Sweet and Spicy Mom
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- Опубліковано 4 кві 2022
- Charles is bringing April to court for an increase in child support. April is currently paying minimum wage support and says she cannot afford an increase due to being in debt and paying for her bipolar medication.
As someone who is and has bipolar run in the family line, being bipolar does not justify physical or mentally abusing anyone ever. It was her choice to have a physical altercations not her bipolar, she alone is responsible for her mental upkeep and she should have been aware of her mental health in the moment and practiced coping skills to handle the situation safely. It offends me when people blame bad behavior on bipolar, it contributes to the stigma to the mental illness.
Facts!
They were probably both abusive. He was financially and emotionally abusive, you can tell that just from this clip, he used to not buy her medication, he used to leave her to do the majority of the childcare, and he has recently sold her a faulty car. She used to hit him. It's all abuse. It's good they are not together anymore, their relationship was obviously toxic.
Exactly. Let's of people use bipolar as an excuse to act a fool. That is the reason why they have to take their meds and gave coping mechanisms.
Okay well not everyone had healthy coping mechanism and sometimes the disease does get the better of you, and you don’t have HER bipolar… or her temperament- bipolar people aren’t a monolith, sighed someone with adhd, bpd, and anxiety. Not saying violence is ever okay, not saying she was justified, but u inserting yourself into the equation of her life and her emotional maturity is downright obnoxious and dogmatic.
As a war veteran, I struggle with PTSD. You are right that it is our responsibility to take care of ourselves. Self-care mentally is important. For a couple of years, I was in total denial that I can handle myself just fine. But if you don't take care of yourself mentally you will break down.
Him getting anxious seeing her foot tapping is a huge trauma response if I've ever seen one... I hope this man is doing better and has found better in his life
I noticed that, too. I always say, "you never know a person until you live w/them". He knows her!
I’m amazed how many men have stepped up and are raising these children. It warms my heart to see it.
I wished my dad had been one of those men.
So a women would have stepped aside to raise kids
The judge should’ve thrown the book at her immediately when she confessed to domestic violence. Treat men victims the same way women victims are treated. 🤦🏽♀️
Where do you like to go on the weekends? I’m just trying to figure out where i can find myself a woman like you. PREACH IT
agreed 100%
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OH NOW 😅
Yes please.
"I don't need your defense because I didn't need her story" that is so true. The lady blamed him for everything. Take responsibility
i kinda get it but i do believe her story should matter. i am all for parents needing to help support their children but not taking into account other things in their lives is wrong. if she has debt shes working to pay off fixing a car etc taking almost a thousand from her could result in her not having power or gas to work or money to pay rent etc. thats wrong imo
@@anthonyruiz8519 So we shouldn't hold people to their financial responsibility as parents because they have proven to be financially irresponsible by racking up large amounts of debt?
She has no explanation as for why she quit her minimum wage job but left without anything else lined up, relyed on credit and built up debt and now she wants to be cut a break on her child support obligations so she can save up money to pay off her debt.
See unfortunately considering someone's debt is irrelevant in child support cases, your support obligations are based on your income so even if she was allowed a grace period to take care of her debt she would just be accumulating more debt in the back payments on support from the date of the ruling
@@anthonyruiz8519 she needs to pay her debt yes but the kids come first so they should not miss out because the mother has debts... she needs to pay up...
@@tylergartner4069 She actually explained that her husband refused to buy her medication that she needs to manage her mental health condition. I believe it is relatively obvious with that information why she quit her job, and I believe that he should be considered an abuser in this scenario.
@@nellysmith6006 "he let my medication..... well I was off my meds and he said he couldn't afford to cover my medication"
It's convenient that everything is his fault, notice how she claimed the reason she went upside his head was because the child was crying all day and he wasn't giving her enough help. Then when the judge asked if was an isolated incident and the husband clarified it wasn't suddenly the story changed to it being because she was off her medication.
Seems to me she's just allergic to accountability, her debts are his fault, her violent outbursts are because she's bipolar and he's not helping her enough but then they're actually because she was off her meds and that also wasn't her fault because he couldn't afford to pay for them....
“This lady did that? She looks so sweet” her face 😂
Those are the ones that beat yo ass when nobody's looking!!
People who use their mental illness as an excuse for abuse and being an all around horrible human disgust me. I also have BPD and I don’t just go around physically abusing my partner on my bad days.
Right
Yup
I agree with you and I have bipolar and I don't do that
I to have bpc and I never have at any time hit or hurt my husband. I've had it for years,I take my meds every day
Same here. It's like "the devil made me do it".
"He's a fine looking man."
