The Truth About Dating In Italy
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- Опубліковано 22 тра 2024
- Hey Everyone,
Wanted to share a video about common stereotypes about Italian men and dating and my experience here. Hint hint: dating and Italian man isn't that different from dating any other man!
As always, please comment, like and subscribe if you enjoyed watching this video.
I've been living in Rome for 12 years. I am a black Cuban Puerto Rican from the Bronx. I went to university in Rome not intending to stay after school but I met the love of my life my second day on campus. He is a beautiful semi Mama's boy but so much more. There are shades of Latin Lover in him too but it's all for me😂 He's a sensitive, socially conscious intellectual with a great sense of humor. Luckily for me, his mother adores me and our 4 kids. Italy has been very good to me😄
I lived in Italy for 5 years, not in a big City like Rome and returned to the UK 24 years ago. Regarding your comment on Italian women being harder to get a date with, I found that many would hit on me hard. They were mostly too young, appx 18 to 25 years younger. Met them through work, or just waitresses or other diners in a restaurant etc. Could be asked to go out with them, or one tried to get physical despte having a boyfreind. There was one who wanted to meet up in the Uk, ( away from prying eyes, as she had a reputation to think of, and I figured out that as I wouldn't be feeding into the local gossip in these small communities where Mothers don't want thier sons to marry girls that have dated more than two men, a mature foreigner was seen as more discreet. It seemed that I could get a date without trying, whereas that could be more difficult for a local men closer to their age.
Sine your from the Bronx, do many Italians from NY date black girls? Or is it like the mob movies where they wanna dare the black girls but their fathers won’t allow it?
@@rohidnablayy6060 there is no italian men in NY, that's completely died out, you have to go to Italy, la mulatta Linda Martinez, in her case is quite different to due to the fact she's Latin American descent, her parents are from the Spanish speaking Caribbean, she understand her parent's culture and mentality and grew up with the culture, Italians tend to have that culture especially from southern region of italy, so understanding Italian custom and mentality is quite easy and adaptable for Latin Americans, So Romance, flirting and being touchy " not sexually" is very normal and that's Southern Europeans and Latin Americans are used to, I won't say if they like black girls or not, what am telling you the cultural differences, the cultural differences is what matters, not race.
ericktwelve11 um okay, I looked it up there’s a good percentage of Italians in New York, there would have to be when that’s where the 5 families are.
@@rohidnablayy6060 Italians from Italy ??? or Italian Americans??
"You have a beautiful body, it's a shame you don't workout"
Me: thinking in confusion🤔🤔🤔
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I know right haahahha
Exactly🙄
How to tell to a person she is fat in a nice way.
@@angelm8780 no its simple.. He can tell by her bodies proportions such as having long legs short torso and wide chest that her body is beautiful... at least the skeletal structure is
When an Italian looks at you...they really look at you. You feel beautiful.. Sexy.
I love Italian men
I would love to marry an Italian 💘
Italian men just love women A LOT 😂😂
True
True, i am italian, when i look a girl, means she like me and i feel atraction....race its not important, can be Asian, African, Afroamerican.....etc etc
what a handsome young man in the beginning
@Popcorn Jack what ? but what has that go to do with anything
@sukc dolev it's a joke obviously 🙄 She's just imitating Italian men.
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It's all about what you're used to.
In Italy we have a flirting culture, just like other latin countries (Spain, Portugal, partially France and most of South America's countries). This is something completely missing in the US, where I'm living now. From my italian point of view, american women lack of any ability to play a game of looks and thus to properly flirt. Flirting here is way less funny than in Italy, everything is mediated by smartphones.
In Italy you can still starting to chat with a woman in a square during "aperitivo" and, if you're polite, it is not considered rude nor intrusive. Chatting in real life is much more stimulating and interesting than chatting through an app.
That's a part of italian lifestyle that is completely missing here, enjoying hurban public areas chatting with friends and also with strangers (we can even drink alcohol in public areas!). We are outgoing person and, most importantly, we don't take ourselves too seriously. This latter is a thing that I've come to appreciate when I started living abroad.
