Why I Don't Feel Excited | Tessa & Dodie
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- Опубліковано 24 сер 2016
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i love how they both follow heavy statements with "eeeahhh" noises and dramatic gestures, i feel that
I just love the way Tessa talks. Like the words she uses and how she uses them it's just really nice to listen to. Am I being weird? She's just very intellectual and clear spoken
pluto and charon I agree!!!
Mental health tip that helped me loads: When you're scared to feel excited, see the excitement as a separate entity, disconnected from the cause of the excitement. Because being excited is so pleasant, let the fact that you are excited suffice so that there is no pressure on the actual event. I hope that makes sense :)
yes i like this
Excellent advice! A somewhat parallel idea and a lovely mantra to live your life by is 'carpe diem'. The definition actually encompasses more than just 'seize the day'. Here's how Merriam-Webster defines it:
carpe diem: the enjoyment of the pleasures of the moment without concern for the future.
Question: how would one do that? It sounds like a wonderful idea, but I'm not sure how to go about accomplishing that...
You Perfect day and video tessa violet ☕🌹🍹🌹❤️♥️👍
You beautiful woman you tessa violet ☕☕ good figurē cool figure and dodie clark cool figure and tessa violet ☕ good figurē cool figure and tessa violet ☕ good figurē ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️ you beautiful figurē and you eyes fantastic ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
Friendship goals. Love it. Adorable.
I want Dodie to do my makeup!
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they are nt gay?
Do you ever get those feelings youd click with people so well if you ever met? I feel like id be such good friends with them if we ever met!
i loved this!! vulnerability rules
Hello Lucy, you're pretty cool and beautiful.
@@Succer lol...
Gosh Tessa I can relate SO much to the 'not feeling excited' thing. It feels like some kind of self defense mechanism, preventing the feeling of disappointment. I love these kind of chatty videos.
Omg tessa's talking voice is so different from her singing one, I had never heard it before and I'm a little shocked now tbh
Hannah Paskin same lol I don’t really like it
DODIE IS MAKING AN EP
WHAT
WHAT
WHAT
HOW DID I JUST FIND OUT ABOUT THIS AHH ITS GONNA BE SO GOOD!!!!!
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I JUST FOUND OUT TOO BUT OML
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love you girl! 😍😍
i agree zannah
got em
This needs to be a series
YES YES YESSS
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yes pleASE
You two should make a podcast.
I love listening to the two of you just talk to each other!!
you guys are so cute together
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They aren’t dating
The chat was great and cute, but it just kept bothering me that Dodie only put the foundation halfway up Tessa's forehead for some reason haha
Same 😂
LAWL same thought it was justme
saaammeee, I thought I was being crazy
Me too, and the tip of her nose bothered me too for some reason ;D
Same!!
Why was this so relaxing
ASMR?
1. Dodie looks so good in this video
2. DODIE YOU'RE MAKING AN EP AHHH
3. TESSA YOU'RE MAKING AN EP AHHH
"[Falling in love] is a willingness to be seen and rejected, but it's not just that; It's hoping you won't be."
~Tessa Violet, 2016
That hit me right in the chest.
I didn't know if I would be interested in this video at first, as I'm personally not a make-up kind of girl, so watching tutorials or other people putting it on doesn't do much for me, even if they're channels I like. However, I loved the conversation and ended up watching the whole thing! You're both lovely and kind women, and I related very heavily with you Tessa, in particular on creativity and the safe space you create for yourself. I often create with the mindset of "No one will see it, so I can create this for me and be satisfied!" but I think the bad side of that is that letting your work go is 10x harder. There is suddenly feedback, online and offline, and you start to question yourself on something you were originally very proud of. Keep trying hard to work on it. This video was relaxing and great!
+SOSKate yeah and I guess it's hard to to feel not like your art is being critiqued, but that your taste is being questioned. There is literally nothing I would change about my EP but it's hard to wrestle with people saying "you made bad choices." But even within that I'm like haha THATS LIFE BAEBEYYYYY (but still! Hard!)
Haha same, I liked this video even if I´am male :D ...it was so fun to watch :)
I love listening to you speak Tessa. This may be your first "sit down-ish video" but I'm in love. Also, Dodie you're great because you're you and I love you forever and always.
