JACK | Short Film (4k) A look inside the mind of ADHD
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- Опубліковано 3 лют 2022
- Jack, a young boy struggling with ADHD and other mental disorders, Struggles to find the words for his emotions as he looks back on recent struggles caused by his own uncontrollable doing.
Directors Statement: "The Reason i wanted to make this film was to put people in the shoes of someone who is growing up with severe ADHD, both in school and at home. The film has an incredible emotional message that i want to share with as many people as i possibly can"
About the Creator: Jackson Kibby is an 18 year old filmmaker. He started his young years being trained by multiple acting professionals in the industry. After years of Acting he has found his passion through Filmaking. He has made multiple short films. He wants to deeply unify people from all walks of life through their common human experiences through a visual medium.
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The worst thing about ADHD is always disappointing everyone, even yourself, beacuse yopu know you could do so much better. And you dont want to let anyone down but you just cant help it. Everytime people get mad at me for not listening or cleaning up after myself I know its bc of my ADHD, but it just sounds like an excuse to them.
Nobody understands the anxiety and depression the ADHD minds have.
To all the people with ADHD try to become aware of yourself. Do things that make you aware of yourself. You need "YOU"
Thank you. Sometimes inget so fidgety while i work i often would be worried
I found this really sad, especially with all that is known about ADHD, that it is still so hard to define how it makes the daily simple things so hard.
A brain designed for urgency and risk taking. Not designed for our current society.
This made be bawl like a baby, because no one really knows how HARD it is, ppl assume it's all fidgeting, and running up walls like a spider-monkey, when in reality this video explains what it's really like and how it can be sometimes. Thank you for making this video❤👍🏻
I sometimes want to die because of ADHD its very hard to get out of the pain
I feel like it's useless to try like that if I try it won't work
I havent been officially diagnosed with ADHD but i kinda self diagnosed but this is so relateable to me, i know what i want but if i try to explain it no one underdtands what i mean and if i dont try then ill still be stuck where i was
I am also trans and have extreme gender dysphoria, i am also like 80 percent sure i have depression and 90 percent sure i have anxiety
The image of him covered in post notes was so powerful. This accurately shows the turmoil. You never know how to answer a parent about why you fail... You're labeled defiant or lazy and unmotivated. This actor is really talented... I'm holding back tears.
This....and parents that didn't care to try and understand where my problems were coming from....This really hit me with my own experiences.
Your not alone. ♥️
Me too 😢
Same
Forget understanding they just think I'm lazy or not trying hard enough.
What's worse is I'm painfully self aware
The thing that hit me the most were all the papers. They're like all the mistakes that were made, but didn't have any control over. And the crying near the end hit me like a truck. I started to feel his emotions of guilt and disappointment over himself "being a bad kid" when in reality, he is an amazing person. I always feel disappointed in myself when I can't do my work when it's not even that much. It happens almost every week and I'm so tired of it. I know that just doing the work would get rid of the guilt, but my body and mind just can't do it. I'm always so disappointed in myself, but mask it away.
While you struggle to make your way, make a road for yourself. I struggled so much, but once I realized it wasn't me, it was them, I said eff it and figured it out. We are amazing, and as a general rule smarter than the rest, wear that with pride. You do not need to be fixed. Just create your own box to fit in, and those who are like-minded will join you. If you feel powerless, focus on what you can do, even if it's just putting away a pair of socks on the floor, do it, and build from there. Do you, you are awesome and part of a big tribe. We need you to bring your gifts into the world!
Edit: we all wear masks and do what is appropriate in the moment. Make sure you do not turn the frustration inward and do not blame yourself...it's them, not us. Also, remember, most billionaires are one of us...innovators, ground breakers, geniuses.
I also felt that. I felt like he was thinking that he was a failure, a disappointment (Something I also think a lot). He's not a bad kid, just misunderstood. Its tough out there, but its good to know there are others like us. Its hard at times... We can't focus on one thing, but we can hyper focus on another. Its so frustrating, but we can get through it.
So very powerful. My daughter went through hell before we both recognised it was adhd. She is inattentive like Jack, so it’s not outwardly obvious. Many years of mental health issues before we finally got the diagnosis. Onwards and upwards now. Thank you for this. Every teacher should watch it!
I wish I had the privilege to get medication. I hope...
