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Haraam relationship is completely normalized in my community😢😢 like everyone is almost in one nd' unfortunately everyone be like "that's normal" "you're behind"😢
I'm assuming you're indian? You have no idea how bad it is in other countries. You should be glad that atleast it's haram relationships with the opposite G...
Yes. Parents are to blame for prohibiting their children from early marriage. What did they expect? That the desires of their children will just dissappear? When you make the halal difficult, the haram becomes easy...
*Timestamps:* 0:00 - Coming Up 0:41 - Introduction 1:03 - The Issue of Haram Relationships 3:09 - Foundations of Haram Relationships 5:15 - Influence of media on shaping relationships 6:23 - Evolution of communication methods 8:48 - Beginning of Haram Relationships 11:29 - Muslim Youth & Western Uni Dynamics 13:29 - Need of Islamic Societies at Uni 14:32 - Reality of finding potential spouses at uni 17:32 - False promises in haram relationships 19:08 - Dealing with Temptations & Pressures 21:39 - Creating a safe space for daughters 23:05 - Need of guiding sons to avoid haram 24:27 - Truth about uni party culture & muslim youth 28:36 - Important message for muslim parents 30:12 - Having open communication with the youth 32:30 - Guiding youth to marriage readiness 33:24 - Parental influence on daughters' education 37:08 - Important Message for Muslim Parents 38:30 - Issue of parental pressure on children 40:49 - Importance of early religious guidance 43:55 - Discussing haram police, beards & leicester 46:06 - Danish's plan to study in Mauritania 49:09 - Navigating Haram Relationships 51:46 - Importance of Obedience to Allah ﷻ 52:35 - Advice to people in haram relationships 56:07 - Advice for handing non-muslim relationships 1:02:13 - Guilt as a blessing/deterrent from Allah ﷻ 1:04:38 - Value of Gratitude & Counting Blessings 1:06:23 - Having open communication b/w parents & children 1:08:34 - Danish shares his gaze lowering story 1:09:58 - Need of treating youth as adults 1:11:12 - AMuslimMatchmaker 1:12:18 - Closing Remarks & Wrapping Up SubhanAllah ❤️💛💙 Great Podcast 👍🏻👌🏻 _May Allah ﷻ bless you both and accept your efforts._ 🤲🏻
Asalamualaikum! Alhamdulilah! Much needed topic. This topic needs to discuss more. Parents are human and they make mistakes as well. Everyone can be corrected.
a big yesss here and big yess to our respected sheikhs who need to start talking about this, Allah huma Ameen, may Allah guide our elders to be role models!
The reason why people get into forbidden relationships in the first place is number one, lack of fear of Allah and no internal struggle whatsoever against sinful desires. If one doesn’t fear Allah, then any sin becomes easy.
So sad that many parents just don't understand... I especially love the point about teaching young boys to monetize a skill so they can get married ASAP. Excellent advice, Maa Shaa' Allah!
the problem i notice from many muslims today is: they said believe in Allah but lack of tauhid and they do wear hijab but lack of hayaa. parents and school really did a BAD job at emphasizing those things. may Allah guide all of us.
