The REAL reason why you don't take care of your hair

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  • @lolitapty1680
    @lolitapty1680 2 роки тому +28

    I agree, mental health can affect the way you take care of your hair. Also, your hair can affect your mental health. Having natural hair can be frustrating and stressful because all the negativity we get when it doesn't look the way people approve.

    • @JennJackson
      @JennJackson  2 роки тому +8

      Exactly!

    • @FTYC2022
      @FTYC2022 2 роки тому +5

      Yes!👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 and usually it's our own race criticizing it. If I hear one more "good hair" comment... 😳🤬

    • @sarahoua5783
      @sarahoua5783 2 роки тому +2

      ...or it doesn't look the way we want it to look, and the disappointment that comes with it.

  • @pmw5422
    @pmw5422 2 роки тому +37

    I agree with you about wigs Jenn. I fought a long time with the concept because my hair retains so much length under wigs (I do so much damage when my hair is out daily)…but I used to wear straight wigs or hair that mimicked looser curls and unknowingly began preferring that over my 4c hair. Now I only invest in human hair that looks like a longer and/or thicker version of mine. It also allows me to practice caring for it properly so I do less damage when I wear my own out.

    • @JennJackson
      @JennJackson  2 роки тому +11

      Glad it’s not only me. I couldn’t with wig. I notice immediately it affected how I viewed my hair

  • @thatgirlPAIGE94
    @thatgirlPAIGE94 2 роки тому +25

    Absolutely! Stress alone can cause thinning and breakage. Sending you love 💖💖

  • @andie9762
    @andie9762 2 роки тому +10

    This video is spot on! My mother was stressed about her health and got a huge bald spot on her crown (size of a baseball). Fortunately it grew back once her issues had been addressed.

  • @KW-up2ox
    @KW-up2ox 2 роки тому +28

    Love this topic! My mental health is one of the reasons why my locs weren’t as healthy as they could have been. After 12 years they were too heavy & too much to maintain so I ended up cutting most of them off & combing out the rest. Now, I’ve got about 10 inches of hair with an undercut & it’s way more manageable. Watching your videos & LaToya Ebony have helped me figure out a simple but effective hair routine-wash, deep condition/treat, detangle & style once a week, moisturize with water & some leave in before bed, slap on a scarf. I’m making it part of my self care ritual & it’s been like I’m restarting my natural hair journey all over again (even though I’m really 19 years in lol). Thanks for this & all of your videos fam! I’m such a big fan!! 💗🙌🏾

    • @JennJackson
      @JennJackson  2 роки тому +4

      So glad you shared this! The more stressed we are, the more is affects every part of our body including hair.

  • @ossier2796
    @ossier2796 2 роки тому +2

    Awe Jenn, I’m sorry that I didn’t see this before commenting on your protective style. Please forgive me. I’m old (71) and I neglect other things when I’m feeling down but enjoy washing my hair, I’ve never been obsessed with my hair and I have time to take a shower so it’s hard to understand not washing my hair while there. You do what you need to take care of yourself.

  • @TeeAhhhna
    @TeeAhhhna 2 роки тому +7

    You are absolutely right about how you see your hair. I want it to be perfect and here you are saying nah, the imperfection is the perfection. We are unique 🧡

  • @is3472
    @is3472 2 роки тому +11

    Oh my goodness, I agree with everything! My hair lives in plaits and twists because, well. The funny thing is, I've had more growth and she is just thriving! Missed you, Jenn! 💝💐

  • @sarahoua5783
    @sarahoua5783 2 роки тому +1

    I remember, before cutting my hair, being obsessed with it . I realized it has gone too far when I cried one morning because my twist out turned out to be a mess. My hair was not long enough to do a bun, I had no gel and It was too late to try another style. Me, a grown a** girl, crying over a hairstyle??!!!...It was too much!
    I was like "enslaved" by the way I wanted my hair to look and the praises that came with it if the styled was a success.
    I also think that being the only "natural" in a circle can put so much pressure!!!! Because you constantly have to fight all the misconceptions about natural hair, you know you're under scrutiny!!!

