thank you brother. I definitely needed this. I am looking for a life partner. Used to message girls back very quickly and kept texting.. certainly after few weeks of texting things stalled. Thanks again bro!
Hello Todd, hope you see this. Thanks for the content over the years and for the system which cost next to nothing when it was released. I have a question I never see around game, maybe it's been answered. But I haven't been aware. If I am rejected by a girl I see in my loose social circle. after asking her for a drink a couple times (I know cringe, the 2nd). How should I treat her? I just try and be civil as I don't want to look butt hurt and I am that kind of way anyway. But I don't really want to be chatty with her either. What is the best way to act socially in this scenario? I also think it's not good to game in your closeish social circle anyway as repeated failures like this will dlv you? Sorry for massive comment
@@mezzuna 1) Firstly, she'll clearly demonstrated you are not her first priority: "she had better options from her pov", so that instantly disqualifies her as a girl for anything Serious/Long Term... because she would only get with you if her "better options" don't work out. And you don't want to commit to a girl who thinks she's settling for you, because the second a "hawt" guy gives her attention, she'll leave or cheat, because why wouldn't she? her actions (or lack of it) has shown your not the best she thinks she can do. 2) Secondly, as such you should only treat her as a short term plate if you do get with her. 3) So only invest your time/effort/resources in her to a level in that, even after all your attempts, no sex happens, so you don't resent her. 4) You're time is better spent finding a girl who has Enthusiastic Desire for you, rather than trying to create it in a woman who by her words/actions is not wanting to escalate. EDIT 5) Chasing a girl who is not interested is a COPE, to avoid having to face rejections from approaching New girls. Use all that sexual energy that your wasting on obsessing over her, and the next cool thing you could say to get her interested, as fuel to approach new girls. 6) Obsessing is like heroin. When you catch yourself doing it, distract yourself. Focus on what is really happening in your life at that moment. Don't let your body get flooded with the chemical rush from "your next master plan to win her". Distant and disengage
not controversial to me at all , if theres anyway i can find to have an advantage in a situation i take it , women complicate shit enough, one more inch of an advantage ( no pun intended) …is totally fine with me ..thx todd you’re the older brother i never had
@@dkm1900be yourself. For women, let them come to you and make it your idea. Make plans that’s good and see if they take bites but if you see them cancelling and stuff then it’s up to them to pursue. Every girl is different tho. Just see what works for them and you mainly.
@@vladsciencedrums Two keys: 1) Never send date reminders. She must initiate first on day of date. 2) The woman must text first after the date. If she doesn't say she had fun, etc. it's over. No exceptions.
I swear thats why I hate texting. I can be naturally charming but when it comes to texting it seems like you have to be cautious of every little step or you might catch a landmine
Especially because tone doesn't come across in texts and people can easily get the wrong idea from your writing. Especially because we all type quickly (who the hell is gonna take their time to reply to a girl? Lol)
1.scarcity/ absence. 2.variable rewards / occasional dissappointment/unpredictable,/ some negative 3.make them work for you/ be hard to get/ disqualify them / push away after they invest / unkindness occasionally 4. texting gaps- dont close the loop, keeps them uncertain. dont double text/leave them on read 5.Frame self as the prize, they chase. Frame the story of "us". 6. Preemptive freezeout. Pull away at a high point before sex, makes them chase.. 7. Leave the loop open
@@mevio4665 They don't work as a woman once you already know the game. In fact, when it appears we're aware of the insecurity that creates the tactics. It has a kind of backfiring effect.
@@everydaytherapist7315 Thank you for the honest feedback. I would rather prefer to be liked for who I am , than for the role which I'm playing and it's not me.
@@mevio4665 I think some scarcity is good though, and to have a person know that they don't just "have you" completely. Human nature doesn't seem to respect when people appear willing to stay at all costs. But for women who have most likely had this kind of "game" played on them their whole adult life, it's refreshing when a man is just proud of his feelings and confident in his ability to express himself. A person who risks rejection actually looks more attractive because it shows that they know their value even if they get told no.
@@everydaytherapist7315 You're indeed a great therapist as your name suggests and it's very kind of you to reply so promptly. I'm taking note of your advice and I like your caring approach. You deserve many more viewers on your high quality content channel Many thanks! beautiful guru!! 🙂🙂
People do all these things instinctively when they have lukewarm or mixed feelings towards someone. So the Inner Game version of this is to understand why you should, in fact, be indifferent towards any given potential relationship. And there are good reasons why you should be indifferent. For example: 1) whatever sexual attraction is there will fade, 2) the other person certainly has major flaws that have yet to reveal themselves, 3) you haven't invested much, 4) there are all kinds of horrible life-changing consequences that could result from a relationship going sour. If you were truly able to convince yourself that these things apply to EVERY potential relationship no matter how good the person seems (and they do apply), then you would be able to reduce your overenthusiasm and do the things described in this video without even trying.
So what does it matter that she’s obsessed over you but you don’t find her to be girlfriend material? The only thing to do is just have her as a fling.
Enjoy it while it lasts because a women is usually looking for the better prize and there’s lots out there. They don’t be long forgetting about you when they get new dick trust me.
*It’s all about confidence and mystery - key elements that can really spark attraction. The balance between being attentive and still maintaining your own space is huge.*
you are describing the toxic roller coaster that narcissists apply in a relationship.Yes it is addictive and there are studies over it but it is still toxic and it rarely ends well. Healthy people do not play such mind games and healthy relationships are not built over this. Do not apply if you care for the other person. It is extremely toxic and damaging
I've experienced this recently and my reaction was to give him the space and latitude. He came back and left again and pulled the same "technique." After weeks of no contact I realized that I finally lost interest. He came back again but this time, all I can give is silence for good. He did regret his actions as the role seemed to reverse but it is much too late. It wasn't my intention to, but I just can't with these games so I wished him well and let him go.
what are you bragging about - you rejected a simp, big deal, come back when you're 40 and nobody looks at you anymore, let's see how this game works for you
This only works on women that haven’t done any inner healing work. The reason is, these techniques are activating their unworthiness wound and anxious attachment and then the relationship will be a wound-mate dynamic. Relationships should be built on love, devotion, constancy, values and communication.
Exactly. Any confident or mature woman would not allow this. My ex was addicted to me. But she didn't care about anything but having someone to be with her that wasn't cheating.... So.
This was important for me to see. I can see how if you wanted to torment a person you could effectively do it this way. If you do most of these techniques without telling a person that's what you're doing, you're going to make them really upset and feel really small and uncared for. Oh how romantic, you've addicted them in a way that no doubt makes them feel manipulated. I've thought girls were doing this to me before and it made me unbelievably angry, and not in a pleasant, playful way. Don't use this on people if you want the best for them. Go out and date and empathize instead of watching youtube videos on how to win friends and influence people.
Tell your girl that you can't manipulate her unless you make yourself her only source of happiness. Put it back on her to manipulate herself. Girls love tasks.
What I’m noticing with these techniques is if you’re living a balanced and healthy life, these techniques will come through naturally. You will honestly voice concerns of the relationship. You will be busy and not be able to see her/text her. You’ll negotiate a common story. You’ll include space in the relationship, practice restraint, build the relationship slowly and build comfort when apart. You’ll create positive experiences with the other person. I want to think of how I can be a person that does these things naturally, and practice being that person.
Yeah just be properly caring and kind, too many men have been abusive cheaters, then there's the rapey type. She just wants you to be a proper decent human being
Nature goes with the flow, figure out who you are, then figure out what you're good at, then begin making choices. Teamwork is an almost necessary part of life so after a while of you doing you , friends, business partners , and chances for romance begin to come.
This is brilliant. It's not some obvious well-known BS, but true valuable, hard way experience gained information. Thank you so much Todd. I immediately realized some of the recent mistakes I made. Much gratitude.
Delivering 'How to get a woman obsessed with you' with the warning, "Please use this for good", with a straight face deserves a thumbs up, whatever the content was...
This is basically like training a neurons petri disk to chase a stimulus except that's is often done by girls unconsciously on guys.. You opened the playbook and reversed the situation so it can be used to build strong bonds in positive relationships for guys with girls too and on purpose, that's genius!
