As a man too, because you know what happens to men who try to share their true feelings and their emotional side, they soon realize exactly why they weren't sharing it in the first place
"The love we seek will find its way to us, because we ourselves are already full of it"... every time someone likes this comment, I get reminded to come back and re read this.
Sadly that isn't really true if we r talking about romantic relationships cus if we look at science/statistics , there's more males than females. So yeah even if all females have a partner , not all males will have a partner. Aside from that , let's say males and females have the same percentage/number of people. We still gotta take account for those people who r gay/bi , people that dosent want a relationship and more. So yup. As much as I wish this was true. It won't be
tell them everything trust me its better than letting it accumulate and it will cause more harm than it should , i dont promise anything about their response but i wish someone told me to do so earlier, and i wish you a happy life regardless of their unswer . good luck .
Let them know, release yourself of this burden, the suffering you may endure as a result of rejection is nothing compared to the suffering of perpetual anxiety
I have confessed my love to the boy I loved for 7 years secretly, it was a magical moment although he rejected me nicely saying that he doesn't really understand the concept of love and that he doesn't believe in love I totally understand him, I've been trying to move on from him but I just can't so I've decided to just continue on loving him until somehow I move on but truly falling in love is such a beautiful experience and I love my crush so much for making me experience those true feelings that most teens like me lack because of the new standards of love.
That is so beautiful, you can be so proud of yourself for building up the courage and tell him about your feelings and love without conditions 🫶🏽 one day it will come back to you in abundance
You're grateful for that? For me it feels miserable. Knowing that your feelings won't be reciprocated but not being able to get rid of those feelings is like a knife that is constantly being twisted inside you
@@furiousdestroyah9999it does feel miserable but everyone processes grief differently. unreciprocated love is a grief, a grief of something that won’t happen or be felt. But slowly overtime like in the video, you’ll be able to feel love again when you notice the different kinds of love you’ll feel yourself n someone will notice that authentic love or you’ll feel that authentic love from others. the goal rn is js to heal n be at peace w your emotions fully without harsh treatment to them. it’s not your fault it’s unreciprocated so don’t be too hard on yourself during this grieving process.
I told a girl that I liked her during 4 - 5 years, she said "I need time" I was like "absolutely, no pressure" then 4 month later she told me she had someone for 1 year and half lol, she apologized, I said it's ok, and now I'm back to feeling lonely, but I gotta admit, during these 4 months there was some hope and a weird feeling of happiness
I don't think like that. A lotta ppl really work on themselves. Also, there are ppl who are shit but still in a relationship. Ain't supporting them. Just saying. You always have to work on yourself
My now husband told me he loved me on our third date. I was uncomfortable at first but I asked him why. He didn’t know me that well yet. His answer changed how I thought about the once terrifying “I love you” confession. He said “I don’t know. I’m just telling you how I feel.” He hadn’t even been expecting an answer. We got married after exactly a year of being together and are still loving being married.
I've been trying to get on to one girl and it took her 14 months to agree on the feelings she has. Now ik she loves me but we can't be together. I wanna leave, I did so many times. But I just don't know why I just end up searching for her. I'm in big pain, this heart wrenching pain won't stop. I don't know what's she want, does she want me or not. She won't be tell it directly, if I ask her to be honest she'd say I don't wanna be 100% honest again, cuz I feel uncomfortable. If I try to leave she'd say that's your love right. The answer to the question, is love painful? I'd say yes. I don't even know what I'm doing. I just love her so much that I can't even imagine letting her go. If I cling to this feelings I feel so much pain. God I wanna be with her, I wanna get rid of this pain. I wanna smile again. She's so hard, damn she's so hard.
This is genuinely one of the best essay videos ive ever watched. It is so real and im so tired of people thinking theyre cool for not showing their emotions. There is no such thing as feeling too much and be "too sensitive."
A few important rules: 1. People need to be around folks their own age. With similar quirks. 2. If you're interested in someone: Don't be afraid to say "Hello." 3. Not everything will be perfect. But the relationship will be fine. As long as you guys get along. And there's transparency.
She is right. When i stepped out of my darkness I felt it. If you pay attention to the small things around you and allow yourself to be happy for no reason even the clouds can make you happy af. And if you give love to the people around you, you will get atleast some of it back. But it’s still better than nothing
i met the love of my life the next day after letting go of people who made me feel like genuine love was too much the world is so much prettier than we often let ourselves see
I am smiling through the whole video. This video is literally therapy for me as a 21 years old single. I am gonna spread love and enjoy my life to the fullest. Love you girl for this amazing video.
I was single until 21 too, then I fell in love with someone who acted so differently after we started dating and hurt me so much, I can assure you love is not the be all end all thing that is portrayed to be. I was empathetic, caring, romantic, honest and reliable yet she was none of those for me. It took me months to realize the damage she had and could cause in my life before I had to break up with her. Before we started dating she was so nice to me, so interested, made so much effort to see me and talk to me, to a point where everyone around us were shipping us. It is a shame how it ended but I learned so much from this, so do not feel pressured to find love, try to find someone who is good for you to love. Because life is mostly cruel, and even if you love authentically this doesn’t guarantee reciprocation… I wish you the best of luck, I hope we all can find a person who appreciates us for who we are.
Back in high school I realized i fell on the asexual spectrum. It wasn't until I hit my 20s that i realized I was demisexual & demiromantic. For the longest time I thought something was wrong with me. "Why are people so eager to date?" "Is something wrong with me for not feeling attracted to that person when they're obviously attractive?" I had 1 relationship in highschool & was single after that for 7 years until I got into my second ever relationship last year. I'm 25 going on 26, I just wanted to tell all of you lovely folks, old or young that love will happen. It took a long time for it to find me, but then again I was never actively seeking it out, it just happened. Please learn that being alone is ok & that it'll happen for you. In the meantime, find love & joy in the little & big things in life. You will come to find that funny enough, when you don't look for it, it will come to you instead. You're beautiful & I love you ❤️
Everywhere i look i see couples kissing, hugging and being happy. Meanwhile I'm here all alone wondering why i somehow can't have that or even friends for that matter, while remembering every time i got rejected or ignored and every friendship that just evaporated, wondering why they all seem to want to avoid me(?) I've heard so many things at this point that I really don't know what to believe and feel completely lost... "Oh it's your looks, oh it's your social skills, oh it's your height, oh it's your confidence, oh you don't talk enough, oh it's your money, your aura, your whatever..." I'm getting to a point where it's becoming increasingly difficult to actually believe it will happen, all the while I'm forced to watch all the people i grew up with find it so effortlessly... Sometimes i can't help but feel someone or something is playing a cruel joke on me....
