You are not alone! I know this is a month later but I am here now to say this again.. YOU are not alone! I say this bc I need to hear it now, so I’m saying it to you. We are in it together and I know idk you but still.. I wish you all the positive vibes and we will one day over come this 💛❤️
Yes definitely eye contact is the problem for me. If I keep eye contact with someone for more than a second I think they are thinking that I’m in love with them 🤣🤣🤣
@@rubin-healmysocialanxiety702 it happens when I talk to someone authoritative. I know I have less knowledge than the person I speak to, then it makes me feel ignorant. If I speak to anyone I believe I’m smarter than, all of a sudden I’m a CEO. Lol
The hard part about social anxiety is that sometimes it just goes out of control, sometimes when i'm at the university and when i meet my class mates especially girls i just can't lift my head to look them in the eyes damn... and after we leave i just feel a huge wave of negative emotions.
I've been forcing myself to go to social events alone to meet people for the past 2 months. What I've realized is that it's not as scary as my brain told me it was going to be. I've had negative experiences in the past at social events. But the more you put yourself in uncomfortable situations, the easier it gets.
I’m sorry to hear this. I got it in year six, I know you probably don’t care but I want to talk about it - I need to get it off my chest 😂 I basically was quite a confident person up until year six, I really started to think about moving into secondary school. I always thought, I want t9 be the year 7 who isn’t a twat, who doesn’t annoy everyone. However, I tried too hard, I think I had social anxiety in the background for a while, but never as bad as it is now. I used to be able to talk to most people. Now I just can’t. I was always afraid of being bullied, too, so I thought I’d be the kid who doesn’t necessarily talk much. I don’t want to be like that anymore, though. But I’m in a little too deep. I need to get better with social situations. The issue is, everything that is supposed to help you, is expensive. There is also the though that everyone will be looking at me, watching, and judging me. I can’t walk without feeling weird. I have to put my hands in my pockets, I don’t even know why. I remember we had a speaking assessment in English, and to be honest, I think I did pretty well considering the situation. I had my hands in my pocket, and so my bitch of a teacher (she’s not a bitch because of this, she is a bitch because of many other things) told me that I shouldn’t. And it’s such a minor thing, but it’s massive on this scale, it’s almost as though, if I have my hands out of my pockets, people will see me and think, ‘why don’t you have your hands in your pockets, idiot’... I know it makes no sense, but it’s how it is now. If anyone reading this can help, please do. Thanks
One thing that works for me is putting my phone away. I no longer use this at a crutch when Im out in public. Its totally difficult but I believe it helps!🙌🙌 Copied
first few minutes of this.. i never expected to cry watching thru. I have such bad social anxiety and my avoidance has come to a point where im literally avoiding all phone calls and going to see anyone.. I mean i guess covid is a good excuse lol.. But this video was absolutely beautiful and i really felt connected to Nathan and everything he was saying! Thank you for showing me a clear, concise path to tackle my own mind. I am going to do my best to expose myself to more of these uncomfortable situations and actively try to challenge these thoughts!! Thank you
I've come back to this video after falling into a really bad mental state and getting myself stuck in a rut. have you been able to overcome your social anxiety, and if so, do you have any advice?
I love your videos!!!!! As a counseling student, I'm learning so much from your channel! I often refer to your videos for additional insight when we're posed with mock scenarios as homework, and it's incredibly helpful for me. Thank you for providing this content!!
Yes! I use my kids as a crutch sometimes. I wanted them to learn to talk to others, but now I find myself giving them opportunities to speak so that I don't have to 😬. And I definitely avoid eye contact so that people don't talk to me, I love the hierarchy challenge beginning with eye contact!
this was reassuring. i feel like i have a long journey ahead of me but i can definitely start off by forcing myself to make eye contact! i like how approachable you make this feel. it’ll be a struggle getting to the saying hi point, but at least now I have a place to start. thanks nathan :-)
With me, past bad experiences and events i suffer through lot of mental and physical health issues . My experience is if we want to overcome any fear we must fight with it, I was rarely talking to peoples after depression,then I decided to move on and started communicate with close ones,and adding other people's also, it takes some time but you find good results in few months.today I am not perfect but good at socially
Having social anxiety, and being the new kid, in a new state, at a new college, really sucks. I miss my friends and coworkers at home who I felt completely comfortable with, after we all got to know eachother its like that anxiety went away... I could flourish , and we'd all enjoy eachother's company. Now I feel lost, and I get physically anxious when I want to walk up to a group and introduce myself, even though I want to.
