@@7i7ypvnchr.2aMen are focused on purpose and conquest. They don't really value love much anymore. Why do you think it's hard to see one that actually hold down a woman. Not that women are easy to deal with anyway lol
Boy, let me teach you something about girls, we don't sleep with that guy because we haven't been touched for so long...we sleep with him because we are also feeling the attraction towards that guy, not any guy, but that particular guy. In our minds, he is this awesome guy, otherwise we wouldn't crush on him at all, which is always totally unrealistic, a total projection :D But just fyi, since you are recording those videos, I thought it might be nice to help you out, you're welcome :D
i agree , also once a boundary has been crossed like kissing ect. Once after saying we won't go too far. Its kinda like "oh well , ive kissed him not cant exactly go back now"
@@hannahdavies2926exactly, once that boundary is crossed things will be different. Just as they could be “testing us” we could be doing the same. The can’t go back now is super true, and tbh if I were in that position I would then categorize the man into a not so serious situation, unless proven otherwise do to the line being crossed. It would show me my boundary wasn’t respected or reciprocated on his side (at first glance unless proven otherwise) so I’d not take him too seriously as I were to before crossing the line.
The thing is, we as women have heard "How to get a man/How to keep a man happy" etc since 1800s. You can Google old archives about advice on how to keep a man happy since before the 1900s. I get where you are coming from, you're trying to be helpful... but it's 2024, the advice needs to be switched over to the men, I think it's about time we give advice to men on how to treat us. Otherwise, you're just going to convince more women to "decenter men" or join the "4B movement". We're tired, we're exhausted, we're done.
yeah, so sick of this “how a man falls in love” let’s change the topic let’s talk about men are the first ones to leave their family they deadass THINK they are the prize we are to blame tho why would we play into this bs
Agree. Men don't even wash their ass correctly because society brainwashed women to do the most for men while all men have to do is exist with skid marks in their underwear.
women know this and we know that we will never be loved the way that we want to be loved. this is why women either give up on y’all completely or use you for money and other things. there is little to no incentive trying to make a man fall in love with you because at the end of the day he would trade off his loyalty to satiate a fantasy that was never present in the girl to begin with. it is incredibly unfair and a losing game for women who seek actually fulfilling love and absolute commitment. only women who do not value men and only value their wallets gain something here
that's an incredibly pessimistic way to look at this. yes, women will never be loved the way we want to, because men love differently and it's through care and help more than compliments and roses. we're different species and no thought or feeling is experienced the same. but what relationships are about is trying to work through those differences and fit in each other's way of love and appreciate it. if you only want men for money, you'll only get men for money.
@@deligeorgieva8535 obviously i dont want men for money and i dont see how you got that from my comment. the only way to not be "pessimistic" about this is by being completely ignorant and naive this is the reality. trying to be optimistic about love will only lead women to be used over and over again. nobody was talking about roses and compliments i am talking about the actual inner reciprocation of love. what many women are looking for is exactly that and if this cant be reciprocated people get into transactional relationships. and it doesn’t only have to be money. women can stay in relationships for plenty of other reasons but their need to be loved the way they love will never be met. the way you guys love is only beneficial to YOU. when women love they center the person they love and not how they can be served by them fulfilling their fantasies and whatnot. in both ways the "love" is skewed in the favour of the man which is why women demand money to make up for this difference and it should not be that way. women will never be loved the way they want to but men will because fundamentally they know that women sacrifice themselves just for the sake of the man and of course yall have no problem with that
@@hirasnz I'm also a woman and i have been in a happy relationship for almost 2 years. i used to think like you before i met my boyfriend, who had actually taken time to understand women. who actually listens to how i want to be loved and does it, so i do the same for him. I don't think I'm naive for staying with him, for trusting him, for loving him and letting him love me his way. i think it's just how it's supposed to be and that this is the reality. what you're saying is that men are just self-centered and use women for their caretaking and selfless love. i can say that men can sacrifice parts of themselves and learn to do that for women they love as well, because i see that with my own eyes. i don't think love is skewed in one direction. i think it's just different for both sides in the way they feel it and show it, but those sides are equivalent. i wish for you to find a good man so you can feel and see what I'm talking about. if a man doesn't sacrifice and show his love, he doesn't love you. believe me, you'll see if he actually does
As a woman I naturally categorize men when finding who to date and who not to. It can be vise versa, for instance; I know the difference between a man who is categorize in the hoe department from someone in the boyfriend department-to husband department. It’s a natural thing.
Same. More I understand male pysche the more I wonder how love is supposed to happen organically. I'm sure men feel something similar. I just wonder if we are only meant to procreate w ppl who would make good fathers and partners and that's it...
