How Perfectionism Ruins your Career & Relationships | And 4 Ways to Overcome It
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- Опубліковано 21 чер 2021
- When does trying to be perfect backfire?
When the wrong type of 'Perfectionism' takes over it can keep you STUCK and unproductive! You end up self-sabotaging and holding yourself back at work and in life. You limit your success, and your happiness.
If you can relate to this perfectionism thing and you find that it holds you back (like it almost did to me with this email), then you DEFINITELY want to watch this episode where I share:
• What perfectionism really is,
• The two primary dimensions of perfectionism (and how it’s not always bad!), and
• My 4 favorite strategies to work through it so that you can get un-stuck!
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How do you prevent yourself from falling into the 'Perfectionism' trap? I'd love to see in the comments so that we can all learn from each other! 😊
I'm trying to be learn more and improve myself
You're doing valuable work. I have watched many of your videos and I just want to say keep up the good work.
Don't compare to others. Be a full fill human being. That means fire 🔥full energy input on ur goal. That my guru advice.. Pls tag heart❤ symbol shade........
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This video didn't perfectly define perfectionism, you must admit there's more to it
Strive for excellence rather than maladaptive perfection
1. Evaluate your intent- perfection should not be your goal.
2. Re evaluate your standards- keep your expectations in check. Be realistic
3. Reset your standards and commit- don't be a maximizer
4. Expose yourself to imperfection
The best 7.49 minute for today ❤️
I second this 👍
“Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.” Sharing some love from small UA-camr
These small videos can totally shift my mood and really just make me understand what I am feeling and how to fix it. Thank you shadé
Every time I listen to Shade, I feel energized and empowered👍🙏
There is not a single video left on your channel which i haven't watched yet , and I can clearly say you and your content both are really amazing.
This video was the highlight of my day
I often thought that perfection is key, but thank you for stating the flaws behind it!
I watch your videos but seriously your vibes are really positive.
Thanks a million
This video helped me a lot. It's like every sentence is made for me. You are doing a great work by enhancing many people's lives. Keep the good work going.
Thanks Shade.
I am this guy who has had this maladaptive perfectionism and working to deal with it for good, I remember around this time of the year, one year ago I was at a dark place with severe gastrointestinal pain, back pain from working waaaay beyond the normal working hours. This was made worse because I was refraining from asking for help in an effort to "look" like I know when I didn't. It has been quite a journey and I am working on myself daily by God's grace.
Since I discovered your channel I have absorbed so much value from your clips.
May God add value to every portion of your life just as you are pouring out yourself to us.
Have a happy life Mam Shade Zahrai. You spread full love from your side to the public from your helping videos. A lot of love from Pakistan.
My perfectionism made me perfect procrastinator in any thing I do and constantly looking for best options. Big thanks for you.
From here my focus is going to be on growth than perfection.
Probably the best video of today🤩
I love this video!!! I cannot tel you how much I agree with you. This is exactly what I said in my last job interview. I don’t believe in perfection, I strive for excellence and reflect on my mistakes to learn from them and grow as a whole rounded human being. I have spent many years of my life beating myself up for not being “perfect” and you know what? When I look back, those standards have changed so much in my mind and my heart, I feel sorry for myself and I wish I could give my self a big hug. Because I don’t even believe in those “perfections” anymore. I am valuing my own experience and my life lessons learned from not being perfect and even failing much more than I could ever value being the “picture perfect” person, wherever it means 😅
Thank you Zahrai for making my life easier. I used to beat up myself. Now, after watching your video, I realized that adaptive perfectionism can make your mornings brighter and full of gratitude.
You're such a Package...All in One..Vocal, Tone, Textures, Smile, Explanation.. Fabulous ❤️❤️❤️ One of your Biggest Fan.
How ever you spoke about benefits of not being perfectionist.....i STRONGLY FEEL THAT YOUR THIS ATTEMPT WAS "PERFECT".
God Bless you Shadei
OMG, that is me. Never happy with myself & the outcomes of my work. Can't make any decisions since there might be something better. Now I know why, I'm going to try the ways you mentioned, hopefully, it'll help.
THANKYOU I am already seeing changes, your channel is a gold mine I WISH i had an elder Sister like you to guide me early on.
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You're brilliant. It's amazing how everytime I watch videos, I feel like you're talking to me. Im always learning something new from you. Appreciate it Shadè 👍👍👍
You are so welcome 🙏🏽😊
I so so needed this and also yet again the lighting is fantastic!
thanks for sharing, Shade, striving for excellence works
The content on this channel is brilliant. So relatable.
Desperately waiting for such kind of video from your side... Thanks for sharing these Amazing Tips... May God Bless You 🤲
You're most welcome and God Bless you too! It's been an extremely busy couple of weeks with our business but my husband put in extra effort to get this edited and sent out ASAP today. 😊
I'm thankful to you Shade.. for sharing small tips to us ; though i dont comment that much... ! It's a great kick...Much love shade
I just want to say You're addicted. your voice module, your impression,your way of speaking Love from India. ❤
thanks for breaking it down and explaining each part
No problem!
Wonderful Shadé...It's Very Important Information. Thank you
Just made my experience more deep thanks very much
Thanks for all these great lessons Shade. Please do a video on the books to read to speak politely and professionally in workplaces which I'm finding really hard to come by.
I always wake up on this motivated videos☺️
Thanks for such informative videos✌🏽
It's great to be in touch with you😊
😘 You are the BEST 😘
This video helped me to understand myself, like nothing ever could.. Thank You so much..
Thank you so much. This had effected everything in my life. I will surely apply your suggestions.
