Why Women Are Hot & Cold Sometimes

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  • @andrewcrossman2165
    @andrewcrossman2165 9 місяців тому +36

    All the problems ive had with women, were always issues that i had to fix within myself- women are secondary to your life my boys

  • @CoachSteveJandS
    @CoachSteveJandS Рік тому +205

    Is the weather bothering you, or are you bothering yourself about the weather?

  • @joeb5578
    @joeb5578 8 місяців тому +9

    This is so true about women helping us to overcome our weaknesses.
    I've been seeing a girl over 1 1/2 years. There's been a lot of ups and downs but she keeps coming back to me. We separated last year for 4 months. We got back together.
    Since then I've quit drinking and quit Rx meds. Absolutely quit. Not quite a year yet. I feel so much better spiritually, mentally, physically and more of an inner peace and very positive and enjoying my life more than ever. She's become more involved with me than ever. There's one big issue going on that I won't deal with. I've expressed that it needs to change. I'll try to come back here and update to let you know. Thanks Coach.

  • @hellogoodbye2273
    @hellogoodbye2273 Рік тому +44

    Coach continuing fulfilling his purpose by teaching us how to understand the art of relationships. So grateful for your work my man.

  • @marcosperales7349
    @marcosperales7349 11 місяців тому +31

    I know it sounds crazy. It's nice to have these videos to soothe the discomfort between ladies and keep me.on track. Thanks. Corey.

    • @marcosperales7349
      @marcosperales7349 27 днів тому +1

      Totally regrounds me to hear corey reminding me... this is female nature

  • @bixumbi
    @bixumbi Рік тому +89

    She's just not that much into you. Work on yourself, lose weight, regain your confidence, hook up with her eventually (only if you can without becoming attached to her), start seeing other women and stick to the one that truly values you and your time, without hot and cold attitudes.

    • @jroll5858
      @jroll5858 Рік тому +5

      I agree. She’s starting to love him as a friend

    • @davnoble8472
      @davnoble8472 Рік тому +19

      I agree women aren’t really hot and cold with a man they truly lust and desire

    • @stevejakab
      @stevejakab Рік тому +2

      Totally. It’s obvious when a woman is really interested.

    • @franknittfitness43
      @franknittfitness43 Рік тому +1

      This ^ continue to work on your purpose as a man. Focus on your long and short term goals for your health, career, social skills, and building a better you.
      In time you will become more centered/ confident.

    • @Gbb93
      @Gbb93 Рік тому +8

      It’s possible she is avoidant because she is insecure and is catching feelings for him. Best thing to do is give her space. It’s not that she isn’t into him, because from this email she was very much into him

  • @beatriz25ish
    @beatriz25ish Рік тому +11

    😮‍💨 I'm dealing with a guy like this, she is distant because she is tired. It's exhausting reassuring someone 24/7 . I back away after I needed the support he didn't seem to care, this type of people only know how to take but no to give.

  • @christhegeek1883
    @christhegeek1883 Рік тому +5

    This was the butt kicking reminder that I needed today.

  • @aoao7407
    @aoao7407 Рік тому +24

    i got two of my exes told me they love me right after the first date (in which we hook up). Now when I think about it, they were really insecure, and they came from a broken family where their father left them at their child age

  • @jroll5858
    @jroll5858 Рік тому +44

    She fell in love with him as a friend.
    Women don’t want to be your mommy. They want you to be their daddy

    • @THEECATGUY
      @THEECATGUY Рік тому +7

      That’s a good one 🤔

  • @SamuelRodrigues-jy2qs
    @SamuelRodrigues-jy2qs Рік тому +37

    Almost 100% of the problems those guys come with in the video newsletter could be solved by READING THE DAMN BOOK 10-15 TIMES. And that, for me, is the magic of Corey's work. No bullshit. No secrets. No "private members area". This motherfucker literally says "want yo change your life? Here's everything I learned for free" and most guys still wont do the work. Shame.
    Thank you coach for still being patient and going forward for the few of us out here who had the balls to actually believe in your work and implement it in our lives. I'm really really grateful for that.

  • @andrebaxter4023
    @andrebaxter4023 Рік тому +30

    Wake up everyone. It's time for Corey's morning video.

    • @sliqdaddy91
      @sliqdaddy91 Рік тому +3

      Thank you for the alarm clock Andre!

  • @LulaRoberts
    @LulaRoberts Рік тому +10

    You said the very word my mother tried to tell me years ago to do in this video with women.