Thisss!! I took my shahada almost four years ago but only really had hidaya maybe one year ago. And while of course I couldn't expect from my parents to teach me islam, I saw all these misguided muslims everywhere and I thought that was normal and unfortunately I really didn't know any better so I started my journey towards islam just like them, lost and misguided, because we, as an ummah, have failed in the West
@@uff069When the prime is 9 9 or 10 because even scientifically you mature at 9 or 10 when it continues on these are the same Muslims who have a problem with Hazrat Ayesha age being 6 year old and having physical relationship with the prophet when she was 9 year old if I had a daughter I would let her married at the age of Hazrat Ayesha if the person is good which in this day and age you have to train your children to be that good if we had a caliphate it would help parents like this children like this would have been absolutely punished and the same people will never let us restore the caliphate even after seeing what is happened in Palestine their still thinking should we have a Khilafat we should have a had the caliphate when the Ottoman fall
@@desweetaaldhiana7729When the prime is 9 9 or 10 because even scientifically you mature at 9 or 10 when it continues on these are the same Muslims who have a problem with Hazrat Ayesha age being 6 year old and having physical relationship with the prophet when she was 9 year old if I had a daughter I would let her married at the age of Hazrat Ayesha if the person is good which in this day and age you have to train your children to be that good if we had a caliphate it would help parents like this children like this would have been absolutely punished and the same people will never let us restore the caliphate even after seeing what is happened in Palestine their still thinking should we have a Khilafat we should have a had the caliphate when the Ottoman fall
As a former sinner, I confirm that I was in a relationship with a hijabi and her parents knew about us and I used to go to her house every weekend and dine with the whole family. In one year, I had sex with her at least 400 times. I blame our parents for encouraging a haram relationship and both of our families are religiously educated.
My parents didn't approve on someone because I didn't know him for so long. When I told my father we want to get married this summer, he said it's too early for him to talk to him.! I told him, dad I'm still knowing him and I wanted to get your approval first, he told me "okay since I know about him now, you can be his girlfriend to get to know him better and don't decide to get married this summer it's too early." yup that's my father. He doesn't even know that he needs to be with me as a Mahram ! oh he's a muslim btw
I have a male friend that I talk to online because we're both homeschooled and I'm in the UK and he is in the US and I told my dad that we talk and he didn't mind lol.
@@aishaghalia1259 well I'm not allowed to call him but we're allowed to message 😅 true our parents aren't perfect but they could be worse so I'm still grateful for them.
Although we say that it is permissible, and we do not doubt that there is a clear text concerning that, nevertheless we do not think that a Muslim should marry a kitaabi woman (a woman of the people of the Book), for several reasons: 1 - One of the conditions of marriage to a kitaabi woman is that she should be chaste, but there are very few chaste women to be found in those environments. 2 - One of the conditions of marriage to a kitaabi woman is that the Muslim man should be in charge of the family. But what happens nowadays in that those who marry women from kaafir countries marry them under their laws, and there is a great deal of injustice in their systems. They do not recognize a Muslim’s authority over his wife and children, and if the wife gets angry with her husband she will destroy his household and take the children away, with the support of the laws of her land and with the help of their embassies in most countries. It is no secret that the Muslim countries have no power to resist the pressure of those countries and their embassies. 3 - The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) encouraged us to look for Muslim wives who are religiously committed. If a woman is Muslim but is not religiously committed and of good character, then the Muslim is not encouraged to marry her, because marriage is not simply the matter of physical enjoyment only, rather it is the matter of Allaah’s rights and the spouse’s rights, and preserving his household, his honour and his wealth, and bringing up his children. How can a man who marries a kitaabi woman be certain that his sons and daughters will be raised according to Islam when he is leaving them in the hands of this mother who does not believe in Allaah and associates others with Him? Hence even though we say that it is permissible to marry a kitaabi woman, it is not encouraged and we do not advise it, because of the negative consequences that result from that. The wise Muslim should choose the best woman to bear his children and think in the long term about his children and their religious upbringing. He should not let his desire or worldly interests or transient outward beauty blind him to reality; true beauty is the beauty of religious commitment and good morals. He should realize that if he forsakes these type of women for the sake of that which is better for his religious commitment and that of his children, Allaah will compensate him with something better, because “Whoever gives up something for the sake of Allaah, Allaah will compensate him with something better than that, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) told us, the one who speaks the truth and does not speak of his own whims and desires. Allaah is the source of strength and the One Who guides to the Straight Path.
