Sir Sunday ka matlab hi badal Diya aapne, ab na movie na sitcoms only aapki videos dekhte hai weekend pe. Clarity towards life is growing like compound interest. Thankyou guruji 🙏😊
@@amu808 sach yahi hai. Pehle parents ke khilaf koi kuch bolta tha Mai gussa ho jati thi. But parents khud hi dhokha dete hai seedhe aur ache bacche ko
I tried to accommodate with my in-laws a lot but they always treated me poorly nd humiliated me a lot so I decided to stop trying to please them after 10 yrs. I helped them financially many times but now they behave tu kaun main kaun so that un ko money return na karni pade. How smart they r
😅same thing happening in my house guru gi we are living abroad but I must tell you that parents do get sympathetic towards the child who is merely making even if he is at fault. Parents think k yeh toh set ho gya apne app ab isko karna hai or us bache ko set karne mei vo sab kuch zok dete hai and dusre ko uske hak say vanchit kar daytay hai. Dusra b maa baap ko kahi nahi jane datya kyoki use unke zarurat hai. Or yeh sach hai k maa baap jiske sath waqt bitaye gay uske taraf zukav b rakhe gay, comfort zone B a jata hai. The deeds done by a far away son go unnoticed and deeds done by one being close is shown to society. This things might be coming up now in society but Punjab started seeing this 30 years back.
Sir this is exactly my situation right now...but the only difference is we are not connected with our family because they ask for money every time we go there..
Nice video, same situation hamare ghar me hai, my dad it elder son, our meri dadi mere chacha ke pass raheti hai, hum ek hi gao me rehete hai but donoke ghar alag alag hai property dadi ke nam par hai our hamara ghar dadaji ke nam par tha, my chacha is also nilkkama and fraud person and my dad is hardworking person also my mother is 90,s complete sanskari women, both my mom and dad took care of all of them financially bhi aur monthly requirements jese kirana saman vagare all his life but my dadi give all property to my uncle (nikkama) beta kyuki use beta hai (vanshka dipak) hai and onthe other hand mere dad ki me single child hu and i am the eldest granddaughter then also my dadi dont consider nor me neither my dad Moral of the story - my mom is a good sanskari aghyakari bahu and my dad always give money to my dadi we live in same village but still we don,t get anything in land plot and also jo hamara ghar hai dadaji ke nam par usmebhi dadi aur chacha ladmarrahehai apne hak ke liye Not always galti hamari hoti hai , kabhi kabhi na log hi saale kamine hote hai aap kuch bhi karo pyaar paroso thalime par aapko badleme sirf dhoka hi milega
I am 19 , there's a lot of resemble in it with my situation , there's something that I have learnt form this person is that whatever the case don't just go nd ruin your relationships with family , talking works, listening works but when there's right people to do it
Thank you so much for sharing. Very useful and inspiring story. The best use of human intelligence is this. Making everyone happy is an art.👍 Looking forward to learn more from you .😊
@@Bold-BeautifulMoney can never outweigh emotional support and care. And parents are right to be selfish, even if they are being selfish, because all 'seva' is being done by the one who lives nearby, they can't afford to offend him as who will take care of them? It's fine to be pragmatic specially for old people.
@@VaishaliTyagi-u7j How come one sibling becomes offended if parents are loving towards other child .How come parents great connection with the one they live is so insecure that parents have to behave in a certain way with the other kid.Even if the other kid doesn’t want that money only love still they are labelled as bad guys by the parents to make the one they are living with happy .This is ridiculous and fucked up .Well their loss .If they have to loose one of the kid to butter up the one they are living with .It can’t be a very good life and such siblings are losers who instead of being happy they are with their parents and getting larger chunk of money take their insecurity out on their own sibling .And idiots like you support this sickness .
Sir ye case study to samajh me aayi. Ab ek aur case study. Bade bete ne bachpan se mehnat ki, mauj masti kam ki ar jaise taise engineering karke ek company me job li. Wahi chhote bete ne pura mauj masti kiya, forcefully padhai complete kiya. Ab bade bete ko bachpan se iss tarah se groom kiya gya ki family to tumhe hi sambhalna hai. To jab job laga to father ke support role me aa gya. 25k se career start ki ar jitna ho sakta tha ghar pe paise bheje, ghar ke chhote chhote kharch, fir aage jake ar items khareede. Jo ab jod ke dekha jaye to 11-12 lakhs ke hote hai, sab kuch mila ke. Sath hi sath chhote bhai ko support kiya, career guidance deta rha, apni company me referral de kar job lagwayi. Ye sab krte krte bade bete ke paas kabhi paise nhi bachte the ki wo apni family start kar sake. To unse socha ki sath me kuch business try kiya jaye, kabhi stock market kabhi kuch inn sab chizo me hi fasa rha. Dusri taraf chhota beta samajhdaar nikla. Job lagte hi usne almost bhaag ke shaadi kr li. Uss samay paise uske paas bhi nhi the to almost 3-4 lakh ka bank loan liya, jise wo chuka nhi paya to bank walo ne pareshan krna shuru kar diya. Fir parents ne wo paise chukaye. Uss samay chhote bete ne bola ki mai dheere dheere krke chuka dunga. To cut the story short, aaj ke date me bada beta single hai, 38 ka ho gya hai, still struggle kr rha hai apni life ar career ke beech. Kafi depressed hai. Ghar pe paise deta hai, ghar ke liye samaan lena, mata pita ko ghumana, ye sab kr rha hai. Dusri taraf chhote bete ne na wo paise lautaye, ar shadi ke baad apni wife ko bhi bhut kam time ke liye hi ghar pe lata hai taki uski wife ko ghar ka kaam na krna pade. Nahi ghar k liye kuch samaan lata hai, na hi parents ko montly kuch deta hai. Baat yaha tak bhi theek hai. Lekin problem ye hai ki itna sab krne ke bawajood, parents chhote bete ke jyada kareeb hai, ar ab bade bete ko lagne laga hai ki jab to wo logo ki khwahishen puri krta hai tab tak hi logo ko usse matlab hai. Ar upar se saara gyan, farz, duty, responsibilities ka lecture bade bete ho hi milta hai jabki chhote bete ko agar ko dena bhi chahte hai to wo sunta nhi hai, to fir wo dete bhi nhi hai. Ar bade bete ko iss sab se jyada problem bhi nhi hai, lekin ghar pe basic izzat, samman ar adhikar to mile jiska wo haqdaar hai. Ar unka ye behavior dekhkar bada beta ar depressed ho rha hai.Loneliness + Depression + Feeling of leftout + Not having enough money/power ye bhut hi deadly combination hota hai. Guruji, bade bete ke liye koi suggestion? Sorry, comment thoda lamba ho gya.
