Got a big fat nasty old 🚺 neighbor just like that🤢... Thankfully she's a complete idiot, she always 💭 she's being slick by always going in her front yard whenever I'm taking care of something but I know she's 👀 my every move like a nosey creep.She came over onto my property being sickeningly fake charming saying I could borrow her 100ft garden hose to water my new sod but I politely said I already had 1 coming in the mail & when she tried to say how pretty the new(& expensive) did was...I could tell she was digging for info & I generically said I had to get it because it was likely a code violation to leave the yard tore up from previous work.Her husband is drinking himself to ☠️ because of her drama/abuse & he got hauled off by a 🚑 days ago... She's extremely lazy and ordinarily makes her husband do EVERYTHING & I'm sure she's going around with a drag net trying to find someone else to do her work for her, I'm not naive enough to take her "help".
Related to this, beware the person who comes on too strong, too fast (as a romantic interest, friend, or work associate). Beware the person you don't know/just met who is *very* interested in some kind of relationship with you and engages in what I describe as "courting" behavior in order to get you to let them into your life. Honest, healthy relationships develop slowly.
@@Salman_Saho In the flea markey we call these types "charmers" always have something good to sell you which is really junk or trying to talk you down on price or degrading your best stuff. I pay no heed to them.
or the person who just wont shut up similar to the gossiper they just talk nonstop with everyone even if they dont wanna talk for a freakin hour to them, they usually have alternate motives.
@@Artur-sw8er So defective or otherwise, you don't think that what he did was evil? Not only to his victims but to his family his work colleagues and his community ?
I keep a very stoic and composed personality anytime I’m in public and at work. The less you engage people first the better and more peaceful life will be, you gotta be careful with everyone these days. And learn to say No for an answer.
@@Brosepha advocate for yourself man, most people are out to use you and see what they can get out of you. Stay firm about it too when you say NO. Don’t show any signs of weakness, you got this.
@@johnappleseed9290unfortunately that's how I see most in this world too.... steady diet of being taken too much....been there, done that...got the T-shirt 😂
The most dangerous person is the one who is JEALOUS of you!!! People with Boundary problems are not aiming to attack you ...they cause harm, but it is not their dedicated intent. Gossiping is a contemporary American phenomenon that was promoted by the success of the "Survivor" series on t.v. Liars, confused souls, selfish ignorant souls...all prove hazardous in different ways HOWEVER the one i dread the most... is the ONE who is Jealous. Jealousy is a horrible pain to endure and that person suffering such pangs will be highly, personally motivated to rid themselves of the perceived provocateur (however innocent) of their discomfort.
@@basketballfan5763 Agree! Sometimes another does impose flattery!! It justifies (for THEMSELVES) what they themselves desire of the gifts God gave YOU. However... some.. just maliciously seethe: convinced that they were robbed because you (what you are or have or can do) manifest what they deem belongs in their life. (Sometimes this comes from a biological relative - in which case moving to another city is a good idea)
jealousy is normal too. scapegoats I'm sure are jealous of the golden one. it's sometimes purposefully promoted by the narc. They key is to unapologetically not give a f*ck.
Steer clear of the angry aggressive type who gets off on stomping on & putting down those around them. Got one of this type at work. Guard your peace. Valuable message Daniel. Thank you.
Had to deal with this at my last job. Insecure, jealous, crazy and emotionally abusive person. I'm still struggling to get my head right over a year I got out of that hell hole.
In my 54 years on this earth I've encountered all these personality types at one time or another. Your description of them is accurate and they were all toxic.
Avoid the unhappy and the unlucky. The kind of person that is never happy with anything, and is always a “victim” of circumstance. Never taking ownership of their life.
The person who thinks they're smarter than you and has decided you are a side kick. This is a person who will suddenly start giving you orders in a casual way as well as dismissing your ideas just as casually and usually in public.
I worked with someone like this in my last project, and I had hoped that our supervisor would see that she was writing over all my work and drowning me out of group discussions. But instead, my supervisor decided to side with her and give me the worse grade, even though it was originally my project idea and this person completely hijacked it and changed it into something else. :( I really cared about this project and the field, so this has really upset me. She didn't.
I only have so many trips around the sun. I no longer have time for toxic people in my life, whatever their issues or personality problems are. I don't OWE anyone anything.
Beware of those who have no patience to allow a relationship to develop at a reasonable pace. If someone is coming on very strong right away, back up. Way up. All the way up.
Regarding the narcissist. The absolute worst one you may encounter is the malignant narcissist. They are so far on the spectrum they are practically sociopaths. They are superficially charming, they exude confidence and self assurance and are great conversationalists. If you first meet them you will think you've met the greatest person in the world. But under the surface they are sadistic, manipulative and love controlling people. They are truly the worst people you can ever encounter.
So true. I been the target of two malignant narcissists. I literally feared for my life at at times. One of them was my ex-husband and last week his current wife died of a self-inflicted GSW to the head. I can't help but wonder if he drove her to it.
1. Always acting before thinking. 2. No boundaries. Subjective morality is a bad thing, and those who reject boundaries wind up in bondage. 3. Someone constantly gossiping. 4. The uncommitted and double-minded, who say one thing and do another. 5. Classic narcissist, always needing attention.
😳...Very dangerous .. is the one who does not know you or has failed to control you .. but spreads lies about you and tries to convince others that you are a bad person .. even trying to influence those you depend on to do business with or want to fellowship with at a church. Sad to say .. many people believe the worst lies said about a person instead of getting to know the person themselves. This has ruined lives and kept good people from living a normal life.
I have never believed anything bad told to me about somebody else.. that is one thing I would always be suspicious of and check out myself. I've always refused to participate in being anybody else's flying monkey.. that's how you know you're dealing with a really bad person and you're involved in a big game. I think it's disgusting that this type of behaviour goes into religious groups. And I well know it does. I personally have been bullied in a choir in a church and in other religious groups that I've joined..insane!
Also narcissists know the day is coming when you will figure them out, so they spend their time putting you down aiming to rob you of your self confidence etc so that you will be glad they want you and think they are doing you a favor just by being with you. (And kiss their feet and worship them).
I'd like to add that maybe the most important take-away is not only to be on guard against these personality types, but to be on guard against slipping into these personality types ourselves.
