I just can't believe how much I love this video!! Everytime when I am fighting with someone this video makes me more reasonable ! Thank you Katilette!! :)
You've become such a great speaker Colette! I honestly can see the change in not only myself, but you and the way you carry yourself. You are an amazing and inspirational person.
Past few years UA-cam has just grown so much, so many UA-cam partners and options for us to watch, and also a lot of time has passed since the older vlogs! So not only did they get more views back then when there was less 'competition' you could say but also we are going back now and watching those old vlogs too so the numbers seem so much bigger than they are now. And I'm so proud of Shay for turning this into a business! That's a huge accomplishment :)
I love when Katilette gets silly and laughs at herself. I was noticing it and then the outtakes kicked in with more. It definitely made me smile, which is good since I'm blah with a cold right now! :)
I watched this video 3 months ago and have used your "no shakin" rule (although we use a different phrase) and it has helped my husband and I TREMENDOUSLY! Thanks! Nice to know everybody has those times when the argument is over something silly. :)
4:17 I remember Shay saying that on a vlog, while driving on his truck. I always remember that, and I use it for my life or tell that to people, and it IS REAL. If you are depressed or you are angry, you take a breath, smile, and it actually changes the way you feel!
My sister and I came up with "Honest yes" when we were 8 and 4. We are now 22 and 18 and it is like a faux-sacred word that we still hold each other to. I love it!
my arguments are usually down to loneliness cause i wanna see my partner more. but my husbands really good for the fact he doesnt argue back, its always a one way argument, which i think is great in our relationship because when im angry hes calm and wants me to be happy so he trys to relax the situation which is a great quality of our relationship, because i know alot of couples always want the last word and it because a war and they avoid each other which makes it worse. im a very lucky girl!
Yea, this helped me right now. I'm in a situation sorta liked this with my fiance and you reminded me that lov is more important than anything else. THANK Katilette!
Even though this video was probably more directed toward married people, it's still very helpful. I often find myself arguing and realizing that the only reason I'm upset is because of an earlier problem. Thanks Colette!
I would love to see you do a Marriage Series. I am recently engaged at 21, and we will be getting married sometime next year. It's been really interesting watching the way you two interact, and hear the wisdom you two have about marriage.
That's some really great advice, and looking back on past arguments... everything you said made so much sense! Thanks Katilette! "Love and happiness and harmony... and flowers and rainbows." hahaha
I remember you said the "no shaken" thing in a podcast, and I thought it was such a fantastic idea! My fiance and I came up with one too, we say "real sauce?" that way we know that we really need to communicate and be honest with each other about whatever topic we are talking about! It has been a great tool and has allowed us to explore things in a different way. Thanks for sharing that with us :)
basically what she is trying to say is arguing is in every relationship, a relationship can be beautiful. Is it worth losing your relationship, no. But it helps the relationship grow stronger.
Tips for anyone who's in a serious relationship or married. The 5 love languages. Book or online. Just take a 10min quiz & pass off to your loved one. My husband & I have been together 11years. We fought a lot! And a book & 2 people in love with open minds changed that! Collette - you should tell people about it in ur next vlog if they have questions regarding relationship issues.
True. Differing opinions are fun. But what you said were personal attacks, not an opinion. They didn't proclaimed themselves as inspirational, peoples did. And yes, speaking about your life experience and how you deal/delt with them can be inspirational.
This video just helped me to realize that last nights argument with my bf was really stupid. Thinking about it now I realize I was being unreasonable and I should have listened to him better! Thanks Colette when he gets home from work i'm going to apologize.
i love you so much mommytard, you provide me with a role model that i wouldn't otherwise have. i think we need more people like you, people that preach love.