  • @florizellathompson1562
    @florizellathompson1562 2 роки тому +6

    I am so glad that mental health is becoming an important issue enough to talk about #nomoreshamewithmentalhealth

  • @Barnes247
    @Barnes247 2 роки тому +2

    This hits home big time! I recently had to get another significant hair cut when I all I wanted to do was let it grow. Girl to say, I got to acting a straight fool over it, is an understatement! 👀🤣
    It’s crazy how something as simple as hair can affect your emotions and mental status. However, I know mindset is everything and hair grows back. So I have decided to be positive and rock it instead of making it a dreadful experience. 👏🏽
    Thank you for this video because it helps me know some of my experiences are very normal. You’re amazing and a blessing to the natural hair community! 🧡

  • @simplymariama
    @simplymariama 2 роки тому +8

    Such an interesting topic! I find that taking care of my natural hair has also had a massive positive impact on my mental health long term. I’ve hated my hair most of my life and I cannot tell you the peace of finally accepting and loving the hair I was born with.
    Of course there are days when I couldn’t be bothered 😅

  • @jesslove8372
    @jesslove8372 2 роки тому +6

    WOW. This episode was not what I expected - in a good, amazing way. You spitting wisdom grl. My hair routine has been spaghetti lately and feeling super unattractive, cuz Im usually keeping it cute and edgy, but I got all these goals at the forefront of my mind. Tryna remind myself, it's just a season. Thanks for all the love, grace and understanding ❤ 🙏

  • @bridgetsekati1999
    @bridgetsekati1999 2 роки тому +4

    You don't even know, the tears are just flowing throughout the video, I feel released from some crippling bondage I can't even explain 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

    • @malirabbit6228
      @malirabbit6228 2 роки тому

      The release is all that you need to explain!

  • @simplymamle7236
    @simplymamle7236 2 роки тому +2

    Spot on!!!
    I absolutely love all your points. I am 3rd time on my natural hair journey and I am working to learn to love my hair which includes no extensions. Its been one year down and I have another year to go.
    After many break downs about managing my natural hair for work,, my go style is mini twists so I can work out ans still have a hair style that looks presentable.

  • @charlotteroberts3763
    @charlotteroberts3763 2 роки тому +2

    I have learned to do what I want and with my hair not to please others. I have started washing my hair every 2 weeks instead of every week. The rigorous routine every week was getting tiresome. I'm working on a problematic area and I see my hair thriving now. I'm liking taking care of my hair now.

  • @karenm1965
    @karenm1965 2 роки тому +3

    Yes, I believe they are related. Love your grace with the process & timing. Love your acceptance and approach and grace towards others too. 💕🥰

  • @wintersolace3557
    @wintersolace3557 2 роки тому +4

    I literally just cut off most of my natural hair the other day. it went from past my shoulder to the top of my neck. I'm only 19 but the past years have been hard for me. but i just decided to cut my length. it feels so much softer and my curls are finally back

    • @malirabbit6228
      @malirabbit6228 2 роки тому +1

      Continue to be strong, young woman.

    • @wintersolace3557
      @wintersolace3557 2 роки тому

      @@malirabbit6228 thank you it means a lot to me ☺️

  • @quelsplace5956
    @quelsplace5956 2 роки тому +5

    Your hair is cute and that red lip is giving 😍

  • @starmaxx4
    @starmaxx4 2 роки тому +5

    Jenn J luv this video! Personally I’m soo happy you talked about this topic! I’ve definitely been there.. where I’m feeling overwhelmed trying to do 101 things then get frustrated when I wasn’t able to get things done (especially my hair) … just recently that it’s okay if I stretch my wash day one or two days out .. 2022 I want to focus on healthy hair/scalp and making sure when I do my hair that I’m not angry or tired! Thanks again Jenn 🥰💙

