Can we take a moment to recognize this mom? Here is an apparently single mom of three who is aware enough of how important her own inner work is that she found a way to attend this conference. Kudos to you sister, for your heart, for your desire to grow, and for your recognition that being a good mom to your boys means being a "whole person" yourself. I'd hazard to intuit that you're a really good mom and your boys are blessed to have you.
Angela French No. A woman asking for help is nothing laudable. Happily it is a rather commonplace default setting. After I told my mother that her spanking me was being done in anger, she stopped that. Instead, she would count to ten, then start in.
Im grateful for a conscious present BEING who is a reflection of our needs during our times, who is helping to bring presence forward in the collective.
Have patience with yourself, I have faith in you. Look at the bright side you could be in North Korea, and not even know who you are or how you got there in the first place.
Yeah, and kids - especially those around 3 who just develop the ego - have a very low level of consciousness. That does not mean that you can ignore them like with most adults.
Compassion with self then allows us to have compassion with others. Love others AS WE LOVE OURSELVES. Authentically behaving correctly toward others can only happen when we are authentically behaving correctly with ourselves.
Other teachers or psychs would probably say: Go attend a 6-month Anger Management workshop. Instead Eckhart nailed it in 16 minutes and 16 seconds. 👋 You're the best Eckhart! ♥️
As many times as I have watched Eckhart, I always am learning and feeling refreshed.His whole demeanor and way of speaking puts me at ease. He is a meditation.
What just struck me is that if anyone has issues of reactivity, to sit and write down a list of triggers or situations that you know for sure. When you write them down, you tend to remember them easier. Then when you become aware of those but still react, you can then apologize for it (if needed, to yourself and to others). After that, over time you will find yourself being more responsible for yourself in that way. I am so happy to be in this process, as i have been extremely reactive my entire life (i'm 50 in january).
I'm 28. Thank you for the tool. Hopefully when I'm 50 I wont say the same but perhaps pass down a tool of my own. Love is in the circle that makes us one
You can recontexualise situations and intend to see them differently and decide to make them pass through you. No need to act in a robotic way . But rather in a coscious way.
Yes! I will be 42 soon, and I feel this deeply. I wish I was a little further along the path than where I am. Yet I am far less reactive than I used to be, and am headed in the direction of more consciousness. Had a reactive situation tonight that feel badly about. But like Eckhart recommended, I'm using it as part of my practice... Sending love and grace to my fellow travelers on the path.💜💜💜
Oh man! Being a mother- a single mother is overwhelming! Beside using her life as practice, getting more support would be good. Raising children is the most challenging practice. I could go on... Hang in there chica and forgive yourself for mistakes.
Yeah, let go of trying to be the perfect parent. Anger is a sign of being exhausted and weak. Try to find a supportive group of people - other single parents included.
@@onreact I found out recently that anger is often an expression due to needs not being met, or boundaries violated. Feelings of weakness and exhaustion can arise from both. The best treatment is to really learn to meet your own needs, as best possible...keeping a full tank & also clearly & calmly, voicing needs. Whether that’s a need for help from others, a request of the child etc, all important. Sometimes, we have gotten into patterns of denying our own needs and boundaries. Those deficits lead to anger and resentment.
REST and SUPPORT for your daily workload and responsibility is what you need first and foremost dear... if you can arrange for atleast 30mts everyday for self preservation it can do magic. Every young mother need personal space though only a few are fortunate to have this. Use Soothing sleep music, chantings etc to calm your nerves... legit many good women are pushed waay past their tipping point without anyone even acknowledging that this is a modern malice. I strongly believe Awakening to the present moment needs a huge amount of supportive factors not just commitment to the practice., one important factor being living in an environment with positive energies so that whatever negativities that arise in your mind like tension, irritation, frustration, anger due to your sitation will not deplete your existing positive energy reserve.
@@Alphacentauri819 Yeah, exactly. Anger is a sign something is boiling underneath. Make sure to notice the heat early and cool down. As Zen master Seung Sahn said: the hungry shall eat, the tired shall sleep. For decades I was wondering where the wisdom is in that quote until I realized that when you're hungry and tired being conscious is much harder or downright impossible. Sure, there will be stressful times etc. but you can organize life in a less stressful way to prevent most of them.
It is a very subtle practice. I am a victim of crime. Driven from my home and now living in intolerable situation that I can't control or change. My tin shed is so hot I am passing out and must move. A very difficult situation with little funds, trauma , my pets to care for etc, etc. Your teachings are an an hour to me. To be able to remove myself and not react to the reaction. It's a constant and it is working....thankyou. God bless yoy
I understand that she is a single mum. I am a single mum too and i often feel guilty too. Guilty because i often feel that my son deserves a better life that the one he is leading. Being a single mum is extremely difficult especially if the father has left for good. I feel for her and like her, i am here tonight to grow and become a better mother.
I am starting to feel guilty for not feeling guilty! Hahaha! But seriously, you and your son chose each other; there is no reason to feel guilt for even meager provisions. Does he know you love him? Do you listen to him? Do you hold him/care for him when he needs it? That’s all that matters. Then when he grows up (or maybe he’s almost grown now) he will look back and those will be the parts he remembers. Your smile, your patience, the quiet moments you shared perhaps. Rearing children is probably the most difficult things there is to do in the world because it requires a huge sacrifice-your time, your needs, your desires, everything. Absolutely everything. Or it can. Cheers.
The best thing you can do is love yourself unconditionally & teach this to your kids. It makes no difference who looks after the kids, as long as they are loved & well taken care of. Coming from a home where both parents were there but both were abusive, neither wanted nor loved me, I know this to be true. Let Go of the guilt ❤🙏
"...and it is passed onto the next generation, until somebody like you awakens" Just to show how important we are to the healing process and clearing ancestral karma.