bade bete ko apni life aur priorities per focus kerna chaiyeh,bada bhai khudh apni priorities per focus nahin karta isliye uski koi izzat nahin karta.bada bhai need to respect his own life & time before even parents & get married ASAP.
@@dreamsdesires Thanks for your concern. Lekin ye khud ke liye sochte kaise hai. I mean bachpan se mai aisa hi hu, so I think and behave accordingly. I actually don't know ki khud k liye sochte kaise hai. Please elaborate.
@@dreamsdesires ye bolna aasan hai...par jab khud ke liye time mile tab to...inke comment me dikh rha hai ki zindagi nikal gayi khud ke liye time hi nahi nikal sake. Ghr ke bade bete ki kuch zimmedariya hoti hain agr use wo na nibhaye to wo khud ki nazaron me gir jaega. Or ghr ki problems jyada ho to khud pe focus karne ka time bhi nahi milega
Salute hai aapko Mera....aasan nahi aisi zindagi jee pana....log khud ke chakkar me apno ko bhul jaate hain ..aap apno ke chakkar me khud ko bhul gaye..meri umar jyda nahi 20s me hi hu pr ye kehna chahunga ki aap himmat rakhiye....aapke jaise logon ki kami hai samaj me.....tab nahi to ab sahi thoda khud ke liye paise bachaiye ab or ek acchi life partner dhundiye or settle hojaiye
@@aashishdevexactly meri story hai. . I am 38 year old female pehle govt job me thi I was star in front of my parents. Mujhe groom karte the to take lead role. I resigned frm job tabse parents badal gaye. They have sidelined me like a piece of rubbish. I was a fool to not realise their selfishness behind a mask of parenthood. Now my sister who is earning n my brother who is jobless but apple of their eyes coz hez male child are their star kids. I feel cheated, betrayed by my own parents
Please share more of such case studies on various topics. These kind of videos will improve people's emotional IQ. VERY REFRESHING AND KNOWLEDGEABLE VIDEO. 🎉👋👋👋
बढींया solution दिया सर जी आपने👌👌.....एक तरह से समाजसेवा ही हैं.... identify किया...and more case studies are most welcome....🙏🙏 तोडने में टाईम नहीं लगता, जोडने में बहुत टाईम , मनी , एनर्जी लगती हैं...
Mera story diff hai.. they took money from me for my younger brothers expenses and gave the property to him too saying he is uneducated. I did not do any of the things u mentioned but still was treated differently by my parents.
Such a great and eye opening video, being and eldest daughter in law in 3 brother's family set up I was extremely unable to make them understand to help each other and grow with each other
Sir please ans. My question Same case with few changes 1. Property me bade bete ne loan bhari takriban pona hissa 2. Age 35 -40 3. Ma gujar gaye 4. Pitaji kuch nahi dena chahte. 5. Ghar me chote bete ka naam add kar lo. 6. Chota unmarried
good morning sir aapke 90% vedio dekh chuka hu abhi tak sare vedio real h and actual h jo life mai chal rha h kafi kuch sikha hu and motivate hu i salute you 🙏
Sir i have seen old couples like 70+ are struggling to lead life, dependent onkids who hardly care, despite having 4-5 kids nobody cares during old age, everyone is busy in their life.. Aisa situation na ho toh kya karna padega 🙏🙏🙏🙏
True said door rehne walay kbi zindagi main na maa baap ki khidmat ki na kabhi kharcha dia baad main kehtay hain pass rehne wale ne haathon main lay k sb pr qabza kr lia lakin maa baap ko chortay khial nai ata
Best thing is not have expectation to get property or money from parents unless its ancestral property. Like he said, the older brother who left his home and parents has no real legal basis to make any claims. He can "appeal, beg" to his mother's sense of kindness but has no right to the property. In such case better to forgo any "claims" and live with dignity on your own earnings and savings.
Agar uss chhote bete ne teem tyohar sath celebrate bhi kiye hote , fir bhi agar uske mataji ko lagta to fir bhi woh uske naam kuch karate but yeh mamla favourtism ka hota hai ... bahot baar .. Esiliye kabhi bhi parents se ummid mat rakho.. parents bhi swarthi hi hote hai bahot baar ...
