2 ways guys test women | How some guys decide if they’re going to respect you

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    I want to preface this video by saying any guy testing you in these ways is trying to gain leverage that he most likely can’t be trusted with. Sometimes I talk to women who experience such overtly rebellious behavior from guys they literally think to themselves what the hell is he thinking? Is this a test? Is he serious? He must be testing me? They usually tell me Kevin I couldn’t believe it. But don’t worry I played it cool though. I ask them why. They say why what? Why’d you play it cool.
    Letting shit slide only lead to more undesirable behavior. Either correct him or make an exit. Don’t play it cool.
    They say well I didn’t wanna show that it bothered me and be emotional. Listen ladies you don’t have to be emotional to correct a man. Say what you have to say in a low voice with a straight face, and then let the awkward silence ring like a siren 🚨. You can show you’re serious without raising your voice and spilling feelings all over the place. So again either correct them confront them or move on. Don’t endure undesirable behaviors in order to impress them. You’ll be doing it forever.

КОМЕНТАРІ • 368

  • @KevHick
    @KevHick  2 роки тому +40

    Girltalkwithguys.com to get coaching

    • @jayc5756
      @jayc5756 2 роки тому +4

      I was just thinking this earlier. Good men & women be dealing with the same bullsh*t. The only difference is...with women, they can easily decipher the patterns and signs to look out...so they limit the players they give attention to. Whereas us good men...we try to feel out the women from the jump...thinking they may be good...and some probably are. But it be the same main 3 issues we get. At least the main 3 issues I encounter when dealing with most women are either they aren't serious...whether they say otherwise...but their actions doesn't match up what they are saying.
      The other 2 are them playing games. This is Very Common in most of the modern day women I encounter. And the other 1 is mainly big for me. Idk about anybody else. But its lack of Good Communication. Actually, Ive heard men complain about communication in some aspect too...like how they communicate, etc...so yeah.
      So those my 3 main issues some of us good men have with most women nowadays when trying to date and find a good woman...the right woman for us.

    • @kennedyvelasquez4874
      @kennedyvelasquez4874 2 роки тому +6

      Never date a man who does not have a job. I did and he wanted everything a house, a car, clothes. The only time he will call is to ask for these things. Until I changed my number and no I never gave him anything

    • @joannagipson12
      @joannagipson12 2 роки тому +1

      @@kennedyvelasquez4874 good...glad you stopped...❤❤❤💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾

    • @Novembersongbird
      @Novembersongbird 2 роки тому

      @@jayc5756 when you say play GAMES,can you elaborate please?.

    • @Novembersongbird
      @Novembersongbird 2 роки тому

      @@kennedyvelasquez4874 proud of you. A man is supposed to be the provider. Don't Forget That!!! Wait on the one that can.....

  • @analyticalchick3064
    @analyticalchick3064 2 роки тому +169

    These are the same guys that complain that they can't find anyone good. Yeah because you push the good women away

    • @eulabarredo5186
      @eulabarredo5186 2 роки тому

      When they say any good women they meant a type of women they can manipulate.. a girl that can lower herself to make him superior.

    • @bunnyboo6295
      @bunnyboo6295 2 роки тому +7

      Exactly the good sane smart women sees the BS and avoids only those damaged in some way are easy fooled

  • @anonymous6594
    @anonymous6594 2 роки тому +646

    I’m starting to think women need to take a course on personality disorders before they start dating. Sheesh.

  • @trenchrock
    @trenchrock 2 роки тому +134

    If someone tells you they're going to do something (call you, take you out, etc) and they don't...we like to say it makes them flakey. The truth is that it makes them a LIAR. Plain and simple

    • @NaturalSmyles2u
      @NaturalSmyles2u Рік тому +7

      And that’s what they become to me, a liar

    • @Aimee03110
      @Aimee03110 6 місяців тому

      Well they could have trauma too

  • @richelletvforyou8324
    @richelletvforyou8324 2 роки тому +302

    Ambiguity is an answer. And me not answering the phone after is an answer as well😀

  • @j-tenn226
    @j-tenn226 2 роки тому +317

    Ladies, be comfortable with doing things alone and taking yourself out. Because Chile…. Just hearing all this makes me sweat. If this is really what we put up with, it’s no wonder men think a lot of women are desperate.

  • @julika1984
    @julika1984 2 роки тому +138

    Omg all these mind games. No wonder why most of us are single.

    • @eulabarredo5186
      @eulabarredo5186 2 роки тому

      And being single, men tend to shame single people but they just want you to lower your standard so they can f*ck you. Especially broke men are bitter they do not get sex often .

    • @ibstayfly
      @ibstayfly Рік тому +4

      Right exactly

  • @BooDotBoo
    @BooDotBoo 2 роки тому +288

    Therapy has taught me that if I'm too anxious or confused about someone, they aren't healthy for me. That's what I've been going with, and it's been working, so far. Of course, it hasn't resulted in many dates, but I feel like it keeps me away from people who play games and don't mean me well. There are very few people you can actually take seriously. I haven't met one person I can truly take seriously yet.

