Pulling Back To Reignite Attraction
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- Опубліковано 2 лис 2024
- How to properly “pull back” while in a relationship to create, maintain or reignite attraction.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who is disabled from a catastrophic accident about twenty years ago. His cousin turned him onto my work after a bad breakup and being in a slump for six months. It took him a year, but eventually he met his dream woman and current girlfriend. She is talking about getting engaged and living together, but he is scared that he won’t be able to pull back when they live together and she will get bored of him and lose interest. He asks how to maintain her attraction for him even when they live together.
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Hey Corey, watched your stuff for a long time. Read your book 6 times. Helped a lot. I appreciate your work and effort.
1 thing i learned most effective was putting the girl in her place by stating your boundaries and that certain things will not be tolerated. Once she starts to hit those areas, you call it out. If she doesn't comply, walk away. She then begs to come back. Showing indifference and coldness also impacts attraction. Assertiveness and leading the relationship as well. Learned this all the hard way.
Edit: I always go by the saying; no one takes you serious until you punch them in the eye. Don't actually punch her lol.
@@ericonelavancena9492 no matter if the girl is a feminist or has a feminine frame, you have to show her you won't take her shit and that you have a strong center (not get emotional). No matter if they are a feminist or super feminine biophsycology you cannot change. And yes, you can still show her respect and be genuinely caring, but you still need to keep a bit of mystery and be a bit unclear with your emotions and always set the dates, where to go, what time, etc.
@@TheGreatSalsaMan yes pretty much. I would always use the words "won't tolerate it".
@@HOTSHTMAN53 Just like a dog knows who is on the leash and who is walking the dog. You reward good obedience with treats affection but if the dog isn’t compliant and bites a human you have to get it put down no exceptions.
@@TheGreatSalsaMan love this bro. Thanks for the reminder
@@ericonelavancena9492 no such thing as friends between girls and guys. Simple. He's not a friend. He's an orbiter. And she is just waiting for her chance if you further show your weakness.
The pull back time is a good reset for me as well, not just the relationship/rotation.
Keeps me centered and on my shit. Your head can get lost in the clouds after awhile, the breaks help you ground yourself.
Thanks for the upload, Sensei
Dude I appreciate your honesty and understanding! You’ve changed my life and I’m happy I found you at 21 so it was easy to change
Pulling out to reignite the attraction!
Do this all the time to my girlfriend of 2 years. She’s absolutely crazy about me
Seriously how?
Bruh how
Of course as a woman, I can tell you that any woman would be wildy crazy about any man who pulls away from time to time its a huge turn on, but be careful only pull away instinctually based on you having a very busy interesting life where you have to focus on other things other than her e.g. business/es, interesting hobbies, friends getaways/adventures, family, friends etc. If you strategically plan to pull away & be pretending to pull away, then forget it, when she eventually finds out you don't have as much ambitions life, mission & purpose she will be turned off instantly. The secret to this is create a very interesting super life and pursue your musculine missions and come back to her lead her because she'll feel safe & comfortable in that way.
“N hl” and Corey are correct, It needs to authentic. This literally could be the longest post ever created... so I’ll try to sum it up...
You are the center of YOUR universe. Do what you love and invite her into your life. My girl is a just the cherry on top, not my focus.
This is coming from a ex “beta male, blue pilled, overweight, serial relationship, ignorant” man. Study game, study cory, study Rollo, study redpill, open your eyes -took me a solid year to really enlighten myself. My results speak for themselves now dating a beauty 20 years younger than myself, amazing persona, super sweet, smart, sexy, but still amazing “everywhere” men need it.
Did you really watch the video guys? If you read the book 10-15 times, you can be natural and would not ask him how you do it.
During the pandemic, I worked 72-80 hrs a week(Data Analyst and Technical Support jobs) and worked out for 2 hrs daily (40 mins weight and 65 cardio) along with cooking, cleaning, family and coding on the side. The lady wad CONSTANTLY complaining about me being too busy/standoffish. Corey is 100% right
Put your foot down bro!! These women don’t know what they want beside crabs legs and a emotional simp
Perfect timing I really needed this. I love when you do video segments on relationships that are long-term.
I'm learning that you have to find a girl who is independent herself after you have shed your codependency, or that "turning your gf into a mom" phase that guys go through earlier in life. She has to be on that same level where she recognizes that you both need your own lives and missions and its okay to have two lives that are independent even while being together. A girl that understands that you're there to compliment each other, not be tied to or complete each other, is the keeper. Codepency leads to resentment when one person can no longer fulfill the others needs, or eventual apathy if you change/lose yourself for you partner. Maturity, communication, self-awareness and self-reliance become the key ingredients when you're getting ready for that forever type of love/relationship.