@@amu808parents swarthi hi hothey hai. The reasons being they are selfish to have kids and then ruin their lives My mother in law left her husband and sponged off all my husbands savings , invested all money in businesses which eventually flopped. I was stranded in Canada unwell not able to change jobs. Maybe it's because of caste also. As my husband is lower caste converts and dmk people.
Biwi ko faltu me property k liye badnaam krte hai..gold digger bolte hai jabki asli gold diggers to bhai hote hai .paise k liye apas me lad mar jaate hai aur iljaam biwi ko de do
Dhanyawad guru ji it was a great video on a crucial topic and your best advice was to accept the mistake and act according to the situation. Love your work ❤
If father bought it and it is not encestrial property and father did not write it in the name of mother, then all 3 (mother and 2 brothers) have equal right to the property. But good that father wrote it in mother's name to simplify things.
MORE - What about the case where both brothers are with parents, taking care of them (medical, food, ghummi ghummi) but everything is going to daughter. Parents think sons are doing great in life but daughter keeps on cribbing and crying for money. She only visits to collect stuff on festivals, some amount is deposited on monthly basis in her account by parents. Never visits parents if they are ill because she says that she has kids to take care. Parents are completely fine with this because they have 2 sons to take care. Ultimately, take care tho daughter in laws kartin hain aur unko koi poochta nhn.
What if there is a scenario where younger brother is telling that other brother and wife still are having same behavior knowingly that everything will divided equally as society says so why take responsibilty , they are ghummi , ghummi , enjoying , not taking care of anything , they feel once mother will go/demise, everything will divide equally or they will fight , gather support of relative or society for equal share . As by Nature and behavior they are strong and shrewd. In such a case what should be done ? May be in this case also , just by saying sorry he got benefit of 4.5 crore and elder brother and wife family enjoyed entire life also
Why should the son who enjoyed his life n family n kept away from his responsibilities be given anything? Can he give back the privacy lost by other son n wife ? Looking after parents or inlaws can never be compensated. Sorry to disagree .
Aageh jah kr voh Ghumi ghumivala Officer, ish chote Bhai ya uske Bacho ko Dhamkay gah ke maine Paisa lagakar yaha 2 majil banaya hai. Abb ye mera hai, aab ye Court case bhi kr sakega. Chota Bhai, inn Uncle ki baat meh aa kr bura fas-gya
Ram Ram ji. Seen too many of such cases. Even if a son is ‘nikkamma’ or not stable professionally and struggling financially with wife and kids, he must not live with parents. The mental pressure and on and off abuse the son, his wife in particular and children get is too much. Why to pay price for mental peace. Live with dignity separately from parents. But most importantly sons and daughters must take care of aging parents it’s not bahu’s or damad’s responsibility.
I think isliye ye ladka deserve karta property ka bada piece.. at the end mentally, physically parents ki madad to Kari hogi jyda bade bete ke comparison me.
Great sir...exact thing happened in my vicinity few months back...they have lost communication...I've sent them this case study...I'm sure they'll understand.
Sir good suggestion you give. But I will tell you one real fact which I saw. Elder brother use to pamper the second brother. They are five brothers. Elder brother what ever he said to the other brother he blankly followed Elder brother as Ram. Elder brother was so intelligent that whole seventy years of his life he fooled the second brother. After his death all brothers came to know that he made will on the last brother who was not educated. He made will without interacting any one. It was a shock.
Deewar nahi RACE jo nalayak bhai studies competitoons me fissaddi rahte jaate hain, aur bada bhai dhoomketu --vedic jyotish me kahte hain VAT VRUKSH ke neeche dabe chhote ped --- Gaj Kesari yog panch maha purush yog
No matter if it is only son or more than one!! Parents get very partial and selfish as they grow older …in fact they always choose one child for responsibility and others have rights !! That one should always give and others have only right to all things!!! That child will continue giving u order to prove that he is a good son!! To get that affection from parents which they never gave him but to the other kids!his whole life will go in bending backwards to prove he is a perfect son but always will get a kick on his back in the end!! His family /kids will suffer as he has been conditioned to take care for the extenddd family over his own family
what if fav waala bhai was fav since bachpan.. aur bde waala bhai ko woh sab starting se hi nhe mila jo chote ko mila. Isliye bde waala door hota gya. aur usko andar se pta hai k parents chote bhai ko hi zada dengey and bda waala is trying to gulp khoon ka ghoot all his life. I think he still deserves property share. coz without his parents he is nothing.
