@Sajid Khan it's not the truth. Jealous Arabs invented the rule to control women. Men are allowed to marry Christians and Jew's but not women. Nobody with a brain can believe a God is that sadistic
@@joeroot5897 First and foremost we are all the creation of one God. Therefore we must love one another, be kind, greet and respect others. No religion recommends one to marry one who practices another religion. And if you ask me people now a days are so agnostic they don't even want socialize with a "religious" person. Ever heard the phrase: "If you truly love them then you have to let them go."? This applies to situations like this.
2:46 he mentions that the child would be confused/pick up a careless attitude on who to follow if they see their parents practicing 2 different faiths, but only if the woman is muslim in this case. wouldn’t the same thing happen vice versa? (if the man is muslim,yet they are still permitted to go through with the interfaith marriage) a lot of people believe the reason why men are permitted interfaith marriage is because they’re able to control what religion is instilled and taught, which would be applicable in the era the quran was written. however, times have changed and marriages can/have become more equalised, so can’t really make the assumption that women have no say or control of what happens (this ends up being a personal issue between a couple)
the part about Muslim men being allowed to marry women of the book is debatable, many scholars say that both Muslim men and women aren't allowed to marry non muslims ,even Christians and Jews, but the when it comes to muslim women there's no debate about it.
I am in love with a catholic man and he truly believes in one God and that Mohammed sav was he's last messenger and he loves to learn about Islam , I don't force him to convert but I still don't know if I am wrong in allah's judgment because that's all I care about I am still a happy Muslim I will never change my believes alhamdulillah, may allah guide us all to the right path as he has planned for us inshallah 🌺🌸🌻🌹🌳
There is no difference whether she or he is western or eastern , the condition of marriage in Islam is that Believer in Tawheed- the complete monotheistic conception of reality, can't share bed or be life partner of Polytheism in any form whether Trinity or deification of any other person or thing besides Allah . If you truly believe in word of Allah then you should know that Allah forgives every sin except Polytheism شرك , if your child tomorrow worships a man or any other thing besides Allah just because of your marriage outside Islam then you will be responsible for his suffering in Akhirah but if you dont believe in Allah and his messenger, you are just muslim becoz of your parents and your priority is not submission to Allah, in reality you are not Muslim you are just labelling yourself as Muslim, then you can marry whoever you want nobody will Stop you but I will request you to not label yourself as Muslim because it can Misguide others also . Muslim is the one who completely surrenders before Allah التسليم المطلقۃ في امام الله سبحانه و تعالی Muslim men also Should not Marry non Muslim women if they really care for Akhirah of their Children
Sister , things might be roses and butterflies now , but trust and believe when things get hard it's Very important that two of you are on the same page when it comes to beliefs( how will he give you your rights or stand by you when he doesn't know Islam ). Be careful and fear Allah (SWT) please don't go down that road .
Stuart MC Brother Adam,Abraham, Noah, Moses, Jesus, Muhammed peace be upon them carried same message There is 1 god love and fear him Satan wants everyone in hell So we have been divided by some corrupt media and foolish people with power Read and reach more
@@TheJawadrockI say this in love... my bible and your quran are not from the same God. I'm sure you're a nice guy, and a decent human being, but we do not worship the same God.
Stuart MC Brother its not the same because bible has been changed by many people google it but few verses are still the same Mathew 26:39 he fell with his face to the ground and prayed as Muslims pray Brother that’s your understanding if you think god is different But as per my understanding there 1 god (Allah) And we must return 1 day And if we are doers of good we will be guided
this channel is called Quran Speaks but I still have not heard speaker name Quranic verse prohibiting Muslim woman from marrying non-muslim man. it seems to always be answered according to traditional norms and customs,not Quran.
so what about when the verse that came after this where it mentions that muslim men are allowed to marry "people of the book" (Ahl ul kitab) . they are not mentioned as mushrikoon. they were given a separate title. neither men nor women are allowed to marry mushrikoon (idolators) . My point is that people of the book are not mushrikoon according to that ayah. Allah knows best.
Thats my point exactly to Arshad Khan above. The Quran does not prohibit Muslim women from marrying men who are people of the Book. The Quran is silent so why do traditional scholars say its not allowed or its prohibited that such a strong thing to say. Its safer to marry a Muslim and its makes life easy thats just my opinion.
In Allah's SWT point of view there are two types of disbelievers (Kafir) they are the Mushrik (Pagans) and People of the Books (Jews, Christians). The distinction is make very clearly in Surah 98 Al Bayinnah where the verses are structured in a way where the two groups are mentioned separately instead of lumping both groups together. By default a Muslim should not be involved in practices with disbelievers where the faith can be diminished and direct contradictions to Allah's will. However in Al-Maidah 5:5, Allah SWT has made two special exceptions involving with the People of the Book. 1) Marriage of Muslim men to their women 2) the food that is "Halal" for them becomes Halal for Muslims (with the usual exceptions such as alcohol). With such it become automatically implied that inter-marriage between Muslim women vice versa is not allowed. Had Allah SWT wanted to allow inter marriages with no gender restrictions the verse will have explicitly stated so. The other purpose of Verse 5:5 is to portray the status of the People of the Books V the Mushirk in the view of Islam.
I walked out of an interfaith relationship with a guy I love so much. Islam tells us to marry men within the religion due to the qualities they possess under the religion yet throwing a bit shame out there that not one single Muslim man I’ve met in the past including my father had such qualities. Sure, there would be quite a few good Muslim men out there who saves all this “good stuff” to lend to the type of woman they are attracted to or otherwise etc. it wasn’t religion that taught this man but he himself possessed them and I as a Muslim woman is so proud of him. He is a hardcore atheist and doesn’t believe the bits of Islam and I didn’t care so much because he is entitled to his own beliefs and if he knew who Allah really is I’m sure he’d understand Islam more realistically. I can’t believe how broken hearted I am to walk out because I fear being so happy and at the same time feeling guilty wasn’t my sort of thing but Allah knows better. Just letting you lots know that stop comparing Muslim men to Non Muslim men because it doesn’t make sense however. I’m going to put it out again, u don’t define people off their beliefs.. you define them through their qualities and mindsets :)
This seemed a little closed minded. I’ve met many people while I was growing up in school who were Muslim with one Christian parent. But they identified as Muslim because that’s what they were brought up as. I think that for some reason he didn’t take into account that if people get married obviously they will respect one another and that goes along with their religions and values.
Where I come from, one Christian parent causes lots of problems. Because they end up celebrating eid and Xmas, going church and mosque etc... And when the parents split and the child ends up living with the mom, they become Muslim only by name and nothing else. They basically live a Christian lifestyle. This happen in most cases in my country
Doing some thing Outside the qur'aan and sunna sahiha of the prophet is kufur(non muslim) to be a muslim follow the qur'aan and the sunna of the prophet
This is the most lenient piece of Islamic advice I have come across with regards to this question. It’s clear that most of the people commenting on this video are here because they find themselves in such a predicament, with a surprising number of non-Muslims who are looking for a way to make it work with their prospective Muslim partners. Dr. Shabir Ally speaks a lot of sense here and with a compassionate attitude towards a sensitive issue. The main problem even from an Islamic perspective seems to be similar to how a non-religious person would view the issue too, which is that of how the family unit would work with bringing up the children inside the faith. I would like to hear Dr. Shabir Ally’s views on a Muslim agreeing to have their children raised in a bipartisan or secular way, although I admit that would be a bitter pill for a Islamic religious leader to swallow with regards to giving advice in the most conducive and constructive manner considering the feelings of the parties involved and while remaining true to the missionary objectives of Islam. One thing is for sure and that is that strict intolerance of interfaith marriage will lead to animosity towards the religion which also defeats the objectives of this missionary religion. A tough question that perhaps will never have a clear answer. It’s up to the parties involved how they will make sense of their feelings in the context of respective religious (or non-religious) beliefs.
I have a relationship with a muslim man, I love him so much and he wants to marry with me. Because I'm christian it s so hard. I don't want to convert not because I belive islam is bad. Our problems are with the future children. His parents accept me, but my father don t accept him. My heart is full of pain. I don t know what to do. My father refuse to speak with me because I chose him. I don t know what to do. To be happy it s the most important think. God is the same for everybody in my opinion.
Ella E The real love is something we first need to develop with the creator And it’s the same god ( Allah) Who sent Adam , Abraham, Moses, Jesus, Mohammed peace be upon them as messengers Try explaining to your dad And if your faith is strong in Allah and your partner nothing is hard May Allah guide you
Chandra Thara Everything in this world is temporary and one we have to return to the one who have created us In vedas its written the real form of god is 1 and about last messenger as Kalki avatar Research more to know better
@@mihaelageorgianasanduloiu5766 marry him and save both of your selves from sin. Make prayer (dua) that your father will soften his heart. Life is too short for these kind of issues
@@princessana9013 we both are human and humanity is our religion. We are too happy together....and if god hate us both for having marriage outside our religion then let god tell us about that not you or his followers or a holy books full of hate....let him speak about it.😊❤
im an Atheist and i don't blame religion i blame the interpretation of religion laws made by the People, we are all one and only Love and happiness conquers all. Religion should about us loving each other without race, gender or faith.
I've seen a lot of cases where guys convert to Islam not for Allah but to marry the girl they love and after that they don't take Islam Seriously. I think it's better to let each person practice their own religion and let the kids decide what they want. Religion should not be a force it should be taught and then allow the person to choose.
Raihanna Khaleesi Just one basic flaw in your logic : Muslim women cant marry non muslim. Haram and halal are well defined. Either you follow islam or you reject it. Muslim Men are given special permission in this case.
What if the non muslim guy really loves you, but the problem is he couldn't want to convert in islam because of his parents 😢 ? Can anyone answer my question 😞
@@aileencruz3076 Then how come you are so sure that HE love you? ...when he can't take up a decision of his life on her own...If now he can't take stand for you....how you are so sure that he will stand with you tomorrow?....if his Parents are that strict today what guarantee is there that they will get fine with you in future?....All these questions are very important.....Think about it before taking any decision...
@@aileencruz3076 The answer of your question is Just listen to Allah and obey him because HE is our creator and knows us more better than us. In my opinion life is already hard why make it more hard for a PERSON who can't take a stand and decision on his own. IF HE REALLY LOVES YOU HE WILL MAKE DECISION FOR YOU AND CONVERT WHATSOEVER OTHERWISE HE JUST EMOTIONALLY USE YOU
@@naveed7808 He confess to me all of his family know me and my family too .. But i dont know why he confess to me but he cant take a stand to do his own to make a right decision. He only thinks of what will happen coz were just in different country .. He confess to me and i confess too .. Weve been known each other for a very longtime sad to say coz i dont know if the two of us are we going separated because of this situation.
I wish I wasn't reminded of this comment. She broke up with me a month ago. We still love each other but she no longer wants to be with me. I messed it up. 😥 I miss her every single day.
@@IYeleven PLEASE READ IT SISTER. sister pray to ALLAH for your condition he will guide you. The thing actually is that we are forbidden marrying outside faith and if we fall in love with such a person than it would be a trial for us, we should take it as a trail, we will get punished by ALLAH if we materialize such kind of love. I'm very disappointed nowadays that why womens want to burn in hell fire just for 30-40 years of love. Those 30-40 years are also not sure to come there is a chance that u may get died the other day u marry a non muslim. Place your trust on ALLAH you will get a spouse beyond your expectations in shaa ALLAH if u don't get it in this life than u will get him in the life hereafter if you follow ALLAH's command. He will be so handsome that you will watch him with full zeal and zest so trust on ALLAH he will fix your problem. And avoid such a person. One more thing. Everyone here is saying that there is not any verse in quran which forbids a muslim women to marry a non muslim. I will say to such lads that they have to wear glasses while reading quran. It is clearly mentioned in quran that women cannot marry out of faith. Yes it allows men to marry the women of book(jews, christian). But there is one condition that the women should follow the true teachings of the respective prophet and should only consider ALLAH as her true god. But nowadays u can see that all of the women of book actually do shirk. Christian women consider jesus as their god too and jews as u know are waiting for antichrist. So men nowadays cannot also marry women out of faith. May ALLAH bless u sister. Plzz avoid such men and repent to ALLAH. Time is a very good cure In shaa ALLAH u will forget him.
It can work very well. My wife is Muslim (from Saudi originally) and I am a English atheist. I met her on my MBA class in UK and we were perfect for each other. Was difficult for both our families (my family as they feared Islam was a brainwashing and would affect our children and her family had quite an orthodox Islamic background and her sister even has a PhD in Islamic studies). It has worked out very well as despite her still been Muslim (me still atheist) our families and ourselves have learned a lot from each other. We now have 3 children and 2 at university and 1 for a well known Investment Bank in New York. Although our children have decided to be atheist they respect and celebrate Muslim holidays and enjoy their trips to see their Saudi side family. The world needs more love - faith is a personal decision that should come via education and not forced or expected of children. I would encourage none Muslim men to also consider marrying Muslim women as the relationships can work!
I'm a muslim my boyfriend is also an English non believer man. How did you both get married? Is it by Nikah or were you done an out of faith marriage ceremony? We decided to get married in the UK. I need some advice. Thank you.
I'm 28 and I have a muslim girlfriend (26) and we are deeply in love! I am not religious at all -but my family are open minded hindus. We're also from the UK. But she feels it is haram to marry me unless I convert - she genuinely feels God will punish her on judgement day. We've had discussions which have turned into arguments about this but for some reason she cannot see how interfaith marriages can work on a religious level. I deeply respect Islam and even read the qu'ran with her and we talk about islamic concepts in the religion. She cannot see that a marriage in deep love, where I actually help her grow as a human being and she helps me grow as a human being where there is mutual deep respect is enough. She is still learning the ins and outs of Islam herself and the rationale behind what the Qu'ran says on marriage outside the religion. But regardless, I deeply respect Islam and I think because of her cultural upbringing with her family - she genuinely is convinced she will be punished on judgement day for marrying a non believer. I really love her! It makes me so sad! Unless I convert she says she cannot marry me for her fear of being punished. I've told her 'do you really think a loving God who knows you are married to a moral respectful man who loves you beyond anything in his life and even encourages you to be a good muslim and learning more about Islam with you - would punish you for simply not identifying as muslim? But a man who is muslim yet who is sinful would mean you are not punished? -- Or that non - believers can also go to heaven -- so in the end its up to God who judges people on an individual basis' ----- yet after saying all of this, she still has this staunch idea in her head that she cannot marry a non muslim because it is haram and not classed as an actual marriage in the eyes of God and that she will be punished judged by God. What would you do? Any help or comments would be great. Hope you are keeping well :)
P.s. tbh I really just needed to let someone who's been in a similar situation to me - know about what I'm going through. It's eating me up inside and I feel abit alone in this situation - because I love her so much. Sorry for rambling! I just think what you have - with your children and your wife and how your families are so loving and now as you say your families learnt alot from each other - to me that sounds like heaven - I'm so happy for you and family . Any advice at all would be so welcomed :)
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All your Children are Atheist (Non Muslim), and this is the reason why Islam prohibits Interfaith (Filth) Marriages. I hope your wife is proud of herself, because of her selfishness her children and future generations will end up in hell fire. shame on your wife.
tom tom I’m currently with a Muslim man I’m not Muslim and out arguments started when we spoke about our children. I respect his faith but I don’t want my children to be Muslim because I have read some verses in the Quran which talk about non believers and some other stuff I disagreed with. My faith is also a way of life but has nothing in it about non believers and this has really upset me now. I love him and he loves me too, I’m stuck as well. All I know is I don’t want my children reading the Quran because of what it says in it.
