Sir appko thank you bahut sara. Aapki videos maine regular dekhna shuru Kara h aur ek attitude me bahut change aaya h. Aapne ek video banayi thi jisme kaha tha ki apne 101 logo ko list karo and then cut people out. I have started that. I have also started noticing how most of my time was taken away by people who were absolutely free in their life and they were feeding on my youthful, cheerful positive energy. Aapki video thi jokes k naam par log taane toh nahi de rahe, i have also started calling out people on that, aur jo nahi sudhre unko block kar diya. Aapne ek alag video me kaha tha dosto ristedari isme mat nikalo ki kal ko kaam ayenge, time suckers hain bahut log. Toh ye bhi notice kara maine. Aur ab life mostly sorted lgti h. Time h, usme ya toh nature k sath spend Karo ya career ko dene ka and there is less clutter in life. .. Just wanted u to know that aapka work change la raha h. And for that I am grateful to u💞💫
Absolutely true. I feel so pity for people who says we don't agree with Amit Sangwan ...they are staying away from this "Gyan Amrit ". Then i feel bhad me jau Mai videos dekh dekh ke sudhar jaunga then i feel selfish🤣🤣
@@anirbanghosh1670 honour killing is a very serious problem anduch more rampant among rural background feudal mindset communities especially the OBC landlord communities such as Yadav Gujjar jats and Patel's ( not bringing caste into it just giving my general observation)
@@Akon1998hell I think if next generation be given both mothers and fathers surname. Or one child having mother's caste another having fathers caste then I don't think there would be this much resentment
My parents are among those few parents,a blessing ...They are so calm and love us unconditionally...We all 3 kids always ask them before proceeding with any big decisions of life .. They give us guidance without seeing their own benefits..They both have great wisdom and we feel very positive and love sitting around them any time...They never ask for any help for themselves rather extend their hands for our help every time.
Excellent video sir!! I wish I could forward it to my in laws.because after my marriage (24 yrs back)my mil's tagline was,"ab tak apan ne bachchon ka kiya,ab bachche apna karenge"since then she is on that"sewa"mode.😃😃.I feel like,main apne pati ki parvarish ka karz utarne hi aayi hu
😄😄😄aur aise parents apni early 50s me to budhe ho gaye the but 20 sal aur gujarne par 70s me Jawan ho gaye hai .pahle budhe ban ka sewa karwaye hai aur ab Jawan ban kar nayi nayi khwaishe poori karwani hai . Convince ke hisab se boodhe ya Jawan hona hai
@@Lialovesfood882 of course it is India sab Kuch possible hain have not you seen phir bhi Dil hai Hindustani because of this attitude country mindset is still in 15th century
Current senior citizens are main reason for divorce and social problems in this time. They enjoyed nuclear family and now expect joint family with same self centric attitude. This has spoilt many families by spreading toxin in their son's or daughter's married life... Hope in next 10 years our society will be better once these senior citizens will move to heaven.... HARSH BUT TRUE....
spot on man. I am a 38 year old and my parents forced me to break up with my girlfriend and forced me to marry someone with whom I had no chemistry at all and on top of that she was a nasty abusive and manipulative narcissist. She made a mess of my life and also had an affair with her sister's husband (jija) which I discovered when I already had a baby girl. Its been 8 years of our separation and she is denying divorce. The family laws are all biased in favor of women too. Why did all this happen? MY FAMILY and their REGRESSIVE mindset. Now they "chinta karte hain meri", awe!
@@AC-jg2dg they're doing the right thing. Most marriages are about one party having all the fun and the other party being absolutely miserable. Ending this bs is clearing the sins, not creating.
A very important topic. My parents worked a lot to settle us. Even after settling they used to help and wanted to die without illness and our service. But it didn't happen. At the end both were bedridden for a few months and required service and attention. We did it willingly out of our love.
Caring for months and even for one to two year is always needed be in any age group. He is saying about 3 to 4 decades of being parents in laws or senior citizen
If some parents are actually medically ill, or are bedridden then the story and situation is different. But what he's trying to say is, parent who can do household chores, who have no major illness where they can't move arround, should not depend on their beta bahu, as now we have technology for everything, washing machine for washing clothes, dry and wet moop for cleaning floor, refrigerator so you don't have to cook everything from scratch everytime. Because in age bracket of 50-70 years most parents are capable of doing it. But they prefer not to and want their DIL to do it for them, from today's generation DIL viewpoint they're all educated and have careers they're not willing to do anything for their in-laws. That create friction in relationship and ultimately she won't do anything at all when parents are going to reach age bracket of 70-90 years and they actually are not able to do anything for themselves or are having major illness. He's trying to say in expectation of "sewa" from DIL, the moment she walked into your home when you're capable of doing everything yourself, you have created so much bitterness, friction in your relationship with your DIL that she won't be there to help you out when you are actually bedridden or seriously ill.