If he's favourite from the beginning and you know it you can change that scenario if you are intelligent. First thing is since you already know he's favorite don't listen to parents on marriage don't marry unless they give u what you want because that is the only thing you have to negotiate what you want from them. if still they don't agree then you will get an idea that they will never help after your marriage when u need it most. Si you can then take decision of marriage based on theis scenario if to marry or not. In case you don't marry and he does who knows if your parents are able to adjust with his wife if yes fine if no then parents will come to u so u can turn the table around in your favour
@@sumitragoganio4383 sab parents ko bacche paida kare mein bahut maza aata hai baad mein chahe bacche bhikh mange ye chor ban Jaye par help nhi karni. tumne agar apne parents se kuch nhi liya toh mat do agey children ko. if you have been watching this channel Amit sir have been telling parents to help
@@sumitragoganio4383 kids paida hote he road ya mandir ke bahar kyu nhi fenk dete aise parents agar unke liye kuch kar nhi sakte selfish parents. Bad parents are responsible for poverty and crime in society
सर अगर situation उल्टी हो ma bap hi kharab ho पास m rahne wale ज्यादातर बूरे ही लगते हैं दूसरा बेटा जो फॉरेन में रहता हो खूब money ho is karan vo hi अच्छे लगते हो उसको अपने तीन पोर्टिन में से नीचे वाला घर की रजिस्ट्री फॉरेन वाले बेटे के नाम करवा दी और जो पास मे रहता हैं उसको बोले हम tuge jite ji कुछ नही dege pahle hamara karna parega hamare marne ke bad upar wale le lena vo is karke dabate h kyoki pas m rahne wala beta financial weak h aur y bhi pata h pad m rahne wala beta bahu agar property chor kar unse dur ho jayege tab bhi forein wale ne कुछ नही करना फिजिकली
Chahe koi beta kaheen rahe , haq uska barabar hai. Aap ne kaha teen portion hai. Ek foreign waale ka, doosra aapka , aur teesra , maa baap ka. Foreign waale ka portion isliye registry karwa diya kyonki, warna local rehne waala , uska hissa kabza kar lega. Local rehne waala apni portion mein reh tou raha hai, poore kabze ke saath. Aur parents kyon teesra hissa usko abhi dein. Jab woh nahi rahenge tou, parents ka hissa usko mil tou raha hai. Foreign waala kya surf isliye pyaara hai ki uske paas money hai, ya woh parents ko , ghar ko, etc paisa diya bhi hai yeh aapne nahee bataya. Agar contribute kiya hai tou woh uske hisse ka yogdaan hai. Jab koi paisa deta hai tou ek tarah se apna samay deta hai jo usne uss paise ko kamane mein lagaya hai. Paas rehne waala bhai aur uska parivaar kai baar old parents par time to time financial benefit bhi lete hain , parents ke paise mein. Pension ya kiraye mein hissa.
Nice ,case study ... I would like you to discuss regarding 3 Brother property dispute and child who stay with single parent father is good for nothing so all father total resources going to make him Big shot...Putra Moha
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Sir Sunday ka matlab hi badal Diya aapne, ab na movie na sitcoms only aapki videos dekhte hai weekend pe. Clarity towards life is growing like compound interest. Thankyou guruji 🙏😊
Not long before this too becomes boring
@@snehanshuphukon728 yep kyunki ab aap sab sikh chuke aur wisdom repeat ho rha, zindagi ka naam yahi h
Moral of the story is निकम्मे और निखट्टू बने रहो फायदे में रहोगे ।
Hahaha , Sach main , but dignity se jeo and don't expect anything from parents bahot bada heartache hoga otherwise
👍👍. Ye wala feeling office life aur personal life dono me AA Raha hain aajkal.
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@@amu808 sach yahi hai. Pehle parents ke khilaf koi kuch bolta tha Mai gussa ho jati thi. But parents khud hi dhokha dete hai seedhe aur ache bacche ko
@@amu808truth is that the future time we cannot earn salary that will be enough to even live with family, you cannot make properties
M... Sirji, your win win situation is a need in today's world. Most are like 'mujhe nahi milega to tujhe bhi nahi lene dunga' and case starts.
I tried to accommodate with my in-laws a lot but they always treated me poorly nd humiliated me a lot so I decided to stop trying to please them after 10 yrs. I helped them financially many times but now they behave tu kaun main kaun so that un ko money return na karni pade. How smart they r
😅same thing happening in my house guru gi we are living abroad but I must tell you that parents do get sympathetic towards the child who is merely making even if he is at fault. Parents think k yeh toh set ho gya apne app ab isko karna hai or us bache ko set karne mei vo sab kuch zok dete hai and dusre ko uske hak say vanchit kar daytay hai.
Dusra b maa baap ko kahi nahi jane datya kyoki use unke zarurat hai.
Or yeh sach hai k maa baap jiske sath waqt bitaye gay uske taraf zukav b rakhe gay, comfort zone B a jata hai.
The deeds done by a far away son go unnoticed and deeds done by one being close is shown to society.
This things might be coming up now in society but Punjab started seeing this 30 years back.
An eye opener video for women who always disconnected from her in laws and not understand family bonding.
Family bonding????? SIP investment bola jay toh sahi😂😂😂😂
Apna ikkata karo jyda .. mahnat se khud ka ..
Na parents de rahe na bacche .. agar na Dene pe aa jaye to.
"The biggest service you can do, is uplifting the state of mind of other people." and I think this is happening with your video, so thanks.
Great Video Tau ❤❤
Im 20 lekin future mein kaam aa jayega shayad❤just Building Mindset
More Case Studies please.. "Dard ka SIP😂" thanks for the original content Amit Ji
Yaha se mera bhi mind set badal gaya... Kya twist tha ye word
Sir this is exactly my situation right now...but the only difference is we are not connected with our family because they ask for money every time we go there..