Everytime I go out I feel like everybody is looking at me and saying bad things to me and my mind is full of imagination of embarassing things that might happen to me while walking :( :(
Yeah... except the reason I and so many people like myself have this in the first place is from dealing with a lifetime of malicious people or just being completely alienated. Example, I go to a new gym trying to work on myself... while my social anxiety isn't bad enough to stop me from going, it makes me feel pretty nervous and on guard at all times there. I'm just doing my own thing and have some asshole openly mock me and get the girl behind the front counter to join in on it. That or management at your job spreading horrible yet laughable rumors about you but being nothing but nice to your face. A lifetime of experiences like this has taught me I cannot trust anyone and even if I wanted to, I can't. It's so deeply engrained that it probably isn't even fixable anymore. A new person tries to talk to me and the only thing I can do is freeze up and get out of the situation as fast as possible. It's a terrible life.
When I walk down the street with my dog and I see people, I imagine they think I’m weird and awkward. I’ve started exposing myself by making eye contact and saying hi when we pass, but I also feel liked in doing it wrong. It feels like I’m looking at them too intently and from too far away. It’s sucks because I don’t know if that feeling is coming from general social awareness towards others or from social anxiety. So I bounce between telling myself, “look at them, you’re just feeling anxious it’s nothing” and “don’t look at them. You’re staring at them/they’ll think you’re threatening and a creep for staring.” And enter an entire anxiety story because of this. Got any tips?
OMG Jeff your message makes me sad because I can so relate. And it’s really tiring to be living in this mental prison. WAY too much mental talk happening in such insignificant situations and it makes me feel CRAZY. Thanks for being so open and honest.
i have severe ocd and social anxiety ...and i strongly decided and i hope tht i can overcome it.........and we have to also pray for our recovery god will help us..............nathan as well❗
my whole life I've had people coming up to me asking me 'why don't you talk' 'why is your head always down' I've always replied with 'I don't know' but there's this thing I've like 'developed' and I can tell who people are by just looking at their shoes- I mean that's only people I know though lol- not sure if anyone else can relate?? :D would love to know I'm not alone
I do all of those things and more. It's so hard because I'm taking time off of school to try and get this sorted out but I feel all alone. I thought I was getting better. I just had like a week where I felt confident and barely thought about what other people were thinking about me and I was around people the whole time but then today I woke up feeling fine and then I spiraled out at work and all it took was a couple tables being rude to me to trigger it and now I feel like I took 10 steps back. It just feels like this will always be my life :(
My social anxiety is better when I’m in my car than I’m walking 🚶♂️ I think everyone is looking at me when I walk especially when I crosse in front of cars when all cars waiting for me to cross please scientist help us with a good treatment
I guess I have found God I watch your first video Last night and then continue to every video available on your channel I have never seen my ocd this way I am afraid that I am watching sexual part of other people does Matter whether male or female and my whole life is disgust around this thought for the first time I am feeling not guilty about myself I am 24 year old and lost so many beautiful experience in life because of my thoughts I am not lying but my eyes are rolling in tears you just given me a new life and make feel that I am normal if I let myself normal.......god bless you hope you achieve everything in your life.....and add meaning to other people's life like me three many like me who need your help
Judge Judy!! 😝I love that show! That sounds like a good way to challenge thoughts. If I cannot prove what Im feeling or thinking to Judge Judy, Im not going to fall for it. 😜
Here at this video after taking to my boss but freezing and having to leave the conversation to catch my breath. I hope I’m not alone in this because it is so embarrassing this is the second time this has happened.
