Got a big fat nasty old 🚺 neighbor just like that🤢... Thankfully she's a complete idiot, she always 💭 she's being slick by always going in her front yard whenever I'm taking care of something but I know she's 👀 my every move like a nosey creep.She came over onto my property being sickeningly fake charming saying I could borrow her 100ft garden hose to water my new sod but I politely said I already had 1 coming in the mail & when she tried to say how pretty the new(& expensive) did was...I could tell she was digging for info & I generically said I had to get it because it was likely a code violation to leave the yard tore up from previous work.Her husband is drinking himself to ☠️ because of her drama/abuse & he got hauled off by a 🚑 days ago... She's extremely lazy and ordinarily makes her husband do EVERYTHING & I'm sure she's going around with a drag net trying to find someone else to do her work for her, I'm not naive enough to take her "help".
Related to this, beware the person who comes on too strong, too fast (as a romantic interest, friend, or work associate). Beware the person you don't know/just met who is *very* interested in some kind of relationship with you and engages in what I describe as "courting" behavior in order to get you to let them into your life. Honest, healthy relationships develop slowly.
@@Salman_Saho In the flea markey we call these types "charmers" always have something good to sell you which is really junk or trying to talk you down on price or degrading your best stuff. I pay no heed to them.
or the person who just wont shut up similar to the gossiper they just talk nonstop with everyone even if they dont wanna talk for a freakin hour to them, they usually have alternate motives.
@@Artur-sw8er So defective or otherwise, you don't think that what he did was evil? Not only to his victims but to his family his work colleagues and his community ?
@@Artur-sw8er I know that pronouncing a type of person as "defective" is very revealing of how they view others. Since I doubt you see yourself in the same boat as them, you can only see yourself as better than them. Congratulations on being revealed as a covert Narcissist, or as others have said: "Pit Viper". I LOVE snake hunting!
@@Melfukoff Completely the other name for gossip is Calumny. if one is Christian it falls under the Commandment "Thy shalt not Kill". Destroying a person's good name and reputation.
I keep a very stoic and composed personality anytime I’m in public and at work. The less you engage people first the better and more peaceful life will be, you gotta be careful with everyone these days. And learn to say No for an answer.
@@Brosepha advocate for yourself man, most people are out to use you and see what they can get out of you. Stay firm about it too when you say NO. Don’t show any signs of weakness, you got this.
@@johnappleseed9290unfortunately that's how I see most in this world too.... steady diet of being taken too much....been there, done that...got the T-shirt 😂
The person who thinks they're smarter than you and has decided you are a side kick. This is a person who will suddenly start giving you orders in a casual way as well as dismissing your ideas just as casually and usually in public.
I worked with someone like this in my last project, and I had hoped that our supervisor would see that she was writing over all my work and drowning me out of group discussions. But instead, my supervisor decided to side with her and give me the worse grade, even though it was originally my project idea and this person completely hijacked it and changed it into something else. :( I really cared about this project and the field, so this has really upset me. She didn't.
Steer clear of the angry aggressive type who gets off on stomping on & putting down those around them. Got one of this type at work. Guard your peace. Valuable message Daniel. Thank you.
Had to deal with this at my last job. Insecure, jealous, crazy and emotionally abusive person. I'm still struggling to get my head right over a year I got out of that hell hole.
1. Always acting before thinking. 2. No boundaries. Subjective morality is a bad thing, and those who reject boundaries wind up in bondage. 3. Someone constantly gossiping. 4. The uncommitted and double-minded, who say one thing and do another. 5. Classic narcissist, always needing attention.
In my 54 years on this earth I've encountered all these personality types at one time or another. Your description of them is accurate and they were all toxic.
I keep my guard up against people I call "instant friends." People who act like you're the greatest person they've ever met and everything you say is cool, hilarious, or fantastic. These are the people who want to know everything about your life, your family, your work and your hobbies. They invite you to dinner, on vacation or to church 10 minutes after meeting you. It's creepy and suspicious as all get out.
@@Chris-eo9khIt's creepy, invasive and draining. It has a lot to do with the energy of the person being "friendly" as well. They ignore your body language or obvious signs of discomfort with their presence and persistent questioning.
@rejectionisprotection4448 Maybe the problem you seem to be having with friendliness is YOUR problem, and not allways the other persons. No, innocent friendliness is not creepy, to a mentally healthy person anyway....
@@Chris-eo9khIt's possible that the seemingly innocent friendliness they are afraid of has been a "love bomb" from a narcissist in their lives and they cannot reconcile that some people just genuinely "click" with you and really like you.
I only have so many trips around the sun. I no longer have time for toxic people in my life, whatever their issues or personality problems are. I don't OWE anyone anything.
The most dangerous person is the one who is JEALOUS of you!!! People with Boundary problems are not aiming to attack you ...they cause harm, but it is not their dedicated intent. Gossiping is a contemporary American phenomenon that was promoted by the success of the "Survivor" series on t.v. Liars, confused souls, selfish ignorant souls...all prove hazardous in different ways HOWEVER the one i dread the most... is the ONE who is Jealous. Jealousy is a horrible pain to endure and that person suffering such pangs will be highly, personally motivated to rid themselves of the perceived provocateur (however innocent) of their discomfort.
@@basketballfan5763 Agree! Sometimes another does impose flattery!! It justifies (for THEMSELVES) what they themselves desire of the gifts God gave YOU. However... some.. just maliciously seethe: convinced that they were robbed because you (what you are or have or can do) manifest what they deem belongs in their life. (Sometimes this comes from a biological relative - in which case moving to another city is a good idea)
jealousy is normal too. scapegoats I'm sure are jealous of the golden one. it's sometimes purposefully promoted by the narc. They key is to unapologetically not give a f*ck.
Beware of those who have no patience to allow a relationship to develop at a reasonable pace. If someone is coming on very strong right away, back up. Way up. All the way up.
Regarding the narcissist. The absolute worst one you may encounter is the malignant narcissist. They are so far on the spectrum they are practically sociopaths. They are superficially charming, they exude confidence and self assurance and are great conversationalists. If you first meet them you will think you've met the greatest person in the world. But under the surface they are sadistic, manipulative and love controlling people. They are truly the worst people you can ever encounter.
So true. I been the target of two malignant narcissists. I literally feared for my life at at times. One of them was my ex-husband and last week his current wife died of a self-inflicted GSW to the head. I can't help but wonder if he drove her to it.
😳...Very dangerous .. is the one who does not know you or has failed to control you .. but spreads lies about you and tries to convince others that you are a bad person .. even trying to influence those you depend on to do business with or want to fellowship with at a church. Sad to say .. many people believe the worst lies said about a person instead of getting to know the person themselves. This has ruined lives and kept good people from living a normal life.
