God loves you and he wants a relationship with you he wants to give you peace even in hard times and his love that surpasses all understanding he cares about you and wants to free you from sin and he wants to save you if you would let him and accept his Son the Lord Jesus Christ who died on the cross for us Eternal life is getting to know the one true God and whom he sent the Lord Jesus Christ who loves you to give you his Holy Spirit and he died on the cross so that you can be saved from your sins if you accept
"If only I could give myself the same love and kindness and compassion I have for others" made me cry. I put so much love in the people around me and they hurt me in the longrun and then I'm destabalised all over again... I need to put that love into myself
There are two invaluable things I've taught myself.. one is the quote in your first sentence. The second one is that when people hurt you in the infinite ways they find to do that, it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with themselves. People don't hurt you because you deserve to be hurt, they hurt you because they are hurt in some way from their past. If you can convince yourself of that, it will hurt less. It will also help you understand why people do what they do.
"true self-love isn’t about self-reliance or self-sufficiency, it’s about our interconnectedness with others and allowing to be vulnerable in their presence" is hitting
Felt this to the core after the second heartbreak in two consecutive years I thought the first one was the lesson. Didn't know the second one was even harder 😢
"we don't learn to fully love ourself in isolation because we don't exist in isolation" damn this hit. i always feel that im a better person when im alone and i like myself more when being isolated not realizing that it is actually because im not allowing myself to be vulnerable even with my own family
@@carasway_ I don't know why some parts of us feels extremely shameful, regarding our sexuality or neurodivergencies for example. I don't know, sometimes I feel like a complete stranger in a room of full-loving life people.
I cried. Searching answers for months on Google didn't help me, reading self-help books didn't help me, talking to other people about it didn't help me, but this video brought my anxious mind to peace, knowing that I am not alone, feeling this way, that I have not gone mad. Thank you so so so so so much for creating something like this. I'll watch this periodically to remember who I really am and wish to be❤️
God loves you and he wants a relationship with you he wants to give you peace even in hard times and his love that surpasses all understanding he cares about you and wants to free you from sin and he wants to save you if you would let him and accept his Son the Lord Jesus Christ who died on the cross for us Eternal life is getting to know the one true God and whom he sent the Lord Jesus Christ who loves you to give you his Holy Spirit and he died on the cross so that you can be saved from your sins if you accept
I love the part about how we don’t learn to fully self love in isolation. When I feel the most down on myself I feel the need to isolate myself from others because I’m not worthy of them in that space… but ultimately it’s about accepting that no matter how we feel we are deserving of the presence of others
fuck me I just want to be held dearly and find someone that I am comfortable with, I cant believe im so starved for love that I would start getting attached to someone in a relationship. They made it clear that they arent looking to leave that relationship and yet I still held on to hope that it happens. What a sick twisted thought. Im grateful for this video because it shows how someone that is as reflected and beautiful as you also struggles with these things and makes me feel less alone. thanks to all the other comments for sharing parts of your life as well. I hope to find someone like you one day that I could love and this community gives me hope that it may happen, even if its unlikely
Sometimes I feel like having hope is like a bandaid on that desire,... And that desire only keeps on festering.. I have moments where I take the bandaid off, go through the pain of believing that it will never happen for me,... And temporarily, I experience seasons of being okay with being alone. Until probably someone starts pursuing me, and for a minute I feel wanted and those desires come flooding in. I get desperately attached very first, and usually I am the one who turns them down because mostly the values I want are usually lacking. But then again.. I have to go through the painful experience of being okay by myself again😢. Atp, I feel like I'll not even give anyone space to pursue me anymore. I am more at peace alone and without having all those desires aroused only to hurt me again😢
@@studylamp3512It'll be okay. Remember to love and listen to yourself. Remember that you don't have to be perfect, you just have to be you. Your true self. And embracing it will help you find inner peace. The same way, the people around you, they try their best. Acknowledge their efforts and accept them whole heartedly. They're just like you, trying to be perfect and looking for meaning. Embracing them for who they truly are, instead of looking for perfection will put an end to the wild goose chase you're on. I sincerely hope everything gets better. Sending lots of love and hugs
@@jayvishnuvenkatesh870 I appreciate your message. But you have assumed that I am looking for perfection.To clarify the reason as to why I do end things... Considering that we live in a hook up culture, most people want sex very first. There is no patiece to know each other well.I am not looking for perfection but it's important for one to have values, and not compromise themselves just to be with someone. Because in my opinion and from my experience, it takes time to really know someone for who they are. Having sex with them very early no matter how appealing they might appear to be, is not wise but a potential recipe for undesirable outcomes. For example you might learn that it's all they were after when you are already attached. Or they aren't who they portrayed themselves to be. Or find out things about them that are absolute deal breakers for you. So, I am better of alone than risking any of these. Just see how f'd up society is as a consequence of casual sex.
