wearing ~unflattering~ outfits that me from 2016 would’ve hated

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  • wearing plus size outfits I hated 6 years ago... Today I'm looking back at my old curvy fashion dos and donts videos and styling the "don'ts" now that my mindset has changed.
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  • @kabean09
    @kabean09 2 роки тому +2030

    "Whether I'm wearing a baggy t shirt or a bodycon dress, my body is still the SAME body..." that really hit home for me! I agree, we should wear what we like no matter if it's "flattering" or not

    • @emocionalita11258
      @emocionalita11258 2 роки тому +27

      I had this cropped sweater that I wanted to wear for Christmas because it's so cute, but I felt like it showed off my belly too much. But then I thought to myself, it's not like if I wear something looser my family is suddenly going to think I lost a lot of weight. And I'll tell you, that sweater looks super cute in our Christmas pictures!

    • @kathleen2958
      @kathleen2958 2 роки тому +9

      Same. I think a lot of the time I personally have such a hard time dressing myself because the clothing isn’t “flattering” but I just now realized it because my body is in a state of fluctuations and right now it’s bigger than it has been. But that doesn’t mean I can’t dress cute or wear what I like. It’s something I got to work on getting more comfortable with.

    • @sleepypup
      @sleepypup 2 роки тому

      Dude yeah. This comment got me

    • @sophia7322
      @sophia7322 2 роки тому

      I was literally just telling my bf about this and how I knew it didn’t matter what I wore since my body stays the same but I just now started to understand it.

  • @hopescope
    @hopescope 2 роки тому +2515

    This video was therapeutic ❤️ it gave me a chance to forgive my younger self for how mean I was to my body.

    • @mayapegues7666
      @mayapegues7666 2 роки тому +4

      same here

    • @buffsss1
      @buffsss1 2 роки тому +40

      OMG!!! My favourite UA-camrs !! 😬

    • @haleya4236
      @haleya4236 2 роки тому +3

      Agreed. I felt a peace seeing a body that looks closer to mine & hearing her say it’s beautiful the way you are. 💕

    • @allieknechtel7468
      @allieknechtel7468 2 роки тому +34

      Imagining an empowering Sierra x Hope collab and just 😍

    • @punkybrewstar83
      @punkybrewstar83 2 роки тому +15

      Collab Collab Collab Collab ❤

  • @brittanypell1439
    @brittanypell1439 2 роки тому +1044

    Can I just say that the fact that you could go IN YOUR CLOSET to get items for this video just further proves your growth. You aren't just doing this for a video; you're living it!

  • @katherine5797
    @katherine5797 2 роки тому +597

    Fashion donts:
    Wear clothes you’re uncomfortable in
    Be afraid to size up or down as needed
    Let other peoples opinions (or your perceived opinions) dictate what you put on your body.

    • @skyegrube7667
      @skyegrube7667 2 роки тому +14

      homegirl i still struggle with the size up. i wish that was something i could accept. i dont need to fit in my clothes, they need to fit on me.

    • @jadekatherine1042
      @jadekatherine1042 2 роки тому +4

      @@skyegrube7667 i used to think that as well but i think of it like bra sizes… they are so different in fit and style across different brands so it makes sense for the other clothes to be the same… it really helps if i think like that like each brand has a designated size for me and that they are different cause of how the individual companies made them

  • @lunacherry4171
    @lunacherry4171 2 роки тому +713

    I couldn't stop admiring Sierra's hair, its looks so healthy and bouncy.

    • @yolandaray6862
      @yolandaray6862 2 роки тому +3

      I found myself stairing at it too. Her hair looks lovely.

    • @coolrunnings3
      @coolrunnings3 2 роки тому

      Really?

    • @duck6100
      @duck6100 2 роки тому

      @@coolrunnings3 yeah?

  • @cozycrimecorner
    @cozycrimecorner 2 роки тому +634

    There is one fashion "don't" we should all obey to: only wear the clothes that fit you. There is no shame, no defeat in buying a new jeans in a bigger size. For years I squeezed into stuff with the mindset of "I'll loose that few pounds and then they'll fit" and felt miserable the whole time! To whoever needs to hear this: You deserve to dress in clothes that let you breath and move properly! You didn't "fail" by sizing up (or down, it works both ways obv). You're very much allowed to feel comfortable in every piece you wear

    • @futuresuperstar201
      @futuresuperstar201 2 роки тому +10

      I really appreciated hearing this today ☺️

    • @BB-ny7sl
      @BB-ny7sl 2 роки тому +13

      I just graduated from 6 to 9 in jeans, and I am actively not letting it bug me. An arbitrary number doesn't say anything about who I am. Much love 💞

    • @daianarutolo3068
      @daianarutolo3068 2 роки тому +17

      Clothes are made to fit YOU, not the other way around.
      It was a hard to learn lesson for me. During my whole life I would wear wathever fitted me, because I either didn't find anything in my size, or I just would accept anything just because it fitted.

