What is Resilience and How Do I Improve it? | Kati Morton
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- Опубліковано 10 чер 2024
- Resiliency is defined as “the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties or toughness” but when it comes to our psychological health it’s a bit more than that. It’s about our ability to manage any crisis or upset and get back to baseline quickly, meaning that life’s ups and downs don’t throw us off for that long, we have tools and resources and we can bounce back quickly.
I have often used the poker chip analogy to describe resilience, if you don’t know what I’m talking about, I have shared in other videos how we wake up with a certain number of poker chips, and stressful or difficult things cost us some of those chips. Others prefer the spoons analogy, but either way we are talking about resilience.
And I know you are wondering how we know what our resiliency is or how good or bad we are doing with it, and the way to find that out is to notice, or even think back to the last crisis we had and think about how long it took you to get back to feeling like yourself. Was it a quick turn around? Or did we struggle for weeks, months, or even years? If we bounce back easily, we have more resilience, and if we struggle to move past it, we have less. But no matter how much resilience we have we can all benefit from more of it...
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The best bridge statement I’ve found is the premise that “if I were such a bad person, I wouldn’t be worrying about becoming better, so I’m actually nice for trying”. It’s an universal truth and it can be quite relieving and motivating!
awww love it!
How to build resilience.
1. Journaling
2. Create a support system
3. Take care of basic needs
4. Notice your self-talk
5. Live with purpose
6. Become Friends with your feelings
7. Manage impulses
8. Learn to problem solve
9. Coping skills
10. Set goals
This is helpful, thank you. Today you helped someone, me ! X
This is like the basic solution for any issues you are having with yourself :v
I've always said, "Befriend your feelings." Eventually, I learned to be my own best friend. It's wonderful when we can be in our own corner because there may be times in life when there's no one there to get our back.
Bingo
@@IExpectedBSJustNotThisMuchBS iv been doing this hardly to say sometimes it's get boring at some point still mastering this
I don't even do it on purpose but whenever I feel bad, I always write, and when I am feeling great I feel no need to journal, I almost have to force myself to start writing. But when I am down, there isn't enough paper on the planet. 😀
same omg
Yes!! It's always so much easier to write about the bad things.. but harder to focus on the positive. It's because our brain is wired to worry about any threats.. to keep up safe. The good stuff just isn't as interesting to it.. ugh. xoxo
Me too! And drawing, too. I usually get more inspired when I'm sad.
Omg I’m the same way
Same with my Poems
Your "welcome" cures my depression temporarily OMG I love u
Natalie Karmbäck Right? Love her “Welcome” too :)
@@AsgardStudios it's so happy and cute haha
Right? It's so upbeat and adorable. I love it.
@@violentfemme30 YESS IT MAKES MY DAY REALLY
It's really the only thing that saved me from suicide ❤
Resiliency is easily the biggest issue in my family. From now on, at bedtime I'm going to have my kids say 3 positive things about themselves and I'm going to list mine as well ❤️
Has anyone ever talked about the art that’s often behind Katie in her videos? A myriad of colors and textures, it reminds that everyone, regardless of their mental health, fits on the spectrum. We are all connected - all beautiful in our own unique ways.
Thanks for the video, we all appreciate your work. Everyone have a great week
No matter what mood I'm in, the way you say "welcome" always makes me smile.
People have to learn to cope with and work through very challenging life experiences. Resilience is SO important.
You seriously don't have any video that doesn't help me😍😍
Agree with you.💕
Keep talking about self talk, it's so fundamental!! I've learnt to try and catch those moments where I do start negative self talk, giving myself a moment to step back and remove myself from it
Same here! becoming aware of my self talk has been so impactful for me!
This was seriously like a personal therapy session for me. I needed to hear so much of this and didn't even realize it!
I just can't thank you enough for these videos ❣️(almost feel guilty for watching it for free)
That's what they are here for!! So glad they are helpful :) xoxo
Oml I feel the same way
I appreciate that you left the list on the left side of the screen as you continued to speak about them, it helped me follow along well. Everyone needs a little more resiliency!! 😊😊
I would say resilience is the number one ingredient in any healing journey....just keep getting back up. Thanks for another great video, Kati!
I’ve been working on improving my resilience for a long time, there’s always more work that could be done!! ❤️
I am so glad you are working on this :) xoxo
Kati Morton Thank you so much, Kati 😇💗 you’re the greatest
That part about talking to yourself more like a loved one would, that took me many years to get. When you're used to hearing bad from most others, it's how you begin speaking to yourself.
Of course, there are others who seem to have no issue with this at all. They never think ill of themselves.
I've been journaling off an on for the past year and last night I had what I call a "butterfly moment" as I was writing in my journal. A butterfly moment, to me, is a major a-ha moment that dramatically shifts a person's thought to the core that their perception is forever changed for the better. In that moment, all the stress I had been carrying for months -- just lifted.