thats so unfair mate i acc hurt for u so bad, i think when ur somewhere like that no matter how fucked up and unjust the situation is you need to stick with what you have, which is yourself. Even if when u go outside and everything u see seems to be working against you or you get rejected or fucked over, the one thing you can control is yourself right? liking and even loving yourself is hard when ur lacking external validation, but that means that when you finally get there itll be all the more true, and you won't need to worry about it collapsing if someone leaves your life, cause you made it yourself, and it's something that, even nowadays, not many people have. You're infinitely more valuable than your money or social skills or looks because you're a person and a life that can't be wasted. Don't wait for someone else to make you live it. And i promise what comes after is better than temporary happiness, it's contentment. And that lives forever and will nurture you through any other hardships you face, which im sure you'd have the strength to push through anyway. idk i just really wanted to reply and let you know that you're worth a friendship with yourself. Im a serial waffler i hope that made sense but idk how to word it any better. anyways love u stay safe mate
What @cherryantacids said was brilliant on its own, but I could add some rare or original knowledge that isn't readily apparent: Other than you get to keep all your own good memories without others distorting them or projecting negatively against what you know to be true. Also, my best lasting memories of relationships, friendships and love interests, never needed any of the things conventional ""wisdom"" throws at you. I didn't need money, clout, credentials or success for them to happen and many people who have those things, unfortunately never had or felt any of the things I have experienced or lived through. Truly though, I think people who don't appreciate others are the ones who are found lacking in humaneness and a proper sense of ethics. If I have been able to turn enemies good, how is it that others can't even do the same with people who aren't even hostile or diametrically opposed? In this way, I have come to realize that most fixate on the wrong things from the outset. A common example is being asked "What do you do?", as if the whole of one's life experiences beyond it can be irreversibly reduced to how they make their money... if any. None of my loves asked me this, and it's considered poor etiquette to do so if the conversation isn't already about mutual fields of expertise or gathering references for potential networking. Speaking of which, people can find each other on meetup. Since there is no excessive checklists of prerequisites unless a group is using it in that way. You are sure to eventually form bonds with whoever you share hobbies or interests with. So consider checking that out. 🤷🏻 Besides that, make your own "mind palace" for sanctuary in your head to recoup and your best memories will paint internal decorations more vivid than whatever misery may be out in the world. And you get to carry that beauty within you as something foundational to who you are, as something that begins to shine outward. Once you build yourself up enough, you become even more resilient against what others say or do. Their flawed perspectives shouldn't be allowed to overwrite the good & unique aspects of how a person really is.. as we are our own exceptions, not our common failings. And the next time you see your reflection, see yourself as someone else you were looking at and ignore anything you don't like, as if it doesn't matter at that moment; to focus on anything good until it positively alters your perspective. It doesn't have to take long, but it counters all sorts of dismorpha, even if it's projected from other people or "beauty standards". Since the gracefulness of beauty comes from an internal source, so it's already there somewhere, you just have to acknowledge it in yourself. Plenty of pretty people lack a sense of their own beauty without considerations like this, yet everyone has some kind of endearing qualities that are hidden from, even from themselves. Express yourself in a good mirror(cameras can lie) and you'll begin to notice them, as well as the ones that don't fit who you are on the inside, eventually shedding what doesn't represent you. And the expression of rose tinted glasses originates from good actual things, you just have to remember to use them on yourself from time to time. The Penrose Wave Function Collapse in quantum physics proves that some aspects of reality, is entirely subjective. And the context of several of my life's work demonstrably confirms that. In other words: the essence of what that Edith Paif song about living a life "in pink", is correct. So make what you will of yourself, since it's not the canvas you chose, but the palettes you paint with.
I understand all that or people say love yourself and this and that i do all the time but then i realised i want a relationship not need one so i’m basically desperate so i realised you need to live your life without searching for one and the right person will come looking for you not the other way around sort of i don’t chase i attract vibe
It's easier to love when you where born from it, but if you're born from survival, damn it's so hard to recognise love in any ways. You always think of just surviving. I hope one day I'll also feel how to really be loved by someone.
Totally resonated to this, thank you. Growing up and being surrounded by toxic family members, it’s hard to find love while you’re also healing yourself. It’s a sad reality.
"Some people won't be able to handle your heart" This line hit me so hard. I'm a person who loves the wrong person too much. Some of them feels overwhelmed and feels 'ew' about me. And others take it for granted. They use me as much as they can and say "She'll love me anyways". I had almost lost hope in love when i came across this video. Since I'm an introvert I'm often shy to complement other people even when I'm amazed by their abilities or their looks. So, today, here i make a decision to never hold back when it's about complementing someone. And to everyone watching this, i hope you feel all the love in the world that you sincerely deserve .
I'm having the same issue ....people often take my feelings for granted...and say " she'll come back anyways...ik she don't have anyone else other than me"....these behaviours made me think being a good hearted person is really worth it??
I honestly think this video came to me at the right time. I started to just feel myself getting sad/angry/hopeless again, but this reminded me to keep using that beautiful energy that I was putting out into the world before I felt hurt. Thank you for this🙏🏾
Wow... when I clicked on this video, I was not expecting it to be this beautiful and well-written! It was unlike anything I've ever seen on youtube. Wonderful message, keep up the great work!!
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I am almost 29 in a few months. For the past 2 months, I've been in severe depression to the point of disassociating and feeling like "I've lost me." I never had romantic experience and always feel dissatisfied with life because dreams are the only ones keeping me company. After watching this, I remembered something I wrote on my life journal sometime ago. In that moment, I felt warmth and fulfilled because the writing is filled with love from me to my own self. And I've realized that no one can ever love you as hard and as complete as yourself. The "me" that I've lost has returned to me, and I am loved. I've written another love letter on my book, the excerpt is: ...I really do love the you who loves you.
The person I loved just ended our situationship 5 days ago. I really cried hard. Guys, it doesn't matter if it's a situationship/relationship, i personally felt this like a huge and real break up. But my mom told me, "If you were talking that long with them, to at the end know y'all will never end together, that mean it wasn't the right person and that nothing was about to happen, and that's okay" it really changed my perspective. I feel thankful, because i will keep this experience and lesson forever, and that know I can open my heart to another person instead of waiting for them. To pass to another things. To pass to the next stage of my life. It feels so good🪷 love u. You're not alone
Hey! How are you doing after 4 weeks? I'm in similar situation to your right now, 3 days just passed... In my 26 year old life he's the first man I was able to tell I truly love. He decided we need to go back to being friends when he defined his path in life. And I feel like two separate beings right now - shrinking inside in grief but on the other hand with a new potential, with all good things I've taken from this situationship, on top that I need to love people openly and just be generous with sharing myself... How is your life developing, do you still grief sometimes after the lost or did you find some deep meaning in your lost and the life that awaits for you?
@@bierkad3691 Hi ! first of all, I totally understand what you feel, this feeling of being abandoned overnight is very frustrating, isn't it? what you feel right now is valid. for several days I cried, until no tears fell. when I met her several times after "our break up" ( it feels like it !), it was weird to me, she also found someone very quickly, as if nothing that we had experienced had mattered in her eyes. But this moment made me realise that I deserve better! You deserve better ! someone who doesn't hide from you and shows you that he loves you. This is painful to hear, isn't it? I understand. when the sadness passes, the anger will arrive, personally, I started to notice traits in her personality that I don't like at all, but that i was never able to see because i was in love, but finally I got the ick. and then, time does things. focus on yourself. you're not late, you're only 26, you're young! life will offer you lots of things. this man was a great experience, and a lesson, it's up to you to know what the meaning of this lesson was! Hope this helped ! Send you love and light❤️✨️
I did dare to be a hopeless romantic, that turned out, well, let's just say not quite like I hoped. And now I'm so drained and hurt and scared I cannot be brave anymore. I just can't. I'm still trying but I can't.
i hope in return u become that hopeless romantic for your self n the ppl who u gave your love to were js the wrong ones who don’t appreciate what a good soul n being of a person you are. it’s not your fault it didn’t work out but if that’s who you are naturally, there is no shame in loving that way. many ppl feel and love differently and your way is not wrong from theirs. as a hopeless romantic i do feel ur fear but if u feel drained or hurt it’s bc we forget to give that same love to ourself when giving it. plz bring happiness to yourself, your soul, and your energy bc i believe hopeless romantics have the most beautiful pure love in the world. 🫂
It’s gonna be okay. You’ll will go through this. I think you can still be a romantic, just do it with healthy boundaries. Being love is not only appreciating every single joy like this video has said, but imo being love is loving yourself enough to acknowledge that you deserve better. From this, you will know the difference between people who genuinely care and love you and those who don’t. Just don’t allow the world and the bad people in it to suck your joy; be even more loving and appreciative despite of it.
