Classic Dany | ADHD Short Film (2018)
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- Опубліковано 2 лип 2018
- Everyone forgets their phone, wallet, and important meetings... once in a while. But a person with ADHD runs into these problems almost every day of their life. Dany is a college student who struggles with ADHD Intentive Type her entire life. Classic Dany is a story about how Asian American families, particularly Vietnamese American, view mental disorders.
Most of the time, when people talk about ADHD, they often think about the kid who has endless energy and can't sit still for longer than 5 minutes. But there are actually three subtypes of ADHD: the hyperactive type, the intentive type, and the combined type. And the Intentive type is the most underdiagnosed because the symptoms aren't as discruptive. Thus, Classic Dany aims to create discussions specifically about this type.
Disclaimer: Having ADHD myself, this is how I experience it. By no means this short film is a generalization on how every single person with ADHD feels.
Written, produced, edited and directed by Theone Ly.
Cinematography by Alan Chung.
Original music by Lloyd Ea and Khue Bui.
© Copyrighted 2018. All rights reserved. - Фільми й анімація
When "Shape of You" started playing in Dany's head along with all the flashbacks and distracting noises, I finally felt understood.
Same, it was also funny to see lol
That was an accurate representation of ADHD 😂😂. That’s how I am even sometimes when I take my meds.
same
Finally yes….
SAME! I was like OMG she's tapped into my brain.
OMG IM NOT THE ONLY ONE WITH ADHD THAT HAS SONGS IN MY HEAD RAMDOMLY
And also memes and video and when you replace your favorite scene characters with your favorite characters and stuff
Whoever chooses the music (not me) has a wicked sense of dark humour
Anon Unown 55 literally me 24/7 RENEGADE RENEGADE
RENEGADE
hahahahaha same
NathaliaTHEalpaca I have it
As someone with adhd when the mom started yelling I felt so sad I hope no one has to go through being called names for mental disorders they can't control.
I have
When the mom yelled at her, I related that to how my husband gets frustrated with me over stuff I think he doesn't realize is just my ADHD sometimes. My insurance doesn't cover the therapy I need for a diagnosis and even allergy shots aren't covered and otc pills don't have any effect. I need new insurance so I could get adderall for times when distractions can really hurt me...
That’s how my parents act towards me :/
@@thefryinator7774 im sorry it is like that, hope things are at least a bit better nowdays and stay healthy!
@@atlaxxedits564 I'm definitely coping a lot better lately
Yo the lazy part is so true, it seems like we are careless unable to work n stuff but we really are trying our best our hardest
I just got screeched at my job... my boss called me lazy in front of our clients (I’m a paralegal). What pisses me off is that I’m actually fucking trying. Do you have any fucking clue how hard is to multitask all your tasks while under extreme pressure with a disability to boot? Let me tell you, NOT PLEASANT
At school most of the time I forgot some homework so once my teacher shouted at me and I was sad because I always tried my best to finish it all
@@brainnotbraining. im going through the same thing, hopefully my grades get better now.
Fr it's emotionally and physically draining
This made my cry... Bruh
The part where she was reading and had everything playing around her is so true. I ALWAYS have a song/movie/show playing in my head along with odd memories. Spot on👌
Same at first I thought I was going crazy. Glad I’m not the only one
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So true. Old memories on repeat all the time. I’ll read an entire page only to not remember any of it because I was thinking about a past conversation
I used to think that was normal until i was in grade three. Everyone was able to concentrate on almost anything. While I heard everything in the room at once, so I could not concentrate on anything.
When I read, especially when it's a book I really like, I tend to get absorbed to the point where I stop paying attention to anything else.
"I should finish it in time." Haunting words I've told myself countless times.
😅😂Haha yes ! When I say "should" now, I try to take a moment to ask myself if that means "won't"
"Your son's a bright boy, but he'll never get anywhere if he can't finish his homework!"
I still remember you, Mrs. Henderson. Your words have etched themselves upon my soul. 💀
This film rings true for people who suffer from ADD and ADHD. The scene of Dany reading the book, is spot on how we, those with ADD & ADHD, feel on a day to day basis. Keep up the great work, Dany and Brandon. I look forward to seeing more!
Omg same dude I hate it ik the feels
I suffer from ADHD
I cope by listening to music. It’s nearly impossible without it
Kyla Martinez
I find it's an amalgam of memories _and_ imagination, but everyone is different!
