What no one tells you about living in Korea (racism, r*pe culture, dating)
Вставка
- Опубліковано 6 бер 2021
- Hi everyone :)
I’m back with a video talking about what it’s REALLY like living in Korea long-term.
Again, I love my country and I love being Korean and my intention isn’t to scare anyone off about coming to Korea nor is it to diss my own country!! I hope to bring more light on some topics that are considered “problematic” that people may find challenging to overlook if they fantasize the culture and country. I hope in doing so, it may spark some great conversations and bring about societal change.
My DMs are always open to talk if you ever need to talk or have any questions!
💗
Instagram: @siennahong
/ siennahong
Tiktok: @sienna.hong
vm.tiktok.com/ZMerMvt7N/
every country has a dark side but what bothers me is that many refused to believe Korea has a dark side of its own, thanks to k-drama and k-pop, they genuinely believe everything is as "colourful".
Exactly but even in kdramas they talk about these cases of weird guys, racism and the sexualisation of women and foreigners etc. Ofc not all kdramas but many I've seen yet people ignore it and thinks it's fake
@@bye5212 could you tell me what some are called?
@@litzypinto6760 Itaewon class is one that deals with racism, trans/homophobia, misogyny, xenophobia, and toxic age hierarchy in Korea. Another one is SKY castle which deals with the toxicity of the school system and also classism. Those are a couple of the more popular ones if you're interested in checking them out
That's because them fools are in denial. They rather to deny the truth in order to heed to their own fables and lies.
@@litzypinto6760 Honestly there is a level of classism, racism, sexism, etc. in every single one. Lol I’ve been there myself and it’s a strong undertone carried by everyone to not care about people who are different. Only when you get to know them personally do you become an actual “human.”
"Not every [Korean] guy is trying to make you a main character of whatever drama you're fantasizing about." lol well said!
LOL thxx
Loool
People need to here this!! too much fantasy and not enough realism!
XD
Right on the money
I live in paris and it's crazy how people don't want to talk about the crazy/dangerous/miserable parts of living in these romanticized countries/cities. Like Paris is dirty as hell, public transportation is packed/unreliable, theres crime, and lots of homeless people with mental disabilities that harass you, and people never want to hear about it and then get here and are incredibly disappointed.
I noticed the lack of actual French people.
@@crackedhammer4612 This again.. The problem is not the ethnicity of people, Adolf, it's neoliberalism and its promotion of wealth inequality that leads to poverty and crime.
@@Kareragirl never said anything like that. Just pointed out that there’s a lack French people
Issue is that most people now know that about Paris (riots, etc.) but with Korea it's still being romanticized to a huge degree. And things like racism can be very subtle and psychological hurtful more than a physical danger.
@@crackedhammer4612and he’s pointing out that this comment is about “issues of paris” to which you piped up about “lacking french people”. Don’t have us spell out what is wrong about what you are saying to you when you should know exactly what is wrong.
K-wave made Korean guys so proud of themselves that they think all female foreigners idolize and fantasize dating Korean males. No, they're not. Thank you for giving this insight and warnings to people.
That's true
I agree. I was even told by a Korean man to stay away from a Korean girl who liked me. He did not want want me to infect Korean women with my foreign STDs. I was like: uh..???? STDs is not a racial thing. You either have it, or you don't. Chlamydia, Gonorrhea and HIV doesn't care about ethnicities. I'm from a country with extremely low HIV rates in Europe.
Yes they do. But the fantasize that Korean Men are like K-Drama and when the hit reality then they know that everyone is the same, there are good and bad people in all countries and that's it.
@@SPC2000 No, not all foreigners fantasize dating ANY Korean males. They only fantasize dating their K-Pop oppas (artists). Some friends of mine fangirling their actors/music artists, but they know what's real and what's not. I do get your point though...
These dudes looking goofy with all their makeup thinking they're BTS
A male Korean youtuber in one of his videos said: "Korea had rapid economic growth BUT NOT SOCIAL"
I saw some vid and they equated it to the economy is 21st century and the social stuff is stuck in the 1950s currently in South Korea
ABout social, that is true remember that this country before 1950 was the second most poor country in the world, they improve the economy because they have a lot of help of United States, but about the social they think like people of 3000 thousand years ago, they are like kind of savages, they in the occidental world like too see like smart and polite people, but mostly are rude ignorant, and just think in money, don't forget in Korea is full of prostitution
@@joik3308 you hit the nail squarely on the head. Technological advancement that the West achieved was a result of alot of social pre-requisites that developed over centuries as well as the composition and culture of the people themselves. The Far East in a sense cheated their way into achieving the same technological level without the pre-requisites required to attain it, thats why there is such a paradox between the technology and culture.
Yes.. this is true.. but they are still a very misognistic society. Men rule . I watched a video yesterday about some guy being slapped thrice across the face by his boss (in real life.. not kdrama) ... the explanation is that South Koreans are taught from young to respect, not to backchat, to take punishment .. and then one day they just snap and that is where this "violence" eminates from and hence it is across the culture.
(Neo-)Confucian traditions and virtues are deeply imbedded in korean culture and thinking, especially when it comes to the treatment and perception of women.
im so tired of people worshipping japan and korea as “perfect” countries without acknowledging that every country (yes, including japan and korea) has their dark sides.
exactly
@@niini01 same, I love Japan, absolutely, but at the same time I'm very vocal on the reality of it that never gets talked about
omg yeeeeessss like ok i looove them too but do ppl realize how hard it is to livd there and adapt to their culture and their INSANELY SKY HIGH standards
What is wrong with the Japanese culture?
@@dankosoul can you explain? I try to tell ppl about the harsh work culture, ingrained sexism, and intense racism. What did u notice?
I live in the Netherlands, I have met amazing Korean and Japanese people and I have always looked at them as very polite and kind people but they told me how it really goes down. How much hate and jealousy there is, competition, gossip, racism etc. Korea is just being way too romantisized as you have said, while a lot is literally made.
Why do you think it is like that culturally? Is it the hyper capitalism?
@@mckitty4907 I definetely think it is hyper capitalism and high expectations. This is a big problem all over the world btw. Just having a simple job/career or being a mom who stays home are frawned upon and everything just needs to be more and more. But I think countries like the Netherlands, Sweden, Denmark try to maintain a more healthy work/private life balance. Excuse me for the long explanation 😀
I used to have a pretty high opinion of South Korea. But recently I read various Korean books (for example, the Korean writer Yi Munyeol), learned about the highest level of sex trafficking and saw stories like the Nth room case. I don't think South Korea is a developed country anymore.
@@mckitty4907 cut the socialist bs here
capitalist bootlicker@@TingTong2568
I was born on a military base in South Korea in 85. My mother is Korean and my father is Mexican American. As a child i experienced racism, sexual abuse, and bullying/body shaming. A lot of times I feel like some ppl would assume I didnt speak or understand Hangul and would talk crap right in front of me. There were also those that didnt care if I spoke or understood Hangul bc they were going to give their opinion anyway. I cant tell you how many times someone would tell me "you'd be so pretty if you lost a little weight" or "dont play out in the sun so much, your skin is already dark" I read ppls comments about how they lived in Korea and never experienced racism and I wonder if those ppl spoke Hangul bc I know, someone probably said something racist about them but they probably never knew bc it was said in a different language. K dramas paint all Koreans out to be polite and respectful, dont get me wrong, yes, there are a lot that are but some of them can be so rude!
Something I feel like no one brought up are the short tempers that are so common among Korean ppl. My Mother vowed never to date another Korean man after her 2nd marriage bc her ex husband had the worst temper!!! I understand why the women blow up, I would too if I was treated the way they are but the men? I dont understand it!!!
Something needs to change.
Just because a country is developed doesn’t mean that the people are
just came to say, your mix of korean/mexican-american sounds like a dream!
When most people just do their own thing and pretending not to see or care when things happen, and then you have situations where they criticize or shame body size or shape. I thought people just care and mind their own business, why care of body shape..?
You sound like a very strong, admirable woman.
UA-cam and net are full or "horror stories" of North Korea, but that's the real horror story and it's originated in South Korea. I am from India and I know a good lot of Indians faced the same crap when they visited South Korea. Blockheads that believe in net crap regarding "North Korea horror" should read this and react.
It isn’t just the significant racism that bothes me- it’s the bullying. I’ve read cases of literal kids torturing other kids. To me that isn’t bullying but attempted murder.
Why would you NOT expect racism from a homogenous culture like Korea? They have very very few people living there from other races, and most of what they've seen were young American Military who don't always act very well no matter they're race. Have you been there? I've lived a total of almost 6 years in Korea.
@@piperp9535 how was your experience?
@@khushboogulati2130 That's an amazing question. I wish I had the time now to give it the answer it deserves. I really enjoy Korea, my wife is Korean, her family has been so very accepting of me, and our Children. We all love our visits there, and one of my nieces came to live with us and go to school here. I did have an experience where I thought a young girl was being racist towards me, but looking back I realize she was just too shy to try and speak with me. It was too much to expect of a stranger in a very public place. But these people here who think Korea needs to change are being silly, until Korea has a large population of another race, it's just not a problem needing a solution. It's the same everywhere and that's just how people are.