  • @brendonobrien6231
    @brendonobrien6231 Рік тому +11

    Good reminders man

  • @iRyd3
    @iRyd3 Рік тому +104

    If women play hot and cold games, they are not into you and seeing someone else. So, if you are experiencing this, check your game and date other women.

    • @Nick-ue9of
      @Nick-ue9of Рік тому +45

      Yup, means another person is in the picture, but then again there is always someone else in the picture whether it’s an orbiter, dudes commenting on posts, or guys trying to talk to them in the gym/school. They are never “alone”

    • @trollhunter3944
      @trollhunter3944 Рік тому +13

      Agree!!!! She could be into you when she is hot (and other guys are not providing attention or when a guy breaks up with her) and cold (when a guy she likes is providing attention). I have female friends (all different ages 30s, 40s, and 50s) and I see them do this to guys all the time.

    • @ollivermilton
      @ollivermilton Рік тому +14

      Thats too shortsighted. It really depends on your attachment style.

    • @trollhunter3944
      @trollhunter3944 Рік тому +5

      ​@@ollivermiltonThat's true. But let's assume he has a secure attachment style. In this case, there is still no point in dealing with a dismissive or fear avoidant.

    • @ollivermilton
      @ollivermilton Рік тому +4

      @@trollhunter3944 also there is the attachment style of the girl. If she is constantly between hot and cold She probably has an avoidant style and some deeper issues. Still, backing away and giving her space would be the best way to go. But it would suggest to reevaluate the overall situation as relationships with avoidant are very painful.

  • @Maged_relaxation
    @Maged_relaxation Рік тому +18

    Hi Corey, u got me so successful man thank you ❤️

  • @carsandwhisky2002
    @carsandwhisky2002 Рік тому +15

    I sometimes put a Corey Wayne video on while I’m drifting off to sleep. It just helps to reinforce the principles even more :)

  • @OutmanAmazighi
    @OutmanAmazighi Рік тому +2

    with each year in my life I come back to your video and then understand way more deep that I did the last time..

    • @joeb5578
      @joeb5578 8 місяців тому +1

      Same here.

  • @omez23
    @omez23 Рік тому +12

    Great advice as always.

  • @anthonyjacksonjr4812
    @anthonyjacksonjr4812 Рік тому +5

    Awesome advice, Coach. 💪🏾💪🏾

  • @yellowg00se
    @yellowg00se Рік тому +3

    A few years and has only read the book 6 times?
    That’s his problem.
    This is my first video I’ve seen of his and I’ve read the book 100 times already.
    He’s gotta pump those numbers up

  • @tgray747
    @tgray747 Рік тому

    I had a similar problem and by following CCW's counsel like what he shared here saved the relationship for me. It really works if you follow what Coach says here. Not easy to do it you're insecure but that's in you not her. It's the work you need to focus on. Ease up and let go and allow her to come back to you. Read the book! Listen to this video over and over! It really works. Thanks CCW!

  • @mertgurer7247
    @mertgurer7247 Рік тому +5

    Thank you Corey for your work. You really inspire me to do better everyday.

  • @Jahsee65
    @Jahsee65 Місяць тому

    Exactly what am experiencing, great advice the master of relationships 🎉❤

  • @Fullcollapse1
    @Fullcollapse1 9 місяців тому

    It is very true Corey ! Thats why one day i will engage more and others i like to do my thing. I feel the more you press it tends to push them away a bit. I been talking to this woman that i spend the weekend with after 4 months talking since were 7 hrs away. I noticed she isnt quite over her past since she tends to bring it up alot. So im just giving it a little more time but been pulling back here and there but she usually contacts me first or asks to video call which sometimes i do but dont like to over do it. Im still gonna keep my options open either way ive learned that no matter what they say theres always a chance they change their mind. Long distance is a big commitment and unless shes in 100 percent in im moving on. Time is very valuable especially once you hit your 30s lol. Women are definitely weird but i guess we just need to play along but not be the first to show our cards.

  • @someguyusa
    @someguyusa Рік тому +7

    Coach, you should create a set of study flash cards or a workbook to supplement the book. I’m considering making a study set myself. It’s how I handle many college courses, and your content would fit that style for learning better than just reading the book several times. That’s an inefficient method of learning by itself.

