For number 1, it may come off as malicious but some people don’t want to commit long term relationships. Some may be polyamorous which is a thing, that still requires communication and maybe it might not be your thing. 3 and 5 is all about giving the other person time. Friendship should be the first step if that hasn’t been done yet. That way it’s easier to get to know each other better without being burdened by romantic expectations.
nothing wrong with poly relationships, but the point is that the person should present their intentions at the very beginning. you don’t go on a date with someone and make it seem like your looking at something exclusive when you’re actually talking and going on dates with multiple other people, that’s just bad communication.
Friendship as the first step? I've been told people feel like you've been dishonest if you do that, like they never had a friend. The general consensus seems to be that if you develop feelings for a friend, or befriend somebody you have an interest in, you shouldn't act on it. Getting to know them is what dating is for, and so on.
If it is ok for you to be in a friendship, that may never develope to something more and may end in the friendzone , then go for it. For me I could never be in a friendship when I have romantic feelings for the other one but she can’t give them back because she is emotionally unavailable due to their ex… Make yourself clear what you want and don’t put too much energy in someone who struggles with him or herself.
It is simple, either they should decide to be in a relationship or just leave you alone and stop been selfish jerks. Playing with the heart of anyone that develops feelings for you is no fun. Eventually karma will come around to teach those who played others for fools when they decide to have a relationship after realising what they want but by that time it is too late when could had it with the person they had hurt and left.
You know what hurts more, when you like your friend and you have a strong feeling that she is in love with you....thus you propose her but she reject your proposal and friendzone you..............
@Niphyra Read my comment above again...... so, I liked her but when I proposed she rejected it but become a friend of mine. She was the first one to whom I said 'love you' 'Proposed' in the sense that I told that 'I like her' not marriage proposal
5 signs that someone isn’t ready for a relationship 1. they’re going out with a lot of different people 0:48 2. they bring up their ex often 1:52 3. they don’t know what they want 2:34 4. they’re flaky 2:45 5. there is a lack of progression in the relationship 3:31
@@userm180 I still love him kind of the same amount. He didn't support my dreams and the sexual chemistry wasn't one hundred percent which are both very big deals for me. I don't regret ending the relationship but other than those two things he was a pretty good boyfriend
Heavy on the "they don't know what they want"!! Sometimes when people give us mixed signals or don't know what they want, we have a tendency to stick around hoping that they'll figure it out or they'll eventually want what you want-- but this can cause so much more heart ache down the road :( getting emotionally invested in someone that doesn't want you sucks. You deserve to be with someone that makes it CLEAR that they want to be with you. You deserve healthy, safe, strong relationships
1. They're dating a lot of other people 2. They bring up their ex often 3. They don't know what they want 4. Bail often last minute or late 5. Lack of progression or growth
1. My Mother, Grandmother and even Auntie have told me I'm the most Super Handsomest 2. I'm extremely punchual with my taxes 3. I will never talk about Ex- Girlfriends 4. I have a calculator built into my watch 5. Fridays is World of Warcraft raids Now that I have shown what my caliper is, why don't yawl go ahead and slide into my DM's. I may not be able to get to all your messages right away, as I'm still using dial up internet, but I'm saving up for a better Internets. You'll be looking forward to hearing from me. Please. I'm ready for a relationship.
Magnificent person reading this… The truth is you are confident and good enough already with who you are, where you are at and what you have right now to have the success you want in life. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn that skill and go after it! I believe in you so much! Have an awesome day! 🌟- Love, Nat ❤️
Cuz you're such a kind heart, and I just wanted to thank you for your sweet words: you deserve it! (*＾3＾)/～♡ Thanks for being the way you are. Stay safe/healthy/happy and smile ( ꈍᴗꈍ)
I gotta be real, this is not good message for everyone. Some people are not good enough and really do need to improve a lot about themselves. For instance, I drink and do drugs on a daily basis (trying to quit). If I decide I'm good enough as is, and continue my current habits, I'll be dead before I reach 40. Sometimes people aren't good enough, and that's OK. The good thing is that it's never to late to choose a new path.
1. They are dating a lot of other people 0:50 2. They bring up their ex often 1:36 3. They don’t know what they want 2:36 4. They’re flaky 3:01 5. Lack of progressions or growth 3:34 Hope this helps
I'm with a couple others here, 4. flakiness is part of depression and anxiety. As we get used to being in a relationship, and grow more comfortable with the person, the flakiness subsides. Given this channel's primary mental health content, I'm surprised this was a major point given without a disclaimer.
Step 1: get flirty text Step 2: flirter asks "can we talk?" Step 3: delete text/contact/block number Step 4: Throw the whole damn thing in the trash and never worry about it again.
that sounds easier said than done, I abandoned my feelings for my crush cuz well, he never acknowledges me, and probably didn't think anything of it when his friends bullied me, that's the sadder part, I had a crush that's friends with my bullies
@@SkylarDear_466 then you should've bully them tf back! If you just sit down and admit defeat no wonder he ignored you. You don't have to be physical but stand up for yourself, and If things do escalate you go down swinging! The guy would probably admire you rather than you looking pathetic being a laughing stock.
@@NathanDavis508 theyre not pathetic for that tho. different people will react differently and it may take some time for some people to fully be able to stand up to their bullies. its really not as easy as it seems. plus, you kinda just assumed that they didnt do anything ab it when nowhere in the comments did they say that
@@userm180 I did tell my parents, I don't even wanna fight anymore cuz well, I got in trouble from it.from.grade.2.till.6 before I left my school and transfer to a new one, the ones here are worse, they don't only bully me, but also mocked my parents, I take my anger out on my pencils, tho, the amount of pencils needing to be changedis uhmm, yeahhhh, I think I need to stop breaking my pencils, pens, and even correction tapes cuz uhmm, yeahhh (from how my life is, I have anger issues, I wanna jump off a roof or smth and can't get any peace unless I just hide)
I saw the the title and almost immediately yelled the word no. I know myself well enough to know that I issues. (Mainly self esteem and depression). And I also know that I am not in a good financial standing to enter into one. Yes, it would be great to be in one, and it may certainly help with some of the instinctual cravings one posses. But I know it not for me, and it scares me to think that It never will be. Sorry for the vent. I just felt the sudden urge to share this.