    • @joanagomes9272
      @joanagomes9272 2 роки тому +10

      Yes! After years of denying weight gain and squeezing into my adolescent clothing it was after i bought some stuff in my actual size that i realized i actually looked really cute as long as the outfits actually fit me 😂

    • @ReBecca-cz4wy
      @ReBecca-cz4wy 2 роки тому +14

      Why don't we just treat clothing sizes like shoe sizes ... There are no emotions attached to wearing a smaller or bigger shoe size, if something doesn't fit

  • @Chelsss703
    @Chelsss703 2 роки тому +566

    "Flattering" means making yourself look slimmer. That's literally all it is. We've been brainwashed for so long! Love this video so much, 15 year old me would have so needed it ❤

    • @johanna2690
      @johanna2690 2 роки тому +9

      Or "changing" your body type

    • @AliaslsailA
      @AliaslsailA 2 роки тому +45

      Hmm I don't necessarily agree. I think flattering can also depend on proportions and just visual lines in general. I'm really short for example and trendy oversized clothing tends to drown me. I don't look bad in it but it's definetly not the best proportion for my body. I get your point though.

    • @0carinaofthyme
      @0carinaofthyme 2 роки тому +29

      Flattering just means pleasing and gratifying, or enhancing your appearance. I’m tall with broad shoulders, large on top, small on bottom clothing doesn’t flatter my shape. Not about thinness.

    • @raheeeg
      @raheeeg 2 роки тому +8

      For me flattering just means flattering; I love how I look naked but sometimes I wear things that make my body look bad because they make me look like something I'm not e.g. something that makes my hips look straight when they're not - I deem those clothes unflattering

    • @heatherheaney4060
      @heatherheaney4060 2 роки тому +8

      Flattering does not mean making yourself look skinny. Flattering is subjective. If you think you look good in something is what matters. Other ppl may not think so. Just like personal taste. What my mother thinks looks flattering on me I think makes me look 10yr are older than I am.

  • @chloebeall4011
    @chloebeall4011 2 роки тому +277

    The blue “shapeless” dress you showed in the old video as a “don’t” looked so cute on you at the time, so crazy to see how we can be so hard on ourselves when we shouldn’t be!

    • @raining_trees
      @raining_trees 2 роки тому +11

      Right?! I thought it looked better than the belted version lol

  • @daniellerosewoods
    @daniellerosewoods 2 роки тому +404

    "it's only after you've stepped outside your comfort zone that you begin to change, grown and transform." -Roy T. Bennett.
    From the early videos to now Sierra, I firmly believe you have been a pillar in my confidence journey. Watching your growth helps me through mine. Thank you for sharing and for all you do in this community.

    • @SierraSchultzzie
      @SierraSchultzzie  2 роки тому +67

      This is so incredibly kind. Honored to be part of your journey 💕

    • @kathleen2958
      @kathleen2958 2 роки тому +3

      That’s a beautiful quote, thanks for sharing!

  • @crashmusketeer306
    @crashmusketeer306 2 роки тому +432

    I feel like "flattering" has been replaced with "comfy" and I love that.

  • @emilybrentana2411
    @emilybrentana2411 2 роки тому +108

    I literally never comment on anything, but this was incredibly therapeutic for me. I am one of those long time fans that remember when these original videos came out, even though you'd never know it because I NEVER comment and very rarely like. However, I have always looked up to you because our body types have almost always been virtually identical. I was 15 when you released this original video, and ate this up. I followed all of your advice and have watched and learned from every video. I feel like I have grown with you, literally and figuratively, and have overcome my problems with my body alongside you. Thank you for posting this, and I, your silent fan, will continue watching every video you post.

    • @KaWiReloaded
      @KaWiReloaded 2 роки тому +3

      This was so sweet 💚 sending u love

  • @christinatrate4871
    @christinatrate4871 2 роки тому +128

    “It’s the same body/it’s still my body” is going to be my new affirmation for when I don’t love how I look. THANK YOU SIERRA! I’ve been watching your channel for almost two years and you have helped me grow to be kind to myself.

  • @Ekb620000
    @Ekb620000 2 роки тому +205

    I’m living in Scandinavia and when you put together the first outfit… I was like “no, way I’m wearing a puffer jacket with a pair of shorts!”:) a puffer here is definitely a survival necessity rather than a fashion statement🤣

    • @user-pk1ix1lb3y
      @user-pk1ix1lb3y 2 роки тому +34

      nah but even in other parts of the world for which occasion are you going to wear a bra, with shorts and a puffer jacket? like WHY 😂😂

    • @mackenziewilson470
      @mackenziewilson470 2 роки тому +2

      @@user-pk1ix1lb3y i agree but i also think it’s cute and like i want enough confidence to wear it even if it’s not logically sound.

    • @user-ju2ut2dj1l
      @user-ju2ut2dj1l 2 роки тому +2

      @@user-pk1ix1lb3y i’m from San Diego too and lots of people here style traditional winter garments as fashion pieces, especially if you can get them to not be too warm lol

    • @unicornL
      @unicornL 2 роки тому

      I lived in Wyoming and you ain't kidding

    • @riabouchinska
      @riabouchinska 2 роки тому +2

      @@user-pk1ix1lb3y I couldn't help thinking the same thing, like it's an adorable look but I just know that I would either be freezing or sweating to death

  • @dreamer_raelynn
    @dreamer_raelynn 2 роки тому +350

    Truly empowering, hope for all women to have the confidence to feel good in their own bodies

    • @user-hx8ee9ly3q
      @user-hx8ee9ly3q 2 роки тому +2

      Oh hi,, i havent come across the same pfp in a longggg time 😔

  • @maddieschweitzer
    @maddieschweitzer 2 роки тому +84

    Sierra: talking about her stomach showing & how she doesn’t love it all the time
    Me being shocked because that stomach JUST carried a baby and she looks SO GOOD

  • @nisipisa
    @nisipisa 2 роки тому +382

    this is such a sweet video

  • @sisiwx6154
    @sisiwx6154 2 роки тому +171

    I want to cry because the growth is truly something I need to hear. Even at almost 30, I care entirely too much about what people think about me and I should be over this shit.