"He's a nice looking guy."
The speed at which she said that had me dying!🤣
Eye of the beholder . But he's very ugly emotionally bc you can tell he drug her through the mud. Sickness and in health. Bipolar is Sickness. So he should have been there for her.
Time stamp?
@@Shade557first one was 3:16
@@Shade557oh and the second quote comes from the judge right after maybe 3:19
Well he is a handsome man fr
Why haven't they given Judge Vonda a TV channel yet???
Is that a real court?
@@taeggukvlog nah
Heard they working on one
I don't think they will give her a channel but maybe a TV program
They need to, I'm sick of Judge Mathis, always have Bitter Single Mothers, he always downgrade all Black Fathers down when it comes to Child Support, he never had any Single Dads Cases.
Judge Vonda is a class act. Treats everybody with dignity and tolerates no disrespect.
It’s called acting.
I scratch my head every time I hear ppl say "...umm about this much or around that much," they should know exactly what a cost they pay is...bring receipts should be mandatory 😤
i agree but these are just scenarios and actors so that’s why it’s not as official as it should be
@@ilianamartinez3658 I was about to ask is this real because should they have proof of all this
Yes agreed they should have to bring proof of the things not being mean but people can easily lie about something like that and the proof should have to be shown on paper of what they are paying
Oh man it's a pet peeve for me
That was such a civilised hearing !!! I mean yes there were disagreements, but no yelling!?!? Wow . All the best to this beautiful little girl in her ballet .
I absolutely despise when people use Bipolar Disorder as a reason to act like a fool. That is such a cop out.
I think she mentioned it, because her partner was stealing/hiding/witholding her medication.
@@nellysmith6006 neither he couldnt afford it
@@Leo42.069 he was in charge of the finances and didn't give her the money to buy her the medication for her mental health condition, so that she would become unstable and he could use that instability as an excuse for having full custody, and then claiming child support. He was just manipulative.
@@nellysmith6006 bro you cant give someone money you dont have plus she should be working to get money even if its just enough for her medicine as everyone in chat who says they have bpd it is no one's responsibility but hers that she stays medicated
My mom does it all the time and will use as an excuse to belittle people and wanna fight people.
She went up side my head for not heating my food in the microwave 😭😭😭😭
yeah we deal with that and get called pussies for being hit by a woman
She probably went upside his shit in the parking lot.
Probably
"I said put my food in the mf microwave it's cold"!🤣 (Throws plate upside dude head like color purple 😂)
I didn’t mean to laugh at that part but it was the way he said it with the face expression 😂😂😂😂
That look at her foot moving she on gave that man PTSD
He looks nervous the whole time.
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Right
Even giving an excuse for physical abuse is disgusting… the only words she should be speaking is an apology. There’s never an excuse
They are both abusive to each other in different way. The relationship was a dumpster fire, but she's not the only one at fault. Witholding someone's medication is also abusive.
@@nellysmith6006 💯 and there is a VERY clear relationship between her condition being adequately treated, her symptoms, and what he alleges as abuse.
I agree an apology and follow it up with permanently changed behavior. Bc unless they mean it an apology is just words.
@@brianawhittaker8152 Praying you never need medication to live and can't get access to it.
Now, that father there is a very handsome man. But I hate how she tried to use those tears and that sad face to get some sympathy from Judge Vonda. It didn't work. She needs to pay that child support and get her life together.
“Was it a isolated incident”
“huh” 💀
I came for this 😂😂
My ex wife suffers from bipolar disorder and it caused extreme harm to our children and myself. It got to the point I had to divorce and take the kids. This was in a time before Bipolar was even a thing. Today it's much better for her so long as she is on her medication. She had brutal highs and suicidal lows. She came close to ending our children's lives a couple of times. That's when I got out of marriage and took the kids. It was so bad her own lawyer wanted me to get the kids. Don't worry as the kids are fully grown and doing excellent. I have three grand children. My ex wife is not allowed around the grand children ever. Thankfully the ex got the help she needed and is doing well and lives alone. She will never have a relationship by her choice. If you know anyone suffer from bipolar disorder please get help.
My god, thanks for sharing your story. I just learned a lot. I’m glad your children had you, and your ex eventually received the help she needed.
I would never hurt my baby and I'm bipolar but when I was unmedicated before I knew, I had bad hallucinations and paranoia so hopefully she got the help she needed. Sounds like more is going on as well but I'm happy for you and your kids. Does she talk to them at all?