Oh, they test! I wish they would just respect words though! It takes purposeful planning to avoid the setting-which may allow them to have the opportunity to make it happen.
“sometimes we can’t control ourselves” says soo much. if you can’t control YOURSELF then how will you lead as a “man”?? BOYS have issues with self control not MEN, my dad lets me know this all the time. have some self control it’ll be a good look maybe you’ll have a son one day, and you can teach HIM the importance you know maybe raise good men for the future instead of doing life willy nilly
The test part doesn't really make sense, it can only have 2 outcomes first is if the guy tries to escalate and the woman goes along with it, she fails the test but the other outcome is the guy breaks a boundary they clearly set in place (to not have sex on the 2nd date) and ruins the chance of even being with the girl that he considers "wifey material". A woman that actually respects herself would NOT stay with someone who cant even keep his word and not try and have sex right away.
That’s what the most problem. Women switch their emotions with men and do things bc they think a male will fall in love the way she would fall in love and that’s bs. I understood this since I was young. I didn’t let my fiancé touch me intimate till I knew he is slowly falling in love with me.
I fall in love through quality time, just hanging out with a girl I’ll fall in love if we’re compatible. That’s why I don’t “date” as much as I just chill with a girl/see her at the same place repeatedly
This makes me feel like I will never find the right man…I had one partner (husband for 7years) in my life and it seems to me that guys always hitting on me wants to just sleep with me…and I actually I am terrified with falling in love with someone who just want to sleep with me…it really hurts every time I reject a guy they look at me like I am some party pooper and boring woman…and I always have to be careful not to be friendly to guys as they will take it as I am flirting with them…it took me a looong time to realize that…I dunno …this is so freaking depressing…
I failed plenty of steps once. He proposed within two months. He indeed was very attracted to me. But this does not make sense. Only when he is overanalyzed and intellectualized they approach this. This is no love. I would never select a man who does this. I saw friends one night stands he fell in love and completely changed himself. When the love is true these things do not matter. Sad reality is most men do not know how to love or even hold it.
No way you men only talk to us women. Because you think we're attractive. My God, you cracked the case. We know that we know you're not there to get to know us.Trust me, we know what you want.We're not dumb😂😂😂😂😂❤🎉
but we start off as dumb and naive and that's how we get used. then when we're older we realize but now it's too late. men should stop taking advantage of young girls for their own benefit, it's disgusting
Ladies: watch the movie “a walk to remember”. You’ll see this contrast between the two women. Landon sees his ex as easy - not wife material. She’s easy. She throws herself at him. She is trashy in the way she dresses. Etc etc. Jamie on the other hand is meek, sweet and doesn’t give it up until MARRIAGE. Ladies. Guys will fall in love with a girl who has self respect and shows she needs to be protected and cherished because she protects and cherishes herself and others. Don’t be mad. I’ve made mistakes with men so I get it. But the guy who married me, I held out on sex for a long time. We messed around but didn’t do the deed for many many months. And he respected me for that and put a ring on it. He always said “you were different. You didn’t give it up easy like other girls. I fell in love with you because you knew your self worth.” And end quote.
I understand to certain degree not being interested in a woman that u don't find physically attractive...but if u understand sooo well how important that is, pls men put a bit of care into the way you look TOO ...some of yall looking homeless or have the worst fashion sense on Earth. Also, you can talk to women u don't find attractive but have things in common to make friends...thats a thing too right...
So much to learn and absorb. I’m taking notes, I’m determined to learn the game inside out! I already feel so much more control and empowerment from just a few days of listening to you. I want to thank you for your candor and transparency in these matters. God bless you 🙏
I was told that you often attract who you are inside. I dont brag about being wife material. I know already that i have all these qualities (i dont drink, go clubbing, i workout, i cook clean am nurturing, love children, and have non party close female friends) so thankfully i have never met or attract these types of men who "tests" me if im truly wife material. I think men are smart enough to be able to tell via vibes you give. It didnt work out in my only 2 relationship due to their depression and unhealed insecurities or ego which they still needed to work on.
It’s interesting you say men are looking for respect and loyalty cause actually I think that’s our common ground as a woman, we want those two things too just as much. Loved when you get to Character-that gives me hope why this guy is still talking to me for two years long distance, I know that’s not just lust cause he would not be talking about moving closer to me now if it was. I think he is entering the Integration Stage with me or trying his best to by telling me he put in a transfer at his job.
