own another human. we can be their provider, their caretaker, their leader, but they have independence and autonomy, which is a human right.
      Even when I was a more conservative evangelical Christian I was always deeply uncomfortable with the concept of children needing to "obey"
      Yes I wanted my children to respect me, yes I needed them to listen to the rules especially where safety was concerned but I always thought to myself, "why can't I just work with them instead of Lord over ?"
      I always parented from a place of what will build a relationship with them in the future? verses how do I make them do what I say. Everyone I knew who grew up in authoritative home is never close to their parents as adults, at best its a polite relationship.

    • @sofrito7914
      @sofrito7914 Рік тому +8

      💯💯💯💯💯

    • @gaminggrannyyaall
      @gaminggrannyyaall Рік тому +30

      Unfortunately in some religions it is....I still have trouble talking back to adults,and I am an old lady.

    • @lhr8833
      @lhr8833 Рік тому +65

      @@gaminggrannyyaallremember the bible also says to the parents not be exasperating their children, so that they don’t become downhearted. Nobody is a real christian if they are only applying half of the instructions. Honoring the parents was never intended to be used as manipulation while abusing their children, whoever has that point of view, is a hypocrite.

    • @ahill4642
      @ahill4642 Рік тому +2

      Yes!!

  • @michelleb9884
    @michelleb9884 Рік тому +979

    I love how her vocabulary has improved so much since she got out. She’s not just robotically repeating what she’s been told, saying “like, um” every other word etc. she’s very articulate and self aware.

    • @natatatt
      @natatatt Рік тому +74

      Her voice has a lot more confidence behind it now too. Used to have a more soft, overly sweet tone.

    • @ashleyk9209
      @ashleyk9209 Рік тому +47

      @@natatattyes! They’re literally coached to sound that way, sweet and soft spoken. I can’t imagine having to soften my voice every time I open my mouth just to please these men and be exactly what they want you to be, it’s ridiculous.

    • @Skatejock21
      @Skatejock21 Рік тому +18

      she is also an adult and has the comprehension of an adult. She's also out of TLC and frankly with their track record as we saw with Jon Gosslin. Its not all the parents, its also TLC.

    • @eliciaeldridge3452
      @eliciaeldridge3452 Рік тому +11

      She still says unm a lot , I think it just might be her feeling overthinking or feeling awkward no ones ever perfect.

    • @marykeen4462
      @marykeen4462 Рік тому +2

      The parents gave her a good education to use to turn on them.

  • @Pigletpronto
    @Pigletpronto Рік тому +3112

    “You treat me worse than my pedeophile brother “. What a quote she has.

    • @NazriB
      @NazriB Рік тому +3

      Lies again? I notice that men who serve country have good upbringing leading to dad father

    • @lovelifelaugh2727
      @lovelifelaugh2727 Рік тому +138

      @@NazriBwhat

    • @elizvan5758
      @elizvan5758 Рік тому

      Right...and NOW is she being controlled by her greedy, one time possibly poor, "operating" husband?

    • @michmex220
      @michmex220 Рік тому +87

      @@NazriB come again ??

    • @Airbubblepodcast
      @Airbubblepodcast Рік тому +109

      Mad respect for her when she said this!

  • @rachael2119
    @rachael2119 Рік тому +459

    The fact that since she’s been living out of the home she is learning and more aware about her parents.Thank you for speaking out

    • @MissSpaz
      @MissSpaz Рік тому +11

      Her dad forced all the other kids to sign a "lifetime" NDA. They aren't allowed to say anything critical about their dad OR Josh. The "company line" regarding Josh is that he was framed.

    • @LifewiththeBennettss
      @LifewiththeBennettss Рік тому +3

      Exactly when you're in it, u will never see it for what it is until u leave

    • @CaliMel1111
      @CaliMel1111 Рік тому +1

      @@MissSpaz But surely that cannot be legal. If they're children while they sign, they can't legally be bound to that. and if it is him manipulating and threatening them to get it signed, that voids it. They can say whatever they want. Jills husband is literally a lawyer who can help them.

    • @soapqueen2008
      @soapqueen2008 Рік тому

      @@CaliMel1111no there were all signed when the kids were adults so it’s legally binding

  • @myfuzzyblanket
    @myfuzzyblanket Рік тому +932

    I’m happy that she is using her voice to 🗣️ Speak out about it and her husband supports her ❤

    • @Boots_293
      @Boots_293 Рік тому +21

      Her husband seems very smart and wants to have Jill’s back. It’s nice to see

    • @kimberlyhonig8030
      @kimberlyhonig8030 Рік тому +14

      Absolutely! I really love how supportive he is of her. She needs that. They seem lovely together.

    • @siam5579
      @siam5579 Рік тому +12

      What I find inspirational too is that he went to school to be a lawyer and just passed bar, I think right before she had their last baby. That had to be hard to do on their own. I’m just really proud of them for stepping forward and telling the truth. I used to watch them all the time, and I always had the feeling that Jim Bob wasn’t a very good guy.

    • @77-ty7gb
      @77-ty7gb Рік тому

      What rules does Jill and hubby have for their own kids.
      Share your rules with the world and see how your new supporters like them.
      Will you let them pick their own gender?
      Why do you not have a pride flag at your home Jill? Are you homophobic?
      Come on Jill cozy up to the media and share your views.
      I promise you they will see very little difference in your parent's views and yours.

    • @chrisb5793
      @chrisb5793 Рік тому

      So are all the other sinners that choose to follow satan

  • @lisamcgrath3132
    @lisamcgrath3132 Рік тому +1060

    Her book is amazing, I listened to the Audio version where she reads the book herself. She in no way disrespected her parents or family in the book, she told her truth. She’s shown grace where grace has not been shown to her, especially by her dad.

    • @Airbubblepodcast
      @Airbubblepodcast Рік тому +32

      Right I can’t wait to read the book even though I know a lot already. But I’m so so glad that she came out finally with her book. She is speaking the truth. Not sure if I like when someone says her truth. There is the truth period. Don’t feel she’s the kind of person to lie. It’s been going on for many years.
      The dad told them it was a volunteer kind of thing. He never promised any of them money. In fact when he was confronted, he has a laundry list of expenses and many of those were basic necessities that your suppose to provide your children. Jim bob and Michelle really planned this all along. He wanted to be a senator and he wanted to have a big family to spread his Christian cult beliefs. He knew that he would get the attention. I feel now that it was all planned very very early on. And it worked and they got on tv and the rest is history.