I have never believed anything bad told to me about somebody else.. that is one thing I would always be suspicious of and check out myself. I've always refused to participate in being anybody else's flying monkey.. that's how you know you're dealing with a really bad person and you're involved in a big game. I think it's disgusting that this type of behaviour goes into religious groups. And I well know it does. I personally have been bullied in a choir in a church and in other religious groups that I've joined..insane!
Also narcissists know the day is coming when you will figure them out, so they spend their time putting you down aiming to rob you of your self confidence etc so that you will be glad they want you and think they are doing you a favor just by being with you. (And kiss their feet and worship them).
Deadly dangerous.. I recently met a guy on the street who managed to get my phone number by intimidating me coming up to my face.. then he proceeded to basically text the living daylights out of me.. and when I thought it was over I didn't block him because I hoped I didn't need to.. he waited 3 days and then start to texting again and I could be being paranoid but I thought I saw him one night late after a class but I think I was being paranoid because he frightened me so much.. he literally ramped it up in the space of maybe 5 days. He literally texted me every morning, then lunchtime, then by the evening he was ramping it up to sexual texts... Absolute needy controlling love bombing weirdo.. I wouldn't mind but I was not answering most of the texts. He wasn't getting the hint and then when I cancelled the first date we were supposed to go on he kept asking why.
@@basketballfan5763 please be careful. Keep track of their messages and ideally email the screenshots to yourself and a friend too. Don’t become paranoid but do exercise caution. The problem I have with stalking types - they are delusional and somehow manage to convince themselves that by stalking you they invested in you and now you owe them something. Then they conclude that this makes you a villain and they are the victim and now they are the wounded one and need revenge. I am serious.
Avoid the unhappy and the unlucky. The kind of person that is never happy with anything, and is always a “victim” of circumstance. Never taking ownership of their life.
Depends. Some people are chronically unlucky, but they will always put a positive spin. You have to become a hopeful spin doctor to survive sometimes (i.e. "its better to have loved and lost than to not have loved at all") Anyone who pads their stories too much with sympathy seeking is probably more what you are talking about. You are supposed to feel bad for them. Most people dont want you to feel "bad" for them They want you to sympathize and help, but not feel like they are incompetent and foolish. That's 100% what covert narcissists want, tho lol. Because thats how they get things from you!
I hate being ghosted. I hate ghosting people. Thing is, as I age, I'm less inclined to seek out closure with either situation. Unless someone is a part of my life in a committed, I have to see them every day way, I won't chase a person or deal with talking about being disrespected or having to walk on egg shells around someone who is insecure. Those are the things I won't 'discuss' or beg for someone to stop. I've tried that in the past and it's always been met with gaslighting. Now, I walk away. I'm too old for the nonsense. There are 8 billion people on this planet. I won't meet 99.9999% of them. BUT, there are literally tens of tens of people around me I could meet in this world who won't require my having to request respect.
Thanks for the video! Good advice. One thing that drives me crazy about some personalities is the ones that ALWAYS have to be right or if you differ from their opinion, they get crazy.
Something important: A crook sees himself as a legit businessman. Truth It's the rest of us see him as a lawbreaker. For the love of God, remember that, people. It can save your bacon.You are doing great work, sir, encouraging others to THINK about these matters.
I walked in the house on my wealthy wife's massage therapist. He had our mail in hand and was scanning each letters return address secretly and intently. That got him fired in ten seconds.
Our English next door neighbors are sociopathic narcissists and they are old, they never change, the wife uses the husband to do her dirty deeds while she hides. And she recruits third parties to tell them what a victim she is. So twisted it took me a long time to figure them out and how they deceive people. Evil, wicked with no boundaries.
My friend, u missed one of the most important topics and that's a toxic family. If u have a toxic family even talking to them won't fix them. U can be an angel born into a toxic demonic family and if thats the case do whatever u can and move far away from them even if it means moving out of the state. Alot of people get trapped into that saying blood is thicker then water and they never leave their toxic family and then they're health starts to explode and dissipate. A good friend can be more of a family to u then a blood relative, this is something people need to understand. Remember this folks and don't forget it!!! Thanks for sharing my friend.
The nitpicker who never has anything nice to say to you and always seems to find a way to criticize you publicly and make you look bad. These types also like to move the goal post without communicating with you and then act like you have something wrong with you.
The boundary thing is really important, some will just start with small instances of disrespect to test your personal boundaries. It's a headache to deal with this because you just want to get finished and on to the next thing. Don't let this slip because they will just increase the disrespect. Never tolerate a boundary tester.
Now more than ever before, it is important to scrutinize behavior in others and have good boundaries. Not being paranoid, but grounded discretion in all matters. Thank you for this great reminder.
You speak a lot of truth about people not changing even when confronted and how they'll always prioritise their interests first. I've kind of given up trying to deal with people's BS in a proactive way and I'm now just happy to let them fall on that same sword over and over. Let them live their own personal hell and focus on avoiding yours.
I really appreciate all the advice you give in your videos because it's very real-world things that I think is especially important for those on the autism spectrum as they often have a very difficult time discerning people's intentions. It's very black and white and they often are too trusting and end up getting hurt by it.
There is a group of negative personality traits called the Dark Triad. They are: Narcissism, Machivellianism, and Psychopathy. As you said, many ppl have some characteristics of these traits. Ppl in very powerful positions, often have some psychopathic characteristics. Some other negative behaviours include: ppl who are chronically angry, usually men who beat their wives/gfs and enjoy 'road rage'. Potentially very dangerous. There are also ppl in supervision who enjoy tormenting their employees. It's simple cruel malevolence. An example of too common 'bully boy ' behaviour by either sxx. Probably responsible for work place violence. For example: the Royal Oak Post Office shootings. Another common group are eccentrics. Typically seems to be a bid for attention, by being purposely weird or odd. Often difficult to deal with. Lastly, there's the socially inept, loner types. Likely a temperament characteristic. Usually harmless, but still difficult to be around. Ppl are very complicated. That's why, in the main, I prefer the company of dogs. They are simple happy souls who are always glad to see and be with you. 🤔🤔🙂
Oh my goodness.... I just wrote the same thing about dogs.... before reading this!! 😊😅 Yes .. and dogs offer us loyal companionship..... and withhold all the drama and complications of people relationships 🐶🐕❤❤
Eccentrics and Loners are a mixed bag. Depending on what kind of person is underneath those facades, they can be really valuable friends. At least in my experience. Ofc if they carry their own toxicity then keep them away.
Great observations and all true👍 I completely agree with the personality types. I try to stay away from the 1) know-IT-Alls unless they are always correct then I tolerate their boastful all about me personally. 2) multiple personalities you never know what going to happen and the uncertainty is too risky. 3) Debbie downer’s or the E-ore men that literally crush hope. 4) Toxic Type A’s I’m way too old to mess with that narcissistic behaviors. Honestly you got the ones I try to steer clear from. I have meet “Angry or always OFFENDED types” and avoid them like the plague they will put you in danger.
