Gender Dysphoria & Periods ... Period Power by Masie Hill

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  • @Rye_Bread41
    @Rye_Bread41 4 роки тому +192

    Welcome to Five Minutes of Laurenzo being EXTREMELY uncomfortable! (yay!)

  • @JAMIEvstheVOID
    @JAMIEvstheVOID 4 роки тому +114

    Fun fact, one of the main reasons I developed an eating disorder at age 13 was because I was terrified of having a recognisably 'female' body, and especially when it came to menstruation. The idea that I could become 'fertile' absolutely horrified me (and still does) when it feels like my body was NEVER meant to go through the cycle in the first place. I ended up not having my first proper period until I was 21 or so. I'm 28 now, I've had a copper IUD since I was 23 (I wanted to come off hormonal stuff) and I'm not squeamish about blood by any means... But for 7 days out of the month, my body feels extra alien to me. I hate the cramps, the lethargy, the bloating and tenderness especially. Makes me so frustrated because I will never have kids, I've never wanted any, and even if I did miraculously change my mind I would adopt... Because, even if I wanted to, I couldn't handle the level of dysphoria pregnancy would cause me. So it just makes all the blood and pain every month feel like a huge hindrance on my well being. Bleh.
    I'm gonna be talking about all this in a vid soon, where I'm kinda officially telling my audience that I'm NB.
    Anyway, thank you for listening to my struggles as an AFAB :D

    • @pastelk
      @pastelk 3 роки тому +8

      HI AMY!!

    • @songdrop_350
      @songdrop_350 3 роки тому +10

      Hi Amy!
      I noticed your banner change last night and I want to say that you got atleast one person that will support 110%!

    • @baileyt290
      @baileyt290 3 роки тому +10

      i relate so hard to this

    • @goosieschmoo8239
      @goosieschmoo8239 3 роки тому +1

      It's just a natural part of how your body is. Nothing wrong with that.

    • @mpl8680
      @mpl8680 3 роки тому +2

      Have you considered a hysterectomy or a endometrial ablation?

  • @slytherclaw.kachaan4955
    @slytherclaw.kachaan4955 4 роки тому +84

    As someone who doesn’t identify with any gender. Menstrual cycles are a pain to deal with. When I first got it I thought I was broken. It still makes me feel uncomfortable that I still have to go through this.

  • @the_queer_forest_fairy5170
    @the_queer_forest_fairy5170 4 роки тому +110

    Im ftm i dont really get a ton of bottom dysphoria but god when my period comes i just my deppression anxiety and dysphoria levels are through the roof 😰😨

    • @yourlocalcupofconfusion322
      @yourlocalcupofconfusion322 4 роки тому +2

      same to everything

    • @pastelk
      @pastelk 3 роки тому +7

      same. and for some reason I usually get really bad chest dysphoria on my period

    • @charlieiscorrect2856
      @charlieiscorrect2856 3 роки тому +7

      Mood I just got mine and I’m staying in bed all week. Dysphoria sucks.

    • @goosieschmoo8239
      @goosieschmoo8239 3 роки тому

      it's just a natural part of your body.

  • @paytonvanwinkle4651
    @paytonvanwinkle4651 4 роки тому +31

    I like thinking not of periods as a feminine thing, but uterine lining as feminine. My period is literally my body rejecting the little best it had started to build to grow a baby. My body is like “Growing a human? Gross. Get away from me.” It is a symbolism that resonates with me.

  • @smush4635
    @smush4635 4 роки тому +62

    Periods are really scary. I don't really known how to deal with them. So I was really happy when I saw that you uploaded this! Thank you so much!

  • @sangwoos1ut363
    @sangwoos1ut363 4 роки тому +142

    Enby periods ... hell 😬💀

  • @owosturm8659
    @owosturm8659 4 роки тому +158

    Sometimes I just think it would be way easier to accept my birth Gender and stop trying to look androgynous and fail all the time. I wouldn't have to come out or anything. I'm so insecure.
    I hate to be seen as girl, wear feminine clothes or even look feminine but I live in constant fear to be seen just as someone who dislike girlie stuff and looks for attention :/
    Does anyone know that feeling and what to do about it?