@@studylamp3512 It comforts me that we have the same values. My bad for assuming stuff, as you said, it's very hard to find someone today that knows sex is nothing about a relationship, especially ones that are really young. With your values, all you have to do is wait. Your person isn't going to be born after this, they're already waiting for you. Looking for you, and awaiting the moment you guys run into each other. That's going to be one of the best moments in both of your lives. Until that person arrives, why don't you take care of yourself good, because I know that they won't like it if you've been harsh on you, and neglecting yourself. So, do them (and you) a favor and appreciate yourself, and embrace. As the video says, embracing yourself - good and bad, is the only true way to be self loved. It takes time, a hell lotta time. But it does happen. And it's one of the best things ever. Happy that you replied, have a wonderful day friend!
@studylamp3512 I can so relate! I get attached really fast as well and just want validation 😢. When she ghosts me I cope, then eventually let go 🚶♂️ 😔
The opening part “ the part of me that I’ve been desperately running away from has finally made its way back…but this time it’s here to stay” was so terrifying and beautiful
That monologue during “shame” was something else, as if it were resonating from within me. I felt it truly, and I’ve always struggled with self love. Especially in these intimate moments when all I want is for someone to acknowledge my existence in the world and that I’m not alone in this journey. Thank you for making this
" But no amount of external validation could ever fill the void, unless I start to offer the unconditional love that I crave." I am going to cherish this quote❤
I needed to hear "We don't learn to fully love ourselves in isolation", it resonates with my daily habits. Cheers to you for making such an inspiring monologue.
I'm a psychology student and this video helped me so much to realize things. You put exactly those words that were scattered in my mind, l was wishing someone would make me understand what I was going through. I think this video in itself is therapy. If I become a therapist I'll play this to my clients for sure 😭
God loves you and he wants a relationship with you he wants to give you peace even in hard times and his love that surpasses all understanding he cares about you and wants to free you from sin and he wants to save you if you would let him and accept his Son the Lord Jesus Christ who died on the cross for us Eternal life is getting to know the one true God and whom he sent the Lord Jesus Christ who loves you to give you his Holy Spirit and he died on the cross so that you can be saved from your sins if you accept
“i don’t have to keep a perfect record, as long as i keep showing up, that’s all that matters.” that line spoke to my soul. thank you for being here + making the magic you do 🕉️
At first I thought this video was going to be about relationships and was afraid that it would open up the wounds of my recent break up. The title and thumbnail just made it too hard not to open and I'm so happy I did because the message was something I really needed to hear. Beautiful video!
This video is edited so beautifully just like a miniature movie it’s as if your not even talking about your self it’s like your painting a mural image with your words that slowly unfolds into real life from fantasy …keep going don’t force your self to be what everyone wants you to be life is difficult because we want to be accepted by any and all but the real acceptance comes from self 😊 I remember having a secret crush on a woman who was in a professional field but I could never express it directly so I felt as though I couldn’t truly face her life can make you feel all kinds of ways but never be ashamed of your natural feelings
I’ve been searching for a video like this for a while that would truly resonate with me and how I have been feeling. It is nice to know someone has been through a similar process. Thank you.
i’m actually crying my eyes out typing this, everything about this was so beautiful, and hit home so hard. i’m so glad this video came onto my algorithm and while scrolling through the comments i’m sure most people who clicked on this feel the same way. self-love really is a process and even though it’s difficult to put a finger on the details of the processes, you brought it to life with this video, well done!!
I know right, me too :”) I relate to this so much and I feel like this video is the reassurance and comfort that I’ve been needing after all that self doubt about the way I am
Love can be a double edged sword, it’s not always simple or easy to give or receive. And when people feel unworthy or struggle with their own self esteem, their craving for love might turn into a sense of desperation or dissatisfaction.
the way you express yourself is very thoughtful and introspective and you still allow yourself to be confident in the words you say despite them making you vulnerable, its refreshing and not easy to do
I have been struggling for a long time to love myself and have slowly been falling apart while trying to pretend that I was okay. Self-love is a journey. Growth is a lifetime of baby steps. Today, I am taking the first step towards healing and learning to appreciate myself just the way I am. I am not perfect and that is okay. Thank you for sharing your words and feelings and experience.