    • @gracemitchell373
      @gracemitchell373 2 роки тому +9

      Woow I go through therapy also and I learn a lot so I can call them out as soon as possible woow

    • @maceyr.6583
      @maceyr.6583 2 роки тому +3

      This is me omygosh. 😅 Thanks for the clarification!

    • @Jenjenn1111
      @Jenjenn1111 2 роки тому +23

      Exactly…when you really start paying attention and seeing through the BS, you will rarely find men worthy of dating and your time. You will find that your better off single and spending a lot time alone and that is fine with me. It’s more peaceful and no extra unnecessary stress.

    • @Novembersongbird
      @Novembersongbird 2 роки тому +12

      Wow. This was eye opening advice and I'm 60! Just ended a reconnection with a college bf after 30 yrs. Too much stress just trying to talk about a TV show or religion.. Not a healthy relationship I want to continue. I'm out...hallelujah.

    • @evjimz8460
      @evjimz8460 2 роки тому +3

      Wow! This is gold! Thanks for sharing this

  • @therealkoolaidandkale
    @therealkoolaidandkale 2 роки тому +109

    Chile. I match energy and behavior, so if he's vague and ambiguous, we're gonna get bored with each other and fizzle out because I'm gonna be vague and ambiguous and stop bothering to respond.

  • @Mskiraven
    @Mskiraven 2 роки тому +138

    The biggest test after exchanging numbers is “can you come over” aka can we smash on the first link and skipp dating all together. That’s the 1rst test.

    • @Nikita-vz1or
      @Nikita-vz1or 2 роки тому +14

      That’s not really a test lol that’s clear & apparent that’s the only thing on his mind

    • @user-yh9vd9yz9u
      @user-yh9vd9yz9u 2 роки тому +1

      @@Nikita-vz1or right

  • @rakhil1830
    @rakhil1830 2 роки тому +52

    If a man can’t give me a direct answer he will never hear from me again I don’t have time for games.

    • @claremari5374
      @claremari5374 Рік тому

      👏🏾 I don’t have any time for games been there done that and it won’t happen again

  • @OnyxxRose
    @OnyxxRose 2 роки тому +31

    Be willing to walk away

  • @turquoisepearls4817
    @turquoisepearls4817 2 роки тому +196

    I’m so glad that this is being discussed. Not answering my questions is a turn off. It automatically disqualifies him. Thanks for helping me decide not to like you! I don’t take him serious at all. This guy at my church approached me. I say to him. “I thought you were married?” His response was how do you know that? Wrong answer! Friend zoned!

    • @kokolatte825
      @kokolatte825 2 роки тому +59

      He doesn't sound like friend material either

    • @leashawilliamson2766
      @leashawilliamson2766 2 роки тому +20

      @@kokolatte825 I was just about to say this too, he’s going to always keep trying in the friend zone

    • @yipeedo372
      @yipeedo372 2 роки тому +7

      Friend zoned? You still sound into him if you friend zoning him haha

    • @thickhoney74
      @thickhoney74 2 роки тому +5

      Not necessarily she just has to mean what she say and some woman are getting real smart these days, we do not care anymore with these dude’s. You act right cool if you don’t it’s that easy bye I’ll find another prospect.

    • @fatehaali106
      @fatehaali106 2 роки тому +7

      @@kokolatte825 I agree, friendship sound be based on honesty, he doesn’t seem like he’ll be a decent friend, more like a user.

  • @kristabistaify
    @kristabistaify 2 роки тому +54

    Ladies....and yet THEY'LL SAY WOMEN ARE THE EMOTIONAL ONES.
    Imagine putting this much effort into TRYING to harm a woman. Must be insanely insecure.

    • @fatehaali106
      @fatehaali106 2 роки тому +15

      So true, and especially when your nice to them, they treat you worse. It like they hate the fact that your showing them love, and respect. It’s all so confusing.

    • @evjimz8460
      @evjimz8460 2 роки тому +4

      Indeed! It’s sick lol

    • @luwilliams1059
      @luwilliams1059 2 роки тому +9

      I hate to say it but it’s like you can’t be to nice lol!

  • @tejuanareeves7291
    @tejuanareeves7291 2 роки тому +165

    I went through this with someone, that acted like this all time. And recently after not talking to him for months he calls out of the blue and was shocked when I didn't care, or ask him to come over.

    • @01MJ10
      @01MJ10 2 роки тому +9

      Cause tf 😒 🙄..

    • @j-tenn226
      @j-tenn226 2 роки тому +22

      Shocked? Why are some of them so obtuse?

    • @deejames1st
      @deejames1st 2 роки тому +30

      Most men think that if they sleep with you once in the past they can always do it again. Also, most men feel that if the woman picks up the phone or returns their call or text, she still wants to sleep with him, and is just playing games when she says no.