    • @lilypowder1
      @lilypowder1 2 роки тому +5

      When society & others force their opinions of your body onto you, it can be difficult to break from that & change. Give yourself some grace 🤍

    • @sarahbreen9907
      @sarahbreen9907 2 роки тому +1

      i’m 34 and when i was about 14 i remember this feeling like i don’t care what ppl think about me or my body… i’m so thankful i was able to realize that early on! embrace your body and just love it 💚

    • @sarahfeefer
      @sarahfeefer 2 роки тому

      @@lilypowder1 SAME @SIS

    • @kathleen2958
      @kathleen2958 2 роки тому +2

      I’m working on it as well and I’m 33. But we will get there! You got this!

    • @rebeccacrash9272
      @rebeccacrash9272 2 роки тому

      I'm right there with you.

  • @hannahbrown9918
    @hannahbrown9918 2 роки тому +360

    I remember watching these videos🥺 watching your channel and going on this journey with you has been so incredible. Thank you for how much you’ve helped me be kind to my body💕

  • @hollymclees1824
    @hollymclees1824 2 роки тому +64

    I'm not trying to start a fight but.......I don't understand the first look. It's not because it's "unflattering", but what weather would you wear bike shorts, a sports bra and a puffer coat?

    • @CM-wf2uo
      @CM-wf2uo 2 роки тому

      😆😆

    • @johanna2690
      @johanna2690 2 роки тому +1

      Can you wash puffer jackets? I'm sure you would get sweat stains if you wear them in warm weather with nothing underneath

    • @cc1526
      @cc1526 2 роки тому +6

      California and Florida mostly. In those areas, it tends to be cool in the morning and evening and hot in the daytime. I’m assuming Sierra is like me and she tends to get cold on her arms before her legs. You can take a jacket on and off really easily, but changing from pants to shorts isn’t so simple. So when it’s in the high 60s in the morning, you throw on the jacket, when the sun comes up, you take the jacket off, and then when night rolls around, you can throw the jacket back on. It never gets cold enough to need pants, but the wind chill on your arms can kick up. Lol hopefully that makes sense.

    • @SarahRavenclaw
      @SarahRavenclaw 2 роки тому +4

      😂😂😂 I was thinking the same thing! Like I don’t care it’s unflattering but it’s just nonsensical!
      Like wearing a bikini top with snow pants. 😂

    • @SarahRavenclaw
      @SarahRavenclaw 2 роки тому +7

      @@cc1526 you wear a puffer jacket in high 60s???
      In the north we don’t break those out until it’s close to freezing. 😂 anything above 50 it’s weird if you’re wearing a winter coat at all!

  • @hannahkwit7905
    @hannahkwit7905 2 роки тому +51

    Ok the first outfit aesthetically was SO cute, but as a person from Wisconsin I’m struggling with the winter coat and shorts together 😂

    • @friedrice0408
      @friedrice0408 2 роки тому +2

      And no shirt, just a bra? It looks so cute but my Northeast born brain currently living in the midwest is like...if its warm enough that you don't need the puffer jacket, I would NEVER wear one. Maybe its because I get tired of it after wearing it for like 6 months out of the year.

    • @crazyowlgirlcncowner
      @crazyowlgirlcncowner 2 роки тому

      Lol as a Californian (southern California to be precise) it just makes sense here as street wear. Also sometimes it's not cold enough to cover up entirely with pants but there can be cold wind that a jacket may be needed. Also, I personally often get cold on my upper body but not my legs. Or you feel cold but the outfit is worth the discomfort due to the weather.

  • @Kelly-ib1hf
    @Kelly-ib1hf 2 роки тому +50

    This video proves that confidence is the most flattering thing you can wear. Please make merch that says this.

  • @helenanimocks
    @helenanimocks 2 роки тому +300

    As a curvy girl, I think u should keep the videos up. We all start somewhere & being able to dress in a way that was flattering my body is what made me begin to start feeling comfortable in my body & eventually led me to venture out of my comfort zone. Maybe you’ve grown out of that mindset, but some people out there are still there may need the boost of confidence that dressing that way could give them. Some see it as a toxic way of thinking, personally, I think it’s baby steps towards feeling confident in our curvy/bigger bodies.

    • @cc1526
      @cc1526 2 роки тому +37

      THIS. I’m really disappointed that she took those videos down because wearing “flattering” stuff is personally was makes me feel confident and her tips really helped me back in the day and even to this day I still agree with a lot of the tips for my body and I’m sure others do too.

    • @Tazzie1312
      @Tazzie1312 2 роки тому +16

      There are a million people out there who will tell you that you must abide by fashion rules. I think it's way better that Sierra recoginzed how toxic those videos could be and took them down.

    • @helenanimocks
      @helenanimocks 2 роки тому +12

      @@Tazzie1312 I get that, I totally do. But I also think it’s not always so black and white. This is just from my personal experience, some may agree, some may not. I was able to find confidence through videos like that, I know some others share that experience. I think her addressing it for being a toxic ideology is great, but I’m also not against leaving the videos up.