Maybe you think that kinda thing works, I find it's either 'love at first sight ' or not too interesting.. but the guy flirting by, being sweet, well mannered and showing her you find her interesting.. is great. Too many guys are drinking too much alcohol, very off putting if he's slurring and shows weak out of control, red flags
Good training video for budding narcissists and psychopaths. And typically it is the perpetrators that suffer more than the victims. The victims are more likely to learn from the experience and develop, while the perpetrators perpetuate their loneliness and isolation.
10 things to quit for all Strong Men: 1. Caring about what others think 2. Not believing in yourself 3. Not experimenting different ideas / solutions for problems (life&business) 4. Not prioritizing your health 5. Wasting your precious time 6. Wanting something (instead write a plan and work towards it) 7. Chasing meaningless relationships 9. Wasting or draining your energy from beating your meat 🥩 10. Wasting time by scrolling social media 11. Nailbiting/nailpicking habit for good (if you do it - consider stopping it as it makes you mentally weak + affects your confidence and all other areas of your life!) Take it easy and I hope you found one thing helpful in this list............
#8 got skipped because he was beating his meat and laughing at those who believed him and don't. Guys who don't, think they're better than you and manicure their nails. Oh, and can never satisfy a woman
Great vid, Todd. 2 questions: 1) how do you create an “us vs the world mentality” with your girl? Is this just a matter of using the word “we” a lot? 2) how do you create open loops? Is this just a matter of occasionally saying ambiguous/vague things to her?
The “us vs the world” mentality comes from alignment. Your goals and aspirations, your actions and habits should be congruent with what you both want for yourselves, aka you should both be willfully taking the necessary actions to achieve your goals. Achieving things together and setting mutual goals is also a good method because in order to be on the same team, you have to be after the same thing. People will align with those who desire the same results or achievements, especially if accomplishing it with others will reduce the difficulty of the task. Now, I don’t do this with women, I’ve been seeing multiple women for a while and don’t have the need for such tactics. HOWEVER, my advice is coming from a very extensive sales background where I need to instill the exact same mentality into my prospects to close them. Align with your prospect’s goals and vision, help them believe in their goals and vision, transfer the necessary confidence and certainty into them so that they believe they can achieve their goals, and meet them where they are emotionally, in your tone, and in your cadence throughout the interaction. Pace and lead them with your tonality to get emotional agreements and instill buying confidence, all while bringing them to the necessary logical agreements to complement the emotional side.
@@prashunpcchakraborty70 Put yourself in a position that allows you to help her achieve her goals. Remember, always position yourself as part of the solution, not the problem. If she wants to get in shape, tell her to come to the gym with you daily. If she wants to excel in the business space, build your knowledge base and aid in her in her endeavors. If she wants to get a promotion, keep her accountable and help her grow as a person so she can get the position. In doing this, she’ll see you as a problem finder and a problem solver. You get what you want because she’ll most likely see you as a pathway to her goals. If you instill that kind of mentality in her, for one she will look up to you and two, she’ll feel more compelled to do things for you. She will feel the need to return the favor in some form or fashion. That’s basic human psychological behavior. Does that make sense? It works, for the most part, in the same way with everyone, this is just an application to a woman.
@@iDropPhats That does make sense but a friend of mine is in the same spot he's the problem solver but he's starting to enjoy that role a bit too much. He solves her problems and it feels like there's not much joy in the relationship. She's dependent on him but I don't think there's a man to woman sexual attraction there any longer because he isn't getting any.
@@prashunpcchakraborty70 It’s a fine balance, you don’t solve every problem there is. There’s supposed to be disagreements in a relationship, that’s the only way you can grow together with someone. But you don’t solve so many problems that they’re dependent on you to do so, that creates an absolute need, and you don’t want that. Solve just enough problems for her to achieve what she wants to achieve mostly on her own. If you’re doing EVERYTHING, then it’s a one sided relationship where you do it all and she sits back and gets comfortable having to take little action. It’s a very fine balance of providing empathy and accountability, but keeping your distance and never really becoming *too* much of a provider. That just leaves you open to being taken advantage of and walked all over. Again, this only really applies to traditional relationships. If you’re seeing multiple women, don’t worry about doing a whole lot of providing at a medium to high level, if any.
@@ihelpyouwitheverything4720 I mean it would piss u off if ur girl was unpredictable all the time as well right? It’s about doing it in a good way. She can trust you to surprise her, but at the same time knows, she better respect your boundaries
What an incredible video... I cant belive how much work Todd puts into this... Honestly he is been my go too for a long time now! Never misses! And I love your Text and Dates course!
I read a quote saying "anything that is freely given tends to be taken for granted ." I think it's true. That's why toxic ex and abusers always comes back when u walk away from the relationship. They get comfortable taking the good person for granted and their good deeds despite their abuse. So when the abusee finally moves on they now cherish the thing they thought they would have forever
Such a great video, I learned that I’m being too positive and always around. She hardly responds anymore, I get it’s a long distance relationship but I thought she would want me around.
i think the idea is keeping a level head. dont give someone all your time. you need to also work and sleep. i value a guy that makes time for me and that respects his other priorities. you cant be on the phone all the time or together all the time. but you can also find ways to enjoy each other without being 100% lockin on one an other all the time. for exemple face timing while doing other things, being at home but doing 2 different things. coupled with getting alone time and time together. it gives you time to miss eachother, time to build a shared eperience/live.
it is kinda strange what happened to dating nowadays...me as a woman, I'd say only one thing - these guys will use it for evil. One type of women will get hooked and then they will be healing after narcissistic abuse...for years...and they won't believe in anything real afterwards. Another type of women will ignore and forget those guys in second as soon as they feel smth wrong and some games started. so it means this strategies work only with vulnerable, nice girls...those who have a low self esteem or haven't got enough love while being raised... so the most gold hearted girls..who can love. Who are able to love deeply... Those stupid manipulations will work on them and break them in the end. But what the point in this? To make both men and women players... egoistic? narcissistic? In psychology it is called trauma...when someone plays cold and hot, puts her on a pedestal and then devalues. Shit...this world is completely crazy.... Honestly...
Alot of these strategies are absolutely how you should go about most relationships to obtain power. However, it works more towards insecure and self conscious chicks. Alot of older well established women will recognize the games and bounce because of them. Unless you're gorgeous in which case all of this works all the time. I should know.
This video reminds me of why I'm not in any hurry to get back in the dating game. What he's neglecting to say here is, if you run this tedious, self-regulating game on her, she may be obsessed with you, BUT ONLY FOR A WHILE...UNTIL IT DOESN'T WORK ANYMORE. Let's get real, ok? there's an unspoken standard of expectations she has for you, and that standard of expectations isn't static, it's fluid, and growing. Western women will constantly, selfishly push you to "level-up" in the name of "I'm just being supportive." What a crock. But watch out. Make no mistake gentlemen, if she feels you're not "hitting the mark," (for any reason), things can get ugly, and she can "move on" with zero remorse, guilt or shame...and do so with rapidity, it'll shock you to the core. That is her strength.
@@TEuUs88 As a side note, more and more men are migrating to the Philippines, Thailand and some Latin Countries where women appreciate men and know how to show their appreciation. Unlike Western women, these exotic, genuinely feminine creatures don't push men to "level-up" for their own selfish agenda in the name of "being supportive." Imagine being with a woman you don't have to constantly run "game" on, where you can just be you.
