The Offspring - Kristy, Are You Doing Okay?
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Lyrics:
There's a moment in time
And it's stuck in my mind
Way back, when we were just kids
'Cause your eyes told the tale
Of an act of betrayal
I knew that somebody did
Oh, waves of time
Seem to wash away
The scenes of our crimes
For you this never ends
Can you stay strong?
Can you go on?
Kristy, are you doing okay?
A rose that won't bloom
Winter's kept you
Don't waste your whole life trying
To get back what was taken away
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I was 12 when it happened to me. I'm about to turn 22 and am just now getting help for what was done to me.
Everyone else has said it but the "don't waste your whole life trying, to get back what was taken away", is so true. I can't go back to a point where i was repressing what happened to me and didn't have to deal with all the messiness that comes with dealing with something like that. But you know what, i wasn't doing okay.
We can pretend like we're doing just fine, but i know from my personal experience that once you acknowledge trauma that a lot of behaviors start making sense. Even if you try to run from it, its still in control. It will eat away at you inside and you won't be able to get close to people. But there is a way out.
I know it's hard to believe when you can't see it, but it's true. The person who did this to me will likely never face justice, but I can get my own sense of healing and closure from closing the old wounds.
To whoever is out there and is reading this, you will get through this. It wont be easy, but it'll be for the better in the end.
Thank you Dexter for writing this song. It's given me a lot of comfort even 16 years after you wrote it as i navigate my healing journey.
"Don't waste your whole life trying to get back what was taken away"
That was all I needed to hear. Thank you.
Isabella Evans that line is like an icicle into my heart. It’s true, it’s good advice, but it’s so difficult to let go of the innocence stolen that I get hung up on in life.
Im still mad that I didn't see my brother when he played Skyrim, accidentally tossed up a shield and thus blocked an arrow. He also did not record it and I want to see that!
It’s an icicle for most. Wounds don’t heal and it’s nature to see what you’ve lost every time you close your eyes. I just wish I would of told her I loved her one last time
This was one of the key teachings of Buddhism. I used to study at a Buddhist school and this was a philosophy that the Buddha teaches. Let go and move on because time cannot be turned backwards and you have so little time to be on this planet, so just live it to the fullest. No matter how dark your life was, there is still light ahead, you just need to let go completely so that you can embrace light.
@@chrisp7110 Indeed! Back then those words rang true. Since then, I have gone through a Major change, a shift in perspective. I dove deep within, healing everything I could reach. Even being able to forgive the one that stole my innocence and childhood. 😊 It no longer consumes me. I am Free.
There is no 'getting it back', but I was able to do something even Better. Forgive and Heal. 💙💚💜
Yes, I'm doing fine
lmao
Kristy Nguyen just remember kristy don't waste your whole life trying to take back what was taken away
Lmao
William Schutte he is talking about her stolen virginity
pink memes for your own good i hope you are not that kristy.
I'm 22 and just now dealing with (instead of keeping it suppressed) being assaulted when I was 15. I haven't heard this song in years. I needed this. Thank you.
Brittney, are you doing okay?
You are strong and worthy. That bastard won't have a peaceful life and afterlife.
brittney please dont suppress it, my wife did for 13 years and now im a 34 widower with 3 kids, talking, opening up, evening braking down isnt weakness.
All love to the Kristys out there and hope you've triumphed.
Thanks👍
Working on coping too many days too count
Still trying
Dexter, I don't know if you read these comments, but I wanted to thank you for pursuing your music. I know you walked away from a Ph.D program and, as I'm pursuing a similar degree, I understand the driving passion it takes to get that far into the sciences. Your music has lifted my life and has made the world a better place. Thank you.
I'm sure you know this by now - but, for the readers - Dexter did go on to finish his PHD in molecular biology in 2017. He didn't have to, but he did it anyway.
I'd love to hang out with him and talk not The Offspring.
You heard of Brian may? Dropped from his PhD in astrophysics in Cambridge to take part in a little known band called Queen, and after their lead singer died, Freddie Mercury, he went back and finished his degree, much like Dexter did!
