Girls we are lucky that men like (Tomisin). & (mindfull attraction - father Alex) & (Stephan speaks) .. are telling us facts bcs they know it’s true bcs they are telling their own experiences . They’re giving us all the facts for us to understand men and to not get played to set boundaries and understand our values they’re telling us stuff no one can tell us and hearing it from them is like having a conversation about the stuff that we struggle with to understand they’re exsposing it all for us to find a healthy way to understand love and I think that’s beautiful
It’s a blessing, free game is an understatement but the more I listen the more sinister it seems men are and just makes me want to be in full blown seduction/ villain era 😅 men are literally hardwired to manipulate us and society teaches us 0 game for their benefit.
What are you saying here is so true. It can be fun. We can make this playful and fun. It doesn’t have to be so serious man. Enjoy games and so long as it isn’t malicious or hateful. It’s a way of engaging them that they can enjoy.
This man is an awesome, awesome relationship teacher! I have learned so much from him from just watching two of his videos. Thank you so much for sharing this knowledge!
i have a theory on this investing into yourself thing... when people get married i have noticed a lot that the woman will do everything in the house and look after the kids etc and then man will spend his free time on improving himself... i think because he thinks that it will make his wife happy to have a better husband - more attractive, better health and that she will find him more attractive... but this does not work the other way around. the women feel like the man doesn't care, does nothing to help and is completely self centred. with your theory on what men like in a woman, it makes sense... they are doing what they want us to do. then they turn around to their wife and say 'why don't you go to the gym?' lol...
Are you saying married people need to switch roles? Men need to be doing the choreplay and lightening the woman's burden?, and women need to be improving themselves in the gym after kids? ur smart!
Wrong. Men aren't doing those things because they think it will make their wife happy. They do it because they are selfish and self-centered and, in many occasions, exploitative toward women. He focuses on things that increase his own individual happiness buts expects her to focus on things that increase his happiness and ease of life (for example, domestic labour like you pointed out). We live in a patriarchy, so from a young age, boys and men are encouraged to put themselves first and always work on improving themselves, whereas women are trained and socialize to be caretakers, keep the home running, and center their lives around pleasing and serving men. Then man and woman get married. Man doesn't change his daily habits and way of thinking (why should he - he's getting a good deal, and change would mean her load is lessened but his load is increased). Eventually, woman starts to become resentful because year by year she feels she's losing her identity and becoming a shell of herself. She's barely surving because domestic/emotional/sexual/reproductive/child-rearing/career-sacrificing load only increases with time. Next thing you know they are both married but can't stand each other. (This is also why I laugh when men try to deter women from getting divorce, based on "no man would want you", as if she's not trying to escape from one and the stressed out lifestyle marriage has brought her). This is also, more importantly, why I advice women and girls to always put themselves first and always pursue true self-fulfilment. Work really hard at de-programming all the misogynistic and one-sided gender expectations society has forced down your throat. Or else, you'll buy into it, get into a really one-sided relationship or marriage, and decades will pass and you would become pained and angry at the world, and those same men will turn around and call you old and bitter even though you're only that way because of all you've sacrificed to them and others (husband, kids, parents etc.) before yourself. Make yourself the focal point of your own life, and be aggressive in that mission; it's very important. And don't do things for romantic partners that they never do or will never do for you. You'll end up exploited, and taken for granted, with your own permission.
You and "Elderly Advice" from UA-cam should really collaborate! You are the young version of him and both spitting players game and how men REALLY are! I'd love that duo. (he's 56 y/o). You both are the same with different verbiage and perspective, but WOW. He explains it as putting men in compete mode. Thanks for these videos!
When de likes and interest is mutual, this whole game wont have any effect...when you have to play games the whole time, thats a sign that the person isnt for you.❤
I think you're on the path to a very successful channel. You are young, handsome and intelligent. As women, we need the real, in-depth psychological understanding of relationships. I do have one suggestion that may help you be even more successful. How about breaking your videos up for us with time stamps using bullet points. Or breaking up the videos into multiple parts. Part 1, part 2 etc. It allows the listener to stay focused and easily interested. Thanks for sharing your knowledge and wisdom. Everything you suggest, I approve.
omg ahahaha when texting my crush, I kept leaving him on read/delivered for 24 hours unintentionally bc I was just busy, and also I didn't want to seem overly eager so I just decided to let the text marinate. and also I was enjoying making up scenarios in my head over texting him back bahahah
Yep mine went to so hard he got a tattoo of an Egyptian eye after I told him I was Egyptian lmao he kept calling me for months leaving voicemails not realizing I’m married now with twins haha I won
I fucked it up, I sent him a thank you after the date 😭 after saying thank you in person think it might have killed the great attraction we had and he even read the message and responded after 2 hrs that he had a great time too 😭 but he’s on the app online and it’s been a full day hasn’t texted me yet about our second date
After doing all this , he asked what do I want from him and what are we. He wants a commitment from me. I want to buy will things change after commitment is made?
