The D&D story has ANOTHER update!! Tldr: she said that the DM had been an asshole before and everytime she confronted him, he did the same thing to ask her how he could regain her trust and friendship, so now she said it was up to him to find ways to do it. He called a week later and start calling her selfish and other things, lol she left the D&D group but was planning on start a new one with her girlfriends
Having run/played dnd for now 10 years, she’s probably better off making an Afab table. My new group has me and 2 dudes whose schedules tend to never line up so it’s only ever one of them at a time, the rest of the table is afab and it’s the first table that has a uniform vision in terms of what we want from the game and the play styles we appreciate, I barely had to touch on rpg safety tools with them cause it was just assumed anything of a genuinely horrific or graphic nature would be veiled at least and the concept of red light or a stop button was simple enough.
I feel like they didn't catch that she was a freshman and he was a senior when they dated? That's the first red flag. She was 14 and he was 18. That's crazy.
UPDATE!! The woman who was playing dnd sent an update to best of redditer updates. She figured out he always waited for someone else to tell him how to fix his problems and never actually worked on being better. She told him thats how he can gain trust back by doing it himself and actually wanting to make their friendship better snd stronger and he went off on her calling her selfish and apparently spent the whole conversation yelling at her. So now shes not talking to him
Ya, I remember hearing about this one a couple years ago on another channel. It is mind-boggling the way some men think. They justify their actions by blaming-shifting all their mistakes and insecurities onto others. Even, for the sake of argument, he wasn't in the wrong with his past relationships (doubtful) he needs to seriously self-reflect, heal, and grow as a person. Not, become whatever the hell he turned into. It's just sad and pathetic. If you can't clean up your own mess, then don't start throwing crap.
The future fiance hiding a future pet that OP would love is maybe my favorite update of all time. They're NEVER positive like that, it's adorable. Like the couple who both brought home the other partner's favorite puppy on the same day, or when couples plan a proposal for the same trip 😭
I've been waiting for them to do that one! The girlfriend immediately getting excited and teasing him instead of defensive when she finds out about the ring was such a green flag.
i knoww, trevor was kinda upset that it didn't end badly but honestly there's so many dramatical stories in reddit that this kind of updates is just so heartwarming
Right?! She gave him an out too, KNOWING it was a big ask! The audacity of him to be mad at her disappointment when he set her up so thoroughly to feel that way!
I love how you can get Amanda interested in any game if u tell her it’s like Fnaf. “Among us is like Fnaf but with other people tryna kill u”, “Resident Evil is like Fnaf but u can roam around”
@@PrimRooksI'm just imagining the poor op, he truly feels like the straight man in an episode of The Office 😭 he's so confused and the situation just keeps escalating
About the last story. I've gone to therapy for the first time at 39, after my partner pestering me for 10 years about it. I didn't even contemplate it, i just thought it was a bogus and a waste of time and money, and i just needed to tough it out. Well, i broke down and ended up with crippling anxiety. Yay. Went to therapy (on top of the meds im taking) and was surprised that it was nothing like what i thought it was. I thought it was an old man analyzing everything i said and pointing fingers. In reality, it was about giving me tools to deal with life. I'm glad i finally gave in and agreed to go.
@@Crazy_Broke_Asianidk man I’ve been to a lot of therapist and mainly what they do is just ask questions. How do you point the fingers at anyone when all you’re doing is asking questions.
@@MyDestinyDear by asking leading questions that always eventually end up with them just trying to make you give big pharma more money by prescribing mind altering drugs that most people actually don’t need
The boyfriend in the second story 100% lied to his friends too. There’s no way men would react in that way just from a simple “She didn’t like my gift” he definitely told them the same story he told his mom. Guy deserved to get dumped.
I can already hear what he actually said, “I got her a nice body wash and some bath bombs and she blew up on me about how it wasn’t even more than 300$, she said I would’ve got her some 500$ perfume or some shit she wanted if I really loved her!!”
@@r.j.9822Exactly! The repeated lying about getting her the items is one huge thing. But then his reaction to being called out is to make her look bad? Nope - no one’s worth that mess.
oh hell na that second guy is pathetic. i was broke af i won't say "oh, i got it" when my gf wants to buy something for herself. instead i was just sharing my freelance client with her so she can get extra money to buy things.
For the $400+ perfume story, if the boyfriend had just offered to go halvsies, I would have totally supported him. That's a lot of money to drop on a singular item for most people. So if he was honest and just said, "That's out of my price range, but I want to help," it would have been way more respectable.
Exactly. Well, now the break up is his way of learning in this relationship… the fact he lied to his mother as well, shows his huge lack of maturity and is a bit manipulative tbh.
"Oh, why don't I get that for you for your birthday instead of you saving for it?" "Are you sure? I've been saving for a while now." "Oh, how much is it?" *shows price* "Oh, I see why you asked. How about I cover the remaining amount you need to save for it and get you something else that I come up with instead?" Asking questions is wild.
He probably never even looked at it until the day or days before her birthday. He was like "yeah I got it babe" and then it was too close to the date for him to realize "oh I don't got it."
The pure lack of respect and communication with the last guy would be SUCH a deal breaker for me. It's really clear that he does not respect her opinion AT ALL based on the amount of times she would offer some sort of solution or compromise and would either immediately shoot it down or think about for a night only to refuse. .
Even if he was doing something good, lying about it for that long is just insane! And whatever he was doing it means he didn’t consider spending time with his girlfriend to be a priority at all since he always had something more important to do on the weekend for 3 years straight
There's a running joke on the Internet about men doing everything in their power to avoid therapy. And two stories here once again prove this stance. Therapy will help you feel better and have a better life. Why refuse it ? I don't understand... Also I still feel like there's a missing piece about his volunteering at the homeless shelter. I feel like he still hasn't told the whole story !
@@johannakalytera9574 that's just not true. I promised my wife I'll be in therapy the day GRRM finishes Game of Thrones and I mean it! Jkjk. Therapy saved my life and my marriage.
He's honestly a bit of a self righteous prick. Truly believes he can lie to a serious partner for three years and doesn't have any issues to work out? Yeah, I hope this guy stays single.
There's a high chance he stepped in the relationship with the idea that they could have independent lives while being together. 3 years would signify he has done things for her that she enjoyed or kept the relationship going. It's not lack of respect, it's the idea that he likes who he is and thought she liked who he was. She didn't like that he lied, and he doesn't feel like he should spend money on something he doesn't want to attend. They weren't compatible but tried to make it work with different ideas of a resolution.
Yo idek what I would do… hearing that story made my blood BOIL. How can somebody act like that knowing it’s their fault? And lying to his mom???? Would have taken the mom’s money fs.
the way op almost changed her mind after the in-person reactions seemed like there was a lot of love-bombing from the bf and his mom. extremely apologetic, swearing to cut contact with all his friends just for her, offering anything and everything to make up for it, etc it's like he's saying all the "right" things, but if he understood all that and lied anyway (multiple times, to multiple people), that's not someone she can really trust
he could have even tried to find her a dupe WITH a promise to work up to the real one, but instead completely dismissed her AND had his mom call her childish on his behalf. VILE!
the second dude’s confession was just making his case worse 😂 “sorry i lied to you, like directly to your face, but if it makes you feel any better, the only reason my mom acted like that is because i didn’t want her to bitch at me so i lied to her to get her on my side” bro what glad she throw the whole man away
this was KILLING ME like this is absolutely a good reason to end this relationship, he lied to save face to you first, then to his mother when that went poorly, imagine being with him for a long time?? the gaslighting....
People can never seem to realize that lies require lies to cover lies. It’s a snowball effect. Then you can’t remember your lies so you have to tell more lies! It’s just so much easier to tell the truth. There is nothing to remember then…
I was so happy with the snake story. What a satisfying ending because he completely trusted her and was just so unhappy thinking she lied but it turned out it was a surprise for him.
I cannot stress how much I appreciate the guy from the first story. He's surrounded by people who think he was in the right, and even the girlfriend on the opposite end of the issue was willing to admit that, yet he was still willing to apply retrospective to the issue and think of her side. We need more people like that, to see their own faults even when nobody else will.
@@pathofdestruction Let me be clear; I'm not saying he was in the wrong at all. It's just important that he was willing to see where she was coming from. Perspective is an invaluable tool.
52:14 about the D&D story. I’m currently at a table with three women and two guys, and the DM is also male. And the DM specifically put out a advert on Facebook for women to play at his table because he wanted his wife to feel comfortable when she was playing. He and I are friends from high school so he messaged me directly and I was more than happy to play since I didn’t have a table at the time! But part of why I like sitting at his table is because he takes care of the people at his table. It’s wild to me that there’s still so much sexism in the DND/nerd community.
That's awesome. The DM probs just has confirmation bias, but it could also be that his guy players spend more $$ on balanced dice and women either spend less maybe so they can have more variety in dice, or they have several other hobbies, etc.
I'm the only woman in my group. I could never imagine my DM ever saying anything like this. I can't imagine any of the guys being quiet about it. I'm a godmother to one of their children even, I think that one would choke someone out for insulting me.
I played at a convention recently in a group of 5, one other woman at the table. One of the guy players kept making sexist comments, and one of the other guys called him on it. He didn't stop, so the 2 other guys walked out of the game and complained to the organizer, who later followed up with me and the other woman to let us know action had been taken against the sexist player. ❤
It’s really sad to hear these stories since the Dnd groups I’ve played with have always had a lot of queer and woman members. However, I’ve come to realize how common sexism is in our community and it’s really upsetting!
the first story - honestly i see how there’s a difference between lying _in the game_ and looking into her eyes and saying out loud “i swear im not lying”
@@rachelwharton4245 yeah but he probably thought she would react like a normal person and not run away. my thing is, why did she insist on playing a game that literally only revolved around lying? he was probably playing it the way he's always played it with everyone, and didn't think he would have to like dumb down his gameplay BECAUSE she insisted on playing it. i'm glad they worked it out
As soon as he mentioned getting special treatment for his supposed star sign, I was saying “go to HR” under my breath. And then the boss tried setting him up with her daughter and I was practically screaming “GO TO HR”. Absolutely bonkers situation to be at work 😅
the last story dude ended up contacting her later saying he was diagnosed with schizotypal personality disorder but kept saying he didnt like how the therapist was trying to alter his behaviors and then wished her happy😭😭😭 thankfully she blocked him, what a story
I was so sure that it was something mental health related!! Is it ok that he won’t go to therapy? Absolutely not. Does this make so much more sense and I can semi understand his perspective now. Hell yes.
That does add a lot of context. Like I could kind of understand now where his thought process was coming from. It seemed obvious to me there was some sort of nuerodivergence or other mental illness going on because it seems like he is big on justice but also paranoia
That makes a lot of sense. Schizotypal people tend to struggle deeply with realizing they need to make changes in their behaviors or thought processes, it's part of what makes it so difficult to treat. Hopefully the therapist he sees, even if it isnt frequent, can get through to him. OP definitely dodged a bullet though because he clearly is not in a place to be in a relationship
The second story: it’s like saving up for a nice gaming PC and someone says that they already got it so you spend your money on something else and then they give you a leapfrog.
That perfume story reminds me of the girl who was promised a Nanalan cake on tiktok for her birthday and was called ungrateful by the comments when they filmed her getting upset because they made her an entirely different cake
There's a final(?) update for the very last story btw! Apparently the guy texted her out of the blue saying that he did end up going to a therapist who diagnosed him with schizotypal personality disorder, but he still refuses to go back to therapy. He apologizes again for it but hopes OP is doing alright. OP is (rightfully) upset about getting a random message four months later from this guy.
Wow I sort of guessed it would be something like this (mostly for the really shallow reason that he sounded like a movie character who would turn out to be a serial killer or something "I TOLD you I'm not a good person!"), but this is the real life version of that trope. And yes, OP must be really weirded out.
I'm convinced the guy is still hiding something big. The suggestion that his volunteer work is court-ordered seems the most likely explanation, especially since all of his compromises still revolved around getting in 6 hours on both Saturday and Sunday.
I was guessing a personality disorder or cPTSD. That's actually really sad, cluster A personality disorders are one of the hardest to treat because of the paranoia symptom. I hope he does he get help. But OP rightfully should feel upset about all of it as well and shouldn't feel the need to be the one to help them.