So Awesome, someone told me this and I never looked into it but damn those are some talented dudes. Truly inspirational
What makes this song so beautiful (and rather heartbreaking at the same time) is that the girl's abuse stuck with Dexter for this long and clearly affected him. We meet so many people in life, and those we meet in school stick with us the longest because we essentially know them for the better part of around 15 years on average. We see them 5 days of the week during the school year. Friends or not... these people will always have a spot in your memories. I cannot think of a single memory from my time in school that would stick to me like the meaning behind this song. And that shows just how a small scale event (one thay affected only one girl) had harnessed itself to Dexter's memories for a lifetime, to where he made a song about it.
I think it happens to more folks than you'd think. Some are just super sensitive to what's happening around them. It's often also a side effect of being a child with a narcissistic parent or abusive parents.
I think a lot of artists (music or otherwise) draw from that well.
I have quite a few memories from 30 & 40 years ago. Which friends had stuff going on at home or some at school. People I barely knew. But, I could sense certain things about people.
I’m grateful my kids are way more sensitive to the plight of others than I was in high school/college. I look back and think about people I was classmates with but never really knew, and I now see some of them were suffering.
I still remember the girl from.my high school who had to lose out on everything after being driven near mad by her family to do what was called the 'suicide 5' or 5 very hard subjects that had public state exams. To get the best results to go to uni etc. Turns out this poor thing who seemed so together, ran school council, was super sporty and won trophies and shit in many sports as well as crushing it in rather hard subjects...
Nearly died of malnutrition thanks to bulimia.
Fucking parents.
I still think about her suffering and misery to this day.
Everything you said it’s true man, this song just so meaningful, it hits really deep everytime I listen to this song.
@Holly Reynolds Super sensitive... to getting *raped* ?
Rip to anyone who is suffering with depression and has commuted suicide may you be at peace
AMEN
Dang that sucks when you even have to commute to commit suicide. I mean aren't there local places to commit suicide?
@@sicsemperevellomortemtyran309 I'm wrong for laughing so hard at that.. anyways, in all seriousness rest in peace
Dexter, when was in high school, knew a girl named Kristy. The girl has been sexually abused and everyone knew it. But no one did anything. Dexter is the boy in the end who tried to do something. As we see in the final scene, Kristy went to find Dexter. The Offspring singer didn't do anything but now he wrote this song and it's dedicated to her as an apology for not helping her.
Dexter Holland, you are such a great man!
Better late than never
Just a common man that at least had the courage to apologize. Nothing but a human saying sorry. Great and sensitive piece, this has been a very good way to beg pardon.
@@josephroberts9473 wikipedia
He is a nice man, but not great. Great would equal doing something. Song is Great, not the man behind it.
Dexter is a very nice man
Don‘t waste your whole life trying to get back what was taken away. That line saved me 🙏🏼
This song reminds me of my friend who was raped in the fall of 2014 when we were 14. We managed to put the person responsible in prison for the rest of his life starting in August 2015. I can't even describe the gratitude I feel to all of the people who were involved in his conviction. We stayed strong.
We all know knew at least one Kristy growing up. Glad to yours at least got some justice.
He'll get his. Rapists don't last long in prison
Prison is too good for him
Based
I was raped back in 2014 I got involved with drugs and was poisoned with something so messed up my life hasent been easy at all my mom also died from lung cancer in 2014
My name is Kristy and this song speaks to me in terms of my life, what I’ve been through and the strong woman I am today. I listen to this song almost everyday, thank you The Offspring
Love you guys 💙
Kristy RDH it’s also my name💜
Hello Kristy
Kristy, are you doing okay now?
Remember, don't waste your whole trying to get back what was taken away.
you are the Kristy in this song?
Hii kristy 2021..🤘
Beside Green Day's Wake me up when September ends and Blink 182 stay together for the kids, this song is one of 3 punk rock songs that can make me crying every time I heard them.
And yes, there's stories behind my tears.
These are great. Also Hold On by Good Charlotte is just as good as these with a similar message.
Those songs are masterpieces
Agree..... Sum41 with u .... Brother .. so sad...
I mean they all great... But they ain't punk mate, they actually can play the instruments, all 3 songs are more alternative rock or grange, punk is more like the clash, buzzcocks, sex pistols, toy dolls...