@@mmokuso I get along with my ex very well. She called me yesterday for some advise. My son has a limited relationship with his mom. My daughter has three children and has no contact with the ex by her choice. The ex is ok with this arrangement and is doing well. I can hold decent conversations with the ex and I know when to either change the topic or end the exchange before she goes into her usual ranting. I can tell if she skips her meds but she rarely does that as she doesn't like herself from it. She can't keep frends or even get along with her own family. She is not a bad or evil person at all. She simply gets confused with her emotions like she is on overdrive. There is no middle ground once she gets an idea in her mind she has a difficult time understanding how to change or let it go. It wasn't all bad all of the time but when it went wrong it was definitely a struggle as she could see the harm but couldn't stop herself from her mission to make everyone see it her way. That's why many people have a hard time being around her as her behavior can be disturbing. The good news now that she is much older and understands how her thought process was off kilter she is aware and is on proper medication and is living her best life. I'm actually very proud of her for being able to defuse her own behavior. She has the ability to slow down and think about things and what's the best outcome where before she just bullied her way through. The best news for bipolar sufferers which has many different levels there is help if you find the right doctor and choose to listen and learn.
@@BuellXB12SDucati1198 good for her I'll keep all of you in my prayers. I hope my illness never gets that hard for me :/
So your perfect? Everyone deals with her when it's convenient for them. But if anything happens to her I can tell you now a lot of y'all have to check your own flaws? So are your children punishing her because of the disease and she has no choice other to agree not to go around people.
What’s sad is that the first thing out of the judges mouth when he said she was abuse was basically “she looks to nice to hit you”…. Unfortunately women can abuse men just the same
I think she was being sarcastic. At least, I hope so. 😩😩
True. And financial abuse is still abuse. Witholding a mentally ill person medication is extremely abusive behaviour.
@@nellysmith6006 it wasnt tho he just couldnt afford it
"She looks so sweet".... Lmao.🤣🤣😂..looks can be deceiving.
As a mother that has a child with the same issue doesn't really give her any reason to do what she has but she's deflecting using her issue as an excuse. Smh pathetic the length she is going to.
The difference is her loved one was not responsible and was witholding the medication. This is also abuse.
Omg I love Judge VondaB!!! She’s so funny and doesn’t play no games. I love it 🥰
I have bipolar. All I hear are excuses of pity poor me from her. She’s responsible for her actions. Nobody but her.
How much these people have to pay amazes me! I received maybe a quarter of that and sometimes nothing. He didn’t even start to pay child support until he was 4 or 5. I always told his dad it wasn’t enough. You have school supplies, field trips, lunch money, clothes, sports and whatever else. Nothing is cheap. My son is 21 now. Time flies and ur kid is a grown up before you know it ❤️
Having a partner with mental health issuses is emotionally draining and can get to a stage you just can't cope with them anymore for your and your children's health. Sad but true
Watching this the last few of my lunch break😂
Same! I was walking back holding my phone trying to finish the video
ME TOOO BRO
Restaurant manager is a high stress job,and she’s Bipolar?!
That’s what I thought !!!
Waiting! These 10 minutes better hurry up. My lunch break is starting ha
😅glad I’m not the only one on my lunch break
🤣 oh man do I feel you on this… I’m a truck driver and I’m out here thinking hurry up I gotta get back on the road…
I know someone who takes their child one day a week and doesn't pay support. They balked at being asked for 50 dollars a month for clothing and will only give it if they get a receipt. I looked up how much he should be paying in child support and it is close to 700 dollars. I just shook my head and thought he needs to be dragged into court if he thinks 50 dollars a month is too much to pay.
Does the other parent ask for child suplort
@@Francofit When they first separated it was supposed to be 50/50 custody (3 days with the child and then the next week 4 days). Each would pay for what the child needed. Then it dropped to one day a week (usually it is about 3 days a month they see their child). I suspect looking after a toddler half of the week was too daunting.
@@shannonbrice8012 -This happened with my ex. As soon as I had our child 95% I went straight to court for full custody and support. What is stopping this mother from doing the same? If she isn’t going to take him to court then she can’t complain. Once he is ordered getting behind will have ramifications like jail time or losing his dr. License
My ex husband didnt start paying child support until my daughter was 13 years old, he was court ordered to pay starting at 3 months. The amount was only $80 per month, and he always used his younger children as a reason not to pay. he also changed jobs to get out of paying. It was ridiculous.
My stepdaughter’s mother just started paying child support that has been in arrears for years. My stepdaughter is 30.
Judge I love your court show. I’ve always heard Family Court is very hard. You really make the law easy to understand
I'm starting a Judge Vonda B drinking game. Take a drink every time someone says their child is in ballet.