    • @cc1526
      @cc1526 2 роки тому +7

      @@Tazzie1312 but Sierra wasn’t “telling” us to do anything. The “wear this not that” was a clickbate title and she always said that if we disagree with her tips that we absolutely do not have to take her advice. She was sharing her tips on how to dress. You didn’t have to take her advice, but it was nice to have it if you did want it. That’s why there’s an x button. You can click off if you don’t like it or you find it “toxic” (way too strong of a word to describe a outfit UA-cam video if you ask me) but now that it’s deleted, we can’t see it anymore. That was all OP was saying. We just wish she had kept it up because it personally helped us gain more confidence.

    • @Shaybluejay
      @Shaybluejay 2 роки тому +5

      I feel the same, those videos helped me when I was trying to find my confidence and made me less scared to and find my style. Now I wear whatever but it was a big stepping stone.

  • @mirandasaunders90
    @mirandasaunders90 2 роки тому +18

    My favorite part about this video is how you were able to articulate how you have grown while still treating 2016 Sierra with such kindness. Love this and you so much!

  • @leonasamuel7791
    @leonasamuel7791 2 роки тому +87

    I don’t suppose this journey ever ends. I remember my “skinny” days and always thinking I needed to diet. I wish my friends would have told me how great I actually looked. Older me struggles with weight gain and my tummy. Sierra, you are the “friend” telling me I look great. And I am enough. My body is amazing and I can do and wear anything. I’m trying so hard to be Confident and Kind because so I can be a good example for my grandchildren. I want them to be happy and healthy and love themselves and all the other varieties of sizes of people. Thank you.

  • @caitlynhinojosa
    @caitlynhinojosa 2 роки тому +31

    I feel like my body confidence comes in waves and cycles; videos like this help me in my low points, when I find myself searching "black flowy dress" "defined waist dress", etc. I am at a low point again after gaining a lot of weight this past year and I just have to say thank you for being a positive influence in my life!🌼

  • @taylorrspeaking
    @taylorrspeaking 2 роки тому +65

    I really like your perspective. “It just is” is really where I’m trying to get with my own body. There are things I want to change but change doesn’t happen over night and there is no use in being negative about something that carries me through life.

    • @raining_trees
      @raining_trees 2 роки тому

      Body neutrality helped my relationship with my body more than body positivity! It's just a flesh bag that the real me lives in and uses. I don't have to be attractive or feel attractive to be worthy of love, patience, exercise, and a healthy diet!

  • @miaclaire4444
    @miaclaire4444 2 роки тому +41

    "It's not bad, it just is!" I love that, I feel for some the first part of self-love is accepting one's full self.

  • @treasure6883
    @treasure6883 2 роки тому +79

    I think your content back then was also for a specific type of “curvy” girl. A lot of women dont fall into that category. For me, my waist is actually the largest part of my body, my hips are smaller, and chest is similar to my waist. So I think your mentality change has pushed your content to be more self accepting, but also more inclusive! Love it :) cheers

  • @kaydeebenda5237
    @kaydeebenda5237 2 роки тому +28

    I watched a UA-cam video the other day where they were doing a haul. During a try on of a dress that was too small, she said “I need to size up or lose some weight in my stomach.” It immediately registered in my brain about how it’s so easy to fall into the “my body should fit clothes” rather than “the clothes should fit my body” that’s sierra for encouraging us all in body positivity and the issues with diet culture!

  • @Kate212
    @Kate212 2 роки тому +17

    I love this!! It’s so important to remember no one should dress to hide their bodies. My mom is plus size and I remember growing up she would always make comments on what she could or couldn’t wear to hide her stomach and she would hide in the back of pictures. I love seeing our generations changing these ideas.

  • @tatumcummins6
    @tatumcummins6 2 роки тому +2

    TW //// eating disorders
    sierra, I started to watch your videos in 2016. at the time, i was suffering from a major ED and my confidence was so low! over the years, with you it seems, my mindset of myself has completely changed. although i am still recovering from ED and will forever have to deal with some thoughts, i KNOW my worth now. i KNOW i deserve to love myself, my body, my mind. my mind, body does so much for me. instead of changing my body, i needed to change my perspective. i love you so much sierra! thank you for being open with us, vulnerable and an inspiration.

  • @marinamadrigal1970
    @marinamadrigal1970 2 роки тому +16

    This is crazy because the “dos and don’ts” video was what made me follow you! You’ve come so far since then. I’m really glad you made this video because I still keep the same flattering things you mentioned in that video in my current mindset but this video made me realize I don’t really need to and I can just follow the styles I want to now.

  • @hunnybunny400
    @hunnybunny400 2 роки тому +11

    “I think I’m a cute blob” is my new favorite thing to say about my jacket

  • @kclantz
    @kclantz 2 роки тому +9

    This made me so emotional. I have been clinging to those "tried and true" plus size don'ts for such a long time. This is so healing.

  • @meghangriffin8406
    @meghangriffin8406 2 роки тому +9

    I really needed this. I’m still learning to love my new postpartum body (even after 19 months) & this has helped me realize I can wear whatever I want. I don’t have to wear things that “flatter” my body. My body is my body & it created life & deserves to be loved.