Absolutely! Also, it's good to keep in mind that people change all the time. Sometimes for the better, sometimes not so much. Allow them room to change, look for actions to tell you who they are, not their fancy speech.
Deadly dangerous.. I recently met a guy on the street who managed to get my phone number by intimidating me coming up to my face.. then he proceeded to basically text the living daylights out of me.. and when I thought it was over I didn't block him because I hoped I didn't need to.. he waited 3 days and then start to texting again and I could be being paranoid but I thought I saw him one night late after a class but I think I was being paranoid because he frightened me so much.. he literally ramped it up in the space of maybe 5 days. He literally texted me every morning, then lunchtime, then by the evening he was ramping it up to sexual texts... Absolute needy controlling love bombing weirdo.. I wouldn't mind but I was not answering most of the texts. He wasn't getting the hint and then when I cancelled the first date we were supposed to go on he kept asking why.
@@basketballfan5763 please be careful. Keep track of their messages and ideally email the screenshots to yourself and a friend too. Don’t become paranoid but do exercise caution. The problem I have with stalking types - they are delusional and somehow manage to convince themselves that by stalking you they invested in you and now you owe them something. Then they conclude that this makes you a villain and they are the victim and now they are the wounded one and need revenge. I am serious.
Now more than ever before, it is important to scrutinize behavior in others and have good boundaries. Not being paranoid, but grounded discretion in all matters. Thank you for this great reminder.
The nitpicker who never has anything nice to say to you and always seems to find a way to criticize you publicly and make you look bad. These types also like to move the goal post without communicating with you and then act like you have something wrong with you.
You speak a lot of truth about people not changing even when confronted and how they'll always prioritise their interests first. I've kind of given up trying to deal with people's BS in a proactive way and I'm now just happy to let them fall on that same sword over and over. Let them live their own personal hell and focus on avoiding yours.
Said, very well. 1. You can control yourself when you cannot control anyone else. I had a 9 a.m. appointment this morning. I had the handshake and was ready with the cash. I wrote my name and phone number on a piece of paper and said, if you cannot make, please call. The guy never showed or called. However, I always have a Plan B, a pen, a note pad and a book available. This isn't a "personality type", however, it is the level of most people. 2. Understand that many people go around on the verge of a nervous breakdown. If the person is snarly, rude or unpleasant, try to defuse the problem. It is not aimed at you, personally, and it is just something you need to address if you want something from the other person. 3. Yes. Stay away from bad relatives. Relative - left the baby on the floor of the bathroom and simply went out. One day I am speaking about him on the telephone to a niece. I tell her never to get into a car with him or she will never get home alive. Her response was that her dad had already told her the same thing. One day a sibling mouthed the old hoary aphorism: "you can choose your friends, but not your family". I responded: "yes, but you can choose your relationship."
There is a group of negative personality traits called the Dark Triad. They are: Narcissism, Machivellianism, and Psychopathy. As you said, many ppl have some characteristics of these traits. Ppl in very powerful positions, often have some psychopathic characteristics. Some other negative behaviours include: ppl who are chronically angry, usually men who beat their wives/gfs and enjoy 'road rage'. Potentially very dangerous. There are also ppl in supervision who enjoy tormenting their employees. It's simple cruel malevolence. An example of too common 'bully boy ' behaviour by either sxx. Probably responsible for work place violence. For example: the Royal Oak Post Office shootings. Another common group are eccentrics. Typically seems to be a bid for attention, by being purposely weird or odd. Often difficult to deal with. Lastly, there's the socially inept, loner types. Likely a temperament characteristic. Usually harmless, but still difficult to be around. Ppl are very complicated. That's why, in the main, I prefer the company of dogs. They are simple happy souls who are always glad to see and be with you. 🤔🤔🙂
Oh my goodness.... I just wrote the same thing about dogs.... before reading this!! 😊😅 Yes .. and dogs offer us loyal companionship..... and withhold all the drama and complications of people relationships 🐶🐕❤❤
Eccentrics and Loners are a mixed bag. Depending on what kind of person is underneath those facades, they can be really valuable friends. At least in my experience. Ofc if they carry their own toxicity then keep them away.
My friend, u missed one of the most important topics and that's a toxic family. If u have a toxic family even talking to them won't fix them. U can be an angel born into a toxic demonic family and if thats the case do whatever u can and move far away from them even if it means moving out of the state. Alot of people get trapped into that saying blood is thicker then water and they never leave their toxic family and then they're health starts to explode and dissipate. A good friend can be more of a family to u then a blood relative, this is something people need to understand. Remember this folks and don't forget it!!! Thanks for sharing my friend.
Thanks for the video! Good advice. One thing that drives me crazy about some personalities is the ones that ALWAYS have to be right or if you differ from their opinion, they get crazy.
Watch out for anyone with addictions, the are ALWAYS the weakest link, no loyalty to anyone, and highly erratic and volatile to the point of being dangerous. The addict (drugs or otherwise) will screw you over in a heartbeat everytime!
Be careful of the ones that haven't lived it as well. That lump them all into one category as they sit on some high horse. Beware the ones that have defeated their past and will call out present moment b.s.
Why does there always have to be someone making excuses for the druggies?… That’s like saying unless you were once a child molester people shouldn’t blame you. Classic victim mindset.
Great observations and all true👍 I completely agree with the personality types. I try to stay away from the 1) know-IT-Alls unless they are always correct then I tolerate their boastful all about me personally. 2) multiple personalities you never know what going to happen and the uncertainty is too risky. 3) Debbie downer’s or the E-ore men that literally crush hope. 4) Toxic Type A’s I’m way too old to mess with that narcissistic behaviors. Honestly you got the ones I try to steer clear from. I have meet “Angry or always OFFENDED types” and avoid them like the plague they will put you in danger.
@@davide4392 You're right -- BPD and Narcissistic Personality Disorder have a whole lot of things in common. Known as "Cluster B" disorders. (Wish I didn't know so much about this stuff. Hard lessons.)
Be aware of the guy who is a one upper and has done everything the same as you if not better They aren’t necessarily bad people, but they’re full of shit and half the time you can’t take their advice serious Half is being generous, they exist in every fast life, even the military where I saw them quite a bit when I was active Duty
Emotional and mental abuse from these five types can be very damaging but only if it’s allowed! You have to have an emotional investment for these types to damage you. Play with fire- expect to be burned. Appreciate this content.