@@davide4392 You're right -- BPD and Narcissistic Personality Disorder have a whole lot of things in common. Known as "Cluster B" disorders. (Wish I didn't know so much about this stuff. Hard lessons.)
It's called drybegging and yes it's extremely manipulative. I see right through it though. I'm a very direct person but sometimes I throw it right hack in their face in the most subtle way because its such crap. It can be somewhat amusing.... to toy with them a bit before I walk off the court and stay as far away as I can. Some people make me feel sick inside and that is the biggest indicator to stay away.
Emotional and mental abuse from these five types can be very damaging but only if it’s allowed! You have to have an emotional investment for these types to damage you. Play with fire- expect to be burned. Appreciate this content.
The Malignant narcissists are very dangerous people. Also, people who don't open up and share their emotions are fairly unsafe to me. People who are so argumentative and want to always be right or throw temper tantrum are all red flags 🙄 😒 😑 to me. I forgive and distance myself from them 🙏
Just disconnected from my folks narcissistic ways. One was a cop and the other a school teacher. Me Being almost fifty and them still claiming authority over me, and feeling they could treat me however they wanted and i was just supposed to accept it, kept me down, way down. What a stress on the mind being told to love yet fear at the same time is exhausting
Wanted to let you know that I found your channel recently and I find it very helpful. I moved to another state that is very different than what I am used to and I'm getting used to my new surroundings. I'm trying to not forget the saftey tips I learned and grew up with in the last place I lived. It is very easy to put your guard down if you move to a new a place that seems more peaceful. I am trying not to do that. Hope you understand what I'm saying.
Watch out for anyone with addictions, the are ALWAYS the weakest link, no loyalty to anyone, and highly erratic and volatile to the point of being dangerous. The addict (drugs or otherwise) will screw you over in a heartbeat everytime!
Be careful of the ones that haven't lived it as well. That lump them all into one category as they sit on some high horse. Beware the ones that have defeated their past and will call out present moment b.s.
Why does there always have to be someone making excuses for the druggies?… That’s like saying unless you were once a child molester people shouldn’t blame you. Classic victim mindset.
I'd like to add that maybe the most important take-away is not only to be on guard against these personality types, but to be on guard against slipping into these personality types ourselves.
Absolutely! Also, it's good to keep in mind that people change all the time. Sometimes for the better, sometimes not so much. Allow them room to change, look for actions to tell you who they are, not their fancy speech.
You've met my mother! Addicted to drama and bad boys, accepts no responsibility for her poor life choices and everyone has to rescue her or bail her out to their own detriment
Be aware of the guy who is a one upper and has done everything the same as you if not better They aren’t necessarily bad people, but they’re full of shit and half the time you can’t take their advice serious Half is being generous, they exist in every fast life, even the military where I saw them quite a bit when I was active Duty
Along the lines of gossiping... beware of those who *read minds*. Meaning, the ones who assume another's motivation behind their actions. These are also the ones who will tell you how you feel, and what you're thinking. They are almost never correct, but are 100% convinced. I would also suggest that when we encounter people, don't assume their reputation is accurate. Of course, keep everyone at arm's length until you can make a fair assessment. Before giving them a label, be sure you can point to specific instances they have acted in a toxic manner, not just how others judge them. Observations and judgements are not the same. If someone says "they're crazy" it's not an observation. Saying "I watched them pretend to help someone pitch a tent while stealing their equipment" is an observation.
I've known far too many people with one or more of these traits. I lknow one who has all of them! If I have to deal with these traits, instead of avoiding them altogether, once identified, I have learned to navigate/circumvent any conversations or interactions. It really seems to throw them off kilter!! I consider it a form of entertainment. Thank you for this message! ❤❤❤
Said, very well. 1. You can control yourself when you cannot control anyone else. I had a 9 a.m. appointment this morning. I had the handshake and was ready with the cash. I wrote my name and phone number on a piece of paper and said, if you cannot make, please call. The guy never showed or called. However, I always have a Plan B, a pen, a note pad and a book available. This isn't a "personality type", however, it is the level of most people. 2. Understand that many people go around on the verge of a nervous breakdown. If the person is snarly, rude or unpleasant, try to defuse the problem. It is not aimed at you, personally, and it is just something you need to address if you want something from the other person. 3. Yes. Stay away from bad relatives. Relative - left the baby on the floor of the bathroom and simply went out. One day I am speaking about him on the telephone to a niece. I tell her never to get into a car with him or she will never get home alive. Her response was that her dad had already told her the same thing. One day a sibling mouthed the old hoary aphorism: "you can choose your friends, but not your family". I responded: "yes, but you can choose your relationship."
Just quickly thinking about the types you mentioned that i know zapped my energy a little. Sadly the comments are also full of descriptions of others i know. We have to be and stay in charge of our households. I think about this often
A gossip, narc even if it's someone high on the spectrum level or professional victim can destroy a company. Literally one person that is allowed to go unchecked can put an organization in a choke hold and threatens its collapse.
You are like the dad I never had growing up. You give me the kind of advice that a dad should give their daughters to prepare them for when they leave the nest. Thanks 🙏🏻
The smooth tongued scandalmongers of evil nature who ruin the lives and relationships of many good honest men and women. Do not carry their venom further to ruin good lives, unwittingly. God bless your good work.
1, 2, and 5 = psychopathy or sociopathy. I've dealt with one before. The only way I was able to break free, was to get into a fist fight with him and beat him marginally; psychopaths can't be reasoned with. He used to bully me during h.s. and younger. After the fist fight, he never dare cross paths with me again. #6, avoid overly friendly people. Most people aren't overly friendly upon meeting them for the first time. These types tie into #3, the gossipers.
Just a note, usually someone who tells you what you want to hear, is only serving themselves. Someone who tells you what you need to hear, is usually trying to help you.
The absolute worst type is the one who is totally irresponsible. They think the world owes them a living, the world should obey their rules, the world is unfair to expect anything from them.
Remember NOT all narcissists are loud, obviously boastful, & in your face....Some of them lean more heavily into the covert type of behaviors by being the perpetual victim, trying to play the false hero/do-gooder, etc.Basically all narcs are a mix of both overt & covert behaviors depending upon the 🎯/time/place/situation.
My measurement of people I come in contact with is to assess how I feel after coming into contact with. Am I uplifted? Do I look forward to meeting them again? Or do I feel drained and exhausted every time I come in contact with them? Pay attention to their body language and tone of voice when they talk to you, and their choice of words. Do you feel respected and supported? Or do you feel like a second class citizen in their eyes? I listen to my gut. If it feels good I'm happy to interact with them. If not, I'm gonna move on; I'll stay respectful to them when I see them but limit my time around them as much as possible. Peace of mind.