i’m in my teenage years and while everyone, even my friends, is in love or in a relationship i am single without even having a crush on someone. i also never had a bf, not bc i can’t “pull” guys but bc i push them away before they even have a chance to really meet me. i have always been scared of getting heartbroken which is why i always self sabotaged any talking stage i had. i am always the one who ghosts a guy, who blocks them, who pushes them away, who breaks things off and all because i am genuinely scared to let my guard down. i am scared to really open myself to someone and later for them to leave me. i know that getting heartbroken is a part of life and that everybody is gonna experience it one way or another but i really don’t want to. i am absolutely terrified of it. that’s why i close myself and pretend like i don’t mind being single, that i don’t even care about romance and love while i do. deep down i am a hopeless romantic
To know if you will get a "heartbroken" try to choose the right person for their personality, see how his mindset is and if he is a loyal and genuine guy
dude this was so me in my teenage. Never had a relationship till now (i am 25) while all my friends had bfs since highschool. Now i believe i've worked upon myself and my insecurities to the point that i dont mind taking such a risk of heartbreak and being abandoned for the right person. I dont know what future holds for me and my guy but i want things to unfold in the most real way be it good or bad. Trust the process, you'll grow out of your fear
I was EXACTLY like you, an avoidant, as a teenager. Im 21 and got brutally betrayed a few months ago by my first love. It hurt so bad i didnt think i’d ever heal but 3 months later and im a new person. I even changed my attachment style which i highly recommend doing research on before even getting into a relationship. I know youre scared of abandonment but know the obvious that pushing people away will get you nowhere, and clinging onto someone can create a codependent relationship (which i also suggest looking up). Just focus on loving and finding happiness within yourself and when you least expect it, your person will find you :)
This video really touched my heart. I will be entering my 20s this year and this is the exact sort of mentality I wish to implement in my life. In my teens, I hated everything around me but now as I've started to enjoy the little things in life, I appreciate life a little more everyday. it makes me even more happy to know people with this mindset exists as well so thank you
In a world/society where romantic love is constantly pushed in our faces (and sometimes the relationships shown arent even healthy..!) this video is so soo refreshing! Im always telling my friends & my circle there needs to be more emphasis on friendship love, family love and of course self love. For anyone feeling like an oddball for choosing to stay single, or simply being single because you cant find the right person , YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!! and remember, being happy alone is much better imo, than a toxic relationship or one where you end up constantly in conflict with your partner. Yet if you are looking to fall in love someday (e.g. little ol' me definitely is😆) i think this video had the most beautiful way of putting into words, how that can happen to us ❤️ Thank you for creating this beautiful reminder!
the music, the videos, the authenticity, your soft voice, the aesthetic, the happiness and the message ... I really needed this today, thank you so much, this is beautiful 🤍🌷
it really starts to feel sometimes that i’m the only hopeless romantic around and all i see and hear is all these rules that make no sense to me. i just love to love! i love my pets, i love music, i love movies, i love to create art!!! i have so much love in me and i wish to give it to someone who would honestly love me back, not pretend that we are friends with benefits or something like that. it just doesn’t make any sense.
nearly cried watching this, tysmmm i'm not concerned about romance, but as someone who cant seem to find purpose in life this video really taught me how to appreciate others and show love to them thanks for helping me get a grip again 🧡
Ohhhh I needed this and I’m in tears. I’m freshly heartbroken, and feeling lost. I wonder if I’ll ever feel close to someone ever again, friends included. I know once the grief subsides, I’ll start to find love for life again. I just need to go out and find it. Thank you for the wonderful message in this video, that was probably one of the most important 5 and a half minutes of my year. Let us all be hopeless romantics despite what we go through. Sending love to everyone in the comments, and the wonderful creator of this video❤️
"If you want to find real love, become it, become love" is something i never understood completely and ofc i'm scared too. Like loving a person without knowing it is being reciprocated or not, that constant state of confusion, and fear of getting hurt, being in that place is very scary to me. I lost many people like that. Just becoz i cannot fully love others, or even love myself. But i don't wanna be in half love, or be half loved. I crave that pure, passionate love which u will never get bored of or be scared to lose. I'm trying more. To be more vulnerable, to love and understand people more and see positive in everything. This is hard, but i believe its worth it. I hope atleast. This video is really very beautiful to see this kind of people exist.
Today I saw my crush with another girls and got rejected the week before and felt hopeless. Years of no boyfriend but I’ve been making self care a hobby and this no joke made me cry
That was sort of me 2 years ago i had a crush on my guy best friend for 2 years and he was oblivious about it and he invited me to hangout with him and a girl and told me they were dating i basically third wheeled their date and that day my heart broke i went home and cried my eyes out all night. At the same time he never knew i liked him and i never told him so it wasn’t his fault but still being his friend it hurt more after 2 months i distanced myself and hung out with new friends and never talked with him again 2 years later i’m fully healed and over him. It does get better
I was expecting a cheesy, sentimental video but I am genuinely impressed with how much depth you were able to evoke in a few minutes. Indeed, I am a hopeless romantic, but I’ve been lately reflecting on how much I’ve lost out on love from playing it safe. The truth is, even the outcome that you think is safe is not truly safe and it comes with its own share of costs. Life is unpredictable, why not bet on something that you truly want? I think you have to accept the reality that it may not transpire, but that’s OKAY!
It feels good to think "I'll be all the love I crave", man it does be hard but gosh it is so good to see genuine happiness in the eyes of the people you love when you're around
This video honestly helped me a lot because I think I complain a lot about not having friends and not having a romantic partner. I used to complain that family is all I have. But... I should be grateful that family is all I have! I could always want and love to have more people in my circle. But my 2 family members were the only people who have stuck with me through thick and thin, they've helped raise me into the person I am today and they never denied my feelings and have always accepted me in my journey of life. I'm LUCKY that I have my family by my side and I need to show them the love they deserve more instead of mopping and complaining that I'm single or no one wants to be friends with me
"In a world where many play cool with their feelings, dare to be a hopeless romantic." This part struck me, because I hate the idea of playing it cool. I hate how I need to consider whether expressing my love is crazy or not. I Just think it would be wonderful if we could just say the things we really feel, and not have to worry whether it's weird, because again, you have to play it cool.
her voice those words in her voice give a sense of a warm hug, ugh i can't i might shed a tear, I was feeling anxious today and saw this video, I really love the universe's timings ❤
I had a crush on my online friend within 6 Weeks i told him that i love him. It scared him so much because he still not over his ex. But i just confessed my feelings without any fear, then he started distancing me thou am aware of the consequences but to be in love is the most beautiful human experience complete self annihilation...ur heart beat for that persons wellbeing..he distanced me it was hard for me to accept then it opened beautiful ways in me to love more and fall in love with lifeee.... I always love u cutiee❤️
this was one of the best videos i have seen. everything was articulated so gracefully and everything you say is so incredibly true! i love your mindset and outlook
"Once you start becoming love you'll forget you were ever searching for the one in the first place and that's precisely when you'll find the person you were looking for waiting for you just around the corner" My God it's so beautiful 😭❤️
I really needed this right now. It’s helped me a ton already thank you so much. I also like the idea of being the person people meet and think, “..their what I’ve been looking for all along.” I hope one day I can fill someone’s heart up with just as much joy as they will me :)
I’m 23 and this video hits me❤️ thank you so much for these pure feelings and deep thoughts I used to love fearlessly and recklessly until it all became quite messy with me being surrounded by those who can hardly understand me or see me “me” and I was about giving up but this video, oh this video of yours I wish you all the best, thank you🥺
Was feeling down in the dumps about the lack of love i've had in my life, and being a hopeless romantic makes it so much more impactful. But this video genuinely provided me so much comfort and made me smile. I love the message and so many quotes which really resonate with me. So thankful I came across this video ❤
I'm gonna be completely open here. Ever since I was in first grade and had my first crush, I have been searching for some form of romantic love. Whether it was the person i liked liking me back or having a girlfriend, I just wanted something (keep in mind this was from 1st-7th grade so i had no real sense of what love really was). Especially recently I've been trying to express feelings and find what love truly means, and then I watched this video. This video taught me *probably* the greatest advice I will hear in my lifetime: We have to find and become Love, before Love can find us. I think this video isn't only about love, but inner peace & acceptance. When you find who you truly are, through pursuing passions and living your best life, you not only fill yourself with love but learn to love yourself. Sorry for my ramble & thanks for listening
Really intelligently and beautifully written💛 I think this is called Agape, a Greek word for love and appreciation for the world around us, a accepting and grateful mindset towards everything.
i’ve lived my life in constant anxiety. constantly fearing not doing something right simply because it was “too good”. i made it a truth to myself to always have something negative be present in every situation, in order for that situation to be valid, that’s how i stopped my heart from getting broken, because i broke it first. I am a person who feels everything very deeply, and see the deep meanings in all the nuances of life, and try to defamiliarize myself with my surroundings in order to intake the weight of them. Honestly i’ve thought that to be one of my biggest flaws. “making a big deal out of nothing” was and *is* something that I guess I’m good at. but this video inspired me to embrace it, so i’m leaving a comment so that I can have a way of always finding it. and I hope that each time I do, i’ll need it, and that I’ll come back better than i left previously. Here’s to the future 🫶🥂 and remember, you are loved.