Or, if every time the man says he's a rapper. 😂😂
Little Darryl wanted some help 😔
Bye 😭😭😭😭😭😭
Man 🤣🤣🤣
ive been watching for a week and now im hooked :)
Welcome to the Judge Vonda B. Family 👩🏾⚖️❤👀🍿☕
Just remember it's actually not a real courtroom.
They are all actors and she isn't a judge, just making sure
@@stevenazilazian7248 yesh i know its still entertaining
Judge Vonda gives me Judge Mablean vibes 😉.
"I have bipolar your honor" girl, I have bpd and so much other shit but I'm not abusing my friends or family. Just because you have bipolar doesn't give you a free pass to be abusive. I've also had to be on and off so many meds, where withdrawal would make me miserable. But again I wouldn't take it out on my friends or family. You chose to put your hands on him your bipolar didn't.
Not let a MAN try to make those excuses for abuse... He'd be in PRISON.
There is ZERO excuse to put your hands on someone
Bi-polar! She on the good side at court😇, but at home shes🤬
That how con artists do👹🤛🏾💯
That girl is broken. She needs help. It doesn't dismiss the fact that she needs to pay appropriate child support, but she needs help for her mental health.
She makes so much more than most people I know with two degrees...!
50k up from minimum wage and she’s complaining
She sounds absurd 🤡🤛🏾
As someone who has been with a bipolar person. It’s scary especially when they aren’t on medication. I think the medication doesn’t even do anything at times because they can really manipulate and destroy yourself. They are very manipulative and 2 faced. I still can’t get rid of them.
I also dated someone bipolar and had the complete opposite experience. You just dated a shitty person. People with mental health issues are more likely to be victims of abuse than abusers. That being said I’m still sorry for all of the pain and potential trauma that they may have caused you and I hope you’re able to heal.
@@mackenziek830 I’m glad it’s only my experience with them because now I’m actually afraid to even go near one to friend them. I don’t want to discriminate so I definitely need to work in it (:
It's not discrimination it's keeping yourself safe. Don't feel bad at all.
no no feel bad lol mental illness is a spectrum the people you dealt with were unstable and whatever qualities came with that but to slap that label on every bipolar individual is childish yes you went through something whatever that is you can go get that fixed though and learn to cope and move along
@ominouscherub you sound the like type of person who would go piss a bear off and be upset it mauled you
Ladies never put your hands ✋️ on no man. She needs some counseling and guidance.
I’m so glad he didn’t hit her back… he would have been 💀 for self defense and she would have got off free
I wish we could see more of her court cases. It's been a minute since a new episode posted. 😔
I have bipolar 1 as well as PTSD and sensory processing disorder and I NEVER put my hands on anyone regardless of my state of mind. too many people use mental health as an excuse to do things that’s are NOT okay to do
Ha! The minute he said she went upside his head I KNEW BPD was involved!! Dude, do ANYthing else to take care of your kid without her help, stay away from this lady and RUNNNN!!!!
got me in here watching these episodes in class😄
Judge Vonda B’s hair always looks amazing
I dealt with the exact same things from my daughters mother. It is really hard out here.
Being bipolar is not an excuse to assault anyone..i am bipolar and it’s up to you to make sure you do what you need to do.. he’s not obligated to pay for her medication
I think both the parents should be responsible for half the insurance and uncovered costs . It's ridiculous that only one parent should have insurance. I think they both need Insurance
i dont understand that either, when the judge said that with the insurance it was going up to 900 i was like what bout the guy? isnt he going to pay half?
@@ultimateevilz8937 in the state of texas apparently the person paying child support pays for insurance unless agreed with the other side
Judge: Can mom attend any....
Guy: No.
😂😂😂😂
I love how far they went to justify the domestic abuse 😂
I mean stealing a bipolar persons medication is kind of abusive.
@@nellysmith6006 bro didnt steal it he couldnt afford it
I LOVE this show ♥️
Yes, I agree. She's a great judge. I'd love to see her on TV.
Judge B hit them tax numbers super hard! Good lorrttttt!
She looked embarrassed that she has to have supervised visits and as they should with her bipolar disorder wouldn’t want the kid to get the same treatment the dad did
😂😂😂😂😂 he is so afraid of her 😂😂 he's watching her every move. That one hit trained him 😂😂😂
I agree with a comment someone else said. I’m bipolar as well. I’m on meds. If I feel my temper getting to a breaking point, I walk away to get it under control.