Shows a lot of maturity for you to know that you shouldn’t be in a relationship rn, despite wanting to. I really hope you find healing and that, when you’re ready, you find someone amazing. Best of luck x
i am very sorry to hear about your struggle at mental health and financially. but let me tell you this. you don't to reach a certain financial level to deserve love. you also don't need to heal from all your mental health to finally deserve love. you deserve love all the way. if someone loves you, they will love you through all the way regardless
@@hawks7738 I have anxiety and I can't get over it and I know I likely never will because my mom was like that. With my anxiety, however, I always worry about things, even if it is very subtle, which prevents me from having high self esteem. Does that mean I'll never be in a relationship? Edit: I always worry about that, I'm sorry, but your comment has made me feel better, thank you!
Get your ass running or out to the gym! Learn about investing! Work hard at something you enjoy! Fixes that depression and self esteem thing REAL QUICK
1. Both must address what your date is heading to, either exclusive or casual, then that's where you stand. 2. Cases prove that exes can be friends especially if you're both close to each other's fam and circle. Insecurity rises here but hey, you're not yet there to demand so simply ask their real deal first and trust that. 3. Give time, especially for first timers and undecisive by nature. If you really need answers, keep asking the same question, soon they'll answer. 4. That's what I thought when I decided to end my relationship - I'm beyond priority list. Nope. People who just started with new endeavors take a lot of time to adjust and control their sched. What if it takes a month? Yeah, that was my case, and just as I thought, I had to leave, but I was wrong cause by the time I had my own, I understood well. Now? We both can manage our scheds, have plenty of time, but not each other anymore. 5. Agreed.
Thankyou. Its such an eye opener. Truth hurts. But rather than pushing myself on him maybe I ll just let him loose. I can love him from afar. Until he's ready to come to me.
THIS. Continuing to get emotionally invested in someone that can't reciprocate those feelings and attention is so heart wrenching. one of the worst things we can do for ourselves is sticking around, getting more invested while we wait for them to change their mind or figure out how to treat you right. it can be really difficult to step away from that situation, so I'm proud of you for recognizing that's what you need to do. rooting for you
This just helped me feel a little bit better about myself. I honestly thought I wasn’t capable enough to even bother someone else with trying to date them. (Not that I’ve been meeting anyone to do so anyways), but seeing this helps me realize I’m more ready than I thought… Now to just actually get over the fear of actually going and meeting people…
Straight facts from this video. Felt I was ready to date again and from the get-go saw a few signs of my new partner not really making me a priority or not knowing what they wanted because of personal conflicts they were going through. I was so ready for something new, and I had to end it a few weeks back when I realized that they were confused with themselves and couldn't commit emotionally.
This is so ironic showing up as my recommendation. I just got out of a relationship with a person who didn't know what they wanted and took me for granted.
OMG.... i needed this video from more than 3 months ! I moved on from a relationship and didn't know why i did that... the reasons wasn't clear for me at all back there! Now i semyfully understood why i was acting so weird in that relationship! It made me release alot of pain in my chest.... and all thanks to you psych2go.... thank you💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙 Thank you soooo much💙
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 months and i’m now realizing, thanks to this video, he’s not ready for a relationship yet. Idk what do to.
So stay single until you find someone that will break up with you? Or stay single until you find someone that brings you joy similar to that found while still single?
This is actually me rn... I'm so scared to be in a relationship. And there is a friend that told me his feelings towards me and I was scared and ashamed because I am not ready, or be in a relationship with him or with anyone... And now I feel sad and guilty about it, that I let him down... And I don't want that and I still want to be friends. I just don't know what to do...
ahhh this is such a tough situation to be in :( it can be really hard to not feel guilty when it's someone that you do care about, but let me let you in on a little secret... if this person really does like you and have feelings for you then they will actually be proud of you for recognizing what you need and voicing that, even if they are a little disappointed. you should be proud of yourself
Literally just split up with my partner of a year on vday and I thought I would marry this girl.. but seeing this video made me realize she wasn't ready. The only difference was instead of flaky she'd always be ever so slightly late and would pay more attention to her phone during times when we were watching stuff together. I know exactly what I want and she couldn't figure out what she wanted to save her life. It sucked and it hurt, but I figured she would move past it but it only ended in heartbreak regardless
When you explicitly pointed out that you are not ready to be in a relationship due to financial, emotional, etc reasons but the other kept poking for a relationship and reassuring things will go fine... DONT. Just dont. It will not work fine at all. Take it from me.
So... I will never be in a relationship because I have anxiety and always will because my mom was like that (she is still with my dad, they haven't divorced or seperated)? I've learned ways to control it, but it's still there. So I can't be in a relationship or it will end horribly?
@@Wind_Cursed oh I see, please dont say like its final or the end for you. Just because your mum has anxieties doesnt mean its impossible for you to be in a relationship. Its all about management or how to work or deal with what you have (anxieties). Also this is just based on my experience dear, dont go into relationship if you are not confident enough to handle another person in your life. List down what you are in life: finances, work, study, emotional, family/friends, etc. then weigh in how these factors can be managed while in a relationship. Can you handle it? How to manage anxieties? Is it fair for your partner to present yourself right now? Will you have the capacity to deal with their problems too?
I love that first article. It was well written, and the author wasn’t afraid to make those stark contrasts between the sexes. Definitely a good read for anyone wanting to do just that.
