@krissy.x yup same for me. I was chasing a man because he got me interested, and then he ghosted me. So when I started ignoring as well, he started reaching out.
I've been giving him the same amount of texting he gives me. If he takes forever to respond, once he does, I will look at it and take a few hours before I respond. Or I wait until the next day. Sometimes when I wait to respond he then asks when I'm free to actually go on a date. I hate playing these "games" but it works. And stop social media altogether. Somewhere along the lines people stopped posting for intention and are now posting for attention. Just don't. Leave a bit of mystery about yourself, your life and what is going on with you. Not everyone needs to know everything about you. You don't need the external validation. And do not lurk on their social media or you will just drive yourself crazy.
It's crazy how no one is talking about Women’s Magic Truths on Borlest. This book has secrets that could change everything, but people seem blind to it. Wake up and see for yourself!
This is one of the most balanced and accurate podcasts I’ve ever seen from a man. I agree 1000%. I absolutely abhor men who only wanna be pen pals. I move on so quickly. And most importantly, it’s been hard for me to rush into relationships because I really have such a fun and inspiring life. So, you have to be special and add to the peace and happiness I already have.
Damn this is so true. The guys I don’t care about and don’t care to text chase me and the top 10 guys I try to text more because I’m interested don’t seem interested at all.. I need to stop texting for sure. Thanks for the tip 😊 ❤
Stop thinking too much about it. If he’s interested, you texting or not isn’t gonna jeopardize that. You extract more out of him if you employ this whilst he is interested.
Thank you so muchh for this whole video.... Im 33 and still did not know all this and ruined my every relationship because of these tiny mistakes... Please make more indepth content like this.. ❤❤ .... Im watching your videos every single day
So dumb. I wish we could start replacing the word chase with “showing up”. Chasing is not flattering, being mean to people & acting like you don’t care in hopes of reverse psychology is not the type of people you want to attract into your life. Those people are damaged. We should be teaching people what healthy people are, how they behave.. And how they show up for you because they WANT to
By now, we the women have understood this very well with all the tips and strategies from places like UA-cam, books and what have you. It's no news. The thing is, most of us did try the " don't chase, let them come to you, ignorance is bliss,"etc. but, the issue is not just that right now. The thing is, even after following those ways, the complaint from the other side was that, we didn't show any concern about them, so they weren't happy either. Therefore, I think, it's not because we didn't follow the assignment, we did, but they weren't cool with anything we did. There's always something they don't like about, they aren't sure about, and then they go. Imagine, both parties follow the " don't chase" module, this human race won't run in the next 200 years.
You are so spot on 🗣️ as I watched the video: it had great points and I even took a page or two from this gentleman’s book. However: the majority of the video both reassured what I already knew and annoyed me at the same time. The part about “dangling the carrot” as a way to get a mans attention is an exhausting game I do not wish to play. I get having a balance to spark interest/curiosity, but many take advantage of that. If I have to play this cat chase mouse game so you’re interested in me, I will gladly pass. I like it when someone makes it CLEAR they like me and stand on business to make me feel as such. And no it’s not asking too much despite what they say. Especially whenever he talks about the pursuit of chase, daily texting etc. I completely understand not wanting to text 24/7 (I don’t even want to do that) but it’s a complete difference between that and not checking in with me at least once a day. If they can’t even do that, I don’t see a relationship with that person anyways🤷🏾♀️. Second: it’s just best to live your life until time reveals who your soulmate is. All this advice, rules, and steps to dating gets so exhausting sometimes. I know most people are mostly spreading awareness, but it sums up how everyone thinks these days. Dating should honestly not be this complicated, draining and hurtful. Most people can’t get over their ex, haven’t unpacked past trauma, no one wants to make the first move because no one wants to look stupid etc etc. It’s too much, it’s sad our society has came to this point. But who knows: maybe it’s best to let this gross infested dating pool subside until we can truly unite again. Forever invest into yourself as well❤
How did all the ppl before us do things? No one is teaching their children the basics of dating or setting examples? They didn’t have social media to teach them all these things
If a guy wanted a hv girl he just had to consisently be masculine and chase her, orherwise another guy would grab you. 😅😅 so it was a lot easier to play and stay femimine. Guys would flock around you . They had to do the work to keep you interested and win you over and then secure you. Lol @marygilmer9635
I did this to my bf from time to time. Overtime relationship will become boring. So this idea is really good to hype up the relationship. Be mysterious. Let them think and be curious.