I deeply respect Dr. Shabir Ally and he has helped me greatly in getting a much better understanding of Islam. I feel that Dr. Shabir Ally's concern regarding a Muslim man/woman marrying a non-Muslim to be narrowed down to the risk that future children might not be securely brought up to be Muslims. This seems to me to go against the Quranic verse that says that there is no compulsion in religion because if you bring up your children to be Muslims, then their belief is not a choice that is made free from compulsion. Wouldn't it be incumbent of a Muslim parent to demonstrate through thought and action that Islam is beautiful and the true divine revelation and thereby inviting the children into Islam?
A Muslim woman can not marry a non Muslim man, he is just explaining one of the reasons why but the real reason why is because God (Allah) said they can’t.
@@samia6888 It is nowhere said in the Quran that it is Haram for Muslim women to marry a non-muslim man. Islam doesn't prohibit this, but it's common sense that both men and women should marry someone within the religion so that their children will also be Muslims.
@ “And do not marry your women to polytheistic men until they believe, for a believing slave-man is better than a free polytheist, even though he may look pleasant to you. They invite ˹you˺ to the Fire while Allah invites ˹you˺ to Paradise and forgiveness by His grace.1 He makes His revelations clear to the people so perhaps they will be mindful.” 2:206
@samia6888 Do you know what polpolytheistic means? Allah doesn't allow men to marry them either, but Christianity and Judaism are based on monotheism and thus, they are not prohibited to marry.
Hi. Can you tell me if your mother learn your father religion for you? My future husband its muslim and for me it s very hard because I don t know what I will learn my child.
On my position now😢😢 he said every night his mom will cry and pray to God to give him a woman that will bring him into heaven😭😭 should I end this 4years relationship?? My tears rolling down my cheek right now!
JUst LoVe EaCh OtHEr DoNt LeT A ReLiGiOn SeParTe YoU. Bro that’s the dumbest thing I’ve heard. Do you have no tradition ? Do you have no moral grounds with your creator ? Sheesh.
@@staas1737 you lack understanding. If you look into the religion of Islam you wouldn’t be so ignorant. The idea is to worship one god and one god alone. The idea is to protect your children from going astray. If you truly believe everyone has a right than you will agree that you have to respect people who want to safe guard them selves. If you think I’m being hateful take it up with your lord. You have your religion and I have mine. You can’t just go around and change your self so everyone can be ok with you. You won’t ever be your self bc people will always have something to say no matter what. For the people who know me. They’d be disappointed in you not getting to know me and calling me hateful. I wish you success and an expanded set of wisdom n knowledge.
@@NorthLaurant well said! What if this man , is someone you know for a log time, a friend, and they respect you and either change religion or allow the children to be muslim?
@@juliasjingles people change every week. Just like songs can change your mood. The conscious effort to be consistent is near impossible when the beliefs differ. The influence of ones care giver is massive and when you sit there seeing them act different to you .. the option becomes easy to access even if it’s bad for you. It’s easier to separate water and oil by not trying to mix them. If a team has come together in agreement .. the team will work better ofc.
watched this video 5 years ago i didn't listen to what he said and i married him he was not a muslim now its been 4 years since our marriage we are the having the best life im so proud of my decision. if you are thinking about our children they dont follow any religion we will let them choose when they are old enough, we are not forcing anything. there is one thing i want to say to all of you guys dont let religion interfear in love,its a very personal thing that you dont even have to share it with your spouse .
This is not fair preachers of the Christians were against Christians marrying Muslims while Muslims has bigger hearts allowing at least the Muslim men to marry a non-muslim. I love my muslim guy and his my other half, we are very compatible and has pure love for each other
#Jessica_Sanna hi jessica... I am a follower of Buddhism and my bf is a Muslim. it will be very helpful for us if you share some tips . how did u get married? is it allowed in your county? was there any restriction of laws beside the social struggle?
PLEASE READ IT SISTER. sister pray to ALLAH for your condition he will guide you. The thing actually is that we are forbidden marrying outside faith and if we fall in love with such a person than it would be a trial for us, we should take it as a trail, we will get punished by ALLAH if we materialize such kind of love. I'm very disappointed nowadays that why womens want to burn in hell fire just for 30-40 years of love. Those 30-40 years are also not sure to come there is a chance that u may get died the other day u marry a non muslim. Place your trust on ALLAH you will get a spouse beyond your expectations in shaa ALLAH if u don't get it in this life than u will get him in the life hereafter if you follow ALLAH's command. He will be so handsome that you will watch him with full zeal and zest so trust on ALLAH he will fix your problem. And avoid such a person. One more thing. Everyone here is saying that there is not any verse in quran which forbids a muslim women to marry a non muslim. I will say to such lads that they have to wear glasses while reading quran. It is clearly mentioned in quran that women cannot marry out of faith. Yes it allows men to marry the women of book(jews, christian). But there is one condition that the women should follow the true teachings of the respective prophet and should only consider ALLAH as her true god. But nowadays u can see that all of the women of book actually do shirk. Christian women consider jesus as their god too and jews as u know are waiting for antichrist. So men nowadays cannot also marry women out of faith. May ALLAH bless u sister. Plzz avoid such men and repent to ALLAH. Time is a very good cure In shaa ALLAH u will forget him.
@@shahaanbabar2297 ehh thank you so much for the advice it's so well thought out but I feel like I have to tell you I'm not actually in love with anyone but again thank you so much may Allah reward you for the time it has taken you to write this message and bless you in this life and the after life
@@thinkingphoenix297 well as far as i study Islamic history and ahadith one thing which i found is muslim men in early times marry non muslim women just for political reasons not because they love that women because if you saw early interfaith marriages in Islam all of them happened because of political reasons. The first muslim to marry a Christian woman was Hazrat Muawiya r.a he marries daughter of leader of arab Christian tribe and one interesting thing is the son born from this marriage was yazid ibn Muawiya who martyed imam Hussain a.s so Allah tell us indirectly via yazid that avoid marrying non muslims no matter man or woman(sorry if there are grammatical errors bcoz I'm not perfect in English)
If 2 people love each other I think it is fine no matter what religion or race for them to be together. I am a Christian and my GF is a Muslim, tell me why it is wrong??
@@soulpriestess1953' Women ' is The Worst Creature Created by Almighty ! On my personal experience, i am saying ! i have seen Womens from every race and religion ! They are racist toward their own mens. Although the Zionist and KKK propaganda ( through media ) are the main reason that World is Now going for intermarriage : I have seen many mixed Couples ( married and unmarried ) : White Men - East Asian women White men - Black women East asian men - black and white women Black men - East asian women Muslim women - Christian men and Hindu men WOMENS ARE NOT TRUSTED, women Can do anything for Lust and Money
If one parent practices their faith daily and has a strong belief....but the other parent does not share the religion, the fear is that the child will be affected negatively by the parent who is not religious? Why would the child not be affected by the religious parent? Why are you fraid the child will think for themselves?
Saaduddin Ansari most western men I’ve come across are way more loyal than most middle eastern/south Asian men I know
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@@zainabfarhan5823 Turns out he happens to be her 25th or 50th Boyfraaaand who's Fat and Ugly, But has a Giant Pocket full of Cash because he was Single most of his life... Loyal? Yeah Right, more like Desperate.. Yeah I get...
Saaduddin Ansari You are very narrow minded, please open your mind to the idea that human beings are the same, and religion that stands in the way of love, which god himself has bestowed upon humankind , was constructed in ancient times because of other religions dominating Islam, but today all religions are equal and is not worth destroying two lives for the sake of one rule. I am a non Muslim and I know for sure that I would stay faithful to my Muslim man till death do us part.
When he is talking about conflict of parenting in different religions .. does this not apply if the man is a muslim and wants to marry a non muslim woman? also when the child reaches the age of puberty, they might decide to choose their own religion then what ? 🤷🏽♀️
PLEASE READ IT SISTER. sister pray to ALLAH for your condition he will guide you. The thing actually is that we are forbidden marrying outside faith and if we fall in love with such a person than it would be a trial for us, we should take it as a trail, we will get punished by ALLAH if we materialize such kind of love. I'm very disappointed nowadays that why womens want to burn in hell fire just for 30-40 years of love. Those 30-40 years are also not sure to come there is a chance that u may get died the other day u marry a non muslim. Place your trust on ALLAH you will get a spouse beyond your expectations in shaa ALLAH if u don't get it in this life than u will get him in the life hereafter if you follow ALLAH's command. He will be so handsome that you will watch him with full zeal and zest so trust on ALLAH he will fix your problem. And avoid such a person. One more thing. Everyone here is saying that there is not any verse in quran which forbids a muslim women to marry a non muslim. I will say to such lads that they have to wear glasses while reading quran. It is clearly mentioned in quran that women cannot marry out of faith. Yes it allows men to marry the women of book(jews, christian). But there is one condition that the women should follow the true teachings of the respective prophet and should only consider ALLAH as her true god. But nowadays u can see that all of the women of book actually do shirk. Christian women consider jesus as their god too and jews as u know are waiting for antichrist. So men nowadays cannot also marry women out of faith. May ALLAH bless u sister. Plzz avoid such men and repent to ALLAH. Time is a very good cure In shaa ALLAH u will forget him.
@@alwiyyah mens too shouldn't marry non muslims from the book nowadays cuz the condition that the non muslim women he is marrying, should follow the true teachings of her respective prophet and should consider ALLAH as her lord alone is not fulfilled nowadays.
@@alwiyyah yes that conflict can occur, if mens marry non muslims too. We can see a lot of examples nowadays. Actually children of parents like this either become atheist or they start following a false god. So both men and women shouldn't marry non muslims untill they convert.
@@alwiyyah Well if your dad don't eat pork, nor dring alcohol, pray 5 time, don't eat at ramadan, have to do zagat, etc. and you see your mother doing none of these thing or vice versa. You sure will chose the easiest religion out of the two. Its human nature. So yeah if you marry someone to have children with them then you should chose carefully.
This video actually got it wrong. Look at sura 2:62 there the Quran tells you that believing people, are also Jews and christians. So If the Quran tells you to marry believing people christians and Jews are included. Furthermore everybody is the same in front of god. If a Muslim man can marry a non Muslim, a Muslim woman can marry a non Muslim too. Otherwise it wouldn't make sense. Both Muslim male and female are allowed to marry persons from other religions.
M M There is no difference whether she or he is western or eastern , the condition of marriage in Islam is that Believer in Tawheed- the complete monotheistic conception of reality, can't share bed or be life partner of Polytheism in any form whether Trinity or deification of any other person or thing besides Allah . If you truly believe in word of Allah then you should know that Allah forgives every sin except Polytheism شرك , if your child tomorrow worships a man or any other thing besides Allah just because of your marriage outside Islam then you will be responsible for his suffering in Akhirah but if you dont believe in Allah and his messenger, you are just muslim becoz of your parents and your priority is not submission to Allah, in reality you are not Muslim you are just labelling yourself as Muslim, then you can marry whoever you want nobody will Stop you but I will request you to not label yourself as Muslim because it can Misguide others also . Muslim is the one who completely surrenders before Allah التسليم المطلقۃ في امام الله سبحانه و تعالی Muslim men also Should not Marry non Muslim women if they really care for Akhirah of their Children
hmmm exactly what am facing now. Am deeply in love with a non Muslim man and my family are not in support. I am dying slowly deep inside because I have prayed and tried soo many times but I can’t let go off his love and same with him he can’t let me go. He wants to convert but yet still my family are saying he will stop after marriage so they won’t accept him. That’s the battle am fighting now. Someone talk to me plsss
Sister think deeply. Chooosing spouse is part of life and we are tested on it cause chooosing wrong person can lead to hell. And as long as you are a believer you want to be right on your path and forgo the sins. So it is upto you what you want to choose path or temptations.
There is no difference whether she or he is western or eastern , the condition of marriage in Islam is that Believer in Tawheed- the complete monotheistic conception of reality, can't share bed or be life partner of Polytheism in any form whether Trinity or deification of any other person or thing besides Allah . If you truly believe in word of Allah then you should know that Allah forgives every sin except Polytheism شرك , if your child tomorrow worships a man or any other thing besides Allah just because of your marriage outside Islam then you will be responsible for his suffering in Akhirah but if you dont believe in Allah and his messenger, you are just muslim becoz of your parents and your priority is not submission to Allah, in reality you are not Muslim you are just labelling yourself as Muslim, then you can marry whoever you want nobody will Stop you but I will request you to not label yourself as Muslim because it can Misguide others also . Muslim is the one who completely surrenders before Allah التسليم المطلقۃ في امام الله سبحانه و تعالی Muslim men also Should not Marry non Muslim women if they really care for Akhirah of their Children
I'm another person in 'the same boat'. I'm an atheist unbeliever man in love with a Muslim woman, and it looks as if things are going well. I've been asked before to leave her for her sake, but she's an adult (neither of us are young) and makes her own decisions. Hello to all my fellow interfaithers.
Dr Shabir: Doesn't Surah Mumtahana, ayah 10, legally restrict non-muslim men from marrying Muslim women? يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا إِذَا جَاءَكُمُ الْمُؤْمِنَاتُ مُهَاجِرَاتٍ فَامْتَحِنُوهُنَّ ۖ اللَّهُ أَعْلَمُ بِإِيمَانِهِنَّ ۖ فَإِنْ عَلِمْتُمُوهُنَّ مُؤْمِنَاتٍ فَلَا تَرْجِعُوهُنَّ إِلَى الْكُفَّارِ ۖ لَا هُنَّ حِلٌّ لَهُمْ وَلَا هُمْ يَحِلُّونَ لَهُنَّ ۖ وَآتُوهُمْ مَا أَنْفَقُوا ۚ وَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْكُمْ أَنْ تَنْكِحُوهُنَّ إِذَا آتَيْتُمُوهُنَّ أُجُورَهُنَّ ۚ وَلَا تُمْسِكُوا بِعِصَمِ الْكَوَافِرِ وَاسْأَلُوا مَا أَنْفَقْتُمْ وَلْيَسْأَلُوا مَا أَنْفَقُوا ۚ ذَٰلِكُمْ حُكْمُ اللَّهِ ۖ يَحْكُمُ بَيْنَكُمْ ۚ وَاللَّهُ عَلِيمٌ حَكِيمٌ "O you who believe! When believing women come to you as emigrants, examine them, Allah knows best as to their Faith, then if you ascertain that they are true believers, send them not back to the disbelievers, they are not lawful (wives) for the disbelievers nor are the disbelievers lawful (husbands) for them. But give the disbelievers that (amount of money) which they have spent [as their Mahr] to them. And there will be no sin on you to marry them if you have paid their Mahr to them. Likewise hold not the disbelieving women as wives, and ask for (the return of) that which you have spent (as Mahr) and let them (the disbelievers, etc.) ask back for that which they have spent. That is the Judgement of Allah. He judges between you. And Allah is All-Knowing, All-Wise."