She always says eckscra 🤣😆🤣
My hubby is diagnosed Bipolar and has really really bad days, ya know what he does when that happens? He blares music and does his best not to communicate with me beyond text messages because he knows he gets loud and it makes me nervous due to how i was raised. He doesn't take meds. He simply does his best to be aware and not take it out on me. if you can't control your hands due to bipolar or not, you need to put forward more effort before getting into a relationship unless the person your with is Capable of helping you with that.
How much you wanna bet she wanted to slap him in the head..🤣🤣🤣🤣
“Acted out”? Ma’am, how old are you? Smh. And she’s blaming him for not having her own meds? That’s your responsibility. This is sad.
She did and is taking responsibility for her mental illness. She's taking medication and when a person stops medication for a mental illness such as bipolar disorder it can cause extreme highs and lows beyond he or she's control.
This couple seems really sweet. They both are honest and didn’t argue about anything despite mom being bi polar. She was honest about that and got a better job. I believe these two could end up back together and not be in this tough situation anymore
She was abusive...
God I hope he doesn't end up back with her psycho ass
She was so abusive she has to have supervised visits. If a spouse hits, smacks, throws things or is violent; the other partner should not get back together. If he gets back together with her the child should be removed from their custody.
They are both actors, all of the cases are actors and she isn't even a judge, look it up
@@stevenazilazian7248 yes we know. It is also taken from real court cases
He needs to be checking to make sure he still there
Ever since I found out these aren't real, it just don't hit the same.😭 Still love your channel though Miss Vonda.💕
don't ruin it for the rest of us lol 😅😂😊
@@shamekacollier1323 lol I'm sorry😭it says it in her description on her channel tho lol
I'm totally joking 😆
Even though it’s scripted, it does hit very real life situations. I find it interesting that in Texas they require Medicaid for a child be repaid. I think that’s brilliant!
Thanks for ruining it for me!
This was a pretty calm episode!
Three weeks too long! I get so excited when I see judge post a video! Lol
Word ! And then the case is short as hell
The judge this lady right here she look so sweet. I read between the lines
Are support obligations not adjusted if the person has a chronic illness that impacts their finances? Or does the formula for establishing the monthly payment already take that into account to make sure the non-custodial parent is left with enough for those kinds of needs?
I don't need your defense because I didn't need her story. 🤣🤣🤣
IT IS ABUSE TO withhold ppl medication
The car though me for a loop... 😂
Child support is top priority
Girl that car has nothing to do with your daughter!
why isnt the insurance split? why does she has to pay all of the insurance?
Why does mom have to pay back 100% of health care? Shouldn't it be 50/50 since its both of their child?
i don’t understand why the health insurance isn’t split between the two parents
Why should he be responsible for buying your medication when you work...
Yeah ...I know that hell ...and she was never held accountable for anything ...
How come she sometimes gives credit to the parent for insurance and other times has them reimburse separate from child support?
Judge Vonda B always looking stunning!
Indeed 👩🏾⚖️❤
Her facial expressions makes me love her more 😊
I don't understand why they never look at the judge. y the hell r u looking at him, ma'am?! ugh is it me?? lol
I love this show
Hey ms.vonda stay blessed 🙌 😇 🙏
Why is it, in some cases the health insurance is split and some the non-custodial parents pay all of it? Weird!?
This one took me out🤣🤣🤣🤣
He looks crazy too. He's putting on an act!! I can see straight through him!!
I have bi polar. Before I was diagnosed with it I would have terrible mood swings and normal things would be not right and I would perform and think what I was doing was right. Then when my mood would start going back to normal I would realise that what I did was wrong and feel so bad.
I am now on medication and read and did a lot of research on the sickness and came to understand it. So I know where this young girl is coming from.😢
She going to whoop his ass after court😂😂😂
The first case I’ve seen where I feel for both.
I think she only took her meds that day in court to sweet talk the judge 🤣🤣🤣 why whenever women get judgements for child support you always want to ask if the man works or say that isnt fair. Now yall know how men feel huh 🤣🤣🤣
Imagine a world of actual equality. . If he “Went upside her head” this dude’s life would have crumbled.
That's why I am thinking about not getting into a relationship or anything else because of situations like this
The American education system should be so proud. The judge needed to explain what isolated meant.
I empathize as someone who is married to someone with bipolar 1. It’s hard but I never feel in danger. She needs to work with him in therapy to repair the relationship. I know what he meant when he talked about her leg shaking, I know the concern that comes with that. It’s not easy living with bipolar disorder or living with someone with bipolar disorder but I feel if the love is real and for the sake of the child I think the effort is well worth it. I hope they work it out.
Why? She is actually abusive. She has supervised visits meaning she is a danger. You would not say that about a female being abused.