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  • Dr. Phil has words of advice for a man who is at odds with his family and has a son addicted to drugs.
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  • @9000ck
    @9000ck 5 років тому +8179

    He's one of the most extreme narcissists I have ever seen.

    • @jmendii
      @jmendii 5 років тому +305

      I think that's why he agreed to go on the show. He had deluded himself to such a degree that he really thought he could go on the show and get everyone on his side. Most narcissists avoid all types of therapy like the plague, especially something as public as Dr. Phil. They'll say something along the lines of, "I don't want to be in a situation where I'm just going to be blamed and criticized unfairly."

    • @ericaschaidt8588
      @ericaschaidt8588 5 років тому +80

      jmendii he even said something to that effect here. When asked why he hasn’t asked questions to figure out how to help his son he said “I was going to if I wasn’t attacked, but the second I came out here I was attacked so I had to defend myself “

    • @louisemckimm3052
      @louisemckimm3052 5 років тому +11

      Agree 100%

    • @pash91
      @pash91 5 років тому +10

      Dr Phil? yeah but we've known that for years!

    • @phantomvampyressshadowkiss4690
      @phantomvampyressshadowkiss4690 5 років тому +10

      He sounds like my mil. Always a victim

  • @Excremental_Discharge
    @Excremental_Discharge 5 років тому +4031

    This man isnt a father......he isnt even a man
    He's an embarrassment

  • @syq.
    @syq. 5 років тому +5853

    “Your son was on drugs since he was 10” “He was 12 don’t be ridiculous”

    • @Megalaglag
      @Megalaglag 5 років тому +496

      That is called a bruh moment.

    • @enriquesuarez7113
      @enriquesuarez7113 5 років тому +139

      he did not say “don’t be ridiculous” you added that

    • @jennybarrett5835
      @jennybarrett5835 5 років тому +11

      Lol

    • @reneeleese
      @reneeleese 5 років тому +99

      No stress that’s the joke
      Wooosh

    • @enriquesuarez7113
      @enriquesuarez7113 5 років тому +16

      Professor R. Chaos no its isnt, he added it as part of the quote

  • @TenThumbsProductions
    @TenThumbsProductions 4 роки тому +2221

    Maybe the most hopeless person I’ve ever seen on this show.

    • @afrain1afrain186
      @afrain1afrain186 4 роки тому +36

      This guy acts like he’s a victim when he’s done nothing but abuse the family so much he’s such a horrible person good thing this guy got exposed.

    • @hhougaard4369
      @hhougaard4369 4 роки тому +4

      1:23 that expression is priceelessss

    • @kp.l4795
      @kp.l4795 3 роки тому +3

      @@hhougaard4369 Is he in jail. cause i hope he is.

    • @campbellssoup2742
      @campbellssoup2742 3 роки тому +1

      I think dr. Phil's exploitation of watchable content approach was not very productive. There's a way of getting him to admit to himself and move on to the future instead of trying to get him to admit terrible crimes infront of the entire nation. He set him up for defensive reflection and in turn this guy is never going to trust anything he says and will probably create a worse atmosphere for this guy to be able to have a productive relationship with his son.

  • @domina7909
    @domina7909 4 роки тому +1804

    That whole family needs to pack up and leave him. He's a toxic narcissist.

    • @mysteryfan15
      @mysteryfan15 4 роки тому +66

      The kids need to get away from both of their parents. The mom is a serious enabler.

    • @arilizart9375
      @arilizart9375 4 роки тому +15

      Lol 100% agree, honestly the whole family should split. Get everyone a new start in life, hopefully for the better

    • @FishyDaGamer
      @FishyDaGamer 4 роки тому +12

      I feel bad for the mom because she feels like she can’t leave, but she could’ve done so much more

    • @taslimaishmael1598
      @taslimaishmael1598 4 роки тому +4

      That's all I was thinking...nar.ci.sist

    • @KHKH-zp7cq
      @KHKH-zp7cq 4 роки тому

      Dr Phil offers a spine kit to all guests on every episode. “A crisis doesn’t create character, it reveals it”

  • @coffeeaddictexpress5038
    @coffeeaddictexpress5038 5 років тому +3667

    The way he talked under his breath the whole time is infuriating. He didn’t listen to one word Dr. Phil said. Luckily his daughter seems very strong despite him or yet spite him. She was only one who truly was concerned for her brother.

    • @Celebok
      @Celebok 5 років тому +61

      It sounds like he's trying to point out how everything Dr. Phil says is wrong, so that he can mentally tell himself that Dr. Phil doesn't know what he's talking about, and therefore he doesn't have to listen to him.

    • @humanearthling4661
      @humanearthling4661 5 років тому +5

      It was Dr. Phil that kept interrupting the man he was interrogating....this was not an interview by any stretch of the imagination....

    • @denisefallin8042
      @denisefallin8042 5 років тому +32

      He is a narcissist. I work mental health. He is arrogant and unteachable

    • @brianbritton1694
      @brianbritton1694 5 років тому +3

      I hope everyone keeps the likes at 666.