From experience, when men say they want “respect” from their women, they mean they want their women to go along with whatever he wants without push back. By respect, they mean we as women need to put our needs last and even forget about ourselves, and focus on pleasing them. That’s what they mean. If a man says women don’t respect him or that women these days don’t respect men, run.
Thank you!! Loved how real you were in describing men that want a past time vs men that want a relationship. Let’s face it ladies, we categorize men too. I find that when I’m not interested in being a “wife” to the guy I’m dating that he ends up being more drawn to me, why? Because I’m not pressuring the marriage topic. Sometimes men will fall in love quicker when they sense you’re not trying to reel them in to get a ring. A true physical and emotional connection should be the main focus, marriage is the reward. The emphasis is misplaced when you’re focused solely on the latter
I kno that if a man tries to talk to me then he liked what he saw. But anyway, can you do a video of 1. How to treat him when he doesnt act right, or how to get him to spend. I need my car fixed 😢
When im at "the club" im only investing in the grove & the people. If we all backing up on each other or not.. LoL go ahead guys "judge all ya want!" Whatever!,not spoiling my peace or my time on dance floor.
Definitely don’t. The thoughts you have in your brain in the sheets is between you and our God. We can fantasize as much as we desire. It’s a gift that was given to us.
I had this experience- being afraid that mine are more crazy than his. Most of the time mine are. So yeah if u like some crazy stuff ask him first and slowly start to relate and share haha
Vehemently disagree. You SHOULD talk about your fantasies. If the dude is disgusted, he ain’t the one. If he’s intrigued, you’ve just gotten him a little closer to you. Just make it clear that you only wanna talk that with him in particular because you like him and you trust him.
@@renardbennett75 nope, nope, nope 👎 I totally disagree with you. Sure if you tell him and you want to live out those fantasies then sure let him know. The moment you tell him, you will get his mind reeling and then your fantasies could become real life and broken hearts is a HUGE possibility. Good luck to you who are dumb enough to share. A fantasy is a fantasy. Keep it in your own mind between you and God.
solid advice and breakdown. this is helping me a lot, had some guy friends explain aspects of this to me before and this is so accurate man. would love if there were some scientific aspects as well though but this is so solid. found this video by chance, you earned a new sub :)
This is a woman tip for you as many have shared already : If a man comes over and goes past HER boundaries - she has devalued HIM but may kiss him. But his behavior is what has devalued him. Not the other way around with women of power. Men can be myopic and think they are starved for physicality when grown women are starved for maturity. A man who “tests” you by running over your boundaries is IMMATURE. I don’t think a man who tests a woman’s boundaries if she stands up for them anyways ?! Is not a man a woman should ever entertain. A woman tests a man by noting that they don’t get tested but respected. Drop mic.
I love how this dude can get away with selling y’all females a dream. He’s getting away with it right now for the same reasons y’all keep falling for guys like us. 😂😂 well played my dude. You tryna be the next Derrick Jackson??
That was the most helpful video ever. Thank you so much. I wanted to ask something related to your last point. If i'm a lady, and i really am a wify material, but i also have my strange desires - is it possible for him to loose respect for me in life if i ask him to be dissrespectful in bed, is what i'm trying to ask.
when those men said to you “not her” you may have missed out on a good woman. that’s the danger of listening to the town gossip. maybe she wasn’t interested in one or more of the guys, so talking about her and calling her crazy was a way of getting back at her. etc. men with character and integrity have the discernment to decide for themselves.
The fantasy part is a lil bit skewed bcoz wat if he fantasizes abt having a three some, thats very tricky coz I personally wldnt want hve a threesome but thank you for your message, it is very powerful nd informative.
Then honestly girl…and I say this from experience, it won’t work in the long run. Cause what you are and share in the bedroom is true intimacy. Find a guy who doesn’t want to have threesomes then cause it’s not aligned to your values and you guys will always bump heads sooner or later. A guy who wants a threesome needs another kinky girl who is into that too. Just saying, he is probably not the right guy for you if you don’t match your kinks or compliment them.
This is informative, thank you. But seriously, men want a size zero? That's usually a flat chest, flat dump truck (or compact car, or shopping cart)! 😊😊 And that climactic (pun intended) ending, "you're literally unstoppable". Love it, thanks!
I feel like him saying that was a bad comparison especially in this generation most guys like thick women. However it’s not ok to put down skinny women bc everyone at any body type can be sexy! We should appreciate both not put down one or the other
i know my bfs kinks and i mean weird and gross kinks (to me anyway) in only a short amount of time . He's too embarrassed to let anyone know and he loves how im the one who gets him deeply and truly satisfied
this is the best and most honest video!!! Thank you so much!! I see you getting really big on UA-cam. Can you please do a video on what to do when a guy comes back after ghosting you?