    • @turquoisepearls4817
      @turquoisepearls4817 2 роки тому +34

      😩 ugh! I can’t stand some of these guys. Months?! Then the audacity!! Can I come over?! My ex, who turned out to be a narcissist broke up with me. Months later... Text me asking can he come get a massage! I gave him No response! They are 🤡🤡🤡🤡. I never thought that I would just be so happy and at peace being single. It’s terrible out here! These men want to be catered to, and be treated like a bad b! I’ve never seen so many men be jealous of women 🤦🏾‍♀️

    • @faizahanif9515
      @faizahanif9515 2 роки тому

      Same. He started acting like an emo when I finally said how shitty he really is.

  • @deborahday1786
    @deborahday1786 2 роки тому +196

    Just happened to me today. Supposed to go on a date this evening after promises, calls, lots of communication with the guy, etc. I get a text this morning with some random excuse for cancelling. Telling me, " I know you're gonna be mad at me." I simply told him no, I wouldn't be, that I was going to enjoy my day and to have a good Sunday. I told him in a way where he knows I'm done. No anger, no questions, no back and forth. He wasn't ready for that. I don't have time for this foolishness. He can go test somebody else.

    • @margaretmahdi9872
      @margaretmahdi9872 2 роки тому +12

      Good 4 you! 👏🏾

    • @sg-ib7tm
      @sg-ib7tm 2 роки тому +8

      👏🏾

    • @deborahday1786
      @deborahday1786 2 роки тому +8

      @@margaretmahdi9872 Thank you! 🧡

    • @Mulania007
      @Mulania007 2 роки тому +15

      Never have a man disrespect you. That happened to me before and I let it slide now I've learned my lesson. He's blocked for good. Go no contact. It's the best revenge.

    • @deborahday1786
      @deborahday1786 2 роки тому +12

      @@Mulania007 Oh yes. He got blocked yesterday. I’m right with you. Don’t give them a chance to do it a second time.

  • @ibstayfly
    @ibstayfly Рік тому +28

    Ambiguity is the biggest red flag. When guys avoid questions makes me think they have something to hide. Thank you so much for this

    • @joycenash8271
      @joycenash8271 Рік тому

      They do. They just don't want you to know it.

  • @christineboutin4971
    @christineboutin4971 2 роки тому +86

    This is so spot on. I dated someone over 50 we got along well and had great chemistry, When the relationship got more serious he became distant, canceled dates and would break promises, Because i liked him I tolerated it at first, then my final straw was him canceling a sleepover and talking about missing his adult kids, and being scared with moving forward. I dont look back and glad it was just 3 months. I will definitely look out for these when im dating new people. i,m content on going on solo dates and being in company of people who are intentional.

    • @buyiswamnyani5222
      @buyiswamnyani5222 2 роки тому +8

      50yr olds seems to be a problem 🥺

    • @rogers5622
      @rogers5622 2 роки тому +3

      My grandma said some of them never mature - so age definitely make it better 😳

    • @eaglelensforemay7503
      @eaglelensforemay7503 Рік тому

      He didn't do anything wrong though you two were dating not in a relationship. He just gave you plenty of hints that he ain't interested. At the dating stage no man or woman needs to give a long statement about how they are not interested they can simply walk away. Why you planning sleepovers with a man who became distant, cancels on you and breaks promises? This is the problem ladies, when he don't want you you still show him your bedroom.
      And don't be hating on no man who loves his ADULT or BABY kids lmao I will love my kids until they are 100 years point blank.

    • @grace4976
      @grace4976 Рік тому +1

      He probably has ED

    • @made432
      @made432 4 місяці тому

      @@grace4976😂😂😂😂

  • @Coolct
    @Coolct 2 роки тому +77

    This was spot on! A guy over 50 couldnt give me straight answers the first week of knowing him then he wanted to meet after 10pm cause he’s supposedly busy and fell asleep… it’s like Kev read my situation… I blocked him and happily enjoy MY WEEKEND! Thanks Kev🙏🏾

  • @clarissegomez9275
    @clarissegomez9275 2 роки тому +14

    A 55 years old a guy told me I'm too demanding when I told him I can't hang out at night and to see someone it doesn't only require to meet them at night. He cursed me out when I told him " at your age" I would have thought of you being more understanding and mature about the situation of meeting a complete stranger at night time is just not for me. I had to block him

  • @what.you.allowyou.permit2030
    @what.you.allowyou.permit2030 2 роки тому +114

    Part of your verbal description perfectly described gaslighting and trauma bonding. Good to see someone being clear to run from these evasive manipulators (and mere grown boys).

