This warning always stuck with me as a (helpful) child: If a responsible adult needs help with something, they will ask another adult and would not involve a kid.
Well said! It dawned on me too late in life to understand this. And it's in kids and women's nature to want to help... We need to undo that programming.
Ted Bundy (who totally looked like a creep, no matter how bad sensationalists want to pretend that he’s good-looking) showed beta-male by asking women to help him do stuff because his arm was in a “sling.” Why didn’t he ask a man for help?
I'm a woman born in 1972 and I am SO GLAD, I was taught in early adulthood, " Dont be a afraid to make a scene, to cause a fuss, to potentially seem rude.. it might just save your life".
If you think you might be in danger Yell Scream Fire Yelling help might not work. Some people don't want to get involved but people will respond to fire
Yes, and especially number 1. After what these people did, I don’t owe anyone anything. Helping the wrong people and people who feel entitled for you to help them can definitely lead to your demise or detriment of your health.
New predator ALERT! People posing as contractors. Electrical, related vendors such as renovation teams, HVAC, painters, plumbing, drywall, etc. They scout your neighborhood for business, drop off flyers, stick cards in your door, etc. Nothing fishy there at all. But once they are inside your house or apt they know your entire layout. Our friends have experienced they come back later and terrorize you. Many contractors help people out who for whatever reason cannot become a licensed contractor on their own. Pay them under the table. Sometimes a barter. Some of those people are very qualified and talented people, others are trafficked themselves, criminals, mentally ill, pimps, drug aladdicted, etc. The latter, Once they check out your place they decide they want one of two things (1) your place (to move into it - One person signs the lease but tens move in) or (2) they want to drive you so crazy you will do anything to make it stop and join their crew. SOUNDS. All day and night non stop. Unnatural dragging sounds, scraping metal, drilling, stomping sounds, screaming, cursing, huge booming noises, fights, strange music not fitting known genres even for other cultures, lots of people in and out all day and night. TRACKING YOU INSIDE. Contractors use tools to locate heat, water, joists, studs behind walls. This tool can also track your movements. Sometimes they stomp to let you know they know where you are in your residence this changes your frequency of peace to anger and fear. Because our bodies are heat and water this tool with adjustments tracks humans easily. On the toilet? Yes, they will track you into your bathroom. Why are they so loud walking inside even though they look so small and normal outside or do not make the same noises? Just like contractors can sound proof they can do just the opposite and make normal sound travel as though it is amplified. WiFi HACKING. Your Usage might go way up but no new devices are showing. Changing passwords often is just a short term fix. Short term as in a fix for just a few minutes. Use WiFi less. They mirror your phone and use basic technology to figure out your connections and latch on like a moray eel stealing your electronics and cell phone, WiFi and even juicing any electrical outlets in your place to juice your electricity so that basically it’s a cost free terrorism for them. You pay the costs. Use a basic plan if possible. WFH might not make this possible but that is work. Do what makes sense. For two people over 50+ 260 gb did NOT make sense. Not a gamer couple or anything similar. Downgrade where you are able for personal use. A slow throttle is nerve wrecking to them. SMART anything! Stop using it immediately or put it in a shirt timer. Go old school. Our friends had to stop using smart lights, smart cameras, smart everything because it is absolutely hackable. Lights were going on and off by themselves and the tv as well. Contractors often sleep in their trucks parked outside and that is where they were terrorizing them from until they then got access to an inside unit near them. Just a few things. Research. Know and learn. This is the 21st century but good sense lives forever! 8:08 This channel is GOLD I have not seen one like it. Basic sense in a high tech world. “Do not be afraid, for those who are with us are more than those who are with them” in 2 Kings 6:16
When I was 16 two older teenage boys offered me a ride home from a party, another guy called me over to him and said “Do not go with them, I heard them talking and it’s not safe” … I’m forever grateful to him, I didn’t even know him. I definitely would have went bc I knew them.
These days, people will just stare at you driving away, perhaps recording so they could sell it on UA-cam, and of course playing victims and heroes at the same time.
Once asked for ride by two young men in the middle of the day . I said no .Another incidence happened at an apartment complex in the late eighties . A man had pretended to be lost or looking for a particular person . He described her to me but had already described me to her . She asked me did he find you?, some guy was looking for you . I told her the same thing and be careful . During this particular time period several females were found unsliced in bathtub , in their apartments, in the area
I worked at an addiction clinic and had a client tell me that he had lived on the streets for years but had never been victimized. I asked him how he was able to accomplish this in such a violent environment. He said that he always walked away from and avoided people that were “too interested” in him and what he was saying. He said that most people will look around and have some level of distraction when talking to you. But those who are out to hurt you will show an abnormally high level of focus and interest in what you are saying/doing etc. He said to avoid these people. When I look back on my own life and times I was harmed…I can see what he was saying.
I learned that lesson the hard way when I was homeless. It pushed me to get sober and off the streets. All the rehabs were filled up so I went into nature and got sober. Then realized what is missing, fruit trees.
You reminded me of a conversation I had with a karate instructor. I will never forget his words: “Self-defense has nothing to do with martial arts. It has everything to do with logic: Do not invite risk.”
I was teaching my grand daughter how to pump gas. I was in my vehicle she was at my gas pump/tank. old people pulled into the pump on the other side and asked her for directions. She didn't know the roads they were asking for. I talked to them. My GD is a tiny thing why ask her? She doesn't look like she'd know. Maybe they felt more safe asking a young girl.
This unearthed a memory of mine... The exact same thing happened after I got out of middle school. There was a police car right behind them, though... which is why the sped away. How the fook should I have the knowledge of directions like they needed at age 13?
I think it depends a lot upon the time of day, where you are and how old the child is. In my case I was looking for a particular shop in an unfamiliar town so I asked a kid (probably about 11 or 12) on his bike at a street corner. He told me and that was the end of it.
Same happened to me as a kid. Some man drove up to a group of us ranging for about 5 y/o to teenage. He was asking for directions to the high school. I remember the teen boys hoping on the back of his truck to show him because we were so confused on how he could miss the school when he had to pass it to get to our neighborhood. He wasn’t satisfied with the teen boys he wanted us elementary girls to get on the back. Well my grandparents noticed him and came out of the house with guns and made him leave. Wish they would’ve called the cops too
I grew up in LA. In 1975, I was walking home from school alone in my Catholic school uniform, and I was waiting at a signal. This guy rolls up and wants to know where Overland Ave. is. I pointed and told him, “that way”. He asked me to come closer to his car because he couldn’t hear me. I turned around and walked in the opposite direction and crossed the street towards the “mini mall” on the opposite side of the street. I didn’t walk home. I walked to my mom’s work. I was 12, but even then we grew up with situational awareness.
A normal adult wouldn’t think it appropriate to ask a child directions (or whatever) and to be honest they probably wouldn’t expect a helpful response in the first place.
lol only I could write such a short story to be so freaking long 🤣🤡 TLDR; I walked home from school alone once when I was about six. When I came out of the hidden, fenced-in path that took me from school to the sidewalk directly across the street from my house, a puke-yellow VW stopped instead of passing as I’d waited for them to do. He said something to me and I was confused so I hesitated and even walked a few steps toward him as I went to cross the road to get to my yard. He made an attempt to grab me about the time I realized I was in danger. Luckily, I did realize something wasn’t right in time to high tail it home. It’s something that’ll always stick with me.
I am a 71 y/o woman, walks with a cane due to accident from years ago, who gets all my business done during daylight hours and home by dark in winter and summer months. I just found your videos and find them very encouraging and helpful even to seniors like me. Thank you for taking the time to post these informative videos.
I am a 76 yo senior female. I walk everywhere near my neighborhood to take care of my business such as marketing, banking, post office etc. as the winter approaches, days get darker quickly so I planned my schedule accordingly to finished up before dark! I carry stun-gun & maces in my easy reach pocket. Although my area is relatively safe but I still be cautious and alert when walking alone. So far so good!
I'm a relatively young woman (not as young as I used to be, though! 😆) and I also do not run errands after dark. DEFINITELY never alone! The only activity I'll do after dark is go to a church function--and even then, I try to leave "with the herd" and not linger.
I do Instacart primarily because I like to help senior citizens. Don't be afraid to use apps and let somebody else do the running around for you for a change. They don't charge sales tax. I have a lot of my customers then use that savings as their tip.
You don't owe an explanation for ANYTHING. To ANYONE. KNOWN or UNKNOWN. I used to have a hard time telling people no. Was always worried about my answer when I told them no. I'm not a liar. I didnt think I should have to lie to not do something I did not want to do. My therapist said NO is all you have to say. NO. I cant. I wont. Just no. Why not? I'm just able to. Sorry. I gotta go if youre on the phone and hang up. If you're in front of them. I gotta go. See ya.
My gut instinct has saved me many times. One that comes to mind was when I was getting off the freeway in North Hollywood. This old man yelled at me from the side of the road and asked for help. He said his car was dead and needed a jump. Even tho he was old, as a young woman, I didn't want to take the chance. I told him, "OK I will go get my husband and be right back." He looked frustrated, and when I looked in my rear view mirror, I saw him get in his car and take off. It was a ploy. His car wasn't dead. I was crying by the time I got home just thinking about what could have happened.
I had a very bad gut instinct with an old man . He wanted a ride home and normally I wouldn't have a problem but something was off . He started to mock me because I didn't feel comfortable to drive him home and what could he do ,he's old . My instincts told me he is working with someone else , then he tried to get me to feel bad by telling me he is suicidal and he has a lot of money that I can have .,.. creepy!!!!!
My father taught us that there is no good reason for a stranger (man) to need anything from you. For example, why would a grown man in a car ask a teenage girl who is walking down the street for driving directions? That is what my father meant and I always thought about that whenever I was out and about. It is better to be rude and safe than polite and in danger.
That's why human traffickers use women to lure other girls and boys....because women seem nicer, like they wouldn't do anything wrong. Look at Epstein and Ghislaine who got lots of girls for Epstein. Also women screaming for help is sometimes a trap, an ambush for men who don't know any better to get robbed, killed, etc.
“You gotta recognize when it’s NOT time to help someone.” This also applies to emotional aid!! That is *exactly* how emotional manipulators suck your energy away, you can lose years of your life trying to help someone see the light that is determined to keep staring into the dark and they will take you there with them. Be safe everyone
Exactly. It's like they're abducting your soul. Cause every time they get you with the feeling of guilt, for not helping for the hundredth time. Because "you're in a better situation than them". Well, not for long in this case with these soul vampires around; waiting for the next chance to drag you down into their void.
I dated a man who had served time in prison . First time in my life . Well it turned out to be a bad decision. When I talked to a minister he said to me a convict is two things . Divide the word: con and victim . That’s what they play . They play victim and pull you in , and they are ready to CON you .
I always told my children, just because they are a old woman or man don't make them sweet or nice & if they were evil when they were young, then they are old & evil.. they understood. They are cautious now as adults.
There's an old men in our neighborhood. He was a registered sex offender and had 600 articles of corn of kids 12 and under. I used to always feel like he wa an old man and needed help. Glad I saw that. I no longer say hi to him.
A very well dressed elderly lady, wearing a nice hairdo told me she wanted to try on some of the dresses on display at the department store where I worked ... That was the one time the store was robbed with me on duty: because I trusted that sweet looking, well dressed old lady. (This was 50 years ago - when such crimes were not common at all!)🤔
I told this to my step mother in law ( gray or white hair doesn’t make anyone nice or innocent) who took great offense at it. She was a very difficult human being. 😂
yes, alas, that is true, and when that happened, you are a sitting duck, being dependent on those who assult you.... terrible, trust broken. It is possible to heal from that, though....
@@sjuulkamps7068 I am 82 and am so shocked to learn how betrayed I have been. Have had to live my life on my own and, then, with advanced age, thought that a son would be so helpful. No, not the case. With a broken hip, broken wrist and dislocated elbow without pain medication -- but why. This son called my GP and told him I had dementia, called the pharmacist and told them I had dementia. So, for months I did not get pain medication because I had dementia and no one would listen to me. Never again. Be very careful and I say, especially from within your own family.
@@Themis33 ,It is also in the upbringing of female children, how often it is said to a daughter / girl to be "nice" and give that ..... relavite a hug or a kiss, being NICE! while that daughter might feel in her gut, something is off, with this person. Or just simply dislike that person. So, we, as women are learned very early on, not to listen to our gut feelings, being NICE is much more important, and SMILE< all the time, to everyone. As if we women are the ones to be responsible for how other MEN feel....? Kick those ingraned socialisation and be PARANOID, it could safe you! Be loud!!
My wife was nearly abducted in front of our young kids at a fishing lake. Our bulldog was with her and he went nuts. I truly think the dog, (by Gods grace) is what stopped it. Men, we MUST be looking out for the women, girls and kids that are in danger every day. Be a safe person for those that need it.
@@danielmiller2886 my heart feels the same , I did not hear the story of this particular person , it get's overwhelming that I have to give it over to a higher power and we all need to look out for one another more .
Great pointers. And people, STOP tailgating someone at a Stop sign. ALWAYS leave yourself room to drive around a car in front of you, and DON'T get boxed in by a car behind you! 🙏
Great point! I usually try to do that. I use to work grave yard shift and scary what was put there even 30 yrs ago. That is when I got in the habit of keeping space around me. You never know when you will have to escape a situation!!
Happened to me. I threw it in reverse and drove out of that situation... In fact, I will occasionally practice driving in reverse in empty parking lots. I'll start off slow till I get the feel of it and get my bearings down, then pick up speed and eventually turning the steering wheel to the right, making the vehicle do a half donut, so that my car is facing the direction I want so I can get the H outta there.