Men either think I'm completely sold on them and ready to marry or disinterested. Sadly I often like my opposite, egotistical men. Showing egotistical men interest isn't wise, they interpret your mere presence as interest
@@Tnc874 grow up?! tf you mean I’ve got a business AND household to run 😂🤌🏼 I’m not spending 4 hours at night just on these videos lmao + you sound shiftless + unemployed
Too late Tomasin I didn’t see your video beforehand. I already told him I liked him 😞. He actually asked and I said yes. I’ve also done a few things already on your videos that I didn’t see before but this new way of dating so different not a fan of it.
First year of college, stay away from these guys. THey're looking for the fun girl. Check social media before getting mixed up with one of these. If he's a junior heading into his last year of college, then maybe. But I've seen too much of these guys looking for the easy score in the first two years of college. Usually these types will post a clothing barely there thing; you can spot them pretty easily. The party scene.
A good example of that black box example is that Wayne Brady show.l (lets make a deal) ..... and the theory of the grass being greener on the other side. But i like the phrase, 1 bird in the hand is worth more than 2 in the bush. If i have chap stick then ima risk it on the box but if i have 5k in hand, fuc that box lol. But anyway, that was a good example now let me get back to the video
That no seems like a yes concept reminds me of rape cases where she said no….. and he took it as a yes. its really disturbing to me. I talk to my daughter about this
Today I saw my man I thought we loved each other clearly I was wrong driving off with a lady from his house ….mmmm…. But men am done what can I say???? I guess I respect myself more to bow out of the equation…. It’s okay there is KAMA
As a man I can tell you that none of this will work if that man is extremely attractive, we have too many options so we don't care if you text back or not. As a matter of fact it might backfire on you and get you ignored
Well, from my experiences, I deal with lots of men as a hairstylist. Men love to be imaginary sitting in the corner, with money in their hand with a smile on their face, all because they want to play! They want to work, and do what it takes to win everything. If you don’t find a way to “play”, they get bored and want to play!! I imagine that it’s not a bad thing, it’s kind of liken imaginary casino type of life. It’s just like a nagging piece of work to be bothered with. Like basically, it takes patience. You have to have a Life to get this Done. It can be done and sincerely achievable. You just have to merge with that person to play but not play and find a way to make it respectful. It may take a while, meetings of new people, but it’s like being your own Master Scientist. Failed tests, You end up Winning. I see it gets better and better.🥰
Also an interesting concept is avoidance attachment and secure attachment. Only if you can convert yourself to a secure attachment type and can find another secure attachment type a relationship will work out. ua-cam.com/users/shortslnVOxK6qpys?si=02niYR2tDBl04pXa
1 mystery 2 enchantments 3 desire 4 scarcity 5 give quality time and high quality form of you 6 denials, say no as yes make him confused 7 tease
Girls we are lucky that men like (Tomisin). &
(mindfull attraction - father Alex) & (Stephan speaks) .. are telling us facts bcs they know it’s true bcs they are telling their own experiences . They’re giving us all the facts for us to understand men and to not get played to set boundaries and understand our values they’re telling us stuff no one can tell us and hearing it from them is like having a conversation about the stuff that we struggle with to understand they’re exsposing it all for us to find a healthy way to understand love and I think that’s beautiful
I agree everyone except Stephen speaks.
@@JohannahArrington1908 oh what’s wrong w Stephan if I may ask ?
It’s a blessing, free game is an understatement but the more I listen the more sinister it seems men are and just makes me want to be in full blown seduction/ villain era 😅 men are literally hardwired to manipulate us and society teaches us 0 game for their benefit.
I love father Alex ...priceless
Don't forget RC Blakes, he's spitting truth too!
Pls keep it longgggggg. We luv hanging with you!!!!! Keeps me mentally strong against these scammers 😢
What are you saying here is so true. It can be fun. We can make this playful and fun. It doesn’t have to be so serious man. Enjoy games and so long as it isn’t malicious or hateful. It’s a way of engaging them that they can enjoy.
exactly, it’s all about the intentions
Amazing advice 👍
However Men who continue to follow their ex on social media or engage with them in any capacity are not over their ex.
yes i learned this the hard way! my mistake for not trusting my intuition! Ladies i hope you listen and TRUST your intuition.