  • @Mynameisdarkxxo
    @Mynameisdarkxxo 2 роки тому +91

    I have a hard time standing up for myself in the beginning, it just becomes easier over time- I know it’s wrong, my mom has told me too, it’s necessary to call them out the earlier the better

    • @travelchannel304
      @travelchannel304 2 роки тому +10

      I did too. Because i found something about them i liked , and then to have to discern, then have to "teach " a person how to behave 'erks" me to no end!! But i lost alot within myself because i didn't. And thats even with bosses. (Not in sexual ways. ) lord no! LOL

    • @laurelmalinowski1676
      @laurelmalinowski1676 2 роки тому

      It’s easier over time. I’m 40 and I’m finally at the point where I pull no punches. I set my boundaries and if they don’t like it they can fuck right off.

  • @sylviab.791
    @sylviab.791 2 роки тому +43

    So I did the right thing blocked him and started talking to someone else 🤣

  • @The_Owl_23
    @The_Owl_23 2 роки тому +48

    Thank you Kev! I have experienced this with a guy before. I’m glad he stopped talking to me, it literally felt like an emotional roller coaster. Hunny the trash took itself out. Good riddance 🚪🗑🙌🏾

  • @beautifullymade4943
    @beautifullymade4943 2 роки тому +29

    This man is powerful! Protect him at all cost lol 😂

  • @jayc5756
    @jayc5756 2 роки тому +58

    Didn't know that 2nd way...but that makes a lot of sense. Once you know a lady can be manipulated and you made her back down or lower her standards and morals and stuff intentionally and strategically...then yeah, I guess he knows that he got her. Mann.

  • @faizahanif9515
    @faizahanif9515 2 роки тому +32

    This is why I give chance to men who like me and not the guys I like (I heavily analyze the guys I like but from distance,not by testing their limits lol). This way I can convey what I want in relationship without being tested and men usually are more willing to invest if they like you first or if they like you more than you like them.

    • @som0919
      @som0919 10 місяців тому

      But they will do the same thing to other women who they don't like.I think one should be respectful towards all whether they like them or not. Men who are actually respectful towards both the women they like and don't like and are straightforward are actually the good ones I think.

  • @moniquepowell8168
    @moniquepowell8168 2 роки тому +18

    My ex did both of this and had the audacity to be mad when I blocked him 💅🏾

  • @felishapittman2778
    @felishapittman2778 2 роки тому +20

    My goodness...this is exhausting.

    • @lisabradford8180
      @lisabradford8180 2 роки тому +4

      Right? No wonder women are throwing in the towel. All this work and no guaranteed reward. Forget it.

    • @j-tenn226
      @j-tenn226 2 роки тому +8

      It’s definitely not worth it.

  • @Mulania007
    @Mulania007 2 роки тому +25

    I was dating this guy during covid and he told me he was a consulting. He said he wasn't traveling to consult due to covid and I believed him. Long story short, I broke up with him and realized he was a full time bartender for events and consulted with his dad for a company occasionally. Meaning, he was traveling a few times every 6 months. The googled his company and it's actually for cleaners that wash sheets for hospitals and hotels. Ladies, ask as many questions as you can. Don't let me gaslight and manipulate you. I'm off online dating for good now.

  • @ladyofspa
    @ladyofspa 2 роки тому +31

    All games won't work if you refuse sex till engaged with a date on calendar. Gamers not sticking around for that. He looks to you to set standards. Drop him at any stage.

    • @YaLittleFriend
      @YaLittleFriend 2 роки тому +4

      Exactly I think the problem here is that women think that sex before a any form of commitment can have a short cut. Know this, that man is watching you! Once you’ve slept with him after 2 dates it’s over, sorry. He can engage in those tactics bc of double standards women however cannot. Those are facts that have not changed for 5,000 yrs.

  • @tiffanykimble9465
    @tiffanykimble9465 2 роки тому +24

    What's even worse Kev, is when a Father has done this repeatedly to his own child...I don't trust my Father to this day. 😕

    • @kelis8883
      @kelis8883 2 роки тому +1

      Same with my mom I am still trying to go no contact till this day!!!!

  • @lisalyte7656
    @lisalyte7656 2 роки тому +46

    This is some real talk straight up. Like a big brother supposed to tell his sister In protection of her. Thank you so much for help 😎 and looking out for our best interests ❤

  • @ladyofspa
    @ladyofspa 2 роки тому +33

    Free easy sex vs full commitment with a future for marriage is world's apart in behavior for both women and men. Day one set tone for what you want.

  • @sammyvega9798
    @sammyvega9798 2 роки тому +31

    Spot on Kev. That’s exactly what they do. I’ve learned by experienced. Move on…

  • @lynneminelli
    @lynneminelli 2 роки тому +67

    That was clear cut and precise. Thank you Kevin.

  • @Kmjk-xi7pc
    @Kmjk-xi7pc 2 роки тому +27

    O. M. G. Everything you said is exactly what I'm dealing with. The more I listened the more it made complete sense. We aren't even together like that. The anxiety was getting too much for me but I find myself missing him. WTF!!

