Loneliness is a tricky one because you think it's the situation that makes you feel lonely and the story seems so believable. it's the toughest thing to allow the feeling to rise up without letting your mind going into drama or without watching my phone or eat something. But it's true for everything, the world is a mirror of our inner life.
Brilliant!! This is my life. Every evening, I feel lost and scared and look for anyway possible to distract myself. I didn't know what the source of these feeling was. All day long, I can stay in the zone. But here Rupert has explained that the mind doesn't have the same distractions in the evening, so it starts to panic. Courage be mine! BRING IT ON MIND!!!
Holy shit, people. I've struggled with this for years, and I didn't realize I wasn't the only one until I saw this video and this comment field. Just googled 'evening anxiety'; looks like it might be a thing. Thanks to that guy in the audience for asking that question, and thanks to all of you for sharing. And, of course, to Rupert for giving such a nice articulation.
Come to think of it, I often had this anxiety on weekends. It would loom up Friday afternoon at the thought of spending another lonely weekend. Thank God it's Monday 🙂
I have been easily overwhelmed for many years. Now I know it is the fictitious self convincing me of it because it doesn’t want me to pause and be in the present with my feelings. It wants me to escape and run away constantly, which is what actually feels overwhelming. It is the state of constant running away that is exhausting.
4:03 As soon as we're busy with whatever it is on the internet, surprise-surprise, we're no longer feeling the anxiety. Clarity & courage are required to stop trying to avoid the emptiness. "Though it may be counter-intuitive for a person to plunge headlong into the mouth of her or his most frightening demons, this is exactly what is required of the skillful and rigorous contemplative. …and let the process work itself out through an Intelligence greater than our own." ~ Michael Hawkins
I have a mood disorder and have spent a large part of my adult life investigating my own trauma, not wanting to repress or bury it. I started meditating because I was waking up with severe mental and bodily anxiety. It was immediately effective. Sometimes though I still wake up with some emotional discord and do not know what to attribute the feelings to. I try to shift my mood by saying something like “good morning world.” It is effective but I am perplexed not knowing the nature of my fears or anxieties. Is it Covid. Is it loneliness? Is it fear of illness and/or death? I don’t know.
This resonates so much with me...I get this every night just as I am about to fall into a deep sleep. All day I am so distracted intellectually because of my job but then when I am trying to sleep just at that point of falling into deep sleep I get this sensation bubbling up from deep within and up to like my solar plexus area...and then my mind starts racing and is afraid to just let go. So it then starts playing tricks on me like makes me to go the toilet or incessantly thinking about the next day and how many more hours of sleep I am going to get..just to distract me from the sensation. It is so frustrating because I have developed chronic insomnia because I just can't get that deep sleep...The real reason is I have lots of repressed emotions like grief etc (death of a family member which I dealt with intellectually and didn't 'feel' and release)..So I feel these repressed emotions manifesting physically at night just as I am trying to sleep..I feel like Edward Norton in the movie Fight Club where he has insomnia and then sleeps like a baby when he has a cry and a big emotional release..I am more aware of this now though because I have been practicing mediation for a while...I'm wondering if anyone else has had a similar experience...
Yes! Happened to me last night/early this morning. I just prayed and prayed about all the bad feelings I felt, in this case it was panic and anxiety. Among other worries about the next day.
Somatic experience , Hakomi, and other modalities teach how to allow overwhelming feelings To be experienced. I respect his teachings and still for some of us PTSD is very dangerous. Not only the separate self is threatened by his approach, but suicidal thoughts can be acted upon.
Great, great explanation. This is where Buddhist and Vedantic teachings meet. Vipassana and Vedanta. Wonder why Rupert didn't bring in the concept of impermanence of these feelings into his explanation. That would have given some more weight to it. But whatever was said, is awesome. So grateful.
