4 types of men you need to avoid
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- Опубліковано 4 жов 2020
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This video is about 4 types if men to avoid. 4 types of men that you need to remove from your life. 4 types of men that you need to watch out for. These men will waste your time and stop you from finding real love. Don’t let a guy distract you from better guys who would fall for you by being unavailable. Don’t wait around for emotionally unavailable men to start loving you. These 4 types of guys will only disappoint you. Don’t fall for them, and don’t keep them around. Get far away from these types of men .
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This is EXACTLY why I deleted all my dating apps, cut off all the time wasters and decided to focus on loving, dating and elevating my damn self! Work, school, gym, therapy and treating myself out (shopping, nails, dinner, movies, vacation, etc.) has done WONDERS for my self esteem! Queens...please stop waiting on a man to love and validate you! Get your confidence high enough to make these mofos PROVE themselves worthy of such a task 👸🏿💞💅🏿
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You are my spirit animal. I am doing the same. I just ended a 6 yr relationship a few months ago. Created a dating profile and then deleted after a few days. I am not ready to date and the pool of men are not that great. Lol.
SAME HERE SIS SAME HERE CONFIRMATION
@@soulRegal08 sorry to hear but I'm glad you recognized you weren't ready yet! 6 years is a long time and jumping back in the game so soon isn't going to accelerate the healing process. I've been single for 3 years and can attest that you ain't missing NOTHING in these streets! Lol Take time to yourself..this is the perfect time to do so with covid still lingering around. Spend time with family. friends and do what feels good to your soul from here on out. Life is too short not to 🥰
Potential Rizing Excellent!
1) The Lingerer: does nothing for you, just lingering to delay you finding something good for you, doesn’t cate about you
2) Puppet Master: conflicted, needs times, supposedly he’s been hurt, takes time with title, no time to wait to cross your boundaries, using you, giving very little or least he can get away with
3) long time flirt: just builds sexual tension, not working to get to know you, not offering you anything, no substance, no depth, not invested, would have sex, but he’s not wanting a relationship and won’t ever, you mean nothing but sex and entertainment for him
4) the whack-a-mole: intense days, weeks, or months- ghosts you, hurts your feelings, and then comes back, to do it again, want patterned behavior to hurt you.
They are distractions: they want to steal your time not investing in you. They are not investing in solving your problems. Previous video- men who like you want to solve your problems and BE A MAN you can DEPEND ON.
Women get your minds right. 💯
Dudes who I avoid: Those who play games, wanna be thugs, don't wanna work, makes excuses, keeps "Im sorry" on repeat, cain't trust, don't respond to texts/calls in a reasonable amount of time, sneaky, popular on social media, aint never got no money, always wanna lay up and not go nowhere, only wanna text, has dirty nails, hides his phone, always takes but never gives, insensitive, waits for me to hit him up, doesn't give straight answers, and only wants to come over at nite........just to name a FEW. 😁
Yup...pretty much summed it all up. Lol 🤔
Yess to all of this and the ones who switch jobs about 20 times a year smh
Ana D. Amen. Unless he is a consultant or contractor, there is no excuse lol.
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I hate when dudes ask "You drink or smoke?" like that's so bomb to have in common (I don't do either). Is that the new "ice breaker" line???? Like, c'mon ...... Dudes who call you "bruh," who always text "WYD," and dudes I just met but talm bout some, "Send me a sexy pic." Nigga pleazzzze! 😒😒
Different shades of narcissism.
WORD
you can say that again
"They love to take their time with titles but almost never take their time with sex"...I've dealt with way too many guys like this which is why I'm remaining celibate and continuing to focus on me. ✌🏾
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me too
Absolutely...!! Best way to go..
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I've been celibate also for 10yrs. of course friends is great!
Also men under these categories are; the one who want to use me as a "coping mechanism", "emotional waste basket" and men who want "freedom"...all excuses to avoid responsibility.
“Cut them off completely and remove them.” Amen! Thank you.
You’re the only relationship coach that incorporate mental health and healing the insides. Thank you for your work!
The only?
Annie C. White also incorporates therapy in her dating and healthy relationships coaching.
