Seriously. Although I would have called her out the first time I heard to door or even the 2nd time she saw that something was moved. Or I’d go and sit and wait in the bedroom for her to try to snoop. But I’m that ass hole lol
My guess for the diabetic child story is that, being 5, she probably doesn't fully understand her own condition yet. She's too young to fully be trusted to know what she can and can't have, especially in the face of massive temptation and all the other kids enjoying it. Having all the kids delay one night and avoiding having their piles of sugary candy out and available is potentially for safety--instead of the parents having to watch like a hawk for any sharing or mix-ups, it's easier if everyone enjoys the sugar-free snacks, and the sugary candy is held until later. The compromise is that the diabetic girl is leaving her own trick or treat bag behind after the sleepover (since she can't eat it anyway), and thus all the remaining kids get a candy "bonus" for waiting one night. I totally get the idea, and don't know why the mom thinks the 5 year old should be in better control of her diabetes, while she thinks it's fine and worth indulging an 8 year old who will have a tantrum if she simply doesn't get her way immediately.
I was thinking the same. Also diabetics can eat regular candy but only in very limetted amounts and I doubt a five year old would only eat like 2 pieces of candy while the other kids stuff their faces. And the wife does not even want to ask the children if they want the 'wait one night-get more candy' deal.
Yeah, also depending on the insulin dependence, we don't have enough information to know who is ill-informed about diabetes and if this is even a necessary concern.
Exactly, sounds like a great compromise - but as a diabetic, I would hate to be the diabetic kid who caused all the other kids to not get to eat candy.
@Subi agreed, it Would be entitled to force that on anybody. hence they asked both parents and the father wanted to ask the children. The mother didn't stand up for her children to not be forced to do something, but dragged her feet on the idea of her children being consulted on the matter.
not just her not fully understanding her condition, but the other kids might also not fully understand it. so even if the parents told her to not eat any of her candy, one of the other kids might give her some of their candy and she ends up eating it
I’m a cosplayer and a parent. People will force their babies on you regardless of what else you’re wearing or holding. My husband has stainless steel wolverine claws one Halloween - didn’t stop anyone. I like holding my own kids, but I don’t really want to hold strangers babies. But adults are just as bad - they also grab, take, and touch with zero consent. Some lady rubbed my fuzzy butt when I wore an Ewok costume one time and I’ve had stuff broken from folks grabbing. It’s ridiculous.
Honestly! Like, yes, I also feel the nearly uncontrollable desire to want to touch cool costumes or accessories while admiring them, but you know what I do? If I don't necessarily need to touch it to admire it, I just express my admiration for the costume and ask if I can have a closer look, and I keep my hands to myself. If I do want to touch it, I'll first start a conversation with the person, telling them how cool I think their costume is (I may not be into crafting costumes, but I am a crafter of other things, so I enjoy talking about the crafting process of literally ANY kind of thing with fellow crafters), and after talking with them about the crafting process for a while, I'll ask them if they mind if I touch a specific part of their costume. Guess what: a lot of people do not mind if you first show them that you view them as an individual deserving of respect and not just as a curiosity that can be touched without thinking. And usually me admiring a part of their costume will also result into more conversation about the crafting process because again, I love talking about crafting stuff, even if I don't craft that specific thing myself, because I love to learn how stuff works.
Preschool teacher knowledge coming up: holding children who can walk is still relevant for comfort and relationship. Most children stop wanting to be held frequently around age 5-6 (and generally getting too big to actually pick up) but they may still want to sit on a parents lap for comfort occasionally till a bit older
It’s also just a good thing if a child gets super upset or needs to be comforted, being held up to someone’s shoulder is at the very least a hugely important piece of body language within our culture, and holding a child in that position affirms how much you care about them and want them to feel okay/loved. Frankly I’d say it never really stops being acceptable, it just transitions from a default to an action performed based on preference and ability. I would 100% pick up and hold my younger brother or girlfriend when they were having a hard time if they wanted me to and I was able to lift them, y’know?
the funniest part of this podcast is christine simultaneously thinking a 3 year old is too young to understand the concept of candy and yet too big to be carried around
My partner has a friend that a few years ago was quite upset that his 5 year old son wanted to be a cat for Halloween. Not just any cat, but the family cat. It also wasn't too out of the ordinary because the wife works at a vet office. The dude went bonkers over his son dressing in a "girl" costume. They are on the more conservative side, but it's a cat!
Has he never met one of the un-neutered neighborhood bully cats that attack all the other males and try to mate with all the females? And hello, murder mittens. Cats can be very efficient predators to the point they decimate local wildlife.
The really sad thing about that 14-year-old girl is that they are showing her that she is required to make others happy above her own personal feelings which is just going to lead to really mixed feelings as an adult try to navigate the dating world I can’t believe they full-blown punished her for that.
Ben: "And you know what's even easier than stealing candy from a baby?" Cristine: "What's that Ben?" Ben: "Starting your own business with Shopify!" So smooth!! 🤣🤣
Fun story regarding holding babies and photos: When I visited India some years ago I had hot pink hair. In many places in the cities families would come up to me and hand me their infants then stand beside me and someone would take a family photo, with me very confused holding a stranger's child outside places like Hamuyun's tomb. I never understood why they wanted pictures with me, I imagine it's probably just because my hair was fun looking. It was surreal, and saying no did not work. Thr women were so eager and persistent in handing me their child I was just in shock haha. It was very weird feeling at the time, but it's fun to think that perhaps there's a family photo on a wall somewhere with me and my hot pink hair, making a face and holding someone's child.
My family went to turkey one summer when I was a kid. The amount of people who wanted to touch my younger brother's white blonde hair was confusing. Especially for us (Scandinavians) who were so used to kids being completely blonde. At least noone wanted to pick him up for pictures. :)
@@hyperfisk Same thing happened to me and my brother in China. We were both very blonde back then, and my brother is also pretty tall, so people would take photos of us "in secret"... like, it was kinda creepy, people would just aim their cameras at us from a distance. But others would ask for a photo too, especially with my brother. I get why they did it because it's unusual to see blonde people but still, felt very weird.
I would equate it to, "I've only seen this on tv and I wanna take a picture to show the family and friends". If a community is small and homogenous, seeing things you only see on tv every so often it like a "woah!" moment. At least it was for me. I grew up in a small conservative community and the first time I traveled to a city and saw a woman with a lot of cleavage, I was shocked. I was like 12 at the time and had only seen such things on tv but of course I did not run to take a picture. haha. The culture shock is real.
On the topic of the juvenile diabetic AITA, I'm a juvenile diabetic and could maybe give some insight. "Replacement candy" in this case still has quite a bit of carb/sugar content and, more concerningly, a lot of that sugar free or low sugar candy has ingredients that actually cause diarrhea if you consume too much of it (google "sugar free gummy bear review" if you don't believe me). In my opinion, as someone who was diagnosed as diabetic when I was a toddler, I just sort of grew accustomed to the fact other kids would be able to consume a ton of sugary food when I couldn't--and while it was upsetting, I don't necessarily think it's "mean" for those kids to do so. However, I can also see the point the OP was trying to make in making sure the diabetic kid wasn't excluded. So I agree with what the consensus seemed to be on that post where nobody is really the asshole.