एकदम सही!स्ट्रेट फॉरवर्ड और सिंपल सोल्युशन.कई बार मै भी मन में यही बात सोचती हूॅं की हमारे हाथ पाव चल रहे है,कितनी अच्छी बात है!हॉं थोडी थोडी देरमें थक भी जाते है,स्लोभी हो गयी हूॅं,फिर भी यह सुकुन मनमें रहता है की हम अपने पाव पर खडे है.जरुर सर आजसे यह प्रार्थना भगवान को करुंगी की हमारे बच्चोंको हमारी सेवा करने की जरुरतही न पडे.आपके विचार सुंदर है,सही रास्ता दिखाते है.इतने सच्चे विचार ऐसे बातमें कोई नही बताता था.
Wow uncle ji....I wish aapke jaise samjhdar yaa apke 50% samjhdar bhi in laws jisko mil jaye wo bahu depression aur mental illness jaisi problem se bach jaye. Great work.
आपको डेली सूनने लगा हु बहुत अच्छा लगता आपकी बाते सुनकर आज कि सारी बातें मेरे घरवालो पर एकदम सटीक बैठती हैं मेरे घर वाले मेरी शादी ऐसी लड़की से करवाना चाहते है जो घर के सारे बर्तन साफ कर दे आने वाला समय कैसा है उससे उनको कोई मतलब नही है , वाकई मैं समय बहुत बदल गया हैं
Aajkal ke parents to male child ke career tak kharab karane main jute huye hai..aur phir unmein itana guilt bhar dete hai ki vo puri tarah se unpe dependent ho jaye..mere najdik ke relatives main hi maine 2, 3 examples dekhe hai...isase to achcha wetern country parents hai..they free their children at age of 18 to discover their own life, find their own interests and make them independent person.
Very Practical video sir but there's a catch here... Sir sometimes parents are not interested in learning in anything and play victim card everytime one say something to make them understand 🙏🙏. With due respect
So true...neither they wanna learn anything nor utilize their money...victim card, emotional blackmail, make you feel guilty and tell you each tiny detail what they hv done for you..I never thought I will tell these things about my parents...taught us everything as per their convinience, realized it so late...
So true Sir...also in India we have this stupidity of glorifying our parents....they are jus humans with their own faults...but nahi koi bhi comments section padh lo.... it's full of toxic comments like "parents must be given more importance than wife" etc..... imagine that poor biwi ka haal....the selfish husband is trying to make her repay the so called "loan" that he has taken !! She is an unpaid servant brought to do free seva of his perfectly fit parents.
Actually parents ne apni sari life baccho ke liye hi spend kari, apne liye kuch nahi kerte tha, salary bhi kam hoti thi, so they expected more from children, but now 40_50 aged parents enjoyed their life also with good salary,so they will expect lesser from children
My father is so dependent on my mom for almost everything.. Bank wrk, serve food ,mobile wrk etc He does bazarr and physical wrk outside and inside , help in cutting veg But can't do without mom, doesn't want to learn to use apps, only knows to talk on phone and everywhere
Every word you said is golden. I was so confused just blaming myself and bitter all the time. Can’t believe how parents can destroy their own children’s life
The day we learn to be self dependent, 90% of problems of expectations will die naturally. The remaining 10% also can be solved if we put systems in place through learning and adequate monetary returns which the doer desperately wants. Nice topic Amitji.
Problem is that some parents do not want to learn and become independent because fir unhe lagta h ki humne seekh liya to beta hume poochega hi nai... us scenario me kya karein? Unko sewa ka rona bhi rona h aur empower bhi nai hona hai...
Thankyou SO much for this video... My parents have the idealogy of being independent and are actually happy in their life... Seeing world demand sewa I used to tell them why they don't demand.. It would actually make me upset.. I would find ways to do their 'sewa' ...But they say the same thing, we pray that not a day comes where we need sewa.. I'm even prouder of my parents today :) I'm one of those very few kids like you mentioned who go and ask for opinion of my parents for every small thing in my own freedom.. Not coz I was ever taught to do so.. But Coz of their wisdom and maturity..
Aap ne to bachcho ko bahut galat shiksha di hai. Aaj kal ke bachche to pehle hi parents ke pass nahi aana chahte dooja aapne unko ye yeh btaw diya ki sewa karne ki zroorat hi nahi hai. Parents ko sewa krani hi nahi chahiey aapne to yeh unko aur majboot kar diya. Aapke vichaar bahut galat hai.