The non Muslim woman telling you about their “ Muslim “ boyfriend I’ve had to yell at one of them when my college friend told me about her Moroccan BF when he called her at school I gave him hell
Majority of the bad behavior from young Muslims is poor parenting during the first 15-18 years of their life. Parents set the bar for their kids and children hustle to meet that. Teaching some surahs to your kids doesn't mean they know how to identify and keep away from sinful situations. Too many taboo topics in the home and yet those horrible things are completely open outside the home. Parents need to wake up and be committed to instilling the correct lens and worldview in their children. This is a long term project - not an overnight thing.
The real problem is the delaying of marriage. Now its normal for a guy to get married at 30 and we call a guy getting married at 20 as “ too young “ . What do we expect, the 30 year old guy to be a virgin ?
By worshipping Allah alone. Know that whatever kind of very short lived happiness one gets from these forbidden relationships will not last from long and eventually, end in sadness. The real pain one feels by disobeying Allah is so much greater than anything else. Allah is watching us and He didn’t create us for that filthy lifestyle, we have been dignified. Know that Allah has the best reward for those who fear Him. Satan beautifies these women and the sin itself but it’s downright ugly. May Allah guide us all.
universities in the west are weird I am glad I went to my boring local university 😂 not to say bad things don't happen here too but what I just heard is wild
People need to control themselves. It’s not fair for a girl to marry a guy who can’t take care of her and be dependent on his parents to support her or for her to have to sacrifice herself. Parents should encourage marriage but not to the point that the girls are broke
Men are still wolves and vultures. Or at least we have a part of that characteristic. We just simply know it's there and do our best to keep it stifled. Except for the very few whom Allah has blessed to keep that characteristic away from them
When the prime is 9 9 or 10 because even scientifically you mature at 9 or 10 when it continues on these are the same Muslims who have a problem with Hazrat Ayesha age being 6 year old and having physical relationship with the prophet when she was 9 year old if I had a daughter I would let her married at the age of Hazrat Ayesha if the person is good which in this day and age you have to train your children to be that good if we had a caliphate it would help parents like this children like this would have been absolutely punished and the same people will never let us restore the caliphate even after seeing what is happened in Palestine their still thinking should we have a Khilafat we should have a had the caliphate when the Ottoman fall
I would argue yes. My case is extreme but I would argue that it’s because Muslim parents in general have made the haram so open and the halal extremely difficult. I’m personally too ugly to have a girlfriend so because I’m 28 and have had no marriage proposals to go through I committed Zinna with a prostitute multiple times. I’m not proud of it, I feel so filthy and ashamed of myself , and I regret it so bad now and don’t want to continue doing it but I’m not getting any of my needs fulfilled and my parents weren’t helping me in anyway getting married or taking me seriously when I said I had a high sex drive. I’m doing my best to resist my urges but man it is hard.
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Haraam relationship is completely normalized in my community😢😢 like everyone is almost in one nd' unfortunately everyone be like "that's normal" "you're behind"😢
May Allah guide us
I'm assuming you're indian? You have no idea how bad it is in other countries. You should be glad that atleast it's haram relationships with the opposite G...
I'm assuming you're indian? Trust me, the relationships that are common there are far better than what is common in wesrern countries and the gulf.
@@Therebelliousprince001not indian, from Africa
@@Muslimah.x-d1d Are you from North Africa? An arab country?
Faiyad’s British accent is too funny 😂. Keep up the good work
Hope we brought some benefit and discussed the topic in a fair and balanced way 🙏🏽
Yes. Parents are to blame for prohibiting their children from early marriage. What did they expect? That the desires of their children will just dissappear?
When you make the halal difficult, the haram becomes easy...
Im going to listen to this episode on my morning hike. Can’t wait looks like an interesting one !❤
In sha Allah you enjoy it!