Shay and Katilette have talked about that before on When The Kids Go To Sleep.They said they would support their children in whatever decision they make such as something like that.:)
it's great to have a happy family type vlog videos but i feel that sharing my problematic situations with my viewer helps me to see thing in a different light because they suggest things and give me their opinions for me to consider. my family vlogs are sometimes funny, wacky, sad, and i vent when i need to, because it's MYFLIPNWORLD, and i let people in on ALL my emotions, they like that because, they like it when its REAL. you guys made it. i'm trying to make it to. love ya shaytards. ; )
I love you so much and i want you to know that you and Shay have changed my life in a positive way. Thank you so much for being my rolemodel. Lots of love from Denmark :)
They've talked about it many times. They explain all their story in a When the kids go to sleep podcast, it's called "our story" or something like that. It's from the beginning of the podcasts. And yes, they were already married.
Dear katilette, I was just wondering how you deal with having 4 kids so well? How do you have the patience to deal with the craziness on an everyday basis? I have 2 kids & i can't imagine what having 4 kids would be like & sometimes find myself wanting to just scream. How can i become more patient with my kids. Thank you so much for being such a great role model to all the future moms out there & to everyone else! You are such an inspiration!
this comment is not very inpordint but i thought i may as well say well evey time i see your opening thing i find myself doing all the faces witch has made ur videos even better when i didnt think they could get any better
Just throwing it out there, if you were to do a beauty channel or beauty tutorials, I'd watch them. You are beautiful and your makeup and hair are always flawless!
I remember one time about 3 years ago in one of your vlogs I picked up on some weird energy between you guys and I thought "I bet they were arguing before they turned the camera on" lol
Kati please tell me how do you organize your everyday? Are you planning shedules or just let the time flow and wait for surprises? Do you take time just for yourself?
30 years ago, I made a deal with my new wife. The deal was, we wouldn't go to bed mad at each other. When you know, you're not going to be mad later, it makes the argument, any argument, seem small. Just like your daily vlog. It helps knowing you're things will be back to normal soon. We still have the same rule. Still in love too. G.
Katilette---You look very beautiful Always --but that blue makes you look "WOW". Love you and love Shay. You are such a Gentle Soul--how could anyone ever get upset with you?
Katilette ! this video really helped me with fights I have with my sisters! I'm only 13 but this showed me that I have to think about what I'm saying and also think about how others feel when we are fighting. Thank you so much! You probably won't see this but your videos help me a lot and they keep me smiling :) Thanks
I just got in an argument with one of my close friends, and I watched this video and realized that the thing I was mad at him for didn't really matter at all. :D Thanks Colette!
There's already a video about the same thing from seven months ago, even called "Fighting With Shay!" ha oh well I still love it, and you and your family :)
me and my hun have been togather for 13 years... we have had no arguments for a straight 5 years. and it was due to his son. When we get to a point where we feel it is comming on we sit down and write it out and then talk it threw with each other.
Thanks so much, this really helped me in my relationship! Sometimes I want to do things to make my boyfriend happy (or he does to make me happy) but its great to have a tool to be more honest about our individual needs. you're so wise! Thanks for sharing this with us, and looking forward to more of your experience on this! :D
i swear i only bother putting your videos and both your sister inlaws' videos in HD. you all are just so beautiful. i stare all video. keep up the amazing work
You should watch a video called "Amy Cuddy: Your body language shapes who you are" on the TEDTalksDirector channel. She explains the science of how forcing yourself to smile actually changes your hormone levels for the better. It also includes a really inspirational story involving her too - I dare you not to feel a little tearful by the end...
the last fight me and my brother have done is who gets to sit up front we also have a van. this is how we work it out we take turns. i sit up front on the way and he sits up front on the way back.
Hi colette, I am a teenager from the UK. For around 4 years now i've been dealing with mental health illness's. Last september i relapsed but never told anyone. Recently i've visited my doctor and i finally spoke to my parents about how i'm struggling. They always suggest i hide it whenever i speak to other family members or others around me. This makes me feel like they're ashamed of me and it doesn't help me to get better. how can i make them understand i tough it is? thank-you beth.
lol "Do you think I have problems... ?" I get anxiety too, and for a while I didn't know what it was. I would stop taking breaths and then I'd had to take lots of small ones to catch myself. It happened every time I was upset and It would last like 10 minutes. Maybe that's not normal, either, but at least you know you're not alone :-)
She is so gorgeous shay is a lucky man
I just can't believe how much I love this video!! Everytime when I am fighting with someone this video makes me more reasonable ! Thank you Katilette!! :)
You've become such a great speaker Colette! I honestly can see the change in not only myself, but you and the way you carry yourself. You are an amazing and inspirational person.