    • @bunnyboo6295
      @bunnyboo6295 2 роки тому +1

      people that cause stress confusion really get stuck in the head likely because the more you think about someone the more attracted good or bad. mind games keep you guess trying to figure things out lead to them taking most your head space training the mind to focus on them

  • @annettendes7490
    @annettendes7490 2 роки тому +17

    Exactly what happened to me. Dated a guy who keep telling me i dont put any effort which wasn't true. Its was him to give my so much bullshit i never experienced in any other relationship ever. Broken promises, no effort no exclusivity absolutely nothing he just want that or this. Kicked his ass two weeks ago and never looked back.

  • @TSAONGAF
    @TSAONGAF 2 роки тому +23

    Thanks for looking out for us Kev!

  • @joicenteredwellnessasmr5832
    @joicenteredwellnessasmr5832 2 роки тому +21

    I wish I was taught to peep game in my teens and my twenties. I was late to the game, with a pure heart and I learned balance after being played by a couple of narcs thanks to coaches like you who operate in light and love. Many blessings 💜👑

  • @jayc5756
    @jayc5756 2 роки тому +22

    6:20 Cause he knows your weak according to him...cause he already got you before with his other tactics. Makes a lot of sense.

  • @TheBestOfLisaRenee
    @TheBestOfLisaRenee 2 роки тому +9

    DEMONIC!
    No one has this kind of energy to waste on men that have given their souls to Lucifer.

  • @meredithbarrett8395
    @meredithbarrett8395 2 роки тому +18

    Holycow Kev! You just saved my heart and sanity AGAIN! I dated Mr Ambiguity for four months and he very much had me like the cat chasing the laser pointer, such a brilliant analogy. He treated me like gold at first and was very loving, only to reverse and begin treating me like crap over time and becoming more ambiguous and emotionally unsupportive. He had me hooked though my being mr. Awesome boyfriend in the beginning.
    I always wondered if what he was doing to me was calculated or he if he actually meant no harm and was completely oblivious to how his actions were affecting me. Listening to you, I am seeing now he’s not clueless, he knows what he is doing. I explained to him as well how his actions were hurting me. Now I am gathering the strength to walk away. It’s really hard tho cause I was falling in love with him. This video has given me more strength in a positive way. Thank you helping us ladies navigate the often harrowing pool of modern dating. I am a big fan and follower of you.

    • @lunalu552
      @lunalu552 2 роки тому +2

      It's calculated but some aren't aware of their own dynamics but they know. Many operate on instincts. I've read that male useds of dating apps score high in dark triad traits (narcissism, macheavelism, psychopathy) while women are more like to score high in anxiety and anxious attachment.
      They smell anxiety, lack of boundaries and low self worth from far, even it It's on an instinctive basis.

  • @nicoleabdelaziz
    @nicoleabdelaziz 2 роки тому +35

    I wish I watched these videos sooner, he’s putting me through this right now😢🤦‍♀️

    • @candiedwards974
      @candiedwards974 2 роки тому +5

      So sorry Nicole, Speak up Lady!

    • @Jacqxzdiva1
      @Jacqxzdiva1 2 роки тому +17

      ❤️❤️❤️❤️ block him right now. Practice detachment and you’ll eventually no longer B be attracted to him. But you must start.

    • @steftrujillo4168
      @steftrujillo4168 2 роки тому +3

      Sorry to hear. Ignore, ignore, ignore him

    • @marshaferron5374
      @marshaferron5374 2 роки тому +9

      You need to gray rock him, distance yourself from him since he is playing games with you.

    • @nicoleabdelaziz
      @nicoleabdelaziz 2 роки тому +4

      Thanks ladies, great to hear your support! Any of you ever feel like you need to stick it out?

  • @AfroCuban4life
    @AfroCuban4life 2 роки тому +8

    The sad thing is a 65 year old tried this on me. Yes, I like them older as long as they take care of themselves 👴 Now grampa is BLOCKED!

    • @lilianakeya9868
      @lilianakeya9868 Рік тому +2

      🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @gwortman3515
      @gwortman3515 Рік тому

      I am 62, and yes, the Gramps' are the worst at relationships!! Most need the magic pill and even with the pill many don't care if the lady cums or not...selfish old stinky ass men!!! I will stick with the younger fifty year old...lol

    • @ketayork555
      @ketayork555 Рік тому +1

      😂😂😂

    • @user-cs2pn7sx4g
      @user-cs2pn7sx4g 4 місяці тому

      It’s true they don’t get better with age

  • @FreedomUninterrupted
    @FreedomUninterrupted 2 роки тому +7

    I am so glad he said this because people used to try to make me feel so bad about confronting them on why they didn't answer my question. That used to make me so mad and it's crazy how I had so many women tell me not to confront them like that but this prooves my point. They did it because they didn't respect what I was sayin and they were trying to condition me to put up with abusive/inappropriate behavior.