I'm completely amazed, the clarity you provide is priceless. I'm finding the process very calming and invaluable living as awareness. Thanking you from the❤😎🙏🙋
A great questions followed by even a greater answer. I retired 2 years ago and I have noticed how as the daily activities decreases many feelings and emotion that si thought I had let go many years ago are appearing again with great intensity
Makes so much sense, been in this position hundreds of times and each time I've reburied my feelings...Thank you for the guidance, really needed this...
Thank you....for giving me the explanation to Lainie. Her "preaching" & criticism is really her self-avoidance. Peace & comfort in understanding. This is beautifully helpful. 15.9.2015
You are genius mr.Spira. Last hope for humans to begin to be how we suppose to be. Pls make also video about chakras, energy centers, or energetic breathing. Thank You very much! I feel like i can not breath correctly or something like that ;(
I avoid myself alot, whenever anxiety arises I engage in different activities. Avoid anything that triggers it. What will happen if I face it like he suggests?
The play of desire for pleasure Feeling uneasiness, insatisafcation, a sense of lacking are emotional expressions of the ego (the ego essnetially is desiring) by which the ego can easily drive us towards a pleasurable experience. It is the main strategy of the ego to make us feel emotionally uncoftable in order to drive us to a pleasurable sensory experience. The main desire of ego is experience some kind of pleasure. It is easier for the ego to impel us seek a pleasurable sensory experience when first makes us feel emotionally 'badly'. It is the ego that creates the above mentioned emotions (more precesely it is the ego itself that asumes the form of instatsfaction, uneasiness, sense of lacking, etc.) , it is the ego that wants to escape from these emotions, it is the ego that wants t oexperience saome kind of sensory pleasure or pleasant sensation. The problem is that we identify with the ego and we cannot see cleraly all this play of the ego by which it traps and holds us under its dominion.
I think one can suicide only if he listens and believes in the interpretation and narrative that goes with the uncomfortable sensations, but if one only observes the sensations (of lack) in the body, and gets curious about them without any mental activity (labelling, analysing, rationalising,...), they might dissolve with time, and come back less.
You only can commit suicide as a person. The awareness is only aware and not involved in such feelings like depression. So when you believe you are the person, yes you can get overwhelmed, or believe you get overwhelmed. Death doesn´t exist like we believe. Death is only the death of the body and the person/ego. So theres only the person who commits and the person the only one dying.
Be courageous and just do it. --This is a little like telling an alcoholic to just stop, or a person suffering from depression to just be happy. It's easy to say, "Be courageous!" It's another thing to actually do when every fiber and thought and feeling makes you incapable.
No doubt Rupert was speaking to a person who he felt was ready and open to hear those words. It's very important to be kind and patient with ourselves, and we may not be ready to hear everything he says. I suspect that most of us who watch Rupert have gained important insight into the dynamics of the mind and we know in what direction we are going -- which sets the stage for a courageous endeavor in ways that others may not have. It's like we are not going in unarmed. This inner introspection and openness to things which frightened us before, is likely a well worn path to awakening.
Do you think alcoholism and depression/anxiety goes away on its own? Having "fought" them for over a decade I'm here to tell you need to take responsibility, and that starts with blowing out your voice from screaming with crying eyes yelling I've had enough of this bs. Then I simply quit, started jogging every other day now I feel like a King. Feels amazing. You see, people that are too comfy will never change. If they get faced with a quit or die scenario most people will quit. People need to learn to pick them selfes up by the scruff of their necks.
@@dba4292 my problem with answers like these, is that you presume every depression, or every "hard times" is more or less the same. While in fact you only truly know your own.
@Samaya Trust me. They are. We just put a different "connotation" to it. The energy, the feeling, is still the same. The anger you felt when you stubbed your toe is not different from the anger you feel when your wife is in bed with someone else, is it? No. So don't presume on my behalf again, I unlike you, know what I am talking about. have a nice day. If you don’t get this you need to listen to Rupert’s advice on “emotion”
Is embodying the feeling "letting the feeling in", or is it a perpetuation of focusing on the object? I mean this if the feeling is just manifesting in the body (such as crying or pain) and I am entirely welcoming it, not afraid. I am a bit confused by this matter
That, as the name imply, you are lucid in A dream. Are you still not the same awareness in your dream as in your waking life? Be it a lucid, or more rigid dream.