    • @humanearthling4661
      @humanearthling4661 5 років тому +1

      @-- The way you express yourself one must guess at who you mean to be defining as arrogant and unteachable.....I perceive that Dr. Phil is the one that

  • @kittensure8834
    @kittensure8834 5 років тому +4532

    "I wrote my wife a 17 page letter"
    Dr. Phil: "I'm surprised it was that short"
    😂🤣😂😂

    • @joanna9014
      @joanna9014 5 років тому +32

      savage

    • @mm-fi4ge
      @mm-fi4ge 5 років тому +124

      I bet he wrote the words "I" and "me" about 10000 times in that letter.

    • @kittensure8834
      @kittensure8834 5 років тому +42

      m & m Lol! and he probably wrote I’m right you’re wrong in 10 different ways

    • @vodanykey_5780
      @vodanykey_5780 5 років тому +23

      Also, the font size was 9, with single spaced lines.

    • @mixwb
      @mixwb 4 роки тому +11

      17 page letter, he sent her a book man 😂😂😂😂

  • @momgamer1491
    @momgamer1491 4 роки тому +2116

    Why did he IMMEDIATELY jump to the question of sexual abuse?! Does he have something hidden within himself that he doesn't want to admit to?

    • @daniellarusso4808
      @daniellarusso4808 4 роки тому +45

      I was thinking that too

    • @muggerpugger3231
      @muggerpugger3231 4 роки тому +99

      Yeah he does, when you bring up something that you supposedly didn't do even though it isn't relevant, it is usually a person lying that they didn't do something.

    • @weltonvillegal6258
      @weltonvillegal6258 4 роки тому +7

      Oh yeah.

    • @Namelezz_Guy
      @Namelezz_Guy 4 роки тому +15

      Imo I just think he's a dumbass who's slow in the head. There's a name for that..... I just can't seem to recall.... Oh yes now I remember it's called *BIDEN SYNDROME* 😂

    • @enriquesuarez7113
      @enriquesuarez7113 4 роки тому +11

      You taking him out of context because you want him to be the bad guy. He didn't mean it as a statement, people didn't let him finish his point, he did not sexually assault his daughter, he was making a point of what teachers meant by abuse.

  • @Music-xb2lx
    @Music-xb2lx 4 роки тому +1041

    I read somewhere something like “When a toxic person can no longer have control over you they’ll try to control how others see you.”
    And that is exactly what this man has done with his family.

  • @queenfozza752
    @queenfozza752 4 роки тому +315

    “You are part of the problem not the solution”
    GET HIM DR PHIL

  • @debiblood8271
    @debiblood8271 5 років тому +2126

    I'm going to need therapy after watching this.

    • @planetsj527
      @planetsj527 4 роки тому +39

      Bruh, why is this a mood tho

    • @Urfavskye
      @Urfavskye 4 роки тому +12

      I already have one 🤭

    • @jackblack3718
      @jackblack3718 4 роки тому +63

      The only relief I get from watching this is that 1) this man is exposed, 2) his family are getting help and 3) none of us have to live with him.

    • @lovenliven1111
      @lovenliven1111 4 роки тому +5

      For real!!

    • @urafail2menow830
      @urafail2menow830 4 роки тому +4

      😂😂

  • @Fefesibbs
    @Fefesibbs 5 років тому +1090

    He wants the audience to clap for him so bad, you can tell... he’s dying inside.

    • @CyeOutsider
      @CyeOutsider 5 років тому +134

      He is utterly convinced that he's in the right and the victim in this situation. He's a classic narcissist.

    • @fhantasm
      @fhantasm 5 років тому +31

      Why isn't he literally dying though? This makes me sad lol.

    • @bridgieoh9326
      @bridgieoh9326 4 роки тому +10

      He reminds me of Trump. Trump throws rallies to get his ego fluffed. This guy doesn't have our tax dollars to do the same.

    • @andrewchiarelli2420
      @andrewchiarelli2420 7 місяців тому

      ​@@bridgieoh9326 clown comment

  • @gingerbrew7046
    @gingerbrew7046 5 років тому +1921

    “My daughter is entitled and belligerent”... wonder where she picked up those nasty traits. (Even though she is not like him at all).

    • @Cabledeluz1977
      @Cabledeluz1977 5 років тому +82

      Ginger Brew but she’s not either of those things. He prefers to tear down his family every 10 seconds to stroke his self esteem.

    • @gingerbrew7046
      @gingerbrew7046 5 років тому +51

      Tim Caudle You are correct, I saw the video of her. She seems very forthcoming and calm. I guess my statement was more like “ if you really do feel this way about your daughter, where do you think she got it from?”

    • @ha8236
      @ha8236 5 років тому +40

      it's basic psychological projection, he is trying to put on others what he is himself.

    • @ericaschaidt8588
      @ericaschaidt8588 5 років тому +3

      H A precisely

    • @wannabecarguy
      @wannabecarguy 5 років тому +2

      @@ha8236 however the kids will pickup his traits.