I ask myself am I being negative and hold myself accountable to be kind to myself and other with my thoughts I changed my diet also I only drink decaf coffee that helped a lot I stay out of things that don't concern me. Example I found myself people pleasing and became very upset when things didnt go my way,almost like trying to control too much, over expectations of others I just simply control the negative stuff and try not to over due things good or bad. It is my start it works a lot Fight Against Negative things and add positive surroundings Maybe this helps one you reading this Just be honest with yourself about how you veiw things and try to be positive no matter what is happening Love yourself without hurting others
Hey everyone, I’m currently trying to find out how one could make the lives of introverts a lot easier ;) Which is why I have two very simple questions: 1. As someone with social anxiety, what are the 2 biggest issues you’re dealing with? 2. Regarding your social anxiety, what would you wish for more than anything else? Looking forward to reading your answers :)
2 biggest issues: - I want to talk to people, but my brain tells me not to. I don’t even know why, I think it’s because I’m telling myself that I’m being judged. - I can’t walk normal, if anyone is around I feel like I’m walking weirdly. - I really want to be able to speak to people, even yell, and not feel weird. I’d love to have the confidence I did last year :( if ANYONE can help, please do.
@@samdixon0296 Hey Sam, I appreciate your reply. Also I want to acknowledge your courage for sharing that. I used to suffer from social anxiety and lack of self esteem big time. I was able to overcome it by continually stepping outside my comfort zone, introducing empowering habits into my life and create a compelling vision that was authentic to me that gave me the purpose to move forward. If you want let´s have a chat and see how I can help you. My Skype ID is: Julian Fernando. Looking forward to connecting with you
Thank you this really has helped me I have a speech issue among other issues now this has created my social anxiety more so I also been anxious before but this has just made worse. It could be my perception though as when I talk it is much better clearer but it's also my balance thinking people judge me it's not to bad now maybe social anxiety. I do challenge it and talk. I feel better already. The only way I see to challenge it is to talk for me personally put My self in this situations which provoke anxiety ,to tell people I'm anxious perhaps cos my speech I also have a slight balance problem but I've started to think to deal with my confidence around this. I think tv ,magazines has portrayed perfection type thing to look perfect which is wrong . This has created anxiety too. Society's view on how you look ,sound people's beliefs on how you or sound if people could change their beliefs on this as perfection is non existent you can look good and be a arse hole! Looks or sound is superficial it's personality that also counts. You can look good sound good but be a bad person I am not . Mindfulness helps stay in present ,meditation. Hope this helps everyone I have a utube channel on positively if anyone interested
I started with the eye contact thing. It's important that people start with things of appropriate difficulty for them. There's a ton of good information here. I almost think the information density is too great for one video.
@@ocdandanxiety I was always too afraid to go for treatment. By the time I would have been able to handle it I had already figured out how to make progress without it.
If I'm the center of conversational attention I become nervous. I have to swallow, which I try to hide. My eyes may start to water (I'll blame the lighting ) If someone makes too much eye contact with me while I'm the one doing the listening, I begin to avert my gaze, which is a faux pas. I feel like I'm lying when I'm telling the truth. If there's a round table headed my way my throat will become so dry that I sound like I have laryngitis when I speak. I got it from my mom My brother has an extreme version of the trait and it has rendered him nearly dysfunctional. I hate it so much. I'm a musician who doesn't stand a chance of being a performer. The social schmoozing aspects are out of the question. I feel like my life would have gone in a completely different direction if I didn't have this condition. I finally got a family doctor. I'm going to bring it up at our next appointment.