Same, I was in the hospital all day, being poked and prodded by medical students. I felt like a pincushion. I mean it wasn't horrible, just unpleasant and I had to wait around for hours and there wasn't much to do. But now that the fluid's been drained from my joints and I've been given cortisol shots, I feel much better. And the students were very nice, it's funny how they felt more uncomfortable treating me as a test dummy as I did for being one 😄
we were one of the "cool houses" on Halloween & my mum was NOT a money spender. She raked leaves into long piles & made up cardboard graves, stuffed some of my grandpa's old clothes with newspaper to make a zombie etc. If the husband wanted help with stuff like that I think it would be more reasonable than spending a lot of money
Ben, I too have experienced this disappearing Halloween candy. They start packing it away on Halloween. If you go to the store during trick or treat time you'll find the workers putting out Thanksgiving and Christmas stuff where it was.
I also have anxiety issues so I empathize with the younger brother, but also the younger brother needs to learn strategies to self-soothe as an adult so he will not be constantly disruptive to roommates. Later on hopefully the younger brother can find a partner who willingly signs up for these kinds of disruptions. I also empathize with the older brother because lack of sleep inhibits the brain’s ability to communicate patiently and effectively with others.
I agree, although waking up screaming might not be voluntary the same way going into big brother's room is. I've had bad nightmares for all my life, and as a kid when I woke up screaming from a nightmare my mom or dad would come check on me, but eventually they just started wearing earplugs and I learned to fall back asleep on my own. Now my husband wakes up if I scream, but luckily he falls back asleep easily. I never scream on purpose, it just happens🤷♀️ no scary movies for me though 😂
I have very similar conditions to the 18 y/o and am similar in age, and I agree with Ben that going to the older brother’s spare bed is not a long term solution. I used to share my mother’s bed for similar reasons for a short period of time at the beginning of middle school when I did not know how to deal with my condition, but I would never wake someone up in the middle of the night unless absolutely necessary; I know how important a good night’s sleep is. In the long term, you really have to find your own coping mechanisms, because ultimately you are the only one who can work towards living a better life with your illness. I know from personal experience how distressing night terrors and nightmare disorders can be, but at younger brother’s age I think it would be good for him to be more self-sufficient. However I think the older brother is being a bit of an asshole. I’ve been told the same thing about movies (though I don’t self-sabotage and watch horrors), and it is completely not true. Those nightmares and night terrors in my experience strongly desensitize you to violence or horror. Older brother doesn’t know anything about what he’s in therapy for or the root cause, and I don’t think he should have any business telling his younger brother to stop watching certain movies. I think he should set boundaries, but I think it’s ridiculous for him to presume anything about the causes. For all he knows, younger brother could be struggling with something traumatic he wants to keep quiet, as that typically is the root cause of that combination and severity of his condition (though of course sometimes it just happens with no cause at all!).
I'm sort of the same way, I've had bad nightmares very often for all of my life. I think they would get worse if I watched lots of horror movies since I'm not used to them, but the argument is still irritating. I've been told so many times that I must be consuming some sort of scary media, but my mind's just like that 🤷♀️ It can turn literally anything into nightmares, or just replay old ones. I have developed a way to wake myself up - unfortunately for my husband it involves screaming. Luckily he falls back asleep easily.
@@CausaBrevitatis I feel that. I don't have chronic nightmares, but whenever I would have them growing up my mom would insist it was because I watched Doctor Who. I have no idea what she thought it is about.
I like how even SIL's husband was confused about why his wife was sneaking in OP and her husband's bedroom. Also, good question, wondering what SIL expected to find in there. Does she think the bedroom is changed every few weeks or something? I mean, she apparently snoops in there every time that she's over and then tries to lie about it. Or maybe she's hoping to catch the bedroom slightly messy(bed unmade or some pajamas on the floor) so she can gossip about how "unclean" OP and her husband's home is to her friends.
@@jasmine-ruff-puff9951 Right? I mean, okay. If i saw the posts on facebook or wherever where she complained about the cruel prank, I'd have asked, "I thought you said that you didn't go into my bedroom?"
That story about the Rock cut out was hilarious. Also, as a parent of a kiddo with special needs, there are definitely a lot of pieces to the brother with nightmares story that we don’t have. But, I can also relate that sometimes I just need a break from the nightly wake ups. Whether right or not, I get frustrated and expect my kid to do whatever it takes so that he doesn’t need to wake me up. Meaning, whether the scary movies are the main cause or not, I find it a bit disrespectful and frustrating that the brother would watch them knowing that they could potentially trigger a nightmare.
the dad that doesn't want his son to dress up as a unicorn definitely thinks if the son does anything girly it'll turn him gay. it's like those people super against boys playing with barbies/dolls. they think if a boy plays with them it means they're gay or are gonna turn gay
Hi Cristine. My dad passed away a few weeks ago and it has been really really hard on me. I really appreciate all of your content, from the podcasts with Ben to the tikie tokies with Jen. It helps me find some escape and keeps me calm.
I'm sorry you lost your Dad. 🫂 I hope you have loved ones to surround yourself with. Let yourself feel everything you need to feel. Be extra kind to yourself. 💜
My mom died 6 months ago and being able to zone out to some UA-cam saved me from completely spiraling. Hang in there. With some time and UA-cam, you'll be ok 💓
I worked at a grocery store recently for 12 years. Most likely it's all sold. Holiday stuff goes out earlier and earlier every year. Soon you will be shopping Halloween stuff in july!!
yeah, i saw stuff for halloween starting to be put for sale in the beginning of september. my guess it's their way of getting rid of all the stock, so it'll sell eventually up until halloween, and they don't have to cut the price the day after
I definitely saw Halloween stuff out in August this year. And when i tried to go Halloween shopping a couple weeks ago (so early Oct) lots of places were already replacing it with xmas! Bonkers!
I had a baby in 2021 and never asked if someone wanted to hold him. I think it is so weird that parents think others should love or enjoy their kids and push the kids on others. That person is the AH for making a big deal out of the 14 year old not holding the baby. I also agree with the take of not letting the kids have things like candy can create a bad relationship with the food. A good balance and moderation.
Christine wins by a landslide for the draft. Reese’s, Kit Kats, M&Ms, Twix all chocolate staples. Pop Rocks, Skittles and Red Starburst are also ✨ great picks
One thing I've learned from a) being a pickier eater and b) working in an office for 20 years is people LOVE to analyze the food choices of others. Even if it's in good fun, it gets irritating after a while.