Spent 8 months working on someone who I realize now had a hard case of #3, amongst other issues they had. Now we have nothing to do with each other thanks to those problems. Funny, I noticed in class last night they seemed unhappy for the first time since, maybe its finally dawning on them that they lost someone who was once more important to them than they are willing to admit. But I'm moving on, they ever change and want to reconcile as friends I left that open, but it's on them, I did enough.
@@userm180 it's always possible, but in this case it's doubtful they will change or reach out. Sometimes a decent person deserves a second chance, I had already given them one, and they made the same mistakes. Depends on the situation. Ultimately you have determine what the best choice is for both of you, as long as you carry yourself with honor.
Broke up with someone weeks ago because he often talks and thinks of his ex even we are in a relationship already. He doesn't usually message or calls for days and it bums me out. Took me many tries to understand but i've reached my limit and broke up with him.
It is quite simple. Cut ties with them and walk away. Don't stay with them to satisfy thier needs and neglect your own. I say this because this is how I always keep myself from misery. I always tell it straight and expect straightforward honesty in return. Sometimes I don't but I don't stay with anyone that I sense that isn't ready for a committed relationship as I'll immediately say straightforwardly, that I'm not interested in nonsense or mind games. Especially silly high school games. Either be honest and straightforward about if want a relationship or just play the field because I can't stand lies. And can't stand been played for a fool. It irritates me. As why I struggle finding a healthy relationship because I don't much about on what I want. They must have the same interest as I like to have in a relationship or just don't bother to approach me as I don't want to be a rebound girl. It is no fun.
@@BethFebbo Everything is a variable. I care for someone who is always a little late, I can live with that. But I have adapted. We are also just friends, so easier to handle. 😉
It's so weird bc in my experience they come to me first but they always say they aren't ready for a relationship but they are ready to have intercourse and when I leave them alone for whatever the reason maybe they pop back up. It's exhausting. If you aren't ready for a relationship leave them alone and don't lead them on thinking you are ready for one. This goes both ways not just for men.
THIS. Dating in 2022 is hard. There will always be people out there who will see how much they can get out of someone (whether it's physical or emotional) without having to commit :( sometimes all we can do is be as honest and upfront about what we're looking for and not settle or lower those standards for temporary attention or affection. sounds like you already got that part figure out. rooting for you
I would have said that they treat you more like a friend than a partner, but me and my hubby has resolved that , still treat eachother as friends , but we make sure to remind each other thar we love each other
Seriously seriously I relate to you so well SHAWN MARCUS whoever you are I hardly ever comment on here but I watch these videos like everyday and I wonder if there's anybody else like me and I think you there can't be and then I actually hope that there's not I feel like the biggest softy I ask myself why the hell do I want to hang out with somebody why do I miss somebody why do I want to be with somebody who doesn't even care who doesn't want the same things it doesn't make sense it literally does not make sense it is not logical there is nothing about it that I can understand
We often want the things we can't have. When there is a really hard challenge to something, we tend to strive even harder to try and obtain it. People can also be excellent at bread crumbing another person as the keep them interest in a game. This is still all basic human psychology
I just finish screaming my heart out.... Gave so much energy after two years ... He was not ready a nd never will b. Just a relationship... Or at least a conversation. .nope not hing. So I literally curse yelled cried and then finally walked away. It too much hurt. I can't take it.
this sounds really rough :( i truly hope you find people who treat you with the love and care you deserve-- whether you find that in a romantic relationship or a friendship. just remember that you deserve a healthy, safe, strong relationship. rooting for you
I used to think the same thing. We had an amazing relationship and nothing was really wrong other than a couple arguments we had but everyone argues and it wasn’t even that serious of an argument. Anyways, she left me on read for 8 hours. 8 HOURS!!! Then she finally said she wanted to break up. Nothing bad happened the day before or the week before. Hell nothing bad even happened the month before but she just let go. She easily “moved on” which means she simply shoved her grief under the rug. She didn’t improve her character at all from the situation, she is still as immature as ever. Don’t trust your feelings. Blissful feelings lead you astray when things do eventually go wrong.
can you do one about knowing if youre ready for a relationship? I struggle with mental health a lot and I want to be in a relationship but Im worried Ill hurt my mental health recovery in the process
i am currently seeing someone and she doesn't have any of the signs except the last one: there is no progression. i am struggling to feel emotionally fulfilled by her. yes our dynamic feels like stuck in a limbo. we've known for over 2 months but she is still not ready to take the leap. yes i can confirm she is not seeing someone else and me neither. another fact the she has never dated anyone her whole life also astounds me. i have been in several relationships throughout my life but of course i have moved on from any past exes because i too have been single for quite some time. should i move on or stay with her until she's ready?
I've never actually been on a date before. So I know I'm not qualified to give you advice. But idk if anyone else will respond. I think you should explain your issues with her. It will make sure they get addressed. It could be that she doesn't understand what happens in a relationship. But if they cannot get resolved and the relationship ends. You guys can always stay friends. I hope your relationship works out.
He told me a year ago he was in love with me, but during the year he hasn't shown it at all. We sleep in the same bed, and that's literally it for relationship wise. He won't show me any affection AT ALL! It's very frustrating. I cuddle him, but he literally lays there like a dead person, he doesn't even try to make me feel secure in this "relationship" every day he just acts like my friend, but ever so often we will have a conversation and hes like "I'll protect you" blah blah blah yeah right. He's a 40-year-old man acting childish. I'm almost 30, and I want a stable relationship. This feeling hurts so bad.
I honestly think I'm not ready for a relationship. I automatically assume the other crushs thoughts, and every action I do it's already the end of the world. I feel like I lose before I even tried.
F*cking same! I had so many crushes, but I have not told to any of them about my feelings or tried to be closer to them. They were all in my head and most of them haven`t known that I even exist.
