I Have Social Anxiety and This is My Story

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  • Опубліковано 4 лис 2024

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  • @TheRetroEngine
    @TheRetroEngine 7 місяців тому +1

    You are brave, sir, for getting through to pressing the record button. And stopping soda, well done. I am lucky and don't suffer from social anxiety though I get nervous about certain situations - like presentation to over five people.
    And I watch your live streams. As long as you're alive and happy, that's all that matters, do what you do.

  • @drippyent6872
    @drippyent6872 3 роки тому +34

    Has anyone have that terrible feeling whenever the teachers tell other students to pick out their partners?

    • @jalexsilva8162
      @jalexsilva8162 3 роки тому +7

      That was terrible in my school times

    • @greentorm5467
      @greentorm5467 3 роки тому +5

      It's unnecessary...Ive wondered if it's a way for teachers to see dynamics between students but it's excruciating for the kid at the end.

    • @doovplayz
      @doovplayz Рік тому +1

      @@greentorm5467I’m 2 years late but I hated that shit. I’m still traumatized by it

  • @Mirmu.
    @Mirmu. 6 років тому +51

    Yep social anxiety is life crippling. Constant negative thoughts and self-doubt gnawing at you everyday, i'm 28 and i don't even have a license because of it. And like these other guys said you're not alone

    • @IntellivisionDudeGaming
      @IntellivisionDudeGaming  6 років тому +8

      Thanks, much appreciate it. Finding this site has helped me a lot. And it gave me the idea to do this video. reddit.com/r/socialanxiety

  • @Vycrance
    @Vycrance 6 років тому +26

    Hey man I've got pretty bad SA as well. Wouldn't wish it on anyone. You aren't alone bro. That subreddit is really helpful too.

  • @genosthegreat7870
    @genosthegreat7870 3 роки тому +4

    I have Social anxiety too for 5 years now
    I used to be outgoing and have a lot friends but now they're all gone because of my anxiety. It sucks i hate this feeling that i can't control my emotion and can't say what i want to say to people. I overthink I'm always scared of what people will say to me. The worst thing is the trembling from my whole body. I hate this I wish i could be a normal person again.

    • @Swayze23
      @Swayze23 3 роки тому

      how did this anxiety overcome you

  • @Universe1701
    @Universe1701 6 років тому +19

    Wow man. This video got to me. I am currently suffering from depression, and I have always had different levels of social anxiety, and even other forms of anxiety. I can drive and go to the store, but its very hard for me to meet new people, make small talk and even be in very crowded areas. Its even hard for me to socialize on the internet. I am just not a very sociable person in general. I also get affected deeply by all the shit in the world, how people are to each other and just the over-all state of things. My mind races sometimes, and I can't make it stop. There are times I feel anxiety, and there other times I feel numb. My mood fluctuates throughout the day, for no reason. This stuff affects my marriage, job and just my over-all outlook on life and people. Its been particularly hard for me emotionally the last two years. I am in a very dark emotional right place now and have been considering getting some help. From time to time, I feel like I should reach out and meet new people, at least on the internet... but its very hard to do so.

    • @IntellivisionDudeGaming
      @IntellivisionDudeGaming  6 років тому +1

      Sorry to hear. I really recommend checking out this site here. Even if you don't post you will be surprised to see how many people suffer from the same things we do. I love going there and sharing my stories. It's so welcoming to know you are not alone. reddit.com/r/socialanxiety
      Most of us suffer from the mind racing. I dwell and dwell on the negative stuff and it's torture. It's funny that we never dwell on the good stuff, only the negative stuff. :-D

    • @elijahmoser5477
      @elijahmoser5477 3 роки тому

      Don't think like that but I understand get on medication and stay on it. It won't fix you instantly but it'll sort of keep you at bay to allow you to focus on yourself and don't be so hard on yourself most people just wanna someone to talk to like you.