Right because some of us can’t pick the right person because of trauma
Dalexis is also really good / evil lol
I agree, the videos helped me a lot and made me cautious when I started dating recently
I'm a single child. You sound like the older brother that I never had. This is something that I really needed to hear at this point. Thank you. ❤️
Me too! Feel the same way💕
Cut them off completely and remove them like tumors, moles or whatever else that spread and cause harm to your health... Period pooh! 👍💕
What about the “Lingerer Puppet Master Long Term Flirt Wack-a-Mole” ... all in one. Four for a dolla! I know this guy. He fits perfectly into all of these categories. Wash, rinse, repeat... as long as you let him. 😂🤣😆
Four for a dollar 😩😂
I was just thinking this, I know a mofo who fits into all these categories 🤣🤣
bigjayking24 Um... I said I know a guy. It’s not my guy though. Lol! Stop assuming. I’ve been married for the last 18 years. 😂
H. A. 😂🤣😆
I was thinking the same thing. One guy who fits all 4 types! Complete narcissist.
The Lingerer....that's a tough one. I had to block him bc he would call EVERY day...and insisted he didn't want a relationship smh. Still wouldn't back off when he said he would.
Same thing happened to me. Told this one guy I didn’t want to talk or see him anymore( he was trying to string me along). He called me the very next day. I blocked him immediately and moved out of my apartment within the next two months.
Because you kept giving Sex!! No Relationship. No Sex my Ladies.
Definitely met ALL these men in my twenties. Talk about emotional rollercoaster. Glad I didn't get caught up to the point of losing sight of my dreams. For anyone just learning this, be gentle with yourself and let them go. When people show you who they are, believe them. It's a hard pill to swallow, but worth doing sooner rather than later.
I just blocked someone who fit into the lingerer and puppet master. Can’t do it anymore.
Me too girl. It feels great not recieving notifications from him all the time. It's peaceful
I cut mine off too and lord have I felt free! My girls have noticed how much I’ve been glowing ✨
I’m dealing with the lingerer, the puppet master mixed with manic behavior and a dash of narcissism.
Goals gal
I hear you I was a year down the road before I realized he was playing me like a puppet. Make it make sense.
Thank you for promoting mental health professionals and services...its soooo important.
I love this. Experienced all of the above. Fortunately never fell for it cause I have a secret weapon. Time. I watch their actions over time and don't have sex unless in a committed relationship I've vetted. Works like magic exposing manipulators. I know lots of women that get tangled cause they have "needs" and think they can play they casual sex game. It's not worth the headache and someone always catches feelings.
Once, u "calm those "needs" u can think clearly. Everything falls into place cuz your vision isn't cloudy by it
Girlll you are not lying,, I gave up having sex and my god the amount of users and losers out here is a damn shame. Just listening to the bs coming out of their mouths is comical. I’m actually listening with my soul instead of my desires and i feel so powerful.
@@come_on_barbie_123 Facts! Removing sex from the equation brings total mental clarity.
@@buttaflyantics8618 Girl it’s the lies for me so sick of it. So I’m remaining manless until a grown ass emotionally available man comes my way. Seeing grown boys every where. Good men are out here we just have to not compromise on value or morales. Unfortunately Pickmeshas are everywhere and hard to compete with lol.
@@forgoogletotrack7181 what?
“If you don’t want me then don’t talk to me!” (*in my Fantasia voice) that’s what I say to the Lingerer lol
Haha YES! They don't necessarily hate the titles, they hate getting put in a position where they'd need to be held accountable for their actions 😂 All 4 of these guys lack CONSISTENCY!
your way of thinking has helped me naivgate dating so well that I actually found a really great man, it's been 4 months and he's really about it and has clear communication and respects me and my boundaries and he's always just going above and beyond with home cooked meals, cool dates, and we make music together
just removed my long term flirt of 2 years, met him at the gym, wasted so much of my time and energy and ended up causing me depression and in the process of trying to move forward now
Well done ❤️👏🏽👏🏽
Michelle Tolson you probably give him the bootay.
Yup, exactly cut out the bs and guys who like to play games and when there's radio silence.... Let them be silent permanently! When you had a good relationship before and have standards when you meet someone else and when they try to treat you less then..... Got to let them go! Love yourselves Ladies!!!! ***Love your videos****
Majority of the guys I cut off become a “lingerer” even when I block their number & block them off social media. They never take the hint smh
YES! I have no idea why they keep lingering around after making it ALL too clear that im not interested lol
You gave me wake up calls in 2019 about getting over an ex.
We appreciate your kind/non-judgmental way to explain this to us ladies (and gents who watch) like a brother would for any of us. You're doing good work, my friend.
Thank U So Very Much, Kev!!!!! Ur kind & tactful but don't shy away from telling us the truth even though it will hurt, sometimes badly. But that's better that sugar-coating the issue. I Very Much appreciate Ur honesty.