I think it's so important that often times the things we see as weaknesses or flaws are also our biggest powers and our most important traits. You cannot have light without darkness
These young people of the current generation are completely controlled by fear and social media. You are not meant to overanalyze your life, you're suppose to LIVE it.
This actually brought tears to my eyes. Your words felt so sincere and you articulated so well things that I have also felt, but could not express. Thank you for sharing this video! I feel encouraged and seen. I’m cheering for you!
As I played the video , I could relate to each and every word that you were saying. Then I suddenly said to myself , "I honor you and love you for coming this far and gaining stability". Thanks for uploading this!
Been struggling with my self-worth for a few weeks. Like in the video, it crept up and came as a shock because of all the effort and work I've done over the years to accept myself, or so I thought. I'm in constant anxiety and self- pìty seeking for validation and the desperate need for someone to love me. I felt my life falling apart, I'm without a steady income, haven't found a job, I'm a mom to a beautiful 3 y.o. and feel less productive as before, my marriage is at such a vulnerable point, and I just saw myself as a common factor, so I decided I'm the problem. And all that "work" I had done just crumbled. I've been seaking for something to explain to me what is going on, something that would help me and found nothing to comfort me. Then I came upon this video and it felt like sunshine, like something warm and kind, it all resonated with me deeply. I'm not alone, we are not alone and maybe that's the comfort that I needed, a little push to "keep showing up" for myself, and be compassionate with all of me. Thank you.
Hey you probably won't see this. I am so thankful to stumble upon this video. It probably wasn't easy to share these vulnerable stories and feelings. I feel less alone thanks to this video. Thank you.
I’m now crying at 3 am bc I’m constantly insecure about the relationships I have with people and it’s 100% that I’m not being vulnerable enough with them. Thank you so much for this. Your gift is beautiful ❤️ please keep sharing
This hit different, but thank you for putting your experience into words. It resonated with my experience so much. I start therapy next Wednesday to hopefully come out of it a stronger believer in myself and hopefully as the grander plan of things takes its course, I'll find someone that'll understand I just wanted to love and be loved in return.
Wise words Cara, I can tell a lot of diligent nurturing was compressed into this brief reminder. Sometimes I unearth these quieter corners of the internet that flabbergrasps my perception and slaps me into a completely different direction😌
this video perfectly encapsulates how I've been feeling for years. i am young, in fact, not even close to 18 yet but at my ripe age i am overwhelmed by the feeling of perfectionism which led to being overly critical of myself. for months ive been trying to heal on my own. neglecting my authentic self, burying it and replacing with a complete identity that fits the standard. this video serves as a warm hug and soft voice for me. thank you for this 😢❤
Just like you I started devouring self-help content, books, yt channels etc in an attempt to improve as fast as I could. At the same time I started to doubt that I would not repeat the same mistakes again. Your video is beautiful and made me once again realize that there will be challenges on the way and above all, made me remember this: "self-improvement is not a sprint, its a marathon". Thank you!