Oh my gosh, Katilette looks SO pretty and young in this vlog ❤️
Past few years UA-cam has just grown so much, so many UA-cam partners and options for us to watch, and also a lot of time has passed since the older vlogs! So not only did they get more views back then when there was less 'competition' you could say but also we are going back now and watching those old vlogs too so the numbers seem so much bigger than they are now. And I'm so proud of Shay for turning this into a business! That's a huge accomplishment :)
I love when Katilette gets silly and laughs at herself. I was noticing it and then the outtakes kicked in with more. It definitely made me smile, which is good since I'm blah with a cold right now! :)
I can understand her very clear when she talks! I just love her
Such a naturally beautiful woman, inside & out.
I watched this video 3 months ago and have used your "no shakin" rule (although we use a different phrase) and it has helped my husband and I TREMENDOUSLY! Thanks! Nice to know everybody has those times when the argument is over something silly. :)
i am so impressed at your relationship and how healthy your relationship really is. it's so sweet to see and hear about.
4:17 I remember Shay saying that on a vlog, while driving on his truck.
I always remember that, and I use it for my life or tell that to people, and it IS REAL. If you are depressed or you are angry, you take a breath, smile, and it actually changes the way you feel!
My sister and I came up with "Honest yes" when we were 8 and 4. We are now 22 and 18 and it is like a faux-sacred word that we still hold each other to. I love it!
Becoming one is so important! Married people just have to make sure and WORK on their relationships!
my arguments are usually down to loneliness cause i wanna see my partner more. but my husbands really good for the fact he doesnt argue back, its always a one way argument, which i think is great in our relationship because when im angry hes calm and wants me to be happy so he trys to relax the situation which is a great quality of our relationship, because i know alot of couples always want the last word and it because a war and they avoid each other which makes it worse. im a very lucky girl!
Yea, this helped me right now. I'm in a situation sorta liked this with my fiance and you reminded me that lov is more important than anything else. THANK Katilette!
Even though this video was probably more directed toward married people, it's still very helpful. I often find myself arguing and realizing that the only reason I'm upset is because of an earlier problem. Thanks Colette!
I would love to see you do a Marriage Series. I am recently engaged at 21, and we will be getting married sometime next year. It's been really interesting watching the way you two interact, and hear the wisdom you two have about marriage.
That's some really great advice, and looking back on past arguments... everything you said made so much sense! Thanks Katilette!
"Love and happiness and harmony... and flowers and rainbows." hahaha
I remember you said the "no shaken" thing in a podcast, and I thought it was such a fantastic idea! My fiance and I came up with one too, we say "real sauce?" that way we know that we really need to communicate and be honest with each other about whatever topic we are talking about! It has been a great tool and has allowed us to explore things in a different way. Thanks for sharing that with us :)
It's october again! I can't wait for your inspiring pinktober video. I look forward to them every year. You and your sisters.
:)
Her hair looks amazing in this omg .
basically what she is trying to say is arguing is in every relationship, a relationship can be beautiful. Is it worth losing your relationship, no. But it helps the relationship grow stronger.
Hahahahah i love the "i dont wanna cut!" part, so funny the she says it
Tips for anyone who's in a serious relationship or married. The 5 love languages. Book or online. Just take a 10min quiz & pass off to your loved one. My husband & I have been together 11years. We fought a lot! And a book & 2 people in love with open minds changed that! Collette - you should tell people about it in ur next vlog if they have questions regarding relationship issues.
True. Differing opinions are fun. But what you said were personal attacks, not an opinion.
They didn't proclaimed themselves as inspirational, peoples did. And yes, speaking about your life experience and how you deal/delt with them can be inspirational.