You're about half right, and half absofinglutely wrong man.
@@I-Am-Wonderfulwhats he wrong about
coach with the intro is the best thing ever
I still do this to my girlfriend we have been together for a year and just had a baby. Thanks coach!
Congratulations to you and your on your baby sir.
Coach CW, this video came at the perfect time.
My lady tried to break up with me this past Sunday. Trying to take a small argument and blow it up so she could use that as her reason to end things. (It was because I don't help out with cleaning the apartment enough). Haha I called bullshit.
I told her that you don't just fall out of love because of one argument it happens slowly over time. She told me that she loved me but as of right now was not in love with me it was unsure of her feelings would change.
Thankfully some of my coach Corey Wayne teaching came into play and I remembered that you said women's emotions are like the tide they go in and they go out and they change from one moment to the next.
So I kept it cool and didn't whine or beg for her to keep me I just told her I want to be your lover, and I want to be in a relationship with you. I told her that I would change and write the ship and we can work on improving ourselves together.
After a 2-hour talk she agreed. Of course she made sure to tell me that she still felt the same way but I know I have the ability to change that.
So as of now I am fully immersing myself back into your teachings and hopefully I can salvage my two and a half year relationship.
Thanks coach for always being the book of knowledge!
Also, went straight to audible and bought mastering yourself and I am taking in all that stuff now.
My ex and I broke up bc we became disconnected...she was always planning. I hated it. One day I brought it up. We both realized it wasn't working. No cheating. I went back to the gym, started doing me. We realized we are just great friends and stayed living together with out any problem. Fast forward started pursuing women and found some one that is aligned with me. Focus on your self, everything will fall in place.
Timely for me. I don't have a #1 right now. Just lots of potential and a decent fwb. Think ima pull back and see who follows.
#2 (you’re #1).
@@JHM-nr6jg good catch. Thank you.
Guys, I am a nice guy! Always have been. And I always got friend zoned by women I was attracted to. However after following Corey Wayne's advice from 2018. I am about to marry in my eyes a girl who is a 9/10. I now have a business with a combined turn over of £750k annual. How? Because I look out for number one and always will. And tbh guys, I'm a strong 6 out of 10 😂.
Thank you Corey for helping me propel into the stratosphere and achieve only what I use to dream of!
You’re at least a 7 brother
@@SomeGamer1111 ❤️
Hows it going so far?
this is an awesome video. Once you move in together you cant fake it anymore. Love the content as always
Great video. Currently running into this myself. Needed this as a reminder and as a kick in the ass.
I’d like to hear coach cross reference things like anxious attachment style, abandonment trauma, low self esteem etc. It seems to me, this is at the core of why men over pursue women.
Yea bro took me 30 years to figure out I actually have abandonment trauma which is why when I would sense something wrong things would go to shit cause my brain would activate all the neural pathways of the trauma and produce some really intense feelings.. I've started healing little over 5 months ago and man things are so much better, but I am still not fully healed where I can be 100% in my masculine frame.. but lately I'm far less affected by breakups in general
Relationships are the Bizarro World of human behaviour.
its like be natural in a certain way or else everything fails and you are single again. kinda like a facade
I find that women response very well when you are extremely direct right off the bat, like within a few minutes of talking. It catches them off guard and is a breath of fresh air for them. They see it as confidence when in reality it's just you being honest and not having fear. Or she will be offended and stop talking to you, which she would have wasted your time anyway. A great system to execute.
Exactly
“Pain is life’s way of letting you know you’re not doing it right”
Something about that intro and the classic backdrop just slaps different
Be extremely direct right off the bat. Make your intentions clear. Do not give her compliments during this. It's about you and what you want. Do not say you want a girlfriend. Say something like "You need to come over soon to hang out". This is cutting to the chase, by inviting to your home, not a lame ass date. This will weed them out quick and the ones who like you will accept.
Also, do not ASK if she wants to do something. Do not say "Do you want to come over sometime?". Never give her the opportunity to lead the relationship. She doesn't want to anyway! TELL her what WILL happen. Assume the sale. If she walks away, then laugh because it is rather funny being so direct with someone you don't even know. I find it entertaining and I also pull extremely hot 10s as well. You are the man. Women will be shocked at your masculinity in this world full of blue pill men.
Love it man!
The only woman that will come over to your house straight away are the ones for the streets
@@WaseemKhan-iu4bh yes of course for the very first meet up. But numerous times I have gone out and just walked around the store or something simple and they have come over afterwards on the first date. If you have your stuff together as a man then even a good girl will not pass up the opportunity. You have to be an opportunity for women seeing that they love opportunistically, especially at the beginning. It all goes back to improving yourself as a man. That is the only solution.