Being expected to be loyal to you before I’ve even met you is CRAZY. Men really expect us to not have a damn past when yall have a damn past too like fuck outta here.
What I don't understand is I met a guy I found out he had a girlfriend he always told my half girls with big butts but his girlfriend don't have nobody at all I don't understand that but he told her not if he talked to someone they got to have a big butt
Great info, but its so hard to follow when you spell out every single word that is coming from your mouth. I understand that you want to point out some aspects but after a while listening like this, its becoming annoying to listen how every word is being spelled out for 1h.
What if we do like science? Would you make a video like this but with the science behind it? I feel left out bc you assumed we wouldn’t like the chemicals, melatonin, biology
I want to leave science talk to the professionals, experts and scientists who spend many years studying the human brain. I unfortunately don’t have that level of expertise so it would be misinformed of me to speak on the science as if I do. Contrary to some peoples beliefs I actually don’t avoid the science because I think women aren’t capable of understanding. It’s simply a function of what I actually have a knowledgeable understanding of as well as what I find fascinating! Hope you all enjoy my breakdown, Cheers!
What I understood is Men don't fall in love at all
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I don't think this guy has life experience to explain what a love is. Don't worry
@@SuicidalHman I hope that’s the case. Otherwise, I’m cooked.
@@7i7ypvnchr.2aMen are focused on purpose and conquest. They don't really value love much anymore. Why do you think it's hard to see one that actually hold down a woman. Not that women are easy to deal with anyway lol
Boy, let me teach you something about girls, we don't sleep with that guy because we haven't been touched for so long...we sleep with him because we are also feeling the attraction towards that guy, not any guy, but that particular guy. In our minds, he is this awesome guy, otherwise we wouldn't crush on him at all, which is always totally unrealistic, a total projection :D But just fyi, since you are recording those videos, I thought it might be nice to help you out, you're welcome :D
As a Girl, I confirm she’s totally right
i agree , also once a boundary has been crossed like kissing ect. Once after saying we won't go too far. Its kinda like "oh well , ive kissed him not cant exactly go back now"
@@hannahdavies2926exactly, once that boundary is crossed things will be different. Just as they could be “testing us” we could be doing the same. The can’t go back now is super true, and tbh if I were in that position I would then categorize the man into a not so serious situation, unless proven otherwise do to the line being crossed. It would show me my boundary wasn’t respected or reciprocated on his side (at first glance unless proven otherwise) so I’d not take him too seriously as I were to before crossing the line.
as i girl i totally agree with u
Agreed
The thing is, we as women have heard "How to get a man/How to keep a man happy" etc since 1800s. You can Google old archives about advice on how to keep a man happy since before the 1900s. I get where you are coming from, you're trying to be helpful... but it's 2024, the advice needs to be switched over to the men, I think it's about time we give advice to men on how to treat us. Otherwise, you're just going to convince more women to "decenter men" or join the "4B movement". We're tired, we're exhausted, we're done.
Great point.
yeah, so sick of this “how a man falls in love” let’s change the topic let’s talk about men are the first ones to leave their family they deadass THINK they are the prize we are to blame tho why would we play into this bs
period
Exactly my thoughts 😮😮
Agree. Men don't even wash their ass correctly because society brainwashed women to do the most for men while all men have to do is exist with skid marks in their underwear.
What I got from this is that men do not look at women as if they are also human beings. But the honesty is refreshing and eye opening.
Well, you're just completely wrong.
@@user-dr1df3du4dNo she isnt this is why Men are mad that Wom
1. Physical attraction
2. Categorization
3. Test
4. Character
5. Attachment
6. Integration
7. Fantasy
Thank u
women know this and we know that we will never be loved the way that we want to be loved. this is why women either give up on y’all completely or use you for money and other things. there is little to no incentive trying to make a man fall in love with you because at the end of the day he would trade off his loyalty to satiate a fantasy that was never present in the girl to begin with. it is incredibly unfair and a losing game for women who seek actually fulfilling love and absolute commitment. only women who do not value men and only value their wallets gain something here
that's an incredibly pessimistic way to look at this. yes, women will never be loved the way we want to, because men love differently and it's through care and help more than compliments and roses. we're different species and no thought or feeling is experienced the same. but what relationships are about is trying to work through those differences and fit in each other's way of love and appreciate it. if you only want men for money, you'll only get men for money.