Enjoy italian lifestyle which is one of the best you can find!
Yeah, I do agree that flirting in the US can be a bit stale and maybe even awkward at times. haha. But as an American, I have to say we're not all bad. I hope you can find someone who appreciates your flirting style!
@@evamariesolanges4848 I miss the "flirting milieu" but don't get me wrong, is not hard finding someone to date in the US. Here probably is even easier since, at least this is my perception, there are more single people.
I guess what is weird for a foreigner is understanding that most of the times flirting is an end in itself, you approach a group of girls just to have fun in that evening. Even a pullback in front of your friends might be funny, is part of the game.
I totally agree! Yes. Italians enjoy Life more"
Oh God, I need to move to Rome immediately. As an American, I absolutely hate the fact that everything revolves around our devices. When I first moved to Boston 4 years ago, people would be sitting on the train completely engrossed in their phones. All I could think at the time was how it was a shame because they could be sitting next to the love of their lives and miss them completely because they were looking at their phones.
It's also this way in Brazil. What I experienced there crossed age barriers and was very sweetly innocent. I rather liked it Ra Sheed. Maybe you've tried to speak with the wrong females? or maybe what I experienced in Brasil style flirting, was not as "aggressive" as Evamarie Solanges has described in Italy?
Love your hair.... and you're gorgeous. X
Thanks girl!
@@evamariesolanges4848 Which part of Rome do you live?. Is it Il Trastevere?, the major expatriate area of the city.
That clip of that middle aged man living with his parents had me ROLLING
I was the same when I found it! haha
Lmao🤣🤣🤣🤣
that's not normal in Italy too. But in general it is normal to have good relationship with your own mom.
That middle-aged guy is not attractive 😄
The rolling of the r sounded like a jackhammer💀💀
Great video. Everything you said is True! I'm a Afro American, ex model...living in Milan for over 25 years. Yes I could propably be your Mom. 😅 Just one note :Dating in Italy is not like dating anywhere else. Italian Men are generous. You can go out with them and leave your wallet home. There Gentleman. Cavaliere. They love to make women Happy. Ok. Yes there's the negative side. But let's just be positive... Here 😅
this is exactly what I need and am going for next. I’m outtt of america
@@greenjoebean5567 Go to SICILY...you'll be engaged by Christmas!! I was there for 5 months!! 😊
@@CrystalDatingCoach Oooo i’ll look into it😇😇😇☺️
@@CrystalDatingCoach how are black women treated in Sicily? I’m thinking Palermo but don’t know if I should go to Florence
@@greenjoebean5567 I'm late but apparently bw get treated extremely well in Sicily , well at least compared to the rest of Italy, Sicilian people are known for being very accepting and welcoming in general, so it's no differing to black ppl especially as they relate to their struggles as Sicily is offended shunned/ looked down upon by the rest of Italy as they tend to have darker features/curlier hair.
Yes, some of these are stereotypes, but many are not.
In general, and this doesn't apply to all men, they are old school, because our culture didn't change that much from the seventies/eighties. Men love beautiful women, so beauty is the first value they consider in their future partners here in Italy. Especially being overweight is not a good trait, voluptuous women are considered beautiful but if you are visibly overweight, Italians (young, old, men, women) will let you know you should "get into shape" every day, without being mean but... Well, you will notice it.
Chivalry it's a thing here, and I didn't know it was such a big deal until I started to date British guys and almost got offended (my fault, I didn't know any better) when they let me buy drinks or dinner without even insisting. It's a weird thing but it is true! Nonetheless, they love women that are caring and nice, so buy your man a nice gift from time to time!
When they are single, they date multiple people. Don't trust them until you had "the speech" about getting into a serious relationship, they know how to lie beautifully and they will, trust me!
Most of them love to eat and they eat well, so if they have been living alone they definitely know how to cook. If they lived their entire life with their mama, they absolutely won't. So pay attention to these details at the beginning. No matter what, they expect their women to be good cooks and cleaners , they won't date messy women or disorganized ones (as I said, we have the culture of the seventies/eighties, it's changing a bit but slowly).