I will add one thing to be fair. Whether you are handsome or not changes the scenario drastically. Unfortunately that is something but we are born with for the most part.
My only logic is if we find ourselves slipping into previous sloppy behaviours. Keep Corey's book front of mind and read. Get the attitude of 10-15 times out of your head. Use it as a life long refreshment tool. I should of bought the hard back copy.
Hi Chris
I need advice if can help me out..
I wish to know how we Man should react with words or respond with action
1) on my Birthday she did not get me a Birthday Gift and only a Slice cake that clearly she didnt prepare in advance
I react badly by saying where is my Birthday present and why my Birthday is miserable with just a slice cake…
What i did for her Birthday I spend $$$ and a proper Birthday with fireworks candle ..by the sea front …she was very happy …but I told her I didnt buy her any Birthday gift because she didnt even bother to reciprocate
I know I feel like Shit and act like Shit
What should I had said and do?
2) One day I went haircut she got herself a Take Out fast food for herself ..she used to include dinner for me but this comeback together after the breakup..she didn’t invest much on me and put little effort.
I called her out where is my dinner that she got for herself only …I felt so bad she used to share and we eat together Take Out but this time unlike all our 7 years she prefer to go home and eat alone ….leaving myself to eat alone and get my own take out..I am ok but I felt Bitter why she said she love me but her action is Not much
In the past 7 years it very natural to date and text her …but now she withdraw 80% ..
3) she told me she would be sociable when I saw one her picture in her phone she with a guy in the gym
What would a Alpha Musculine man do ?
Please help..Thank you
Yeah, but it can't be a tactic -- it has to come from an authentic place. You focus your time and energy on building your own fulfilling life. Then you share that time with people who invest in you.
This is a strong comment! You are absolutely right. Give what you get.
You’ve just helped me and made a lot, very clear!
I found a new woman, now the old one wont leave me alone. I hate it cause I love the the last one but when I'm all into her,she doesn't like me. Their minds are fucked.
Lmao
This is how it always works bro 😎. This is why when you want them back, don’t grovel, just move on and bang their friends and they come crawling back into your life, if you even want them anymore honestly
I get this too. My wife acts like she doesnt like me when Im into her. When I pull away - then there she is... Being cute and creative as possible...
My dad used to tell me when I was in my 20’s and married to just her on the car every Saturday and drive away, do something by myself… this was 25 years ago !!
If he’s worried about her losing attraction then she most likely will lose attraction. She can feel his low value vibes. You can’t fake it. Women know when your faking
That's what I love about women, but it's also kind of annoying at the same time ngl 😂
My ex dumped me after two weeks because she said she isn’t ready for something serious after being the one to chase me and pursue me and display affection and attraction first and asking me to be her boyfriend. Then once I committed to her she claimed to not be mentally ready for a relationship
You likely missed the part where you started being a nice guy to her and becoming insecure.
@@paschan or maybe she is just emotionally fucked we cant always blame man
@@paschanso damn true 😂😂😂
So you started pursuing and became a softy and didnt mention it
Austin, hit the jogging trails
Do some light jogging, five sets of 5 push ups and same with burpees, 10 if you can swing it
Do that 2 times a day , clean ur room wait and see if she calls you back, and if she does,great ,but keep doing that work out or ones like it 😊
Hi Coach Corey, how are you doing today?
Hi coach! It’s a great idea that you’re doing a podcast. I’ve been meaning to ask you that. I can’t wait to read your new book! Keep us posted about your podcast!
I don't have to much time on my hands because I'm studying this fucking book over and over...
I have done this before myself and the girl i had a fling with gives mixed signals. I did try to add her on Facebook in a “trial and error” trick and well it didn’t work. My bad. Well, this proves I do have power over her. Here’s the thing, she was looking for another guy right after getting dumped. It didn’t work out for us and she tried to get her ex back. Anyways, that didn’t work and the last of her mixed signals she gave was when we entered the car park at the same time, she saw me and bolted. So in a way, I got the best out of it.
This can easily backfire in a marriage with children. I know several women who are considering divorcing their husbands because the men are always so busy with “their life” that the women get fed up having to ask for husbandly presence. It’s called being married, but alone.
his advice is to be busy some days. but when you are there give ur best. make it worth ur time. he also don't advise to be absentee father.
I know. My point is that a husband’s perception of following Corey’s advice may differ drastically from his wife’s perception of involvement. A step or two in the wrong direction has increased risk of negative consequences in a marriage with children vs. one without.