  • @victoriaxox0
    @victoriaxox0 2 роки тому +20

    Oh just the other day a guy I only talked to a couple times was like "I can pull up right now baby" I just started ignoring and kept it moving. No time for the mind games when I said I wanted a real relationship and not only sex....

  • @joannagipson12
    @joannagipson12 2 роки тому +15

    Thank you ❤ Very true. Women, stand up for yourselves!!! Say what's on your mind. He will respect you for it. Trust me , I know. 💯💯💕💕

  • @Keana43
    @Keana43 2 роки тому +34

    I literally had a guy tell me he was testing me✌️✌️✌️

    • @lisabradford8180
      @lisabradford8180 2 роки тому +3

      I have too and it pissed me off 😠

    • @yourrealtor_Danielle
      @yourrealtor_Danielle 2 роки тому +13

      They bold!

    • @Keana43
      @Keana43 2 роки тому +3

      @@yourrealtor_Danielle right? The nerve

    • @lunalu552
      @lunalu552 2 роки тому +9

      Me too. One of the tests was sex talking early on.
      We were talking about action figures and he said something "I can get you all the toys you want even sex toys" and i was like "excuse me! Wtf was that?" And he replied "calm down. It was just a test. Don't worry you passed".
      Me "This was a test too and you failed miserably. Have a nice life".
      Covert or explicit sex talking is one of test for low boundaries.

  • @kymberleybyrd6998
    @kymberleybyrd6998 2 роки тому +13

    Hmmm I’m glad I act unbothered

  • @klaudiawazna6756
    @klaudiawazna6756 2 роки тому +8

    Maaan this is all true. Been in such situation for 1,5 month because I didn't know those tricks. Even though I didn't have this knowledge I sent the loser back on his planet, why? Because I like men but I love myself sooo much more :D

  • @MamaWhit87
    @MamaWhit87 2 роки тому +9

    Wow, you give some great advice! I can't believe there's coaches out here teaching men that "dark energy" stuff.

    • @Wonderwoman79G
      @Wonderwoman79G 2 роки тому

      The internet is a lot of them.

    • @silveraruchi2421
      @silveraruchi2421 2 роки тому +1

      Alot of them, I do follow some of them on UA-cam they teach this men how to manipulate and treat woman poorly.

    • @MamaWhit87
      @MamaWhit87 2 роки тому +1

      @@silveraruchi2421 can you name me some channels? I'm just curious

  • @sunshinesunflowerz1647
    @sunshinesunflowerz1647 2 роки тому +18

    I don’t have the time, the mental space for a male to be uncertain about me (because I’m very sure of myself) and not being a man of his word. I’ve ignored two of jesters, in my 20’s.
    Who has time for games? My name is not Parker, Mattel or Bass Pro: grow your and get a life. The nerve of these males 🙄😒

  • @queenevangeline2158
    @queenevangeline2158 2 роки тому +3

    Thank you Kev, I have dealt with men breaking promises , to the point where I was like,Ima just let him be. Recently someone showed interest and also broke a promise, its so disrespectful

  • @Moi_81
    @Moi_81 2 роки тому +7

    Damn...remembering some things.

  • @irinacar
    @irinacar 2 роки тому +10

    Excellent video.

  • @CharCharJars
    @CharCharJars 2 роки тому +3

    Thank you, we just started communicating Sunday, after watching this, it’s official cut, I just ended that mess. Thank you much ‼️

  • @dinarichards7064
    @dinarichards7064 2 роки тому +2

    All the way from South Africa, I watched literally thousands of videos but this is the best advice I have received on UA-cam ever

  • @sissorsister83
    @sissorsister83 2 роки тому +6

    This is the absolute truth!! I went through all of this.

  • @biancarowena9040
    @biancarowena9040 4 місяці тому

    You’re a good man for giving advice that will protect women. I recognize a lot of these things you talk about, when it comes to men in their dark energy, but I still want to watch your videos as they’re always a good reminder to me that I don’t want to put up with anything like this, right from the start. It’s not worth it. Who has time for that? Thanks again for your content. I believe it’s helping a lot of women

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  4 місяці тому

      My pleasure 😇. Thank you for watching.

  • @dianadavis5969
    @dianadavis5969 2 роки тому +9

    No one has time 4 grown boy games.

  • @EmmaRonan
    @EmmaRonan 2 місяці тому

    One of the best videos I’ve seen in a long time, short , to the point, informative, different

  • @jayc5756
    @jayc5756 2 роки тому +22

    I was just thinking this earlier. Good men & women be dealing with the same bullsh*t. The only difference is...with women, they can easily decipher the patterns and signs to look out...so they limit the players they give attention to. Whereas us good men...we try to feel out the women from the jump...thinking they may be good...and some probably are. But it be the same main 3 issues we get. At least the main 3 issues I encounter when dealing with most women are either they aren't serious...whether they say otherwise...but their actions doesn't match up what they are saying.
    The other 2 are them playing games. This is Very Common in most of the modern day women I encounter. And the other 1 is mainly big for me. Idk about anybody else. But its lack of Good Communication. Actually, Ive heard men complain about communication in some aspect too...like how they communicate, etc...so yeah.
    So those my 3 main issues some of us good men have with most women nowadays when trying to date and find a good woman...the right woman for us.