@sharonoleary895
I rarely got reprimands because I have inattentive type and it was all bottled up inside, but yeah this was pretty much my experience of high school. I hated it so much and was so glad to leave. Only got diagnosed eighteen years later.
the scene where Jack's trying to answer the therapist is so accurate... 😔
😔😢
ya, i said to stop sucking at life.
This is very well done. On top of ADHD, I happened to have abusive parents ("Could you just go" likely would have had me struck across the face by my mother, and with whatever implement she might have had in her hand to boot). I was never diagnosed and was always punished for my disability, and morally admonished as well. I was almost always the smartest kid in class but had nothing to show for it. I was constantly in trouble though I was never disrespectful to teachers.
Now at the age of 47 my only accomplishment is not going completely insane (having finally come away from that edge only a few years ago) and raising my (13-y-o) daughter pretty damn well if I say so myself (so far, so good). But I am still on the brink of homelessness most every day. I knew what his answer was going to be when he actually answered the clinician's question of What do you want: "I don't know."
Just the other day I had to again remind my father that I am not a stupid lazy asshole, that I have a serious disability. He constantly forgets it seems; but I manage to get him remembering these days (and without showing him anger), so maybe that's some kind of small accomplishment as well; but it's not without a lot of heartache each time.
We need more awareness to this day; that is clear to me. *I didn't even understand my problem until I really started looking into it a few years ago.* Peace and love to all, especially now to those who suffer from this thing.
*HANG ON, PLEASE JUST TRY TO HANG ON.*
You can try and take 'Bacopa monnieri' ( or brahmi) tincture. 3 times a day 10 drops or less, its works even if taken once a day. This is homeopathic medication .
Also sun glassed very dark like grade 4 help and tinted glasses for inside in the building. I would allow more white light exposure for my eyes and brain during autumn and winter and protecf my eyes during summer.
Thank you for being so brave in sharing your story. I don't know what you have tried all (which I am sure you have) to help calm your mind and heart, but during the roughest times, I hope you know there are people who DO understand and DO care. Please hang on and take care of yourself as well 🥰.
I hope you are doing well ✨and things with your father get well too
Have a great life 🎉
my son who I love dearly has ADHD. I have been researching and reading all I can to help understand what he is going through. Something that I really dont think anyone did for me when I was younger (depression, not ADHD). I am much older now and have a better understanding of mental health, mainly from trying to understand myself and through this I am trying my best to help my son understand himself so we can work together to try to find ways to help him navigate a world that wasn't built for the way his brain operates. Trying to get others to understand and be compassionate is a completely different story. I hope that I can help him to understand that he may be different but not lesser than anyone and he may have skills and abilities yet to be tapped. Most of all I hope he knows his dad will never give up trying to help. Its when you start playing the game of life with no instructions and set on difficult mode.
You're being a great mama. Keep trying ❤
This short film's depiction of the struggles that coincide with ADHD was phenomenal. There was a direct link between the depression and anxiety comorbidities discussed in the opening and the ways in which the people around Jack failed to understand him and accommodate his ADHD. Kruz Maldonado's acting was incredibly real and deeply felt. Thank you for this.
It’s saddening to realize from this video how much I relate to him and how I act similarly to him every day…I don’t have any diagnoses so I’m not sure what all mental issues I have..I have been searching around and observing trying to figure out myself and how I’m different from others..
Same
I had to find a way by myself as well. There is so much on yt to help, do your best to listen to some of them. One thing I do is wear ear buds and listen to videos while I do other things...I am also hyperactive. I keep my ear buds in even when not listening to block out people. You can do it, it is in you as it was in me. I do not do anything like anyone else and do not care. Doesn't matter how school goes, you can always go back. You don't have to just choose one thing for life, just choose one for now. Find something that soothes you to go to when it gets too much. Please, please do not turn your frustration, fear or anger onto yourself. ITS NOT YOU, ITS THEIR IGNORANCE MY FRIEND.
If you feel like you have ADHD symptoms, please go see a professional, I am sure it changes your life, I'm looking for one already, I was diagnosed as a child but never really understood it until 2 days ago
wow. this is an incredble short film, yet it is extremely underrated. i love ths sharp cuts- the way they make you feel like time is flying and you can never catch a break or a second to breathe. i love the bits when the music swells and there are a million voices inside his head. i love practically everything about this film.
keep up the great work, jackson.
I regularly watch the twitch streamer Dougdoug.
He has written code where chatmessages get randomly selected (between a 1 and 10%) and put into text-to-speech.