I just had that situation put forth to me literally 30 minutes ago. I was tempted to relapse on my no fap streak as I happen to randomly chanced upon seductive looking pictures on twitter, I had a choice. I decided to make coffee and I proceeded to look through youtube and not feel sorry for myself. Coincidentally enough, this video came at the right time. I am aware at that very moment before I could have felt guilty or angry for succumbing to temptation. Good vibrations
Or is it hard to attain? Is that just more work of the ego trying to make it seem like a state of pure awareness is out of reach, when in fact it is within a touchable distance for you
Yes very hard, people easily judge & easily say "be aware" or "take a breath" but that is what this is about - it's not easy if u do not have the awareness, I have been in this reactive/triggering situation many a times & it's very disappointing for yourself & even worse if u struggle with meditation 🙏
The way you react to things can determine the future outcome of an event. We must always remember that we have full control of our reality and what we attract into our experience. Much love 🙏🏽❤️
I totally agree with your first statement and think that’s an important thing to meditate on. However, I have a problem with your second statement about having full control of our reality. I believe there are causes and conditions that affect us & aren’t under our control.And I know of no one who has full control over their reactions all of the time. By the way, I am not intending to be argumentative or trying to negate your experience. I enjoy such discourse and working out my own spiritual issues.🙏
@@GratefulZen I agree with both of you. That second part, I took it as "we have full control." Whether or not we are ABLE to exercise the control is definitely another thing. Lol. Love this open minded dialogue
What an incredible shift I’m my life this man has initiated.... I used to be very reactive to so many life situations... often not knowing why my reaction was so strong... feeling guilty and ashamed. Understanding the simplicity of acceptance has changed everything for me. I’ve read all Eckhart’s books and watch his videos daily... the impact that these teachings has had on my life cannot be overstated.... Looking back at who I used to be even 4 years ago is like looking at a complete stranger...it really is an odd feeling. It is truly amazing how a shift in consciousness can transform your world Thank you ET
Joan, you’ve been chosen to break that chain. ahhhhh the sacrifices you have to make are incredible yes lol break that chain Joan, you can do it! you’re already doing it.
“You will continue to suffer if you have an emotional reaction to everything that is said to you. True power is observing things with logic. True power is restraint. If words control you that means everyone else can control you. Breathe and allow things to pass.” 😎 - Bruce Lee (maybe) 🔮♾
Very apt quote. Just drop the logic. Observe things without judging and analyzing. Act intuitively instead. Logic is mind made and based on your and the collective past. Be present and beyond mind instead.
I love reading the comments, as there are so many wise people who study eckhart in different ways and contexts to put the teachings into practice, which ends up making understanding even easier.Greeatings from Piraquara BR.
I always imagined Eckhart is directly channeling his words, he just doesn’t announce it. This is the first time I heard him tell someone there is a shift happening in this moment. Just wonderful. Spirit is working with the person too.
This is so what I’m dealing with currently. For the first time today I let my guilt go for “loosing it” with my wonderfully intelligent 9 year old daughter. I feel like this video is going to help my life in so many ways.
Sometimes just to be in presence of the other soul, your intelligent 9 year old daughter , in the now, in silence and just experiencing her , you will gain so much and learn so much from her too. Best wishes dear... ❤
This makes me want to cry. I just got triggered and then felt shame & guilty because i reacted. Now i realize, i accept it. Accept the present moment as it is, and accept all part of me reacting. Thank you so much!
A section of this, at the 5:55 minute mark, was very practical advice to help with the shift to awareness. Glad he spent time to help with the guiding.
"The most important thing here is my consciousness" , and all external reactions , although seemingly righteous, fail in comparison to such a realization. Let the noise happen. "Surrender to it" . "The noise goes right thru you". WOW so much simpler said than done. I am hopeful for others to realize such a higher mindset, and maintain it, just as I strive myself. The guilt is perhaps best seen as noise from yourself; Encourge the passing of guilt right thru yourself, but not without taking note, as to raise the level of awareness until we are fully awake. Grateful for Guilt and Anger as such tools. Blissfully, Thank you
My partner SNORES!!!! I through meditation have turned this evil into a quiet resolve that I now find comforting! It’s amazing how we can change our thoughts like that! I love practicing these methods! Thank you darling ❤️❤️❤️🌹🌹🌹
Parenting with presence is the best and it's contagious. I reversed the trajectory of my reactionary family. Now seemingly trying situations are a source of joy! Good luck.
Oh my goodness so spiritually uplifting set me up for the day. I'm not losing anything anymore 😂😂I've learnt to surrender in the moment and breathe through it until the next time😂This technique really works🙏Namaste 🙏
Thank you Eckhart for one of the MOST impactful lectures on controlling your anger. Most ALL of us can relate to this woman because we too suffer from this too. I am truly grateful for the way you explained how step by step how the anger comes and then we can observe and be aware which in of itself is so healing. You are one of the BEST spiritual teachers Eckhart ! With gratitude🙏
Eckhart Tolle and Kurt Tepperwein are really a blessing for all Humanities this time. If everyone will listen to their words and follow what they speak, this World will be a better place. Its hard when you are awake and everybody around you is still sleeping. Is very sad sometimes to feel alive, when the rest of peoples in this world, just existing.
Reactivity= complicated human mind=individual forms(anger)= lose consciousness See it coming= moment of practice(state of consciousness) use it to b part of ur consciousness. This forces u2 go deeper. Build up= see behavior as an alertness= element of choice allow it= reaction & surrender decide 2 not get angry at urself. The moment consciousness is broken u notice it= consciousness.
I’ve watched this one a dozen times just as a comforting reminder. After a year of following Eckhart’s teachings, I still react too much before awareness kicks in but I’m finally getting better. It helps to watch this particular clip with this wonderful single mother who has more awareness than she even knows, already, just to be asking her question. My son is grown and if she can be that conscious as a single mother of 3 little boys then what’s my excuse? I love being a part of Eckhart’s following and online community here. Abiding by his lessons to the best of our ability is the most important thing we could ever do. There’s a lot of support here from awakened beings, too which I appreciate and need. Namaste 🙏.
You are part of collective human shift to consciousness. This is monumental. Unconsciousness on Earth for the last thousands of years is now shifting to awakening and consciousness. You are part of the universal awakening process. Reactivity is unconscious resistance to the present. Once you realize it, return to presence. No anger or blame. Thanks Eckhart. 🐦🐛🐪♥️🏖🐧🎡🍇⛳💡🐥
This is all moms. I figured out that motherhood was also a spiritual path but there was a lot of guilt over being human. Thank you so very much for putting this into words!!!