@Rusty Dusty i dont think thats what they meant. not all bullying is namecalling, a lot of it is physical
@Rusty Dusty did you miss the part where they said kids were getting tortured or...
I think its time as women we normalise pretending to know each other when we see another women in a bad situation just walk up and go, “hey, how are you? its been so long, wait… I wanna show you something I got.. can you come with me?” cause honestly as women we are struggling in almost every country and it‘s scary.
Yes
In a guy but that's a really great idea!
Absolutely agree!! If I ever were in a situation like that, I would without hesitation help a fellow woman.
honestly i have only seen women help women, men usually only care if they find you sexually attractive, which is gross
@@DKMetcaIf you know damn well you're lying....
As a Korean who hasn't been back in ages it just makes me sad how the country has changed but not for the better.
It’s only a sub culture.. don’t sad don’t let those bad people define. You or korea ( as long as it’s addressed and fixed)
All countries has this problem
@@npcimknot958Wdym??? It’s THE culture not a subculture lol. Stabbings and violent assaulters being let out of prison after mutilating a little girl years prior. Said man is protected like crazy as well. Their new president won because cause his raging misogynistic behavior.
I am a Korean male and I absolutely detest the rape culture of Korea. It really is the dark underbelly of Korean culture that you almost never hear about on UA-cam channels. So I applaud you for speaking out, thank you thank you thank you.
It'll be an immensely helpful thing if you speak out about it too. Whether it's Korea or another country, men don't speak out about such things. Men don't really listen to women at all, so it holds more weight if men hear it from other men. It's a frustrating reality, but true.
@AniWho268 yes, I totally agree with you. I am a white foreigner and honestly I am scared of getting sexually assaulted while being there. I leave in a couple months for work. I am only going out if I have coworkers with me.
@@anyadarlingg Female coworkers right? I wouldn't trust the male coworkers either. If Korean women can't even get justice, imagine wanting justice as a foreigner.
@@AniWho268 yes for sure. Or I would be fine if there were guys also as long as there was one or two other girls atleast. I feel like having male coworkers (ones I am comfortable with) would actually make me feel more safe if I am going out at night. Because other men are less likely to approach you if you have males in your group.
@@anyadarlingg Yeah, I just mean be cautious, even if they're your coworkers. Yeah, true, it can be good to have male coworkers there so that others don't approach you. I do hope that you find a group of both men and women that'll look out for you. Good luck, and I hope you have a great time!
I think it important to call these assaults what they are - rape. Nothing wrong with the word, only the action.
I think it has something to do with UA-cam censorship. Your video is more likely to be banned or demonetised if you say certain words like r@pe.
youtube would not fancy that
@@folddealfeal2740 That also really sucks, as it seems like it also promotes rape culture, by forcing people to stay quiet about it, or to "disguise" it as something else. It's not right.
@@janetslater129 That's a real stretch. There's no grand conspiracy to promote rape culture by the evil patriarchy over here.
UA-cam's priority is ads and companies that advertise with yt do not want their brand to be associated with sensitive topics like rape. It's about money more than any ideological nonsense.
I didn't say it was a conspiracy, but not allowing to say a word for what it is sounds very fishy. What so wrong with saying the word "rape?" Yes, it is'a HORRIBLE act, and something no one should go through, but demonitizing it is a way of shoving it under it a rug, and pretending it doesn't exist.
I came too close to this issue. My ex was drugged while out with a friend she made jin Korea. She only remembers only drinking one drink. She woke up naked in a hotel room with her money and passport gone and could not speak any korean. She later went back to the club and crimescene, found people that said that men dragged her out that night but they were probably the men that planted the roofie in her drink and her friend probably was in on it too as she disappeared afterwards. Korean police did nothing at all and her case was just another police report. She later on had to get STD and pregnancy tests, luckily found they were both negative. It's a moment that she will never forget
Why consume depressants around strangers in a public place AND in a foreign country and not expect the worst to happen? 🤔
@@yggreuyri5822 She drank alcohol from the bar they had snuck in roofies and drugged her
@@meejmuas8686 yeah I I've understood what you've written perfectly I think. So why do people do that or voluntarily take that much risk again?
@@yggreuyri5822 From her point of view, it was going out with a friend at a bar and having drinks on her vacation. It's usually a normal kind of outing
@@yggreuyri5822 Wow. This video and comment are about rape culture and how the police won't take cases like hers seriously... and the first thing you comment, is to victim blame her?? Seriously??
I dont care which country im in, im always helping girls in need. No exceptions wether i know them or not.
Im talking about obvious situations in which a girl is clearly sexually assaulted or in Danger. Im always going to stand up for other women no matter what. If everybody would have this mindset and do that we would be sooo much stronger❤
You have a good plan but remember WE MEN ARE THE PRIZE NOT YOU WOMEN! You like to do that to girls whether you know them or not, I am with you on this one.
From personal experience over a year ago I had something similar happen where I was convinced if I wasn’t there this girl would be kidnapped she was blind drunk and two lads were trying to get her into their car Togo to a “party” at the time I was drunk too stumbling around but as soon as I felt a presence of danger I sobered up sharpish no idea how because I was truly fucking sloshed but in the space of like 5 minutes I was sober this little rat kept his hand behind his back as if holding something in his pants my initial thought was a knife and his friend kept trying to get behind me but I could see this clearly and out of instinct kept positioning myself in front of the guy holding something behind his back while holding onto the woman eventually I made an excuse and said we had Togo so started walking the little rat kept following us all the way till we got to the house I told her to get in quickly so I could then handle it without having to watch her back she got in the house and I started to tell the guy to fuck off loud enough other neighbours could hear it lights started turning on and he was on edge his mate picked him up in the car and they sped off spoke to the woman to ask if she was ok and to call the police. Police didn’t come out even though they insisted they sent officers to search the area for the pricks day later I got a call from the officer about any updates told me they didn’t have any suspects and but they did have a car reg on that night while I was with the woman I started to do some investigating shit on FB and remember the little prick called his mate by his name so I typed in his name on Facebook and location of area and funnily enough there the prick was went on his friends list and there was the other guy told the police the names and what did they do? “That’s great we’ll definitely look into this”
Did they fuck nothing happened. To this day when I hear shit like this and the results of law enforcement it pisses me off to no end because if I had not been there this woman would definitely had been kidnapped.
This woman was also a work colleague of mine. Sorry for the vent but needed to get that shit out.
Just seeing this video. Thank you so much for posting! I definitely had a skewed perception of Korea through social media portrayal. It's videos like yours that bring everything back to reality. There is good and bad everywhere! We just have to be aware of everything when we visit.
You should put Korean subtitles on this so maybe Koreans can watch and get a reality check too
I'm afraid it might be a bad idea as it will lead to huge influx of Korean guys coming to attack her to defend themselves.
Edit : Don't be too naive to believe putting Korean subtitles will simply turn misogynistic men into accepting themselves and getting a reality check. They are criticized and not unheard of their own wrongdoings. It's just that they refuse to listen or make improvement. It is a video aimed at reaching foreigners who weren't yet informed about misogyny in Korea. Korean women already know much more about it than any other groups of people. We have our own tactics and strong separatist movements against them coz we know what works and what doesn't for them.
It’s nothing they haven’t heard, seen, been aware of before. They just make excuses and/or ignore it which is why these attitudes are prevalent. It would probably take a series of high level incidents involving famous foreigners/embarrassments on the world stage before changes occur
that's a good idea!
@@moremoney8981 I mean the truth hurts. Them hearing it and disagreeing is just like anyone getting a reality check, doesn’t mean they don’t need it. They obviously won’t like it but women in Korea also probably don’t like being put into a car while drunk and having no one stick up for them. So I really couldn’t care less if Korean men get a little offended🥺 boohoo
@@LP-ct9nk well this video definitely gave me a new perspective on Korean men and she said in the video that Korean women also never seem to stick up for other women so even if Korean men won’t change maybe this vid can be a reality check for Korean women to look out for each other a little more🤷♀️
I’m glad that she made this video especially because she’s Korean. Bc when foreigners make videos talking about what really goes on you’ll see many Koreans trying to come for their claims or say it isn’t true. Defending their country which, most ppl would want to defend where they grew up and where they’re from. Ppl the reality of every country needs to be talked about and Korea doesn’t exempt that. Many ppl gave a fairy tale of the country bc of drama’s and idols without realizing that fiction and reality are two different things.
Why are you guys in Korea then? Just go back to your own country lmao… don’t expect another country to change for YOU….
Yeah that is what I never really understood to be honest I always thought the US was pretty transparent. As much problems as we do have, everything is made public right down to Donald Trump shoving government papers down the toilet… Along with every crazy Florida man story. As much as we have problems we are transparent about them which those other countries are not.