Great advice. I am not a typical target being 6'5 and 240lbs, but that doesn't mean I can't be a target. A few years ago, I was on the phone with my mom while driving over to take her shopping, and a woman who had runny mascara came running into the road a few blocks from my mom's place. I stopped and rolled my passenger window down halfway. She seemed frantic, saying she was lost, took the bus from the airport, and was trying to get to her friends place. My mom was quietly on the phone, and this woman just opened the door, sat down, and told me to take her to the high school because her friend lives across the street. Not asked, but said, "If it's up the road, you can take me there." As she sat down, I very clearly saw she had a gun in her waistband as her shirt came up just enough to make it visible. I didn't let on, I hung up my call without a word and started driving. The high school was literally 4 blocks away, so it's not far to figure it out. Thankfully, my dog was lying in the far back of my subaru, and I had a back seat down since she liked to come up sometimes and say hi to me. She got up, walked up front and stuck her head between the seats, and just stared at this woman. The woman was very quickly concerned about the dog acting nervous, and as I was pulling up near the high school, she said, "I think this is where she lives. You can let me off here." I pulled into a private drive, and she got out. I drove to the end, turned around, and as I am leaving, she is across the street with a thumb out. I'm certain that if I hadn't had my dog in the car, she would have pulled the gun and robbed me and taken my car. I called the police immediately and reported it in case someone were to stop.
I always pray for Gods protection before I leave my house, and when I am drivIng, and I always lock my doors when driving. Comes from being female, and having lived in a very unsafe country. There have been MANY times, were it not for The Grace of God I would not be alive today.
Unfortunately, my most dangerous times come from other women. Even crimes with men, women broke my lock on my door first for men to later walk right in, women dox me, women refuse to accept seriousness of crime and try to bully me not to reporting assaults by men, women want to see me harmed. Some low life men too, hate women, all women and want you killed. Some people enjoy misfortunes of others and feel superior for it. Women help lure women and men to crimes by men by seeming innocent but take you to secluded scene planned for a crime (maybe deadly). Women give false sense of security to other women. Most women use men to hurt you for them. Not all women of course, just harder to identify than an unhinged man.
My teenage son was surrounded by a about a dozen other teenagers on his way home one afternoon asking him for 1 Euro (usually what homeless ppl say, but these weren’t). He told them he didn’t have money on him. They wouldn’t let up, circled around him, one guy stood in front of him and took out what looked like pepper spray… My son in a fraction of a second evaluated the situation, took a dash to the side to the road and ran! They laughed. But it was the best decision to make in that situation. Nobody was around. They outnumbered him and showed they would force to get what they wanted. To this day I am very proud of my son and grateful to God that He kept him from harm.
I'm a former homeless person, we have a rule of not accepting help we didn't ask for because traffickers and some gangs will use offers of assistance as bait to hurt us.
Good to know if I ever become former person with home. Thanks for sharing and congratulations on overcoming this challenge! It must take incredible willpower to come back from that.
@Michau940 No amount of willpower will overcome being disabled my dude. It was because I committed suicide and the hospital helped me get into a place afterwards.
I remember hitch hiking in the early 80's, a Van pulled over and I got in, it turned out to be a lady who gave me a huge stern lecture about getting in a strangers Van or any vehicle for that matter, this was in Los Angeles and to this day I will never forget that lady, and what could have happened to me.
I've done the same thing to younger ladies in the Portland area. Although I was an idiot who didn't drive and sometimes hitchhiked alone when very young. God saved me from my own stupidity.
I used to work in construction and I was working on a project in downtown Nashville, TN. One morning around 5:30am, I was parked and getting some tools out of the trunk of my car. I was always aware of my surroundings. I saw a guy coming my way from a distance. He was making a beeline for me. I stood up and grabbed my billy club from the trunk and shouted very loudly at the guy to stop. I took a defensive position and was getting ready to club the guy if I had to. He immediately stopped and put his hands up and started to apologize. I asked him what he wanted and he told me that he wasn't trying to alarm me but he wanted to ask about the company I worked for, that he was looking for a job. He didn't come any closer to me and I told him that he should never do that again...to anyone. He turned around and left. Some people are just plain stupid when it comes to things like this. I'm a woman, by the way.
@@IRatherbeTrashthanADemocrat Well, once he saw that I had a weapon and wasn't messing around, he probably figured that I was more trouble than it was worth. I'm just glad nothing more happened.
@@Gabyyll I'm sure he wasn't looking for a woman that was ready to beat the crap out of him, either. As I said before, I'm glad nothing more came of it.
My husband & I were visiting Montmartre cemetery in Paris. There were not many people around, but this guy came up to my husband asking if he could help find a particular grave. My husband went off with him to help, but I was a bit more concerned so I followed them. The grave couldn't be found so I offered my map to this guy, which he refused. He then asked my husband (not me) if he could help him find another grave. By this stage my gut instinct kicked in, so I said to my husband we had to go because I needed to use the bathroom. This guy tried to get me to leave my husband there whilst I went off to the bathroom. I forcefully told the guy no that's not happening & dragged my husband away. I have no idea what that was all about, but the whole thing didn't feel right. My husband is more friendly & polite than me. Unfortunately predator types target people like this. I, on the other hand, am not afraid to say no & will gladly walk away from any person or situation that doesn't feel right.
Smart woman. Something was definitely up, he was working too hard to separate you. My thought is that you may have been the target. Husband is out of sight, accomplices appear and you disappear. Very scary.
As a child of the the 70's I was always taught to listen to my gut, but dogs help too! When my mom and I were home alone one night when I was like 7, and we were in a secluded small village house, a young woman came to the door asking to use our phone as she had been in an accident but our GSD was barking at the other door!! Where 3 big guys were waiting!! My mom called the police right away. I shudder to think if we didn't have a dog!!
@@jebby16 although if you think, most dogs will alert you to intruders (unless it's a known person). You need to choose a dog with territorial behaviour. Any dog, even a mutt, that consistently warns about people at the doors is good.
One thing my dad taught me was to “never drink something you didn’t pour yourself” and it’s just as you said. It doesn’t always happen but situational awareness is the key.
Whether you're at work or at play regardless of where you work, a factory, a lab. an office government or civilian, a day care center or a hospital or Dr's office, in fact anywhere. Trust absolutely no one. All drugs are pharmaceuticals, go figure.
Absolutely it’s one of the first things that they teach you in the central intelligence agencies and government services don’t eat or drink anything that you don’t have total control of
When that happens I turn around and look them directly in the eyes. If it's an elderly person just being unaware I just ignore it. If it's a man, or a woman that I don't feel good about I'll ask them to give me a little more room. Usually just turning and looking at someone is enough and they'll say, " Oh, sorry", and back up. Practicing karate for many years made me very unafraid of a little verbal confrontation. I mean, it's not like they're hitting me.
Your comment spoke to me. I will create my own space and move myself away or place a bag of groceries behind me to create space. This is one of the reasons why I try to shop earlier because some people are idiots and plain stupid with no concept of personal space. Thank you for your comment!
...be loud and proud - enough to embarrass them will bring attention they don't want and will avoid. Don't worry about what other people will think about it even if they play the race card. They are the offending element in this case.
Saying out loud what a person is doing to make you frightened or uncomfortable is so powerful especially if you have people around you. Everyone will turn to listen and atleast eavesdrop to see what’s happening. That should give you a good window to get away from that person.
This isn't just true for physical predators, this is also true for psychological predators as well, ones that know how to play really sick head games, as well. Most sex offenders & trafficers will use psychological head games on their victims, more than anything else.
The psychological stuff is actually worse in some ways because it's harder to prove... As a woman, the psychological stuff is the one I most often encounter. I can spot a predator a mile off nowadays, usually via their body language, mind games, facial expression, tone of voice etc....and it's not confined just to the opposite sex but very often is!
@@thehuntress8850 Many psychological predators are just bullies who want to destroy their victim by belittling them for their own amusement. These people are psychopaths and Iv'e has a lot of unfortunate experiences with scum like that.
Psychological predators control us with fear. They don't even have to be violent towards us, yet a skilled predator can still control us through intimidation without overt violence
This is excellent. Only once or twice in my life have I ignored that gut feeling, and I have scars from like 60 stitches now. One thing I would add to this, is that it's not just strangers, most people are killed by someone they know, plus you've also got the mafioso thing of, it'll be one of your best friends that comes to do you in. I couldn't believe the world is as messed up as it is when I was younger, but I believe it now.
This explains something…my mother asks for directions sometimes because she is seriously directionally challenged and hates smart phones….she has the hardest time getting people to help these days. I totally get it though. I would be distrustful too.
@@Awall79yeah but there's a difference between helping an elderly person who probably doesn't understand how GPS works and just being plain old ignorant. I think those people were being ignorant.
One of the most important things I ever learned during Sunday school when I was a young teen was that there is never any scenario where a grown man needs to be asking a young woman for help. IMO that goes for any adult asking any child for help. At absolute most an adult can ask a child to go get someone to call 911 but nothing more.
The Rules of Stupid state that you should never... 1. Go to Stupid places, 2. With Stupid people, 3. At Stupid times, and 4. Do Stupid things. You can usually get away with breaking one of the Rules of Stupid, but two or more really increase the odds of bad things happening.
@@alexxx4434 my mom has extremely sensitive intuition and is arrogant to believe it will never fail. She does stupid things trying to help and not standing back, she is in her 80 I just shake my head. She has NO reasoning
@@alexxx4434 True and I think most people would rather be wrong and dodge a potential bullet they may never know about than be right, ignore it, and then live to regret it.
When my older brother and I were in middle school and were walking home, I remember getting stopped by some guy. He said he could give us a ride home. My brother thought maybe he was a friend's dad or someone we new and started to get in the car. I remember grabbing his arm, pulling him as hard as I could saying "No, we're good." I did not let go, and ran off with him until we turned down the next street.I always think about what could have happened if I just let my brother go with him. But back then, it was never even a thought in my mind not to take my brother and just run. But the idea haunts me. Doesn't matter how safe your area is, bad people are everywhere.
I walk out my door and my awareness is on full alert to navigate thru these times. No animal is as viscous and sick as the human mind. My intuition has saved me time and again. I no longer question myself. I learned to pay close attention to my dog who goes everywhere with me. We are bonded thru unconditional LOVE protecting and caring for each other we rescued each other.
Thank you. I just experienced that. In a motel room due to Milton, I had to retrieve something from my car @ night. I saw him randomly knocking on doors. He saw me and approached me too quickly. I immediately said, NO! RAN into my room. I peeked out and he was right there!! Looking back at me! I grabbed my phone and called 911. Police showed up immediately and made him leave. That was scarey!
One of the biggest baits is something designed to make you feel ashamed. Like being offered alcohol when you're a minor, or marijuana in a state where that's not legal, or something sexual that's taboo in your circle, or a shady bargain on something that looks stolen. The predator's goal is not only to bait you, but also make you reluctant to report the crime.
Many years ago I worked part time as a barmaid in a pub, a group of young army recruits came in and had some drinks until closing time. I had the offer of a lift home by a co worker when one of the army lads said “ We can give you a lift home in our van” I almost accepted it when my gut instinct told me loudly and clearly “ DON’T. “ I suddenly saw the danger I could be putting myself in. Lesson learned, always listen to your gut instinct.
And don’t ever open your door to a stranger. Ever. They work in teams. The woman saying her car broke down has two guys lurking in the bushes waiting to force their way in. Keep your head on a swivel always. Listen to your inner voice, it’s always right
....just don't get yourself in that situation to begin with. You have a choice whether to enter into a situation if you are driving - avoid stopping at all costs if someone is trying to guide you into a stop. Be smart !
My dog has saved me more than once. One time a “window salesman” showed up and wanted to come in the house. My very large dog (usually friendly) literally came un glued.
My mother's big German Shepherd knocked a salesman off our front stoop when he started getting aggressive. She caught the dog as he ran past her before he could attack the salesman.
Yeah, dogs are SO AWESOME in so many ways! Interesting story, when I was in college, I rented a room in a house with several other college guys (we were all friends). One of the guys had this awesome dog that was a Great Pyrenees and Akita Mix (shed like CRAZY!). This house had so many different people coming in/out all the time because we had a lot of college friends, and this dog was usually very chill. There was this really weird neighbor who was a "hoarder" down the street (you could see the piles and pathways of newspapers/things when he had his garage or front door open). He had a long white beard, long white hair, and always wore a hat and often sunglasses. This guy came to our door once trying to get us to sign some kind of petition, and the DOG WENT ABSOLUTELY BALLISTIC! WE HAD TO HOLD THE DOG BACK FROM ATTACKING HIM! This dog had NEVER acted this way before. When I saw this guy up close, I could see that his beard (and maybe hair) was fake - it was like some kind of disguise! This dude was so creepy, but what amazed me is how this dog instinctively KNEW IT! Dogs rule! We have a tiny Yorkshire Terrier now, and that little 7-pound dog is so damn brave - sometimes we have to hold her back from strangers or unfamiliar dogs (and it doesn't matter what size they are!).
When I was about 16- I was walking along the highway to my church for youth group. I experienced a moment exactly like the movie, "Taken". As I was walking along the highway- a man pulled up beside me, rolled his passenger window down and said, "heyyy, where are you headed?" And I just said, "oh, just to my church right there. You can see it from here." He said, "oh I can give you a ride. Don't worry, it's not that far. Come on, it will be fun." Something in my gut just told me to stay away from him. I moved about 20 feet away from him and just said, "no that's ok. I'll just run there." And I ran to church as fast as I could.
Running was a bad idea for several reasons: 1. It brings you out of breath and unable to fight. If you don't use a reliable chance to run to safety, don't run. Especially you certainly won't be able to outrun a car. 2. Depending on the area you lure criminals of opportunity with it. 3. It shows fear.
@@sunnyday7843 an injured dog is not predatory...they are defensive, because they ARE injured...and your attempts to help them signals to them, that you could move them, resulting in pain, and possibly further injury. You need to call a vet for advice, or call a rescue centre, or let the animal sense your intention. Don't just blanket ban helping hurt animals. Their injury is not a Bait and Trap situation!!!!!!
Learned something new. "From Middle English nyce, nice, nys, from Old French nice, niche, nisce (“simple, foolish, ignorant”), from Latin nescius (“ignorant, not knowing”); compare nesciō (“to know not, be ignorant of”), from ne (“not”) + sciō (“to know”)."