They love to be fun, they want to be the joker in the group, and are also very, VERY sexual people.
Some men take themselves too seriously but this trait is fading away in the last generations (just don't date picks in their forties).
Well, I hope this helps! Have fun in Italy :D
Your Instagram id please? Need to talk
@@saihafathima2459 right 😂
She put a disclaimer...
you are so damn gorgeous darling, beautiful smile, confident, mammamiaaa
Thank you!
@ria rel Bitter...
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She really is 😊
What products do you use in your hair ?!?!? It looks so hydrated and beautiful!!
I'm filming my hair video today! It's coming at the end of this week!
This was suddenly recommend to me and you're so charming, I'm subscribing.
The intro was so hilarious 😁 binge watching your vids because I was due to visit Italy in August for 2 weeks but that's still up in the air. As a black African woman I learnt a lot through your vids, thank you.
Aww I hope you'll be able to make your trip over here sometime. Italy is a beautiful place especially during summer. But if ever you choose to come in August again, go to an island! The cities are empty in August, all the Italians go on holiday so everything is closed.
Very insightful video. My husband travels to italy for business regularly and sometimes the fact that the men feel that they can pretty much anything, is overwhelming.
“Save your ovaries”😂😂😂 thanks sis 💪🏽
Twenty seconds in and I pressed that like button 😂😂😂😂. Those impressions🏆🏆🏆.
Ahahahahaah, I wasn't expecting that sketch at the beginning.
Grande!
I’m so glad i found you! I’ve been considering going to graduate school in Italy
I'm so sad you're leaving! I would love more of this content from a pragmatic, smart, level-headed woman. But I wish you well in your move back to the states! Be careful. It's a mess here and I am trying to get OUT. 😂
I'm sad too!! But I'll be traveling back here when I can. I'll do my best to stay safe, it's probably one of the worst times to be going back home but I'll be with family!
I AM SO HAPPY I STUMBLED UPON YOUR CHANNEL
Wooh!! Me too!
Okay I’ve watched the whole video, you got em to stay with the intro, but the Lizzie McGuire reference made me sub🤣
The intro had me hollering! I'm so glad your channel is been recommended to me. I'm currently learning Italian and want to visit and maybe have a home there one day.
Tonisha Taylor me too! I just started learning Italian yesterday 💁🏽♀️
You are so right! Loved this video! 😘😘
Beautiful and thoughtful. Kind regards in your information. Thank you
HA ! Girl you got me with the intro 😂😂 “Rrrrromaaa”
I just heard you talking about mammas boys...il mammone. Well, you are so spot on. I live in Florence. I had a relationship for 3 years with a guy and his mamma. When we had an argument, he told her everything later. I had to answer her like a schoolgirl, why I said what I said ecc. To be fair, at the beginning she was lovely to me. But everything changed over time. She has no life and like Diana famously said - there were 3 of us in the relationship. A bit too crowded. I dont mind a close relationship to your parents, thats wonderful. But a pathological close one without boundries...save yourself the heartache I went through and run.
This is how my husband is but I had to put my foot down on his keen mom AND his dad since he was in on it. They r disrespectful and I make sure to make it uncomfortable for them whenever they constantly visit, since they make me uncomfortable
It's not race its really based on your looks
I feel like its a bit of both tbh. but yeah I partly agree
It's both. They might sleep with you, but most marry white girl (even foreign ones).
A lot of my African friends in Italy are actually married to Italian men. But they also have that stereotypical slim-fit, slender but curvy body type.
I love your hair, it's amazing. 😊
Yeah the part about "being jealous is normal" is totally true I think. If you are not jealous they think you don't love them.
I laughed from the beginning 😂🙌🏽 new sub ❤
Thank you for sharing your experience. Go have fun!!!
Girl I LOVE your show!!!
Spot on. I would say this is also true for Italian-American guys within the general spectrum just like the Italian guys straight from Italy (e.g. momma-boy stereotype, though I personally live independently from my mom we are still very close).