  • @CUBKITS
    @CUBKITS 4 роки тому +344

    "Tell me what I'm doing!"
    "Here I'll tell you what you're doing..."
    "No, no, no, no, nope, no"

  • @hajimedangovt
    @hajimedangovt 4 роки тому +537

    “He’s been on drugs since he was ten”
    “It was 12”
    Oh, right, that’s so much better! Lol this guys a joke

    • @dysfunctional_deviant6681
      @dysfunctional_deviant6681 4 роки тому +7

      I was thinking the same thing. "Oh really? Well in that case, I guess he's fine."

  • @kerrichristian7991
    @kerrichristian7991 5 років тому +936

    I really don’t know how Dr. Phil has the patience to not just punch this man in the face. This is absolutely infuriating. He needs to be sent to a farm, instead of the ranch. He belongs with the rest of the pigs.

    • @rosaleeharris9251
      @rosaleeharris9251 5 років тому +6

      Yup.

    • @theoldbag6531
      @theoldbag6531 5 років тому +16

      He might learn how to improve himself, living with pigs. (: Pigs are better people than him.

    • @leraw99
      @leraw99 5 років тому +9

      I think it's partly because he's getting paid big bucks for it but mostly because he can tell that the man in question has some severe, severe issues. I mean, look at his behaviour. He's acting like a cornered mouse throughout every clip - hunched over, eyes darting about, constant attacking. He's absolutely terrified, and he's biting at everything and anything reaching his way. Sadly, it results in him completely neglecting his son's sickness and acting out on his family. The kid definitely could use some help to get cleaned up, maybe a month or two in rehab would be enough, but this guy's looking at many years of psychotherapy to overcome his own defences. What a mess. The sister seems fairly responsible, at least more so than the parents. Hopefully, she and the brother can leave and live on their own.

    • @viceb7
      @viceb7 5 років тому +1

      @@leraw99 seriously. He's exhausting but also still have a tiny bit of empathy because clearly he's got major issues

    • @bigbrain791
      @bigbrain791 5 років тому +1

      🤣🤣🤣👍💯

  • @tickledtoffee
    @tickledtoffee 5 років тому +1602

    I really hope those kids aren’t going to be in the same house as that man when they all go home after the show. He’s been laughed at and ridiculed so he’s probably going to be especially vicious. It’s dangerous.

    • @Nikkiwhatarethose
      @Nikkiwhatarethose 5 років тому +166

      I agree 100%. And you know he shows zero remorse, he doesn't believe he's done a single thing wrong

    • @dharmallars
      @dharmallars 5 років тому +36

      Someone please please, send these kids the link to r/raisedbynarcissists. Grey rock technique all the way.

    • @Stepatee
      @Stepatee 5 років тому +45

      That's real. When social services army style, caught wind of my injuries seen by a doc during my sports physical I begged them to stay away. They would only make it worse and unless they could take me away forever they needed to let me deal with it. It's so dangerous when abusive parents get called out and still have power over you..I hope they just leave this little mean man.

    • @tickledtoffee
      @tickledtoffee 5 років тому +15

      Stephanie Taylor I hope so too. I’m sorry you were in an abusive situation and I really hope you’re in a safer place now.

    • @aliciamuniz3171
      @aliciamuniz3171 4 роки тому +5

      Nicole B i second that. Dr.Phil is a straight up bulling and ridiculing this man in public. Regardless of his narcissistic behavior he is still a human being with what is clearly a mental disorder and can react dangerously towards his family in reaction to the public embarrassment instigated by Phil.

  • @bzcubes3061
    @bzcubes3061 5 років тому +3956

    "they tell you you can't sexually abuse them"
    literally everyone: visible confusion

    • @nameless7937
      @nameless7937 5 років тому +74

      BZ Cubes froidient slip at its finest.. 🤣

    • @DavidDaunis
      @DavidDaunis 5 років тому +31

      Nameless lmaooooo “froidient”

    • @user-ri3oz1hi4k
      @user-ri3oz1hi4k 5 років тому +13

      BZ Cubes-I understood what he meant...

    • @FEAROWNAGE
      @FEAROWNAGE 4 роки тому +8

      How telling.

    • @katm8128
      @katm8128 4 роки тому +12

      Nameless freudian* LOL

  • @milliepalmer932
    @milliepalmer932 4 роки тому +369

    This is so insane to watch. His personality is so close to my own dads, I feel so validated seeing dr Phil and the audience laugh at his behaviour.

  • @bekacynthia
    @bekacynthia 4 роки тому +175

    “I wrote a 17 page letter”
    “I’m impressed it was that short!”
    Dr. Phil nailed it 🤣🤣👏👏

  • @AshaGlenn
    @AshaGlenn 5 років тому +681

    Dr. Phil: Your son is dying
    Him: We've had an amazing 3 weeks
    Dr. Phil: Your son has been on drugs since age 10
    Him: Since 12
    ☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️

  • @Maceman486
    @Maceman486 5 років тому +861

    He tells them they are nothing without him, but he's nothing without people who let him control them.