Movies ka bhi thoda kasoor hai guruji...mujhe aap ek movie bataiye jaha bete/betio ki pareshaani dikhayi gayi ho...yaha movie banti hai BAGBAAN...BAGBAAN ek esi movie hai jise family ke saath milke dekho to 4 galiya to movie dekhte-dekhte mil jati hai... Kahi bhi modern human ki modern problem nahi dikhayi jati
🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂 mujhe bhi ye baat sahi lagi or mehsoos hui jab after marriage mere inlaws ka yehi reaction hota tha 🤣🤣🤣 or husband bechare bagbaan dekhte hi ghar se gayab ho jate 😂
It's not that such movies are not being made. Problem is they don't get the recognition. They get labelled as saas bahu drama movies which over exaggerate when in fact they are showing the exact reality of what happens in majority of families. Rocky and Rani is a big example of that. Rocky's family is a great representation is such families. It's exactly my family 😂. Jo dialogues Rocky or Rani ne mare hai to teach Rocky's family, wo exact dialogues mai or mere Bhai ne mare hai apne parents pr. Bas itna hai movie Mai parents smjh jate hai or finally parents ban jate hai, but reality mai aesa nhi hota majority of times. But go and see the comments on UA-cam for that movie. People, especially guys pretend ki ye to fantasy hai, aesa thodi hota kisi family mai 😂. Or bhi bhot hai aesi movies, it's the society jise sirf Sheela ki jawani jesa cheap entertainment chahiye art k naam pr, they are not ready to see the reality, vulnerability and depth in these movies
Very nice words of wisdom..but I hope parents watch such videos and try to understand the situation of their children who are struggling in their lives...Instead of troubling the children,parents should guide nd support them
Such a good piece of advice. I'm so grateful to my son who has bin constantly teaching me using paytm, uber & lots more before he left for Canada. Till date very patiently he on video calls explains whatever queries I have. His latest message is ' Mama please dont fortget to get your drivers licence before coming to Canada. ' we are fortunate to be blessed for having him in our life. Self help is the best help. I love watching your fun filled videos with great messages. With kind regards....🙌❣
Excellent video sir , I do exactly what you have asked not to do !! Eye opener ...I think my demand from my children will be more reasonable going forward and the relationship will improve
Great 👍 sir ji. You always bring important topics related to society in prevailing scenario. Your talks are definitely immensely helpful to overcome such difficulties of day to day life. Hats off 👏 to you. Best Wishes and Regards.
Very nice and progressive content. Very truly said that ladko ko apni wife se seva karwani hoti hai apne parents ki, khud nahi karni hoti... I also feel that it's bit too much expection that a woman should do household chores, earn money, manage the home, attend to husband, and in-laws. It's unfortunate, and this is the reason we are so low in happiness index
@@sangeetaghaisas3186 I'm seeing my mom Doing this since 23 year's.. really such a cheap Indian pathetic harsh society.. log apne bahuo aur unke bcche ko apna naukar smjhte hai unka kaam bhi kro unki tanne bhi sunlo
You are amazing Sir. Every parent material should watch this. The reality is they are happy. But they want to ensure that their daughter-in-law is not happy and should be struggling 24×7.
Your way of looking at things is very modern and upto date. These days unfortunately there are a lot of parents who believe it's their right to get service from children because they themselves worked hard to please their parents/ in-laws.
Sirji, this comment is on your most favourite movie Bhagban and am sure will be of great interest/information to you. Baghban is a remake of an old Kannada movie, POSTMASTER- which was released in 1964. It is a complete rip-off, including the famous 'broken spectacles" scene 🤣🤣🤣 What we in the south left behind in the 60's was recreated and glamorized by the Bollywood in 2003 😭 Regressive much? 😜 Love your channel, Sirji! Kabhi kabhi South ko bhi include kijiye ji 😀🙏
@@rgseven6557 of course! Otherwise how would you know that the movie was plagiarised? One needs to keep you guys grounded from time to time!! 😜😁 Otherwise we will only end up paying most of the taxes. 🤣
Exactly very good point taken for discussion.... My parents have not seen the corporate and work life in there prime... They dont understand whats the presurre and way of living in todays working environment... They continusly keep nagging and shouting when i dont get time and or i try to destress myself from work presure.... They expect me to contribute in home like a sarkari babu who gives fix hours in office without stress
Sir please make video on that ... In-laws want their daughter to live separate but Interfereing in beta bahu life.... Very toxic in-laws.... Calling their son in law and daughter many times but not caring about son and daughter in law.
Your video was very interesting and practical. I fully agree that younger children should empower old parents rather than make them dependent in today's techno savy world. It is quite easy to use computer,laptop smart phone, app etc to complete maximum tasks as online purchase of groceries, vegetables, clothing,home delivery of cooked food th' Zomato, Swiggy when required,travel reservations, mobile recharge,banking,etc etc to utilise time, effort, and money in smart way and thereby reduce dependency on children. After certain age children have to focus more on career, their spouse, their children and so their time resource is definitely divided. Agreed that the concept and perspective of seva has changed a lot in 2022. Thanks a lot for this video which may be definitely usefull to those who are expecting seva concept of 1940s and 1950s.
You r absolutely right sir . I have heard my mother , her mousi repeatedly reminding themselves that humara to asey hi kat Jaye hath paon chalatey huay. Seva na Leni padey kisika aur bacche khush rahey . Yey bhi khtay they beta agar hum kisi bimari mey salon uljhey aur Paisa kharach ho to poison lakey rakh Dena to hum nikal lengey😮😮 lengey.They talked about euthanasia imagine ( I will not tell anyone about this ) My mother passed away at 60 years in 2000 of cerebral attack suddenly . .🙏 Now people talking of seva 😂😂😂😂
I have started watching your videos and i must say my perception towards life changed a lot. I hope every indian watches these videos and gain some knowledge about life.