This intro gave me life😂❤️Thank for your knowledge in regards to this video!
I tried to make the intro a bit playful! haha and I'm happy to share what I know!
Was literally thinking about Lizzie McGuire before you said it 😂😂😂
I 've lived in Italy for 15 yrs, my beautiful wife is Italian. I don't really know what a mummy's boy is but a lot of the guys I meet are spoilt by their mothers, sons get away with much more than daughters. Even as adults the mothers still spoil them, to the point that they expect their wives to take over the mother's role, it's strange and funny for me to see this.
🤣🤣I know right..... Mamma mia what sturbon men they are🤦♀️! I have never understood this tie between men with their mothers. Mothers spoil too much their sons and they end being forever small boys forever.... And that's why most of them can't keep a relationship or marriage....
.. 😂.. so good.!
Your intro so true. :)..well done !
I'm Swiss German and lived about 3 1/2 years mostly in Milano.
Totally experienced some of your lines. 🙈
The things some of these men say are outrageous!! All I can do is laugh. lol
Love your hair !!!!
Sis You’re absolutely stunning 😍😍
You're gorgeous and so charming sis, saw one of your videos, now I'm a subscriber and I'm watching them all! 😍
Love the opening of this video!😄 You and your mustache and beard!😂🙋🏾♀️❣
I had to commit with the mustache and beard! lol
First time here and that opening took me out lmao. Liked. I was expecting the usual UA-camr opener.
*Welp! I'm African and during my travels within Italy,* I got comparisons to Tina Turner or Janet Jackson from the older gents, then to Beyonce and Rihanna from the younger men. I also have some African friends married to Italian men and they don't see the stereotypes as problematic because of certain similarities in culture.
African men are very much attached to their mothers umbilical cord to the very end. They also pay on dates, chase after women and many of them are Lotharios. One of my friends told me she loves the way her Italian man loves his mama and prays that her children love her the same way. Horses for courses...
Well you certainly are gorgeous and I agree! You can tell a lot about a man on how he treat his parents especially his mama! In my country its similar I'm from Argentina and when you see a beautiful woman on the street you say something NICE nothing disgusting just to show you APPRECIATE a woman's beauty and how LONG it took her to get ready before going out!
Interesting how are cultures are similar! By the way, you're actually gorgeous!
@123 456Lol. Fixed.
Italian men or African men are attached to their mothers ?
@@Daydreamerrr574 she meant Italian 😭😭
You're adorable :). I can't do the mamma's boy thing in any culture, I dated an Italian-American and a Trinidadian mama's boy and I refuse to do it ever again. I worked with 2 Italian women, and they advised me not to marry an Italian man haha. I do date only gentleman and men who understand chivalry, which is why I'm still single in the USA. I'm very all or nothing.
Nice, fun commentary. Thank you
A fair amount? This is why I subbed! Lol
Gotta get all the scoops I can from my rivals in Italia; even better coming from you!
She’s sooo awesome & funny (and gorgeous) ...but those Rrrrrr’s rolling was hilarious
Loooooooooooooooooove your hair. You so gorg babes!!! Love from South Africa
Great video! and great quality What kind of camera and editing software are you using?
Hi, I'm Italian, thank you for talking about Italy and Italy ^^ you're so nice and pretty, I hope you're having fun right now ^^
Hi Eva love your videos. Just wanted to know how you get your curls defined, and what products do you use. Your hair looks amazing
A hair video is coming this week, I promise! But overall my routine is pretty simple!
Idk how I got here and never heard of any of these things. But I love it! Lol thank you 😊
Ohh you're lucky girl! I've heard some crazy lines out here. haha
Really loved the new makeover, it's a shame you didn't keep it, lmao!
Great video, even though I am late😕
OmGoshhhhhh the intro😂😂😂😂
Love this video 👍🏻
I loved this video Evamarie :) I met an Italian player here in America and I am currently dating a mommy's boy in America shake my head I know.