Sir itna gyan ek video mein puri UA-cam pe khi nhi hai ❤❤ this knowledge is worth crores😊
Nice video, same situation hamare ghar me hai, my dad it elder son, our meri dadi mere chacha ke pass raheti hai, hum ek hi gao me rehete hai but donoke ghar alag alag hai property dadi ke nam par hai our hamara ghar dadaji ke nam par tha, my chacha is also nilkkama and fraud person and my dad is hardworking person also my mother is 90,s complete sanskari women, both my mom and dad took care of all of them financially bhi aur monthly requirements jese kirana saman vagare all his life but my dadi give all property to my uncle (nikkama) beta kyuki use beta hai (vanshka dipak) hai and onthe other hand mere dad ki me single child hu and i am the eldest granddaughter then also my dadi dont consider nor me neither my dad
Moral of the story - my mom is a good sanskari aghyakari bahu and my dad always give money to my dadi we live in same village but still we don,t get anything in land plot and also jo hamara ghar hai dadaji ke nam par usmebhi dadi aur chacha ladmarrahehai apne hak ke liye
Not always galti hamari hoti hai , kabhi kabhi na log hi saale kamine hote hai aap kuch bhi karo pyaar paroso thalime par aapko badleme sirf dhoka hi milega
I am 19 , there's a lot of resemble in it with my situation , there's something that I have learnt form this person is that whatever the case don't just go nd ruin your relationships with family , talking works, listening works but when there's right people to do it
More....Sir this is second vedio I have seen you are genuine and very much practicle towards life's problems. A big salute to you Sir..
Thank you so much for sharing.
Very useful and inspiring story.
The best use of human intelligence is this.
Making everyone happy is an art.👍
Looking forward to learn more from you .😊
Kabhi kabhi parents paas rehne wale bacche ko anyway select kar lete hai even if door rahne wale ne bahut kuch kiya ho .
It's because they are more connected with the Child with whom they are living with.
@@kamalgandhi7919 I don’t think so .Wo selfish ho jaate hai aur door rahne wale ko drop kar dete hai
@@Bold-BeautifulMoney can never outweigh emotional support and care. And parents are right to be selfish, even if they are being selfish, because all 'seva' is being done by the one who lives nearby, they can't afford to offend him as who will take care of them? It's fine to be pragmatic specially for old people.
@@VaishaliTyagi-u7j How come one sibling becomes offended if parents are loving towards other child .How come parents great connection with the one they live is so insecure that parents have to behave in a certain way with the other kid.Even if the other kid doesn’t want that money only love still they are labelled as bad guys by the parents to make the one they are living with happy .This is ridiculous and fucked up .Well their loss .If they have to loose one of the kid to butter up the one they are living with .It can’t be a very good life and such siblings are losers who instead of being happy they are with their parents and getting larger chunk of money take their insecurity out on their own sibling .And idiots like you support this sickness .
Sabse jyada yehi hota hai...saath rahne wala mom dad ka brain wash kar deta hai
Very relatable in today's social setup. You have hit the nail on the head.
Sir ye case study to samajh me aayi. Ab ek aur case study. Bade bete ne bachpan se mehnat ki, mauj masti kam ki ar jaise taise engineering karke ek company me job li. Wahi chhote bete ne pura mauj masti kiya, forcefully padhai complete kiya. Ab bade bete ko bachpan se iss tarah se groom kiya gya ki family to tumhe hi sambhalna hai. To jab job laga to father ke support role me aa gya. 25k se career start ki ar jitna ho sakta tha ghar pe paise bheje, ghar ke chhote chhote kharch, fir aage jake ar items khareede. Jo ab jod ke dekha jaye to 11-12 lakhs ke hote hai, sab kuch mila ke. Sath hi sath chhote bhai ko support kiya, career guidance deta rha, apni company me referral de kar job lagwayi. Ye sab krte krte bade bete ke paas kabhi paise nhi bachte the ki wo apni family start kar sake. To unse socha ki sath me kuch business try kiya jaye, kabhi stock market kabhi kuch inn sab chizo me hi fasa rha. Dusri taraf chhota beta samajhdaar nikla. Job lagte hi usne almost bhaag ke shaadi kr li. Uss samay paise uske paas bhi nhi the to almost 3-4 lakh ka bank loan liya, jise wo chuka nhi paya to bank walo ne pareshan krna shuru kar diya. Fir parents ne wo paise chukaye. Uss samay chhote bete ne bola ki mai dheere dheere krke chuka dunga.
To cut the story short, aaj ke date me bada beta single hai, 38 ka ho gya hai, still struggle kr rha hai apni life ar career ke beech. Kafi depressed hai. Ghar pe paise deta hai, ghar ke liye samaan lena, mata pita ko ghumana, ye sab kr rha hai. Dusri taraf chhote bete ne na wo paise lautaye, ar shadi ke baad apni wife ko bhi bhut kam time ke liye hi ghar pe lata hai taki uski wife ko ghar ka kaam na krna pade. Nahi ghar k liye kuch samaan lata hai, na hi parents ko montly kuch deta hai.
Baat yaha tak bhi theek hai. Lekin problem ye hai ki itna sab krne ke bawajood, parents chhote bete ke jyada kareeb hai, ar ab bade bete ko lagne laga hai ki jab to wo logo ki khwahishen puri krta hai tab tak hi logo ko usse matlab hai. Ar upar se saara gyan, farz, duty, responsibilities ka lecture bade bete ho hi milta hai jabki chhote bete ko agar ko dena bhi chahte hai to wo sunta nhi hai, to fir wo dete bhi nhi hai. Ar bade bete ko iss sab se jyada problem bhi nhi hai, lekin ghar pe basic izzat, samman ar adhikar to mile jiska wo haqdaar hai. Ar unka ye behavior dekhkar bada beta ar depressed ho rha hai.Loneliness + Depression + Feeling of leftout + Not having enough money/power ye bhut hi deadly combination hota hai.