My mom was married 45 years. She wasn't always around to cater to my step-dad. She had a full life. He never stopped wooing her. She didn't constantly validate & show interest. Only sporadically. Kept him on his toes.
@@lillyvalak9254 don't share every little detail of your day with him. Just mention a brief highlight. Don't spend all your spare time with him either. Let him miss you and go out dressed up without him regularly and don't reach out to him. Let him feel little worried here amd there, etc
🎉self-happiness😢 is ur Lottery ticket!😊 it hurt leavn but I refuse to be mistreated. he was very jealous of my confidence etc. Instant subscriber. this man is a G.O.A.T!!!
😂😂 I’m laughing I’m happily married & man the advice your giving these young women is spot on. I hope they take heed! I tell my son’s girlfriends all the time let him chase you! Validate your self, look out for self. It’s very attractive to men!
I have been with my husband for 31 years we met in high school...I just wanted to say that your advice is on point. I have went from the golden retriever to the black cat "its never too late, lol". I enjoy watching your show & ive even picked up some great pointers, keep doing what you do
It’s so crazy because I get this and do this naturally ! When I’m not interested but boy… when I like a man lmao here I am relearning like my brain is putty 😂😂
Yeah when I become desperate and needy for him to want me he ran he said i need to work on myself. I lost my self esteem he would have used me but he wouldn’t even meet me i am so glad he didn’t meet me in person because we were texting I would have given him my goods and would have regretted it after. Watching your videos has helped me 🥰
After I watched your “Don’t be dumb” video , I no longer have a desire to watch this😂 If I ever meet a guy and I’m wanting to figure out how to get him to chase me forever then he probably isn’t my guy but from what I’ve heard so far you do have some good texting advice.
I wish we were using the word ‘pursue’ instead of ‘chase’… chase sounds more like a toxic game, rather than staying in your feminine energy and having masculine men be in pursuit of that.. but, message received 😅
Am from East Africa and am glade to get you on youtube i used to see u on tiktok this is the best relationship advice i've ever get thank you my brother ❤ am learning alot of things ❤❤❤❤
Made some good points on this one but , being too much of the "reward " which usually feeds in an in individuals narcissism is not the best advice , makes your man/woman who have any form of self respect extremely exhausted thus loosing interest to pursue thinking your just playing hard to get making life difficult for you.
Love the video, very helpful ❤ Can you make a video like this for how to make him chase you when you been together for a long time and/or married or about to be married please 🙏🏽
How does this work if you are on a long-distance relationship? Like, how are you even going to maintain something where you can't text because you will be too available but at the same time cmyou can't see each other.
Amazing content in this video! I rarely suggest anything in comments, but the book women’s magic truths on borlest is a game-changer. It provides deep knowledge on wealth and self-care that can really make a difference. Take care, everyone
Your level of honesty and directness is me in a male body. It's hilarious and so necessary, because I remember being in my 20s and 30s and being so delusional, creating these fantasies out of bare minimum effort and action. And if these young women are willing to actually listen to what you are saying, they will save themselves so much time energy, tears and unnecessary Hope I will save it for the proper oneYour level of honesty and directness is me in a male body. It's hilarious and so necessary, because I remember being in my 20s and 30s and being so delusional, creating these fantasies out of bare minimum effort and action. And if these young women are willing to actually listen to what you are saying, they will save themselves so much time energy, tears and unnecessary Hope they will save it for the proper one
Such a valuable video! I don’t often promote books, but the book women’s magic truths on borlest is an exception. It’s packed with insights on wealth and self-care that are not widely known. All the best to everyone
Focus on you and the focus becomes you.❤
Margarita ❤
True thar!
Easy, make them think you don't like them and got better shit to do. Your welcome ladies.
Shit works. A guy would ignore me for weeks until i stopped being interested. Now he’s obsessed and idc
@@kky.xhow did you change the dynamics?
@@kkthanxbye09 You have genuinely not care. They sense it and it drives them crazy lol
Literally. Like just have goals and view him as sth that is an option.
@krissy.x yup same for me. I was chasing a man because he got me interested, and then he ghosted me. So when I started ignoring as well, he started reaching out.
I've been giving him the same amount of texting he gives me. If he takes forever to respond, once he does, I will look at it and take a few hours before I respond. Or I wait until the next day.
Sometimes when I wait to respond he then asks when I'm free to actually go on a date.