@@Wingzero90939 yes America is very transparent with the problems and the reality of living there. Especially in these recent years. That’s why everyone or at least most ppl believe America is the only place with problems which is not the case. No country is a dream to live in and that’s just how the world works
Yes, what you say is true. Some Korean youtuber men who talk about sexual harassment and abuse in their videos. These Korean men have been studying or working for several years abroad and in different countries, so I think that thanks to that they are able to see sexual violence in Korea from a different perspective. These guys manage to be more thoughtful, more critical and clearly indicate that this is wrong and that they should be jailed because it is a crime.
"Most would want to defend where they few up and where they *are* from"
Oh really? People must be overly sensitive to defend a random place just because their mom pushed them out her body at a certain place.🤠
Yooo. You are super articulate and speak really well and you hooked my attention in three seconds. Thanks for shedding light into these issues. My wife watches a ton of KDramas over the past 2 years and we have learned a lot about some of the social issues. I know its mostly quite taboo. All countries have their ups and downs. Its just refreshing to listen to your perspective on what its like from the ground level. I know this would help a ton. Ive got a daughter so these things matter to me. Hey be safe and happy. Keep up the good work!
Thanks for being so brave in sharing your insights of Korean culture. Totally understand that you’re not trying to dissuade anyone from visiting or living there but it’s really helpful to get a perspective so that one’s not glamorizing what life is like there. Take care & sorry to hear that you had to learn some of this by personal experience.
I don't see enough people talking about the negatives about South Korea so it's good to see someone, especially a Korean, address them. I've brought up some negatives and talked about my personal experiences with racism and xenophobia in South Korea but I get dismissed, ignored or get comments like 'Don't come back' or 'One less African in Korea' 😐 (I'm not even African)
There are some wonderful things about South Korea but too many people romanticise the country and many Koreans feel personally attacked by any criticism so many problems don't get addressed or fixed :/
totally agree with you that more needs to be said about these issues, however, it is dangerous for her. If her channel grew and she became so popular that Koreans got wind of these videos, she would have so many people after her---the Korean netizens are vicious.
@@calkid31 Of course, Knetz are scarily patriotic 🥲 Ironic that they are the people that need to hear these negatives the most. If we didn't ever speak out because we were afraid of the potential backlash, we would never say a word, so I'm glad that she has 💯
yup, korea is so romanticized 🥲
Frequent activity in Asia, the funny thing is historically Asia has no historical beef with blacks, but got kicked around and bullied by whites.
But for some reason they worship whites and despise blacks.
yea, shame on the ignorant fools who ignore or insult you for speaking out.
I don't know why some people are rude to her. She is describing a problem in her country which she has a right to. It doesn't mean she is denying that it happens in other countries.
She is just warning ladies to be careful.
Exactly
It's always like that, when you calk out other people's BS.
she makes excuses for the racism
Also warning people that are not East Asian and not white people since they are racist to brown and black people in there.
@@goodbye6676 Yeah, I was really disappointed she didn't go into the deeper history of Korea and where this attitude comes from. My guess is going to be colonization and Christianity melding with a feudal society. But without that background she makes it sound like Korean men are just monsters for no reason. It's really kinda cringe the way she orientalizes her own people.
Thanks for making this video. I’m moving to Seoul next year and excited for it but will definitely be taking all this information on board
I’m so sorry you’ve experienced those things. You’re 100% right, that’s not okay and I commend your courage in talking about this topic. Keep doing your thing lady! 💕
Thank you so much!
Aside from the extreme racism and sexism something that really bothers me is how tormenting people mentally and emotionally is normalized culturally and socially. It's so disgusting and messed up.
What do you mean by tormenting mentally and emotionally? How do they do it?
@Madison Kim BLOODY HELL
@Madison Kim Just their reaction to your answer, they were understandably shocked
Not speaking about Korean Culture but yeah I hate that, I also hate it when they justify it by saying you are weak so you deserve it, then when you fight back and show that you are much much physically stronger and are smarter, they lose their shit and call you a bad person, a cheater, try and change facts that it was not a fair fight, you where the aggressor all sorts of things, even when it was 2-3 of them vs 1. Basically they want to put people in a box and when reality does not match what they made a snap judgement about they cannot handle it, even when they have the evidence staring them right in the face, they have to maintain their veil of ignorance otherwise their fantasy world crumbles. They feel safer in a hierarchy where there is always going to be someone else at the bottom, regardless of merit and ability.
stay away from toxic people, stay away from little kids clubs, don't be afraid, don't be scared of saying hi and smiling, surround yourself with successful mature virtuous people. It's really not that hard people.
I agree with everything you're saying. I'm a black girl that was living in Korea until recently. I had to move back recently but everything you said is basically what I experienced in Korea. I wasn't allowed to get certain jobs because I was black. I was told I had a good attitude for a black girl. Dating in Korea for me was horrible and humiliating. I was constantly fetishized as well but men never took me seriously. It was an overall horrible experience.
Im sorry to hear... ☹️ Did u had to move back cause of how people were treating u or other reasons? Thanks
I'm so sorry girl❤
🤣🤣😂
I am so sorry 😢
yeah I had the same experience in China, I was fetishized constantly and guys were so gross to me. And I wasn't even going out at night it happenend in broad daylight!
Sienna, YOU have chosen the type of person that you want to be. You are learned, intuitive, compassionate, and well-balanced. I look forward to being a New Subscriber to your channel.
I'm so sorry you experienced the things you did. You are gorgeous and seem super kind. Thank you for sharing 💜
I’m visiting Korea right now and 4 days in I went to Hongdae to go to the club and you’re right people really don’t want to intervene. A girl spilled a guys drink and went up to her face screaming and people just left. The only ones who pulled him off were foreigners and he instantly changed his tune. Speak up people!
The answer is there is none It's virtually impossible for human beings to get along and accept each other on face value. This is some dreamy nonsense that religion pushes.Its not going to happen if the world goes on for more years than the dinosaurs have been gone. It is not good for sure, especially the look the other way of rape.That is just not a tolerable atmosphere. Don't expect social growth in Korea or too many other places in the world or in our own country. Its just not meant to be and that all too it.
ill take 500 on things that never happened
@@joebrees3073 benefit of doubt
@@joebrees3073youre a crybaby
@@joebrees3073 this sounds realistic. I’ve seen shit like this happen way too often. There are stats to also back this up.
Edit to add: I’m not debating reality with you. Though since you never experienced something doesn’t allow you to deny the existence of it actually happening to others. To deny the reality others go through would make you an absolute fool with a big head (and nothing in it).
K-Drama's do give the impression that people are very respectful there. Kudos to you for exposing the culture of sexual assault and the lack of respect and support for women in this area. Evil flourishes when good people do nothing! Hopefully, more people will stand up and say it's wrong and evil!
i would definitely respect korean women way more than the disgusting woke women from the west.
They are respectful relatively. But don't idealize them too much.
So you believe one single opinion? Fool😂
I have lived in Korea and most western countries and i can tell you Koreans or eastern Asians for that matter are generally respectful.
Most of them are respectful, i love the people's and the country and have so much respect for the history of Korea. Bad and good things/habits are all over the world!
Thank you for speaking out about these matters. You are a gem! You are educating people around the world and you're opening the minds of koreans to be aware of what's wrong with the korean society.
Props for speaking up about the unfortunate realitys about your country. That really shows the strength of your character and conviction to speak up, so others may join. Although we can't control the actions of others, you are doing your part by spreading awareness to others. Also your willinness to take time and listen to and be there for others is very kind and heart felt. You are truly a beautiful person on the outside but also on the inside 💜
It's super refreshing to see a person of Asian/Korean heritage, actually calling out the issues within the culture and calling for accountability.
Simply accept korean culture🤷🏾
She is so bias and Nagative about Korean culture.
Obviously she never been to Japan because if you go to Japan it's even worse.
And the reason she put out for things like that happens are not true. It's either she doesn't understand them correctly or she just have too much hate about Korean culture and feels everything about it is gross and gets emotional
@@soacker25 so when Koreans go to America and then complain about racism, should they be told to accept that? South Korea is a country that interacts on an international scale, there should be more accountability about discrimination but there doesn’t seem to be.
@@justine5804 I haven’t been to South Korea yet. I will go in the future to see for myself but I have heard stories about racism so much there. Even your own TV shows have mentioned it so it must be something that happens within the social culture. There have been a great amount of racist experiences that have been described to me or sexual assault cases. I’m from America, so trust me, I’m not judging South Korea or pointing a finger because I know my country has LOTS of issues as well BUT the difference is, in America there are ways to go about seeking justice and forcing people to correct their errors. Discrimination based on race is illegal in America but in South Korea, restaurants and clubs can literally say “No foreigners”….but when Koreans travel to America, they don’t expect to be treated that way. If a store or restaurant in America said “no Koreans” the world would lose its mind.
I know these issues take place in other Asian countries as well but saying something like “it’s worse in Japan” is dismissive. Just because it’s worse somewhere else doesn’t mean the problem shouldn’t be addressed or fixed in the country that is currently being talked about.
Don’t get me wrong, I’ve always wanted to come to South Korea and visit. I’m fascinated by the culture and the food, I LOVE bulgogi and kimchi etc but I think if we talk about the issues and address them, we can make things better everywhere.