Guruji, bade bete ke liye koi suggestion? Sorry, comment thoda lamba ho gya.
bade bete ko apni life aur priorities per focus kerna chaiyeh,bada bhai khudh apni priorities per focus nahin karta isliye uski koi izzat nahin karta.bada bhai need to respect his own life & time before even parents & get married ASAP.
@@dreamsdesires Thanks for your concern. Lekin ye khud ke liye sochte kaise hai. I mean bachpan se mai aisa hi hu, so I think and behave accordingly. I actually don't know ki khud k liye sochte kaise hai. Please elaborate.
@@dreamsdesires ye bolna aasan hai...par jab khud ke liye time mile tab to...inke comment me dikh rha hai ki zindagi nikal gayi khud ke liye time hi nahi nikal sake. Ghr ke bade bete ki kuch zimmedariya hoti hain agr use wo na nibhaye to wo khud ki nazaron me gir jaega. Or ghr ki problems jyada ho to khud pe focus karne ka time bhi nahi milega
Salute hai aapko Mera....aasan nahi aisi zindagi jee pana....log khud ke chakkar me apno ko bhul jaate hain ..aap apno ke chakkar me khud ko bhul gaye..meri umar jyda nahi 20s me hi hu pr ye kehna chahunga ki aap himmat rakhiye....aapke jaise logon ki kami hai samaj me.....tab nahi to ab sahi thoda khud ke liye paise bachaiye ab or ek acchi life partner dhundiye or settle hojaiye
@@aashishdevexactly meri story hai. . I am 38 year old female pehle govt job me thi I was star in front of my parents. Mujhe groom karte the to take lead role. I resigned frm job tabse parents badal gaye. They have sidelined me like a piece of rubbish. I was a fool to not realise their selfishness behind a mask of parenthood. Now my sister who is earning n my brother who is jobless but apple of their eyes coz hez male child are their star kids. I feel cheated, betrayed by my own parents
Please share more of such case studies on various topics. These kind of videos will improve people's emotional IQ. VERY REFRESHING AND KNOWLEDGEABLE VIDEO. 🎉👋👋👋
बढींया solution दिया सर जी आपने👌👌.....एक तरह से समाजसेवा ही हैं.... identify किया...and more case studies are most welcome....🙏🙏 तोडने में टाईम नहीं लगता, जोडने में बहुत टाईम , मनी , एनर्जी लगती हैं...
Ab tak ka sabse best video laga apka ye wala.... Ekdum mind set hi palat kar rakh diya.... Sach me bhut sahi baat kahi apne... Thanku for this video
Mera story diff hai.. they took money from me for my younger brothers expenses and gave the property to him too saying he is uneducated. I did not do any of the things u mentioned but still was treated differently by my parents.
Same story as you😅
Same here what to do let's connect and speak
@@inkinsightsbookreviews leave it..i have moved on...focus is in career and share market
Sir u r a real and honest person. Give right solutions.
More..case studies. its real eye opener listening to you.
Sahi pakde hai ..sir, true situation...and thank you so much for your support 💞🙏🏽🙏🏽
bahut badhiya topic sir..maza ah gaya sunke
Kya study hai sir Same my mother family story. It's so relat. Thanks once again for your valuable video 👍
Such a great and eye opening video, being and eldest daughter in law in 3 brother's family set up I was extremely unable to make them understand to help each other and grow with each other
Aapane samasya ka Samadhan is prakar kiya hai ki sabhi santusht hue hain aur khushiyan hi Mili hai 💯💯
Sir please ans. My question
Same case with few changes
1. Property me bade bete ne loan bhari takriban pona hissa
2. Age 35 -40
3. Ma gujar gaye
4. Pitaji kuch nahi dena chahte.
5. Ghar me chote bete ka naam add kar lo.
6. Chota unmarried
Real blessings of parents have come through their grandchildren.
good morning sir
aapke 90% vedio dekh chuka hu
abhi tak sare vedio real h and actual h jo life mai chal rha h
kafi kuch sikha hu and motivate hu
i salute you 🙏
Sir i have seen old couples like 70+ are struggling to lead life, dependent onkids who hardly care, despite having 4-5 kids nobody cares during old age, everyone is busy in their life.. Aisa situation na ho toh kya karna padega 🙏🙏🙏🙏
True said door rehne walay kbi zindagi main na maa baap ki khidmat ki na kabhi kharcha dia baad main kehtay hain pass rehne wale ne haathon main lay k sb pr qabza kr lia lakin maa baap ko chortay khial nai ata
Best thing is not have expectation to get property or money from parents unless its ancestral property. Like he said, the older brother who left his home and parents has no real legal basis to make any claims. He can "appeal, beg" to his mother's sense of kindness but has no right to the property. In such case better to forgo any "claims" and live with dignity on your own earnings and savings.
Agar uss chhote bete ne teem tyohar sath celebrate bhi kiye hote , fir bhi agar uske mataji ko lagta to fir bhi woh uske naam kuch karate but yeh mamla favourtism ka hota hai ... bahot baar ..
Esiliye kabhi bhi parents se ummid mat rakho.. parents bhi swarthi hi hote hai bahot baar ...