You've met my mother! Addicted to drama and bad boys, accepts no responsibility for her poor life choices and everyone has to rescue her or bail her out to their own detriment
I hate being ghosted. I hate ghosting people. Thing is, as I age, I'm less inclined to seek out closure with either situation. Unless someone is a part of my life in a committed, I have to see them every day way, I won't chase a person or deal with talking about being disrespected or having to walk on egg shells around someone who is insecure. Those are the things I won't 'discuss' or beg for someone to stop. I've tried that in the past and it's always been met with gaslighting. Now, I walk away. I'm too old for the nonsense. There are 8 billion people on this planet. I won't meet 99.9999% of them. BUT, there are literally tens of tens of people around me I could meet in this world who won't require my having to request respect.
The Malignant narcissists are very dangerous people. Also, people who don't open up and share their emotions are fairly unsafe to me. People who are so argumentative and want to always be right or throw temper tantrum are all red flags 🙄 😒 😑 to me. I forgive and distance myself from them 🙏
Along the lines of gossiping... beware of those who *read minds*. Meaning, the ones who assume another's motivation behind their actions. These are also the ones who will tell you how you feel, and what you're thinking. They are almost never correct, but are 100% convinced. I would also suggest that when we encounter people, don't assume their reputation is accurate. Of course, keep everyone at arm's length until you can make a fair assessment. Before giving them a label, be sure you can point to specific instances they have acted in a toxic manner, not just how others judge them. Observations and judgements are not the same. If someone says "they're crazy" it's not an observation. Saying "I watched them pretend to help someone pitch a tent while stealing their equipment" is an observation.
The boundary thing is really important, some will just start with small instances of disrespect to test your personal boundaries. It's a headache to deal with this because you just want to get finished and on to the next thing. Don't let this slip because they will just increase the disrespect. Never tolerate a boundary tester.
My measurement of people I come in contact with is to assess how I feel after coming into contact with. Am I uplifted? Do I look forward to meeting them again? Or do I feel drained and exhausted every time I come in contact with them? Pay attention to their body language and tone of voice when they talk to you, and their choice of words. Do you feel respected and supported? Or do you feel like a second class citizen in their eyes? I listen to my gut. If it feels good I'm happy to interact with them. If not, I'm gonna move on; I'll stay respectful to them when I see them but limit my time around them as much as possible. Peace of mind.
I've known far too many people with one or more of these traits. I lknow one who has all of them! If I have to deal with these traits, instead of avoiding them altogether, once identified, I have learned to navigate/circumvent any conversations or interactions. It really seems to throw them off kilter!! I consider it a form of entertainment. Thank you for this message! ❤❤❤
The smooth tongued scandalmongers of evil nature who ruin the lives and relationships of many good honest men and women. Do not carry their venom further to ruin good lives, unwittingly. God bless your good work.
Wanted to let you know that I found your channel recently and I find it very helpful. I moved to another state that is very different than what I am used to and I'm getting used to my new surroundings. I'm trying to not forget the saftey tips I learned and grew up with in the last place I lived. It is very easy to put your guard down if you move to a new a place that seems more peaceful. I am trying not to do that. Hope you understand what I'm saying.
Just disconnected from my folks narcissistic ways. One was a cop and the other a school teacher. Me Being almost fifty and them still claiming authority over me, and feeling they could treat me however they wanted and i was just supposed to accept it, kept me down, way down. What a stress on the mind being told to love yet fear at the same time is exhausting
Just quickly thinking about the types you mentioned that i know zapped my energy a little. Sadly the comments are also full of descriptions of others i know. We have to be and stay in charge of our households. I think about this often
Just a note, usually someone who tells you what you want to hear, is only serving themselves. Someone who tells you what you need to hear, is usually trying to help you.
I have a coworker who is quite the gossiper. I’ve stopped talking to her about my own personal life when I tested her and said I like a certain former coworker. When I heard it out of someone elses mouth I realized that she was that type. She’s also been trying to recruit people to hate her ex husband. I get it, he was horrible, had a baby behind her back with another woman and whatnot. She always expects me to say I hope something bad happens to him. I say the same thing about other exhaustive people. I hope they get stuck in traffic with uncontrollable diarrhea and frequent sneezes. He will stand in front of Christ one day and fess up to what he’s done with his life, and so will I. I’m not going to make gossip one of those things.
I know someone who has all of these personality traits, and she is a classic narcissist. Very hard to be around. Setting boundaries and sticking to them is necessary with her
The absolute worst type is the one who is totally irresponsible. They think the world owes them a living, the world should obey their rules, the world is unfair to expect anything from them.
You are like the dad I never had growing up. You give me the kind of advice that a dad should give their daughters to prepare them for when they leave the nest. Thanks 🙏🏻
Thank you for these descriptions. I'm familiar with narcissists; was married to one 24 years. He begrudged everything; every failure deserved severe anger and sometimes retribution; he burned through our money constantly. 18+ years after the divorce he's still trying to get at me financially or to hurt me with lies about our children. I've blocked him and don't answer his emails or calls when he gets through. He did me a huge favor, though: I can smell a narc a mile away; no one "love-bombs" me anymore. My late second husband was wonderful. We do learn.
1, 2, and 5 = psychopathy or sociopathy. I've dealt with one before. The only way I was able to break free, was to get into a fist fight with him and beat him marginally; psychopaths can't be reasoned with. He used to bully me during h.s. and younger. After the fist fight, he never dare cross paths with me again. #6, avoid overly friendly people. Most people aren't overly friendly upon meeting them for the first time. These types tie into #3, the gossipers.
Excellent Reminders. I am paying closer attention to how people communicate with me or not... and other behaviors inclusive or exclusionary with me. Keep Eyes Stretched and grow in discernment
Beware of the TOO NICE to be real, they usually want something. When they gain your trust and affection the taking and hurtful games begin. I swear, I think some are capable of putting a spell on some people causing obsessions that are hell to break out of as described in the book "The Dark Side of Cupid".