THIS
The scene while she was reading the book, that was actually happening to me exactly the same way while i was watching the video.That was a perfect depiction of adhd people’s mind.
Same that is me this is how got to this video
I’m not diagnosed with ADHD but that’s my head almost 24/7.. I’m genuinely curious if that’s normal😳😳
@@tjharts Everyone these days have such shit going on in their heads, so many things to do etc etc, what the real question here is wether you were like this since you were born, always, it never changed, you never experienced the world except this. And also, it gets worse than this, it goes to horrible extents. Its not only the attention part but other aspects of life are fucked up too since childhood itself.
@@user-od1cc8xw2z it’s always happened for me since I could remember, but I will admit it has gotten more apparent/a little worse during this year, which I honestly think was expected for everyone
@@tjharts I thought the same, maybe you should consider a diagnosis
And the small little sounds I can relate too so badly hahaha
I know so true 😭
I know so true. Sometimes even hearing people eating distracts me.
Same😭
Damn. When she was zoning out and everyone was just kind of waiting for her. I really felt that. And the secondhand embarrassment when she realized what was happening.
Something like that happened to me today. I was in quimic class and i usually shake my feet or leg unconsciously but i shaked my leg with th chair and it made a sound and then the theacher asked who was making that sound and asked if it was me. I was so embarrassed. Everyone laughed and even tho no one has mentioned it i still feel bad about it
When she started reading it out loud thinking it would help her focus and it did literally nothing I felt personally attacked 😭🤝🧡
Yep!
The editing of the reading scene was the best depiction of ADHD thought process I've seen. And the bottle just appearing out of nowhere while you're spacing is too subtly relatable. I loved your film. Keep it up
Thank you so much!
wait, what bottle?
Yeah that was just like ADHD.
@@mikey_2102 exactly what I was thinking lol
@@crackers3978 sameee
You should never ask anyone with ADHD, “Are you sure you’re on your meds?” or “Did you forget to take your meds?” Absolutely not okay. It’s the equivalent of saying, “Can you stop acting like yourself, it’s kinda irritating.” Even though the intent might not be bad, it’s not good to say that. In many instances, people with ADHD who are experiencing symptoms are aware more than anyone else about their behavior and are self-conscious about it. There’re are other ways in which we can show care for another person with ADHD without remarks like these.
@David vE That's very true, I agree. It's just when people say it mockingly like some of my relatives do who don't really understand ADHD. That is a good point you made!
@David vE Things are actually much better than before. I go to a school where mental health is talked about and my friends are really accepting, and my parents are beginning to understand it more. I'm so glad more people are able to have a safe space to talk about it, and I hope that trend continues. Stay safe during corona!
I only find myself hating it when people ask me if I actually already took them, it's like they are saying I am acting stupid without saying it out right, but the only people that have done so are close understanding friends and I've only been on meds since March and because of quarantine I haven't had as much human interaction yet so this could change in the future.
Eyes open, radar up, always!
I had a friend who would ask me if I was off my meds when I was overexcited or anything like that. I don’t think she meant anything bad by it... but it hurt.
“ I took you of this drug because I didn’t want people to think you were retarded. My daughter is not defective”. This was the typical attitude of parents when I was growing up as well.
Little did these parents know that having that attitude was just harming their kids even more, not getting the help they need to be successful and functioning.
Same... at least my parents still made me take the meds even though they don’t really believe in it
It's obvious her mom's parents bullied her into believing things like this. People are never the way they are without a reason. I feel really bad that she was bullied to the extent that she felt like she had to protect her daughter from getting bullied by other people. She thought she was protecting her daughter when she was trying to protect herself. Her behaviour was not okay, but she didn't have bad intentions. She herself wasn't accepted for who she was and she loves her daughter. She didn't want people to be mean to her daughter like they were to her. I wish my mom loved me that much. And look at the end they are happy together and support eachother. People just need to heal sometimes.❤️
I’m really bad at remembering if I took my medicine or not. My pill bottle will be sitting there next to that glass of water and I’ll be like: did I take it? I don’t want to take it twice but I can’t not take it, but I can’t remember if I already took it. I’ll ask my sister if she saw me take it but she won’t have been in the room. This is a nearly daily occurrence
I have to take pills 3x a day and what made it so so so much easier for me was a pill organizer in combination with an app that reminds me to take it until I confirm that I did. There are pill organizers with 7 slots (one per day) or bigger ones if you need medication multiple times a day. To visually see the pill gone from the "Monday" slot confirms that I took it, even if I don't actually remember it. And to not forget it in the first place, the app really helps. It also shows how many pills are left and remembers me to get a new prescription in time.