ENTERTAINMENT IS OK. REALLY. The non dual delusion - I sit without any desires like a tree stump for the rest of my life! NO, you wake up and stop making your life wrong... you enjoy the ice-cream, the wine and the Kardasians..... OYVE.....
Loneliness is a tricky one because you think it's the situation that makes you feel lonely and the story seems so believable. it's the toughest thing to allow the feeling to rise up without letting your mind going into drama or without watching my phone or eat something. But it's true for everything, the world is a mirror of our inner life.
Brilliant!! This is my life. Every evening, I feel lost and scared and look for anyway possible to distract myself. I didn't know what the source of these feeling was. All day long, I can stay in the zone. But here Rupert has explained that the mind doesn't have the same distractions in the evening, so it starts to panic. Courage be mine! BRING IT ON MIND!!!
Holy shit, people. I've struggled with this for years, and I didn't realize I wasn't the only one until I saw this video and this comment field. Just googled 'evening anxiety'; looks like it might be a thing.
Thanks to that guy in the audience for asking that question, and thanks to all of you for sharing. And, of course, to Rupert for giving such a nice articulation.
🙏🏻
Come to think of it, I often had this anxiety on weekends. It would loom up Friday afternoon at the thought of spending another lonely weekend.
Thank God it's Monday 🙂
I've been thru so much in 50 years, Yet myself/ my being remains unchanged, intact, solid and @peace.
We are truly indestructible....
I have been easily overwhelmed for many years. Now I know it is the fictitious self convincing me of it because it doesn’t want me to pause and be in the present with my feelings. It wants me to escape and run away constantly, which is what actually feels overwhelming. It is the state of constant running away that is exhausting.
4:03 As soon as we're busy with whatever it is on the internet, surprise-surprise, we're no longer feeling the anxiety. Clarity & courage are required to stop trying to avoid the emptiness.
"Though it may be counter-intuitive for a person to plunge headlong into the mouth of her or his most frightening demons, this is exactly what is required of the skillful and rigorous contemplative.
…and let the process work itself out through an Intelligence greater than our own."
~ Michael Hawkins
This is so dead on. What happens to me now is that I do indulge in distractiond but it never satisfies.
Thank you Rupert for this pointing out.
Mind creates everything... teach it loving kindness.
This is why EFT is so great, it is framework to feel our feelings, and let them go without any stories.
but eft AIMS to rid right? would not align with non duality
I have a mood disorder and have spent a large part of my adult life investigating my own trauma, not wanting to repress or bury it. I started meditating because I was waking up with severe mental and bodily anxiety. It was immediately effective. Sometimes though I still wake up with some emotional discord and do not know what to attribute the feelings to. I try to shift my mood by saying something like “good morning world.” It is effective but I am perplexed not knowing the nature of my fears or anxieties. Is it Covid. Is it loneliness? Is it fear of illness and/or death? I don’t know.
This resonates so much with me...I get this every night just as I am about to fall into a deep sleep. All day I am so distracted intellectually because of my job but then when I am trying to sleep just at that point of falling into deep sleep I get this sensation bubbling up from deep within and up to like my solar plexus area...and then my mind starts racing and is afraid to just let go. So it then starts playing tricks on me like makes me to go the toilet or incessantly thinking about the next day and how many more hours of sleep I am going to get..just to distract me from the sensation. It is so frustrating because I have developed chronic insomnia because I just can't get that deep sleep...The real reason is I have lots of repressed emotions like grief etc (death of a family member which I dealt with intellectually and didn't 'feel' and release)..So I feel these repressed emotions manifesting physically at night just as I am trying to sleep..I feel like Edward Norton in the movie Fight Club where he has insomnia and then sleeps like a baby when he has a cry and a big emotional release..I am more aware of this now though because I have been practicing mediation for a while...I'm wondering if anyone else has had a similar experience...