@@teodortodorov1662 i used to do the same until I finally spoke to my current crush. She kind of initiated it, which led me to be say something. Next thing that happens is that I began to stress her out because of my own insecurities and leave her in the dark. We never really became a thing because I was doubting everything. This made me know that I'm just not cut out for this stuff. If you're planning on asking out your crush, don't think too hard about it. Don't doubt yourself either.
What about having some form of mental illness? I've never dated, so I don't know, but it seems like everyone says if you have a mental illness your relationships will never work. However, my mom has had anxiety pretty much all her life (she learned ways to control it, though) and her and my dad are still together and haven't divorced or separated. They have been together for 21 years and had 6 children, including me, together. Now, onto the main point, I have anxiety and I worry I won't get in a relationship because I have anxiety and everyone says you aren't ready for a relationship until you get over your mental illness. However, I know I won't get over my anxiety since my mom hasn't and I likely got my anxiety from her genes. Does that mean I'll never be in a relationship? Even though I have learned ways to control it?
@@AnimeLuver0604 Ok, thanks for the clarification (or opinion, I guess). I had a rough idea before and considered that it may not be the mental illness, but somethng else that usually happens with most mental ilnesses. However, my anxiety wouldn't leave me alone so I just wanted someone else's thoughts on it judt to make sure
I really like a boy in my class, and he even says he likes me too, sometimes out of nowhere starts acting like my bf...but he tells me to wait, because we have our exams for college... He tells me to wait until it's over and then he'II tell me exactly what he feels🤷🏻♀️...
if only i could date my crush lol. it looks like he is ready for one. but the signs of how he feels about me are not clear to me. i’m usually very good with my intuition and reading people’s feelings for me, but only if i don’t like them back. my crush is also more introverted so i am lost. he shows many positive signs but i know he is also busy and we are getting to know each other better, so there could be a lot going on. and i broke up with my ex a month ago but i’m pretty much over him at this point.. (haven’t thought about him in a long long time, and haven’t missed him once, and i always hope he’s doing well). i might need a few more weeks but i’m moving on with my life pretty well. i am super stressed about my current crush tho lol. he takes up all my thoughts and it’s been this way for some time now.
Surprisingly I don't fit any of these. However, part of that is because I've never actually dated before. I guess I'm technically "ready", but it seems like nobody actually wants me to begin with.
so just today I let go the person I fell in love with. we seeing each other for 4month. then broke me off without specific reason. and has all d sign like in the video. try to move on. but it's not easy 💔
For number 1, it may come off as malicious but some people don’t want to commit long term relationships. Some may be polyamorous which is a thing, that still requires communication and maybe it might not be your thing.
3 and 5 is all about giving the other person time. Friendship should be the first step if that hasn’t been done yet. That way it’s easier to get to know each other better without being burdened by romantic expectations.
nothing wrong with poly relationships, but the point is that the person should present their intentions at the very beginning. you don’t go on a date with someone and make it seem like your looking at something exclusive when you’re actually talking and going on dates with multiple other people, that’s just bad communication.
Friendship as the first step? I've been told people feel like you've been dishonest if you do that, like they never had a friend. The general consensus seems to be that if you develop feelings for a friend, or befriend somebody you have an interest in, you shouldn't act on it. Getting to know them is what dating is for, and so on.
Im a one way poly hypocrite person.
Only thing that will agree with would be a robot, just grinding for that amount of money
If it is ok for you to be in a friendship, that may never develope to something more and may end in the friendzone , then go for it. For me I could never be in a friendship when I have romantic feelings for the other one but she can’t give them back because she is emotionally unavailable due to their ex… Make yourself clear what you want and don’t put too much energy in someone who struggles with him or herself.
It is simple, either they should decide to be in a relationship or just leave you alone and stop been selfish jerks. Playing with the heart of anyone that develops feelings for you is no fun. Eventually karma will come around to teach those who played others for fools when they decide to have a relationship after realising what they want but by that time it is too late when could had it with the person they had hurt and left.
Nothing hurts more than seeing the person you have feelings for have feelings for someone else
It depends she loves me but, he can solve what she feels about his ex dispite she wants to forget him, be with me and don-t hurt me.
I agree. I'm suffering through this comment right now
You know what hurts more, when you like your friend and you have a strong feeling that she is in love with you....thus you propose her but she reject your proposal and friendzone you..............
@Niphyra Read my comment above again...... so, I liked her but when I proposed she rejected it but become a friend of mine. She was the first one to whom I said 'love you'
'Proposed' in the sense that I told that 'I like her' not marriage proposal
the person i had feelings for had feelings for my cousin and said shed never like me ;-;
but now she likes me and i am confused ._.
Many people break their own hearts by loving a fantasy not the person that stands before them.
Do you still go through that?
@@Psych2go yes
5 signs that someone isn’t ready for a relationship
1. they’re going out with a lot of different people 0:48
2. they bring up their ex often 1:52
3. they don’t know what they want 2:34
4. they’re flaky 2:45
5. there is a lack of progression in the relationship 3:31
I did those when I just didn't love him enough.
@@sonias9722 aw:(
@@userm180 oh, I didn't do 2. Talking about ex's is just disrespectful
@@sonias9722 thats true. do u love him more or less now?
@@userm180 I still love him kind of the same amount. He didn't support my dreams and the sexual chemistry wasn't one hundred percent which are both very big deals for me. I don't regret ending the relationship but other than those two things he was a pretty good boyfriend
Heavy on the "they don't know what they want"!! Sometimes when people give us mixed signals or don't know what they want, we have a tendency to stick around hoping that they'll figure it out or they'll eventually want what you want-- but this can cause so much more heart ache down the road :( getting emotionally invested in someone that doesn't want you sucks. You deserve to be with someone that makes it CLEAR that they want to be with you. You deserve healthy, safe, strong relationships
1. They're dating a lot of other people
2. They bring up their ex often
3. They don't know what they want
4. Bail often last minute or late
5. Lack of progression or growth
1. My Mother, Grandmother and even Auntie have told me I'm the most Super Handsomest
2. I'm extremely punchual with my taxes
3. I will never talk about Ex- Girlfriends
4. I have a calculator built into my watch
5. Fridays is World of Warcraft raids
Now that I have shown what my caliper is, why don't yawl go ahead and slide into my DM's. I may not be able to get to all your messages right away, as I'm still using dial up internet, but I'm saving up for a better Internets. You'll be looking forward to hearing from me.