@@justine5804 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼true
As a Korean who’s been abroad pretty much my whole life. I’ve been through some shitty situations. The usual Asian slurs. Whatever. But it’s just appalling to see how xenophobic and bigoted my own people are towards others. The blatant discrimination and the bystanders who don’t take action. The fetishization of white people while they look down upon every other ethnicity (even their own). The horror stories I hear from exchange students and expats are abhorrent to say the least. Korea needs to catch up culturally. We aren’t a hermit kingdom anymore.
You spoke facts!!!
As someone who has worked in various countries, including Korea, I fully agree with you! Unfortunately Korea is first world technological but with people of 1980's mindset. If they don't want their country's economy to mainly be supported by chaebol companies which encourages corruption, they need to be more open minded to let in more MNC's and be less xenophobic.
💯 EXACTLY THE SAME IN THE PHILIPPINES!! 🇵🇭 IM a Filipino living in the Philippines but Born in the US. You won't believe how absolutely accurate this is for my country too! Just gotta switch the pronouns! My god.
Ive lived in korea & i loved it & every country has its meh & ew sides obvi & all the points you mentioned are definitely it
How is it appalling? You since you were born you were taught to hate other except the white race. But you go online an act as if your shocked by how hateful your people are.....hmmmm Stop it
Surprisingly real talk. Good for you. As a foreigner here, it's very touchy for me to say anything, but the incidents of domestic violence is really high, too. That's directly from the news.
As a Korean male I agree 100% with everything you have said. Worst part is that this stuff is so normalized (cause everyone does this) that the authorities dont see it as an issue (i.e. rape victims are easily dismissed). Be especially mindful of the nightlife there as most Korean males there will be thinking on the lines of "If you're not here to hook up why are you here?". I would also like to suggest any foreigners travelling there to try and not get into conflict with a Korean citizen as the law will not be on your side. Be aware but dont be afraid as it is still a wonderful country to visit.
Thank you for your input!
Thank you 🙏
A wonderful country to visit? I don`t think so.
@@lordjim3109 it is even if some things aren't good
The classic male entitlement towards anything a woman do is the most frustrating thing.
Last time I checked RAPE IS ALWAYS WRONG. It's a good policy to stay out of countries where rape is a hobby. One has to ask what is wrong with men???? Yours is not the first video I've seen on this subject. Australia 60 minutes did a whole program on how common gang rape is in Korea. It seems like a terribly sad insecure culture, where conformity is the mindset of the herd. And I experience the "bystander syndrome" here in Hawaii. The first week I moved here I saw a nasty car accident where the offender took off. The girl whose car was hit was damaged and everyone just stood around looking like zombies, doing nothing. So I ran over to her to see if she needed medical help and called 911. I was in shock because where I come from, Boston, everyone rushes to aide or help. Not the case here.....just saying. It really helps to understand the mindset in advance,no matter where you go.
Advantages of being in America
That’s not really anyway to look at other countries at all and last I checked Boston is among the most racist cities in the US, grass is greener my friend.
@@ericktellez7632 Bro, dats a big FAT lie.
@@Supermodel2020 100 bucks says you are wrong my boy
@@ericktellez7632 1,000 bucks says 1. u hav NEVER been to any country outside the US and dont even know anything about world geography. 1, 000 bucks says u may not recognize the names of over half d countries and regions on the planet. Wanna bet?😊😎
Thank you so much for speaking up! You seem like a really amazing person! Thank you, thank you for keeping it real.
Very important video, thank you. It's scary that only now I come across this, I had no idea about the situation. I hope they keep bringing attention to such serious matters and spread the awareness on thime.
I'm from the UK and whilst I was travelling in Australia, a South Korean guy at my hostel approached me and asked to hang out. He was travelling alone and he was trying to make friends with people. His English wasn't very good and I could see that he struggled to start conversations with other people. I wasn't attracted to him but I did want to help him make friends. He suggested on the first day we met that we go to a nearby pub. When we got there, he insisted that he buys me a pint of beer. I declined his offer and repeatedly told him that I don't drink alcohol (I dislike the taste of alcohol) but he bought me a pint of beer anyway. Over the corse of an hour, I took several sips of the beer to be polite but he kept insisting that I drink more. Then when we were leaving the pub, he pointed to a bench outside in a quiet area as he wanted to chat some more. Just as we both sat down on the bench, he forcefully PULLED my head towards his for a kiss. It was aggressive. In shock, I quickly ducked my head and asked him wtf. His personality suddenly changed. He shouted "I bought you beer!" whilst looking very angry and entitled. I tried to explain to him that I wasn't interested in him and that buying me a beer doesn't mean he gets to do anything to me but he didn't understand my explanation and walked off angrily. I was always confused by the fact that he truly believed buying someone a pint of beer is a trade for sexual favours. Now I understand, from watching this video, that he probably believed the false stereotype about Western women. Thank you for the video 🙂
I don't pick sides but maybe you were misleading him and not know it. For example my wife, she way too kind and everytime we go out or she does, people are always asking her out because once she starts talking, you can't stop her. Me and her friends all agree that she's has a flirting personality and she disagrees to this day.
@@virtuaguyverify Well I'm the quiet type and people often describe me as shy (I'm not actually shy, I just usually don't have a lot to say 😅). If it was the case that I mislead him, he must be misled by every single woman on Earth who has ever spoken to him 🤷🏻♀
@@virtuaguyverify "I bought u a beer"thats not being mislead that's being a entitled bit**
In most Asian countries, even those who are generally less racist and really friendly the perception about the sexuality of people from western countries is skewed. Most immediately will generalize that if you are from a western country, regardless of race you are more likely to be sexually active. Which is kind of true but that stereotype they have is because of the sex tourism in Asia. So they all automatically think we’d be down for s*x easily and casually even if it is by force. Not all believe this but most do because of Hollywood and western media
omg that's horrifying, i'm so sorry. Note to self and others: never drink something that someone keeps insisting you should drink, especially if you've just met them (or they have beef with you lol)
My first year here was very awful, man followed me home, calling me sexy on the street or trying to lift my skirt in public (I only wore it once 😭). I even found the door of my house open in the middle of the night like 3 times (I hope nothing really bad happened to me).
That was creepy... We thank God you are safe now.
Be safe.
If you feel that your a target for The bad not the Korean men . I advice you to get the hell out and go home.
Gurl u need to move out from that city as soon as possible and try to live with roommates next time when you're moving out And please try to choose high security apartment be safe
you didn’t call the cops on him?
Thank you for being so honest and helping people. Please keep it up.
Take care
Woah, so important that you speak up! Not only so that woman gets warned, but so that people who do such horrible things know that not everyone is afraid to speak up or even think that thats okay.
You earned my fellowship 🙂
I cannot allow for a guy (s) to take a drunk girl "home". I have interfered quite a few times in New York to make sure a girl that I don’t know get to her home safe. I don’t play that shit and I don't care what race you are. You will get home safe on my watch. Period! Thank you so much for telling the dark side of SK. I've been watching a lot of true crime stories that happened in SK and it ain't cute. Quite horrific!
thats great.i think u should continue this good act of urs. u deserve billion likes for this comment.Wish u a happy life.
Doing God's work. Thank you for being a good person. Take care.
Thank you for being an amazing and decent human being. ❤
@@soramshaberi2004 and if those guys were her friends?
You've probably killed a lot of potential relationships
In college, I lived in international student housing with mostly Korean men. As a Southeast Asian and a woman, I cannot emphasize enough how much this experience soured my impression of Korean men. I still know several lovely respectful Korean guys, but those are the ones who had deep early exposure to other culture (gyopos, guys who grew up abroad, Queer guys who seek out progressive media). The guys who were born and bred in Korea were so disrespectful to women and got away with it because the media shaped their impression as a handsome charming Korean man.
If a woman was pretty to them, she would be sexualized and (worst case) physical boundaries would be crossed. If a woman was not pretty to them, they wouldn't even be treated like a person. I used to think they were my friends. Then our English got better and my Korean got better, and without the language barrier I realized what their uncensored opinions are.
I'm not the type to stereotype so I would never write off a person for their nationality, but internally I can't help but be cautious when I meet a Korean man now. And I feel bad for any lovely Korean women who normalize this because they think it's their only option.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that... colourism is still a huge issue in Asia unfortunately. And yeah, it's sad to think korean women think it's how guys would "normally" react and as women they wouldn't have any other option when in fact the behaviour of those korean men is disgusting
Stop lying, you are chinese
@Karina the IT GIRL💫 no one said otherwise
Tbh I’m cautious with everyone… people are so messed up these days
My mom had very similar experiences with Korean men when she was younger and she is south Asian. It’s really sad to hear and I’m sorry you’ve been in these situations
stunning, articulate and well explained, sorry you have had to go through all that, wish more ppl would speak up and stop this shit from happening
Thank you so much for your honesty! Your willingness to tell things like it is will save a lot of people a lot of heartache and trouble that would have happened simply because of ignorance. God bless you!❤
see this is why I don't get how people think Korea is so safe. in countries where the gender gap is wide, gender-based violence is going to be higher. a country with many males having misogynistic thinking is going to lead to them viewing women as objects which leads to sexual harassment, violence, and so on. otherwise, if they thought of women as human, just like them, they would have more empathy and understand that women are people with thoughts and feelings that deserve respect. thanks for making this video to inform others!