  • @Mickymaxywonder
    @Mickymaxywonder 6 років тому +8

    I'm the same I can't relax if someone like family member visits me I can't hold convo and I panic wen I think of visitors dropping by. also I couldn't go to my dad's funeral 3months ago bcos of anxiety so it really is challenging. keep up these videos there nice to see and hear

  • @papadoom9968
    @papadoom9968 6 років тому +13

    It is very brave being honest about oneself and sharing it with us dude, remember that we care man, whenever you need to talk I'll be there

  • @dennisv7824
    @dennisv7824 3 роки тому +3

    Social anxiety is absolute torture, it completely destroyed my life, made me turn to drugs. I feel u brother. I truly do

  • @lifestyletheory6558
    @lifestyletheory6558 3 роки тому +7

    Well. I am 28 and have a degree, but I am terrified of social situations. I am afraid I might never get a job. It's just crazy.

  • @rafazajac4978
    @rafazajac4978 4 роки тому +6

    Yeah, I self diagnosed myself too because im too anxious to tell anybody that i have it, im embarrased to tell my mom that im fuck up and have that disorder, so i'll probably die alone and its fine with me. The thing i noticed is after a hard exercise session im less anxious because cortisol levels are lower and im more confident to ask for anything to anyone or speak to anyone.

    • @EphemeralProductions
      @EphemeralProductions 3 роки тому +1

      It seems like when one tells people they have SA or any other “invisible disability” , half the time they don’t care or they say “you’re using it as an excuse not to__ (Fill in the blank)

  • @akaz6063
    @akaz6063 3 роки тому +2

    I always use my arachnophobia as a similar thing, which is easier for people to understand (kinda). I *know* the spider isn't gonna bite me. I know that. I still feel afraid when I look at one. Phobias-including social phobia-are irrational. They can't be rationalized away. Wish more people got this

    • @marcusrosales3344
      @marcusrosales3344 2 роки тому

      You can totally condition phobias away, it just takes work. Even visceral ones like arachnophobia.
      It's about putting yourself in uncomfortable situations till it is not uncomfortable anymore. I was terribly antisocial and anxious, but I worked on it.
      I can say, from what this guy is saying in this video, that he would rather claim victimhood than accountability. Too many people act powerless when you totally have the power to change.

  • @roycastanon5754
    @roycastanon5754 3 роки тому +2

    Listen man, I’m 22 years old and I have social anxiety as well. I’ve had it for so long I can’t even remember I time without it, but I have begun to make an effort to try and change that. I understand the fear man, I’ve been there. I’ve sat in my room alone at times completely anxious for no reason at all. I’m not expecting you to completely flip your life around but I think you should at least make an effort day by day to step out of your comfort zone more. We only really lose when we give up, but you’re still here and I think you’re a lot stronger than you believe.

    • @ayyitsjoe
      @ayyitsjoe 3 роки тому +1

      im only 18 and it sucks i feel like im gonna waste my whole life away all by myself fearing anything i think about

  • @EK03.
    @EK03. 4 роки тому +4

    I have Sa and am on meds rly proud of this guy for being able to publicly talk about this, respect 💯

  • @TomElvisSmith
    @TomElvisSmith 6 років тому +7

    I can really relate to a lot of the things you talked about in this video. Also, like the other guy who commented, I don't have a driving license either because of anxiety. But yeah, I experience a lot of the things you talked about in this video, especially at the start of it. We differ in the later things you talked about. I don't have a problem talking to girls, but I just can't find anyone because I rarely go out, and it's hard to find someone I have much in common with.
    I can definitely say one thing, you are a really good person, and I wish the best for you.

  • @kubasniak
    @kubasniak 3 роки тому +2

    Quitting caffeine from coffee and teas was one of the best decisions I made in my life. I feel more human and have much less anxiety but still do a bit but it's bearable.

  • @techieTedMustDie
    @techieTedMustDie 3 роки тому +1

    Hey. I realise this video was posted a long while back, but just wanted to comment and hope you’re doing ok. I’ve been watching your videos from way back and have enjoyed seeing the Intellivision being featured as, in the UK, it wasn’t that well known and it was great to see a channel devoted to it. Your Burger Time videos especially were a great source of nostalgia for me :)
    This video is very brave and you talk extremely well on the subject. I can’t claim to fully understand what you were/are going through but you’re very eloquent and explain your problems well. Stay strong and thank you for the videos (even if you’re no longer posting that content). They were and are much appreciated.
    Love and best wishes from England. Stay safe, brother!

    • @IntellivisionDudeGaming
      @IntellivisionDudeGaming  3 роки тому +2

      I'm here, i just don't do videos anymore. I lost interest. I collect different things now. I will always love the Intellivision but i rarely play it these days. My hobbies always cycle so maybe one day i'll find interest again.