There was a mention of candy shortage this year and I actually think it was legitimate this time versus just trying to scare people I tried to order four boxes of candy from superstore and they only had one available in stock
I don't know most of these candies, but most of the ones I know and like are on Cristine's team, so that's my pick. Listening to Ben and Cristine talk about kids was such a joy - it made me feel less alone seeing people my age having similar opinions and level of knowledge about kids, lol. But the baby holding thing unlocked some memories... So I'm the "weirdo" in my family who has since forever been saying that I don't like or want children, and I thought that's just that. Turns out my family thinks of me as some sort of monster out to harm their children or something? One time I heard my little niece crawling and making noises outside of my room so I peeked outside to see what's up, since I haven't heard any other adults around her. So I just stood there, half behind my door, looking at her, not engaging in any way (I may not be interested in children, but it's not like I want anything to happen to them). Suddenly my father and sister run from the other room, yelling at me "What are you doing to her!? Leave her alone!!". Wtf. Then few years later I was at my aunt's and her little grandson was visiting. He was sitting between me and my aunt on the couch and then he started standing up (he was still learning to do that) and grabbed my shoulder for support. Normally I'd ignore, but I tried to be less socially awkward since a bunch of family was there, so I just looked at him, but at the very same time my aunt grabbed him and literally flung him on her lap saying: "Come here or your aunt (me) will get pissed!". Seriously, wtf. I told her loudly and clearly that just because I don't like children doesn't mean I'll harm them. Funny how people will throw their kids at anyone, but the ones who aren't interested at all will somehow give them the red flags...
My sister in law handed her baby to my fiance even though he said "No thank you." My nephew started crying in his hands and then he pretended to cry as well. She came back from the bathroom to see this and that was the last time anyone handed my fiance a baby 🤣
I feel for the little girl and the baby situation. As someone with anxiety I totally get this, especially at the age of 14. She just doesn’t want to make a mistake and hurt the baby somehow. I’m dumbfounded the mother got that offended
Cristine def wins the draft- reese’s, kitkats, m&m’s, twix, and snickers?? She wins with those fs, icons (also that low fstop for the dark lighting made the vid look so good!)
BEN, Dustin and Dart love the 3 Musketeers! LOL I was going with Ben's side for a while on the candy draft, but Cristine got the twix. Twix plus reese's plus snickers secures a win. Oh and I see she got kit kat. I love those and lemon starbursts
lol i am autistic and i love love love separating my candy based on colors and counting them and eating them in a way that at first leaves the same amount of each color or flavor (I also do that food thing where i leave my favorite bite for last etc). i don't mind anyone else eating anything the way they like (as of course it's their mouth) but eating like this does help me eat less candy or at least spread it over a longer time. Also i like candy a lot but not a lot of it (if that makes sense) so it is like having a little nibble here and there but not having that heavy too much sugar feeling in my mouth.
I'm super into Halloween and my partner isn't, but I don't expect him to chip into the candy and the ever expanding collection of decorations! The food for the little Halloween dinner is a shared expense, and most important, he helps me with preparations which I really appreciate! I always buy too much candy, but only because I can afford it and enjoy giving out a lot of candy!
The "here hold my baby!" situation has become a big problem in my life with the birth of my first niece who is now 6 months old. I've been the youngest in the family for 27 years, and have only held a baby once or twice in my life. But now every time I visit my family, they shove my niece into my face every few minutes with comments like, "she wants you to hold her!" & "she barely knows you, stranger!" The comments have grown more personal & rude over time, with my parents asking why I dislike my niece so much or why won't I give her attention. But in reality I just don't want to hold or be responsible for a baby that can't even hold its neck up. I have always expressed from a young age that I will never have children. I also fear if I hold someone's baby, it will throw up on me bc I've seen it happen to my friends. At times I feel like I am being the A-hole, but the constant awkwardness of being literally cornered in the kitchen by the women in my family leaves me feeling uncomfortable and like they're the A-holes for not respecting my boundaries. AITA ?
No. You're not. They aren't respecting your boundaries. I was the same way with my cousin. Thankfully my dad distracted them while I hung out with my grandma lol. Just remember no is a complete answer and, if they push, just tell them the truth. You don't hate your niece, but you don't want to hurt her.
I’m allergic to peanuts and peanut butter cups stink up the rest of a bag of candy so I gotta go with Ben’s Batch - his nutty picks don’t stink up what I can eat lol
Our neighbour is “The Halloween House” and she gets a part-time job at Spirit Halloween on the weekend for 2 months every year to get extra spending money and a discount to do it. The guy should try that!
For the nightmares story, I think the younger brother might be just going through a moment when he’s having sleep paralysis and nightmares really frequently for a while, and then it just stops suddenly. That happens to me sometimes when I have nightmares for a full week, and then the rest of the year it’s uneventful nights.
I'm Team Cristine for the Halloween candy by leaps and bounds! Fuzzy peaches, cookies and cream, twix, etc. are all great choices, and even the later choices were solid picks! Peanuts aren't for me, which knocks out a lot of Ben's team. Team Cristine has the most longevity and wide appeal imo, haha
Reguarding the 3 year old knowing about candy - if the kid threw a fit, the kid totally gets candy at home! My almost 4 year old has only figured out what “candy” is this year because we don’t keep candy in the house except in a very limited way around Halloween. “Chocolate” on the other hand has been a known word since he was about 1.5 years old. So, basically, while age is part of knowing, exposure is a bigger factor on what vocabulary a kid has. Side note, this totally lead to a hilarious situation last year when he decided that the only edible thing in the Halloween candy bowl was the chocolate 😅
Ok, the nightmare post makes me a Lil Salty bc like. If he actually sat down and asked abt his brother's nightmares and sleep paralysis, actually tried to learn about it, then he would understand that his brother would be experiencing these things With or Without the influence of spooky movies, they cannot be controlled.
I’m American so I didn’t recognize like half these candies but Cristines picks were definitely better. Other than pink starburst and peanut m&ms ben got nothin lol I was shocked Twix and snickers and all the what I consider would have thought were the most popular candies were picked pretty late(besides Reese’s) lol fun episode!
The one with the husband who wants to go all out for Halloween- the wife is right about waiting to see if their neighborhood even goes about Halloween. When I moved, I thought we would have tons of kids and it's been 4 years and I've never had a trick-or-treat-er. Plus, he already blew his money on video games. It's not on the wife to pay for things she doesn't care about. My husband and I only use our joint account for bills and going out to dinner.
I get sleep paralysis every now and then, and I can tell you that it's scary af. What happens is that your brain is active, but you're actually in sleep mode so you can't move, see, or speak. 75% of the time sleep paralysis involves hallucinations; eg. You feel there's a dangerous person or presence in the room, you feel like you're having an out of body experience, or feel like you're unable to breathe. It feels like it takes ages to wake up, but in reality it's probably just microseconds. I always have hallucinations when I get sleep paralysis. I always try to scream for help, but I can't because of the paralysis, which makes me panic even more. It often ends with me waking up enough to hear my own silent pleads for help. I never watch horror movies, because they bore me more than scare me. I've never had sleep paralysis on any occasion that I have watched a horror movie or otherwise "scary" movie. I highly doubt people who often watch horror movies get nightmares from them, since they enjoy the thrill of watching such movies. Having experienced sleep paralysis a few times, I'm wondering if the younger brother has nightmares, or he is actually having hallucinations connected to the sleep paralysis?! 🤔 Nightmares and sleep paralysis, like Ben and Cristine was alluding to, are often caused by stress or anxiety. Some meds, or insomnia can also be reasons. If it's insomnia, the brother has entered a downward spiral where he needs help to break the pattern so that he can have a full night of sleep. The solution can be as simple as taking melatonin/sleeping pills for a few nights until his sleep rhythm is back on track. Or he may need to deal with the stress/anxiety he's experiencing in his life. Probably with the help of a therapist of some sort.