  • @lindseyleggett7839
    @lindseyleggett7839 2 роки тому +4

    This brings tears to my eyes Sierra, because it's so thoughtful and so needed. Thank you for adding this video to your journey and for being open to having a conversation that doesn't condemn your growth, but recognizes it's impact. I'm grateful for the sense of body acceptance that this video emulates, and I think it provides some much needed joy and love to bodies that have been historically criticized and demonized.❣️

  • @byra26
    @byra26 2 роки тому +81

    Sierra if you like soft overalls, you need to try the hot shot onesie by free people. It is sooo comfortable, looks good on everyone I've ever seen it on, and feels so cool. You have to check it out!

  • @FeAngel98
    @FeAngel98 2 роки тому +17

    The do’s and don’ts videos are how I found your channel back in the day, they were good tips for where I was in my own journey as they were for you at the time.
    This is a great update, I feel like I’m growing in my style the way you have and long may the progress continue!
    I’m still not quite as brave as you but I hope to get there one day!
    Xx

  • @luqicharmz
    @luqicharmz 2 роки тому +17

    I’ve been on this journey with you for the last couple years and you’ve inspired me to accept my almost 40, birthed 2 kids self and a little droopy and squishy body.

  • @emmamoore5551
    @emmamoore5551 2 роки тому +5

    this video was so healing for me. i remember watching those 2016-17 videos as a sad, self-hating high-schooler desperate to feel more comfortable in my body. getting to watch this almost one year into eating disorder recovery makes me so proud of how far i have come and makes me so happy for how much growing you have done, too. i love that the 16 year olds following you get to look up to this mindset❤️

  • @tttaylor7675
    @tttaylor7675 2 роки тому +17

    I need this content today, I’ve worked so hard over the last six years to get to a place where I was super comfortable with my midsized body. Flash forward to the summer of 2021 and I had a medical emergency that almost took my life which led to some major weight gain and now it feels like im learning to love a whole new body. I say all this to say, thanks for all you do! Your content matters

    • @kathleen2958
      @kathleen2958 2 роки тому +1

      Glad you’re here and able to celebrate being alive.

    • @shenenigans2037
      @shenenigans2037 2 роки тому +1

      I'm right there with you! I put so much work into accepting my body the way it is (was, now), but developing a disability and all sorts of health issues has sent me on a rollercoaster. Mentally and physically. I feel good about my body right now, but feel really weird about the weight gain I know is coming. Changing medication and getting healthier is awesome, but apparently I'm not as okay with gaining weight as I'd thought. I'll get there, but I've got some mental hangups to get through first. We've got this. You're not alone! ❤

  • @irisiris3868
    @irisiris3868 2 роки тому +27

    Dear Sierra, i completely want you to feel validated with your feelings and your body perception, but i just wanted to say the light blue bodycon dress looks AMAZING on you.

  • @bdekeizer2015
    @bdekeizer2015 2 роки тому +9

    That dark blue flowy dress from the 2016 video (11:23) looked so cute on Sierra. I had very similar rules for myself at the time, I only wore fit and flare dresses, and it makes me a little sad to think about all the cute outfits and styles I didn't allow myself to partake in. I am trying so hard to be kinder to myself and my body today. Thank you Sierra for this reminder!

  • @Maria-tf2jy
    @Maria-tf2jy 2 роки тому +9

    Girl you’re brave for wearing the Harper’s Wild bralette as a top. I LOVE mine but it definitely shows my ~headlights~

  • @gmcrow1199
    @gmcrow1199 2 роки тому +16

    I've rewatched these videos and knew you would feel this way about them! Your growth is inspiring!

  • @nateawal176
    @nateawal176 2 роки тому +9

    Im almost crying while watching this video. I remember watching the first video that you showed and praying that you would see how amazing u look even in the 'don'ts'. Your growth is so noticeable

  • @amandaleighcooper
    @amandaleighcooper 2 роки тому +6

    SIERRA!!!!!!!! I’m at the end of the video and I’m sooooooooooo emotional. You’re so amazing. Thank you so much for your words. I will watch this video over and over and over again until it’s engraved in my brain. Your body is your body and your body is valid!!! And it doesn’t always have to look flattering!!! Ugh. I love you. Thank you for always giving us the best pep talks that we truly need. This is the type of video I can’t wait to show my daughter one day 🥲❤️

  • @vaskauzunova5997
    @vaskauzunova5997 2 роки тому +160

    I've been waiting forever for people to be ready to talk about the inherent fatphobia in the body positivity movement and the exclusion of "not-curvy" fat people. For a long time the conversation was "I'm not fat, I'm curvy" - which for one, makes you wonder "well then who's fat and why are you afraid to be fat"; and for two, moves the point to a really uncomfortable spot of "being fat is a bad thing". No, fat is an adjective. it really feels like saying "wow I'm tall, that's a bad thing".

    • @AloryHoni
      @AloryHoni 2 роки тому +6

      Youre right! I think "fat" sounds rude. But in fact its no different than "tall", "small" etc. Crazy how one word is the synonym die "unhealthy", "lazy", "not beautiful". I mean, the first one might bei true, but the others are just assumptions which are educated in our brains for a long time.

  • @sanne2299
    @sanne2299 2 роки тому +14

    I remember watching those videos. We all grow, times change and I’m so happy you feel so much more freedom now!