    • @techieTedMustDie
      @techieTedMustDie 3 роки тому

      @@IntellivisionDudeGaming Good to hear you’re still about. Good luck in your other hobbies :)

  • @MrMegaManFan
    @MrMegaManFan 6 років тому +7

    Hey Dude, I appreciate the video and the honesty. I have my own issues but wouldn’t deign to tell you or anyone to get the treatment I do. Mental health is not one size fits all. The most important thing you can do is share your truth and help others understand so if they are going through something similar they don’t feel alone.

  • @Horzzo
    @Horzzo 6 років тому +3

    I feel ya brother. Obviously the level of our anxiety differs but I can relate with much. I've needed to call for an oil change for a few months. I quit driving instead of calling for an appointment. I'd do it myself but have nowhere to do it. Man, my brain is weird. Thanks for sharing.

    • @IntellivisionDudeGaming
      @IntellivisionDudeGaming  6 років тому

      Sorry to hear that. There are plenty of places where you don't need an appointment for an oil change. Around where i live i usually go to Wal-Mart to have it done and i just wander around the store until they are done.

  • @jean-lucdesnoyers-pina1082
    @jean-lucdesnoyers-pina1082 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you for making this video. This has been a huge help. Your so brave sharing this story to the world man. You’re not alone in this journey

  • @OldSchoolNYCGamer
    @OldSchoolNYCGamer 6 років тому +3

    I as many on here who may have commented or just simply watching it can relate to a certain extent what you are dealing with Robert, I myself also have Social Anxiety Disorder and have been dealing with it since my teens. At one point I was mis-diagnosed by doctors in the 80's and was prescribed Ritalin which looking back on it now was not the best decision for me, as I am getting older between having this and also P.T.S.D. it is an everyday battle but just know you are never alone in this. In the last 4 years my life has taken a complete 180 between divorce, health problems, hospitalization, work issues, etc. I am glad I have a great group of people that do reach out to me when I feel comfortable enough to talk and just see where it falls afterwards.

  • @jonwolf_gaming
    @jonwolf_gaming 6 років тому +4

    Hey man, I'm really sorry that you have that problem, one thing that will help you a lot is working out as you have been doing it and hang out with all the friends you mentioned in the video, stay strong :)

  • @seanr521
    @seanr521 3 роки тому

    Now i cut people off left and right 😂😂 u seem like a real authentic guy...thks for sharing ur story 🙂

  • @EphemeralProductions
    @EphemeralProductions 3 роки тому

    I feel ya, dear man!!! I have the same thing, so i can entirely relate! I can’t stand being on camera or having pictures taken of me because of how ugly and goofy i feel i look. Don’t even like hearing myself talk

  • @ayyitsjoe
    @ayyitsjoe 3 роки тому

    I love watching these kinds of videos. Im 18 and I have really bad social anxiety and its just getting worse by the day. i appreciate you making these videos i watch when i feel uncomfortable it’s like a virtual friend/safe space thanks again i hope everything goes well for you

    • @smrliyeva1020
      @smrliyeva1020 3 роки тому

      Now you are 18 if you do something akward people will forget about it . It is us who remember everythinh beacuse we have sochial anxiety . Normal people don't care so much. One day you will have to find a job and connect with this people . So we have no choise but to try. Just try and don't foolyourself. If If you go and talk to someone today, you will sleep peacefully today and it will be useful today. The person you talk to will greet you tomorrow. What could be more beautiful than this

  • @annberlin5811
    @annberlin5811 Рік тому

    Our society doesnt make things easy for people

  • @atarileaf
    @atarileaf 6 років тому +2

    I have a bit of social anxiety myself. Some days it's not bad some days it's really bad and I don't want to leave the house. Like you I've pretty much quit collecting retro games. I've gotten rid of about 80% of it and I also quit making youtube videos although I still use my account to keep track of others channels

    • @IntellivisionDudeGaming
      @IntellivisionDudeGaming  6 років тому

      I also sold off 80-90% of my collection. At first it felt like i was parting with a piece of my soul. But i eventually got over it. There are a few games i wish i hadn't of sold but they can always be bought again in the future.