I know someone who has all of these personality traits, and she is a classic narcissist. Very hard to be around. Setting boundaries and sticking to them is necessary with her
These types of people that are in power will be the end of us all whether we like it or not. Just recently I left social media and cut out several family members for self care. I was tired of walking on eggshells, trying to keep the peace being someone I am not just to keep from being hurt, criticized, controlled or judged. Abuse isn’t just physical. In fact I rather be hit than mentally abused or neglected. It’s been a rough week, and I'm starting to realize I have neglected my own life and am learning to fall back in love with the life I have built on my own. It’s OK to be softhearted and good natured, not a weakness as long as you don't let these types manipulate you and take advantage of your kindness. There are moments I break down but remind myself you have to be strong to move on.
I like your advice. I have, so far, never been in a fight or hit by anyone. I have some other personality types to add: the women at church and the social workers who seem to think that being good, or being Christian, means being stupid. I have learned to ignore other women and their advice. So, another lesson I have learned is to not despise yourself for having a higher-than-normal IQ. I mean, you took the weeks' long testing - along with all the other kids in school and you got told. Just like those tests in the military that test your IQ. So, if you are smart, you read the signs (and feel the vibes) and you are one or two steps ahead and can see what will probably happen. And you are always stone cold sober. Don't listen to ordinary people, you are the smart one. Yes, not just weird, but smart. I usually run for the hills and being super thin, I can run like the wind and get through tiny spaces. Cross the street, turn around, move seats, just get out of Dodge and leave the party.
Great advice/data in your videos, even backed with footage of you putting it into action personally in at least one case. I've sent several to a friend of mine, and I'll likely do so again because i think watching them will help make me and mine safer. Thanks man, you're doing good work!
I ❤ your channel that discusses topic such as this! I learn so much & you speak on very good points. Please keep making videos such as this. Thank you 🙏
Thank you for these descriptions. I'm familiar with narcissists; was married to one 24 years. He begrudged everything; every failure deserved severe anger and sometimes retribution; he burned through our money constantly. 18+ years after the divorce he's still trying to get at me financially or to hurt me with lies about our children. I've blocked him and don't answer his emails or calls when he gets through. He did me a huge favor, though: I can smell a narc a mile away; no one "love-bombs" me anymore. My late second husband was wonderful. We do learn.
Excellent Reminders. I am paying closer attention to how people communicate with me or not... and other behaviors inclusive or exclusionary with me. Keep Eyes Stretched and grow in discernment
You do a good job. Great topics to think over. I'm in my 50s and knew a gossiper in HS, who pretended to be a close friend. Yes, they can stir up trouble and drag you into it before you realize what's happened. They will sniff out your trusting nature the way a shark senses blood in the water... and then like the shark, move in for the k---
Avoid people who expect you to read their minds instead of telling ypu outright what they want and mean. It's like you're constantly having to guess what they're thinking. Your mind ends up spinning 😞
Beware of a person who constantly criticizes you and puts you down to make themselves feel Superior.
true, but thats an easy one,, no rationale person would want to be constantly criticized , any one that allows constant criticism has issues.
Beware of the covert narcissist. Those are the ones that really have no boundaries and no empathy
Got a big fat nasty old 🚺 neighbor just like that🤢... Thankfully she's a complete idiot, she always 💭 she's being slick by always going in her front yard whenever I'm taking care of something but I know she's 👀 my every move like a nosey creep.She came over onto my property being sickeningly fake charming saying I could borrow her 100ft garden hose to water my new sod but I politely said I already had 1 coming in the mail & when she tried to say how pretty the new(& expensive) did was...I could tell she was digging for info & I generically said I had to get it because it was likely a code violation to leave the yard tore up from previous work.Her husband is drinking himself to ☠️ because of her drama/abuse & he got hauled off by a 🚑 days ago... She's extremely lazy and ordinarily makes her husband do EVERYTHING & I'm sure she's going around with a drag net trying to find someone else to do her work for her, I'm not naive enough to take her "help".
🐍 Pit Vipers.
Thank you for this. I have several people who fit this description in my life.
Wretched pit vipers! & more venomous...... Their poise does eventually kill them. 🙌
covert are more humble.
He forgot one. The control freak. These people are a nightmare once they get their claws into you.
Yes I know 🥺
A classic narcissist is a control freak
Its more like all the people around them that go along
There's the harmless control freak and the bad control freak. Being a control freak with other people is bad. Being like a neat freak is kinda funny..
He didn't say he was going to name every personality issue in the dang DSM-5!!
Beware of the very friendly guy, or the one who keeps praising you.
Add to that the “one that keeps praising you for opportunistic purposes”
Related to this, beware the person who comes on too strong, too fast (as a romantic interest, friend, or work associate). Beware the person you don't know/just met who is *very* interested in some kind of relationship with you and engages in what I describe as "courting" behavior in order to get you to let them into your life. Honest, healthy relationships develop slowly.
@@avenginggoddess that would be the greatest redflag of all to me because nobody courts me.
@@Salman_Saho In the flea markey we call these types "charmers" always have something good to sell you which is really junk or trying to talk you down on price or degrading your best stuff. I pay no heed to them.
or the person who just wont shut up similar to the gossiper they just talk nonstop with everyone even if they dont wanna talk for a freakin hour to them, they usually have alternate motives.
"Monsters are not under beds or in dark closets. Evil lurks and hides in the very faces you see each day, smiling through sharpened fangs."
I was doing a deep dive into Dennis Rader aka BTK serial K... such a good PUBLIC persona and a most EVIL mind/heart inside
Not evil, just defective and or predators
@@Artur-sw8er
So defective or otherwise, you don't think that what he did was evil? Not only to his victims but to his family his work colleagues and his community ?
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@@Artur-sw8er I know that pronouncing a type of person as "defective" is very revealing of how they view others.
Since I doubt you see yourself in the same boat as them, you can only see yourself as better than them.
Congratulations on being revealed as a covert Narcissist, or as others have said: "Pit Viper".
I LOVE snake hunting!
Definitely avoid habitual Gossipers !!
And those who listen to the gossip.
@marygunning5121 true, they are weak minded fools but most people that listen to Gossip have their turn at gossiping too
@@Melfukoff Completely the other name for gossip is Calumny. if one is Christian it falls under the Commandment "Thy shalt not Kill". Destroying a person's good name and reputation.
Nothing will hurt you worse than a friend who is a false friend.
a frienemy....they secretly take pleasure when you fail, talk about you behind your back, and judge everything you do.
@@giorfi-n7v mind you they judge then copy later lmfao. And the weak backhanded compliments😂 once you spot them it becomes funny actually
@@omnipotentworldwider5111 oh yes, they are hypocrites....major. Keep em around if you must but just be aware.
Never had a real friend I don't think they really exist except in your own mind
The “know it all”who thinks they’re the smartest person in the room. Sooo tiresome!
Thanks for your important information, a public service.
If you are the smartest person in the room, you’re in the wrong room.
Dunning Kruger effect
Nice troll, bro.