Some Single moms have a very difficult time today as the family structure is not available to support young mothers the way it used to. I am thankful my exwife is there for her daughter and I have grown to see we all have faults and troubles in this world. I am grateful to guidance of spiritual teachers. It is also good to have practical tools to deal with everyday problems. I am very fortunate to have a brand new grandaughter. I am hopeful both Grandma and I can be good examples for her as she begins her journey on earth. Frances the Best to you! love, Grandpa
This is exactly what I’m dealing with and what I’m trying to learn. This pandemic has made me realize I couldn’t control what my parents and family decide to do. Go out or not wear a mask, etc. I had huge conflicts within myself with my reactions and surrendering control and frustration. I’m a lot more at peace now because of practicing the awareness of my reactions.
The mind creates reality. Wearing a mask or not is not the issue.. controlling the mind is. I’ve not worn a mask once in London and people have coughed or sneezed near me and I just controlled my mind ‘it’s a smokers cough’ ‘they must have hay fever’. What people don’t realise as they are not awake is that the mind creates the result not the thing outside. That’s why a deadly virus cannot harm animals or children .. because they give it no attention.. also they live in the NOW so no thought pattern.. they aren’t in fear or worry. They just live in the NOW. What people don’t realise is a virus won’t select who to infect.. it’s the mind that creates the result. We are all creating our own reality in the world. So even if a person does test positive in their reality and they sneeze on me.. in my mind I’ll change it to ‘hay fever’ so my mind changes it in my reality and body is protected ❤️
Thank you so much, Eckhart. I am definitely dealing with the anger-reaction and old egoic habit, and realize directly or a minute afterwards. Good to realize that after I get angry and notice afterwards, at least noticing afterwards means I am awareness again. This is exactly what I needed. Thanks.
I ve got 3kids too. They remind us on how we truly want to live and because we hold ourselves up we get angry or react in some way. To reflect on our reactions is freeing us.
This video has got to be the most impactful one I have seen yet. My interactions with my mother/greatest trigger have completely changed. I have so much more consciousness when interacting with her and I no longer ‘lose it’. 🙂
Tolle's example about the jackhammer is in fact EXACTLY what happened during one session of our college meditation club. The loud noise continued throughout the session and stopped about when the session was over. I think for the most part we reacted in the skillful way Tolle suggests.
I really relate to this mom; I have been having a similar problem lately. it’s so helpful being reminded of how we can be a better witness to hostile emotions, particularly the point on not judging yourself for “losing it.”
Thank you for being present during these tough times. I know the guilt can keep me stuck at times. I really like what you said about it being her Spiritual practice. I react alot with my partners unconscious behavior, the denial, or the justification really get to me and I then react and lose it, good message about when you react to toxic energy you become part of it unknowingly. Thanks again for your Wisdom friend.
One thing I like to practice that has helped me with shame and guilt immensely was not judging myself after the reaction and telling myself “I know that I reacted but I forgive myself because it wasn’t me who reacted. It was the conditioning.” And then try to surrender to triggering situations like Tolle has mentioned
That's me a single mom to 2 boys... It's taken a toll on me for many years and still is as my oldest son triggers all kinds of emotions and makes me not only angry but cry for days and days... Now I learned not to be guilted any more and just let t be... My only problem is I don't want them to be hit by karma of their poor choices!
Does anyone ever imagine what eckhart would do if he had to watch kids or toddlers for a week? Like I would love to see his reaction/how he deals with them!
I feel like there would be a lot of dirty dishes in the sink, piles of laundry, messy, smiling faces, lots of love and happy hearts. Uncle Eckart would probably spend lots of time outside with them in Nature, reveling in the miracles of the flowers and the children.
Thank you, dear Eckhart, this subject of reactivity is beautifully explained for what it is, with the moment of awareness after "losing it". I've noticed that the practice of observing what happens, and what's likely to trigger a reaction in me, is fruitful when familiar thought patterns begin to run through my mind and I can stop that stampede, and choose a point of view that is a choice instead of an instinctual response. And family patterns show up also!
I will remember this video next time I "lose it". Imagine. You have a choice. Watch a reaction arising. Do I unconsciously "lose it" or do I allow the present to unfold naturally. How many people wake up in a jail cell after "losing it" and cannot understand how they could do such a thing. They cannot even recall what happened. How the Ego loves negativity. It talked you into acting unconsciously and then berates you for doing what you did. I clearly see this and yet time and time again, I fall into the same trap. Listening to the mind/ego. It is like an addiction. You clearly see what is happening but, due to conditioning, you must react unconsciously.
Thankyou Eckhart for helping me in being more alert and present, i have come a long way from where i was and i continue to learn my way being more present with each passing moment🙏🏻
I needed this SO bad!! I was trying to meditate today and trying to make it a quiet place, perfect pose, ideal location etc... all the things we think it should be. He helped me to realize it doesn’t have to be! Also, needed this as I have a 5 year old daughter and my roommate has a 7 year old on the weekends. You never cease to amaze me Eckhart! Thank you!!!
Adorable and so loving towards that Being...and all.....and such clear explanation of the mechanism of.mind made suffering.... Thank GOD for your awakening and sharing truth for a more awakened world..🙏🌍🙏🌍 Hugs...
Note to self: 'When unconscious neighbours allow their dogs to bark continuously it is an opportunity for me to go deeper into meditation'. (love dogs, can't say I feel the same about unconcerned/irresponsible owners).
Good on You Mum!!! This Mum cares soo much fr her children. To This Mum, You are doing the very best that you can for now. I just want to give you some support about that. Eckhart is the expert 🙂
I want to say thank you!! At random I saw a video of you were you read from your Book about the ego! I got frightened about it because I could really see that you are true and that the ego lives inside of me and my mother! I really was scared but I wanted to know more about it because it was so true I couldn’t deny it! For several years I watched your Videos and also those form beautiful mooji and you helped me very much finding my self! I still see sometimes the ego coming back but I am not so strong attached to it and therefor I am really thankful! In some years or maybe even from now on I can life completely without the ego. I don’t know if you are going to read this but whether you do or don’t, I Hope you know how thankful I am to you and also thankful for the love you spread to the world!
4:17 The most important thing here is my state of consciousness. Am I able to use this situation as part of my spiritual practice ? [ That’s how you awaken. ] Not by eliminating situations but by using them, incorporating them, into your spiritual practice. These annoyances are a great opportunity to awaken much more deeply. When the situation starts to build us you there is an opportunity coming right at you.