  • @chiwawa7189
    @chiwawa7189 3 роки тому +1

    I'm so incredibly sorry that you also have social anxiety. It can be crippling and unbelievably difficult to gain traction on progress. All the while you feel as though you're missing out on life even though you realize that social media is only showcasing the best of others' lives. The people in our lives don't understand and say get therapy, medication or other form of "help". Talk therapy can help, but only sometimes and not for long. Leaving or changing jobs is one of our biggest obstacles as the comfort of working alone or minimally with others is a nice routine for someone who doesn't want to experience the level of anxiety that we do every, single, day. With that said, this is my olive branch to you if you'd like a friend that understands your pain. I realize it's probably a shot in the dark but here we are. :)

  • @RPKGameVids
    @RPKGameVids 4 роки тому

    I suffer from social anxiety too. It can vary from person to person, for example someone might be fine in crowds and become very anxious when it's one on one, for another person it could be the other way around.

  • @erickkisreal9398
    @erickkisreal9398 3 роки тому +1

    if you just want someone to fool around with, casual no feelings, "you go home, and I go Home" (your words not mine at 13:33), you could just hire a pro

  • @JasonVectrex_187
    @JasonVectrex_187 6 років тому +2

    I would never have known, and I lost 20pbs too and cut out soda as well I only go hiking and diet it's easier and more fun than working out everyday

    • @JasonVectrex_187
      @JasonVectrex_187 6 років тому +1

      I only had the being on camera or in public part of it, being on UA-cam broke that down within a few years, and I really only leave the house once a wee or two and I don't have it either, besides for shopping and stuff, it's more comfortable to be at home

    • @JasonVectrex_187
      @JasonVectrex_187 6 років тому +1

      I cut out soda, energy drinks, liquor, adding butter to anything, and bread/carbs unless I have a sandwich, and buy things like bananas and peanuts, more healthier snacks, hard boiled eggs for breakfast helps too, in stead of having a greesy breakfast sandwich, I got the wake up call from a doctor that I'll get heart disease or a heart attack at a very younger age, that made me change, even though I was in pretty good shape already my diet just sucked

    • @JasonVectrex_187
      @JasonVectrex_187 6 років тому

      We love you dude! ;) welcome back

    • @IntellivisionDudeGaming
      @IntellivisionDudeGaming  6 років тому +3

      I started eating hard boiled eggs for breakfast too. At least i was. But was still unsure how healthy it was to eat 4 eggs as my breakfast. So i was in the middle to switching to a peanut butter sandwich (with all natural peanut butter) and a banana. Seen that on one of the websites about healthy breakfasts. The other main part of my diet is homemade french fries. So easy to make. And super healthy. My exercise is an hour a day or every other day of 1 hour on my exercise bike.

    • @JasonVectrex_187
      @JasonVectrex_187 6 років тому +1

      IntellivisionDude good job, as long as you can keep the healthy food up, you'll be better off, exercising...you always end up taking days off and being hurt or injured

  • @elvirablake9645
    @elvirablake9645 6 років тому +2

    I can understand. I hope it gets better for you. Hugs.

  • @jalexsilva8162
    @jalexsilva8162 3 роки тому

    You have an great diction, I'm using your videos to improve my listening skills.
    I'm got very interested in this video because I also have social anxiety, that's a hell.
    I'm Brazilian. I don't know if you know, but Brazilians are known to be very friendlies. But I can't make friends . Here society expects you to have friends, being introvert in Brazil is not a cool experience. People treats you like a psychopath ( that's very embarrassing).
    I realise that my situation isn't good in the fact that I'm not able to make friends in one the friendliest countries.
    My body shakes in whatever situation that requires social contact

  • @ross9735
    @ross9735 6 років тому +2

    I also suffer from anxiety and depression so I really appreciate you making this video. I hope to see you on Twitch again, I don't know if you'd remember me but this is Vod_Crack, I subbed to you once. I always enjoyed hanging out with you and I wish you all the best!

  • @lisvender
    @lisvender 6 років тому

    You’re not alone, Dude! Anxiety and panic attacks have plagued my life since I graduated from high school. I had to withdraw from college because of it, and I’ve been terrified of returning ever since.
    I think it’s the cost of having a creative and imaginative mind. You needn’t feel ashamed or guilty for moving on from UA-cam and gaming. You should trust your creative drive and follow it.
    The biggest conflict you’ll face is between what you want to do, and what you think you should do. I’m learning to trust the former and not feel bad about it. I hope that you will, too.