*Timestamps:*
0:00 - Coming Up
0:41 - Introduction
1:03 - The Issue of Haram Relationships
3:09 - Foundations of Haram Relationships
5:15 - Influence of media on shaping relationships
6:23 - Evolution of communication methods
8:48 - Beginning of Haram Relationships
11:29 - Muslim Youth & Western Uni Dynamics
13:29 - Need of Islamic Societies at Uni
14:32 - Reality of finding potential spouses at uni
17:32 - False promises in haram relationships
19:08 - Dealing with Temptations & Pressures
21:39 - Creating a safe space for daughters
23:05 - Need of guiding sons to avoid haram
24:27 - Truth about uni party culture & muslim youth
28:36 - Important message for muslim parents
30:12 - Having open communication with the youth
32:30 - Guiding youth to marriage readiness
33:24 - Parental influence on daughters' education
37:08 - Important Message for Muslim Parents
38:30 - Issue of parental pressure on children
40:49 - Importance of early religious guidance
43:55 - Discussing haram police, beards & leicester
46:06 - Danish's plan to study in Mauritania
49:09 - Navigating Haram Relationships
51:46 - Importance of Obedience to Allah ﷻ
52:35 - Advice to people in haram relationships
56:07 - Advice for handing non-muslim relationships
1:02:13 - Guilt as a blessing/deterrent from Allah ﷻ
1:04:38 - Value of Gratitude & Counting Blessings
1:06:23 - Having open communication b/w parents & children
1:08:34 - Danish shares his gaze lowering story
1:09:58 - Need of treating youth as adults
1:11:12 - AMuslimMatchmaker
1:12:18 - Closing Remarks & Wrapping Up
SubhanAllah ❤️💛💙
Great Podcast 👍🏻👌🏻
_May Allah ﷻ bless you both and accept your efforts._ 🤲🏻
Great episode. Please dive in about reverts and their fathers and getting married for reverts. Allahuma Barik. May Allah allow us to be better.
Revert here, most of us don't have a dad in the picture. It's not easy for us to get married, male or female
Asalamualaikum! Alhamdulilah! Much needed topic. This topic needs to discuss more. Parents are human and they make mistakes as well. Everyone can be corrected.
Such a great video I would love a video that talks about how parents make marriage harder and what us teens especially the guys can do about it
a big yesss here and big yess to our respected sheikhs who need to start talking about this, Allah huma Ameen, may Allah guide our elders to be role models!
No, it depends. You can’t blame parents for their children’s stupidity if they indulge in this particular sin.
Wow may Allah bless you brothers! I definitely needed to watch this. I benefited from this video.
The reason why people get into forbidden relationships in the first place is number one, lack of fear of Allah and no internal struggle whatsoever against sinful desires. If one doesn’t fear Allah, then any sin becomes easy.
So sad that many parents just don't understand...
I especially love the point about teaching young boys to monetize a skill so they can get married ASAP. Excellent advice, Maa Shaa' Allah!
There is no 'One fault' it's just individuals, we know right from wrong, all involved parties are in the wrong.
True!
Assalamualaikum brother
the problem i notice from many muslims today is:
they said believe in Allah but lack of tauhid and they do wear hijab but lack of hayaa.
parents and school really did a BAD job at emphasizing those things.
may Allah guide all of us.
Thisss!! I took my shahada almost four years ago but only really had hidaya maybe one year ago. And while of course I couldn't expect from my parents to teach me islam, I saw all these misguided muslims everywhere and I thought that was normal and unfortunately I really didn't know any better so I started my journey towards islam just like them, lost and misguided, because we, as an ummah, have failed in the West
@@uff069 not only in the west but the whole ummah. pick any muslim majority place, you dont see islam at all, just ignorance.