@brandonmeyer6808 I agree with that fact that he couldn't compromise the 6 hours and it is really shady that he hid it. Something was just very off about the whole story. I didn't feel like it ended with all the piece in place. He may have done something that caused court ordered volunteering....he probably made up an elaborate story that he tells everyone so that they don't see him in a bad light....but he doesn't want people to think he's this amazing person either. So that's why he says "but I'm still a bad person." Which makes me think he's still hiding something big. He also laughed and asked her what she meant when she asked if it was court ordered....which makes me think he was gauging how much she knew. Glad OP is out of that relationship, it's all seems really shady.
As a girl who plays dnd, stories like that are unfortunately very common. I’ve never encountered anything of that magnitude but I’ve definitely had DMs that try to change traits, characteristics, and outfits of my characters to try to make them more attractive/appealing to themselves. Now I DM for a group of my friends and we all have a blast.
I had one DM (a fellow woman) question every single decision I made in character and then get upset when my character didn’t forgive an NPC from her past who abandoned her. Like, I truly didn’t believe it was in character for my character to forgive him, but the DM wanted it to get resolved immediately and them to start having a positive father-daughter dynamic again, and it was so exhausting and invalidating. I ended up leaving that campaign bc I didn’t feel like I had any agency and that she just wanted us all to like the NPCs she liked and follow the “correct” story she had built up in her head. (Edit; this comment isn’t really to be like “women can be bad too!” it’s more that the part about changing characteristics of your character to be more appealing resonated with me)
SO thankful that my DM has always been super cool about this kind of stuff. He has asked out both myself and my best friend and has had crushes on both of us at different points in time (we have all been friend since middle school) but he generally never lets it effect the game in any way.. except I think sometimes he has been a little too lenient with me and or given me slightly better loot then I deserve based on my rolls. But nothing like that for a long time thankfully (it always made be uncomfortable like I was getting special treatment above the other players)
I've only recently started playing dnd, and I'm really lucky that I grew up with most of the other players and the DM. He's basically my older brother and is really looking out for all us newbies, which I'm learning is more rare than it should be. I do think I'd like to join an all-women campaign sometime; that sounds like a great dynamic to have.
I had an instance where my character would get a super power-up, extra abilities etc. if the character let an NPC have sex with them. I just went "wtf no" (cause it was totally random and my character hadn't shown any interest in sleeping around or whatever). The DM and some of the party acted like I was a party pooper and tried to guilt trip me for turning down the offer when he had spend ao much effort on the power-up etc. Like how dare I not accept this super great reward
i was hoping that the guy who lied about being a Leo wasn't a scorpio because they would eat that up and double down on him being manipulative because of it. Hearing that OP 's birthday is in October is now putting me on the edge of my seat.
@@JDracovia129 Yeah maybe it doesn't, but it would have been hilarious if in trying to disprove it he accidentally validated the traits of his "actual" sign lmao
The first story is a great example of two people being mature and working on the issues in their relationship. Too many people will throw in the towel at the first problem and then will regret it years later.
Idk I think it's nice they were able to keep in the relationship and get therapy, but I think OP's motivations for doing so was less emotional maturity and more that he was emotionally attached to his gf and blinded by it. I think it would've been perfectly reasonable in his case to say ok this person needs some time being single and isn't ready for a relationship.
absolutely! but they should cut between the different perspectives of the players within the game frequently, imo that way we could experience all the funny situations and not have to spectate someone who is not the impostor for example or cuts to people struggling to do the task or fooling around would be possible, making the whole thing funnier
The ending of the DnD story in the link shows that she changed her mind and told him that he needs to put in the work and make it up to her. And that it’s not her responsibility to help him change. He then called her and berated her and screamed at her. So she hung up and he texted awful things at her. She ended the friendship and left the DnD Campaign. She’s now joining a campaign with a bunch of girls she met so she seems to be in a better place.
That's good that she's moved on to potentially a better situation. It's too bad that the rest of the group didn't mutiny and go with her - more evidence that it was the wrong group for her - but, then again, if the DM is as much of an incel as he sounds like, he'd probably just have blamed her for losing his group rather than doing any self-reflection. Oh well. Hopefully, she has a much better experience with her new group. D&D should be fun, not stressful.
Also saying it's "The Thing" was funny because not only was she correct with it being similar to the movie, but it was literally "The Thing" to do for ages.
The last story has a pretty important final update you missed. The guy was eventually diagnosed with schizotypal personality disorder. A key features of that condition is an inability to make or maintain close relationships, as the person doesn't understand the components that build them or keep them together. Sufferers are often described as strange or odd, because the way they perceive things, especially social interactions and bonds, doesn't make any sense to neurotypicals. They often have extreme anxiety and find it hard to trust people, as they find it hard to understand or trust others' motivations (and outsiders obviously see their motivations and logic as bizarre as a result). Dude seems like a pretty cut n dry case based on how he acted: doesn't know how to trust his GF with (to us) innocuous information based on previous negative experience with people, he doesn't understand the differences between those situations, he doesn't understand WHY she sees it as weird he won't tell her, and he doesn't understand why she feels she can't trust HIM as a result. Cue anxiety, cue more loss of trust, cue more anxiety, cue cutting and running because being able to move past this would require him in therapy which he refused to do at the time because (as the last update says) he was scared of being definitively labelled with something. In his own words he has since "bit the bullet", but is not in regular therapy.
schizotypal personality disorder honestly seems like a mix of autism + trauma to me. maybe there's a meaningful difference but i can't really see it. anyways, yeah in many ways i relate to this guy but i also think his partner is COMPLETELY valid for her reaction.
@@hinasakukimi go read the formal diagnostic criteria and the DDx for StPD. While there’s some similarities to autism there are also some very meaningful differences (like psychosis)
@@hinasakukimi People with StPD can also experience psychosis. That is not a feature of autism. People with autism can (very generally speaking) often trust implicitly and take people at their literal word. People with StPD don't, the ability to establish trust at all is sometimes non existant.
The most incredible thing about Courtney and Shayne announcing their marriage is that they both can talk about each other in these kind of ways, casually mentioning them and being able to bring their loved one's abilities to the forefront is so sweettttt. like him being like "courtney is SO GOOD at among us" hello. they not there but they married so shayne say my wife p cool man she good at this stuff
This can be done to any person at Smosh, marriage doesn't have to do with anything he said. I don't like people that act like things Courtney and Shayne do are because of their marriage
@@ogurasyn2354 Of course! But I think asuwannabe's point is that knowing they're married adds a layer to it. Of course anyone can be nice, but knowing they're talking about their spouses is a sweet touch.
@@ogurasyn2354 courtney and shayne both obviously avoided bringing each other up out of context or talking abt living together, and talked abt it on the podcast! it’s sweet that they arent holding back that part of themselves anymore
@@ogurasyn2354 I agree, I see people bringing up their marriage for interactions that are completely normal 😭 stuff that friends do all the time. It's sweet and all, but to an extent
@@ogurasyn2354 its like when you've been single for a long time and finally get into a relationship so to your family every question is now "and where was your partner during this?", Courtney was incredibly valid in feeling like going public with it takes something away. Almost 500 people agreed with a stranger saying that "the most incredible thing" about a couple's marriage is that they can talk about it in a place that can be watched, not that they're happy or anything just that they can now talk about it openly online. The MOST INCREDIBLE THING about this marriage is that people get to watch them talk about it in public instead of imagining what it was like in private? Its parasocial like crazy in the Smosh comments
Wrt the perfume story, i feel like ppl are glossing over the fact that not only did she have the money for it and the boyfriend only found out she wanted it bc she SAID she was going to buy it, but she REPEATEDLY asked if he was sure bc she could afford it with him repeatedly assuring her that she could spend that money elsewhere and she only relented when he told her he already bought/wrapped it. I dont doubt theres ppl who would still insist shes a spoiled brat/gold digger throwing a tantrum even if they got the full context, but i have a feeling his friends&mom got some malformed story about what happened from him rather than that. Like the part of that story that makes me angriest is that he butted in on her plans and INSISTED on handling it in spite of her and THEN dropped the ball and doubled down and make her out to be the bad guy like she wasnt prepared to get it on her own
ikr? Every bit of that story just underscored how immature this guy was and why the best move for op was to move on without him. It's possible he'll grow out of that behavior, but it's equally possible that he won't. If that's how he deals with stuff - even at age 20 - the guy is seriously underbaked. And while people op's age are always like, "But I LOVE him!" the truth is that they'll move on and find someone they "love" equally as much if not more. The world's a big place and it's full of a lot of people who won't drop the ball, gaslight you for their failings, and lie to people around them to frame you and avoid taking responsibility for their actions. The "love" op felt for this guy is actually love for the person she imagined him to be, not the person he actually is. It's hard to make that distinction when you're on the inside of a relationship but being able to recognize when it's happening is such an important skill to develop.
@@johnplaysgames3120 Seriously, the number of times people will describe horrendous characteristics and behaviours of their partners and then follow it up with "But I love them!" I'm like, "Do you...?"
funny thing about shayne being a skeptic virgo, i was once much more skeptical about astrology, and then decided to research my sign one day (virgo) and everywhere i looked it kept saying “virgos are known skeptics” and i sat there like 🧍🏻♀️ well damn
Omg that third story is SO CUTE! Engagement AND a snake, that couple is living large! And snakes are adorable, their little derpy faces make me so happy.
I don't give a fuck about the DM or his relationship troubles, he asked out a freshman when he was a senior in high school and I really don't understand why OP is being so nice to him when he clearly has no respect for her
The Senior/Freshman thing made it immediately obvious that the "problem" with all his previous girlfriends was him. I GUARANTEE his account of girlfriends 2 and 3 are not accurate reflections of what they actually did (Girlfriend 1 coming out as a lesbian is probably accurate, but dude needs to get tf over it, especially if the timeline makes it seem like GF1 was a high school relationship. Shit happens dude, move on). Guy sounds to me like his first girlfriend realized she was a lesbian, which is an unfortunate circumstance that ended his relationship through no fault of his own, and he decided to take that out on all women for the rest of time cause he's an immature incel.
yeah the senior/freshman thing is the biggest problem to me, I'd be asking about the ages of the other 3 girlfriends. A close second is the "my first girlfriend hurt me by being a lesbian," wtf is that. He probably thinks that was a lie and she just didn't like him, because he probably gave her plenty reason not to. I guarantee he wouldn't act the same towards 'males' if 3, or more, guys had lied to him, so using that as an excuse is pathetic, and being so bitter that you'd accuse a woman of lying about rolls that were right there on the table is just insane. It's always sad when women just tolerate this kind of nonsense, because they're young and probably used to being disrespected, and haven't figured out yet how wrong that is.
She likes the game and it seems to usually be contained to one-off comments. If you're in a group for like 5 hours and they have an awkward 10 minutes, it can be easy to brush past. So I don't see it as her being especially nice. She likes his DMing outside of the woman comments so if he stops and respects her boundaries then that's problem solved.
for the astrology story, i was convinced that the boss looked up OP's birthday and found out he was lying about being a leo and then put him on projects saying it was because he was a leo to prank him back. no spoilers but turns out shes just insane!
I just want to add to the astrology story conversation. My favourite argument to play devils advocate for astrology is: If the Lunar cycle is connected to Women's 'Cycles', and has magnetic forces that effect the waves and tides of the ocean down to a predictable science, who's to say the planets movements have no effect on us little ants on one of the very said floating rocks? I honestly find it small minded to assume the universe and all that encompasses it is just happen stance and century's of studies are all make belief, just food for thought.
@@PeachystreamsBecause one of those is science and the other one is just a new invention to judge and categorise people, especially now that religion has been going out of trend. The moon has an effect on our tides because of how close it is, it’s literally in the earths gravitational pull, that’s why it’s circling around us. The other planets are unfathomably further away from earth, even the closest ones. Also, trying to prove anything with “who’s to say it’s not true”, now you’re just trying to invent a new religion. Edit: also the lunar and menstrual cycle synchronising has been debunked and was found to be due to random chance during one study in 1986.