THIS VIDEO NEEDS TO BE SHOUTED FROM THE MOUTAIN TOPS FOR ALL WOMEN TO HEAR!!! MY GOD TUHHDEHH🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Amen! 😅
For real AVOID THEM!!!
Omg you just described my whole dating life and every man I've ever had a relationship with. I understand why I'm single and celibate.
I’m sooooo happy I’ve avoided these men naturally. They’re vampires. Takers. And n the end of letting ppl do things like this to u...because “U not tripping” leaves the some very beautiful women with their self esteem tarnished.
You’ve said everything perfectly.
This is why I got rid of all social media have nothing gives me so much peace less worries the only way to get hold of me is by phone but that's so little to less chance to give out my digits.. alot suggested download all these crap Chatting Apps to connect No Thanks I take no responsibility for noone but myself!.... I'm good
Missy E true, life is easier without all that social media nonsense plus you get more time to do other important things
ive been on very long social media breaks this year and it feels great so I can kinda relate to what ur saying.
Kev: whats good you tube!
Us: HEEeeyYY!!!!!
Stop standing in place where a man left you!!! YESSSSSSSS
It's literally come to the point where I just hit the like button on your videos before I even watch your videos because it's always on point regardless, in other words I always know what to expect which is your videos always hit the spot!!! Thank you Kevin! 💜
Omg! I needed this video so much! There were 2 men in my life who fit in all of these categories! Thank GOD I cut them off. Unfortunately, I wasted so many years and I'm filled with so much regret.
Miss Kitty, life already kicks your behind, now your gonna kick yo own behind?? Hold your head-up my queen. Feel no regrets when you know you made a wise decision 😊
So many of us have been there. It should not be this hard to find a decent human male, but sadly it is. They learn to play games with excellence and no heart. Most of them die old and alone too.
@@vadamsable yep they pay the price for living like they do, in their older years fawning fans stop fawning and they end up alone and nobody wants to be near them anymore.
OMG, literally been dealing with guy number 3 for the past few months, an ex coworker. He flirts with me and text me regularly but when I suggest meeting up he shuts down. He was suppose to take me out for my birthday last week but said he was working (and it was his idea!) so I gave him the benefit of the doubt. He said he would make it up to me but he didn't pitch AGAIN. Blocked and deleted his stoopid ass. smh
"Keep flirting... it'll happen one day" Felt that real deep inside T_T
Same. The long time flirt uses you for entertainment, but you're not good enough to date. SMDH.
You know the message is on point when it takes you 20 minutes to get through the 6:54 video, because you have to keep hitting pause to process and apply. Great video
Being a single mom of two children with one Income and having all the bills and car repair on me alone, that mental health price and cant be done. $65 weekly is too much. My kids need all of the above weekly and my bills and gas and car maintenance takes up that. When you’re one person, that’s why you have to look to God and suffer in silence. I want to do it, but I got your videos and two best friends who are guiding me thru life. I love your videos!!
Keep your head up, and don't forget to keep praying to God. He got your back.
Can we talk about the type of guys that make rumours about women; lie on women’s names and constantly spread rumours. Men take advantage of the fact that they can easily spread lies about women and how their stupid friends run with it
It's a known & proven fact that Boys exist in all age brackets, Mature Male species are a rare find... furthermore being there's so much broken/underdeveloped family units in the Black culture. Single Mothers left to do the Mans role to Teach their sons to be Men...God Bless our Nubian Nation...
Emotional immaturity
Yessss ugh
You are “What’s Good” ! So much knowledge!
Maaaan, just dropping truth bombs everywhere! 🔥🔥🔥
Good list,That last one the Wacker is really a Ghoster ,Ladies know your worth and treat yourself like the Queen you are....
Think our mother's had it right - men had to earn and show you respect.
Show you what their intentions were.
There are so many men just out their playing - simply because they can.
In the end everyone is the loser
We've got to realize that a lot of these men are off they themselves have seen and experienced very bad examples of manhood and love in relationships.
“Stop standing in place where a man left you!!!!!” 🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣!!!!!
This is pure gold you seem to know what I’ve experienced
Be nowhere to be found baby girl.....that hit on my nerve.