@@uff069When the prime is 9 9 or 10 because even scientifically you mature at 9 or 10 when it continues on these are the same Muslims who have a problem with Hazrat Ayesha age being 6 year old and having physical relationship with the prophet when she was 9 year old if I had a daughter I would let her married at the age of Hazrat Ayesha if the person is good which in this day and age you have to train your children to be that good if we had a caliphate it would help parents like this children like this would have been absolutely punished and the same people will never let us restore the caliphate even after seeing what is happened in Palestine their still thinking should we have a Khilafat we should have a had the caliphate when the Ottoman fall
@@desweetaaldhiana7729When the prime is 9 9 or 10 because even scientifically you mature at 9 or 10 when it continues on these are the same Muslims who have a problem with Hazrat Ayesha age being 6 year old and having physical relationship with the prophet when she was 9 year old if I had a daughter I would let her married at the age of Hazrat Ayesha if the person is good which in this day and age you have to train your children to be that good if we had a caliphate it would help parents like this children like this would have been absolutely punished and the same people will never let us restore the caliphate even after seeing what is happened in Palestine their still thinking should we have a Khilafat we should have a had the caliphate when the Ottoman fall
As a former sinner, I confirm that I was in a relationship with a hijabi and her parents knew about us and I used to go to her house every weekend and dine with the whole family. In one year, I had sex with her at least 400 times. I blame our parents for encouraging a haram relationship and both of our families are religiously educated.
Yes, my parents pressure me to get married then say you are only allowed after highschool
watching now 🎉 Assalamu Alaikum
Walaikum Assalam Warahmatullahi Wabarakatu
Online uni is the way to go. Especially for sisters.
I come from a arab muslim background and it is STRANGE for one not to be in a haram rs like im lit looked at weird
Alhamdullilah Never had a haram relationship in my life.
May Allah preserve you brother and keep you pure. I wish I was like you, but sadly I couldn’t
Ended up committing Zinna so many times.
@@K1RB33 We all sin brother, i am no better than you. May Allah accept your repentance and reward you. You seem like a sincere man
My parents didn't approve on someone because I didn't know him for so long. When I told my father we want to get married this summer, he said it's too early for him to talk to him.! I told him, dad I'm still knowing him and I wanted to get your approval first, he told me "okay since I know about him now, you can be his girlfriend to get to know him better and don't decide to get married this summer it's too early." yup that's my father. He doesn't even know that he needs to be with me as a Mahram ! oh he's a muslim btw
I have a male friend that I talk to online because we're both homeschooled and I'm in the UK and he is in the US and I told my dad that we talk and he didn't mind lol.
@@Peaches10608 I feel sad about that lol I was like can you please have some Ghira!
@@aishaghalia1259 well I'm not allowed to call him but we're allowed to message 😅 true our parents aren't perfect but they could be worse so I'm still grateful for them.
@@Peaches10608 May God protect them
@@aishaghalia1259 ameen and yours too 💜
Although we say that it is permissible, and we do not doubt that there is a clear text concerning that, nevertheless we do not think that a Muslim should marry a kitaabi woman (a woman of the people of the Book), for several reasons:
1 - One of the conditions of marriage to a kitaabi woman is that she should be chaste, but there are very few chaste women to be found in those environments.
2 - One of the conditions of marriage to a kitaabi woman is that the Muslim man should be in charge of the family. But what happens nowadays in that those who marry women from kaafir countries marry them under their laws, and there is a great deal of injustice in their systems. They do not recognize a Muslim’s authority over his wife and children, and if the wife gets angry with her husband she will destroy his household and take the children away, with the support of the laws of her land and with the help of their embassies in most countries. It is no secret that the Muslim countries have no power to resist the pressure of those countries and their embassies.
3 - The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) encouraged us to look for Muslim wives who are religiously committed. If a woman is Muslim but is not religiously committed and of good character, then the Muslim is not encouraged to marry her, because marriage is not simply the matter of physical enjoyment only, rather it is the matter of Allaah’s rights and the spouse’s rights, and preserving his household, his honour and his wealth, and bringing up his children. How can a man who marries a kitaabi woman be certain that his sons and daughters will be raised according to Islam when he is leaving them in the hands of this mother who does not believe in Allaah and associates others with Him?