Never mind this video subconsciously has been a staple in my life. The amount of times I’ve said you can’t say the wrong thing to the right person. I may have not found a romantic partner but I’ve found an amazing friend who I can be vulnerable with it’s felt so freeing
I wish I had someone to love, to be honest, I want someone to love me for being me. But I know that will never happen, I feel too ugly to deserve it. I pour out my heart to the people I love; give them gifts, and spend time with them, but I never get that back. I'm sorry for ruining everyone's day/night, but I want to bring it out of my chest, I feel too afraid to speak up to someone physically. Why am I even writing this? I don't know myself. Delete this if you want.
hey it's totally fine to feel unloved I feel that all the time, boys don't seem interested in me romantically and my female friends just don't like me as much as I do like them but I always make sure to give my love to everyone without expecting anything in return and if you feel ugly and I know that feeling, it's like blaming the way you look for not receiving love, appearance brings you attention but confident, being loving and loving yourself is what brings you true love if you feel like the people around you don't love you it's alright, cut them off if they make you feel bad about yourself, embrace isolation and practice self love and inshallah you'll find people who love you even more it's just a matter of time and self love and if you'd like to vent it's totally okay❤🩹
I have always loved people more than they love me I always try my best in my friendships But people still take me for granted I'm still not the chosen one in their lives I'm just a "friend" For people whom I consider my best friends I always feel ugly and undeserving of love from someone gentle and caring because I think I am not worthy of someone like that But I'm so tired of loving the wrong people, people who only want things from me and dont even consider my feelings my emotions My ex tried so hard to get me back just because he's not doing well mentally and he says he needs me But that same guy didn't even ask me when I was literally drowning and he didn't even noticed and i tried to tell him but he was so busy with his success he forgot about me
Hey, I’m sorry to hear you feel this way but know that you’re on a journey. Tell me more, I’d love to chat to you. Truly. I’m sure things will work out for you, just take some time and understand that everything works out. There will be someone for you, I know it, and I’m sure you’re not ugly there is no such thing, however you feel isn’t a permanent feeling, feelings come and go and you will feel great when the time comes. I’d love to chat. Stay well and best wishes to you 😃
i've been struggling with feeling empty and unloved. this really helped me realize that the love i'm seeking is within myself. thank you for sharing this perspective!
I have so many things to say abt this video. 1. Tysm for making this video, it helped me a lot. It made me realize that chasing love isnt the way, waiting isnt either. Just thinking and focusing on other things such as urself and your family is the best way to. 2. I loved your voice, it was so soothing, and i noticed you look happy sharing the advice, and living by the advice. Thank you. 3. You have really did express everything i wanted to come out of this video. Ty. You may never see me again, but, have an amazing life. You only live once. Goodbye.
I love this so much :’) You put into words what I love to feel, It’s such a beautiful thing to see the world through a rose colored lens. I think there are so many wonderful things in the world and I love all the different people I’ve met. It’s mostly internal for me though. I want to express my love more outwardly, to let the people I love know I love them. The way you written and directed this video is top tier. There is something so magical about it, thank you ♡
The true freedom is to face and accept that life would never be good sometimes. Accepting everything and creating your life shouldn’t be really pressured like what we see in social media. We have our own way of creating it even though we’re living in fear. We just have to do the most genuine and unfiltered actions, then accept it. It’s not simple, but it’s possible.
I don't know what to say.. This was the video I've been looking for.. Thank u so much❤️. Already fell in love with you(and my own life like u said) Keep going.. Stay happy ❤️❤️
The fact that is such a young person who is sharing this profound message made the whole video so much more pure to me :') This was poetic, beautiful, and (hopefully) true. Thank you
"You can never say the wrong thing to the right person" omg that's soo beautiful😭😭😭
Um akchually you can 🤓☝️
that one hit for me too.
@@Nyxar-2077 that's not what they meant and you know that, i know exactly what they meant
But what if I tell them illegal stuff
i dont understand.
"maybe instead of finding the right person, it's about being the right person."
Yes that's the only way to encounter loneliness and take it positively...
Lmao, that doesn’t get you a damn thing.
Awww
“some people won’t be able to handle your heart, and that’s okay.” god. this is beyond beautiful
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Beautiful lines
Love isn't about possession.
It's about appreciation.
Well said
Great line, love it ❤
agreed fellow cousin
“be the love you wish to see” this>>> as long as im alive. i know the love that i wish for exist
Yes, this is so true
"Those who mind don't matter and
those who matter don't mind."
Truly a nice quote
Jessie j song
As a lonely and emotional hopeless romantic, this kinda hits
We will get this ❤
Yup
As a man too, because you know what happens to men who try to share their true feelings and their emotional side, they soon realize exactly why they weren't sharing it in the first place
@@blackbullet4254 yeah, true
same fr
in another universe, i'd love to be your best friend
why not this one
@@nalbinalbii888 Aww just for you to know, If you ever want to come to Argentina, you have a friend here
@@Val-sx4je idk if u meant to reply to me but that’s so sweet
@@Val-sx4je🇦🇷❤️
and in this universe i would like to be your friend
in an era where people say "how to make a man/woman fall in love" and all those romantic or love rules, finally i find this one. thank you so much.
“Life behind rose colored glasses has its complexities” this is beautiful
Yes!❤
"The love we seek will find its way to us, because we ourselves are already full of it"... every time someone likes this comment, I get reminded to come back and re read this.
Sadly that isn't really true if we r talking about romantic relationships cus if we look at science/statistics , there's more males than females. So yeah even if all females have a partner , not all males will have a partner. Aside from that , let's say males and females have the same percentage/number of people. We still gotta take account for those people who r gay/bi , people that dosent want a relationship and more. So yup. As much as I wish this was true. It won't be
@@unknown-hn7ibdont be negative
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I wish I can always remember
Let me be a part of this subscription
"sharing your feelings without fear." literally makes me feel like i need to let them know instead of hurting this bad
tell them everything trust me its better than letting it accumulate and it will cause more harm than it should , i dont promise anything about their response but i wish someone told me to do so earlier, and i wish you a happy life regardless of their unswer . good luck .
Let them know, release yourself of this burden, the suffering you may endure as a result of rejection is nothing compared to the suffering of perpetual anxiety
Let them know dawg, don’t live life in fear it prevents you from doing so much.
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Rejection pain is better than the pain of never knowing. So tell them, even if you’re scared it’ll go wrong.
I have confessed my love to the boy I loved for 7 years secretly, it was a magical moment although he rejected me nicely saying that he doesn't really understand the concept of love and that he doesn't believe in love I totally understand him, I've been trying to move on from him but I just can't so I've decided to just continue on loving him until somehow I move on but truly falling in love is such a beautiful experience and I love my crush so much for making me experience those true feelings that most teens like me lack because of the new standards of love.
That is so beautiful, you can be so proud of yourself for building up the courage and tell him about your feelings and love without conditions 🫶🏽 one day it will come back to you in abundance
You're grateful for that? For me it feels miserable. Knowing that your feelings won't be reciprocated but not being able to get rid of those feelings is like a knife that is constantly being twisted inside you
Its nice to feel love even if unreciprocated. It's a beautiful feeling. It also is wonderful to wish the best for them
@@furiousdestroyah9999it does feel miserable but everyone processes grief differently. unreciprocated love is a grief, a grief of something that won’t happen or be felt. But slowly overtime like in the video, you’ll be able to feel love again when you notice the different kinds of love you’ll feel yourself n someone will notice that authentic love or you’ll feel that authentic love from others. the goal rn is js to heal n be at peace w your emotions fully without harsh treatment to them. it’s not your fault it’s unreciprocated so don’t be too hard on yourself during this grieving process.