My mother says Buda Bacha ek Barabar. Now pamper her like a child. Whole day she is on phone watching, watching and watching. She is dependent on brother for online services. My brother in turn gets cooked food from her and inheritance promise. My brother is playing divide and rule.
Thankyou sir bcoz it's really needed to get this kind of moral support... Taaki mai apne parents ko empower karu aur apne future mai khud ko empower kru and let everyone feel happy
Uncle you are great, where were you all these years. You have made this current generation so guilt free, which itself is given by parents and in laws. Every parent should watch this and should understand current generation time constraint and their own melodrama created by it. You are in true sense unbiased.
I am unable to get married as all guys are asking me to do sewa of their parents and live with in laws. I am not comfortable with it. Pehle se hi lifestyle ko control karne ki koshish. Shaadi me ab delay ho rahi hai. Unki expectations and meri khud ki life expectations match nhi ho rahi.
Absolutely super truth My mom helped me in raising my kids and from then she stayed on saying she has done for me which Noone has done in our society. Sewa is.not only by parents ND in laws. Even spouse want sewa as they have a good job and feel that his wife is getting lot of benefits. Actually it's not so. The spouse does whatever he wants and his statement ," I know what shld be done." Mom has given loads of money to her mom [ Nani, mama, mausi) saying I have enuf. Pre marriage counselling is necessary for spouse and parents both.i just keep.quiet as my kids.are the ones who suffer seeing the situation at home.
Sir appko thank you bahut sara. Aapki videos maine regular dekhna shuru Kara h aur ek attitude me bahut change aaya h. Aapne ek video banayi thi jisme kaha tha ki apne 101 logo ko list karo and then cut people out. I have started that. I have also started noticing how most of my time was taken away by people who were absolutely free in their life and they were feeding on my youthful, cheerful positive energy.
Aapki video thi jokes k naam par log taane toh nahi de rahe, i have also started calling out people on that, aur jo nahi sudhre unko block kar diya.
Aapne ek alag video me kaha tha dosto ristedari isme mat nikalo ki kal ko kaam ayenge, time suckers hain bahut log. Toh ye bhi notice kara maine. Aur ab life mostly sorted lgti h. Time h, usme ya toh nature k sath spend Karo ya career ko dene ka and there is less clutter in life.
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Just wanted u to know that aapka work change la raha h. And for that I am grateful to u💞💫
Sir ..yeh koun sa video hai please link share kar de
Gratitude 🙏
Absolutely true. I feel so pity for people who says we don't agree with Amit Sangwan ...they are staying away from this "Gyan Amrit ". Then i feel bhad me jau Mai videos dekh dekh ke sudhar jaunga then i feel selfish🤣🤣
Sir Say, something about honor killing of ayushi yadav by her parents for marrying a gujjar boy. Ur opinion about intercommunity marriages is needed.
@@anirbanghosh1670 honour killing is a very serious problem anduch more rampant among rural background feudal mindset communities especially the OBC landlord communities such as Yadav Gujjar jats and Patel's ( not bringing caste into it just giving my general observation)
@@Akon1998hell I think if next generation be given both mothers and fathers surname. Or one child having mother's caste another having fathers caste then I don't think there would be this much resentment
Such truthful statement no one will say and admit in Indian society.. Baghbaan effect was so spot on !!!!
Aaapne mere 15 years ka guilt feeling dur kar diya... thank you sir for sharing wonderful thoughts :)
My parents are among those few parents,a blessing ...They are so calm and love us unconditionally...We all 3 kids always ask them before proceeding with any big decisions of life .. They give us guidance without seeing their own benefits..They both have great wisdom and we feel very positive and love sitting around them any time...They never ask for any help for themselves rather extend their hands for our help every time.
So lucky 😭
You are also lucky and even your parents are also lucky to have children like you who respect them.
You are really lucky then
Arre tu idhar zakhmo pe namak mat laga😂
Same with my mother ❤
Excellent video sir!!
I wish I could forward it to my in laws.because after my marriage (24 yrs back)my mil's tagline was,"ab tak apan ne bachchon ka kiya,ab bachche apna karenge"since then she is on that"sewa"mode.😃😃.I feel like,main apne pati ki parvarish ka karz utarne hi aayi hu
Waah kya line hai pati ki parivarish ka karaz utarne layi hun
😄😄😄aur aise parents apni early 50s me to budhe ho gaye the but 20 sal aur gujarne par 70s me Jawan ho gaye hai .pahle budhe ban ka sewa karwaye hai aur ab Jawan ban kar nayi nayi khwaishe poori karwani hai . Convince ke hisab se boodhe ya Jawan hona hai
So true yar. Pathetic. It makes life hell. How to overcome it :(
@@Lialovesfood882 of course it is India sab Kuch possible hain have not you seen phir bhi Dil hai Hindustani because of this attitude country mindset is still in 15th century
Very well said, uske sath beta ko kuch karna nahin sikhaya to you have to mother him too and be a servant to their parents.
Current senior citizens are main reason for divorce and social problems in this time. They enjoyed nuclear family and now expect joint family with same self centric attitude. This has spoilt many families by spreading toxin in their son's or daughter's married life... Hope in next 10 years our society will be better once these senior citizens will move to heaven.... HARSH BUT TRUE....