Either way, you’ll find out because her attraction will either be increased or you’ll end up with a “walk away wife”.
Also, by the time she gets around to saying “honey, I don’t get to see you”-she says sweetly. She’s likely secretly peeved, but doesn’t want to make a big deal about it. Sure, you go out for dinner and reconnect with sex. This looks like it’s reigniting attraction and she’s temporarily mollified. But having to ask for presence adds up. Down the road. That’s when you get surprised.
I don’t think their husbands have a clue. They think they’re doing great.
I hope coach can do some more videos about how to deal with loneliness
Anchors of connection. Find activities and groups to meet people and actively listen to them and make connections
He would advocate going out and doing activities that invigorate you where you have a good chance of finding connections with like minded people, or striking up small conversations with strangers. Generally just being busy and not being too stagnant. Other coaches might be more empathetic but really the most effective solution is forcing yourself to get up and get out, because that is self loving action that sets you up for eventful days and less alone time where you may paralyze yourself by overthinking.
Unless you’re getting married, when a guy moves in with a woman, he loses “frame.”
Always great stuff Coach, thank you
Very helpful video, this is what I was looking for
Having a busy life then dealing with a woman is fucking exhausting lol Sometimes is it really worth it I dunno.
@Jax Callum Exactly honestly tired of this be busy do this do that to keep them happy it's never ending. Honestly in the end they will get bored regardless.
@Jax Callum I'm Single man been married once and engaged once I like to live a relaxed life im not gonna run around like a maniac trying to look busy just so a woman finds me attractive. I got my shit together and if they don't like who I am then can pound sand.
I thought this myself after learning all these dos and don'ts that Corey has laid out. Do I even have the capacity to maintain a relationship, and be spontaneous and do things right on my end on top of carrying out my mission and the day to day? Probably not if its the wrong girl. But I figure that the right girl who really is crazy about me and who I am will make it fun and worthwhile and not exhausting. So I'll just hang tight for that girl and not bite for anybody less than that.
It’s not. Two divorces here ✋
Time for wisdom :)
Cheers, my fellow 3%
Question. Matched with a girl. We had two phone calls. Great inital spark. Asked her out, set a date for next week. No texting. Followed the advice of using the phone for setting up dates. 3 days go past and I’ve not rang her as some stuff gone down in private life. Not heard from here. So this morning I get a slightly pissy sounding message from her say “good morning, how are you?!” . So I just rang. She was well off to start with. Ice cold. I ignored that and carried chatting, and after five mins of her stone cold treatment she chatted again and thawed. Now I’ve not met this woman yet. If she’s already getting the huff with me because I’ve not rung her that’s a bad sign isn’t it? I mean the bloody phone works 2 ways. We literally matched 5 days back, had 2 phone calls and have a firm date set and I’m getting ice treatment already because I’m guessing I didn’t call her. Thoughts?
I don't think the "good morning how are you?" Was a pissy message.. and even if it was you should have acted as if it wasn't because it's the man's responsibility to set the tone. I think you just got insecure and assumed that she must be pissed and reacted that way. You should have responded something along the lines of " hey I'm great , how are you?" And after acknowledging her reply to that question said " hey I'm kinda busy right now but I'm looking forward to meeting you on (whatever day you had decided)" and ended the conversation there.
You shouldn't have called her
Anyways... just hang back don't call/ text... do not ask if you are still on on the day of the date... just go to the date and hope that you haven't blown it
This is what I needed to be reminded about, coach. Thanks for the great content and keep up the awesome work.
Only men who highly value and respect themselves are capable of walking away from a woman, these characteristics are also what women want from a man; high value and self respect. Just demonstrating these two qualities will improve your life in all areas. Hypergamy is real, women want to date upwards, they want better than they have. You pulling back communicates that you dont need her and that you are higher value than her, making her chase you. If you guys need any help, just ask.
Agreed. But if they’re insecure (which most girls are) then this doesn’t always work and they’ll find a simp that will worship her. That’s my experience
@@DrummerMatt93 I had my best friend who put me in the friend zone blocked me on social media because I told her that I wasn't interested in being just friends with her. My best friend definitely has insecurity issues herself.
I just blocked a guy for pulling back. I don’t like when guys do this.
@@NotBenAffleck so you're not attracted to men who are ambitious, successful and focused on their goals in life?
@@dylan1159 Ohhh I am, but I am also successful and ambitious. I am a CEO believe it or not. I know it's easy to say that on the internet, but I did found 2 companies. I just don't have time for games. If a guy goes cold on me, I'm out. If I really like a guy, I'm not going to be put off if he is pursuing too much.
Ah yes! The old intro music!