Thank you, with this Anger "situation" am I dealing with also , for a few days werry strongly. And actually I have no reason for. I am gonna take your advice. You are a beutiful soul and exceptional messenger. 💖💖💖
Believe me, I've been dealing with it for over 30 years, unconsciously. Only after a mental breakdown, just over a month ago, I've finally woken up. I have a long way to go to finding some peace, but at least we're on the road to recovery. At least we're aware now. That in itself is beautiful.
Thank you for sharing this. It gave me such a deep appreciation for my own circumstances, annoyances, disruptions, etc. I realize now these are my own tailor-made opportunities for practicing presence and going deeper. What a blessing they are, lol!🥰
Deep sense of gratitude always, and especially to the lady for sharing and expressing what she experiences. I, we, many can relate to...(I experience this plenty of times, on daily occasion) This information helps very much and explains what we go through on a routine basis...Dear Mr. Eckhart Tolle, everybody, "Thank you always!!!" Love you, Love thy neighbors, Love thyself, Love for the Universe...Thank you, Infinitely, Indeed!!! Namaste❤🙏
And yet, all the guided meditations out there suggest us to find ourselves in a quiet place, silent. But i understand that it's the best way to start meditating. But as Mr.Tolle says it so well here...you have to take it further, even when the environment is not so calm. That's why i meditate with my windows open in summer, i hear cars passing by, noises, and it becomes part of it all. I also do it on the bus. It never stops getting easier and better. I consider meditation as a survival behaviour i truly need, today. It's only this year that i made the commitment to meditate every single day, just as i brush my teeth daily for a good dental health; it's a mental health habit. I can't go without it, just as i wouldn't forget to brush my teeth. Some people don't like Mr.Tolle, but he speaks to my human condition, make it easy to understand for me. Thank you for this.
Losing it is a decision the second time . We need to be conscious of not allowing ourselves to decide to lose it. I guess with a lot of practice we could master it. Thank you for explaining it so clearly, you are a blessing to humanity.
what she is seeking is a perfrct personality that will react perfectly in every situation...that does not exist..but that does not mean one is a bad person looking for words of encouragement that you are a good person
We are so lucky to have you Eckhart. You changed so many people lives and you continue doing it. With every book I read about spirituality I used to feel that there is still something missing until I found yours and something just clicked knowing that it’s all I need.
Thank You For The Insight & Heightened Awareness, Eckhart Tolle, Your Teachings Always Inspire Me . You Are Truly A Blessed Soul, Please Continue To Shine Your Light Ever So Bright.
This lecture reminds me of the Lucinda Williams song, “I Lost It”. She sings about losing something important to her and accepts the loss replacing it with love and authenticity.
Can we take a moment to recognize this mom? Here is an apparently single mom of three who is aware enough of how important her own inner work is that she found a way to attend this conference. Kudos to you sister, for your heart, for your desire to grow, and for your recognition that being a good mom to your boys means being a "whole person" yourself. I'd hazard to intuit that you're a really good mom and your boys are blessed to have you.
Yes Yes & YES. Thank you for this comment as it perfectly sums up the integral part we all play in this Awakening process.
Yeah, kudos for becoming a conscious parent in such difficult circumstances.
Angela French No. A woman asking for help is nothing laudable. Happily it is a rather commonplace default setting. After I told my mother that her spanking me was being done in anger, she stopped that. Instead, she would count to ten, then start in.
This is lovely :) Maybe we really are awakening just like Tolle said here.
Yes!! Woman are so powerful 💜
Tolle is the real deal: humble, patient, wise, and good humored. We are very lucky to him as a teacher in these crazy times
Amen to that!
Yes we are... I am so so happy and thankful! 💛💛💛
Im grateful for a conscious present BEING who is a reflection of our needs during our times, who is helping to bring presence forward in the collective.
Oh Indeed!!
Indeed 💜😘
Create a World Within You where nothing offends you, and there are no enemies just different levels of consciousness.
Very lovely quote and thank you for the reminder. I live in USA and it’s been very hard for me to stay conscious during such challenging times.
Have patience with yourself, I have faith in you. Look at the bright side you could be in North Korea, and not even know who you are or how you got there in the first place.
Cultivate the Inner Citadel :)
good words.
Yeah, and kids - especially those around 3 who just develop the ego - have a very low level of consciousness. That does not mean that you can ignore them like with most adults.
“I lost it but I know I lost it, that's fine. ” This is so encouraging.
Yes thats it right there.."knowing"= awareness!
I agree this was a lightbulb 💡 moment for me 👏👏🥰🙏🦋
Compassion with self then allows us to have compassion with others. Love others AS WE LOVE OURSELVES. Authentically behaving correctly toward others can only happen when we are authentically behaving correctly with ourselves.
Other teachers or psychs would probably say: Go attend a 6-month Anger Management workshop. Instead Eckhart nailed it in 16 minutes and 16 seconds. 👋 You're the best Eckhart! ♥️
That’s a good situation. To me they just throw some pills and bye. Now I’m here trying to educate myself.
As many times as I have watched Eckhart, I always am learning and feeling refreshed.His whole demeanor and way of speaking puts me at ease. He is a meditation.
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True ☺️
Yes , he has a calming affect and best wisdom ever
„Ask yourself: Am I able to use this situation as part of my spiritual practice because that’s how you awaken.“ I love that ❤️
No you don't.
@@jonhohensee3258 but it feels like I do
@@henrike34 Yeah... but ya can't trust feelings.
@@jonhohensee3258 I don’t. I observe them
@@henrike34 So you claim.
What just struck me is that if anyone has issues of reactivity, to sit and write down a list of triggers or situations that you know for sure. When you write them down, you tend to remember them easier. Then when you become aware of those but still react, you can then apologize for it (if needed, to yourself and to others). After that, over time you will find yourself being more responsible for yourself in that way. I am so happy to be in this process, as i have been extremely reactive my entire life (i'm 50 in january).
good technique to write the triggers down. helps to keep awareness on the oncoming dangers.
I'm 28. Thank you for the tool. Hopefully when I'm 50 I wont say the same but perhaps pass down a tool of my own. Love is in the circle that makes us one
You can recontexualise situations and intend to see them differently and decide to make them pass through you. No need to act in a robotic way . But rather in a coscious way.