Agree
spot on man. I am a 38 year old and my parents forced me to break up with my girlfriend and forced me to marry someone with whom I had no chemistry at all and on top of that she was a nasty abusive and manipulative narcissist. She made a mess of my life and also had an affair with her sister's husband (jija) which I discovered when I already had a baby girl. Its been 8 years of our separation and she is denying divorce. The family laws are all biased in favor of women too. Why did all this happen? MY FAMILY and their REGRESSIVE mindset. Now they "chinta karte hain meri", awe!
I agree 👍
They are going to hell not heaven for all the sins they did breaking up marriages, etc.
@@AC-jg2dg they're doing the right thing. Most marriages are about one party having all the fun and the other party being absolutely miserable. Ending this bs is clearing the sins, not creating.
A very important topic. My parents worked a lot to settle us. Even after settling they used to help and wanted to die without illness and our service. But it didn't happen. At the end both were bedridden for a few months and required service and attention. We did it willingly out of our love.
Caring for months and even for one to two year is always needed be in any age group. He is saying about 3 to 4 decades of being parents in laws or senior citizen
If some parents are actually medically ill, or are bedridden then the story and situation is different.
But what he's trying to say is, parent who can do household chores, who have no major illness where they can't move arround, should not depend on their beta bahu, as now we have technology for everything, washing machine for washing clothes, dry and wet moop for cleaning floor, refrigerator so you don't have to cook everything from scratch everytime. Because in age bracket of 50-70 years most parents are capable of doing it. But they prefer not to and want their DIL to do it for them, from today's generation DIL viewpoint they're all educated and have careers they're not willing to do anything for their in-laws. That create friction in relationship and ultimately she won't do anything at all when parents are going to reach age bracket of 70-90 years and they actually are not able to do anything for themselves or are having major illness.
He's trying to say in expectation of "sewa" from DIL, the moment she walked into your home when you're capable of doing everything yourself, you have created so much bitterness, friction in your relationship with your DIL that she won't be there to help you out when you are actually bedridden or seriously ill.
एकदम सही!स्ट्रेट फॉरवर्ड और सिंपल सोल्युशन.कई बार मै भी मन में यही बात सोचती हूॅं की हमारे हाथ पाव चल रहे है,कितनी अच्छी बात है!हॉं थोडी थोडी देरमें थक भी जाते है,स्लोभी हो गयी हूॅं,फिर भी यह सुकुन मनमें रहता है की हम अपने पाव पर खडे है.जरुर सर आजसे यह प्रार्थना भगवान को करुंगी की हमारे बच्चोंको हमारी सेवा करने की जरुरतही न पडे.आपके विचार सुंदर है,सही रास्ता दिखाते है.इतने सच्चे विचार ऐसे बातमें कोई नही बताता था.
Wow uncle ji....I wish aapke jaise samjhdar yaa apke 50% samjhdar bhi in laws jisko mil jaye wo bahu depression aur mental illness jaisi problem se bach jaye. Great work.
आपको डेली सूनने लगा हु बहुत अच्छा लगता आपकी बाते सुनकर आज कि सारी बातें मेरे घरवालो पर एकदम सटीक बैठती हैं
मेरे घर वाले मेरी शादी ऐसी लड़की से करवाना चाहते है जो घर के सारे बर्तन साफ कर दे
आने वाला समय कैसा है उससे उनको कोई मतलब नही है , वाकई मैं समय बहुत बदल गया हैं
We are a 50 plus year old couple and we follow ur philosophy completely with our kids .. we hope to be completely independent as we grow older !
😊👏👏
I am a 34 year and I have same mindset as you
Jo independent parents hai wo jyada khush hai....self respect k saath jeete hai
Some parents are so toxic by the time the children discover, its too late. The damage is done
Aajkal ke parents to male child ke career tak kharab karane main jute huye hai..aur phir unmein itana guilt bhar dete hai ki vo puri tarah se unpe dependent ho jaye..mere najdik ke relatives main hi maine 2, 3 examples dekhe hai...isase to achcha wetern country parents hai..they free their children at age of 18 to discover their own life, find their own interests and make them independent person.
@@sonalimhaisekar6151 True. The parents create fear into their child and continue emotional blackmail
U r rt
Shraddha ko bhi independence. Chahiye thi toxic parents se
It's been 10 years for my realisation.
Very Practical video sir but there's a catch here... Sir sometimes parents are not interested in learning in anything and play victim card everytime one say something to make them understand 🙏🙏. With due respect
u r right
Sm always play buzurg victim card. Jo krna vo ker lete .pr jo nhi krna tub buddhe ho jate
@@amanmalhotra9280 right
So true...neither they wanna learn anything nor utilize their money...victim card, emotional blackmail, make you feel guilty and tell you each tiny detail what they hv done for you..I never thought I will tell these things about my parents...taught us everything as per their convinience, realized it so late...