Please.
I'm ready for a relationship.
@@John-ih7gp :))
Magnificent person reading this… The truth is you are confident and good enough already with who you are, where you are at and what you have right now to have the success you want in life. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn that skill and go after it! I believe in you so much! Have an awesome day! 🌟- Love, Nat ❤️
Same wishes goes for you
*Hugging you tightly!
Why thank you miss nat 👌💫
Cuz you're such a kind heart, and I just wanted to thank you for your sweet words: you deserve it! (*＾3＾)/～♡
Thanks for being the way you are. Stay safe/healthy/happy and smile ( ꈍᴗꈍ)
Stop with this cheesy ass comment on every video. Too much of anything is bad for you, including positivity
I gotta be real, this is not good message for everyone. Some people are not good enough and really do need to improve a lot about themselves.
For instance, I drink and do drugs on a daily basis (trying to quit). If I decide I'm good enough as is, and continue my current habits, I'll be dead before I reach 40.
Sometimes people aren't good enough, and that's OK. The good thing is that it's never to late to choose a new path.
Psych2go knows me so well. I’m over here bawling for someone and I wonder if they think of me the same.
Me too :( these vids helped me a lot but this man was basically just playin with my heart lol it’s fine I guess :/
Bro sameeee I’m like psych2go constantly reading my mind
I don’t know how they be reading our minds… 😭😂
Me too! I’m like bingeing these videos for advice
Omg sameee 😭
You guys have been dropping gems lately I love it 🙏🏽💜💜💜
What was your favorite video?
One thing I know for sure, if a man is emotionally closed off/ unavailable to himself, I know he won’t be emotionally available to anyone else.
1. They are dating a lot of other people 0:50
2. They bring up their ex often 1:36
3. They don’t know what they want 2:36
4. They’re flaky 3:01
5. Lack of progressions or growth 3:34
Hope this helps
2 WEEKS
2 weeks ago?
@Dooblevoo-cartoonist ohhhhhhhhhhh
@Dooblevoo-cartoonist they're time travelers
hold up
I'm with a couple others here, 4. flakiness is part of depression and anxiety. As we get used to being in a relationship, and grow more comfortable with the person, the flakiness subsides. Given this channel's primary mental health content, I'm surprised this was a major point given without a disclaimer.
Step 1: get flirty text
Step 2: flirter asks "can we talk?"
Step 3: delete text/contact/block number
Step 4: Throw the whole damn thing in the trash and never worry about it again.
that sounds easier said than done, I abandoned my feelings for my crush cuz well, he never acknowledges me, and probably didn't think anything of it when his friends bullied me, that's the sadder part, I had a crush that's friends with my bullies
@@SkylarDear_466 then you should've bully them tf back! If you just sit down and admit defeat no wonder he ignored you. You don't have to be physical but stand up for yourself, and If things do escalate you go down swinging! The guy would probably admire you rather than you looking pathetic being a laughing stock.
@@NathanDavis508 theyre not pathetic for that tho. different people will react differently and it may take some time for some people to fully be able to stand up to their bullies. its really not as easy as it seems. plus, you kinda just assumed that they didnt do anything ab it when nowhere in the comments did they say that
@@userm180 I did tell my parents, I don't even wanna fight anymore cuz well, I got in trouble from it.from.grade.2.till.6 before I left my school and transfer to a new one, the ones here are worse, they don't only bully me, but also mocked my parents, I take my anger out on my pencils, tho, the amount of pencils needing to be changedis uhmm, yeahhhh, I think I need to stop breaking my pencils, pens, and even correction tapes cuz uhmm, yeahhh (from how my life is, I have anger issues, I wanna jump off a roof or smth and can't get any peace unless I just hide)
@@SkylarDear_466 im so sorry :( do you have friends that are nice to you?
I’ll never get over psych2go’s perfect timing. I needed this! 💚
Perfecto!
Same sentiments. The video notifications always appear at the right moment!
I saw the the title and almost immediately yelled the word no. I know myself well enough to know that I issues. (Mainly self esteem and depression). And I also know that I am not in a good financial standing to enter into one.
Yes, it would be great to be in one, and it may certainly help with some of the instinctual cravings one posses. But I know it not for me, and it scares me to think that It never will be.
Sorry for the vent. I just felt the sudden urge to share this.
Going through something similar, I feel you bro.
Shows a lot of maturity for you to know that you shouldn’t be in a relationship rn, despite wanting to.
I really hope you find healing and that, when you’re ready, you find someone amazing. Best of luck x
i am very sorry to hear about your struggle at mental health and financially. but let me tell you this. you don't to reach a certain financial level to deserve love. you also don't need to heal from all your mental health to finally deserve love. you deserve love all the way. if someone loves you, they will love you through all the way regardless
@@hawks7738 I have anxiety and I can't get over it and I know I likely never will because my mom was like that. With my anxiety, however, I always worry about things, even if it is very subtle, which prevents me from having high self esteem. Does that mean I'll never be in a relationship?
Edit: I always worry about that, I'm sorry, but your comment has made me feel better, thank you!
Get your ass running or out to the gym! Learn about investing! Work hard at something you enjoy! Fixes that depression and self esteem thing REAL QUICK
1. Both must address what your date is heading to, either exclusive or casual, then that's where you stand.
2. Cases prove that exes can be friends especially if you're both close to each other's fam and circle. Insecurity rises here but hey, you're not yet there to demand so simply ask their real deal first and trust that.
