Why am I so gay? | Thomas Lloyd | TEDxGeorgetown
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- Опубліковано 3 чер 2024
- This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences. In this powerful talk, Thomas Lloyd talks about taking pride in owning his identity and the strength that stems from that ownership. He talks with admiration about a movement that learnt that changing a community is much easier and much less damaging than changing one’s own identity. In his journey he has learnt to walk in solidarity with not only those he identifies with but also other marginalized groups in society.
Thomas Lloyd is a Senior in the SFS majoring in STIA: Science, Technology & International Affairs. For the last two years he has served as the President of GUPride, Georgetown’s LGBTQ Student group, one of the only such groups at a Catholic school in the country. As the group’s president, Thomas helped raise the profile of GUPride and its catholic-campus LGBTQ work to a national level, while refocusing the mission of the group on to questions of intersectionality. Thomas has also been an RA at Georgetown for two years, written a regular column for The Hoya, and coached debate for The Bronx High School of Science for four years (his alma matter).
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Being homosexual(gay) is nothing more than being attracted to your own gender. People saying "Why are you so gay?", "That's so gay", "you walk so gay", "she is so gay" etc. are delusional. Men being flamboyant or/and feminine does not automatically mean they are homosexual. Same with women being manly and masculine. This is your typical stigma around homosexuality. People believe it's more than being attracted to your own gender.
THANK YOU!!!
Hwan Gaeul exactly🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
djroberts92 that might have been the case with those individuals you met, but that is not the case for the majority of individuals that identify as part of the LGBT community. So make sure you understand that before you generalize with your comments. I'm a gay men and has nothing to do with what female I have been around. So yes, I'm a gay men.
Hwan I totally agree. Just look at Russel Brand, he's flamboyant and plays around flirting with guys but he's streight. Same with Noel Fielding (anyone from the UK will know who I'm talking about).
Hwan Gaeul yes nice explained i also noticed they are too attract, it is same for transexualls normal men are not so attract to his gender than trans...
"I refuse to use my creative energy to bend myself into an institution. I use my creative energy to bend the institution to accept people, to accept identities, which is not that hard." PUREEAACH
Kevin Bolt that happens to me all the time😂
DONT PREACH IMMORALITY AND SELF HATE !!
@@flatearth9140 prosthelytize, baby!
how is this audience not dying??? this guy is literally the funniest, most interesting speaker ever. this audience is letting his bomb jokes fly bye smh
There was one guy in the back dying. I swear I heard him.
To each their own. I couldn't even finish the video it was so hard to watch this guy speak. His pandering statements ending in the word "but". He did that like 10 times.
TedTalks usually edits out any background noise for more serious talks like this, no audience noise at all usually
Its the mic setup, during stand uo gigs there are mics aimes towards the audience to catch the laughter. During ted talks therw isnt the need
For some reason I could not stand him. He's moving too much, he's giving me anxiety.
The biggest question you should be asking yourself in the mirror is “why am I so hot”
You chose your matrix. You made a good choice!
Haha can't relate
This is the longest TED talk I've listened to. Normally during a break in speech I'll tap the screen to see how much time is left, but I didn't do that once in this one. This kid is an excellent speaker, I don't care if he's "The Breath of Satan".
He said he was a part of the Bronx Science speech and debate team. That's what they do.
You mean "The smoke of Satan"
I literally just burst out laughing at the addition of "Satan's breath" 10/10 great finale!
Next time someone asks him - "Watch my Ted talk"
Mark Thom Lol. True that.
Mark Thom you're cute
That Chic Online agreed!
I found this TED talk years ago, and it’s still one of my very favourites. I come back to this whenever I feel bad about my femininity, because it’s so moving and inspiring and I can relate to so much of what he talks about. I hope that one day, I can own my identity too.
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Oh wow, Kovu!
OMG KOVU!