    • @jademaldonado9247
      @jademaldonado9247 Рік тому +4

      If you don’t mind my asking, how/where can I purchase the audible version as mentioned? I have a road trip coming up and would love to listen to it on the drive

    • @lisamcgrath3132
      @lisamcgrath3132 Рік тому +7

      @@Airbubblepodcast The reason I used the words “her truth” is because you nor I where there for any of the things she talks about, we did not live her life.
      I completely believe everything she’s written because she lived it.

    • @v90660
      @v90660 Рік тому +1

      Oh so it wasn't like Harry's Spare

    • @lisamcgrath3132
      @lisamcgrath3132 Рік тому +2

      @@v90660 Never read his book

  • @mimimosa259
    @mimimosa259 Рік тому +124

    I’m glad Jill and Derrick found each other. I hope they find strength and healing together

  • @JustAName-hi6mh
    @JustAName-hi6mh Рік тому +175

    I just finished her book and the amount of grace and strength she handled everything at such a young age is so impressive.

    • @elizvan5758
      @elizvan5758 Рік тому +1

      The core of who she is is BECAUSE of her parents and upbringing. Not perhaps greedy revengeful Derrick.

    • @Quaker-tc8ue
      @Quaker-tc8ue Рік тому

      Truths you don’t like isn’t revengeful.
      It’s you, being willfully ignorant.
      @@elizvan5758

    • @memyself7956
      @memyself7956 Рік тому +3

      @@elizvan5758 The core of who she is is because of God. Her parents should be ashamed of themselves & begging her for forgiveness. They failed her.

    • @NYChica23
      @NYChica23 Рік тому +3

      @@elizvan5758 Considering Derrick has been the most supportive of her when the news that she was sexually abused as a child and then forced to lie on camera to protect her abuser all came out, I'd hardly call him greedy and revengeful. If anything, it's God (not the counterfeit version her parents claim to serve) who has provided her with the strength to find that voice to speak out on her past traumas and hopefully help others who are in similar situations

    • @WECrow1
      @WECrow1 7 місяців тому

      Do they still follow the same religion? It isn't a book I would want to read if they still follow those rules

  • @melissag.1335
    @melissag.1335 Рік тому +62

    The level of courage these two have is exactly what the world needs. No religion or faith based community is immune to control, manipulation, lies, intimidation and rejection. Many women and men who question these powerful circles (even within families) are rejected. Thats the hardest part for the ones that decide to stand tall in courage. It happens in Muslim, Jewish and Hindu communities as well. I hope they find their community and also keep speaking up. So many of us need more of this. There is nothing worse than your parents or family turning their back on you when you speak the truth and say no, its not ok. It comes at a cost, but know that its a just cause. They are doing the right thing. I hope they continue to live wonderful lives and never feel alone.

  • @RaiyaSaleem-vn6jw
    @RaiyaSaleem-vn6jw Рік тому +974

    There really aren't words to describe how profoundly sad it is that Jill, Jessa and all of those children have to carry the weight of their parents choices - the choice to be in the cult, the choice to be on television and the choice to protect a pedo

    • @saraz9017
      @saraz9017 Рік тому +18

      Also the media for choosing to publish the information.

    • @RaiyaSaleem-vn6jw
      @RaiyaSaleem-vn6jw Рік тому

      Ohhh yes that part too. The documentary Shiny Happy People did a good job at illustrating how aware TLC was that unhealthy things were happening. The people behind that show should have done more to protect those children. Same with the Fox interview post Josh scandal (Josh having been in the room).Ugh youre so right@@saraz9017

    • @michmex220
      @michmex220 Рік тому +31

      And still not get paid ! I never did like the father , I always new he was wired! Now Jill has confirmed my feelings👍🏼

    • @thewkovacs316
      @thewkovacs316 Рік тому +30

      they could have gotten josh real help when he was younger....they chose not to
      the parents are evil

    • @Wisepati
      @Wisepati Рік тому +14

      @@saraz9017 I think it’s good the media is publishing the information, because otherwise people would continue to think this type of thing was the way to raise children, and their life was perfect.

  • @katiehernandez8114
    @katiehernandez8114 Рік тому +226

    I think her parents need held accountable for not protecting her and her sisters. It's sad that they are in denial.

    • @countrygirlokla
      @countrygirlokla Рік тому +23

      100%. But when all youre focused on is breeding, there isnt much time to actually raise them all...imagine that. 🙄

    • @raystacks
      @raystacks Рік тому +6

      Absolutely this is horrific

    • @Flufferz626
      @Flufferz626 Рік тому +7

      ​@@countrygirloklahave a classmate from high-school and he and his wife have their 7th child due February of next year. Their oldest just turned 8 years old and he is 33. They both discussed having a "full quiver" of kids which really rubbed me wrong because the other time I heard that term was Andrea Yates.
      This kind of upbringing is so messed up. We're gonna try for a kid soon (I'm 33 he is 35) and we waited so long because this world is dangerous for a kid. As always, I guess. But I don't think a human can devote 24/7 time to a certain amount of kids without parentification or favoritism.

    • @memyself7956
      @memyself7956 Рік тому +8

      I would LOVE to see Jim Bob in prison with his sick son.

    • @tbella5186
      @tbella5186 Рік тому

      With the change in laws, the girls could actually press charges now. Hopefully one of them will.

  • @TamaraDix-rj5no
    @TamaraDix-rj5no Рік тому +52

    I really like her and how open and honest she is with everyone. Her husband is so supportive and their marriage seems to be a happy and healthy one. She gives people hope that you can have a horrible start in life and it will turn out well.

  • @donnackk5860
    @donnackk5860 Рік тому +952

    She is so brave.Her father is a disgrace.

    • @lindaloefflad4116
      @lindaloefflad4116 Рік тому +68

      Both parents are.