3. Give time, especially for first timers and undecisive by nature. If you really need answers, keep asking the same question, soon they'll answer.
4. That's what I thought when I decided to end my relationship - I'm beyond priority list. Nope. People who just started with new endeavors take a lot of time to adjust and control their sched. What if it takes a month? Yeah, that was my case, and just as I thought, I had to leave, but I was wrong cause by the time I had my own, I understood well. Now? We both can manage our scheds, have plenty of time, but not each other anymore.
5. Agreed.
Thankyou. Its such an eye opener. Truth hurts. But rather than pushing myself on him maybe I ll just let him loose. I can love him from afar. Until he's ready to come to me.
THIS. Continuing to get emotionally invested in someone that can't reciprocate those feelings and attention is so heart wrenching. one of the worst things we can do for ourselves is sticking around, getting more invested while we wait for them to change their mind or figure out how to treat you right. it can be really difficult to step away from that situation, so I'm proud of you for recognizing that's what you need to do. rooting for you
This just helped me feel a little bit better about myself. I honestly thought I wasn’t capable enough to even bother someone else with trying to date them. (Not that I’ve been meeting anyone to do so anyways), but seeing this helps me realize I’m more ready than I thought…
Now to just actually get over the fear of actually going and meeting people…
im glad u got over it!
Straight facts from this video. Felt I was ready to date again and from the get-go saw a few signs of my new partner not really making me a priority or not knowing what they wanted because of personal conflicts they were going through. I was so ready for something new, and I had to end it a few weeks back when I realized that they were confused with themselves and couldn't commit emotionally.
i guess you could say that u got out of an ugly situation pretty fast.
I really relate to number 3. I want to be in a relationship but I don't really know what I actually want from the relationship.
Loved the video
This is so ironic showing up as my recommendation. I just got out of a relationship with a person who didn't know what they wanted and took me for granted.
It's not a question of not being ready, it's that she doesn't want to... always in my case so far.
Its called, sit down and have a serious conversation about where things are going.? If the walk doesn’t match the talk, move on. 😎🔥
Yes, how would you go about initiating those conversations?
OMG.... i needed this video from more than 3 months ! I moved on from a relationship and didn't know why i did that... the reasons wasn't clear for me at all back there! Now i semyfully understood why i was acting so weird in that relationship! It made me release alot of pain in my chest.... and all thanks to you psych2go.... thank you💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙
Thank you soooo much💙
This came at the perfect moment. I needed this video
Where life hurts:
The heart and the words
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 months and i’m now realizing, thanks to this video, he’s not ready for a relationship yet. Idk what do to.
Easy... dial back the time you spend together, and observe.
@@m2pozad That sounds like sound advice.
Stay single until you find someone who will make you single again
So stay single until you find someone that will break up with you? Or stay single until you find someone that brings you joy similar to that found while still single?
Hey man, I feel you on that one
Very good video, will save a lot of people from pain that comes with dating.
I knew all this. I hoped to hear more subtle signs that show someone isn't ready
Welp, I got my answers. Time for me to move on and not keep my feelings stuck on one that's showing practically all of these signs.
God bless y'all i hope everyone is doing well 🙏❤️
I believe more people need to see this video, it helps to clarify thought process
This is actually me rn... I'm so scared to be in a relationship. And there is a friend that told me his feelings towards me and I was scared and ashamed because I am not ready, or be in a relationship with him or with anyone... And now I feel sad and guilty about it, that I let him down... And I don't want that and I still want to be friends. I just don't know what to do...
you didnt let him down just bc you arent ready yet
ahhh this is such a tough situation to be in :( it can be really hard to not feel guilty when it's someone that you do care about, but let me let you in on a little secret... if this person really does like you and have feelings for you then they will actually be proud of you for recognizing what you need and voicing that, even if they are a little disappointed. you should be proud of yourself
Show him this comment
Literally just split up with my partner of a year on vday and I thought I would marry this girl.. but seeing this video made me realize she wasn't ready. The only difference was instead of flaky she'd always be ever so slightly late and would pay more attention to her phone during times when we were watching stuff together. I know exactly what I want and she couldn't figure out what she wanted to save her life. It sucked and it hurt, but I figured she would move past it but it only ended in heartbreak regardless
Never get married amigo. It's a risky risky maneuver to your wallet and mental health
im sorry ab that :/ i wish u both the best
When you explicitly pointed out that you are not ready to be in a relationship due to financial, emotional, etc reasons but the other kept poking for a relationship and reassuring things will go fine...
DONT. Just dont.
It will not work fine at all. Take it from me.
So... I will never be in a relationship because I have anxiety and always will because my mom was like that (she is still with my dad, they haven't divorced or seperated)? I've learned ways to control it, but it's still there. So I can't be in a relationship or it will end horribly?
@@Wind_Cursed oh I see, please dont say like its final or the end for you. Just because your mum has anxieties doesnt mean its impossible for you to be in a relationship. Its all about management or how to work or deal with what you have (anxieties).
Also this is just based on my experience dear, dont go into relationship if you are not confident enough to handle another person in your life. List down what you are in life: finances, work, study, emotional, family/friends, etc. then weigh in how these factors can be managed while in a relationship.
Can you handle it? How to manage anxieties? Is it fair for your partner to present yourself right now? Will you have the capacity to deal with their problems too?
you forgot one: emotional trauma, i know this because I'm going through it currently, and its really not fun😭
are u ok? :(
I love that first article. It was well written, and the author wasn’t afraid to make those stark contrasts between the sexes. Definitely a good read for anyone wanting to do just that.
I love the article too. I know that I have some definite decisions to make very soon.