I think I can help with the Halloween candy fiasco lol. I work in retail and sometimes (lately) instead of a store marking down the candy the day afterwards or the day of Halloween they try to at least get something for it before it goes down to nothing or has to get marked out. So they’ll mark it down right before Halloween so when people are doing last minute shopping they see the cheap candy and want to grab it because just in case they need it That’s my guess lol
the baby holding thing reminds me of this time during my freshman year of highschool. my teacher had just gotten back from maternity leave and she brought her baby in and asked me to hold her. i was 15 at the time and i didn't want to because i was worried about either dropping the baby or making her cry or hurting her, esp since this baby was like 2 months old. when i explained that i'd never held a baby before and i didn't want to upset hers, my teacher got real pushy saying stuff like "oh it's so easy! and she's a perfect baby she won't cry." another weird thing about this is that i actually like kids, i had been doing babysitting at the time and i enjoyed helping the kids with their homework and keeping them entertained.
Uh. Not only did my 18 month old open a wrapper from a full size Snickers bar .. He ate the entire thing. And had NO PROBLEM 'handling it". His eleven year old brother never thought he couldn't leave it on his nightstand when he ran to the bathroom. The bedroom is otherwise baby proof, so he didn't think a thing about it, but he did lose his candy bar and he learned a hard lesson that day. Lol.
For the giving candy to 3yo, ESH. To answer Ben and Cristine’s question, a 3yo would be well able to understand the interaction of the parent refusing the candy on their behalf- most 3yo’s who are developing normally would be well able to communicate wants and some 3yo’s are quite articulate. Little kids are usually very food motivated (they’re actually a lot like puppies). Even my not yet 2yo is getting quite good at naming the foods she wants and letting me know if she wants ‘more’ or is ‘all done’. ESH bc OP should have been more discreet, or ideally, asked/messaged in advance. If she’d wanted to give a small gift to the kid, a small toy like a matchbox car would have gone down great. The parents definitely overreacted by placing all the blame on OP though. I expect they were just embarrassed that they weren’t able to calm their kid down and felt they had to go home. I do think kids need to learn to accept a firm ‘no’ from a parent/caregiver, even at this age, and this scenario has highlighted that they may need to be more consistent with following through and sticking to their initial ‘no’ in general.
On the clearance candy conspiracy: My husband who works at grocery store says that companies have started making the boxes/displays themed but have limited how many actual packages are so that leftovers can be sold with regular stock
I’d definitely have to pick Cristine’s draft. Peanut butter cups and cookies and cream and my favourite (and Crunchie bars, which I can’t believe you didn’t put that Canadian classic on the list lol) Happy Halloween guys! 🎃
I IMMEDIATELY HAD TO PAUSE when the skittle AITA came up because not separating the colors for me IS a HUGE violation and I won’t stand for it 😂 my husband shoves a random assortment in his mouth and doesn’t separate and I feel it’s a violation of my skittles 😂
The cardboard cutout lady is a legend and doesn't need to apologise for anything other than being awesome.
Period!
I f*cking loved that ahahahaha 😂😂
Agreed. But just don’t understand. They make these great things called locks. Install a lock, no issue.
Seriously. Although I would have called her out the first time I heard to door or even the 2nd time she saw that something was moved. Or I’d go and sit and wait in the bedroom for her to try to snoop. But I’m that ass hole lol
@@alexandra109 Shouldn't have to in your own house. This option was far more creative.
"Candy & Communism with Ben" - A segment I 10/10 would watch 🤣
And somehow it ends up being a murder mystery podcast 😂
Lol I love the way his mind works
SimplyDadLogical
That whole segment cracked me up 🤣
My guess for the diabetic child story is that, being 5, she probably doesn't fully understand her own condition yet. She's too young to fully be trusted to know what she can and can't have, especially in the face of massive temptation and all the other kids enjoying it. Having all the kids delay one night and avoiding having their piles of sugary candy out and available is potentially for safety--instead of the parents having to watch like a hawk for any sharing or mix-ups, it's easier if everyone enjoys the sugar-free snacks, and the sugary candy is held until later. The compromise is that the diabetic girl is leaving her own trick or treat bag behind after the sleepover (since she can't eat it anyway), and thus all the remaining kids get a candy "bonus" for waiting one night. I totally get the idea, and don't know why the mom thinks the 5 year old should be in better control of her diabetes, while she thinks it's fine and worth indulging an 8 year old who will have a tantrum if she simply doesn't get her way immediately.
I was thinking the same. Also diabetics can eat regular candy but only in very limetted amounts and I doubt a five year old would only eat like 2 pieces of candy while the other kids stuff their faces. And the wife does not even want to ask the children if they want the 'wait one night-get more candy' deal.
Yeah, also depending on the insulin dependence, we don't have enough information to know who is ill-informed about diabetes and if this is even a necessary concern.
Exactly, sounds like a great compromise - but as a diabetic, I would hate to be the diabetic kid who caused all the other kids to not get to eat candy.
@Subi agreed, it Would be entitled to force that on anybody. hence they asked both parents and the father wanted to ask the children.
The mother didn't stand up for her children to not be forced to do something, but dragged her feet on the idea of her children being consulted on the matter.
not just her not fully understanding her condition, but the other kids might also not fully understand it. so even if the parents told her to not eat any of her candy, one of the other kids might give her some of their candy and she ends up eating it
Next time someone wants you to hold their baby just say you are going to wash your hands first, and then don’t go back over 😅
WAIT, THIS IS GENIUS!! 😂😂
@@ZilaidaK I may or may not have used this strategy... 😁
SMART 📝
@@-_-j Im sorry but that cracked me up
Wow what a life hack!!
That sponsor transition was Julien level. Truly great. Loved Cristine’s reaction. 😂
I came to the comments just to see if anyone else had this thought. I literally could not keep myself from laughing!
I WAS JUST THINKING THAT😂
Got that Julien Aries segwayyyyy
fire segue
Omg I'm just scrolling through the comments as I listen and I haven't gotten to this part yet, but I'm so excited for it now lol
I’m a cosplayer and a parent. People will force their babies on you regardless of what else you’re wearing or holding. My husband has stainless steel wolverine claws one Halloween - didn’t stop anyone. I like holding my own kids, but I don’t really want to hold strangers babies.