I just love this because it just feels like two friends having a nice chat. (Or three, if I include myself ;))
+Abigail Cunningham ❤️
"Have the courage to be happy" is something we used to recite in my drama class. I hope you do Tessa.
I loved how Tessa kept moving her eyebrows while Dodie was trying to do them
I'm so incredibly happy that I'm in tears. That's happened a lot actually. I feel like I'm sitting with friends just talking about anything. When ever I watch you and Dodie's videos recently I try not to happy cry but I do. You guys just make me so happy and you're such lovely sunshine angel dorks. I'm so excited to see you guys in Nashville. Since it's the day before Halloween I kinda wanna dress up but if no one else does Imma melt into embarrassment even though I know no one will judge me because of this wonderful audience of people that you guys have. Ugh decision! Look cute and adorable or look cute dressed as Dil Howlter or a Skeleton or a Mermaid but feel like poo if no one else dresses up..?
Also apologies for my habit of run-on sentences.
It shouldn't be a problem to dress jp as something if you can convince some friends to do the same. Or just post your idea on the subreddit and ask if someone else wants to do it aswell
omg I know exactly how u feel :') i love UA-camr s like Dodie. She makes me feel like I'm at home and just hanging out with friends and it's really calming.
Aww I love you two and seeing you guys open up and comfort each other and just chat is so nice and calming. It seems like you have a very good impact on each other's lives!
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agreed! this was so candid and sweet.
That's some hard core friendship goals right there. You both are so beautiful and lovely and your souls just mix so well together.
great chat :)
oh hey its a sammipoll hello
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People that can make messy hair look good make me so jealous
My hair has been a mess everyday recently. It does not look good.
that's funny because I feel the same way.
100% promise you both look great
You are amazing. Keep making music. You are so beautiful. And you just made a pun. You are awesome
Dodie clark and tessa violet good morning you ☕☕❤️ ilove beautiful eyes fantastic ♥️ good morning ☕☕❤️ good you figurē 💋💋💃💃💋 kisses sweet kisses you
I love Dodie Clark. I discovered her on 8tracks and has been a fan since..Her voice just puts my mind to ease
Gosh, I really love your friendship so much. It's been so fun to watch it grow! This fall will be so awesome for you all with EPs and tours and things :D
As far as getting excited about things, I think I have the opposite problem. I make up these plans for how things will go and get very excited about whatever event in my head... and then inevitably feel let down when it doesn't live up to those dreams. It's weird.
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I commented this separately for Tessa and Dodie but I wanted to make sure you could see it as I think it would be really helpful : When you're scared to feel excited, see the excitement as a separate entity, disconnected from the cause of the excitement. Because being excited is so pleasant, let the fact that you are excited suffice so that there is no pressure on the actual event. I hope that makes sense :)
This is a really helpful concept! I've never thought about separating things out like that but I can definitely see why it would be a good idea in this case! Thank you for the advice and for taking the time to comment it here as well :)
I'm glad I could help! :)
I normally don't feel excited like you Tessa but, this tour is giving me the perfect moment to be like AHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!! (Hopefully) see you in New York!
+neverlandrogue hope to see you there
+Tessa Violet I feel deeply ashamed to type this, but it's twenty one pilots. you are supposed to spell it out.
SEE YOU IN NYC
+Charles Damon no you dont you can say tøp or top
+Rabondo I was referring to the numerals. You can say top or tøp but you can't say 21p. you are supposed to use the letters not numerals.
I really love how honest and real you two are
You need to do more talky rambly videos like this you're incredibly intelligent and well-spoken and I enjoyed this a lot
i agree
As a musical artist myself, I find your view on your art fascinating; in that so much of your value(? maybe that's the wrong word?) of it is weighted by how others see it, and how your audience receives it.
Personally, I make what I feel I need to make. I make what _I_ want to hear, what _I_ want to say. I feel like my music is so personal, that it would be a betrayal to make it anything but that. And transversely, it then doesn't matter what anyone else thinks of it or passes over it or even hates on it; I know that I love it, and that is enough for me. And then when someone really loves it, it makes it so much sweeter in that this is something that we can share. I know my audience will be negligible at best, because I make some weird, progy, 'pretentious' art rock stuff that would never see any mainstream play at all, ever; but that doesn't matter to me. My thoughts are that if there is a chance that I can impact one person the way I have been impacted by music, than that is enough for me.