  • @YellowBrickRoad-x1f
    @YellowBrickRoad-x1f 5 років тому +2

    Thank you so much for sharing your story.

  • @MarshallMathersthe7th
    @MarshallMathersthe7th 6 років тому +1

    I don't have SA (i think) but i do not like talking to other people either. I have a hard time making friends because i don't trust no-one. If i want to befriend another human i need to have good feeling from the start. Would take some time before even inviting him to my house.
    My newest friend (who is my girlfriend actually) had a hard time reaching out to me, it is for her dedication that i actually decided to meet her.. And i'm glad i did back then.
    I do have ''problems'' but i do not want to share those. The hobby of videogame collecting may have kept me sane over the last years hahah, even tho i have to much stuff/games i don't play. But i'm planning to sell... eventually haha.
    It is hard to do, not even because of attachment, it is FOMO in my case i am afraid it might go up in value and i miss out on it. This is the case with my Ps2 collection.

  • @indrakamalyadav2921
    @indrakamalyadav2921 2 роки тому

    Good to hear your story

  • @nikrosevca9294
    @nikrosevca9294 3 роки тому

    I hear you with the med stuff, I’ve never taken meds for my social anx. I have good days mostly and it depends on each individual on where on the spectrum they are with social anxiety.

  • @derekstinchcomb1380
    @derekstinchcomb1380 8 місяців тому

    close to being in the same boat.

  • @SuperMoleRetro
    @SuperMoleRetro 6 років тому +1

    Hey man, your channel was one of the first I started watching. I enjoyed all the intellivision and record reviews. I have some level of social anxiety. I have a horrible time making friends. I just don't know how to approach or talk to people, so I come off as being an asshole, or conceited. I can assure you that is not the case. I just don't know how to talk, or what to talk about. Good luck and make more videos again!

    • @IntellivisionDudeGaming
      @IntellivisionDudeGaming  6 років тому

      Thanks, much appreciated. While i don't have money to buy any records recently, i started a new channel for my record finds. If you didn't already know.

  • @duhmez
    @duhmez 6 років тому +1

    You make great bomb ass mario maker levels

  • @duhmez
    @duhmez 6 років тому +2

    Dont cut soda. Drink diet soda. And if u donty like diet soda, get over it, force it and u will love it! I chug diet coke constantly. it is a miracle for a soda addict like myself/. I drink 100% diet soda.

    • @IntellivisionDudeGaming
      @IntellivisionDudeGaming  6 років тому +2

      I already did that years ago. I switched for a few years and started to like the taste better. But i noticed it caused me to piss all the damn time. I was pissing every hour without fail. I eventually went back to regular soda and that went away. Now i'm back to normal and go hours without pissing. I'll never drink that stuff again

  • @erickkisreal9398
    @erickkisreal9398 3 роки тому +1

    Hi did my advice helping? It sounded like something you needed from what I heard

  • @Ruhmove
    @Ruhmove 3 роки тому +1

    Hey man have you ever had people think your on drugs because of your SA? I have it really bad was just wondering. Hope you are well

  • @mariocondello2282
    @mariocondello2282 3 роки тому +4

    Just accept yourself.

  • @GamerFace167
    @GamerFace167 5 років тому +1

    Great Video

  • @danflory1488
    @danflory1488 3 роки тому

    Bro you got the calmest voice. You should do same

  • @usmanbashir4970
    @usmanbashir4970 5 років тому

    dude you rock😊😊😊

  • @franciscov.7535
    @franciscov.7535 3 роки тому

    Hey, I just found your video and it have been 2 years since you uploaded. How are things going? Hope you are doing okay

    • @IntellivisionDudeGaming
      @IntellivisionDudeGaming  3 роки тому

      Doing no better and no worse. I have more stress and less stress at the same time. Things could be worse.

    • @franciscov.7535
      @franciscov.7535 3 роки тому

      @@IntellivisionDudeGaming You gotta stay positive, man. Things get as hard as your mind let them be

  • @tonipepperoni5994
    @tonipepperoni5994 3 роки тому

    How old are you man? Hope your life is good now