From stress to resilience | Raphael Rose | TEDxManhattanBeach

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  • Опубліковано 6 бер 2019
  • Facing stress in our lives is an integral component of being more resilient, says Raphael Rose. In his research for NASA, Raphael finds that accepting and even welcoming stress helps us become more resilient, leading to a more meaningful, joyful, and socially connected life.
    Clinical Psychologist This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  • @SpiritualPizzza
    @SpiritualPizzza 5 років тому +87

    Stress is not here to harm us, it is here to build resilience. All obstacles in our lives are not to hurt us but to make us grow!!!!

    • @facundogonzalez5815
      @facundogonzalez5815 5 років тому +3

      the stress is not the obstacle really... the obstacle is how big is your problem...

    • @casperr1299
      @casperr1299 4 роки тому +5

      Unless it’s toxic stress as a result of inflicted trauma in childhood

    • @baldwin5510
      @baldwin5510 Рік тому +2

      It's not impossible to become resilient from child trauma

    • @cartergomez5390
      @cartergomez5390 Рік тому +1

      The whole world should do Sadhguru's Inner Engineering program! He will be in L.A. and Atlanta in June! You can also take the completion program! After that is Shambavi! 🙏

  • @MIB563
    @MIB563 5 років тому +30

    I wouldn’t say welcome stress but having the tools to deal with it is the way to go!

  • @Cassiearan
    @Cassiearan 5 років тому +16

    Persistence and resilience can only come from having been given the chance to work through difficult problems. Don't hate struggles. they make you stronger. While standing in the storm and the wind tries to blow you away, adjust your sails. Know that deep inside, you are resilient, brave, and so much stronger than your fears. Hi guys! It's me again :) You might have seen me before but my desire to inspire more people is what keeps me pushing to reach out more. We own a cookie shop business in our college town. When we first started it, we just graduated college and were living in our car with very little direction, just a huge passion to be successful. I started it out of a local bagel shop in their off hours at night with my boyfriend, Bran. It was a crazy experience but it worked! We became a success! And how we have our first storefront location (a second one currently under construction but launching soon!) We started it to fund a year long backpacking trip around the world and to be successful while living the life of our dreams.

  • @ava-if8xc
    @ava-if8xc 11 місяців тому +2

    When you not run for success, you no longer afraid of failure...you just do your work and keep god in mind.

  • @thepowerofhelpingwithreube4407
    @thepowerofhelpingwithreube4407 3 роки тому +16

    I really find this useful as I'm training to become a counsellor and building resilience is such a key part of coping with what the clients have coming up. I find that working on resilience in the morning to be especially useful

  • @sachiperez
    @sachiperez 5 років тому +6

    I loved that it seems he is walking his talk. He sounded nervous and like he wanted to bolt off the stage. I bet he will sound more comfortable during his next talk.

  • @DougieWotherspoon
    @DougieWotherspoon 5 років тому +7

    Such a great talk, this should be taught in schools...

  • @asmahafizi736
    @asmahafizi736 5 років тому +11

    i was always self criticizing but just now i learnt to be kind and compassionate with my self,i will welcome stress,rebound from failure and will be more resilient in my path and career than before thanks from such a motivating speach

  • @mehrdadmohammadiani4406
    @mehrdadmohammadiani4406 3 роки тому +8

    I found it super informative. The way he describe facing with stresses and anxieties was really practical. I highly recommend it, it’s worth to see it.

  • @Zarghami
    @Zarghami 5 років тому +43

    There are 2 ways to handle stress:
    1- avoid stress thus producing more stress
    2- lean into stress, learn the source and build resilience

    • @kholoods.f3291
      @kholoods.f3291 5 років тому +2

      Yes that's right

    • @miles2code366
      @miles2code366 11 місяців тому

      How do you avoid stress while leading into stress?

  • @justthedejavuguy
    @justthedejavuguy Рік тому +2

    a wonderful and summarised video on how to build resilience, thank you sir.

  • @Christ_Is_Life10-10
    @Christ_Is_Life10-10 Рік тому +2

    Powerful message! I needed to hear this. Thank you!

  • @kuystony
    @kuystony Рік тому +2

    I was looking for a video that may help me to more understand the stress to resilient mind. I found this one and I love the way he explains everything and the practicality of his examples. The ideal scenario of coping with stress are rightfully slowly but if we really trust the process, and all of his advices, well it may help A lot. More committed will surely result to much better results.

  • @googoo554
    @googoo554 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much for sharing you knowledge

  • @rickharold69
    @rickharold69 5 років тому +2

    Useful couple of points. Awesome! Thanks!