How could you possibly condense so much important information under 8 minutes? Very helpful video ❤
We work hard at it and practice makes perfect! Not the perfectionism type that is. 😂
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This video change my morning mood thank you so much for making amazing content...
I really needed this!! You are the best
Great Video!
It was precise & practical.
It helped me a lot understanding what's going on in myself (Perfectionism) & how it's blocking me from moving forward.
Thank you so much!!!
Thanks for this Shade!
My pleasure!!
Great insights !! Thank you !!
This helps me a lot, thanks for the tips.
Good advice. I see myself in this. Another issue with perfectionism is that you spend so much time working on a project that you neglect any social life. You find you only have colleagues and coworkers and no friends or social life beyond work. Not healthy. Thanks for sharing.
I always listen to your speech and I know I can make changes in life 👍
You're amazing!!! I've learnt so much from you this past month since I started following your channel.
I'm so glad! Thank you 🙏
Brilliant approach🌷.
Your voice is very soothing just hearing it makes me feel relaxed
Oh my good this is a game changer. It helps a lot!!
Thank you for this valuable video ❤❤❤
Thanks a bunch of the advice. That was very helpful.
Very well explained Shade, thanks
Thankyou for this great video. This is so useful❤️💓💕
Thanks a bunch Dear sister Shade, i really needed to hear this.. yet again!
'A Great contrubution to 21 century humanity these videos of yours are...' - *The Wise Yodda by Lucas* 🍷👍
Very helpful and life changing video.
Thank you so much shade 😊😊
Oh my god it's so precise and eloquently explained.... 🙏
This was in my mind for a long time but I could not explain it....
Maladaptive Perfectionism.
Glad it was helpful!
WoW! I have been struggling to be perfect in my work And u have clearly explained how to overcome it, this video has much value and this will be timeless and help people
So glad!
Evergreen video for sure
Wow. Thank you so much. That helped a lot. Saved me lots of time!!
Glad it helped Lucas!
I could drink Shadé's words every day
Another great wisdom learned from a great person 👏
God bless always Miss Shade Z. ♥️🙏
Thank you for your insights. I guess analysis paralysis relates strong with perfectionism. Maybe impostor syndrome too. I feel that all of that relates to past criticism (not feedback) and bullying. The past criticism grows the fear of failure and with that, the perfectionism behaviour.
Critiques are welcome who tell us good and bad, but critics who tell us only the bad, are welcome only when I ask for feedback. Critics have helped me improve too. But, the bottom line is to focus on oneself, not others. Improve oneself from the current state, check competition for inspiration, doing something different, etc., but not for focussing on them, but one's own strengths that maybe the competition does not have. Competitors can be unintentional teachers, so why shun them. Bottom line, believe in oneself, but not blindly, sometimes test one's beliefs.
Valuable content!
Thank you Shadé
I love your point about being a maximizer causing regret (5:45)
This is a great channel i dont get how you dont have more subscribers with sutch good content
Great inputs Shade, fantastic video!!
Thanks so much!
Amazing content, really helpful, thank you Shadé and Faysal✌️
Our pleasure!
Congrats Shadè For 1.15 Lakhs Subscribers
Love From India
Keep Growing my best wishes with you
Thank you Amanat 🙌 Sending best wishes back 🙏🏽
thank you..........much needed
This is really useful.
I am a maladaptive perfectionist. I could portray myself throughout the video.....Thank you for this valuable insight
Perfectly explained!
Your contents are well researched.
Thank you for nice presentation.
For once, I would like to congratulate your husband for such amazing video editing the soft music behind.
Great work!
Thank you so much dearest mam.. you're really amazing mentor online.. thanx for sharing❤🙏
this was a great unlearning.. shade zahrai tq🤗
My pleasure 😊
The most inspirational words!... 💙
Really great communication skills
Your video episodes are beneficial to me.
Thank you!
This was helpful for me thanks !!
Glad it helped!
Why is this woman in my head talking about my life? haha! This is all me, to the max. Thanks for sharing this video.
You're far from alone! Hope this was of some help.
Very nice and appreciated
God bless you! I just love your videos honestly! I find them very helpful indeed! Thanks a lot!! Loved your personality & soon I'll be able to transform mine too, God willing! Thanks again!❤😇🤩
Thanks madam,
Your efforts are really valuable
Thanks again for your contribution to self improvement ❤❤❤
Waaoowwww ma'am... I am immensely impressed by the accent and the content of yours. I wasn't aware about this. Glad to learn a new thing today. It helped me to change my mindset. Thanks a gazillion ma'am... Keep creating these amazing tutorials and video lessons for us... Ma'am you deserve millions of likes, shares, subscribers... 😊😊😊. I am highly impressed.
The way you speak is really beautiful😍 👍👍
First time I watched....
I Like these videos ....I know it will help to improve my thoughts....
This is perfect advice
Oh my God
She is so right !
Thank you!
You are very talented and classy woman!
Respect
loved it.♥️
Always refreshing
One more amazing this is blowing my mind...☺️👍💯 I feel stressed before the video thank God I watched it. It makes feel energy and refreshed. It removed mountain on my head.. 💯👍👍💯..
Excellence makes you better and better on daily basis. Which gives to lots of goals and feel fresh everytime. It's stedy and long process with more benefits. 💯👍💯👍
Superb video 👍
That make sense thank you
It's really...cool explanation abot perfectionist...thank u
Appreciate. That should help.
Awesome content... You are perfect ❤️
Your communication and it's tone is superb. Could you provide me some tips to improve my communication?