Yes! Happened to me last night/early this morning. I just prayed and prayed about all the bad feelings I felt, in this case it was panic and anxiety.
Among other worries about the next day.
How are you doing now I hope things have been easier for you!
Somatic experience , Hakomi, and other modalities teach how to allow overwhelming feelings
To be experienced. I respect his teachings and still for some of us PTSD is very dangerous. Not only
the separate self is threatened by his approach, but suicidal thoughts can be acted upon.
Great, great explanation. This is where Buddhist and Vedantic teachings meet. Vipassana and Vedanta. Wonder why Rupert didn't bring in the concept of impermanence of these feelings into his explanation. That would have given some more weight to it. But whatever was said, is awesome. So grateful.
This is even easier today nowadays than ever.
Almost every home has a TV, there are gaming systems, PCs, we can drive cars, etc
I'm completely amazed, the clarity you provide is priceless. I'm finding the process very calming and invaluable living as awareness. Thanking you from the❤😎🙏🙋
This is so accurate - no psychiatrist or psychologist could understand this as well as Mr. Spira does.
This is exactly what exposure therapy does, though.
"The way out is through." - author Vernon Howard
A great questions followed by even a greater answer. I retired 2 years ago and I have noticed how as the daily activities decreases many feelings and emotion that si thought I had let go many years ago are appearing again with great intensity
Makes so much sense, been in this position hundreds of times and each time I've reburied my feelings...Thank you for the guidance, really needed this...
So So So Important. Thankyou.
Be Courageous! Feeling of being overwhelmed.. Risk it anyway. Great advice. Thank you.
This is so uncanny! Last night I was pondering on this, because it happens to me often. Thanks so much for this incredible advice.
Love this. Thank you Rupert! ❤️
this guy saving lives
he's killing em
Evening... good time to allow focus with oneself.
Great! That is the same for me and here appears the suggestion, the way to manage it! Thank you so much for all these helpful videos! Merci beaucoup!
Thank you....for giving me the explanation to Lainie. Her "preaching" & criticism is really her self-avoidance. Peace & comfort in understanding. This is beautifully helpful. 15.9.2015
This video should right title like " evening discomfort feeling"
You are genius mr.Spira. Last hope for humans to begin to be how we suppose to be. Pls make also video about chakras, energy centers, or energetic breathing. Thank You very much! I feel like i can not breath correctly or something like that ;(
I avoid myself alot, whenever anxiety arises I engage in different activities. Avoid anything that triggers it. What will happen if I face it like he suggests?
The play of desire for pleasure
Feeling uneasiness, insatisafcation, a sense of lacking are emotional expressions of the ego (the ego essnetially is desiring) by which the ego can easily drive us towards a pleasurable experience.
It is the main strategy of the ego to make us feel emotionally uncoftable in order to drive us to a pleasurable sensory experience.
The main desire of ego is experience some kind of pleasure. It is easier for the ego to impel us seek a pleasurable sensory experience when first makes us feel emotionally 'badly'.
It is the ego that creates the above mentioned emotions (more precesely it is the ego itself that asumes the form of instatsfaction, uneasiness, sense of lacking, etc.) , it is the ego that wants to escape from these emotions, it is the ego that wants t oexperience saome kind of sensory pleasure or pleasant sensation.
The problem is that we identify with the ego and we cannot see cleraly all this play of the ego by which it traps and holds us under its dominion.
Absolutely loved this video. Thank you so much for this valuable information. Lots of love from an Australian 🇦🇺❤
the only criticism I have on Rupert is that he's too good to be true
I so needed this !
Isnt suicide an act of being overwhelmed by feelings and thoughts??
Thank you for your work!✨✨✨
I would say so. In which case the internet could save your life.