@8:43 It’s stressful bc I was fine til I went out one time and that did happen and it’s all I think about even months later. Now every time I’m in a social interaction the thought creeps up and makes it awkward as I feel my face going red (that’s my trigger) .. it’s better some days but even harder the next.. I’m going to see my family in less than two weeks (haven’t seen them in over a year thx to the pandemic) and I’m having MAJOR ANXIETY over it any advice thanks in advance 💛🥺
Omgggg I vibe with this so hard. You’re not alone! Hopefully getting better? I have been dealing with the whole red face thing since I was little. I feel like now it’s just bad to the point where I immediately think what if my face gets red and then it does 🥺 haha it sucks but if you ever want a friend to talk about it!
@@Garrett_St yess I have dealt with it since at least middle school, and I will say it has gotten better in the recent couple of weeks, I realized when I made this post I was anticipating a big family reunion and the thought of that made my anxiety so bad, post that reunion it’s gotten some better.. but definitely not 100% it’s always there but doesn’t run my life like it did.. we will all get through this one way or another, and maybe exposure therapy will work? Obvi I didn’t exactly do that but during my trip I knew my triggers and tried to de-escalate the situation before it happened. Best wishes to you on your SA journey 💛💛💛
Hello Doctor.. When facing people or standing on stage, I feel anxious, trembling, increased heart rate, and excessive sweating.. Are there natural supplements that have the same effect as beta blockers as well as antidepressants?
I dont go out, i take my garbage out at night, when others will be asleep so i dont have to see or engage in conversation with anyone, i dont want to look at anyone
JESUS LOVES YOU SO MUCH.. REPENT, ACCEPT JESUS CHRIST AS YOUR LORD AND SAVIOR!!! HE DIED FOR OUR SINS!!! HE TOOK OUR PUNISHMENTS!! JESUS IS THE ONLY WAY TO HEAVEN!!!💛🧡❤️💚
i just want to overcome from it and live a normal life..God help me I am literally crying...I dont wanna live like this
Same. I totally feel you. It is absolutely terrible.
You are not alone! I know this is a month later but I am here now to say this again.. YOU are not alone! I say this bc I need to hear it now, so I’m saying it to you. We are in it together and I know idk you but still.. I wish you all the positive vibes and we will one day over come this 💛❤️
@44JesusIsLord44 I pray too...but nothing is working I always cry ....I can't live like this anymore 😭..
lets all try
@@hubaaafreen oh I'm so sorry , your comments broke me because i can relate so much 😭😭
Yes definitely eye contact is the problem for me. If I keep eye contact with someone for more than a second I think they are thinking that I’m in love with them 🤣🤣🤣
🤣🤣🤣facts
Ikr, same here. I immediately assume that they think I’m weird.
Exactly the same for me 🤦♂️
Does this happen in certain situations for you bro?
@@rubin-healmysocialanxiety702 it happens when I talk to someone authoritative. I know I have less knowledge than the person I speak to, then it makes me feel ignorant. If I speak to anyone I believe I’m smarter than, all of a sudden I’m a CEO. Lol
The hard part about social anxiety is that sometimes it just goes out of control, sometimes when i'm at the university and when i meet my class mates especially girls i just can't lift my head to look them in the eyes damn... and after we leave i just feel a huge wave of negative emotions.
Your not alone, hope ur doing better now.
Same brother how are u know
I've been forcing myself to go to social events alone to meet people for the past 2 months. What I've realized is that it's not as scary as my brain told me it was going to be.
I've had negative experiences in the past at social events. But the more you put yourself in uncomfortable situations, the easier it gets.
I always had social anxiety. It sucks. Ive tried pushing myself but cannot seem to make it easier over time. 😒
did you fix it?
Did it go away?
I’m sorry to hear this. I got it in year six, I know you probably don’t care but I want to talk about it - I need to get it off my chest 😂
I basically was quite a confident person up until year six, I really started to think about moving into secondary school. I always thought, I want t9 be the year 7 who isn’t a twat, who doesn’t annoy everyone. However, I tried too hard, I think I had social anxiety in the background for a while, but never as bad as it is now. I used to be able to talk to most people. Now I just can’t. I was always afraid of being bullied, too, so I thought I’d be the kid who doesn’t necessarily talk much. I don’t want to be like that anymore, though. But I’m in a little too deep. I need to get better with social situations. The issue is, everything that is supposed to help you, is expensive.