Ok, the snake story was adorable. Communication is more important than a surprise anytime. If you pull off a surprise with no issues, then congrats. But if you get caught being sneaky in the process, just own up. If you catch your partner being sneaky, just talk to them. Trying to manipulate them into "doubling down" or whatever else that comment was suggesting is a relationship ender.
I kinda get why he is apprehensive about therapy. Don't get me wrong, if therapy works for you, then go for it. I think it is a great thing to do. I say that, but I personally have had horrendous experiences with therapy with not just myself, but some friends and family members (one even resulting in a therapist losing their license). Not wanting to go to therapy isn't necessarily about believeing that "I'm perfect, I don't need help". It can also just stem from not feeling comfortable opening up to people (which the bf clearly has problems with). Ironically, this is something that therapy would help with, but you also feel like you can't start therapy because of these trust issues. It's the catch-22 of mental health.
He was giving neurodivergent. I had a bad experience with therapy and i refused to go anymore and when i finally did, she dropped me like a hot potato. He's certainly a weird dude with weird priorities.
@@oreki22 He needs a psychiatrist instead of a therapist, but I could see that she was being very controlling and threatening and it just antagonized his original issues that he had tried to confide with her about. That's why he broke up with her. She found out what he was doing and she acted like he was actually a bad person, because of how it affects her.... That's literally what he said his fear was and what he was afraid of... And then she threatened the relationship with an ultimatum on top of that. Therapy was also part of her making him feel like there is something wrong with him, when he was doing good.... Which is what the trauma is... She went about it _all wrong..._ I could see him breaking up with her from a mile away.
@@Taricusshe wasn't being that unreasonable, he was lying to her every week for 3 years that is a break in trust that he caused, and of course she going to be upset at that.
@@elizabethhoran9268 That doesn't really excuse her behavior in hitting him where she knew he was already wounded... I understand her thing, but she got what she deserved (being dumped, not lied to). She wouldn't even try. She made a demand and it was either that or "whatever, I don't care about you anymore, bye!"
Poor Arasha, just because she lies in games sometimes and planed a very elaborate bit to trick everyone into thinking she booked marvel, that doesn’t mean she is a liar and needs to be in the lying episode 😂
@@edenstanding8676 i'm pretty sure i remember she said she is the prinscess of lies and her mother is the queen of lies : P its in one of the 2 truth 1 lie episodes
13:53 the infantilization of the OP when she’s older than him is so weird and disrespectful and it’s a shame how a LOT of ppl do this (like calling her a brat and childish and saying it’s a tantrum) to diminish women’s feelings :/
As somebody who's been struggling for months to find good work (and got let go from a job after only two weeks without explanation or ANY bad behavior), the notion of an astrological sign being a decision point for work opportunities is INFURIATING.
Seriously. I love all the shenanigans in the story, it was very funny, but bringing it back to reality makes my blood boil. OP would have been better off going to HR or even suing for discrimination. True, it might not be racial or gender based, but its still treatment dictated by factors outside of the person's control. That sounds like an awful place to work.
@@TheGhostofAbigailMills this isn't even touching the absolute BOMBSHELL where the boss in that story tried to play match maker between her daughter and the "Leo" ! She is WAY overstepping her bounds
As a college student who deals with saving up to spend on something later, calling OP in the second story “spoiled” couldn’t be more wrong. They were working their ass off for something they were gonna treat themselves to as a self bday gift. And BF thought she was gonna use him for his money? Bro she knew how expensive it was and was gonna pay it herself
I once was imposter 5 times in a row and won every time. I was playing with a group in person, and we would deliberate vocally. The game is to lie, that doesn't mean you go about your life lying.
Yeah it's part of the game, sadly the game can have a effect in social relationships cause of the discussions, my friend group wouldn't want to play with me cause I was pretty good at both impostor and crewmate.
Being a good liar doesn't mean one will live like that. Also you are lying about something that is fake, its not like you are lying about actually having murdered someone. The fact is a game and its all fake makes the lying part easierm
I was super bad at imposter mostly cause i was too nervous to kill n would get caught half the time, but I have a 'tell' that i picked up on when I'm not imposter where i talk out my tasks. So I got better at lying because I would pretend to do tasks while running around talking out the tasks and so when the discussion happened ppl would vouch for me cause they heard me doing the 'tell" lol
I’m really happy that the other group members backed up OP in the D&D story. My first retail job, I dealt with a lot of male customers that treated me differently. I’ve been in situations where men have screamed at me inches away from my face, and my coworkers just tried to placate them and didn’t say a word after they left. It’s frustrating when the people around you don’t have your back
The guy from the second story is such a demon and the fact that he could manipulate her to the point where she's staying the night to console HIM and reconsidering the breakup DEAR LORD he's actually the devil, thank God she followed through with it
About the perfume, I have the Baccarat Rouge and it is worth every penny. That guy said he got it because he assumed it was a run down to Macys and spend $70 kind of thing. He was thoughtless and too lazy to spend 5 seconds on google before saying yes. Even more, if he paid any attention to his girlfriends interest in perfume he would have at least a little insight into that world.
You would think she’s mentioned how expensive it is/ exactly what it cost, because she had savings dedicated to specifically that. They’ve definitely talked about it
have you tried the Dossier Doupe? I have their Chanel No 5 dupe, and its super close (i'm allergic to something in the Channel one, but really love the smell, a friend got this for me on my birthday)
The first story. Some of those comments were too brutal. It felt like the equivalent of saying, "Just get over it," to a chronically depressed person. OP wasn't the AH, and his gf did need therapy, but to say she needed to get over it was a surefure way to not fix the actual problem. Glad OP ignored those comments and was able to fix things with his gf.
I agree. Usually the comments they choose for these are great, so I was surprised. And then I realized they probably chose those so we could understand why the OP responded to them the way he did, as referenced in the update. That's some smart planning!
Dude the fact that he got pissed even though they defended him made me smile. He loves her so much and even though he’s annoyed, he still leaps to her defense.
I fully agree with you. I’m like these comments are intense. You gotta take into account how much her past relationship hurt her. I do also get ppl suggesting for her past relationship to not have such big effects on her new ones bc it’s a different person and relationship. I do also completely understand why she felt how she felt.
person in the leo story was GENIUS lmao honestly i wouldn't even be upset about that lie because why does it really even matter in the big picture but covering it up by playing into astrology further was so funny and definitely the right move with the people they work with. But their boss is low-key creepy and shouldn't be giving people unfair work opportunities because of their sign.
@@randomenvelopeshe’s clearly getting better hence the therapy and the issue was the lie. Yes, it’s tied into the game and that’s why she apologised and is moving on, the fact they both grew from this is what was cute
@randomenvelope youre just wrong if she has continued and broken up with him without working things out that would be the unhealthy thing to do. But she stopped. Talked to her sister and had the understanding she was wrong. And even is getting therapy. That's proper protocol and extremely mentally healthy.
I have a Kenyan Sand Boa and a Western Hognose. They are such cuties. My nieces like to hold Hocus Pocus, the sand boa, a lot, because he's so chill and sweet.
@@TheAwesomes2104 i actually just recently got a kenyan sand boa!! (about a week ago) i love them sm, they're a baby so super small rn like a little worm lol. their name is eden!
I'm not typically an astrology person, but I clocked "there's a gemini something in this guy" so fast because it sounded like the kind of shit my only gemini friend would get into lmao. Wish there were more updates because I'm unironically so invested in the web of lies this poor guy keeps getting tangled in 💀
Another thing about the last story: the compromise he asked for is quite unfair, because it had the underlying implication that she's equally at fault. I'm not saying volunteering at a shelter is bad, just goes to show how little accountability he's taken for his standoffish actions towards her.
The last story is wild because op updated saying the bf ended up getting diagnosed with schizotypal personality disorder but still refuses to get frequent therapy after his therapist suggest altering some of his behaviours. He said he didn't want to go to therapy because he didnt want a professional to tell him hes weird ??? I honestly hope he has people around him encouraging him to get help
He's afraid of the proffessional help. The 2 proffessionals I had to see for my own issues were, well, proffessional. They don't tell you you're "weird", in fact a good therapist and doctor will ask YOU why YOU think everyone else will think you're weird. Never once put me down or called me odd or weird, always asked the other way around why I think what I'm doing is wrong or weird. Cause newsflash, nothing was wrong, just different and lots of people think different things are "weird". If a proffessional doctor is putting you down, drop them. But you're not gonna know unless you try.
@@TheFireaster nobody knows who he is....its not like it would affect him, its clear he doesnt want to listen to people and i do wonder to what extent his story with his classmates wasnt twisted by his personal flawed perspective.
I had a professor try to use the fact that she’s a virgo as a valid reason why she was an asshole, so there’s at least one Virgo who believes in astrology
That's extra funny because Shayne of all people is a Virgo. There are probably lots of negative qualities you can point out about him, but you'd have to be an exceptionally weird person to summarise his personality as "asshole". Sidenote though: The professor saying "I'm a Virgo, so I can't help being an asshole" wouldn't technically **have** to mean that she believes in astrology.
@@Elwene2fralso that! If we are gunna sway with the idea that signs are fact, the commonality for virgos, is giving, kind, generous and understanding, sometimes perfectionistic, and idealistic, having high expectations and standards, but overall, I haven't read much about us being overall mean, heartless, or inherently assholes, and I've read plenty lol
The first story warms my heart so much, it’s not often that both parties in a Reddit couple end up doing the mature thing. They both took time to cool off and reflect on their own mistakes, before coming back to talk it out like adults. Not to mention actually getting therapy for someone who needs it!
It may be one of those that don’t have hr or the boss is the hr. My boss (CEO of a small non profit) told me this week in front of a coworker that I’m more immature than her 13 year old daughter out of the blue. I’m 26 and work with dv survivors as a paralegal
I find it absolutely insane how the boss literally gave someone work opportunities because of their astrological sign. How much more unprofessional could you possibly be lmao?
My boss told me this week that I’m more immature than her 13 year old daughter. I’m 26 and work with DV victims with their restraining orders as a paralegal in the office. Ironically, she is a Leo
Ill never get over the joy i feel when i hear pop culture being explained to Amanda like seeing someone learn how Among Us works in 2024 is so fun for some reason, we stay loving a chronically offline queen 👑
It makes me think of that scene in Mean Girls where Regina asks Cady who sings the song that's on the radio, and Cady says, "Um, the Spice Girls?" and Regina goes, "Omg I love her, she's like an alien." 😂
I just want to say that getting into astrology really helped with my depression!! It wasn’t quite astrology itself but being apart of a community that understands you and tries to help you based off your signs made me feel better :]
My grandmother was all about 2 things while she was alive. Her zodiac as a vrigo and Jesus. When i got her a praying statue of jesus with the virgo sign for one of her birthdays, she was estastic.
As someone who is neurodivergent myself, I feel for the last guy. I think a lot of us believe that we're bad people and unfortunately that can be a self-fulfilling thought. Pre-therapy I was convinced I was evil and that anything I did that was "good" was just me covering it up super well. This resulted in me lashing out whenever anyone complemented me on my character, since I felt like I had tricked them into liking me. Thankfully I stayed in therapy, but there was a struggle at first as I had to trust that the therapist was trying to help me change my behaviors, and not force me to change who I was. That doesn't mean I was a great person to be around at the time, and Shayne is right when he clocks the behavior as disrespectful. I lost some friends at the time because my behavior was negatively impacting them. While being neurodivergent (on the spectrum, schizotypal, etc.) can provide an explanation for the behavior, it does not excuse it. I've rekindled a connection with some of the people that I hurt during that time (which I realize is a really mature move on their part) but I understand the people who never want to see me again.
I totally agree. Regardless of what neuro differences he has (personally I read him as potentially antisocial/ sociopathic) he isn't inherently a bad person, but his actions that help or harm other people do make his character. It's incredibly sad/ frustrating to see him acknowledge what he's done wrong in the relationship but choose to continue his patterns and not disrupt the cycle when he's given an opportunity to. I hope this isn't the case in the future and that something is convincing enough for him to at least dip his toes in the water instead of running away scared like he did this time
Thanks for this. I was starting to think it was a voyeuristic thing but this makes so much more sense. As an nd person I have also felt that way before but not for like 10 years at this point.