Freeze out very kindly “I definitely respect you, but I am sorry I can’t hide that I am kinda turned off by the situation” if she doesn’t like that, say: “just give me one minute please, not really a big deal” and change the subject by nice but keep some noticeable distance -it’s true and it works for me
About the outro, a good human being wouldn't do these tactics, we all know that. But it sucks that some of us have to balance out our "nice guy-ness" to use these on the girl we want to get with I met a few women where i didn't have to do these toxic traits in order for me to do the things i wanted to do with her That was mainly because both of us werent toxic nor did we have any toxic tendencies, meaning we were raised healthy Never did i ever thought about what she felt nor would i want her to feel, aka zero emotional manipulation What i'm trying to say is that you could still be your BEST-SELF without wanting to do these toxic tactics to get the RIGHT girl for you "oh that wouldnt be fun at all", if toxic is fun for you then so be it. Her emotions and your emotions will be on the line and people will get hurt
I didn't realize I was doing this.... it's just how I naturally am given how busy I am. I can't always text back. I can't always be there for her. She has to be able stand on her own.....this works
This should be considered psychological abuse and it is so sad young men are listening to this !the only woman that will be obsessed with you if you hear this advice is an immature or low self esteem woman. Great job to teach people how to be narcissistic
I'm doing this to my ex I'm trying to get back. It is driving her a bit crazy. But I'm only doing it so she appreciates me in the end. She got too comfortable living with me, started being rude and distant. Now she's texting me love songs, brings up good times together.
Todd is amazing. He knows the canon perfectly. Great master. I'm from old days when I went to a Julien rsd seminar when I lived in the USA. Now back to Italy and after years I still have abundance. Julien style was over the top, wich matches my personality, but to normal people go for todd v all the way. The guy is a genius.
This is a lot more believable and realistic if you're looking for something serious than what many people say that we should treat girls as if we didn't even care about them and they're worthless for us. I basically treat girls the same way I'd like to be treated. I'm not looking for uncertainty, I'm looking for something serious and stable. If I want strong emotions, I'll just full throttle on my bike, in a relationship I want something certain where we both respect eachother and have no doubts
I will put these into use as soon as they are needed. That leads to my question however: how do we know when a woman is worth our time? How do we uncover their true self?
I honestly believe some guys did these methods without even knowing it. They probably didn't believe it would work, and didn't see that victory was there.
I did that very last step, she text me out of the blue "we need to talk" then I said whats wrong? she wrote "I don't think this is working out anymore, you almost never text me, only when I text first, I'm very upset right now etc" and instead of me using this to my advantage I just text her "sorry you feel that way, I understand, good luck with evrything in your life"... and that was that lol
"I know you feel strongly and you want me to reach out more and I appreciate how good you are at communicating but you have to understand that i'm busy building my future. Sometimes I legitimately can't text back despite wanting to. Your consistency is an extreme sign of loyalty to me and shows that you're serious i'll hit you back when I can. Thank you ❤️" Something like that might work depending on how she really feels but don't waste a good woman if she's actually good.
This works!! This girl pulled this ALL of shit on me, I believe she knowingly did this...and I did SOME of this... unknowingly. It became toxic, she triggered my past trauma, my nervous system was on high alarm telling me danger! that then brought on a self awareness. I started with therapy and really got into why I failed at all her crap test. I feel like an idiot. My final words to her was to get lost, and that she used me and is manipulative. Narcissistic games.
I was thinking in that pool / huttub situation, instead of chasing a separation, the better move would be to leave the hot-tub, dry off, get dressed either nicely if you're going somewhere, or in something relaxed if you'll be going to bed or the gym soon, and either have her come looking you, when she has that (oh shit I'm alone feeling) or else bring her a coffee or a cocktail while you have one yourself. In any case, switching things up, getting ready to do something different, creates the urgency of now, and if a woman is going to initiate, it's always going to be from a sense of urgency, not a relaxed state. A relaxed state it's your move. That's why they always be trying to initiate when a guy is giving them 'game over' vibes. That's why they boomerang between their exes when they didn't meet a good quality Mr. NEW NEXT, because even though she kicked them out the door, or they kicked her out the door, she treats them like prequalified credit offers!
The last technique "the dread of not knowing" is a typical terrible male behaviour in a failing relationship. It shows a man is fearful of his partners emotions. Avoid becoming needy or supplicating (walking on egg shells). It will serve you better if you 'don't care just a little', because you'll put your needs first.
Todd, do you think any of these techniques work if the relationship is currently declining, i:e emotional attraction is clearly dropping, can it spark attraction again or is positive attraction a must before trying these?
I would recommend watching the relationship manifesto before going and trying some gimmicks. You really would only want the first hour hour and a half of it. Its helped me quite a bit in my relationship
@@viliamhromek8054 always remember, they have the vagina hence the power. You give her space, odds are she will have multiple other guys waiting to swoop in. The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else, and she will, and she will move on.
Most of ya'll aren't ready for an obsessive woman. Why do you want someone obsessing over you to begin with? I have a girl obsessing over me and it's mentally not easy.
As a spin off to the last one, texting her “we should talk” before asking her to be your official girlfriend seems like it’d be pretty strong. She builds up the anxiety that you’re about to dump her but instead you go total opposite. No way she says no then!
Well yr best friend maybe telling her, if he's horrible to you. Don't worry, I'll take care of you instead. So it might be just an annoyance that yr trying to wind her up. Your brother might offer her a better easier deal. She wants to go to lovely places with you, to share your life and happiness. She's got enough stress already. She wants to be happy, not constantly on edge, life is already stressful enough. She doesn't need more crap!
Yes, most of those technics work really really well. But I have also seen women (especially the damaged ones like borderliners etc) using them VERY well. I also then thought: "where the hell did she learn that from??" The answer: from nowhere/nobody. It was just part of her psychophatic/antisocial behavior... that is the dark truth about all this.... believe me!!!
I forwarded this to a lot of female friends I have , thanks for letting the world know about mind games , on the other side of the coin however, if they use these techniques, men will know why they are ghosted by good women and will only attract insecure ones because when a real woman figure this game out , she will leave the game instantly without a warning thanks for the truth that is intended to manipulate love
Excellent video! This is some legit high level game knowledge. My only question is when mixing it up with the occasional disappointment, in addition to the tactics you've mentioned, would that also include disagreeing with her particular lifestyle choices (music tastes or personal ones like clothing choice) in conversation?
I would say dont try to orchestrate disappointment. but be ok with disagreeing and expressing yourself, dont just do everything that will make her happy. have boundaries respect your needs too. Talk about those things with her every once in a while to maje sure you guys are on the same page and you both know how to best respect and care for each other. because things arent static. We want to get along but again if we people please its just boring. Not sure if it makes sence.
Yeaaa, hell yea. Not disagreeing but like teasing her lightly. This one girl said she likes Canadian poutine I told I don’t like it. African poutine taste better 😂😂 stupid and silly but it works.
Hell no. Occasional disappointment comes from you being your own person with your own likes. It's not about insulting what she likes - that's just being an asshole and a total red flag.
todd i’ve taken your advice for years to heart and you’ve woken up the “ neo” in me and have made me see women in a whole new light like a scientist , but regarding the freeze out, altho i understand about not being reactive , my question and feeling about that is , isn’t not punishing her for doing something to you…isn’t that just inviting to her it’s ok to behave this way towards me ????
Todd is simply saying dont freeze out if she refuses your escalation etc. Other than that he recommends to stand your ground firmly but calmly whenever she truly disrespects you and crosses the line in all his relevant videos.
I think you should preface that all of these tactics only work if she’s already physically attracted to you. If she doesn’t find you her type physically you are not going anywhere because I’ve tried this with women and it didn’t work because they didn’t find me physically attractive to begin with.
I've had a few women in my dating life who I wouldn't say were obsessed with me but always wanted to know what I'm doing every minute of the day. This occurred even though I made plans to see her during the week. After a while dating became more of a job and less enjoyable, especially when she expects you to reply to her calls and text immediately while I'm busy at work or out with my mates. Word to the wise, be careful what you wish for, it just may come true.
If you text her back immediately she’s glad you did. Girls like when you text them back immediately. They get excited. If you wait then she’ll think about you and want you more.
just mix it up...... sometimes do, sometimes don't, did you not watch the vid? it's really that simple, besides, there SHOULD be times when you can't bc you're doing something else anyway, right? or are you really on your phone 24/7?