@@12asaho true
Jai Jagannatha sir ji. Excellent job 👏
Uncleji if all older people think like you families will be much peace living🙏🙏🙏 hats off to you and your thinking
So true Sir...also in India we have this stupidity of glorifying our parents....they are jus humans with their own faults...but nahi koi bhi comments section padh lo.... it's full of toxic comments like "parents must be given more importance than wife" etc..... imagine that poor biwi ka haal....the selfish husband is trying to make her repay the so called "loan" that he has taken !! She is an unpaid servant brought to do free seva of his perfectly fit parents.
Sir, the previous gen parents who are around 75 /80 are the most selfish .
How true
Actually parents ne apni sari life baccho ke liye hi spend kari, apne liye kuch nahi kerte tha, salary bhi kam hoti thi, so they expected more from children, but now 40_50 aged parents enjoyed their life also with good salary,so they will expect lesser from children
Bhsi 50 years me hi ekdum naak me dum bete ka carrier
My father is so dependent on my mom for almost everything.. Bank wrk, serve food ,mobile wrk etc
He does bazarr and physical wrk outside and inside , help in cutting veg
But can't do without mom, doesn't want to learn to use apps, only knows to talk on phone and everywhere
Every word you said is golden. I was so confused just blaming myself and bitter all the time. Can’t believe how parents can destroy their own children’s life
The day we learn to be self dependent, 90% of problems of expectations will die naturally. The remaining 10% also can be solved if we put systems in place through learning and adequate monetary returns which the doer desperately wants. Nice topic Amitji.
the bestest part of the video for me starts at 15:49. Me bhut hi jyada pareshan ho chuka hu apne ghr ke mahol se. completely mentally exhausted
Problem is that some parents do not want to learn and become independent because fir unhe lagta h ki humne seekh liya to beta hume poochega hi nai... us scenario me kya karein? Unko sewa ka rona bhi rona h aur empower bhi nai hona hai...
Wish everyone gets a dadaji like you❣️❣️
I am quite young. Baal gyaan ke safed ho gaye hain
@@SangoLifeSutras fir to aur accha hai😍😍 Sorry for my misunderstanding 🙌
@@mybangaloredays Glad, You got Sango to acknowledge your comment
@@SangoLifeSutras sir you are near about 60-62 yrs 😁
@@SangoLifeSutras😂
Thankyou SO much for this video...
My parents have the idealogy of being independent and are actually happy in their life... Seeing world demand sewa I used to tell them why they don't demand.. It would actually make me upset.. I would find ways to do their 'sewa' ...But they say the same thing, we pray that not a day comes where we need sewa.. I'm even prouder of my parents today :)
I'm one of those very few kids like you mentioned who go and ask for opinion of my parents for every small thing in my own freedom.. Not coz I was ever taught to do so.. But Coz of their wisdom and maturity..
Mujhe to laga tha sirf humare parents hi aisa Karte hain humare saath but apki baatein sunkar to lag raha hai Har Ghar ki ek hi kahani hai aaj
Aap ne to bachcho ko bahut galat shiksha di hai. Aaj kal ke bachche to pehle hi parents ke pass nahi aana chahte dooja aapne unko ye yeh btaw diya ki sewa karne ki zroorat hi nahi hai. Parents ko sewa krani hi nahi chahiey aapne to yeh unko aur majboot kar diya. Aapke vichaar bahut galat hai.
Movies ka bhi thoda kasoor hai guruji...mujhe aap ek movie bataiye jaha bete/betio ki pareshaani dikhayi gayi ho...yaha movie banti hai BAGBAAN...BAGBAAN ek esi movie hai jise family ke saath milke dekho to 4 galiya to movie dekhte-dekhte mil jati hai...
Kahi bhi modern human ki modern problem nahi dikhayi jati
Also avtaar .. Rajesh Khanna Shabana Azmi 😩
🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂 mujhe bhi ye baat sahi lagi or mehsoos hui jab after marriage mere inlaws ka yehi reaction hota tha 🤣🤣🤣 or husband bechare bagbaan dekhte hi ghar se gayab ho jate 😂
@@meethievavlogs9181 it happens only in India
BETA movie dekhiye aur dikhaiye( Anil Kapoor Madhuri Dixit ki)😂 Kaise MIL ke conspiracy ki vajah se barbad hota hai ghar😮
It's not that such movies are not being made. Problem is they don't get the recognition. They get labelled as saas bahu drama movies which over exaggerate when in fact they are showing the exact reality of what happens in majority of families. Rocky and Rani is a big example of that. Rocky's family is a great representation is such families. It's exactly my family 😂. Jo dialogues Rocky or Rani ne mare hai to teach Rocky's family, wo exact dialogues mai or mere Bhai ne mare hai apne parents pr. Bas itna hai movie Mai parents smjh jate hai or finally parents ban jate hai, but reality mai aesa nhi hota majority of times.
But go and see the comments on UA-cam for that movie. People, especially guys pretend ki ye to fantasy hai, aesa thodi hota kisi family mai 😂.