So good!Thanks!🤌🏽
This man is an awesome, awesome relationship teacher! I have learned so much from him from just watching two of his videos. Thank you so much for sharing this knowledge!
This info got me 🤯
I think its all starting to click lol
i have a theory on this investing into yourself thing... when people get married i have noticed a lot that the woman will do everything in the house and look after the kids etc and then man will spend his free time on improving himself... i think because he thinks that it will make his wife happy to have a better husband - more attractive, better health and that she will find him more attractive... but this does not work the other way around. the women feel like the man doesn't care, does nothing to help and is completely self centred. with your theory on what men like in a woman, it makes sense... they are doing what they want us to do. then they turn around to their wife and say 'why don't you go to the gym?' lol...
Are you saying married people need to switch roles? Men need to be doing the choreplay and lightening the woman's burden?, and women need to be improving themselves in the gym after kids? ur smart!
Wrong. Men aren't doing those things because they think it will make their wife happy. They do it because they are selfish and self-centered and, in many occasions, exploitative toward women. He focuses on things that increase his own individual happiness buts expects her to focus on things that increase his happiness and ease of life (for example, domestic labour like you pointed out).
We live in a patriarchy, so from a young age, boys and men are encouraged to put themselves first and always work on improving themselves, whereas women are trained and socialize to be caretakers, keep the home running, and center their lives around pleasing and serving men.
Then man and woman get married. Man doesn't change his daily habits and way of thinking (why should he - he's getting a good deal, and change would mean her load is lessened but his load is increased). Eventually, woman starts to become resentful because year by year she feels she's losing her identity and becoming a shell of herself. She's barely surving because domestic/emotional/sexual/reproductive/child-rearing/career-sacrificing load only increases with time. Next thing you know they are both married but can't stand each other.
(This is also why I laugh when men try to deter women from getting divorce, based on "no man would want you", as if she's not trying to escape from one and the stressed out lifestyle marriage has brought her).
This is also, more importantly, why I advice women and girls to always put themselves first and always pursue true self-fulfilment. Work really hard at de-programming all the misogynistic and one-sided gender expectations society has forced down your throat. Or else, you'll buy into it, get into a really one-sided relationship or marriage, and decades will pass and you would become pained and angry at the world, and those same men will turn around and call you old and bitter even though you're only that way because of all you've sacrificed to them and others (husband, kids, parents etc.) before yourself.
Make yourself the focal point of your own life, and be aggressive in that mission; it's very important. And don't do things for romantic partners that they never do or will never do for you. You'll end up exploited, and taken for granted, with your own permission.
I love borther Tommie. You're the best! You keep us safe from those scammers out there!
Love how detailed your show is. It’s time well invested. I wished I had known of all this advice many years ago!
Yes Tomisin- news the twzt etiquette vid...🔥🔥🔥
My bad typing without glasses 😂- yes need the text etiquette vid---make it ASAP
Yesss texting etiquette episode pls
You and "Elderly Advice" from UA-cam should really collaborate! You are the young version of him and both spitting players game and how men REALLY are! I'd love that duo. (he's 56 y/o). You both are the same with different verbiage and perspective, but WOW.
He explains it as putting men in compete mode.
Thanks for these videos!
I love how long your show is 👏👏👏👏👏
" give him things that point in different directions. 🤯😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
When de likes and interest is mutual, this whole game wont have any effect...when you have to play games the whole time, thats a sign that the person isnt for you.❤
Love this guy! He’s right on point with everything ❤
You are absolutely amazing! Thank you for sharing your wisdom!
I think you're on the path to a very successful channel. You are young, handsome and intelligent. As women, we need the real, in-depth psychological understanding of relationships. I do have one suggestion that may help you be even more successful. How about breaking your videos up for us with time stamps using bullet points. Or breaking up the videos into multiple parts. Part 1, part 2 etc. It allows the listener to stay focused and easily interested. Thanks for sharing your knowledge and wisdom. Everything you suggest, I approve.
Show length perfect. Keep them coming just how they are!
I love your advice ❤
so funny im excited to watch this. You’re so funnyyyy
omg ahahaha when texting my crush, I kept leaving him on read/delivered for 24 hours unintentionally bc I was just busy, and also I didn't want to seem overly eager so I just decided to let the text marinate. and also I was enjoying making up scenarios in my head over texting him back bahahah
gold. who was in class?? 😍
Love this show ❤
TIME STAMPS baby🎉
How do you do this to a boyfriend tho, it’s different when your not single
Leave if you're not happy. Problem solved😉
You know I used to think these tricks only works on guys in there 20s lol nope works for all ages.
😂😢😂
Lololol it does.