@@deligeorgieva8535 obviously i dont want men for money and i dont see how you got that from my comment. the only way to not be "pessimistic" about this is by being completely ignorant and naive this is the reality. trying to be optimistic about love will only lead women to be used over and over again. nobody was talking about roses and compliments i am talking about the actual inner reciprocation of love. what many women are looking for is exactly that and if this cant be reciprocated people get into transactional relationships. and it doesn’t only have to be money. women can stay in relationships for plenty of other reasons but their need to be loved the way they love will never be met. the way you guys love is only beneficial to YOU. when women love they center the person they love and not how they can be served by them fulfilling their fantasies and whatnot. in both ways the "love" is skewed in the favour of the man which is why women demand money to make up for this difference and it should not be that way. women will never be loved the way they want to but men will because fundamentally they know that women sacrifice themselves just for the sake of the man and of course yall have no problem with that
@@hirasnz I'm also a woman and i have been in a happy relationship for almost 2 years. i used to think like you before i met my boyfriend, who had actually taken time to understand women. who actually listens to how i want to be loved and does it, so i do the same for him. I don't think I'm naive for staying with him, for trusting him, for loving him and letting him love me his way. i think it's just how it's supposed to be and that this is the reality. what you're saying is that men are just self-centered and use women for their caretaking and selfless love. i can say that men can sacrifice parts of themselves and learn to do that for women they love as well, because i see that with my own eyes.
i don't think love is skewed in one direction. i think it's just different for both sides in the way they feel it and show it, but those sides are equivalent. i wish for you to find a good man so you can feel and see what I'm talking about. if a man doesn't sacrifice and show his love, he doesn't love you. believe me, you'll see if he actually does
@@deligeorgieva8535this was poetic
@@hirasnzyou're right
As a woman I naturally categorize men when finding who to date and who not to. It can be vise versa, for instance; I know the difference between a man who is categorize in the hoe department from someone in the boyfriend department-to husband department. It’s a natural thing.
That's sooo correct
Thank you for your honesty. This made me want to stay single. Lol The "Test" thing creeped me out. Sounds like manipulation.
Same. More I understand male pysche the more I wonder how love is supposed to happen organically. I'm sure men feel something similar. I just wonder if we are only meant to procreate w ppl who would make good fathers and partners and that's it...
Oh, they test! I wish they would just respect words though!
It takes purposeful planning to avoid the setting-which may allow them to have the opportunity to make it happen.
Women test too!
@@annayudin290we really do though
@@katrinabrown3561 yeah it's called shit testing.
no. men need control. yall need to learn how to control yallselves.
It can only happen through spirituality,mindfulness or self-awareness
@@sanaya112 💯
is that not basically what he’s been saying?
“sometimes we can’t control ourselves” says soo much. if you can’t control YOURSELF then how will you lead as a “man”?? BOYS have issues with self control not MEN, my dad lets me know this all the time. have some self control it’ll be a good look maybe you’ll have a son one day, and you can teach HIM the importance you know maybe raise good men for the future instead of doing life willy nilly
The test part doesn't really make sense, it can only have 2 outcomes first is if the guy tries to escalate and the woman goes along with it, she fails the test but the other outcome is the guy breaks a boundary they clearly set in place (to not have sex on the 2nd date) and ruins the chance of even being with the girl that he considers "wifey material". A woman that actually respects herself would NOT stay with someone who cant even keep his word and not try and have sex right away.
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1. Heaux
2. Wife
How sad we are divided into two categories that determine our worth. Very depressing.
That’s what the most problem. Women switch their emotions with men and do things bc they think a male will fall in love the way she would fall in love and that’s bs. I understood this since I was young. I didn’t let my fiancé touch me intimate till I knew he is slowly falling in love with me.
Waw smart lady😂
I fall in love through quality time, just hanging out with a girl I’ll fall in love if we’re compatible. That’s why I don’t “date” as much as I just chill with a girl/see her at the same place repeatedly
same here
omg me too yayy im so happy im not the only one :3
“you can’t change your nose shape” a mans has not yet heard of plastic surgery 😂
I mean true but a lot of people are scared or against plastic surgery also some men don’t like women with plastic surgery
but men don't like women with plastic surgeries
I wonder, have these dudes ever stop to think and evaluate themselves as “husband” material? Meh, I didn’t think so either.
Guys, suck 😂😂😅
😆 😂 We need men.
@@peacelovejoyandhappinessof course you do
@@peacelovejoyandhappiness who's we ?
@@laplagetlesoleil I was referring to woman. But, hey if you are attracted to a male and you are a male then a man could need them too.