  • @adv.prashant
    @adv.prashant 5 років тому +7

    *slow & gradual change plus be compassionate is the key*

  • @Agsaikaashraf
    @Agsaikaashraf 5 років тому +2

    Amazing speech .

  • @mindfulnessasia1082
    @mindfulnessasia1082 Рік тому +1

    A resilient person will not be too elated when things go their way, and they will not be too down when things are not going their way. Rather, they know this is part of being in this world of change. Just because the externals are changing does not mean that our internal world has to change as well.

  • @jocaartsysoul9105
    @jocaartsysoul9105 5 років тому +1

    Thank you 🙏🏼

  • @quenganlam2310
    @quenganlam2310 2 місяці тому

    I have heard of the word "resilience" many times but I have never put an effort into understanding it. Your presentation has beautifully explained the importance of this characteristic to overcoming stresses and develop mental strength.

  • @kr1221E
    @kr1221E 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you

  • @unleashingpotential-psycho9433
    @unleashingpotential-psycho9433 5 років тому +6

    We will always get stressed out by things in life but we all need to become resilient.

  • @RamRam-zd6ey
    @RamRam-zd6ey 5 років тому +2

    Thanks

  • @KrishnaChaitanyamlv
    @KrishnaChaitanyamlv 5 років тому +2

    wow! what a speech... ending two minutes after listening to entire video perfect closure ! thank you so much

  • @challo8067
    @challo8067 5 років тому +6

    There is no such thing as stress, either positive or negative. The stories you tell yourself about life events (if in the past, are seen as memory or if in the future, are seen as imagination) is what makes it only apparently ‘stress’. Remain present in just this moment, without ceasing, and watch the stories your mind comes up with. And when you believe these stories, you suffer. How much have you been stressed about things that once were or things yet to come? And neither of these is happening now. Be free from ‘stress’ by recognizing the stories you tell yourself and actually believe. See what is revealed - that the present moment has been obscured, with no peace to be found, when stuck in this habitual pattern of mind. Notice the pattern without judgement or guilt and soon peace is here, now. Stress is just another concept. Busy happens. Stress is mind-created. Be with what IS, here and now! 😎

  • @aakritipatodia2549
    @aakritipatodia2549 5 років тому +3

    Amazing talk 👍

  • @juan.zabala
    @juan.zabala 3 роки тому +4

    Ignoring that breathing might be the best challenge at handling stress...

  • @otoiabimanyu
    @otoiabimanyu 5 років тому +1

    Yes .. it's work

  • @DanRyan_RyanSearch
    @DanRyan_RyanSearch 4 місяці тому

    Great presentation-timely for me

  • @Sean-me4fv
    @Sean-me4fv 4 роки тому +15

    I just feel a whole ton of pressure to succeed and be perfect, and when I pull it off I get nothing out of it.

    • @sourabhs14
      @sourabhs14 2 роки тому +1

      I feek exactky the same. Have you found any solution to thus.

    • @Sean-me4fv
      @Sean-me4fv 2 роки тому +1

      @@sourabhs14 I try hard to imagine what I would do if I didn't succeed and how I could make it work. And I choose to accept that life would still be ok.

  • @chimmyplayground
    @chimmyplayground 5 років тому +3

    This is a good to hear and start my morning 😊

  • @chrisbotcom
    @chrisbotcom 5 років тому +2

    I believe the NASA mission statement, "Failure is not an option.", refers to the mission overall. It seems to me the inference is to make the mistakes and experience the possibilities, learn from the real-world experience and adjust practices as needs. So your rebuttal to the slogan in the beginning is kind of moot to me. I liked the thesis, though. I needed the reminder and it was well done. Thank you for this, Dr. Rose.

  • @leagueofsuccesstv82
    @leagueofsuccesstv82 5 років тому +2

    I love the work of tedx keep u the work...

  • @HH-vg5sb
    @HH-vg5sb 4 роки тому +3

    Very Good!!!

  • @_suryakiran
    @_suryakiran 3 роки тому +1

    Awesome Tips!!

  • @andreiafreitas3280
    @andreiafreitas3280 5 років тому +4

    Jusr loved this talk!!

  • @Lloydy786
    @Lloydy786 3 роки тому +1

    Pursue what is meaningful, not what is expedient

  • @StayCool9948
    @StayCool9948 5 років тому +13

    This man has most likely never spoken to a victim of burnout. Your body has its limits, no matter postitive your thinking patterns are or how much meaning you can find in the world.

    • @challo8067
      @challo8067 5 років тому +3

      Bloch_ perhaps you are speaking of exhaustion?