Ha older guys are mentally " guys in their 20's "
Yep mine went to so hard he got a tattoo of an Egyptian eye after I told him I was Egyptian lmao he kept calling me for months leaving voicemails not realizing I’m married now with twins haha I won
Look at it this way, you won’t be texting that man watching three of his videos 🤷🏽♀️
Awesome video
Nice work!🫶🏻
the impressions for the part about being hard to get 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Lmaoooooo 😂😂😂😂 ikr hilarious
Your thumbnails remind me of the rapper hopsin 😂
Im done with men. Nothing necesites this much effort. How would it be worth it?
this is the best video ever. most true shi ever. 17:43
I fucked it up, I sent him a thank you after the date 😭 after saying thank you in person think it might have killed the great attraction we had and he even read the message and responded after 2 hrs that he had a great time too 😭 but he’s on the app online and it’s been a full day hasn’t texted me yet about our second date
After doing all this , he asked what do I want from him and what are we. He wants a commitment from me. I want to buy will things change after commitment is made?
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂thank god I found this channel
Men either think I'm completely sold on them and ready to marry or disinterested. Sadly I often like my opposite, egotistical men. Showing egotistical men interest isn't wise, they interpret your mere presence as interest
Lots of guys obsessively thing and have zero actions to follow up.
He should spend his time more wisely
This is so toxic. Let’s go back to grade school- you like me? Yes, No or Maybe. Adults complicate simple ish.
Timestamps please ♥️
Youre so unserious😂😂😂😂
1:11:17 - 1:12:40
I would ask him something because i dont know
Your advice is great but your show is toooooo lonnnnnnngggg
Maybe he can use time stamps.
We appreciate how detailed it is but yes time stamps. Also it’s live so I feel like that’s why it’s longer
that’s because he takes the time to interact and show appreciation to his supporters.
Girl grow up. These videos are full of gems and you can listen to it throughout the day 😒🙄
@@Tnc874 grow up?! tf you mean I’ve got a business AND household to run 😂🤌🏼 I’m not spending 4 hours at night just on these videos lmao + you sound shiftless + unemployed
Too late Tomasin I didn’t see your video beforehand. I already told him I liked him 😞. He actually asked and I said yes. I’ve also done a few things already on your videos that I didn’t see before but this new way of dating so different not a fan of it.
First year of college, stay away from these guys. THey're looking for the fun girl. Check social media before getting mixed up with one of these. If he's a junior heading into his last year of college, then maybe. But I've seen too much of these guys looking for the easy score in the first two years of college. Usually these types will post a clothing barely there thing; you can spot them pretty easily. The party scene.
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A good example of that black box example is that Wayne Brady show.l (lets make a deal) ..... and the theory of the grass being greener on the other side. But i like the phrase, 1 bird in the hand is worth more than 2 in the bush. If i have chap stick then ima risk it on the box but if i have 5k in hand, fuc that box lol. But anyway, that was a good example now let me get back to the video
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That no seems like a yes concept reminds me of rape cases where she said no….. and he took it as a yes. its really disturbing to me. I talk to my daughter about this
Today I saw my man I thought we loved each other clearly I was wrong driving off with a lady from his house ….mmmm…. But men am done what can I say???? I guess I respect myself more to bow out of the equation…. It’s okay there is KAMA
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Great advise, but videos are way to long
Round In circles for 2 hrs ??
As a man I can tell you that none of this will work if that man is extremely attractive, we have too many options so we don't care if you text back or not. As a matter of fact it might backfire on you and get you ignored
Then the woman can move on and find someone who actually wants her
@@hotpink3459 yes she can
Your average guy isn’t extremely attractive. Not even close 😂
I hate these games, but i’m so tired of being played 🥹…. gotta do what we gotta do huh
Well, from my experiences, I deal with lots of men as a hairstylist. Men love to be imaginary sitting in the corner, with money in their hand with a smile on their face, all because they want to play! They want to work, and do what it takes to win everything. If you don’t find a way to “play”, they get bored and want to play!! I imagine that it’s not a bad thing, it’s kind of liken imaginary casino type of life. It’s just like a nagging piece of work to be bothered with. Like basically, it takes patience. You have to have a Life to get this Done. It can be done and sincerely achievable. You just have to merge with that person to play but not play and find a way to make it respectful. It may take a while, meetings of new people, but it’s like being your own Master Scientist. Failed tests, You end up Winning. I see it gets better and better.🥰
Or just don’t date at all
Also an interesting concept is avoidance attachment and secure attachment. Only if you can convert yourself to a secure attachment type and can find another secure attachment type a relationship will work out.
ua-cam.com/users/shortslnVOxK6qpys?si=02niYR2tDBl04pXa
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