This video just helped me to realize that last nights argument with my bf was really stupid. Thinking about it now I realize I was being unreasonable and I should have listened to him better! Thanks Colette when he gets home from work i'm going to apologize.
I watched that video the other day! best lecture on TED Talks ever.
i love you so much mommytard, you provide me with a role model that i wouldn't otherwise have. i think we need more people like you, people that preach love.
Shay and Katilette have talked about that before on When The Kids Go To Sleep.They said they would support their children in whatever decision they make such as something like that.:)
it's great to have a happy family type vlog videos but i feel that sharing my problematic situations with my viewer helps me to see thing in a different light because they suggest things and give me their opinions for me to consider. my family vlogs are sometimes funny, wacky, sad, and i vent when i need to, because it's MYFLIPNWORLD, and i let people in on ALL my emotions, they like that because, they like it when its REAL. you guys made it. i'm trying to make it to. love ya shaytards. ; )
Your hair looks absolutely GORGEOUS !
Totally agree! I always catch that during the vlogs!
Colette thank you for helping me through this tough time!
Aww! Great answers! You're smart Katilette!!
your hair looks flawless colette !
my husband and I argue a lot and then we laugh about it wondering how we even started arguing in the first place lol.
Your children are so lucky to have you as a mother.
aww, you can almost hear how much you love him, everytime you just say shays name
Your eye make up is perfect
I love you so much and i want you to know that you and Shay have changed my life in a positive way. Thank you so much for being my rolemodel.
Lots of love from Denmark :)
I wish I'd watched this last week. I hope I have the opportunity to use what I learned here again.
They've talked about it many times. They explain all their story in a When the kids go to sleep podcast, it's called "our story" or something like that. It's from the beginning of the podcasts. And yes, they were already married.
Dear katilette, I was just wondering how you deal with having 4 kids so well? How do you have the patience to deal with the craziness on an everyday basis? I have 2 kids & i can't imagine what having 4 kids would be like & sometimes find myself wanting to just scream. How can i become more patient with my kids. Thank you so much for being such a great role model to all the future moms out there & to everyone else! You are such an inspiration!
yes she did when sontard threw a frisbee into it!
this comment is not very inpordint but i thought i may as well say well evey time i see your opening thing i find myself doing all the faces witch has made ur videos even better when i didnt think they could get any better
Amazing mom. Great wife. Beautiful person.
I wish I could be as open and honest as you.
"I don't want to cut" lol.
Great advice!
I think the whole "no shakin" thing is a great idea!!!
LOL, and flowers and rainbows! XD
Aww but Colette didn't want to cut! :)
"I don't wanna cut" lol. So cutee mommytatd!
i love it when you realize that it's getting a little weird and you're giggeling :D
you words are soo meaningful
They alredy talked about this on the podcasts! They are really fun, watch them! When the kids go to sleep- thats the name of the channel!
Just throwing it out there, if you were to do a beauty channel or beauty tutorials, I'd watch them. You are beautiful and your makeup and hair are always flawless!
"I don't wanna cut." Ah mah gawd, that was so cute!
I remember one time about 3 years ago in one of your vlogs I picked up on some weird energy between you guys and I thought "I bet they were arguing before they turned the camera on" lol
hahahahahah thanks for that, you made my day. so much stupid things crammed in so little words has got to be a record or something.
I was literally one minute into the video and had to 'like' it right away! In ONE min you've got me thinking "wow! she's beautiful & wise wise wise!"
wow this is really good advice. These concepts seem so basic yet so overlooked by most people
OMG Colette I FREAKING LOVE YOUR HAIR! Girrrrrll you look SO FABBBBBBBBB!!
Kati please tell me how do you organize your everyday? Are you planning shedules or just let the time flow and wait for surprises? Do you take time just for yourself?
My god... One of the most important questions in life... Finally answered. I can die happy
Can we see the lighting and background setup for these videos.. they are amazing
30 years ago, I made a deal with my new wife. The deal was, we wouldn't go to bed mad at each other. When you know, you're not going to be mad later, it makes the argument, any argument, seem small. Just like your daily vlog. It helps knowing you're things will be back to normal soon. We still have the same rule. Still in love too. G.