With 1750000 subs this was a perfect representation of my inner monologue when I am not heavily medicated.
"Did you take your medication" - sometimes medication helps. sometimes you need a different medication. Sometimes INTENSE exercise helps. Sometimes it just seems like more work. But, always, it helps to try to speak with others and help them to understand how you struggle and how you feel. A simple "I'm sorry, but I really am trying as hard as I can" may help. I really do wish people had a better understanding of what ADHD means.... it's so hard too because even "ADHD" looks so different in many people. It doesn't always look the same. Great film!
First part of life (undiagnosed), I’ve put all my energies in behaving like expected and tried to cope with all the challenges which are just easy tasks for others, while beeing effortless very good at others which are struggle for others, but not vital for a social normal life (the rewards of hyperfocus in some topics).
Second part of my life, after a few years of transition (depression), not understanding why it came to it: Only later I understood, that depression was the effect of this unbelievable energy consuming aim over decades, to try to understand what was expected from others, then relentelessly trying to behave like expected.
Then the diagnose came, I was somehow relieved, thought I could bend a few bad and past consequences right, and get my life from now on in the right track, the one I wanted: a « normal » vitae.
But from there I had to aknowledge, that the world doesn’t see it that way, will not react « with relief » and adjust in a kindly way if I now name my « small, insignificant (so I thought) » differences openly. I just had new experiences: silent rejection is then the reaction, instead of how it was before, where people in the different systems I was in, reacted confused, annoyed or openly judgemental. I’m now just the « trouble » they want to avoid and the trouble they expect but will not talk openly aboiut it with me. Not less, not more.
So, nothing changed. On the contrary, my smart skills, who were before aknowledged and somehow sometimes rewarded, have now the taste of « not worth the trouble we expect, she’ll bring us. ».
I therefore now accept that I put two faces on:
I now pretend to BE like expected, knowing judgemental reaction will come soon or later after the first « you’re highly welcome: you’re so interesting and highly skilled », because I’ll not fulfill the(ir) expectation of « normal », however I show talents and a smart mind.
I know, that I’m not bonding sincerely while others think we are bonding sincerely. I accept the gap of perception I’ll not be able to clear for the good of everyone involved.
I accept I put the face of a recognised skilled professional (psychiatric nurse with high expertise, recognised for my work ahead to a progressive inclusive society when it comes to mental health and a recovery oriented open-psychiatry with peers)… while inside, with my true face, I know the system does not see their double standards then when it comes to mental health in own colleagues, these like me, with ADHD for example.
No effort will be made to take them for full, to avoid stigmatisation in the own house of loud calls of « end stigma and stigmatisation. »
So while my home is a mess, my job vitae is a mess, my love relationships are a mess, my finances are a mess, my feelings are a mess, my interests different, my weaknesses and strenghts different, I accept the gap i live in. Fortunately, I have at last two people in my life, a friend and a my daughter (who has ADS), who love me like I am, take me for full, love me at a whole and give me strenght for being like I am.
Professional helpers, coaches and therapists, gave me so many different points of view, so differents advices that I just feel more messy and inadapted. I just got to the point, where I accept ADHD and do not try to fit in anymore, feeling socially isolated but at least, just trying to not judge this as one more failure, trying to find and slowly finding peace within myself as I’m.
I’m 54, got my ADHD diagnose 4 years ago, already a psychiatric nurse since decades (with others jobs here and there), was then at the end of my bachelor studies in science of nursing.
I thought this extended diploma, would help me professionally to be finally « good enough », this time on the long run, for the workfield of mental health nursing system. I thought I could help better to implement the « diversity inclusive open psychiatry ».
It didn’t help. It just extended the gap between my expertise in the topics of diversity and inclusion, and what the reality of work is when it comes to inclusion and diversity in this very same workfield.
I hope there will be more awareness and diversity inclusive school and workplaces, ADHD friendly, for the coming generations.
🙌 💝 🤝 Love on your way to all of you out there, with your lovely different-attention-different-interests way of beeing 🙌 💓 🤝
thank you for having the strength to share you’re story. i’m glad someone connected with this film on a deep level like you did. i wish you all the best.
I'm 38 and I'm so tired of that... I've spent my whole life feeling the same, and thinking to myself: "One day, I'll be ready, and the world will see what I've been through and what I got inside... The time has come... Bless you brother!