  • @themzie
    @themzie 2 роки тому +6

    Sending you some hugs and love for this video 😍😍😍, I absolutely enjoyed it and you made some valid points🙂. I cut my hair and was bald for the first month of this year and I'm leaning about how to love my appearance and hair at different lengths and throughout this journey. I've always preferred having long hair but could never grow it that long relaxed plus I didn't enjoy the relaxer experience, then around 2013 I decided to go natural I was just doing whatever whenever , didn't retain that much length either but always enjoyed natural hair and in 2020 i became more intentional with my hair journey and thanks to finding your channel i did what you thought in your videos and it really helped me and my hair was flourishing. But I had promised myself to cut my hair when I got my diploma to start a new journey as this diploma was way over due so when I got it I shaved my hair. But I'm more confident that when I do eventually grow it back Jenns videos are always here for me and I've done it before and it's a matter of enjoying the journey 💯

    • @malirabbit6228
      @malirabbit6228 2 роки тому +1

      Congratulation on-all that you do. Live long and prosper, y’all.

  • @Dancingbyfaith3
    @Dancingbyfaith3 2 роки тому +7

    I’ve had multiple bad hair days recently and it affected my mental health 😅
    I’m actually getting braids soon lol

    • @JennJackson
      @JennJackson  2 роки тому +2

      I am literally in braid right now and plan to be for a while!

  • @bandaqueenlove9134
    @bandaqueenlove9134 2 роки тому +1

    I just want to say thank you so much for this video because you made so many amazing points and I resonated with all of them. I'm going to save this video whenever I feel overwhelmed because you definitely reassured me that it's okay to fall off, but to least try to do something or you will eventually get to it. I really liked how you touched on how mental health can affect the outlook on ourselves and our hair, but also our behavior and routine in general. I'm someone who definitely just lets my hair progress over the week, but before I was obsessed with "remoisturizing" my hair midweek or getting angry if I was losing definition. I've definitely felt the feeling of not wanting to wash my hair and how it ate me up inside, but I think this video really just reminded me to counteract that feeling by not fighting it, but just validating it and things will get better. Loved it!
    For anyone in the comments, we're in this together

  • @Moneymojo6272
    @Moneymojo6272 Рік тому

    I just love your confident vibe!

  • @ossier2796
    @ossier2796 2 роки тому

    I grew up with natural hair that was washed and braided for school, as I got older my grandma would press it sometimes for special occasions. I was a teen in the 60’s when I wore it pressed and in the 70’s I wore an Afro until maybe mid 70’s after college I was working and I got a relaxer. I went back and forth between relaxers and natural hair from that time until 2012. My sister was a hair person, roller sets and she never wore an Afro, she’s 2yrs younger. I couldn’t be bothered with the fuss but my hair was clean and neat. That was my hair relationship.

  • @MsRouge2000
    @MsRouge2000 2 роки тому

    Girl, I don’t wear my hair down often I love to do plats or twist but when I wear my hair I just shake my head and let my hair do what it do and that’s when she looks her best!! I love her!!!

  • @kierramcgee2685
    @kierramcgee2685 2 роки тому +2

    Love, Grace and Understanding.
    Great content!!!
    Thank you!

  • @BeingMrsE
    @BeingMrsE 2 роки тому

    This video is so on point and on time. Great topic and delivery. Thank you 🙏

  • @natasha.o
    @natasha.o 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you for keeping it all the way real w us!! Because sometimes I just don't wanna do this hairrrrr!

  • @levaughngordon3392
    @levaughngordon3392 2 роки тому

    besides frm the fact that ur " one of the real ones" not jus your hair is natural but so is your innocence and aura and the fact that ur passionate about ur natural African hair I just started follow u...I could also tell that ur like an semi-introverted individual n I just started my hair journey & becoming to love natural hair imma follow you...🇯🇲👍

  • @1GoldenBreeze
    @1GoldenBreeze 2 роки тому +6

    With the exception of about nine months, I've been natural all my life and still am not great at styling my hair. It's just not a skill I have. When I go through a period of being down I will throw in 4-6 braids and put some type of covering on my head and keep it moving. At least that way I've given it some type of care. IMHO mental health affects every facet of our lives which includes our hair whether its natural or not.

  • @kyraely2186
    @kyraely2186 2 роки тому +6

    Yeah I was washing my hair every week right and then I went back to work …..BAYBEEE let me tell you I went almost 3 weeks and I was like Nah girl you gotta get this washed😂 so your right I think being able to dedicate so much time to what it takes for us to take care of our hair can be a luxury we don’t always have as black women .