I told a girl that I liked her during 4 - 5 years, she said "I need time" I was like "absolutely, no pressure" then 4 month later she told me she had someone for 1 year and half lol, she apologized, I said it's ok, and now I'm back to feeling lonely, but I gotta admit, during these 4 months there was some hope and a weird feeling of happiness
Everybody wants the ideal partner, Nobody ever thinks to be the ideal partner
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YOU BETTER COOK
I don't think like that. A lotta ppl really work on themselves. Also, there are ppl who are shit but still in a relationship. Ain't supporting them. Just saying. You always have to work on yourself
My now husband told me he loved me on our third date. I was uncomfortable at first but I asked him why. He didn’t know me that well yet. His answer changed how I thought about the once terrifying “I love you” confession. He said “I don’t know. I’m just telling you how I feel.” He hadn’t even been expecting an answer. We got married after exactly a year of being together and are still loving being married.
AWWWWWWWW.
"love that is hidden is such a waste"
You're a wonderful writer. i wish you the best ❤
i think philosophy comes at play here
I wish someone would have given me this quote 20 years ago... Now she's married with kids, and I've got nothing to do but accept it'll never happen.
I've been trying to get on to one girl and it took her 14 months to agree on the feelings she has. Now ik she loves me but we can't be together. I wanna leave, I did so many times. But I just don't know why I just end up searching for her. I'm in big pain, this heart wrenching pain won't stop. I don't know what's she want, does she want me or not. She won't be tell it directly, if I ask her to be honest she'd say I don't wanna be 100% honest again, cuz I feel uncomfortable. If I try to leave she'd say that's your love right. The answer to the question, is love painful? I'd say yes. I don't even know what I'm doing. I just love her so much that I can't even imagine letting her go. If I cling to this feelings I feel so much pain. God I wanna be with her, I wanna get rid of this pain. I wanna smile again. She's so hard, damn she's so hard.
This is genuinely one of the best essay videos ive ever watched. It is so real and im so tired of people thinking theyre cool for not showing their emotions. There is no such thing as feeling too much and be "too sensitive."
Tell that to men who lost the girls they loved because they showed vulnerability...
@@S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier “some people wont be able to handle your heart and thats okay.”
@@S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier could you give me an example?
"you can never say the wrong thing to the right person." 🥺
A few important rules:
1. People need to be around folks their own age. With similar quirks.
2. If you're interested in someone: Don't be afraid to say "Hello."
3. Not everything will be perfect. But the relationship will be fine. As long as you guys get along. And there's transparency.
She is right. When i stepped out of my darkness I felt it. If you pay attention to the small things around you and allow yourself to be happy for no reason even the clouds can make you happy af.
And if you give love to the people around you, you will get atleast some of it back. But it’s still better than nothing
"those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind" a word that should be written on stone
lol it’s also sort of a Simpsons quote
i met the love of my life the next day after letting go of people who made me feel like genuine love was too much
the world is so much prettier than we often let ourselves see
I’m so happy for you 🥹
Share more of the story ! Sounds really nice ❤
I am smiling through the whole video. This video is literally therapy for me as a 21 years old single. I am gonna spread love and enjoy my life to the fullest. Love you girl for this amazing video.
Fellow 21 years single here, hoping both of us find the love we seek 💐
Here I am, adding to the list of 21 year old single hopeless romantics
Hopefully, our true love will find us.Wishing you good from another 21 years old..
I was single until 21 too, then I fell in love with someone who acted so differently after we started dating and hurt me so much, I can assure you love is not the be all end all thing that is portrayed to be. I was empathetic, caring, romantic, honest and reliable yet she was none of those for me. It took me months to realize the damage she had and could cause in my life before I had to break up with her. Before we started dating she was so nice to me, so interested, made so much effort to see me and talk to me, to a point where everyone around us were shipping us. It is a shame how it ended but I learned so much from this, so do not feel pressured to find love, try to find someone who is good for you to love. Because life is mostly cruel, and even if you love authentically this doesn’t guarantee reciprocation… I wish you the best of luck, I hope we all can find a person who appreciates us for who we are.
Same here 21 year old...going to turn 22 in 7 days and still a hopeless romantic
Back in high school I realized i fell on the asexual spectrum. It wasn't until I hit my 20s that i realized I was demisexual & demiromantic. For the longest time I thought something was wrong with me. "Why are people so eager to date?" "Is something wrong with me for not feeling attracted to that person when they're obviously attractive?" I had 1 relationship in highschool & was single after that for 7 years until I got into my second ever relationship last year. I'm 25 going on 26, I just wanted to tell all of you lovely folks, old or young that love will happen. It took a long time for it to find me, but then again I was never actively seeking it out, it just happened. Please learn that being alone is ok & that it'll happen for you. In the meantime, find love & joy in the little & big things in life. You will come to find that funny enough, when you don't look for it, it will come to you instead. You're beautiful & I love you ❤️
As a fellow demiromantic demisexual, I needed that. Thank you.
“Those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind” beautifully said 🤌🏼✨
Everywhere i look i see couples kissing, hugging and being happy. Meanwhile I'm here all alone wondering why i somehow can't have that or even friends for that matter, while remembering every time i got rejected or ignored and every friendship that just evaporated, wondering why they all seem to want to avoid me(?)
I've heard so many things at this point that I really don't know what to believe and feel completely lost... "Oh it's your looks, oh it's your social skills, oh it's your height, oh it's your confidence, oh you don't talk enough, oh it's your money, your aura, your whatever..." I'm getting to a point where it's becoming increasingly difficult to actually believe it will happen, all the while I'm forced to watch all the people i grew up with find it so effortlessly...
Sometimes i can't help but feel someone or something is playing a cruel joke on me....
thats so unfair mate i acc hurt for u so bad, i think when ur somewhere like that no matter how fucked up and unjust the situation is you need to stick with what you have, which is yourself. Even if when u go outside and everything u see seems to be working against you or you get rejected or fucked over, the one thing you can control is yourself right? liking and even loving yourself is hard when ur lacking external validation, but that means that when you finally get there itll be all the more true, and you won't need to worry about it collapsing if someone leaves your life, cause you made it yourself, and it's something that, even nowadays, not many people have. You're infinitely more valuable than your money or social skills or looks because you're a person and a life that can't be wasted. Don't wait for someone else to make you live it. And i promise what comes after is better than temporary happiness, it's contentment. And that lives forever and will nurture you through any other hardships you face, which im sure you'd have the strength to push through anyway. idk i just really wanted to reply and let you know that you're worth a friendship with yourself. Im a serial waffler i hope that made sense but idk how to word it any better. anyways love u stay safe mate
@@cherryantacids Thanks...i hope i can turn things around soon.
What @cherryantacids said was brilliant on its own, but I could add some rare or original knowledge that isn't readily apparent: Other than you get to keep all your own good memories without others distorting them or projecting negatively against what you know to be true.
Also, my best lasting memories of relationships, friendships and love interests, never needed any of the things conventional ""wisdom"" throws at you.
I didn't need money, clout, credentials or success for them to happen and many people who have those things, unfortunately never had or felt any of the things I have experienced or lived through.
Truly though, I think people who don't appreciate others are the ones who are found lacking in humaneness and a proper sense of ethics.
If I have been able to turn enemies good, how is it that others can't even do the same with people who aren't even hostile or diametrically opposed?
In this way, I have come to realize that most fixate on the wrong things from the outset.
A common example is being asked "What do you do?", as if the whole of one's life experiences beyond it can be irreversibly reduced to how they make their money... if any.
None of my loves asked me this, and it's considered poor etiquette to do so if the conversation isn't already about mutual fields of expertise or gathering references for potential networking.