My number one way to keep my resiliency up is to take care of my basic needs...the days when I can’t get enough sleep, eat often enough, or stay hydrated are the days I’m most likely to experience a “crisis.”
Kati ideas about building resiliency are so helpful. Becoming a resilient person is so important to mental wellbeing.
This channel is by far one of my favorite channels of all time
Thank you for everything you do Kati
Awe thanks :) I am so glad you are enjoying the videos!!! xoxo
@@Katimorton you're welcome & you're awesome :)
This was so helpful! My car burst into flames on my Birthday... Sept 25 2019... It was a day I was looking forward to for a long time. And my car engine literally started on fire for no reason. I have been so sad for the past week and I know it will be better... thank you for this video
Hi Kati, I’m just trying to express that I’m thankful for the community you’ve helped bring together here. I commented last Thursday and got connected to a couple people here that were very encouraging to speak with. I struggle with so much, but it helped a bit. Sometimes, I still want to die.
Austyn humble ❤️
There's a slightly different wording of that thought you mentioned that I like: "A sorrow shared is but half the trouble, but a joy that's shared is joy that's doubled." Thank you for your efforts. They are helping.
I NEED TO SAVE THIS FOR WHEN I FEEL DOWN
I'm watching this while having a Not So Good Day and when you came to the basic needs, I paused the video and made myself something to eat. Can't manage this day on an empty stomach... Good to get that reminder.
As a fellow LMFT, you are one of my favorite's on youtube! Thank you for the excellent content!!
Hey Kati I love your videos and you’ve helped me a lot during my tough times. Can you please make more videos on PTSD and C-PTSD?
When I set goals I alsways get cynical comments from my family and friends like: "Ha, you always make plans that never work out!"
it makes me cringe cause I know it's true and I find myself giving up on almost all of them right away.
I stopped telling people what I'm up to and for some reason they don't like that either.
I started grad school a month ago, and I had my first kind of breakdown over the weekend. I’m in grad school so I can get into medical school. I often feel dumber than my classmates, and not everyone is willing to help each other out.(even going so far as to try to get others to slack off by making it seem like they themselves are partying all the time.) I have to come up with better coping skills, and this video is a good one I can come back to.
Jess N. Ever heard of Imposter Syndrome? Happens to a lot of grad students. (I’ll put a link to Kati’s video on it below). Also, it sounds like some of ur classmates are jackasses! ua-cam.com/video/J7OpHU_B61M/v-deo.html
Journaling all the way! ✌🏻✊🏻
I know that since I started therapy, my resilience has gotten stronger. But sometimes I don’t even realize how well I’m doing - a crisis comes up, and I think I’m completely handling it wrong or that I’m not doing good enough. My therapist has reminded me a few times that I’m more resilient than I give myself credit for. It’s nice to have that outside confirmation and reassurance. 💛
Showering once a week whether I need it or not. No excuses!
I'm hurting and you have helped me hang on and fight harder. Thank you Katie.
So clear, accessible, and easy to share. Thanks for checking in!
Thank you, Kati, this is the first time I am writing a comment here, buy I wanted to let you know that you are helping a lot, your advice is hands-on, and that listing the steps on the left in different colours is very helpful and intuitive. Keep up the amazing work and for all of you out there, keep recovering, keep doing your best; better days shall come!
Ana Ghinet ❤️
Thank you so much for this video! Very helpful! I know I speak for many others when I say, when one cant afford therapy and wants to change, these videos make a huge difference.
Oh boy I just love the welcome at the beginning.🤗💜
Ahhhh perfect timing! This is exactly what I've been working on. I swear you always post the perfect video right as I need it. Thank you, Kati! 💞
Hi Katie, this video was just shared in a webinar on ambiguous loss. I think it was a helpful video. I want to add another tip: the power of HUMOR is critical as well. Thanks, keep doing your helpful work.
You have such a loveliness about you! Thank you for providing these videos. They are a huge help!!!
This was just so positive without dismissing any of the struggles somebody might have.
Thanks for always being so caring and nice!
This was a really great video. Thank you. You covered everything.
pure wisdom here, thank you again Kati!!!!
Excellent video! Thanks Kati!
I just recently discovered your channel and it has been amazing! You are amazing. Thank you for your insights and tips. 😊 i hope you don't get tired of helping other people through your videos. ❤
Kati you’re a star. You’ve helped me improve the quality of my life countless times (:
God bless you Kati Morton. You've helped me so much.
I love the quote about joy and sorrow.
really nice that you do this for people.
Love her! She’s the sweetest and the smartest!
I use HALT a lot, and set proper boundaries to begin with.
I love this list! Especially the last one..setting goals, because that will give you purpose.
Thanks always Kati.
These are great ways to build resiliency! I think "notice your self talk" has been the most important for me. As I started paying attention to what was going on in me, I was able to start targeting the lies that were leading to the issues. Great job Katie!
This is so information packed! I love it, thank you Kati 💛💛
I want to thank you for making this kind of content. I've always been scared to get help for my mental illnesses, but you've helped ease that fear. I'm finally, for the first time, seeing someone this week so I can get better and actually live life to the fullest.