There is also the though that everyone will be looking at me, watching, and judging me. I can’t walk without feeling weird. I have to put my hands in my pockets, I don’t even know why. I remember we had a speaking assessment in English, and to be honest, I think I did pretty well considering the situation. I had my hands in my pocket, and so my bitch of a teacher (she’s not a bitch because of this, she is a bitch because of many other things) told me that I shouldn’t. And it’s such a minor thing, but it’s massive on this scale, it’s almost as though, if I have my hands out of my pockets, people will see me and think, ‘why don’t you have your hands in your pockets, idiot’...
I know it makes no sense, but it’s how it is now. If anyone reading this can help, please do. Thanks
You know you have social anxiety is when you are your own best friend🥰🦋🐔💯🤛🏽
You seem like a positive energy to be around no wonder youre a social worker
So soothing.
@@arneezyr1592 i know!
Great video Nathan! so many nuggets in there and love how you can really get into the inner world's of social anxiety sufferers 🙌
One thing that works for me is putting my phone away. I no longer use this at a crutch when Im out in public. Its totally difficult but I believe it helps!🙌🙌 Copied
first few minutes of this.. i never expected to cry watching thru. I have such bad social anxiety and my avoidance has come to a point where im literally avoiding all phone calls and going to see anyone.. I mean i guess covid is a good excuse lol.. But this video was absolutely beautiful and i really felt connected to Nathan and everything he was saying! Thank you for showing me a clear, concise path to tackle my own mind. I am going to do my best to expose myself to more of these uncomfortable situations and actively try to challenge these thoughts!! Thank you
I've come back to this video after falling into a really bad mental state and getting myself stuck in a rut. have you been able to overcome your social anxiety, and if so, do you have any advice?
I love your videos!!!!! As a counseling student, I'm learning so much from your channel! I often refer to your videos for additional insight when we're posed with mock scenarios as homework, and it's incredibly helpful for me. Thank you for providing this content!!
Yes! I use my kids as a crutch sometimes. I wanted them to learn to talk to others, but now I find myself giving them opportunities to speak so that I don't have to 😬. And I definitely avoid eye contact so that people don't talk to me, I love the hierarchy challenge beginning with eye contact!
If I’m invited or know of an upcoming event I’m scheming on how to get out of it 🤣🤣🤣
So true
I do 2 i will come up with negative senerios
JUST DO IT, you need to face all your fears.
this was reassuring. i feel like i have a long journey ahead of me but i can definitely start off by forcing myself to make eye contact! i like how approachable you make this feel. it’ll be a struggle getting to the saying hi point, but at least now I have a place to start. thanks nathan :-)
definitely man good to hear you are keeping the fight going - you CAN get better!
What if the social anxiety has been built because of past experiences? I can't disregard them. Do you have any suggestion ?
With me, past bad experiences and events i suffer through lot of mental and physical health issues . My experience is if we want to overcome any fear we must fight with it, I was rarely talking to peoples after depression,then I decided to move on and started communicate with close ones,and adding other people's also, it takes some time but you find good results in few months.today I am not perfect but good at socially
I used to be super shy when I was younger. Over the years, Ive forced myself to socialize and its finally get better.
Having social anxiety, and being the new kid, in a new state, at a new college, really sucks.
I miss my friends and coworkers at home who I felt completely comfortable with, after we all got to know eachother its like that anxiety went away... I could flourish , and we'd all enjoy eachother's company.
Now I feel lost, and I get physically anxious when I want to walk up to a group and introduce myself, even though I want to.
I’m trying to be more socially anxious this week.
Great tips! Thanks for putting these videos out there.
Everytime I go out I feel like everybody is looking at me and saying bad things to me and my mind is full of imagination of embarassing things that might happen to me while walking :( :(
Yes! I love this! I want to follow your videos! Easy to digest, easy to follow, easy to apply.