Yeah I wish everybody would p*** off with this made up nonsense nobody had ADHD in the eighties.... Now all of a sudden everybody's got it and everybody's child has got it
Great story. One thing I did was embrace who I was and said sod it to the rest of the world and did me. It's not us it's them and their need for everyone to conform to, what feels like prison to us. People look at my life of chaos and judge, I look at them and say I will not ever do life like you, I can't and do just fine, thank you very much. I don't need your rules or guidelines for success because it will not ever work for me, so bugger off. They are just worried they have it wrong, so when we show up doing life differently, they get scared. There are a lot of us AND WE DO NOT NEED FIXING, WE ARE PERFECTLY IMPERFECT JUST LIKE THE REST OF HUMANITY. Love to you from another member of the tribe.
I am not as experiences with my 35 years but I can relate very much. Especially with this gap. You just explained it almost perfectly.
Unfortunately the film kinda made me feel even more sad and helpless.
I think there is things that make our condition worse and a eradic work schedule (as we often have with nursing) makes things unbelievably hard for us. I just worked shift for the last 1,5 years and I am at a breaking point.
I hope you can center yourself a bit and find a way to help yourself (I can recommend the book by Majid Fotuhi
“Boost Your Brain: The New Art and Science Behind Enhanced Brain Performance”). ❤Sarah
I've never cried because of a film before. I feel like you've somehow endured living inside my head, and then turned what always seems to be ruining everything in my life into art. People don't realise how isolating ADHD is sometimes, but this made me truly feel less alone.
Thank you so much
Ahhh... Man, this happen to me too...
Isolating is the one of the strongest words to describe adhd honestly
This is very well done. Having ADHD myself I can relate to a lot of this. In particular the task/information overload that occurred at home. Even being consciously aware off all of the things you are supposed to be doing can be overwhelming.
Yes. But for me it's not a jumble of voices. It's thoughts that form from the words of a conversation. Images that lead to other thoughts and other images. So half the conversation is missed. Because the conversation creates visions and ideas.
Yeah sometimes I’ll find myself spacing out in the middle of a conversation, but I’ll be too embarrassed to stop them and ask them to repeat themselves.
This... Just made me cry like a baby, having ADHD feels just like this, I feel just like this
I cried the same times he did, the same way, hell... I even look like him, school was absolutly terrible, I got bullied for most of it and fought over 30 times, got suspended, all the bad behaviour tickets. Treatment is important, we gotta see the bright side of this. Loved the part of the many voices, people don't understand what is it to have this, so hard to regulate our focus where we would want it to be, but hey why not think of a 100 super random ideas non-stop when we should be doing something else? The part I enjoy is that we live in the moment, it is hard... but we also have to try and look ahead
9:19 to 10:29 is so me struggling to communicate (+people losing their patience and yelling at me because of it) and never being able to say what's wrong or convey my feelings (so i remain mute)😢
Great film👏
I do the same
I do the same and feel like I cant get away so start panicking and rhen I can't breath that well and start getting emotional
I think this was an important way to depict ADHD. There are way too many societal problems with the root cause being misunderstanding. Thank you! 😅
this is exactly what it feels like every day and I can't talk to anyone about it because my family doesn't believe there are mental illnesses so I struggle everyday alone.😕
Weirdly at least one of your relatives probably has it! I hope you've been able to find your own community. Keep updating your family, even if they don't accept it at first, it might take a long time to bring them on board. It's a lonely journey, but knowledge is power. We're on the road with you 💪🏼
When other people are crying like that, I have the urge to cry ;-;
Literally me everyday cept my mouth runs faster than my thoughts cause whenever I stop my brain explodes with thousands of ideas and voices and... yeah...
This film literally made me cry it really sums up how I feel all the time and I've never really been able to express it I am glad this film exists because it shows me I'm not alone and can hopefully bring more awareness to the reality of living with adhd that isn't just the hyperactivity and inattentiveness that everyone seems to think it only is
TO PARENTS: This is not the only side of ADHD ! Depression & anxiety do not define this condition.
Your child may predominantly seem like a dreamer, or be alternating between overfocusing on some specific stuff while being unable to focus on what seems less interesting.
I'm probably lucky, because depression was not an issue for me. I was just busy being into my own stuff.