This is probably the best breakdown I have heard! You really made it make sense without all the “hormones”…
This makes me feel like I will never find the right man…I had one partner (husband for 7years) in my life and it seems to me that guys always hitting on me wants to just sleep with me…and I actually I am terrified with falling in love with someone who just want to sleep with me…it really hurts every time I reject a guy they look at me like I am some party pooper and boring woman…and I always have to be careful not to be friendly to guys as they will take it as I am flirting with them…it took me a looong time to realize that…I dunno …this is so freaking depressing…
Same here
Same it’s disheartening
The way they look at you after you say no honestly feels awful, like you’re at fault
I failed plenty of steps once. He proposed within two months. He indeed was very attracted to me. But this does not make sense. Only when he is overanalyzed and intellectualized they approach this. This is no love. I would never select a man who does this. I saw friends one night stands he fell in love and completely changed himself. When the love is true these things do not matter. Sad reality is most men do not know how to love or even hold it.
Hmmm, the last sentence is indeed deep and it's heartbreaking...
The lady shouldn't bring him home after date #2.
Exactly
@@kenyarodriguez3853I don’t get it
I'm a woman and a psychopath and I can relate
you saying “dump truck” & “squirtle” is killing me everytime😭
Staaaap ! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I am wheezing hhhhhhhh
No way you men only talk to us women. Because you think we're attractive. My God, you cracked the case. We know that we know you're not there to get to know us.Trust me, we know what you want.We're not dumb😂😂😂😂😂❤🎉
but we start off as dumb and naive and that's how we get used. then when we're older we realize but now it's too late. men should stop taking advantage of young girls for their own benefit, it's disgusting
Ladies: watch the movie “a walk to remember”. You’ll see this contrast between the two women. Landon sees his ex as easy - not wife material. She’s easy. She throws herself at him. She is trashy in the way she dresses. Etc etc. Jamie on the other hand is meek, sweet and doesn’t give it up until MARRIAGE. Ladies. Guys will fall in love with a girl who has self respect and shows she needs to be protected and cherished because she protects and cherishes herself and others. Don’t be mad. I’ve made mistakes with men so I get it. But the guy who married me, I held out on sex for a long time. We messed around but didn’t do the deed for many many months. And he respected me for that and put a ring on it. He always said “you were different. You didn’t give it up easy like other girls. I fell in love with you because you knew your self worth.” And end quote.
I understand to certain degree not being interested in a woman that u don't find physically attractive...but if u understand sooo well how important that is, pls men put a bit of care into the way you look TOO ...some of yall looking homeless or have the worst fashion sense on Earth. Also, you can talk to women u don't find attractive but have things in common to make friends...thats a thing too right...
This is cool and all. I don’t wanna marry every man that takes me to dinner. Hope he going down the list trying to figure out how to get me.
They dont respect if they cheat silly excuse
This was useful. Thank you. Also really helps me understand how men's perspective go. And it all makes sense!!
Men DON’T fall in love
I don't think romantic love really exists tbh
@@purpleluma4715 it does
They do lol stop talking about men like they aren’t human
@@gia6721 Speaking as a man, most of them have actually lost their humanity
Sure let’s just point to men and run from accountability 😑 stay alone then
So much to learn and absorb. I’m taking notes, I’m determined to learn the game inside out! I already feel so much more control and empowerment from just a few days of listening to you. I want to thank you for your candor and transparency in these matters. God bless you 🙏
Don’t learn a bunch of things from this guy if you want to learn the game. If you read the comments the women don’t even agree with this stuff.
TRUTH Spoken ❤❤❤... love your videos... keep them coming
I like this young man as well. I can tell he is wise. I also appreciate his soft tone of voice and disposition. ❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉
I started watching then realized, I don't really even care
This was so helpful 😭 and hilarious
Man you are so real, thank you ❤
I was told that you often attract who you are inside. I dont brag about being wife material. I know already that i have all these qualities (i dont drink, go clubbing, i workout, i cook clean am nurturing, love children, and have non party close female friends) so thankfully i have never met or attract these types of men who "tests" me if im truly wife material. I think men are smart enough to be able to tell via vibes you give. It didnt work out in my only 2 relationship due to their depression and unhealed insecurities or ego which they still needed to work on.
You're wifey material because you work out and don't go out?
@@jobunny919 lmaooo
It’s interesting you say men are looking for respect and loyalty cause actually I think that’s our common ground as a woman, we want those two things too just as much.
Loved when you get to Character-that gives me hope why this guy is still talking to me for two years long distance, I know that’s not just lust cause he would not be talking about moving closer to me now if it was. I think he is entering the Integration Stage with me or trying his best to by telling me he put in a transfer at his job.