Safe or low crime rate is code for severely underreported crime no where is safe at all. low crime is just severely underreported
I think the young open minded Who wants a change in Korea for women , They Should do something about it us women are not a object we should be treated like a lady and Korean man’s not all of them are like that but to the ones who look down on foreigners should not be looked down on and I don’t know if it’s true or not but some bloggers who are even Koreans say that in some clubs your not allowed in cause your a foreigners. What I never heard something like this so racist . What about if you are just a tourist who picked Korean to learn there culture and visit that beautiful city and are spending there hard work money they been saving for there vacation to Korea. They decide to go clubbing and find out your not allowed in cause your a foreigner.
I would not have a idea how to even think how to start but Social Media is a start.
Exactly, SK this country is so mysogynist, racist and homophones yet ignorant people genuily believe that omg its a safe place well not for women
Hopefully that the young generation will change this but for now their still a lot of hypocrisie all of those "men" grow up in a world were they make them believe that they are superior but on another level , when they are not, and women have to face this everyday for no god dawn reason we have to make a big change
What your talking about that issue is everywhere even in your place
IT IS NOT JUST KOREAAAAAAAAA IT IS THROUGH OUT ASIAAAAA
ITI S NOT SAFE,OK? SPECIALLY SO,FOR " ANGLO WOMENNNNNNNNNNNNM,THEY HATE THEM.!!
i feel like more korean celebrities should speak up about this issues considering their major influence within korea and internationally. but unfortunately even when female idols are suspected to be a feminist, they are attacked and put down for their views… there needs to be more people talking about these issues so more people can speak up about them
It's sad that they can't, they could lose their whole career if they do
I dont think they can, did you see the hate Naeun from apink got for having a phone case that said girls can do anything or something similar?
Anything feminist related or barely adjacent will be seen as anti men, as the most infamous types of feminists in korea are misandry leaning, so they assume anything feminist is anti men.
I think that is why they also never speak up about many social issues unless they regard children and are not super controversial. Like the one where that little baby was abused by her adoptive parents, and the one boat tragedy.
My country isn't as backwards thinking like this in terms of speaking up, but you can go a little into the rural areas and it could be very risky to even insinuate women are not slaves to men. So I can understand the fear especially if it is not socially acceptable to speak up about these things.
Most Korean celebrities (especially idols) are like products that are edited, beautified and monitored. They don't have a voice or opinion and many can't even tell you important things about themselves such as if they are religious or believe in certain things because that will make them lose following. An exception might be old idols that became established but even they are restricted. How can companies profit out of selling a fantasy human when their human lectures their fans on real-life problems?
The celebtrities don‘t have freedom at all like they can‘t even choose their own clothes or even be in a relationship openly so how can they speak up when they can‘t and will ruin their careers when they do
@@pearlcnrd or that vj and her mother who were forced to commit suicide basically by that one male UA-camr who attacked her for being feminist. Her mom couldn’t handle the hate her daughter was getting and killed herself and then the daughter VJ followed after
Thank you for making this very important video ❤
Wow, thank you so much for being so brave and honest of speaking up! I assume this is not the easiest and you might get a lot of haters. I'm grateful for people like you! I'll watch more videos of you!
Everything she talks about in the clubs in Korea is TRUE. When I visited Korea and went clubbing, I was groped ALOT. It was horrible. I have never experienced that much groping in a club and I’ve been to a lot of clubs. One guy chased us around the club trying to KISS us. One guy grabbed my hand and put it on his pe*is. I was literally dragged on the dance floor when I was trying to leave. I tried to stop a dude from taking advantage of a Korean girl but I was the only one helping her! It was ridiculous. Also side note: be aware of taxi drivers when its late because most will try to over charge you for the ride. Luckily i was with my mom and she knew what was up and called him out.
Women did the same to men in the club too.
@@nani_bow3489 I swear people only bring up women predators when women are talking about being sexually harassed or assaulted by men, shut up 🙄
@@nani_bow3489 and that’s not okay either, not sure why you couldn’t have made ur own comment?
Well DAMN!! Does no one know boundaries.
@@nani_bow3489 this person is a troll on here trying to downplay women’s problems and being very irate and trying to trigger people to reply to their comments. Just ignore the troll and the trigger here. They just want to tile people up in the comments and make a line of arguments...
Also about the teaching jobs in Korea, some got jobs at those high end parts of Seoul to teach english to kids there and were provided "housing", they say there were cameras in their homes, they were immensely mistreated and were basically told to stfu if they had experienced assault from their bosses etc so yep, no race is really safe when it comes to that in certain regions in Sk🙂
oh wow. Its crazy how different facts are from what is portrayed
I can't believe such can happen, such atrocities 🤮 should be disgusting.
If you were to die today, are you a 100% sure you will go to heaven?
If no, here is what the bible says,
(1) Romans 3:23 KJV [23] For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.
Q1. Do you know what Sin is?
Sin is anything bad that we have done.
Q2. Have you sinned before?
Yes or No?
(2) Revelation 21:8 KJV [8] But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.
Because we have sinned, and God does not allow Sin into Heaven, the punishment is burning hell.
What is the way to reconcile our peace and relationship with God?
Q3. Do you know the Story of Jesus?
(3) Romans 5:8 KJV [8] But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.
Jesus = God who lived up in Heaven, but he came down on earth and became a man like us, he lived for 33.5 years without committing any sin. Then there were certain people who were jealous and therefore framed him on phony charges, and crucified him. Then he was buried and resurrected on the third day; Now he lives in HEAVEN.
Q4. Do you know why Jesus went through all this bloody mess for us?
A4. As mentioned, our sin is the reason why we can’t go to heaven, and the only thing that can wash away our sin is the Blood of Jesus.
(4) Romans 5:9 KJV [9] Much more then, being now justified by his blood, we shall be saved from wrath through him.
According to the bible, the only way for us to reconcile with God is through Christ Jesus’s blood, and not through any works that we do or merits we accumulate, such as water baptism, attending church, or any good thing that we do. The following verses clearly support this.
(5) Ephesians 2:8-9 KJV [8] For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: [9] Not of works, lest any man should boast.
(6) 2 Corinthians 7:10 KJV [10] For godly sorrow worketh repentance to salvation not to be repented of: but the sorrow of the world worketh death.
In order to get saved, repentance of one’s sin is needed to get saved, we need to be sorry, and repent, with conviction, that we are a wretched sinner.
(7) Romans 10:9 KJV [9] That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.
If you truly do believe in everything you have heard in the gospel, ,I strongly suggest you to make a proclamation to GOD! You can say it to God in less than 15 seconds !Repeat after this simple prayer, to make sure you truly get saved. Remember repeating this prayer doesn't save you, it's you telling God you BELIEVE THE GOSPEL. Ok, here is the prayer :
‘Dear GOD,
I know I am a sinner, as I repent, I put my faith, that Jesus is GOD, and that he died, buried and resurrected, so that his blood, can wash away my Sins. I put my faith in that alone to save me, not my good works. In Jesus’s holy name, I pray. Amen!
Congratulations ! Now you are a child of God. Download /Buy a KJV bible (I highly suggest getting a hard copy bible , as one day, it will be illegal to buy, own or even have an online version of the bible) and search for youtube channels like Truthunedited, REAL Bible Believers , The Bible Project, AoC Network, Robert Clancy, Spencer Smith to help you grow , study dispensationalism to understand the bible ( How do we reconcile the verses in the New Testament that tell us that we need works to show our faith, and another that tells us that nothing that can take our salvation away? That's why we need to study biblical dispensationalism to rightly divide the word of God.( study to show thyself approved unto God, a workman that needth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth, 2 Timithy 2:15) (I recommend the dispensationalism video from Genesis to Revelations by Dr. Gene Kim, ua-cam.com/video/GI4CteEFxOk/v-deo.html) , join a bible believing church. God bless you brother/ sister ☺. See you in heaven one day!
are there any reputable articles I could look at about this?
Thank you for making this. I’m hoping to eventually plan a solo trip to South Korea, and this info was much, much needed.
I am so sorry for all the bad things you went through.
I love Korea and i wish to visit one day. I already knew about all these things, the black and white horses and so on ...
It is brave of you to make this video.
It is so crazy that many women think that its really like kdramas.
They just don't want to see the sad and dark reality.
Being careful and knowing the language is super important.
There are no more safe places in this world. Thats why its needed to stay with the head on the shoulders anytime.
감사합니다.
My latest Korean GF (among many others) would easily generalize and talk stereotypes about certain people groups, and I found that she did this because it’s normal for her to generalize about her own country’s people as it’s a mono-culture. It didn’t seem to compute that other ethnic groups, countries and regions, etc, are not monocultures. In this same line of thought, I find that Koreans don’t want to talk about their own cultural problems in a negative light because image is everything. Ignoring problems, however, is not going to help progress. Finally, you’ll hear Koreans say “ We developed a lot economically, but we still need to develop socially. We just need more time.” My comment is always that you’re not going to change if you don’t focus on what needs to change. Social progress doesn’t come naturally with economic development. That seemed to be the assumption though. (That it was destined)
I find it funniest when they generalize about India, for example. It's a huge, extremely diverse country. Beyond anything these guys imagine.