The evil in government usually has support from the extremism from within the grassroots population. Countless examples. Criminals run governments, whether it be Russia or China. A tiny example. Governor Abbot of Texas pardoned a man one month after being convicted of first degree murder. MAGA conservatives, especially rural religious folk, cheered him. Dictator Vladimir Putin who murders, imprison and persecutes dissidents in Russia is popular with these folk.
I was walking home in the evening when I was a young adult. I was about 10 metres away from the road when a man driving pulled over to stop and asked me what road he was on. I answered the question and expected him to drive off, but instead, he insisted I walk over to the car and help him read a map. I politely refused and walked over to the pub, which was busy and close by, and more importantly, inthe oposite directionto where he was facing. I couldn't quite put my finger on it, but the whole situation just gave me the pick. Anyway, that's my two cents. Be safe.
I have been traveling the US in my campervan full time for over a year, I am a pretty big guy and I am always armed, always. Your video is excellent with many very good rules people should follow. My being armed does not negate my following the things you said we should be doing. In the woods, SA is very important. There are 2 legged and 4 legged predators and being alert, and following your instincts can be the difference between survival or being prey. I was camped once near a lake and a group of 4 men walked past my van out of nowhere. They had no vehicle, no backpacks like hikers would have and this lake is 5 miles from any decent road. They were whispering to each other as they went by slowly about 20 feet away from the van. They came back by a few minutes later this time 10 feet away, silent, no whispering. The next time, they came right next to my van, like maybe 2 feet away. By then I was already in the drivers seat, started the engine and I drove to another free camping area an hour away. As I drove away, they all stood together in a group and stared as I left. I was armed but decided I did not like what I was seeing, and just bugged out. Maybe they were nice guys just curious about my van build? Possible but my gut said something is about to go down here and I need to be gone. I chose a van for this tactical reason of not having to go outside where a threat is, to be able to drive away. An rv trailer or pick up camper does not give you this important advantage.
...armed or not, the best tactic is go immediately and go fast. btw: I lived in a camper for two years and having a crawl through window helped a lot for any situation I wasn't comfortable with. Those were better days, I didn't feel the need for a firearm then - I can say I would definitely carry now and more careful about where I parked.
@@ChadBoss-qr4hl ...like Richard Feynman's book says - "What do you care what other people;e think?" You don't have to go out of your way to be rude but be what you need to be.
@@mariatorres9789 ...awesome - a little luck mixed with awareness never hurts. It's like they say - it seems the harder I work the luckier I get. Glad to hear you both got out clean.
At 17, I was driving home through uninhabited country roads at night, and around a bend two people were lying in the other lane. My first thought was, "It's a trap," so I sped up, with adrenaline bashing my heart so hard. In the review mirror, they got up. It must have been a full moon, to see that, but being raised to distrust myself and always being told I'm a stupid girl by the adults in my life, that was SOME confirmation to trust my instincts. I never called the police when I got home, because I thought they, too, would be annoyed by me, but I didn't hear of anything on the news.
A neighbor in my community told me recently that his 23 year old daughter wanted to give a homeless man a ride to the soup kitchen. On the way, he forced her to pull the car over, killed her and took off with the car, drove like a mad man, caused a crash and injured two other people. The car belonged to my neighbor but he gave it to his daughter to use. Because of this, the couple who got injured is now suing him. His daughter is dead, the law suit may ruin him, the car is totaled, and he cannot even bury his daughter because law enforcement wont release the body due to ongoing investigations. All this because the girl wanted to give a homeless man a ride to a free meal.
I was a girl, with that kind of heart and behavior. It allways got me in problems and in serious problems and very, very serious problems. I escaped many times. Was a hard learner. I now have still the heart at 54 but the brain of a very tough woman who sees lots of things comming, listening to my gut and i help no more. I helped this year a woman and again...very bad idea. Now my heart is closed. Only animals make me still soft. This is something i will never get rid off... Horrible story. A whole family in ruins.😢😢😢 A young woman, too good for this world. She payed the prize.
@@heide-raquelfuss5580 Thank you Heide for your comment. Helping animals is just as much a noble cause 🧡. They are just as much God's children as anyone else.
1) when an offer is too good = walk away. 2) be aware of your surroundings and always ask who will benefit from my actions. 3) that feeling, you know what I’m talking about.
Some people call it your gut, some call it spidey sense, I call it the Holy Ghost. Inside u, from your center, there is a feeling, like a voice that will try to guide you. Listen to it!
Great info as always man. I stopped drinking almost 2 years ago now; and I noticed just how many bad environments / people you can steer clear of by not going out past 8:00 or so. That whole scene is so chaotic & unpredictable. Staying sober keeps my neuroticism right where it needs to be to avoid such characters.
When I was around 15 I was at a local all ages club with my friends to see a band. A creepy guy came up to us and teied to get us to go check out his new sound system in his car. We refused and hd left us alone. A few days later that same guy was on the news for rape, sexual assault, and we were incredibly freaked out when we recognized him.
There’s also the relationship predator. I heard about victims deliberately getting infected with incurable STDs as a way to keep them in the relationship or spite them. I dated a guy who switched into guilt tripping me about when I can let him “you know what” and I told him I want to make sure that he is STD free first and he got mad and pulled out the old “If you don’t trust me, then why are you with me” card.
I think the first thing to remember is: they ARE predators. Too often we think of these individuals as people like us, which means we expect them to have compassion or think like us, or believe we can predict what they'll do or reason with them. If we remember there are humans out there whose main goal is to prey on others, for whatever reason, we will start to be more cautious and listen to our instincts.
Sent this to my daughter. As I got older I decided I do not care about being polite after being harassed and frightened a couple times trying to help somebody - I’m not giving you a ride, I’m not stopping to give you directions, I’m not trying to be nice when some strange dude tries to have an unwanted conversation. It’s sad it has to be that way but it does.
I busted my tooth out on a bike track. I was 14, it made me feel goofy for decades, and over the last 22 years, many people have encouraged me to get it fixed. But it is the #1 threat deterrent I have found. I just give them this hillbilly grin. Their eyes always widen in horror and disgust. Personal space established!
This makes me think of the video posted by a lady a lone in some park/ woods, when a guy on a bicycle drove past asking her if the road ahead is a dead end. And she just said " I dont know" That triggered a whole saga of him circling her and at some point he even said he is obligated to cicle her ( he was very close to her at some point). She late posted a video that a couple came along and helped her. Thank God she was safe in the end. But alot of people ( women included) said she should've been more friendly and he would have not reacted that way. She instinctively knew he just asked something random to start up a convo/establish contact with her. And like you said you dont owe anyone anything who dont want to give, whether its personal belongings or energy
I'm a southerner also. I was lucky that my dad was ex Air Force and had a fairly high clearance, therefore knew things most people don't. He taught me from a very young age to be careful at all times. You can be friendly, but learn to recognize potential danger signs and don't allow yourself to get into tricky situations from the get-go.
Southerners do not understand what good manners really are. Manners are doing what needs to be done graciously, but that doesn't mean never saying no or putting your foot down when somebody is out of line. As a Yankee, I know that southerners are quick to call people rude if they don't play along with their "see what great manners I have performances" all the time. They never stop to think what suckers they often are and that the Yankees are just rolling their eyes. It's almost like Southern culture loves to be victims. Easy prey served up on a platter.
FYI… On the street, “Hey can I ask you a question”? IS A QUESTION! And it is usually followed by another question asking you for money, time, explanation or is a distraction. Like he says, you don’t owe anyone. “Sorry, not today”, is a non-confrontational answer. Then keep it pumpin’!
"Do not let anyone manipulate you into helping them when you don't feel right about it." I believe this transcends personal safety into general mental wellness ❤️
Thank you. Oh yeah, and if I don’t know you, I’m not obligated to support you financially. I earned what I have and didn’t get that from anybody but myself.
Was at a closed bank this past weekend getting cash from the ATM. There was only one woman her car in the parking lot. I got my cash and got into my car. The woman approached my car on foot with a handful of cash and asked if I would help her deposit it. I told her through my open window, that no, I couldn’t help her. As I turned my car around to leave I noticed a man in another car nearby with his head down. Glad I wasn’t my usual helpful self.
I had a man try to lure me out of a mall to his car when I was 15-16. He didn’t grab me, there was nothing violent about it…he approached me at the back of a Spencer’s store and started talking to me - how I should be a model, and he was an agent and had a camera in his car, blah blah blah. The first thing off that I noticed was that while he was with me, his eyes were darting around, he was watching other people in the store, I think to see if anyone was noticing him talking to me. And he was very nervous. Dressed well, but sweating. Of all the cagey situations in my life with men, and there have been quite a few, this one was the creepiest, and even at that youngish naive age, my spider senses were off the chart.
As a preteen on my way home from school I had at least 2 cars slow down and offer me a ride. I almost wish cops would do under cover stings just having small policewomen just pretend to be young girls to catch some of these predators. But you’re spot on, be aware that these people exist. As a new mom, it’s my fear that I won’t be present when my son needs me. As soon as he’s old enough, I’m signing him up for martial arts.
Your most dangerous predators are the ones sanction by the government and its institutions, since they operate above the law and immune to prosecution...
When I was an educator, I never allowed my students to go to the bathroom by themselves. I assigned them a bathroom buddy and would rotate if they asked to use the bathroom more than once. I did this to foster the buddy system in case they ever got into a bind. Also, the school had an outdoors setting and I thought, "What if a predator came to the school bathroom and waited for a child to harm?" The students were perplexed and some thought that they were gaming me by abusing their bathroom privileges. However, I was trying to teach them an important lesson on personal safety and how good people working in groups are even more effective than one good person against the wolves.
Thank you 😊. We should all protect the children and not leave their safety up to chance. I always told the students to get along no matter their differences and leave the trash talk for outside of the classroom. In the end, children need to see each other as a resource rather than competition. Adults with bad intentions will capitalize on the divisions between children in order to gain access and control before destroying them. 😭
I, a lone woman, was sitting at a gas station and looking at a map (this was obviously pre GPS). I was approached by a couple of men...SO friendly, saying that they were local and would lead me to my destination. Thank God, my gut instinct told me to NOT follow them or accept any help from them.
The minute I see someone attempting to get to close to me, I get immediately suspicious. And after I clearly give body language of leave me alone and they ignore it, I KNOW their dangerous.
Um OR AUTISTIC. 😅 We need to be taught what body language means. We do not know, and we do not get the message. Please USE 👏 YOUR 👏 WORDS 👏 Thank you!!!! 🎉❤😊
It took me till my early 30s to realise this.. I often helped people as brought up to be kind and i can tell you this kindness got me into lots of trouble with predatory men over the years because I felt sorry for them. Parents need to tell there children its OK not to help if your not comfortable. I was more concerned about the other person than myself. Women in particular make this mistake and women who have grown up without a Father need to be taught how to protect themselves even more as our natural inclination particularly if caring is to help. Thank you for your timely video
OH my goodness. Ditto of my life. Thank God I decided to revise my etiquette. People will do deadly ugly things to you and then be dirty enough to call you rude fir resisting. We can be nice , with godly wisdom. And they can go to hell
I'm a mental health counselor and what you say is so true. So MANY problems would be avoided if women didn't believe they have to take care of everyone else even strangers. It's an ego thing in a way. "I'm special, I can help this person even though they're difficult and kind of dangerous." We need to raise our daughters to be "selfish". Seriously.
Sometimes what we're gifted with, can become a hindrance rather than a blessing if it's not balanced and tempered. Wanting to help people is a good and noble cause. Wanting to help everyone is not, especially when we don't have the discernment to understand who should receive our help versus who should not. I think far too many women were taught that they were supposed to be accommodating and selfless - for all the wrong reasons.
My dad is retired special forces, he tells a story about being a young trooper out in town at night, took a short cut down an alley and met four guys who surrounded him and had knives. He said he sure impressed those thugs with his abilities, he reckons they probably had never seen a man morph into a blur before as he high tailed it out of there as fast as his legs would carry him. As Shakespeare said "The better part of valor is discretion."
I’m 21. Working since a teen has taught me that elderly woman target young woman and young men target older woman .. maybe just from my pov . Def not a fact. Thank you for sharing this world is scary !!!
So true!! Bundy's MO was to play the role of an injured person on crutches struggling around college campuses and the naive girls would ask if he needed help. So sad... These sick predators have no limits.
Bundy wore a fake cast on his hand/arm that he would use to club the victim in the head. The passenger seat of his Volkswagen Beetle had been removed to make plenty of room to toss the unconscious woman picked that day. Predators don't always drive vans.
I remember a few times in my teens strange men would stop their cars and offer me a lift and when I said no they got angry that I "didn't trust them" they were "just trying to be nice." I wasn't going to let them guilt trip me into giving away my safety.
The ploy is called, "Type casting". You walk past a scum bag who tries to engage you at the store. You ignore him and he says, 'I'll bet you're too stuck up to talk to me" hoping that you will, just to prove him wrong. They give you a mild insult, to bait you into proving them wrong...
Any truly nice person understands how dangerous the world can be, and especially for women, and wouldn't insist you do something outside your comfort zone. That behavior is a dead giveaway they are up to no good!
@@Kharkovkid , My aura, or something like that, lol, is that strong, people dont mess with me, on the streets, in shops, i just have to look at them and that it, they knów... i am always aware of my surroundings and who is in there and who is too close by, for my comfort... When attacked you need to be ruthless, going for the kill kind of attitude.. If you will do that in real, is something else, ofcourse... i am from the Old WOrld, across the big bleu pont....
Very much respect what this man is offering. I've come through some dicey situations in my life unharmed. Am 72 now, female. I hope to stay healthy and aware for more good years. Being older as a woman is a positive, easier to be "invisible", but on the other hand, more easily seen as a possible victim (weak, "not all there") by a predator.
Yes, I am 82 and have had to go through two months of pain from a broken hip, wrist and dislocated elbow, all because my son told my GP and Pharmacy that I had dementia. What a horrible life lesson at this age. I have always been alone in life - lived many years in NYC and Houston and survived. Been betrayed by a cousin - she was a vicious gossiper R.I.P. and, of course, I was ripe for the picking. Then my own son betrays me and lets me suffer two months without pain medication. Oh, he was so worried that he even sent the RCMP (now in Canada) to do a welfare check since I had dementia and they might just send me some place. When they found me okay, he didn't stop, he sent social workers. They too found nothing wrong. Betrayal - it is so hurtful. But hey, I have my head, my brain and my God - what do I want more.