    • @pippadawg7037
      @pippadawg7037 Рік тому

      @@lindaloefflad4116 They are both sociopaths. Michelle reminds me of Erika Sifrit wife of Benjamin Sifrit. Erika would have followed Benjamin anywhere and done anything for him.

    • @kristineberger3621
      @kristineberger3621 Рік тому +21

      I never liked the Father....Jim Bob.
      He kinda gave me the creeps.

    • @UnderTheTableGremlin
      @UnderTheTableGremlin Рік тому

      So are Michelle and those pedophiles Josh and Bill Gothard.

    • @sarahrose1454
      @sarahrose1454 Рік тому +20

      Michelle is no better😡

  • @mariyaa111
    @mariyaa111 Рік тому +383

    I ❤ that her husband has been her strength and her protector. When you come from a house where NEVER felt safe in, having someone who’s number 1 goal in life is to protect you, can help you heal in so many ways. I hope that she stays away from them.
    It’s so funny that the parents claim that they, “live their lives for Christ,” but their adult children need their permission to do anything. .. sounds more like a cult to me ! 🤔

    • @LizRealGirlBeauty
      @LizRealGirlBeauty Рік тому +17

      It's about power, control and greed for JB.

    • @TJMoolTricia
      @TJMoolTricia Рік тому +13

      Me too. I come from a similar gaslighting, religious abuse background, and it is amazing to have a deeply supportive spouse. It has been a gift for healing, and one I always let him know Im grateful for.

    • @Nursing609
      @Nursing609 Рік тому +9

      Cult is exactly correct.

    • @Nursing609
      @Nursing609 Рік тому +3

      ​@@LizRealGirlBeautyYes!! Exactly greed, money thank you

    • @moonbaby2212
      @moonbaby2212 Рік тому

      Oh he’s a good guy na he’s a bigot he’s a transphobia

  • @bec6384
    @bec6384 Рік тому +60

    I don’t even have time to read her book because I have two babies, but I bought it. Mostly in support of Jill and Derrick. So proud of them.

    • @alisonhall800
      @alisonhall800 Рік тому +5

      Listen to her audiobook! I’m a young mom too and I just finished listening.

    • @colleenkeller9226
      @colleenkeller9226 Рік тому +5

      Consider audiobooks in general. You can listen to just about any genre while busy with the kids and home.

    • @killerpeguins
      @killerpeguins Рік тому +5

      It was a quick read! I have 2under2 and was amazed by how quick I read it. It was so good!!

  • @lisasnyder8485
    @lisasnyder8485 Рік тому +268

    I almost fell out of my chair when the interviewer said to Jill I didn't know that while you and your sister were giving that interview that Josh was sitting in the room watching !! WTF ? An incredibly difficult interview was made so much worse by not only Jim Bob telling them to lie they were also forced to sit their and look at their abuser while answering questions. That right there was vile Jim Bob is disgusting and shame on their mom for not protecting them or standing up for her girls... They will both have to answer for that when judged !!

    • @beckee6282
      @beckee6282 Рік тому +34

      As a victim myself that angered me to my core. To be traumatized over and over again in such profound ways. These women have been through so much. Their parents are demonic, ironically enough

    • @kpl-CA
      @kpl-CA Рік тому

      Yup, that choice to brutalize their disposable daughters in front of their preening, arrogant, controlling, entitled "golden child" psychopath spawn...
      was *PROOF* "Jim-Boob" and "MooShill" are absolutely complicit, knowing, EVIL abusers, manipulators and exploiters.
      For MONEY.
      They deliberately bred abuse victims.
      "Jim-Boob" and "MooShill" claim to be "holier than thou" and "superior" and "righteous" when they're really just LAZY, vain, disgusting money grubbers, fame addicts, perverts, and loser political wannabes.
      They aren't even CAPABLE of decent, ethical behaviour any more, they have sunk so far.
      They can't even recognize normalcy, decency or kindness.
      Run, girls, run. Don't let them treat you like livestock any more.

  • @wisdomlistens20
    @wisdomlistens20 Рік тому +222

    So a daughter is on a show to tell her side of her journey and story of her life with abuse from her family and brother. Her parents response is they would rather not deal with this in public like some holier then thou response! How disgusting! Considering they were ready to send their abused daughters on a media tour to save their gross son and abusive brand! Can they even hear themselves speak anymore ?

    • @mktay2067
      @mktay2067 Рік тому +3

      It actually is common sense and almost all counsellors and physiologist would encourage people to work out their issues with others privately or with mediators vs going "public" with their dirty laundry. 🤷 If you want reconciliation this is going to sink it. If you want to tell your story for the world to become the jury than its great.

    • @Sharon-yp1ci
      @Sharon-yp1ci Рік тому

      ​@@mktay2067 You missed the salient point of wisdomlistens20 which is the psychological covert abuse that the children endured under the abusive and twisted fundamental religious indoctrination of their parents Jim-Bob and Michelle. The children's entire existence was made into a performative public art show in service of protecting a brand and projecting a false image of pureness and moral superiority. Those kids lived in secret and shame....the first step in healing is unmasking and bringing the secrets to light so the shame can die. The goal is not reconciliation. That may come later. Those kids should not have to carry the secrets and shame in order to protect the parents anymore. Enough. It is very telling that the parents put that manipulative statement out about privacy when they are the ones who made everything about the kids life public....except of course, when the kids were taught and coached to "keep the dirty laundry" secret.

    • @daniellesnyder1244
      @daniellesnyder1244 Рік тому +22

      @@mktay2067You are correct, however, the point is that they shoved their kids into the public’s eye (all the while being very much against tv of any kind in their own household) and now all of a sudden want their privacy. Jill absolutely deserves the right to be able to set the record straight when she was abused so abominably by her own family.

    • @mommysaver71
      @mommysaver71 Рік тому +10

      @@mktay2067except Jim Bob doesn’t allow them to speak to counselors. Fundies are not allowed to seek help in that way. They are to get help from God 😠 Jill is the only one from that family who has gotten help for mental health issues from what Josh did and how Jim Bob now treats her.