  • @k8con
    @k8con 2 роки тому +15

    been here for 5 of those years! and i remember when some of those from 2017 went live...
    crazy to see your development - thank you for evolving with us

  • @maledalies
    @maledalies 2 роки тому +7

    I remember watching the do's and dont's videos and EATING THEM UP, I'm so proud of how far you've come on your journey. I'm a few steps behind but you definitely inspire me, thank you Sierra

  • @emilybeantree
    @emilybeantree 2 роки тому +3

    The growth you’re sharing between these two videos is so, so encouraging. Not only does it make you a strong woman, but also a powerful mama. I genuinely think if my mom was more body positive to herself and me, we would have a better relationship with each other and our own selves.

  • @ashleyhuerta2692
    @ashleyhuerta2692 2 роки тому +33

    i appreciate this so much! i definitely adopted your perspective and i love how you are owning up to it. thank you for learning and teaching us!

  • @hannahcantrell430
    @hannahcantrell430 2 роки тому +6

    We have truly grown with you ♥️ I remember following your old videos to a t and now I cringed hearing the things you said!! It means a lot to be sitting here as a mid to plus sized woman in my crop top, tummy showing, and feeling adorable ♥️

  • @camillebean2659
    @camillebean2659 2 роки тому +2

    I’m also in my mid-twenties and have been a subscriber since 2016! This video makes me so happy; I feel like I’ve been on this journey with you. I found your videos because I was also in a phase where finding ANY clothes I felt confident in was a victory. Growing up in the 2000s as a curvy girl was a STRUGGLE! How you dressed in 2016 was a stop on the way to feeling confident in whatever clothes you like. Watching you over the years has helped me progress on that journey, thanks for bringing your subscribers along!!

  • @roastdinosaur8793
    @roastdinosaur8793 2 роки тому +4

    My motto for buying clothes has always been, “Do I like it? Yes. Then I wear it.” Regardless of what I “should” wear. I love this video - it is a breath of fresh air. I have struggled with how I feel about my body for a long time and still do, and this mindset is one of the only things I have been strict about sticking to for myself.

  • @chooseyourthoughts7692
    @chooseyourthoughts7692 2 роки тому +7

    Thank you for sharing your journey/growth with us Sierra! I for one definitely relate to HOW MUCH my mindset has changed since I was 19…yay for self love and growth and maturity🥰

  • @stefaniagironzuluaga1496
    @stefaniagironzuluaga1496 2 роки тому +4

    Reminding me that what ever I wear, it’s still the same body- really hit me. Whether or not I wear something that is form fitting I still have the same body. I think that’s something we always have to remind ourselves. Thank you sierra.

  • @annajardim3636
    @annajardim3636 2 роки тому +2

    I'm 29 and I've just realized I've been following you for that long... And we change! That's it! The "I don't have to wear only 'flattery' outfits to like what I'm wearing..." is the ultimate truth of growing up and 💕 ourselves.
    Love, from Brasil :)

  • @Aitherea
    @Aitherea 2 роки тому +12

    It's funny because a lot of the outfits past you said she "shouldnt" wear actually looked really good xD I'm glad you've grown and can be more free with your style c:

  • @elbo8867
    @elbo8867 2 роки тому +4

    I honestly really needed this video today. The idea that I can just wear what I want and it doesn't have to be "flattering" is so encouraging. Thank you so much, Sierra!

  • @Beccajoy9
    @Beccajoy9 2 роки тому +3

    I can see the growth in her. She has inspired me to try new clothing styles. Even if there out of a comfort zone.

  • @kaylimalenfant858
    @kaylimalenfant858 2 роки тому +1

    I've been there since near the beginning of your channel. I've been growing in my body confidence personally and you sharing your journey has helped me a lot. I've gained a fair amount of weight since the pandemic and you've reminded me to love my body in any size. You're the reason I started wearing high waisted jeans and not be self conscious about them hugging my stomach!! We all have stomachs! You and Carrie Day tons channels have been awesome for me. Keep doing you, Sierra 💕

  • @steff2437
    @steff2437 2 роки тому +1

    I began following your channel in early 2017 because I hadn't seen many bodies that looked like mine and your clothing hauls really gave me an idea of how clothes would fit on my body. Now, 5 years later, I am so thankful you made this video because I think many of us don't realize how much our bodies change and how our relationship with clothes is intertwined with how we view ourselves. I love how confident you have become and how open you've been to accept yourself at every size 🖤

  • @alliewinkleman7785
    @alliewinkleman7785 2 роки тому +3

    Love this so much Sierra! 1. I refuse to believe 2016 was 6 years ago lol 2. As someone who is 27, I look back at old pictures of myself in 2016 and I can remember thinking the same way of not wanting to wear something that didn't "flatter" me. I'm so much more confident in my body and appearance now even though it has changed a lot over the years. Still sometimes a struggle when I try something on that doesn't look like it used to look on me when I was a size 6, but my I'm not defined by my body size. Thank you for this video!

  • @adelynngrace2710
    @adelynngrace2710 2 роки тому +9

    The growth you've had over the years is incredible!! It's so refreshing to see! You are such an encouragement... our world today needs to see this!