    • @moofinfloofin33
      @moofinfloofin33 4 роки тому +14

      this is almost exactly my situation, your not alone

    • @jamieisnotokay3298
      @jamieisnotokay3298 4 роки тому +22

      I felt like this a lot. Self doubt crippled me more than my dysphoria sometimes. I thought "why can't I just be a girl!? Why can't I be like everyone else.. it's not that hard I just have to pretend,". I cried, and cried. Honestly, the best thing is to talk about it. Scream it. Cry it. To a friend, family member, or yourself. Maybe even the whole world. Let the pain out.
      Another thing that helped was "If you think you're faking it, you're probably not faking it" which is honestly the truest thing ever.
      After you let go of some of that pain by crying and talking, find out why. Why do you feel like this? For me it was because as soon as I don't fit a box society tries to shove me into I panic. I try to "fix it" I try to "be normal" in an attempt to not be bullied and harassed like I have been for so long. When I first came out as queer I never felt that way. Then the bullying came. Then the harassment. Then surrounding myself with horror stories about things that happened to other queer people. I was never the same, really. But once I realized why I could fix it. I could start to heal.
      You feel this way because you have unfinished business in your heart. It's screaming at you to heal, in a way. It's showing you your insecurities. You just need to fix them, and when you do it'll be easier to cone to terms with things like this. ❤️

    • @yourlocalcupofconfusion322
      @yourlocalcupofconfusion322 4 роки тому +14

      one thing is so true is that: you're probably not cis if you think about gender this often

    • @NatureLover-pj2qe
      @NatureLover-pj2qe 4 роки тому +2

      This is so true

    • @PH3NNYLEN
      @PH3NNYLEN 4 роки тому +8

      I feel like that. I feel like i just accept that i'm a girl but i just don't really feel like a girl

  • @martinschetters5448
    @martinschetters5448 4 роки тому +35

    I wish when I had my period this video was there as a trans man it could have helped me a lot but luckily the video is now there to help people and Laurenzo is proud 💚💚 that you are talking about this subject

  • @bunny-pb3vg
    @bunny-pb3vg 4 роки тому +70

    I have PCOS (polycystic ovaries syndrome) and periods are generally hell for me, adding much stress to my already existing dysphoria, I was throughout most of my teen years on birth control (stopped in my early 20s due to some health issues connected to birth control) and my periods started to last 2 days with pain problems. I still try to get to see my doctor to know if there is any alternative for birth control :(

    • @queer-ios3155
      @queer-ios3155 4 роки тому +2

      What is PCOS? That whole situation sounds terrible.

    • @bunny-pb3vg
      @bunny-pb3vg 4 роки тому +2

      @@queer-ios3155 it's a hormonal condition which causes to have cysts to form on your ovaries.

    • @macxel442
      @macxel442 3 роки тому +1

      I am 90% sure I have pcos because my mom does and I have most of the symptoms, I am looking into if I am non binary and frankly, I’m terrified since I haven’t had my period yet

    • @bunny-pb3vg
      @bunny-pb3vg 3 роки тому

      @@macxel442 i got mine very very early in life, almost 20 years ago and I'm the only one in my family to have PCOS, as a meds student i suggest you go see an OBY-GYN as soon as you get your 1st period

  • @Abby-iw8wr
    @Abby-iw8wr 4 роки тому +32

    the commentary on this is so great i love it so much💚

  • @SPECIALNINJACASSA
    @SPECIALNINJACASSA 4 роки тому +14

    Great video to open up the conversation about periods. Even as cis women, periods are a very taboo subject. So great job on "opening the floor" so to speak