    • @music4thesoul80
      @music4thesoul80 Рік тому +12

      ​@@mktay2067 - You obviously know *nothing* about Jim Bob Duggar. Jill has tried for years to get her parents to agree to private family counselling but Jim Bob won't have anything to do with it and won't let his wife or any of his other children participate in therapy either. Jim Bob doesn't want reconciliation with Jill, he wants total and complete control of her life even though she's an adult married woman with three children of her own. Also have you ever stopped to consider that Jill wants to share her story with the world because for the first time in her life she actually has a voice that isn't being shut down and controlled by her abusive father??

  • @DancingOnGlass89
    @DancingOnGlass89 Рік тому +46

    I couldn't watch the show growing up to much, it made me feel ill. However knowing of it and seeing what has happened since, Im proud of them for speaking up. Good to see she's found herself and someone wonderful is there to "move on" and grow with.

  • @paranrmlgrl
    @paranrmlgrl Рік тому +695

    As someone who grew up in essentially the same “Christian” community (right down to the curriculum used to Homeschool me), it’s so sad that this is not abnormal in the community. 😢 I have decided not to raise my children in this way and I have distanced myself from the faith entirely. It’s all a mask for getting away with horrible behavior.

    • @jgirl982
      @jgirl982 Рік тому +16

      Same

    • @KingAngel4Life
      @KingAngel4Life Рік тому +37

      Oh my goodness. I’m feeling like I can’t even say I’m a Christian anymore. I’m choosing to say I’m spiritual. I was raised in the church. It’s sad what’s coming out about many.

    • @Weatheredstorms1
      @Weatheredstorms1 Рік тому +48

      Totally agree. I grew up in the same way. In fact when my sister and I grew up we were conditioned to stay in abusive marriages because it was a “sin” to leave such a situation. My life wasn’t my own unless my parents and essentially the church thought it was ok and gave their blessing. I remember some family members not in the church were able to marry or divorce freely and my mom was like “she wanted a family” and felt a sense of sympathy for her. And it was then I felt this sense of if I want my life to be happy I need to start making my own decisions and not worry if I have my parents blessing. I parted ways with their church. I got a divorce (a sin in their eyes) and married a wonderful man I don’t have to worry about killing me and yet its an even bigger sin in their eyes.

    • @gaminggrannyyaall
      @gaminggrannyyaall Рік тому +16

      I understand I was raised similarly, still in therapy. My husband left almost 4 years ago and we're still married just separated. He lives in his parents house and is with a mutual friend of ours. I would have Never done this to him. Thank God for my sons and daughter in love, who live with and take care of me. I have been with him since I was 17, and we were married 30 years when he left. I don't know if I can ever let go and raise grandkids together but I will have to try for my kids and grandkids.

    • @ranicesmeragulio9299
      @ranicesmeragulio9299 Рік тому +21

      This is not true love or religion.

  • @ObamAmerican48
    @ObamAmerican48 Рік тому +184

    Derick is an attorney?! That's awesome 😊👍🏼 Good for him and Jill, making their own life separate from the sickness of Jim Bob and Michelle.

    • @EvelineUK
      @EvelineUK Рік тому +11

      Yes, and that helped so much when Jim Bob decided to try and trick his kids yet again in signing a new contract, this time demanding them to always be available for filming, including their kids and future children (!), and.. an NDA. Jill did not sign, the others seemingly did as nobody else dares to speak out. It's all just so heartbreaking, but so glad she had Derick by her side

    • @elizvan5758
      @elizvan5758 Рік тому

      Yeah but is he a working attorney..did he only graduate from law school but fail the Barre? We do not know and have not heard.

    • @elizvan5758
      @elizvan5758 Рік тому

      Jill had signed these kind of contracts in the past. I mean, she was already an adult and as one had been filming and signing these contracts before ...AS AN ADULT. Her adult sisters had signed the same contract, no problem either! Come on! This was nothing new to Jill! Untill now, this was never a problem...but now it is?? I smell a rat...and I think it may be Derrick related.

    • @MandieTerrier
      @MandieTerrier Рік тому

      ​@@elizvan5758he is working as an ADA in Oklahoma

    • @MandieTerrier
      @MandieTerrier Рік тому

      ​@@elizvan5758it had been a problem for six or more years

  • @xocoolchickxo
    @xocoolchickxo Рік тому +78

    I like what she said at the end. You can have positive and negative experiences, they can co-exist and you just gotta give yourself grace.
    Love Jill for speaking out and using her voice.

  • @daniellesnyder1244
    @daniellesnyder1244 Рік тому +144

    I’m so proud of Jill. And the gaslighting that goes on with her parents is, sadly, not surprising. Funny how they say the way to not deal with this is in the public eye when they were JUST FINE doing so when it meant making money off the kids. Shameful. In the end, her parents have to answer to
    God, and that’s far more sobering.

    • @Nursing609
      @Nursing609 Рік тому +3

      Yes exactly they are both fake ugh never could stand them.
      Hopefully their kids are living happy normal lived now

    • @Amy-466
      @Amy-466 Рік тому

      Not a GOD believer but yes, they will have what is coming to them.

    • @zedwpd
      @zedwpd Місяць тому

      @@Amy-466 telling everyone you are not a God believer is proselytizing, is it not?

  • @lifewithfartun3726
    @lifewithfartun3726 Рік тому +183

    To Jim Bob and Michelle, if you didn’t want the story told, then you should not have done what you did.
    Wishing the best to Jill and Derick as they heal from this and move forward ❤

  • @AngelaVEdwards
    @AngelaVEdwards Рік тому +86

    *Something Jill Missed*
    *I got Jill's book yesterday and was able to finish it same day. It was a great book. I would warn Jill, however, that the issues she had with her father did not **_only_** belong to her father. Her mother contributed as well and her mother could have done a lot of things to offset some of the things her father did and she didn't. Her mother has just as many "issues" as her father does but Jill doesn't see it. She speaks of her mother as if she were the most wonderful person on earth, hands down. No, Jill. The issue you have is with your **_parents,_** not just your father.*

    • @tannergrace9996
      @tannergrace9996 Рік тому +11

      Well said!!!

    • @lisabrents223
      @lisabrents223 Рік тому +19

      She’s not there yet. Has to get there on her own time. :-/

    • @goodenoughgirl8102
      @goodenoughgirl8102 Рік тому +1

      So true. I could say similar for myself. It took me forever to see how my mother really is. Hopefully she will figure that out in good time.