Yeah... except the reason I and so many people like myself have this in the first place is from dealing with a lifetime of malicious people or just being completely alienated. Example, I go to a new gym trying to work on myself... while my social anxiety isn't bad enough to stop me from going, it makes me feel pretty nervous and on guard at all times there. I'm just doing my own thing and have some asshole openly mock me and get the girl behind the front counter to join in on it. That or management at your job spreading horrible yet laughable rumors about you but being nothing but nice to your face. A lifetime of experiences like this has taught me I cannot trust anyone and even if I wanted to, I can't. It's so deeply engrained that it probably isn't even fixable anymore. A new person tries to talk to me and the only thing I can do is freeze up and get out of the situation as fast as possible. It's a terrible life.
this video was so helpful. One of the first social anxiety videos I actually liked. And ur better than my therapist lol
Haha. Thanks for the kind words!
Thank you for the gentle humble way of explaining this.. as these are sone of the most kindest thoughtful people.
I looked up the definition of angel it said you!
Haha. I'm not sure I'm an angel, but thanks for the kind words!
When I walk down the street with my dog and I see people, I imagine they think I’m weird and awkward. I’ve started exposing myself by making eye contact and saying hi when we pass, but I also feel liked in doing it wrong.
It feels like I’m looking at them too intently and from too far away.
It’s sucks because I don’t know if that feeling is coming from general social awareness towards others or from social anxiety.
So I bounce between telling myself, “look at them, you’re just feeling anxious it’s nothing” and “don’t look at them. You’re staring at them/they’ll think you’re threatening and a creep for staring.” And enter an entire anxiety story because of this.
Got any tips?
I feel the exact same way ...
@@Mcatz555 You're not alone, and I'm glad I'm not alone either.
Omg this happens to me😭 I’m really glad someone else understands
OMG Jeff your message makes me sad because I can so relate. And it’s really tiring to be living in this mental prison. WAY too much mental talk happening in such insignificant situations and it makes me feel CRAZY. Thanks for being so open and honest.
@@I-SER Thank you for these videos!
Having lost the feeling that I am normal there is no justice in this
@44JesusIsLord44 Thank you,
I want to believe this, but it seems that life is not in my side
i have severe ocd and social anxiety ...and i strongly decided and i hope tht i can overcome it.........and we have to also pray for our recovery god will help us..............nathan as well❗
I’m not gonna lie, Covid-19 is a blessing for me because I was made for it #social distancing
Haha! yep!
my whole life I've had people coming up to me asking me 'why don't you talk' 'why is your head always down' I've always replied with 'I don't know' but there's this thing I've like 'developed' and I can tell who people are by just looking at their shoes- I mean that's only people I know though lol- not sure if anyone else can relate?? :D would love to know I'm not alone
Can totally relate - people used to say those things to me all the time and it's really hard not to internalize the things they say :(
I’m 42 and it happens to me and my 16 and 12 teens thank you 🙏
I do all of those things and more. It's so hard because I'm taking time off of school to try and get this sorted out but I feel all alone. I thought I was getting better. I just had like a week where I felt confident and barely thought about what other people were thinking about me and I was around people the whole time but then today I woke up feeling fine and then I spiraled out at work and all it took was a couple tables being rude to me to trigger it and now I feel like I took 10 steps back. It just feels like this will always be my life :(
My social anxiety is better when I’m in my car than I’m walking 🚶♂️ I think everyone is looking at me when I walk especially when I crosse in front of cars when all cars waiting for me to cross please scientist help us with a good treatment
Wow man you really described my problem But Thanks god my anxiety is going away little by little
I guess I have found God I watch your first video Last night and then continue to every video available on your channel I have never seen my ocd this way I am afraid that I am watching sexual part of other people does Matter whether male or female and my whole life is disgust around this thought for the first time I am feeling not guilty about myself I am 24 year old and lost so many beautiful experience in life because of my thoughts I am not lying but my eyes are rolling in tears you just given me a new life and make feel that I am normal if I let myself normal.......god bless you hope you achieve everything in your life.....and add meaning to other people's life like me three many like me who need your help
Tried all the above tricks to avoid social anxiety before :p but my am getting more comfortable with such situations :)
Thank you for the tips!