    • @nathantinsley07
      @nathantinsley07 Рік тому

      When you french fry instead pizza.. you’re gonna have a bad day

    • @someguyusa
      @someguyusa Рік тому +2

      @David Camero That's not what I'm saying. Reading by itself is an ineffective study method. It's passive. Things like workbooks and flash card study tools are proven to be significantly more effective.
      Besides, if we already bought a copy, then he has no further financial incentive for us to simply read the thing over and over.

  • @fruitloops3718
    @fruitloops3718 Рік тому +8

    Omg why do these guys come unglued when dealing with a woman? Take your emotions out of it and you will see a huge difference. I don't mean be a cold fish but don't care so much about her reactions. Just listen and observe. She will tell you everything you need to know.

  • @JJJJ-he8bz
    @JJJJ-he8bz Рік тому +11

    The best way to deal with that is just stop giving a danm. That takes away all the power she has over you.

    • @Fullcollapse1
      @Fullcollapse1 9 місяців тому +2

      Exactly! My issue was I needed to handle my emotions better and not let anxiety take over because once that happens it's over and women just know for some odd reason.

    • @darronrbrown_
      @darronrbrown_ 8 місяців тому

      💯

  • @israelayala3720
    @israelayala3720 Рік тому +1

    I love the oven analogy 👌🏼

  • @shreyasurs4582
    @shreyasurs4582 Рік тому

    Right up there among the classics ,good stuff coach

  • @АлексейП-т2е
    @АлексейП-т2е Рік тому

    Excellent analysis and advice, this could have been me, but so far so good😎👍🏻

  • @JeffAboularage
    @JeffAboularage Рік тому +4

    10 to 15 times to own this material. It needs to get to a point where you DON’T KNOW ANY DIFFERENT from what’s in this book.

  • @Godfrey-ki2fe
    @Godfrey-ki2fe Місяць тому

    If she is hot and cold, time to move on. I don't need that drama in my life

  • @TheColtonStreeter
    @TheColtonStreeter Рік тому +7

    It makes me so mad how on point your advice works, I use it and it works but damn.

  • @t.o.o.smooth5870
    @t.o.o.smooth5870 7 місяців тому +2

    He's not the only contender. She likes him, but she's not fully sold on him so she's likely still entertaining other options. Women are insecure and cant be alone, so they'll string along men to give her constant validation while she figures herself out or finds a guy that is more fitting.

  • @philipmillen4271
    @philipmillen4271 Рік тому +5

    Mirror is you're friend, it they back off do exactly the same

  • @putiner2039
    @putiner2039 Рік тому +3

    Corey wayne i disagree with everything you said here. If a girl is acting like this then date others who have high interest who are consistent. There are girls who act normal. Date them!

  • @kvs7876
    @kvs7876 Рік тому +3

    My girlfriend is great when we are together and on the phone but the texting doesn’t match the in person interaction.

  • @andrebaxter4023
    @andrebaxter4023 Рік тому +8

    If he truly has sleep apnea, then go to a sleep specialist for it. A CPAP machine will solve that issue.

  • @philipramsden4975
    @philipramsden4975 Місяць тому

    Can't be letting some 5 foot whatever woman throw you into an emotional tailspin. You are the shore and she's the ocean. Sometimes it's calm and sometimes it's a hurricane.

  • @jasoncanon7311
    @jasoncanon7311 Рік тому +3

    She probably caught onto him being clingy and she's testing the water to see if it was just a hiccup or if he's an insecure male she has to train and no woman wants that, it also seems like he didn't want to work on his physical appearance until after he met her smh.

  • @mohamedadan6678
    @mohamedadan6678 Рік тому +1

    damn, i made this mistake! I kept asking her question after question trying to get reassurance and i could tell i was smothering her 😂 Never again!

  • @secondsof-ym9di
    @secondsof-ym9di Рік тому +18

    Recently got in a relationship and she told me "you are getting dangerous" i askes of course what do you mean and she she went talking about that she was starting do get attached to me and it scared her eventually she told me im was the first person to break down her wall that she put up after her last boyfriend and after letting her talk for a while she told "thank you for just listening" this made me feel so good thanks corey! But is this her way of saying "i love you?" Of is she getting there?

    • @vivoluos6541
      @vivoluos6541 Рік тому +17

      she is getting there. just lean back and enjoy the show

    • @laubachm11
      @laubachm11 Рік тому +13

      It also means she doesn’t know how to have a healthy relationship

    • @linc131313
      @linc131313 Рік тому +8

      Sometimes girls just want you to listen, as CW has mentioned in the past. It doesn't mean that she loves you, but you just listening is a good thing to make her feel heard and understood.