Also, in classical scholarship, there has never been a dissenting scholarly opinion against the scholarly opinion that non-Muslim men cannot Muslim women.
Quran 2:221 prohibits union between Mushrikeens and Muslim men AND WOMEN unless they believe. Mushrikeens are not Ahl e Kitab. So people who think they know religion must not misguide people. Let the Quran answer. And the answer is 2:221.
I'm here looking for guidance of any kind because I'm desperate at this point. I'm in love with a Muslim woman and I'm a Christian man, and she broke up with me last night because she fears that things wouldn't work despite how much she wants them to. I'm at a complete loss and don't know where to go. I've read quite a bit that these relationships indeed exist and actually turn out just fine, but why doesn't she believe they can just because she thinks her parents wouldn't allow it? Why am I so... unfit, just because of this? I love her and I love God, what more do I need to possess? Why is this love wrong if God says he is love? What do I do?
Of course she doesn't believe this will work, she sees a future with kids who aren't Muslim. For many Muslims including myself, having non Muslim kids is a nightmare scenario.
@@usman5140 That immediately proves what I’ve already read: that the rule that women cannot marry non-Muslims is because of a presumptive fear that the man will force his religion in the wife and the children. Why is this the assumption of us when you don’t even know us? No disrespect, it’s just rather disrespectful to assume that about someone when one doesn’t know them. I would never force the children to be raised apart from Islam, I’m just asking for help. I’m hurt, asking for guidance and advice, and in your reply, all I’m getting is just “Well duh it wouldn’t work out” which doesn’t help at all.
@@unreal727 For starters, this is a rule within our religion. It is haram for a Muslim Woman to marry a non Muslim man. Just speaking from life experience and human nature, I'm giving my opinion on why I don't believe it would work. You may intend as of now that the kids would be raised Muslim, but how about 5, 10 years from now? Islam is a way of life, to think that you will not be involved with what they are taught is a little naive. It's natural for a father to want to teach his children the foundation of what he believes in. You also have to understand that if you as the father aren't interested in Islam, neither will your children be. I have many family members and know many Muslims who are married too or have/had children by non Muslim men. Most of the children either celebrate all holidays or only the ones of the father. I'm sure the Woman who you want to marry has seen many cases like this as well. You have to understand that Muslims value faith in Allah as the most important thing, even above family. You say these things work out just fine and I'm sure they can, in this life. The thing is, we believe that this is only a test for the next eternal life. In that way, its not possible to call it a success. I'm only trying to give my opinion on why she doesn't see this working. Also, I understand how you feel. I am a Muslim man living in the United States. I feel for many non Muslims in my life, but there has always been a faith barrier in these circumstances. Even as I type this, I have feelings for a non Muslim. The thing is, that doesn't negate the fact of everything else I wrote.
I knew three interreligious marriages. 1) My English teacher married a Muslim man. 2) My friendat University had a Muslim father and 3) my friends had a Muslim father. All three saw the man being Muslim (two of whom I know were practicing devoutly). The result was the same. For the first one, only one child was religious enough to pray, none fasted becase the mother (my teacher) forbade it. Ironically, the father was a practicing Muslim and went to Hajj. The second one, I don't know whether the man practiced or not, but I do know the oldest daughter was Catholic, the middle child was Agnostic and the youngest was Muslim. The third case saw the man and kids practice, but the faith in the kids was very weak and they later left the religion. Regardless of their religion, however, they did suffer a maor identity crisis. This told me that it no longer matters whether the man is Muslim, practicing or not, or anything. Naturally, the kids see both parents and are influenced by each one. Whatever the rule is, it must apply to both. If the Quran explicitly forbids a woman from marrying outside the faith, fine. I suggest it be applied to men too. The Quran gives permission but that only means it's halal but still objectionable.
Why do we have to choose one religion over another? I disagree with the way he represents the child as being 'confused'. My parents are from two different cultures and two different religions and I can see the good and bad in both of them. No one religion is perfect. The idea that you have to choose one camp to be in all your life is not true. We should embrace complexity, nuance and multiplicity - it makes the world more interesting.
Here i am... Never thought i would join the boat. The worst thing is, i am a non Muslim in Malaysia, in love with a foreign muslim man. If we get married in Malaysia, i have to convert into Muslim. I have no hates towards the religion, but i have my own faith and belief which shape me into the person i am today. I dont know what else to do. This challenge is too much for me.
😭😭😭I really love her and she also love me, I want to spend my whole life with her, but i am non Muslim (Christian). I just can't live without her 😭😭😭 and i live in a backward country(Pakistan) and here the government, police, people and her family no one will support us, just imagine my situation 😔😔
I'm converted to ISLAM for 3 months and married for 8 years with Catholic man, have 3 kids. my husband doesn't accept ISLAM although I'm far working abroad and he's the one taking care of my kids. Do I really have to leave him? even he told me he will not bother for what I'm doing?
plz don't be misguided leave islam this is not going to lead u anywhere practice hinduism , vipasana meditation it will help u watch sadguru jaggi vasudev it will guide u
Kiim Lopepz . Of course not. You shouldn't to leave your husband because of misunderstanding about religions. You can't force anyone to convert as a musllim. You can just suggest him ideas about islam religion. By Show Tell Do Review Please don't leave him
Driss Laroussi you are wrong. If you where already married at the time of conversion she does not have too leave him BUT stop trying to force your views on Muslims ans no muslim woman is allowed to marry a non muslim
Don't leave him, he is your husband, just try to tell him about Islam and convince him and love him more. Simple solution. it's my personal opinion not religious opinion.
Don't worry about what the kids will think about, you let them decide, if you are a religious person you can teach the child your religion if they want you to, but if the child wants to follow the other parent's religion or no religion or even a completely different religion, then let them work that out for themselves and you just help guide them when and if they need help in that regard.
There is a verse in the Bible that says "Do not be unequally yoked with an unbeliever" That could be taken very strictly requiring you to not only marry within the faith but even your denomination, Catholics can only marry other Catholics. Others would say they only have to be Christian generally You could take a more liberal view that says anyone that believes in God from the heart which might allow you to marry a Jewish ir Muslim. I think it's probably the middle view, it has to be of your faith but can be from another church.
it's usually the indonesian or malaysian girls who want to marry non-muslim men and think they are right in doing it ... i don't understand what is going on with the faith in those countries....
Things I have noticed, in case where man married a woman from the book and have babies then divorce the babies become non-Muslim because they stay with mommy (western) and those like me that I am Muslim and my husband is not my children learn from me... mommy the religion. I think 🤔 in the Quran statement is that women are the future of the ummah (people of faith) because the children learn religion from mommy (no matter the place). Would be more logical if there’s permission of marriage to a non Muslims it would be for women? (My opinion) because at the en of the day in that household who decide how and when would be lesson that would be the women (queen). At the time of Muhammad many women was believing in Islam and their husband was AGAINST Islam so was logical this women would be abuse if they stay with the non Muslims. And still this revelation was so fair that Muslims offer a recompense to the non Muslim men at the time. But taking this a this time of age we need to use critical thinking. Are this non Muslim fighting Muslims? Are this women in danger? Are this non Muslim convert to Islam? If a women is Islamic good wife, compassionate, lovely, and honorably would this show the non Muslim man that Islam is the truth and only religion to follow?
Lewis Taylor yes notice same. I know few women that married Muslims males, they have three to 4 children each. Non of those children became Muslims because the mother aren’t Muslims. Women are the one who carried the religion to their children because women spend most of the time with them (75% if woman is working and 90% if woman is not working ) is logical that if the mother is Muslim the children will learn to love Islam but if mother is not Muslim and the father is away (left) children are more likely not be Muslim and depending of the situation they may have learn to hate Islam.
Elisa Lopez De la Cruz you're giving ur self an excuses to prove a point god almighty already make it clear. “And give not (your daughters) in marriage to Al-Mushrikoon till they believe (in Allah Alone) and verily, a believing slave is better than a (free) Mushrik (idolater, etc.), even though he pleases you. Those (Al-Mushrikoon) invite you to the Fire, but Allah invites (you) to Paradise and Forgiveness by His Leave, and makes His Ayat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) clear to mankind that they may remember” [al-Baqarah 2:221] “…then if you ascertain that they are true believers, send them not back to the disbelievers, they are not lawful (wives) for the disbelievers nor are the disbelievers lawful (husbands) for them” [al-Mumtahanah 60:10].
How can you even share bed with someone who is not Muslim and who does not believe in Monothiesm , does not Loves Prophetص , will not read Quran to children , Will not take you for hajj and will not Fast during month of Ramadan , I as a man Can never imagine a life where my wife does not offer salah with me its most amazing experience of my life when she recites Quran besides me . I thank Allah that he saved me from marrying Non Muslim .
Im non muslim and i love islam and im ready to marry my girlfrnd and convert to islam but her parents are not trsuting me they hate me bcoz of what im and they are forcing her to marry someonelse its a devastating situation , if people will not open doors for converts how will islam rise
I married a Muslim woman, I'm an irish Catholic Caucasian, I think that's the term the world describes pale people ha only after asking her father's permission ofc. We are still together now, we have two children who are not being raised into religion. But we educate about different religions including Islam and for them not to be influenced to preference any religion until they choose willingly. We've made everything work like clock work our families are very close. Could say closer than most families I know from friends and their spouses. I'm not discrediting this bloke. But opinions are perspective biased only. What's in you're heart, Allah will pull you towards.
People of the world Tell me before this so called Religion thing came into existence where people getting married Yes or No you should ask yourself that. And tell me about the first Father and Mother Man and Woman which religion do they belong to tell me please. We shouldn't be getting married to religion, culture, colour, country, status BUT LOVE
He is correct about the parents differing in beliefs - even if one parent allows the other to teach and raise the child in the religion without interference, if he or she doesn’t actively support or involve themselves then the child can easily pick up an idea that the religious teachings aren’t real or important - “kids learn as much from what they see as what they’re told”
I am an atheist, so I am not one of the "people of the book". My lover was a Muslim and he wouldn't be allowed to marry me. He decided that he prefers to leave islam to be with me than to lose the love of his life. He said that he wants to spend his life with me even if it means paying the price of eternal punishment in hell. Leaving islam is illegal in his country and punishable with death. He had to escape from there. It is amazing what man in love can do for his woman.
Yeahhh " love"!!!!!! .., both of you going to realize later on how losers you are!! By losing the connection with God!!!! its AMAZING how I brought the love of my life into Islam and getting married and be in paradise forever after with our true love :D
Want to ask i m Hindu but I m in love with bohra musliy boy ...? Can we get marry ..? I m ready to learn the Islamic religion and believers ..?so what's the way to get marry with him ...? Please do ans it's necessary for me as soon as please do ans the question...?
harsha verma it is always better to stick to your own kind. Love is an essential part to life be successful but love alone is not sufficient. Marrying within same religious faith family and getting settled in new family is already difficult for woman, and now you will not only have to settle in new family but in different religious faith believers will be hard. Prevention is better than cure. So rather regretting for your act later take decision wisely not emotionally.
Masha'ALLAH tabarkALLAH. Both the interviewer and speaker did a great job handling this question and describing many situations/problems that can arise as to why it should be avoided. Very concise/ clear discussion. 👍 I
This is a very difficult question to answer because I know this couple 25 years together he is an Egyptian Muslim and she is a Christian and I'm going to be honest I have never seen a couple get along so fine. But I see them both talked about both religion with respect and she really takes care of him. There is a negative and there's a positive the negatives of causes different Faith deposit is you can learn from both religion the individual if they can keep it in peace. But remember you got people that are married among their own faith you got Muslim divorcing today and you got Christians also that are divorcing today this is why I said it's a difficult question to answer because it depends on the individual and the couple
I have seen this theme presented and twisted every way but Inside-out and can't help but notice noone ever discusses what the principles.....the couple themselves....bring to the activity. Certainly there is talk of Love and attraction and even passion. Not once do I ever hear about Negotiation, Compromise, Problem-solving or Long-term Planning. Perhaps it might be helpful to focus less on overcoming the opinions and objections of family and friends and rather consider what sort of character allows such attitudes to control the lives of others. IMVVHO if one is not mature or grounded sufficiently to stand by their values and goals how can we expect that same person to support a partner in developing those same strengths? FWIW.
What if ur non Muslim and she’s Muslim but you will learn about the religion with her. Could that be a way of getting together? Because I’m the video he mentions how y’all could learn about the religion together and raise the kids as that religion? (He said this at 2:00) I just wanted to ask cause it sounded like he was talking about it y’all were both different religions you could learn it with her and the kids would pick up on that.
First start to Love Allah(swt) more than anything then everything will start to make sense and you will start to complain less and less. Allah (swt) says in the Quran,”indeed we have created man( to live) in hard struggle”. Don’t let ur emotions destroy you, Allah(swt) loves those who have control over their desires and have ultimate trust in Allah(swt). Freedom is achieved by breaking all the chains of ur desires and submitting your will to Allah(swt).
These above lines are really easy to write but its a bit hard to follow. People nowadays are stuck in between desires and faith. They dont really know what to do next. They actuallg never thought of this life is actually gifted by allah to worship allah and mantai the society. we somehow manage our family but leave allah. This is the reason why people are unable to find peace of mind. We have to put all our soul amd heart to allah and this is the most difficult thing a man can do.(but if he can it became easier to him to please allah day by day , by true hardship and worship)
So dr Shabir Ally. You say times have changed now. The quraan did not give permission to the woman to marry a man from the People of the Book but it should be allowed now? Then can I as a Muslim woman also take 4 husbands? Allah SWT did not give permission in the Quraan but times have changed. I mean DNA results can determine which one of the husbands fathered which child. According to your logic, it would be permissible????
dating is haram (forbidden) in islam. Any inappropriate interaction - especially while being alone together - is not allowed (hence dating is not allowed since it generally includes that). Technically you could marry if you are a muslim or jew, but good luck with that lol. That being said, I am not sure about how religiously practicing this muslim boy is. He could not be very practicing and not even care about his beliefs (I hope that is not the case). so he may very well be open to it. I suggest you don't go for it. His family will get in the way and it will just not work out in the end. May Allah guide you. Peace!
you both can date staying in boundaries to know each other and you can marry him if you are a christian or jew ( woman from the book). muslim man can marry them
Someone please give me advice. I’m a Muslim women but I’m not that religious (I’m trying my best to work on it) and I’m in love with a catholic man and he loves me, we want to get get married and spend the rest of our lives together we also want children. I don’t know what to do, I love him so much and I don’t want to leave him. I cry myself to sleep every night because of this. Someone please give me advice
Hello, if you love each other....choose love and stay together (its your life...live it). I was in the same situation and me and my wife are still together - she is my princess.
No . According to Islamic law you can not marry with a non Muslim man . There is only way to marry your desired person is that the person you want to marry accept islam .