    • @caipirinia
      @caipirinia 5 років тому +22

      Yup its constant projection and deflecting

    • @sarahmichelle6385
      @sarahmichelle6385 5 років тому +2

      Well put

    • @jackblack3718
      @jackblack3718 5 років тому +12

      He acts like he's a God because on the inside he's terrified, lonely and anxious. He feels like if he loses control for even a second, everything will collapse.

    • @luanab6789
      @luanab6789 5 років тому +2

      Powerful, thanks Michael

    • @saramichele7366
      @saramichele7366 5 років тому +2

      YESS!!! Amen to that

  • @karinr5168
    @karinr5168 5 років тому +161

    when his daughter cuts him out of her life, he'll blame her for abandoning him.... crazy dude. I hope she gets away from his BS

    • @rebecca8866
      @rebecca8866 4 роки тому +5

      My narcisstic abusive parents did that to me when I moved out. They said I was abandoning them and hated me when I was literally just trying to escape their emotional, verbal, physical, and sexual abuse towards me.

    • @karinr5168
      @karinr5168 4 роки тому +6

      @@rebecca8866 That's them trying to sink their claws into you. I hope you stayed away for your sanity's sake.

    • @ahuman3538
      @ahuman3538 4 роки тому +3

      @@rebecca8866 I’m so sorry that you had to go through that, I hope you’re alright now xxx

  • @simplyjayli2532
    @simplyjayli2532 4 роки тому +179

    Why did “sexually abusing” come out of his mouth when talking about his children

    • @raqlovejosh
      @raqlovejosh 28 днів тому

      As soon as I saw nic come out and talk I was thinking sexual abuse.

  • @blustgt8814
    @blustgt8814 4 роки тому +150

    He keeps justifying himself and blaming the rest. What a narcissist.

  • @maddisonrogers944
    @maddisonrogers944 5 років тому +602

    The fact that he brought up the sexual abuse with his kids makes me think he's had a weird past, he tries so quick to defend himself when he needs to own up

    • @LegendaryGoetz
      @LegendaryGoetz 5 років тому +27

      Maddison Rogers I think he’s out of his comfort zone and mixed his wording up. I understand the metaphor he was trying to say he just didn’t start it off very well. Then it was a word vomit to try and dig himself out lol.

    • @mayaw.4013
      @mayaw.4013 5 років тому +34

      Jesus Christ
      Women were so shocked by it because literally no one expected him to say “sexually abuse”. It was a very odd comparison & his word vomit only made it worse.
      & I don’t know what gripe you have over women but it’s sad & very transparent, dude.

    • @maddisonrogers944
      @maddisonrogers944 5 років тому

      @@LegendaryGoetz yea i agree, It just sounds bad for him cause he panicked and said it sooo wrong but oh well

    • @v1nigra3
      @v1nigra3 5 років тому

      Jesus Christ he made a very good point despite his madness

    • @TherruNoUta
      @TherruNoUta 4 роки тому +5

      @Jesus Christ I understand what you mean but please just leave sexism out of this. It's clear to me (even though English is not my first language) that he was trying to say something different but it came out the wrong way. Also the reaction of some women from the audience annoyed me as well. But I am a woman and understood that too.

  • @zammmerjammer
    @zammmerjammer 5 років тому +163

    "I tried to leave" =/= writing your spouse a 17-page letter detailing what's wrong WITH THEM
    This guy's son is doomed.

  • @lf3541
    @lf3541 5 років тому +825

    My God. I've watched Dr.Phil since he was on Oprah and have never disliked a guest more than this man. I try to see redeeming qualities in every person, but this man may be a lost cause.

    • @MG-hi9sh
      @MG-hi9sh 5 років тому +21

      There are worse than him, imo.

    • @MG-hi9sh
      @MG-hi9sh 5 років тому +17

      He's still awful though.

    • @lf3541
      @lf3541 5 років тому +11

      @@MG-hi9sh
      I like your name!
      And you're correct, there are worse...but not many.

    • @MG-hi9sh
      @MG-hi9sh 5 років тому +1

      @@lf3541 My username has quite a funny origin.

    • @lf3541
      @lf3541 5 років тому +1

      @@MG-hi9sh
      Oh! No fair! Lol!
      Now you have to tell me!

  • @rugaremarongwe7025
    @rugaremarongwe7025 4 роки тому +86

    "Afraid to be in that house"
    More like a danger to be in that house

  • @greenlettuce7
    @greenlettuce7 4 роки тому +58

    9 out of 10 times he opens his mouth, it starts with “I” and ends with me 🤷🏻‍♀️

  • @jamelessbameless2487
    @jamelessbameless2487 5 років тому +582

    “They tell kids today that your parents can’t do anything to you, and what they mean is they can’t sexually abuse you.”
    Me : *Brain.exe is shutting down*

  • @jonasnfun6020
    @jonasnfun6020 5 років тому +342

    I’ve heard that he’s still sitting in that chair defending himself...