You and your loved ones, practice screaming together. I was a quiet kid. Had never screamed to my recolection. One day, 14yr old female me walked home in the dark from my friend's house 3 houses from my house. In my neighbors front yard I was tackled to the ground by two 30 yr old men that I knew. I didn't know who it was at first. I tried to scream help, but couldn't get it out loud enough. I tried 3 times as I fought them. It just came out no louder than speaking voice. I twisted out from under the weight on me and ran to my backyard and hid. They didn't come for me. They laughed and one yelled they were just kidding. That's when I knew who it was. I felt betrayed and stupid and scared. I told no one. My family was on hard times and I didn't want to bring in more hardship. Wish I had handled it differently.
You survived. No matter if they were joking; hard to imagine any scenario where adult men come into physical contact with a female minor without her consent. I do believe they meant you harm & never thought you would escape. Then they used the line just joking to try & avoid accountability. Good job being safe!
@@warriormamma8098 You are stupid. Two adult men in his 30s could have done literally any harm to a 14 years old girl. If they didn't, that means they didn't want to.
When you get hurt to where you know only the grace of God saved you a few times, being considered rude isn't even a consideration. . Be a lively B if theu cant understand a 2 letter word"NO"
Thank you for this. When I was a kid walking home from school, a car stopped, and two unsavory people called me to them. I knew something was wrong, stayed my distance, crossed the road to the opposite side and started walking really quick. They gave up and drove off. My heart was thumping massively. I am so grateful my mother warned me about people like that.
When I was a young girl a guy pulled up in his car near me and my cousin. He spoke in a very quiet voice so that I had to draw closer to tell what he was saying. I felt suspicious but took a couple of steps closer to his vehicle until I saw a rope in his back seat. I yelled at my cousin (also a girl) to get back. He might have been on the level and just wanted directions but my gut told me to get away fast.
@adw6894 a guy came up and started talking to me the other day outside a shopping center, trying to give me his phone number, he was headed into Lowe's to get something for his business ..he actually tried to get me to go over to his vehicle, um reeally? Why would I do that?? I said I'm good and walked away, he says" Be careful" weird.
This is the best advice I have heard in years. I got mugged by three young men 25 ago. They came up to me with the usual line “hey man, we want to talk to you.” I had a sinking feeling in my gut: I just knew that something bad was about to happen, but like a dummy I just stood there and talked to them. Then they attacked me to rob me. I should have run much earlier.
Great advice. When I was in my 20's I went to visit my old college town with my Mom. In a McDonald's parking lot an old man approached my car asking where a mechanic was. I told him right up the road. He seemed surprised that I knew since I had out of state plates. He then asked for my Mom and I to come around the back of the McDonald's to help him fix his car. I said "sorry, I'm busy." I drove away and went to a store instead of our hotel right away. It was scary to think of what could have happened. As a New Yorker we learn a lot of street smarts. I wouldn't fall for that one.
A young couple decided to stand about 3 inches from my back when I was at the checkout line of a local store. I glanced over my shoulder twice then turned and said with good volume straight to the male's face, "Can you please back up off me, just give me a little personal space, ok?" They moved a little and about 6 other people in line saw. I knew I did right even though the cashier's cheeks turned red. Maybe they meant me trouble or maybe not but it wasn't happening that day.
Yeah, something similar happened to me in the checkout line at the grocery store. It was a woman and she was standing very close to me, closer than she should've been. So, before paying the cashier, I turned to the woman and asked her to back up. I told her that she was in my personal space and I wasn't ok with that. She just looked at me, like I was the one with the problem. I looked directly at her again and told her that I wasn't going to pay for my items until she did. There was a long line at that point and the cashier was looking at me and then at her like she didn't know what to do. The woman took a couple steps back and then I proceeded to pay for my items, while making sure that she didn't see my transaction. Maybe the woman just had horrible boundaries or maybe she was up to no good. Either way, I'm not obligated to figure it out.
@CGdone well played. This happened to me but it was resolution by accident, I had a coughing fit suddenly lol for real. That lady backed up soooo fast hahaha
I was waiting for a bus in the suburbs going to play basketball. I had a young man in a car pulled up smile and told me he'd been sent to take me home. I asked him questions and kept stepping backwards. He even opened yhe door for me. Nothing added up so I told him it was alright and to go cause I could see my brothers car coming. I was very scared. He quickly took off. I walked home shaking and it was explained to me what had actually happened. My instinct really kicked in cause my Mum kept telling me not to go with strangers. This was 1968 and I was 11. My Mum always made me aware of safety when I was catching public transport. I had to be independent cause she was a single working Mum. She was a clever and loving Mum.
The chilling reality is we think people like this are new, these situations are new, they are not, predators and people up to no good have always been around.
My dad would force me to scream or speak loudly in public as a kid so that I wouldn't hesitate to yell if I ever felt trouble and someone wasn't already around to help me.
I learned the same thing when I first started bartending. The elderly bouncer took me to a park after closing and made me practice my "command voice, until I found one.
My parents did the very minimum and didn't do a great job at keeping us safe, but one thing my mom told me was "Δεν χρωστάς τίποτα και σε κανέναν" which means " You owe nothing and to nobody" Its solid advice! I only owe to God!
I was almost kidnapped many times when I was growing up. The first time it happened, my mom had just finished warning me about strangers that try to lure you with candy or helping them find their lost pet, right before going out to play. I went out and walked up the street to the end of the block, almost immediately, a man pulled up in a convertible and asked me to come help him find his lost puppy. I ran back home (probably screaming) as fast as I could.
Man even as a 35 year old woman I’m scared to walk in public by myself. Never used to be in my 20’s as much, but I’m way more aware of how dangerous people are! Young people be safe, you think things are fine but always be on gaurd!
Thank you for reminders. As we get older we dont always get wiser and sometimes become soft. I used to tell my students dont park next to a van. Back in away from door. And enter car on opposite side if you do. Keep you hand on panick button. When in doubt hit your panick button before you enter your car. Better yet go back in store and ask someone to walk you back. Got a bad feeling dont park there and find another time to come back. I literally have pulled up got a bad feeljng and gone to a different store all together.
I’m a single woman now living in the middle of the woods and very remote. I have four German Shepherds and a pit bull. I’m heavily armed at home and always carry and take two of my dogs whenever I possibly can. Just the presence of a GSD keeps people away. I’ve always owned GSD’s and many many times they saved my life.
We had a GSD/wolf mix when I was a teenager. We lived in the country. One day, while my dad was at work and we kids were at school, a man came to the back door. When my mom answered the door, Ana was at her side, growling low. Without giving an explanation for his visit, the man nervously backed away. My mom quickly realized what had almost happened and locked all the doors. She didn't see where he went.
Since men are more likely to fight back, and women are not trained to fight back, most women freeze, it is very important that woman need to learn to be alert, all the time!
This is so helpful. I was at a park with my dog sitting at a picnic table talking to my husband on the phone. A guy pulled up in a car and kept talking to me about my dog even though I was clearly trying to have a conversation on my phone. I was TOO polite even though he was making me feel uncomfortable. I should have shut him down.
Remember those annoying email forwards? Two of them may have saved my life! I found myself in two different scenarios that I had already read about that told me how to deal with them and then to evade a potentially dangerous situation both times. 1. I was going out to my car from where I worked, and there was a van next to my car on the driver side and a man sitting in a lawn chair. I asked someone on staff at the hospital where I worked if he would walk me to my car and wait until I locked my door from inside and he graciously did so. 2. I was leaving an appointment, and a man in a wheelchair asked me to get his shoe from inside his car. I stepped back and said to him, "Let me find someone to help you," and I went and flagged someone down. The gentleman I flagged down, and I, looked toward the man in the wheelchair (from a distance), and there was another man with him at that point. Apparently, that man wasn't as down and out as he wanted me to think.
This warning always stuck with me as a (helpful) child: If a responsible adult needs help with something, they will ask another adult and would not involve a kid.
EXACTLY
That's really great advice !
Well said!
It dawned on me too late in life to understand this. And it's in kids and women's nature to want to help... We need to undo that programming.
Ted Bundy (who totally looked like a creep, no matter how bad sensationalists want to pretend that he’s good-looking) showed beta-male by asking women to help him do stuff because his arm was in a “sling.” Why didn’t he ask a man for help?
Yup exactly, I’m grateful for being taught that as well
I'm a woman born in 1972 and I am SO GLAD, I was taught in early adulthood, " Dont be a afraid to make a scene, to cause a fuss, to potentially seem rude.. it might just save your life".
That's true.
Learn how to be a bitch!
Good to know!
If you think you might be in danger Yell Scream Fire
Yelling help might not work. Some people don't want to get involved but people will respond to fire
@@Jennifer-bs6oyWere you also born in 1972? “Scream FIRE!” When’s the last time that’s worked? Has it ever worked? Great programming, though.
“Do not sacrifice your life, to be a Samaritan for someone who just wants to hurt you.” Very wise words.
THIS!
Yes, and especially number 1. After what these people did, I don’t owe anyone anything. Helping the wrong people and people who feel entitled for you to help them can definitely lead to your demise or detriment of your health.
New predator ALERT! People posing as contractors. Electrical, related vendors such as renovation teams, HVAC, painters, plumbing, drywall, etc. They scout your neighborhood for business, drop off flyers, stick cards in your door, etc. Nothing fishy there at all. But once they are inside your house or apt they know your entire layout. Our friends have experienced they come back later and terrorize you. Many contractors help people out who for whatever reason cannot become a licensed contractor on their own. Pay them under the table. Sometimes a barter. Some of those people are very qualified and talented people, others are trafficked themselves, criminals, mentally ill, pimps, drug aladdicted, etc.
The latter, Once they check out your place they decide they want one of two things (1) your place (to move into it - One person signs the lease but tens move in) or (2) they want to drive you so crazy you will do anything to make it stop and join their crew.
SOUNDS. All day and night non stop. Unnatural dragging sounds, scraping metal, drilling, stomping sounds, screaming, cursing, huge booming noises, fights, strange music not fitting known genres even for other cultures, lots of people in and out all day and night.
TRACKING YOU INSIDE. Contractors use tools to locate heat, water, joists, studs behind walls. This tool can also track your movements. Sometimes they stomp to let you know they know where you are in your residence this changes your frequency of peace to anger and fear. Because our bodies are heat and water this tool with adjustments tracks humans easily. On the toilet? Yes, they will track you into your bathroom. Why are they so loud walking inside even though they look so small and normal outside or do not make the same noises? Just like contractors can sound proof they can do just the opposite and make normal sound travel as though it is amplified.
WiFi HACKING. Your Usage might go way up but no new devices are showing. Changing passwords often is just a short term fix. Short term as in a fix for just a few minutes. Use WiFi less. They mirror your phone and use basic technology to figure out your connections and latch on like a moray eel stealing your electronics and cell phone, WiFi and even juicing any electrical outlets in your place to juice your electricity so that basically it’s a cost free terrorism for them. You pay the costs. Use a basic plan if possible. WFH might not make this possible but that is work. Do what makes sense. For two people over 50+ 260 gb did NOT make sense. Not a gamer couple or anything similar. Downgrade where you are able for personal use. A slow throttle is nerve wrecking to them.
SMART anything! Stop using it immediately or put it in a shirt timer. Go old school. Our friends had to stop using smart lights, smart cameras, smart everything because it is absolutely hackable. Lights were going on and off by themselves and the tv as well. Contractors often sleep in their trucks parked outside and that is where they were terrorizing them from until they then got access to an inside unit near them.
Just a few things. Research. Know and learn. This is the 21st century but good sense lives forever! 8:08
This channel is GOLD I have not seen one like it. Basic sense in a high tech world.
“Do not be afraid, for those who are with us are more than those who are with them”
in 2 Kings 6:16
Jailbait is another one or honey pots
@@derekstarobasure, if you like young girls.
Otherwise, you should be good. For real.
That's really a YOU issue.
When I was 16 two older teenage boys offered me a ride home from a party, another guy called me over to him and said “Do not go with them, I heard them talking and it’s not safe” … I’m forever grateful to him, I didn’t even know him. I definitely would have went bc I knew them.
These days, people will just stare at you driving away, perhaps recording so they could sell it on UA-cam, and of course playing victims and heroes at the same time.
Once asked for ride by two young men in the middle of the day . I said no .Another incidence happened at an apartment complex in the late eighties . A man had pretended to be lost or looking for a particular person . He described her to me but had already described me to her . She asked me did he find you?, some guy was looking for you . I told her the same thing and be careful . During this particular time period several females were found unsliced in bathtub , in their apartments, in the area
@deeblessed1588 I like stories like this, it makes me realise that some people are good.
God sends us Angels 💛
Wow , thanks God!
I worked at an addiction clinic and had a client tell me that he had lived on the streets for years but had never been victimized. I asked him how he was able to accomplish this in such a violent environment. He said that he always walked away from and avoided people that were “too interested” in him and what he was saying. He said that most people will look around and have some level of distraction when talking to you. But those who are out to hurt you will show an abnormally high level of focus and interest in what you are saying/doing etc. He said to avoid these people. When I look back on my own life and times I was harmed…I can see what he was saying.
Wise man! This is very true.
Thank you so much for sharing! So true.
Agree. Most folks in public have no reason to talk to you. If they do it should be in passing or casual conversation. Anything else, has a motive.
nice info
I learned that lesson the hard way when I was homeless. It pushed me to get sober and off the streets. All the rehabs were filled up so I went into nature and got sober. Then realized what is missing, fruit trees.
You reminded me of a conversation I had with a karate instructor. I will never forget his words: “Self-defense has nothing to do with martial arts. It has everything to do with logic: Do not invite risk.”
When I was younger, my father told me that an adult should never ask a child for directions.
Yup. And men rarely ask for help. If one does, and you're a woman, don't. Men don't ask stranger women for help.