Catfish ?
From experience, when men say they want “respect” from their women, they mean they want their women to go along with whatever he wants without push back. By respect, they mean we as women need to put our needs last and even forget about ourselves, and focus on pleasing them. That’s what they mean. If a man says women don’t respect him or that women these days don’t respect men, run.
@@tan89284 Don't project your BS.
Needed this!
Great video! Thank You!
I think men need this same video.
yeah but about when you've been saying no but he keeps doing it.. I felt like I was frozen and I could not speak
Thank you!! Loved how real you were in describing men that want a past time vs men that want a relationship.
Let’s face it ladies, we categorize men too. I find that when I’m not interested in being a “wife” to the guy I’m dating that he ends up being more drawn to me, why? Because I’m not pressuring the marriage topic. Sometimes men will fall in love quicker when they sense you’re not trying to reel them in to get a ring.
A true physical and emotional connection should be the main focus, marriage is the reward.
The emphasis is misplaced when you’re focused solely on the latter
The gaslit whispers into the mic took me out 😂😂😂😂
I kno that if a man tries to talk to me then he liked what he saw. But anyway, can you do a video of 1. How to treat him when he doesnt act right, or how to get him to spend. I need my car fixed 😢
lol
Literally unstoppable ! 🤭 Thank you a lot for your deep honesty.
I’m not a bar girl or an apps girl. Pretty introverted. Where would I go to meet a quality man when I live in a small town.
yah and sitting in bars alone I gonna end up trashed and people I not gonna want lol
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@@SuzylondonUK,
I’d be hard but gym would work too
you’re so pretty
When im at "the club" im only investing in the grove & the people. If we all backing up on each other or not.. LoL go ahead guys "judge all ya want!" Whatever!,not spoiling my peace or my time on dance floor.
your videos are incredible, they deserve to win awards for bettering society ahahaha
GREAT CONTENT!!!!!!!!!
despues dicen que las mujeres somos complejas, deja prefiero quedarme sola antes que atraversar toda esta porqueria
Why not, it's fun.
It is a biochemical process in a man
I’m a man, & yes we do fall in love
I Burst out laughing when you said "choke girls"🤣
I'm scared I will scare him away... if I talk about my fantasies... I guess I should ask him about his then
Don’t be scared you’ll be surprised. I talk about my fantasies all the time and let me tell you it draws them even closer .
Definitely don’t. The thoughts you have in your brain in the sheets is between you and our God. We can fantasize as much as we desire. It’s a gift that was given to us.
I had this experience- being afraid that mine are more crazy than his. Most of the time mine are. So yeah if u like some crazy stuff ask him first and slowly start to relate and share haha
Vehemently disagree. You SHOULD talk about your fantasies. If the dude is disgusted, he ain’t the one. If he’s intrigued, you’ve just gotten him a little closer to you. Just make it clear that you only wanna talk that with him in particular because you like him and you trust him.
@@renardbennett75 nope, nope, nope 👎 I totally disagree with you. Sure if you tell him and you want to live out those fantasies then sure let him know. The moment you tell him, you will get his mind reeling and then your fantasies could become real life and broken hearts is a HUGE possibility. Good luck to you who are dumb enough to share. A fantasy is a fantasy. Keep it in your own mind between you and God.
solid advice and breakdown. this is helping me a lot, had some guy friends explain aspects of this to me before and this is so accurate man. would love if there were some scientific aspects as well though but this is so solid. found this video by chance, you earned a new sub :)
thank u this is 100% real, i experienced it before
Read Helen Fisher, Dawn Masler. Open up a book and stop listening to everyone the internet
Amen!!! Amazing books
Why ? Which books?
So much wisdom on this channel🙏🙏
EXTREMELY GREAT VIDEO!!!
Very informative. Thank you for your honesty and details. Excellent 🌹
I’m not changing myself for no male
As a women, i DO fall in love like this too 😭😭
This is a woman tip for you as many have shared already :
If a man comes over and goes past HER boundaries - she has devalued HIM but may kiss him. But his behavior is what has devalued him. Not the other way around with women of power.
Men can be myopic and think they are starved for physicality when grown women are starved for maturity. A man who “tests” you by running over your boundaries is IMMATURE. I don’t think a man who tests a woman’s boundaries if she stands up for them anyways ?! Is not a man a woman should ever entertain. A woman tests a man by noting that they don’t get tested but respected. Drop mic.
Thank you UA-cam you always get the job done
I love how this dude can get away with selling y’all females a dream. He’s getting away with it right now for the same reasons y’all keep falling for guys like us. 😂😂 well played my dude. You tryna be the next Derrick Jackson??