Definitely. My ex was this way, and yea he is smart but everyone had to know that.
I have seen these so many and they are narcissistic
I keep a very stoic and composed personality anytime I’m in public and at work. The less you engage people first the better and more peaceful life will be, you gotta be careful with everyone these days. And learn to say No for an answer.
I seriously need to learn to say NO.
Im getting used and run around.
@@Brosepha advocate for yourself man, most people are out to use you and see what they can get out of you. Stay firm about it too when you say NO. Don’t show any signs of weakness, you got this.
@@johnappleseed9290unfortunately that's how I see most in this world too.... steady diet of being taken too much....been there, done that...got the T-shirt 😂
But we become more isolated, we need balance and built back a more trusting society.
Good point!
The person who thinks they're smarter than you and has decided you are a side kick. This is a person who will suddenly start giving you orders in a casual way as well as dismissing your ideas just as casually and usually in public.
Ya my now ex friend
Or pretending not to hear your idea right before stealing it
I worked with someone like this in my last project, and I had hoped that our supervisor would see that she was writing over all my work and drowning me out of group discussions. But instead, my supervisor decided to side with her and give me the worse grade, even though it was originally my project idea and this person completely hijacked it and changed it into something else. :( I really cared about this project and the field, so this has really upset me. She didn't.
How you portray yourself is usually how you’re treated.
Steer clear of the angry aggressive type who gets off on stomping on & putting down those around them. Got one of this type at work. Guard your peace. Valuable message Daniel. Thank you.
Had to deal with this at my last job. Insecure, jealous, crazy and emotionally abusive person. I'm still struggling to get my head right over a year I got out of that hell hole.
I believe you just described a malignant narcissist
1. Always acting before thinking.
2. No boundaries. Subjective morality is a bad thing, and those who reject boundaries wind up in bondage.
3. Someone constantly gossiping.
4. The uncommitted and double-minded, who say one thing and do another.
5. Classic narcissist, always needing attention.
In my 54 years on this earth I've encountered all these personality types at one time or another. Your description of them is accurate and they were all toxic.
I keep my guard up against people I call "instant friends." People who act like you're the greatest person they've ever met and everything you say is cool, hilarious, or fantastic. These are the people who want to know everything about your life, your family, your work and your hobbies. They invite you to dinner, on vacation or to church 10 minutes after meeting you. It's creepy and suspicious as all get out.
Open and unsolicited friendliness being called creepy perfectly sums up the decaying society we live in. Well done 👏
Prelude to the "I am offering you the greatest opportunity of your life, it you take action NOW."
@@Chris-eo9khIt's creepy, invasive and draining. It has a lot to do with the energy of the person being "friendly" as well. They ignore your body language or obvious signs of discomfort with their presence and persistent questioning.
@rejectionisprotection4448 Maybe the problem you seem to be having with friendliness is YOUR problem, and not allways the other persons. No, innocent friendliness is not creepy, to a mentally healthy person anyway....
@@Chris-eo9khIt's possible that the seemingly innocent friendliness they are afraid of has been a "love bomb" from a narcissist in their lives and they cannot reconcile that some people just genuinely "click" with you and really like you.
"A lot of people who didn't want boundaries ended up in bondage"
I only have so many trips around the sun. I no longer have time for toxic people in my life, whatever their issues or personality problems are. I don't OWE anyone anything.
Well said Steve.
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The most dangerous person is the one who is JEALOUS of you!!!
People with Boundary problems are not aiming to attack you ...they cause harm, but it is not their dedicated intent.
Gossiping is a contemporary American phenomenon that was promoted by the success of the "Survivor" series on t.v.
Liars, confused souls, selfish ignorant souls...all prove hazardous in different ways
HOWEVER
the one i dread the most...
is the ONE who is Jealous.
Jealousy is a horrible pain to endure and that person suffering such pangs will be highly, personally motivated to rid themselves of the perceived provocateur (however innocent) of their discomfort.
very true
These people that tell you how great you are before they try to destroy you
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Agree! Sometimes another does impose flattery!! It justifies (for THEMSELVES) what they themselves desire of the gifts God gave YOU.
However...
some.. just maliciously seethe: convinced that they were robbed because you (what you are or have or can do) manifest what they deem belongs in their life. (Sometimes this comes from a biological relative - in which case moving to another city is a good idea)
Agree about jealousy. Stay away from ANYONE who is jealous of you or your achievements
jealousy is normal too. scapegoats I'm sure are jealous of the golden one. it's sometimes purposefully promoted by the narc. They key is to unapologetically not give a f*ck.
I want to avoid them as much as possible. I'd rather be alone then in bad company.
Beware of those who have no patience to allow a relationship to develop at a reasonable pace. If someone is coming on very strong right away, back up. Way up. All the way up.
I went through that. It's a nightmare
Well said.
If it's the real deal, it'll still be there tomorrow. No need to rush.
Regarding the narcissist. The absolute worst one you may encounter is the malignant narcissist. They are so far on the spectrum they are practically sociopaths. They are superficially charming, they exude confidence and self assurance and are great conversationalists. If you first meet them you will think you've met the greatest person in the world. But under the surface they are sadistic, manipulative and love controlling people. They are truly the worst people you can ever encounter.
So true. I been the target of two malignant narcissists. I literally feared for my life at at times. One of them was my ex-husband and last week his current wife died of a self-inflicted GSW to the head. I can't help but wonder if he drove her to it.
No probably about it.
It's very likely.
The constant victim. Nothing is ever their fault and they are accountable to no one.
And generally talk over you at all times... it's all about them and their problems/issues
@@Titus2-13 Amen to that!
That's my 54 year old sister-in-law who refuses to work, but demands others, especially my husband, support her!
Absolutely
Narcissists are victims, or they are heroes. One or the other.
😳...Very dangerous .. is the one who does not know you or has failed to control you .. but spreads lies about you and tries to convince others that you are a bad person .. even trying to influence those you depend on to do business with or want to fellowship with at a church.
Sad to say .. many people believe the worst lies said about a person instead of getting to know the person themselves.
This has ruined lives and kept good people from living a normal life.
I have never believed anything bad told to me about somebody else.. that is one thing I would always be suspicious of and check out myself. I've always refused to participate in being anybody else's flying monkey.. that's how you know you're dealing with a really bad person and you're involved in a big game. I think it's disgusting that this type of behaviour goes into religious groups. And I well know it does. I personally have been bullied in a choir in a church and in other religious groups that I've joined..insane!
They believe the lies because they want to. They are not innocent players in this.
Also narcissists know the day is coming when you will figure them out, so they spend their time putting you down aiming to rob you of your self confidence etc so that you will be glad they want you and think they are doing you a favor just by being with you. (And kiss their feet and worship them).
It is infinitely easier to lie to someone than to convince them they have been lied to.
Ah narcissistic people...They have a way of showing you not only what they're made of, but also how toxic or healthy OTHERS around them are too.