Yes! I started doing this the other day.
Yes! I will be 42 soon, and I feel this deeply. I wish I was a little further along the path than where I am. Yet I am far less reactive than I used to be, and am headed in the direction of more consciousness. Had a reactive situation tonight that feel badly about. But like Eckhart recommended, I'm using it as part of my practice... Sending love and grace to my fellow travelers on the path.💜💜💜
Oh man! Being a mother- a single mother is overwhelming! Beside using her life as practice, getting more support would be good. Raising children is the most challenging practice. I could go on... Hang in there chica and forgive yourself for mistakes.
Yeah, let go of trying to be the perfect parent. Anger is a sign of being exhausted and weak. Try to find a supportive group of people - other single parents included.
@@onreact I found out recently that anger is often an expression due to needs not being met, or boundaries violated.
Feelings of weakness and exhaustion can arise from both.
The best treatment is to really learn to meet your own needs, as best possible...keeping a full tank & also clearly & calmly, voicing needs.
Whether that’s a need for help from others, a request of the child etc, all important.
Sometimes, we have gotten into patterns of denying our own needs and boundaries. Those deficits lead to anger and resentment.
REST and SUPPORT for your daily workload and responsibility is what you need first and foremost dear... if you can arrange for atleast 30mts everyday for self preservation it can do magic. Every young mother need personal space though only a few are fortunate to have this. Use Soothing sleep music, chantings etc to calm your nerves... legit many good women are pushed waay past their tipping point without anyone even acknowledging that this is a modern malice.
I strongly believe Awakening to the present moment needs a huge amount of supportive factors not just commitment to the practice., one important factor being living in an environment with positive energies so that whatever negativities that arise in your mind like tension, irritation, frustration, anger due to your sitation will not deplete your existing positive energy reserve.
@@Alphacentauri819 Yeah, exactly. Anger is a sign something is boiling underneath. Make sure to notice the heat early and cool down.
As Zen master Seung Sahn said: the hungry shall eat, the tired shall sleep. For decades I was wondering where the wisdom is in that quote until I realized that when you're hungry and tired being conscious is much harder or downright impossible.
Sure, there will be stressful times etc. but you can organize life in a less stressful way to prevent most of them.
@ZeRo pretty sure eckhart would be just fine
Learning how to know you’re unconscious, is the way to stay conscious through any situation.
It is a very subtle practice. I am a victim of crime. Driven from my home and now living in intolerable situation that I can't control or change. My tin shed is so hot I am passing out and must move. A very difficult situation with little funds, trauma , my pets to care for etc, etc. Your teachings are an an hour to me. To be able to remove myself and not react to the reaction. It's a constant and it is working....thankyou. God bless yoy
bless you Faith
I understand that she is a single mum. I am a single mum too and i often feel guilty too. Guilty because i often feel that my son deserves a better life that the one he is leading. Being a single mum is extremely difficult especially if the father has left for good. I feel for her and like her, i am here tonight to grow and become a better mother.
I am starting to feel guilty for not feeling guilty! Hahaha! But seriously, you and your son chose each other; there is no reason to feel guilt for even meager provisions. Does he know you love him? Do you listen to him? Do you hold him/care for him when he needs it? That’s all that matters. Then when he grows up (or maybe he’s almost grown now) he will look back and those will be the parts he remembers. Your smile, your patience, the quiet moments you shared perhaps. Rearing children is probably the most difficult things there is to do in the world because it requires a huge sacrifice-your time, your needs, your desires, everything. Absolutely everything. Or it can. Cheers.
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The best thing you can do is love yourself unconditionally & teach this to your kids. It makes no difference who looks after the kids, as long as they are loved & well taken care of. Coming from a home where both parents were there but both were abusive, neither wanted nor loved me, I know this to be true. Let Go of the guilt ❤🙏
You and your son are exactly where you are supposed to be. All you have to do is love unconditionally, listen with an open heart, just be there.
Reaction is an opportunity to breathe and come back to the present moment❤️💕🌏
"...and it is passed onto the next generation, until somebody like you awakens"
Just to show how important we are to the healing process and clearing ancestral karma.
The best state of mind is when you always have a choice: reacting or not reacting - but that's very hard to attain!
I just had that situation put forth to me literally 30 minutes ago. I was tempted to relapse on my no fap streak as I happen to randomly chanced upon seductive looking pictures on twitter, I had a choice. I decided to make coffee and I proceeded to look through youtube and not feel sorry for myself. Coincidentally enough, this video came at the right time. I am aware at that very moment before I could have felt guilty or angry for succumbing to temptation.
Good vibrations
Or is it hard to attain? Is that just more work of the ego trying to make it seem like a state of pure awareness is out of reach, when in fact it is within a touchable distance for you
If you keep saying that it is hard, than it WILL BE really hard to attain
@@40roos I don't mean that as a discouragement =) But there are very very few people out there who can do it
Yes very hard, people easily judge & easily say "be aware" or "take a breath" but that is what this is about - it's not easy if u do not have the awareness, I have been in this reactive/triggering situation many a times & it's very disappointing for yourself & even worse if u struggle with meditation 🙏
The way you react to things can determine the future outcome of an event. We must always remember that we have full control of our reality and what we attract into our experience. Much love 🙏🏽❤️
Peace and blessings and joy to you
I totally agree with your first statement and think that’s an important thing to meditate on. However, I have a problem with your second statement about having full control of our reality. I believe there are causes and conditions that affect us & aren’t under our control.And I know of no one who has full control over their reactions all of the time. By the way, I am not intending to be argumentative or trying to negate your experience. I enjoy such discourse and working out my own spiritual issues.🙏
@@GratefulZen I agree with both of you. That second part, I took it as "we have full control."
Whether or not we are ABLE to exercise the control is definitely another thing. Lol. Love this open minded dialogue
@@JesstheCreative1 I enjoy it too and I think your “username” is cool!
@@GratefulZen Thank you! 🙏🏾☮☯️🕉
Phew - we are soooo lucky to have Eckhart as a teacher in these times. We are divinely blessed!
What an incredible shift I’m my life this man has initiated....
I used to be very reactive to so many life situations... often not knowing why my reaction was so strong... feeling guilty and ashamed.
Understanding the simplicity of acceptance has changed everything for me.