  • @comfortuanserume7850
    @comfortuanserume7850 2 роки тому

    We need more of these videos! Thank you!

  • @cheshiredj
    @cheshiredj 2 роки тому +1

    It can definitely wear on you if your hair doesn't look or act like what you feel is "beautiful" hair. It can be difficult but you have to learn to love and appreciate what you have. Life is stressful enough!

  • @msafful
    @msafful 2 роки тому

    Really informative video, you are making me think deeper about this things.

  • @mingtoiisaac4623
    @mingtoiisaac4623 2 роки тому

    It's braids and twists for me. I wash every 2- 3 wks unless my scalp is acting out. It's stress free in this chapter of life. AND my hair likes structure!❤️

  • @dominiquereece8545
    @dominiquereece8545 2 роки тому

    Jen.i love you! We need this. We'll I need this hence my hair is in mini/medium twists I'm over it. Nursing skl is alot, I'm tired.. I'm yet to get fulani braids it's summer have alot going on....this is it Jen this is it right here

    • @JennJackson
      @JennJackson  2 роки тому +1

      So glad you enjoyed the video and if you need a break, take it

  • @MelxncholyMermxid
    @MelxncholyMermxid 2 роки тому

    Yup. After childhood neglect, it took me far too long to even learn how to take care of my hair properly, let alone maintain a routine

  • @bazagirl402
    @bazagirl402 2 роки тому

    Girllll you are spilling the TEA 🤣🤣🤣 love it. Love it you’re hitting all the points of frustration. I cut my hair twice last just because of the struggles smh thx for being real. By the way you look fabulous!!

  • @themzie
    @themzie 2 роки тому +3

    Make up and hair is giving 🔥🔥🔥❤

  • @roseoliver7179
    @roseoliver7179 2 роки тому

    Thank you for sharing keep up the good work looking forward to seeing you again

  • @mariahgunn7101
    @mariahgunn7101 2 роки тому

    Just found your channel today. Great video and I definitely could relate to some of the points you made. I am now subscribed.

  • @octoberking4403
    @octoberking4403 2 роки тому +2

    I literally have to tell myself in the mirror everyday to love myself and not do anything to my hair I am self conscious and I even had to check my husband about making fun of me with my hair cut low until it grows he is out the door 🚪

  • @Kassiex5
    @Kassiex5 Рік тому +1

    It’s your personality for me :)

  • @monicaDD
    @monicaDD 2 роки тому +1

    Thanks. I caught the country’s Covid wave during the holidays. I just happened to want to twist my hair because it was sooooo cold out instead of a WNG and it was the best part of feeling bad but being okay

  • @WenWin975
    @WenWin975 2 роки тому +2

    Love that lip color. 💋Ok, back to the video.

  • @godsprecious6884
    @godsprecious6884 2 роки тому +1

    Good topic!

  • @Timetrae
    @Timetrae Рік тому

    Great video Jenn!! Sorry it took so long for me to watch it!!

  • @themzie
    @themzie 2 роки тому +2

    Girl youtube gang has missed you, where have you been?

  • @adesuwa-B
    @adesuwa-B 2 роки тому +1

    Hair care so interesting video thank you for sharing with us sist 👍

  • @johannalouissaint3548
    @johannalouissaint3548 2 роки тому

    I have seb derm, which flares up with stress. And seeing the flakes stress me out. It's a vicious cycle. But when I'm not doing well, I can't even deal with it.

  • @Steffie20122
    @Steffie20122 2 роки тому

    ❤️ this so much!

  • @brit-brit4814
    @brit-brit4814 2 роки тому

    I'm so new to this natural hair journey I normally wear wigs but now I have no edges and my other hair is out side of my edges is long n thick but I Need help bad I have low porosity hair and it's 4c and I am bi-polar have severe depression, AHAD AND PTSD I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS

  • @teresaburton3217
    @teresaburton3217 2 роки тому

    I really love your videos and your personality That’s so true about letting your hair just be. I have 3C, 4A I think and washday it’s cute but by day 3 it looks entirely different. I keep cutting it but have decided to let it grow back. 3rd time going natural hopefully it’s my last 😂

  • @corneliacoleman7353
    @corneliacoleman7353 2 роки тому

    Well said Jenn!