Why is it, do you think that so much weight is put on how your music performs, or is received? I get that there is obviously financial ties to the idea, but you speak of your work as creativity and art, and so it looks to me like what your talking about transcends the financial struggles of an artist. I'm reminded of your video on wanting to be famous, and the twitter conversations on the topic before hand. Now, to me, it looks like a lot of your measure of value of yourself/your work is placed on the general public consensus of it. I could be (and likely am) wrong about this to some degree or another, because I don't know you personally, but I can't help shaking the feeling like this is a thing for you. I say this, because every famous person I've seen/heard talk about fame says that they hate it, and would give it up in a heartbeat. Yet you said that you wanted it.
I hope my diatribe here didn't come across holier than thou, or accusatory, or jerkish--that isn't my intent at all. I just find my view about my own art so polar opposite to how you view yours, I'm curious about it, and social tact is something I find incredibly difficult to grasp.
Tessa actually made a video titled "Why I want to be famous" that goes over some of your questions!
The best way I can describe it is I think of creating and releasing as very different experiences. Creating is celebrating the joy of creating. It's self indulgent, it's what do I like, what do I want to say? What is meaningful and important to me? Sometimes it's freeing because it's putting words to a painful feelings. Discovering thoughts I didn't realize I felt. I cry a lot when I write because whether it's happy or sad, if it's true it hits me in a real way. For the last ten months these songs have been mine, safe with me. Next month they'll be set free to be reunderstood and that's a scary thing. It's scary to love something so much and feel it's so much a part of you, and tell people that, and be rejected. haha it's just vulnerable! So I both feel strongly the art is valuable simply in the act of creating it, and also feel the pain of the fear of "what if people think something i love is stupid?"
All that said I can objectively understand "so what if people think this is stupid" but it's hard to always live there emotionally.
I love watching you guys when it rains because it's just so soothing
This was downright mesmerizing. I'm not a makeup person but I like listening to you talk. And as it turns out, I love watching other people put on makeup and talk together, apparently. I adore what you said about allowing yourself to feel excited, or sad and disappointed if be. Definitely one of my favorite videos you've ever put out. Your gals' friendship is beautiful.
you're both lovely and you spoke about things that i relate to and feel that no one ever really talks about and i'm glad you did this
I definitely feel you Tessa on the not being excited about anything until it's happening. It really makes it hard to plan things with friends because everyone is all super pumped and I'm just sitting there, not really feeling anything. I'm not like particularly sad or bummed about it, I just don't feel much of anything. So then everyone thinks I don't wanna be there, even though I do, and it bums everyone out. It's not fun, 0/10 do not recommend.
I LOVE the dynamic of the two of you together. Beautiful darlings.
YOU HAVE AN EP COMING OUT
DODIE HAS AN EP COMING OUT
I AM SO FLUFFING EXCITED FOR NEW TESSA AND DODIE MUSIC AAAAAAAA I CAN'T WAIT
+Hanna Huang ❤️❤️❤️
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They way you phrase things and your voice combined is just so very soothing!
the friendship between you and Dodie is so lovely.
That makes so much sense! You feel like your grieving! Exactly
I SPIT OUT MY DRINK WHEN DODIE MENTIONED HER EP IM YELLIN IM SO EXCITED
Dodie's rant about overthinking happiness and not being excited i was like OH BOY THATS ME
I was crying so hard and in an extremely dark place, then I turned on this video. I'm so calm and feel so at peace right now, thank you.
I really love how deep your conversations get, it's really nice to hear you two being so honest together!
This is so incredibly sad and real, I can relate on the feelings too much:(
You're both so wise and gorgeous too
I'm a young stupid mess
I don't care
I don't stress
But people say I should
They say that the worlds new
I shouldn't be blue
But let's be real
I have different feelings too
There's just one that I'm missing
They say be delighted
But I just don't feel excited
They ask me why
They think I'm daft
You can't miss a feeling
You have the whole pack
And you can say things
you can call me short-sighted
But I don't feel excited
I'm feeling grief
They say it's weird
I just don't know
I feel things like fear
But the one I don't have
Is the one people hold so dear
Pearl S this is amazing!!
this brilliant
i just put chords to that and HOLY CRAP it’s so pretty
This is so good, plEase keep writing
Im just gonna make a tune for this real quick...