Kovu is a unicorn Just do it!!! It's too painful to spend your energy on negative things.
a multitude of blessings, peace and the profound realization that you are perfection just as you are....every person on this planet has struggles...it's inherent w/in this human form...so you are in the company of billions....not alone...but, from w/in these billions of fellow sparks of life, you are extremely special with a precious, unique identity that this world is so much richer for you being in it!
Having loving supportive parents makes all the difference in a person's development. How lucky he was to have such parents.
true
To thine own self, be true!
@@germelinaobrien5277 Oh, yes! But it will cost you.
This guy really is a tremendous speaker.
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Everyone is aware.
+newgeorge AND tremendously gay.
+whynottalklikeapirat haha, we're also very aware
A.O Chika
I was thinking of something else but then I was MADE aware xD
Your parents should be praised for raising such a bright compassionate young man who is bringing light to the world.
Tracey Roseborough Tam agreed. What a role model!
YESS!! ❤
i've barely started watching this vid and i just adore his flamboyant movements
I know right
Me too!
It's giving me anxiety
Not me tho.
Me too!
He's so cute! Not just the looks, but his entire personality. Very very attractive ♥️
This is why teaching autistic kids to act normal doesn't work. Being autistic and trying to act normal means constantly monitoring your tone of voice, how much eye contact you're making, what mannerisms you're doing, etc. And at the same time, you have to expend just as much effort monitoring the *other* person, to read those nonverbal cues you don't instinctively pick up. I'm all for teaching autistic kids useful skills, but those people who try to 'cure' an autistic kid just by training them to act normal are forcing their 4 or 3 or 2 year old into a closet just as binding as an effeminate gay guy trying to act straight.
People seem to think that learning the script for small talk will make me happier. I loath small talk, it makes me cringe when I'm forced to repeat something so blatantly fake, multiple times a day. And I'm patronized for it.
+Ettina Kitten I'd make a counter argument in regards to socially awkward people. Same thing, and them changing would be a good thing.
+Ettina Kitten
I've always believed in training your strengths, not your weaknesses.
No one needs a sub-mediocre social bird when there exists charisma hawks, but they might need a super-programmer or a mathematician.
Or in my case, I was born with a very powerful spatial reasoning ability.
It's not just a strong imagination. It actually shows up in tests.
So I train that over other things. Put math in numbers and symbols and I struggle, but graph it and I'll do calculus without being aware it's calculus.
LOL actually it does. new autistic child, don't bite people, normal people don't do that. don't get violent, other people don't do that. don't touch others in the wrong way, NORMAL. people. don't. do. that.
My True Love is My FR-S Don't flatter yourself, most gays are probably smarter than you.
I know this comment will be passed over and disregarded, but i would just like to say i have struggled tremendously about my sexuality and "gay" tendencies for 7 years and because of this I tried suicide 4 times. I am finally coming to understand myself and be ok and happy with it thanks to people like him and other amazing supporters of just being yourself. So thank you.
+mustafa aqeli i am not religious
+WowWeAreOblivous then you definitely endup in hell
Its seems that the odds are not in your favor xd
+WowWeAreOblivous ^^ don't listen to this bigoted idiot. Live how you want to and don't let anyone tell you otherwise, especially with pathetic attempts of threatening religious fallacy. keep moving toward accepting yourself, because you are perfect the way you are! :)
+WowWeAreOblivous ^^ don't listen to this bigoted idiot. Live how you want to and don't let anyone tell you otherwise, especially with pathetic attempts of threatening religious fallacy. keep moving toward accepting yourself, because you are perfect the way you are! :)
Because J.K. Rowling said so
Periodtttttt
The comment make me haha
😐yeah im laughing so hard
This comment is so underrated.
Albert FC Finally , someone who understands the true world order
"The Smoke of Satan" would be a good band name.
😂😂😂😂 good point
Before he even started talking, I love this man
Hades lol same
Hades that's pretty gay
QuashaSalsa Thank you my good sir
Totally agree. I always believed that I can't be attracted romantically or sexually towards effeminate men. This guy proved me wrong.