    • @Shivuara
      @Shivuara 9 місяців тому +8

      There’s always an enabler and an abuser in these types of situations. Rarely is there ever just one abusive parent.

    • @debrasnipes7431
      @debrasnipes7431 5 місяців тому +1

      The mother is just as much a victim as Jill. She also was taught from an early age that she has no choice. So yes, the issue is with the father.

  • @vickykulig5080
    @vickykulig5080 Рік тому +191

    I preordered her book months ago, and I’m really looking forward to reading it and no one should ever have to go through what Jill went through, I hope this book gives her peace and her and Derek can live their life to the fullest

    • @skyeblue5669
      @skyeblue5669 Рік тому

      .. WHY

    • @meomy29
      @meomy29 Рік тому +8

      @@skyeblue5669 Jill has a story to tell. You must be somewhat interested or you wouldn't have clicked on this video.

    • @skyeblue5669
      @skyeblue5669 Рік тому

      @@meomy29 .. Everyone has a FAKE story to tell for MONEY right...

    • @mcrchickenluvr
      @mcrchickenluvr Рік тому

      @@skyeblue5669fake? So I guess you haven’t paid attention to the fact that her oldest brother is a well known child molester.

    • @addie-eileenpaige6460
      @addie-eileenpaige6460 Рік тому +2

      I burned through it in a day. You will LOVE it!

  • @Airbubblepodcast
    @Airbubblepodcast Рік тому +309

    It’s completely disgusting how the sisters have been exploited by the parents. Absolutely sickening. I’ve watched the show from the beginning and always had a strange feeling. So when that came out about Josh I can’t say I was in shock. The parents should be ashamed for all the hell they put their kids through.

    • @Bex81
      @Bex81 Рік тому +12

      Same here! I watched the show from the beginning and always had a sense that something just wasn't right, especially with Josh. Very sad how the kids were exploited and still ARE being exploited. I'm so glad that Jill got out.

    • @laurac86
      @laurac86 Рік тому +9

      I never watched a full episode but have seen clips here and there but I always knew there was something weird about them and it always surprised me that they had such die hard fans that thought everything was totally normal about them! There’s so many kids that now have to deal with the trauma they’ve endured it’s just so sad. Good for the ones who are speaking out!

    • @Nan-1017
      @Nan-1017 Рік тому

      @@laurac86yea, the parents should be charged with abuse and the younger children put in protective custody. It’s a freakin cult…very abusive and harmful. Sick 🤦🏻‍♀️

    • @jrmorrissey207
      @jrmorrissey207 Рік тому +5

      but...but... they're "Christians"

    • @melindaturner2527
      @melindaturner2527 Рік тому +5

      I really think there will be a special place in hell for them for what they have done!

  • @margaretstroud1071
    @margaretstroud1071 Рік тому +22

    I'm so glad they were able to get away. I really feel for Jill and what she went through. I absolutely applaud her, and what she is doing. Going through so much and coming out a better person. I hope she continues to persevere through her struggles. God bless her.❤

  • @bobbersg8058
    @bobbersg8058 Рік тому +17

    I am thankful that Jill is finally free from the control of her parents. Derick seems very loving and supportive of his wife. Their sons will have a much different childhood than their mother experienced. There are so many good times ahead for Jill and Derick and their boys.

  • @ctin904
    @ctin904 Рік тому +56

    So sorry for Jill but so proud of her!

  • @kimmontenegro2258
    @kimmontenegro2258 Рік тому +26

    I remember telling my friends who watched this show, that the fallout after everyone grew up would be interesting. Time is always the best teller of truth.

    • @Jazzy_G0
      @Jazzy_G0 6 місяців тому

      My sister and I grew up watching the duggars. She always pointed out that there’s 19 of them and that there has to be at least one who’s in the closet 😂

  • @francesauraliadelacroix
    @francesauraliadelacroix Рік тому +33

    Very brave!! Sending you all love ❤

  • @jessicarobinson5816
    @jessicarobinson5816 Рік тому +38

    I am so happy to see Jill and Jinger living a happy life. Thinking and doing whats best for themselves and their families ❤

  • @AmySmile
    @AmySmile Рік тому +74

    Funny how Jim Bob found a husband for Jill (and some of the other daughters) who was so good for her that after marriage opened her eyes to the nature of her family.
    Somehow it seems that they have a blessed marriage together now

    • @aro4781
      @aro4781 Рік тому +3

      Most of the girls were matched with guys that were God fearing and into the same things as them. Turns out those daughters have blossomed and created a healthy distance from their upbringing.

    • @AmySmile
      @AmySmile Рік тому +2

      Exactly what I was trying to say 😊 except I'm not so great with words

    • @vw4822
      @vw4822 Рік тому +4

      @AmySmile Yes, lucky for them they were not despicable humans like her father.

    • @Nursing609
      @Nursing609 Рік тому

      Amen

    • @NancySimback
      @NancySimback Рік тому

      Amy,That is a very profound statement.Thank you.

  • @PossumLover1111
    @PossumLover1111 Рік тому +23

    Took me a couple nights to read and finish the book. It was a page turner. A great read. Such a lovely couple and so glad they are independent and live freely in their own way. God bless them and their 3 sons.

  • @rachelv93
    @rachelv93 Рік тому +22

    Jill is so well spoken. I feel for her but am happy she is doing the right thing for her and her family

  • @StarryNightsAreForDreams
    @StarryNightsAreForDreams Рік тому +41

    I can’t wait to read this book that I ordered well ahead of its release date. It’s been a long time coming. I am so amazed by Jill’s courage and strength; but most of all that she and Derrick stepped away from her childhood to create a life for their own family that honors God and lets them at the same time be true to themselves.

  • @tpenquin.
    @tpenquin. Рік тому +24

    Jill you are a strong woman!! Good luck to you in the future with your beautiful family! ❤

  • @glendagai
    @glendagai Рік тому +26

    Jill has been the most inspiring child of this family. Thank God she married an educated man. He is the most impressive husband of all the girls.