You sort of got it with the narcissist at the end but I would say vulnerable people that actually aren't really vulnerable ..they're pretending.. are quite dangerous. I have attracted two people..what I would call vulnerable narcissists. One is my now ex-boyfriend and the other is a supposed friend who I have come to realise is the most self-obsessed nasty piece of work that I've met in a long time. The thing both of them had in common was the bawling crying and making me feel sorry for them while they twisted me into knots where all I did was their bidding.
Surprisingly agree🌿 unfortunately we’re living in a dystopian world system that produces ignorant, emotionally impulsive, strong cognitive dissonance and strong self centered mindset people ❤
Remember NOT all narcissists are loud, obviously boastful, & in your face....Some of them lean more heavily into the covert type of behaviors by being the perpetual victim, trying to play the false hero/do-gooder, etc.Basically all narcs are a mix of both overt & covert behaviors depending upon the 🎯/time/place/situation.
Great advice/data in your videos, even backed with footage of you putting it into action personally in at least one case. I've sent several to a friend of mine, and I'll likely do so again because i think watching them will help make me and mine safer. Thanks man, you're doing good work!
Now you know why I'm living out in the woods and looking for land in the middle of BFE. Oh I can't stand gossips. Exactly if they are gossiping to you about other people they are absolutely gossiping about you to other people! RED FLAG. And I hate to say this, I'm from a family of four girls, and women are the worst gossips and that can be extremely toxic if you come in contact with them. I worked with a woman, this summer, in Montana, that lied to one of my bosses and then threw a fit when I told her the truth. She stood there, in front of me, my 2nd bossman, and lied and then had a fit and claimed I was stabbing her in the back, never call her a liar again, she tried to get me fired from a volunteer position as a camphost, and she tried to enforce a sit down, basically a struggle session, with her, me, and my boss. I sat through one of those and a second one never happened. It was pure torture to have to deal with that woman for the rest of the season (about 6 weeks). Absolutely unbearable. She had a script in her head and didn't listen to a damned thing I said because she was so focused on this script about how she didn't lie, she was good, blah blah blah.
Avoid people who expect you to read their minds instead of telling ypu outright what they want and mean. It's like you're constantly having to guess what they're thinking. Your mind ends up spinning 😞
Passive/aggressive people. People that are to nice. Pushy people, needy people. People who have no respect for themself by the way they talk, act, and look. Hey will not respect others, if they have no respect for themselfs.. Blazers. Lies. People who always has an excuse.
I ❤ your channel that discusses topic such as this! I learn so much & you speak on very good points. Please keep making videos such as this. Thank you 🙏
There are these people that will get viscerally angry if you turn on normal parts of your brain, and subtly attack you until you turn it off again. Specifically the ones that get upset as soon as you turn on high order pleasant thinking. Their reaction comes before you're doing anything, and they don't hate it from everyone just people who haven't "proven" themselves above them or something.
@1.10 People can take you out mentally and not physically. Resonated sooo well. I loved every word you said in this video. I sm already 👀 watching it twice today.
Beware of the covert narcissist. Those are the ones that really have no boundaries and no empathy
Got a big fat nasty old 🚺 neighbor just like that🤢... Thankfully she's a complete idiot, she always 💭 she's being slick by always going in her front yard whenever I'm taking care of something but I know she's 👀 my every move like a nosey creep.She came over onto my property being sickeningly fake charming saying I could borrow her 100ft garden hose to water my new sod but I politely said I already had 1 coming in the mail & when she tried to say how pretty the new(& expensive) did was...I could tell she was digging for info & I generically said I had to get it because it was likely a code violation to leave the yard tore up from previous work.Her husband is drinking himself to ☠️ because of her drama/abuse & he got hauled off by a 🚑 days ago... She's extremely lazy and ordinarily makes her husband do EVERYTHING & I'm sure she's going around with a drag net trying to find someone else to do her work for her, I'm not naive enough to take her "help".
🐍 Pit Vipers.
He forgot one. The control freak. These people are a nightmare once they get their claws into you.
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Yes I know 🥺
A classic narcissist is a control freak
Its more like all the people around them that go along
There's the harmless control freak and the bad control freak. Being a control freak with other people is bad. Being like a neat freak is kinda funny..
Beware of the very friendly guy, or the one who keeps praising you.
Add to that the “one that keeps praising you for opportunistic purposes”
Related to this, beware the person who comes on too strong, too fast (as a romantic interest, friend, or work associate). Beware the person you don't know/just met who is *very* interested in some kind of relationship with you and engages in what I describe as "courting" behavior in order to get you to let them into your life. Honest, healthy relationships develop slowly.
@@avenginggoddess that would be the greatest redflag of all to me because nobody courts me.
@@Salman_Saho In the flea markey we call these types "charmers" always have something good to sell you which is really junk or trying to talk you down on price or degrading your best stuff. I pay no heed to them.
or the person who just wont shut up similar to the gossiper they just talk nonstop with everyone even if they dont wanna talk for a freakin hour to them, they usually have alternate motives.
"Monsters are not under beds or in dark closets. Evil lurks and hides in the very faces you see each day, smiling through sharpened fangs."
I was doing a deep dive into Dennis Rader aka BTK serial K... such a good PUBLIC persona and a most EVIL mind/heart inside
Not evil, just defective and or predators
@@Artur-sw8er
So defective or otherwise, you don't think that what he did was evil? Not only to his victims but to his family his work colleagues and his community ?
I keep a very stoic and composed personality anytime I’m in public and at work. The less you engage people first the better and more peaceful life will be, you gotta be careful with everyone these days. And learn to say No for an answer.
I seriously need to learn to say NO.
Im getting used and run around.
@@Brosepha advocate for yourself man, most people are out to use you and see what they can get out of you. Stay firm about it too when you say NO. Don’t show any signs of weakness, you got this.
@@johnappleseed9290unfortunately that's how I see most in this world too.... steady diet of being taken too much....been there, done that...got the T-shirt 😂
But we become more isolated, we need balance and built back a more trusting society.
The most dangerous person is the one who is JEALOUS of you!!!
People with Boundary problems are not aiming to attack you ...they cause harm, but it is not their dedicated intent.
Gossiping is a contemporary American phenomenon that was promoted by the success of the "Survivor" series on t.v.