    • @SoundBalls
      @SoundBalls Рік тому +8

      ​@@alonzor.2912 dont understand where youre coming? from he told nothing about distance... nothing toxic here i think? Explain

    • @andrebaxter4023
      @andrebaxter4023 Рік тому +1

      ​@Chris Corrado , nailed it. 🔨

  • @noggginn
    @noggginn Рік тому +1

    Yeah, the thing with the weather, if I you're in the amazon rain forest and you're upset its raining, that's on you but if you move to the south of France and there is a hurricane one day, sunny the next, then freezing cold, then a heat wave, it might be pretty warranted to ask, "ok, what the fuck is happening" and get pissed off.
    Also, If I am getting dropped like a bad habit at any given time, for any given reason does that not seem pretty disrespectful to be treated like background noise whenever things don't exactly work out or when they just get bored? Id rather they just stay away if that's how its going to be. The one foot in one foot out, hokey-pokey act doesn't do it for me. I'm good, next.

  • @ShinemC45
    @ShinemC45 Рік тому +3

    What is it with these guys committing to long-distance LTR's? 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

  • @peterwinzeler2935
    @peterwinzeler2935 Рік тому +1

    Where do I get your book

  • @just-a-6176
    @just-a-6176 8 місяців тому

    If Is something im sure of is that Corey knows hes shit guys take his advice to the t. My girl got cold on me but i had a lot to do with it i kind got a lil aggressive with her, not physically but told her a few thing i shouldn’t had said, but anyways she said she needed some time to wrap her mind around things so i gave her some space, either to say week went by till i stomp into this video and really opened my eyes, so i decided to take coreys advice and text her and ask her” you been a lil distant lately, is everything ok? Anything you want to talk about? And this was her responses”I appreciate how you just brought that up. Felt gentle & kind. “Only time I want you aggressive is in bed lol “

    • @just-a-6176
      @just-a-6176 8 місяців тому +1

      These are the rest of her responses “ I have been distant. Working through & learning a lot personally. Realized I needed to take a step back & focus on me for a bit. It's been good for me. I do miss you & love you like crazy. “How are you papi? And the rest is history lol thank corey u the best

  • @mowtoegee7049
    @mowtoegee7049 2 місяці тому +2

    Hot and cold games are fucking stupid. Value yourself as a man and dont play around with that shit. Recognise it , call it out and move on. You're not there to be a rock for someone who is flaky and inconsistent

  • @cameronpatrickscott
    @cameronpatrickscott Рік тому +4

    Nature is Noisy

  • @cfnaround1585
    @cfnaround1585 8 місяців тому

    Women are not empathetic, they are sympathetic.

  • @herbertvonsauerkrautunterh2513

    Sometimes? More like all the time

  • @Mac_Kymera
    @Mac_Kymera Рік тому

    Something feels really off with what the writer is saying. So he gave her space and she said thank you for this but then she says she wants space 🤷🏼‍♂️ I think there’s more at play here than what the writer is letting on. Maybe there’s another guy in the picture and she’s just confused and doesn’t know how to feel.

  • @ryanbailey3185
    @ryanbailey3185 3 місяці тому +2

    I wouldn’t say that women are inherently more emotionally “in tune” or whatever. It’s the fact that they ALL have a zillion options and treat men as less than human. I am an objectively high value man in every sense of the word and the bottom line is that women these days bc of social media just go from guy to guy. For the love of God Tom Brady and Brad Pitt both had women leave them. Just focus on yourselves fellas and let them age out of the market. Enjoy having the last laugh. No shade on Coach Corey but reality is far different than a “system” can teach. The women of our grandfather’s era are long gone.

  • @gabrielvega18
    @gabrielvega18 Рік тому +6

    Need help guys! I had a coworker who I was involved with and we started off super hot and now we aren’t speaking it went cold it’s been like this for a week. She blew me off then I asked her for another date last week and she said it wasn’t a good week. She invited me to her birthday event before then and invited some coworkers. I’m doing no contact and pulling away not even wishing her a happy birthday but should I still go to her birthday thing? I feel like if I don’t go she will think I’m butt hurt but also why should I reward her with my presence?