    • @elizvan5758
      @elizvan5758 Рік тому

      He went to law school AFTER marring her...yeah..to possibly get back and show 'em all? Before that, he had no real career or job. He and Jill were going on missions to third world countries at that time. Did they come back broke? Needed money? Did he try to get more from papa Jim Bob, couldn't succeed, THEN went to law school? He did graduate and Jill posted that! But...is he a WORKING attorney? I never saw a post for him passing the Barre. He also co-wrote this book. Is he currently hard up for money? Is this book one of revenge and one that Derrick talked Jill into for money and revenge?? Idk. I have a lot of questions here.

    • @mariamedina6014
      @mariamedina6014 Рік тому +1

      He was an accountant before he married Jill. He use to work at Walmart headquarters he was a manager there in the tax division area. It’s in the book

    • @Amy-466
      @Amy-466 Рік тому

      @@elizvan5758 Impressed he got his degree. Good for him!

  • @lynnkalles2055
    @lynnkalles2055 Рік тому +73

    What an evil cult. Jim Bob truly needs to be investigated for protecting josh for so many years. And greed is 1 of the 7 deadliest sins. He stole from each 1 of his children

    • @missaamane8580
      @missaamane8580 Рік тому +6

      Bingo

    • @bkirstie
      @bkirstie Рік тому

      bet he’s a pedo. michelle should divorce his ass.

    • @benu_bird
      @benu_bird 7 місяців тому

      It's also against what Jesus said. He said to sell all your possessions, give the money to the poor, and follow me. None of these "Christians" do that.

  • @LisaMarie-rh5yn
    @LisaMarie-rh5yn Рік тому +6

    They are both so exceptional. So happy to see they've not only made it, but are thriving.

  • @juliakaas4561
    @juliakaas4561 Рік тому +8

    So glad this is finally getting coverage!!!!!

  • @kimberlyhonig8030
    @kimberlyhonig8030 Рік тому +29

    I love how she has such a supportive partner. She flipping needs it. She needs a husband to stand by her. They’re very lucky to have each other.

  • @bongwaterbaths
    @bongwaterbaths Рік тому +9

    How rich that the Duggar parents now don’t feel it’s appropriate to address things publicly, yet it was fully appropriate to raise their children on television.

  • @arielm1112
    @arielm1112 Рік тому +4

    I am so unbelievably PROUD of Jill. It takes incredible courage and honesty to stand up against abusive and controlling family members.

  • @CathRas95
    @CathRas95 Рік тому +10

    My father always talked to me and insisted that I never, ever, ever, sign a contract or any document without reading it first. I bought my first car when I was 18 and the dealership was shocked that I sat there and read every word of every page.

  • @angelahodge6902
    @angelahodge6902 Рік тому +22

    She’s done a wonderful job with her family. It’s been a pleasure watching her grow.

  • @flutey28
    @flutey28 Рік тому +16

    So proud of you Jill. Speak your truth, the world believes you

  • @julietteoscaralphanovember2223
    @julietteoscaralphanovember2223 Рік тому +15

    JimBob should be so ashamed of himself. He's a poor excuse for a dad. Michelle is no better, she allowed JimBob to control everything and stood by while her daughters were abused. Both are horrible!!
    To use your own children and never pay them is sickening.

    • @nicoleortiz9884
      @nicoleortiz9884 Рік тому

      Michelle was just doing what her god told her, whatever her husband says....

  • @Cantetinza17
    @Cantetinza17 Рік тому +8

    I love that all the kids are coming out and telling their truth. Especially the girls.

  • @Bananas904
    @Bananas904 Рік тому +17

    Never sign legally binding documents:
    1. that you do not read in their entirety before signing
    2. that you do not have reviewed by an attorney
    3. before, during, or immediately after highly emotional events

    • @g.flesch9731
      @g.flesch9731 Рік тому +2

      It is her father who made her sign the document & she was not fully understanding what she was signing. For a father to do this knowing he will make money that belonged to his kids is a sin. Maybe Jim Bob needs to understand how much of a sinner he is. That was financial abuse. Agree with your 3 points!
      Jill & Derek seem like a wonderful couple. Hope her book is a success.

    • @kellymcfalls1458
      @kellymcfalls1458 Рік тому +2

      @@g.flesch9731She still should have read it before she signed it

    • @kris78787
      @kris78787 Рік тому +1

      ​@@g.flesch9731 she was an adult though, if she doesn't read and understand what she's signing then that's on her. When you're over 18 you're fully capable of reading a contract for yourself and making your own decisions.

    • @kris78787
      @kris78787 Рік тому +1

      ​@@kellymcfalls1458I agree, she was over 18, she was an adult

  • @crystaldon4995
    @crystaldon4995 Рік тому +6

    Those girls. I'm so proud of them. It takes a lot of courage and their husbands are helping them so much. Praise God.

  • @laurao8099
    @laurao8099 Рік тому +37

    One thing that drives me nuts more than anyting it's what I call "Image bearing parents". Parents who constantly need for their kids to help them make them "look good". I have been a nanny for over 25 years and it is usually pretty obvious when parents put the image of the family on the children just to make sure everybody looks good. I remember watching 19kidsandcounting and thinking I cannot wait until 10 years from now and we hear more about what's going on in this household. That being said of course I watch all of their UA-cam family channels. I was raised to be atheist by a mom who was Brazen a missionary family so the whole obey your mother and father thing was really interesting to me as I went to church at 16 knowing full well that my mom would not approve LOL I was taught the significance over obeying God before obeying parents.

  • @Earthy-Artist
    @Earthy-Artist Рік тому +7

    Jill & Jinger are both such strong, intelligent, good women, I'm so happy they have broken free from this family cult but still have kept God in their lives. I'm happy they have wonderful husbands to support and encourage them and their own healthier lives now.

  • @kerrylennox7359
    @kerrylennox7359 Рік тому +49

    Its funny that that JB & Michelle dont want to discuss their family problems with the media now and yet they exploited their whole family on a TV show for years and went on every other TV show to promote it..🤷🏻‍♀️

    • @itsokaynatalie
      @itsokaynatalie Рік тому +4

      Exactly! It’s ridiculous

    • @CityChristina
      @CityChristina Рік тому

      Christians are the biggest hypocrites on Earth, what do you expect?