  • @moofinfloofin33
    @moofinfloofin33 4 роки тому +7

    as an enby myself, getting a period is super overwhelming and scary for me, I often get the worst gender dysphoria at the time, because it makes me feel more feminine and I often get the idea that there’s blood spilling all over me, it’s absolute hell and I wish there was a way to stop it forever

    • @NatureLover-pj2qe
      @NatureLover-pj2qe 4 роки тому +1

      Same

    • @bethany3549
      @bethany3549 4 роки тому +2

      There is a way to stop it but unfortunately how the medical system is they never give it unless you are married, have two or three kids, and have your husband's permission. That's the unfortunate thing about getting a full hestormetacmy (sp?) I really wish it was if the person is over the age of 18 had been evaluated aka just talked to and talked with to make sure they absolutely want this that they can get one done. Would save so many people so much pain.

  • @zaynubcajee6534
    @zaynubcajee6534 4 роки тому +19

    This was such a helpful vid also facial expressions on point 😂

  • @jamieisnotokay3298
    @jamieisnotokay3298 4 роки тому +15

    I don't really have bottom dysphoria but I have TERRIBLE dysphoria around my period and around my reproductive system.

    • @ZimLikesPastaAnimation
      @ZimLikesPastaAnimation 4 роки тому

      Same

    • @jamieisnotokay3298
      @jamieisnotokay3298 4 роки тому

      @Mystical Luna Melody Yes lol. I personally want kids, but I don't want to birth them. I've asserted that I don't want to birth kids as soon as I knew what birthing is. I just don't need periods, and they make me super dysphoric.

    • @NatureLover-pj2qe
      @NatureLover-pj2qe 4 роки тому

      Same

  • @emxtionalgaming6340
    @emxtionalgaming6340 3 роки тому +4

    I was born a girl, but now I’m non binary! And I hate getting my period. So I went on these pills and now I feel being comfortable with myself!

  • @jlbeeen
    @jlbeeen 3 роки тому +1

    The hormones are wonky and make my body feel weird, but I gotta say, period underwear, especially Thinx and TomboyX, has been a huge help. Both of those companies make boxer briefs that basically have built in pads, and they've been super helpful. Not only are they better for the planet, but it saves you from worrying about how to dispose of things if you're in an area where gender-less washrooms don't have those disposal bins. Plus, they're so comfy. The itchy feeling of pads, and how frustrating tampons can be to use at times. I do have some organic tampons I use when I need to, and a few pads if I need extra overnight, but the underwear is so nice. It feels normal, just a bit thicker, and it's easy to wash too, just rinse and throw in a washing machine on gentle. Also, if you're like me and breasts get bigger, button up shirts often hide that a bit better. I'm at a weird size where teen boy shirts fit me, so sometimes I'll wear those instead of tees or sweaters.

  • @insertnamewithmaybepunhere8235
    @insertnamewithmaybepunhere8235 4 роки тому +44

    I want that book, all the other information is mainly made for girls and women, and uses she/her pronouns, which makes me uncomfortable, (I use e/ey pronouns)

    • @peacefulleopard8016
      @peacefulleopard8016 2 роки тому

      is e/ey used like this:
      “I think e has a pen you could borrow. Ey always have pens on em.”
      I just want to know how to use pronouns other than they/them, she/her, or he/him.

    • @insertnamewithmaybepunhere8235
      @insertnamewithmaybepunhere8235 2 роки тому

      @@peacefulleopard8016 yes

  • @WallebyDamned
    @WallebyDamned 4 роки тому +5

    It sounds weird, but when younger I found mpreg/ABO fanfic helped a bit with dysphoria around reminders of my bits' functions. These stories gave me characters I knew were male that to deal with some of the same/similar mess, or characters that were distinct from standard female/male that would deal with it because it was just a natural part of their own systems.
    When representation is spotty, fanfic can help. Those writers had no problem making characters that had to traverse the line between masculine and feminine function in society or biology, and it was needed.