4:07 “respecting someone is not the same as marrying the person” like what? 😂💀 You respect the person you marry, you dont force them to change and you love them for who they are. As for families and parents of children wanting to pursue an interfaith marriage, support them and love them unconditionally. The issue is not religious, it is cultural. The language barrier between in laws and the misunderstandings that are bound to happen. But knowing and understanding that because the faiths are “mixed” these are inevitable, the more you must try to understand each other and respect each others beliefs. Having common values and ideas of raising a family and both having similar beliefs is far more important than sharing the same faith.
I mean what can you do when there is no Muslim around who marry Muslims I’m in the USA and all the men marry outside the faith and we’re left just alone because it’s cooler to get with someone they feel they can relate with?
Even the Bible says not to be unequally yoked, in other words, it discourages believers from marrying those who are not of like faith. It doesn't explicitly prohibit it but just discourages it.
I was married for 9 years to an white American/Italian man we have beautiful children together but I divorced him I fell in love with a man who is not muslim because the time my dad and mom died he was always there always there with charming words of comfort etc I couldn't resist his charm and bravery I needed help he was there me and the kids father are friends but hopefully Allah will guide the man I love to Islam but I don't know what to do nothing I can do really because if he wants to study Islam he would.
hats off, to this man..... the way he answers the question which are really troublesome situations in india and adjacent countries is unmatchable and so genuine.
I respect Dr.Shabir but this program is called let the Quran speak not ask Dr.shabir. As a result Dr.Shabir is expressing his opinion on this matter not quoting the Quran. If the earlier scholars restricted the marriage of muslim women to non muslim men, what does that has to do with Islam. Our source of law is the Quran not the scholars........ We are all human beings and every person has the free will to marry the person of his choice. The message of the Quran is social integration and universal brotherhood.
Duale Sulaiman There is no difference whether she or he is western or eastern , the condition of marriage in Islam is that Believer in Tawheed- the complete monotheistic conception of reality, can't share bed or be life partner of Polytheism in any form whether Trinity or deification of any other person or thing besides Allah . If you truly believe in word of Allah then you should know that Allah forgives every sin except Polytheism شرك , if your child tomorrow worships a man or any other thing besides Allah just because of your marriage outside Islam then you will be responsible for his suffering in Akhirah but if you dont believe in Allah and his messenger, you are just muslim becoz of your parents and your priority is not submission to Allah, in reality you are not Muslim you are just labelling yourself as Muslim, then you can marry whoever you want nobody will Stop you but I will request you to not label yourself as Muslim because it can Misguide others also . Muslim is the one who completely surrenders before Allah التسليم المطلقۃ في امام الله سبحانه و تعالی Muslim men also Should not Marry non Muslim women if they really care for Akhirah of their Children
+Andalus101 lol realy can you tell us the interpenetration of the verse. because as far as i know and islamic history and all the scholars who have interpreted the since the prophet time say other wise. so please can you share with us how have you came to this understanding
Andalus101 my friend that was not my question. interpretation of the quran is so old my friend and so are the people who have interpreted them like ibn katheer and the imam altabari which are still printed today my friend and posted on the internet these two guys i mentioned lived over a thousand years ago and every scholar a salfi or not they all use their interpretation as a background to their research and answers for any fatwa. and the link you gave me even though it is private research it still agrees with what the imam says
my friend the contradicted each other in the hadeith my friend wither it is a saheeh or invalid and not in the quran no one has ever contradicted in the quran's interpertation. but this topic in particular no one had ever disagreed or contradicted on it since the prophet time. My friend i have only asked for your proof. their is no muslim agreed to that since the dawn of time even Christianity forbids marrying from another religion all you have to do is prove to me through text personal opinions is what have gotten Christianity to having over 100 bibles
Lol same situation but my boyfriend is strong Muslim believer and I am an atheist, I assume we aren't allowed to be together but I'm not entirely sure how it works
This is incorrect. Loves definition can be corrupted and without rules, mankind will be lost. Just how love has been redefined to include homosexual relationships. Soon the love of children and animals will also be redefined...
lock123able and if God is the source of love and the source who created both christians and muslims and jews with the capacity to love, then why do we use religion as a barrier? It's all one message from one God in the end.
Sir I have a question if a Muslim man marry a non Muslim woman and she converts to islam which is obvious can she meet with her family after marriage whoever they are christain or jew?
#unwantedrelative Channel you did not heard what he said, it's the scholar's opinion at the time and now it's different. How can you call something which came from Allah through Jibreel to Muhammad S sexist. And being a Muslim doesn't mean you're always right about Islam.
Allah did not ask Abraham to do anything. The JEWISH God of Abraham commanded Abraham to kill his son. This has nothing to do with Muslims or Arabs. This is JEWISH history about a Jewish God and His people. Allah is nothing more than an Arab plagiarism of a Jewish God, His people and their religion. Allah is a Jewish God.
I strongly agree with the fact that you'll face serious challenges in raising children if you don't share the same beliefs. Beliefs in right or wrong, religion, politics etc. However, the argument of the male being the one who can convert the women and steer the children is just not strong enough in this day and age. The quran does not strictly specify prohibition of Muslim women to marry men of faith. It clearly prohibits marriage to polytheists or non believers. Allah swt says the quran is for all times and places thus making it possible for us to think of new options. I don't understand why it is a problem for a women who withholds her faith and teaches her children her religion to marry a man from ahl el kitab. What is the objection here? Why should a women have to suffer being disowned and seen as outcast if they are truthfully and believers in Islam when they marry men of the faith.
I married woman who told me she's muslim acted as muslim for ten years I find out she's not muslim and now she took my children of 5 she's getting help for her church pastor and the sheriff working together to keep away from my children when I was away she was taking my children to church w/o my permission
@@jessirock168Actually marrying outside the faith in Islam is not so much the case of religion but a case of "TAWHEED" (Monotheisim) . I would suggest you to study "Tawheed" in Islam more deeply and you will see why marrying in other faiths is not very easy. Second if he don't follow any religion why don't you give him message of Islam or atleast tell him or convince him the "Exsistance of Allah and Monothiesim" (that God is One)...Last i would say its better to find a good Muslim guy ( there are plenty of them) and marry, but in the end its your decision make it wisely. May Allah help you and guide you!!!
My boyfriend is hindu ... and i want to marry him. His family is very nice to me they act like my mom and my dad in person they are nice. But do u feel meee... i dont wanna be a murtad person
It’s haram sister . Try to give him dawah. If he converts to Islam , this is great. If not , you should probably move on. I know it’s tough but your akhirah is important
1) If you or Islam Says a muslim women marrying a non muslim is a sin and word of God, then it's means non Muslims are sinners right?? 2) are non Muslims sinners just because they are non Muslims?? 3) what happens to non Muslims who are way better then normal Muslims?? Is marrying them still haram for a muslim women?? 4) if being Non Muslims is wrong, Why does quran promise each non muslim a big place in heaven and all good deeds shall be rewarded Holy Quran 2: 62...?? 5) Now what is the sin of a non muslims? And , if being non muslim is a sin?? Is it A sin that he was born into non muslim family?? Or it because he choose to be non muslim by his free will?? But for him there are no Muslims and non muslims as per his religious book.. According to him there be only good and bad people and he may be a very very good person, so what is his sin here? Or is it a sin that he didn't read quran?? 6) And if Muslims wish acceptence, respect,Iove, kindness,job, help, respect, favours from non Muslims,here Muslims don't see non muslims as sinners and are happy to receive all but when matter of marriage and acceptence arises, religion comes into picture?? 7) If Muslims say marrying a non muslim is a sin, will Muslims accept a non muslim who thinks similarly that marrying a muslim is sin for him as per his religion?? 8) who is better in the eyes of God ? A muslim with 1000 sins or non muslim with 1000 good qualities with no sins?? 9) why will God punish a muslim women if she marries a good non Muslims who may be 100 times better then her and if she is becoming a better human being with that non muslim in comparison to bad muslim who may abuse or insult her and drag on to injust path?? 10) Does god think like human, like how parents say to their children, I am your parent you must listen only to me,and must follow my ways otherwise I will throw you out of my home , is God also like this?? 11) Is God so soo self centred that he says, oh you worshiped an other God,, I didn't send you to earth to worship other gods.. Therfore I will sentence you to hell for not having recognised me or worshipped me??? 12) Has God created us and sent us to earth only so that we sit and preach and pray him alone, is that why he sent us to earth?? 13) Can God say oh man you are superior, so I grant you can to have 4 wives but try to make justice, but oh women, you are suppose to have just one husband?? 14) Can God say man is more intellegiant then a women and therfore man shall be the Wali of women, in charge and women shall abide by her Wali and marry only after the consent of Wali? And can the true God say like this? And where is free will to women here if her choice is so restricted and are Muslim men the only good poeple on earth who can full fill women's desires?? Can God say to man, since you are more intelligent, you don't need any body's consent to marry?? 15) Where is it written in quran that only muslims are belivers of god, only muslims are chaste, righteous and therefore only they can be good husband's?? How will you feel if your were told your religion is wrong or you are sinner or marrying a muslim man or women is a sin and therfore become Christian, Hindu, or likewise because my book says me to do soo, so please convert so that I can marry you or please convert because this is only religion of God and truth ? how can anybody conclude that other religions are inferior then Islam?? And will muslim accept if others says Islam is inferior to their religion?? Don't give text book pages of quran of self claiming to be the best.. Since Muslims don't read Bhagwat Geeta or towrah or Bible, can God sentence them to hell?? If not, why does that same god sentence non muslims to hell for not having read Quran?? Regards..
Gabriel Alves Yes they does.. And they r ok with him. Actually my dad is fine but mom wasnt.. Now both are ok with it and i found that my religion is not. 😢😭
To me it's so unfair being in a sort of situation... you just want to love and be loved- freely! no rules, no judgment.
dphoenixify u
dphoenixify ok ok ok ok ok Paradise is Much Much better i rahter be patient THAN BURNING
Miggate you seriously believe a God would burn you in hell for falling in love? How can anyone believe this
@Sajid Khan it's not the truth. Jealous Arabs invented the rule to control women. Men are allowed to marry Christians and Jew's but not women. Nobody with a brain can believe a God is that sadistic
Muslim men can marry Jews and Christians
I don't know why I keep crying while watching this. It hurts to love the wrong person.
Love Allah SWT and Muhammad PBUH.
Me too
Aww i know the feeling my partner of 9 years has left me as i wont convert to islam. How are u coping x
@@helenjoyce5900 the religion which not allow the love to person of different religion.
Then what kind of religion is this?
@@joeroot5897 First and foremost we are all the creation of one God. Therefore we must love one another, be kind, greet and respect others. No religion recommends one to marry one who practices another religion. And if you ask me people now a days are so agnostic they don't even want socialize with a "religious" person. Ever heard the phrase: "If you truly love them then you have to let them go."? This applies to situations like this.
2:46
he mentions that the child would be confused/pick up a careless attitude on who to follow if they see their parents practicing 2 different faiths, but only if the woman is muslim in this case.
wouldn’t the same thing happen vice versa? (if the man is muslim,yet they are still permitted to go through with the interfaith marriage)
a lot of people believe the reason why men are permitted interfaith marriage is because they’re able to control what religion is instilled and taught, which would be applicable in the era the quran was written.
however, times have changed and marriages can/have become more equalised, so can’t really make the assumption that women have no say or control of what happens (this ends up being a personal issue between a couple)
the part about Muslim men being allowed to marry women of the book is debatable, many scholars say that both Muslim men and women aren't allowed to marry non muslims ,even Christians and Jews, but the when it comes to muslim women there's no debate about it.
Yeah nowadays children are given choice and there are some chances that they may follow the mothers religion yes times have changed..
@@muh753 which means Muslim women can only marry muslim man
I am in love with a catholic man and he truly believes in one God and that Mohammed sav was he's last messenger and he loves to learn about Islam , I don't force him to convert but I still don't know if I am wrong in allah's judgment because that's all I care about I am still a happy Muslim I will never change my believes alhamdulillah, may allah guide us all to the right path as he has planned for us inshallah 🌺🌸🌻🌹🌳
Nazife Sayim if he doesn't convert than its haram and if you do marry and he is still a non believer than you just committed kufer
Niki Zare what !!
Nazife Sayim he is musliums Then n he should say shahadah ..amen
There is no difference whether she or he is western or eastern , the condition of marriage in Islam is that Believer in Tawheed- the complete monotheistic conception of reality, can't share bed or be life partner of Polytheism in any form whether Trinity or deification of any other person or thing besides Allah .
If you truly believe in word of Allah then you should know that Allah forgives every sin except Polytheism شرك , if your child tomorrow worships a man or any other thing besides Allah just because of your marriage outside Islam then you will be responsible for his suffering in Akhirah but if you dont believe in Allah and his messenger, you are just muslim becoz of your parents and your priority is not submission to Allah, in reality you are not Muslim you are just labelling yourself as Muslim, then you can marry whoever you want nobody will Stop you but I will request you to not label yourself as Muslim because it can Misguide others also . Muslim is the one who completely surrenders before Allah التسليم المطلقۃ في امام الله سبحانه و تعالی
Muslim men also Should not Marry non Muslim women if they really care for Akhirah of their Children
Sister , things might be roses and butterflies now , but trust and believe when things get hard it's Very important that two of you are on the same page when it comes to beliefs( how will he give you your rights or stand by you when he doesn't know Islam ). Be careful and fear Allah (SWT) please don't go down that road .
God threw her into my life and now i can't be with her because I'm not Muslim.
Javier Evora
Research more its the same god
If know more I am sure you will be guided
May Allah guide you
@@TheJawadrock Same God?
Stuart MC
Brother Adam,Abraham, Noah, Moses, Jesus, Muhammed peace be upon them carried same message
There is 1 god love and fear him
Satan wants everyone in hell
So we have been divided by some corrupt media and foolish people with power
Read and reach more
@@TheJawadrockI say this in love... my bible and your quran are not from the same God. I'm sure you're a nice guy, and a decent human being, but we do not worship the same God.
Stuart MC
Brother its not the same because bible has been changed by many people google it but few verses are still the same
Mathew 26:39 he fell with his face to the ground and prayed as Muslims pray
Brother that’s your understanding if you think god is different
But as per my understanding there 1 god (Allah)
And we must return 1 day
And if we are doers of good we will be guided
Why not teach both religion and let the kids decide when they're in the right age?!
Ave Alwi exactly
That causes issues
AB What issues?
i thought of it and i guess it would be perturbing for the kids
The parents of the child should decide
this channel is called Quran Speaks but I still have not heard speaker name Quranic verse prohibiting Muslim woman from marrying non-muslim man. it seems to always be answered according to traditional norms and customs,not Quran.
so what about when the verse that came after this where it mentions that muslim men are allowed to marry "people of the book" (Ahl ul kitab) . they are not mentioned as mushrikoon. they were given a separate title. neither men nor women are allowed to marry mushrikoon (idolators) . My point is that people of the book are not mushrikoon according to that ayah. Allah knows best.