I was teaching my grand daughter how to pump gas. I was in my vehicle she was at my gas pump/tank. old people pulled into the pump on the other side and asked her for directions. She didn't know the roads they were asking for. I talked to them. My GD is a tiny thing why ask her? She doesn't look like she'd know.
Maybe they felt more safe asking a young girl.
This unearthed a memory of mine... The exact same thing happened after I got out of middle school. There was a police car right behind them, though... which is why the sped away. How the fook should I have the knowledge of directions like they needed at age 13?
I think it depends a lot upon the time of day, where you are and how old the child is. In my case I was looking for a particular shop in an unfamiliar town so I asked a kid (probably about 11 or 12) on his bike at a street corner. He told me and that was the end of it.
Same happened to me as a kid. Some man drove up to a group of us ranging for about 5 y/o to teenage. He was asking for directions to the high school. I remember the teen boys hoping on the back of his truck to show him because we were so confused on how he could miss the school when he had to pass it to get to our neighborhood. He wasn’t satisfied with the teen boys he wanted us elementary girls to get on the back. Well my grandparents noticed him and came out of the house with guns and made him leave. Wish they would’ve called the cops too
I grew up in LA. In 1975, I was walking home from school alone in my Catholic school uniform, and I was waiting at a signal. This guy rolls up and wants to know where Overland Ave. is. I pointed and told him, “that way”. He asked me to come closer to his car because he couldn’t hear me. I turned around and walked in the opposite direction and crossed the street towards the “mini mall” on the opposite side of the street. I didn’t walk home. I walked to my mom’s work. I was 12, but even then we grew up with situational awareness.
Good job kid, hopefully another kid reads this and learns something.
A normal adult wouldn’t think it appropriate to ask a child directions (or whatever) and to be honest they probably wouldn’t expect a helpful response in the first place.
lol only I could write such a short story to be so freaking long 🤣🤡
TLDR;
I walked home from school alone once when I was about six. When I came out of the hidden, fenced-in path that took me from school to the sidewalk directly across the street from my house, a puke-yellow VW stopped instead of passing as I’d waited for them to do. He said something to me and I was confused so I hesitated and even walked a few steps toward him as I went to cross the road to get to my yard. He made an attempt to grab me about the time I realized I was in danger. Luckily, I did realize something wasn’t right in time to high tail it home. It’s something that’ll always stick with me.
@@solvated_photonI once heard the best thing you can tell a child “ Grownups don’t need a kid’s help” stuck with me.
@@michellemcgill9328I'm gonna say that if I have kids. Thanks
I am a 71 y/o woman, walks with a cane due to accident from years ago, who gets all my business done during daylight hours and home by dark in winter and summer months.
I just found your videos and find them very encouraging and helpful even to seniors like me.
Thank you for taking the time to post these informative videos.
I am a 76 yo senior female. I walk everywhere near my neighborhood to take care of my business such as marketing, banking, post office etc. as the winter approaches, days get darker quickly so I planned my schedule accordingly to finished up before dark! I carry stun-gun & maces in my easy reach pocket. Although my area is relatively safe but I still be cautious and alert when walking alone. So far so good!
Stay safe, miss or misses. People can be cruel.
I'm a relatively young woman (not as young as I used to be, though! 😆) and I also do not run errands after dark. DEFINITELY never alone! The only activity I'll do after dark is go to a church function--and even then, I try to leave "with the herd" and not linger.
@@dwilliams21 Stay safe and take care of yourself, ma’am.
I do Instacart primarily because I like to help senior citizens. Don't be afraid to use apps and let somebody else do the running around for you for a change. They don't charge sales tax. I have a lot of my customers then use that savings as their tip.
This sums it up. "We don't owe them explanations" etc.
Don't talk to the ultimate predator, the government.
You don't owe an explanation for ANYTHING. To ANYONE. KNOWN or UNKNOWN.
I used to have a hard time telling people no. Was always worried about my answer when I told them no. I'm not a liar. I didnt think I should have to lie to not do something I did not want to do.
My therapist said NO is all you have to say. NO. I cant. I wont. Just no. Why not? I'm just able to. Sorry. I gotta go if youre on the phone and hang up. If you're in front of them. I gotta go. See ya.
We don't have to be nice to any strangers... either..
@@falling4mE Yep.. try telling that to your parents, grandparents.. anyone in your 'family'.
This is very difficult if you have been raised in this way
My gut instinct has saved me many times. One that comes to mind was when I was getting off the freeway in North Hollywood. This old man yelled at me from the side of the road and asked for help. He said his car was dead and needed a jump. Even tho he was old, as a young woman, I didn't want to take the chance. I told him, "OK I will go get my husband and be right back." He looked frustrated, and when I looked in my rear view mirror, I saw him get in his car and take off. It was a ploy. His car wasn't dead. I was crying by the time I got home just thinking about what could have happened.
I mean….Hollywood 😬
Thank God you didn't fall for it!!
I had a very bad gut instinct with an old man . He wanted a ride home and normally I wouldn't have a problem but something was off . He started to mock me because I didn't feel comfortable to drive him home and what could he do ,he's old . My instincts told me he is working with someone else , then he tried to get me to feel bad by telling me he is suicidal and he has a lot of money that I can have .,.. creepy!!!!!
Old men can be surprisingly strong. Don't underestimate them
@@jamessorrel
You are right.
Incredible strong are old men.
Never underestimate an old man or even crippeled old man.
My father taught us that there is no good reason for a stranger (man) to need anything from you. For example, why would a grown man in a car ask a teenage girl who is walking down the street for driving directions? That is what my father meant and I always thought about that whenever I was out and about. It is better to be rude and safe than polite and in danger.
That's why human traffickers use women to lure other girls and boys....because women seem nicer, like they wouldn't do anything wrong.
Look at Epstein and Ghislaine who got lots of girls for Epstein.
Also women screaming for help is sometimes a trap, an ambush for men who don't know any better to get robbed, killed, etc.
“You gotta recognize when it’s NOT time to help someone.” This also applies to emotional aid!! That is *exactly* how emotional manipulators suck your energy away, you can lose years of your life trying to help someone see the light that is determined to keep staring into the dark and they will take you there with them. Be safe everyone
Exactly. It's like they're abducting your soul. Cause every time they get you with the feeling of guilt, for not helping for the hundredth time. Because "you're in a better situation than them".
Well, not for long in this case with these soul vampires around; waiting for the next chance to drag you down into their void.
GOLDEN! Please, say it one more time for those in the back, for those with little ears!
Absolutely
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I dated a man who had served time in prison . First time in my life . Well it turned out to be a bad decision. When I talked to a minister he said to me a convict is two things . Divide the word: con and victim . That’s what they play . They play victim and pull you in , and they are ready to CON you .
I always told my children, just because they are a old woman or man don't make them sweet or nice & if they were evil when they were young, then they are old & evil.. they understood. They are cautious now as adults.
There's an old men in our neighborhood. He was a registered sex offender and had 600 articles of corn of kids 12 and under. I used to always feel like he wa an old man and needed help. Glad I saw that. I no longer say hi to him.
A very well dressed elderly lady, wearing a nice hairdo told me she wanted to try on some of the dresses on display at the department store where I worked ... That was the one time the store was robbed with me on duty: because I trusted that sweet looking, well dressed old lady. (This was 50 years ago - when such crimes were not common at all!)🤔
@@rmp7400 Goes to show you that the stereotypes we've been fed by the media are far from true or accurate.
I told this to my step mother in law ( gray or white hair doesn’t make anyone nice or innocent) who took great offense at it. She was a very difficult human being. 😂
@@Eidann63 😂😂...this is so true ..and I had to learn the hard way..I am 34yrs old..better late than never..
Predators can be family too...
Threats can come from within.
yes, alas, that is true, and when that happened, you are a sitting duck, being dependent on those who assult you.... terrible, trust broken. It is possible to heal from that, though....
Family can be more dangerous than strangers. They know more about us and they use that info to manipulate or hurt us.
@@sjuulkamps7068 I am 82 and am so shocked to learn how betrayed I have been. Have had to live my life on my own and, then, with advanced age, thought that a son would be so helpful. No, not the case. With a broken hip, broken wrist and dislocated elbow without pain medication -- but why. This son called my GP and told him I had dementia, called the pharmacist and told them I had dementia. So, for months I did not get pain medication because I had dementia and no one would listen to me. Never again. Be very careful and I say, especially from within your own family.
Tell me about it. You're way more likely to be abused by someone you know
@@Themis33 ,It is also in the upbringing of female children, how often it is said to a daughter / girl to be "nice" and give that ..... relavite a hug or a kiss, being NICE!
while that daughter might feel in her gut, something is off, with this person. Or just simply dislike that person.
So, we, as women are learned very early on, not to listen to our gut feelings, being NICE is much more important, and SMILE< all the time, to everyone.
As if we women are the ones to be responsible for how other MEN feel....?
Kick those ingraned socialisation and be PARANOID, it could safe you! Be loud!!
My wife was nearly abducted in front of our young kids at a fishing lake. Our bulldog was with her and he went nuts. I truly think the dog, (by Gods grace) is what stopped it.
Men, we MUST be looking out for the women, girls and kids that are in danger every day. Be a safe person for those that need it.
@@danielmiller2886 thank you for your comment ! The sad truth is many young men are also on the rise of going missing
@@SandyEstabrook-um5jb that's true. Human trafficking is a particular burden on my heart, especially after hearing Nathan Reynolds testimony.
Thank you 🙏 beautiful soul.
@@danielmiller2886 my heart feels the same , I did not hear the story of this particular person , it get's overwhelming that I have to give it over to a higher power and we all need to look out for one another more .
damn ur wife must have had big tiddies?
Great pointers. And people, STOP tailgating someone at a Stop sign. ALWAYS leave yourself room to drive around a car in front of you, and DON'T get boxed in by a car behind you! 🙏
great point
Great point! I usually try to do that. I use to work grave yard shift and scary what was put there even 30 yrs ago. That is when I got in the habit of keeping space around me. You never know when you will have to escape a situation!!
Another factual video , Great information.
Happened to me. I threw it in reverse and drove out of that situation... In fact, I will occasionally practice driving in reverse in empty parking lots. I'll start off slow till I get the feel of it and get my bearings down, then pick up speed and eventually turning the steering wheel to the right, making the vehicle do a half donut, so that my car is facing the direction I want so I can get the H outta there.
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Great advice. I am not a typical target being 6'5 and 240lbs, but that doesn't mean I can't be a target. A few years ago, I was on the phone with my mom while driving over to take her shopping, and a woman who had runny mascara came running into the road a few blocks from my mom's place. I stopped and rolled my passenger window down halfway. She seemed frantic, saying she was lost, took the bus from the airport, and was trying to get to her friends place. My mom was quietly on the phone, and this woman just opened the door, sat down, and told me to take her to the high school because her friend lives across the street. Not asked, but said, "If it's up the road, you can take me there."
As she sat down, I very clearly saw she had a gun in her waistband as her shirt came up just enough to make it visible. I didn't let on, I hung up my call without a word and started driving. The high school was literally 4 blocks away, so it's not far to figure it out. Thankfully, my dog was lying in the far back of my subaru, and I had a back seat down since she liked to come up sometimes and say hi to me. She got up, walked up front and stuck her head between the seats, and just stared at this woman. The woman was very quickly concerned about the dog acting nervous, and as I was pulling up near the high school, she said, "I think this is where she lives. You can let me off here." I pulled into a private drive, and she got out. I drove to the end, turned around, and as I am leaving, she is across the street with a thumb out.
I'm certain that if I hadn't had my dog in the car, she would have pulled the gun and robbed me and taken my car. I called the police immediately and reported it in case someone were to stop.
I always pray for Gods protection before I leave my house, and when I am drivIng, and I always lock my doors when driving. Comes from being female, and having lived in a very unsafe country. There have been MANY times, were it not for The Grace of God I would not be alive today.
Unfortunately, my most dangerous times come from other women. Even crimes with men, women broke my lock on my door first for men to later walk right in, women dox me, women refuse to accept seriousness of crime and try to bully me not to reporting assaults by men, women want to see me harmed. Some low life men too, hate women, all women and want you killed. Some people enjoy misfortunes of others and feel superior for it. Women help lure women and men to crimes by men by seeming innocent but take you to secluded scene planned for a crime (maybe deadly). Women give false sense of security to other women. Most women use men to hurt you for them. Not all women of course, just harder to identify than an unhinged man.
My teenage son was surrounded by a about a dozen other teenagers on his way home one afternoon asking him for 1 Euro (usually what homeless ppl say, but these weren’t). He told them he didn’t have money on him. They wouldn’t let up, circled around him, one guy stood in front of him and took out what looked like pepper spray… My son in a fraction of a second evaluated the situation, took a dash to the side to the road and ran! They laughed. But it was the best decision to make in that situation. Nobody was around. They outnumbered him and showed they would force to get what they wanted. To this day I am very proud of my son and grateful to God that He kept him from harm.
SMART SON!!!!!
GOD Bless your son🙌🏼👑
Did he ever report this to the police?? He would not be the "first, " AWAYS make an official compaint in these kinds of situations.
Amen!
He did it. Tell him.
Many wait to be saved by mommy or God. Given own faculties, both is not always appropriate.
I'm a former homeless person, we have a rule of not accepting help we didn't ask for because traffickers and some gangs will use offers of assistance as bait to hurt us.
Good to know if I ever become former person with home. Thanks for sharing and congratulations on overcoming this challenge! It must take incredible willpower to come back from that.
@Michau940 im surprised u didn't say "unhoused."
@Michau940
No amount of willpower will overcome being disabled my dude. It was because I committed suicide and the hospital helped me get into a place afterwards.
Absolutely. The bait and switch technique. You want this? I just need this...
I'm the same with people who claim they are homeless and need help with money, or to use my phone. One learns the hard way.
I remember hitch hiking in the early 80's, a Van pulled over and I got in, it turned out to be a lady who gave me a huge stern lecture about getting in a strangers Van or any vehicle for that matter, this was in Los Angeles and to this day I will never forget that lady, and what could have happened to me.