Stalker types, the types who cannot take a “no” adequately, and the ones that make their emotions your responsibility.
Deadly dangerous.. I recently met a guy on the street who managed to get my phone number by intimidating me coming up to my face.. then he proceeded to basically text the living daylights out of me.. and when I thought it was over I didn't block him because I hoped I didn't need to.. he waited 3 days and then start to texting again and I could be being paranoid but I thought I saw him one night late after a class but I think I was being paranoid because he frightened me so much.. he literally ramped it up in the space of maybe 5 days. He literally texted me every morning, then lunchtime, then by the evening he was ramping it up to sexual texts... Absolute needy controlling love bombing weirdo.. I wouldn't mind but I was not answering most of the texts. He wasn't getting the hint and then when I cancelled the first date we were supposed to go on he kept asking why.
@@basketballfan5763 please be careful. Keep track of their messages and ideally email the screenshots to yourself and a friend too. Don’t become paranoid but do exercise caution. The problem I have with stalking types - they are delusional and somehow manage to convince themselves that by stalking you they invested in you and now you owe them something. Then they conclude that this makes you a villain and they are the victim and now they are the wounded one and need revenge. I am serious.
Aka…obsessive delusionals.
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Had to cut off a “friend” for this.
Wise words from a wise man.
Watch out for backstabbers...The song,Smiling Faces,is very instructive in two-faced bastards.
I listened to this song today . It's the undisputable truth . 😊
'Glad handing' mfrs. 💯
How is it instructive? Do you mean indicative
Beware of the pat on the back , just might hold you back
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You fit one of the types, give you 5 guesses!
"Take you out mentally." That has happened to me.
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Avoid the unhappy and the unlucky. The kind of person that is never happy with anything, and is always a “victim” of circumstance. Never taking ownership of their life.
That's a covert narcissist. Putting effort to help them will drain all your energy. They will never be satisfied.
Depends. Some people are chronically unlucky, but they will always put a positive spin. You have to become a hopeful spin doctor to survive sometimes (i.e. "its better to have loved and lost than to not have loved at all")
Anyone who pads their stories too much with sympathy seeking is probably more what you are talking about. You are supposed to feel bad for them.
Most people dont want you to feel "bad" for them
They want you to sympathize and help, but not feel like they are incompetent and foolish.
That's 100% what covert narcissists want, tho lol. Because thats how they get things from you!
Passive aggressive people. Those who won't communicate honestly but will sabotage you, cause you trouble, do what they can to make you miserable.
Indeed
@@whoknowswho7494 My mother. She always put a damper on everything I wanted to do, like she would go on about the risks.
Steer clear of everyone. Problem solved.
Yep!
😊 👍 good one
Sad but true ,the ONLY way to make 100% sure
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I go months not even setting eyes on another human, i love it!
I hate being ghosted. I hate ghosting people. Thing is, as I age, I'm less inclined to seek out closure with either situation. Unless someone is a part of my life in a committed, I have to see them every day way, I won't chase a person or deal with talking about being disrespected or having to walk on egg shells around someone who is insecure. Those are the things I won't 'discuss' or beg for someone to stop. I've tried that in the past and it's always been met with gaslighting. Now, I walk away. I'm too old for the nonsense. There are 8 billion people on this planet. I won't meet 99.9999% of them. BUT, there are literally tens of tens of people around me I could meet in this world who won't require my having to request respect.
"Disrespect is closure."
Thanks for the video! Good advice. One thing that drives me crazy about some personalities is the ones that ALWAYS have to be right or if you differ from their opinion, they get crazy.
Stop picking on the democratic voters😊
@@awakenotwoke2643 Lol!
I believe you're describing a narcissist. 😢
IKR!!
Something important: A crook sees himself as a legit businessman. Truth It's the rest of us see him as a lawbreaker. For the love of God, remember that, people. It can save your bacon.You are doing great work, sir, encouraging others to THINK about these matters.
Charm. One needs to be on guard against charming people. Psychopaths, sociopaths, and narcissists are naturally charming.
compliments and flattery from people you do not know very well can be a sign of this.
Beware the information gatherers. Usually the servants (flying monkeys) of Narcissists
I call those Probes or Fishers. Always asking probing questions, fishing for information
I walked in the house on my wealthy wife's massage therapist. He had our mail in hand and was scanning each letters return address secretly and intently. That got him fired in ten seconds.
Our English next door neighbors are sociopathic narcissists and they are old, they never change, the wife uses the husband to do her dirty deeds while she hides. And she recruits third parties to tell them what a victim she is. So twisted it took me a long time to figure them out and how they deceive people. Evil, wicked with no boundaries.
My friend, u missed one of the most important topics and that's a toxic family. If u have a toxic family even talking to them won't fix them. U can be an angel born into a toxic demonic family and if thats the case do whatever u can and move far away from them even if it means moving out of the state. Alot of people get trapped into that saying blood is thicker then water and they never leave their toxic family and then they're health starts to explode and dissipate. A good friend can be more of a family to u then a blood relative, this is something people need to understand. Remember this folks and don't forget it!!! Thanks for sharing my friend.
Wise words there.
The nitpicker who never has anything nice to say to you and always seems to find a way to criticize you publicly and make you look bad. These types also like to move the goal post without communicating with you and then act like you have something wrong with you.
4:23 " ...they like to meddle in other people's business..." CAW! CAW! CAW! 😂
Yes like these crows around here. Dirty birds
The boundary thing is really important, some will just start with small instances of disrespect to test your personal boundaries. It's a headache to deal with this because you just want to get finished and on to the next thing. Don't let this slip because they will just increase the disrespect. Never tolerate a boundary tester.
Now more than ever before, it is important to scrutinize behavior in others and have good boundaries. Not being paranoid, but grounded discretion in all matters. Thank you for this great reminder.
You speak a lot of truth about people not changing even when confronted and how they'll always prioritise their interests first. I've kind of given up trying to deal with people's BS in a proactive way and I'm now just happy to let them fall on that same sword over and over. Let them live their own personal hell and focus on avoiding yours.
I really appreciate all the advice you give in your videos because it's very real-world things that I think is especially important for those on the autism spectrum as they often have a very difficult time discerning people's intentions. It's very black and white and they often are too trusting and end up getting hurt by it.
@@MoonstoneMythoium one of my daughters has autism so I understand that completely. Thank you so much
There is a group of negative personality traits called the Dark Triad. They are: Narcissism, Machivellianism, and Psychopathy. As you said, many ppl have some characteristics of these traits. Ppl in very powerful positions, often have some psychopathic characteristics.
Some other negative behaviours include: ppl who are chronically angry, usually men who beat their wives/gfs and enjoy 'road rage'. Potentially very dangerous.
There are also ppl in supervision who enjoy tormenting their employees. It's simple cruel malevolence. An example of too common 'bully boy ' behaviour by either sxx. Probably responsible for work place violence. For example: the Royal Oak Post Office shootings.
