I'M PRETENDING TO BE OK: when your self-care stops working and you feel stuck.
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- Опубліковано 10 лип 2024
- Welcome to my new spring series: Ask Kalyn! Every other talk over the next few weeks will be giving advice sent in anonymously by listeners. Today's topic is how to stop pretending to be ok, despite doing all the 'self care', and actually feel your not-okayness.
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Your comment about how we stop seeking help when we aren't OK really resonated with me 🤯. I feel like I am learning how to get help again.
the mug and the sweater immediately made me smile ♥️
This coffee talk has came up at the perfect time I haven't been ok lately feeling stuck and my anxiety and OCD then working all the time. But I am slowly working through it and learning to slow down my life and put in the work and take my time and slowly heal.
OCD here too, we’re not alone ♥️
I have not been ok lately, feeling lost in life, feeling stuck, unsure and unsafe.... It feels like I'm heading toward a major burnout, but I don't know how to navigate away from this path I have chosen. Thank you for taking away the pressure to be perfect in self care ❤
I’m sorry to hear you’re struggling, this sounds really tough. I hope you find your way, and lots of love to you in the meantime ❤
I have a chronic illness and have also been suffering with depression, anxiety and ocd for most, if not all of my life. Most things don't work and what does only works for a short period. In my 18 years of living (or surviving) I have learned that putting a time limit on your life and wishing the days away while also wishing it doesn't go fast is one of the worst things to do. Being stuck in a continuous loop of suffering and not knowing if there's ever a way out. These videos really help me see a way through ❤️
I'm in the same boat 🤍 sending you so much love right now
@@itsPVNKSTER back at you ❤️❤️❤️
That sounds really tough. I hope you find your way through it and that you can find moments of peace and laughter along the way. Lots of love to you ❤
@@ellawarnberg4528 thank you 💗❤️
I have the same. What helps me is seeking wonders nearby, I mean to be amazed by the world, how complex it is. It’s a training, sometimes it’s tough to see it being overwhelmed by dark thoughts that are dragging us down. But for example looking long really and attentively at drop of honey at the edge of spoon, especially when there’s light going through, seeing how it twinkle/ glimmers is soothing somehow… sending love ❤️
Girl your braid is perfection😍
Thank you for giving voice to something I have long felt and been unable to express, mainly due to not feeling safe to express myself. I tend to recluse inside myself when I am overwhelmed or am dealing with things, and it’s time to change things. Your advice is what I tell my friends, and I mean it, so I need to figure out how to give myself that same love and space. Long way to say thank you, but thank you. And for anyone going through it, please know I have space in my heart for you & you’re doing better than you think. Love & Light! 💖💗💛
Kind of been relating to this for a while, especially as I prepare for college graduation and navigate the job market. Feel like no amount of self-care has been able to get me out of feeling stuck. Glad you're talking about this, think we can all use some good advice.
Well done on your graduation, I get that what comes next is stressful though. Lots of love to you, and I hope things work out soon!
thank you, i really needed this right now 😇
Love this ❤️always need advice for dealing with mom life and still being ourselves.
Nice your coffee talk.
this is so valuable. thank you so much.
i love the advice and would love to keep watching these!!
Currently going through a breakup with my kids father we were together for almost 7 years i feel like im just stuck in this zombie mode your videos really help bring me peace
Love how your sweater and mug match.
Thank you so much for this Kalyn! ❤️
You are so welcome!
I love your cloud sweater 😍 where is it from?
I’ve felt & been very stuck ever since graduating college which was many years ago now. Being an adult is rough & I’m not handling it well. Def. handling it worse than like every other adult. Minimum wage job, part time, no money, no decent health insurance, so no dating because of all that. Hopefully I’ll get my ish together.
Hey, being an adult really is rough, and I’m proud of you for getting to this point. Even if you’re not where you wish to be, you’re worthy of love and kindness. Even from yourself, and from strangers on the internet. I hope things get better for you soon, sending lots of hugs❤
You look so beautiful 🦋 I love your hair!
Thank you so much!! 🥲
Te amo❤
Hi! I am dreaming about your mug with clouds. Please, tell me where you have bought it ❤
Girl I’m always here listening on UA-cam it wasn’t always that way because you see at first I was subscribed to the podcast on Apple but I guess I must’ve unsubscribed witch makes me sad but at least I’m listening on UA-cam and that’s what counts
This came at the perfect time 🪐💚
okay but how did you know 🙃
Be careful with lavender tea at your state.
Reading the comments and seeing other people talking about OCD made me feel less alone struggling with it, thank you ❤️🩹