  • @gremlin_child043
    @gremlin_child043 4 роки тому +10

    You make such great videos:) I never would have thought about any of this but my twin sibling has just recently come out as non-binary so your videos have really been helping me understand what they’re going through. I wonder if I should get them this book? It sounds interesting and I think I would use it too! Thanks again for making really useful(?)/topical(?)/informative(!) videos about everything💚💚💚

  • @태이씨
    @태이씨 2 роки тому +2

    If i think of it as a punishment from nature for not willing to turn myself into an incubator the level of dysphoria just skyrockets.

  • @august1837
    @august1837 3 роки тому +3

    I’m still questioning my gender, but I remember being resistant to the idea of puberty. My mom told me about periods when I was about 10, and there was nothing appealing to me about experiencing something that will officially make me a woman, according to society anyway. I put off wearing a bra as much as possible. I thought the resistance was perfectly normal, but my sister got her first period a few months ago and I realized that it’s not normal. Whenever my mom brought up that she’s now grown up, she starts smiling like it’s the best thing in the world. I’m sure she would wear a bra at the first opportunity she gets. The worst thing about this is that I think my mom expects me to guide her through puberty and stuff. I don’t know how to tell her to please leave me out of this. My mom also made a point of noting that now all the girls in the family have their periods., which doesn’t exactly make me all happy and proud and stuff. Now, after about five years of hitting puberty, I don’t really have body dysphoria, but that doesn’t mean I’m ok with my body. When I occasionally get dysphoric, it usually happens when I’m on my period

  • @personontheinternett7218
    @personontheinternett7218 4 роки тому +35

    Love ur vids! Was wondering if you could do a video on Non binary name ideas?

  • @ellisonwashere
    @ellisonwashere 4 роки тому +16

    Hi! I'm in 7th grade and uh, I have a question..
    I watched your video about tips to find out if you're nonbinary. I've never thought of myself as nonbinary before but I've been beginning to realize that I don't fit with she/her anymore. I used to have short hair and people always thought I was a boy and, like you did, I really liked it LOL, I thought it was fun. But uh, I don't really know what to do now and I was wondering if you could somehow help me..
    (I don't have insta I'm sorry-)

  • @alllittlethingzz
    @alllittlethingzz 4 роки тому +6

    I have bad cramps and I tend to cry and feel bad about my body and it kills my bottom dysphoria and with me being non binary it kills me more and more when I get cramps and always feeling bloated and fat but I should check out the book

  • @ashnscar21
    @ashnscar21 4 роки тому +5

    Autumn is also my favorite season! :DD

  • @gracie.proudlock
    @gracie.proudlock 4 роки тому +8

    seems like such a great book!! i’ll definitely need to invest!🙌

  • @elisebrodeur-jacobs5215
    @elisebrodeur-jacobs5215 3 роки тому +1

    I am a cis straight mom and i love watching you laurenzo! Keep it up, youre awesome

  • @artisticfleur7445
    @artisticfleur7445 4 роки тому +8

    gender go whooooooosh

  • @Elektricknight
    @Elektricknight 3 роки тому

    I can’t wait to buy the book! I’ve got major gender dysphoria when I get my periods so I’m hoping this will make me feel a little better

  • @jenb7756
    @jenb7756 2 роки тому +1

    Thanks! I think this will be helpful for my adult nonbinary afab child!

  • @editz_gurl2488
    @editz_gurl2488 4 роки тому

    Periods are a pain in the ass ngl
    But from my friends, they have some ways to like avoid getting the period too hard to deal with like drinking tea and avoiding types of caffeine like coffee or such like that.
    Some tips I would personally give to make periods less painful is to drink water every day and to drink hot tea once a week, another would be when sleeping on your side you bring the leg exposed to the air up to your chest and the one in between the bed and you stays and it’s a comfortable position when sleeping or when sleeping on your back make sure you have something hooking your legs in the air, in my opinion those stop the cramps going on.
    Love your videos they’re so amazing and relatable at times (even though I’m fully a girl-)
    Edit: not saying these will entirely work for enby periods, but it’s what makes my period less painful at times!! ❤️

  • @jellyqwerty9929
    @jellyqwerty9929 3 роки тому +1

    Hi, I am non-binary and I am really confused about my sexuality •-• because I don’t really know that much about that stuff

  • @LxvxndxrBxnny
    @LxvxndxrBxnny Рік тому +1

    I take low-estrogen birth control because my periods are really irregular and somehow the pills help get it back. But it still makes me feel dysphoric sometimes when i still get them.. But luckily, last period, my Enby bunny plushie that I ordered literally arrived on the day of my period starting, and that helped me. That was a good coincidence.