Another common group are eccentrics. Typically seems to be a bid for attention, by being purposely weird or odd. Often difficult to deal with.
Lastly, there's the socially inept, loner types. Likely a temperament characteristic. Usually harmless, but still difficult to be around.
Ppl are very complicated. That's why, in the main, I prefer the company of dogs. They are simple happy souls who are always glad to see and be with you. 🤔🤔🙂
Oh my goodness.... I just wrote the same thing about dogs.... before reading this!! 😊😅
Yes .. and dogs offer us loyal companionship..... and withhold all the drama and complications of people relationships 🐶🐕❤❤
Eccentrics and Loners are a mixed bag. Depending on what kind of person is underneath those facades, they can be really valuable friends. At least in my experience. Ofc if they carry their own toxicity then keep them away.
@@SplagnetI’m a loner/introvert and so are most of my friends! We get along very well and respect each other!
Socially inept, eccentric....so basically avoid autistic ppl?!
Great observations and all true👍
I completely agree with the personality types.
I try to stay away from the 1) know-IT-Alls unless they are always correct then I tolerate their boastful all about me personally. 2) multiple personalities you never know what going to happen and the uncertainty is too risky. 3) Debbie downer’s or the E-ore men that literally crush hope. 4) Toxic Type A’s I’m way too old to mess with that narcissistic behaviors.
Honestly you got the ones I try to steer clear from. I have meet “Angry or always OFFENDED types” and avoid them like the plague they will put you in danger.
People with borderline personality disorder are hard to deal with too.
However you pretty much described the people with BPD.
@@davide4392 You're right -- BPD and Narcissistic Personality Disorder have a whole lot of things in common. Known as "Cluster B" disorders. (Wish I didn't know so much about this stuff. Hard lessons.)
@@WardInstruments Yep and even the first 2 things he mentioned. People with BPD can struggle with those too. I have family members who are like that.
Impossible characters truly
BPD is agonizing to have.
People who insinuate ,what they want. And not directly just say it, what they want! It feels manipulative. Stay, run from manipulative people.
It's called drybegging and yes it's extremely manipulative. I see right through it though. I'm a very direct person but sometimes I throw it right hack in their face in the most subtle way because its such crap. It can be somewhat amusing.... to toy with them a bit before I walk off the court and stay as far away as I can. Some people make me feel sick inside and that is the biggest indicator to stay away.
I got rid of these people in my life. I've been backstabbed, ripped off, and cheated on too many times
Emotional and mental abuse from these five types can be very damaging but only if it’s allowed! You have to have an emotional investment for these types to damage you. Play with fire- expect to be burned. Appreciate this content.
The Malignant narcissists are very dangerous people.
Also, people who don't open up and share their emotions are fairly unsafe to me.
People who are so argumentative and want to always be right or throw temper tantrum are all red flags 🙄 😒 😑 to me.
I forgive and distance myself from them 🙏
Words of wisdom, Daniel. Well said.
Just disconnected from my folks narcissistic ways. One was a cop and the other a school teacher. Me Being almost fifty and them still claiming authority over me, and feeling they could treat me however they wanted and i was just supposed to accept it, kept me down, way down. What a stress on the mind being told to love yet fear at the same time is exhausting
Thanks for videos. Control freaks and people that are condescending.
My circle other than my wife and kids is a dot.
😂😅😂 Good one, sound like what I have a dot of friends and I love it.
Haha love it
people that take you out mentally....such a great phrase.
If you're a dad, I know you're a good one! Thanks for sharing your hard won wisdom.
I appreciate that!
Wanted to let you know that I found your channel recently and I find it very helpful. I moved to another state that is very different than what I am used to and I'm getting used to my new surroundings. I'm trying to not forget the saftey tips I learned and grew up with in the last place I lived. It is very easy to put your guard down if you move to a new a place that seems more peaceful. I am trying not to do that. Hope you understand what I'm saying.
Watch out for anyone with addictions, the are ALWAYS the weakest link, no loyalty to anyone, and highly erratic and volatile to the point of being dangerous. The addict (drugs or otherwise) will screw you over in a heartbeat everytime!
Be careful of the ones that haven't lived it as well. That lump them all into one category as they sit on some high horse. Beware the ones that have defeated their past and will call out present moment b.s.
Why does there always have to be someone making excuses for the druggies?… That’s like saying unless you were once a child molester people shouldn’t blame you. Classic victim mindset.
You are correct. They will put their selfish needs above everyone else’s.
Exactly 'slayer 🎯
@@Demonslayer-vt9lm I was just about to make this exact point!
I'd like to add that maybe the most important take-away is not only to be on guard against these personality types, but to be on guard against slipping into these personality types ourselves.
Absolutely!
Also, it's good to keep in mind that people change all the time. Sometimes for the better, sometimes not so much. Allow them room to change, look for actions to tell you who they are, not their fancy speech.
On the other end of the spectrum, chronicly depressed people can be insidious.
What about the relative that wants to live like a millionaire and keeps digging a pit, and wants you and others to bail him out.
Total intervention time for sure
Tell em to kick rocks.
You've met my mother! Addicted to drama and bad boys, accepts no responsibility for her poor life choices and everyone has to rescue her or bail her out to their own detriment
Smiling faces sometimes, just as the song says.
Very well said!! Thanks!!
Be aware of the guy who is a one upper and has done everything the same as you if not better
They aren’t necessarily bad people, but they’re full of shit and half the time you can’t take their advice serious
Half is being generous, they exist in every fast life, even the military where I saw them quite a bit when I was active Duty
Along the lines of gossiping... beware of those who *read minds*.
Meaning, the ones who assume another's motivation behind their actions. These are also the ones who will tell you how you feel, and what you're thinking.
They are almost never correct, but are 100% convinced.
I would also suggest that when we encounter people, don't assume their reputation is accurate. Of course, keep everyone at arm's length until you can make a fair assessment.
Before giving them a label, be sure you can point to specific instances they have acted in a toxic manner, not just how others judge them.
Observations and judgements are not the same. If someone says "they're crazy" it's not an observation. Saying "I watched them pretend to help someone pitch a tent while stealing their equipment" is an observation.
I've known far too many people with one or more of these traits. I lknow one who has all of them! If I have to deal with these traits, instead of avoiding them altogether, once identified, I have learned to navigate/circumvent any conversations or interactions. It really seems to throw them off kilter!! I consider it a form of entertainment. Thank you for this message! ❤❤❤
Said, very well.
1. You can control yourself when you cannot control anyone else.
I had a 9 a.m. appointment this morning. I had the handshake and was ready with the cash. I wrote my name and phone number on a piece of paper and said, if you cannot make, please call. The guy never showed or called. However, I always have a Plan B, a pen, a note pad and a book available.
This isn't a "personality type", however, it is the level of most people.