    • @louisekerr9399
      @louisekerr9399 4 роки тому +1

      🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @missmew3499
      @missmew3499 4 роки тому +2

      Hahaha, this is the best comment!!! Congrats My Friend 🏆🏆🏆😂😂😂😂

    • @CocoaCatt
      @CocoaCatt 4 роки тому +1

      LMAO. Underrated comment. Here you go. 🏆

    • @GypsyGirl317
      @GypsyGirl317 4 роки тому

      Lol 😂 best comment! 👌🏿

    • @edwardsarhuda2595
      @edwardsarhuda2595 4 роки тому

      🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @jt7129
    @jt7129 5 років тому +276

    His brain is so convoluted with himself, he's incapable of getting out of his own way. So self serving and narcissistic.

    • @bverne5167
      @bverne5167 5 років тому +2

      J T he is exactly like my mum. Everything is always everyone else’s fault and they only act crazy “cause you made me”

    • @jt7129
      @jt7129 5 років тому +5

      @@bverne5167 My ex was the same. It's called 'gaslighting' they turn everything around to make you look "crazy" It's a narcissists main goal. I hope you can get the healing you need. 🌷

    • @bverne5167
      @bverne5167 5 років тому +1

      J T it’s so sad because a lot end up alone but still can’t see their own fault. Thank you 💕

    • @jt7129
      @jt7129 5 років тому

      @@bverne5167 So true, it's the nature of the disorder, they are unable to process empathy and can only mimic what's normal. They don't seek help because they are unable to see an issue within themselves. Fortunately, the victims in the wake of their illness can move on and find happiness. 😊

    • @lilegg301
      @lilegg301 4 роки тому

      no it’s not just that. from experience from my mum (this seems less obvious compared to her) i can see that he is clearly not mentally well... look at how he acts carefully. he switches and changes the topic erratically. it is not normal, it’s not only nerves. i don’t think anyone sees this. i have a mum similar to him. the intent is still self serving and narcissistic but to take this weird approach and have this kind of paranoid thinking, that’s not right. i think he needs mental assistance immediately before it gets worse. he seems to understand he may have done something wrong so I think he needs help, rather than just going to some ranch, before he stops understanding he is in the wrong.

  • @jilljohnson6506
    @jilljohnson6506 4 роки тому +30

    This man is incredibly frustrating to hear. There is no help for him, he hears nothing.

  • @kennedy78
    @kennedy78 4 роки тому +51

    “Your parents can’t do anything to you *starts counting on fingers* they can’t sexually abuse you...” I’m sorry WHAT!?

  • @Inug4mi
    @Inug4mi 5 років тому +120

    I totally get why his son is an addict. If I lived in that house I would be, too. You need a hazmat suit to go near that man.

  • @faceofavictim
    @faceofavictim 5 років тому +106

    True definition of a narcissist. Its frightening how many of him are out there.

    • @whateveryh2119
      @whateveryh2119 4 роки тому +4

      He's very intelligent too which makes it worse

  • @chichincheche736
    @chichincheche736 5 років тому +123

    I pray for those who've been through & are currently at this moment going through a narcissistic parent. Its no different then living in a box, no way out.

  • @canned.flowers
    @canned.flowers 4 роки тому +54

    1:17 - 1:45
    these lines. They freaking crushed me. I am in honest disbelief that he would even *bring that up like this.* This isn’t appropriate at all.

  • @lilovs9952
    @lilovs9952 4 роки тому +61

    “I’m afraid of staying in my own house” but wasn’t he the one punching his daughter?

    • @jennalee3995
      @jennalee3995 4 роки тому +7

      He probably is afraid... afraid of getting caught!

  • @peptisnobilis350
    @peptisnobilis350 5 років тому +181

    A narcissist can not be treated. The best that can happen, is they brake up and never see him again. My father was just the same... and what a fantastic three years now I didn’t have any contact.

    • @mswilson1531
      @mswilson1531 5 років тому +6

      I'm sorry you've had to deal with that. 🙁

    • @peptisnobilis350
      @peptisnobilis350 5 років тому +19

      Karm Asutor If you have dealt with that kind of people, that is very sad indeed. But once free, no more sadness. Children do not choose to get born in such families. Leaving a disfunctional and toxic person behind, is the only thing you can do. If they want to change, they will have to do that themselves. I’m 43 now... and if I head known at a younger age how toxic my father was, I would have been much further in life. He destroyed me all these years, and I stayed loyal. Not any more.

    • @peptisnobilis350
      @peptisnobilis350 5 років тому +4

      ꧁Ms Wilson꧂ it was part of my journey. No regrets, only lessons. 💪🏼

    • @mswilson1531
      @mswilson1531 5 років тому

      @@peptisnobilis350 That is a great view to take and very true. 😊

    • @sarap7199
      @sarap7199 5 років тому +4

      Same. Cut contact 13 years ago and it was the best decision I've ever made. Once in a while he'll pop up denying everything and blaming me, but I just ignore it. They'll always drag you down and never own up to anything.