This is me, Omg i heard about ADHD just yesterday, I'm 22 years old and studying textile printing engineering, It's so difficult for me to pay attention for anything, my mind thinking about millions of things at the same time, need help i got tired
My teachers KNEW i have adhd but the problem was that they never trated me according to it. They acted as if i just didn't have it.
The system blames us, and it is their lack of skills outside the box that is lacking. I'm so sorry that was your experience and pray it did not have too harsh of an effect on your being.
Teachers need to educate themselves on the condition and techniques to help students. My brother just kept failing and getting in trouble, I went under the radar and was just labelled a day dreamer, but that was a long time ago too. I'm hopeful things are improving. The systems are built for neurotypicals. We'd be badass hunter gatherers though 😝 there's a great ted talk on that!
Non of my teachers new I had it but then one of them my history teacher found out but he never anolaged it but he new alot about me he even saw me have a anxiety attack before when I was doing a verbal test wich he didn't say anything I was happy for that but he new more about me then my other teachers
This film should remind us all that people, especially children behave in certain ways because of things outside of their control. To punish these kids for being who they are is abuse. We must have empathy for kids and all people because everyone is struggling with something and we all need some support once in a while.
That scene where he gets all the demerit slips and sat there covered in them, really hit home. I walked around with those slips pinned to me for nearly 20 years after leaving school. If I had not been diagnosed I'd still be wearing them today; really powerful imagery. Great short film, thank you for telling the story.
I can‘t explain it but it hurts so extreme to See people in such torment as me and so many others with mental dissorder. Thank you so damn much for showing that something like this is Not just a simple quirk or something alike.
Long Time ago that i cried so much
Ohh Bless you Jack. I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression at age 26, so needless to say school was complete hell for me except for certain subjects that I excelled at. NO focus what so ever. Tests were a nightmare. I had no clue what ADHD was growing up. Years later when I turned 45, I found myself back to going to a wonderful Phycologist who asked me if I had ever been tested for ADHD. I had not! She had me take a test, like a questionnaire and was asked to give another copy to my Mom. She lives in another Country so we did it over the phone instead. I told her to honest even if she didn't want to hurt my feelings. I needed to know what was going on, so this was very important to be truthful. After that test, I right then and there was I was diagnosed with ADHD. Talking about this with my Mom had answered so many questions about "why I am the way I am". I'm no longer ashamed or embarrassed. I no longer have the fear of disappointing everyone in my life because sometimes the simplest thing to others is VERY difficult for me. It is what it is. I have wonderful people in my life that love me WITH my "quirks"....I feel this one to my soul🥰PS..I have been the "Sticky note Queen" for years!
I relate to all of this, unfortunately. Even the part where he cried, but not a whole lot of tears came out. I delt with suicidal ideation because of my undiagnosed status. Feeling like I was running around in circles on a wild goose chase trying to find what I had until I finally figured it out when it all came to a head. I cried so many tears beforehand, that when I found out and started on the road to diagnosis, I thought had no tears left. Then I found out anhedonia(lose or lack of the ability to experience pleasure and thus an inability to show some intense emotions like sadness)which usually comes with untreated adhd and can lead to major depressive disorder if left untreated. I really hope that more people find this short film, feel seen, and can use this to communicate to loved ones how they feel so they can go get the help that so many of us waited for or never even got.
I feel like this is a really great representation of ADHD. The struggles pictured in this video and the emotions felt through it are very accurate. As someone who has ADHD, I feel like people have a completely different idea of what ADHD is like, how it affects your relationships with others (I especially had difficulties with my parents).
It is not something to be taken lightly, for it personally is a challenge to live with it everyday. ADHD is also present in different ways, not everybody has the hyperactivity side of it. Please don't make assumptions about people with ADHD.
If you are struggling with it, it may be a good idea to reach out for help. I never wish for anybody to have this disorder.
I hope you all stay safe and remember you are not alone ❤
Thank you for showing light on this disorder that is still misunderstood by many
Beautiful and elegantly told. Brought back hard memories for me.
Dealing with adhd aint easy and props to them for using joyner lucas song at the beginning its called “adhd” when i heard it in the background it blended in so perfectly
I can relate to this so much! I have severe ADHD :(
Omg same! I also have severe ADHD. I used to be bullied because of it.
How did you get over it?
@@steffibinoy I can never "get over it" but I can manage it through medication, my diet, and exercise. I also am going to therapy.
3:25 this happen to me sometimes
i literally am about to cry
My son is 9yo and struggles with ADHD and ODD and I see the frustration in his eyes when he tries to communicate. God help is all be better and communicate better.