Your videos are very entertaining 😂😂. Also we need a hair tutorial 😭💗
It's coming, it's coming!!! lol
Your hair is so beautiful and flawless! And you’re so so beautiful! ♥️♥️♥️🌹🌹🙏🙏🙏🙏
That intro was epic!🤣🤣🤣🤣
Love you…you are hilarious!!
All I have dated were Mamma's boys and that is why I am now single!!
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Well why you still single? You're beautiful and should have no problem finding a man! I can relate to this video in my country (Argentina) men flirt a bunch! It's just part of society...women actually think you're gay if you don't flirt with them and show no interest! It's ALMOST like the women FORCE us to flirt 😄😂😂😂 anyway you'll find your prince soon! Be safe!
or maybe u are daddy princess
Dating a Sardinian man for 5 years. He is such a wonderful, gentle soul. But I can tell his mama spoilt him poco poco😂
Wow five years?? Congrats!
Un sardo per 5 anni? Come hai fatto
Lol he's wonderful to be honest it's been very easy 😂
Don't you mean troppo?
" poco poco" ahahah my mother always says that too
You're my kind of girl. Too cute, enjoyed this video.
😊 thank you
Loved this video! I know your Chanel is about your life in Italy but I neeeed to see the hair routine!! To make it “Rome related” maybe show us what products you use? Like are they different from what you used in the US?? Idk but your hair is gorgeous!!!
Haha I'd like to branch out to more non-italy related videos so a hair video is cool with me to share!
Evamarie Solanges Now is as good a time as ever haha, can’t wait to see it!
Evamarie Solanges do videos about your transition back into US culture.
Oh God I know it’s true. You are a hoot. I laughed out loud.
I’m from America and I’m here in Florence for school. Great video lol I wonder if Italian women are into American men
just naturally charming, and they see flirting is fun that’s why you have to rely on their actions and not just their words ❤
Funny!!! Thanks for the info!
Girl your gorgeous!💓
I'm not traditionally employed. LOL!!!!!!!!!!! Sending me down memory lane from my time there.
"Trust your gut". Soooooooo true. 100%.
Your intro sounded like a line a Nigerian man would use on a girl of his interest...Lol!
Evamarie I would like to know are there any Black hair care stores in Italy? I wouldn't mind visiting or living there,but where can I get my hair care products?
😂😆😁😁😆😂mama’s boy😆😂🤣😁. Very enjoyable video 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
The intro 🤣😂🤣 very insightful video!
Glad you liked it! haha
Lol!! That opening!!!🤣🤣😂😂🤪🤪👏🏽👏🏽. And IF I were still single, I would fare ok in Italy because I am way too traditional.....I would never ask a fella out.😊
You'd do better than ok! A smile is invitation enough for someone to talk to you. =)
Evamarie Solanges ....lol! Sounds a lot like the men in my home city of Saint Louis, Missouri!
We are not in the middle age anymore... i am an italian girl , i am indipendent , if i want i can ask a guy out and when i hang out with friends or a potential partner we always split the bill. In Italy men and women are equal by law, the majority of italians girls want a man who respect her as an equal ,help around the house and in childraising. Our dating culture is different than in the USA.
@@francescaimpieri6291 Understood.....I’m an American woman and financially independent too for many decades (just got re-married in 2019). This has nothing to do with independence (for me) it has to do with the typical mating practices of mammals (and we ARE mammals)...and sure, we can intellectualize this all day long, but I’m not asking any man (if I were still single) to date or marry me PERIOD!
Giiirl I had to press that like button at the “ rrrrrrr” lol 😂
I respect who respect his parents & who is taking care of his mother & father & who choose to live with them . Nothing wrong with that . Especially when the parents getting old & need special attention & care . I really respect who are like that .
She ain't say that tho...