Liars, confused souls, selfish ignorant souls...all prove hazardous in different ways
HOWEVER
the one i dread the most...
is the ONE who is Jealous.
Jealousy is a horrible pain to endure and that person suffering such pangs will be highly, personally motivated to rid themselves of the perceived provocateur (however innocent) of their discomfort.
very true
These people that tell you how great you are before they try to destroy you
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Agree! Sometimes another does impose flattery!! It justifies (for THEMSELVES) what they themselves desire of the gifts God gave YOU.
However...
some.. just maliciously seethe: convinced that they were robbed because you (what you are or have or can do) manifest what they deem belongs in their life. (Sometimes this comes from a biological relative - in which case moving to another city is a good idea)
Agree about jealousy. Stay away from ANYONE who is jealous of you or your achievements
jealousy is normal too. scapegoats I'm sure are jealous of the golden one. it's sometimes purposefully promoted by the narc. They key is to unapologetically not give a f*ck.
The “know it all”who thinks they’re the smartest person in the room. Sooo tiresome!
Thanks for your important information, a public service.
If you are the smartest person in the room, you’re in the wrong room.
Dunning Kruger effect
Nice troll, bro.
Definitely. My ex was this way, and yea he is smart but everyone had to know that.
I have seen these so many and they are narcissistic
The constant victim. Nothing is ever their fault and they are accountable to no one.
And generally talk over you at all times... it's all about them and their problems/issues
@@Titus2-13 Amen to that!
That's my 54 year old sister-in-law who refuses to work, but demands others, especially my husband, support her!
Absolutely
Narcissists are victims, or they are heroes. One or the other.
Steer clear of the angry aggressive type who gets off on stomping on & putting down those around them. Got one of this type at work. Guard your peace. Valuable message Daniel. Thank you.
Had to deal with this at my last job. Insecure, jealous, crazy and emotionally abusive person. I'm still struggling to get my head right over a year I got out of that hell hole.
In my 54 years on this earth I've encountered all these personality types at one time or another. Your description of them is accurate and they were all toxic.
Definitely avoid habitual Gossipers !!
Avoid the unhappy and the unlucky. The kind of person that is never happy with anything, and is always a “victim” of circumstance. Never taking ownership of their life.
The person who thinks they're smarter than you and has decided you are a side kick. This is a person who will suddenly start giving you orders in a casual way as well as dismissing your ideas just as casually and usually in public.
Ya my now ex friend
Or pretending not to hear your idea right before stealing it
I worked with someone like this in my last project, and I had hoped that our supervisor would see that she was writing over all my work and drowning me out of group discussions. But instead, my supervisor decided to side with her and give me the worse grade, even though it was originally my project idea and this person completely hijacked it and changed it into something else. :( I really cared about this project and the field, so this has really upset me. She didn't.
How you portray yourself is usually how you’re treated.
I only have so many trips around the sun. I no longer have time for toxic people in my life, whatever their issues or personality problems are. I don't OWE anyone anything.
Well said Steve.
Beware of those who have no patience to allow a relationship to develop at a reasonable pace. If someone is coming on very strong right away, back up. Way up. All the way up.
I went through that. It's a nightmare
Regarding the narcissist. The absolute worst one you may encounter is the malignant narcissist. They are so far on the spectrum they are practically sociopaths. They are superficially charming, they exude confidence and self assurance and are great conversationalists. If you first meet them you will think you've met the greatest person in the world. But under the surface they are sadistic, manipulative and love controlling people. They are truly the worst people you can ever encounter.
So true. I been the target of two malignant narcissists. I literally feared for my life at at times. One of them was my ex-husband and last week his current wife died of a self-inflicted GSW to the head. I can't help but wonder if he drove her to it.
No probably about it.
Nothing will hurt you worse than a friend who is a false friend.
I want to avoid them as much as possible. I'd rather be alone then in bad company.
Steer clear of everyone. Problem solved.
Pretty much 💯💥💥💥💥💥
Yep!
😊 👍 good one
Sad but true ,the ONLY way to make 100% sure
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1. Always acting before thinking.
2. No boundaries. Subjective morality is a bad thing, and those who reject boundaries wind up in bondage.
3. Someone constantly gossiping.
4. The uncommitted and double-minded, who say one thing and do another.
5. Classic narcissist, always needing attention.
😳...Very dangerous .. is the one who does not know you or has failed to control you .. but spreads lies about you and tries to convince others that you are a bad person .. even trying to influence those you depend on to do business with or want to fellowship with at a church.
Sad to say .. many people believe the worst lies said about a person instead of getting to know the person themselves.
This has ruined lives and kept good people from living a normal life.
I have never believed anything bad told to me about somebody else.. that is one thing I would always be suspicious of and check out myself. I've always refused to participate in being anybody else's flying monkey.. that's how you know you're dealing with a really bad person and you're involved in a big game. I think it's disgusting that this type of behaviour goes into religious groups. And I well know it does. I personally have been bullied in a choir in a church and in other religious groups that I've joined..insane!
They believe the lies because they want to. They are not innocent players in this.
Also narcissists know the day is coming when you will figure them out, so they spend their time putting you down aiming to rob you of your self confidence etc so that you will be glad they want you and think they are doing you a favor just by being with you. (And kiss their feet and worship them).
It is infinitely easier to lie to someone than to convince them they have been lied to.
Ah narcissistic people...They have a way of showing you not only what they're made of, but also how toxic or healthy OTHERS around them are too.
Wise words from a wise man.
I'd like to add that maybe the most important take-away is not only to be on guard against these personality types, but to be on guard against slipping into these personality types ourselves.
Absolutely!
Also, it's good to keep in mind that people change all the time. Sometimes for the better, sometimes not so much. Allow them room to change, look for actions to tell you who they are, not their fancy speech.
Stalker types, the types who cannot take a “no” adequately, and the ones that make their emotions your responsibility.
Deadly dangerous.. I recently met a guy on the street who managed to get my phone number by intimidating me coming up to my face.. then he proceeded to basically text the living daylights out of me.. and when I thought it was over I didn't block him because I hoped I didn't need to.. he waited 3 days and then start to texting again and I could be being paranoid but I thought I saw him one night late after a class but I think I was being paranoid because he frightened me so much.. he literally ramped it up in the space of maybe 5 days. He literally texted me every morning, then lunchtime, then by the evening he was ramping it up to sexual texts... Absolute needy controlling love bombing weirdo.. I wouldn't mind but I was not answering most of the texts. He wasn't getting the hint and then when I cancelled the first date we were supposed to go on he kept asking why.