Hades, I was like, this man is already going to inspire me and I didn't even have to finish the video.
Thank you. I am 'covering-my-fem-side-just-to-avoid-hate-even-in-gay-community' kind of guy in South Korea. I was inspired. You helped me start to embrace my self.
Vincent Choi Hello :) Do I understand you correctly that you are genderfluid?
Straight acting is a cancer
@@wernerbeinhart2320 I disagree, acting like someone else instead of yourself is a cancer. Not EVERYONE is femme.
He's so funny wtf why does no one in the audience laugh at his jokes
Skylar Derthick it’s about joke delivery, that’s all he lacked
I hear lots of laughter. ..its not a comedy routine afterall. Especially when many of his jokes at the expense of his suffering at the hands of judgmental ppl. It's unsure somtimes when it's "ok" to laugh at a Ted Talk when someone is bearing their soul.
Funny strange or funny haha?
The audience are definitely laughing but I think the sound of his mic has blocked out the laughter (this is what normally happens when someone is talking on stage)
@@flop6228 funny haha
Could be gayer
Thomas Sanders : Could be gayer .YES
Yassss
We all need Thomas Sanders!
Oh you did noooot
Hahahaha
8:37 "It is easier to change a community, it is easier to change a society, than to change your own identity."
Woah, that was powerful. 😳
PS: The very end got me a little teary eyed.
Try this anywhere in the middle east. It’s not powerful at all, trust me.
Malo Fankhauser cause of their religious beliefs.
FACTS
Based on personal experience, I think this statement is genuinely false. It's much easier to blend in. Not sure what counts as "changing ones identity" though. Not defined I assume.
I always say "when did you choose to became straight" to those that say sexuality is a choice.
Powderfinger It is a choice buddy. It's not a "it happened on this day in 2005" it's a slow manipulation of the mind through observation. You are born Neither.
gtrmaster2000 Interesting. Please expand on your "slow manipulation theory."
Certainly. Throughout your entire life, the moment your senses adjust you are constantly absorbing information. At this current moment you're consciously and subconsciously absorbing information. Every choice you make is determined upon data already collected. In fact you are born with innate data which allows you to survive as an infant, or rather the need of existence. These would be instincts. Another instinct would be to procreate and the continuation of a species. That’s fine and dandy however, how do you know how to procreate? Fairly simply put, you actually don’t. Not until absorbed data takes place anyway. This absorption I argue with a few things one being data collected through smell, pheromones, designed to attract the attention of the opposite sex for procreation. Being attracted by smell is not the same as enjoying sex with either sex though, it’s simply a way for the bodies to notice one another. It’s what you do with this collected data that matters. Absorbed data naturally has variables, be it what you’re exposed to or not. For instance, if you are raised by a family with specific religious values, you tend to follow them due to exposure. This does not however mean you will explicitly follow what you're more exposed to. For instance, say I whole hard idly believed in something and I’ve believed this for 30+ years, yet my fellow peers all agree it is nonsense. Being exposed to this and the constant influx of contrary data, could potentially cause me to make the decision that this is nonsense, or it could even strengthen my beliefs depending on whichever other variable of data is collected. You can’t specifically choose things to expose to someone and have them make a choice based on that exposure every time though. There are far too many outside variables. I do believe though if you were to do an experiment on a child in a controlled environment, never exposed to males or females directly, I mean sound/sight/touch all senses, they would neither be straight nor gay, in fact I’d argue they would be attracted to a female based on innate data from birth, but that doesn’t mean they would like it. They wouldn’t know what they like, until the rest of the data was collected, touch/sight etc.