Ikr? Ain't that beautiful.
Any advice
When they choose someone else
Old movies are the best :-)
The most videos I like when you back for the main studio Mr.Coery 👍🏽❤️
Its true that it's appealing to have a man who's busy, but not toooooo busy ;) to where other men giving the woman attention is a real Temptation 🌷, leading to infidelity... Mmmmm. Just a thought ... I've seen my friends do it. 😎
If so, that just means they're not faithful, monogamous relationship material. But hey, some aren't ready for that and require attention more frequently than one guy who is doing things correctly can provide.
Exactly if you don’t have time for your gf someone else will. Stay single, you cannot neglect someone and ask her to be faithful
A lot of chemistry we ready
Sir , guide me ! She backs away and stop responding my message after I did unfriend her on Facebook . I add her first , she accepted me , we chat too much , she was showing too much interest in me , she taught me how to cook in
suddenly I unfriend her , then I apologize her by flower picture . She doesn't respond me , pulls away. What should I do ?
If he can't walk he should take up an instrument or create art of study something he's into our mind is our greatest muscle
Just initiated hard pullback 1-2 weeks ago. Has always worked in the past (she would initiate contact), but intimacy almost gone now. My question is...Her birthday is in two weeks. Do I suck it up and wish her a happy? Or give her the gift of my absence? Thanks.
Man her attraction is going down if the intimacy is gone, your either being too rude to her when you tell her your busy or your being to much of a cold fish and not trying to get together with her in person. Read the book man
It's called fake it till you make it
You look like Dustin Pedroia.
51!!!
I'm 22 and I thought you were like 38 ,looool
I really don't care if she leave me, she can find someone better. The cat will always come back, all you got do is let her be
Hi Wyatt
I need advice if can help me out..
I wish to know how we Man should react with words or respond with action
1) on my Birthday she did not get me a Birthday Gift and only a Slice cake that clearly she didnt prepare in advance
I react badly by saying where is my Birthday present and why my Birthday is miserable with just a slice cake…
What i did for her Birthday I spend $$$ and a proper Birthday with fireworks candle ..by the sea front …she was very happy …but I told her I didnt buy her any Birthday gift because she didnt even bother to reciprocate
I know I feel like Shit and act like Shit
What should I had said and do?
2) One day I went haircut she got herself a Take Out fast food for herself ..she used to include dinner for me but this comeback together after the breakup..she didn’t invest much on me and put little effort.
I called her out where is my dinner that she got for herself only …I felt so bad she used to share and we eat together Take Out but this time unlike all our 7 years she prefer to go home and eat alone ….leaving myself to eat alone and get my own take out..I am ok but I felt Bitter why she said she love me but her action is Not much
In the past 7 years it very natural to date and text her …but now she withdraw 80% ..
3) she told me she would be sociable when I saw one her picture in her phone she with a guy in the gym
What would a Alpha Musculine man do ?
Please help..Thank you
I don't comprehend what you said. First you said you spent a lot for her birthday with fireworks by the sea (must have been the year before), then you said you didn't buy her anything. Anyway, how bad of a wuss were you acting like before the breakup? Why would she buy you dinner after your breakup? Obviously she found a more real man at her gym. You should let her go and really fix yourself man.
Most people say chest down, not Corey- nipples down lol
It's called the take away close.
So women get what they want then are unhappy and loss attraction...
How’d you tell that story about your friend while smiling lmao
Because he’s done the work. His suffering does not help anyone and in fact lowers everyone he meets if doing that. It’s how men used to be that has been forgotten. He’s teaching that plus much more.
Third
Guilty as charged. Happily divorced now. 🎉
Jesus, one's gotta be fucking perfect or what ?
I lost my chick cuz i asked for a 3 some
👍
Coach how does work No Contact after a second breakup?
Sounds like you need a second girlfriend bro.
work on yourself and dating life
Give her lots of time space no contact. Dont watch porn and get your vocal tone deeper and be a leader
Hate to be cold about it but ditch the b and bang her friend
Just act like she never existed and she will be amazed! So amazed she will eventually have to respect you and might come back.. .I like to use a two year rule if I do decide to interact with them . I only open up if they come correct and go from there. You have to see yourself as the prize because you are unless you are weak pu**y ..then go join a boxing class and learn to kick ass...best of luck 👍
No contact rule should be applied for specific reason as any other strategy.
If you're having a soup using a fork won't serve you well...
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So a guy in a wheelchair is getting two to three dates a week? I call BS
Or just do your thing and not care about women.
She's never the wrong woman, you're just being the wrong man
If I have to pull back to get her attention.. I'm pulling out and going my own way