u should get those daily pill bottles they sound like they’ll help
@@TheLyanSoma I don’t have to worry bc my foster mom locks all are meds in a little box
i bought a pill organizer for that maybe itll help you too
@@hanakoskokeshidoll my foster mom locks are medicine in a box and uses pill organizers for me and my siblings to
My mom tells me, "stop using adhd as an excuse. I used to have it too and i still do." meanwhile shes perfectly focused witjout any caffeine or meds and sits perfectly still while scolding me for getting distracted
I love that the mother's reaction gets explained by her own struggle with ADHD. It's so true that sometimes parents think that their children who have ADHD are lazy. It hits home even more that a lot of the things the mother tells Dany are probably things other people told her and things she's told herself. If she was able to overcome her struggles and tells herself she's lazy when she doesn't, so is Dany. I bet this happens to a lot of people, though many of them don't even know they have ADHD like their children.
I suffer from Ring Of Fire ADHD, I get irritated when people talk or make small noises. I can't concentrate on a test if a person coughs or whispers so I start to fidget with my fingers or break down in tears. I can hear people breathing even if its subtle. I get VERY irritated when someone reads to slow. I'm constantly doing something and I can multitask like a pro, I'm in constant motion and it makes me angry when someone tells me to stop.
Me too
talk to a teacher you trust and ask them for help regardless how embarrasing it might feel to you. Trust me, you have options you might never consider yourself. And if you cant get or seek help take earplugs trust me!
Me too, i thought i was the only one...I get mad so much for no reason, and my parents and brother always say, "You're too sensitive!"
yes (now i have not been diagnosed with adhd or add),but i can relate to this so hard i get annoyed if someone is eating chips, drinking or doing something relatively loud (for example) eating with your mouth open i will get so annoyed because it just bothers me that people do that while i'm trying to concentrate or go about my daily life
Yess
Lmao I love how the mom immediately changes her mood/attitude after the conflict was resolved. I’m also Asian-American diagnosed with ADHD and I am 99.8% certain my mom passed it down to me 🤣.
The reading scene is how I feel. I read and have 20 other things going on in my head so I listen to music to calm my mind down and distract it while I read so I can focus on reading music distracts my brain to get tasks done for me and it helps me
Noah Pierson sane I have to blast edm music like no words just a beat to drown out all my thoughts
I feel that! I call it 'controlled distraction' (Just Lofi-music in the background or CoffeeShop-Jazz for me) it does distract but in a good way... Like my mind ist gonna wander anyway, that's uninevitable, but at least it has somewhere to go to and to come back from ... If you know what I mean?
The music can't be too exciting or tell a story or have text (as much as I would love to Listen to Musicals/Disney Songs while learning it doesn't work😅). It has to be running in the background and keep your mind on track... fills in the silence...
Often when I try to explain that to friends they are confused at first😅 but nice to hear that I'm not the only one^^.
Loved it. If that ending wasn't the perfect depiction of living with ADHD (in my experience) I don't know what is. Forgetting something after immediately being told not to is something simple for a person who might do it once every few months to a year, but as someone who experiences it near daily it hit hard despite the upbeat ending. Thanks to you and the crew involved for making this, it's great.
Yes!!! My Mom tells me to do the dishes and I walk out into the kitchen and completely forget why I walked in there. I sit at the dinner table and start subconsciously zoning out and my Mom gets my attention again. Then she asks, "what were you thinking about?" I say, "what do you mean?" she says "Just then, you were just zoning out" and I say "I don't know lol..?". This film was so relatable on so many different levels that people without ADD/ADHD wouldn't understand.
this made me cry because some of the scenes that depicted what having adhd is like was so accurate.
Facts
Wow. As a film major and someone with ADHD I just relate to this so much, and I just loved it so, thank you and goodluck on your future projects! I've been trying to find canon representation of women with ADHD in film all day because I wanted one to write an essay on for uni, and started to get so low because how invisible we are, but then I came across this and while I probably will have to pick something else to write about, I'm just so happy I found this. Especially the reading scene hits very close to home. I also love the fact that there's the generational aspect, as ADHD is often passed down from a parent. Oh, and even the title is relatable! My goodness.