Thats my point exactly to Arshad Khan above. The Quran does not prohibit Muslim women from marrying men who are people of the Book. The Quran is silent so why do traditional scholars say its not allowed or its prohibited that such a strong thing to say. Its safer to marry a Muslim and its makes life easy thats just my opinion.
That is correct.
suga gal a muslim woman cannot marry a non muslim and any reputable scholar will verfiy that
In Allah's SWT point of view there are two types of disbelievers (Kafir) they are the Mushrik (Pagans) and People of the Books (Jews, Christians). The distinction is make very clearly in Surah 98 Al Bayinnah where the verses are structured in a way where the two groups are mentioned separately instead of lumping both groups together. By default a Muslim should not be involved in practices with disbelievers where the faith can be diminished and direct contradictions to Allah's will. However in Al-Maidah 5:5, Allah SWT has made two special exceptions involving with the People of the Book. 1) Marriage of Muslim men to their women 2) the food that is "Halal" for them becomes Halal for Muslims (with the usual exceptions such as alcohol). With such it become automatically implied that inter-marriage between Muslim women vice versa is not allowed. Had Allah SWT wanted to allow inter marriages with no gender restrictions the verse will have explicitly stated so. The other purpose of Verse 5:5 is to portray the status of the People of the Books V the Mushirk in the view of Islam.
I walked out of an interfaith relationship with a guy I love so much. Islam tells us to marry men within the religion due to the qualities they possess under the religion yet throwing a bit shame out there that not one single Muslim man I’ve met in the past including my father had such qualities. Sure, there would be quite a few good Muslim men out there who saves all this “good stuff” to lend to the type of woman they are attracted to or otherwise etc. it wasn’t religion that taught this man but he himself possessed them and I as a Muslim woman is so proud of him. He is a hardcore atheist and doesn’t believe the bits of Islam and I didn’t care so much because he is entitled to his own beliefs and if he knew who Allah really is I’m sure he’d understand Islam more realistically. I can’t believe how broken hearted I am to walk out because I fear being so happy and at the same time feeling guilty wasn’t my sort of thing but Allah knows better.
Just letting you lots know that stop comparing Muslim men to Non Muslim men because it doesn’t make sense however. I’m going to put it out again, u don’t define people off their beliefs.. you define them through their qualities and mindsets :)
Im so sorry you had to walk away.. was it the feeling of guilt that you may be punished from god?
I want to talk to you. I'm in a bad place regarding the same topic I need help
@@khizkpop I’m sorry to hear that. Do you want to talk about it?
@@oioloxo7282 yes
@@oioloxo7282 can I talk to you personally about it
This seemed a little closed minded. I’ve met many people while I was growing up in school who were Muslim with one Christian parent. But they identified as Muslim because that’s what they were brought up as. I think that for some reason he didn’t take into account that if people get married obviously they will respect one another and that goes along with their religions and values.
Where I come from, one Christian parent causes lots of problems. Because they end up celebrating eid and Xmas, going church and mosque etc... And when the parents split and the child ends up living with the mom, they become Muslim only by name and nothing else. They basically live a Christian lifestyle. This happen in most cases in my country
Doing some thing
Outside the qur'aan and sunna sahiha of the prophet is kufur(non muslim) to be a muslim follow the qur'aan and the sunna of the prophet
the quran is close minded to you? repent before you die
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The argument seems based on the upbringing of children.. what about people who can't/ don't want to have kids?
This is the most lenient piece of Islamic advice I have come across with regards to this question. It’s clear that most of the people commenting on this video are here because they find themselves in such a predicament, with a surprising number of non-Muslims who are looking for a way to make it work with their prospective Muslim partners. Dr. Shabir Ally speaks a lot of sense here and with a compassionate attitude towards a sensitive issue. The main problem even from an Islamic perspective seems to be similar to how a non-religious person would view the issue too, which is that of how the family unit would work with bringing up the children inside the faith. I would like to hear Dr. Shabir Ally’s views on a Muslim agreeing to have their children raised in a bipartisan or secular way, although I admit that would be a bitter pill for a Islamic religious leader to swallow with regards to giving advice in the most conducive and constructive manner considering the feelings of the parties involved and while remaining true to the missionary objectives of Islam. One thing is for sure and that is that strict intolerance of interfaith marriage will lead to animosity towards the religion which also defeats the objectives of this missionary religion. A tough question that perhaps will never have a clear answer. It’s up to the parties involved how they will make sense of their feelings in the context of respective religious (or non-religious) beliefs.
Can’t I enjoy my life with the one I love because of religion?
I have a relationship with a muslim man, I love him so much and he wants to marry with me. Because I'm christian it s so hard. I don't want to convert not because I belive islam is bad. Our problems are with the future children. His parents accept me, but my father don t accept him. My heart is full of pain. I don t know what to do. My father refuse to speak with me because I chose him. I don t know what to do. To be happy it s the most important think. God is the same for everybody in my opinion.
God it s love for every religion
Ella E
The real love is something we first need to develop with the creator
And it’s the same god ( Allah)
Who sent Adam , Abraham, Moses, Jesus, Mohammed peace be upon them as messengers
Try explaining to your dad
And if your faith is strong in Allah and your partner nothing is hard
May Allah guide you
Chandra Thara
Everything in this world is temporary and one we have to return to the one who have created us
In vedas its written the real form of god is 1 and about last messenger as Kalki avatar
Research more to know better
@@mihaelageorgianasanduloiu5766 marry him and save both of your selves from sin. Make prayer (dua) that your father will soften his heart. Life is too short for these kind of issues
My wife is Muslim...and I'm Buddhist.❤💑
@@princessana9013 calm down
@@yooniverse3838 for what?.
Brother I'm happy for you and wish you a happy and healthy life
@@princessana9013 we both are human and humanity is our religion.
We are too happy together....and if god hate us both for having marriage outside our religion then let god tell us about that not you or his followers or a holy books full of hate....let him speak about it.😊❤
@@rishardblazze9988 thank you brother ❤
im an Atheist and i don't blame religion i blame the interpretation of religion laws made by the People, we are all one and only Love and happiness conquers all. Religion should about us loving each other without race, gender or faith.
Mostly interpreted by men
I've seen a lot of cases where guys convert to Islam not for Allah but to marry the girl they love and after that they don't take Islam Seriously.
I think it's better to let each person practice their own religion and let the kids decide what they want. Religion should not be a force it should be taught and then allow the person to choose.
Raihanna Khaleesi
Just one basic flaw in your logic :
Muslim women cant marry non muslim. Haram and halal are well defined. Either you follow islam or you reject it.
Muslim Men are given special permission in this case.
@@FK-xq1ow how?
@@Amaso1747 Verse (2:221)
I’m in love with none Muslim man too and he wants to covert to Islam can I marry him
If he wants to convert to Islam then sure after conversion you can marry him
What if the non muslim guy really loves you, but the problem is he couldn't want to convert in islam because of his parents 😢 ? Can anyone answer my question 😞
@@aileencruz3076 Then how come you are so sure that HE love you? ...when he can't take up a decision of his life on her own...If now he can't take stand for you....how you are so sure that he will stand with you tomorrow?....if his Parents are that strict today what guarantee is there that they will get fine with you in future?....All these questions are very important.....Think about it before taking any decision...
@@aileencruz3076 The answer of your question is Just listen to Allah and obey him because HE is our creator and knows us more better than us. In my opinion life is already hard why make it more hard for a PERSON who can't take a stand and decision on his own. IF HE REALLY LOVES YOU HE WILL MAKE DECISION FOR YOU AND CONVERT WHATSOEVER OTHERWISE HE JUST EMOTIONALLY USE YOU
@@naveed7808 He confess to me all of his family know me and my family too .. But i dont know why he confess to me but he cant take a stand to do his own to make a right decision. He only thinks of what will happen coz were just in different country .. He confess to me and i confess too .. Weve been known each other for a very longtime sad to say coz i dont know if the two of us are we going separated because of this situation.
Just marry someone with whom you are genuinely in love with. Love is not Haram.
Agreed
I wish I wasn't reminded of this comment. She broke up with me a month ago. We still love each other but she no longer wants to be with me. I messed it up. 😥 I miss her every single day.
@@somedudeinatunnel3102 it is haram to be with non Muslim.
Alex C
Why she broke up ?
@@IYeleven PLEASE READ IT SISTER. sister pray to ALLAH for your condition he will guide you. The thing actually is that we are forbidden marrying outside faith and if we fall in love with such a person than it would be a trial for us, we should take it as a trail, we will get punished by ALLAH if we materialize such kind of love. I'm very disappointed nowadays that why womens want to burn in hell fire just for 30-40 years of love. Those 30-40 years are also not sure to come there is a chance that u may get died the other day u marry a non muslim. Place your trust on ALLAH you will get a spouse beyond your expectations in shaa ALLAH if u don't get it in this life than u will get him in the life hereafter if you follow ALLAH's command. He will be so handsome that you will watch him with full zeal and zest so trust on ALLAH he will fix your problem. And avoid such a person. One more thing. Everyone here is saying that there is not any verse in quran which forbids a muslim women to marry a non muslim. I will say to such lads that they have to wear glasses while reading quran. It is clearly mentioned in quran that women cannot marry out of faith. Yes it allows men to marry the women of book(jews, christian). But there is one condition that the women should follow the true teachings of the respective prophet and should only consider ALLAH as her true god. But nowadays u can see that all of the women of book actually do shirk. Christian women consider jesus as their god too and jews as u know are waiting for antichrist. So men nowadays cannot also marry women out of faith. May ALLAH bless u sister. Plzz avoid such men and repent to ALLAH. Time is a very good cure In shaa ALLAH u will forget him.
It can work very well. My wife is Muslim (from Saudi originally) and I am a English atheist. I met her on my MBA class in UK and we were perfect for each other. Was difficult for both our families (my family as they feared Islam was a brainwashing and would affect our children and her family had quite an orthodox Islamic background and her sister even has a PhD in Islamic studies). It has worked out very well as despite her still been Muslim (me still atheist) our families and ourselves have learned a lot from each other. We now have 3 children and 2 at university and 1 for a well known Investment Bank in New York. Although our children have decided to be atheist they respect and celebrate Muslim holidays and enjoy their trips to see their Saudi side family. The world needs more love - faith is a personal decision that should come via education and not forced or expected of children. I would encourage none Muslim men to also consider marrying Muslim women as the relationships can work!
I'm a muslim my boyfriend is also an English non believer man. How did you both get married? Is it by Nikah or were you done an out of faith marriage ceremony? We decided to get married in the UK. I need some advice. Thank you.
I'm 28 and I have a muslim girlfriend (26) and we are deeply in love! I am not religious at all -but my family are open minded hindus. We're also from the UK. But she feels it is haram to marry me unless I convert - she genuinely feels God will punish her on judgement day. We've had discussions which have turned into arguments about this but for some reason she cannot see how interfaith marriages can work on a religious level. I deeply respect Islam and even read the qu'ran with her and we talk about islamic concepts in the religion. She cannot see that a marriage in deep love, where I actually help her grow as a human being and she helps me grow as a human being where there is mutual deep respect is enough. She is still learning the ins and outs of Islam herself and the rationale behind what the Qu'ran says on marriage outside the religion. But regardless, I deeply respect Islam and I think because of her cultural upbringing with her family - she genuinely is convinced she will be punished on judgement day for marrying a non believer. I really love her! It makes me so sad! Unless I convert she says she cannot marry me for her fear of being punished.
I've told her 'do you really think a loving God who knows you are married to a moral respectful man who loves you beyond anything in his life and even encourages you to be a good muslim and learning more about Islam with you - would punish you for simply not identifying as muslim? But a man who is muslim yet who is sinful would mean you are not punished? -- Or that non - believers can also go to heaven -- so in the end its up to God who judges people on an individual basis' ----- yet after saying all of this, she still has this staunch idea in her head that she cannot marry a non muslim because it is haram and not classed as an actual marriage in the eyes of God and that she will be punished judged by God.
What would you do? Any help or comments would be great. Hope you are keeping well :)
P.s. tbh I really just needed to let someone who's been in a similar situation to me - know about what I'm going through. It's eating me up inside and I feel abit alone in this situation - because I love her so much. Sorry for rambling!
I just think what you have - with your children and your wife and how your families are so loving and now as you say your families learnt alot from each other - to me that sounds like heaven - I'm so happy for you and family . Any advice at all would be so welcomed :)
All your Children are Atheist (Non Muslim), and this is the reason why Islam prohibits Interfaith (Filth) Marriages.
I hope your wife is proud of herself, because of her selfishness her children and future generations will end up in hell fire. shame on your wife.
tom tom I’m currently with a Muslim man I’m not Muslim and out arguments started when we spoke about our children. I respect his faith but I don’t want my children to be Muslim because I have read some verses in the Quran which talk about non believers and some other stuff I disagreed with. My faith is also a way of life but has nothing in it about non believers and this has really upset me now. I love him and he loves me too, I’m stuck as well. All I know is I don’t want my children reading the Quran because of what it says in it.
I deeply respect Dr. Shabir Ally and he has helped me greatly in getting a much better understanding of Islam. I feel that Dr. Shabir Ally's concern regarding a Muslim man/woman marrying a non-Muslim to be narrowed down to the risk that future children might not be securely brought up to be Muslims. This seems to me to go against the Quranic verse that says that there is no compulsion in religion because if you bring up your children to be Muslims, then their belief is not a choice that is made free from compulsion. Wouldn't it be incumbent of a Muslim parent to demonstrate through thought and action that Islam is beautiful and the true divine revelation and thereby inviting the children into Islam?
It's not permisible for muslim woman to non muslim in any circumstances
A Muslim woman can not marry a non Muslim man, he is just explaining one of the reasons why but the real reason why is because God (Allah) said they can’t.
@@samia6888 It is nowhere said in the Quran that it is Haram for Muslim women to marry a non-muslim man. Islam doesn't prohibit this, but it's common sense that both men and women should marry someone within the religion so that their children will also be Muslims.
@ “And do not marry your women to polytheistic men until they believe, for a believing slave-man is better than a free polytheist, even though he may look pleasant to you. They invite ˹you˺ to the Fire while Allah invites ˹you˺ to Paradise and forgiveness by His grace.1 He makes His revelations clear to the people so perhaps they will be mindful.” 2:206
@samia6888 Do you know what polpolytheistic means? Allah doesn't allow men to marry them either, but Christianity and Judaism are based on monotheism and thus, they are not prohibited to marry.
my dad is Muslim and my mom is non Muslim and now im Muslim
Same here
Hi. Can you tell me if your mother learn your father religion for you? My future husband its muslim and for me it s very hard because I don t know what I will learn my child.
Oh wow
im just curious, but what would happen if none of them were serious believers in their faith but they were deeply in love with each other?
Me too. That's an interesting question
Since both are not serious believers to begin with, they won't even care if they're marrying a person with the same faith
Me too plss speak it out 😞! Im in this situation 🙏
On my position now😢😢 he said every night his mom will cry and pray to God to give him a woman that will bring him into heaven😭😭 should I end this 4years relationship?? My tears rolling down my cheek right now!
you can marry him without converting...