Speaking of which, people can find each other on meetup.
Since there is no excessive checklists of prerequisites unless a group is using it in that way.
You are sure to eventually form bonds with whoever you share hobbies or interests with. So consider checking that out. 🤷🏻
Besides that, make your own "mind palace" for sanctuary in your head to recoup and your best memories will paint internal decorations more vivid than whatever misery may be out in the world.
And you get to carry that beauty within you as something foundational to who you are, as something that begins to shine outward.
Once you build yourself up enough, you become even more resilient against what others say or do. Their flawed perspectives shouldn't be allowed to overwrite the good & unique aspects of how a person really is.. as we are our own exceptions, not our common failings.
And the next time you see your reflection, see yourself as someone else you were looking at and ignore anything you don't like, as if it doesn't matter at that moment; to focus on anything good until it positively alters your perspective.
It doesn't have to take long, but it counters all sorts of dismorpha, even if it's projected from other people or "beauty standards".
Since the gracefulness of beauty comes from an internal source, so it's already there somewhere, you just have to acknowledge it in yourself.
Plenty of pretty people lack a sense of their own beauty without considerations like this, yet everyone has some kind of endearing qualities that are hidden from, even from themselves.
Express yourself in a good mirror(cameras can lie) and you'll begin to notice them, as well as the ones that don't fit who you are on the inside, eventually shedding what doesn't represent you.
And the expression of rose tinted glasses originates from good actual things, you just have to remember to use them on yourself from time to time.
The Penrose Wave Function Collapse in quantum physics proves that some aspects of reality, is entirely subjective. And the context of several of my life's work demonstrably confirms that.
In other words: the essence of what that Edith Paif song about living a life "in pink", is correct. So make what you will of yourself, since it's not the canvas you chose, but the palettes you paint with.
I understand all that or people say love yourself and this and that i do all the time but then i realised i want a relationship not need one so i’m basically desperate so i realised you need to live your life without searching for one and the right person will come looking for you not the other way around sort of i don’t chase i attract vibe
@@Himmel23im also facing a similar situation but with family issues which isn’t helping me either.
It's easier to love when you where born from it, but if you're born from survival, damn it's so hard to recognise love in any ways. You always think of just surviving. I hope one day I'll also feel how to really be loved by someone.
never really thought of it this way; very insightful
I get this. A vary special boy has taught me exactly that.
Totally resonated to this, thank you. Growing up and being surrounded by toxic family members, it’s hard to find love while you’re also healing yourself. It’s a sad reality.
Agreed 🥹💖
Agree but we will heal when we meet the right person , keep believin
“be the love you wish to see” that just inspired me so hard
"Some people won't be able to handle your heart" This line hit me so hard. I'm a person who loves the wrong person too much. Some of them feels overwhelmed and feels 'ew' about me. And others take it for granted. They use me as much as they can and say "She'll love me anyways". I had almost lost hope in love when i came across this video.
Since I'm an introvert I'm often shy to complement other people even when I'm amazed by their abilities or their looks. So, today, here i make a decision to never hold back when it's about complementing someone.
And to everyone watching this, i hope you feel all the love in the world that you sincerely deserve .
I'm having the same issue ....people often take my feelings for granted...and say " she'll come back anyways...ik she don't have anyone else other than me"....these behaviours made me think being a good hearted person is really worth it??
Awwww you're so kind💞🥺
I honestly think this video came to me at the right time. I started to just feel myself getting sad/angry/hopeless again, but this reminded me to keep using that beautiful energy that I was putting out into the world before I felt hurt. Thank you for this🙏🏾
Me too
Wow... when I clicked on this video, I was not expecting it to be this beautiful and well-written! It was unlike anything I've ever seen on youtube. Wonderful message, keep up the great work!!
Beras pero beras yo soy
yo soy hasi como mes
de día de noche ,,,, no cambio..,...lo que entiendo es porque me ves ,,,, conosiendo tipo de personas si ho ke
imagínate...
y si te estás burlando
pues porque lo hases???? ((4444))!!!!////😊😊😊😊
si ha ty!
nunca te hecho nada.,;.....
Beautifully written, beautifully said! To love and be loved - and nothing else, beyond. God bless you.
The words, the visuals, the song, the message, this video just felt like a warm hug and reminder to love.
I know right 🥹
Live for Love 💗
Lots of love and hugs from my side ❤️🫂
He's just like a moon, I love to admire from afar.
Some people never find that special someone in their life and we have to be content with that.
I am almost 29 in a few months. For the past 2 months, I've been in severe depression to the point of disassociating and feeling like "I've lost me." I never had romantic experience and always feel dissatisfied with life because dreams are the only ones keeping me company.
After watching this, I remembered something I wrote on my life journal sometime ago. In that moment, I felt warmth and fulfilled because the writing is filled with love from me to my own self. And I've realized that no one can ever love you as hard and as complete as yourself. The "me" that I've lost has returned to me, and I am loved.
I've written another love letter on my book, the excerpt is: ...I really do love the you who loves you.
Bless you
The person I loved just ended our situationship 5 days ago. I really cried hard. Guys, it doesn't matter if it's a situationship/relationship, i personally felt this like a huge and real break up. But my mom told me, "If you were talking that long with them, to at the end know y'all will never end together, that mean it wasn't the right person and that nothing was about to happen, and that's okay" it really changed my perspective. I feel thankful, because i will keep this experience and lesson forever, and that know I can open my heart to another person instead of waiting for them. To pass to another things. To pass to the next stage of my life. It feels so good🪷 love u. You're not alone
Hey! How are you doing after 4 weeks? I'm in similar situation to your right now, 3 days just passed... In my 26 year old life he's the first man I was able to tell I truly love. He decided we need to go back to being friends when he defined his path in life. And I feel like two separate beings right now - shrinking inside in grief but on the other hand with a new potential, with all good things I've taken from this situationship, on top that I need to love people openly and just be generous with sharing myself... How is your life developing, do you still grief sometimes after the lost or did you find some deep meaning in your lost and the life that awaits for you?
@@bierkad3691 Hi !
first of all, I totally understand what you feel, this feeling of being abandoned overnight is very frustrating, isn't it? what you feel right now is valid. for several days I cried, until no tears fell. when I met her several times after "our break up" ( it feels like it !), it was weird to me, she also found someone very quickly, as if nothing that we had experienced had mattered in her eyes.
But this moment made me realise that I deserve better! You deserve better ! someone who doesn't hide from you and shows you that he loves you. This is painful to hear, isn't it? I understand. when the sadness passes, the anger will arrive, personally, I started to notice traits in her personality that I don't like at all, but that i was never able to see because i was in love, but finally I got the ick. and then, time does things.
focus on yourself. you're not late, you're only 26, you're young! life will offer you lots of things. this man was a great experience, and a lesson, it's up to you to know what the meaning of this lesson was!
Hope this helped ! Send you love and light❤️✨️
I did dare to be a hopeless romantic, that turned out, well, let's just say not quite like I hoped. And now I'm so drained and hurt and scared I cannot be brave anymore. I just can't. I'm still trying but I can't.
i hope in return u become that hopeless romantic for your self n the ppl who u gave your love to were js the wrong ones who don’t appreciate what a good soul n being of a person you are. it’s not your fault it didn’t work out but if that’s who you are naturally, there is no shame in loving that way. many ppl feel and love differently and your way is not wrong from theirs. as a hopeless romantic i do feel ur fear but if u feel drained or hurt it’s bc we forget to give that same love to ourself when giving it. plz bring happiness to yourself, your soul, and your energy bc i believe hopeless romantics have the most beautiful pure love in the world. 🫂
don’t close off your heart to people romantic or not, with time it will get better, you can and you will trust in that I’ve been through it too.
same. i feel u stranger :’)
Sameeee 😢
It’s gonna be okay. You’ll will go through this. I think you can still be a romantic, just do it with healthy boundaries. Being love is not only appreciating every single joy like this video has said, but imo being love is loving yourself enough to acknowledge that you deserve better. From this, you will know the difference between people who genuinely care and love you and those who don’t. Just don’t allow the world and the bad people in it to suck your joy; be even more loving and appreciative despite of it.