I love the new color of your hair! Well, that's if you lightened it or whatever you did, it's amazing! :)
Katilette---You look very beautiful Always --but that blue makes you look "WOW".
Love you and love Shay. You are such a Gentle Soul--how could anyone ever get upset with you?
This. Is. The. Best. Advice.
THANK YOU
I Love That Lip Color On You Lol
me too! She's so pretty
Katilette ! this video really helped me with fights I have with my sisters! I'm only 13 but this showed me that I have to think about what I'm saying and also think about how others feel when we are fighting. Thank you so much! You probably won't see this but your videos help me a lot and they keep me smiling :) Thanks
I love your videos! You're always so helpful.
I just got in an argument with one of my close friends, and I watched this video and realized that the thing I was mad at him for didn't really matter at all. :D
Thanks Colette!
your so gorgeous.
THE BRACELET! Where'd you get it?! ITSSOSPARKLY!!!
this is great advice i love these vlogs its helped me put things into perspective.
There's already a video about the same thing from seven months ago, even called "Fighting With Shay!" ha oh well I still love it, and you and your family :)
I'm watching this months later, realizing she quoted Little Things even before it came out.
I LOVE your lipstick color!!! and your hair looks absolutely stunning!
This is why your family is amazing.:)
This was really great advice. Thank you for sharing this. You are very wise.
me and my hun have been togather for 13 years... we have had no arguments for a straight 5 years. and it was due to his son. When we get to a point where we feel it is comming on we sit down and write it out and then talk it threw with each other.
omg!!!! you are soooooo pretty!! and your hair is gorgeous in this vid!!
Thanks so much, this really helped me in my relationship! Sometimes I want to do things to make my boyfriend happy (or he does to make me happy) but its great to have a tool to be more honest about our individual needs. you're so wise! Thanks for sharing this with us, and looking forward to more of your experience on this! :D
Such good advice!! So glad I watched this.
i swear i only bother putting your videos and both your sister inlaws' videos in HD. you all are just so beautiful. i stare all video. keep up the amazing work
your hair looks great in this video colette!!!! SO SHINY
You should watch a video called "Amy Cuddy: Your body language shapes who you are" on the TEDTalksDirector channel. She explains the science of how forcing yourself to smile actually changes your hormone levels for the better.
It also includes a really inspirational story involving her too - I dare you not to feel a little tearful by the end...
"When two become ooonneee.." lol
the last fight me and my brother have done is who gets to sit up front we also have a van. this is how we work it out we take turns. i sit up front on the way and he sits up front on the way back.
Hi colette, I am a teenager from the UK.
For around 4 years now i've been dealing with mental health illness's. Last september i relapsed but never told anyone. Recently i've visited my doctor and i finally spoke to my parents about how i'm struggling.
They always suggest i hide it whenever i speak to other family members or others around me. This makes me feel like they're ashamed of me and it doesn't help me to get better.
how can i make them understand i tough it is? thank-you
beth.
Well they kind of say "fill" its so cute. i love their idaho accents. xxx
Finally, a new video!!! Love watching these
Love your laugh Colette! So adorable!
I love your hair Colette...so pretty
and the highlights are nice!!
Thanks so much! Me and my husband arguee alot about stupid things, I put my self in his shoes and it works! Thanks soo much we arguee much less now.
and Brett is a good friend of theirs and they LOVE him! :)
I don't argue, I've never raised my voice or hand to anyone and people think it's weird. I think it's about reason and logic.
she's so pretty in any quality
LOVE THE INTRO COLETTE!
lol "Do you think I have problems... ?"
I get anxiety too, and for a while I didn't know what it was. I would stop taking breaths and then I'd had to take lots of small ones to catch myself. It happened every time I was upset and It would last like 10 minutes. Maybe that's not normal, either, but at least you know you're not alone :-)