Thanx Kev🙏
I feel like the 1 guy I'm thinking of is all 4 of these types
Recently blocked a puppet master, best decision I’ve made in a while. This was just confirmation😌
VERY TRUE . I HAVE A LINGERER / WACK A MOLE. LOL. I HAVE BLOCKED HIM OUT OF MY LIFE FOR A YEAR NOW. I'VE HAD IT I'M DONE!!!! I AM SO PROUD OF MYSELF. HE CONTINUES TO SEND HIS FAMILY TO CALL ME. HE CALLS MY SON TO SEE WHAT I'M DOING, NO ONE GIVES HIM ANY INFORMATION. CUZ I DON'T WANT TO KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT HIM AND I DON'T WANT HIM TO KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT ME!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
One ex coworker after 4 years tried to contact me on Facebook making pages blocked them even went as far as to say I was married it worked men love trying to have more than one person you had 4 damn years to find someone
@damaris lingerer or stalker??! 🤔 Sound like he might need a restraining order...
@@TaylorMaurandbhangra Lol lol exactly a lot of people telling me to do that because it's getting a little scary. Thank you for the suggestion I might do that 🙏🏽🤗
@@pianotnt he's try so many times to make fake Facebook pages he'll pick people that I know he'll pick family members. All I do is I call the person and I ask him did you ask for a friend request? And they say no we're friends already I don't have a problem so I know it's him he is trying to get into my life like someone posted I think I need to get a restraining order this has been going on for 19 years now and I want nothing with a kid he's a narcissist he's toxic now I I really feel bad for him but I can't be with someone like that he has baggage already as it is I just pray everyday. 🙏🏽🤗
Wack-a-mole them rolling Stones😭😭😂😂
I must have been in a REALLY bad space cuz I met someone who embodied every red flag on your list.
I needed to hear this today.
Thks for this i needed that
That hit deep smh Thank You going on 8 plus yrs. now. This totally resonated with me and it's sad.
You are on it !!!!
Awesome. Thanks again.
hey kev I needed to hear this it will help with my circumstances thank you so much I appreciate your valuable knowledge .
Thank you for this. 🙏🏾
Thank You So Much!
Sooo true my brother !!
Thanks again, Kevin! 😊🙏🏾
Weirdest thing about this is I recently had my lingerer come back on the scene and now I’m confused about whether to move forward with this decent guy I’ve been talking too. He wants something real and is honest about his intentions but I can’t seem to move forward.
This message is right on time as usual Kev!
Please leave the ligurer alone for good. I am currently working through mine and I lost a few good ones because of him
Joan Muraguri Sis I am! Just deleted and blocked all forms of contact
@Joan Muraguri was he a sponsor or a past bf? Asking for a friend 😜🤭🏃🏿
I needed this confirmation. Thank you.
Another video I need right now. Thank you so much!
Great video! Thank you 🙌🏾
I really needed to hear this..thanks
Amen, Kev Hicks! You crack me up and make me say “preach” at the same time...lol! You are always 100% on point and I share your videos with friends and family! Keep doing what you do...it’s valuable!
This is powerful. Thank you
Love your work Kev. 🌺
You cannot put a crown on a clown & expect a king.
That was solid advice! Thank you 🙏
Thank you. Short but important information -- confirmations!!!
Ohhh my gosh you hit the nail on the head. Thank you so much for this video.
I'm loving the consistency and back to back videos : )
Always full of wisdom, God bless you Kev!
Excellent brother!!!
Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!
This is really good.
Thank you so much , I really needed this
I love that your videos are short and to the point❤️
Truth hurts sometimes but thank you for putting it out there
Wow ! Powerful!!!!! Period !
Thank you so much Kev for the much needed advice😊
Thank you so much for this...this is soo useful and on point with today’s “dating” scene🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
What a God sent message!
Thank you so much😭😭😭
Your advice is excellent 👌
Yes I'm sharing with my single friends. Keep up the awesome work!!
Thanks so much for the video
GREAT VIDEO AND ALWAYS ON TARGET... THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH FOR THE ADVICE! I WILL DEFINITELY TAKE HEED
Thank you for sharing your advice is spot on and so important
I'm shook😱......Another eye opening video! Thanks Kev.
Wat a video! Thankew.🙏
Thanks Kev this was quick and to the point. 🖤🖤🖤❤️🙌🏾🙌🏾
Love your videos and your calm demeanor.
Thank you🙌🙌🙌
Kev be preaching!!!!!
I needed this 6 years ago smh 🤦🏾♀️
Great video💕
Excellent advice
Confirmation!!! Thank You.😀
Great advice Kev ,thank you!!!😊❤
Thank you 🙏🏻
Solid advice, my guy!