Mine 5
hope u r still in love with him
Hello Vera. How are you holding up?
@@dilek1499 Shut up.
Just love eachother don't let religion to separate you
JUst LoVe EaCh OtHEr DoNt LeT A ReLiGiOn SeParTe YoU. Bro that’s the dumbest thing I’ve heard. Do you have no tradition ? Do you have no moral grounds with your creator ? Sheesh.
@@NorthLaurant You're a hateful person.
@@staas1737 you lack understanding. If you look into the religion of Islam you wouldn’t be so ignorant. The idea is to worship one god and one god alone.
The idea is to protect your children from going astray. If you truly believe everyone has a right than you will agree that you have to respect people who want to safe guard them selves.
If you think I’m being hateful take it up with your lord. You have your religion and I have mine.
You can’t just go around and change your self so everyone can be ok with you. You won’t ever be your self bc people will always have something to say no matter what.
For the people who know me. They’d be disappointed in you not getting to know me and calling me hateful.
I wish you success and an expanded set of wisdom n knowledge.
@@NorthLaurant well said! What if this man , is someone you know for a log time, a friend, and they respect you and either change religion or allow the children to be muslim?
@@juliasjingles people change every week. Just like songs can change your mood. The conscious effort to be consistent is near impossible when the beliefs differ. The influence of ones care giver is massive and when you sit there seeing them act different to you .. the option becomes easy to access even if it’s bad for you. It’s easier to separate water and oil by not trying to mix them. If a team has come together in agreement .. the team will work better ofc.
watched this video 5 years ago i didn't listen to what he said and i married him he was not a muslim now its been 4 years since our marriage we are the having the best life im so proud of my decision.
if you are thinking about our children they dont follow any religion we will let them choose when they are old enough, we are not forcing anything.
there is one thing i want to say to all of you guys dont let religion interfear in love,its a very personal thing that you dont even have to share it with your spouse .
So sad. Your every night is night of fornication. Such a grave sinner. God guided you to light but you chose fire. Your spritual journey is over.
I disagree I love Allah more
Religion is bs. Glad you’re happy with your life!
@@oxAkatsubakixo I used to be a very religious person but now I understand it's not worth it
@@Amaso1747 you are crazy dear
Blah! blah! blah! tell this to our parents. PLEASE
😂yeah
Bit rude to day blah blah bcs he gave us this information but yeah it's true that our parents should see this if you fall in love with a non muslim
@Aqsa Malik you got me 😔✊😂
sad but true
YES I WANT MY EX BACK HE BROKE UP WITH ME CUZ IM NOT MUSLIM
This is not fair preachers of the Christians were against Christians marrying Muslims while Muslims has bigger hearts allowing at least the Muslim men to marry a non-muslim. I love my muslim guy and his my other half, we are very compatible and has pure love for each other
#Jessica_Sanna
hi jessica... I am a follower of Buddhism and my bf is a Muslim. it will be very helpful for us if you share some tips . how did u get married? is it allowed in your county? was there any restriction of laws beside the social struggle?
As a Christian I have never heard anyone say that Christians can only marry Christians. I think that has more to do with your denomination
Jessica Sanna this is the greatness of my religion
Miya Payne exactly
Jessica Sanna may the Almighty Allah have mercy on you. MARRYING A NON-MUSLIM IS HARAM.
I think if what you're saying is right muslim men would also wouldn't be able to marry non-muslim women not just vice-versa
malak ayman muslim men can marry muslim, christian and jewsh women
PLEASE READ IT SISTER. sister pray to ALLAH for your condition he will guide you. The thing actually is that we are forbidden marrying outside faith and if we fall in love with such a person than it would be a trial for us, we should take it as a trail, we will get punished by ALLAH if we materialize such kind of love. I'm very disappointed nowadays that why womens want to burn in hell fire just for 30-40 years of love. Those 30-40 years are also not sure to come there is a chance that u may get died the other day u marry a non muslim. Place your trust on ALLAH you will get a spouse beyond your expectations in shaa ALLAH if u don't get it in this life than u will get him in the life hereafter if you follow ALLAH's command. He will be so handsome that you will watch him with full zeal and zest so trust on ALLAH he will fix your problem. And avoid such a person. One more thing. Everyone here is saying that there is not any verse in quran which forbids a muslim women to marry a non muslim. I will say to such lads that they have to wear glasses while reading quran. It is clearly mentioned in quran that women cannot marry out of faith. Yes it allows men to marry the women of book(jews, christian). But there is one condition that the women should follow the true teachings of the respective prophet and should only consider ALLAH as her true god. But nowadays u can see that all of the women of book actually do shirk. Christian women consider jesus as their god too and jews as u know are waiting for antichrist. So men nowadays cannot also marry women out of faith. May ALLAH bless u sister. Plzz avoid such men and repent to ALLAH. Time is a very good cure In shaa ALLAH u will forget him.
@@shahaanbabar2297 ehh thank you so much for the advice it's so well thought out but I feel like I have to tell you I'm not actually in love with anyone but again thank you so much may Allah reward you for the time it has taken you to write this message and bless you in this life and the after life
@@thinkingphoenix297 he pasted it but ya lmao
@@thinkingphoenix297 well as far as i study Islamic history and ahadith one thing which i found is muslim men in early times marry non muslim women just for political reasons not because they love that women because if you saw early interfaith marriages in Islam all of them happened because of political reasons. The first muslim to marry a Christian woman was Hazrat Muawiya r.a he marries daughter of leader of arab Christian tribe and one interesting thing is the son born from this marriage was yazid ibn Muawiya who martyed imam Hussain a.s so Allah tell us indirectly via yazid that avoid marrying non muslims no matter man or woman(sorry if there are grammatical errors bcoz I'm not perfect in English)
If 2 people love each other I think it is fine no matter what religion or race for them to be together. I am a Christian and my GF is a Muslim, tell me why it is wrong??
Doomer The neet gloomer who the hell are you to say that she isn't muslim altogether?! Only Allah SWTcan make judge her on that
Qur'an 2.221. Forbidden for polytheists not People of the Book(Jews, Christians)
@@soulpriestess1953' Women ' is The Worst Creature Created by Almighty !
On my personal experience, i am saying ! i have seen Womens from every race and religion ! They are racist toward their own mens. Although the Zionist and KKK propaganda ( through media ) are the main reason that World is Now going for intermarriage :
I have seen many mixed Couples ( married and unmarried ) :
White Men - East Asian women
White men - Black women
East asian men - black and white women
Black men - East asian women
Muslim women - Christian men and Hindu men
WOMENS ARE NOT TRUSTED, women Can do anything for Lust and Money
Proud to be A Muslima you literally encourage people to do sins. this is a huge sin itself ans can have very bad consequences for you in your life.
@@saqlainyousaf3624 how are u marrying then
If one parent practices their faith daily and has a strong belief....but the other parent does not share the religion, the fear is that the child will be affected negatively by the parent who is not religious? Why would the child not be affected by the religious parent? Why are you fraid the child will think for themselves?
Hell yeah you can marry him if you love him. Case closed!
True
He'll Dump her before even Marrying her...
Non Muslim Men are well known to do this...
Saaduddin Ansari most western men I’ve come across are way more loyal than most middle eastern/south Asian men I know
@@zainabfarhan5823 Turns out he happens to be her 25th or 50th Boyfraaaand who's Fat and Ugly, But has a Giant Pocket full of Cash because he was Single most of his life... Loyal? Yeah Right, more like Desperate..
Yeah I get...
Saaduddin Ansari You are very narrow minded, please open your mind to the idea that human beings are the same, and religion that stands in the way of love, which god himself has bestowed upon humankind , was constructed in ancient times because of other religions dominating Islam, but today all religions are equal and is not worth destroying two lives for the sake of one rule. I am a non Muslim and I know for sure that I would stay faithful to my Muslim man till death do us part.
When he is talking about conflict of parenting in different religions .. does this not apply if the man is a muslim and wants to marry a non muslim woman? also when the child reaches the age of puberty, they might decide to choose their own religion then what ? 🤷🏽♀️
PLEASE READ IT SISTER. sister pray to ALLAH for your condition he will guide you. The thing actually is that we are forbidden marrying outside faith and if we fall in love with such a person than it would be a trial for us, we should take it as a trail, we will get punished by ALLAH if we materialize such kind of love. I'm very disappointed nowadays that why womens want to burn in hell fire just for 30-40 years of love. Those 30-40 years are also not sure to come there is a chance that u may get died the other day u marry a non muslim. Place your trust on ALLAH you will get a spouse beyond your expectations in shaa ALLAH if u don't get it in this life than u will get him in the life hereafter if you follow ALLAH's command. He will be so handsome that you will watch him with full zeal and zest so trust on ALLAH he will fix your problem. And avoid such a person. One more thing. Everyone here is saying that there is not any verse in quran which forbids a muslim women to marry a non muslim. I will say to such lads that they have to wear glasses while reading quran. It is clearly mentioned in quran that women cannot marry out of faith. Yes it allows men to marry the women of book(jews, christian). But there is one condition that the women should follow the true teachings of the respective prophet and should only consider ALLAH as her true god. But nowadays u can see that all of the women of book actually do shirk. Christian women consider jesus as their god too and jews as u know are waiting for antichrist. So men nowadays cannot also marry women out of faith. May ALLAH bless u sister. Plzz avoid such men and repent to ALLAH. Time is a very good cure In shaa ALLAH u will forget him.
@@shahaanbabar2297 jazakallahukhier but Read what? Are you replying to me or to the sister asking the question ? 🤔🤷🏽♀️
@@alwiyyah mens too shouldn't marry non muslims from the book nowadays cuz the condition that the non muslim women he is marrying, should follow the true teachings of her respective prophet and should consider ALLAH as her lord alone is not fulfilled nowadays.
@@alwiyyah yes that conflict can occur, if mens marry non muslims too. We can see a lot of examples nowadays. Actually children of parents like this either become atheist or they start following a false god. So both men and women shouldn't marry non muslims untill they convert.
@@alwiyyah Well if your dad don't eat pork, nor dring alcohol, pray 5 time, don't eat at ramadan, have to do zagat, etc. and you see your mother doing none of these thing or vice versa. You sure will chose the easiest religion out of the two. Its human nature. So yeah if you marry someone to have children with them then you should chose carefully.
This video actually got it wrong. Look at sura 2:62 there the Quran tells you that believing people, are also Jews and christians. So If the Quran tells you to marry believing people christians and Jews are included. Furthermore everybody is the same in front of god. If a Muslim man can marry a non Muslim, a Muslim woman can marry a non Muslim too. Otherwise it wouldn't make sense. Both Muslim male and female are allowed to marry persons from other religions.
IcecreamLeGenD wrong
M M There is no difference whether she or he is western or eastern , the condition of marriage in Islam is that Believer in Tawheed- the complete monotheistic conception of reality, can't share bed or be life partner of Polytheism in any form whether Trinity or deification of any other person or thing besides Allah .
If you truly believe in word of Allah then you should know that Allah forgives every sin except Polytheism شرك , if your child tomorrow worships a man or any other thing besides Allah just because of your marriage outside Islam then you will be responsible for his suffering in Akhirah but if you dont believe in Allah and his messenger, you are just muslim becoz of your parents and your priority is not submission to Allah, in reality you are not Muslim you are just labelling yourself as Muslim, then you can marry whoever you want nobody will Stop you but I will request you to not label yourself as Muslim because it can Misguide others also . Muslim is the one who completely surrenders before Allah التسليم المطلقۃ في امام الله سبحانه و تعالی
Muslim men also Should not Marry non Muslim women if they really care for Akhirah of their Children
on my position now...😢😢😢
heni riana On the positive side, marrying people that share your values (like the same religion) is the best way to have a successful marriage
heni riana Come on, love prevails over anything
after 5 year.tell us what is going on.curious.
hmmm exactly what am facing now. Am deeply in love with a non Muslim man and my family are not in support. I am dying slowly deep inside because I have prayed and tried soo many times but I can’t let go off his love and same with him he can’t let me go. He wants to convert but yet still my family are saying he will stop after marriage so they won’t accept him. That’s the battle am fighting now. Someone talk to me plsss
Sister think deeply. Chooosing spouse is part of life and we are tested on it cause chooosing wrong person can lead to hell. And as long as you are a believer you want to be right on your path and forgo the sins. So it is upto you what you want to choose path or temptations.
Raul99
Why are you telling her not to marry a convert? She’s saying the guy is converting to Islam and yet you still have problems
@@IYeleven I am not .
Hello ?? Can we talk?
Hello ?? Can we talk?
There is no difference whether she or he is western or eastern , the condition of marriage in Islam is that Believer in Tawheed- the complete monotheistic conception of reality, can't share bed or be life partner of Polytheism in any form whether Trinity or deification of any other person or thing besides Allah .
If you truly believe in word of Allah then you should know that Allah forgives every sin except Polytheism شرك , if your child tomorrow worships a man or any other thing besides Allah just because of your marriage outside Islam then you will be responsible for his suffering in Akhirah but if you dont believe in Allah and his messenger, you are just muslim becoz of your parents and your priority is not submission to Allah, in reality you are not Muslim you are just labelling yourself as Muslim, then you can marry whoever you want nobody will Stop you but I will request you to not label yourself as Muslim because it can Misguide others also . Muslim is the one who completely surrenders before Allah التسليم المطلقۃ في امام الله سبحانه و تعالی
Muslim men also Should not Marry non Muslim women if they really care for Akhirah of their Children
Thank you very much for this important comment.
I'm another person in 'the same boat'. I'm an atheist unbeliever man in love with a Muslim woman, and it looks as if things are going well. I've been asked before to leave her for her sake, but she's an adult (neither of us are young) and makes her own decisions. Hello to all my fellow interfaithers.
Seem like we all here for the same reason. Such a heartbreaking thing to go through
Dr Shabir: Doesn't Surah Mumtahana, ayah 10, legally restrict non-muslim men from marrying Muslim women?
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا إِذَا جَاءَكُمُ الْمُؤْمِنَاتُ مُهَاجِرَاتٍ فَامْتَحِنُوهُنَّ ۖ اللَّهُ أَعْلَمُ بِإِيمَانِهِنَّ ۖ فَإِنْ عَلِمْتُمُوهُنَّ مُؤْمِنَاتٍ فَلَا تَرْجِعُوهُنَّ إِلَى الْكُفَّارِ ۖ لَا هُنَّ حِلٌّ لَهُمْ وَلَا هُمْ يَحِلُّونَ لَهُنَّ ۖ وَآتُوهُمْ مَا أَنْفَقُوا ۚ وَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْكُمْ أَنْ تَنْكِحُوهُنَّ إِذَا آتَيْتُمُوهُنَّ أُجُورَهُنَّ ۚ وَلَا تُمْسِكُوا بِعِصَمِ الْكَوَافِرِ وَاسْأَلُوا مَا أَنْفَقْتُمْ وَلْيَسْأَلُوا مَا أَنْفَقُوا ۚ ذَٰلِكُمْ حُكْمُ اللَّهِ ۖ يَحْكُمُ بَيْنَكُمْ ۚ وَاللَّهُ عَلِيمٌ حَكِيمٌ
"O you who believe! When believing women come to you as emigrants, examine them, Allah knows best as to their Faith, then if you ascertain that they are true believers, send them not back to the disbelievers, they are not lawful (wives) for the disbelievers nor are the disbelievers lawful (husbands) for them. But give the disbelievers that (amount of money) which they have spent [as their Mahr] to them. And there will be no sin on you to marry them if you have paid their Mahr to them. Likewise hold not the disbelieving women as wives, and ask for (the return of) that which you have spent (as Mahr) and let them (the disbelievers, etc.) ask back for that which they have spent. That is the Judgement of Allah. He judges between you. And Allah is All-Knowing, All-Wise."