Just went through hell a bit ago after only going out on two weekends. She was obsessed to a crazy degree. When I said I couldn’t do this with her she flipped that switch 180. Super vicious.
if you do that intermitent reinforcement you can umbalance the situation. Turn your partner in an all giver and you in an all taker(that is the Narcicist game) and you ll get bored and unvalue the other person efforts to be with you.
had one girl obsessed with me last year... the validation was great i ain't gonna lie, but goddamn did it take so much effort. And it did turn into a pretty toxic situation in the end lmao
My ex used to always text me "Can I ask you something?" and then I'd have to say yes and WAIT for the question, sometimes 15+ minutes later... Depending on the recent happenings in our relationship, those were sometimes very stressful open loops, lol. I eventually confronted her about the way she did this, I told her it was stressful, but she just apologized and said she didn't mean to do it.
Damn she's the one doing all of these to me!!! She pulls back, gives disappointed in me, list down the things she's disappointed about. And here i am pleasing her, obssessing with her and missing her. Shiiiitt
I'm very surprised you didn't talk about taking an active approach to pleasuring her. The woman who I know deep down were obsessed with me are the woman that lusted over me. It's incredibly important to give it 110 percent in the bedroom and know how to get a woman off. If you can have great bedroom chemistry, trust me woman value this much more then a man does.
@@fj4731 So you didn't go into details why you broke up, but from what it sounds like you had very high expectation of consuming a lot of her time and always forcing yourself on her! What you need to realize now is that you can't treat her like you did in the past, you two aren't boyfriend and girl friends and I believe you should take from what her boundaries are as a hint that she wants to have more of a life outside of the relationship. Defiantly pull back and see how much she initiates and then go with the flow with that. Its important at the very minimum to have give and take going on in a relationship. If you find yourself always initiating conversation and she never does, then give her the chance to miss you and reach out. Also to from what I said earlier I don't know why you broke up, but you need to really think about and work on yourself to fix the things she consistently was unhappy about, that she directly or the subtle things she mentioned she didn't like. You also need to have patience you can't rush her into anything.
@@ryguy108Thank u so much for your reply.. Last year Covid , I was out of job for 6 month I became codependent in December she didnt reply my text and call she blocked me for 1 month after texting me she no more love me. I was in hell my 1st breakup which in January she unblocked me telling me dont be sad and we can stil be friend which I say No and surprising after another month of her cold treatment I suffered through on Valentine's triggered her to text me she still love me and we got back together and she actually told me there was No 1st breakup at all but I told her i was in depression those 2.5month and I questioned her why she keep saying she love me forever but broke up with me again in April. I fell back deeper grief over 3 month of No contact which this time she didnt even reach out.in fact it was I bumped into her on 30 June she was so happy to see me but told me that 3 month our love connection gone. However the next day 1st July she text me pet Name "Honey I want u to receive Jesus" because I am Non Christian. What pull us back together but this time she take control when she want to meet and when she want to text. i afraid of losing her since 3 month of No Contact didnt make her reach out. I dont know should I text her daily or what is healthy practise for texting and meeting ...is it 3x a week? I dont know how to maintain this 8 years relationship
@@ryguy108 she will celebrate my Birthday this Wednesday..may I ask what can I wish will it be too Needy to tell her i want back the same 8 years relationship and dont want the 3rd breakup because this year on and off breakup twice cause me depression ...and my wish is to see her like what we did before and texting daily with Good morning and Goodnite Kiss and meet 4x a week... is it going to turn her off ...I dont know what would a Masculine Alpha man will say or do ...that will cause romantic tension to make her want to be submissive and respectful?
Perhaps a controversial topic and set of techniques, but these principles are so powerful and important I just couldn't resist sharing them with you.
Thank you very helpful
thank you brother. I definitely needed this. I am looking for a life partner. Used to message girls back very quickly and kept texting.. certainly after few weeks of texting things stalled. Thanks again bro!
Hello Todd, hope you see this. Thanks for the content over the years and for the system which cost next to nothing when it was released. I have a question I never see around game, maybe it's been answered. But I haven't been aware. If I am rejected by a girl I see in my loose social circle. after asking her for a drink a couple times (I know cringe, the 2nd). How should I treat her? I just try and be civil as I don't want to look butt hurt and I am that kind of way anyway. But I don't really want to be chatty with her either. What is the best way to act socially in this scenario? I also think it's not good to game in your closeish social circle anyway as repeated failures like this will dlv you? Sorry for massive comment
@@mezzuna 1) Firstly, she'll clearly demonstrated you are not her first priority: "she had better options from her pov", so that instantly disqualifies her as a girl for anything Serious/Long Term... because she would only get with you if her "better options" don't work out. And you don't want to commit to a girl who thinks she's settling for you, because the second a "hawt" guy gives her attention, she'll leave or cheat, because why wouldn't she? her actions (or lack of it) has shown your not the best she thinks she can do.
2) Secondly, as such you should only treat her as a short term plate if you do get with her.
3) So only invest your time/effort/resources in her to a level in that, even after all your attempts, no sex happens, so you don't resent her.
4) You're time is better spent finding a girl who has Enthusiastic Desire for you, rather than trying to create it in a woman who by her words/actions is not wanting to escalate.
EDIT 5) Chasing a girl who is not interested is a COPE, to avoid having to face rejections from approaching New girls. Use all that sexual energy that your wasting on obsessing over her, and the next cool thing you could say to get her interested, as fuel to approach new girls.
6) Obsessing is like heroin. When you catch yourself doing it, distract yourself. Focus on what is really happening in your life at that moment. Don't let your body get flooded with the chemical rush from "your next master plan to win her". Distant and disengage
not controversial to me at all , if theres anyway i can find to have an advantage in a situation i take it , women complicate shit enough, one more inch of an advantage ( no pun intended) …is totally fine with me ..thx todd you’re the older brother i never had
Falling in love is not something someone does to you. It’s something you do to yourself when they are not around.
Deep af
unhealthy love is emotional, healthy love is logical
true
Damn, did you come up with that?
@L.D. 50 KEKW
Remember: don't PLAY hard to get. BE hard to get. That's done by having a purpose and wanting your space.
Whats a good minimum because i feel like the more you have your space shel just think oh he dont want me and will pull away.
@@dkm1900be yourself. For women, let them come to you and make it your idea.
Make plans that’s good and see if they take bites but if you see them cancelling and stuff then it’s up to them to pursue.
Every girl is different tho. Just see what works for them and you mainly.
you do both and you also give a little bit of openness
@@dkm1900 Love rarely dies of starvation but often of indigestion.
@@vladsciencedrums Two keys: 1) Never send date reminders. She must initiate first on day of date. 2) The woman must text first after the date. If she doesn't say she had fun, etc. it's over. No exceptions.
I swear thats why I hate texting. I can be naturally charming but when it comes to texting it seems like you have to be cautious of every little step or you might catch a landmine
Couldn’t agree more man it’s wack
only used for meeting up schedules
Especially because tone doesn't come across in texts and people can easily get the wrong idea from your writing. Especially because we all type quickly (who the hell is gonna take their time to reply to a girl? Lol)
1.scarcity/ absence. 2.variable rewards / occasional dissappointment/unpredictable,/ some negative
3.make them work for you/ be hard to get/ disqualify them / push away after they invest / unkindness occasionally
4. texting gaps- dont close the loop, keeps them uncertain. dont double text/leave them on read
5.Frame self as the prize, they chase. Frame the story of "us". 6. Preemptive freezeout. Pull away at a high point before sex, makes them chase.. 7. Leave the loop open
Are these advices working from your woman's perspective?
@@mevio4665 They don't work as a woman once you already know the game. In fact, when it appears we're aware of the insecurity that creates the tactics. It has a kind of backfiring effect.
@@everydaytherapist7315 Thank you for the honest feedback. I would rather prefer to be liked for who I am , than for the role which I'm playing and it's not me.
@@mevio4665 I think some scarcity is good though, and to have a person know that they don't just "have you" completely. Human nature doesn't seem to respect when people appear willing to stay at all costs.
But for women who have most likely had this kind of "game" played on them their whole adult life, it's refreshing when a man is just proud of his feelings and confident in his ability to express himself.
A person who risks rejection actually looks more attractive because it shows that they know their value even if they get told no.