Judge Judy!! 😝I love that show! That sounds like a good way to challenge thoughts. If I cannot prove what Im feeling or thinking to Judge Judy, Im not going to fall for it. 😜
Here at this video after taking to my boss but freezing and having to leave the conversation to catch my breath. I hope I’m not alone in this because it is so embarrassing this is the second time this has happened.
I ask myself am I being negative and hold myself accountable to be kind to myself and other with my thoughts
I changed my diet also
I only drink decaf coffee that helped a lot
I stay out of things that don't concern me. Example
I found myself people pleasing and became very upset when things didnt go my way,almost like trying to control too much, over expectations of others
I just simply control the negative stuff and try not to over due things good or bad. It is my start it works a lot
Fight Against Negative things and add positive surroundings
Maybe this helps one you reading this
Just be honest with yourself about how you veiw things and try to be positive no matter what is happening
Love yourself without hurting others
Hey everyone, I’m currently trying to find out how one could make the lives of introverts a lot easier ;)
Which is why I have two very simple questions:
1. As someone with social anxiety, what are the 2 biggest issues you’re dealing with?
2. Regarding your social anxiety, what would you wish for more than anything else?
Looking forward to reading your answers :)
2 biggest issues:
- I want to talk to people, but my brain tells me not to. I don’t even know why, I think it’s because I’m telling myself that I’m being judged.
- I can’t walk normal, if anyone is around I feel like I’m walking weirdly.
- I really want to be able to speak to people, even yell, and not feel weird. I’d love to have the confidence I did last year :(
if ANYONE can help, please do.
@@samdixon0296 Hey Sam, I appreciate your reply. Also I want to acknowledge your courage for sharing that. I used to suffer from social anxiety and lack of self esteem big time. I was able to overcome it by continually stepping outside my comfort zone, introducing empowering habits into my life and create a compelling vision that was authentic to me that gave me the purpose to move forward. If you want let´s have a chat and see how I can help you. My Skype ID is: Julian Fernando. Looking forward to connecting with you
@@samdixon0296 Try praying to God man he helped me alot this year overcoming fears and trauma. May the Lord be with you ❤
i personally am dealing with people's perception of my body (I am short), and embarrassment.
i wish i could have the confidence i had as a kid
talks about treatment at 5:44
Thank you this really has helped me I have a speech issue among other issues now this has created my social anxiety more so I also been anxious before but this has just made worse. It could be my perception though as when I talk it is much better clearer but it's also my balance thinking people judge me it's not to bad now maybe social anxiety. I do challenge it and talk. I feel better already. The only way I see to challenge it is to talk for me personally put
My self in this situations which provoke anxiety ,to tell people I'm anxious perhaps cos my speech I also have a slight balance problem but I've started to think to deal with my confidence around this. I think tv ,magazines has portrayed perfection type thing to look perfect which is wrong . This has created anxiety too. Society's view on how you look ,sound people's beliefs on how you or sound if people could change their beliefs on this as perfection is non existent you can look good and be a arse hole! Looks or sound is superficial it's personality that also counts. You can look good sound good but be a bad person I am not . Mindfulness helps stay in present ,meditation. Hope this helps everyone I have a utube channel on positively if anyone interested
I started with the eye contact thing. It's important that people start with things of appropriate difficulty for them.
There's a ton of good information here. I almost think the information density is too great for one video.
@@ocdandanxiety I was always too afraid to go for treatment. By the time I would have been able to handle it I had already figured out how to make progress without it.
Good one. Well said
Thanks for the help doctor, but I just cant help but to ask WHY ARE YOU NOT BLINKING?
Haha. Others have said the same thing. I guess it's the way it was edited.