She was an angel in disguise.
I've done the same thing to younger ladies in the Portland area. Although I was an idiot who didn't drive and sometimes hitchhiked alone when very young. God saved me from my own stupidity.
And a predator can be a very attractive, affluent looking person as well.
They often are.
e.g. Ted Bundy.
As in American Psycho!
The devil doesn't have a forked tail, and horns coming out of his head.
Most preds are ugly, but that is very true. They can be anyone.
I used to work in construction and I was working on a project in downtown Nashville, TN. One morning around 5:30am, I was parked and getting some tools out of the trunk of my car. I was always aware of my surroundings. I saw a guy coming my way from a distance. He was making a beeline for me. I stood up and grabbed my billy club from the trunk and shouted very loudly at the guy to stop. I took a defensive position and was getting ready to club the guy if I had to. He immediately stopped and put his hands up and started to apologize. I asked him what he wanted and he told me that he wasn't trying to alarm me but he wanted to ask about the company I worked for, that he was looking for a job. He didn't come any closer to me and I told him that he should never do that again...to anyone. He turned around and left. Some people are just plain stupid when it comes to things like this. I'm a woman, by the way.
Dude. You were about to get got.
@@IRatherbeTrashthanADemocratyup, that guy wasn't looking for a job...
This story completely changed For me after I read “ I’m a woman btw”.
@@IRatherbeTrashthanADemocrat Well, once he saw that I had a weapon and wasn't messing around, he probably figured that I was more trouble than it was worth. I'm just glad nothing more happened.
@@Gabyyll I'm sure he wasn't looking for a woman that was ready to beat the crap out of him, either. As I said before, I'm glad nothing more came of it.
Spot on. Just because I'm paranoid doesn't mean somebody isn't digging a pit for me.😢😮
One other thing, EVERY THING can be used as a weapon, to defend yourself, your shoes, your bag, anything! Keep that in mind! be AWARE!, is key.
My husband & I were visiting Montmartre cemetery in Paris. There were not many people around, but this guy came up to my husband asking if he could help find a particular grave. My husband went off with him to help, but I was a bit more concerned so I followed them. The grave couldn't be found so I offered my map to this guy, which he refused. He then asked my husband (not me) if he could help him find another grave. By this stage my gut instinct kicked in, so I said to my husband we had to go because I needed to use the bathroom. This guy tried to get me to leave my husband there whilst I went off to the bathroom. I forcefully told the guy no that's not happening & dragged my husband away. I have no idea what that was all about, but the whole thing didn't feel right. My husband is more friendly & polite than me. Unfortunately predator types target people like this. I, on the other hand, am not afraid to say no & will gladly walk away from any person or situation that doesn't feel right.
Smart woman. Something was definitely up, he was working too hard to separate you. My thought is that you may have been the target. Husband is out of sight, accomplices appear and you disappear. Very scary.
Your “husband” is not a man he’s fodder
Good for you. He was trying to separate you from your husband, I'm glad that you took the initiative! You may saved his life!?
I hope you informed your husband, in no uncertain terms, of some basic facts of life after that.
As a child of the the 70's I was always taught to listen to my gut, but dogs help too! When my mom and I were home alone one night when I was like 7, and we were in a secluded small village house, a young woman came to the door asking to use our phone as she had been in an accident but our GSD was barking at the other door!! Where 3 big guys were waiting!! My mom called the police right away. I shudder to think if we didn't have a dog!!
What breed was it?
@@jebby16 She said GSD which means German Shepherd Dog
@@jebby16 although if you think, most dogs will alert you to intruders (unless it's a known person). You need to choose a dog with territorial behaviour. Any dog, even a mutt, that consistently warns about people at the doors is good.
Dog's are God's alarm system and truly a man's (and a family's) best friend in that regard.
@@selvingreen3585 yeah. Don't get a husky for this 😉
"You don't owe anyone anything." ONE HUNDRED.
One hundred what?
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One thing my dad taught me was to “never drink something you didn’t pour yourself” and it’s just as you said. It doesn’t always happen but situational awareness is the key.
Happens all the time and not just in bars, factories are bad and what goes on is unbelievable.
Ain't no shit...been there done that 2 times...moved to safety on immediate feeling....
Also never leave your drink out of your sight
Whether you're at work or at play regardless of where you work, a factory, a lab. an office government or civilian, a day care center or a hospital or Dr's office, in fact anywhere. Trust absolutely no one. All drugs are pharmaceuticals, go figure.
Absolutely it’s one of the first things that they teach you in the central intelligence agencies and government services don’t eat or drink anything that you don’t have total control of
People today have no concept of personal space. I am not comfortable with the person in back of me on line close enough that I feel their breath.
When that happens I turn around and look them directly in the eyes. If it's an elderly person just being unaware I just ignore it. If it's a man, or a woman that I don't feel good about I'll ask them to give me a little more room. Usually just turning and looking at someone is enough and they'll say, " Oh, sorry", and back up. Practicing karate for many years made me very unafraid of a little verbal confrontation. I mean, it's not like they're hitting me.
Your comment spoke to me. I will create my own space and move myself away or place a bag of groceries behind me to create space. This is one of the reasons why I try to shop earlier because some people are idiots and plain stupid with no concept of personal space. Thank you for your comment!
Same! Say something.
...be loud and proud - enough to embarrass them will bring attention they don't want and will avoid. Don't worry about what other people will think about it even if they play the race card. They are the offending element in this case.
They could be looking at the pin you put in for the purchase.
Saying out loud what a person is doing to make you frightened or uncomfortable is so powerful especially if you have people around you. Everyone will turn to listen and atleast eavesdrop to see what’s happening. That should give you a good window to get away from that person.
This isn't just true for physical predators, this is also true for psychological predators as well, ones that know how to play really sick head games, as well. Most sex offenders & trafficers will use psychological head games on their victims, more than anything else.
The psychological stuff is actually worse in some ways because it's harder to prove... As a woman, the psychological stuff is the one I most often encounter. I can spot a predator a mile off nowadays, usually via their body language, mind games, facial expression, tone of voice etc....and it's not confined just to the opposite sex but very often is!
@@ChristineFisher123
I've found its usually women who do the psych./mind games predation, and often they get away with it.
@@thehuntress8850 Many psychological predators are just bullies who want to destroy their victim by belittling them for their own amusement. These people are psychopaths and Iv'e has a lot of unfortunate experiences with scum like that.
Psychological predators control us with fear. They don't even have to be violent towards us, yet a skilled predator can still control us through intimidation without overt violence
@@ChristineFisher123explain pls
Fear is our friend! But we are trained to ignore it!
This is excellent. Only once or twice in my life have I ignored that gut feeling, and I have scars from like 60 stitches now. One thing I would add to this, is that it's not just strangers, most people are killed by someone they know, plus you've also got the mafioso thing of, it'll be one of your best friends that comes to do you in. I couldn't believe the world is as messed up as it is when I was younger, but I believe it now.
Every time that I choose to ignore my instincts, I end up regretting it. When you say to listen to your gut instincts, you are on target!!
absolutely true
I’d be suspicious of anyone that asks for directions these days with smart phones around.
Great point
This explains something…my mother asks for directions sometimes because she is seriously directionally challenged and hates smart phones….she has the hardest time getting people to help these days. I totally get it though. I would be distrustful too.
@@Awall79yeah but there's a difference between helping an elderly person who probably doesn't understand how GPS works and just being plain old ignorant. I think those people were being ignorant.
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@@generaleerelativity9524 lol yeah, she's spry for her age but come on, my mother is about as shady looking as a bonzi tree.
One of the most important things I ever learned during Sunday school when I was a young teen was that there is never any scenario where a grown man needs to be asking a young woman for help. IMO that goes for any adult asking any child for help. At absolute most an adult can ask a child to go get someone to call 911 but nothing more.
Exactly!! No adult will EVER ask a child for help. Even if it's sincere, no thinking man would do it anyway...
The Rules of Stupid state that you should never...
1. Go to Stupid places,
2. With Stupid people,
3. At Stupid times, and
4. Do Stupid things.
You can usually get away with breaking one of the Rules of Stupid, but two or more really increase the odds of bad things happening.
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An old joke is, what is the most common last words of young males? "Hey guys, watch this!"
"Break one law at a time" ... the best way to get away with *anything* .
Serial abuse of one rule can get risky. If you go to a stupid place every day, sooner or later you are going to hit a bad jackpot
That pretty much sums up my military career.🤕😆
Always listen to your gut ,always .Never second guess yourself ever.
The problem with the 'gut feeling' is that if the gut is not adequately trained it can lie.
I completely agree with you.... also watch their eyes...if they are razor focused on you...that's a predator...
@@alexxx4434 Thank you for saying that. I liken it to the immune system; it works a lot of the time but can let you down.
@@alexxx4434 my mom has extremely sensitive intuition and is arrogant to believe it will never fail. She does stupid things trying to help and not standing back, she is in her 80 I just shake my head. She has NO reasoning
@@alexxx4434 True and I think most people would rather be wrong and dodge a potential bullet they may never know about than be right, ignore it, and then live to regret it.
When my older brother and I were in middle school and were walking home, I remember getting stopped by some guy. He said he could give us a ride home. My brother thought maybe he was a friend's dad or someone we new and started to get in the car. I remember grabbing his arm, pulling him as hard as I could saying "No, we're good." I did not let go, and ran off with him until we turned down the next street.I always think about what could have happened if I just let my brother go with him. But back then, it was never even a thought in my mind not to take my brother and just run. But the idea haunts me. Doesn't matter how safe your area is, bad people are everywhere.
I walk out my door and my awareness is on full alert to navigate thru these times. No animal is as viscous and sick as the human mind. My intuition has saved me time and again. I no longer question myself. I learned to pay close attention to my dog who goes everywhere with me. We are bonded thru unconditional LOVE protecting and caring for each other we rescued each other.
it does not matter how friendly or genuine the person seems, this is extremely important to mention****
So true. Lots of predators can fake it with a mask of 'friendly'
Thank you. I just experienced that. In a motel room due to Milton, I had to retrieve something from my car @ night. I saw him randomly knocking on doors. He saw me and approached me too quickly. I immediately said, NO! RAN into my room. I peeked out and he was right there!! Looking back at me! I grabbed my phone and called 911. Police showed up immediately and made him leave. That was scarey!
And the police didn't even arrest him. - Tells you more then enough about them.
One of the biggest baits is something designed to make you feel ashamed. Like being offered alcohol when you're a minor, or marijuana in a state where that's not legal, or something sexual that's taboo in your circle, or a shady bargain on something that looks stolen. The predator's goal is not only to bait you, but also make you reluctant to report the crime.
Many years ago I worked part time as a barmaid in a pub, a group of young army recruits came in and had some drinks until closing time. I had the offer of a lift home by a co worker when one of the army lads said “ We can give you a lift home in our van” I almost accepted it when my gut instinct told me loudly and clearly “ DON’T. “ I suddenly saw the danger I could be putting myself in. Lesson learned, always listen to your gut instinct.
The book "The Gift of Fear" is priceless.
Yes it is !
And don’t ever open your door to a stranger. Ever. They work in teams. The woman saying her car broke down has two guys lurking in the bushes waiting to force their way in. Keep your head on a swivel always. Listen to your inner voice, it’s always right
Nor cops. They're not your friend either.
Sometimes it's advisable not to answer your door to anyone.
Lot of South Afrikaners here, I see…
....just don't get yourself in that situation to begin with. You have a choice whether to enter into a situation if you are driving - avoid stopping at all costs if someone is trying to guide you into a stop. Be smart !
Gavin DeBecker The gift of Fear
My dog has saved me more than once. One time a “window salesman” showed up and wanted to come in the house. My very large dog (usually friendly) literally came un glued.
My mother's big German Shepherd knocked a salesman off our front stoop when he started getting aggressive. She caught the dog as he ran past her before he could attack the salesman.
Dogs are predators and sense others.😊
Yeah, dogs are SO AWESOME in so many ways! Interesting story, when I was in college, I rented a room in a house with several other college guys (we were all friends). One of the guys had this awesome dog that was a Great Pyrenees and Akita Mix (shed like CRAZY!). This house had so many different people coming in/out all the time because we had a lot of college friends, and this dog was usually very chill. There was this really weird neighbor who was a "hoarder" down the street (you could see the piles and pathways of newspapers/things when he had his garage or front door open). He had a long white beard, long white hair, and always wore a hat and often sunglasses. This guy came to our door once trying to get us to sign some kind of petition, and the DOG WENT ABSOLUTELY BALLISTIC! WE HAD TO HOLD THE DOG BACK FROM ATTACKING HIM! This dog had NEVER acted this way before. When I saw this guy up close, I could see that his beard (and maybe hair) was fake - it was like some kind of disguise! This dude was so creepy, but what amazed me is how this dog instinctively KNEW IT! Dogs rule! We have a tiny Yorkshire Terrier now, and that little 7-pound dog is so damn brave - sometimes we have to hold her back from strangers or unfamiliar dogs (and it doesn't matter what size they are!).
@@ExtraCrispy357You know the old saying - it's not the size of the dog in the fight, it's the size of the fight in the dog!
When I was about 16- I was walking along the highway to my church for youth group.
I experienced a moment exactly like the movie, "Taken".
As I was walking along the highway- a man pulled up beside me, rolled his passenger window down and said, "heyyy, where are you headed?"
And I just said, "oh, just to my church right there. You can see it from here."
He said, "oh I can give you a ride. Don't worry, it's not that far. Come on, it will be fun."
Something in my gut just told me to stay away from him. I moved about 20 feet away from him and just said, "no that's ok. I'll just run there."
And I ran to church as fast as I could.
"It will be fun" was the tell. Good for you, glad you were able to keep yourself safe.
@shawnasanclemente4668 Yes, when he said that- I totally felt unsafe, and backed up away from him.
@nicolesiemens8727 So creepy!!
Running was a bad idea for several reasons:
1. It brings you out of breath and unable to fight. If you don't use a reliable chance to run to safety, don't run. Especially you certainly won't be able to outrun a car.