I’ve read all Eckhart’s books and watch his videos daily... the impact that these teachings has had on my life cannot be overstated....
Looking back at who I used to be even 4 years ago is like looking at a complete stranger...it really is an odd feeling.
It is truly amazing how a shift in consciousness can transform your world
Thank you ET
which book helped you the most in being less reactive ?
It struck a chord with me when he said about it goes on through the generations. Hopefully we're the ones to change it.
Joan, you’ve been chosen to break that chain.
ahhhhh the sacrifices you have to make are incredible yes lol
break that chain Joan, you can do it!
you’re already doing it.
“You will continue to suffer if you have an emotional reaction to everything that is said to you. True power is observing things with logic. True power is restraint. If words control you that means everyone else can control you. Breathe and allow things to pass.” 😎 - Bruce Lee (maybe) 🔮♾
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Very apt quote. Just drop the logic. Observe things without judging and analyzing. Act intuitively instead. Logic is mind made and based on your and the collective past. Be present and beyond mind instead.
@@onreact Good point. Thank you🙏
Resisting is noise
Accepting is sound
Honoring is music
It's a choice.
That’s a good way to frame it
So good said♡
This needs to be a tshirt....👍
I love this! Thank you!
And what about my husband's snoring? :) :)
I love reading the comments, as there are so many wise people who study eckhart in different ways and contexts to put the teachings into practice, which ends up making understanding even easier.Greeatings from Piraquara BR.
Eckhart may have saved my life 😊.. he is so calming, logical and truthful .. so funny and warm too!
Eckhart, you changed my life. In fact, I CHANGED MY LIFE through you.
@Eckhart Tolle reported for impersonation
I always imagined Eckhart is directly channeling his words, he just doesn’t announce it. This is the first time I heard him tell someone there is a shift happening in this moment. Just wonderful. Spirit is working with the person too.
What a spiritual teacher, when he talks everything is clear simple yet very powerful !
This is so what I’m dealing with currently. For the first time today I let my guilt go for “loosing it” with my wonderfully intelligent 9 year old daughter. I feel like this video is going to help my life in so many ways.
Sometimes just to be in presence of the other soul, your intelligent 9 year old daughter , in the now, in silence and just experiencing her , you will gain so much and learn so much from her too. Best wishes dear... ❤
@@kalyanipatel9088 Beautifully put
Listening to Eckhart and reading his books, leaves me speechless. So much timeless wisdom 🙏🏼♥️ Thank you for sharing.
@@JonasAnandaKristiansson ❤
Yeeeessss!!!!💜 the best thing that came out of 2020!
Our true nature and essence Is pure Love , Peace , stillness , bliss , pure Consciousness and pure Awareness 💚
This makes me want to cry. I just got triggered and then felt shame & guilty because i reacted. Now i realize, i accept it. Accept the present moment as it is, and accept all part of me reacting. Thank you so much!
A section of this, at the 5:55 minute mark, was very practical advice to help with the shift to awareness. Glad he spent time to help with the guiding.
"The most important thing here is my consciousness" , and all external reactions , although seemingly righteous, fail in comparison to such a realization. Let the noise happen. "Surrender to it" . "The noise goes right thru you". WOW so much simpler said than done. I am hopeful for others to realize such a higher mindset, and maintain it, just as I strive myself.
The guilt is perhaps best seen as noise from yourself; Encourge the passing of guilt right thru yourself, but not without taking note, as to raise the level of awareness until we are fully awake.
Grateful for Guilt and Anger as such tools.
Blissfully, Thank you
My partner SNORES!!!! I through meditation have turned this evil into a quiet resolve that I now find comforting! It’s amazing how we can change our thoughts like that! I love practicing these methods! Thank you darling ❤️❤️❤️🌹🌹🌹
I never comment. But I loved & needed to hear this one! I'm glad she asked that question. Parenting with presence would be a great topic.
I try to comment. I'm a helpful male person.
Parenting with presence is the best and it's contagious. I reversed the trajectory of my reactionary family. Now seemingly trying situations are a source of joy! Good luck.
Oh my goodness so spiritually uplifting set me up for the day. I'm not losing anything anymore 😂😂I've learnt to surrender in the moment and breathe through it until the next time😂This technique really works🙏Namaste 🙏
Thank you Eckhart for one of the MOST impactful lectures on controlling your anger. Most ALL of us can relate to this woman because we too suffer from this too. I am truly grateful for the way you explained how step by step how the anger comes and then we can observe and be aware which in of itself is so healing. You are one of the BEST spiritual teachers Eckhart ! With gratitude🙏
It’s more of a blessing to see who says or does what to gain status with majority💐🙏💐
Eckhart Tolle and Kurt Tepperwein are really a blessing for all Humanities this time.
If everyone will listen to their words and follow what they speak, this World will be a better place.
Its hard when you are awake and everybody around you is still sleeping. Is very sad sometimes to feel alive, when the rest of peoples in this world, just existing.
Reactivity= complicated human mind=individual forms(anger)= lose consciousness
See it coming= moment of practice(state of consciousness) use it to b part of ur consciousness. This forces u2 go deeper.
Build up= see behavior as an alertness= element of choice allow it= reaction & surrender decide 2 not get angry at urself. The moment consciousness is broken u notice it= consciousness.
Hi
I’ve watched this one a dozen times just as a comforting reminder. After a year of following Eckhart’s teachings, I still react too much before awareness kicks in but I’m finally getting better. It helps to watch this particular clip with this wonderful single mother who has more awareness than she even knows, already, just to be asking her question. My son is grown and if she can be that conscious as a single mother of 3 little boys then what’s my excuse? I love being a part of Eckhart’s following and online community here. Abiding by his lessons to the best of our ability is the most important thing we could ever do. There’s a lot of support here from awakened beings, too which I appreciate and need. Namaste 🙏.
You are part of collective human shift to consciousness. This is monumental. Unconsciousness on Earth for the last thousands of years is now shifting to awakening and consciousness. You are part of the universal awakening process.
Reactivity is unconscious resistance to the present. Once you realize it, return to presence. No anger or blame.
Thanks Eckhart. 🐦🐛🐪♥️🏖🐧🎡🍇⛳💡🐥
I am so grateful to Eckhart Tolle. Thank you for being our teacher🙏🏻❤🌸
This is all moms. I figured out that motherhood was also a spiritual path but there was a lot of guilt over being human. Thank you so very much for putting this into words!!!