I hope you will write something about ADHD in the future, I feel like we need more films about this topic to educate people and raise awareness!
Singing and remembering past conversations while reading out loud... yes... absolutely.
I feel her pain. My mum doesn't think I have it but I know 100% sure I do
OMGGG THE PART WHEN SHE SHUT DOWN THE MACHINE AND CLOSED THE DOOR ITS WOWWWW SO RELATABLE
My brother had it and got an early diagnosis so my parents worked around him in order for him to succeed, and mine went ignored and untreated, my parents wanted one “normal child” so i had to be the one. Turned 25 this year and was struggling to take care of my hygiene, my daughter and all of my other responsibilities, so when I found report cards all the way up to 1st grade stating there was a problem I got frustrated and got a diagnosis, and medicine. At first my parents were soooo upset in the beginning, and a few days later they say how I had set up a routine, all the sudden I remembered to eat, and brush my teeth, I was nicer because I wasn’t frustrated, my anxiety was gone, and then finally my dad sat down and told me about his diagnosis. I felt betrayed but he finally agreed to go get help. My life was basically in ruins until I started treatment, so this video really hits close to home! Especially when we know it’s genetic!
"You're not trying enough just concentrate" hurts so much when you're literally giving your all
having adhd and being called “slow, lazy” is such a huge thing for me since my whole family picked on me. my mother is the same exact way, says i make it up for attention. i like to draw, but i have sketch books full of half way finished sketches because i can’t finish them.. adhd sucks.. i wish more people would understand
It’s the Asian mom not accepting that mental illness is a thing for me
God I feel so loved watching this I have adhd
Exempt my parents try and help me
I stop taking medication because I was acting different in a bad way I was acting weird and yelling at people for no reason
Despite the pro-med inclination of the film, I don't think medication is for everyone. It's more about what works best for you.
I don’t think I’ve seen an adhd video as accurate as this. So many of the experiences in here I share as well and it hard. I haven’t been diagnosed but I’m almost certain I have it. I’m even the same age as the girl in the video and it’s crazy how much of the scenarios in here feel like they’re were pulled out of my life.
This was beautiful. I feel like people don't talk about how ADHD runs in families; my mom only said she had a learning disorder in elementary school before my diagnosis. The shared emotional dysregulation was the worst part because arguments always got heated and emotional like the one here. This was really spot on.
This is exactly how its having ADHD i have it myself and sometimes when i read a book out loud and then i have to talk about it i dont remember a single thing about it so everyone in the Classroom thinks i am retarded or a handicap
this is amazing it really is it deserves more attention
Thank you for your support :)
pun intended?
Zoe Tudor I was gonna say that.
@@zoetudor7026 Took me a moment but I got there😂😅
With most depictions i can only somewhat relate, but that reading scene was literally MY experience all my life since trying to study for school, years before my actual diagnosis. i also loved the scene of her forgetting her meds after getting in her shoes - it's just classic. how often i forgot stuff after placing them next to the door or even in front of it is just comedical.
thanks for that brilliant movie!
Yes I felt that too.
Haha yes replacing items in random places is my specialty too😂 One time I found my phone in my closet😅 OK maybe several times...
as someone with adhd, this kinda made me tear up
Gonna be blunt....I almost cried during this video. This whole thing hits home for me (besides the filming scenes...filmception). I have struggled and still majorly struggle with ADHD all my life and have actually gotten diagnosed with it 2 years ago. Because of it, I can barely hold a job. People don't give me the chance to fix my mistakes, they don't give me the chance to find my groove, and the don't want to have the patience to deal with me. Any advice?
I think you just gotta find the people and company who would value and love you for who you are! It's a long and hard process but it will be worth it in the end! I wish you the best of luck. And know that you are loved and please love yourself so that even when you're at your lowest, you will have yourself to fall back on!
Buddy same here
Me too bro, i was offended when my teacher said, "adhd os a fake". I was diagnosed with that at a very young age. Luckly my family understands.
People are just stupid and become a stereotype. Never want to listen, because they've grown. Bullshit.
I was diagnosed at 20 so a couple months ago.
That’s really how it be when I try to read or sleep
So not the best acting, but definitely a good message and I absolutely see where they're going with this.