2. Depending on the area you lure criminals of opportunity with it.
3. It shows fear.
Look up the etymology of the word "nice" and you'll see why most victim scenarios start with an act of "kindness"
Good point - helping a dog got me bitten and an infected hand !
@@sunnyday7843With desperate beings of any kind, always exercise caution as they would with you in that situation.
Kindness and "nice" are two very different things
@@sunnyday7843 an injured dog is not predatory...they are defensive, because they ARE injured...and your attempts to help them signals to them, that you could move them, resulting in pain, and possibly further injury. You need to call a vet for advice, or call a rescue centre, or let the animal sense your intention. Don't just blanket ban helping hurt animals. Their injury is not a Bait and Trap situation!!!!!!
Learned something new. "From Middle English nyce, nice, nys, from Old French nice, niche, nisce (“simple, foolish, ignorant”), from Latin nescius (“ignorant, not knowing”); compare nesciō (“to know not, be ignorant of”), from ne (“not”) + sciō (“to know”)."
Evil depends on the average person thinking “that will never happen “. That goes for criminals and especially for governments.
Underestimated comment.
Spot on!!!
Amen.
The evil in government usually has support from the extremism from within the grassroots population. Countless examples. Criminals run governments, whether it be Russia or China.
A tiny example. Governor Abbot of Texas pardoned a man one month after being convicted of first degree murder. MAGA conservatives, especially rural religious folk, cheered him. Dictator Vladimir Putin who murders, imprison and persecutes dissidents in Russia is popular with these folk.
‘Criminals thrive on the indulgence of society’s understanding’ ..something I heard
I was walking home in the evening when I was a young adult.
I was about 10 metres away from the road when a man driving pulled over to stop and asked me what road he was on. I answered the question and expected him to drive off, but instead, he insisted I walk over to the car and help him read a map.
I politely refused and walked over to the pub, which was busy and close by, and more importantly, inthe oposite directionto where he was facing. I couldn't quite put my finger on it, but the whole situation just gave me the pick.
Anyway, that's my two cents. Be safe.
That gut feeling, thank you God.
I have been traveling the US in my campervan full time for over a year, I am a pretty big guy and I am always armed, always. Your video is excellent with many very good rules people should follow. My being armed does not negate my following the things you said we should be doing. In the woods, SA is very important. There are 2 legged and 4 legged predators and being alert, and following your instincts can be the difference between survival or being prey. I was camped once near a lake and a group of 4 men walked past my van out of nowhere. They had no vehicle, no backpacks like hikers would have and this lake is 5 miles from any decent road. They were whispering to each other as they went by slowly about 20 feet away from the van. They came back by a few minutes later this time 10 feet away, silent, no whispering. The next time, they came right next to my van, like maybe 2 feet away. By then I was already in the drivers seat, started the engine and I drove to another free camping area an hour away. As I drove away, they all stood together in a group and stared as I left. I was armed but decided I did not like what I was seeing, and just bugged out. Maybe they were nice guys just curious about my van build? Possible but my gut said something is about to go down here and I need to be gone. I chose a van for this tactical reason of not having to go outside where a threat is, to be able to drive away. An rv trailer or pick up camper does not give you this important advantage.
You were right in your assessment. Who is in the woods with nothing? Who circles back silently? Great instincts.
I guess they were surprised you understood what they were doing. Good move.
...armed or not, the best tactic is go immediately and go fast.
btw: I lived in a camper for two years and having a crawl through window helped a lot for any situation I wasn't comfortable with. Those were better days, I didn't feel the need for a firearm then - I can say I would definitely carry now and more careful about where I parked.
@@ChadBoss-qr4hl ...like Richard Feynman's book says - "What do you care what other people;e think?" You don't have to go out of your way to be rude but be what you need to be.
@@mariatorres9789 ...awesome - a little luck mixed with awareness never hurts. It's like they say - it seems the harder I work the luckier I get. Glad to hear you both got out clean.
At 17, I was driving home through uninhabited country roads at night, and around a bend two people were lying in the other lane. My first thought was, "It's a trap," so I sped up, with adrenaline bashing my heart so hard. In the review mirror, they got up. It must have been a full moon, to see that, but being raised to distrust myself and always being told I'm a stupid girl by the adults in my life, that was SOME confirmation to trust my instincts.
I never called the police when I got home, because I thought they, too, would be annoyed by me, but I didn't hear of anything on the news.
That's seriously scary. There could've been even more people in ambush. Glad you trusted your gut
That was a major step in affirming your worth to yourself!
Glad you listened to your gut instinct, we have it for a reason. I'd rather seem like I'm "overreacting" than end up hurt..
Would have been nice if you caught them on your cam, especially the part where they just stood up. They could still be out there picking victims.
@@TaLeng2023 In the 1980s, cam's were really, really pricey, haha! ;-)
Even acquaintances can suddenly do something unacceptable, so I keep a safe physical distance from them too.
A neighbor in my community told me recently that his 23 year old daughter wanted to give a homeless man a ride to the soup kitchen. On the way, he forced her to pull the car over, killed her and took off with the car, drove like a mad man, caused a crash and injured two other people. The car belonged to my neighbor but he gave it to his daughter to use. Because of this, the couple who got injured is now suing him. His daughter is dead, the law suit may ruin him, the car is totaled, and he cannot even bury his daughter because law enforcement wont release the body due to ongoing investigations. All this because the girl wanted to give a homeless man a ride to a free meal.
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I was a girl, with that kind of heart and behavior.
It allways got me in problems and in serious problems and very, very serious problems.
I escaped many times.
Was a hard learner.
I now have still the heart at 54 but the brain of a very tough woman who sees lots of things comming, listening to my gut and i help no more.
I helped this year a woman and again...very bad idea.
Now my heart is closed.
Only animals make me still soft.
This is something i will never get rid off...
Horrible story.
A whole family in ruins.😢😢😢
A young woman, too good for this world. She payed the prize.
@@heide-raquelfuss5580 Thank you Heide for your comment. Helping animals is just as much a noble cause 🧡. They are just as much God's children as anyone else.
What a story!
Because Americans are taught to help the homeless... instead of letting a man figure it out
1) when an offer is too good = walk away.
2) be aware of your surroundings and always ask who will benefit from my actions.
3) that feeling, you know what I’m talking about.
Some people call it your gut, some call it spidey sense, I call it the Holy Ghost. Inside u, from your center, there is a feeling, like a voice that will try to guide you. Listen to it!
Yep, great understanding, God protects.
Amen. Praise God for the Holy Ghost 👏🏽🙌🏽🙏🏼❤️
Yeppers!👍🙄
So true
Amen...Amen...
Great info as always man.
I stopped drinking almost 2 years ago now; and I noticed just how many bad environments / people you can steer clear of by not going out past 8:00 or so.
That whole scene is so chaotic & unpredictable. Staying sober keeps my neuroticism right where it needs to be to avoid such characters.
I've seen some usually respectable & high standard people get into all sorts of strife (Including myself) under the insane influence of alcohol.
The freaks come out at night
Congratulations on your sobriety! God Bless you and stay safe! 💜🙏
When I was around 15 I was at a local all ages club with my friends to see a band. A creepy guy came up to us and teied to get us to go check out his new sound system in his car. We refused and hd left us alone. A few days later that same guy was on the news for rape, sexual assault, and we were incredibly freaked out when we recognized him.
There’s also the relationship predator. I heard about victims deliberately getting infected with incurable STDs as a way to keep them in the relationship or spite them. I dated a guy who switched into guilt tripping me about when I can let him “you know what” and I told him I want to make sure that he is STD free first and he got mad and pulled out the old “If you don’t trust me, then why are you with me” card.
😢 he literally gave himself away, there when he said that.
I think the first thing to remember is: they ARE predators. Too often we think of these individuals as people like us, which means we expect them to have compassion or think like us, or believe we can predict what they'll do or reason with them. If we remember there are humans out there whose main goal is to prey on others, for whatever reason, we will start to be more cautious and listen to our instincts.
Sent this to my daughter. As I got older I decided I do not care about being polite after being harassed and frightened a couple times trying to help somebody - I’m not giving you a ride, I’m not stopping to give you directions, I’m not trying to be nice when some strange dude tries to have an unwanted conversation. It’s sad it has to be that way but it does.
I busted my tooth out on a bike track. I was 14, it made me feel goofy for decades, and over the last 22 years, many people have encouraged me to get it fixed. But it is the #1 threat deterrent I have found. I just give them this hillbilly grin. Their eyes always widen in horror and disgust. Personal space established!
lol
This makes me think of the video posted by a lady a lone in some park/ woods, when a guy on a bicycle drove past asking her if the road ahead is a dead end. And she just said " I dont know"
That triggered a whole saga of him circling her and at some point he even said he is obligated to cicle her ( he was very close to her at some point). She late posted a video that a couple came along and helped her.
Thank God she was safe in the end.
But alot of people ( women included) said she should've been more friendly and he would have not reacted that way.
She instinctively knew he just asked something random to start up a convo/establish contact with her.
And like you said you dont owe anyone anything who dont want to give, whether its personal belongings or energy
That's insane, people telling her she should have been friendlier with an absolute stranger! Stark barking mad!
She should have said "No" period and turned away from him and walked among trees.
Ooh the beginning about not owing strangers anything is so helpful as a woman raised in the South. I was raised to acquiesce to almost anything.
And to smile at everyone -- an open invitation.
I'm a southerner also. I was lucky that my dad was ex Air Force and had a fairly high clearance, therefore knew things most people don't. He taught me from a very young age to be careful at all times. You can be friendly, but learn to recognize potential danger signs and don't allow yourself to get into tricky situations from the get-go.
Southerners do not understand what good manners really are. Manners are doing what needs to be done graciously, but that doesn't mean never saying no or putting your foot down when somebody is out of line. As a Yankee, I know that southerners are quick to call people rude if they don't play along with their "see what great manners I have performances" all the time. They never stop to think what suckers they often are and that the Yankees are just rolling their eyes. It's almost like Southern culture loves to be victims. Easy prey served up on a platter.
FYI… On the street, “Hey can I ask you a question”? IS A QUESTION! And it is usually followed by another question asking you for money, time, explanation or is a distraction. Like he says, you don’t owe anyone. “Sorry, not today”, is a non-confrontational answer. Then keep it pumpin’!
"Do not let anyone manipulate you into helping them when you don't feel right about it."
I believe this transcends personal safety into general mental wellness ❤️
Yes..👍🏽
Thank you. Oh yeah, and if I don’t know you, I’m not obligated to support you financially. I earned what I have and didn’t get that from anybody but myself.
Was at a closed bank this past weekend getting cash from the ATM. There was only one woman her car in the parking lot. I got my cash and got into my car. The woman approached my car on foot with a handful of cash and asked if I would help her deposit it. I told her through my open window, that no, I couldn’t help her. As I turned my car around to leave I noticed a man in another car nearby with his head down. Glad I wasn’t my usual helpful self.
I had a man try to lure me out of a mall to his car when I was 15-16. He didn’t grab me, there was nothing violent about it…he approached me at the back of a Spencer’s store and started talking to me - how I should be a model, and he was an agent and had a camera in his car, blah blah blah. The first thing off that I noticed was that while he was with me, his eyes were darting around, he was watching other people in the store, I think to see if anyone was noticing him talking to me. And he was very nervous. Dressed well, but sweating. Of all the cagey situations in my life with men, and there have been quite a few, this one was the creepiest, and even at that youngish naive age, my spider senses were off the chart.
I remember hearing about a serial killer guy would play a recording of a baby crying to lure women
Wow that's a good bait. Holy shit.
Haha. A puppy, maybe.
I personally know of this guy who uses love and long-term relationships to lure women in and abuse them.
...that is truly devious and evil. Sounds like a Hollywood story though. Any link to this serial killer story ??s Thanks :)
Yep I heard something like this. This gives me goosebumps just READING about it. Good lord.
As a preteen on my way home from school I had at least 2 cars slow down and offer me a ride. I almost wish cops would do under cover stings just having small policewomen just pretend to be young girls to catch some of these predators.
But you’re spot on, be aware that these people exist. As a new mom, it’s my fear that I won’t be present when my son needs me. As soon as he’s old enough, I’m signing him up for martial arts.
Martial arts are not practical and don't help much, sadly.
Sign him up for HOMESCHOOLING, also.
In countries like Mexico, the police will do many abductions.
I think that ADW6894 means street fighting and boxing are more practical as these fighting styles will most likely match predators.
Your most dangerous predators are the ones sanction by the government and its institutions, since they operate above the law and immune to prosecution...
When I was an educator, I never allowed my students to go to the bathroom by themselves. I assigned them a bathroom buddy and would rotate if they asked to use the bathroom more than once.
I did this to foster the buddy system in case they ever got into a bind. Also, the school had an outdoors setting and I thought, "What if a predator came to the school bathroom and waited for a child to harm?" The students were perplexed and some thought that they were gaming me by abusing their bathroom privileges. However, I was trying to teach them an important lesson on personal safety and how good people working in groups are even more effective than one good person against the wolves.
If I was one of their parents I would thank you.Very good advice and very caring also.
Good thinking.
Thank you 😊. We should all protect the children and not leave their safety up to chance. I always told the students to get along no matter their differences and leave the trash talk for outside of the classroom.
In the end, children need to see each other as a resource rather than competition. Adults with bad intentions will capitalize on the divisions between children in order to gain access and control before destroying them. 😭
"outdoors setting", "bathroom privileges" sounds strange.
@qq84 Well, those are public schools in the USA. I didn't make those rules.
I, a lone woman, was sitting at a gas station and looking at a map (this was obviously pre GPS). I was approached by a couple of men...SO friendly, saying that they were local and would lead me to my destination. Thank God, my gut instinct told me to NOT follow them or accept any help from them.
The minute I see someone attempting to get to close to me, I get immediately suspicious. And after I clearly give body language of leave me alone and they ignore it, I KNOW their dangerous.