@@basketballfan5763 please be careful. Keep track of their messages and ideally email the screenshots to yourself and a friend too. Don’t become paranoid but do exercise caution. The problem I have with stalking types - they are delusional and somehow manage to convince themselves that by stalking you they invested in you and now you owe them something. Then they conclude that this makes you a villain and they are the victim and now they are the wounded one and need revenge. I am serious.
Watch out for backstabbers...The song,Smiling Faces,is very instructive in two-faced bastards.
I listened to this song today . It's the undisputable truth . 😊
I just experienced this and I thought I couldn't be taken in.😮😮😮
'Glad handing' mfrs. 💯
How is it instructive? Do you mean indicative
Beware of the pat on the back , just might hold you back
Now more than ever before, it is important to scrutinize behavior in others and have good boundaries. Not being paranoid, but grounded discretion in all matters. Thank you for this great reminder.
"Take you out mentally." That has happened to me.
The nitpicker who never has anything nice to say to you and always seems to find a way to criticize you publicly and make you look bad. These types also like to move the goal post without communicating with you and then act like you have something wrong with you.
You speak a lot of truth about people not changing even when confronted and how they'll always prioritise their interests first. I've kind of given up trying to deal with people's BS in a proactive way and I'm now just happy to let them fall on that same sword over and over. Let them live their own personal hell and focus on avoiding yours.
People who insinuate ,what they want. And not directly just say it, what they want! It feels manipulative. Stay, run from manipulative people.
Said, very well.
1. You can control yourself when you cannot control anyone else.
I had a 9 a.m. appointment this morning. I had the handshake and was ready with the cash. I wrote my name and phone number on a piece of paper and said, if you cannot make, please call. The guy never showed or called. However, I always have a Plan B, a pen, a note pad and a book available.
This isn't a "personality type", however, it is the level of most people.
2. Understand that many people go around on the verge of a nervous breakdown. If the person is snarly, rude or unpleasant, try to defuse the problem. It is not aimed at you, personally, and it is just something you need to address if you want something from the other person.
3. Yes. Stay away from bad relatives. Relative - left the baby on the floor of the bathroom and simply went out. One day I am speaking about him on the telephone to a niece. I tell her never to get into a car with him or she will never get home alive. Her response was that her dad had already told her the same thing. One day a sibling mouthed the old hoary aphorism: "you can choose your friends, but not your family". I responded: "yes, but you can choose your relationship."
There is a group of negative personality traits called the Dark Triad. They are: Narcissism, Machivellianism, and Psychopathy. As you said, many ppl have some characteristics of these traits. Ppl in very powerful positions, often have some psychopathic characteristics.
Some other negative behaviours include: ppl who are chronically angry, usually men who beat their wives/gfs and enjoy 'road rage'. Potentially very dangerous.
There are also ppl in supervision who enjoy tormenting their employees. It's simple cruel malevolence. An example of too common 'bully boy ' behaviour by either sxx. Probably responsible for work place violence. For example: the Royal Oak Post Office shootings.
Another common group are eccentrics. Typically seems to be a bid for attention, by being purposely weird or odd. Often difficult to deal with.
Lastly, there's the socially inept, loner types. Likely a temperament characteristic. Usually harmless, but still difficult to be around.
Ppl are very complicated. That's why, in the main, I prefer the company of dogs. They are simple happy souls who are always glad to see and be with you. 🤔🤔🙂
Oh my goodness.... I just wrote the same thing about dogs.... before reading this!! 😊😅
Yes .. and dogs offer us loyal companionship..... and withhold all the drama and complications of people relationships 🐶🐕❤❤
Eccentrics and Loners are a mixed bag. Depending on what kind of person is underneath those facades, they can be really valuable friends. At least in my experience. Ofc if they carry their own toxicity then keep them away.
@@SplagnetI’m a loner/introvert and so are most of my friends! We get along very well and respect each other!
Passive aggressive people. Those who won't communicate honestly but will sabotage you, cause you trouble, do what they can to make you miserable.
My friend, u missed one of the most important topics and that's a toxic family. If u have a toxic family even talking to them won't fix them. U can be an angel born into a toxic demonic family and if thats the case do whatever u can and move far away from them even if it means moving out of the state. Alot of people get trapped into that saying blood is thicker then water and they never leave their toxic family and then they're health starts to explode and dissipate. A good friend can be more of a family to u then a blood relative, this is something people need to understand. Remember this folks and don't forget it!!! Thanks for sharing my friend.
Thanks for the video! Good advice. One thing that drives me crazy about some personalities is the ones that ALWAYS have to be right or if you differ from their opinion, they get crazy.
Stop picking on the democratic voters😊
@@awakenotwoke2643 Lol!
I believe you're describing a narcissist. 😢
IKR!!
Watch out for anyone with addictions, the are ALWAYS the weakest link, no loyalty to anyone, and highly erratic and volatile to the point of being dangerous. The addict (drugs or otherwise) will screw you over in a heartbeat everytime!
Be careful of the ones that haven't lived it as well. That lump them all into one category as they sit on some high horse. Beware the ones that have defeated their past and will call out present moment b.s.
Why does there always have to be someone making excuses for the druggies?… That’s like saying unless you were once a child molester people shouldn’t blame you. Classic victim mindset.
You are correct. They will put their selfish needs above everyone else’s.
Exactly 'slayer 🎯
@@Demonslayer-vt9lm I was just about to make this exact point!
Great observations and all true👍
I completely agree with the personality types.
I try to stay away from the 1) know-IT-Alls unless they are always correct then I tolerate their boastful all about me personally. 2) multiple personalities you never know what going to happen and the uncertainty is too risky. 3) Debbie downer’s or the E-ore men that literally crush hope. 4) Toxic Type A’s I’m way too old to mess with that narcissistic behaviors.
Honestly you got the ones I try to steer clear from. I have meet “Angry or always OFFENDED types” and avoid them like the plague they will put you in danger.