Im in Japan and I have to struggle not to roll my eyes because Japan is so homogenous, they think diversity is having one colour of ramen in a region, and a slightly different colour in another lol.
@@EmmaWatsonRocks1 oh ye i do think Japan and Korea have the same social issues. :(
Well said. 💜
The amount of Korean guys I've made friends with are either extremely ignorant and try to use their Korean ethnicity as a weapon to garner attention from girls, or extremely brutally honest and introspective about Korean people in general.
Just because something is considered “cultural” doesn’t mean that it’s a good thing or a bad thing. Here in the U.S. we have “ghetto mentality” and it’s plaguing the current generation.
my brother lived in korea for a bit. and one thing that kind of shocked me was when he told me that many of the male koreans he talked to were firmly of the opinion that once you are having sex and the woman wants to stop, you have the right to keep going. sorry, that is rape, there is no other word for it. it's weird how many guys apparently think that is completely fine
Those many of the male must be the uneducated ones. Tell your brother to stop mingling with trash. I lived in Korea for 27 years growing up, and I have never experienced anything like this with dating.
@@moonlitsky9321 79.7% of korean men admitted to beating their girlfriends. wanna explain how these 'trash men' are in a minority?
@@lesbiansforjeankirstein2026 unbiased here but I want to ask if you have a source for that
@@Mcpollo_Justdonalds I saw a source online. You should google it
He met shitty guys eww
Thank you so much for this video, because I intended to and still intend to visit Korea soon. I like that the directors of K--dramas do portray some of these issues in their tv shows and to me it seems like their main aim is to bring these issues to light and help distinguish them. Along with having a cool love story, their are lots of important points and morals.
I see your channel first time now. I lived in Korea for 2 years. Your advice is helpful to foreigners. Thank you
I literally was heart stricken when she was explaining “pull you into the car and everyone just minds there business”. You would think that people would help but they don’t, there just as disgusting 🤮 as the people trying to bring the person forcefully into the car 🚗. I hope as a world 🌎 🌍 people wake up and help one another and they reprimand these people that think 💭and act this way. Totally disgusting 🤮 hope this ends amen 🙏🏻
Same here man
I was watching some channel here on UA-cam and it showed how rape is a serious issue in Korea and Korean men like raping foreigners. And some lady said her friend was the one who raped her and most cases go unreported because of the language barrier
@@sekoaib police don't take it seriously
@@sekoaib That’s horrible I’ve honestly never been to Asia I’d love to go someday but wow 😮 what abhorrent behavior. That becomes a society problem were the government has to change and educate its citizens that this type of behavior is wrong and has dyer consequences. I hope 🤞🏻 they change this type of behavior really makes one cringe to see this happening in the 21st century and people just brush it under the rug 🙄 🙏🏻
I remember seeing a video of a couple pretending to fight on the street in South Korea, the man beating the women down to the ground, and everyone just kept walking. Seriously. Insane.
So true. I lived in Korea for 13 years. My wife and daughter are Korean. I was there when there were only a handful of foreign teachers, before the boom, so I've seen the rapid social and economic development and how these changes had an impact on Korean society. I taught at a university and a high demand for English professors and not enough supply to meet that demand, as well as my M.A. degree in English, made it easier for me to find work at the university. But yes, I did run into racism when it was between me (a Latino) and a white man for a position (I also looked for other work during the summer and winter breaks). White foreigners know this and understand this privilege. Many times it didn't matter if they were qualified or not; they had the look and that was enough. What I found interesting was the behavior of the westerners, how they felt privileged and immediately thought they were minor celebrities. Just to stay on the subject of racism (I can talk about so many things, both positive and negative), there was a man who owned an English language academy and employed a woman from Canada. The corresponded through the internet. All the paper work and visa were in order. The man went to meet her at the airport, as soon as she made it past customs, he saw her for the first time. He left her at the airport after realizing she was black. Sad story, but true. Imagine making a 14 hour trek and being stuck in a country where you do not speak the language.
Thanks for sharing. I did not know the racism was so big in Korea.
EVIL. Just because the woman was Black. Wow. Hope he is gets bad karma, if it exists.
What the actual fvck?
Horrible leaving somebody helpless just because you dont like his/her skin color, so racist.
He didn't ask for her picture before processing a visa for her
Thank yo for being realist ,does help a lot ,even tho it's been 2 years, it still relevant today . thank you
I have a great deal of Respect for the determination of all people to learn , experience and enjoy living. I was a soldier when I was in Korea, I didn’t have much time to experience the culture but I was treated well after people studied my behavior for a while. I started conversation and found common concerns and went back to the base. Over the years I wish I had more time to get around but still appreciate the exposure. There was some negative experiences but I choose not dwell on it, because it didn’t develop further.
As a young man of only 16 it disgusts me that men act as if women are objects and harass them. Apologies to everyone who had to experience such awful things. I have always made it my goal where if I see someone who appears to be in trouble to help, regardless of appearances, or anything else . That's very sad that such things exist in such a beautiful country and I hope things improve over the coming years. Much love to everyone
The world needs more people like you, thank you for being yourself. Also don’t mind the other commenter, I don’t know what he was on when he wrote that…
@@udontevenwannaknowbruv thank you lol
THANK YOU xoxoxo!!!!! I apprecitate your efforts, Yt Yt.
I was so happy to see such a comment.
Thank you for being so reasonable, I really appreciate your efforts and I hope that people will treat you as nice as you treat them. Tace care :)
I definitely feel you as a Japanese-American. People romanticize Japan so much, but there are harsh realities like these there too (racism, pedophilia, molestation.) No place is a perfect place to live, but it’s still important to research it before making any rash decisions.
North Korea is perfect
@@pleaseshutup7053 I bet everybody gets treated like shit there. easy equality solution right there.
@@pleaseshutup7053 shut up
Sounds like America tbh 😂
@@chainingten3819 its fucking everywhere honestly
It is 9:11 pm in USA . Just wanted to say you are awesome Much respect & appreciation. Thank you for being so generous . Fighting
How am I only finding this video now?! You did an excellent job explaining your personal toxic experiences and also reassuring everyone about safe travel
This video is so informative not just to women but also to us men. At least we would know how and when to protect our girl companions in SK. Or be aware of the racism. Thank you!
If you were to die today, are you a 100% sure you will go to heaven?
If no, here is what the bible says,
(1) Romans 3:23 KJV [23] For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.
Q1. Do you know what Sin is?
Sin is anything bad that we have done.
Q2. Have you sinned before?
Yes or No?
(2) Revelation 21:8 KJV [8] But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.
Because we have sinned, and God does not allow Sin into Heaven, the punishment is burning hell.
What is the way to reconcile our peace and relationship with God?
Q3. Do you know the Story of Jesus?
(3) Romans 5:8 KJV [8] But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.
Jesus = God who lived up in Heaven, but he came down on earth and became a man like us, he lived for 33.5 years without committing any sin. Then there were certain people who were jealous and therefore framed him on phony charges, and crucified him. Then he was buried and resurrected on the third day; Now he lives in HEAVEN.
Q4. Do you know why Jesus went through all this bloody mess for us?
A4. As mentioned, our sin is the reason why we can’t go to heaven, and the only thing that can wash away our sin is the Blood of Jesus.
(4) Romans 5:9 KJV [9] Much more then, being now justified by his blood, we shall be saved from wrath through him.
According to the bible, the only way for us to reconcile with God is through Christ Jesus’s blood, and not through any works that we do or merits we accumulate, such as water baptism, attending church, or any good thing that we do. The following verses clearly support this.
(5) Ephesians 2:8-9 KJV [8] For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: [9] Not of works, lest any man should boast.
(6) 2 Corinthians 7:10 KJV [10] For godly sorrow worketh repentance to salvation not to be repented of: but the sorrow of the world worketh death.
In order to get saved, repentance of one’s sin is needed to get saved, we need to be sorry, and repent, with conviction, that we are a wretched sinner.
(7) Romans 10:9 KJV [9] That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.
If you truly do believe in everything you have heard in the gospel, ,I strongly suggest you to make a proclamation to GOD! You can say it to God in less than 15 seconds !Repeat after this simple prayer, to make sure you truly get saved. Remember repeating this prayer doesn't save you, it's you telling God you BELIEVE THE GOSPEL. Ok, here is the prayer :
‘Dear GOD,
I know I am a sinner, as I repent, I put my faith, that Jesus is GOD, and that he died, buried and resurrected, so that his blood, can wash away my Sins. I put my faith in that alone to save me, not my good works. In Jesus’s holy name, I pray. Amen!