  • @mollykopp3482
    @mollykopp3482 Рік тому +4

    Good for them. Breaking out of trauma and ending toxic patterns her parents created.

  • @flowerpower3618
    @flowerpower3618 Рік тому +15

    This isn’t about loving the Lord, having a big ole family, homeschooling, even dressing modestly . It’s about control.

  • @johannabender4998
    @johannabender4998 Рік тому +2

    Jill is so unbelievably brave! So proud for the way she has stood up against the adversity.

  • @christinegivens9048
    @christinegivens9048 Рік тому +18

    More like she’s outed her father for exploiting her and her siblings. That title is too kind. Jim Bob Duggar is an evil man.

  • @Boots_293
    @Boots_293 Рік тому +19

    My mum used to watch this show. I have so much respect for Jill, she’s so strong and I’m proud of her for getting out!

  • @infullbloomtime7479
    @infullbloomtime7479 Рік тому +9

    I’m so happy she’s finding her voice

  • @teamcougars
    @teamcougars Рік тому +6

    I admire Jill’s honesty and willingness to do the hard work 😢❤❤

  • @MatthewsFav
    @MatthewsFav Рік тому +7

    Good for you Jill on becoming your own person. Wishing you all the best with your husband and beautiful babies.

  • @lydiasantiago2439
    @lydiasantiago2439 5 місяців тому +3

    I absolutely love Derek... who's helped her flourish Jill into her own. She's a beautiful young woman wishing bith if them and their family all the best
    ❤❤❤

  • @anjalisesen449
    @anjalisesen449 Рік тому +25

    So happy for her and am incredibly impressed by her bravery to speak out about this. So many of us were raised in this type of religious environment and its incredibly damaging to children.

  • @Lisajed
    @Lisajed Рік тому +5

    Her husband really loves and cares about Jill deeply he's her emotional Rock you can tell❤❤

  • @PrincessPowerranger
    @PrincessPowerranger Рік тому +16

    Wait Josh was present behind the cameras during the Meghan Kelly interview, gross

  • @amycolunga9659
    @amycolunga9659 Рік тому +2

    I have always enjoyed watching the show, but always had some type of feeling that the parents were pretty strict and I always felt that how they did things was very very different., and some of it seemed a bit unusual. I am so proud of each, and everyone of the girls for standing up for themselves, and moving forward in their lives, and having the courage to be strong to do what they have to do for themselves for their marriage and their children. Everyone deserves to live their lives the way they wish. When we are children, our parents raise of how they want, but once you become an adult, and especially once you get married, it is up to you to decide how you want to continue living your life and that’s up to you to decide how you’re going to raise your children. I read jills book on an audiobook because I am blind and really enjoyed reading it. I pray that Jill, Ginger and Jessa will continue to live happy, safe, comfortable, peaceful lives. 🙏🥰

  • @tracymorgan5386
    @tracymorgan5386 Рік тому +34

    This idyllic family the Duggers portrayed never fooled me from the get go, I knew it wasn’t realistic, healthy nor sustainable and eventually something would have to give, but I knew it would take a while. I am very proud of Jill for telling the truth and not giving her brother a pass and frankly all the kids need to sue the parents for their share of the money that was made.

  • @jennsnook145
    @jennsnook145 Рік тому +2

    So glad she's speaking out

  • @ExposeZionism-f5l
    @ExposeZionism-f5l Рік тому +14

    And this is why you should never invite the media into your life.

  • @sarahjones9393
    @sarahjones9393 6 місяців тому +2

    She is brave and I admire her and jinger for speaking up ! The parents are the problem ! And good on Derrick for being so supportive and sticking up for her!

  • @AlexZ-lc6nl
    @AlexZ-lc6nl Рік тому +10

    My wife is 29. Her sister 37. They still follow their mother and father as if they were 12. their family call it the “circle of trust”. I find it extremely manipulative. Specially when the mom is all or nothing and the dad says things like “you think you’re better than us” when I don’t want to revolve my life around their plans….sometimes I wish I would have courted my wife longer. And also, I strongly consider every day moving far away to avoid contact as much as possible…

    • @rachelsoto6857
      @rachelsoto6857 Рік тому +1

      Hello Alex I agree with you move far away from them.

    • @joyceconnolly1065
      @joyceconnolly1065 8 місяців тому +1

      ​@@rachelsoto6857 - I fully agree!!

  • @maegand1791
    @maegand1791 Рік тому +39

    Wow she seems so strong and self aware. She's been through so much trauma, her upbringing just as much as her sexual assault. I hope she keeps that outlook and strength. Sometimes trauma can sneak up on you when you think you've moved on in little sneaky ways. All the best to her and her siblings.

  • @meeks1201
    @meeks1201 Рік тому +26

    Ugh and their oldest brother who violated the girls and got caught being on Ashley Madison, toxic dysfunctional parenting hiding behind religion 🙄

    • @Katch.22
      @Katch.22 Рік тому +1

      i wonder what that guy believes in. if he believes in God he knows he's screwed.

  • @jojomakes
    @jojomakes Рік тому +4

    $50K an episode when you have 20+ people on the show is ridiculous. Shame on TLC as well.

  • @jolenepayne1378
    @jolenepayne1378 Рік тому +40

    Mad respect for the Dillard Family🎉❤👍

  • @760mom
    @760mom Рік тому +7

    I'm not surprised how this all turned out. I saw it coming a mile away. I've been her. I'm happy she found her way out and has such a supportive partner.

  • @jeanetteh.9240
    @jeanetteh.9240 Рік тому +45

    Poor woman. How wonderful that God brought her a husband trained to see reality.

    • @christinegivens9048
      @christinegivens9048 Рік тому +24

      Not sure “god” needs the credit for that. And she’s hardly a “poor woman”. She’s a strong and brave woman. A woman who took charge of her own life. Well done Jill. You deserve all the credit here.

    • @AnastaciaInCleveland
      @AnastaciaInCleveland Рік тому +3

      @@christinegivens9048 Hear, hear!

    • @caseycat
      @caseycat Рік тому +2

      Ooooooffff this comment ain't it

    • @CityChristina
      @CityChristina Рік тому +1

      God doesn't exist, be quiet.