Words of wisdom, Daniel. Well said.
People with borderline personality disorder are hard to deal with too.
However you pretty much described the people with BPD.
@@davide4392 You're right -- BPD and Narcissistic Personality Disorder have a whole lot of things in common. Known as "Cluster B" disorders. (Wish I didn't know so much about this stuff. Hard lessons.)
@@WardInstruments Yep and even the first 2 things he mentioned. People with BPD can struggle with those too. I have family members who are like that.
Impossible characters truly
psychprofile AI fixes this. Five personality types discussed.
Be aware of the guy who is a one upper and has done everything the same as you if not better
They aren’t necessarily bad people, but they’re full of shit and half the time you can’t take their advice serious
Half is being generous, they exist in every fast life, even the military where I saw them quite a bit when I was active Duty
Emotional and mental abuse from these five types can be very damaging but only if it’s allowed! You have to have an emotional investment for these types to damage you. Play with fire- expect to be burned. Appreciate this content.
What about the relative that wants to live like a millionaire and keeps digging a pit, and wants you and others to bail him out.
Total intervention time for sure
Tell em to kick rocks.
You've met my mother! Addicted to drama and bad boys, accepts no responsibility for her poor life choices and everyone has to rescue her or bail her out to their own detriment
I hate being ghosted. I hate ghosting people. Thing is, as I age, I'm less inclined to seek out closure with either situation. Unless someone is a part of my life in a committed, I have to see them every day way, I won't chase a person or deal with talking about being disrespected or having to walk on egg shells around someone who is insecure. Those are the things I won't 'discuss' or beg for someone to stop. I've tried that in the past and it's always been met with gaslighting. Now, I walk away. I'm too old for the nonsense. There are 8 billion people on this planet. I won't meet 99.9999% of them. BUT, there are literally tens of tens of people around me I could meet in this world who won't require my having to request respect.
"Disrespect is closure."
The Malignant narcissists are very dangerous people.
Also, people who don't open up and share their emotions are fairly unsafe to me.
People who are so argumentative and want to always be right or throw temper tantrum are all red flags 🙄 😒 😑 to me.
I forgive and distance myself from them 🙏
Along the lines of gossiping... beware of those who *read minds*.
Meaning, the ones who assume another's motivation behind their actions. These are also the ones who will tell you how you feel, and what you're thinking.
They are almost never correct, but are 100% convinced.
I would also suggest that when we encounter people, don't assume their reputation is accurate. Of course, keep everyone at arm's length until you can make a fair assessment.
Before giving them a label, be sure you can point to specific instances they have acted in a toxic manner, not just how others judge them.
Observations and judgements are not the same. If someone says "they're crazy" it's not an observation. Saying "I watched them pretend to help someone pitch a tent while stealing their equipment" is an observation.
The boundary thing is really important, some will just start with small instances of disrespect to test your personal boundaries. It's a headache to deal with this because you just want to get finished and on to the next thing. Don't let this slip because they will just increase the disrespect. Never tolerate a boundary tester.
4:23 " ...they like to meddle in other people's business..." CAW! CAW! CAW! 😂
Yes like these crows around here. Dirty birds
My measurement of people I come in contact with is to assess how I feel after coming into contact with. Am I uplifted? Do I look forward to meeting them again? Or do I feel drained and exhausted every time I come in contact with them? Pay attention to their body language and tone of voice when they talk to you, and their choice of words. Do you feel respected and supported? Or do you feel like a second class citizen in their eyes? I listen to my gut. If it feels good I'm happy to interact with them. If not, I'm gonna move on; I'll stay respectful to them when I see them but limit my time around them as much as possible. Peace of mind.
Very well said!! Thanks!!
Smiling faces sometimes, just as the song says.
The taker, the talker, the flatter, the risk taker.
"A lot of people who didn't want boundaries ended up in bondage"
On the other end of the spectrum, chronicly depressed people can be insidious.
I've known far too many people with one or more of these traits. I lknow one who has all of them! If I have to deal with these traits, instead of avoiding them altogether, once identified, I have learned to navigate/circumvent any conversations or interactions. It really seems to throw them off kilter!! I consider it a form of entertainment. Thank you for this message! ❤❤❤
The smooth tongued scandalmongers of evil nature who ruin the lives and relationships of many good honest men and women. Do not carry their venom further to ruin good lives, unwittingly. God bless your good work.
Important insight into those who would destroy your well being.
Wanted to let you know that I found your channel recently and I find it very helpful. I moved to another state that is very different than what I am used to and I'm getting used to my new surroundings. I'm trying to not forget the saftey tips I learned and grew up with in the last place I lived. It is very easy to put your guard down if you move to a new a place that seems more peaceful. I am trying not to do that. Hope you understand what I'm saying.
My circle other than my wife and kids is a dot.
😂😅😂 Good one, sound like what I have a dot of friends and I love it.
Just disconnected from my folks narcissistic ways. One was a cop and the other a school teacher. Me Being almost fifty and them still claiming authority over me, and feeling they could treat me however they wanted and i was just supposed to accept it, kept me down, way down. What a stress on the mind being told to love yet fear at the same time is exhausting
I got rid of these people in my life. I've been backstabbed, ripped off, and cheated on too many times
Just quickly thinking about the types you mentioned that i know zapped my energy a little. Sadly the comments are also full of descriptions of others i know. We have to be and stay in charge of our households. I think about this often
Just a note, usually someone who tells you what you want to hear, is only serving themselves. Someone who tells you what you need to hear, is usually trying to help you.
I have a coworker who is quite the gossiper. I’ve stopped talking to her about my own personal life when I tested her and said I like a certain former coworker. When I heard it out of someone elses mouth I realized that she was that type. She’s also been trying to recruit people to hate her ex husband. I get it, he was horrible, had a baby behind her back with another woman and whatnot. She always expects me to say I hope something bad happens to him. I say the same thing about other exhaustive people. I hope they get stuck in traffic with uncontrollable diarrhea and frequent sneezes. He will stand in front of Christ one day and fess up to what he’s done with his life, and so will I. I’m not going to make gossip one of those things.