This comment section is a treasure. I've not come across something like this since 2016.
"Life is difficult, but you are loved."
-The boy, the mole, the fox, and the horse
i’m in my teenage years and while everyone, even my friends, is in love or in a relationship i am single without even having a crush on someone. i also never had a bf, not bc i can’t “pull” guys but bc i push them away before they even have a chance to really meet me. i have always been scared of getting heartbroken which is why i always self sabotaged any talking stage i had. i am always the one who ghosts a guy, who blocks them, who pushes them away, who breaks things off and all because i am genuinely scared to let my guard down. i am scared to really open myself to someone and later for them to leave me. i know that getting heartbroken is a part of life and that everybody is gonna experience it one way or another but i really don’t want to. i am absolutely terrified of it. that’s why i close myself and pretend like i don’t mind being single, that i don’t even care about romance and love while i do. deep down i am a hopeless romantic
To know if you will get a "heartbroken" try to choose the right person for their personality, see how his mindset is and if he is a loyal and genuine guy
Wow i’ve never related to something so much this is exactly me but at the same time i’m a hopeless romantic
girl same
dude this was so me in my teenage. Never had a relationship till now (i am 25) while all my friends had bfs since highschool. Now i believe i've worked upon myself and my insecurities to the point that i dont mind taking such a risk of heartbreak and being abandoned for the right person. I dont know what future holds for me and my guy but i want things to unfold in the most real way be it good or bad. Trust the process, you'll grow out of your fear
I was EXACTLY like you, an avoidant, as a teenager. Im 21 and got brutally betrayed a few months ago by my first love. It hurt so bad i didnt think i’d ever heal but 3 months later and im a new person. I even changed my attachment style which i highly recommend doing research on before even getting into a relationship. I know youre scared of abandonment but know the obvious that pushing people away will get you nowhere, and clinging onto someone can create a codependent relationship (which i also suggest looking up). Just focus on loving and finding happiness within yourself and when you least expect it, your person will find you :)
This video really touched my heart. I will be entering my 20s this year and this is the exact sort of mentality I wish to implement in my life. In my teens, I hated everything around me but now as I've started to enjoy the little things in life, I appreciate life a little more everyday. it makes me even more happy to know people with this mindset exists as well so thank you
Why is your voice soooo soothing?? I felt like I was in heaven😭😭
I keep coming back to this video it feels like a hug 💕
it really does
In a world/society where romantic love is constantly pushed in our faces (and sometimes the relationships shown arent even healthy..!) this video is so soo refreshing! Im always telling my friends & my circle there needs to be more emphasis on friendship love, family love and of course self love. For anyone feeling like an oddball for choosing to stay single, or simply being single because you cant find the right person , YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!! and remember, being happy alone is much better imo, than a toxic relationship or one where you end up constantly in conflict with your partner.
Yet if you are looking to fall in love someday (e.g. little ol' me definitely is😆) i think this video had the most beautiful way of putting into words, how that can happen to us ❤️ Thank you for creating this beautiful reminder!
I agree with everything you said here. This comment also helps as a reminder for me 💖
@@MiscellaneousOpal ahh I'm glad ! < 3
the music, the videos, the authenticity, your soft voice, the aesthetic, the happiness and the message ... I really needed this today, thank you so much, this is beautiful 🤍🌷
it really starts to feel sometimes that i’m the only hopeless romantic around and all i see and hear is all these rules that make no sense to me. i just love to love! i love my pets, i love music, i love movies, i love to create art!!! i have so much love in me and i wish to give it to someone who would honestly love me back, not pretend that we are friends with benefits or something like that. it just doesn’t make any sense.
nearly cried watching this, tysmmm
i'm not concerned about romance, but as someone who cant seem to find purpose in life this video really taught me how to appreciate others and show love to them
thanks for helping me get a grip again 🧡
i just can't imagine someday being able to trust another person on that level i've trusted her
Ohhhh I needed this and I’m in tears. I’m freshly heartbroken, and feeling lost. I wonder if I’ll ever feel close to someone ever again, friends included. I know once the grief subsides, I’ll start to find love for life again. I just need to go out and find it. Thank you for the wonderful message in this video, that was probably one of the most important 5 and a half minutes of my year. Let us all be hopeless romantics despite what we go through. Sending love to everyone in the comments, and the wonderful creator of this video❤️
Your writing is a talent. You should know that your video has changed my entire perspective ❤
"If you want to find real love, become it, become love" is something i never understood completely and ofc i'm scared too. Like loving a person without knowing it is being reciprocated or not, that constant state of confusion, and fear of getting hurt, being in that place is very scary to me. I lost many people like that. Just becoz i cannot fully love others, or even love myself. But i don't wanna be in half love, or be half loved. I crave that pure, passionate love which u will never get bored of or be scared to lose. I'm trying more. To be more vulnerable, to love and understand people more and see positive in everything. This is hard, but i believe its worth it. I hope atleast. This video is really very beautiful to see this kind of people exist.
Just watching this video makes me cry. It makes me realize that love is so beautiful and so powerful.
You dont know the amount of positivity you radiated on me ..Thankk you soo muchh❤❤
Today I saw my crush with another girls and got rejected the week before and felt hopeless. Years of no boyfriend but I’ve been making self care a hobby and this no joke made me cry
That was sort of me 2 years ago i had a crush on my guy best friend for 2 years and he was oblivious about it and he invited me to hangout with him and a girl and told me they were dating i basically third wheeled their date and that day my heart broke i went home and cried my eyes out all night. At the same time he never knew i liked him and i never told him so it wasn’t his fault but still being his friend it hurt more after 2 months i distanced myself and hung out with new friends and never talked with him again 2 years later i’m fully healed and over him. It does get better
I was expecting a cheesy, sentimental video but I am genuinely impressed with how much depth you were able to evoke in a few minutes. Indeed, I am a hopeless romantic, but I’ve been lately reflecting on how much I’ve lost out on love from playing it safe. The truth is, even the outcome that you think is safe is not truly safe and it comes with its own share of costs. Life is unpredictable, why not bet on something that you truly want? I think you have to accept the reality that it may not transpire, but that’s OKAY!
It feels good to think "I'll be all the love I crave", man it does be hard but gosh it is so good to see genuine happiness in the eyes of the people you love when you're around
This video honestly helped me a lot because I think I complain a lot about not having friends and not having a romantic partner. I used to complain that family is all I have. But... I should be grateful that family is all I have! I could always want and love to have more people in my circle. But my 2 family members were the only people who have stuck with me through thick and thin, they've helped raise me into the person I am today and they never denied my feelings and have always accepted me in my journey of life. I'm LUCKY that I have my family by my side and I need to show them the love they deserve more instead of mopping and complaining that I'm single or no one wants to be friends with me
Amazing video from someone so young, being this mature this early is very rare and hopefully you will find someone that appreciates yourself.
"love, love"
gosh, felt like it a mirror to my feelings.
thankyou for putting this out here girl, we'll all find genuine love soon
this lit me on fire man. become the love you wish to see in your life and it will appear. that’s so simple and such a great way to approach it.
Watched this about 3 times now on separate occasions. I am still in awe.
“Love passionately, love fearlessly, love love”
“ Remember the love we seek will find it’s way to us “ that’s so beautiful ❤
unironically the most beautiful thing i’ve ever been told
This video single handedly was the MOST BEAUTIFUL video i have ever encountered
"In a world where many play cool with their feelings, dare to be a hopeless romantic." This part struck me, because I hate the idea of playing it cool. I hate how I need to consider whether expressing my love is crazy or not. I Just think it would be wonderful if we could just say the things we really feel, and not have to worry whether it's weird, because again, you have to play it cool.
her voice those words in her voice give a sense of a warm hug, ugh i can't i might shed a tear, I was feeling anxious today and saw this video, I really love the universe's timings ❤
" Those who mind dont matter and those who matter dont mind" this is beautiful, truly. Thank you ❤❤
I had a crush on my online friend within 6 Weeks i told him that i love him. It scared him so much because he still not over his ex. But i just confessed my feelings without any fear, then he started distancing me thou am aware of the consequences but to be in love is the most beautiful human experience complete self annihilation...ur heart beat for that persons wellbeing..he distanced me it was hard for me to accept then it opened beautiful ways in me to love more and fall in love with lifeee....