I hate playing these "games" but it works.
And stop social media altogether. Somewhere along the lines people stopped posting for intention and are now posting for attention. Just don't. Leave a bit of mystery about yourself, your life and what is going on with you. Not everyone needs to know everything about you. You don't need the external validation. And do not lurk on their social media or you will just drive yourself crazy.
It's crazy how no one is talking about Women’s Magic Truths on Borlest. This book has secrets that could change everything, but people seem blind to it. Wake up and see for yourself!
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Bro the squeaky voice impersonation be taking me out. 😂 I love this man
Literally ❤😂
Literally obsessed
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I always say my phone is a tool for 2 things, to make plans and get money. 💰💰💰🤑
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A word!
This is one of the most balanced and accurate podcasts I’ve ever seen from a man. I agree 1000%. I absolutely abhor men who only wanna be pen pals. I move on so quickly. And most importantly, it’s been hard for me to rush into relationships because I really have such a fun and inspiring life. So, you have to be special and add to the peace and happiness I already have.
Treat every guy like you are repulsed by him. Basically. 😂😂😂😂😂😂 he will chase.
Repulsed? No I disagree. Out of reach and a challenge. Yes.
Damn this is so true. The guys I don’t care about and don’t care to text chase me and the top 10 guys I try to text more because I’m interested don’t seem interested at all.. I need to stop texting for sure. Thanks for the tip 😊 ❤
Exactly
Stop thinking too much about it. If he’s interested, you texting or not isn’t gonna jeopardize that. You extract more out of him if you employ this whilst he is interested.
10 is too much y'all
Exactly The same I have Experienced
10??!? Wtf
This is exhausting.. 🤣 I watched for curiosity. Thank God I’m already married good luck ladies
😂😂😂😂
We really😂 need it
I'm a widow and plan to stay that way.
Thank you so muchh for this whole video.... Im 33 and still did not know all this and ruined my every relationship because of these tiny mistakes... Please make more indepth content like this.. ❤❤ .... Im watching your videos every single day
So dumb. I wish we could start replacing the word chase with “showing up”. Chasing is not flattering, being mean to people & acting like you don’t care in hopes of reverse psychology is not the type of people you want to attract into your life. Those people are damaged. We should be teaching people what healthy people are, how they behave.. And how they show up for you because they WANT to
But apparently that’s not how the world works unfortunately.
Bravo!
@@moonlightstargem1006 this.
Finally someone with IQ
Perfectly said!! 👌 But alas, other people like that (outside of you and myself apparently) are considered unicorns....
By now, we the women have understood this very well with all the tips and strategies from places like UA-cam, books and what have you. It's no news. The thing is, most of us did try the " don't chase, let them come to you, ignorance is bliss,"etc. but, the issue is not just that right now. The thing is, even after following those ways, the complaint from the other side was that, we didn't show any concern about them, so they weren't happy either. Therefore, I think, it's not because we didn't follow the assignment, we did, but they weren't cool with anything we did. There's always something they don't like about, they aren't sure about, and then they go. Imagine, both parties follow the " don't chase" module, this human race won't run in the next 200 years.
You are so spot on 🗣️ as I watched the video: it had great points and I even took a page or two from this gentleman’s book. However: the majority of the video both reassured what I already knew and annoyed me at the same time. The part about “dangling the carrot” as a way to get a mans attention is an exhausting game I do not wish to play. I get having a balance to spark interest/curiosity, but many take advantage of that. If I have to play this cat chase mouse game so you’re interested in me, I will gladly pass. I like it when someone makes it CLEAR they like me and stand on business to make me feel as such. And no it’s not asking too much despite what they say. Especially whenever he talks about the pursuit of chase, daily texting etc. I completely understand not wanting to text 24/7 (I don’t even want to do that) but it’s a complete difference between that and not checking in with me at least once a day. If they can’t even do that, I don’t see a relationship with that person anyways🤷🏾♀️. Second: it’s just best to live your life until time reveals who your soulmate is. All this advice, rules, and steps to dating gets so exhausting sometimes. I know most people are mostly spreading awareness, but it sums up how everyone thinks these days. Dating should honestly not be this complicated, draining and hurtful. Most people can’t get over their ex, haven’t unpacked past trauma, no one wants to make the first move because no one wants to look stupid etc etc. It’s too much, it’s sad our society has came to this point. But who knows: maybe it’s best to let this gross infested dating pool subside until we can truly unite again. Forever invest into yourself as well❤
How did all the ppl before us do things? No one is teaching their children the basics of dating or setting examples? They didn’t have social media to teach them all these things
If a guy wanted a hv girl he just had to consisently be masculine and chase her, orherwise another guy would grab you. 😅😅 so it was a lot easier to play and stay femimine. Guys would flock around you . They had to do the work to keep you interested and win you over and then secure you. Lol @marygilmer9635
I love that you record ur podcasts !!!