    • @StayCool9948
      @StayCool9948 5 років тому +2

      @@challo8067 Exhaustion is not a word I would use to describe what I'm personally going through, as I'm debilitated to such a degree that it limits my activities to mostly reading and watching calm movies, and that's from stess related "exhaustion" (not school or work related stress, but stress that I personally decided to take on, because I thought it'd be good for me and others) and have been so for about half a year now, and I can expect to be so for about a half a year more, along with a couple of years before I can expect to manage the same amounts of stress as I could before I *burned out*.

    • @challo8067
      @challo8067 5 років тому +5

      Bloch_ That is quite a story, friend! May you finally be at peace with all that you have offered others, while sacrificing your peace in the process. But there is another way....and you are more than capable of directly experiencing No Stress over any of it!! 🌀

    • @StayCool9948
      @StayCool9948 5 років тому +2

      @@challo8067 Thank you! That actually helps a bit.

    • @challo8067
      @challo8067 5 років тому +4

      Bloch_ Dear Fellow Human, you may never know the ripples of impact you have on the world! Thank you for your response! Be well and know this perceived hardship shall pass. That’s the very nature of life, eh?! I have endured loss of physicality, isolation, etc. too, and in an instant, discovered what is beyond all of it. Only gratitude and peace are here now. Blessings to and through you! 😎

  • @kartiksood2704
    @kartiksood2704 5 років тому +1

    Nice one!!

  • @rika6722
    @rika6722 4 роки тому +2

    Great talk!

  • @swarup0553
    @swarup0553 5 років тому +2

    Wow

  • @Rien--
    @Rien-- 5 років тому +2

    what might help is taking full accountability for everything. that way you are in control of everything

  • @NicholasAlexanderUpInThis
    @NicholasAlexanderUpInThis 2 роки тому +1

    WOW Really powerful stuff, what would you recomend to people dealing with terminal cancer?

  • @saltanatissatayeva9437
    @saltanatissatayeva9437 Місяць тому

    be compassion to yourself. use 5-minute rule on any area of your life. take challenges and welcome to any stress. each day improve your body , mind , spiritual and relationships.

  • @arslanbasharat9995
    @arslanbasharat9995 5 років тому +1

    Good

  • @kholoods.f3291
    @kholoods.f3291 5 років тому +1

    Everybody should forget what gives them stress so this will help them to be strong and never have any stress any more

  • @kirollosrady4525
    @kirollosrady4525 5 років тому +1

    💟

  • @90MysteriumFascinans
    @90MysteriumFascinans 2 дні тому

    I believe this is not the only Ted talk to suggest learning to floss 1 tooth at a time

  • @TanvirAhmed24
    @TanvirAhmed24 5 років тому +7

    I made a video a few weeks ago about increasing your resilience where I basically talk about emotional diversity.

  • @chilodore4247
    @chilodore4247 3 роки тому

    What is the intro music?

  • @toughluck8012
    @toughluck8012 5 років тому +19

    That intro reminding me of stranger things

  • @robertsimon2885
    @robertsimon2885 5 років тому +7

    Stress is normal but deadly.

    • @SpiritualPizzza
      @SpiritualPizzza 5 років тому +3

      Robert Simon that so true!!! It’s just crazy how we can make something such a big deal in our minds. It’s scary sometimes!

    • @sajjadhasan8568
      @sajjadhasan8568 5 років тому +1

      qrm

  • @Slava-om1sz
    @Slava-om1sz 5 років тому +8

    Stress is not "there to build resilience". Stress is a warning sign that your body uses to influence your behavior in a way that would avoid potentially harmful outcome. It is quite literally your mind purposely triggering a shot of hormones that make you feel unpleasant. Just as it triggers release of dopamine when you think you did something beneficial to you. The purpose of this is that you adopt your behavior (stress feels bad > avoid repeating behavior that caused it, happiness feels good > repeat).
    Stress is a helpful tool. Just use it right instead of suppressing it, avoiding it, not focusing on it or making up stories about how it is there to build resilience.

  • @xXtenseXx
    @xXtenseXx 5 років тому +2

    All the great phylosophers said at one point "Love thyself" because if you dont learn to accept who you are, you are never going to start improving yourself in a healthy way.

  • @eylljusteyll
    @eylljusteyll 5 років тому +18

    Please add more language options!! '( 🙀

  • @jorgeromera3861
    @jorgeromera3861 5 років тому +8

    Sometimes I have a dream: what would life be like without stress?

  • @imthewholeman9126
    @imthewholeman9126 5 років тому

    She, she, she is a goddess that brings life into the world and runs it too, farce. He makes the world, she makes the men who will make the world.

  • @DaDualityofMan
    @DaDualityofMan 2 роки тому +1

    10:54 No one's gonna talk about how she's crying?