Thanks for your honesty. No sarcasm. ❤
That was the most helpful video ever. Thank you so much.
I wanted to ask something related to your last point. If i'm a lady, and i really am a wify material, but i also have my strange desires - is it possible for him to loose respect for me in life if i ask him to be dissrespectful in bed, is what i'm trying to ask.
Nothing wrong with that.
Are you married or do you have a girlfriend?
Both 😅
when those men said to you “not her” you may have missed out on a good woman. that’s the danger of listening to the town gossip. maybe she wasn’t interested in one or more of the guys, so talking about her and calling her crazy was a way of getting back at her. etc. men with character and integrity have the discernment to decide for themselves.
It was helpful
The fantasy part is a lil bit skewed bcoz wat if he fantasizes abt having a three some, thats very tricky coz I personally wldnt want hve a threesome but thank you for your message, it is very powerful nd informative.
Then honestly girl…and I say this from experience, it won’t work in the long run. Cause what you are and share in the bedroom is true intimacy. Find a guy who doesn’t want to have threesomes then cause it’s not aligned to your values and you guys will always bump heads sooner or later.
A guy who wants a threesome needs another kinky girl who is into that too. Just saying, he is probably not the right guy for you if you don’t match your kinks or compliment them.
Describe the non wify category
In my experience there is no convincing a guy to love you. He only will if he wants to.
This video is about how to get a man to be attached, not in love.. big difference
This is informative, thank you. But seriously, men want a size zero? That's usually a flat chest, flat dump truck (or compact car, or shopping cart)! 😊😊 And that climactic (pun intended) ending, "you're literally unstoppable". Love it, thanks!
I feel like him saying that was a bad comparison especially in this generation most guys like thick women. However it’s not ok to put down skinny women bc everyone at any body type can be sexy! We should appreciate both not put down one or the other
Did he mention how to know if a man is just lusting vs in love?
i know my bfs kinks and i mean weird and gross kinks (to me anyway) in only a short amount of time . He's too embarrassed to let anyone know and he loves how im the one who gets him deeply and truly satisfied
Thank you
From Perth, Australia!
I'm exhausted
this is the best and most honest video!!! Thank you so much!! I see you getting really big on UA-cam.
Can you please do a video on what to do when a guy comes back after ghosting you?
I do the same too.
I learned so much, but I love my friends, and I don't know if I'm ready to drop them for a chance of bagging a man.😢
Test is a rap!st 💯‼️
exactly bravo
Being expected to be loyal to you before I’ve even met you is CRAZY. Men really expect us to not have a damn past when yall have a damn past too like fuck outta here.
I appreciate this info stop hating
Nice
What I don't understand is I met a guy I found out he had a girlfriend he always told my half girls with big butts but his girlfriend don't have nobody at all I don't understand that but he told her not if he talked to someone they got to have a big butt
go awayyyy 😭😭😭😭😭 I wasn’t prepared for that I feel violated you talking into my ear like that about stuffy stuff 😩😫😩😫😩😫 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
oh yeah, we’re cooked.
I’m just going to watch for a bit.🍿🥤 🤣 jk
Great info, but its so hard to follow when you spell out every single word that is coming from your mouth. I understand that you want to point out some aspects but after a while listening like this, its becoming annoying to listen how every word is being spelled out for 1h.
the test…..
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What if we do like science? Would you make a video like this but with the science behind it? I feel left out bc you assumed we wouldn’t like the chemicals, melatonin, biology
Let us sexistly assume women don't understand science, or maybe things need to be simplified for most people.
I want to leave science talk to the professionals, experts and scientists who spend many years studying the human brain. I unfortunately don’t have that level of expertise so it would be misinformed of me to speak on the science as if I do.
Contrary to some peoples beliefs I actually don’t avoid the science because I think women aren’t capable of understanding. It’s simply a function of what I actually have a knowledgeable understanding of as well as what I find fascinating!
Hope you all enjoy my breakdown,
Cheers!
@@Tomisinatobtele thanks I thought you did know lol but I’ve done a lot of research on it bc I’m a big science lover 🩷😌
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Y’all pressed…but he’s right 😬
no, this isn't love at all. love doesn't have boxes in a step-by-step checklist.
@@ganymedeso sad how many people don’t know what love is😖💔
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You can be allll that and they still gonna cheat 🥱
True 😅
Unfortunately this is the truth. This is why you do it first before he does.
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So anyone who works at McDonald’s is “a bum”??!? 🤦🏼♀️
Huh?