@@test-kf2zv Sam. it was odd she never questioned what he was doing with the other hours of his weekends, since the volunteering was only 6 hours. I was worried it was an elabourate ploy to decieve her more, and he was actually seeing someeone after the soup kitichen, or had a family/custody of kids on the weekends after and picked them up or some crazy betrayal... But as a neurodiverge with a scizotypal mom, I 100% understand this now. Just weird.
My DM threw me out of the group when I denied his advances. He also kept my dice and said he didn’t have them. It’s unfortunately pretty common in those communities
I would love a show that is just "Amanda discovers the internet" where it's just the rest of the Smosh cast showing Amanda their favourite things that they think Amanda missed by not being chronically online
As someone who prides themselves on trying to be a *good* DM, I get so excited if my players have a lucky night for rolling. The goal of a Dnd game is to tell a fun story together, it's a cooperative storytelling game; the point of the DM is to set up the players to succeed! If the players are rolling well, then use it to your advantage to make the story even cooler!!
I started playing with a new group a couple years ago and the DM had more of a "me vs the players" attitude toward the game, like his goal was to "win" against us rather than to tell a good story. It wasn't great. Battle after battle, if we were defeating one of his monsters, he'd magically teleport the baddie away just before we won (even if the monster didn't have magic, he'd just teleport them away with no explanation). It was a deeply unsatisfying way to play, but the DM couldn't bear to "lose." And, like a lot of bad DMs, he had a habit of railroading us through his story rather than letting the group have any agency. If we chose to go a direction that wasn't in his one-track itinerary, there'd suddenly be a huge undefeatable monster or eldritch abomination that we'd have to run from or die. He would also get offended if someone pointed out a rule mistake, get all sulky about it, and punish the players with whatever came next. And that was just the basic stuff. It got a lot worse and, eventually, I just left the group because it stopped being fun. Unfortunately, not all tables are great. Like they say, D&D tables are like therapists; sometimes you have to go through a few before you find the right fit.
@@plutopepsi578 absolutely. My party is only 4 people, so my philosophy is that a hard fight should mean one player hits 0. The stakes are high and death is a possibility, but just because it’s a boss doesn’t mean it should be a TPK waiting to happen
47:33 the DND story is so wild cause why would anyone fake dice rolls to look “sexy”, like obviously there a million reasons that make more sense than that. Like the obvious reason would be to save your character or party or like fight really good to keep your party safe like in what world would it make sense that rolling dice well makes a girl “sexy”
That brand of incel think EVERYTHING us women do are dictated by men. How we look to them, how we can serve them, what they enjoy. Even what would anger them or make them jealous.
Yep, it's the most stupid incel mindset. "Girls exist for guys so everything they do must be to attract guys." That's the kind of idea behind it I think.
Might be a hard one to curate, but a theme with "plot twists". This last story being a great example, you think the story is going one way and then it takes such a wild left turn that you could have never predicted.
as a phd student (with an ma) grad school is HARD and it brings up so many deeply rooted issues you may not have known existed. i cannot say enough how important therapy is
...if you can afford it and it can actually target your issue. Case by case basis. When I was PhD-Student demanding better pay and less hours to take care of my sick parents was the only thing that helped.
28:14 yes. Cute. Not that baffling of an idea that people can find things appealing that you don't like. So yes, cute. I don't think people who dislike dogs and cats are commenting "you think your kitten is CUTE?"
For the second story, this is also a red flag for the mum. For her to believe it's her place to get involved in her son's argument with his gf is wild. She never should have messaged in the first place, no matter whose side she's on. Not your business lady.
This! Don't get me wrong, of course I vent to my mam about relationship stuff, but she would never involve herself in it. And if she did I would be so pissed off at her for it
For the perfume story: I swear men are so weird when it comes to money and not being able to afford things. Like it feels very obvious that on the boyfriend’s part, he saw how much the perfume was and got embarrassed by the fact that he couldn’t afford it so much so that he didn’t tell his girlfriend that he couldn’t afford it even though she told him multiple times that it would be OK if you couldn’t because she would just buy herself like she was planning on doing. I’ve heard so many stories like this and it’s a really weird pride thing on the guys part to the point where it almost feels emasculating when they can’t afford something for their significant other.
I love how for the astrology one, I immediately was like "that's such a Libra thing to do" as a joke, along with the redditors it seems & then they were actually a Libra. But if they were a Scorpio, that would make sense too. But I also only base that on a very basic knowledge & don't take it very seriously. I just know Libra & Aries are similar and being right is our personality lol
i always look forward to shayne's introduction of the guests describing them according to the theme like huge liars, worst people i know, people with the most red flags and such i love it
As a virgo, I also don't care about astrology, but most of my closest friends do. I love when they do tarot readings for me because I love to see them excited.
"There's an update" has started giving me a Pavlovian response of joy
Damn you Pavlov!
11/10 comment
I used to chuckle at how excited the cast got whenever Shayne said update but now I get just as excited too lol 😅
This
Agree 💯!
The D&D story has ANOTHER update!!
Tldr: she said that the DM had been an asshole before and everytime she confronted him, he did the same thing to ask her how he could regain her trust and friendship, so now she said it was up to him to find ways to do it. He called a week later and start calling her selfish and other things, lol she left the D&D group but was planning on start a new one with her girlfriends
yikes
It’s good she left that place. What he did was not understandable, at all.
Honestly a good outcome in my opinion. She does not need him in her life
Having run/played dnd for now 10 years, she’s probably better off making an Afab table. My new group has me and 2 dudes whose schedules tend to never line up so it’s only ever one of them at a time, the rest of the table is afab and it’s the first table that has a uniform vision in terms of what we want from the game and the play styles we appreciate, I barely had to touch on rpg safety tools with them cause it was just assumed anything of a genuinely horrific or graphic nature would be veiled at least and the concept of red light or a stop button was simple enough.
I feel like they didn't catch that she was a freshman and he was a senior when they dated? That's the first red flag. She was 14 and he was 18. That's crazy.
SHE WAS BUYING HIM A SNAKE😭😭that’s soooo sweet, and she was afraid of snakes but she still wanted to get him one
And Amanda’s reaction to it was so funny
I was screaming with how perfect they are for each other.
I squealed that was SO cute.😭😭😭
So freaking cute!
@@Love_Is_Love-y2kI think she should have just said she was getting food or something instead of saying she was with the friend but it was so worth it
Girl was out buying her man a snake even though she is afraid of snakes!?! That is the most adorable plot twist ever
Was really hoping homie paid the pet tax bc I wanna see snek
And getting herself over her fears of them so she could be happy about the snake and help raise it too 🥺🥺🥺
UPDATE!! The woman who was playing dnd sent an update to best of redditer updates. She figured out he always waited for someone else to tell him how to fix his problems and never actually worked on being better. She told him thats how he can gain trust back by doing it himself and actually wanting to make their friendship better snd stronger and he went off on her calling her selfish and apparently spent the whole conversation yelling at her. So now shes not talking to him
Narcissistic
Ya, I remember hearing about this one a couple years ago on another channel. It is mind-boggling the way some men think. They justify their actions by blaming-shifting all their mistakes and insecurities onto others.
Even, for the sake of argument, he wasn't in the wrong with his past relationships (doubtful) he needs to seriously self-reflect, heal, and grow as a person. Not, become whatever the hell he turned into. It's just sad and pathetic. If you can't clean up your own mess, then don't start throwing crap.
Did her other friends also cut contact with him?
Yes, I believe so. I may be wrong, but I think they started a new game without him and she became the DM. Not 100% on that though.
I hope his “friends” bailed on him too but wouldn’t be shocked if they didn’t
The future fiance hiding a future pet that OP would love is maybe my favorite update of all time. They're NEVER positive like that, it's adorable. Like the couple who both brought home the other partner's favorite puppy on the same day, or when couples plan a proposal for the same trip 😭
IKR SO WHOLESOMEEE
I've been waiting for them to do that one! The girlfriend immediately getting excited and teasing him instead of defensive when she finds out about the ring was such a green flag.
i knoww, trevor was kinda upset that it didn't end badly but honestly there's so many dramatical stories in reddit that this kind of updates is just so heartwarming
It feels almost too good to be true but I’m hoping it is because I want to believe there’s good in the world 🥹
@@meline4524idk if he was upset, he just seemed surprised it ended well cuz that almost never happens 😭
13:29 SHE LITERALLY WASN'T EXPECTING IT FROM YOU! She was literally going to buy it herself. She only "expected" it because you TOLD HER you'd got it
Right?! She gave him an out too, KNOWING it was a big ask! The audacity of him to be mad at her disappointment when he set her up so thoroughly to feel that way!
He had the nerve to say she was using him for money to his friends. SIR she had HAD the money. If she'd known he couldn't pay for it, she would have !
Ans he 100% talked shit about her to his friends.
The audacity to get between a gal and her MFK perfume that SHE'D SAVED UP FOR HERSELF, then gaslight her about it.
😮had to come to comments to calm down!!
I love how you can get Amanda interested in any game if u tell her it’s like Fnaf. “Among us is like Fnaf but with other people tryna kill u”, “Resident Evil is like Fnaf but u can roam around”
“Monopoly is like FNAF but you’re the one opening new franchise locations”
“roblox is like fnaf but you’re the animatronic”
The snake / engagement ring couple are PERFECT for each other, love them
The astrology story is so funny bro, he started working in a madhouse. It straight up feels like a sitcom plot
SERIOUSLY
The way it escalated all the way up to including the boss’s DAUGHTER was just bonkers 🤣
@@PrimRooksI'm just imagining the poor op, he truly feels like the straight man in an episode of The Office 😭 he's so confused and the situation just keeps escalating
Omg..it got funnier
Right? It pisses me off that Shayne was giving him shit for no reason.
Trevor not being into astrology but knowing his sun, moon, and rising just to make the people around him happy is adorable
So wholesome !
ran through
@@averytheloftier what?
@@fatimashah830 I said "ran through"
@@averytheloftier please you thought you did smth😭
About the last story. I've gone to therapy for the first time at 39, after my partner pestering me for 10 years about it. I didn't even contemplate it, i just thought it was a bogus and a waste of time and money, and i just needed to tough it out. Well, i broke down and ended up with crippling anxiety. Yay. Went to therapy (on top of the meds im taking) and was surprised that it was nothing like what i thought it was. I thought it was an old man analyzing everything i said and pointing fingers. In reality, it was about giving me tools to deal with life. I'm glad i finally gave in and agreed to go.
In reality instead of an old man it’s a middle aged woman analyzing everything you say and pointing fingers
@@Crazy_Broke_Asianbut the finger is pointed at yourself
@@Crazy_Broke_Asianidk man I’ve been to a lot of therapist and mainly what they do is just ask questions. How do you point the fingers at anyone when all you’re doing is asking questions.
@@MyDestinyDear by asking leading questions that always eventually end up with them just trying to make you give big pharma more money by prescribing mind altering drugs that most people actually don’t need
@@Crazy_Broke_Asian I think you need to keep looking for therapist. Also therapist don’t prescribe meds at all, that’s a psychiatrist lol
I love the fact that Shayne's now describing games to Amanda as "FNAF but something"
That's weird bro @Shortreels1235
Our Chronically Offline Queen is now a FNAF Princess
especially when Among Us is nothing like fnaf lol
As a comment answer?? Yeah, not happening @Shortreels1235
@Shortreels1235just subbed, godspeed soldier
The boyfriend in the second story 100% lied to his friends too. There’s no way men would react in that way just from a simple “She didn’t like my gift” he definitely told them the same story he told his mom. Guy deserved to get dumped.
I can already hear what he actually said, “I got her a nice body wash and some bath bombs and she blew up on me about how it wasn’t even more than 300$, she said I would’ve got her some 500$ perfume or some shit she wanted if I really loved her!!”
@@r.j.9822Exactly! The repeated lying about getting her the items is one huge thing.
But then his reaction to being called out is to make her look bad? Nope - no one’s worth that mess.
oh hell na that second guy is pathetic. i was broke af i won't say "oh, i got it" when my gf wants to buy something for herself. instead i was just sharing my freelance client with her so she can get extra money to buy things.
@@n0tg The money isn't even the issue, he lied to her and than made her look bad in fron of other people
For the $400+ perfume story, if the boyfriend had just offered to go halvsies, I would have totally supported him. That's a lot of money to drop on a singular item for most people. So if he was honest and just said, "That's out of my price range, but I want to help," it would have been way more respectable.