Hmmm interesting! I've always said (Italian men, french men, and brazilian guys and any sort of latin/hispanic) are THE MOST thirsty. and I mean fresh off the boat. But I see why. French women, italian ladies, really do carry themselves to a diffeent caliber. Also yes the mommas boys Ive dated em american et all.. LOL the game runs deep ! x
Don’t forget our Greek, Spanish and even Portuguese lothario brethren 😂😂
Oh my goodness! I've met the Latin Lover in Naples. And you are right! He was VERY dangerous lol.
I dated a mamma boy and I know the feeling. Italian men have still placenta tied up to their mamma. ..... After 13 years living in Italy..... We know them. They live with their mama's too, until they are 45 years old. However, the problem here is also the mothers, they are too selfish and jealous about their boys' girl friend or wife.
This applies to Arab guys too !
@Tunezgirl really?
Io conosco ragazzi di 19 anni che vivono da soli, poi amiamo i genitori ma non è che siamo dipendenti da loro, smettetela di generalizzare date fastidio.
@@utenteantimoralismo8549 la maggior parte sono così e poi condivido con te che ci siano anche quelli indipendenti..... Non metto in dubbio.!!!
@@ethydinku2013 so bene com'è la maggior parte dato che sono nato qui, e non sono come questo stereotipo fastidioso nato dai film... vogliamo bene alle nostre madri ci mancherebbe, ma sappiamo vivere anche senza, se no che uomo saresti?
Italians surely are very attached to their mother, but it is very rare nowadays to find exaggerations such as the '60 interview in the video. For the player thing, it is probably true for most italians (but I would add for most men), but remember that every man is a player before meeting the right one. Btw, nice job acting like a man at the beginning, you really gave a male vibe. The follow your guts thing, I already heard many times talking to my female friends, but in my opinion it's like a superstition: you think you'd be better off avoiding something, but you're just scared you might like it too much
Ooo blakii I luvv ur style
THAT BEGINNING THO AHAHAHA
Lol, the beginning of this video was too funny. Can't believe you had the 12 O'clock shadow. Do you have a personal Italian guy dating story??
My fiance is Italian hes 44 im 24 , he's the most handsome man ever , nice body, eyes and strong hands. When he holds me my chocolate 🍫 body melt . He makes me feel like a princess and im so in love with him . I'm ready to give him my soul 😌 😭😅 seriously Italian man are the best most of my ex are Italian they are still in love with me . Still waiting. Italian men are the best all I need and want is my bae T💚
I full agree
Well, the thing is, they may also be still wanting their other exes 😂
Hook me up with a handsome Italian. I'm 38 and still single
@@dianachin4849 you gotta send the vibe out there babe , I wish I could give you his brother . Lol he's single
@@sparkle77777 I'm interested
Why was this recommended to me while I'm talking to an Italian? Lol.
You are GORGEOUS 😍😍😍😍
That intro had me cryinggggggggggg......lmao!
My God Girl you are good! I spent many years and two different boyfriends one from Florence and one from Naples in my life...BOTH chronic womanizers. I will never go back to that again so when you say the players are dangerous, Girl you aint lying!!! So Young Ladies, listen UP, this is my experience too.
Girl, u are so cool! I wish I had a best friend like you waa
New sub here😘much love from Uganda Africa
Love your face expression and charisma
I lived in north italy for one year back in the 90s and I loved it! Italian men treated me like a princess..I live in Germany now and German men ignore women and treat you like a buddy
I have a beautiful body, it's a shame I don't work out ...that sunk deep... I'm starting next week! if chivalry exist I have to suspect there's no war between genders like in US
Yeah, that was maybe one of the craziest comments I've received! The men out here can be bold. haha
I think many Italian men have a little bit of each sterotype you talked about in them, but at the same time I've never met the true stereotype of one category, it's all more "settled" and "manageable" LOL But then again, I married an American man :D
I like how women make content about italian men. Yet do you see italian men making videos about other women and how they are? Nope
beautiful content Dear
Italian men are black men with lighter skin color. Lol. I have been to Roma and their boldness reminds me of black men. The pickup lines are soo similar..😆
Have you faced racism there?
Great video! The slow pauses were a bit much, but it was very enjoyable nonetheless :)
Thanks for watching!