I have seen Eckhart 3 times in London - he's amazing
Finally learned the truest meaning of that age old saying, "I'm going to lose it". Love happiness and prosperity ☯️🙏💛
I love this 💙 That moment of catching yourself and surrendering that you lost it, is the crucial one. I am getting better and better at this.
Some Single moms have a very difficult time today as the family structure is not available to support young mothers the way it used to. I am thankful my exwife is there for her daughter and I have grown to see we all have faults and troubles in this world. I am grateful to guidance of spiritual teachers. It is also good to have practical tools to deal with everyday problems. I am very fortunate to have a brand new grandaughter. I am hopeful both Grandma and I can be good examples for her as she begins her journey on earth. Frances the Best to you! love, Grandpa
This is exactly what I’m dealing with and what I’m trying to learn. This pandemic has made me realize I couldn’t control what my parents and family decide to do. Go out or not wear a mask, etc. I had huge conflicts within myself with my reactions and surrendering control and frustration. I’m a lot more at peace now because of practicing the awareness of my reactions.
I have exactly the same issue and that's not easy every day to deal with and not react specially when we are together
The mind creates reality. Wearing a mask or not is not the issue.. controlling the mind is. I’ve not worn a mask once in London and people have coughed or sneezed near me and I just controlled my mind ‘it’s a smokers cough’ ‘they must have hay fever’. What people don’t realise as they are not awake is that the mind creates the result not the thing outside. That’s why a deadly virus cannot harm animals or children .. because they give it no attention.. also they live in the NOW so no thought pattern.. they aren’t in fear or worry. They just live in the NOW. What people don’t realise is a virus won’t select who to infect.. it’s the mind that creates the result. We are all creating our own reality in the world. So even if a person does test positive in their reality and they sneeze on me.. in my mind I’ll change it to ‘hay fever’ so my mind changes it in my reality and body is protected ❤️
@@Lisa_M_V Atchoo !😇
I got this video when I actually needed it. This worlds need a spiritual leader like him🌺
Thank you so much, Eckhart. I am definitely dealing with the anger-reaction and old egoic habit, and realize directly or a minute afterwards.
Good to realize that after I get angry and notice afterwards, at least noticing afterwards means I am awareness again. This is exactly what I needed. Thanks.
I ve got 3kids too. They remind us on how we truly want to live and because we hold ourselves up we get angry or react in some way. To reflect on our reactions is freeing us.
This video has got to be the most impactful one I have seen yet. My interactions with my mother/greatest trigger have completely changed. I have so much more consciousness when interacting with her and I no longer ‘lose it’. 🙂
this video made me laugh and cry and forgive my self. Eckhart Tolle, magic
Tolle's example about the jackhammer is in fact EXACTLY what happened during one session of our college meditation club.
The loud noise continued throughout the session and stopped about when the session was over. I think for the most part we reacted in the skillful way Tolle suggests.
I really relate to this mom; I have been having a similar problem lately. it’s so helpful being reminded of how we can be a better witness to hostile emotions, particularly the point on not judging yourself for “losing it.”
Angry is an anxious response,it's fear based. Unprocessed fear and anxiety explodes into anger. Sad is depressed and angry is anxious.
Such a blessing upon this earth...to all beings. Thank you Eckart.
Hello I know of someone who can help you just as he did mine too, he helped me get my ex back
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i love ur sense of humor eckhart !! when i hear your long lectures, its like a laughing, calming n healing experience !!
This man is such a precious treasure! 🙏👍❤️❤️❤️
I am so grateful for Eckhart and this awakened community. Much love.
I can relate to her. I just have one son and a supportive husband still I get her reactivity. And I understand the guilt part too. You're a great mom.
I can so relate to this, I would add forgiveness along with surrender.
Yes. First and foremost, self forgiveness.🙏💜
Thank you for being present during these tough times. I know the guilt can keep me stuck at times. I really like what you said about it being her Spiritual practice. I react alot with my partners unconscious behavior, the denial, or the justification really get to me and I then react and lose it, good message about when you react to toxic energy you become part of it unknowingly. Thanks again for your Wisdom friend.
One thing I like to practice that has helped me with shame and guilt immensely was not judging myself after the reaction and telling myself “I know that I reacted but I forgive myself because it wasn’t me who reacted. It was the conditioning.” And then try to surrender to triggering situations like Tolle has mentioned
That's me a single mom to 2 boys... It's taken a toll on me for many years and still is as my oldest son triggers all kinds of emotions and makes me not only angry but cry for days and days... Now I learned not to be guilted any more and just let t be... My only problem is I don't want them to be hit by karma of their poor choices!
Does anyone ever imagine what eckhart would do if he had to watch kids or toddlers for a week? Like I would love to see his reaction/how he deals with them!
He knows better than that. why he has no children, why Jesus never married apparently. No baggage.
Jennifer Matey Abram perhaps... but maybe Eckhart wanted that at some point in his life and it didn’t just pan out so he just accepted what is...🤷🏻♀️
I feel like there would be a lot of dirty dishes in the sink, piles of laundry, messy, smiling faces, lots of love and happy hearts. Uncle Eckart would probably spend lots of time outside with them in Nature, reveling in the miracles of the flowers and the children.
I teared watching this video. Cause I just forgave myself that I lost it while being with someone
Thank you, dear Eckhart, this subject of reactivity is beautifully explained for what it is, with the moment of awareness after "losing it". I've noticed that the practice of observing what happens, and what's likely to trigger a reaction in me, is fruitful when familiar thought patterns begin to run through my mind and I can stop that stampede, and choose a point of view that is a choice instead of an instinctual response. And family patterns show up also!
I will remember this video next time I "lose it". Imagine. You have a choice. Watch a reaction arising. Do I unconsciously "lose it" or do I allow the present to unfold naturally. How many people wake up in a jail cell after "losing it" and cannot understand how they could do such a thing. They cannot even recall what happened. How the Ego loves negativity. It talked you into acting unconsciously and then berates you for doing what you did. I clearly see this and yet time and time again, I fall into the same trap. Listening to the mind/ego. It is like an addiction. You clearly see what is happening but, due to conditioning, you must react unconsciously.