Untitled by simple plan too
miss music like this
ry4nx , miss people listening to this music... :v
This song is awesome, but at the same time it's so sad.
Yesssssssss
This music... IT'S BEAUTIFUL! I'm a girl from Russia and sometime I translate the songs what I listen to, and I think The Offspring's songs are crazy and beautiful.
Dasha Li hey i am a big offspring from the USA my grate grandfather was from Russia but i can never find it on a map have you ever heard of a place in Russia called Tasar Village, Fastland village or Tashky in Guberince county
Hello, im from Kazakhstan. The USSR had two villages of Tashky. One (Ташки) in Ukraine (UkrSSR) near Khmelnitskiy, and another one (Ташка) in Russia (RSFSR) near Perm.
Potatoes 🍟and vodka
Larry bird to you!
Hello from another Russian descendants. 2 of my great grandfathers were polish-russian.
This song deserves more recognition than it has. I remember when it came out I only heard it once on the radio and couldn't find out who sang it for ages.
For those who struggling with any problems. This song is for you. Move forward is all you can do. Bless whomever did you wrong with Forgiveness. Guin
The Offspring..... One of the GREATEST BANDS EVER!!!! Only a few bands can convey emotion and be true to their selves as well!! Such a great band!!!
i'm never getting tired of them
JacyMarshmallow I could never get tired of them. They will always be my favorite band of all time. I own every album.
This song deserves Much more recognition
This reminds me of a story I read on Reddit about a girl who was horribly bullied; it was posted by one of the people who used to torment her, who had heard a rumor from classmates that the girl committed suicide after she left the school. The former bully was trying to find her, to see if she was okay and apologize - there isn't a strong enough word - for treating her like that, let her know that she (the OP) had admired her kindness and talent as a ballet dancer, and was hateful to her because she was jealous. But OP said that she's been unable to locate the girl. Her post was so full of remorse for hurting her and unless a miracle happens and they run into each other, she won't ever know what happened. To think that the timid, sweet girl OP described ended her life or is in a bad place breaks my heart. It's just a story on the internet about a total stranger, but it haunts me.
The saddest and most gut wrenching part of this song is the comments section filled with way too many people who can relate. Me too comments section. Me too.
Thats the beauty of music.
Not only is it relateable to so many across borders, but often it put words to our trauma and struggles
We find someone like ourself in these, someone to give us that hug we needed (when things were at their darkest), music is that invicible Bond that bring us together and lift us up to a brigther place
Thanks offspring. This song gets me. Every. Single. Fucking. Time.
People who haven't lost a loved or close friend - talk to them and ask them if they are doing OK for fuck sake
1nc0mp3t3nc3 This is the dumbest thing you could fucking do.
Of course they're not doing OK, they lost their fucking friend!
Oh, wait, I just realized you said "people who *haven't* lost lost a loved or close friend".
Then yeah, it is still the dumbest thing since they are probably doing okay, since they didn't lost anyone important to them
+1nc0mp3t3nc3 Even if they aren't OK they wouldn't say it. I know this because I used to do it all the time. The best thing you can do is be there for that friend. Instead of asking if he/she is ok, make him/her feel better by being there.
What? This song is about child sexual abuse
Elizabeth Jepson She kills herself at the end xx
My best friend in high school heard this song on the radio and thought I would like it. At the time, the fact that someone would even notice the despair of my life saved me. Decades later I come back this song and it still feel so raw ad true.
ghey
Dexter knows as someone who studied the brain that when he was singing this all he sung was extremely accurate. I'm happy he aknolged that he should've spoken out, and is doing awesome. ❤
I still listen to Offspring on a Sunday trips to Tuscon, AZ and I love it. Early in the morning , no cars on the freeway, just me, my old British car, the open road, and the smooth purring of the engine. I am on my own and I do not think about my problems, quite frankly I do not give a shit, just pure driving . Also, Greenday, Nirvana, and HIM accompany my weekend soundrack. I just try to live and I feel free. Praise the Lord.