Hence even though we say that it is permissible to marry a kitaabi woman, it is not encouraged and we do not advise it, because of the negative consequences that result from that. The wise Muslim should choose the best woman to bear his children and think in the long term about his children and their religious upbringing. He should not let his desire or worldly interests or transient outward beauty blind him to reality; true beauty is the beauty of religious commitment and good morals.
He should realize that if he forsakes these type of women for the sake of that which is better for his religious commitment and that of his children, Allaah will compensate him with something better, because “Whoever gives up something for the sake of Allaah, Allaah will compensate him with something better than that, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) told us, the one who speaks the truth and does not speak of his own whims and desires. Allaah is the source of strength and the One Who guides to the Straight Path.
The non Muslim woman telling you about their “ Muslim “ boyfriend I’ve had to yell at one of them when my college friend told me about her Moroccan BF when he called her at school I gave him hell
Majority of the bad behavior from young Muslims is poor parenting during the first 15-18 years of their life. Parents set the bar for their kids and children hustle to meet that. Teaching some surahs to your kids doesn't mean they know how to identify and keep away from sinful situations. Too many taboo topics in the home and yet those horrible things are completely open outside the home. Parents need to wake up and be committed to instilling the correct lens and worldview in their children. This is a long term project - not an overnight thing.
The real problem is the delaying of marriage. Now its normal for a guy to get married at 30 and we call a guy getting married at 20 as “ too young “ . What do we expect, the 30 year old guy to be a virgin ?
Leicester
How can a person individually improve on this issue?
By worshipping Allah alone. Know that whatever kind of very short lived happiness one gets from these forbidden relationships will not last from long and eventually, end in sadness. The real pain one feels by disobeying Allah is so much greater than anything else. Allah is watching us and He didn’t create us for that filthy lifestyle, we have been dignified. Know that Allah has the best reward for those who fear Him. Satan beautifies these women and the sin itself but it’s downright ugly. May Allah guide us all.
Leicester
Muslim brothers be going to MSA events to get girls these days 😂
Listen o the story of Barsisa
universities in the west are weird I am glad I went to my boring local university 😂 not to say bad things don't happen here too but what I just heard is wild
People need to control themselves. It’s not fair for a girl to marry a guy who can’t take care of her and be dependent on his parents to support her or for her to have to sacrifice herself. Parents should encourage marriage but not to the point that the girls are broke
I don’t agree we’re not all the same I love studying and I’m in university learning is important I rather learn than marry someone
Why not both?
Priorities are wrong here although everyone should learn about todays world if they want to ride the tides of fitnah
Men are still wolves and vultures. Or at least we have a part of that characteristic. We just simply know it's there and do our best to keep it stifled. Except for the very few whom Allah has blessed to keep that characteristic away from them
👍🏼👌🏼
#Leicester
When the prime is 9 9 or 10 because even scientifically you mature at 9 or 10 when it continues on these are the same Muslims who have a problem with Hazrat Ayesha age being 6 year old and having physical relationship with the prophet when she was 9 year old if I had a daughter I would let her married at the age of Hazrat Ayesha if the person is good which in this day and age you have to train your children to be that good if we had a caliphate it would help parents like this children like this would have been absolutely punished and the same people will never let us restore the caliphate even after seeing what is happened in Palestine their still thinking should we have a Khilafat we should have a had the caliphate when the Ottoman fall
Does the 3 Muslims still exist?
I would argue yes.
My case is extreme but I would argue that it’s because Muslim parents in general have made the haram so open and the halal extremely difficult.
I’m personally too ugly to have a girlfriend so because I’m 28 and have had no marriage proposals to go through I committed Zinna with a prostitute multiple times. I’m not proud of it, I feel so filthy and ashamed of myself , and I regret it so bad now and don’t want to continue doing it but I’m not getting any of my needs fulfilled and my parents weren’t helping me in anyway getting married or taking me seriously when I said I had a high sex drive. I’m doing my best to resist my urges but man it is hard.
Wassup my niggas what's popping
What's popping, don't mind me just watching