I did this to my bf from time to time.
Overtime relationship will become boring. So this idea is really good to hype up the relationship. Be mysterious. Let them think and be curious.
But how do you do it once you get into the relationship with them? I feel too comfortable to go back to these games then, need tips :(
@@lillyvalak9254I need tips too
My mom was married 45 years. She wasn't always around to cater to my step-dad. She had a full life. He never stopped wooing her. She didn't constantly validate & show interest. Only sporadically. Kept him on his toes.
@@lillyvalak9254 don't share every little detail of your day with him. Just mention a brief highlight. Don't spend all your spare time with him either. Let him miss you and go out dressed up without him regularly and don't reach out to him. Let him feel little worried here amd there, etc
🎉self-happiness😢 is ur Lottery ticket!😊 it hurt leavn but I refuse to be mistreated. he was very jealous of my confidence etc. Instant subscriber. this man is a G.O.A.T!!!
god, save this man, he s a hidden gem
Literally all of your videos I’m binge watching and taking notes and even will rewatch and program myself with it all.
😂😂 I’m laughing I’m happily married & man the advice your giving these young women is spot on. I hope they take heed! I tell my son’s girlfriends all the time let him chase you! Validate your self, look out for self. It’s very attractive to men!
WHERE WAS THIS WHEN I STARTED DATING
I have been with my husband for 31 years we met in high school...I just wanted to say that your advice is on point. I have went from the golden retriever to the black cat "its never too late, lol". I enjoy watching your show & ive even picked up some great pointers, keep doing what you do
Yay good for you, all guys start getting too comfortable. He won't get bored of you if you respect yourself and not over give or care too much.
It’s so crazy because I get this and do this naturally ! When I’m not interested but boy… when I like a man lmao here I am relearning like my brain is putty 😂😂
Girl, same 😩
Men are such players these days, we have to outsmart them players by being even cooler them all, so they fall hard 😂😂
Yeah when I become desperate and needy for him to want me he ran he said i need to work on myself. I lost my self esteem he would have used me but he wouldn’t even meet me i am so glad he didn’t meet me in person because we were texting I would have given him my goods and would have regretted it after. Watching your videos has helped me 🥰
You speak really good..... I likes to hear your clear cut words & accent 💛
The best advice ever shared. I had no choice than to subscribe. Thank you mate!
When a guy says he only has Snapchat I run a mile...fake as shit.
lol “the squirtle”. So very true and hysterical name for “it” .
After I watched your “Don’t be dumb” video , I no longer have a desire to watch this😂 If I ever meet a guy and I’m wanting to figure out how to get him to chase me forever then he probably isn’t my guy but from what I’ve heard so far you do have some good texting advice.
This man is Gold ✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨🌟
Went all wrong wish I found this earlier I miss him so much but he's happy with someone else
Thank you for this message😊
Dropping a comment for engagement. This video is ace, 100% truth. Thank you for posting this :)
I like how he is being honest and funny ❤
Yes I was going to say painting.
I wish we were using the word ‘pursue’ instead of ‘chase’… chase sounds more like a toxic game, rather than staying in your feminine energy and having masculine men be in pursuit of that.. but, message received 😅
Gonna go listen to wizard liz andn sheera brb 👀 they low-key preach the same as you but this video is on point ngl
Am from East Africa and am glade to get you on youtube i used to see u on tiktok this is the best relationship advice i've ever get thank you my brother ❤ am learning alot of things ❤❤❤❤
Made some good points on this one but , being too much of the "reward " which usually feeds in an in individuals narcissism is not the best advice , makes your man/woman who have any form of self respect extremely exhausted thus loosing interest to pursue thinking your just playing hard to get making life difficult for you.
For real he is the Real Deal , i really appreciate ur advice. Thanks. I like it alot
Just wanted to show your channel some love 💕
This is definitely true… unfortunately on the female side, it always feels like such a game
dating is a sport 😪😪
Life is basically a game the cards are in your hand though 😂
@@dinab.3440 facts!