One of my ways to build resilience is watching your videos regularly! I recommend you to others too since you are so helpful and comforting. Thank you Kati.
Thank you 💐may God bless you for the good work you r doing to the humanity 🙏
Thank you so much for what you do. It's really helpful
Thank you for making informative videos as always!
Of course! xoxo
Love that you're covering this! I recently finished a coaching module on resiliency, where we use an assessment, explore the clients potential thinking traps, iceberg beliefs, use ABC's (CBT tools) and exercises to 'Put it in Perspective' as well as more! It's a really exciting and involved coaching model and I LOVE IT! All in all, in my program we teach the client to identify their pitfalls and create tools to pull themselves out and prevent falling back in :) I feel like its something we all need.
My resiliency was like non existent. I used to wake up and all but one or two of my chips were instantly gone from all the trauma and mess in my head. The good things didn't lift me up at all and the bad stuff brought me really low for a long time. I wasn't worth investing in or spending time or energy on things that were just for me or to care for me. An awesome counselor, some EMDR (still going) and a lot of work later and i'm getting better. All these are a good reminder, still many that I need to work on thanks :) and I always make sure to watch ads when they pop up! My little way of supporting what you do! Thank you!
Love love your channel ❤️
Thank you so much!!
Absolutely love this video
Great, meaningful video! Thanks!
Excellent information and delivery!💟💟💟💟💟
Thank you for this video, it came just at the right time for me x
This really helpped me after a hard day. Thank you!!!
Kati Morton for President 2020 !!!
Very good talk, thanks!
it feels so great to know these , I just hope i could stick on it. Here's to a new chapter of our lives 🎉
I really like this video, I've saved it to my own list for future reference. Thank you!!
Awesome advice Kati. I could really use a lot of these!
I’m new to your channel. I’ve spent hours binging your videos. You’re incredibly helpful. Thank you.
Jasmaine Grayson Welcome to the Community!!!! ❤️
Journaling is helping me A LOT. I did it when I was younger... but now that I'm doing therapy... it seriously helps for discussions and for me to return to being positive and grow.. and just getting things out.
Thank you for all the videos you’ve made, it really helps me. I kinda feel like I’m in class because I’m taking notes on this, but for me this would the best class
Her “Welcome!” is legit the cutest thing ever!
Thank you😍😍😍
You're amazing and unique. Your videos are helping me alot to grow as a person.
Thanks ❤️
I feel like these tips are helpful for any mental health problem
Excellent ❣ Thank you Katie
I loved how you simplify the "live with purpose" concept and make it seen as something reachable and healthy :).
With other authors or speakers seems like something mystical or ethereal.
Thanks for the video!
Very helpful! Thank you Kati!
Thank you so much ❤❤❤
This video came at the right time! Thank you Kati for shedding light on how to build resiliency❤
Oh good!! I am so glad it was helpful :) xoxo
Thanks for the video! I've been in ED recovery for some years now and recently my ED thoughts are trying to distract me from important stuff! I think your steps will help me get refocused and obviously more resilient! 💙
Perfect timing Kati! 🙂
Thanks you so much for this video 😘😘. Didn’t know stuffing things down or repression is not a part of resilience. I do that all the time
these are very good tips! i used to have intense anxiety (and still somewhat do but less frequently) it helped me to journal, get rid of negative self talk and replace it with positive self talk, and have coping skills. one of the ways i coped (other than to talk with friends/family) was to watch A LOT of funny TV shows/movies/UA-cam videos. when it was hard for me to even wake up and get through my morning routine, i just popped on a funny UA-cam video and watched that as i brushed my teeth and it helped me immensely.
I think resilience is such an interesting topic. In school I kind of randomly chose "resilience and the seven factors" as my thesis topic and it definitely helped me to grow as a human being!!
I love it that you are talking to your viewers about it, because resilience is powerful or it's powerful to know something about it!! Lovely greetings from Austria 🇦🇹😊💕
great video and advice thank you
That was really helpful Kati I must start journaling again as I get overwhelmed at times.
I love this video and it really helped me
Thank you!
Absolute beauty thanks enjoyed
Thanks Kati 💖
Great video! Thanks xx
What a Great Video! Your work is great, thank you so much. 😍🙂
I was in an ambulance a few times for mental health reasons. I am 14 and have been through a lot. One of the EMS workers told me how resilient i have been and that i just need some extra help. So i got a tattoo of the word resilience on my whole forearm over my scars to remember how i got through it. So this video really touched me, live you so much could you talk more about anorexia possible?
Halle Pashkin Kati already has a TON of videos on anorexia! Just put “Kati Morton anorexia” into the search bar! U can also ck out her eating disorder playlist! ua-cam.com/play/PLAB41960D35357E06.html
Great information but so difficult really difficult
Thanks so much Kati!
This helped me a lot today, thank you