@@everydaytherapist7315 You're indeed a great therapist as your name suggests and it's very kind of you to reply so promptly. I'm taking note of your advice and I like your caring approach. You deserve many more viewers on your high quality content channel
Many thanks! beautiful guru!! 🙂🙂
I'm using it for evil
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Time to get my revenge for all the years i got rejected.
What did he think was gonna happen when he gave away this information 🤣🤣🤣😅😅
U have to have a state of heartlessness otherwise eventually it will hurt u
“I've learned that no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back and some people do and I really appreciate it.!!”
I lived through 6.5 years of this. Is definetly does work and it becomes very toxic and very difficult to get out of.
Yep, nothing feels better than being desired, it's literally better than sex.
Perhaps not to this extreme but alot of it is true. People need space.
Teach me
George Bruno nailed this, I paraphrase 'You can tell alot about a woman by her hands, if they're 'round your neck things are not going well'.
Around your neck in what way exactly?
i think he means like strangling you lol
No shit
@@abdelhamid6674 woooooosh
Women like it when you strangle them a little while having sex.
People do all these things instinctively when they have lukewarm or mixed feelings towards someone. So the Inner Game version of this is to understand why you should, in fact, be indifferent towards any given potential relationship. And there are good reasons why you should be indifferent. For example: 1) whatever sexual attraction is there will fade, 2) the other person certainly has major flaws that have yet to reveal themselves, 3) you haven't invested much, 4) there are all kinds of horrible life-changing consequences that could result from a relationship going sour. If you were truly able to convince yourself that these things apply to EVERY potential relationship no matter how good the person seems (and they do apply), then you would be able to reduce your overenthusiasm and do the things described in this video without even trying.
This comment gets the award for "Most Based in 2022" 🏆
this is spot on.
This is brilliant
I cannot stress enough how good this guy is. Pure Gold content. Thank you Todd.
He's describing exactly how I treated a girl whom I didn't consider girlfriend material. And she's obsessed with me.
So what does it matter that she’s obsessed over you but you don’t find her to be girlfriend material? The only thing to do is just have her as a fling.
same
Enjoy it while it lasts because a women is usually looking for the better prize and there’s lots out there. They don’t be long forgetting about you when they get new dick trust me.
So be honest with her, tell her it's just casual. Don't give her hopes. Honesty is something that only grown up men can afford.
@@karenkaren9913 yeah I told her I only want to be friends multiple times, but she still has hope. That's just the way it is
*It’s all about confidence and mystery - key elements that can really spark attraction. The balance between being attentive and still maintaining your own space is huge.*
you are describing the toxic roller coaster that narcissists apply in a relationship.Yes it is addictive and there are studies over it but it is still toxic and it rarely ends well.
Healthy people do not play such mind games and healthy relationships are not built over this.
Do not apply if you care for the other person. It is extremely toxic and damaging
I agree, I'm trying to think about a more benign, constructive versions of these techniques.
Agreed! This is terrible advice for those who value themselves and are interested in spiritual growth.
@A not only a woman but a man as well. I'm a survivor of this behaviour and i'm 1 year now on therapies.
Literally
agreed ... some of this is just plain f**ked up
Honestly. I repeatedly fu*** up a relationship by not giving enough space this is such good advice. don’t always be available.
I've experienced this recently and my reaction was to give him the space and latitude. He came back and left again and pulled the same "technique." After weeks of no contact I realized that I finally lost interest. He came back again but this time, all I can give is silence for good. He did regret his actions as the role seemed to reverse but it is much too late. It wasn't my intention to, but I just can't with these games so I wished him well and let him go.
what are you bragging about - you rejected a simp, big deal, come back when you're 40 and nobody looks at you anymore, let's see how this game works for you
And then you got woken up by your pussy trying to get a scratch from you
This only works on women that haven’t done any inner healing work. The reason is, these techniques are activating their unworthiness wound and anxious attachment and then the relationship will be a wound-mate dynamic. Relationships should be built on love, devotion, constancy, values and communication.
Well said. Emotionally intelligent, confident women wouldn't fall for this. And also would avoid men that try to play games with them.
Exactly. Any confident or mature woman would not allow this.
My ex was addicted to me. But she didn't care about anything but having someone to be with her that wasn't cheating.... So.
@@Joetoy90 unfortunately 🙏🙏
Exactly! Had a guy do this and knew he was playing game. Decided to focus my attention elsewhere
This is great game to get insecure girls. No high value woman would fall for these military grade weapons. 😂
This was important for me to see. I can see how if you wanted to torment a person you could effectively do it this way. If you do most of these techniques without telling a person that's what you're doing, you're going to make them really upset and feel really small and uncared for. Oh how romantic, you've addicted them in a way that no doubt makes them feel manipulated. I've thought girls were doing this to me before and it made me unbelievably angry, and not in a pleasant, playful way. Don't use this on people if you want the best for them. Go out and date and empathize instead of watching youtube videos on how to win friends and influence people.
Thank you
Tell your girl that you can't manipulate her unless you make yourself her only source of happiness. Put it back on her to manipulate herself. Girls love tasks.
I needed this comment, thank you.
I still haven't watched the 10 secs of video
@@BillWiltfongit is still manipulation. And it is wrong.
Have a lot of money, only way to fly.
What I’m noticing with these techniques is if you’re living a balanced and healthy life, these techniques will come through naturally. You will honestly voice concerns of the relationship. You will be busy and not be able to see her/text her. You’ll negotiate a common story. You’ll include space in the relationship, practice restraint, build the relationship slowly and build comfort when apart. You’ll create positive experiences with the other person.
I want to think of how I can be a person that does these things naturally, and practice being that person.
This is all assuming the woman is not into drama. Which as emotional creatures, MOST ARE.
Hoes before bro cmon
Yeah just be properly caring and kind, too many men have been abusive cheaters, then there's the rapey type. She just wants you to be a proper decent human being
Nature goes with the flow, figure out who you are, then figure out what you're good at, then begin making choices. Teamwork is an almost necessary part of life so after a while of you doing you , friends, business partners , and chances for romance begin to come.
Yep instead of being deceptive and intentionally try to hurt her.
This is brilliant. It's not some obvious well-known BS, but true valuable, hard way experience gained information. Thank you so much Todd. I immediately realized some of the recent mistakes I made. Much gratitude.
Comed here to learn how to make my girl obsessed. Found out she does all of this shit on me :)) I hope she's not a psycho.
A lot of this stuff (like not responding or becoming distant at times) is natural behavior if you're just not *that* invested in the other person yet
@@Paul-yk7ds se told me that she's in love whit me.
@@MrDragosh201 focus on her actions not her words, women lie
@@MrDragosh201 this behavior is often caused by past traumas like toxic parent, look up avoidant attachment style
Update she was a sociopath lmao
Delivering 'How to get a woman obsessed with you' with the warning, "Please use this for good", with a straight face deserves a thumbs up, whatever the content was...
This is basically like training a neurons petri disk to chase a stimulus except that's is often done by girls unconsciously on guys.. You opened the playbook and reversed the situation so it can be used to build strong bonds in positive relationships for guys with girls too and on purpose, that's genius!
I thought I knew it all and you just hit the nail on the head, thanks for informing the community I really enjoyed this video
This is pure gold. Pretty much life-changing advice. I'm glad I stumbled upon this video. Thanks Todd!
Todd's the greatest!
Me too!!
Kya yeh kaam karti hai, bhai?
Maybe you think that kinda thing works, I find it's either 'love at first sight ' or not too interesting.. but the guy flirting by, being sweet, well mannered and showing her you find her interesting.. is great.
Too many guys are drinking too much alcohol, very off putting if he's slurring and shows weak out of control, red flags
Come on bro..life changing...
Good training video for budding narcissists and psychopaths. And typically it is the perpetrators that suffer more than the victims. The victims are more likely to learn from the experience and develop, while the perpetrators perpetuate their loneliness and isolation.