Exactly.
Well, now the break up is his way of learning in this relationship… the fact he lied to his mother as well, shows his huge lack of maturity and is a bit manipulative tbh.
"Oh, why don't I get that for you for your birthday instead of you saving for it?"
"Are you sure? I've been saving for a while now."
"Oh, how much is it?"
*shows price*
"Oh, I see why you asked. How about I cover the remaining amount you need to save for it and get you something else that I come up with instead?"
Asking questions is wild.
@@TheRiverwolfordliterally, communication, what a concept
He probably never even looked at it until the day or days before her birthday. He was like "yeah I got it babe" and then it was too close to the date for him to realize "oh I don't got it."
My $400 perfume is delina exclusif ❤
The pure lack of respect and communication with the last guy would be SUCH a deal breaker for me. It's really clear that he does not respect her opinion AT ALL based on the amount of times she would offer some sort of solution or compromise and would either immediately shoot it down or think about for a night only to refuse. .
Even if he was doing something good, lying about it for that long is just insane! And whatever he was doing it means he didn’t consider spending time with his girlfriend to be a priority at all since he always had something more important to do on the weekend for 3 years straight
There's a running joke on the Internet about men doing everything in their power to avoid therapy. And two stories here once again prove this stance. Therapy will help you feel better and have a better life. Why refuse it ? I don't understand...
Also I still feel like there's a missing piece about his volunteering at the homeless shelter. I feel like he still hasn't told the whole story !
@@johannakalytera9574 that's just not true.
I promised my wife I'll be in therapy the day GRRM finishes Game of Thrones and I mean it!
Jkjk. Therapy saved my life and my marriage.
He's honestly a bit of a self righteous prick. Truly believes he can lie to a serious partner for three years and doesn't have any issues to work out? Yeah, I hope this guy stays single.
There's a high chance he stepped in the relationship with the idea that they could have independent lives while being together. 3 years would signify he has done things for her that she enjoyed or kept the relationship going.
It's not lack of respect, it's the idea that he likes who he is and thought she liked who he was. She didn't like that he lied, and he doesn't feel like he should spend money on something he doesn't want to attend. They weren't compatible but tried to make it work with different ideas of a resolution.
That guy who lied to his gf about getting the perfume is SUCH an asshole, it pisses me off because I know he doesn’t give af about her interests
Yo idek what I would do… hearing that story made my blood BOIL. How can somebody act like that knowing it’s their fault? And lying to his mom???? Would have taken the mom’s money fs.
the way op almost changed her mind after the in-person reactions seemed like there was a lot of love-bombing from the bf and his mom. extremely apologetic, swearing to cut contact with all his friends just for her, offering anything and everything to make up for it, etc
it's like he's saying all the "right" things, but if he understood all that and lied anyway (multiple times, to multiple people), that's not someone she can really trust
@@and-ohyour so right same old same old in a few months
That dude has some serious growing up to do...holyyyyyy. I'm glad she parted ways because red flags all over
he could have even tried to find her a dupe WITH a promise to work up to the real one, but instead completely dismissed her AND had his mom call her childish on his behalf. VILE!
The way Amanda said “Among Us” I knew immediately she didn’t know what it was
She's really a mom when it comes to the internet
Oh definitely haha
I think she repeated it because Trevor said "Among Us" with a hard G
Terminally offline queen strikes again
I knew she didn't know what it was when she called trevor cool for calling it lol
the second dude’s confession was just making his case worse 😂 “sorry i lied to you, like directly to your face, but if it makes you feel any better, the only reason my mom acted like that is because i didn’t want her to bitch at me so i lied to her to get her on my side” bro what glad she throw the whole man away
The fact that it's worded like "I felt bad about lying so I lied again to make myself feel better" like brooooo
this was KILLING ME like this is absolutely a good reason to end this relationship, he lied to save face to you first, then to his mother when that went poorly, imagine being with him for a long time?? the gaslighting....
He literally ran to his mommy to complain😂 he is not a grown man
Liar, liar, pants on 🔥 fire. 😂
People can never seem to realize that lies require lies to cover lies. It’s a snowball effect. Then you can’t remember your lies so you have to tell more lies! It’s just so much easier to tell the truth. There is nothing to remember then…
I was so happy with the snake story. What a satisfying ending because he completely trusted her and was just so unhappy thinking she lied but it turned out it was a surprise for him.
Arasha not being in this is wild
I thought she would be’n
i fee lied to
My first thought. I love Amanda and Trevor, but there's not a liar in the gang that even comes close to Arasha.
Aww, bro you’re gonna be the top comment!
Someone had to write the posts
I cannot stress how much I appreciate the guy from the first story. He's surrounded by people who think he was in the right, and even the girlfriend on the opposite end of the issue was willing to admit that, yet he was still willing to apply retrospective to the issue and think of her side. We need more people like that, to see their own faults even when nobody else will.
Yes!!! So true!! It's rare to get such a thoroughly wholesome story in one of these reddit videos. That guy has some serious emotional intelligence!
Omg the story with the snake was also incredibly wholesome
@@pathofdestruction Let me be clear; I'm not saying he was in the wrong at all. It's just important that he was willing to see where she was coming from. Perspective is an invaluable tool.
52:14 about the D&D story. I’m currently at a table with three women and two guys, and the DM is also male. And the DM specifically put out a advert on Facebook for women to play at his table because he wanted his wife to feel comfortable when she was playing. He and I are friends from high school so he messaged me directly and I was more than happy to play since I didn’t have a table at the time! But part of why I like sitting at his table is because he takes care of the people at his table. It’s wild to me that there’s still so much sexism in the DND/nerd community.
This is so wholesome and I hope y'all have a blast together for a long time to come 💖
That's awesome. The DM probs just has confirmation bias, but it could also be that his guy players spend more $$ on balanced dice and women either spend less maybe so they can have more variety in dice, or they have several other hobbies, etc.
I'm the only woman in my group. I could never imagine my DM ever saying anything like this. I can't imagine any of the guys being quiet about it. I'm a godmother to one of their children even, I think that one would choke someone out for insulting me.
I played at a convention recently in a group of 5, one other woman at the table. One of the guy players kept making sexist comments, and one of the other guys called him on it. He didn't stop, so the 2 other guys walked out of the game and complained to the organizer, who later followed up with me and the other woman to let us know action had been taken against the sexist player. ❤
It’s really sad to hear these stories since the Dnd groups I’ve played with have always had a lot of queer and woman members. However, I’ve come to realize how common sexism is in our community and it’s really upsetting!
the first story - honestly i see how there’s a difference between lying _in the game_ and looking into her eyes and saying out loud “i swear im not lying”
Right?! I feel like on some level he must have KNOWN she would believe him if he got that insistent and was willing to leverage that to win the game.
@@rachelwharton4245 yeah but he probably thought she would react like a normal person and not run away. my thing is, why did she insist on playing a game that literally only revolved around lying? he was probably playing it the way he's always played it with everyone, and didn't think he would have to like dumb down his gameplay BECAUSE she insisted on playing it. i'm glad they worked it out
As soon as he mentioned getting special treatment for his supposed star sign, I was saying “go to HR” under my breath. And then the boss tried setting him up with her daughter and I was practically screaming “GO TO HR”. Absolutely bonkers situation to be at work 😅
We find out his boss is the head of HR
I just imagine this same boss NOT choosing someone because they’re a cancer or something and they’re like “A cancer scorned me once.. DENIED”
This sounds like this is the lie story
Yeah, that one is an EASY discrimination lawsuit waiting to happen.
Small company maybe, virtually no hr.
the last story dude ended up contacting her later saying he was diagnosed with schizotypal personality disorder but kept saying he didnt like how the therapist was trying to alter his behaviors and then wished her happy😭😭😭
thankfully she blocked him, what a story
Thanks for telling, now everything makes sense , I was not able to wrap my head around that story
What a mess! I hope he finds people to support him and a way to balance things out, whatever that means for him. Sadly, it makes sense...
I was so sure that it was something mental health related!! Is it ok that he won’t go to therapy? Absolutely not. Does this make so much more sense and I can semi understand his perspective now. Hell yes.
That does add a lot of context. Like I could kind of understand now where his thought process was coming from. It seemed obvious to me there was some sort of nuerodivergence or other mental illness going on because it seems like he is big on justice but also paranoia
That makes a lot of sense. Schizotypal people tend to struggle deeply with realizing they need to make changes in their behaviors or thought processes, it's part of what makes it so difficult to treat. Hopefully the therapist he sees, even if it isnt frequent, can get through to him. OP definitely dodged a bullet though because he clearly is not in a place to be in a relationship
The second story: it’s like saving up for a nice gaming PC and someone says that they already got it so you spend your money on something else and then they give you a leapfrog.
Good analogy for those outside the fragrance world!
I was thinking PS5 and they buy you a PS4
@@nt300ukeh that’s not that bad, now if they got you a game boy instead …🤣
I feel like it's more they buy you a ps vita @@nt300uk
Yeah no we're talking like 30 bucks versus 550
That perfume story reminds me of the girl who was promised a Nanalan cake on tiktok for her birthday and was called ungrateful by the comments when they filmed her getting upset because they made her an entirely different cake
There's a final(?) update for the very last story btw! Apparently the guy texted her out of the blue saying that he did end up going to a therapist who diagnosed him with schizotypal personality disorder, but he still refuses to go back to therapy. He apologizes again for it but hopes OP is doing alright. OP is (rightfully) upset about getting a random message four months later from this guy.
Wow I sort of guessed it would be something like this (mostly for the really shallow reason that he sounded like a movie character who would turn out to be a serial killer or something "I TOLD you I'm not a good person!"), but this is the real life version of that trope. And yes, OP must be really weirded out.
wow yeah I read the updates and ppl in the comments are getting really upset about the whole scenario for some reason based on how they acted... crazy
I'm convinced the guy is still hiding something big. The suggestion that his volunteer work is court-ordered seems the most likely explanation, especially since all of his compromises still revolved around getting in 6 hours on both Saturday and Sunday.
I was guessing a personality disorder or cPTSD. That's actually really sad, cluster A personality disorders are one of the hardest to treat because of the paranoia symptom. I hope he does he get help. But OP rightfully should feel upset about all of it as well and shouldn't feel the need to be the one to help them.
@brandonmeyer6808 I agree with that fact that he couldn't compromise the 6 hours and it is really shady that he hid it. Something was just very off about the whole story. I didn't feel like it ended with all the piece in place. He may have done something that caused court ordered volunteering....he probably made up an elaborate story that he tells everyone so that they don't see him in a bad light....but he doesn't want people to think he's this amazing person either. So that's why he says "but I'm still a bad person." Which makes me think he's still hiding something big. He also laughed and asked her what she meant when she asked if it was court ordered....which makes me think he was gauging how much she knew. Glad OP is out of that relationship, it's all seems really shady.
watching this while eating breakfast like a true saturday morning cartoon
Not me doing the same thing😂😂😂😂
lmao i’m eating dinner!
Im watching this while eating dinner
Little past lunch time for me. I'm doing my workouts and watching this. Great workout entertainment
I’m on my lunch break 😂
As a girl who plays dnd, stories like that are unfortunately very common. I’ve never encountered anything of that magnitude but I’ve definitely had DMs that try to change traits, characteristics, and outfits of my characters to try to make them more attractive/appealing to themselves. Now I DM for a group of my friends and we all have a blast.
I had one DM (a fellow woman) question every single decision I made in character and then get upset when my character didn’t forgive an NPC from her past who abandoned her. Like, I truly didn’t believe it was in character for my character to forgive him, but the DM wanted it to get resolved immediately and them to start having a positive father-daughter dynamic again, and it was so exhausting and invalidating. I ended up leaving that campaign bc I didn’t feel like I had any agency and that she just wanted us all to like the NPCs she liked and follow the “correct” story she had built up in her head.
(Edit; this comment isn’t really to be like “women can be bad too!” it’s more that the part about changing characteristics of your character to be more appealing resonated with me)
urgh i feel this. i once had my character forcibly turned into an anime girl. send help.