Also there are studies out right now correlating ADHD brains with an evolutionary ability to being hyperfocused to hunt. We were better hunters and gatherers back in the day. Now that humanity is settled down we struggle but its only because we want to be out there in nature. If you can focus on your strengths and work on your weaknesses there is success in ADHD.
As someone who had ADHD and is studying to become a director this made me cry. Its the first time ive seen myself in a series… With the auditory processing disorder, the reading scene. Its beautifully directed and it… It made me happy
Love how she forgot her meds right after her mom reminded her to bring them 😂 me to!!
YES!!! Caught me off guard, peak adhd behavior 10/10 filming/editing choice.
I have severe ADHD and I understand this video completely. When the mom said “ADHD is not real!” It triggered me so much! Omg 😠 I’m glad I have supportive parents who have helped me with my disorders.
I understand the title now. "Classic Dany, always forgetting her things."
Dany Is so lucky to have been diagnosed! I'm 35 and the psychiatrist doesn't even want to test me...
oh noo!!
go see a different psychaitrist, they should be doing what puts your mind at ease, even if you dont hsve it they should still test you because you asked
good luck
I have ADHD and autism I get away with a lot more and my mom knows I can't help my behaviour
That's great that you have an understanding mom :) I wish the best for you and your mom!
i suspect i have mild ADD but my mom keeps telling me it's all in my head. i watched this and realized this is all i face
I'm looking into getting an ADHD diagnosis. My Mom has always been supportive of me, though I relate to this in some ways when it comes to meds. She believes that meds are bad and will only make me feel worse and that I should try accupuncture or some other form of natural medicine before I even consider the idea of meds in the future. The Mom in this for the most part represents my internal thoughts. That feeling when everyone else understands what we're doing in class and I spaced out remembering a mistake I made in the past or a memory or a song and when I come back to reality I have to try and figure out what I missed by looking at the information on the whiteboard even though sometimes it looks like a jumbled mess of numbers or words that mean nothing. That feeling when you ask your friends for help because your too afraid to look stupid in front of the teacher but one of them doesn't understand why you don't understand. I mean it's easy right? All you have to do is this, so why doesn't that make sense to you. That feeling when your teacher gives you feedback on an assessment and you forget it the next minute and have to lie about what you've been doing for the past few days when they literally gave you the feedback you needed. It's been weeks since the assessment was due and your still not done? They've given you everything you need to finish but you can't focus and you don't what you're supposed to do unless it's written on paper for you to read over and over and over again. That feeling when you tell your friends you think you might have ADHD and they tell you that procrastinating does it mean you have it. The sadness when you realize they've never none your struggles because you've spent your whole life trying to act like some perfect person and how could you be struggling when you still get good grades? The sickening feeling when you realize that you've hidden so much of yourself that now no one will believe you when you open up and say you need help.
I love this so much that I can't find anything to comment
It's nice to have someone or people that ACTUALLY understand
"ADHD people doesn't exist bc ADHD isn't real"
GUYS IMA DISAPPEAR
I don’t care if I’m commenting on this late. This was an amazing film and as someone with ADHD I related to it so much. Not a lot of people fully understand the disorder and all of the positives and negatives it comes with. I could really relate to the book part because when I get overwhelmed and anxious that is exactly how I feel. I just can’t seem to focus on one task, one idea, one sound, or one thought at a time. This was amazing! Great job! 🧡
Went through something similar with my family. Wasn't able to do stimulant meds due to my epilepsy diagnosis but I find other ways to help me remember things. I'm now a tutor for people and can cater to people with ADHD.
This hit home so much for me. I had a pediatrician relapse something was up when .i was about six or seven but my parents just stopped taking me to him saying nothing was wrong with me. School was a struggle. College was worse. Relationships are harder. My work history is awful......I finally got formally diagnosed in my late thirties....I almost cried. I’m not lazy or stupid.
I'm sorry that you had to go through all those struggles before you got the diagnosis...
And you are right you are not stupid nor are you lazy :) I'm sorry you fehlt Like that...❤️
It’s not just the noises we hear, if there’s no noise there’s noise in our head. A never ending noise that keeps going and going until you’re so frustrated you’re screaming internally and sobbing on the ground. Feeling stupid, and broken. This feeling of thinking you’re stupid and broken will end once people realize how real it is. So act now, help people feel like people.