It can be much more challenging with boys, especially since schools label them as a problem. Most likely, he is above average intelligence. Make sure to find at least one thing that soothes him, so he has a place to go when it gets tough. Do not judge what it is. Empower him by letting him make as many decisions for his life as appropriate for his age. Just helping him feel some bit of control over what happens to him. It can be as simple as choosing meals or clothes, just emphasize it is his decision and build from there. Bless you for even trying, he will feel that and it does help.
If I may ask, how is his communication affected? Communication for me personally is not my strongest point. I struggle expressing my ideas in both languages I speak and when I do, I often speak really fast. Fumbling and sometimes stuttering . 😫
Well made - my deceased husband had ADHD and placed on drugs from 8 years ... he described like this. A kid surrounded by people with no empathy.... never going to turn out well. A mother not noticing or finding time... a teacher that doesn't care at all should not be teaching.....
this is, pretty accurate i love this film and i realte to it partially becuase i never really had a proper diagnosis the closet ive gotten was a sensory or an asperger, i was close to an ADHD diagnosis but i couldnt be placed on the spectrum. i wish people could understand this is how i feel on a daily basis sometimes you did a great job man
God I'm only 2 minutes in and the Tinnitus like sound together with music playing in background already got tears to my eyes
I used music at school as my escape. The music classes where the only classes I got A’s in. I would go to sports camps in football and basketball, I was really pretty good, but because of my grades they would punish you by not letting you play in a real game. I always thought that was cruel, because for many people it can be an escape, or something they can do well.
The school system when I was a kid ( I’m 49) was about punishment if you could not learn by the way you were being shown. I knew how to read, but I hated to read a book, I could never get past a chapter without my mind wondering away. I was actually struck by a teacher, and another made me sit outside the door on the concrete walkway, for the entire semester because she said there was no point of me being in a classroom if I cannot be taught.
I’m just now, as of 2 weeks ago diagnosed as having ADHD. When I think of that little boy I used to be, and how I was treated.. I weep. Not being good enough for college, getting minimum wage work, struggling very hard for every thing my entire life… could have been a lot smoother if someone would have helped me get the help I needed. It really hurts
Omg for years I've denied having adhd despite many people telling me otherwise. I'm 47 this year and in 4 days I see a doctor to start the process of diagnosis. This film was like watching my own school/adolescent life. Such deep despair because it didnt matter how hard I tried I always fucked up, I only recall doing homework one time and that's because I chose to write about the life of Martin Luther King Jr and found it interesting enough to hold my attention. A couple of years ago I was in a language course (I live in Iceland although I'm not born here) and found myself doing the homework during class while everyone else was giving their answers to the homework I hadn't even know we were doing....I got my answers written down quick enough that by the time the teacher got to me I was able to reel off the sentences like I hadn't just scribbled them down.
"What is wrong with him."
Heard that my whole life. Mostly from my boomer siblings.
When he said “i want people to think that im not a bad person” it really hit me deep
i have adhd and this explains it so well idk how else to describe it it makes me cry because it's to relatable
This video gave me another perspective that is so helpful. I never realized how hard ADHD is on people. I can’t imagine how hard all of this is on a person. Thank you for giving me another way of seeing ❤❤❤
Wow this was so well done. This is exactly what inattentive ADHD is like and how depression becomes a consequence of it. The whole experience is very isolating.
Thank you for that. I cried a lot, but just because you nailed it way too good.
I can relate. I was diagnosed with ADHD and OCD at 10 years old.
I was diagnosed with ADHD in March. I also probably have OCD but don’t feel like doing the diagnostic process as my antidepressants for mood help my OCD.
It’s so hard isn’t it. Hope you’re managing and im here to talk if you ever want to, about anything :)
@@natalied1844 tysm and yeah I’m doing ok.
@@natalied1844 I hope u are too
Bravo. This kid did such a great job. All involved nailed it so well. It's hard enough describing It to people, let alone making a movie about it. I cried along with Jack. I really felt his pain b/c I have been there.
What makes it very difficult is we look like a normal person with normal neurological development. So people will easily judge you from the outside and make quick assumptions. At 55, I'm really trying, but still struggling.