10 things to quit for all Strong Men:
1. Caring about what others think
2. Not believing in yourself
3. Not experimenting different ideas / solutions for problems (life&business)
4. Not prioritizing your health
5. Wasting your precious time
6. Wanting something (instead write a plan and work towards it)
7. Chasing meaningless relationships
9. Wasting or draining your energy from beating your meat 🥩
10. Wasting time by scrolling social media
11. Nailbiting/nailpicking habit for good (if you do it - consider stopping it as it makes you mentally weak + affects your confidence and all other areas of your life!)
Take it easy and I hope you found one thing helpful in this list............
Good list…Never knew about #11 🧐 just looked into it and there’s some great ideology behind it thanks for sharing bro
Point 11 is actually real in regards to mental weakness and inconfidence? Can you refer me to your source? I wanna read more about that
#8??
@@cahnrad number eight is taking advice from someone who cannot count😂
#8 got skipped because he was beating his meat and laughing at those who believed him and don't. Guys who don't, think they're better than you and manicure their nails. Oh, and can never satisfy a woman
Great vid, Todd. 2 questions:
1) how do you create an “us vs the world mentality” with your girl? Is this just a matter of using the word “we” a lot?
2) how do you create open loops? Is this just a matter of occasionally saying ambiguous/vague things to her?
The “us vs the world” mentality comes from alignment. Your goals and aspirations, your actions and habits should be congruent with what you both want for yourselves, aka you should both be willfully taking the necessary actions to achieve your goals. Achieving things together and setting mutual goals is also a good method because in order to be on the same team, you have to be after the same thing. People will align with those who desire the same results or achievements, especially if accomplishing it with others will reduce the difficulty of the task.
Now, I don’t do this with women, I’ve been seeing multiple women for a while and don’t have the need for such tactics. HOWEVER, my advice is coming from a very extensive sales background where I need to instill the exact same mentality into my prospects to close them. Align with your prospect’s goals and vision, help them believe in their goals and vision, transfer the necessary confidence and certainty into them so that they believe they can achieve their goals, and meet them where they are emotionally, in your tone, and in your cadence throughout the interaction. Pace and lead them with your tonality to get emotional agreements and instill buying confidence, all while bringing them to the necessary logical agreements to complement the emotional side.
@@iDropPhats Could you illustrate with an example?
@@prashunpcchakraborty70 Put yourself in a position that allows you to help her achieve her goals. Remember, always position yourself as part of the solution, not the problem. If she wants to get in shape, tell her to come to the gym with you daily. If she wants to excel in the business space, build your knowledge base and aid in her in her endeavors. If she wants to get a promotion, keep her accountable and help her grow as a person so she can get the position. In doing this, she’ll see you as a problem finder and a problem solver. You get what you want because she’ll most likely see you as a pathway to her goals. If you instill that kind of mentality in her, for one she will look up to you and two, she’ll feel more compelled to do things for you. She will feel the need to return the favor in some form or fashion. That’s basic human psychological behavior. Does that make sense? It works, for the most part, in the same way with everyone, this is just an application to a woman.
@@iDropPhats That does make sense but a friend of mine is in the same spot he's the problem solver but he's starting to enjoy that role a bit too much. He solves her problems and it feels like there's not much joy in the relationship. She's dependent on him but I don't think there's a man to woman sexual attraction there any longer because he isn't getting any.
@@prashunpcchakraborty70 It’s a fine balance, you don’t solve every problem there is. There’s supposed to be disagreements in a relationship, that’s the only way you can grow together with someone. But you don’t solve so many problems that they’re dependent on you to do so, that creates an absolute need, and you don’t want that. Solve just enough problems for her to achieve what she wants to achieve mostly on her own. If you’re doing EVERYTHING, then it’s a one sided relationship where you do it all and she sits back and gets comfortable having to take little action. It’s a very fine balance of providing empathy and accountability, but keeping your distance and never really becoming *too* much of a provider. That just leaves you open to being taken advantage of and walked all over. Again, this only really applies to traditional relationships. If you’re seeing multiple women, don’t worry about doing a whole lot of providing at a medium to high level, if any.
Bro I have to admit, this video is like literal magic. Probably the most amazing video I've ever seen about dating
Very true, excellent advice as usual. On a meta level avoid setting patterns, humans are subconsciously searching for patterns all the time.
Once it’s a pattern it’s toxic
What's he done to his hair
@@adammm321 lmao
Many girls get pis.sed when ure unpredictsble. Many want it all planned out
@@ihelpyouwitheverything4720 I mean it would piss u off if ur girl was unpredictable all the time as well right? It’s about doing it in a good way. She can trust you to surprise her, but at the same time knows, she better respect your boundaries
What an incredible video... I cant belive how much work Todd puts into this... Honestly he is been my go too for a long time now! Never misses! And I love your Text and Dates course!
You must be a secundary account 💀
I read a quote saying "anything that is freely given tends to be taken for granted ." I think it's true. That's why toxic ex and abusers always comes back when u walk away from the relationship. They get comfortable taking the good person for granted and their good deeds despite their abuse. So when the abusee finally moves on they now cherish the thing they thought they would have forever
Such a great video, I learned that I’m being too positive and always around. She hardly responds anymore, I get it’s a long distance relationship but I thought she would want me around.
Absolutely agree. Be careful what you wish for!
This video is so well done and lays out the rationale and the drawbacks of this strategy perfectly
i think the idea is keeping a level head. dont give someone all your time. you need to also work and sleep. i value a guy that makes time for me and that respects his other priorities. you cant be on the phone all the time or together all the time. but you can also find ways to enjoy each other without being 100% lockin on one an other all the time. for exemple face timing while doing other things, being at home but doing 2 different things. coupled with getting alone time and time together. it gives you time to miss eachother, time to build a shared eperience/live.
I'd rather lose her for being too unapologetic/unyielding than keep her for being too nice
Law #3 of the pimp game.
Don't chase, Replace
Simpler explanation please
@@christopherartalejo1101 He would rather lose a chick by being himself rather than acting nice to keep her.
@@ghosthusler he's preached the gospel many times and most never paid attention 😤😤
Lol
Todd is a master at speaking in general.
it is kinda strange what happened to dating nowadays...me as a woman, I'd say only one thing - these guys will use it for evil.
One type of women will get hooked and then they will be healing after narcissistic abuse...for years...and they won't believe in anything real afterwards.
Another type of women will ignore and forget those guys in second as soon as they feel smth wrong and some games started.
so it means this strategies work only with vulnerable, nice girls...those who have a low self esteem or haven't got enough love while being raised...
so the most gold hearted girls..who can love. Who are able to love deeply...
Those stupid manipulations will work on them and break them in the end.
But what the point in this?
To make both men and women players... egoistic? narcissistic?
In psychology it is called trauma...when someone plays cold and hot, puts her on a pedestal and then devalues.
Shit...this world is completely crazy....
Honestly...
Imagine both people doing this game and basically never make out, just ignoring each other and hoping one person will chase..
Thats me and one lady. Since 13 years. For fuck sake. She is a "natural" in it haha
I had this happened milliooons of times. I remember when nobody knew what ghosting was. Now everyone are aware of that dynamic.
Alot of these strategies are absolutely how you should go about most relationships to obtain power. However, it works more towards insecure and self conscious chicks. Alot of older well established women will recognize the games and bounce because of them. Unless you're gorgeous in which case all of this works all the time. I should know.
1:50 2:04-2:35 5:20-6:22 (6:13). 7:12. Disqualify/push (8:30), when she’s a little invested in you…. 10:20-11:50.
I've been watching a ton of videos like this but yours really stands out. Excellent insight and advice!!
This video reminds me of why I'm not in any hurry to get back in the dating game. What he's neglecting to say here is, if you run this tedious, self-regulating game on her, she may be obsessed with you, BUT ONLY FOR A WHILE...UNTIL IT DOESN'T WORK ANYMORE. Let's get real, ok? there's an unspoken standard of expectations she has for you, and that standard of expectations isn't static, it's fluid, and growing. Western women will constantly, selfishly push you to "level-up" in the name of "I'm just being supportive." What a crock. But watch out. Make no mistake gentlemen, if she feels you're not "hitting the mark," (for any reason), things can get ugly, and she can "move on" with zero remorse, guilt or shame...and do so with rapidity, it'll shock you to the core. That is her strength.