There's a moment in time
And it's stuck in my mind
Way back, when we were just kids
Cause your eyes told the tale
Of an act of betrayal
I knew that somebody did
Oh, waves of time
Seem to wash away
The scenes of our crimes
But for you this never ends
Can you stay strong?
Can you go on?
Kristy, are you doing okay?
A rose that won't bloom
Winter's kept you
Don't waste your whole life trying
To get back what was taken away
Though the marks on your dress
Had been neatly repressed
I knew that something was wrong
And I should have spoke out
And I'm so sorry now
I didn't know
Cause we were so young
Oh, clouds of time
Seem to rain on
Innocence left behind
And it never goes away
Can you stay strong?
Can you go on?
Kristy, are you doing okay?
A rose that won't bloom
Winter's kept you
Don't waste your whole life trying
To get back what was taken away
Oh, clouds of time
Seem to rain on
Innocence left behind
And it never goes away
Never goes away
Never goes away
Can you stay strong?
Can you go on?
Kristy, are you doing okay?
A rose that won't bloom
Winter's kept you
Don't waste your whole life trying
To get back what was taken away
Don't waste your whole life trying
To get back what was taken away
Just heard this song for the first time since Hs and I still remembered al the lyrics after so long. My friend who introduced me to this band passed away recently and it sucks to know that they’re gone. Every time I listen to the Offspring it’ll more each time . RIP buddy
I remember this song when I was a teenager. Times will never be like this ever again. I miss you
OK, now that we got every video back, maybe its time for new ones!
larryconti23 It's more like the offspring's catalog was sold to the new label recently.
monique equinom what label
Round Hill Music
by the way they will come back with a new album i saw a photo of pete parada..... they were in the studio....!!!! 😊😊😊😊😊😊😉
Nice to hear that :)
Saw them 3 x live...every show gets better...and their messages like this one are something I needed to hear at that time...
not bad, I like the fast punk, but this is good, brings memories
I have a T-shirt with ur prof picture on it coincidence lol
This is Dexter's most clear vocals on any of their songs. It strikes a chord with me.
Man this song came out when I was a kid and I haven't heard it in a long time listening now is the first time I've truly gotten it. God I miss being a dumb kid.
توبوا الى الله لأن بالصلاح والاسلام تحيا النفوس والقلوب
Repent to Allah in Islam because by Islam live the souls and hearts,
I can't sing along with this without breaking down. It's a great song. 💗
I breath offspring forever
ted2ar ...and a day! 😂
good song
2024 still young loving it
I sent this song to my first serious gf in high school when it came out long after we’d broken up. Last time we interacted online. She seemed to really appreciate it.
Years passed and she contacted me about where she was in life. She seemed to be doing good and so was I. Years after that and things didn’t turn out exactly great for me. But, I hope they did for her, she deserves it more.
This song helped me heal when I was a kid. #thankyou
heard this in my car back in 2010 & ugly cried because those lyrics hit close to home even with my name spelled differently!!!
Even though I've never experienced sexual assault, I still relate to this song, even as an adult. Sometimes you just need someone to speak UP and ASK YOU if you are doing okay. Genuinely and sincerely. People can be really good at hiding depression, loneliness, sadness. Sometimes those that seem the busiest or cheeriest are the ones who are suffering the most. Because no one can tell.
Damm Memories....
2023 Still 🎶
I remember hearing this when I was little, and now that I understand the meaning, it’s really sad
To all kristy out there , i hope yall doin fine
Don't waste your whole life trying to get back what was taken away~
I come back every so often to have to hear this, thanks offspring for the song that helped me the most
December 2020..im still listening this... Like it so much... Anyone?
This tune is really good stuff. I am someone from the Styx era. Styx is one of my favorite groups and arguably one of the greatest groups of all time. Offspring is certainly a group that will go down in history with many other great bands. I have little doubt that if this had been in the jukeboxes of the restaurants, skating rinks, arcades and bowling alleys of that day, many of the youth of that day would be more than eager to drop a quarter in the jukebox and play it.
It’s my birthday today, and almost no one cares, so I just decided to watch my fav bands’s music videos.
Thank you, The Offspring, for being with me, even on such shitty days like that. Your music warms my heart and doesn’t let me give everything up. Thank you again.