But adults are just as bad - they also grab, take, and touch with zero consent. Some lady rubbed my fuzzy butt when I wore an Ewok costume one time and I’ve had stuff broken from folks grabbing. It’s ridiculous.
Honestly! Like, yes, I also feel the nearly uncontrollable desire to want to touch cool costumes or accessories while admiring them, but you know what I do? If I don't necessarily need to touch it to admire it, I just express my admiration for the costume and ask if I can have a closer look, and I keep my hands to myself. If I do want to touch it, I'll first start a conversation with the person, telling them how cool I think their costume is (I may not be into crafting costumes, but I am a crafter of other things, so I enjoy talking about the crafting process of literally ANY kind of thing with fellow crafters), and after talking with them about the crafting process for a while, I'll ask them if they mind if I touch a specific part of their costume.
Guess what: a lot of people do not mind if you first show them that you view them as an individual deserving of respect and not just as a curiosity that can be touched without thinking.
And usually me admiring a part of their costume will also result into more conversation about the crafting process because again, I love talking about crafting stuff, even if I don't craft that specific thing myself, because I love to learn how stuff works.
Preschool teacher knowledge coming up: holding children who can walk is still relevant for comfort and relationship. Most children stop wanting to be held frequently around age 5-6 (and generally getting too big to actually pick up) but they may still want to sit on a parents lap for comfort occasionally till a bit older
Preschool teacher + mother and can confirm this/agree
It’s also just a good thing if a child gets super upset or needs to be comforted, being held up to someone’s shoulder is at the very least a hugely important piece of body language within our culture, and holding a child in that position affirms how much you care about them and want them to feel okay/loved.
Frankly I’d say it never really stops being acceptable, it just transitions from a default to an action performed based on preference and ability. I would 100% pick up and hold my younger brother or girlfriend when they were having a hard time if they wanted me to and I was able to lift them, y’know?
the absolute chokehold that AITA simplypods have me is unbelievable i love this
ikrr
I get so excited whenever they post another aita episode
the funniest part of this podcast is christine simultaneously thinking a 3 year old is too young to understand the concept of candy and yet too big to be carried around
I love how Menchie looks confused on why no one is petting her while they’re drafting their candy picks.
My partner has a friend that a few years ago was quite upset that his 5 year old son wanted to be a cat for Halloween. Not just any cat, but the family cat. It also wasn't too out of the ordinary because the wife works at a vet office. The dude went bonkers over his son dressing in a "girl" costume. They are on the more conservative side, but it's a cat!
That is weird hang up, it's a cat?? Honestly any animal should be gender neutral
Yes all cats are females 😒
guy wouldn't have complained if the kid had chosen a dog. there's this weird thing where some people see cats as feminine and dogs as masculine
@@Ray_Vun That's true now that you said it. And internet has a fascination over "Cat girl"
Has he never met one of the un-neutered neighborhood bully cats that attack all the other males and try to mate with all the females? And hello, murder mittens. Cats can be very efficient predators to the point they decimate local wildlife.
The really sad thing about that 14-year-old girl is that they are showing her that she is required to make others happy above her own personal feelings which is just going to lead to really mixed feelings as an adult try to navigate the dating world I can’t believe they full-blown punished her for that.
Exactly. My family was like this: parents mistook me saying “no” for disrespect, so you can imagine how that worked out.
Ben: "And you know what's even easier than stealing candy from a baby?"
Cristine: "What's that Ben?"
Ben: "Starting your own business with Shopify!"
So smooth!! 🤣🤣
Ben: I'm catering towards the nut-free crowd
Ben next round: *chooses peanut m&m's*
We recently got a life size cardboard cutout of Dolly Parton at my work and it scares the crap out of me every time I walk by it 😂
Fun story regarding holding babies and photos:
When I visited India some years ago I had hot pink hair. In many places in the cities families would come up to me and hand me their infants then stand beside me and someone would take a family photo, with me very confused holding a stranger's child outside places like Hamuyun's tomb. I never understood why they wanted pictures with me, I imagine it's probably just because my hair was fun looking. It was surreal, and saying no did not work. Thr women were so eager and persistent in handing me their child I was just in shock haha.
It was very weird feeling at the time, but it's fun to think that perhaps there's a family photo on a wall somewhere with me and my hot pink hair, making a face and holding someone's child.
Just link your hands behind your back and walk away 😄
As an Indian...unfortunately, it's probably because you're white. Lots of people here put white folks on a pedestal
My family went to turkey one summer when I was a kid. The amount of people who wanted to touch my younger brother's white blonde hair was confusing. Especially for us (Scandinavians) who were so used to kids being completely blonde.
At least noone wanted to pick him up for pictures. :)
@@hyperfisk Same thing happened to me and my brother in China. We were both very blonde back then, and my brother is also pretty tall, so people would take photos of us "in secret"... like, it was kinda creepy, people would just aim their cameras at us from a distance. But others would ask for a photo too, especially with my brother. I get why they did it because it's unusual to see blonde people but still, felt very weird.
I would equate it to, "I've only seen this on tv and I wanna take a picture to show the family and friends". If a community is small and homogenous, seeing things you only see on tv every so often it like a "woah!" moment. At least it was for me. I grew up in a small conservative community and the first time I traveled to a city and saw a woman with a lot of cleavage, I was shocked. I was like 12 at the time and had only seen such things on tv but of course I did not run to take a picture. haha. The culture shock is real.
“Can you hold a 3 year old? I mean…you could hold a 30 year old Cristine”😂😂😂
all i got from that is that ben wants to be held
@@Ray_Vun i want to be held like a baby
@@Bentendo 160 pound baby
@@Bentendo if cristine won't do it, i will
@@Ray_Vun don’t we all Ben, don’t we all
Best way to get out of holding a baby is by saying "no thanks, I already ate"
"A snoopworthy item found in a bedroom"
Cristine: A bill!
hell nah i thought that was the confederate flag on ur profile pic 😭
oh no 🙈
The candy draft is the most savage I’ve ever seen simply 😹
On the topic of the juvenile diabetic AITA, I'm a juvenile diabetic and could maybe give some insight. "Replacement candy" in this case still has quite a bit of carb/sugar content and, more concerningly, a lot of that sugar free or low sugar candy has ingredients that actually cause diarrhea if you consume too much of it (google "sugar free gummy bear review" if you don't believe me). In my opinion, as someone who was diagnosed as diabetic when I was a toddler, I just sort of grew accustomed to the fact other kids would be able to consume a ton of sugary food when I couldn't--and while it was upsetting, I don't necessarily think it's "mean" for those kids to do so. However, I can also see the point the OP was trying to make in making sure the diabetic kid wasn't excluded. So I agree with what the consensus seemed to be on that post where nobody is really the asshole.