My son who is almost 5 was recently diagnosed with the hyperactive part and I am starting him on med and Theraphy and letting the school know there issues so that he starts having the help now. I don’t understand the parents that don’t recognize the issues there kids have and help them from the beginning when they are little…
Wow! Powerful! Gut-wrenching. Well done!
Glad you made this film! It really did help me to see this problem in a new and different way!👍
As someone who also struggles with ADHD (diagnosed in High School with Inattentive type). This was so relatable. I even caught myself biting my thumbnail while watching this video. I also started crying.
I have a friend struggling with ADHD I never really understood what it was like but now I do ❤
Ian is an INCREDIBLE drummer, i saw him live --twice in the same week-- and he is IN THE MUSIC. I hope to hear more from you for years to come!
this is fr what it feels like and nobody understands. i either get called childish for having “so much energy” or im being to loud. everything irritates me and its to the point where i want to cry.
Brilliantly done, and so familiar. It's great that people ask what you need, if only we knew the answer!
It's hard. Btw my family thinks that getting ADHD medications is same as being phycopath or something. It's worse than having ADHD. They are blaming me. Comparing me with my relatives and siblings. No one can understand that struggle in my head.
Psychopathy is not treatable by medication. Adhd is not psychopathy.
This is absolutely accurate. I wonder how the cast, writer, and director all were able to understand this mental situation and produce a remarkable production. Cheers!
This is incredible! I relate to it! Though I don't get in trouble and seem normal, its because I work myself so hard (to the point of burnout) to keep up and seem like a normal student. I struggle deeply, trying to keep up, focus, and get through school. This really hit me hard- I nearly cried. Teachers don't understand, students don't understand. My dad won't admit that I have adhd, though he finally admitted that I have Autism (Diagnosed with both). The struggle is real. Incridible job!
I felt really understanding and understood in this video ty :)
This is EXACTLY what it feels like to have ADHD! - I should know.
I found this interesting in that it has lead me to better understand myself.
Yeah...... one of the best short films. I cried. It's really hard
LOOKING AT THE VIDEO,
IT'S SO GOOD TO UNDERSTAND ADHD.
I THINK SHORT FILM,
THIS IS EXACTLT HOW THEY FEEL'
THIS IS A PERFECT WAY TO EXPLAINING EMOTIONAL LIFE,
PEOPLE WITH ADHD
THANK
I used to think the same as Jack about wishing people would understand what it's like, but since it's literally impossible, all you can do is understand for yourself, and find people who also have adhd. Don't let people tell you who you are, because they don't know you, or how your brain works. They want us to function like they do, but we simply can't control it. We can do things to help us lessen our symptoms, but at the end of the day, you have to be your own supporter, and tell yourself "these people won't understand, and it's not my fault or their fault. I'm just going to do what I can, and still love myself either way." Try to communicate, but don't drain your energy. If they won't be understanding, that's no one's fault. It's not their responsibility.
Undiagnosed ADHD is the worst. In the UK do you have to wait for 2 years if you don't pay you privately the NHS make you wait for 2 years to go through the pain and the torture, and everyone thinks it's minor, It's not, It's a serious matter. So many people go through their lives not even knowing that they have ADHD and they fail and hit a brick wall It's a very serious matter. I personally suffer with it and I've dealt with the brick wall surrounding my every thought, there are speed jumps, in fact hurdles, to my hopes and my dreams... It can be waking nightmare
Great work you deserves more recognition
I think this shows some of the aspects of ADHD quite accurately - focusing on how it can impact our self esteem and lead to self loathing. The 'I don't know' is spot on! In those intense moments there's so much information converging, and so much raw emotion, and so much fear of how the other person will judge us, it's so hard to put anything into words. It's too slow moving for me as someone with ADHD to sustain attention through the film though, ironically! I had to start drumming furiously to try to keep watching to the end. More aspects of the condition could have been interwoven if it was a bit faster pace, or maybe incorporated into the audio - I dunno maybe I'm a bit more hyperactive than this lad. Tho there is that thing where we also can sit there feeling unable to do anything for ages also, which I just can't remember the name for right now 🙈 hello again frustration and self hatred 😅 it'll come back to me when I'm in the middle of something else and I'll blurt it out randomly 😂
I'm lucky, I've shaped my life to suit my brain, and I somehow did ok at school, but I know others that really couldn't do school work. Socially, that's a different story. I still get dark thoughts though, when I've disappointed someone or messed up, and they struggle to see that it wasn't intentional.