Putting music out there is a lot like putting your heart out there. The tie in about not letting yourself be in a position where you have to depend on others hit home. I have a hard time trusting people. I don't wanna be vulnerable but if I never am all anyone is gonna get to know are the walls I put up. Good food for thought!
i need a friend like tessa. Her personality is truly beautiful.
This was such a deep conversation. Please do more talks about vulnerability, allowing yourself to be happy, etc. I really relate to everything you were saying, Tessa!
To listen to both of you talk to each other in this setting is so real and honest. I love it. I also can relate so much to Tessa's feelings on releasing your musical creations out into the world and being vulnerable with it. Really awesome video!!
The aesthetic of your videos are so pretty and calming.
OMG DODIE'S HAIR WHEN SHE MOVED IT TO THE LEFT KILLS ME WHY SHE SO GORGEOUS
i feel so comfortable while watching this i felt like you're just talking to me and sharing your thoughts, your voices are so comforting not in a weird way lol
ok but tessa, you saying "i refuse to be excited about anything until its happening" oh GOD that is so me i lit never feel genuinely excited for anything until i'm actually doing it bc of the possibility that something could go wrong its sUCH A PAIN
I'm so glad that I had this in my brain before I released my first EP and album. It helped me so so much.
This entire video was a couple of people who i really admire tossing back and forth feelings and ideas i SO relate to and it's so nice to know other people, especially people you admire, feel the same way
Oh my goodness Tessa, I've never heard anyone express how I'm feeling. I left my job in May to pursue a career as an actor/singer and I've been finding it really difficult to apply for stuff and go to auditions. You've summed up why - it's so much easier to live in my head with my dream roles, than accept my skill level and also that the industry doesn't want me to succeed the way I do. Thank you for expressing these thoughts!
Got to the end - with the vulnerability of being excited thing - I guess I'm going in at the deep end because I'm planning an impromptu trip to Australia to see a guy I haven't seen in 6 months and also my brother who I haven't seen in nearly 2 years and I'm SOOOOO EXCITED!!! I can't not be! Because even if nothing comes of the trip romantically, I still get to see Australia for the first time and hug my brother and his kids so it'll still be awesome!
Fun drinking game: Every time dodie touches/ruffles her hair you take a shot
Ruthie Hulme you would be so drunk lol 😂
I come back and watch this every once in a while because I have the same struggles with vulnerability and trusting others (don't we all) and this really helps me check in with myself and feel like I'm not alone in this struggle.
I loved how honest this video was. A lot of times people on youtube seem very fake and friendships seem forced but I could tell you two were very honest in everything you meant.
wondering if the EP is going to have a physical version.. and you two are so nice together! it was a 10/10 video
Thanks, Alice!
Loved the video!! Its very nice and comforting to hear yall talk about things i feel and go through and know i'm not the only one!
I see your comments at Andrea Mitchell's videos
Tessa's voice ahhhhh so calming
Watching any video with Dodie and Tessa, makes me smile like an idiot. Their dynamic is so adorable
Tessa I love that you couldn't resist ending with a moral
+Nat Slogg haha
#branding
This video could not have come at a more perfect time for me! I'm starting University next week and I'm not letting myself get excited for it at all because I'm only thinking about what will go wrong. This made me realize that it's okay to be excited and also terrified for what's to come so thank you and I love you both! :)
Yes! Feel big! Dare greatly! I recommend the TedTalk by Brene Brown called The Sweaty Creative. (it's on UA-cam)
The advice Tessa gave as the end about overthinking, Lord did I need that at the moment!
EVERYTHING about this video is so precious and pure and I love it.
actual friendship goals
Tessa reminds me of Pearl.
from Steven Universe. lol
YES pearl is my favorite character too :)
agreed.
