Are you Stuck in the Self-Development Trap? 5 Simple steps to get unstuck.
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- Опубліковано 30 лип 2024
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In this video I’m going explain how, if you’re not careful, your quest for self-development could become completely debilitating and lead to inaction, robbing you from the benefits of applying what you learned and getting better results at work and in life.
I’ll then share 5 simple steps to make sure that you don’t fall into the ‘self-development pleasure trap’ and instead maximize your development by taking action.
Let me know in the comments what you think!
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"People are becoming experts at learning rather than doing."
That was a quote from the most humble person I know: myself, of course.
This is the most underrated thing you have explained. Even I was also stuck in this trap. Thank you for sharing this ❤️.
Glad it was helpful!
I am learning a lot from you.
I was stuck in that "information gathering mode" in self development. It was sick as hell.
Thanks for your advice Shade, I love you so much. Keep it going!
Awesome video!
Hi Damian, I'm so happy to hear you're finding value in the videos! The 'information gathering mode' can keep you stuck because the more you learn, the more you realise how little you know, and you never feel ready to take action (it's also called the Dunning-Kruger Effect). A simple mindset shift to gear you towards action can really help! Wishing you all the best on your journey and thanks for your kind words!
@@ShadeZahrai you don't realize (probably) how important your videos are for me. You're like a gold😍💲 between stones, I am so excited that I've found you.
You're my best and probably first woman which taught me so much about life, self development and work skills! I wish for me that one day I can meet you in person, hug you and shake your hand as thank you for all your amazing work.
You're huge!
Thanks Shadé! Much love
Have a nice day and enjoy the weekend!
@Shadé Zahrai A year ago I was on same rabbit hole and nowadays being discipline and morning ritual to get energize help me to take action to some extent. Though sometimes I miss, I couldn't able to ride off my old habits, sometime I feel like not feeling to act, mental toghness, may be procrastination. Any word for this. Really appreciate your great ideas. The 3 key motivation: Action over overthinking, Think why and write your goal. Love this idea. Thank you and love from Parramatta, Sydney.
@@damianzielinski71 I'm so happy to hear that Damian! What makes me happiest is knowing I've helped someone of been of service in some way... it's why we do what we do! You enjoy the weekend too!
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Just discovered you and I am so glad I did. Amazing content, great insights, smart advice, applicable and relevant and easy to follow. You are amazing!
A great reminder for all of us to get out of the repeated cycles of learning & learning to actually take inspired action whilst learning. Also thank you for the "pause" alert when you introduced the L.E.A.R.N concept, so beautifully put, Shade!
Love it! Thanks a lot Shade for all your amazing and insightful videos. This is most important aspect that you explained in a very crisp manner. As someone ones said Action is the bridge between dreams and reality. Thank you for sharing!
Your uploads are short, precise and specific concisely focus on implementation of the insights which would really helps us to effectively work out plan of action to move forward with determination.
Shadezarai, there is something about you. None of your videos are just fanciful motivation. You assert so much upon the power of action. Thankyou for being there. ♥️
Thank you so much !!! I can relate to this . I read and read and listen to all the self help videos but I don’t take action . I appreciate your advice ❤️❤️❤️
This is exactly what i was experiencing a lot lately, i really needed this video. Thank you so much your content are amazingly helpful. Keep up the good work🤗
your are really really influence person.
i stop to watch other motivational speaker video because you speak so deeply and 110% true like your each and every single word I have experienced.
Great video Shadé Zahrai !! Thanks! I was happy after a long time to know this from a gr8 speaker like you ! Knowledge without action is a waste of time. Action is the key ! I will follow the LEARN technique to avoid the self development paralysis !! Also, we should be focused on ‘what and why ‘ we are learning something
Your explanation is so clear, easy to understand, and mostly easy to put up.
That's crazy, less than 7 minutes to share a valuable strategy to improve any skills.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience.
Take care!
This video is for me. Thanks a lot Shade. I am wondering in such a young age how you are able to gather so much of knowledge
Your fluency is mind blowing out of the word .I am totally speechless. I don't know how I explaine that how fluent and how cool are you. How did this fluency come. Of course by doing hard work.
One of the best warnings ever given! Could be also applied to other domains of development (bodily or spiritual).
I appreciate you making our lives better. I'm currently working on a NEW SONG. I'm taking a holistic approach i.e. not just focusing on Vocal Training, but also focusing on Water Intake, diet, exercise, sleep, emotional connection to the song, and many more!
So right for me ! Been wasting too much of time learning but not implementing fully
Each point shared by you is practical and to the point. Thanks a ton
Thank you so much ...! I never knew I was in a trap....but you've saved me from wasting the most important time of my life ... thank you 💗 once again and God bless !
You are welcome!
Wow, I'm totally mesmerized by your confidence and speaking ability although this video is really helpful to me. I am trying to improve my speaking ability for the last few months but somehow I couldn't able to ameliorate myself. I figured out a few mistakes that I'm continuously doing again and again and these are not expended my learning. From this video,you pointed out all the tactics for self-development and I appreciate for that.