2. Understand that many people go around on the verge of a nervous breakdown. If the person is snarly, rude or unpleasant, try to defuse the problem. It is not aimed at you, personally, and it is just something you need to address if you want something from the other person.
3. Yes. Stay away from bad relatives. Relative - left the baby on the floor of the bathroom and simply went out. One day I am speaking about him on the telephone to a niece. I tell her never to get into a car with him or she will never get home alive. Her response was that her dad had already told her the same thing. One day a sibling mouthed the old hoary aphorism: "you can choose your friends, but not your family". I responded: "yes, but you can choose your relationship."
That’s why every client pays my consultation in advance.
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Just quickly thinking about the types you mentioned that i know zapped my energy a little. Sadly the comments are also full of descriptions of others i know. We have to be and stay in charge of our households. I think about this often
A gossip, narc even if it's someone high on the spectrum level or professional victim can destroy a company. Literally one person that is allowed to go unchecked can put an organization in a choke hold and threatens its collapse.
Look within and find these in yourself first and then make adjustments accordingly.
You are like the dad I never had growing up. You give me the kind of advice that a dad should give their daughters to prepare them for when they leave the nest. Thanks 🙏🏻
So welcome!🙂
Important insight into those who would destroy your well being.
The smooth tongued scandalmongers of evil nature who ruin the lives and relationships of many good honest men and women. Do not carry their venom further to ruin good lives, unwittingly. God bless your good work.
Many of us are our own worst enemies. 😮
Very good advice. It's all about facing reality.
I appreciate your research, hard work behind the scenes and you sharing your God-given talents you've been blessed with. 🙏 from NYS.
1, 2, and 5 = psychopathy or sociopathy. I've dealt with one before. The only way I was able to break free, was to get into a fist fight with him and beat him marginally; psychopaths can't be reasoned with. He used to bully me during h.s. and younger. After the fist fight, he never dare cross paths with me again.
#6, avoid overly friendly people. Most people aren't overly friendly upon meeting them for the first time. These types tie into #3, the gossipers.
Just a note, usually someone who tells you what you want to hear, is only serving themselves. Someone who tells you what you need to hear, is usually trying to help you.
Thanks for the video.
Your points are very powerful sound advice and summed up well!!
The absolute worst type is the one who is totally irresponsible. They think the world owes them a living, the world should obey their rules, the world is unfair to expect anything from them.
Remember NOT all narcissists are loud, obviously boastful, & in your face....Some of them lean more heavily into the covert type of behaviors by being the perpetual victim, trying to play the false hero/do-gooder, etc.Basically all narcs are a mix of both overt & covert behaviors depending upon the 🎯/time/place/situation.
Agreed. It is tiresome to sort through these folks.
My measurement of people I come in contact with is to assess how I feel after coming into contact with. Am I uplifted? Do I look forward to meeting them again? Or do I feel drained and exhausted every time I come in contact with them? Pay attention to their body language and tone of voice when they talk to you, and their choice of words. Do you feel respected and supported? Or do you feel like a second class citizen in their eyes? I listen to my gut. If it feels good I'm happy to interact with them. If not, I'm gonna move on; I'll stay respectful to them when I see them but limit my time around them as much as possible. Peace of mind.
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Smart!!!
I know someone who has all of these personality traits, and she is a classic narcissist. Very hard to be around. Setting boundaries and sticking to them is necessary with her
A narcissist has no respect for your boundaries. Dr. Les Carter on UA-cam has been so helpful regarding dealing with toxic narcissists.
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I have respect for my boundaries, and I stick to them, which is my protection
They're VERY competitive and have to BEST you.
I know one if slighted will destroy your property because material things are what matters to them!
Run away as fast as you can!
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Thank you, but I don't live with or see this person much. I just know her
These types of people that are in power will be the end of us all whether we like it or not. Just recently I left social media and cut out several family members for self care. I was tired of walking on eggshells, trying to keep the peace being someone I am not just to keep from being hurt, criticized, controlled or judged. Abuse isn’t just physical. In fact I rather be hit than mentally abused or neglected. It’s been a rough week, and I'm starting to realize I have neglected my own life and am learning to fall back in love with the life I have built on my own. It’s OK to be softhearted and good natured, not a weakness as long as you don't let these types manipulate you and take advantage of your kindness. There are moments I break down but remind myself you have to be strong to move on.
2:00+"No boundaries." oh my god.
I like your advice. I have, so far, never been in a fight or hit by anyone. I have some other personality types to add: the women at church and the social workers who seem to think that being good, or being Christian, means being stupid. I have learned to ignore other women and their advice.
So, another lesson I have learned is to not despise yourself for having a higher-than-normal IQ. I mean, you took the weeks' long testing - along with all the other kids in school and you got told. Just like those tests in the military that test your IQ. So, if you are smart, you read the signs (and feel the vibes) and you are one or two steps ahead and can see what will probably happen. And you are always stone cold sober. Don't listen to ordinary people, you are the smart one. Yes, not just weird, but smart. I usually run for the hills and being super thin, I can run like the wind and get through tiny spaces. Cross the street, turn around, move seats, just get out of Dodge and leave the party.
Great advice/data in your videos, even backed with footage of you putting it into action personally in at least one case. I've sent several to a friend of mine, and I'll likely do so again because i think watching them will help make me and mine safer. Thanks man, you're doing good work!
3:00+"the gossiper" oh my god!!!
Soooo true! Thanks for the info!
These are personality traits present in different personality types. Thank you for the wisdom. It is helpful.
I ❤ your channel that discusses topic such as this!
I learn so much & you speak on very good points.
Please keep making videos such as this. Thank you 🙏
Thank you for these descriptions. I'm familiar with narcissists; was married to one 24 years. He begrudged everything; every failure deserved severe anger and sometimes retribution; he burned through our money constantly. 18+ years after the divorce he's still trying to get at me financially or to hurt me with lies about our children. I've blocked him and don't answer his emails or calls when he gets through. He did me a huge favor, though: I can smell a narc a mile away; no one "love-bombs" me anymore. My late second husband was wonderful. We do learn.
Thanks for this reminder.
Excellent Reminders. I am paying closer attention to how people communicate with me or not... and other behaviors inclusive or exclusionary with me. Keep Eyes Stretched and grow in discernment
Amen! Bless your heart! Thank you for these videos!
So welcome 🙂!
Another Great Video! Congrats for helping others
You do a good job. Great topics to think over.
I'm in my 50s and knew a gossiper in HS, who pretended to be a close friend.
Yes, they can stir up trouble and drag you into it before you realize what's happened.
They will sniff out your trusting nature the way a shark senses blood in the water... and then like the shark, move in for the k---
Avoid people who expect you to read their minds instead of telling ypu outright what they want and mean. It's like you're constantly having to guess what they're thinking. Your mind ends up spinning 😞
This sounds like some of my co- workers.