OMG THAT NEW EPISODE THO Stevonnie's voice I'm so shook
Yes!!!
just seeing them talking about deep stuff makes me really happy
okay honestly I'm sO HYPED for both of your EPs I just
A DODIE EP WHAT OMG WHAT IM DYING YES YES YES AHHHH
and a tessa ep what OMG HDWH3WJDJGHY5EFD
I really would love a podcast with you two :3
Dear GOD I ship them so hard I physically cannot and when Dodie said they asked A L L the questions about E V E R Y T H I N G Tessa looked straight at the frickin' camera at 8:20 and WINKED. ASDFGHJKL
I adore all the collaborations that you and dodie have made! your friendship is so adorable ! Xx
me: *starts to ship it a lil*
dodie: it's like falling in love
me: *STARTS TO SHIP IT A LOT*
the first 30 seconds ft. dodie fixing her hair
I have the same problem with not letting myself feel excited about things and it's nice to know that I'm not alone in that. I love it whenever you two collab and just talk about life and real problems. It's always refreshing and helps me so much. :)
honestly just listening to both of them talking is so soothing
IM SORRY WHAT DODIE IS GONNA HAVE AN EP. I CRY.
OMG AND SO DOES TESSA. I CRY AGAIN. SO EXCITE
I thought a curmudgeon was a Pokemon.
Hahahahahaha!
There's no way that I can't feel excited. I'm like a toddler, I get excited by the tiniest of things. My friends often tease me for it because although I'm the oldest in all my friendship groups, I act the youngest but watching this video has helped me realise that my attitude to those small things is actually healthier than if I were unfazed by most things. Thanks Tessa and Dodie!
you guys are so natural together. that whole conversation was so entertaining. love you guys!
This was so pleasant, like I was sitting there chatting with you. You're so wise, and thoughtful, and just hearing your thought process makes me reflect on mine in such a positive way.
This really struck me at SitC; it just felt like you really wanted to hear why my day hadn't been great, even though I was just going to brush it off as a joke, and it meant a lot.
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Thank you, Espen, that's so kind. I wish I'd gotten to spend more time with you this trip. I might be back in December and we can try again!
For sure!
Tessa omfg u talking about releasing something is so beautiful I love that ... I want that on a t shirt or something that's beautiful Mmk yeah
its nice to know that i'm not alone. I honestly thought that not allowing myself to feel happy was normal. thank you for helping me realise that not allowing myself to be happy or trust anyone isn't a normal feelingxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
I really enjoyed this brief view into Tessa Violets world. Dodie Clark is always a delight too. Poor Dodie had a hard task on trying to improve on Tessa Violets already incredibly perfect face but she did wonderfully.
I hope you guys come more out west sometime and visit Colorado! =)
"I don't have any foundation *smiles cuz she's got perfect skin
Oh my god, the vulnerability of being excited. I've struggled to put how I feel into words and you've just named it beautifully.
these type of videos are so relaxing, just two people talking and enjoying each others company.
WIAT WTF I AM JUST NOW FINDING OUT ABOUT DODS EP
I couldn't pay attention to them talking cause I was too busy looking at how dode did Tessa's make up and how she didn't blend the foundation on her four head and how she kept going back-and-forth on the eyeshadow, i'm not hating on the way she did the make up it's just that I was too focused on it and I'm a perfectionist don't get me wrong I love Dode
Dodie*
Noha M this is all I could focus on aswell, I've come to see if anyone else noticed it aswell 😂
what Tessa said about excitement vulnerability issues just changed my life
this video was so calming. I loved everything about it ♡ thank you for everything
I'm from new York and couldn't go to your last show in NY because is was 16+ so I got really excited you're back on tour but the ny venue this time is 18+, I'm 15, fml
Same, but I'm going to the one in Ohio because it's not that far from where I live in NY and it's all ages
Come. To. Michigan. Sometime. In. My. Life. Time. Please.
Also I want to make a gif out of that wink, Tessa
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THIS THIS THIS PLZ COME TO THE COLD WATERY PENINSULA LANDS
YESSSSSSSS
PLEASE COME!!! ... Thank you
Watery peninsula 😂
PLEASE
2 years ago today. Still my favourite (non musical) Tessa and dodie video.
This was so insanely calming, both of you just help me relax so thank you