Happy Birthday!
@@matthewp2794 Thank you!
Greats Wishes from Brazil my friend. Stay Strong!
HAPPY LATE BIRTHDAY. STAY WARM. LOVE AND LIGHT FROM GORE, OKLAHOMA.🍭
bro that's literally me 7 days ago😢 I'm 24 and should not care of those people who doesn't even remember and care for you but I can't help it, i wanna cry out loud cause literally none of my friends greet me. good thing i have music
I was at high school when it was released(rafrag album) I used to listen this all day long and i live my music video in my head in school. Now I'm 24 and still listen and still diehard fan !
still listening😁
It's now 2020 and this song still moves me
Beautiful. It deserves more viewing
I listen to this song when I was a kid and I loved the rythm.. But now that I'm older and listening to it again I believe it is a very deep and powerful song
¿Puedes ser fuerte?
¿Puede continuar?
Kristy estás haciendo bien?
Una rosa que florecer
y se mantiene es invierno
No pierdas toda tu vida tratando
Para recuperar lo que te han quitado
.....hermosa canción ...!!
Not only kristy..also krist. Nobody will ever understand the feeling unless you're one of them. If u r kristy or krist, stay strong buddy. The feeling of insecurity and people around us are always judging instead of helping us.
I'm so lucky to know this song. so underrated.
I have experience with this song too. On the day 1 in high school my senior ask us juniors to draw a picture and i'm so in love, entitled with this song, I'm a loner and admiring the picture of that teary eye she draw, i'm guessing the meaning is soo deep so i draw it then my senior take it and shout in front of the class thought it was a butt hole of someone who had diarrhea.
Beautiful song for a sad story... Everybody, try our best to make it never happen anymore
Respect and thanks 4 this song ..i know it was not easy..
My brother told me to listen to this song in high school after years of childhood SA… I’m nearly 30 and watching this hits me hard.
The Offspring the best
One of my favorite songs by them. I really dug it when I first heard it cause I was so used to all the hard, loud music and the cussing from Dexter, (which is why I loved them lolz), that when I heard this I was like, wow it's beautiful and has a deep meaning. Great song Dexter. I love you and your band. I have since I was a kid. Btw I also love your hot sauce!!!
Pure HEART in this video and song... well done, Offspring
Offspring is sooooo underrated and I hate that because they are fckng awesome!!!
Wooh, 11 years since this was released. This song means a lot to me, I was in high school when the album came out and this song specially help me to go out of the hard times.
I'm just 12 years old and feeling very depressed and this song makes me feel better. (Even though i cry every time i hear it) Thank you Dexter. ❤
i hope you're okay. things will get better :)
@freedomblue9930 Thank you, it will get better one day
"For you this never ends."
Fuck, that hits hard.
Thank you Dennis for showing me this, I’ll never forget how much you helped me get through it all.
RIP RLB, I miss you so much baby, my only solace is that you're in a better place.
Beautiful song. Timeless.
Thank you for all the great songs.
The pandemic is hard on all of us. His barber is going broke! Beautiful song with elements that most of us can relate to. I haven't been a victim but I know pain. Again, beautiful.
About the pandemic, I'm so weary of not seeing my best friend.
Preciosa Balada. Buen Trabajo Dexter Holland y Offspring
PD: Peguense un viajesito a Chile !
This song hits so many emotions I never had.
this song always gets to me, I feel a gutt-wrenching sadness for a while afterward
I'm leaving this year listening to this song differently to this song than I did entering. To me it was a catchy song that taught me to speak up. Now, I can relate to Kristy.
You never think it'll happen to you until it happens.
Or until it’s every day of your childhood
@Teddy Bakerrr Going through my UA-cam notifications, I forgot I commented on this song. Your response kinda made me reflect on my growth since then.
I was absolutely at rock bottom, as I felt alone while processing things. Since then, I'm doing much better and experienced tremendous growth.
love this ..
"Rise and Fall...". Perhaps the best Offspring album.
This song is just so damned emotional. So good.