@@amu808parents swarthi hi hothey hai. The reasons being they are selfish to have kids and then ruin their lives
My mother in law left her husband and sponged off all my husbands savings , invested all money in businesses which eventually flopped. I was stranded in Canada unwell not able to change jobs. Maybe it's because of caste also. As my husband is lower caste converts and dmk people.
सही बात
Biwi ko faltu me property k liye badnaam krte hai..gold digger bolte hai jabki asli gold diggers to bhai hote hai .paise k liye apas me lad mar jaate hai aur iljaam biwi ko de do
Its amusing to see you discuss taboo situations in our present society. Mostly the elder brother and his family suffers.
Sir first time i saw your video and can say one of the best video dharti se juda .. kudos Sir !! Very Indian Contemporary and effective..
Yes we want more case studies guruji 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Sir it is happening in each and every middle class family. Thanks for eye opening suggestions.
Dhanyawad guru ji it was a great video on a crucial topic and your best advice was to accept the mistake and act according to the situation.
Love your work ❤
If father bought it and it is not encestrial property and father did not write it in the name of mother, then all 3 (mother and 2 brothers) have equal right to the property. But good that father wrote it in mother's name to simplify things.
But if she doesn't write will before dying her property will be automatically distributed btw all children (boy or girl)
But mother's are giving property to daughter s because why bahu enjoy hard earn money why not my daughter?
Sir bahut hi badiya se samjhaya aapne maza aa gaya ❤
Excellent video and nice solution. Eye opener vdo you had made. You make more case studies. 🙏👌👌👌👌👌👌👍
Irone of inheritence😮आज इस वीडियो को देख कर,अपनी मम्मी से फोन पर बात की।😊
MORE - What about the case where both brothers are with parents, taking care of them (medical, food, ghummi ghummi) but everything is going to daughter. Parents think sons are doing great in life but daughter keeps on cribbing and crying for money. She only visits to collect stuff on festivals, some amount is deposited on monthly basis in her account by parents. Never visits parents if they are ill because she says that she has kids to take care. Parents are completely fine with this because they have 2 sons to take care. Ultimately, take care tho daughter in laws kartin hain aur unko koi poochta nhn.
I completely agreed with yours point of view.
💯.
True ...grt point
@@sharmaA38looks like the parents married her to poor family
Is getting property in future
Real life experience . Too good . Needs more such cases .
Excellent content, so real world issues
Very good work...sirji..aapne...bahut..achha..kaam kiya...such neun..god bkesss u...maun isi probken mein hoon
Your opinion are very best
More......... Thankyou for providing us with such valuable case studies, please help us keep learning by more such studies, Thankyou.
What if there is a scenario where younger brother is telling that other brother and wife still are having same behavior knowingly that everything will divided equally as society says so why take responsibilty , they are ghummi , ghummi , enjoying , not taking care of anything , they feel once mother will go/demise, everything will divide equally or they will fight , gather support of relative or society for equal share . As by Nature and behavior they are strong and shrewd. In such a case what should be done ?
May be in this case also , just by saying sorry he got benefit of 4.5 crore and elder brother and wife family enjoyed entire life also
Why should the son who enjoyed his life n family n kept away from his responsibilities be given anything? Can he give back the privacy lost by other son n wife ? Looking after parents or inlaws can never be compensated. Sorry to disagree .
Exactly, ush Grade A officer ka koi haq nahi banta
Sirf magarmachh ke Aansu baha kr, Property lena chah rha hai
Aageh jah kr voh Ghumi ghumivala Officer, ish chote Bhai ya uske Bacho ko Dhamkay gah ke maine Paisa lagakar yaha 2 majil banaya hai.
Abb ye mera hai, aab ye Court case bhi kr sakega.
Chota Bhai, inn Uncle ki baat meh aa kr bura fas-gya
Ram Ram ji. Seen too many of such cases. Even if a son is ‘nikkamma’ or not stable professionally and struggling financially with wife and kids, he must not live with parents. The mental pressure and on and off abuse the son, his wife in particular and children get is too much. Why to pay price for mental peace. Live with dignity separately from parents. But most importantly sons and daughters must take care of aging parents it’s not bahu’s or damad’s responsibility.
I think isliye ye ladka deserve karta property ka bada piece.. at the end mentally, physically parents ki madad to Kari hogi jyda bade bete ke comparison me.
Great sir...exact thing happened in my vicinity few months back...they have lost communication...I've sent them this case study...I'm sure they'll understand.
Aisa laga hum sabke Ghar ki kahani hai kabhi Chhota kabhi bada
Excellent articulation ❤
Thanks for taking much of strains in studying & sharing valueable suggestions for solving family disputes sharing paternal properties.
Sir hats off to you.. This is exactly true... Exactly..
Nice video. Well settled the case.
Sir good suggestion you give. But I will tell you one real fact which I saw. Elder brother use to pamper the second brother. They are five brothers. Elder brother what ever he said to the other brother he blankly followed Elder brother as Ram. Elder brother was so intelligent that whole seventy years of his life he fooled the second brother. After his death all brothers came to know that he made will on the last brother who was not educated. He made will without interacting any one. It was a shock.
More....thank you very much sir ji🙏
For me UA-cam means Amit Sangwan Ji.