Yes, Literally my comfort podcast and I'm sick right now. So this is perfect
Same! I've been watching all the podcasts while I had covid for weeks. Only thing that seems to make me feel better. ❤️
Same, I was in the hospital all day, being poked and prodded by medical students. I felt like a pincushion. I mean it wasn't horrible, just unpleasant and I had to wait around for hours and there wasn't much to do. But now that the fluid's been drained from my joints and I've been given cortisol shots, I feel much better. And the students were very nice, it's funny how they felt more uncomfortable treating me as a test dummy as I did for being one 😄
The pause you and Ben had after reading the unicorn costume AITA... omfg, I laughed so hard.
we were one of the "cool houses" on Halloween & my mum was NOT a money spender. She raked leaves into long piles & made up cardboard graves, stuffed some of my grandpa's old clothes with newspaper to make a zombie etc. If the husband wanted help with stuff like that I think it would be more reasonable than spending a lot of money
I love that somehow my brain connected listening to your podcast with working out. I guess I'm going biking with you guys today.
Ben, I too have experienced this disappearing Halloween candy. They start packing it away on Halloween. If you go to the store during trick or treat time you'll find the workers putting out Thanksgiving and Christmas stuff where it was.
some days i miss the jenna & julien podcast but then a new simply pod comes out & it makes me just as happy
and ben hit us w a fire segue
Truly they're carrying on the J&J podcast legacy, segues and all 🥹
I also have anxiety issues so I empathize with the younger brother, but also the younger brother needs to learn strategies to self-soothe as an adult so he will not be constantly disruptive to roommates. Later on hopefully the younger brother can find a partner who willingly signs up for these kinds of disruptions. I also empathize with the older brother because lack of sleep inhibits the brain’s ability to communicate patiently and effectively with others.
I agree, although waking up screaming might not be voluntary the same way going into big brother's room is. I've had bad nightmares for all my life, and as a kid when I woke up screaming from a nightmare my mom or dad would come check on me, but eventually they just started wearing earplugs and I learned to fall back asleep on my own. Now my husband wakes up if I scream, but luckily he falls back asleep easily. I never scream on purpose, it just happens🤷♀️ no scary movies for me though 😂
I have very similar conditions to the 18 y/o and am similar in age, and I agree with Ben that going to the older brother’s spare bed is not a long term solution. I used to share my mother’s bed for similar reasons for a short period of time at the beginning of middle school when I did not know how to deal with my condition, but I would never wake someone up in the middle of the night unless absolutely necessary; I know how important a good night’s sleep is. In the long term, you really have to find your own coping mechanisms, because ultimately you are the only one who can work towards living a better life with your illness. I know from personal experience how distressing night terrors and nightmare disorders can be, but at younger brother’s age I think it would be good for him to be more self-sufficient. However I think the older brother is being a bit of an asshole. I’ve been told the same thing about movies (though I don’t self-sabotage and watch horrors), and it is completely not true. Those nightmares and night terrors in my experience strongly desensitize you to violence or horror. Older brother doesn’t know anything about what he’s in therapy for or the root cause, and I don’t think he should have any business telling his younger brother to stop watching certain movies. I think he should set boundaries, but I think it’s ridiculous for him to presume anything about the causes. For all he knows, younger brother could be struggling with something traumatic he wants to keep quiet, as that typically is the root cause of that combination and severity of his condition (though of course sometimes it just happens with no cause at all!).
I'm sort of the same way, I've had bad nightmares very often for all of my life. I think they would get worse if I watched lots of horror movies since I'm not used to them, but the argument is still irritating. I've been told so many times that I must be consuming some sort of scary media, but my mind's just like that 🤷♀️ It can turn literally anything into nightmares, or just replay old ones. I have developed a way to wake myself up - unfortunately for my husband it involves screaming. Luckily he falls back asleep easily.
@@CausaBrevitatis I feel that. I don't have chronic nightmares, but whenever I would have them growing up my mom would insist it was because I watched Doctor Who. I have no idea what she thought it is about.
I like how even SIL's husband was confused about why his wife was sneaking in OP and her husband's bedroom.
Also, good question, wondering what SIL expected to find in there. Does she think the bedroom is changed every few weeks or something? I mean, she apparently snoops in there every time that she's over and then tries to lie about it. Or maybe she's hoping to catch the bedroom slightly messy(bed unmade or some pajamas on the floor) so she can gossip about how "unclean" OP and her husband's home is to her friends.
It's so weird. Like, to get caught and lie about it, but keep doing it, then complain about getting caught, it's so rude.
@@jasmine-ruff-puff9951 Right? I mean, okay. If i saw the posts on facebook or wherever where she complained about the cruel prank, I'd have asked, "I thought you said that you didn't go into my bedroom?"
5:38 I think Halloween is an opportunity to teach your kids about socialism 💀💀 this is why I love this pod I swearrr lol
That story about the Rock cut out was hilarious. Also, as a parent of a kiddo with special needs, there are definitely a lot of pieces to the brother with nightmares story that we don’t have. But, I can also relate that sometimes I just need a break from the nightly wake ups. Whether right or not, I get frustrated and expect my kid to do whatever it takes so that he doesn’t need to wake me up. Meaning, whether the scary movies are the main cause or not, I find it a bit disrespectful and frustrating that the brother would watch them knowing that they could potentially trigger a nightmare.
simply's team had me at hershey's cookies and cream
I've never seen Cristine so competitive than when they were doing the candy draft. Lol.
Probs to Ben for the flawless sponsor transition. Made me laugh😂
For the candybundles, I'm totally into Cristine's bundle🤤
The fact that Cristine has twix, KitKat, and Snickers in one bag is already a win.
the dad that doesn't want his son to dress up as a unicorn definitely thinks if the son does anything girly it'll turn him gay. it's like those people super against boys playing with barbies/dolls. they think if a boy plays with them it means they're gay or are gonna turn gay
Definitely voting for Cristine’s candy draft… 3 musketeers are THE best! That was my fav as a kid.
Still my fav!
Hi Cristine. My dad passed away a few weeks ago and it has been really really hard on me. I really appreciate all of your content, from the podcasts with Ben to the tikie tokies with Jen. It helps me find some escape and keeps me calm.
I'm sorry you lost your Dad. 🫂 I hope you have loved ones to surround yourself with. Let yourself feel everything you need to feel. Be extra kind to yourself. 💜
My mom died 6 months ago and being able to zone out to some UA-cam saved me from completely spiraling. Hang in there. With some time and UA-cam, you'll be ok 💓
Candy draft was hilarious. 😂 I’m voting for cristine’s team!!
Haven’t started watching yet but if Ben doesn’t mention Midnights at all I’m gonna be heartbroken lol
That album made me Swiftie. It's so good.
I'm sad he didn't either but I saw a reference to Vigilante Shit in him mentioning the "white collar crime" at 5:20 😂
I worked at a grocery store recently for 12 years. Most likely it's all sold. Holiday stuff goes out earlier and earlier every year. Soon you will be shopping Halloween stuff in july!!
yeah, i saw stuff for halloween starting to be put for sale in the beginning of september. my guess it's their way of getting rid of all the stock, so it'll sell eventually up until halloween, and they don't have to cut the price the day after
I definitely saw Halloween stuff out in August this year. And when i tried to go Halloween shopping a couple weeks ago (so early Oct) lots of places were already replacing it with xmas! Bonkers!