I always love u cutiee❤️
this was one of the best videos i have seen. everything was articulated so gracefully and everything you say is so incredibly true! i love your mindset and outlook
I'm holding back my tears 😭. I was almost giving up on my people and then I found this by accident.
"Once you start becoming love you'll forget you were ever searching for the one in the first place and that's precisely when you'll find the person you were looking for waiting for you just around the corner"
My God it's so beautiful 😭❤️
I really needed this right now. It’s helped me a ton already thank you so much.
I also like the idea of being the person people meet and think, “..their what I’ve been looking for all along.” I hope one day I can fill someone’s heart up with just as much joy as they will me :)
I’m 23 and this video hits me❤️ thank you so much for these pure feelings and deep thoughts
I used to love fearlessly and recklessly until it all became quite messy with me being surrounded by those who can hardly understand me or see me “me” and I was about giving up
but this video, oh this video of yours
I wish you all the best, thank you🥺
I am lowkey jealous of how well put and perfect this video is. I am also highly grateful for its beautiful message 🙏 Thank You ❤
This might be one of my favorite YT videos EVER.
So simple yet really impactful and important.
Thanks so much for this lovely video😇😍🤝💯
Was feeling down in the dumps about the lack of love i've had in my life, and being a hopeless romantic makes it so much more impactful. But this video genuinely provided me so much comfort and made me smile. I love the message and so many quotes which really resonate with me. So thankful I came across this video ❤
I'm gonna be completely open here. Ever since I was in first grade and had my first crush, I have been searching for some form of romantic love. Whether it was the person i liked liking me back or having a girlfriend, I just wanted something (keep in mind this was from 1st-7th grade so i had no real sense of what love really was). Especially recently I've been trying to express feelings and find what love truly means, and then I watched this video. This video taught me *probably* the greatest advice I will hear in my lifetime: We have to find and become Love, before Love can find us. I think this video isn't only about love, but inner peace & acceptance. When you find who you truly are, through pursuing passions and living your best life, you not only fill yourself with love but learn to love yourself. Sorry for my ramble & thanks for listening
"You can never say the wrong thing to the right person" thank you for that reminder I needed that 😭❤️
Really intelligently and beautifully written💛 I think this is called Agape, a Greek word for love and appreciation for the world around us, a accepting and grateful mindset towards everything.
i love how you added ur own clips, + u look so happy in them i looooove ur smile🥹💓✨🫶
i’ve lived my life in constant anxiety. constantly fearing not doing something right simply because it was “too good”. i made it a truth to myself to always have something negative be present in every situation, in order for that situation to be valid, that’s how i stopped my heart from getting broken, because i broke it first. I am a person who feels everything very deeply, and see the deep meanings in all the nuances of life, and try to defamiliarize myself with my surroundings in order to intake the weight of them.
Honestly i’ve thought that to be one of my biggest flaws. “making a big deal out of nothing” was and *is* something that I guess I’m good at. but this video inspired me to embrace it, so i’m leaving a comment so that I can have a way of always finding it. and I hope that each time I do, i’ll need it, and that I’ll come back better than i left previously.
Here’s to the future 🫶🥂 and remember, you are loved.
Never mind this video subconsciously has been a staple in my life. The amount of times I’ve said you can’t say the wrong thing to the right person. I may have not found a romantic partner but I’ve found an amazing friend who I can be vulnerable with it’s felt so freeing
I wish I had someone to love, to be honest,
I want someone to love me for being me. But I know that will never happen, I feel too ugly to deserve it.
I pour out my heart to the people I love; give them gifts, and spend time with them, but I never get that back.
I'm sorry for ruining everyone's day/night, but I want to bring it out of my chest, I feel too afraid to speak up to someone physically.
Why am I even writing this? I don't know myself. Delete this if you want.
hey it's totally fine to feel unloved I feel that all the time, boys don't seem interested in me romantically and my female friends just don't like me as much as I do like them but I always make sure to give my love to everyone without expecting anything in return and if you feel ugly and I know that feeling, it's like blaming the way you look for not receiving love, appearance brings you attention but confident, being loving and loving yourself is what brings you true love if you feel like the people around you don't love you it's alright, cut them off if they make you feel bad about yourself, embrace isolation and practice self love and inshallah you'll find people who love you even more it's just a matter of time and self love and if you'd like to vent it's totally okay❤🩹
Thank you all. 💗❤️🩹
I have always loved people more than they love me
I always try my best in my friendships
But people still take me for granted
I'm still not the chosen one in their lives I'm just a "friend" For people whom I consider my best friends
I always feel ugly and undeserving of love from someone gentle and caring because I think I am not worthy of someone like that
But I'm so tired of loving the wrong people, people who only want things from me and dont even consider my feelings my emotions
My ex tried so hard to get me back just because he's not doing well mentally and he says he needs me
But that same guy didn't even ask me when I was literally drowning and he didn't even noticed and i tried to tell him but he was so busy with his success he forgot about me
Hey, I’m sorry to hear you feel this way but know that you’re on a journey. Tell me more, I’d love to chat to you. Truly. I’m sure things will work out for you, just take some time and understand that everything works out. There will be someone for you, I know it, and I’m sure you’re not ugly there is no such thing, however you feel isn’t a permanent feeling, feelings come and go and you will feel great when the time comes. I’d love to chat. Stay well and best wishes to you 😃
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THE QUALITY IS INSANE FOR THE AMOUNT OF SUBS U HAVE
You’ve got so much wisdom at your age. Keep going x
i've been struggling with feeling empty and unloved. this really helped me realize that the love i'm seeking is within myself. thank you for sharing this perspective!
I have so many things to say abt this video.
1. Tysm for making this video, it helped me a lot. It made me realize that chasing love isnt the way, waiting isnt either. Just thinking and focusing on other things such as urself and your family is the best way to.
2. I loved your voice, it was so soothing, and i noticed you look happy sharing the advice, and living by the advice. Thank you.
3. You have really did express everything i wanted to come out of this video. Ty. You may never see me again, but, have an amazing life. You only live once. Goodbye.
This is one of the best videos I’ve ever seen🤍Thank you for that message💓
I love this so much :’)
You put into words what I love to feel, It’s such a beautiful thing to see the world through a rose colored lens. I think there are so many wonderful things in the world and I love all the different people I’ve met. It’s mostly internal for me though. I want to express my love more outwardly, to let the people I love know I love them.
The way you written and directed this video is top tier. There is something so magical about it, thank you ♡
This vid actually made me feel better🥹🥹
Great stuff ✨
The true freedom is to face and accept that life would never be good sometimes. Accepting everything and creating your life shouldn’t be really pressured like what we see in social media. We have our own way of creating it even though we’re living in fear. We just have to do the most genuine and unfiltered actions, then accept it.
It’s not simple, but it’s possible.
I believe that the reason why negative experience weigh more is to test if who’s person will going to fulfill and strive improvement in his/her life.
This is amazing. I love every single sentence you delivered. Your video is wonderfully made. Thank you ♡
I don't know what to say.. This was the video I've been looking for.. Thank u so much❤️. Already fell in love with you(and my own life like u said) Keep going.. Stay happy ❤️❤️
this is so beautiful
04:19"Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind"
4:07 “if they don’t like you back, they were never meant to be yours” 🧿
"We can never be wrong to the right people. Those who mind, don't matter, those who matter don't mind."
Thank you. Thankyou really. I needed it.
The fact that is such a young person who is sharing this profound message made the whole video so much more pure to me :') This was poetic, beautiful, and (hopefully) true. Thank you