SO thankful that my DM has always been super cool about this kind of stuff. He has asked out both myself and my best friend and has had crushes on both of us at different points in time (we have all been friend since middle school) but he generally never lets it effect the game in any way.. except I think sometimes he has been a little too lenient with me and or given me slightly better loot then I deserve based on my rolls. But nothing like that for a long time thankfully (it always made be uncomfortable like I was getting special treatment above the other players)
I've only recently started playing dnd, and I'm really lucky that I grew up with most of the other players and the DM. He's basically my older brother and is really looking out for all us newbies, which I'm learning is more rare than it should be. I do think I'd like to join an all-women campaign sometime; that sounds like a great dynamic to have.
I had an instance where my character would get a super power-up, extra abilities etc. if the character let an NPC have sex with them. I just went "wtf no" (cause it was totally random and my character hadn't shown any interest in sleeping around or whatever). The DM and some of the party acted like I was a party pooper and tried to guilt trip me for turning down the offer when he had spend ao much effort on the power-up etc. Like how dare I not accept this super great reward
i was hoping that the guy who lied about being a Leo wasn't a scorpio because they would eat that up and double down on him being manipulative because of it. Hearing that OP 's birthday is in October is now putting me on the edge of my seat.
The sign shit doesn't exist, but go for it 😂😂
@@JDracovia129 yea i don't believe it either but its funny i mean ppl swear by it. I'm not gonna rain on their fun.
@@JDracovia129 Yeah maybe it doesn't, but it would have been hilarious if in trying to disprove it he accidentally validated the traits of his "actual" sign lmao
I thought this too! Like how funny would it be if OP was actually just a Scorpio, what're the odds... wait, no-
@@JDracovia129 Human decency is letting people believe in what they want to unless the belief is genuinely harmful or toxic.
The first story is a great example of two people being mature and working on the issues in their relationship. Too many people will throw in the towel at the first problem and then will regret it years later.
Yeah, also too many people care more about "winning" a conflict than about understanding their partner or making each other feel heard.
i agree, i definitely think they’ll work out from that story. they both seem really mature and able to handle conflict as a team, it’s very cute
It was nearly heartwarming
Idk I think it's nice they were able to keep in the relationship and get therapy, but I think OP's motivations for doing so was less emotional maturity and more that he was emotionally attached to his gf and blinded by it. I think it would've been perfectly reasonable in his case to say ok this person needs some time being single and isn't ready for a relationship.
Also a perfect example of why we shouldn’t ask strangers for advice. It can go well, but the commenters on this post were praying on their downfall
“TRAPPED IN THE WRONG STAR SIGN” lmaoooo
Coming to TUBI
4:59 okay, we need a video of Smosh cast playing Among Us with Amanda! Lol
Came here to say this xx
Fr!
and with the new cast? this will be goated. imagine chanse yelling at angela in among us 🤣🤣
Omg right let's revive among us
absolutely! but they should cut between the different perspectives of the players within the game frequently, imo that way we could experience all the funny situations and not have to spectate someone who is not the impostor for example or cuts to people struggling to do the task or fooling around would be possible, making the whole thing funnier
28:37 Honestly? This is the ending I wanted. Happy ending, the man has a snake and a wife, all is well
And an infinity band in a form of a snake!
The ending of the DnD story in the link shows that she changed her mind and told him that he needs to put in the work and make it up to her. And that it’s not her responsibility to help him change. He then called her and berated her and screamed at her. So she hung up and he texted awful things at her. She ended the friendship and left the DnD Campaign. She’s now joining a campaign with a bunch of girls she met so she seems to be in a better place.
That's good that she's moved on to potentially a better situation. It's too bad that the rest of the group didn't mutiny and go with her - more evidence that it was the wrong group for her - but, then again, if the DM is as much of an incel as he sounds like, he'd probably just have blamed her for losing his group rather than doing any self-reflection. Oh well. Hopefully, she has a much better experience with her new group. D&D should be fun, not stressful.
arasha not being here for the lying themed episode is wild
She must be filming her Marvel movie
@edenstanding8676 that damn marvel movie is still not done??? Hahaha
@Shortreels1235🤖🤖🤖🤖
Probably busy
Must be a miniseries?!?@@charlesmusicroom
Trevor being happy for other people being excited about astrology is SO precious and pure. I adore him.
He's like a golden retriever. So generous and sweet.
Literally is the purest thing in the world I love him so much omg
DITTOOOOOOOOOO
An entire episode of RPG/D&D drama reddit stories would slap ngl
amanda discovering and becoming extremely interested in among us in 2024 is giving me harambe deja vu
It's like she's a time traveler from 2014 and is just now catching up in some regards and it's funny
Harambe-ja vu
Also saying it's "The Thing" was funny because not only was she correct with it being similar to the movie, but it was literally "The Thing" to do for ages.
Especially since Shayne and Trevor are here
she’s just your fun aunt who really wants to be involved but can’t keep up and we love that for her
It’s insane not to have Arasha in this
She shows up at the end
@@shaeisgae8952why did you fast forward 🤨🤨🤨
We all think about her😂😂
@Shortreels1235 Jump.
she’s booked and busy at marvel
Oh my God, we need an entire RPGhorrorstories episode with Damien
yes!!!
i have been saying this since the first reddit stories, there’s so much drama that goes on in rpg circles
Yes Smosh!!!
YES
Dude, I'm a january female capricorn. I love telling people this and watching them go 'oh honey, you're a mess.' It brings me joy in a weird way 😂
Also jan. capricorn. 😂
WHAT DOES THIS MEAN
and why do I feel strangely called out???
wait, my partner is a january capricorn, and he IS a mess. coincidence? dont think so
The last story has a pretty important final update you missed. The guy was eventually diagnosed with schizotypal personality disorder.
A key features of that condition is an inability to make or maintain close relationships, as the person doesn't understand the components that build them or keep them together. Sufferers are often described as strange or odd, because the way they perceive things, especially social interactions and bonds, doesn't make any sense to neurotypicals. They often have extreme anxiety and find it hard to trust people, as they find it hard to understand or trust others' motivations (and outsiders obviously see their motivations and logic as bizarre as a result).
Dude seems like a pretty cut n dry case based on how he acted: doesn't know how to trust his GF with (to us) innocuous information based on previous negative experience with people, he doesn't understand the differences between those situations, he doesn't understand WHY she sees it as weird he won't tell her, and he doesn't understand why she feels she can't trust HIM as a result. Cue anxiety, cue more loss of trust, cue more anxiety, cue cutting and running because being able to move past this would require him in therapy which he refused to do at the time because (as the last update says) he was scared of being definitively labelled with something. In his own words he has since "bit the bullet", but is not in regular therapy.
schizotypal personality disorder honestly seems like a mix of autism + trauma to me. maybe there's a meaningful difference but i can't really see it. anyways, yeah in many ways i relate to this guy but i also think his partner is COMPLETELY valid for her reaction.
@@hinasakukimi go read the formal diagnostic criteria and the DDx for StPD. While there’s some similarities to autism there are also some very meaningful differences (like psychosis)
also sounds like he just didn’t have time for a girlfriend anyways
not even because of his disorder but because of how busy he seems to be
@@hinasakukimi People with StPD can also experience psychosis. That is not a feature of autism.
People with autism can (very generally speaking) often trust implicitly and take people at their literal word. People with StPD don't, the ability to establish trust at all is sometimes non existant.
The most incredible thing about Courtney and Shayne announcing their marriage is that they both can talk about each other in these kind of ways, casually mentioning them and being able to bring their loved one's abilities to the forefront is so sweettttt. like him being like "courtney is SO GOOD at among us" hello. they not there but they married so shayne say my wife p cool man she good at this stuff
This can be done to any person at Smosh, marriage doesn't have to do with anything he said. I don't like people that act like things Courtney and Shayne do are because of their marriage
@@ogurasyn2354 Of course! But I think asuwannabe's point is that knowing they're married adds a layer to it. Of course anyone can be nice, but knowing they're talking about their spouses is a sweet touch.
@@ogurasyn2354 courtney and shayne both obviously avoided bringing each other up out of context or talking abt living together, and talked abt it on the podcast! it’s sweet that they arent holding back that part of themselves anymore
@@ogurasyn2354 I agree, I see people bringing up their marriage for interactions that are completely normal 😭 stuff that friends do all the time. It's sweet and all, but to an extent
@@ogurasyn2354 its like when you've been single for a long time and finally get into a relationship so to your family every question is now "and where was your partner during this?", Courtney was incredibly valid in feeling like going public with it takes something away. Almost 500 people agreed with a stranger saying that "the most incredible thing" about a couple's marriage is that they can talk about it in a place that can be watched, not that they're happy or anything just that they can now talk about it openly online. The MOST INCREDIBLE THING about this marriage is that people get to watch them talk about it in public instead of imagining what it was like in private? Its parasocial like crazy in the Smosh comments
Wrt the perfume story, i feel like ppl are glossing over the fact that not only did she have the money for it and the boyfriend only found out she wanted it bc she SAID she was going to buy it, but she REPEATEDLY asked if he was sure bc she could afford it with him repeatedly assuring her that she could spend that money elsewhere and she only relented when he told her he already bought/wrapped it.
I dont doubt theres ppl who would still insist shes a spoiled brat/gold digger throwing a tantrum even if they got the full context, but i have a feeling his friends&mom got some malformed story about what happened from him rather than that. Like the part of that story that makes me angriest is that he butted in on her plans and INSISTED on handling it in spite of her and THEN dropped the ball and doubled down and make her out to be the bad guy like she wasnt prepared to get it on her own
ikr? Every bit of that story just underscored how immature this guy was and why the best move for op was to move on without him. It's possible he'll grow out of that behavior, but it's equally possible that he won't. If that's how he deals with stuff - even at age 20 - the guy is seriously underbaked. And while people op's age are always like, "But I LOVE him!" the truth is that they'll move on and find someone they "love" equally as much if not more. The world's a big place and it's full of a lot of people who won't drop the ball, gaslight you for their failings, and lie to people around them to frame you and avoid taking responsibility for their actions.
The "love" op felt for this guy is actually love for the person she imagined him to be, not the person he actually is. It's hard to make that distinction when you're on the inside of a relationship but being able to recognize when it's happening is such an important skill to develop.
I know right. He is so toxic.
@@johnplaysgames3120 Seriously, the number of times people will describe horrendous characteristics and behaviours of their partners and then follow it up with "But I love them!" I'm like, "Do you...?"
Exactly! Replace “perfume” with laptop or something and they’d probably see it differently. I think people are judging her for what she’s into
Yeah. What really happened is that his lie got her to spend a few hundred hard earned dollars so that she couldn’t get what she was saving up for.
funny thing about shayne being a skeptic virgo, i was once much more skeptical about astrology, and then decided to research my sign one day (virgo) and everywhere i looked it kept saying “virgos are known skeptics” and i sat there like 🧍🏻♀️ well damn
Omg that third story is SO CUTE! Engagement AND a snake, that couple is living large! And snakes are adorable, their little derpy faces make me so happy.
I think it has to be one of the best reddit stories I've heard. 🥰
Completely agree!
I don't give a fuck about the DM or his relationship troubles, he asked out a freshman when he was a senior in high school and I really don't understand why OP is being so nice to him when he clearly has no respect for her
The Senior/Freshman thing made it immediately obvious that the "problem" with all his previous girlfriends was him. I GUARANTEE his account of girlfriends 2 and 3 are not accurate reflections of what they actually did (Girlfriend 1 coming out as a lesbian is probably accurate, but dude needs to get tf over it, especially if the timeline makes it seem like GF1 was a high school relationship. Shit happens dude, move on).
Guy sounds to me like his first girlfriend realized she was a lesbian, which is an unfortunate circumstance that ended his relationship through no fault of his own, and he decided to take that out on all women for the rest of time cause he's an immature incel.
@@InnerWorkingsofaGeek Bot sure but I remember correctly he tried to ask the OP out before the 3 girlfriends, so he's just always been a creep
yeah the senior/freshman thing is the biggest problem to me, I'd be asking about the ages of the other 3 girlfriends. A close second is the "my first girlfriend hurt me by being a lesbian," wtf is that. He probably thinks that was a lie and she just didn't like him, because he probably gave her plenty reason not to. I guarantee he wouldn't act the same towards 'males' if 3, or more, guys had lied to him, so using that as an excuse is pathetic, and being so bitter that you'd accuse a woman of lying about rolls that were right there on the table is just insane. It's always sad when women just tolerate this kind of nonsense, because they're young and probably used to being disrespected, and haven't figured out yet how wrong that is.