  • @happygucci5094
    @happygucci5094 Рік тому +2

    This was classic Kev- the side bar pop-ups for me tho. 😩😅
    Seriously though- this video literally made me sick to my stomach. My anxiety has been activated.
    I am not a stupid woman by any stretch- yet I get manipulated by men half ( and that’s being generous!) as “smart”
    Thanks Kev.
    You are the big brother that we all deserve.
    🙌🏽

  • @Her_shey_bar
    @Her_shey_bar 2 роки тому +1

    I don't have time for people to get it together been there and done that!!!

  • @JessE-mr4yu
    @JessE-mr4yu 2 роки тому +7

    Thanks Kev for sharing lately I've been binge watching these videos Love learning about relationships what's healthy what's unhealthy appreciate your wisdom. Sending you and all the beautiful souls out there Love and Positive Vibes. 🧡💥💜💥🙏

  • @How.Dare.You.
    @How.Dare.You. 2 роки тому +9

    Maybe its a paradox but I let go men I really really like easier bc I know they can be amazing and if thats not with me, shame but I trust their choice and let it go. Whilst with guys I have doubts about Ill keep struggling with, fighting etc.

  • @loveispatientloveiskind2205
    @loveispatientloveiskind2205 2 роки тому +12

    It was such a shame. He'd look into my eyes with such longing, and I would have totally done anything for him. But when he played doing all that stupid shite. I warned him. There ARE other guys out there... it was difficult at first. To stop caring about him. Didn't even like other guys trying to kiss me. But, once again, he let me down and after crying so much. Once again, some other guy would be nice. How am I supposed to stay loyal to an asshole heartbreaker that is so disrespectful. That 'bad boy' stuff is overrated. I love people who seem weak to some, because they ARE GOOD, Caring, and they got my back! He can go off cheat and be the clown. I can't keep being sad. No, that's too much

  • @leesemonya6594
    @leesemonya6594 2 роки тому +5

    Ur like a big brother thank u for sharing this

  • @jorijeffrey6451
    @jorijeffrey6451 2 роки тому +7

    Very Eloquent.

  • @Missmartyr
    @Missmartyr 8 місяців тому

    Nobody ever keeps their promises or do what they say they will. If it's a rare time where the promise is kept, in this case usually means it will be corrupted and something will happen to cause stress or inconvenience. If they stick to their word with no hiccups, then they're trust building waiting for the perfect time to let you down

  • @thems.harrisshow2160
    @thems.harrisshow2160 Рік тому +1

    this brother is amazing!!!! i just found his page, and mannnn he is honest and keeps it real. i love this!

  • @tricia4075
    @tricia4075 9 місяців тому

    Thank you!! I just walked away from that guy...

  • @eyllieprecious4704
    @eyllieprecious4704 2 роки тому +1

    I’m gonna listen to this until it’s drilled in my head

  • @chelseyl880
    @chelseyl880 2 роки тому +10

    Hm ♟
    Let’s see what a 👑 does…
    I’m aware of the play and power antics. My direction is coming from God Himself. Everything is in His hands 🙌 💯. I’m His daughter. Like I said, let’s see how a 👑 would act.
    Thank you for posting 🤍

  • @shereent3121
    @shereent3121 2 роки тому +3

    Don't put all your eggs in one basket. Put them in 2+baskets, the winner will end up with all the eggs. Dating shows usually have 3+ men, or women to choose from. Let them compete for you. The object is to get as many men down as possible, to find a winner not to try to hold any one single person up.

  • @SonjaElizabethTeal
    @SonjaElizabethTeal 2 роки тому +2

    Ibn, I'm so glad you said what you said about sharing.
    For me I'd rather share to personal friends and my Young Women mentees who I know are open to receiving your overall messages.
    It NEVER fails everytime I post you on my regular pages, I gotta fight some idiot who wants to argue and as a Seasoned Woman I don't have that kind of time to engage that foolishness!
    Love You Much, Beloved!🥰

  • @livelearnlove9086
    @livelearnlove9086 2 роки тому +3

    I just got rid of a guy who did this I think I keep him on block.

  • @saras.2173
    @saras.2173 18 днів тому

    1) They operate in ambiguity (not giving real answers)
    2) They break promises on purpose
    If you fail, they know you like him too much to back away, and he has the leverage.

  • @kittylove424
    @kittylove424 2 роки тому +2

    This is exactly what I needed to hear! 🤯 Such a great video.