Girl if we don't learn the rules, we're done.
Thank you. Like a real brother
You are a gem. You are a man full of knowledge.you speaking like an old wise man. You are an eye opener.I subscribed you fast
This was super helpful! Thank you so much
I did this though not on purpose but being very busy they seem to see that as not being interested. 😂
But your interested in dates just don't have time for texting ! Big difference, sorts out the serious guys from the time wasting users 😅😅
Love the video, very helpful ❤ Can you make a video like this for how to make him chase you when you been together for a long time and/or married or about to be married please 🙏🏽
Greta Beresaite and Chengi from Black Swan Academy xx
Is it possible to flip the switch on them and become desirable after you were once desperate? Or nah have to start over with someone else?
You can try. Stop reaching out to him and see if he reaches out to you.
@@sallyjrwjrw6766 he always does
Goshhhhh ,
Eye opening......
You are right. I love the way you talk and I love your personality.
This is so eye opening thank you so much😊😊
Amen. I totally align with you. Thank you.
Coming from a man, i really appreciate it, thank you ❤
He is spot on...
man, thank you. really.
Thank you I needed this guy friend advice cause females be lieing to us
Stop
I love how direct you are
I needed to hear this. You now have a new subscriber
Thank you. Big sis here. I’m loving that you can help me with valuable advice. Subscribed.
WE DONT CARE! Leave us alone! I don’t want to be “chased”!
Chasing ?? I don't like marathons, as my gender said we don't care 😂
So then what do you do/say if hes just ok with FaceTiming and talking on the phone all day
I prefer the damn old TELEPHONE ☎️ 📞!!!
Exactly...
I miss the old fashion ways
loooooool, you are SU FUNNY)) and really GOOD!!!! thanks for this clear stuff!
you’re raising my standards!!!
This is 💯. I preach this on my channel as well. Keep it up!
This is great advice, thank you.
You so right thank you i learned so much ❤
what about LDR?
I have to go back and take notes while watching your videos.
How does this work if you are on a long-distance relationship? Like, how are you even going to maintain something where you can't text because you will be too available but at the same time cmyou can't see each other.
Gold nuggets!
Great advice
Amazing content in this video! I rarely suggest anything in comments, but the book women’s magic truths on borlest is a game-changer. It provides deep knowledge on wealth and self-care that can really make a difference. Take care, everyone
The carrot scene got me 😂😂😂
I do all this naturally. I watched the video as a judge tbh😂
Ur carrot analogy 😂😂😂 but very true ☝🏽
Thank you for telling the truth!
YOU ARE A GEM THANK YOU
Funny. Real. And accurate.
What if you’ve been dating for 5-6 months? Would you still not reach out?
what if i have done wrong from the start and now my boyfriend doesnt validate me？ does this work？
Wow this is your best video!! 😍
This channel >>>
Your skin looks great and thank you for the video.
It's Except instead of accept.
Your level of honesty and directness is me in a male body. It's hilarious and so necessary, because I remember being in my 20s and 30s and being so delusional, creating these fantasies out of bare minimum effort and action. And if these young women are willing to actually listen to what you are saying, they will save themselves so much time energy, tears and unnecessary Hope I will save it for the proper oneYour level of honesty and directness is me in a male body. It's hilarious and so necessary, because I remember being in my 20s and 30s and being so delusional, creating these fantasies out of bare minimum effort and action. And if these young women are willing to actually listen to what you are saying, they will save themselves so much time energy, tears and unnecessary Hope they will save it for the proper one
I enjoyed listening to your video
I lost at the first step 😢
I love this video so much! thank you!
This is like therapy for me 🥲 thank u
My crush texted me back, and I came to this vid to find my next steps.
Tomisin: Stop texting
Ok fine😂
The impersonations are hilarious 😅😅😅😅
Such a valuable video! I don’t often promote books, but the book women’s magic truths on borlest is an exception. It’s packed with insights on wealth and self-care that are not widely known. All the best to everyone
I’d love to give this a try. Thank you ❤
How long will it last for in the fridge please?xx
You’re snap chatting the side of your face, the ceiling! 😂😂😂
How to get over the fear of in person conversations?
Me too... introvert
The cry threw me to the ground.😂😂😂who else? 😂😂😂
Does this apply to women over 40?
This video was golden! Thanks ❤️
Golden advice ❤❤❤
Good advice.
You actually made me smile 😊