    • @jroll5858
      @jroll5858 Рік тому +11

      If you decided to go no contact then no, I wouldn’t go. Your words & actions have to be congruent.
      Going no contact & then showing up would be weird. If she wants you to go she’ll definitely let you know.
      She blew you off so it’s up to her now & if she wants you back her life, she needs to do the pursuing

    • @gabrielvega18
      @gabrielvega18 Рік тому +3

      @@jroll5858 thank you! Yeah after she said no to making a date I said okay and just kind of left it at that since she had to get up and help a customer ever since then I decided if she really wants to see me or talk to me she’ll let me know

    • @abstract-thoughts
      @abstract-thoughts Рік тому

      Can you explain why you guys went cold? What happened? Why did she blow you off? That will help me answer your question.

    • @gabrielvega18
      @gabrielvega18 Рік тому

      @@abstract-thoughts I think initially I was too available I would respond fast and text and be on the phone all the time with her everyday. We went out made out several times. She’s single and so am I so I know she was seeing/ talking to other people and so was I. She said she really liked me and had these feelings for me and then one day she said she was talking to this other guy. I asked her out, we went out then when I set a date she flaked said she wasn’t feeling well then a couple of days later I tried again which is when she said this week wasn’t good. I had started to pull back a bit and take my time to respond but now we just both stopped talking to each other.

    • @abstract-thoughts
      @abstract-thoughts Рік тому +2

      @Gabriel Vega got it. Yeah it does sound like too much too soon. Giving her space is good. I'd say don't reach out at all until she does, then assume she wants to get together and make a date as Corey teaches. Then follow the once a week date / minimal texting per Corey's work.

  • @kvs7876
    @kvs7876 Рік тому +2

    Watch some Bond movies and emulate his attitude. Work out and eat a salad also

  • @quigglyz
    @quigglyz 3 місяці тому

    Throwing shade at red pill 😂 You might "not care about hypergamy," brother, *but it sure as fuck cares about you.*

  • @jhamilton1007
    @jhamilton1007 8 місяців тому +1

    How about, women needing to learn to control their emotions. At some point women need to take responsibility for their actions. A man isnt responsible for a woman's actions and lack of self control. Also, women need to learn to communicate verbally. Putting it always on the Man, is just an excuse for them not growing. Its toxic and immature on their oart.

  • @DubShah
    @DubShah Рік тому +1

    Coach, you really need a better camera. This video is from 2 weeks ago but looks so dated. I was about to switch off.

  • @rickystrings8006
    @rickystrings8006 Рік тому +1

    Date other girls...guys stop getting hung up on 1 girl. ugh

  • @terreljonesjr.3277
    @terreljonesjr.3277 6 місяців тому

    🤣🤣🤣

  • @berniejackson5149
    @berniejackson5149 8 місяців тому

    This is good info but if she’s that much of a cat …. Not worth the effort

  • @Chippychops7
    @Chippychops7 Рік тому +3

    Calling an Aussie lazy isn't an insult it's a right of passage

  • @btraina85
    @btraina85 Рік тому +4

    Thank The Most High for Corey, he's an expert on attraction and human behavior!
    But he knows very little about Russia/Ukraine...as we now know, Ukraine is getting their @$$ beat!

  • @cumminskonrad
    @cumminskonrad Рік тому +4

    Hey Coach, Ive been seeing this women on and off that's completely knocked my socks off. As you would say. I read your book 3 times so far. On my fourth read. She's been acting hot and cold throughout our relationship. Unfortunately she was in an abusive relationship for a long time and her ex is not cooperating in setting her free for good. Basicily in the middle of a divorce. I've been watching her interest level ever since reading your book once. I've deployed the no contact multiple times and she always reached out eventually. At least in the past. I'm back using the no contact for about 2 weeks. She's giving me lots of indicators that she sees a future for us. It's such an emotional Rollercoaster. I know what you're gonna say coach. She's unavailable. Fuck this shit. You gotta focus your time on someone's that is willing able ready and available lol. Figured I would share my story. It sucks !

    • @howtosnatch
      @howtosnatch Рік тому

      It doesn't sound like you're happy or at peace.

    • @cumminskonrad
      @cumminskonrad Рік тому +2

      @@howtosnatch yeah. You're not wrong! I'm continuing to better myself by further listening to ccw.

    • @howtosnatch
      @howtosnatch Рік тому

      @@cumminskonrad good stuff man. Hang in there.

    • @Owenwilsonsnose386
      @Owenwilsonsnose386 11 місяців тому

      How’s it going?