Spent 8 months working on someone who I realize now had a hard case of #3, amongst other issues they had. Now we have nothing to do with each other thanks to those problems. Funny, I noticed in class last night they seemed unhappy for the first time since, maybe its finally dawning on them that they lost someone who was once more important to them than they are willing to admit. But I'm moving on, they ever change and want to reconcile as friends I left that open, but it's on them, I did enough.
would u say theres a possibility they could change?
@@userm180 it's always possible, but in this case it's doubtful they will change or reach out. Sometimes a decent person deserves a second chance, I had already given them one, and they made the same mistakes. Depends on the situation. Ultimately you have determine what the best choice is for both of you, as long as you carry yourself with honor.
@@ragnrokofdwar3028 that is true. i hope ure ok xx
Why did I get the notification for this video while I was literally watching it LOL
The art-style and colors are phenomenal. I'm an Artist too, and dang, this is simple, yet so pleasing to look at.
Broke up with someone weeks ago because he often talks and thinks of his ex even we are in a relationship already. He doesn't usually message or calls for days and it bums me out. Took me many tries to understand but i've reached my limit and broke up with him.
this is so much easier said than done. proud of you for recognizing how you deserve to be treated. rooting for you
It is quite simple. Cut ties with them and walk away. Don't stay with them to satisfy thier needs and neglect your own.
I say this because this is how I always keep myself from misery. I always tell it straight and expect straightforward honesty in return. Sometimes I don't but I don't stay with anyone that I sense that isn't ready for a committed relationship as I'll immediately say straightforwardly, that I'm not interested in nonsense or mind games. Especially silly high school games. Either be honest and straightforward about if want a relationship or just play the field because I can't stand lies. And can't stand been played for a fool.
It irritates me. As why I struggle finding a healthy relationship because I don't much about on what I want. They must have the same interest as I like to have in a relationship or just don't bother to approach me as I don't want to be a rebound girl. It is no fun.
im sorry you've been through that :(
Not showing up on time doesn't mean they don't care. Some folks have issues like ADHD and they can care for whatever it is and still be late.
It depends on how late. If they're constantly late, it implies the person they are seeing is not a priority.
@@External2737 I think it's safe to say, everything has a variable. 🙂
@@BethFebbo Everything is a variable. I care for someone who is always a little late, I can live with that. But I have adapted. We are also just friends, so easier to handle. 😉
It's so weird bc in my experience they come to me first but they always say they aren't ready for a relationship but they are ready to have intercourse and when I leave them alone for whatever the reason maybe they pop back up. It's exhausting. If you aren't ready for a relationship leave them alone and don't lead them on thinking you are ready for one. This goes both ways not just for men.
THIS. Dating in 2022 is hard. There will always be people out there who will see how much they can get out of someone (whether it's physical or emotional) without having to commit :( sometimes all we can do is be as honest and upfront about what we're looking for and not settle or lower those standards for temporary attention or affection. sounds like you already got that part figure out. rooting for you
I would have said that they treat you more like a friend than a partner, but me and my hubby has resolved that , still treat eachother as friends , but we make sure to remind each other thar we love each other
good for you
You've helped me realise so much about the girl im interested with this video, I'm very grateful for everything you are doing
Can you do a video on signs you're the toxic friend?
Seriously seriously I relate to you so well SHAWN MARCUS whoever you are I hardly ever comment on here but I watch these videos like everyday and I wonder if there's anybody else like me and I think you there can't be and then I actually hope that there's not I feel like the biggest softy I ask myself why the hell do I want to hang out with somebody why do I miss somebody why do I want to be with somebody who doesn't even care who doesn't want the same things it doesn't make sense it literally does not make sense it is not logical there is nothing about it that I can understand
We often want the things we can't have.
When there is a really hard challenge to something, we tend to strive even harder to try and obtain it.
People can also be excellent at bread crumbing another person as the keep them interest in a game.
This is still all basic human psychology
„He, she or they“ Wow thanks I feel valid🥰
I...I was... I was definitely needing this video!
I just finish screaming my heart out.... Gave so much energy after two years ... He was not ready a nd never will b. Just a relationship... Or at least a conversation. .nope not hing. So I literally curse yelled cried and then finally walked away. It too much hurt. I can't take it.
are you ok??
this sounds really rough :( i truly hope you find people who treat you with the love and care you deserve-- whether you find that in a romantic relationship or a friendship. just remember that you deserve a healthy, safe, strong relationship. rooting for you
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Psych2go ligit is predicting the future. I am going through this rn. 😭 TYSM!!!!
My day is finally made 💙
Can you please make a video on people that can't leave you alone, it's for me so I know what not to do next time
Based on the title, I was expecting a video about how to tell if someone *was* ready for a relationship.
Oooo this may be needed at some point!
Needed to see this
I never had a gf so I'm good on that part. I don't really see myself with anyone else. Maybe that special date will help move things along?
I used to think the same thing. We had an amazing relationship and nothing was really wrong other than a couple arguments we had but everyone argues and it wasn’t even that serious of an argument. Anyways, she left me on read for 8 hours. 8 HOURS!!! Then she finally said she wanted to break up. Nothing bad happened the day before or the week before. Hell nothing bad even happened the month before but she just let go. She easily “moved on” which means she simply shoved her grief under the rug. She didn’t improve her character at all from the situation, she is still as immature as ever. Don’t trust your feelings. Blissful feelings lead you astray when things do eventually go wrong.
can you do one about knowing if youre ready for a relationship? I struggle with mental health a lot and I want to be in a relationship but Im worried Ill hurt my mental health recovery in the process
I just have a fear of being in one and don't know how they work
Sometimes, I feel upset when they fall inlove with someone else, but I had to let it go.
this helped me get over my ex a lot
happy for you
i am currently seeing someone and she doesn't have any of the signs except the last one: there is no progression. i am struggling to feel emotionally fulfilled by her. yes our dynamic feels like stuck in a limbo. we've known for over 2 months but she is still not ready to take the leap.
yes i can confirm she is not seeing someone else and me neither. another fact the she has never dated anyone her whole life also astounds me. i have been in several relationships throughout my life but of course i have moved on from any past exes because i too have been single for quite some time.
should i move on or stay with her until she's ready?