Or bhi bhot hai aesi movies, it's the society jise sirf Sheela ki jawani jesa cheap entertainment chahiye art k naam pr, they are not ready to see the reality, vulnerability and depth in these movies
Sir ji aap dekhne m to bujurgh lagte h pr aapki soch bahut hi young hai.great job sir ji🙏🙏
Very nice words of wisdom..but I hope parents watch such videos and try to understand the situation of their children who are struggling in their lives...Instead of troubling the children,parents should guide nd support them
Bahut badiya ,aise hi sewa (empower)karte rahiye ,God bless you sir❤❤
Superb video sir...aisa hee hona chahiye...thanks for the guidance...kya kamaal ki sooch h...🙏
The best video I've watched so far among all the motivational videos I've come across.
Nice learning..the issue in our society is jo maine Saha wahi agle generation sahe..
Bahut sundar Vichaar
Such a good piece of advice. I'm so grateful to my son who has bin constantly teaching me using paytm, uber & lots more before he left for Canada. Till date very patiently he on video calls explains whatever queries I have. His latest message is ' Mama please dont fortget to get your drivers licence before coming to Canada. ' we are fortunate to be blessed for having him in our life. Self help is the best help. I love watching your fun filled videos with great messages. With kind regards....🙌❣
@@thefoodpriest6614 He is recently married. That is his problem not mine...
Sir,
Thanku very much,
Aap ne jo sujav Diya ha,
Koi bi person
Kisi bi chanal par nhi dikhaya
Excellent, much needed video. Very sound thinking Sir, thank you for sharing your thoughts.
Sir Aap ittni jaldi jaldi videos la rahe hain uske liye thank u, kaafi achchi hoti h aapki videos.
I wish aapke session sab k kaano tak pahuch sakey... Life will be so peaceful if every body understand their part in life...
Excellent video sir , I do exactly what you have asked not to do !! Eye opener ...I think my demand from my children will be more reasonable going forward and the relationship will improve
bohot sunder explaination
Very true words sir .apka videos ko tv mein sabi channel PE channel aana chaiye. Is se sab dekh sekha without escaping.
Great 👍 sir ji. You always bring important topics related to society in prevailing scenario. Your talks are definitely immensely helpful to overcome such difficulties of day to day life. Hats off 👏 to you. Best Wishes and Regards.
I forwarded this video to parents of all ages starting with my parents and my brother ! 👍
Bahut hi badiya Sir. Thank you so much Sir for speaking the truth of relationship 🙏💐🙏
Thanks for covering this topic, I had suggested sometime back. You seem to be my "mele mein bichhde hue brother" 😄 because we share same views
Very nice and progressive content.
Very truly said that ladko ko apni wife se seva karwani hoti hai apne parents ki, khud nahi karni hoti...
I also feel that it's bit too much expection that a woman should do household chores, earn money, manage the home, attend to husband, and in-laws.
It's unfortunate, and this is the reason we are so low in happiness index
True said,,,i m facing the same issues since years like 25 years of my marriage......
Sirf in laws hi nhi unke rishtodaro ko bhi attend kro sewa kro
Soo called progressive people think wives who r at home coz they were not supportive, are free all day, mental.
@@sangeetaghaisas3186 one more reason for people to not marry some one who has parents like these
@@sangeetaghaisas3186 I'm seeing my mom Doing this since 23 year's.. really such a cheap Indian pathetic harsh society.. log apne bahuo aur unke bcche ko apna naukar smjhte hai unka kaam bhi kro unki tanne bhi sunlo
You are amazing Sir. Every parent material should watch this. The reality is they are happy. But they want to ensure that their daughter-in-law is not happy and should be struggling 24×7.
Your way of looking at things is very modern and upto date. These days unfortunately there are a lot of parents who believe it's their right to get service from children because they themselves worked hard to please their parents/ in-laws.
Ekdum pate ki bat kahi sir apne, hamare parents to proudly hame khte he ki tumko bada isliye kiya he ki tum hamari seva kar sako
Excellent Presentation
Much needed advise of a bujurg i needed in life
You choice of topics is very realistic and core to the current scenario.
Sirji, this comment is on your most favourite movie Bhagban and am sure will be of great interest/information to you.
Baghban is a remake of an old Kannada movie, POSTMASTER- which was released in 1964. It is a complete rip-off, including the famous 'broken spectacles" scene 🤣🤣🤣
What we in the south left behind in the 60's was recreated and glamorized by the Bollywood in 2003 😭
Regressive much? 😜
Love your channel, Sirji! Kabhi kabhi South ko bhi include kijiye ji 😀🙏
You had to bring in north vs south right?
@@rgseven6557 of course! Otherwise how would you know that the movie was plagiarised? One needs to keep you guys grounded from time to time!! 😜😁
Otherwise we will only end up paying most of the taxes. 🤣
definitely a needed video for youth.