She likes the game and it seems to usually be contained to one-off comments. If you're in a group for like 5 hours and they have an awkward 10 minutes, it can be easy to brush past. So I don't see it as her being especially nice. She likes his DMing outside of the woman comments so if he stops and respects her boundaries then that's problem solved.
yeah but she was only a year older, her birthday could just be earlier in the year
for the astrology story, i was convinced that the boss looked up OP's birthday and found out he was lying about being a leo and then put him on projects saying it was because he was a leo to prank him back. no spoilers but turns out shes just insane!
That would have been amazing. Like they're just playing chicken with one another, waiting until one of them slips up or swerves out 😂
I love this story. *So much.*
I just want to add to the astrology story conversation. My favourite argument to play devils advocate for astrology is: If the Lunar cycle is connected to Women's 'Cycles', and has magnetic forces that effect the waves and tides of the ocean down to a predictable science, who's to say the planets movements have no effect on us little ants on one of the very said floating rocks? I honestly find it small minded to assume the universe and all that encompasses it is just happen stance and century's of studies are all make belief, just food for thought.
@@Peachystreamswell astronomers say its a spudeoscience
@@PeachystreamsBecause one of those is science and the other one is just a new invention to judge and categorise people, especially now that religion has been going out of trend.
The moon has an effect on our tides because of how close it is, it’s literally in the earths gravitational pull, that’s why it’s circling around us. The other planets are unfathomably further away from earth, even the closest ones.
Also, trying to prove anything with “who’s to say it’s not true”, now you’re just trying to invent a new religion.
Edit: also the lunar and menstrual cycle synchronising has been debunked and was found to be due to random chance during one study in 1986.
35:20 i love how Trevor gets excited at OTHER peoples excitement about his signs. Like that's so sweet!
Ok, the snake story was adorable. Communication is more important than a surprise anytime. If you pull off a surprise with no issues, then congrats. But if you get caught being sneaky in the process, just own up. If you catch your partner being sneaky, just talk to them. Trying to manipulate them into "doubling down" or whatever else that comment was suggesting is a relationship ender.
Lying volunteer guy is legitimately a Batman character. "I was told something that scarred me so much that I'm forced to lead a double life"
I kinda get why he is apprehensive about therapy. Don't get me wrong, if therapy works for you, then go for it. I think it is a great thing to do. I say that, but I personally have had horrendous experiences with therapy with not just myself, but some friends and family members (one even resulting in a therapist losing their license). Not wanting to go to therapy isn't necessarily about believeing that "I'm perfect, I don't need help". It can also just stem from not feeling comfortable opening up to people (which the bf clearly has problems with). Ironically, this is something that therapy would help with, but you also feel like you can't start therapy because of these trust issues. It's the catch-22 of mental health.
He was giving neurodivergent.
I had a bad experience with therapy and i refused to go anymore and when i finally did, she dropped me like a hot potato.
He's certainly a weird dude with weird priorities.
@@oreki22 He needs a psychiatrist instead of a therapist, but I could see that she was being very controlling and threatening and it just antagonized his original issues that he had tried to confide with her about. That's why he broke up with her. She found out what he was doing and she acted like he was actually a bad person, because of how it affects her.... That's literally what he said his fear was and what he was afraid of... And then she threatened the relationship with an ultimatum on top of that. Therapy was also part of her making him feel like there is something wrong with him, when he was doing good.... Which is what the trauma is... She went about it _all wrong..._ I could see him breaking up with her from a mile away.
@@Taricusshe wasn't being that unreasonable, he was lying to her every week for 3 years that is a break in trust that he caused, and of course she going to be upset at that.
@@elizabethhoran9268 That doesn't really excuse her behavior in hitting him where she knew he was already wounded... I understand her thing, but she got what she deserved (being dumped, not lied to). She wouldn't even try. She made a demand and it was either that or "whatever, I don't care about you anymore, bye!"
Poor Arasha, just because she lies in games sometimes and planed a very elaborate bit to trick everyone into thinking she booked marvel, that doesn’t mean she is a liar and needs to be in the lying episode 😂
She called herself "the queen of lies." It's all in fun lol EDIT: She is the "Princess of lies!!"
Bro explained the reason she should be in the lying episode and said that’s why she shouldn’t be in it 💀
@@mrbluebob1066 Bro explained the joke but still didn't get it 💀
@@edenstanding8676 i'm pretty sure i remember she said she is the prinscess of lies and her mother is the queen of lies : P its in one of the 2 truth 1 lie episodes
@farzanbaloo8516 you are right!!! I remember that now. Lol ❤
13:53 the infantilization of the OP when she’s older than him is so weird and disrespectful and it’s a shame how a LOT of ppl do this (like calling her a brat and childish and saying it’s a tantrum) to diminish women’s feelings :/
As somebody who's been struggling for months to find good work (and got let go from a job after only two weeks without explanation or ANY bad behavior), the notion of an astrological sign being a decision point for work opportunities is INFURIATING.
Seriously. I love all the shenanigans in the story, it was very funny, but bringing it back to reality makes my blood boil. OP would have been better off going to HR or even suing for discrimination. True, it might not be racial or gender based, but its still treatment dictated by factors outside of the person's control. That sounds like an awful place to work.
Yeah it's fucking crazy
@@TheGhostofAbigailMills this isn't even touching the absolute BOMBSHELL where the boss in that story tried to play match maker between her daughter and the "Leo" ! She is WAY overstepping her bounds
Maybe you should add Leo to your resume
yeah a bit but being infuriated is kind of old man yells at cloud
As a college student who deals with saving up to spend on something later, calling OP in the second story “spoiled” couldn’t be more wrong. They were working their ass off for something they were gonna treat themselves to as a self bday gift. And BF thought she was gonna use him for his money? Bro she knew how expensive it was and was gonna pay it herself
Yes. She’s upset that his lie essentially cost her a few hundred dollars in savings. On a student budget.
I once was imposter 5 times in a row and won every time. I was playing with a group in person, and we would deliberate vocally. The game is to lie, that doesn't mean you go about your life lying.
Yeah it's part of the game, sadly the game can have a effect in social relationships cause of the discussions, my friend group wouldn't want to play with me cause I was pretty good at both impostor and crewmate.
Being a good liar doesn't mean one will live like that. Also you are lying about something that is fake, its not like you are lying about actually having murdered someone. The fact is a game and its all fake makes the lying part easierm
I was super bad at imposter mostly cause i was too nervous to kill n would get caught half the time, but I have a 'tell' that i picked up on when I'm not imposter where i talk out my tasks. So I got better at lying because I would pretend to do tasks while running around talking out the tasks and so when the discussion happened ppl would vouch for me cause they heard me doing the 'tell" lol
I’m really happy that the other group members backed up OP in the D&D story. My first retail job, I dealt with a lot of male customers that treated me differently. I’ve been in situations where men have screamed at me inches away from my face, and my coworkers just tried to placate them and didn’t say a word after they left. It’s frustrating when the people around you don’t have your back
The guy from the second story is such a demon and the fact that he could manipulate her to the point where she's staying the night to console HIM and reconsidering the breakup DEAR LORD he's actually the devil, thank God she followed through with it
About the perfume, I have the Baccarat Rouge and it is worth every penny. That guy said he got it because he assumed it was a run down to Macys and spend $70 kind of thing. He was thoughtless and too lazy to spend 5 seconds on google before saying yes. Even more, if he paid any attention to his girlfriends interest in perfume he would have at least a little insight into that world.
You would think she’s mentioned how expensive it is/ exactly what it cost, because she had savings dedicated to specifically that. They’ve definitely talked about it
@@alexshaw8167 she already said its expensive to him
What does it smell like? I’m super curious now.
I’m pretty basic, I just like my Clinique Happy or some jasmine essential oil 🤷♀️
have you tried the Dossier Doupe? I have their Chanel No 5 dupe, and its super close (i'm allergic to something in the Channel one, but really love the smell, a friend got this for me on my birthday)
@@SisiAvellanaLike a rich woman eating a burnt sugar dessert on a terrace in Monaco
The first story. Some of those comments were too brutal. It felt like the equivalent of saying, "Just get over it," to a chronically depressed person. OP wasn't the AH, and his gf did need therapy, but to say she needed to get over it was a surefure way to not fix the actual problem. Glad OP ignored those comments and was able to fix things with his gf.
I agree. Usually the comments they choose for these are great, so I was surprised. And then I realized they probably chose those so we could understand why the OP responded to them the way he did, as referenced in the update. That's some smart planning!
Dude the fact that he got pissed even though they defended him made me smile. He loves her so much and even though he’s annoyed, he still leaps to her defense.
Yeah, Reddit users can be a mixed bag, but they DO tend to skew towards the nuclear option.
I fully agree with you. I’m like these comments are intense. You gotta take into account how much her past relationship hurt her. I do also get ppl suggesting for her past relationship to not have such big effects on her new ones bc it’s a different person and relationship. I do also completely understand why she felt how she felt.
commenters are the AH
person in the leo story was GENIUS lmao honestly i wouldn't even be upset about that lie because why does it really even matter in the big picture but covering it up by playing into astrology further was so funny and definitely the right move with the people they work with. But their boss is low-key creepy and shouldn't be giving people unfair work opportunities because of their sign.
It’s extremely refreshing to hear a healthy relationship in the first story
She wanted time off because of among us, i dont think thats healthy
I can't tell if your being sarcastic or not
@@randomenvelopeshe’s clearly getting better hence the therapy and the issue was the lie.
Yes, it’s tied into the game and that’s why she apologised and is moving on, the fact they both grew from this is what was cute
@@randomenvelope making a mistake, owning up to it and then proceeding to work on it is healthy
@randomenvelope youre just wrong if she has continued and broken up with him without working things out that would be the unhealthy thing to do.
But she stopped. Talked to her sister and had the understanding she was wrong. And even is getting therapy. That's proper protocol and extremely mentally healthy.
amanda: "cute?"
me (obsessed with snakes): OMG KENYAN SAND BOA???
REAL! Snakes are so cuteeee
Just looked up a picture 😭😭😭💞
I've got one and he has this lil nose shovel for digging.
I have a Kenyan Sand Boa and a Western Hognose. They are such cuties. My nieces like to hold Hocus Pocus, the sand boa, a lot, because he's so chill and sweet.
@@TheAwesomes2104 i actually just recently got a kenyan sand boa!! (about a week ago) i love them sm, they're a baby so super small rn like a little worm lol. their name is eden!
The astrology guy faking his star sign and gaslighting the redditors is an actual legend 😂
I'm not typically an astrology person, but I clocked "there's a gemini something in this guy" so fast because it sounded like the kind of shit my only gemini friend would get into lmao. Wish there were more updates because I'm unironically so invested in the web of lies this poor guy keeps getting tangled in 💀
@@collecting_dust5552 I will look for his story to check for updates.
ngl that was so funny 😂 my guy was invested
I'm pretty sure he's not even both in October, lol.
Another thing about the last story: the compromise he asked for is quite unfair, because it had the underlying implication that she's equally at fault. I'm not saying volunteering at a shelter is bad, just goes to show how little accountability he's taken for his standoffish actions towards her.
The last story is wild because op updated saying the bf ended up getting diagnosed with schizotypal personality disorder but still refuses to get frequent therapy after his therapist suggest altering some of his behaviours. He said he didn't want to go to therapy because he didnt want a professional to tell him hes weird ??? I honestly hope he has people around him encouraging him to get help
Well thank god its been plastered online not only across reddit but also on a multi million plus subscriber yt channel - im sure it will help
@@TheFireaster Well, yes. If he wasn't a weirdo, he would have gotten posted online. Don't be a bad partner and be mad about the outcome.
He's afraid of the proffessional help. The 2 proffessionals I had to see for my own issues were, well, proffessional. They don't tell you you're "weird", in fact a good therapist and doctor will ask YOU why YOU think everyone else will think you're weird. Never once put me down or called me odd or weird, always asked the other way around why I think what I'm doing is wrong or weird. Cause newsflash, nothing was wrong, just different and lots of people think different things are "weird".