Deewar nahi RACE
jo nalayak bhai studies competitoons me fissaddi rahte jaate hain, aur bada bhai dhoomketu --vedic jyotish me kahte hain VAT VRUKSH ke neeche dabe chhote ped --- Gaj Kesari yog panch maha purush yog
Wonderfully TRUE ❤❤❤❤
Dandwat Pranam hai aapko
This was nice and very practical. More. Thanks,
Paaji tussi great ho...❤
Superb handling of situation and crisis management
No matter if it is only son or more than one!! Parents get very partial and selfish as they grow older …in fact they always choose one child for responsibility and others have rights !! That one should always give and others have only right to all things!!! That child will continue giving u order to prove that he is a good son!! To get that affection from parents which they never gave him but to the other kids!his whole life will go in bending backwards to prove he is a perfect son but always will get a kick on his back in the end!! His family /kids will suffer as he has been conditioned to take care for the extenddd family over his own family
So true
I have fallen in love with your videos
what if fav waala bhai was fav since bachpan.. aur bde waala bhai ko woh sab starting se hi nhe mila jo chote ko mila.
Isliye bde waala door hota gya. aur usko andar se pta hai k parents chote bhai ko hi zada dengey and bda waala is trying to gulp khoon ka ghoot all his life.
I think he still deserves property share. coz without his parents he is nothing.
If he's favourite from the beginning and you know it you can change that scenario if you are intelligent. First thing is since you already know he's favorite don't listen to parents on marriage don't marry unless they give u what you want because that is the only thing you have to negotiate what you want from them. if still they don't agree then you will get an idea that they will never help after your marriage when u need it most. Si you can then take decision of marriage based on theis scenario if to marry or not. In case you don't marry and he does who knows if your parents are able to adjust with his wife if yes fine if no then parents will come to u so u can turn the table around in your favour
sabko parents ki property hi chahiye..khud kAMAKAR KHARID LAU BHAI...
@@sumitragoganio4383 sab parents ko bacche paida kare mein bahut maza aata hai baad mein chahe bacche bhikh mange ye chor ban Jaye par help nhi karni. tumne agar apne parents se kuch nhi liya toh mat do agey children ko. if you have been watching this channel Amit sir have been telling parents to help
@@sumitragoganio4383 kids paida hote he road ya mandir ke bahar kyu nhi fenk dete aise parents agar unke liye kuch kar nhi sakte selfish parents. Bad parents are responsible for poverty and crime in society
So beautifully explained!
ज्ञान चक्षु खोल दिए आपने तो गुरुजी।
Guru ji very practical , and more case studies🎉
Nice Analysis. Really, u nailed it.
My guilty pleasure is his videos pata nahi kyon mujhe bahut hasi aati hai inki video dekh kar 😂😂
Congratulations
I wish you same energy and happiness for future.🎉❤
We Wants MORE 🙌
Loved the case study sir ... would like to listen them more ❤️
Very true & eye opening vedio thanks sir 🙏🏼🙏🏼
Excellent video sir. Hits the bullseye 🎯
Much needed video.. Thank you Sir. Please give more case studies.. 🙏
Ek ek baat bilkul sahi,har Ghar me yahi kahani chal Rahi hai😊
U r really correct.
सर अगर situation उल्टी हो ma bap hi kharab ho पास m rahne wale ज्यादातर बूरे ही लगते हैं दूसरा बेटा जो फॉरेन में रहता हो खूब money ho is karan vo hi अच्छे लगते हो उसको अपने तीन पोर्टिन में से नीचे वाला घर की रजिस्ट्री फॉरेन वाले बेटे के नाम करवा दी और जो पास मे रहता हैं उसको बोले हम tuge jite ji कुछ नही dege pahle hamara karna parega hamare marne ke bad upar wale le lena vo is karke dabate h kyoki pas m rahne wala beta financial weak h aur y bhi pata h pad m rahne wala beta bahu agar property chor kar unse dur ho jayege tab bhi forein wale ne कुछ नही करना फिजिकली
Chahe koi beta kaheen rahe , haq uska barabar hai. Aap ne kaha teen portion hai. Ek foreign waale ka, doosra aapka , aur teesra , maa baap ka. Foreign waale ka portion isliye registry karwa diya kyonki, warna local rehne waala , uska hissa kabza kar lega. Local rehne waala apni portion mein reh tou raha hai, poore kabze ke saath. Aur parents kyon teesra hissa usko abhi dein. Jab woh nahi rahenge tou, parents ka hissa usko mil tou raha hai. Foreign waala kya surf isliye pyaara hai ki uske paas money hai, ya woh parents ko , ghar ko, etc paisa diya bhi hai yeh aapne nahee bataya. Agar contribute kiya hai tou woh uske hisse ka yogdaan hai. Jab koi paisa deta hai tou ek tarah se apna samay deta hai jo usne uss paise ko kamane mein lagaya hai. Paas rehne waala bhai aur uska parivaar kai baar old parents par time to time financial benefit bhi lete hain , parents ke paise mein. Pension ya kiraye mein hissa.
To aap bhi mat Karo unke....it's in your hand
Very nice clip with very important problem
maza aa gaya!👌
Excellent
Pls share *more* case studies please.
Thank you!
Nice ,case study ...
I would like you to discuss regarding 3 Brother property dispute and child who stay with single parent father is good for nothing so all father total resources going to make him Big shot...Putra Moha
Very truly explained...
होनहार और मेहनती बच्चे के साथ तो अन्याय हो गया ।
Par Excellence
This is the Brand value of the real Guru
First time real stories good
Perfect sir and meditation is very important
You have explained so so well
Yes we want more real cases
Aap toh mera New Gurujii ❤
waaaw sir its eye opener👌👌🙏🙏🙏