Id continue but I feel that's already relatively long.
gtrmaster2000 Influence due to environmental factors does not at all mean that a conscious decision was made. I agree that sexuality is a very complex mixture of both innate, biological tendencies paired with environment as with most behavior. However, would you say that someone chose to have post traumatic stress disorder, a bacterial infection, a dismembered limb, etc? No. These situations are all directly caused by environmental factors, but people did not choose those environments. Also, biological features play a far bigger role than what you are presuming. It is theorized that homosexual brains differ from heterosexual brains (content.time.com/time/health/article/0,8599,1815538,00.html). It is also theorized that heredity plays a role as well (www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1691850/pdf/15539346.pdf). Overall, I agree that the environment likely plays a role in sexuality, but this does not correlate to choice, it does not mean biology is not a factor, and it does not mean that homosexuality is preventable at this point in time.
Kevin Demontbrun I never argued that people chose what environments were exposed to them... In fact I clearly stated that variables exist multiple times in the assessment. I thought I made that very clear. Of course I do believe heredity plays a role, I also mentioned that with innate genetics... Yes environment definitely has influence on choice. Does it force you to choose? No, but it certainly makes you think of the possibility and to deny that is in and of itself nonsensical.
Anyone else feeling like a total slacker when you realize how many things the kid did before he was even 20?
For me, it was always simple. "You throw a ball like a girl!" or "What are you doing?! That's the way girls strike matches!" I didn't realize how insidious and widespread this restricting of body movement was, until I saw a video of a preacher telling his congregation that if they ever found their little boy waving his hands with limp wrists they should hit him,HARD! Simple and stupid and sad, sad, sad.
Very sad!
Girls... Strike matches... Differently..?
So sad, I was always told "stop acting like a boy" or "are you a boy?"
Next time someone says that just say, if you actually tried you could too, I'm a transboy so this is a kicker
@@Quack-vf2ch exactly what I'd say if someone gives me hassle or if someone screwed up who was giving me hassle.
He is damn good at giving a speech. For someone with English as second language it is always interesting to listen to people like him.
Matt H. What's his first language?
English is also my second language, but the thing is, all you have to do is speak it enough and you'll be good at it. I live in the US now, and I actually had to tell most of my friends english was my second language before they realized.
Hi Daniel Yahalom, can i get acquainted with you?
because i want to learn English more from you
Daniel Yahalom that is really what I do, but I am very embarrassed by from that, I feel them like they are gonna laughing at me
Matt H. Sure bro
Have you ever had a day that you feel so gay that you do everything by the "gay way" and you can't stop saying/thinking that you are gay
Me, before i realized i was bisexual.
lmao
lol yaaaaasssssss
today is one of those days
yes
I entered expecting to have rainbows injected into my eyes.
I left compounding the idea that being different does not require conformity, regardless of your peer's opinions.
That was amazingly said!
tbh rainbows injected in your eyes arent a bad thing.
I’m bi. I saw this somewhere and for whatever reason I found it hilarious.
Girls are hot.
Guys are hot.
Everybody is hot.
Why?
*Because of global warming*
Ohhhhhhhh
lmaoooo😂😂
LMAO this just made my day
I don't want to live anymore.
Ramez Dr are you okay
just kiddin lmao
Your comic timing is incredible. I would have been one of those loud laughs coming from the back of the room cutting through that tense silence.
yeah the TED crowd is always so dead. A lot of people try to throw in some comedy to their...performance to help make it flow and keep their attention, but they are always so up-tight and never laugh.
this deserves nothing but support and love, such a great speaker
Agreed!
And a big old fashipn gay drag
Not all people who do drag are gay, and not all gay people do drag.
league player is confused
Bravo!
That was an amazing speech! As a straight person I believe is great that there are people out there who are trying to change the world and empower others to feel comfortable with who they are and accept their identities.
Thank you for this. Owning your identity, for yourself and others has always been something I have felt is necessary, but have had difficulty explaining the importance to others. Thank you for setting an example
You're cute 😍
What a beautiful, educated, inspirational man.
❤🌈 beautiful 🥰
I never understood gay people until i worked with one for 5 years. Its just how they are. Just how their brain works. Its different just as i am dyslexic there is no way i can change it. It just is how it is. Be proud who you are. Just be you.