I know someone who has all of these personality traits, and she is a classic narcissist. Very hard to be around. Setting boundaries and sticking to them is necessary with her
A narcissist has no respect for your boundaries. Dr. Les Carter on UA-cam has been so helpful regarding dealing with toxic narcissists.
@mattdonna9677
I have respect for my boundaries, and I stick to them, which is my protection
They're VERY competitive and have to BEST you.
I know one if slighted will destroy your property because material things are what matters to them!
Run away as fast as you can!
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Thank you, but I don't live with or see this person much. I just know her
Thanks for the video.
The absolute worst type is the one who is totally irresponsible. They think the world owes them a living, the world should obey their rules, the world is unfair to expect anything from them.
You are like the dad I never had growing up. You give me the kind of advice that a dad should give their daughters to prepare them for when they leave the nest. Thanks 🙏🏻
So welcome!🙂
Thank you for these descriptions. I'm familiar with narcissists; was married to one 24 years. He begrudged everything; every failure deserved severe anger and sometimes retribution; he burned through our money constantly. 18+ years after the divorce he's still trying to get at me financially or to hurt me with lies about our children. I've blocked him and don't answer his emails or calls when he gets through. He did me a huge favor, though: I can smell a narc a mile away; no one "love-bombs" me anymore. My late second husband was wonderful. We do learn.
This sounds like some of my co- workers.
Thanks for videos. Control freaks and people that are condescending.
Look within and find these in yourself first and then make adjustments accordingly.
Borderline and Narcissistic PDs are the worst. I’d rather deal with psychopaths tbh
Very good advice. It's all about facing reality.
1, 2, and 5 = psychopathy or sociopathy. I've dealt with one before. The only way I was able to break free, was to get into a fist fight with him and beat him marginally; psychopaths can't be reasoned with. He used to bully me during h.s. and younger. After the fist fight, he never dare cross paths with me again.
#6, avoid overly friendly people. Most people aren't overly friendly upon meeting them for the first time. These types tie into #3, the gossipers.
Excellent Reminders. I am paying closer attention to how people communicate with me or not... and other behaviors inclusive or exclusionary with me. Keep Eyes Stretched and grow in discernment
I appreciate your research, hard work behind the scenes and you sharing your God-given talents you've been blessed with. 🙏 from NYS.
Beware of the TOO NICE to be real, they usually want something. When they gain your trust and affection the taking and hurtful games begin. I swear, I think some are capable of putting a spell on some people causing obsessions that are hell to break out of as described in the book "The Dark Side of Cupid".
Agreed. It is tiresome to sort through these folks.
These are personality traits present in different personality types. Thank you for the wisdom. It is helpful.
Many of us are our own worst enemies. 😮
Soooo true! Thanks for the info!
Passive aggressive people should be send to Mars
Yes!
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You sort of got it with the narcissist at the end but I would say vulnerable people that actually aren't really vulnerable ..they're pretending.. are quite dangerous. I have attracted two people..what I would call vulnerable narcissists. One is my now ex-boyfriend and the other is a supposed friend who I have come to realise is the most self-obsessed nasty piece of work that I've met in a long time. The thing both of them had in common was the bawling crying and making me feel sorry for them while they twisted me into knots where all I did was their bidding.
I have a difficult time trusting those who use flattery.
Surprisingly agree🌿 unfortunately we’re living in a dystopian world system that produces ignorant, emotionally impulsive, strong cognitive dissonance and strong self centered mindset people ❤
Remember NOT all narcissists are loud, obviously boastful, & in your face....Some of them lean more heavily into the covert type of behaviors by being the perpetual victim, trying to play the false hero/do-gooder, etc.Basically all narcs are a mix of both overt & covert behaviors depending upon the 🎯/time/place/situation.
Great advice/data in your videos, even backed with footage of you putting it into action personally in at least one case. I've sent several to a friend of mine, and I'll likely do so again because i think watching them will help make me and mine safer. Thanks man, you're doing good work!
Now you know why I'm living out in the woods and looking for land in the middle of BFE.
Oh I can't stand gossips. Exactly if they are gossiping to you about other people they are absolutely gossiping about you to other people! RED FLAG. And I hate to say this, I'm from a family of four girls, and women are the worst gossips and that can be extremely toxic if you come in contact with them.
I worked with a woman, this summer, in Montana, that lied to one of my bosses and then threw a fit when I told her the truth. She stood there, in front of me, my 2nd bossman, and lied and then had a fit and claimed I was stabbing her in the back, never call her a liar again, she tried to get me fired from a volunteer position as a camphost, and she tried to enforce a sit down, basically a struggle session, with her, me, and my boss. I sat through one of those and a second one never happened. It was pure torture to have to deal with that woman for the rest of the season (about 6 weeks). Absolutely unbearable. She had a script in her head and didn't listen to a damned thing I said because she was so focused on this script about how she didn't lie, she was good, blah blah blah.
Avoid people who expect you to read their minds instead of telling ypu outright what they want and mean. It's like you're constantly having to guess what they're thinking. Your mind ends up spinning 😞
Beware the information gatherers. Usually the servants (flying monkeys) of Narcissists
I call those Probes or Fishers. Always asking probing questions, fishing for information
Passive/aggressive people. People that are to nice. Pushy people, needy people. People who have no respect for themself by the way they talk, act, and look. Hey will not respect others, if they have no respect for themselfs.. Blazers. Lies. People who always has an excuse.
Worthy advice .
So that’s nearly everyone these days, unfortunately.
We all can be. It’s just important to work on it. Those who won’t are the problem
I ❤ your channel that discusses topic such as this!
I learn so much & you speak on very good points.
Please keep making videos such as this. Thank you 🙏
Sage advice. Thanks
1:30+ "Acting without thinking." Amen!!!
While reading comments i realized that Your audience was quite smart as well
There are these people that will get viscerally angry if you turn on normal parts of your brain, and subtly attack you until you turn it off again.
Specifically the ones that get upset as soon as you turn on high order pleasant thinking.
Their reaction comes before you're doing anything, and they don't hate it from everyone just people who haven't "proven" themselves above them or something.
@@ghostbond1074 ex convict behavior. Beware of the jailbirds.
@1.10 People can take you out mentally and not physically. Resonated sooo well.
I loved every word you said in this video.
I sm already 👀 watching it twice today.