  • @createbje8627
    @createbje8627 Рік тому

    Exactly 💯💯💯 i call them out every single time, and i got answer gown one of a man:" you are too Smart to even have a man"! ..lol, well thank you

  • @ashleywilliams5924
    @ashleywilliams5924 2 роки тому +7

    Hey Kev! Have u ever thought of virtual match making? 😫 Hook the girls up we need ittttttt😫😫

    • @Tephiffany
      @Tephiffany 2 роки тому

      I agree and I've been commenting this for years! Kev we need a virtual match making!

  • @swannyriver75
    @swannyriver75 2 роки тому +1

    And these are the same types that love acting the fool when you finally get sick of them and break up

  • @irenemorley75
    @irenemorley75 4 місяці тому

    No man has ever treated me this way, not all men are like this.

    • @user-cs2pn7sx4g
      @user-cs2pn7sx4g 4 місяці тому

      Not all men but in the dating scene it’s common.. predators and abusers dwell in the dating scene

  • @lisatso81
    @lisatso81 2 роки тому +7

    Love it, great video.
    Keep up the awesome work!

  • @TravelBug189
    @TravelBug189 Рік тому

    Every lady needs a Kev in her life! You’re amazing keep doing what you do, we really appreciate it ❤

  • @beatricemoore2061
    @beatricemoore2061 Рік тому

    I walked away because of him doing this- he stopped quick and now in therapy for anger management or else!

  • @fearfreelivingllc
    @fearfreelivingllc 2 роки тому

    Thank you Kev. God bless you. I don’t know how women put up with this stuff. Nothing of this stuff would ever work with me

  • @amyj.4992
    @amyj.4992 Рік тому

    I think I'm good now. Thanks for your advice, but I was in an industry that exposed men and masculine to their core. Keep doing what you do.

  • @celebrateyourdarknessnow4472
    @celebrateyourdarknessnow4472 2 роки тому +5

    Great video ☺️

  • @N.1lza
    @N.1lza 2 роки тому +2

    Man I wished I had seen that video 3 weeks ago 😓

  • @jayc5756
    @jayc5756 2 роки тому +52

    Strong women Don't and Won't fall for these stupid little manipulation tactics. FR

    • @_BellaXOXO
      @_BellaXOXO 2 роки тому +7

      It’s not about strength, it’s about propaganda. Most women are taught to trust men and not their instincts when it comes to dating.

    • @jayc5756
      @jayc5756 2 роки тому +1

      @@_BellaXOXO Taught this by Who??
      Cause this is Totally Wrong. Whoever taught you that is Completely Wrong. IJS

    • @lunalu552
      @lunalu552 2 роки тому +1

      @@jayc5756 By everyone. Since early teens if we decide not to engage in litte boys games "oh come on you're too boring" , "you're too picky", "you should trust more". Many of us come from chaotic households and anxiety is a default traitx ambiguity causes anxiety.
      Take the example of children who got the silent treatment or "when we get home we talk about this", or had alcoholic or mentally ill parents who would cause hazard every two weeks.
      This is horrible for both boys and girls but when boys reach puberty they get fueled with huge amounts of testerone that supresses the high levels of cortisol, they also become physically stronger but women grow a little bit but keep weak, are also blessed with menstrual cycles that makes us feel even weaker, moody, in pain...
      Men technically get stronger and women keep weak. If physical aggression and coercion didn't have consequences these guys would just be using physical strength because it's not they developed manipulation and deception techniques.

    • @_BellaXOXO
      @_BellaXOXO Рік тому

      @@jayc5756 Please learn the word propaganda, you’re assumption is quite embarrassing for you…

    • @jayc5756
      @jayc5756 Рік тому

      @@_BellaXOXO Nah, I got it ma. Relax!
      I was just saying

  • @LisaGemini
    @LisaGemini Рік тому

    As a former journalist, I ask pertinent questions. If the guy squirms and avoids answering, I let him go. Honesty is very important in a healthy relationship. I'm 60 and not putting up with stupid games because I've been hurt enough already.

  • @christieshafer1438
    @christieshafer1438 3 місяці тому

    ❤. Exactly. I just went through the

  • @MissMarjorie
    @MissMarjorie Рік тому

    I can't get enough of these videos! I can hardly wait to thank you in a real $ way! God bless!

  • @ruexlala
    @ruexlala 7 днів тому

    So helpful whew!!! Thank youuu

  • @robinabuchanan4200
    @robinabuchanan4200 2 роки тому +1

    Absolutely 100% correct

  • @jenbodhi1133
    @jenbodhi1133 2 роки тому +4

    Thank you

  • @FreedomUninterrupted
    @FreedomUninterrupted Рік тому

    This validates everything i've been thinking. I knew I wasn't crazy!😒

  • @Abcd-bn8up
    @Abcd-bn8up Рік тому

    You need to go bigger then UA-cam and speak the truth!