***** So Albert Einstein, Steve jobs, Steven Hawkings, Steven Spielberg Are all retarded ok.
***** I don't think that being gay is hereditary. If a gay man has a kid he is not more likely to be gay.
Yer think you are on the right track. I believe in darwinian theory too. We are now at the point in time when we will change our evolution path by ourselves. Alot of people think its the only way for the human race to survive is to change who we really are. To create a much less self destructive human with the ability to always be at an equilibrium.
Thanks bud will check its and its King not Queen but thanks anyway.....
***** Medical Definition of RETARDATION. 1 : an abnormal slowness of thought or action; especially : mental retardation. 2 : slowness in development or progress.
He sounds like my son’s boyfriend. We all love him to bits.
Aw! 😊 Are they still together?
Julie Wake that’s so sweet!
C. F. Yes they’re really close. They’ve been together for nearly four years now.
@@juliewake4585 l think they have it made male and male, female and female couples,....................i mean, imagine the communication
Thank you for accepting him😊
Very eloquent speaker! He kept me engaged all the time.
This guy is actually more of a man, more of a person than many of those "manly macho" kids.
Shot fired
Yes! That's what I was thinking. He is being himself. Very smart and kind young man.
YESSS!!! :-D
Max Đỗ ddddd
Exactly what I was thinking. Why are all of the good ones gay? :')
(this is just a joke please don't come for me)
Im 15 not out but this gave me hope
+Tim Miller I hope you will find something better that won't drag you into the "gay community" as opposed to simply being you and homosexual (or whatever).
There will always be people out there who will tell you that you are less than. They are merely afraid of what they don't understand. Have a close group of friends that you can rely on if you aren't having a good day. ❤️❤️❤️
i never told my mum I'm straight what should i do?
+imperfectionist I'm joking coming out as gay or bi or whatever is stupid
+imperfectionist my parents don't know I'm bi... and i don't care if they think I'm straight or gay i do my own thing
his hand gesticulations are incredible!
rio maule his motions are incredibly dull, they portray nothing therefore are useless
yes, incredibly fey
I have an essay due in ten minutes, and I still have to write the conclusion paragraph. Yet I am here. I have no regrets.
Normal is a washing machine setting, it doesn't apply to humans.
All we can do is be ourselves with no apologies. peace x
You have a washing machine with a normal setting?
Michaela B No! Just an expression. peace x
***** Thanks :) *your
Gus W Can I have cookies?
***** there are so many different gender orientations that it's difficult to classify all of them socially that's where the problems begin
This guy is gorgeous and so smart. I'm glad he did this.
He needs a lady.What a shame..
Gino Simplicio gaye lel
@@janherrmann3320 Sooo Your Against Him?
What A Shame...
This guy is so intelligent and funny. He gave me a lot to think about.
This is undoubtedly one of the best TED Talks in recent history. This young man is amazing. Thank you Mr. Thomas Lloyd.
This is one brilliant and brave young man. I feel safe leaving the planet in millennials' hands because of people like this guy!
agree
***** I disagree with the first part. Millennials aren't the generation to just settle with on how they were raised [by previous generations]. We open our minds to new things especially in a world that is rapidly changing. And I think that's what sets us apart from past generations....we yearn for new things and don't just live by the views and traditions our parents instill into us. We choose to learn, explore other things and areas.
***** Yeah...Ive heard about that statistic. I dont necessarily think thats a bad thing. Millennials marry later in life, have less children, etc. The majority of people who believe in those stereotypes are the generations before us. It doesnt matter though...
assuming this is sarcasm. what's wrong with this guy?
Prince Charmling You fucking disgusting pervert.
"Gosh, I'm so gay"
- Me, a bisexual.
Okami D. Yuu THIS IS ME XD
Okami D. Yuu This relates to me on a spiritual level
Okami D. Yuu SAME
Okami D. Yuu MEE
meeeeeeeeeee omg
as soon as I watched this I literally signed up for a public speaking class at my community college cause I wanna be able to speak in front of a crowd as well as this guy did.