Congratulations ! Now you are a child of God. Download /Buy a KJV bible (I highly suggest getting a hard copy bible , as one day, it will be illegal to buy, own or even have an online version of the bible) and search for youtube channels like Truthunedited, REAL Bible Believers , The Bible Project, AoC Network, Robert Clancy, Spencer Smith to help you grow , study dispensationalism to understand the bible ( How do we reconcile the verses in the New Testament that tell us that we need works to show our faith, and another that tells us that nothing that can take our salvation away? That's why we need to study biblical dispensationalism to rightly divide the word of God.( study to show thyself approved unto God, a workman that needth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth, 2 Timithy 2:15) (I recommend the dispensationalism video from Genesis to Revelations by Dr. Gene Kim, ua-cam.com/video/GI4CteEFxOk/v-deo.html) , join a bible believing church. God bless you brother/ sister ☺. See you in heaven one day!
We should also be aware about misandrist culture in Korea where women like to make false accusation to men to destroy them.
@@nani_bow3489 that’s so messed up. Thanks for letting us know.
@@nani_bow3489 is it as big as a problem like in the US? Havent heard of this being really a thing in SK but nice to know ig
@@sonofaquack6987 you can read online on male idols in Korea who got destroyed by womens false accusation. There's actually alot
Saying it's "bad, but everyone is like that" just normalizes shit and unacceptable behaviour from men. Thank you for talking about the sexual assault and rape that are prevalent. A former friend told me he taught English with his ex in the early 2000s and the violence against women that's v casual in Korean society was hard for him, and this was a man saying this, which made me go holy shit.
Also in the west skinny bodies are ideal because the west's foundation is Europe. It's only Europeans and East Asians (afaik) who are into skinny women and skinny bodies as the goal. Black and Brown people generally prefer bigger women.
@Rusty Dusty Indians aren't the only brown people and when I say brown people I wasn't talking about Indians. Now go somehwere.
@@sparrowspotty As a brown person who is not Indian, that person was absolutely right. Why don't u go somewhere before spreading stupid information. If you didn't know much about brown people you shouldn't have talked about it. I do agree though that some things the other person commented were very unnecesary, and could've been worded way better.
@@MiMi-gk9et Y'all are annoying. I'm a Brown person who's not Indian and y'all just want to argue. Go argue with the mirror. I'm not interested. You can go somewhere too.
@@sparrowspotty Lmao ur clearly not very cultured because I have seen so many of my brown aunts (from different countries) body shame people for being too "big". Lmao and what makes you think this is an argument. I'm not interested either but I think it was harmless correcting someone when they don't have much information about a topic.
@@sparrowspotty lmao handled them
Thank you for being honest and sharing this info.
this content is extremely important, thank you for sharing.
Thank you for being so honest and transparent even with topics that are so sensitive and most just avoid and pretend it's not there
Tip for anyone who looks at the travel advisory warning on google before traveling: never trust their crime reporting. They only base their crime evaluation on reported crimes, so it doesnt include a lot of crime you might face especially sexuaI crimes which are rampant in many countries deemed "safe". For example, Japan is listed as one of the safest countries in the world but sex crimes are extremely rampant. They crime is almost never reported because japan has strict defamation laws that prevent victims from speaking about their abyuse even if they can prove it happened. Proof that the thing you are talking about happened does not exempt you from being sued for defamation.
So dont trust those. Talk to many people who have lived in the country instead and ask them what to watch out for
Bullsh * t
@Evelina1995 how’s your experience because I wanted to visit.
I'll tell you a story of a Korean guy at work. he likes to talk so much. we were working and he talks about how he proudly slept with a mother who was divorced right in front of our staff members who consisted mostly of young women so they were all grossed out and they should've reported that as violation against work policy.
omg that is so disgusting!
Trash 🗑 throw him in the trash loool
Wait I don't get what was wrong with what he did? Is it now bad to sleep with a divorced woman? Lol
@@Blues3088 It's not bad to sleep with divorced women. But it is bad to disclose your sex story in the workplace, especially infront of younger people from opposite gender.
@@Blues3088 he was using lewd gestures. so when hes not around, the conversation between the girls would go something like... was he watching me? he was? ewww. that's creepy. oh no I have to work with him tomorrow.
I appreciate you for speaking up this huge problem in Korea. Thanks for being brave as a Korean and also informing all of us !
Thank you for this information Sweetie. I am so sorry nobody defended you. All my love, prayers and hugs for you. ❤ May the Lord sent Angels to protect you! You are a warroir.
To sum it up, Koreans don't think being an alcoholic is a bad thing. All the issues you mentioned, just gets exacerbated with alcohol. Coming from a Korean woman, your video is very enlightening. Thanks for making it.
Alcohol and Drugs as well. There's a huge abuse of drugs to take advantage of women.
@@SPC2000 So what is the party/date rape drug of choice these days in Korea?
@@2GoodLookin crack-pop
that is false.
korea is one of the countries with the least drug consumption in the world. it is also incredible strict similar to dubai. if you get caught with weed as a foreigner you get deported and banned. as a korean you can get sentenced to prison time.
also, rape isn’t nearly as common. the same way as kdrama paints an unrealistic peaches and oranges picture, the same way the haters will throw hyperbole on the dark side of korea.
people with no experience can never be trusted.
I have lived in korea for over a decade and the only harassment I saw was sadly from foreigners thinking korean girls are easy.
koreans don’t think booze is a bad thing. just like the US, Europe and the rest of the world. they do drink stupid much, which is a problem but they also compensate as most koreans work out, go hiking and have an incredibly healthy, balanced diet.
rape isn’t a common occurrence in korea and is known to get the strictest punishment next to drugs.
I know this happens all around the world but it is sad to think alot of men go out to target women in Korea. Here in England I found that the odd man would be a pervert if they were drunk but not necessary if they were not. Been a while since my party days though!
The biggest suprise is that people don't step into help, In England I've found people are genuinely good at looking after people whether they know them or not.
Am desperate to come to South Korea, maybe I'll have my day when my children have grown up. I do like the respectful aspect of it in every day life.
Great video showing the other side of Korea. X
Good LORD it sounds like a nightmare for women in SK. Assaults seem to be a common theme on several conversations. Secret cams are also a huge issue.
Very interesting and enlightening! Merry Christmas!🎄🎄🎄
Thank you for this....we women really needed to hear this. It's a reality check that could save us if we ever decide to visit.
I am from Hong Kong. I can share this statement, "the more conservative the community is, the more wild thoughts there will be." I understand what you mean when you talked about nightclubs and I agreed with you education is the key. And this is the main reason why keeping yourself open-minded is crucial. If everybody was keeping up to themselves, you would or they would be giving some sick minded ones opportunity to do bad things and hide themselves.
True
You should move to San Fransisco, the very liberal community of junkies would welcome you
@@kanalnr1 It's funny coz I did live in SF before the pandemic. I was there for work. And yes I seldom went out at night back then.
i’m from hong kong too!
Interesting because the wildest people in the west are the people who aren’t conservatives
the funny thing is, although kpop and kdrama made korea seem like the perfect place to live, there are so many kdramas that actually frequently highlights the dark side of korea. so many school-based kdramas showed their bullying culture (which was really shocking to me initially as i never expected such bullying to really happen irl, i even thought it was dramatized), crime dramas showed how unsafe it could possibly be for women in korea, and many other dramas also showed how people easily discriminate against women who didnt fit their korean beauty standard. but yet while we watch these shows and commend the drama's efforts in highlighting all these social issues, we turn a blind eye to the fact that all these are actually very legit issues that makes korea not a colorful rainbow place to live in
True, but Kdrama are just shows produced by entertainment industry. Why would anyone take Kdrama seriously?
@@springer-qb4dv the same way the rest of the world takes American dramas seriously. I think more people out there are aware of the issues America has, not as many are aware of the issues SK has on the other hand. It's just a generalization btw but considering how globally popular America is, people just know more about things going on here
Nope, you have a lot of songs abd Kdramas that show how Korea is anything but that.
@@springer-qb4dv Truth is ppl are just selective of what they want to believe. Ppl these days have no problem believing and following tiktoks/ influencers because it boosts their ego and social standing. But when presented with complex social issues, no one really wants to speak up because it will ruin the fantasy of kculture and kpop in their head. What ppl don't realize is that like any other countries, Korea's good and bad sides aren't mutually exclusive and both should be acknowledged.
@@vunessuh Koreans have big fantasies about America. They also do not see America's shortcomings.
good on you for talking openly - I am going to travel to Korea next year so good to know to keep and eye out gong out in the evening.
Its great that you are trying to tackle this these subjects - your English perfect by the way.
I lived in Korea for 7 years. My wife grew up in Korea. Once we became pregnant with a child who was female we quickly moved back to Canada.
I loved my time there (mostly). But no way I'd raise a girl there when I had the option to raise her in Canada instead.
Canada is founded in judeo Christian values, which actually value human life and the vulnerable like women and children that’s why I wouldn’t live in Asian countries because of 1 communism and 2 social problems
@@sebbymemes8402 South Korea has one of the largest populations of Christians in Asia, not saying that none of them are hypocrites or effected by the culture, but maybe there are many that don’t engage in the predatory nightlife culture.