    • @deliciouscolours
      @deliciouscolours Рік тому +1

      ​@@CityChristina😂 if God doesn't exist you shouldn't be so bothered by Him.

  • @allison2941
    @allison2941 Рік тому +2

    God bless these two. They’ve gone through so much as a young couple. Praying they can maintain their courage and strength and love for each other.

  • @Esperanza218
    @Esperanza218 Рік тому +15

    Good for her! She deserves to be happy & live her life on her terms….not her parents who clearly are dysfunctional

  • @magtag853
    @magtag853 Рік тому +1

    Fantastic. I am so happy their union is so healthy and happy. She really lucked out!

  • @prettymesmerizing
    @prettymesmerizing Рік тому +45

    I am atheist and am closer to religious principles then they will ever get! Being kind, genuine and respectful should be what a person strives for and yet these people seem to focus on greed, selfishness and dark secrets. Poor children, Jill and her husband seem sweet though.

    • @kathyharmon2093
      @kathyharmon2093 Рік тому

      Just because they “ call” themselves Christians doesn’t make them Christians

    • @lillianp-yj6yx
      @lillianp-yj6yx Рік тому +13

      @@kathyharmon2093 They seem obsessed with image and being perfect. Being a Christian isn't about being perfect, it's owning up to when you do wrong. Not sweeping it under the rug

    • @Negaduck-h8f
      @Negaduck-h8f Рік тому +3

      All atheists do is replace one god with another.

    • @Izzy-cp8yt
      @Izzy-cp8yt Рік тому +15

      ​@@Negaduck-h8f atheism is the lack of belief in a godly figure, so how in the heck do you come to the conclusion we have a "different god"?

    • @rachelkessinger2295
      @rachelkessinger2295 Рік тому +1

      Good works mean nothing without Jesus.

  • @patriot7986
    @patriot7986 Рік тому +4

    What a strong young lady ❤

  • @mardellahenrichs4121
    @mardellahenrichs4121 Рік тому +18

    JB should go to jail for ripping of his kids . He thinks & acts like he’s so God like . When he’s really listening to the devil .

    • @Katch.22
      @Katch.22 Рік тому +1

      dang. good point... i was wondering why josh is so damn dumb but look at his father...

  • @malcsbigsis
    @malcsbigsis Місяць тому +2

    Funny how they were happy to use the media when it was to protect Josh but not their abused daughters.

  • @katiebear
    @katiebear Рік тому +7

    I’m so delighted to see Jill doing so well. I always thought it would be Jinger who would break away first and write the “tell all” book when they were growing up. I worry most for Jana now. Hope she gets out.

    • @Summer-bo9rw
      @Summer-bo9rw Рік тому

      I feel like Jana sticks around the family home to mother hawk her younger sisters still living in the home to protect them.

  • @soakitin-artisansoap8317
    @soakitin-artisansoap8317 Рік тому +8

    ❤❤❤❤❤❤
    So proud of you Jill!! No person should be manipulated into a lifelong contract. For Petes sake, your his daughter!! Shame on both her parents!

  • @ashlieelizabeth8170
    @ashlieelizabeth8170 Рік тому +4

    Derick is an attorney? Good for him that's awesome 👏! They deserve to be heard and they have a lot of strength to come out---sharing makes us aware and hold those accountable. Im so glad to see these kids better their lives and start over, getting away from that cesspool and not be like their culty parents

  • @janem2684
    @janem2684 Рік тому +2

    I think she is very brave, and it's lovely to see her husband support her.

  • @ALiz86
    @ALiz86 Рік тому +3

    Prayers for healing after being treated so terribly.

  • @VictoriaJ-xw4fm
    @VictoriaJ-xw4fm 11 місяців тому +1

    I’m reading her book right now and it’s so good. I highly recommend it. Prayers for healing for her and the whole family.

  • @itsokaynatalie
    @itsokaynatalie Рік тому +14

    LOL. When Jim Bob and Michelle said they don’t believe the correct avenue for dealing with conflict is to handle it publicly. Got it. So it’s totally fine to publicly film your kids for tons of money for all of those years, but not when you start looking bad, right?

  • @heatherspenshaw
    @heatherspenshaw Рік тому +1

    I've been waiting for these girls to grow up and one of them to say something! Finally!

  • @gemmawatts6543
    @gemmawatts6543 Рік тому +5

    Great Job Jill! I am so proud of you!!!

  • @Moving_Forward247
    @Moving_Forward247 Рік тому +1

    I am not against strict dating rules or gender norms-that is normal in most of the world.
    I am against financially exploiting your children, protecting your child’s abuser, and putting money ahead of the emotional well being of your family. It is wrong to ask your child to sign a contract on their wedding night committing them to having their life in the public eye. To me it is showing that the father wanted to get it signed before her husband and her could join together and make decisions as a married couple.
    Prayed for this family tonight. So much brokenness. A lot to learn from them. Like Jill said there were positives and negatives about her upbringing. Important to acknowledge the positives-the mom always struck me as genuinely sweet and caring. But wow. What a tragedy to not take abuse seriously and protect those girls. and what a tragedy to value money more than relationships. Count the cost.

  • @ninamatthews8747
    @ninamatthews8747 Рік тому +3

    I’m so happy she’s free, I always knew this family was horrible and no good. There’s no way you can have 19 kids and raise them all with love and care.

  • @raedeankendall9169
    @raedeankendall9169 Рік тому

    The amount of times this family, these children had to swallow hard and keep a smile on their faces must have been in the millions. I’m just so happy some of them are choosing their own way of life. Bless them all!

  • @kjh6903
    @kjh6903 Рік тому +4

    I read the book in one day . I highly recommend it . Jill and Derrick are very brave and Jill remained respectful of her father throughout while also calling him out on his shady behavior and mistreatment of her . JB is quiet the master manipulator.

  • @christinahosey7-4-72
    @christinahosey7-4-72 6 місяців тому +1

    So proud of her and Jinger for speaking out.. so glad they were able to escape that "religion" and learn the truth.

  • @PhilAlumb
    @PhilAlumb Рік тому +6

    Jill is on a Journey...far from over.💯