  • @GreyPajamas
    @GreyPajamas 5 років тому +139

    Every time this guy says “Yep” I just wanna scream.

    • @daniellemcnulty6076
      @daniellemcnulty6076 5 років тому +4

      GreyPajamas it’s essentially his sad attempt at trying to control the situation.

    • @tjrw1620
      @tjrw1620 5 років тому +1

      He just doesn’t get it. And it’s sad.

  • @awalker2723
    @awalker2723 5 років тому +145

    You've got to love Dr Phil for his patience

    • @Wsportys
      @Wsportys 5 років тому +5

      He gets paid for it.

    • @marleneg7794
      @marleneg7794 5 років тому +7

      He was too patient with this guy.

    • @Wsportys
      @Wsportys 5 років тому +1

      I hate how narcissists get so much patience and tlc bc of their pathology. Dr.phil overstand that he will go fully blown narc on him it will backtrack all of his progress. The victims constantly are forced to play catch up with their lives with all the obstacles stacked against them. I agree massive pressure should be pressed with him, not like the wife she's adding to the fire bad

    • @katherinekurzius290
      @katherinekurzius290 5 років тому +4

      Yeah, but I also love him for letting his impatience show!

    • @tinabahena1254
      @tinabahena1254 4 роки тому +1

      A Walker the man should be considered a saint for dealing with people like this and not punching him in the face lol

  • @arilizart9375
    @arilizart9375 4 роки тому +51

    Dr Phil: “You haven’t asked about what we can do to help your son”
    “Thats because I have been attacked! My daughter is beligerent! She goes to school and they tell her that parents can’t sexually abuse her!”

  • @jaejamieson2647
    @jaejamieson2647 4 роки тому +21

    There’s no helping or changing this guy. His wife and kids need to leave and never look back

  • @andreariegler
    @andreariegler 5 років тому +67

    You can't expect the son to kick addiction when the most likely cause of his drug use is a narcissistic father that undermines his ability to get treatment in the first place.

  • @hannahrachelxo2281
    @hannahrachelxo2281 5 років тому +40

    I feel Exhausted listening to this dude for a few minutes. I can't imagine...

  • @judithneeley5229
    @judithneeley5229 5 років тому +216

    Dr Phil might believe this man can change, but I don't.

    • @GooleEnt
      @GooleEnt 5 років тому

      anyone can change if they try to

    • @sperez202
      @sperez202 5 років тому +29

      @@GooleEnt the key word in your reply is *if*.
      I don't see that happening with this guy.

    • @MG-hi9sh
      @MG-hi9sh 5 років тому +12

      He seems like a deflector to me. He keeps saying he's trying his best and he's been bonding with him, typical deflection, he didn't once hold his hands up and say he is responsible for the mess.

    • @annemariezammit5579
      @annemariezammit5579 5 років тому +8

      @@GooleEnt "if they try to" key words here but dude's not even listening so I doubt he wants to change, let alone try!

    • @victorpetrescu6586
      @victorpetrescu6586 5 років тому

      My biggest fear is that this guy is going to snap and take the family out with him

  • @servicepuppypaws5231
    @servicepuppypaws5231 4 роки тому +45

    He was on drugs since twelve.
    While I am twelve and still swimming in my FinFun Mermaid tail.

    • @gear1264
      @gear1264 4 роки тому

      Service puppy paws....

    • @cindy846
      @cindy846 3 роки тому +1

      That’s good. Keep it up, enjoy life 😊

  • @Mia-yx5gf
    @Mia-yx5gf 4 роки тому +43

    Grim reaper: I’m here to take your soul.
    Jim: What’s the context?

  • @jenniferb1786
    @jenniferb1786 5 років тому +7

    His children will need a lifetime of healing. That's the saddest part.

  • @justanothersmith6012
    @justanothersmith6012 4 роки тому +3

    This man will never change enough to be a safe person for his kids to be around.

  • @Vi-nc1cv
    @Vi-nc1cv 4 роки тому +50

    *How narcissistic do you want to be?*
    Him: yes

  • @cdrom887
    @cdrom887 4 роки тому +16

    Very Freudian slip on the “you can’t sexually assault your kids” take...eesh... ::chills down spine::

  • @MotherOfWednesday
    @MotherOfWednesday 5 років тому +18

    That boy doesn't stand a chance as long as that father is in the picture

  • @purpledragonstudios5174
    @purpledragonstudios5174 4 роки тому +27

    man who beats his daughter and son all their life : i am afraid to be in my own house 🥺

  • @daniellemcnulty6076
    @daniellemcnulty6076 5 років тому +112

    Where is dr. Charles sophy when you need him? He would’ve destroyed this man lol

    • @starmanda88
      @starmanda88 5 років тому +7

      YAS THANK YOU

    • @fhantasm
      @fhantasm 5 років тому +20

      Yeah. Dr. Sophy's death stares were needed.