Offspring 2017. Just imagine😎
they'll come to brazil in september, rock in rio :)
Vitor Marroni I got backstage passes to when there coming in penticten
ve liked it
Offspring 2018. Just imagine
Depression never really goes away, but you do have to put in the effort to stay positive. It's much easier to give up and quit. Stay strong buddies.
The Songs not about depression... Its about being sexually abused/molested as a child and feeling as if nobody cares because nobody stood up or fought for you when it happened..... and this sorta thing happens way more than it should.
Depression…Jesus i wish that was the problem and not being physically, mentally,& sexually abused everyday from 3 to 21. Maybe i wouldn’t just have depression to deal with. No not okay
@@kristiwasserman2303 Not everyone who's sexually abused takes the victim complex for life. You can definitely keep yourself in a better state mentally by your own work. Sure it's not fair, but that's the epitome of life.
What a beautiful song. It comes from the past with a universal outlook for all to relate with. Thanks offspring
oh my goooood,this is so good,absolutely love this song.Actually my the most favourite by The Offspring
さび入るところかっこいいな
When I rust and enter, time is cool.
西郷隆盛 それなー
love this song😍😍😍
Finally found this gem!
most of the 90s kids will always remember these songs. rock, metal, punk and other genres were the shit!
This really is a good song
2019 but still underrated. I can relate this song with my friends' stories IRL. Too much abusing leaded her into depression. I had always helped ,calmed her in every way as much as i can do. But I've failed. She suicided. Last message she sent me "life is not what you think it is, you think you can make everyone smile but in your heart there are only tears that you can't avoid the pain of holding back from unspeakable torture" . This song really make me reminds her everytime i listen.
To the girl I met in the hospital 14 years ago and showed me this song!! Still think of you girl! Danvers ma hospital
😢
Saudade da minha adolescência 😢
I been assaulted when I was 12-17. During these years, It was tough as my father leave us because of another bitch. Well, times goes so fast. I'm 30 this years. Sometimes still need this song cuz no one ask me "are you ok?"
Just checking in on you, are you ok?
Are u ok ?
Terry, Are You Doing Okay?
I hope you're well brother. Things can always end up crazy/worse than your situation. Here if you need a person to talk to man. Cheers.
@@teddybakerIsTheDevil616 I mean as in count on it, prepare for that eventuality as I don't see this improving before a long period of instability at best. Kind in a different way, but point taken.
Im still listening to this till 2017
Really touching song that should have more views.
A melodia e letra dessa música é muito massa!!! Top!!
I remember listening to this all the time while suffering at home from abuse. I'd write in my journal, I felt so relatable to Kristy and I even did the scribble lines and tear drops as well. No one ever really cared about me coming to school with bruises in the fifth grade but by sixth I covered them along with my scars with sleeves that had holes cut in the thumbs. I'd change in the bathroom stall for gym and get bad grades for being late to gym. Life was just awful back then and seeing Kristy from another persons point of view I wish I could've helped save her, but that's me and I wish someone would've helped save me. I'm 20 now and things are very different, but like he sings, "oh, waves of time seem to wash away the scene of our crimes, but for you this never ends." I feel like I'll be miserable forever for having a destroyed childhood and teen years. 4 years of abuse free.
sure you can't get those years back but i think moving on and trying to live out your life is a way to get back at your abuser
I'm sure you have been there for a Kristy. So at least that came out of it. Still sorry to hear your story.
Summer i relate to this so much, I finally moved away from my abusers and somehow the strength i once had feels like it deteriorated. I find myself weaker than ever and lost.
I wish I could of saved you.
my best years have been for 19 to 26 i didn't do most of those years forward i try but i just was wandering around wasting money but sure i learn something you never know was coming in the future for you or everyone
I'm sorry to hear that but at lest your in the clear now. I hoe the rest of your life will be like the last 4 years
Que música boa.
I always loved this song!
honestly feel in love with this song first time hearing it. great to see the bands still apart of today's music industry!
Looking at the comments and just astounded at the people that are only focused on pigeonholing the band and feel like they are obligated to criticize the style, and are completely missing the point of the song. It's sad that so many people are that shallow and/or entitled that they can't even pay attention to what's being presented to them.