  • @Dogwithguitar
    @Dogwithguitar 2 роки тому

    Omg this helped me so much with my gender dysphoria!

  • @ineedto_go3826
    @ineedto_go3826 4 роки тому +4

    Super helpful. Loved it. I was just wondering if you have any tip for how you can make this experience less bad as a non-binary person.

  • @zsizzles4002
    @zsizzles4002 3 роки тому +2

    I don't have gender dysphoria but I really wish to be able to get surgery or something in the future so that I don't get period anymore I really just absolutely hate it so much. (I go by she/her pronouns btw)

  • @NatureLover-pj2qe
    @NatureLover-pj2qe 4 роки тому +1

    I hate getting my period. It makes me so uncomfortable in my body and I have terrible period cramps.

  • @norag6628
    @norag6628 4 роки тому +9

    Hi, i have a question for the period video:I REALLY try to avoid going into the girls bathroom because I am non-binary but not out yet and the only time i go in the girls is when im on my period but it makes me so uncomfortable any tips?

    • @bethany3549
      @bethany3549 4 роки тому +1

      Some places have a family restroom that any gender can go into. They usually are one stall but have everything the other bathrooms will have. Try using one of them if it is available. As for going into the women's I can't really say anything to help on that. I'm a cis woman so I have no insight on how to handle being uncomfortable in a restroom other than just getting in and getting out as fast as possible.

    • @SpikeyBagel
      @SpikeyBagel 3 роки тому

      if this is at school, find a time when hardly anyone is ever in the bathroom and go then. i go a few minutes after classes change so the first rush is gone

  • @reallytired27
    @reallytired27 4 роки тому +7

    *places hand on chest* ‘we all know i’m not sleeping w men’ *ahem*

  • @onhx-h7g
    @onhx-h7g 3 роки тому

    I am currently on my menstruate cycle, and from personal experience, it isn’t uncomfortable but it isn’t perfectly ‘ok’, I don’t mind it because I don’t think it should affect me though when I feel absolutely terrible about myself it makes me feel a lot worse in ways I can’t describe, it’s basically one week every month to remind me of my biological gender! Like I said, I don’t get it as bad as some people do and I hope all of you who suffer badly from it will learn to cope and feel better about yourselves bc I know how hard it can be sometimes

  • @that_13_year_old_contracto13
    @that_13_year_old_contracto13 4 роки тому +1

    my anxiety is now worse

  • @vgreat4191
    @vgreat4191 2 роки тому

    Mensturaters is such a nice word

  • @looloo7455
    @looloo7455 4 роки тому +3

    I have painful cramps before, during, and after I have my period but know I'm on the depo shot and it's pretty much made me stop having them but I still cramp during my month to have one. I have really bad dysphoria against it do you have any suggestion on how to contain your thoughts when you have your period or cramp even when you don't have one and you still cramp?

  • @lizzebookworm2363
    @lizzebookworm2363 3 роки тому +1

    One thing I hate is when cisgender people say non-binary people just want attention

  • @davidbaldman.
    @davidbaldman. 4 роки тому +1

    Me seeing this on the first day of my first period. .