Also, in classical scholarship, there has never been a dissenting scholarly opinion against the scholarly opinion that non-Muslim men cannot Muslim women.
...and all those scholars are men. How convenient.
Quran 2:221 prohibits union between Mushrikeens and Muslim men AND WOMEN unless they believe. Mushrikeens are not Ahl e Kitab. So people who think they know religion must not misguide people. Let the Quran answer. And the answer is 2:221.
PURE COMDEY....
I'm here looking for guidance of any kind because I'm desperate at this point. I'm in love with a Muslim woman and I'm a Christian man, and she broke up with me last night because she fears that things wouldn't work despite how much she wants them to. I'm at a complete loss and don't know where to go. I've read quite a bit that these relationships indeed exist and actually turn out just fine, but why doesn't she believe they can just because she thinks her parents wouldn't allow it? Why am I so... unfit, just because of this? I love her and I love God, what more do I need to possess? Why is this love wrong if God says he is love? What do I do?
Of course she doesn't believe this will work, she sees a future with kids who aren't Muslim. For many Muslims including myself, having non Muslim kids is a nightmare scenario.
@@usman5140 That immediately proves what I’ve already read: that the rule that women cannot marry non-Muslims is because of a presumptive fear that the man will force his religion in the wife and the children. Why is this the assumption of us when you don’t even know us? No disrespect, it’s just rather disrespectful to assume that about someone when one doesn’t know them. I would never force the children to be raised apart from Islam, I’m just asking for help. I’m hurt, asking for guidance and advice, and in your reply, all I’m getting is just “Well duh it wouldn’t work out” which doesn’t help at all.
@@unreal727 For starters, this is a rule within our religion. It is haram for a Muslim Woman to marry a non Muslim man. Just speaking from life experience and human nature, I'm giving my opinion on why I don't believe it would work. You may intend as of now that the kids would be raised Muslim, but how about 5, 10 years from now? Islam is a way of life, to think that you will not be involved with what they are taught is a little naive. It's natural for a father to want to teach his children the foundation of what he believes in. You also have to understand that if you as the father aren't interested in Islam, neither will your children be.
I have many family members and know many Muslims who are married too or have/had children by non Muslim men. Most of the children either celebrate all holidays or only the ones of the father. I'm sure the Woman who you want to marry has seen many cases like this as well. You have to understand that Muslims value faith in Allah as the most important thing, even above family. You say these things work out just fine and I'm sure they can, in this life. The thing is, we believe that this is only a test for the next eternal life. In that way, its not possible to call it a success.
I'm only trying to give my opinion on why she doesn't see this working. Also, I understand how you feel. I am a Muslim man living in the United States. I feel for many non Muslims in my life, but there has always been a faith barrier in these circumstances. Even as I type this, I have feelings for a non Muslim. The thing is, that doesn't negate the fact of everything else I wrote.
Hello, I’m sorry about your situation, how are you feeling now? :(
I knew three interreligious marriages. 1) My English teacher married a Muslim man. 2) My friendat University had a Muslim father and 3) my friends had a Muslim father. All three saw the man being Muslim (two of whom I know were practicing devoutly). The result was the same.
For the first one, only one child was religious enough to pray, none fasted becase the mother (my teacher) forbade it. Ironically, the father was a practicing Muslim and went to Hajj. The second one, I don't know whether the man practiced or not, but I do know the oldest daughter was Catholic, the middle child was Agnostic and the youngest was Muslim. The third case saw the man and kids practice, but the faith in the kids was very weak and they later left the religion. Regardless of their religion, however, they did suffer a maor identity crisis.
This told me that it no longer matters whether the man is Muslim, practicing or not, or anything. Naturally, the kids see both parents and are influenced by each one. Whatever the rule is, it must apply to both. If the Quran explicitly forbids a woman from marrying outside the faith, fine. I suggest it be applied to men too. The Quran gives permission but that only means it's halal but still objectionable.
Why do we have to choose one religion over another? I disagree with the way he represents the child as being 'confused'. My parents are from two different cultures and two different religions and I can see the good and bad in both of them. No one religion is perfect. The idea that you have to choose one camp to be in all your life is not true. We should embrace complexity, nuance and multiplicity - it makes the world more interesting.
Here i am... Never thought i would join the boat. The worst thing is, i am a non Muslim in Malaysia, in love with a foreign muslim man. If we get married in Malaysia, i have to convert into Muslim. I have no hates towards the religion, but i have my own faith and belief which shape me into the person i am today. I dont know what else to do. This challenge is too much for me.
Which religion you follow brother?
😭😭😭I really love her and she also love me, I want to spend my whole life with her, but i am non Muslim (Christian). I just can't live without her 😭😭😭 and i live in a backward country(Pakistan) and here the government, police, people and her family no one will support us, just imagine my situation 😔😔
@@user-sk7jr6sg5x but my situation is even worse
@Joshua James I feel you Im in that current situation right now 🙁
Haitz me tooo.. 😭😭😭
Omg... Same.... And im from Malaysia, he is an Egyptian Muslim. I really dont know what to do... The law here force the non Muslim to convert 😭
I'm converted to ISLAM for 3 months and married for 8 years with Catholic man, have 3 kids. my husband doesn't accept ISLAM although I'm far working abroad and he's the one taking care of my kids. Do I really have to leave him? even he told me he will not bother for what I'm doing?
plz don't be misguided leave islam this is not going to lead u anywhere
practice hinduism , vipasana meditation it will help u watch sadguru jaggi vasudev it will guide u
Kiim Lopepz . Of course not. You shouldn't to leave your husband because of misunderstanding about religions. You can't force anyone to convert as a musllim.
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Driss Laroussi you are wrong. If you where already married at the time of conversion she does not have too leave him BUT stop trying to force your views on Muslims ans no muslim woman is allowed to marry a non muslim
Don't leave him, he is your husband, just try to tell him about Islam and convince him and love him more. Simple solution. it's my personal opinion not religious opinion.
I like Ilyas, please try to have him on as often as you guys can!
Don't worry about what the kids will think about, you let them decide, if you are a religious person you can teach the child your religion if they want you to, but if the child wants to follow the other parent's religion or no religion or even a completely different religion, then let them work that out for themselves and you just help guide them when and if they need help in that regard.
Well said!!
There is a verse in the Bible that says "Do not be unequally yoked with an unbeliever" That could be taken very strictly requiring you to not only marry within the faith but even your denomination, Catholics can only marry other Catholics. Others would say they only have to be Christian generally You could take a more liberal view that says anyone that believes in God from the heart which might allow you to marry a Jewish ir Muslim. I think it's probably the middle view, it has to be of your faith but can be from another church.
it's usually the indonesian or malaysian girls who want to marry non-muslim men and think they are right in doing it ...
i don't understand what is going on with the faith in those countries....
You are being very sinful
Things I have noticed, in case where man married a woman from the book and have babies then divorce the babies become non-Muslim because they stay with mommy (western) and those like me that I am Muslim and my husband is not my children learn from me... mommy the religion.
I think 🤔 in the Quran statement is that women are the future of the ummah (people of faith) because the children learn religion from mommy (no matter the place).
Would be more logical if there’s permission of marriage to a non Muslims it would be for women? (My opinion) because at the en of the day in that household who decide how and when would be lesson that would be the women (queen). At the time of Muhammad many women was believing in Islam and their husband was AGAINST Islam so was logical this women would be abuse if they stay with the non Muslims. And still this revelation was so fair that Muslims offer a recompense to the non Muslim men at the time.
But taking this a this time of age we need to use critical thinking. Are this non Muslim fighting Muslims? Are this women in danger? Are this non Muslim convert to Islam?
If a women is Islamic good wife, compassionate, lovely, and honorably would this show the non Muslim man that Islam is the truth and only religion to follow?
Lewis Taylor yes notice same. I know few women that married Muslims males, they have three to 4 children each. Non of those children became Muslims because the mother aren’t Muslims. Women are the one who carried the religion to their children because women spend most of the time with them (75% if woman is working and 90% if woman is not working ) is logical that if the mother is Muslim the children will learn to love Islam but if mother is not Muslim and the father is away (left) children are more likely not be Muslim and depending of the situation they may have learn to hate Islam.
Elisa Lopez De la Cruz you're giving ur self an excuses to prove a point god almighty already make it clear.
“And give not (your daughters) in marriage to Al-Mushrikoon till they believe (in Allah Alone) and verily, a believing slave is better than a (free) Mushrik (idolater, etc.), even though he pleases you. Those (Al-Mushrikoon) invite you to the Fire, but Allah invites (you) to Paradise and Forgiveness by His Leave, and makes His Ayat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) clear to mankind that they may remember”
[al-Baqarah 2:221]
“…then if you ascertain that they are true believers, send them not back to the disbelievers, they are not lawful (wives) for the disbelievers nor are the disbelievers lawful (husbands) for them”
[al-Mumtahanah 60:10].
Da Li I think you missed my first comment brother read it. Think then comment. Assalam
How can you even share bed with someone who is not Muslim and who does not believe in Monothiesm , does not Loves Prophetص , will not read Quran to children , Will not take you for hajj and will not Fast during month of Ramadan , I as a man Can never imagine a life where my wife does not offer salah with me its most amazing experience of my life when she recites Quran besides me . I thank Allah that he saved me from marrying Non Muslim .
You are right my brother married a non muslim he is busy with his life and my niece she is with her mom so i wont get shock if she becomes a christian
Im non muslim and i love islam and im ready to marry my girlfrnd and convert to islam but her parents are not trsuting me they hate me bcoz of what im and they are forcing her to marry someonelse its a devastating situation , if people will not open doors for converts how will islam rise
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Her parents are being ignorant. It’s haraam to force her to marry someone else
I’m a Muslim and he’s a non Muslim but he don’t wanna convert to Islam so i will leave him 😌🤷♀️
@@burs124 so youll leave him because he doesnt want to believe that a 7th century desert warlord was talking to god through angel?
True love is unconditional.
This is wrong even parents love is not unconditional
I married a Muslim woman, I'm an irish Catholic Caucasian, I think that's the term the world describes pale people ha only after asking her father's permission ofc. We are still together now, we have two children who are not being raised into religion. But we educate about different religions including Islam and for them not to be influenced to preference any religion until they choose willingly. We've made everything work like clock work our families are very close. Could say closer than most families I know from friends and their spouses. I'm not discrediting this bloke. But opinions are perspective biased only. What's in you're heart, Allah will pull you towards.
She's not a Muslim
People of the world
Tell me before this so called Religion thing came into existence where people getting married Yes or No you should ask yourself that. And tell me about the first Father and Mother Man and Woman which religion do they belong to tell me please.
We shouldn't be getting married to religion, culture, colour, country, status BUT LOVE
LOVE ALLAH YOU WILL FIND EVERYTHING
But my country make it compulsory to convert😭 im in such a dilemma
@@susan7374 i read ur comments,malaysia right? what a silly law,islam is madness no offense
This brother can’t make his own rules and he’s truly misguided may Allah guide this brother
My grandpa is a muslim he married to chinese women non muslim whic is my grnadma later she convert into a muslim.
He is correct about the parents differing in beliefs - even if one parent allows the other to teach and raise the child in the religion without interference, if he or she doesn’t actively support or involve themselves then the child can easily pick up an idea that the religious teachings aren’t real or important - “kids learn as much from what they see as what they’re told”
I am an atheist, so I am not one of the "people of the book". My lover was a Muslim and he wouldn't be allowed to marry me. He decided that he prefers to leave islam to be with me than to lose the love of his life. He said that he wants to spend his life with me even if it means paying the price of eternal punishment in hell. Leaving islam is illegal in his country and punishable with death. He had to escape from there. It is amazing what man in love can do for his woman.
Nekrochomikon8 lie
Yeahhh " love"!!!!!! .., both of you going to realize later on how losers you are!! By losing the connection with God!!!!
its AMAZING how I brought the love of my life into Islam and getting married and be in paradise forever after with our true love :D
Nekrochomikon8 no Muslim would leave his religion for something like that lol
That the biggest lost he has than.
Astagfirullah
For once, why could he not just answer the question! Could a Muslim woman marry a non-muslim man?
I am sikh and my wife is a Muslim. Our 5 kinds are brought up as Amrit Sikhs fully baptised🙏
Well that marriage isn't since as valid
I hope you are joking, that is disgraceful.
@@adelraad891 She is a true Muslim who believes in humanity unlike extremists like you.
Want to ask i m Hindu but I m in love with bohra musliy boy ...? Can we get marry ..? I m ready to learn the Islamic religion and believers ..?so what's the way to get marry with him ...? Please do ans it's necessary for me as soon as please do ans the question...?
Yes of you can but you should convert Islam
harsha verma it is always better to stick to your own kind. Love is an essential part to life be successful but love alone is not sufficient. Marrying within same religious faith family and getting settled in new family is already difficult for woman, and now you will not only have to settle in new family but in different religious faith believers will be hard. Prevention is better than cure. So rather regretting for your act later take decision wisely not emotionally.
You can accept Islam and marry him simple.
Does he love you ???? Ask him to convert to your religion .
so whatsup now
Masha'ALLAH tabarkALLAH. Both the interviewer and speaker did a great job handling this question and describing many situations/problems that can arise as to why it should be avoided. Very concise/ clear discussion. 👍 I
This is a very difficult question to answer because I know this couple 25 years together he is an Egyptian Muslim and she is a Christian and I'm going to be honest I have never seen a couple get along so fine. But I see them both talked about both religion with respect and she really takes care of him. There is a negative and there's a positive the negatives of causes different Faith deposit is you can learn from both religion the individual if they can keep it in peace. But remember you got people that are married among their own faith you got Muslim divorcing today and you got Christians also that are divorcing today this is why I said it's a difficult question to answer because it depends on the individual and the couple
I have seen this theme presented and twisted every way but Inside-out and can't help but notice noone ever discusses what the principles.....the couple themselves....bring to the activity. Certainly there is talk of Love and attraction and even passion. Not once do I ever hear about Negotiation, Compromise, Problem-solving or Long-term Planning. Perhaps it might be helpful to focus less on overcoming the opinions and objections of family and friends and rather consider what sort of character allows such attitudes to control the lives of others. IMVVHO if one is not mature or grounded sufficiently to stand by their values and goals how can we expect that same person to support a partner in developing those same strengths? FWIW.