So true!!! I have ADHD and I can relate to this. My parents are however supportive of me which I am so thankful for.
i accidentally clicked this, watched it, and realized i can relate to all of the things happening in this film ummm-
I started crying because this is how my mom acts SHE PRETENDED TO LOSE MY MEDS and completely pretended like im fine like I'm not.
This is SPOT ON AND BEAUTIFUL!
YES! This is the most relatable ADHD video I've come across ❤️ the dryer making noise in the background while you studied, all the intrusive thoughts, people doubting and shaming you. Teachers would say I was just too smart for class so they'd give me extra homework & projects to keep me busy, and the first doctor I went to about ADHD dismissed it right away before any assessment, telling me to stop drinking RedBull & energy drinks 'like all the college students' 🙄
Very cool how it's engaged so many others in the community on UA-cam :)
This is so well made!!! Definitely deserves more attention
This was very triggering yet relieving in the same time. Thank you.
oh my g... I've got same experience with my mom she didn't even believed the psychiatrist because I've always been an honor student and above average but what she didn't know was how hard it was for me, going to school, spacing out thinking other things, easily distracted, impulses, when doing projects or homework that uses thinking a lot keeps my mind running nonstop that I sleep 3-1 hours everyday. Being BA psychology student with ADHD is woah as there's so many novel concepts to explore but also the mundane nature of college makes it "meh."
I've always been a good student learning things on my own until I got diagnosed with Adult ADHD that it made sense why I learn better when reading things again and again compared to listening to classes though I still need to go to classes to have faster idea about a topic because first hand encounter would branch things out--the etymology, where it was used, the age when it was related, how does it apply around me, then the ups and downs and they have their own branching stuff making me not know what the person's talking about or repeating a paragraph again and again for couple of minutes as well as have a broader synthesized idea about it but when it comes to directions like in math, oh hell.
The sad thing about ADHD is that it's actually inherited and if it's only you for now that got the diagnosis, it's hell within the fam specially because of the Disorder in ADHD that it's not really a disorder it's just a difference and sadly as we were educated in Guidance and Counseling subject in Psychology that a condition can be a problem if it causes you to not function as the typical population within the realms of self care, social life and work life that ADHD isn't really a disorder it's just that we work differently than the boring-modern-corporate-world-sitting-all-day.
This one hits home right now this is exactly what I'm going through trying to get a diagnoses and living in a family who doesn't support/believe in this stuff. It's really hard. Stay strong guys. don't listen to the yelling and mean words.
thank you so much for making this film. everything was so relatable, especially the part where she is reading and her thoughts race. i have adhd along with depression ocd and generalized anxiety disorder, sometimes my thoughts become so fast and so much i feel like i can’t take it anymore, and my mother is EXACTLY like this. she thinks all my diagnosis make me the R word, my entire family views it that way.
Thnx so much for showing this. You don't know how much it means to me seeing someone go through the same situation. I was so fed up with the American movies with all supportive parents and boyfriends and all that. This is so real. Parents in most cases especially in asian countries choose to blindfold themselves. You can't imagine the pain I went through when dad said i became a stain and a defective model on the family cuz of my disease. I believed he'd be by my side and be my backbone. But it was so disappointing 😢.
That flickering of thoughts, ideas, snapshots of conversations.. Yup
Yep
I am genuinely impressed by this. I always wondered if it would be possible to kind of show a life of a person with ADHD... This is very good. You even got down how we can be overly distracted and irritated by small sounds most people ignore.
For years I used to say that I always have a song in my head, ask me at any moment, I’ll be able to tell you what it is.
I’ve just realized that for a while now that not true anymore, I was diagnosed at 40, on meds for 2 years…
It’s funny how some things change without realizing what they were.
Can u say that your life has changed after you've got your treatment? How stimulant works?
This hits a little too close to home for me... Great work capturing the family side of it, and the book scene was spot on.
this film already managed to make me cry after a minute and a half. geez
I only realised I had ADHD this year and at 44 it's almost impossible to get professionals to take me seriously. I've been punished my whole life for my symptoms. People picked up on something not being quite right but back when I was at school ADHD wasn't a known condition in the UK. At least I know now that I'm not a freak of nature. I just need help to get my brain in gear.
I'm 43 and in exactly the same situation ❤
Very similar to my own situation. I’m pretty sure my mum also has ADHD but I’ve never talked with her about it. She used to call me retarded and lazy all the time. I’m glad I went out and got a diagnosis and treatment for myself
This is a very accurate depiction of what it's like especially the scene where she is reading and staring off into space while filming.