  • @yve6243
    @yve6243 2 роки тому

    🌺I needed to hear this. 🙌🏾 I tore a ligament in my back the day before my weekly wash day. I’ve been advised to do nothing for 3 weeks.. my grey natural 4C hair was like ‘WHAAT!!’ After watching this… it is what it is! What ever moves in and nest there will be evicted eventually. If I start stressing my hair will fall out.. a stinky head is the lesser of two evils. Just don’t come visit me.😁😁😁

    • @josephinearmstrong8775
      @josephinearmstrong8775 2 роки тому

      what are best products for twa grey hair no one post on this.

    • @yve6243
      @yve6243 2 роки тому

      @@josephinearmstrong8775 I have found a few but the products are in the US🇺🇸 where as I am in the UK 🇬🇧 and we don’t have as much choice. I am no hair expert but I am on mine I can tell you I use 3 shampoos-
      1st lather- a classic clarifier (As I Am)
      2nd lather - toning -purple (Provoke)
      3rd lather - Moisturising (As I Am - Long & Luxe)
      I then deep condition with Amika Soulfood Hydrating Mask (with heat)
      Then Cantu Avocado Leave-in-Conditioner and Oribe Gelee. I flat twist, partially diffuse dry, cover with satin scarf. It stays that way for the week. If I have somewhere to go I may wear a twist out, more often I wrap my head with a scarf apply a little mascara n gloss and I’m done ✅.. and I do it all again the next wash day!!🙌🏾🌸👍🏾🥰

  • @laearth0330
    @laearth0330 2 роки тому

    My hair would let me know when it needs to washed, when it starts not holding styles, and it doesn’t look right after putting products in it.

  • @MasegoMmatli
    @MasegoMmatli 2 роки тому +1

    I think for me, I am at a point where my natural hair is just overwhelming, and I braid her down to run away to wigs because less maintenance. I love the idea of my hair, when she's out, she does the damn thing but it is the admin thereafter of taking care of her daily, which makes no sense to me. I just dont have the mental capacity for her, and wig tracks are my escape because the idea of braids etc? Nope. I am ready to cut her but at the same time, I love her.

    • @malirabbit6228
      @malirabbit6228 2 роки тому +1

      Sometimes we hurt the ones that we love.

  • @Noopsir3927
    @Noopsir3927 2 роки тому +3

    I really love this topic! I feel like us as black women (especially us new and upcoming naturals) obsess over hair perfection. When our hair does not come out a certain way, instead of considering a journey and a process, we consider it a “fail”. Truthfully, nothing that is naturally attached to our bodies is considered a “fail”. I really enjoy how deep we are doing into our insecurities around our natural hair. Great video ☺️☺️

  • @keniasharpe1610
    @keniasharpe1610 Рік тому

    Makes sense

  • @mimose5747
    @mimose5747 2 роки тому

    Yep.... I haven't watched yet, but I have a thinning area that confirms this ... literally no tension is placed there, yet and still the hair is leaving 😢

    • @JennJackson
      @JennJackson  2 роки тому +1

      Stress/poor mental health is the #1 hair thinner, I swear

  • @emon6092
    @emon6092 2 місяці тому

    Play no problem

  • @keysiaparsely3038
    @keysiaparsely3038 2 роки тому

    👍

  • @hotgaltia
    @hotgaltia 2 роки тому

    I just want my edges back 😪

    • @malirabbit6228
      @malirabbit6228 2 роки тому +2

      I know that it’s not easy to hear but just try to relax about that is happening with your edges! Sometimes we do just too, too, too, much to our hair and when it can’t ( or won’t ) keep up, we still keep pushing it! Perhaps you could a doctor as a first step in order to get to the “ roots “ of the issue ! Please be easy on your self and your edges! Keep us informed if you choose to. Live long and prosper!

    • @hotgaltia
      @hotgaltia 2 роки тому +1

      @@malirabbit6228 okay thank you for the advice 🙏🏾