Thankyou Eckhart for helping me in being more alert and present, i have come a long way from where i was and i continue to learn my way being more present with each passing moment🙏🏻
How do you that?
I am grateful to know. Thks
My goodness this man is so wise
I AM so thankful for this lesson every time it’s given
Feeling a sudden rise in consciousness. This wave, through which world is changing, is beautiful. Thank you Eckhart, now and forever. ❤
I needed this SO bad!! I was trying to meditate today and trying to make it a quiet place, perfect pose, ideal location etc... all the things we think it should be. He helped me to realize it doesn’t have to be! Also, needed this as I have a 5 year old daughter and my roommate has a 7 year old on the weekends. You never cease to amaze me Eckhart! Thank you!!!
I believe this dialogue just saved my soul. Thank you to E.T and to the lady who engaged this question. ❤️
Adorable and so loving towards that Being...and all.....and such clear explanation of the mechanism of.mind made suffering....
Thank GOD for your awakening and sharing truth for a more awakened world..🙏🌍🙏🌍 Hugs...
Note to self: 'When unconscious neighbours allow their dogs to bark continuously it is an opportunity for me to go deeper into meditation'. (love dogs, can't say I feel the same about unconcerned/irresponsible owners).
Exactly (Love dogs too)place your attention on the sound of the dogs barking dont "do" anything ..& there is a peace stillness there..always😊
I’d LOOOVE to see a video about Misophonia! 🙏🏻
Good on You Mum!!! This Mum cares soo much fr her children. To This Mum, You are doing the very best that you can for now. I just want to give you some support about that. Eckhart is the expert 🙂
I want to say thank you!! At random I saw a video of you were you read from your Book about the ego! I got frightened about it because I could really see that you are true and that the ego lives inside of me and my mother! I really was scared but I wanted to know more about it because it was so true I couldn’t deny it! For several years I watched your Videos and also those form beautiful mooji and you helped me very much finding my self! I still see sometimes the ego coming back but I am not so strong attached to it and therefor I am really thankful! In some years or maybe even from now on I can life completely without the ego. I don’t know if you are going to read this but whether you do or don’t, I Hope you know how thankful I am to you and also thankful for the love you spread to the world!
4:17 The most important thing here is my state of consciousness. Am I able to use this situation as part of my spiritual practice ? [ That’s how you awaken. ] Not by eliminating situations but by using them, incorporating them, into your spiritual practice. These annoyances are a great opportunity to awaken much more deeply. When the situation starts to build us you there is an opportunity coming right at you.
He changes my way of life. What a revelation in this challenging year we are in
Thank you, with this Anger "situation" am I dealing with also , for a few days werry strongly. And actually I have no reason for. I am gonna take your advice. You are a beutiful soul and exceptional messenger. 💖💖💖
Believe me, I've been dealing with it for over 30 years, unconsciously. Only after a mental breakdown, just over a month ago, I've finally woken up. I have a long way to go to finding some peace, but at least we're on the road to recovery. At least we're aware now. That in itself is beautiful.
I love this so much. Parenting as a spiritual practice. I have a new way of looking at the daily frustrations and mom guilt. Thank you!
Thank you! So meaningful to me! I always thought I needed to get “rid” of the stressors but they are the practice. Beautiful ☺️
Yeah but you do need a break from them ❤️
Thank you for sharing this. It gave me such a deep appreciation for my own circumstances, annoyances, disruptions, etc. I realize now these are my own tailor-made opportunities for practicing presence and going deeper. What a blessing they are, lol!🥰
Deep sense of gratitude always, and especially to the lady for sharing and expressing what she experiences. I, we, many can relate to...(I experience this plenty of times, on daily occasion) This information helps very much and explains what we go through on a routine basis...Dear Mr. Eckhart Tolle, everybody, "Thank you always!!!" Love you, Love thy neighbors, Love thyself, Love for the Universe...Thank you, Infinitely, Indeed!!! Namaste❤🙏
So your life is a constant playground for your mind to become conscious. Awesome way to look at it.
This is such a great message to all the parents with small children! Thank you
it's a great message for us all, as adults also behave as children ..😂
And yet, all the guided meditations out there suggest us to find ourselves in a quiet place, silent. But i understand that it's the best way to start meditating. But as Mr.Tolle says it so well here...you have to take it further, even when the environment is not so calm. That's why i meditate with my windows open in summer, i hear cars passing by, noises, and it becomes part of it all. I also do it on the bus. It never stops getting easier and better. I consider meditation as a survival behaviour i truly need, today. It's only this year that i made the commitment to meditate every single day, just as i brush my teeth daily for a good dental health; it's a mental health habit. I can't go without it, just as i wouldn't forget to brush my teeth. Some people don't like Mr.Tolle, but he speaks to my human condition, make it easy to understand for me. Thank you for this.
From the deepest Part of my heart, thank you Eckhart ❤️
Losing it is a decision the second time . We need to be conscious of not allowing ourselves to decide to lose it. I guess with a lot of practice we could master it. Thank you for explaining it so clearly, you are a blessing to humanity.
Becoming conscious is the best thing modern social media can do to this world.
what she is seeking is a perfrct personality that will react perfectly in every situation...that does not exist..but that does not mean one is a bad person looking for words of encouragement that you are a good person
A new T-shirt design = "I lost it but I know I lost it" 😃
Yes! 👌 I’ll take 2, please 🤣
id love that!
😃 🎶 I lost it and I know it 🎶(with the tune from "I'm sexy and I know it")
@@baum7des7lebens7 it suits best!🤣
If you lost it and you know it, clap your hands.
We are so lucky to have you Eckhart. You changed so many people lives and you continue doing it.
With every book I read about spirituality I used to feel that there is still something missing until I found yours and something just clicked knowing that it’s all I need.
Thank You For The Insight & Heightened Awareness, Eckhart Tolle, Your Teachings Always Inspire Me . You Are Truly A Blessed Soul, Please Continue To Shine Your Light Ever So Bright.
This lecture reminds me of the Lucinda Williams song, “I Lost It”. She sings about losing something important to her and accepts the loss replacing it with love and authenticity.
I’m so grateful to have found this tonight
I relate to this mom soooo much. I love her. I have the same issue and that is why the universe sent me this video. Sending love to everyone 🥰