This was so validating, thank you. I'm trying hard but I'm exhausted all the time... Watching it made me feel allowed to be proud of myself
all of this is so relatable.. thankyou for creating it...sending it to my parents right away!!!
I related to this on such a deep level, my eyes are watering
why is this literally so friggin accurate
oh my god.. being an asian american and watching her relationship with her mom was spot on
never mind. it was resolved.. not too spot on anymore xD but really sweet
the part where she is reading.. actually made my head hurt so bad because its so relatable and real.
Woah, this is one of the best visualizations of ADHD ever! Really good work.
The stereotypical Asian (Vietnamese) mom's lack of understanding, the reading mind clutter scene, the lawn conversation and phasing out, the beautiful mom-daughter conversation, the deadline trouble, the forgetfulness...
Perfect.
Wow! Just hit me right in the feels!
i can relate so much to jumping out of bed because forgetting something. the feel of someone telling you to try harder or that you should act like an adult. hope I can get an appointment soon to get diagnosed
Perfect ending lmao. A few weeks ago we made a trip with our company and stayed one night at this cool beach hotel. When I arrived at work so we could all drive to the hotel together, I realized I had forgotten to take any change clothes with me. When we arrived at the hotel I didn't find my bathroom stuff in my backpack and I realized I had packed it at home but just didn't take it with me, just like Dany forgets the meds. Incredible.
The scene with the mom was super powerful for me...even through my parents took the opposite approach and constantly encouraged me to take meds.
Not saying that the meds approach is a clear cut better path at all though
This relates so much
Those words the mom used....really represents a lot of what parents of kids w adhd say..
I remember when the teacher would ask each person in class to read two paragraphs out loud from the textbook. I would have no idea what I just read. It was like I was just saying words. The same time getting distracted by every sound in the room.
I just came across this in my youtube recommendations and wow am I glad I did. Even for a short film it felt like it had so much depth to it. I was a lil sad when it came to an end (Classis Dany 2?) All in all, can relate to parts of it and I did tear up a lil when Dany and her mum made up. I've always had a bit of a rocky relationship with my mum and even though she herself doesn't have adhd, opening up to her about my mental health journey and everything was difficult but it also brought us closer together. My dad on the other hand, I'm sure he has undiagnosed adhd and I definitely see alot of the same traits I had in him...
That reading part rings true. It's always when a sentence is familiar to an event that happened in my life and I forget to read and think of those events. Then I lose my spot and restart.
I'm haven't finished watching and i don't think i will.
I'm sure this video might be helpful and representative of many people's experience who have ADHD and grew up in an unhelpful environment, this video might be good to convince sceptical people that adhd is real and getting medication is a valid route but the message I've been getting so far is mostly destructive on my self esteem.
I'm unmedicated, I prefer myself without stimulants, so the repeated messages of "i need this medication or else i'm stupid" and the comments of the people in her life all boiling down to "if you have adhd (or are unmedicated) you are weird and dumb. Be normal and smart." is the exact message i'd internalize and repeat to myself when I'm upset.
I hope the last minute makes the message of this short film more positive but i can't finish watching this with my self-worth still intact.
This hits hard because I want medication but my mother is too worried that I’ll get “addicted” to it. She knows that I have problems, but she doesn’t want to believe that I could be “disabled” because she doesn’t think “disabled” extends outside physical disabilities and autism.
Girl this made me cry
I'm glad it has resonated with you :)
I felt this on a personal level as someone with add
This hit hard for me. When I found out I had ADHD, I called my mom to tell her because I thought she would like to know. She said to me " Big whoop, so do I." I was so confused, because she saw me suffering all through out high school and the little college I did, and KNEW what was going on. There are some other mental conditions I have as well, but she refuses to believe I have them. She is in such denial to her own disorders, that it gets pushed onto me. It sucks. Thank you for making a short film like this to spread awareness about ADHD!
they nailed the mood swings.
Dam thats too real. Great film honestly!
Great little film, well done! 👍
The part where all the sounds seems so loud that she can't read is so good. I'm like that all the time, I normally use headphones to focus at just one thing but my parents think is not a big deal and don't want me to do a test.
As the end come by it reminded me that I didn’t cover the peanut butter lid earlier lol
made me cry