@@TEuUs88 As a side note, more and more men are migrating to the Philippines, Thailand and some Latin Countries where women appreciate men and know how to show their appreciation. Unlike Western women, these exotic, genuinely feminine creatures don't push men to "level-up" for their own selfish agenda in the name of "being supportive." Imagine being with a woman you don't have to constantly run "game" on, where you can just be you.
You’ve always been a wellspring of knowledge and wisdom. Thank you, Todd.
This is 100% true. Been subconsciously doing this since 18. Not methodically; was just myself.
Yeah, dark side of game requires love. So true.
Freeze out very kindly “I definitely respect you, but I am sorry I can’t hide that I am kinda turned off by the situation” if she doesn’t like that, say: “just give me one minute please, not really a big deal” and change the subject by nice but keep some noticeable distance -it’s true and it works for me
About the outro, a good human being wouldn't do these tactics, we all know that.
But it sucks that some of us have to balance out our "nice guy-ness" to use these on the girl we want to get with
I met a few women where i didn't have to do these toxic traits in order for me to do the things i wanted to do with her
That was mainly because both of us werent toxic nor did we have any toxic tendencies, meaning we were raised healthy
Never did i ever thought about what she felt nor would i want her to feel, aka zero emotional manipulation
What i'm trying to say is that you could still be your BEST-SELF without wanting to do these toxic tactics to get the RIGHT girl for you
"oh that wouldnt be fun at all", if toxic is fun for you then so be it. Her emotions and your emotions will be on the line and people will get hurt
I didn't realize I was doing this.... it's just how I naturally am given how busy I am. I can't always text back. I can't always be there for her. She has to be able stand on her own.....this works
Todd, you should write a book.
This should be considered psychological abuse and it is so sad young men are listening to this !the only woman that will be obsessed with you if you hear this advice is an immature or low self esteem woman. Great job to teach people how to be narcissistic
Todd never disappoints with the topics 🔥
best youtube video i watched this year. keep going 👑
I'm doing this to my ex I'm trying to get back. It is driving her a bit crazy. But I'm only doing it so she appreciates me in the end. She got too comfortable living with me, started being rude and distant. Now she's texting me love songs, brings up good times together.
Legend !!!! Keep swinging that axe brother lol
Really helpful and different from the usual same old videos. Hats off
Todd is amazing. He knows the canon perfectly. Great master. I'm from old days when I went to a Julien rsd seminar when I lived in the USA. Now back to Italy and after years I still have abundance. Julien style was over the top, wich matches my personality, but to normal people go for todd v all the way. The guy is a genius.
You don't text women. You set dates or hang outs. Texting is a path to the Darkside, and I don't mean that in a good way.
When you far it wont work though
Why is it a path to the dark side?
This is a lot more believable and realistic if you're looking for something serious than what many people say that we should treat girls as if we didn't even care about them and they're worthless for us. I basically treat girls the same way I'd like to be treated. I'm not looking for uncertainty, I'm looking for something serious and stable. If I want strong emotions, I'll just full throttle on my bike, in a relationship I want something certain where we both respect eachother and have no doubts
Very high quality content… impressed! 👍🏻
Been doing this for years. This man on point fellas, pay attention.
I will put these into use as soon as they are needed. That leads to my question however: how do we know when a woman is worth our time? How do we uncover their true self?
I honestly believe some guys did these methods without even knowing it. They probably didn't believe it would work, and didn't see that victory was there.
I did that very last step, she text me out of the blue "we need to talk" then I said whats wrong? she wrote "I don't think this is working out anymore, you almost never text me, only when I text first, I'm very upset right now etc" and instead of me using this to my advantage I just text her "sorry you feel that way, I understand, good luck with evrything in your life"... and that was that lol
"I know you feel strongly and you want me to reach out more and I appreciate how good you are at communicating but you have to understand that i'm busy building my future. Sometimes I legitimately can't text back despite wanting to.
Your consistency is an extreme sign of loyalty to me and shows that you're serious i'll hit you back when I can. Thank you ❤️"
Something like that might work depending on how she really feels but don't waste a good woman if she's actually good.
what exactly was so funny (you wrote LOL).. seems immature.
Girl dodged a bullet right there.
This works!! This girl pulled this ALL of shit on me, I believe she knowingly did this...and I did SOME of this... unknowingly. It became toxic, she triggered my past trauma, my nervous system was on high alarm telling me danger! that then brought on a self awareness. I started with therapy and really got into why I failed at all her crap test. I feel like an idiot. My final words to her was to get lost, and that she used me and is manipulative. Narcissistic games.
I was thinking in that pool / huttub situation, instead of chasing a separation, the better move would be to leave the hot-tub, dry off, get dressed either nicely if you're going somewhere, or in something relaxed if you'll be going to bed or the gym soon, and either have her come looking you, when she has that (oh shit I'm alone feeling) or else bring her a coffee or a cocktail while you have one yourself. In any case, switching things up, getting ready to do something different, creates the urgency of now, and if a woman is going to initiate, it's always going to be from a sense of urgency, not a relaxed state. A relaxed state it's your move. That's why they always be trying to initiate when a guy is giving them 'game over' vibes. That's why they boomerang between their exes when they didn't meet a good quality Mr. NEW NEXT, because even though she kicked them out the door, or they kicked her out the door, she treats them like prequalified credit offers!
The last technique "the dread of not knowing" is a typical terrible male behaviour in a failing relationship. It shows a man is fearful of his partners emotions. Avoid becoming needy or supplicating (walking on egg shells). It will serve you better if you 'don't care just a little', because you'll put your needs first.
Todd, do you think any of these techniques work if the relationship is currently declining, i:e emotional attraction is clearly dropping, can it spark attraction again or is positive attraction a must before trying these?
I am not a Todd, but i would advise for you to give her some space and time to miss you, something simular to the training a dog. :D
I would recommend watching the relationship manifesto before going and trying some gimmicks. You really would only want the first hour hour and a half of it. Its helped me quite a bit in my relationship
Meditate
@@viliamhromek8054 always remember, they have the vagina hence the power. You give her space, odds are she will have multiple other guys waiting to swoop in. The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else, and she will, and she will move on.
sting heavy still float like a featherweight
Came across this randomly and it’s brilliant. What you described in this video is exactly what I did with my wife without even realizing it ❤
R u still married??? Happily???
haha yes! we've been together 10+ years didnt marry until last year.@@grandblancchiropractic5368
The wife. “so, that’s how I wound up with you. You bastard! Where are we going for dinner tonight, honey?” 😆
Love is not a choice only to give people Happy emotions
But love is so strong
Most of ya'll aren't ready for an obsessive woman. Why do you want someone obsessing over you to begin with? I have a girl obsessing over me and it's mentally not easy.
Always great listening to you. Thank you.
As a spin off to the last one, texting her “we should talk” before asking her to be your official girlfriend seems like it’d be pretty strong. She builds up the anxiety that you’re about to dump her but instead you go total opposite. No way she says no then!
Corny
Well yr best friend maybe telling her, if he's horrible to you. Don't worry, I'll take care of you instead. So it might be just an annoyance that yr trying to wind her up. Your brother might offer her a better easier deal.
She wants to go to lovely places with you, to share your life and happiness. She's got enough stress already. She wants to be happy, not constantly on edge, life is already stressful enough. She doesn't need more crap!
Super corny!! Dudes is desperate out here
Fucking cringe dude. Nah let the chick push for commitment.
wow thats simpish lmao
Yes, most of those technics work really really well. But I have also seen women (especially the damaged ones like borderliners etc) using them VERY well. I also then thought: "where the hell did she learn that from??" The answer: from nowhere/nobody. It was just part of her psychophatic/antisocial behavior... that is the dark truth about all this.... believe me!!!