Paralysis!!! I was making formula for the baby 😂
My heart bleeds when I see children suffering like this. My daughter was in grade 3 when she told me she wanted to die. I was able to get her into a school that dealt with add and had counsellors in the school who dealt with the depression and mental illness issues. She left and continued her education in a mainstream school after grade 9. Without the remedial school she wouldn't have a grade 12 certificate today. She continues to battle with ADHD in her adult life and finds it difficult to keep a job. She is now in sales and works for herself with a lot of help and encouragement from mom and dad (even though we are now divorced). Her sales ability is excelent but paperwok is my baby. 11:00 I agree with others who say hang in there but you need to find someone who understands and is willing to support you.
Thank you it's one of a good exemple
Thank you to create this support for other to try imagine our world.
Might show this to my mum. If I can't explain hopefully this will
I am happy we have films like this to show the severity of adhd. I have it and feel like people dont take it seriously, not necessarily for me but overall.
Stop this video is so relatable to me I’m going to cry. This makes me feel so much
This explained my life… like literally.. how do they know what my whole life it like..?!
Wow! Powerful!
This is so real though, that last scene is actually what it feels like lol
Bro covered a little part of my day.
FUCK! Last minute got me, because I sat there by myself, crying like that not knowing, what to do for 40 years!!! Feel9ng noone would understand. But since diagnosed, embracing the adhd and a support system now this Depression, Anxiety and Desperation are almost gone. Keep on fellows. You can live a happy life, even though on some point it doesn't look like it. It didn't for me all my life until I learned to love myself for who I am! ❤ love for all!
Thankyou for this ❤
The whistle inside my head just never stops
As someone with adhd, i can really relate to most things. Its not the worse condition but at times i try to explain, why I'm acting the way i do without coming of as bad or lazy. It gets worse as you grow old and u loose people who can understand you.
Oh please let go of the words bad or lazy. We are not ever bad or lazy, just don't fit intheir box. And praise G-d we don't!!! How boring would the world be if we all conformed!!!! The world needs you and your gifts.
Yep.
well done Kruz. Impressive work.
Hope this was acting, so I am gonna hopeassume it was, but it sure felt real. Hope they had a good shoulder for you after that closing shot, cuz wether or not it was acting, that must've come from deep in the pit.
Also...
"What do you want?"
Sooooooomuch of not this...... Like I can... And when.... So.... But how... and.... and.. and. an- He's waiting..... "Dunno" 🤐
Yep.
“We had homework?” Hit SO close to home.
I think this needs much more attention!
It's like you'll never gonna understand yourself. You always feel like you've let yourself down. And The thing that hurts the most is that you can't tell anyone about it, bc they will think that you are just making excuses.
I have had a panic attack and a couple anxiety attacks bc of my adhd and it getting overwhelming feeling like jack was bc I couldn't do anything
I think the only thing unrealistic is how clean his room is
Might not be the case for everyone with adhd, there are ppl with adhd whose surrounding is organized and clean
This relates to me so much I really feel like jack
I paused this and had to try rewatching it like 10 times, in little bits because I cant help but do like five things at the same time usually. I had it playing in the kitchen, started it like 20 min ago, stopped it like 5x already, because I started playing it when I began cooking, and getting ready to go out (I'll likely be late as usual) at the same time. I keep going back and restarting at a different spot. I like the video. I just, have ADHD. I'll keep the tab open and likely finish this 13min video bit by bit over a few days. I also have the TV paused on a movie I'm watching. I dont feel like turning it off in case I feel like have a minute to watch a bit more of it, feels like I gave up on it if I turn it off completely. Same thing with open tabs, I have so many on my screen because I dont feel like organizing them /saving them and closing them off for later - feels like I'd forget about what I wanted to look up/research. Id rather keep like 30 tabs open indefinitely. I always have a song playing in my head - always. Random songs I wake up with haunt me throughout the day. My mind never stops. I dont take meds. I discovered I had adhd as an adult woman
This is so accurate that it’s so hard to watch.
had to pause it a few times
Great actor. Brough out so many feelings 😪 😢
yeah, i hate having ADHD. im always getting yelled at i NEED people to know these things im always getting ignored when im begginf for help with this stuff, but also not at the same time? hard 2 explain
i have ADHD wnd this was one of the most accurate depictions ive seen.
Agreed
thank you
This exactly what I went through in School, it was back in the eighties when I didn't think ADHD was.