This guy came to TEDTalk after watching the Ugandan interview.
He did a really nice job with this presentation, and its kind of unfortunate the crowd didn't appreciate his dry humor :(
They laughed plenty. But given the pretense of it being a Ted Talk and trying to be politically correct, it can be hard to laugh at every self made joke knowing they were born out of such emotional pain.
I am a Christian, moderately conservative and I believe in gay rights. I believe that God makes and designed gay people for a reason. Gay people are great because they adopt the children that straight people don't want 😊
+Abdulkariem Al-Bertaali You just judged him, which is also against the Bible. You're in no way a follower of Christ.
Unfortunately, both things you said directly contradict yourself. I get what you mean, in that you a modern thinker, but then you compare it to a book written over 1000 years.
+Diaab ibn Nahshid ummm....and god created man in his image does that not mean that how you are created is the way god wanted you to be...just because some random dudes wrote that they hate gays doesn't make it an abomination...and are you looking at the old testament or new testament because they contradict each other a lot already and if you're Christian, you should follow the new testament being that it's about Christ and wasn't his big thing that the outcasts and the downtrodden are the ones you should love the most. An atheist is someone that rejects the idea of a deity or higher power...you can believe in a higher power and still fight for gay rights...you are the reason people think the catholic church is medieval but what do i know...I'm just responding to an ignorant post that's spreading hate on a video about accepting yourself and each other
Which part of the Bible did she go against ? It would be most helpful if the relevant quotations are indicated.
Shyanne Whisner god makes no mistakes right?
Powerful talk. It's really encouraging to hear these kinds of talk in midst of finding yourself.
I wish to meet this person someday before I die and really thank him for speaking the last lines which I have in my mind before the world. Thank you
I don't know about anyone else but I am in love with his parents for being so supportive and just all around amazing.
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I searched this for fun, because I'm pretty gay, but I never expected to get a so awesome answer!
Wtf Internet same
I didn't think I would comment at first but this dude... his ending note was a total mic drop moment. What an iconic moment. Kudos to you, Thomas Lloyd.
Humor and Humility= A+
Impressive- well done! Great role model for all young men, of any sexual orientation. He will go far in life.
As a straight men, I totally agree with you
+Mathieu Meneray man*
i'm a young straight girl, he's a great role model for everyone!
nobody cares about your sexual orientation.
Braden Haggart fanatic religions?
A dozen would have been nice. Holler.
This is a great talk, one that I will share with others!!
English is not mother language but I am proud of myself how I easily understand him even though he speaks so fast without a breath. It is no suprise he is in debates. I am jealous of his fluidity.
I used to monitor my walking everyday for the same reason. I also refused to run because one time someone said I looked like a girl with the way my wrists moved. So crazy how consistent these experiences can be.
This title is what I ask myself every morning
I try to ask that question too, except I usually can't because my mouth is full.
Hellooooo! 😛🍌🏳️🌈
I would too, but I’m a bit busy with my girlfriend making out.
Jk, I don’t have one ;-;
Pikaia Gracilens LMFAOOOO.
I'm the same in his younger years currently... I was told I walked weirdly, acted differently, so I was so conscious of myself that I fixed the way I walked, the way I acted, and the way I dressed too. You are brillant and strong willed Thomas. Inspirational.
I never had a relationship until I found my girlfriend and I love her with all my heart. And I talked openly about it since then. And I knew, I have some of the most awesome people on earth supporting me in every way.
I am female.
I am lesbian.
I have ASD.
I have Endometriosis.
And I fight for my right of getting paid equally, getting married, get inclusive threatment( I was one of the very first ASD Kids going to Gymnasium School in Germany) and being allowed to get the medical care I need to live with an illness, that is ruining my Job and my health in general (chronic muscel inflamation, spine problems and high risks of inner bleedings).
And I am proud of becoming an example for others!
"I spoke catholic with the best of them..." Cool phrase.