I forwarded this to a lot of female friends I have , thanks for letting the world know about mind games , on the other side of the coin however, if they use these techniques, men will know why they are ghosted by good women and will only attract insecure ones because when a real woman figure this game out , she will leave the game instantly without a warning thanks for the truth that is intended to manipulate love
Damn this is some deep af game that Todd is giving for free, I feel like I should’ve paid for it lol
Are you for real lol
Just Talk to your average narcisist
And would know🤡🤡🤡
Excellent video! This is some legit high level game knowledge. My only question is when mixing it up with the occasional disappointment, in addition to the tactics you've mentioned, would that also include disagreeing with her particular lifestyle choices (music tastes or personal ones like clothing choice) in conversation?
Probably only if it's a negative. Shitting on her music/Movie preferences would leads to nowhere positive. Just nothing or negative
I would say dont try to orchestrate disappointment. but be ok with disagreeing and expressing yourself, dont just do everything that will make her happy. have boundaries respect your needs too. Talk about those things with her every once in a while to maje sure you guys are on the same page and you both know how to best respect and care for each other. because things arent static. We want to get along but again if we people please its just boring. Not sure if it makes sence.
Yr just going to annoy her by being negative like that. Just plan outtings, she'll find you so interesting then& irresistible!!
Yeaaa, hell yea. Not disagreeing but like teasing her lightly. This one girl said she likes Canadian poutine I told I don’t like it. African poutine taste better 😂😂 stupid and silly but it works.
Hell no. Occasional disappointment comes from you being your own person with your own likes. It's not about insulting what she likes - that's just being an asshole and a total red flag.
The length of the video is 26:11 💀Indians know what im saying!!
If you use tactics to get her “obsessed,” you’re no longer allowed to complain when you eventually drive her “crazy…”
todd i’ve taken your advice for years to heart and you’ve woken up the “ neo” in me and have made me see women in a whole new light like a scientist , but regarding the freeze out, altho i understand about not being reactive , my question and feeling about that is , isn’t not punishing her for doing something to you…isn’t that just inviting to her it’s ok to behave this way towards me ????
Todd is simply saying dont freeze out if she refuses your escalation etc. Other than that he recommends to stand your ground firmly but calmly whenever she truly disrespects you and crosses the line in all his relevant videos.
The Preemptive freeze out is GENIUS. It’s almost trolling.😅👌🏻
FOR US SIMPLE FOLKS.... Just because a chick isn't texting or calling you DOES NOT MEAN SHE ISNT THINKING ABOUT YOU.
Females make no sense at all.
Sounds like ur friend zoned bro @@blockaderunner
You're a legend, I love you Todd!
Gold bro! So glad I found ur channel
"Swimmy, swimmy, splashy, splashy, sexy, sexy" That's either a Eddie Izzard reference or an amazing coincidence.
I haven't watched this video yet, but I'm sure it's great and it will improve my life for the far better super quickly, thank you for everything Todd
This is like teaching heel hooks. Awesome Stuff!
Hahahaha, these techniques can't be used on whitebelts
Todd has been following Hoodville
I think you should preface that all of these tactics only work if she’s already physically attracted to you. If she doesn’t find you her type physically you are not going anywhere because I’ve tried this with women and it didn’t work because they didn’t find me physically attractive to begin with.
Great video, great tips, great delivery. Subscribed 🎉
I've had a few women in my dating life who I wouldn't say were obsessed with me but always wanted to know what I'm doing every minute of the day. This occurred even though I made plans to see her during the week. After a while dating became more of a job and less enjoyable, especially when she expects you to reply to her calls and text immediately while I'm busy at work or out with my mates. Word to the wise, be careful what you wish for, it just may come true.
What's funny is when u don't want it you get a girl obsessed! But a girl that you want obsessed u never get her like that!
These are some good good tips. Thanks.
If you text her back immediately she’s glad you did. Girls like when you text them back immediately. They get excited. If you wait then she’ll think about you and want you more.
I don't agree tho. I tend to not like them if they do tht
If you text her immediately you get taken for granted
just mix it up...... sometimes do, sometimes don't, did you not watch the vid? it's really that simple, besides, there SHOULD be times when you can't bc you're doing something else anyway, right? or are you really on your phone 24/7?
Just went through hell a bit ago after only going out on two weekends. She was obsessed to a crazy degree. When I said I couldn’t do this with her she flipped that switch 180. Super vicious.
if you do that intermitent reinforcement you can umbalance the situation. Turn your partner in an all giver and you in an all taker(that is the Narcicist game) and you ll get bored and unvalue the other person efforts to be with you.
But u still getting what you want lol but I get what u are saying 😂
had one girl obsessed with me last year... the validation was great i ain't gonna lie, but goddamn did it take so much effort. And it did turn into a pretty toxic situation in the end lmao
Yeah, truth be told there. When they get obsessed you’re potentially heading for a problem
@@ThorMaximus why
Bro for real.. i used these crazy ass tactics and this girl literally rang my door bell without tellin me she was comin
this whole game is just so stupid and immature... but it's real. what a world we live in
I always value the professor that give the easy A’s more
My ex used to always text me "Can I ask you something?" and then I'd have to say yes and WAIT for the question, sometimes 15+ minutes later... Depending on the recent happenings in our relationship, those were sometimes very stressful open loops, lol. I eventually confronted her about the way she did this, I told her it was stressful, but she just apologized and said she didn't mean to do it.
U called her out of her BS of coz she not gonna admit it 😂 So how did the relationship ended?
People need to talk more and text less.
Damn she's the one doing all of these to me!!!
She pulls back, gives disappointed in me, list down the things she's disappointed about. And here i am pleasing her, obssessing with her and missing her.
Shiiiitt
I'm very surprised you didn't talk about taking an active approach to pleasuring her. The woman who I know deep down were obsessed with me are the woman that lusted over me. It's incredibly important to give it 110 percent in the bedroom and know how to get a woman off. If you can have great bedroom chemistry, trust me woman value this much more then a man does.
@@fj4731 So you didn't go into details why you broke up, but from what it sounds like you had very high expectation of consuming a lot of her time and always forcing yourself on her! What you need to realize now is that you can't treat her like you did in the past, you two aren't boyfriend and girl friends and I believe you should take from what her boundaries are as a hint that she wants to have more of a life outside of the relationship. Defiantly pull back and see how much she initiates and then go with the flow with that. Its important at the very minimum to have give and take going on in a relationship. If you find yourself always initiating conversation and she never does, then give her the chance to miss you and reach out. Also to from what I said earlier I don't know why you broke up, but you need to really think about and work on yourself to fix the things she consistently was unhappy about, that she directly or the subtle things she mentioned she didn't like. You also need to have patience you can't rush her into anything.
@@ryguy108Thank u so much for your reply..
Last year Covid , I was out of job for 6 month I became codependent in December she didnt reply my text and call she blocked me for 1 month after texting me she no more love me. I was in hell my 1st breakup which in January she unblocked me telling me dont be sad and we can stil be friend which I say No and surprising after another month of her cold treatment I suffered through on Valentine's triggered her to text me she still love me and we got back together and she actually told me there was No 1st breakup at all but I told her i was in depression those 2.5month and I questioned her why she keep saying she love me forever but broke up with me again in April. I fell back deeper grief over 3 month of No contact which this time she didnt even reach out.in fact it was I bumped into her on 30 June she was so happy to see me but told me that 3 month our love connection gone. However the next day 1st July she text me pet Name "Honey I want u to receive Jesus" because I am Non Christian. What pull us back together but this time she take control when she want to meet and when she want to text. i afraid of losing her since 3 month of No Contact didnt make her reach out.
I dont know should I text her daily or what is healthy practise for texting and meeting ...is it 3x a week? I dont know how to maintain this 8 years relationship
@@ryguy108 she will celebrate my Birthday this Wednesday..may I ask what can I wish will it be too Needy to tell her i want back the same 8 years relationship and dont want the 3rd breakup because this year on and off breakup twice cause me depression ...and my wish is to see her like what we did before and texting daily with Good morning and Goodnite Kiss and meet 4x a week... is it going to turn her off ...I dont know what would a Masculine Alpha man will say or do ...that will cause romantic tension to make her want to be submissive and respectful?
Yup, this is 100% true. I’m obsessed with my partner because he knows how to drive me crazy.
Yeah, this should be number one.