Ma'am you opened my third eye.
Thank you so much. May God bless you and your family.
Thank you for such a great topic and for point out this usually overlooked trap. I myself find a great pleasure in spending time on consuming self development content and I do try to implement it in life, especially while building relationships with others. However, I had no such strategy as you just offered to actually know how successful (or not) I am at applying new ideas. L.E.A.R.N. strategy can help me make self evaluation and this is what I chose to do from today on ☺️
Thank you Shadé for your meaningful videos. Greetings from Poland :)
Hearing all the time without any action is not going to benefit anybody....very well explained....I really love the way you put it across....loads of love dear...
My GOD! this one was for me. Wow! This is so me.
I've been stuck in this for most of my adult life without realizing it...thanks for sharing what it is and how to get out of it 😊
Highly informative, highly relative. You are amazing, thank you for sharing such valuable information.
I like this channel. The topics are very easy to understand and I'm learning a lot. I will share it to my students.
I like the phrase self-development trap/paralysis. I've learned this problem by experience, but didn't have an easy way to explain that to people.
. Very important topic, which was mostly not thought of !
. Wonderfully explained, to initiate & practice once learnt something.
Thank you! 🙏
Oh my God!!!!Yes its been years am in this trap. Thank you so much for this.
@Shadé Zahrai A year ago I was on same rabbit hole and nowadays being discipline and morning ritual to get energize help me to take action to some extent. Though sometimes I miss, I couldn't able to ride off my old habits, sometime I feel like not feeling to act, mental toghness, may be procrastination. Any word for this. Really appreciate your great ideas. The 3 key motivation: Action over overthinking, Think why and write your goal. Love this idea. Thank you and love from Parramatta, Sydney.
Hi Bijaya,
Thanks for this comment and sharing your experience. It's great to see you've become more disciplined with your morning ritual which is helping set up your day for success. It's ok if you fall off the bandwagon every now and then... it's about how quickly you're able to get back on. Making note of what's causing you to divert to old habits could help too... something might be 'triggering' a return to the 'familiar', and once you're aware of the trends you can take action to prevent it happening in future. The motivation hacks are definitely relevant here so I'm happy to see you referencing them 😊
Wishing you all the best on the journey!
@@ShadeZahrai Lovely, Thank you so much. I will note the divert.
Information put into action is knowledge 👍
That's a thing to remember
Learning emotional intellingence and practicing it by acknowledging it as explained by you; the graph method of High, low & positive, negative technique. Thank you
Thanks a lot for sharing..It will be really useful for me.
Thank you so much Shade zahrai for your valuable insight
This gal is Awesome 👏🏽 😎 I feel so much better about myself and my professional career because of her videos ❤
Best video ever ,will stop buying any new self help book .Have enough time to LEARN and Act
True!! The 1st time I understand that I am stuck in the joy of learning Self-Development not applying it? Thanks!!
Wow! You and your videos are amazingly very informative. Lesson learnt and I am gonna apply it this time. 👌👍
Thank you Naeem 🙏🏽 Glad you found this useful 😊
Shade thank you for such insightful and knowledgeable content you are awesome.👍🏻😊 Actions gives us motivation but we all watch motivational videos for motivation in the same way if we want to improve our personality then we need follow action which lead to personality development just watching content is not alone sufficient at all.
Very true....
Thank you, Shade, since I connected your video motivations I learned more and my work productivity is effective and efficient.
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Hi Shade, Would be glad if you can make a video on how introverts and people with social anxiety can succeed at workplace?
I hope one day i will speak like u.
I like the way you speak because it's totally understandable.
Beautiful video. Btw I am waiting for your next video from a long time 😍
Such a practical vdo....most commonly encountered inevitable fact self development trap...I comit too being trapped..But LEARN..ahead...Thanks very much frm India....
Hello i think you have touched the right point as . since last few months i am also in this trap.
At present i am focusing on how to create a good pitch deck and create a good go to market strategy
Any ways thanks for making me aware that i have got stuck in the trap
Will use ur LEARN technique
thanks again u r simply great
Seems this video is exclusively made for me. Hard hitting. Thank you.
Thanks a lot for reality check for all learners....You explained very well..
Sunday morning and the first video from shadé Zahrai =
Have a wonderful Sunday! I've heard about Atomic Habits - a friend of mine read it and said she loved it... I'll have to check it out! It's great that you're giving it a second read... sometimes you need to review the content and you glean new insights and lessons. Definitely agree with you... motivation without action is wasted! Thanks for your comment Ammar and wishing you all the best!
Wow! This was me but not anymore. Thx. Keep them coming 😎
VERY USEFUL!!! Thank you Shade!!!!
You are doing a great job Shade 👍🏻
Thank you Mr. Jadoun!