  • @CheeseLover_69
    @CheeseLover_69 2 роки тому

    As someone who uses They/Them pronouns, but was assigned female at birth and still hasn't gotten their period it's SUPER stressful. I don't think it's this stressful for other people. I almost feel lost and dead on the inside because of this. But at the same time, I also feel guilty, since other people go through this and seem really excited or see it as something normal. I almost fear it. Like when it comes it will ruin my life. I don't know when it will come since I'm mostly done will puberty. I feel horribly out of place like this wasn't supposed to happen to me. The best way to cope for me is just to forget, but I can't forget it fully since I know it will come eventually. Almost like a ticking time bomb, ready to blow at any second. And the worst part is that my family NEVER mentions anything related to periods, etc... (Also very negative with me mentioning anything sexual or LGBTQ+) So I have no idea how I'm going to approach them about it when it comes. Or how I'm even going to get menstrual products. And I'm still hiding the fact that I'm non-binary from my family. These past couple of years have been terrifying. I don't know how to cope with the pain, or how to accept it. It's gotten so bad to the point where I had really bad thoughts in my head. I would appreciate any tips that could help me accept or cope. Anything will do...

  • @ashthegoo6113
    @ashthegoo6113 3 роки тому +2

    My research has been proven useless, but if you get your eggs removed, can you still have periods? I know you can get your uterus taken out and that stops them but I can’t find anything specifically about one’s eggs?

  • @zairefranklin665
    @zairefranklin665 3 роки тому

    I just came out as a enby and when I first had my period as a enby I was like fine but now it’s like bad I always cry bc of pain and it makes me feel like a girl when ik im not girl and it just like a reminder to make me feel Dysphoric. Than I keep thinking crazy like what if someone know I have a period and will call me a girl. And my mom isn’t very supportive so when she say your a girl u have a period it make me so upset😭✋🏽

  • @just_lex1626
    @just_lex1626 4 роки тому +2

    Hey! My comment is probably too late, but I have a question/something I just wanna talk about. I’m in 7th grade and half way through 6th grade I came out as panromantic lesbian. But now I’m having a bit of gender dysphoria.. Most of the time I love being referred to as she/her, but at the same time I think that gender roles are messed up and I really don’t care what pronouns people use for me. I have absolutely no idea what’s going on 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️

    • @just_lex1626
      @just_lex1626 4 роки тому

      @@adesso.laurenzo I so wish I could message you but I’m not allowed to have insta :’(

  • @skyesswag4505
    @skyesswag4505 3 роки тому

    im mtf can you make one on that dysphoria? bc i dont know how to deal with/handle it :/

  • @GPoole05
    @GPoole05 4 роки тому +1

    I’ve never really thought about how I feel during the different phases of my cycle... except when I get my period and realize that the irritability and lowness I felt during the days leading up to it were probably pms.

  • @traclbeavers9209
    @traclbeavers9209 3 роки тому

    Have you ever been somewhere and leaked and someone just gave you a crazy weird look like " why is he bleeding brown there!?"

  • @lizzebookworm2363
    @lizzebookworm2363 3 роки тому

    Hi I’m non-binary I’m biologically female and just got my period and now I’m feeling like 10x more gender dysphoria

  • @notoriousdirt35
    @notoriousdirt35 Рік тому

    The "u," is silent in the word, "menstruation."

  • @reed6436
    @reed6436 Рік тому +1

    Fun fact, I knew I was non-binary before I got my period. Which meant I knew why it made me so uncomfortable which made it way worse.

  • @Reaper-ek5wf
    @Reaper-ek5wf 3 роки тому

    Well in france that isn't really inconfortable

    • @Reaper-ek5wf
      @Reaper-ek5wf 3 роки тому

      Well it depend on the moment too

  • @eethvamp
    @eethvamp 3 роки тому +1

    Idky I don't have regular periods anymore 😅, but I want the ability to birth two kids. I'm an enby and pan.

  • @avocadochipped
    @avocadochipped Рік тому

    I am biologically male but I still suffer

  • @smene-pr6zl
    @smene-pr6zl 2 роки тому

    I unfortunately was eating a banana while watching this lol

  • @Why.bro_Why
    @Why.bro_Why 4 роки тому

    My boyfriend/girlfriend is non-binary