They've already had christmas stuff out at my walmart for the past few weeks
Store warehouses are getting the suff in June and july!
Why are people so obsessed with forcing other people to hold their baby 😭😭
I had a baby in 2021 and never asked if someone wanted to hold him. I think it is so weird that parents think others should love or enjoy their kids and push the kids on others. That person is the AH for making a big deal out of the 14 year old not holding the baby.
I also agree with the take of not letting the kids have things like candy can create a bad relationship with the food. A good balance and moderation.
Loved the draft segment! You guys should do more of that! Very funny seeing cris getting so into it!
Christine wins by a landslide for the draft. Reese’s, Kit Kats, M&Ms, Twix all chocolate staples. Pop Rocks, Skittles and Red Starburst are also ✨ great picks
Cris with the candy trash talk 😆
One thing I've learned from a) being a pickier eater and b) working in an office for 20 years is people LOVE to analyze the food choices of others. Even if it's in good fun, it gets irritating after a while.
Great spooky intro! I vote for Cristine's draft. 🧡
There was a mention of candy shortage this year and I actually think it was legitimate this time versus just trying to scare people I tried to order four boxes of candy from superstore and they only had one available in stock
I don't know most of these candies, but most of the ones I know and like are on Cristine's team, so that's my pick.
Listening to Ben and Cristine talk about kids was such a joy - it made me feel less alone seeing people my age having similar opinions and level of knowledge about kids, lol.
But the baby holding thing unlocked some memories... So I'm the "weirdo" in my family who has since forever been saying that I don't like or want children, and I thought that's just that. Turns out my family thinks of me as some sort of monster out to harm their children or something?
One time I heard my little niece crawling and making noises outside of my room so I peeked outside to see what's up, since I haven't heard any other adults around her. So I just stood there, half behind my door, looking at her, not engaging in any way (I may not be interested in children, but it's not like I want anything to happen to them). Suddenly my father and sister run from the other room, yelling at me "What are you doing to her!? Leave her alone!!". Wtf.
Then few years later I was at my aunt's and her little grandson was visiting. He was sitting between me and my aunt on the couch and then he started standing up (he was still learning to do that) and grabbed my shoulder for support. Normally I'd ignore, but I tried to be less socially awkward since a bunch of family was there, so I just looked at him, but at the very same time my aunt grabbed him and literally flung him on her lap saying: "Come here or your aunt (me) will get pissed!". Seriously, wtf. I told her loudly and clearly that just because I don't like children doesn't mean I'll harm them.
Funny how people will throw their kids at anyone, but the ones who aren't interested at all will somehow give them the red flags...
My sister in law handed her baby to my fiance even though he said "No thank you." My nephew started crying in his hands and then he pretended to cry as well. She came back from the bathroom to see this and that was the last time anyone handed my fiance a baby 🤣
That's great! I should have done that with my cousin.
I feel for the little girl and the baby situation. As someone with anxiety I totally get this, especially at the age of 14. She just doesn’t want to make a mistake and hurt the baby somehow. I’m dumbfounded the mother got that offended
Cristine def wins the draft- reese’s, kitkats, m&m’s, twix, and snickers?? She wins with those fs, icons (also that low fstop for the dark lighting made the vid look so good!)
BEN, Dustin and Dart love the 3 Musketeers! LOL
I was going with Ben's side for a while on the candy draft, but Cristine got the twix. Twix plus reese's plus snickers secures a win. Oh and I see she got kit kat. I love those and lemon starbursts
The first mom is great! It started with him being greedy but then his attitude is what made her do that and I agree. It’s candy, he will live! Lol 😂
Congrats on the sponsorship y’all! 👏 happy to see this podcast growing because that means more episodes for us 😊
lol i am autistic and i love love love separating my candy based on colors and counting them and eating them in a way that at first leaves the same amount of each color or flavor (I also do that food thing where i leave my favorite bite for last etc). i don't mind anyone else eating anything the way they like (as of course it's their mouth) but eating like this does help me eat less candy or at least spread it over a longer time. Also i like candy a lot but not a lot of it (if that makes sense) so it is like having a little nibble here and there but not having that heavy too much sugar feeling in my mouth.
Simply a good ending to Tuesday 🤩
I'm super into Halloween and my partner isn't, but I don't expect him to chip into the candy and the ever expanding collection of decorations! The food for the little Halloween dinner is a shared expense, and most important, he helps me with preparations which I really appreciate! I always buy too much candy, but only because I can afford it and enjoy giving out a lot of candy!
The "here hold my baby!" situation has become a big problem in my life with the birth of my first niece who is now 6 months old. I've been the youngest in the family for 27 years, and have only held a baby once or twice in my life. But now every time I visit my family, they shove my niece into my face every few minutes with comments like, "she wants you to hold her!" & "she barely knows you, stranger!" The comments have grown more personal & rude over time, with my parents asking why I dislike my niece so much or why won't I give her attention. But in reality I just don't want to hold or be responsible for a baby that can't even hold its neck up. I have always expressed from a young age that I will never have children. I also fear if I hold someone's baby, it will throw up on me bc I've seen it happen to my friends. At times I feel like I am being the A-hole, but the constant awkwardness of being literally cornered in the kitchen by the women in my family leaves me feeling uncomfortable and like they're the A-holes for not respecting my boundaries. AITA ?
No. You're not. They aren't respecting your boundaries. I was the same way with my cousin. Thankfully my dad distracted them while I hung out with my grandma lol. Just remember no is a complete answer and, if they push, just tell them the truth. You don't hate your niece, but you don't want to hurt her.
the possibility of finding a cat on a bed would be one of very few things that would make me want to snoop in a bedroom.
same, I always hide with the cats at parties :')
YAY! I've been waiting for the pod to be uploaded for my housework entertainment. Happy Halloween👻
What a smooth transition to the ad read 🤣 I love it
I’m allergic to peanuts and peanut butter cups stink up the rest of a bag of candy so I gotta go with Ben’s Batch - his nutty picks don’t stink up what I can eat lol
Gonna miss Twix and 3 Muskees tho…😢
Our neighbour is “The Halloween House” and she gets a part-time job at Spirit Halloween on the weekend for 2 months every year to get extra spending money and a discount to do it. The guy should try that!
the correct answer to the cardboard cutout question is danny devito
the correct answer to everything
lmao the one by the 14 year old who didn’t wanna hold her aunt’s baby, simply being like “i don’t want to hold your baby… RESPECTFULLY” 😂
Hold my baby! -- Ooooo, I’d rather not. I almost dropped the last one.
Cristine talking shit throughout the draft, made my day
For the nightmares story, I think the younger brother might be just going through a moment when he’s having sleep paralysis and nightmares really frequently for a while, and then it just stops suddenly. That happens to me sometimes when I have nightmares for a full week, and then the rest of the year it’s uneventful nights.
Loving the spooky vibes!