Um OR AUTISTIC. 😅 We need to be taught what body language means. We do not know, and we do not get the message. Please USE 👏 YOUR 👏 WORDS 👏 Thank you!!!! 🎉❤😊
A lot of people get hurt because they're afraid to be rude. Predators know this and asking for help is the number one way they get close to you.
It took me till my early 30s to realise this.. I often helped people as brought up to be kind and i can tell you this kindness got me into lots of trouble with predatory men over the years because I felt sorry for them. Parents need to tell there children its OK not to help if your not comfortable. I was more concerned about the other person than myself. Women in particular make this mistake and women who have grown up without a Father need to be taught how to protect themselves even more as our natural inclination particularly if caring is to help. Thank you for your timely video
OH my goodness. Ditto of my life. Thank God I decided to revise my etiquette. People will do deadly ugly things to you and then be dirty enough to call you rude fir resisting. We can be nice , with godly wisdom. And they can go to hell
I'm a mental health counselor and what you say is so true. So MANY problems would be avoided if women didn't believe they have to take care of everyone else even strangers. It's an ego thing in a way. "I'm special, I can help this person even though they're difficult and kind of dangerous." We need to raise our daughters to be "selfish". Seriously.
Sometimes what we're gifted with, can become a hindrance rather than a blessing if it's not balanced and tempered. Wanting to help people is a good and noble cause. Wanting to help everyone is not, especially when we don't have the discernment to understand who should receive our help versus who should not.
I think far too many women were taught that they were supposed to be accommodating and selfless - for all the wrong reasons.
My dad is retired special forces, he tells a story about being a young trooper out in town at night, took a short cut down an alley and met four guys who surrounded him and had knives. He said he sure impressed those thugs with his abilities, he reckons they probably had never seen a man morph into a blur before as he high tailed it out of there as fast as his legs would carry him. As Shakespeare said "The better part of valor is discretion."
Good one,👍... thanks for sharing.
Green Barrett? Lol, dude probably ran for miles non stopped. Lucky for them he wasn't armed
My mother repeated that valor quote quite often. Later, I found out she was quoting Sir John Falstaff in Shakespear's Henry IV. 😊
@@JL_____ It's beret, not a hair ornament ffs
@@TeutonicTribe Thanks for the correction, but it's also just a UA-cam comment section ffs.
I’m 21. Working since a teen has taught me that elderly woman target young woman and young men target older woman .. maybe just from my pov . Def not a fact. Thank you for sharing this world is scary !!!
So true!! Bundy's MO was to play the role of an injured person on crutches struggling around college campuses and the naive girls would ask if he needed help. So sad...
These sick predators have no limits.
I warned my kids about Ted Bundy's " trick"
Bundy wore a fake cast on his hand/arm that he would use to club the victim in the head.
The passenger seat of his Volkswagen Beetle had been removed to make plenty of room to toss the unconscious woman picked that day.
Predators don't always drive vans.
And he worked the suicide hotline!
@@starlight6023 wow
@@sunkissedn71 really wild, right?
I remember a few times in my teens strange men would stop their cars and offer me a lift and when I said no they got angry that I "didn't trust them" they were "just trying to be nice." I wasn't going to let them guilt trip me into giving away my safety.
The ploy is called, "Type casting". You walk past a scum bag who tries to engage you at the store. You ignore him and he says, 'I'll bet you're too stuck up to talk to me" hoping that you will, just to prove him wrong. They give you a mild insult, to bait you into proving them wrong...
@@Kharkovkid 💯
Any truly nice person understands how dangerous the world can be, and especially for women, and wouldn't insist you do something outside your comfort zone. That behavior is a dead giveaway they are up to no good!
@@Mick_Ts_Chick I agree. It was purely manipulation.
@@Kharkovkid ,
My aura, or something like that, lol, is that strong, people dont mess with me, on the streets, in shops, i just have to look at them and that it, they knów... i am always aware of my surroundings and who is in there and who is too close by, for my comfort... When attacked you need to be ruthless, going for the kill kind of attitude.. If you will do that in real, is something else, ofcourse... i am from the Old WOrld, across the big bleu pont....
Very much respect what this man is offering. I've come through some dicey situations in my life unharmed. Am 72 now, female. I hope to stay healthy and aware for more good years. Being older as a woman is a positive, easier to be "invisible", but on the other hand, more easily seen as a possible victim (weak, "not all there") by a predator.
Yes, I am 82 and have had to go through two months of pain from a broken hip, wrist and dislocated elbow, all because my son told my GP and Pharmacy that I had dementia. What a horrible life lesson at this age. I have always been alone in life - lived many years in NYC and Houston and survived. Been betrayed by a cousin - she was a vicious gossiper R.I.P. and, of course, I was ripe for the picking. Then my own son betrays me and lets me suffer two months without pain medication. Oh, he was so worried that he even sent the RCMP (now in Canada) to do a welfare check since I had dementia and they might just send me some place. When they found me okay, he didn't stop, he sent social workers. They too found nothing wrong. Betrayal - it is so hurtful. But hey, I have my head, my brain and my God - what do I want more.
You and your loved ones, practice screaming together. I was a quiet kid. Had never screamed to my recolection. One day, 14yr old female me walked home in the dark from my friend's house 3 houses from my house. In my neighbors front yard I was tackled to the ground by two 30 yr old men that I knew. I didn't know who it was at first. I tried to scream help, but couldn't get it out loud enough. I tried 3 times as I fought them. It just came out no louder than speaking voice. I twisted out from under the weight on me and ran to my backyard and hid. They didn't come for me. They laughed and one yelled they were just kidding. That's when I knew who it was. I felt betrayed and stupid and scared. I told no one. My family was on hard times and I didn't want to bring in more hardship. Wish I had handled it differently.
Practice yelling is super smart! A lot of us are taught to be quiet. I had to work hard at being able to tell.
You survived. No matter if they were joking; hard to imagine any scenario where adult men come into physical contact with a female minor without her consent. I do believe they meant you harm & never thought you would escape. Then they used the line just joking to try & avoid accountability. Good job being safe!
@@warriormamma8098 You are stupid. Two adult men in his 30s could have done literally any harm to a 14 years old girl. If they didn't, that means they didn't want to.
❤❤❤❤❤ thank you for sharing. I've never thought about that x
@@warriormamma8098 That's a common gaslighting tactic that abusers try to use.
It's not being rude or unhelpful, it's just being street smart. Good video.
When you get hurt to where you know only the grace of God saved you a few times, being considered rude isn't even a consideration. . Be a lively B if theu cant understand a 2 letter word"NO"
Thank you for this. When I was a kid walking home from school, a car stopped, and two unsavory people called me to them. I knew something was wrong, stayed my distance, crossed the road to the opposite side and started walking really quick. They gave up and drove off. My heart was thumping massively. I am so grateful my mother warned me about people like that.
When I was a young girl a guy pulled up in his car near me and my cousin. He spoke in a very quiet voice so that I had to draw closer to tell what he was saying. I felt suspicious but took a couple of steps closer to his vehicle until I saw a rope in his back seat. I yelled at my cousin (also a girl) to get back. He might have been on the level and just wanted directions but my gut told me to get away fast.
I discovered my ex was a child predator wanting to kidnap. He kept tape and zip ties on his back seat
Smart, we should always trust our intuition, never second guess it.
The voice lowering was the give away. He wasn’t looking for directions.
Never come close to a strange man's car. Never
@adw6894 a guy came up and started talking to me the other day outside a shopping center, trying to give me his phone number, he was headed into Lowe's to get something for his business ..he actually tried to get me to go over to his vehicle, um reeally? Why would I do that?? I said I'm good and walked away, he says" Be careful" weird.
This is the best advice I have heard in years. I got mugged by three young men 25 ago. They came up to me with the usual line “hey man, we want to talk to you.” I had a sinking feeling in my gut: I just knew that something bad was about to happen, but like a dummy I just stood there and talked to them. Then they attacked me to rob me. I should have run much earlier.
Great advice. When I was in my 20's I went to visit my old college town with my Mom. In a McDonald's parking lot an old man approached my car asking where a mechanic was. I told him right up the road. He seemed surprised that I knew since I had out of state plates. He then asked for my Mom and I to come around the back of the McDonald's to help him fix his car. I said "sorry, I'm busy." I drove away and went to a store instead of our hotel right away. It was scary to think of what could have happened. As a New Yorker we learn a lot of street smarts. I wouldn't fall for that one.
God bless NYC - I learned so much street smarts and this 'gut feeling' was born and grew up there.
A young couple decided to stand about 3 inches from my back when I was at the checkout line of a local store. I glanced over my shoulder twice then turned and said with good volume straight to the male's face, "Can you please back up off me, just give me a little personal space, ok?" They moved a little and about 6 other people in line saw. I knew I did right even though the cashier's cheeks turned red. Maybe they meant me trouble or maybe not but it wasn't happening that day.
Yeah, something similar happened to me in the checkout line at the grocery store. It was a woman and she was standing very close to me, closer than she should've been. So, before paying the cashier, I turned to the woman and asked her to back up. I told her that she was in my personal space and I wasn't ok with that. She just looked at me, like I was the one with the problem. I looked directly at her again and told her that I wasn't going to pay for my items until she did. There was a long line at that point and the cashier was looking at me and then at her like she didn't know what to do. The woman took a couple steps back and then I proceeded to pay for my items, while making sure that she didn't see my transaction. Maybe the woman just had horrible boundaries or maybe she was up to no good. Either way, I'm not obligated to figure it out.
@CGdone well played. This happened to me but it was resolution by accident, I had a coughing fit suddenly lol for real. That lady backed up soooo fast hahaha
@@PeachyKins Lol....when all else fails...cough! 🤣
@@CGdonea heavy case of instant Covid will do it 😂
@@thedivinefeminine1821 😂 Yep, every time.
I was waiting for a bus in the suburbs going to play basketball. I had a young man in a car pulled up smile and told me he'd been sent to take me home. I asked him questions and kept stepping backwards. He even opened yhe door for me. Nothing added up so I told him it was alright and to go cause I could see my brothers car coming. I was very scared. He quickly took off. I walked home shaking and it was explained to me what had actually happened. My instinct really kicked in cause my Mum kept telling me not to go with strangers. This was 1968 and I was 11. My Mum always made me aware of safety when I was catching public transport. I had to be independent cause she was a single working Mum. She was a clever and loving Mum.
The chilling reality is we think people like this are new, these situations are new, they are not, predators and people up to no good have always been around.
1:30 “You don’t owe anybody anything.” 🙌🏼
My dad would force me to scream or speak loudly in public as a kid so that I wouldn't hesitate to yell if I ever felt trouble and someone wasn't already around to help me.
I learned the same thing when I first started bartending. The elderly bouncer took me to a park after closing and made me practice my "command voice, until I found one.
@@KharkovkidNow that's someone who cared!
My parents did the very minimum and didn't do a great job at keeping us safe, but one thing my mom told me was "Δεν χρωστάς τίποτα και σε κανέναν" which means " You owe nothing and to nobody" Its solid advice! I only owe to God!
I was almost kidnapped many times when I was growing up. The first time it happened, my mom had just finished warning me about strangers that try to lure you with candy or helping them find their lost pet, right before going out to play. I went out and walked up the street to the end of the block, almost immediately, a man pulled up in a convertible and asked me to come help him find his lost puppy. I ran back home (probably screaming) as fast as I could.
Some humans ain't human.
The frightening thing is...they ARE human. Humans are potencially dangerous. Exveptions exist. But this exceptions are rare.
Not true it's human genes.
Oh, they're human. It's just that morality is no longer what they care about
Demon
Lights are on but no one is home ! 😢
Man even as a 35 year old woman I’m scared to walk in public by myself. Never used to be in my 20’s as much, but I’m way more aware of how dangerous people are! Young people be safe, you think things are fine but always be on gaurd!
Thank you for reminders. As we get older we dont always get wiser and sometimes become soft. I used to tell my students dont park next to a van. Back in away from door. And enter car on opposite side if you do. Keep you hand on panick button. When in doubt hit your panick button before you enter your car. Better yet go back in store and ask someone to walk you back. Got a bad feeling dont park there and find another time to come back. I literally have pulled up got a bad feeljng and gone to a different store all together.
I’m a single woman now living in the middle of the woods and very remote. I have four German Shepherds and a pit bull. I’m heavily armed at home and always carry and take two of my dogs whenever I possibly can.
Just the presence of a GSD keeps people away. I’ve always owned GSD’s and many many times they saved my life.
wow good to know. i have a GSD but he’s out of show lines but people still tell me he will protect me. he’s very very close to me.
Did you teach the attack command?
Yes, great dogs
We had a GSD/wolf mix when I was a teenager. We lived in the country. One day, while my dad was at work and we kids were at school, a man came to the back door. When my mom answered the door, Ana was at her side, growling low. Without giving an explanation for his visit, the man nervously backed away. My mom quickly realized what had almost happened and locked all the doors. She didn't see where he went.
@@FaithfulPracticalHomesteading I pray you protect your family with a good dog as well 😀
It doesn’t matter how strong you are, if you’re hit by surprise.
Since men are more likely to fight back, and women are not trained to fight back, most women freeze, it is very important that woman need to learn to be alert, all the time!
This is so helpful. I was at a park with my dog sitting at a picnic table talking to my husband on the phone. A guy pulled up in a car and kept talking to me about my dog even though I was clearly trying to have a conversation on my phone. I was TOO polite even though he was making me feel uncomfortable. I should have shut him down.
Remember those annoying email forwards? Two of them may have saved my life! I found myself in two different scenarios that I had already read about that told me how to deal with them and then to evade a potentially dangerous situation both times.
1. I was going out to my car from where I worked, and there was a van next to my car on the driver side and a man sitting in a lawn chair. I asked someone on staff at the hospital where I worked if he would walk me to my car and wait until I locked my door from inside and he graciously did so.
2. I was leaving an appointment, and a man in a wheelchair asked me to get his shoe from inside his car. I stepped back and said to him, "Let me find someone to help you," and I went and flagged someone down. The gentleman I flagged down, and I, looked toward the man in the wheelchair (from a distance), and there was another man with him at that point. Apparently, that man wasn't as down and out as he wanted me to think.