If a proffessional doctor is putting you down, drop them. But you're not gonna know unless you try.
@@TheFireaster cry about it
@@TheFireaster nobody knows who he is....its not like it would affect him, its clear he doesnt want to listen to people and i do wonder to what extent his story with his classmates wasnt twisted by his personal flawed perspective.
I had a professor try to use the fact that she’s a virgo as a valid reason why she was an asshole, so there’s at least one Virgo who believes in astrology
That's extra funny because Shayne of all people is a Virgo. There are probably lots of negative qualities you can point out about him, but you'd have to be an exceptionally weird person to summarise his personality as "asshole".
Sidenote though: The professor saying "I'm a Virgo, so I can't help being an asshole" wouldn't technically **have** to mean that she believes in astrology.
Aren't Virgos known for being kind?
(I'm a Virgo and don't believe in astrology 😄It's just what I've been told by people who believe in it)
@@Elwene2fralso that! If we are gunna sway with the idea that signs are fact, the commonality for virgos, is giving, kind, generous and understanding, sometimes perfectionistic, and idealistic, having high expectations and standards, but overall, I haven't read much about us being overall mean, heartless, or inherently assholes, and I've read plenty lol
Only people that have use something about astrology to justify a bad behaviour they have believe in astrology
@@pbnjilly2542 So arguably it's been proven that the professor does not care about astrology and we're back to Shayne's theory being unrefuted. =o
The first story warms my heart so much, it’s not often that both parties in a Reddit couple end up doing the mature thing. They both took time to cool off and reflect on their own mistakes, before coming back to talk it out like adults. Not to mention actually getting therapy for someone who needs it!
Same! Respect!
I would love an episode all about malicious compliance. Those stories fuel me.
OMG that astrology story is SUCH an HR violation. I really hope OP reports his boss 😭
It may be one of those that don’t have hr or the boss is the hr. My boss (CEO of a small non profit) told me this week in front of a coworker that I’m more immature than her 13 year old daughter out of the blue. I’m 26 and work with dv survivors as a paralegal
@@kyannakleyer8503 Yeah, I feel like a place that does those things doesn't have an HR or any corporate office, at least one that would be helpful.
@@kyannakleyer8503My sweet lord
@@test-kf2zvHR there stands for horoscope resources
I love Tommy getting hyped up by the chaos of it right after being bored by the previous story’s happy ending LMAO
I find it absolutely insane how the boss literally gave someone work opportunities because of their astrological sign. How much more unprofessional could you possibly be lmao?
My boss told me this week that I’m more immature than her 13 year old daughter. I’m 26 and work with DV victims with their restraining orders as a paralegal in the office. Ironically, she is a Leo
Sounds like his boss is a total Capernicus or something like that.
And yet some people still think you just need to work hard to get promoted at work 🙄
Ill never get over the joy i feel when i hear pop culture being explained to Amanda like seeing someone learn how Among Us works in 2024 is so fun for some reason, we stay loving a chronically offline queen 👑
It makes me think of that scene in Mean Girls where Regina asks Cady who sings the song that's on the radio, and Cady says, "Um, the Spice Girls?" and Regina goes, "Omg I love her, she's like an alien." 😂
I just want to say that getting into astrology really helped with my depression!! It wasn’t quite astrology itself but being apart of a community that understands you and tries to help you based off your signs made me feel better :]
Shane: I dont know any virgo who is obsessed with astrological signs...
Jenna Marbles voice echoes in the distance: IM A VIRGO!
I came here looking for this coment and you delivered. THANK YOU! ❤
Right! Maybe not so many male Virgos as female Virgos are interested.? But I have met plenty of girls that are
My grandmother was all about 2 things while she was alive. Her zodiac as a vrigo and Jesus. When i got her a praying statue of jesus with the virgo sign for one of her birthdays, she was estastic.
@@sillylittlecourtjester I'll take any excuse to mention the Queen!
and also keke palmer!
As someone who is neurodivergent myself, I feel for the last guy. I think a lot of us believe that we're bad people and unfortunately that can be a self-fulfilling thought. Pre-therapy I was convinced I was evil and that anything I did that was "good" was just me covering it up super well. This resulted in me lashing out whenever anyone complemented me on my character, since I felt like I had tricked them into liking me. Thankfully I stayed in therapy, but there was a struggle at first as I had to trust that the therapist was trying to help me change my behaviors, and not force me to change who I was.
That doesn't mean I was a great person to be around at the time, and Shayne is right when he clocks the behavior as disrespectful. I lost some friends at the time because my behavior was negatively impacting them. While being neurodivergent (on the spectrum, schizotypal, etc.) can provide an explanation for the behavior, it does not excuse it. I've rekindled a connection with some of the people that I hurt during that time (which I realize is a really mature move on their part) but I understand the people who never want to see me again.
I totally agree. Regardless of what neuro differences he has (personally I read him as potentially antisocial/ sociopathic) he isn't inherently a bad person, but his actions that help or harm other people do make his character. It's incredibly sad/ frustrating to see him acknowledge what he's done wrong in the relationship but choose to continue his patterns and not disrupt the cycle when he's given an opportunity to. I hope this isn't the case in the future and that something is convincing enough for him to at least dip his toes in the water instead of running away scared like he did this time
@@adelinereactsthe gf posted another update saying he texted her and told her he was diagnosed with Schizotypal personality disorder
Thanks for this. I was starting to think it was a voyeuristic thing but this makes so much more sense. As an nd person I have also felt that way before but not for like 10 years at this point.
I appreciate your insight. My takeaway was very cynical, that he was still hiding *something*, but this possibility makes a lot of sense.
@@test-kf2zv Sam. it was odd she never questioned what he was doing with the other hours of his weekends, since the volunteering was only 6 hours. I was worried it was an elabourate ploy to decieve her more, and he was actually seeing someeone after the soup kitichen, or had a family/custody of kids on the weekends after and picked them up or some crazy betrayal...
But as a neurodiverge with a scizotypal mom, I 100% understand this now. Just weird.
My DM threw me out of the group when I denied his advances. He also kept my dice and said he didn’t have them. It’s unfortunately pretty common in those communities
Ok but the one where the girlfriend snuck out to get her boyfriend a pet snake is straight out of a romcom tv show I love how it ended
I would love a show that is just "Amanda discovers the internet" where it's just the rest of the Smosh cast showing Amanda their favourite things that they think Amanda missed by not being chronically online
Pretty sure that's just... Smosh Mouth... and the games channel, haha
Yesss!!!
The Star sign boss is a nightmare. Favouritism for certain signs and then trying to hook up the employee because of their charts is insane.
As someone who prides themselves on trying to be a *good* DM, I get so excited if my players have a lucky night for rolling. The goal of a Dnd game is to tell a fun story together, it's a cooperative storytelling game; the point of the DM is to set up the players to succeed! If the players are rolling well, then use it to your advantage to make the story even cooler!!
I started playing with a new group a couple years ago and the DM had more of a "me vs the players" attitude toward the game, like his goal was to "win" against us rather than to tell a good story. It wasn't great. Battle after battle, if we were defeating one of his monsters, he'd magically teleport the baddie away just before we won (even if the monster didn't have magic, he'd just teleport them away with no explanation). It was a deeply unsatisfying way to play, but the DM couldn't bear to "lose." And, like a lot of bad DMs, he had a habit of railroading us through his story rather than letting the group have any agency. If we chose to go a direction that wasn't in his one-track itinerary, there'd suddenly be a huge undefeatable monster or eldritch abomination that we'd have to run from or die. He would also get offended if someone pointed out a rule mistake, get all sulky about it, and punish the players with whatever came next. And that was just the basic stuff. It got a lot worse and, eventually, I just left the group because it stopped being fun.
Unfortunately, not all tables are great. Like they say, D&D tables are like therapists; sometimes you have to go through a few before you find the right fit.
Exactly! As a player it’s fun when something is challenging but not when the DM is actively rooting for you to fail
@@plutopepsi578 absolutely. My party is only 4 people, so my philosophy is that a hard fight should mean one player hits 0. The stakes are high and death is a possibility, but just because it’s a boss doesn’t mean it should be a TPK waiting to happen
the snake as ring bearer!!! snake on velvet cushion and ring on it's head! ?!
47:33 the DND story is so wild cause why would anyone fake dice rolls to look “sexy”, like obviously there a million reasons that make more sense than that. Like the obvious reason would be to save your character or party or like fight really good to keep your party safe like in what world would it make sense that rolling dice well makes a girl “sexy”
it's so stupid that it's just hilarious honestly. look how many 20s I rolled, I'm so sexy. like what 🤣
That brand of incel think EVERYTHING us women do are dictated by men. How we look to them, how we can serve them, what they enjoy. Even what would anger them or make them jealous.
Because HE thought it was sexy and was mad she didn't reciprocate. But I also agree that he is that brand of incel.
Mm. The way you’re able to roll dice and randomly land on higher numbers sometimes purely by luck and with absolutely no skill involved is sooooo hot.
Yep, it's the most stupid incel mindset. "Girls exist for guys so everything they do must be to attract guys." That's the kind of idea behind it I think.
"Wow, you're cool. You're a cool guy"
Amanda with the compliments that make you feel like she's insulting you
Them not acknowledging Trevor's Incel in-a-cell joke hurt to watch.
whenever I have a crazy story to tell out of my life, that is evolving over time, I use “update” when I get back with news to my friends 😂
The Starsign story is fucking INSANE, it just kept adding
People ! learn about CONFIRMATION BIAS, and understand THAT’S what fuels astrology
Might be a hard one to curate, but a theme with "plot twists". This last story being a great example, you think the story is going one way and then it takes such a wild left turn that you could have never predicted.
They have two episodes like this! One called "You won't see this coming"" and another one labelled "unpredictable"
the proposal ring/ pet snake one was a great plot twist one too!
as a phd student (with an ma) grad school is HARD and it brings up so many deeply rooted issues you may not have known existed. i cannot say enough how important therapy is
...if you can afford it and it can actually target your issue. Case by case basis. When I was PhD-Student demanding better pay and less hours to take care of my sick parents was the only thing that helped.
28:14 yes. Cute. Not that baffling of an idea that people can find things appealing that you don't like. So yes, cute.
I don't think people who dislike dogs and cats are commenting "you think your kitten is CUTE?"
For the second story, this is also a red flag for the mum. For her to believe it's her place to get involved in her son's argument with his gf is wild. She never should have messaged in the first place, no matter whose side she's on. Not your business lady.
This! Don't get me wrong, of course I vent to my mam about relationship stuff, but she would never involve herself in it. And if she did I would be so pissed off at her for it
For the perfume story: I swear men are so weird when it comes to money and not being able to afford things. Like it feels very obvious that on the boyfriend’s part, he saw how much the perfume was and got embarrassed by the fact that he couldn’t afford it so much so that he didn’t tell his girlfriend that he couldn’t afford it even though she told him multiple times that it would be OK if you couldn’t because she would just buy herself like she was planning on doing. I’ve heard so many stories like this and it’s a really weird pride thing on the guys part to the point where it almost feels emasculating when they can’t afford something for their significant other.
A show on the life of the guy w the messy star sign situation should be called “The fault in my stars” 😂
I legit just slow-clapped reading this comment. WELL done.
Honestly I think that story would be a great K-drama
I love how for the astrology one, I immediately was like "that's such a Libra thing to do" as a joke, along with the redditors it seems & then they were actually a Libra. But if they were a Scorpio, that would make sense too. But I also only base that on a very basic knowledge & don't take it very seriously. I just know Libra & Aries are similar and being right is our personality lol
“Being right is our personality” LMAO that’s great dude
The engagement ring story had an adorable ending… its giving “gift of the magi” vibes
“i don’t think among us is the right thing to start in the first year of dating” 😭 being chronically offline makes her so wise
i always look forward to shayne's introduction of the guests describing them according to the theme like huge liars, worst people i know, people with the most red flags and such i love it
Same! Also awesome to see fellow ARMY smosh fans! 💜
@@JeonLife93omg hell yeah !! 💜
As a virgo, I also don't care about astrology, but most of my closest friends do. I love when they do tarot readings for me because I love to see them excited.