    • @viceb7
      @viceb7 5 років тому +1

      Yes! I love that guy

    • @unplayedpiano7039
      @unplayedpiano7039 5 років тому +1

      Danielle McNulty Dr. Sophy Needs His Own Show. Whenever I See Him, I Know Someone Is Getting Ready To Catch A Verbal Beatdown

    • @daniellemcnulty6076
      @daniellemcnulty6076 5 років тому

      Unplayed Piano I would watch the sh** out of that show

  • @shanec9840
    @shanec9840 4 роки тому +23

    At the end, Dr. Phil is trying to appeal to his ego/narcissism: "I believe in you." It's the only way to get a narc to do what you want them to do.

    • @kristinwolf1165
      @kristinwolf1165 3 роки тому +3

      Exactly. Stroke the ego because thats all they care about

    • @kconrad5893
      @kconrad5893 2 роки тому

      That doesn’t even work.

  • @coleile01
    @coleile01 3 роки тому +3

    I need a nap after this. That man is EXHAUSTING.

  • @dropdeadDeb
    @dropdeadDeb 5 років тому +25

    OMG what an awful man, husband and father. He only is concerned about himself.

  • @sbn49ajc98
    @sbn49ajc98 5 років тому +41

    Dr Phil you have often said you have an obligation to report an unfit parent, where the safety of a minor is at stake. How about making that call?

  • @Atx.lee.23
    @Atx.lee.23 5 років тому +19

    Cause he doesn’t care, all he’s doing is denying cause all he wants is to be right. He doesn’t care about the concern of his kids. He wants to be right. Every time he talks he always talks about the wrongs of every one else instead of answering the questions. That’s a clear sign of his intentions to not take the blame

  • @katiesimmons7883
    @katiesimmons7883 4 роки тому +12

    Narcissists always blame everyone else, they are never at fault...I lived with one and I had 3 kids with him

    • @carlajohnson9369
      @carlajohnson9369 4 роки тому

      God I hope you're out. My ex systematically ruined 3 wives and 5 kids. And STILL came out smelling like a rose

  • @kenseihaup
    @kenseihaup 4 роки тому +2

    Had a father like him. He died alone in 2017 with none of his kids (he has several,) seeing him in his final days nor went to his funeral. And I’m still in therapy, probably will be for the rest of my life, which is fine, because I’m happier.

  • @Cooliron24
    @Cooliron24 5 років тому +19

    I can write a 17 page essay on this guy and that's based off of a 1 Hour episode of Dr. Phil.

  • @rhinestonecowboy9967
    @rhinestonecowboy9967 5 років тому +106

    no one:
    this guy’s nose: 👃

  • @CyeOutsider
    @CyeOutsider 5 років тому +112

    Classic narcissist. Throw that whole man away.

    • @andrewguerra9343
      @andrewguerra9343 5 років тому +1

      CyeOutsider I hope he winds up homeless!

    • @vugen9960
      @vugen9960 4 роки тому +1

      Andrew Guerra he will end up blaming the govt.

  • @branchyapple
    @branchyapple 4 роки тому +50

    *Random guy trying to find a restaurant*
    Guy: where could i find this restaurant, sir?
    Jim: my daughter is entitled, belligerent and she just does whatever she wants
    Guy: Uhhh bye

  • @katrinastar652
    @katrinastar652 4 роки тому +7

    “I’m surprised it was that short” dr Phil you genius

  • @vibingwithjess9920
    @vibingwithjess9920 5 років тому +35

    0:34
    Dude: “I beat myself up every time I do something wrong”
    Me: Not enough apparently

    • @ranstra12
      @ranstra12 5 років тому +3

      I bet he did! ... Both times! .... SMH

    • @andrewguerra9343
      @andrewguerra9343 5 років тому +1

      Unique Nation I say “either beat yourself harder or let your cellmate and future husband do that for you!”

  • @giants416
    @giants416 2 роки тому +3

    The sad thing is I am a step parent to two great children and both of their fathers are exactly this way. Blame everyone but themselves. Nothing is ever their fault. It’s sad really. Children need a good father to show them the way.

  • @cammi1130
    @cammi1130 4 роки тому +3

    Someone like him is so far from changing. My heart hurts for the wife and kids, hopefully they are doing better today

  • @zoxai9406
    @zoxai9406 4 роки тому +1

    Dr. Phil has the art of just letting people speak, and allowing them to reveal their idiocy without even attempting to get it out of them.

  • @NerdyHippy
    @NerdyHippy 4 роки тому +18

    He was so hyper focused on justifying his every little action, he couldn't even see passed his nose of how much of a jerk he is.

  • @trumpetmano
    @trumpetmano 4 роки тому +25

    This 'man' is insecure, immature and in love with himself...