This so-called "gay acting" isn't gay at all. I see everyday straight men moving their hands just like he does, I hear straight men suffering judgemental people just because they have a clear voice. And I do not mention straight women who aren't considered feminine enough by society. This is not being gay, this is being yourself!
i'm a masculine girl, and i am gay. the reasons they're stereotypes is because they're often true, and there's nothing wrong with that - what's wrong is claiming that it's bad to be a masculine girl or bad to be a feminine boy, no mention of sexualities at all.
The fact more men act like gays just means society is getting weaker and more effeminate.
@@destroya3303
How?
@@alyssahansen1400 It is obvious on its face.
@@destroya3303
Explain the correlation of the weakening of society to men flicking their wrists and having a specific tone of voice to me like I have only half a brain.
so comforting to see people proud of what they are
Barbara Hernandez not what they are but who they are.
Hurrr Durrrr political correctness hurrr durr
But IS he truly who he is? How can you be sure? How many of us people truly behave the way they are?
what are you talking about jokeman
I love his confidence that lets him take himself so lightly. "Those who can laugh at themselves are always amused." I am still moving toward complete confidence. I am enough there to be happy, but I also recognize I will always have room to improve. Good thing too. I would feel terrible for everyone around me if I were already perfect. :)
He represents Georgetown very well. I’m sure the school is proud of him.
The title has gay in it and the gay guy is gay af (and cute too) But all what i learn from this vid was to own my own my identity so others can identify and own their own that was really cool
what an incredible speaker. dude you is like proper gifted!
As a bisexual girl with Aspergers, I feel like he has touched upon some major revelations. When I was trying to be "normal" I was miserable. I was bullied, because other kids knew I was different even before I did. I was smart, and fairly good at faking my pain. When I finally found out, in my twenties, that I have Aspergers, I felt so much relief. I felt like now...I don't have to hide. I don't have to put up a facade that takes all of my energy and happiness. Now I try to own my identity; to be who I am. The world may not like that I don't fit in it's box of normality, but I can never go back to how it was. Not when I'm finally me.
Wow, this guy IS progress. Thank you.
I love how he also addressed the whole of the LGBTQ community and not just homosexuals. As a bisexual I feel often left out when it comes to our community
I love this guys accent and body language. 😍
nico griffiths why are you so gay?
Not My Name I don't think I've ever been asked that in my entire life 🤔
nico griffiths i was joking lol
Not My Name I gathered that. It kind of occurred to me so I just replied that 😂
Too much body language
He threw so many jokes and no one wanted to catch them 😂 I love this talk.
That's a really eye-opening, and powerful talk, thanks for sharing!
Being called gay even as a kid from the age of 6 or being asked "why are you so gay" made me so confused as a person because I was not it confused me as a person as I let the words of others confuse me they made me think i was something i was not. I cut my hair short because i was just convinced I thought thats how it worked. And I realized 1. Im not gay 2. Having short hair dosent make you gay 3. Dont let people tell you who you are. But most of all I learned my short hair shaped me to become who I wanted to be and I am a 13 year old straight girl and I have short hair and I love myself as a person and I will not be told different.
😂😂😂
+Makayla Ketteman who the fuck cares
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"It's easier to change a community than to change your own identity, and it does much less damage that way."
New favourite quote, god damn
I was literally smiling through the whole thing. You are truly amazing.
I needed this today. I appreciate his humor and strength. Thomas Lloyd, thank you!
I caught myself thinking more about his legs than about the gayness.
The CODE we live for his gams
I watched this and clapped my hands to applause him at the end.
Epitome of service for others. So thoughtful and such a courageously lived life. Thank you!
So proud of this young man. A great video for Pride or anytime. Thank you for your contributions, Thomas!
What a speaker!!! He really gives words to the things the LBGT community experience day after day.. #respect
Hey, let's be gay together
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Tomás Nierenberger Can happen with male female couples too.
Let's
I’m in
I wouldn't of been able to tell unless he said
Excellent work Thomas. Thank You for empowering yourself and many others. Keep rocking brother!