@@johnrooney507 facts
@@sebbymemes8402 like public sanity?
@@untizioqualunque9239 what is your main question??? I didn’t understand
Us women should look out for each other because no one else will!
Thank you for speaking up! This was great reminder for all of us. 💛
We definitely should!! Thanks for enjoying the video
Although I am a man, I empathize with women. Women empowerment is for making women equal with men when it comes to things that both must be equal.
Patriarchy was lurking around every corner of the world historically and we must eliminate the variable that is subject to abuse in patriarch days - the overpowering of the powerless.
@@jeezwitz3325 Nothing is equal, nothing is the same. Like it or not..
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. It's important not to be naive and to tell the truth about how things are.
In my early twenties, I was in Seoul for a short trip. After walking all day, I was pretty tired at night so I got on a bike taxi. It was winter so the compartment I was in was zipped up. The guy peddling the taxi had a friend riding a bike beside him. I couldn’t understand what they were talking to each other about but after a bit I suddenly started feeling very nervous about being in the closed compartment that was hard to get out of and insisted they stop so I could get off. I used to think I was being paranoid, but now just feel very thankful. (For context about my naivety levels at that point in time - it took a guy groping me twice for me to realize it was intentional and not just an accident in a crowded space)
I was almost kidnapped in Korea (not by a Korean) but I kicked the guy as hard as I could and ran into a grocery store (I spoke barely any Korean)… but the people in the grocery store immediately helped me and called the police to take down my statement and help me get back to my hostel. They helped me calm down because I was freaking out, and I was so grateful for the help and they took me seriously.
Interesting . what was the ethnicity of your potential kidnapper ?
@@__JASON__. Arabic
@@kristinagreenwood515 Arabic what?
@Jason had asked the ethnicity of the man
@@Ala100zpanfu She told me it was an Arab man who tried to kidnap her in Korea .
Thank you for this. I am Korean American and I lived in Korea for 3 years. I was shocked at how misogynistic and racist it was, and how it was so normal.
In your 3 years of living in Korea, have you ever experienced racism or assault
@@jaywhypeemom3980 clearly, no since she/he is Korean but probably did witnessed a lot of stuff.
Misandry is more common there than misogyny
@@darklaw7635 they live in korea i think theyd know which one is more or the other
@@gilnahnu oh they know but refuse to acknowledge
I just have to say, I’m so sorry for what you’ve been through, I’m a teen girl from England and I’ve had experience of being a victim of sexual harassment but what you’ve been through is something else! I can’t believe Guys have literally physically picked you up and tried to put you in their cars, those guys would be in court if it happened here. And the way you talk about it like it’s something you’re so used to is just so sad. You are so strong and doing such a brilliant thing by constantly speaking up about it!
Thank you for saying it like it is and not sugarcoating it. Everyone country has its pros and cons. It is better to know beforehand want to watch out for when planning a visit.
I live in Korea currently and and have for a long time. I am mixed (japanese/mexican) and I've gotten so many racist remarks and moved academies due to my boss openly hating me once finding out that I have Japanese decent. In Seoul, people think I'm Filipino and get a lot of remarks about that as well. 2 things that help me is definitely learning Korean and the second is knowing your way around apps. Korean will shut up any people speaking around you. As for apps, the amount of times people would try to rip me off was insane (mostly towards taxi services). Using apps for taxis and even some stores will save you a lot of money.
As a foreign male, I've also saved a couple people from grabby males. They will just pull you to them by your elbow to make you come drink or dance with them. Not saying hover people or that everyone needs to be saved but being available for just doing that whole "hey long time no see" and walk away with them if the girl wants that out.
amazing, you are an angel when you protect strangers
I’m American, and so far I’ve never left the country before, but one day I’d like to visit South Korea. It’ll probably be in the distant future tbh, but right now I’m curious about realities there. One thing being racism. I’ve grown up in a way that now that I think about it seems closed off; I was raised in a small town of only white Americans and Mexican Americans. I’m Hispanic, so I’ve only had those two inputs my whole life. Not much experience with other cultures in-person. That aspect concerns me because I may come off as naïve since I’ve never experienced blatant, face-to-face racism or even behind-your-back racism. I know my parents have, they’ve shared stories of being called a “stupid Mexican” n whatnot. Other than that, I am trying to learn as much as I can and readying myself I guess for real-world possibilities, so thanks for those tips 👍🏻
As a Filipino, I'm devastated we're heavily used as societal minority basis in SoKor. Although, there are some good hearted Koreans that truly appreciate my kinds, like Sandara Park.
The Japanese part is understandable. If you knew the history of how evil the Japanese were to both the Chinese and Koreans, you would know how the older Koreans who lived through World War 2 feel when they think of a Japanese.
@@chris_gangyi i know the entire history. But what does that have to do with me? My family fought in ww2 for america while the rest were put in internment camp. You dont see me talking about how all americans are evil. They even took our family farm and got almost no repiration for it. Didnt even get the land back.
I thoroughly enjoyed this video and insights, very informative! I'm a southeast Asian American guy from California who plans on visiting South Korea this year. After hearing your advices, I feel confident and equipped! Thanks for sharing your stories and experiences. You seem like a genuinely kind person, keep it up!
Glad it was helpful!
No one fucking asked bro
Hello. I came across your video by accident, I was researching Korean laws. I can see it’s an older video. It is impactful. I want you to know that women face this everywhere everyday. I live in the USA & I’ve seen a HUGE improvement in my lifetime. It’s called the bystander effect & it’s a serious problem. My best advice is lead by example. Fred Rogers said look for helpers. I have taken that on & decided to be a helper. I am a distributor. If I see a woman being mistreated by I loudly confront him. I draw attention to the situation as much as possible. Sometimes you are the only one. Never think that there is someone else who will help. I have found that when I help & make a scene others join in. You are already starting to “be the person.” Take pride in that. It can be contagious.
I went to Korea in May-2019 to experience the Spring. I was so excited to finally witness it since we don't have spring in the Philippines. We went there as a group and although I did not experience any racism, what I found out is their individualistic behavior. I'm not generalizing all of the Koreans but just basing this on my experience. Most of them don't really care and will only mind their own business. When we were in the Everland, a Korean mother with her child crashed the stroller without getting any help from the locals. The child was screaming and the mother was panicking, my immediate response was to help them but I don't speak Hangul, I literally had to say gwaen-chan-ah out of nowhere. My friend who was busy taking photos of the tulips that time noticed us so she rushed to our direction and help. Thankfully they're safe. That was a relief. Had to admit though, that was a disappointment. I keep thinking what will happen if I will get into trouble or any accident will they help me? My advise for travelers who's planning to visit Korea is to have atleast a tour guide or any friend that can help you. Familiarize the culture.
Thanks for the warning about how Korean's treat Filipinos, or Southeast Asians, in Korea. It's amazing, The Philippines was one of the first countries to send troops over to South Korea to fight the communists in 1950 and this is how Filipinos are treated and viewed. Filipinos, in general, are very forgiving and don't discriminate against Koreans when they live and visit the Philippines.
Plenty of people of all races and many nationalities died fighting for Korea. At least in France they appreciate what others did for them. I'm absolutely disgusted to find out that Koreans are racist when I have my Great Uncle's Purple Heart from dying for that country framed in my family room.
It probably has a lot to do with colorism. It's why koreans look down on filipinos who have darker skin and why soo many filipinos idolize people with lighter skin (like koreans and white people).
filipinos are genuinely some of the kindest people ever, such a humble country
@@amandaacruz 200%
@@amandaacruz kindest to white and East Asians only lol
Before I go into any country, I make sure to not have fanstastic expectations of the place. I expect that it won't be the same as the media makes it seem. A mindset like this helps me enjoy my time there, even if I experience something upsetting. I can brush it off easier and just go on my way.
I understand what you're saying but I feel like telling people to 'brush off' bad experiences under a video that discusses sexual assault and r*pe is extremely unhelpful.
Who would do that. A thought of just not everyone is nice person makes you realized not everyone will be nice and respect you. This happen everywhere
@@joisiemagee Yeah but it’s Asia this is to be expected, Equally the big three, China, Japan, South Korea all of them have horrible women’s rights records. With a lack of transparency that fails in comparison to the United States. As much as people bitch about the United States all of our records are made public that’s why we get crazy Florida man stories. Those same kind of stories about Japan, China, South Korea they never really come to light.
All you simply have to do is look at the countries criminal code and it’s a decent reflection of the culture. All of those big three make it pretty obvious you don’t have rights regardless of your gender but it’s even worse if you’re a foreigner or female.
@@joisiemagee nobody said to "brush off" bad experiences. He only said that's what he did
Yeah brush off rape. Ur thoughts r more disgusting than a rapist.
its is good that you talk about stuff like this and please never stop doing it.
all woman in korea should be thankfull and try to support each other more.
this is not just a random video - you are helping people by talking about it and so can everyone else.
Good on you for not downgrading all the s**t going on in korea! I kept on hearing youtubers telling their stories about stalkers in korea but then they’ll also say its super safe! Thank u for the warnings!