🙏 empowerment is such an appropriate word here and parents take it as though we r trying to get rid of them by trying to enlighten them
Exactly very good point taken for discussion.... My parents have not seen the corporate and work life in there prime... They dont understand whats the presurre and way of living in todays working environment... They continusly keep nagging and shouting when i dont get time and or i try to destress myself from work presure.... They expect me to contribute in home like a sarkari babu who gives fix hours in office without stress
ओल्ड काफी स्वार्थी हो जाते हैं अपने सिवाय कुछ नहीं दिखाई नहीं देता😢 कुछ सीखना नहीं चाहते है । सेवा सेवा बस😢
So practical... n m glad to have parents, from whom I can seek advice and they are really helpful 😊
Humurous with great practical knowledge
Sir intercaste marriage pe kuch boliye. Aur iske sathe bangali and North East community pe bhi kuch boliye.
Sir please make video on that ... In-laws want their daughter to live separate but Interfereing in beta bahu life.... Very toxic in-laws.... Calling their son in law and daughter many times but not caring about son and daughter in law.
Very good my salute to you from Mumbai, very simple explanation and you have very high level of understanding and observations about India society.
What you said is correct. People should remain single and completely self dependent.
Your thinking is highly practical.
So practical in current time
Sir
You are genius
Great mature level gyaan....!!!
It was an eye opening for me, very practical.
Wonderful n practical information. Thanks sir.
Very good sir
Very practical advices
Bahut achhi advice thankyou aankhe khol di
Thankyou, wonderful advice, Mann ki baat kehdi aapne sir
Your video was very interesting and practical. I fully agree that younger children should empower old parents rather than make them dependent in today's techno savy world.
It is quite easy to use computer,laptop smart phone, app etc to complete maximum tasks as online purchase of groceries, vegetables, clothing,home delivery of cooked food th' Zomato, Swiggy when required,travel reservations, mobile recharge,banking,etc etc to utilise time, effort, and money in smart way and thereby reduce dependency on children. After certain age children have to focus more on career, their spouse, their children and so their time resource is definitely divided.
Agreed that the concept and perspective of seva has changed a lot in 2022.
Thanks a lot for this video which may be definitely usefull to those who are expecting seva concept of 1940s and 1950s.
What a genius person ever I seen my life
Yes Sir Bilkul Dil se Kaha hai apne. Aur Yahi Yahan hi raha hai
This video is sooo practical that it is hilarious! 😅 Guru ji ko pranam 🙏
Bahut mazaa aaya, sangoji
You are very intelligent,Sir 🙏✅️
You r absolutely right sir . I have heard my mother , her mousi repeatedly reminding themselves that humara to asey hi kat Jaye hath paon chalatey huay. Seva na Leni padey kisika aur bacche khush rahey . Yey bhi khtay they beta agar hum kisi bimari mey salon uljhey aur Paisa kharach ho to poison lakey rakh Dena to hum nikal lengey😮😮 lengey.They talked about euthanasia imagine ( I will not tell anyone about this ) My mother passed away at 60 years in 2000 of cerebral attack suddenly . .🙏 Now people talking of seva 😂😂😂😂
I have started watching your videos and i must say my perception towards life changed a lot. I hope every indian watches these videos and gain some knowledge about life.
Sir ,gajab kya sisdhi aur saf sacchi bt karte hai aap
Really very practical points and not Bollywood types.
Sir, Namaste I am speechless. Your each word is bitter truth. I am your new subscriber.
My mother says Buda Bacha ek Barabar. Now pamper her like a child. Whole day she is on phone watching, watching and watching. She is dependent on brother for online services. My brother in turn gets cooked food from her and inheritance promise. My brother is playing divide and rule.
Thankyou sir bcoz it's really needed to get this kind of moral support... Taaki mai apne parents ko empower karu aur apne future mai khud ko empower kru and let everyone feel happy
Common sense and wisdom
Kya baat kahi apne, wrna hmesha new generation ko guilt me daal diya jata h sanskar seva bhao k naam pr! We need to go practically and wisely.
Uncle you are great, where were you all these years. You have made this current generation so guilt free, which itself is given by parents and in laws. Every parent should watch this and should understand current generation time constraint and their own melodrama created by it. You are in true sense unbiased.
I am unable to get married as all guys are asking me to do sewa of their parents and live with in laws. I am not comfortable with it. Pehle se hi lifestyle ko control karne ki koshish. Shaadi me ab delay ho rahi hai. Unki expectations and meri khud ki life expectations match nhi ho rahi.
Bahut sahi bole!
Bahut acha laga
Sir you told facts with so much boldness very nice very effective❤
Absolutely super truth
My mom helped me in raising my kids and from then she stayed on saying she has done for me which Noone has done in our society.
Sewa is.not only by parents ND in laws. Even spouse want sewa as they have a good job and feel that his wife is getting lot of benefits.
Actually it's not so. The spouse does whatever he wants and his statement ," I know what shld be done."
Mom has given loads of money to her mom [ Nani, mama, mausi) saying I have enuf. Pre marriage counselling is necessary for spouse and parents both.i just keep.quiet as my kids.are the ones who suffer seeing the situation at home.
Sir, thank you for your guidance.
Sir you are just amazing , outstanding
Much needed advice for the older generation.
Bahut badiya sir ji
I love your channel. So realistic and practical ❣️❣️
Super topic liya h apne.... 👏👏
Very niche and well researched content... Hats off