  • @jadeestrella1117
    @jadeestrella1117 2 роки тому +1

    The amount of peace and calmness your videos and energy make me feel is so comforting; you create such a safe space to be apart of. Thank you Sierra

  • @mikaelag3544
    @mikaelag3544 2 роки тому +1

    The way you talk about clothing and bodies resonated with ALL SHAPES I’m so thankful I found your channel a few years ago and love the growth 💗

  • @lenaschneider549
    @lenaschneider549 2 роки тому +3

    I literally been with you since 2016 and this was one of the first videos I watched from you. It’s weird to look back now and see how we all changed and became confident in our body’s

  • @jennybachmann9047
    @jennybachmann9047 2 роки тому +3

    I love the message that the most flattering thing for your body is confidence and you exude confidence and love in every outfit you are wearing. And I really love the idea of cherishing your body as it is. What I have a hard time wrapping my head around is the follwoing: how is letting my body expand by 30, 40, 50 pounds a sign that I cherish it? Sure, I can still be confident in that body and love it once I have arrived at that weight, but since I know that too much excess weight carries a health risk, isn't it negligent of me to let myself get to that point? I have gained 20 pounds from 21 to 31 (and I wasn't super skinny to begin with) and most I can chalk up to filling out my figure and curves as woman usually do. But a part of that is also eating more crap. I have found my peace with the body I have now and since I am currently pregnant, I know the coming changes are to make my body strong and ready for carrying and nourishing a child. But if I end up with plus 40 or 50 pounds, I believe my goal should still be to lose some of that excess rather than just saying that I love myself in every shape. I might love myself in that shape, but is it diet culture or body negativity to want to go back to a weight I enjoyed?

    • @sirirah
      @sirirah 2 роки тому +1

      I think the main point is doing what makes *you* happy rather than conforming to what society expects of you, trying to be thin or look thinner because of what others might think. Personally I like the idea of body neutrality, fat or thin or inbetween our bodies just are. There's nothing inherently good or bad about any of those things. Both thin and fat people can face health problems, and in fact some studies have shown that overweight and obese people can survive health problems like strokes, cancer, pneumonia, etc. better than thinner people. So, if you want to lose weight because you feel good and healthy at that lower weight, go ahead! The main thing is not placing those expectations and ideas on others for not doing the same if they don't want to.

  • @meganhack3561
    @meganhack3561 2 роки тому +2

    This video genuinely made me tear up. I’ve been watching since 2017- and not only have you come so far, but you’ve helped so many people along the way 🥺❤️

  • @victoriaangelinahernandez
    @victoriaangelinahernandez 2 роки тому

    I haven't been watching your videos for a long time, only about a year or two, and I've even noticed in that timeframe how much more positively you talk about and view your body and it's amazing. You've helped me to be more confident in my body, and I now wear things that I never would have even considered a couple years ago, and love wearing them! Thank you so much for sharing your journey with us ❤️

  • @kg6991
    @kg6991 2 роки тому +3

    I found your “dos and donts” videos back in 2016 when I was going through a similar phase! You’ve helped me grow and love my body as it changed over the years. Schultzzie Stan for lyfe ❤️

  • @alenak7088
    @alenak7088 2 роки тому +29

    off topic but…. Sierra your hair is AMAZING!! I hope baby grace gets your good hair genes lolll

    • @misseselise3864
      @misseselise3864 2 роки тому +4

      ikr 🥺 grace running around with a full head of curly hair is so cute to think about

  • @lii8406
    @lii8406 2 роки тому +1

    so happy you made this video!! i've recently been changing my mindset abt this stuff too and it's so fun to see you just enjoying fashion instead of feeling the all-too-familiar pressure to only wear Flattering clothes. loveeee the puffer jacket/bike shorts/crop top look, i wanna wear something similar this spring!! appreciate your vids a lot

  • @montanahoffman863
    @montanahoffman863 2 роки тому +1

    Sierra, so thankful to have followed along with you for this journey! Thank you for reminding us all to be gentle with ourselves and for encouraging so much growth!❤️

  • @arinrohrbach9613
    @arinrohrbach9613 2 роки тому +31

    I actually appreciate videos that help flatter my body shape. I totally agree to wear whatever you want, but for me I just don’t feel good in clothes that make me look bigger or frumpy. I am all about wearing whatever makes me feel good and look good. I don’t really seeing that as shaming but highlighting the things I feel
    confident about.

  • @MissFreyja
    @MissFreyja 2 роки тому +37

    Love the growth, love the direct confrontation of fatphobia. Honestly the work of an adult is unlearning all the BS we were soaked in as children and teens one step at a time.

  • @daianarutolo3068
    @daianarutolo3068 2 роки тому

    Half through the video I started crying because I see my self so "seen". Like I've been there, done that with the whole "Dos and Don'ts" I just need to thank you Sierra so so so so much for opening my eyes. Since I found your channel three years ago I've been able to accept my body, and be confident and comfortable with it.
    Thanks again ♡
    Lots of love and blessings for you, Steven, and little Grace ♡

  • @kaylla_x7829
    @kaylla_x7829 2 роки тому

    ive been watching you since 2016, and that dos and dont video with the crop top was the first video i saw of yours. seeing you make this now makes my heart happy. you're inspirational!

  • @Voraii
    @Voraii 2 роки тому +5

    You looked so pretty in those past videos too, in all the don'ts the outfits looked great. Its wonderful that you've come so far to accept yourself.

  • @madisontracey
    @madisontracey 2 роки тому +4

    I am so incredibly proud of your growth!! This is an amazing video, and it gave me so many reminders I needed to hear 🤍

  • @kelseyspolejourney5417
    @kelseyspolejourney5417 2 роки тому +2

    Love this reflection, and love that I've been on this journey with you for almost the whole 7 years!