I've never actually been on a date before. So I know I'm not qualified to give you advice. But idk if anyone else will respond. I think you should explain your issues with her. It will make sure they get addressed. It could be that she doesn't understand what happens in a relationship. But if they cannot get
resolved and the relationship ends. You guys can always stay friends.
I hope your relationship works out.
He told me a year ago he was in love with me, but during the year he hasn't shown it at all. We sleep in the same bed, and that's literally it for relationship wise. He won't show me any affection AT ALL! It's very frustrating. I cuddle him, but he literally lays there like a dead person, he doesn't even try to make me feel secure in this "relationship" every day he just acts like my friend, but ever so often we will have a conversation and hes like "I'll protect you" blah blah blah yeah right. He's a 40-year-old man acting childish. I'm almost 30, and I want a stable relationship. This feeling hurts so bad.
I just got the notification.. what the hell UA-cam
I hope whoever sees this has a great day :)
Thank you ☺️
Thank you and the same to you! 🌞
I tested positive for Covid.
But I also got 21 hours of sleep, so It was one of my favorite days.
I honestly think I'm not ready for a relationship. I automatically assume the other crushs thoughts, and every action I do it's already the end of the world. I feel like I lose before I even tried.
F*cking same! I had so many crushes, but I have not told to any of them about my feelings or tried to be closer to them. They were all in my head and most of them haven`t known that I even exist.
@@teodortodorov1662 i used to do the same until I finally spoke to my current crush. She kind of initiated it, which led me to be say something. Next thing that happens is that I began to stress her out because of my own insecurities and leave her in the dark. We never really became a thing because I was doubting everything. This made me know that I'm just not cut out for this stuff. If you're planning on asking out your crush, don't think too hard about it. Don't doubt yourself either.
@@enzoamore8971 If I plan to ask her out? I will never do it, even when I'm ready. I don't have the confidence to do it.
@@teodortodorov1662 then you must build confidence. Try to better yourself everyday, until you can finally go towards her
What about having some form of mental illness? I've never dated, so I don't know, but it seems like everyone says if you have a mental illness your relationships will never work. However, my mom has had anxiety pretty much all her life (she learned ways to control it, though) and her and my dad are still together and haven't divorced or separated. They have been together for 21 years and had 6 children, including me, together.
Now, onto the main point, I have anxiety and I worry I won't get in a relationship because I have anxiety and everyone says you aren't ready for a relationship until you get over your mental illness. However, I know I won't get over my anxiety since my mom hasn't and I likely got my anxiety from her genes. Does that mean I'll never be in a relationship? Even though I have learned ways to control it?
It's not about getting over it (IMHO), it's about managing your mental health and not being codependent or toxic with a partner.
@@AnimeLuver0604 Ok, thanks for the clarification (or opinion, I guess). I had a rough idea before and considered that it may not be the mental illness, but somethng else that usually happens with most mental ilnesses. However, my anxiety wouldn't leave me alone so I just wanted someone else's thoughts on it judt to make sure
watching this, but for myself
*am i* even ready?
I think another one for this check list could be they look more at your faults rather than expect you as you are or could be
Yay, the end credit dancers are back!
What is it that they say? “He/She was never really yours, it’s just your turn at the ticket window”. Yep…sooooo “True Love”.
I really like a boy in my class, and he even says he likes me too, sometimes out of nowhere starts acting like my bf...but he tells me to wait, because we have our exams for college... He tells me to wait until it's over and then he'II tell me exactly what he feels🤷🏻♀️...
how long until u guys finish w ur exams?
All good advice
great vod. but is this a reupload?
Don't worry, they will be ready after you.
The typo in the title confused me for half the video...
if only i could date my crush lol. it looks like he is ready for one. but the signs of how he feels about me are not clear to me. i’m usually very good with my intuition and reading people’s feelings for me, but only if i don’t like them back. my crush is also more introverted so i am lost. he shows many positive signs but i know he is also busy and we are getting to know each other better, so there could be a lot going on. and i broke up with my ex a month ago but i’m pretty much over him at this point.. (haven’t thought about him in a long long time, and haven’t missed him once, and i always hope he’s doing well). i might need a few more weeks but i’m moving on with my life pretty well. i am super stressed about my current crush tho lol. he takes up all my thoughts and it’s been this way for some time now.
Does he know you like him? Why not tell him you are interested?
Why does the title says someone is ready but the video says someone isn't ready?
Surprisingly I don't fit any of these. However, part of that is because I've never actually dated before.
I guess I'm technically "ready", but it seems like nobody actually wants me to begin with.
So I’m ready?
I'm not. And I don't see myself having one until I'm almost middle aged.
Anyone watching this also needs to go watch Daniel Sloss’ jigsaw special, it’s comedy, but hits you in the reality
I'm not going to live in CA under any circumstances.
It's either he likes you, or he is confused.
Checklist if two ppl r ready for relationship, may u make vid that video??
At this point i can just tell I’m nobodies type, people seem to come to me as a last resort
Omg!! I was just thinking this!!
Nice video i am not ready yet i just take my time and wait 🤗
0:01 No.
Do any of these apply to someone who's struggling mentally?
Ty so much
Nowadays seems like everyone is not ready for a relationship
Is this the same as the how to know when someone's is not ready for a relationship
so just today I let go the person I fell in love with. we seeing each other for 4month. then broke me off without specific reason. and has all d sign like in the video. try to move on. but it's not easy 💔
thanks for the advice Psych2Go.