If I'm the center of conversational attention I become nervous. I have to swallow, which I try to hide. My eyes may start to water (I'll blame the lighting ) If someone makes too much eye contact with me while I'm the one doing the listening, I begin to avert my gaze, which is a faux pas.
I feel like I'm lying when I'm telling the truth.
If there's a round table headed my way my throat will become so dry that I sound like I have laryngitis when I speak.
I got it from my mom
My brother has an extreme version of the trait and it has rendered him nearly dysfunctional.
I hate it so much. I'm a musician who doesn't stand a chance of being a performer. The social schmoozing aspects are out of the question. I feel like my life would have gone in a completely different direction if I didn't have this condition.
I finally got a family doctor.
I'm going to bring it up at our next appointment.
My problem is being over conscious while feeling paniced.
Yeah same, you need to use relaxing methods and to not care what people think.
@8:43 It’s stressful bc I was fine til I went out one time and that did happen and it’s all I think about even months later. Now every time I’m in a social interaction the thought creeps up and makes it awkward as I feel my face going red (that’s my trigger) .. it’s better some days but even harder the next.. I’m going to see my family in less than two weeks (haven’t seen them in over a year thx to the pandemic) and I’m having MAJOR ANXIETY over it any advice thanks in advance 💛🥺
Omgggg I vibe with this so hard. You’re not alone! Hopefully getting better? I have been dealing with the whole red face thing since I was little. I feel like now it’s just bad to the point where I immediately think what if my face gets red and then it does 🥺 haha it sucks but if you ever want a friend to talk about it!
@@Garrett_St yess I have dealt with it since at least middle school, and I will say it has gotten better in the recent couple of weeks, I realized when I made this post I was anticipating a big family reunion and the thought of that made my anxiety so bad, post that reunion it’s gotten some better.. but definitely not 100% it’s always there but doesn’t run my life like it did.. we will all get through this one way or another, and maybe exposure therapy will work? Obvi I didn’t exactly do that but during my trip I knew my triggers and tried to de-escalate the situation before it happened. Best wishes to you on your SA journey 💛💛💛
I am getting nervous infront of my dad what is the reason
Man that judge judy part was funny!
Hello Doctor.. When facing people or standing on stage, I feel anxious, trembling, increased heart rate, and excessive sweating.. Are there natural supplements that have the same effect as beta blockers as well as antidepressants?
You remind me of nicolas cage in the film city of angels haha. Great video man, it sure helped a lot
Haha. I need to watch that movie again. 👍🏻
Thank you
You're welcome!
You just described me crazy 😜
Me too
I dont go out, i take my garbage out at night, when others will be asleep so i dont have to see or engage in conversation with anyone, i dont want to look at anyone
thanks nathan ,..........u r great
Thank you man
I think this is good
I just kept saying yuuuup ..yup. yuup! yup! Yuuuuuuup YUUP. MHM YUUP. 😭🤣
classic social anxiety unfortunately
good social
@@ocdandanxiety pleas sub?:)
I know one reason i have anxiety because of cute men like you
Lol Awww
@@just_shaeee i was talking to nathan but thank you
@@magicslave3066 I know. Basically, I was saying that is cute that you get jittery around attractive guys. I didn’t mean any harm but ok
@@just_shaeee you think im cute your making me blush! I want to cuddle you very bad!
@@just_shaeee dont worry i knew you didn't mean any harm
Other cgannels should tqlk ahout ajxiety with voice like yours 👍, also risk for bw better one coffee or coca cola, our lifes are short
*hehe i have this*
Your cute
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This background music is ridiculous and distracting.
JESUS LOVES YOU SO MUCH.. REPENT, ACCEPT JESUS CHRIST AS YOUR LORD AND SAVIOR!!! HE DIED FOR OUR SINS!!! HE TOOK OUR PUNISHMENTS!! JESUS IS THE ONLY WAY TO HEAVEN!!!💛🧡❤️💚
I used to be super shy when I was younger. Over the years, Ive forced myself to socialize and its finally get better.