Can you provide me with evidence that prohibits Muslim women from marrying non Muslim men
ISNT THE WORD MAN REFERED TO AS HUMANITY IN GENERAL MAN AND WOMAN 🤔🤔🤔
What if ur non Muslim and she’s Muslim but you will learn about the religion with her. Could that be a way of getting together? Because I’m the video he mentions how y’all could learn about the religion together and raise the kids as that religion? (He said this at 2:00) I just wanted to ask cause it sounded like he was talking about it y’all were both different religions you could learn it with her and the kids would pick up on that.
First start to Love Allah(swt) more than anything then everything will start to make sense and you will start to complain less and less.
Allah (swt) says in the Quran,”indeed we have created man( to live) in hard struggle”.
Don’t let ur emotions destroy you, Allah(swt) loves those who have control over their desires and have ultimate trust in Allah(swt).
Freedom is achieved by breaking all the chains of ur desires and submitting your will to Allah(swt).
These above lines are really easy to write but its a bit hard to follow. People nowadays are stuck in between desires and faith. They dont really know what to do next. They actuallg never thought of this life is actually gifted by allah to worship allah and mantai the society. we somehow manage our family but leave allah. This is the reason why people are unable to find peace of mind. We have to put all our soul amd heart to allah and this is the most difficult thing a man can do.(but if he can it became easier to him to please allah day by day , by true hardship and worship)
BUT what if a non Muslim man converts to Islam, then can a muslim women marry him??!!? Please someone answer!!!!!
Yes
the are certain rules & regulations in order to marry a jewesh or Christian woman which no Muslim man follow
So dr Shabir Ally. You say times have changed now. The quraan did not give permission to the woman to marry a man from the People of the Book but it should be allowed now? Then can I as a Muslim woman also take 4 husbands? Allah SWT did not give permission in the Quraan but times have changed. I mean DNA results can determine which one of the husbands fathered which child. According to your logic, it would be permissible????
So there is a muslim boy and I like him.....he looks at me sometimes and I look at him back....is there anyway we could actually date?
I'm not muslim
dating is haram (forbidden) in islam. Any inappropriate interaction - especially while being alone together - is not allowed (hence dating is not allowed since it generally includes that). Technically you could marry if you are a muslim or jew, but good luck with that lol. That being said, I am not sure about how religiously practicing this muslim boy is. He could not be very practicing and not even care about his beliefs (I hope that is not the case). so he may very well be open to it. I suggest you don't go for it. His family will get in the way and it will just not work out in the end. May Allah guide you. Peace!
marry him
If you two like each other, date :)
no you go convert and get married ... muslims should not date
you both can date staying in boundaries to know each other and you can marry him if you are a christian or jew ( woman from the book). muslim man can marry them
Someone please give me advice. I’m a Muslim women but I’m not that religious (I’m trying my best to work on it) and I’m in love with a catholic man and he loves me, we want to get get married and spend the rest of our lives together we also want children. I don’t know what to do, I love him so much and I don’t want to leave him. I cry myself to sleep every night because of this. Someone please give me advice
Hello, if you love each other....choose love and stay together (its your life...live it). I was in the same situation and me and my wife are still together - she is my princess.
Sister it is not worth it, once you start to become more religious, it will cause a lot of conflict.
It happens when you are more close to Dunya than ALLAH SWT, If you read Quran and Offer Namaz this temporary Dunya would mean nothing to you
Absolutely, exactly, very well said brother 👍 👍 👍
Can a Muslim women marry a Muslim women?
No . According to Islamic law you can not marry with a non Muslim man . There is only way to marry your desired person is that the person you want to marry accept islam .
4:07 “respecting someone is not the same as marrying the person” like what? 😂💀
You respect the person you marry, you dont force them to change and you love them for who they are. As for families and parents of children wanting to pursue an interfaith marriage, support them and love them unconditionally. The issue is not religious, it is cultural. The language barrier between in laws and the misunderstandings that are bound to happen. But knowing and understanding that because the faiths are “mixed” these are inevitable, the more you must try to understand each other and respect each others beliefs. Having common values and ideas of raising a family and both having similar beliefs is far more important than sharing the same faith.
I'm really happy that I find a person who can use a brain, thank that you are exist!!!
I mean what can you do when there is no Muslim around who marry Muslims I’m in the USA and all the men marry outside the faith and we’re left just alone because it’s cooler to get with someone they feel they can relate with?
Even the Bible says not to be unequally yoked, in other words, it discourages believers from marrying those who are not of like faith. It doesn't explicitly prohibit it but just discourages it.
I was married for 9 years to an white American/Italian man we have beautiful children together but I divorced him I fell in love with a man who is not muslim because the time my dad and mom died he was always there always there with charming words of comfort etc I couldn't resist his charm and bravery I needed help he was there me and the kids father are friends but hopefully Allah will guide the man I love to Islam but I don't know what to do nothing I can do really because if he wants to study Islam he would.
Why are you divorce your husband?
Why don't you convert to his religion instead of hoping he will follow Islam...u love him right
hats off, to this man..... the way he answers the question which are really troublesome situations in india and adjacent countries is unmatchable and so genuine.
I respect Dr.Shabir but this program is called let the Quran speak not ask Dr.shabir. As a result Dr.Shabir is expressing his opinion on this matter not quoting the Quran. If the earlier scholars restricted the marriage of muslim women to non muslim men, what does that has to do with Islam. Our source of law is the Quran not the scholars........ We are all human beings and every person has the free will to marry the person of his choice. The message of the Quran is social integration and universal brotherhood.
Duale Sulaiman There is no difference whether she or he is western or eastern , the condition of marriage in Islam is that Believer in Tawheed- the complete monotheistic conception of reality, can't share bed or be life partner of Polytheism in any form whether Trinity or deification of any other person or thing besides Allah .
If you truly believe in word of Allah then you should know that Allah forgives every sin except Polytheism شرك , if your child tomorrow worships a man or any other thing besides Allah just because of your marriage outside Islam then you will be responsible for his suffering in Akhirah but if you dont believe in Allah and his messenger, you are just muslim becoz of your parents and your priority is not submission to Allah, in reality you are not Muslim you are just labelling yourself as Muslim, then you can marry whoever you want nobody will Stop you but I will request you to not label yourself as Muslim because it can Misguide others also . Muslim is the one who completely surrenders before Allah التسليم المطلقۃ في امام الله سبحانه و تعالی
Muslim men also Should not Marry non Muslim women if they really care for Akhirah of their Children
sura all bakara chapter 2 v 221 Allah Said in quaran "donot marry unbelievers man until he beliv,so sabir give rong information.
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+Andalus101 lol realy can you tell us the interpenetration of the verse. because as far as i know and islamic history and all the scholars who have interpreted the since the prophet time say other wise. so please can you share with us how have you came to this understanding
Andalus101 my friend that was not my question.
interpretation of the quran is so old my friend
and so are the people who have interpreted them like ibn katheer and the imam altabari
which are still printed today my friend and posted on the internet these two guys i mentioned lived over a thousand years ago
and every scholar a salfi or not they all use their interpretation as a background to their research and answers for any fatwa.
and the link you gave me even though it is private research it still agrees with what the imam says
my friend the contradicted each other in the hadeith my friend wither it is a saheeh or invalid and not in the quran no one has ever contradicted in the quran's interpertation. but this topic in particular no one had ever disagreed or contradicted on it since the prophet time.
My friend i have only asked for your proof. their is no muslim agreed to that since the dawn of time even Christianity forbids marrying from another religion
all you have to do is prove to me through text
personal opinions is what have gotten Christianity to having over 100 bibles
Lol same situation but my boyfriend is strong Muslim believer and I am an atheist, I assume we aren't allowed to be together but I'm not entirely sure how it works
LOVE SOLVES EVERYTHING !! NOT RELIGION.
your are correct!!!
lock123able that is incorrect.
This is incorrect. Loves definition can be corrupted and without rules, mankind will be lost. Just how love has been redefined to include homosexual relationships.
Soon the love of children and animals will also be redefined...
lock123able and if God is the source of love and the source who created both christians and muslims and jews with the capacity to love, then why do we use religion as a barrier? It's all one message from one God in the end.
No Muslim will accept ur comment bro...sad but the truth
Where does it say in Quran? What verses?
Oh!!! I see,... Now tell me, which verse in the Qur'an says that Muslim women can marry non-muslim men??? Can you provide proof???
Mashaallah Dr.shabir’s son really looks like him
Sir I have a question if a Muslim man marry a non Muslim woman and she converts to islam which is obvious can she meet with her family after marriage whoever they are christain or jew?
I'm Muslim and it's kind sexist
#unwantedrelative Channel you did not heard what he said, it's the scholar's opinion at the time and now it's different. How can you call something which came from Allah through Jibreel to Muhammad S sexist. And being a Muslim doesn't mean you're always right about Islam.
Allah did not ask Abraham to do anything. The JEWISH God of Abraham commanded Abraham to kill his son. This has nothing to do with Muslims or Arabs. This is JEWISH history about a Jewish God and His people. Allah is nothing more than an Arab plagiarism of a Jewish God, His people and their religion. Allah is a Jewish God.
Sophocles14 lol God has a ethnicity, race and religion all in one?
Which Quran verse gives man permission to marry the people of the book? I only see one where it does permit it.
I strongly agree with the fact that you'll face serious challenges in raising children if you don't share the same beliefs. Beliefs in right or wrong, religion, politics etc.
However, the argument of the male being the one who can convert the women and steer the children is just not strong enough in this day and age. The quran does not strictly specify prohibition of Muslim women to marry men of faith. It clearly prohibits marriage to polytheists or non believers.
Allah swt says the quran is for all times and places thus making it possible for us to think of new options.
I don't understand why it is a problem for a women who withholds her faith and teaches her children her religion to marry a man from ahl el kitab. What is the objection here?
Why should a women have to suffer being disowned and seen as outcast if they are truthfully and believers in Islam when they marry men of the faith.
I married woman who told me she's muslim acted as muslim for ten years I find out she's not muslim and now she took my children of 5 she's getting help for her church pastor and the sheriff working together to keep away from my children when I was away she was taking my children to church w/o my permission
My Allah may it easy on you brother are things any better?
pleased can you do a video on how to make someone revert to Islam, please?
OMG if there was such a thing :'(
Can i marry a man non-muslim but raising childrren islam??
@ he don't follow any religion.
@@jessirock168Actually marrying outside the faith in Islam is not so much the case of religion but a case of "TAWHEED" (Monotheisim) . I would suggest you to study "Tawheed" in Islam more deeply and you will see why marrying in other faiths is not very easy. Second if he don't follow any religion why don't you give him message of Islam or atleast tell him or convince him the "Exsistance of Allah and Monothiesim" (that God is One)...Last i would say its better to find a good Muslim guy ( there are plenty of them) and marry, but in the end its your decision make it wisely. May Allah help you and guide you!!!
Good answer !!
this hurts to know because i really love this girl but the only main problem is she is nonmuslim
Stay away and marry a Muslima!!! Don’t sign up for problems! Love is a fleeting feeling, go find a Muslim queen and marry her!!
My boyfriend is hindu ... and i want to marry him. His family is very nice to me they act like my mom and my dad in person they are nice. But do u feel meee... i dont wanna be a murtad person
You should marry that guy, he loves you and that's all that matters.
its haram thing unless he converts sister
It’s haram sister . Try to give him dawah. If he converts to Islam , this is great. If not , you should probably move on. I know it’s tough but your akhirah is important
u have ur priorities ,to me 7th century book is silly and so are its rulings to you probably not
True love doesn't know any religion. Love is love. It doesn't depend on any religion. We are all free people.
1) If you or Islam Says a muslim women marrying a non muslim is a sin and word of God, then it's means non Muslims are sinners right??
2) are non Muslims sinners just because they are non Muslims??
3) what happens to non Muslims who are way better then normal Muslims?? Is marrying them still haram for a muslim women??
4) if being Non Muslims is wrong, Why does quran promise each non muslim a big place in heaven and all good deeds shall be rewarded Holy Quran 2: 62...??
5) Now what is the sin of a non muslims? And , if being non muslim is a sin?? Is it A sin that he was born into non muslim family?? Or it because he choose to be non muslim by his free will?? But for him there are no Muslims and non muslims as per his religious book.. According to him there be only good and bad people and he may be a very very good person, so what is his sin here? Or is it a sin that he didn't read quran??
6) And if Muslims wish acceptence, respect,Iove, kindness,job, help, respect, favours from non Muslims,here Muslims don't see non muslims as sinners and are happy to receive all but when matter of marriage and acceptence arises, religion comes into picture??
7) If Muslims say marrying a non muslim is a sin, will Muslims accept a non muslim who thinks similarly that marrying a muslim is sin for him as per his religion??
8) who is better in the eyes of God ? A muslim with 1000 sins or non muslim with 1000 good qualities with no sins??
9) why will God punish a muslim women if she marries a good non Muslims who may be 100 times better then her and if she is becoming a better human being with that non muslim in comparison to bad muslim who may abuse or insult her and drag on to injust path??
10) Does god think like human, like how parents say to their children, I am your parent you must listen only to me,and must follow my ways otherwise I will throw you out of my home , is God also like this??
11) Is God so soo self centred that he says, oh you worshiped an other God,, I didn't send you to earth to worship other gods.. Therfore I will sentence you to hell for not having recognised me or worshipped me???
12) Has God created us and sent us to earth only so that we sit and preach and pray him alone, is that why he sent us to earth??
13) Can God say oh man you are superior, so I grant you can to have 4 wives but try to make justice, but oh women, you are suppose to have just one husband??
14) Can God say man is more intellegiant then a women and therfore man shall be the Wali of women, in charge and women shall abide by her Wali and marry only after the consent of Wali? And can the true God say like this?
And where is free will to women here if her choice is so restricted and are Muslim men the only good poeple on earth who can full fill women's desires??
Can God say to man, since you are more intelligent, you don't need any body's consent to marry??
15) Where is it written in quran that only muslims are belivers of god, only muslims are chaste, righteous and therefore only they can be good husband's??
How will you feel if your were told your religion is wrong or you are sinner or marrying a muslim man or women is a sin and therfore become Christian, Hindu, or likewise because my book says me to do soo, so please convert so that I can marry you or please convert because this is only religion of God and truth ?
how can anybody conclude that other religions are inferior then Islam?? And will muslim accept if others says Islam is inferior to their religion?? Don't give text book pages of quran of self claiming to be the best..
Since Muslims don't read Bhagwat Geeta or towrah or Bible, can God sentence them to hell?? If not, why does that same god sentence non muslims to hell for not having read Quran??
Regards..
So thats it then? i have to leave him? the guy whom i loved for 10 years.
Anny Han Woow !!.Does your parents know it ?
Gabriel Alves Yes they does.. And they r ok with him. Actually my dad is fine but mom wasnt.. Now both are ok with it and i found that my religion is not. 😢😭
Anny Han Did you left islam ?
Gabriel Alves No i didnt left islam. And i wont.
Yeah, just ask someone to change religion should be simple. :P
You can marry if she's in a muslim country Don't marry if he's in a Christian country because christian country you can not get fair justice