You r really great
You keep me motivated always
Thanks for sharing these Awesome Hacks... It will be beneficial for us... 👍👍👍
Content creator helps me when I stuck in my life ❤❤❤
I am facing this issue since years. Thanks for this unique way of helping
You are most welcome
You deserve more people hearing you, you have the potential. Keep doing and I am sure soon you will reach it
Thank you for the kind comment! So long as one person is positively impacted by what we share, that’s good enough for me 🙏🙂
@@ShadeZahrai May Allah always bless you more ❣️
Yes this happens to me reading philosophy too. Read read but no do. As the Stoic philosopher Seneca said: “Putting things off is the biggest waste of life: it snatches away each day as it comes, and denies us the present by promising the future. The greatest obstacle to living is expectancy, which hangs upon tomorrow and loses today. You are arranging what lies in Fortune’s control, and abandoning what lies in yours. What are you looking at? To what goal are you straining? The whole future lies in uncertainty: live immediately.”
Thank u so much for the video. Sending my good wishes to u from India.
woww ... thnku fr info ...luv &/blessings from India🇮🇳
I love these motivation videos. Thank you a lot
The example of Jam goes in sync with Paralysis... But so many PD videos will put viewers in Comma... 😊
Appreciate the 'LEARN' full form...
You are so amazing Shade , It would be really helpful for communities with the captions on too, Please could you enable it for auto mode?
Thank you Bhanu! 🙏🏽 My husband usually enables auto subtitles when he uploads the videos. We checked and the auto subtitle settings are enabled yet somehow youtube is not allowing the option during playback. Strange...
This video saved a hell lot of my precious time ⏳
Thank you so much Shadé❤
Yes this started for me from the time of covid. When I just started taking anything and everything to develop to keep myself busy.
Your videos are great for self growth 👍🏻
Madam the content of your video is impressive and focused. Good work
Thanks you Shadé Zahrai 🥰
Maam you are so right, this happens with men and women alike.... Knowledge and Application are two different things... Both are important but when one invades the other's energy it results in imbalance
Great video, I thought I was the only one in this development paralysis
Thank you! 😊
Thanks for good information.
Thank you. Great stuff.
🙏🙏🙏
Very insightful!
I think people need to watch this video first before watching any self - help videos on UA-cam. With all the knowledge, information, details and other self - help videos on UA-cam, people will tend to keep on consuming knowledge instead of acting on what they’ve learned.
This is why this video is super duper important to be seen first before anyone starts their self - help journey on UA-cam.
I’m working on saving money by looking at coupons and using them the next time I go to the store , biking to work instead of driving , and putting money into my savings account.
This is a wonderful aspect everyone is missing out (including me !!) and falling into this trap and delaying action. Kudos to you for throwing the light on this aspect, since no one has thought in this direction in the present scenario of heavy information overload, Keep creating such CONTENT
It's important to be aware of it because otherwise it's SO easy to fall into the trap and not even realise it... Thanks for your comment and support! 😊
Excellent thanks 👌😊. Very good topic you chose ☺️.
I am also suffering in self development disease 🦟.
I have downloaded your video.
I will watch ⌚ it again and again until I start acting
Really useful 👍👍.... appreciate it...👍👍
you've been great!
Great video it made a lot of sense my only issue was the two stools, there was no symmetry between them😢
Thanks for this 👍🏽
Hey Shadé. This video is very concise and accurately hits the nail on the head. I think it's also partly the fear of failure of the action and the wasted investment (time and effort) if there's a better method round the corner...
Agreed - fear of failure or fear of the unknown definitely holds people back from taking action and can lead to procrastination. Listening to your inner critic also sabotages you from making progress on goals, as well as becoming consumed by the 'what ifs'... "what if things don't work out?" "What if there's something better coming up...". Thanks for your comment 🙏
Very useful information 👌🏻
Great shade....👍👍👍
This is so me! Thank you for bringing up a topic seldom mentioned elsewhere.
OCBRD - Obsessive Compulsive Book Reading Disorder ... that is me stuck in the self development loop.
Thank you Shade for this amazing & well explained video!
You are truly making this a better world
Ahahaha it's a thing!! I knew it! There's also:
OCPLD - Obsessive Compulsive Podcast Listening Disorder
OCTTCD - Obsessive Compulsive TEDTalk Consumption Disorder
OCIMKCMCD - Obsessive Compulsive 'I Must Keep Consuming Motivational Content' Disorder
😂
Thanks for the comment and support!
Best self help video👍🏼
Love you Shade ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
*This Is exactly what I need*
Amazing shade
Thank you so much ❤
I'm finding that if I keep seeking self development material, the views from one person sort of muddy or undo things that worked from another. I think for me it's best to stick with what works and stop there. Do and believe that which moves you towards your goals.
Greetings from Egypt keep it up . you doing great
I wish I could see you in person someday... You seem to know everything that distort our growth 😂
Amazing video as always
Happy to hear you enjoyed it 😊
Awesome! ❤️❤️
Wow Very helpful videos
Your presentation is very good.