I SPAT my drink out at Ben's smooth segue into the Shopify ad omg
I'm Team Cristine for the Halloween candy by leaps and bounds! Fuzzy peaches, cookies and cream, twix, etc. are all great choices, and even the later choices were solid picks! Peanuts aren't for me, which knocks out a lot of Ben's team. Team Cristine has the most longevity and wide appeal imo, haha
Reguarding the 3 year old knowing about candy - if the kid threw a fit, the kid totally gets candy at home! My almost 4 year old has only figured out what “candy” is this year because we don’t keep candy in the house except in a very limited way around Halloween.
“Chocolate” on the other hand has been a known word since he was about 1.5 years old. So, basically, while age is part of knowing, exposure is a bigger factor on what vocabulary a kid has.
Side note, this totally lead to a hilarious situation last year when he decided that the only edible thing in the Halloween candy bowl was the chocolate 😅
Ok, the nightmare post makes me a Lil Salty bc like. If he actually sat down and asked abt his brother's nightmares and sleep paralysis, actually tried to learn about it, then he would understand that his brother would be experiencing these things With or Without the influence of spooky movies, they cannot be controlled.
Cristine has the best candy team by a MILE. I love all of it!
Can toddlers handle a whole candybar??? You estimate the power of pure chaos.
I’m American so I didn’t recognize like half these candies but Cristines picks were definitely better. Other than pink starburst and peanut m&ms ben got nothin lol I was shocked Twix and snickers and all the what I consider would have thought were the most popular candies were picked pretty late(besides Reese’s) lol
fun episode!
The one with the husband who wants to go all out for Halloween- the wife is right about waiting to see if their neighborhood even goes about Halloween. When I moved, I thought we would have tons of kids and it's been 4 years and I've never had a trick-or-treat-er. Plus, he already blew his money on video games. It's not on the wife to pay for things she doesn't care about. My husband and I only use our joint account for bills and going out to dinner.
My daughter was about 8 months old when she had her first and at three they definitely know what it is 🎉
Their ignorance around babies and children is sometimes frustrating but always hilarious 😂
Damn, I think Ben took Julien’s class in smooth transitions into ad reads.
I get sleep paralysis every now and then, and I can tell you that it's scary af. What happens is that your brain is active, but you're actually in sleep mode so you can't move, see, or speak. 75% of the time sleep paralysis involves hallucinations; eg. You feel there's a dangerous person or presence in the room, you feel like you're having an out of body experience, or feel like you're unable to breathe.
It feels like it takes ages to wake up, but in reality it's probably just microseconds. I always have hallucinations when I get sleep paralysis. I always try to scream for help, but I can't because of the paralysis, which makes me panic even more. It often ends with me waking up enough to hear my own silent pleads for help.
I never watch horror movies, because they bore me more than scare me. I've never had sleep paralysis on any occasion that I have watched a horror movie or otherwise "scary" movie. I highly doubt people who often watch horror movies get nightmares from them, since they enjoy the thrill of watching such movies.
Having experienced sleep paralysis a few times, I'm wondering if the younger brother has nightmares, or he is actually having hallucinations connected to the sleep paralysis?! 🤔
Nightmares and sleep paralysis, like Ben and Cristine was alluding to, are often caused by stress or anxiety. Some meds, or insomnia can also be reasons. If it's insomnia, the brother has entered a downward spiral where he needs help to break the pattern so that he can have a full night of sleep.
The solution can be as simple as taking melatonin/sleeping pills for a few nights until his sleep rhythm is back on track. Or he may need to deal with the stress/anxiety he's experiencing in his life. Probably with the help of a therapist of some sort.
Cristine won the chocolate game 😂
To be fair, talking about kids and babies is spooky to Cristine. XD
Lmfaooooo I DIED AT “JAMES CHARLES” LMFAO
I think I can help with the Halloween candy fiasco lol.
I work in retail and sometimes (lately) instead of a store marking down the candy the day afterwards or the day of Halloween they try to at least get something for it before it goes down to nothing or has to get marked out. So they’ll mark it down right before Halloween so when people are doing last minute shopping they see the cheap candy and want to grab it because just in case they need it
That’s my guess lol
I have never felt so personally offended in my life as when Ben said "No one likes Three Musketeers"
the baby holding thing reminds me of this time during my freshman year of highschool. my teacher had just gotten back from maternity leave and she brought her baby in and asked me to hold her. i was 15 at the time and i didn't want to because i was worried about either dropping the baby or making her cry or hurting her, esp since this baby was like 2 months old. when i explained that i'd never held a baby before and i didn't want to upset hers, my teacher got real pushy saying stuff like "oh it's so easy! and she's a perfect baby she won't cry." another weird thing about this is that i actually like kids, i had been doing babysitting at the time and i enjoyed helping the kids with their homework and keeping them entertained.
Uh. Not only did my 18 month old open a wrapper from a full size Snickers bar .. He ate the entire thing. And had NO PROBLEM 'handling it". His eleven year old brother never thought he couldn't leave it on his nightstand when he ran to the bathroom. The bedroom is otherwise baby proof, so he didn't think a thing about it, but he did lose his candy bar and he learned a hard lesson that day. Lol.
Tbh I don’t want anyone except me and my husband to hold my baby
For the giving candy to 3yo, ESH. To answer Ben and Cristine’s question, a 3yo would be well able to understand the interaction of the parent refusing the candy on their behalf- most 3yo’s who are developing normally would be well able to communicate wants and some 3yo’s are quite articulate. Little kids are usually very food motivated (they’re actually a lot like puppies). Even my not yet 2yo is getting quite good at naming the foods she wants and letting me know if she wants ‘more’ or is ‘all done’.
ESH bc OP should have been more discreet, or ideally, asked/messaged in advance. If she’d wanted to give a small gift to the kid, a small toy like a matchbox car would have gone down great.
The parents definitely overreacted by placing all the blame on OP though. I expect they were just embarrassed that they weren’t able to calm their kid down and felt they had to go home. I do think kids need to learn to accept a firm ‘no’ from a parent/caregiver, even at this age, and this scenario has highlighted that they may need to be more consistent with following through and sticking to their initial ‘no’ in general.
that Shopify ad is so smooth, Beyyn
On the clearance candy conspiracy: My husband who works at grocery store says that companies have started making the boxes/displays themed but have limited how many actual packages are so that leftovers can be sold with regular stock
pure evil lol
I’d definitely have to pick Cristine’s draft. Peanut butter cups and cookies and cream and my favourite (and Crunchie bars, which I can’t believe you didn’t put that Canadian classic on the list lol) Happy Halloween guys! 🎃
Yoooo Canadian Shopify support here 🎉 woot woot that transition to the ad had me like 😂
"Cristine I love you something fierce" - that's adorable
I love the draft and back talk at each other!!!!😂
I IMMEDIATELY HAD TO PAUSE when the skittle AITA came up because not separating the colors for me IS a HUGE violation and I won’t stand for it 😂 my husband shoves a random assortment in his mouth and doesn’t separate and I feel it’s a violation of my skittles 😂