  • @IdeasBecomeVideos
    @IdeasBecomeVideos 5 років тому +18

    Dr Phil is soooo patient. I was literally screaming at the screen at him. He takes everything and twists it to fit his narrative. Talking about he was gonna leave five years ago... okay and? That wasn’t the main point dr.phil was getting at. Uhgggg

  • @FateNightroad
    @FateNightroad 5 років тому +17

    The son is the one doing drugs, but the father sounds like he's on speed.

  • @keithhollett1979
    @keithhollett1979 4 роки тому +1

    "Your passion can be redirected to lerning new ways to relate and become a powerful force for good for his son." That was a mature supportive thing for Dr Phil to say.

  • @amypattie7004
    @amypattie7004 4 роки тому +1

    I appreciate that though most of Dr Phil’s comment sections are turned off, he lets us roast Jim because he understands it’s therapeutic.

  • @svtskys62
    @svtskys62 5 років тому +16

    "i was attacked" how about you focus on the importance of your sons health ?

  • @rachelmcfarland4069
    @rachelmcfarland4069 4 роки тому +25

    Hes exactly like my ex husband of 20 years. I finally left over a year ago when I woke up and realized it all. I was so fooled and backwash washed by him. I wish all the time that I had left sooner. My kids are so messed up and I blame it all on myself for being so weak

    • @Nettiezoo
      @Nettiezoo 4 роки тому +1

      Brainwashed

    • @kennymcds8933
      @kennymcds8933 4 роки тому +1

      You’re a good mother for trying to fix what’s been broken. I hope you and your kids are doing well

    • @carlajohnson9369
      @carlajohnson9369 4 роки тому

      He narc'ed the common sense out of you. Watch this old black and white movie called Gaslight

  • @thepearlswirl
    @thepearlswirl 5 років тому +34

    Yo. *A 17 PAGE LETTER* 🤣

    • @thefatpakyak2826
      @thefatpakyak2826 5 років тому +3

      It was probably 1 word per page or something

    • @katherinekurzius290
      @katherinekurzius290 5 років тому +4

      It was probably all about what was wrong with HER, and what he shouldn't have to put up with. And I'll bet that jerk actually expected her to read every single word of all 17 pages, as though they were Gospel!

  • @lemon_boii1074
    @lemon_boii1074 4 роки тому +2

    Honestly "you are part of the problem, not part of the solution" absolutely blew my mind.

  • @beautycrossing5584
    @beautycrossing5584 3 роки тому +1

    This man reminds me of my father in so many ways

  • @akumabazooka9169
    @akumabazooka9169 5 років тому +18

    This man will not change.. I fear for his children

  • @JZGreengo
    @JZGreengo 3 роки тому +3

    He’s crazy, I’m mentally unstable, he makes me look sane

  • @none25352
    @none25352 4 роки тому +68

    Don’t be shy, drop his last name 😌

  • @rebeccabriggs2982
    @rebeccabriggs2982 3 роки тому +2

    He could watch it back 1000x and still have no epiphany.

  • @samclarn
    @samclarn 4 роки тому +2

    I’m so grateful for my parents!!

  • @doobieddooo
    @doobieddooo 4 роки тому +25

    He’s still talking about himself. Smh

  • @ninaunderdue1430
    @ninaunderdue1430 5 років тому +8

    The memes/gifs from the audience are gonna be lit.

  • @peaceeshite3432
    @peaceeshite3432 4 роки тому +10

    *"They tell you, Oh YoUrE nOt AlLoWeD tO sExUaLlY aBuSe YoUr KiDs"*
    I-

  • @ashleyr1787
    @ashleyr1787 4 роки тому +1

    God this man reminds me soooo much of my father, the constant deflection, narcissism, it’s uncanny. I’m genuinely not ok after watching this

  • @keepmoving5141
    @keepmoving5141 4 роки тому +1

    I’m glad Dr Phil is who he is. That man can turn the situation. He just needs to conquer his fears and take slow steps.

  • @TellemJ
    @TellemJ 4 роки тому +13

    Bro he sounds like me in the principals office after the principal brought it a witness💀💀💀

  • @offgridjack5779
    @offgridjack5779 5 років тому +38

    He almost has horns growing out of the top of his head. Stick a red cape on him and what do you see?

    • @pamelalansbury94
      @pamelalansbury94 5 років тому +7

      Offgrid Jack even Satan would be like “dude, you’re an assh@le”

  • @zeqinglan4265
    @zeqinglan4265 5 років тому +24

    do you ever get tired of listening to yourself talk
    oH nO

  • @aspentrees535
    @aspentrees535 4 роки тому +1

    he reminds me so much of my biological father, its so scary how similar they are. im so thankful my mom did something and moved us away from him.

  • @via-anghelmagahum2586
    @via-anghelmagahum2586 3 роки тому +2

    I always like to believe that everyone has some redeeming quality that over comes their bad stuff…
    This man doesn’t seem to have one…

  • @kaileechartrand6684
    @kaileechartrand6684 4 роки тому +3

    God. He reminds me of my mother. I hope his poor daughter is getting therapy. She seems very eloquent and polite, I’m happy she turned out the way she did despite all of his disgusting behaviourx