I think one can suicide only if he listens and believes in the interpretation and narrative that goes with the uncomfortable sensations, but if one only observes the sensations (of lack) in the body, and gets curious about them without any mental activity (labelling, analysing, rationalising,...), they might dissolve with time, and come back less.
You only can commit suicide as a person. The awareness is only aware and not involved in such feelings like depression. So when you believe you are the person, yes you can get overwhelmed, or believe you get overwhelmed. Death doesn´t exist like we believe. Death is only the death of the body and the person/ego. So theres only the person who commits and the person the only one dying.
@@Marvinthiesen thank you for clarifying.it is obvious and than I forget.
@@monikasitarz2543 wishing you all the best, thx for your reply
I know this anxiety only too well and in the mornings as well, as I have no outer commitments.
I notice that “thinking, conceptualizing, predicting and analyzing” are what my mind does to avoid feeling. Just lots of mind stuff
What will be overwhelmed is another petty judgment on oneself
thank you rupert:)
I have the same problem but it comes during the afternoon.
Don't live in the patterns of usual thinking, but live in the matrix of Awareness.
How can anyone dislike this
Beautiful 🏵️💖
What would be overwhelmed ? Wow
I like your ikebana.
7:00 Rupert taking about the impulse raising to avoid the feelings.
Be courageous and just do it. --This is a little like telling an alcoholic to just stop, or a person suffering from depression to just be happy. It's easy to say, "Be courageous!" It's another thing to actually do when every fiber and thought and feeling makes you incapable.
No doubt Rupert was speaking to a person who he felt was ready and open to hear those words. It's very important to be kind and patient with ourselves, and we may not be ready to hear everything he says. I suspect that most of us who watch Rupert have gained important insight into the dynamics of the mind and we know in what direction we are going -- which sets the stage for a courageous endeavor in ways that others may not have. It's like we are not going in unarmed. This inner introspection and openness to things which frightened us before, is likely a well worn path to awakening.
Do you think alcoholism and depression/anxiety goes away on its own? Having "fought" them for over a decade I'm here to tell you need to take responsibility, and that starts with blowing out your voice from screaming with crying eyes yelling I've had enough of this bs. Then I simply quit, started jogging every other day now I feel like a King. Feels amazing. You see, people that are too comfy will never change. If they get faced with a quit or die scenario most people will quit. People need to learn to pick them selfes up by the scruff of their necks.
D BA love your story, congratulations on your success, that’s absolutely brilliant 👍
@@dba4292 my problem with answers like these, is that you presume every depression, or every "hard times" is more or less the same. While in fact you only truly know your own.
@Samaya Trust me. They are. We just put a different "connotation" to it. The energy, the feeling, is still the same. The anger you felt when you stubbed your toe is not different from the anger you feel when your wife is in bed with someone else, is it? No. So don't presume on my behalf again, I unlike you, know what I am talking about. have a nice day. If you don’t get this you need to listen to Rupert’s advice on “emotion”
Is embodying the feeling "letting the feeling in", or is it a perpetuation of focusing on the object? I mean this if the feeling is just manifesting in the body (such as crying or pain) and I am entirely welcoming it, not afraid.
I am a bit confused by this matter
Exactly, this what happens in tge evening)
Superb
The much greater risk ist drinking or smoking top much for example!
11:15 See the mechanism of thoughts
wow!
How do you explain Lucid Dreaming?
That, as the name imply, you are lucid in A dream. Are you still not the same awareness in your dream as in your waking life? Be it a lucid, or more rigid dream.
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Try a “bring it on” approach... enough exhausting, futile, deluded running away.
But why do people dy then from depression?
fly to fear
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7:13
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ENTERTAINMENT IS OK. REALLY. The non dual delusion - I sit without any desires like a tree stump for the rest of my life! NO, you wake up and stop making your life wrong... you enjoy the ice-cream, the wine and the Kardasians..... OYVE.....
I notice that “thinking, conceptualizing, predicting and analyzing” are what my mind does to avoid feeling. Just lots of mind stuff
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