I've said for decades it is not just for me that I stand up. I stand up because others will stand with me and those who come after will see us there and join us. I applaud this young man for seeing clearly that self worth is the foundation of self promotion and from these things comes a force of nature. It is not weakness that makes us show who we are. It is great strength.
wish there was a love button on youtube
Kax You can add it to a playlist! :D
Why not just type the heart ma am?
There is now.
This guy is cute as fuck
Best quote ever..."I refuse to use my creative energies to bend myself into an institution" Thomas Lloyd.
Love this guy. His ability to articulate complex ideas is unmatched. I’m appreciative for coming across him.
Interesting to note that many people who are offended by homosexuality, seem to be under the impression that their individual morality is the gold standard of morality for all peoples, everywhere. The interesting part about this line of thinking is that the individual is outwardly attempting to define what is right and wrong for rest of the human inhabitants on this planet.
The most important thing to take away from this, is the philosophical viewpoint known as "meta-ethical morality" which states that each individual defines their own view of right and wrong, good and bad.
Using this logic, one can see clearly that when an individual exclaims that "being homosexual is bad" or "the LGBT community is in some way wrong," what they are really stating is that they have somehow created a wall inside of their mind with a "my way or the highway" attitude and expect most other individuals to have--or at least conform to--the same thought processes and belief systems.
Think of morality and perception like this:
Each individual lives inside an enclosed cubicle.
Nobody can see outside, but each can make educated guesses about what its like.
This is perception.
Nobody can define global concepts of right and wrong, without actually experiencing an upbringing in every culture, religion, and time period; living in every possible situation that has ever been presented to each individual. Even then, it may still be subjective.
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In order to preserve the human race, and the future of our children's children, their children, and thousands of generations down the line....
....I beg of you, please put aside your individual concepts of right and wrong, and instead place a greater emphasis on how we can work together as a species. Not as a tribe, a race, a religious group, or a specific culture, but a species.
The species is what matters most.
Even ants know that.
This comment really moved me..thank you for this🙏👏👏
Burhan the Somali
No it isn't subjective. Hatred almost always stems from fear. It is an old outdated animal instinct.
Primitive man threw rocks at other primitive men that looked different. Nowadays people use better rocks. We call them bullets.
Senseless murder happens everyday, perpetuated by either fear or greed. Homophobia, Racism, Anti-[insert religion here]...Its all the same really.
A species that kills itself in huge masses for no viable existential reason, is paradoxical at best. At worst, its a species bound to be extinct.
We have already destroyed 90% of the Earth...You know, our only habitat...Should we spend time acting like primitive man, throwing rocks at eachother, or should we evolve and rebuild our habitat, and advance our species?
Great comment. You could argue, however, that objective morality could be based solely on whether or not something is harmful (directly or indirectly) to other people (maybe even more generally: beings that are able to experience pain?).
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Writing this down in my quotes note book!
I wish I could be this confident and comfortable about my ownself.
🙌🙌🙌 Thank you! This makes so much sense!! ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
I’m so proud of this beautiful intelligent strong empathetic young man !! Way to go Mom & Pop Lloyd!! 👏👏
I’m too young to be his mother but if I were I’d be over the moon with joy to have a son so confident and inspiring 💕
God Bless You Thomas!!
His points about the energy he used up to 'cover' being gay really struck a chord with me (but it took me far longer to see that).
And as he says, while this is an issue for many LGBT people, I think huge amounts of energy that could be creative goes into covering - for example, the twists and turns needed to survive as a minority in repressive cultures (including religious minorities). Accepting diversity is not so much being 'PC' obsession, but a basic necessity for viable communities. Syria is a tragic example of where cultivating intolerance can lead.
I like this guy. Captivating and inspiring.
this is one of the most interesting, intriguing, and informative ted talks i have watched.
When he kneeled down to be closer to his parents I shed some tears... so well spoken. Such a great presentation.