  • @brittanyharding8908
    @brittanyharding8908 2 роки тому +1

    I've been watching you since 2017 and you've helped me so much in my journey towards accepting my body and wearing what I want to wear and not caring about what anyone else thinks.

  • @maybevic6167
    @maybevic6167 2 роки тому +4

    My mother needs to see this video, every time I try to go out wearing an outfit thats not necessarily as flattering on my body type as it could possibly be, whether that be bodycon on the lower part of my body, or baggy / bulky all over, she forbids me from leaving the house in that outfit and just straight up insults me by telling me I look "frumpy" or "like a tent" :(

  • @JuliaDouglasLove
    @JuliaDouglasLove 2 роки тому +14

    I'm so curious if young Sierra would've been relieved or terrified by seeing these photos

  • @janaexo6633
    @janaexo6633 2 роки тому +1

    I was obsessed with ur 2016 videos about fashion for " my size " and now you got me thinking how harsh I probably was on my self cause we thought it "was normal" I love to see this growth 💛

  • @ondreeuhlace
    @ondreeuhlace Рік тому +1

    "That doesnt actually change my body, it just changes the PERCEPTION of it" You worded that SO WELL!!! PREACH 🙌🙌🙌 Thank you for this!!

  • @0Yazz
    @0Yazz 2 роки тому +7

    This video brought me to tears... your mindset is so perfect because it's forgiving of your old fatphobic thought patterns/habits but also pushing for body positivity. I think I'm the same way... most days I'm like "my body is what it is and it's just my vehicle through life" and then I have some darker days too... it's nice to know it's ok to fall off the wagon mentally every now and then.. old habits really do die hard. I love your content ❤

  • @dynorawrgirl
    @dynorawrgirl 2 роки тому +5

    I love this idea! But as a person from the Northeast, I had to laugh at the puffer with the shorts. Puffers are for winter... my brain could not process that 😂still cute though! I might just pair it with ski pants lol

  • @bclaire466
    @bclaire466 2 роки тому

    SIERRA YOU ARE SO BRILLIANT! Your honesty and transparency was sooo welcomed. I really appreciated how you were honest about not being 100% there with the body con dress but that you were working through it, that resonated so much. It’s so lovely to see how far you’ve come and you are such an inspiration and alwaysssss help me feel more lighthearted about how I look!! Every outfit was so cute and I LOVE the pink puffer jacket 🥺

  • @justagirl...
    @justagirl... 2 роки тому

    I really appreciate you sharing the stuff you still struggle with. It shows you pushing past your comfort zone and shows how loving yourself is a journey.

  • @carliekoppenhafer239
    @carliekoppenhafer239 2 роки тому +7

    Do I love the puffer jacket look... absolutely! Do I think Sierra looks amazing... yes! Do I as a Midwestern human not understand when you would wear it (because cold weather coat and shorts)...

  • @kyairamarbury
    @kyairamarbury 2 роки тому +6

    I don’t really understand wearing something that is unflattering just to do it. I thought the point of fashion was to have style and wear what you are comfortable in that’s flattering for your body type. There are items that are unflattering on skinny women that look amazing on bigger women. Sierra actually helped me realize just how much style plays a part in how flattering you look. I guess it depends on what your definition of flattering is.

    • @Tazzie1312
      @Tazzie1312 2 роки тому

      What makes something """unflattering"""?
      How does a person look ""flattering""?

    • @cjdm39
      @cjdm39 2 роки тому

      I think “flattering” is subjective and depends on someone’s taste and confidence

  • @WithLoveKristina
    @WithLoveKristina 2 роки тому

    Sierra, it has been SO amazing watching you grow; the self love you fight for, the body acceptance, I adore it. I saw your videos back when you were all about flattering, and thought you were cute but like... now? You're GLOWING. The love you show yourself and the positivity you spread is absolutely breathtaking and empowering.
    Thank you for sharing yourself so truly, we all love to see it!

  • @Keilahann24
    @Keilahann24 2 роки тому

    Watching this video made me really tear up. I've been watching your videos for years and it is amazing to see your progress towards self love. It hits close to home as I remember watching your old videos mentioned in this video and videos like them trying to make my outfits as "flattering" as possible. I'm so happy that you have been open about this topic because it shows how much happier you are, which is so heart-warming, but also makes people who have ever struggled with body image issues feel like we're not alone. Keep doing what you're doing and I can't wait to see how your journey continues.

  • @erikaplante-jean7745
    @erikaplante-jean7745 2 роки тому +4

    The coat with shorts is probably an LA thing. Here in Canada, we wear coats when it's cold, so not witb shorts

  • @NoelMartinezR
    @NoelMartinezR 2 роки тому +13

    I LOVE the way the light blue dress looks on you! literally stunning.

  • @kyrabrown8839
    @kyrabrown8839 2 роки тому +2

    I haven’t been with you the whole way but just in the last two or so years I’ve been watching I’ve seen such tremendous growth and I am so happy to see how comfortable you are with your body. I have definitely taken inspiration from you and have found some clothes I would have never considered wearing before that I absolutely love wearing now.

  • @memorysdancer
    @memorysdancer 2 роки тому +2

    I've been following you and your journey for a long long time and I remember your old videos so clearly! You are such an inspiration! I recently looked back at some of your old content and it was such a joy to see the growth! I was really hoping you would do a video like this and I'm so glad that you did! So proud to have followed along on your journey!