  • @GeeksGumbot
    @GeeksGumbot 7 місяців тому

    🚫suppression
    Lots of friends and happiness 😊

  • @mnam5426
    @mnam5426 5 років тому +1

    Как перевести ролик?

  • @Burdflu
    @Burdflu 5 років тому +1

    heh, story of maaah life ;) not to the resilience part yet. Workin on it.

  • @JenniferGait
    @JenniferGait 5 років тому +9

    I found this speech very difficult to understand as around the middle of each sentence his voice dropped to a level which often, for me, made what he was saying difficult or impossible to understand. I have a hearing loss, but have hearing aids and was using headphones to enhance the sound, but still only got about half of each sentence. This is the first time this has happened to me while listening to Ted Talks.

  • @whi5tler_1337
    @whi5tler_1337 5 років тому +6

    If I was in space I would hope the 🚻 toilet works well 🚽

  • @SiamHosenYT
    @SiamHosenYT Рік тому

    11:30

  • @bmcm21
    @bmcm21 5 років тому +7

    The message is simplified below...
    Avoid stress!!!
    Be happy and stay true to yourselves...

    • @wolfferoni
      @wolfferoni 5 років тому +3

      You can't avoid stress forever.

    • @bmcm21
      @bmcm21 5 років тому +2

      Wolfferoni forever is not a reality...at some point everyone meets their end BUT the point is to make the little time we have as beautiful as possible...

    • @lennon_richardson
      @lennon_richardson 5 років тому +2

      That's not what he said. The point is to effectively deal with stress, not to avoid it. If you want to accomplish anything of meaning, then you are going to face stress. For me, accomplishing meaningful things leads to a more beautiful life.

    • @bmcm21
      @bmcm21 5 років тому +3

      Lennon Richardson that's a good reply...well said

    • @lennon_richardson
      @lennon_richardson 5 років тому +1

      @@bmcm21 Thanks

  • @JustinDon
    @JustinDon 5 років тому

    🤔🤔

  • @dr.redacted9162
    @dr.redacted9162 5 років тому +1

    I have depression and a bad home life,and get bullied in school ☹️😔 Is there anyone that can help me?

    • @Nino-ye5uf
      @Nino-ye5uf 5 років тому

      i can speak from expierence that watching videos of selfcare and selflove helps if you want i can recommend some youtubers

    • @dr.redacted9162
      @dr.redacted9162 5 років тому

      Thank you for telling me. 😀

  • @sbbbjhjuuu776
    @sbbbjhjuuu776 5 років тому +2

    RAPHAEL ROSE

  • @cia6880
    @cia6880 2 роки тому

    10:52 Albert Einstein?

  • @andzar0460
    @andzar0460 5 років тому +1

    Please add Indonesian language..

  • @bitsbard
    @bitsbard 7 місяців тому

    Excellent content here! If this topic fascinates you, you'll benefit from a book of the same ilk. "Rising From Within: Unlocking Your Innate Power to Conquer Adversity" by Vincent Starling

  • @justicecrying
    @justicecrying 4 роки тому +2

    The root of stress is dissatisfaction with your current self. So satisfy yourself by trying harder.

  • @lala-rt4nb
    @lala-rt4nb 5 років тому +1

    Subtitlesssss pleaseee

  • @tactics-mnk6084
    @tactics-mnk6084 5 років тому +17

    Well, he was quite resillient to his failing jokes.

  • @lessevilnyarlathotep1595
    @lessevilnyarlathotep1595 5 років тому +11

    *me, with severe anxiety and rejection sensitive dysphoria* haha, coping with stress healthily, good joke

  • @Theweyjournal
    @Theweyjournal 4 роки тому +1

    How about we lump everyone into the same situation and think it’s an easy fix. 👎🏻

  • @pigolympus1086
    @pigolympus1086 3 роки тому

    poopy fartsPSFFSFFRRTT alalalalala sorry i farted and then started singed because of my farty fart

  • @stopkillnkenny
    @stopkillnkenny Рік тому

    This guy his breathing and lip smacking are stress triggers for real......

  • @rawstarmusic
    @rawstarmusic 5 років тому +1

    Absolutely useless talk. Did he teach you resilience? Do something else instead of what is giving you stress? I was expecting more from a well payed talk.

    • @Ahmed35956
      @Ahmed35956 4 роки тому

      Can eat fried chicken to relieve stress

    • @Ahmed35956
      @Ahmed35956 4 роки тому

      Netflix

  • @arenlario5296
    @arenlario5296 5 років тому +1

    this guy seems a bit stressed

  • @PaniniMan111
    @PaniniMan111 4 роки тому +1

    liberals

  • @ekennahutchinson1636
    @ekennahutchinson1636 Рік тому

    Thank you