Oh wow. I just realized I think im so strong and independent only because im so isolated and haven't been tested since my hardest hurt a couple years ago. Thank you for making me realize im not infallible, im just in isolation
This video speaks so dearly to me, and gets at the core of my soul. Thank you for your words of wisdom and encouragement. You should be a therapist if that isn’t your current position ❤
Every time I go through a breakup(it happens a lot sadly) I tend to lose myself. I get so wrapped up in trying to love someone else & make them happy,they end up leaving me, then I hit rock bottom. It’s a cycle:/ Thank you for this 🖤
this is the best video i’ve seen on youtube. i am sobbing right now because this is exactly what i’m going through. for some reason i can give grace and compassion to everyone else but can’t seem to do it for myself. i was told inner child healing will help me so i’ll see. definitely saving this video to watch again and again
When you mentioned that you only loved the parts of you that you're proud is such a great insight that many of us can relate to. A lot of self help information revolves around taking the steps necessary to reach your goals so you can ultimately feel happy. As much as I feel this advice helps a lot of people, you have rightly pointed out that just focusing on and praising your achievements/highs leaves little room for loving the other, less desirable, parts of you. Loving yourself unconditionally puts you on a path to anti-fragility, where one cannot just withstand a shock, but actually improve from it. Great video, love from Scotland
i learn to not fall for the trap of using pain as fuel, it's too volatile and burns out too quickly. i'm trying to learn that fuel just puts us in movement, but it's up to us to set the direction or face the inevitable wall ahead, 'cuz life is a road with too many curves. part of life is to learn when to fight and to surrender, but another something i learned is that we not only tend to fall for the same traps because we don't know how to identify when it's coming. most of the time it's actually because we don't know our habits the leads us to those traps. i don't know if awareness helps or allows us to overcome an issue faster. often time i feel myself better for knowing what's happening, but clueless on what to do next. it looks like to me that you know what you want from a relationship, but when you realize that your partner doesn't adequate, you catch yourself already emotionally invested. and i'm sorry if i sound arrogant or parasocial here, i'm only saying this because i think it's a good thing to know what you want and all of us set expectations based on what we want, especially when we think we found it. and congrats on the 20k subs. i'm listening the playlist right now 😄
Yeah, using pain as fuel is not sustainable, which I've only begun to unravel. Surrendering to emotions but still having the strength to stand back up again when the time is right is definitely something I need to practice more. You're right about the fact that because we don't know our habits, that leads us to those traps, but that's why I think awareness really helps, cos if we're not aware of the patterns, we would never be able to change. I don't think most people know what they need to do next in times of struggle, but I think once you surrender and accept things for what they are, the answer sometimes reveals itself. Thank you for always leaving a comment:) It has been a real pleasure to have you along the journey from when I only had +1k subs! I really really appreciate it🤍
I wasn't feeling very good today, and I saw your video and it would be an understatement to say that I LOVED it. Made me feel seen and everything good. I feel so much lighter now, it's such a heartwarming video. 🥺💌
I've realized this too. I think "I could love myself if I simply had control over my life and how I act, if I never let myself falter in front of people" but then I have to remind myself. I don't exist in a vacuum, I can't pretend like this world won't change or shift me, because it will. Instead, I can accept myself as a person, with flaws and insecurities that may never go away, and I think within the capacity to love flaws itself is what helps you to truly see that in other people too. I think that's what I have been missing honestly. So thank you. This helped me.
after listening to this just realised you have put down my thoughts into words and found the core problem between me and boyfriend maybe its not his fault its mine i am seeking validation from him, i have to find it in myself
This video makes you feel like you've finally put all the pieces of the puzzle together... It is obvious that you prepared this video with incredible effort. Thanks.
God damn I’m only halfway through and this is so real. A year after my first real breakup, going through therapy and having my previously unshakable sense of self confidence and identity be totally crushed was rough. Wanting to be someone “better” and finally having to acknowledge all these vulnerabilities I never knew were there all this time is a really hard thing to do.
My heart feels warm while reading all this comments , people coming here and sharing their personal experiences with others so that they don't repeat the mistakes , it just feels like I am reunited with a family that had been lost for years
I have played this video on loop for I don't know how long. I fell back into my old feelings just last night and couldn't stop shaking and frantically searching for a way out until I found this video. This video encompassed everything I had felt and saw inside of myself. Three days ago I lost someone who I put so much of my love into. I had been in relationships before, but this one I enjoyed so much I began to lose my confidence and small out of fear. Thank you for making me not feel alone
Our worlds couldn't be more different, and yet the things you've said describe me like nothing ever has done before. I thought i was alone in thinking this way, and i didn't even know how much overwhelming joy there is to be felt when you find someone like yourself. I'm so so thankful that i decided to click on this random video. Thank you Cara! And yes, i cried.
My god, the way you put your feelings into words is simply outstanding! I've been feeling the exact same way but never been able to express it. This video has made reflect deeply and gave me a whole new perspective. Thank you for sharing this!
Oh girllll! You truly capture the feelings of every girl out there who dreams of being chosen and embracing herself just as she is! Your words beautifully express what’s been on my mind! Sending you lots of hugs 🫂 🫂 🫂 🫂 🫂 🫂 and you’re doing a greatttttttt job!
i was in the turmoils of a short relationship when you posted this and now after the breakup what you have created showed me how much i lock my emotions inside just like the little girl in me did. he told me i was too clingy physically i felt unloved now this video made me realize how much love i needed to give to my inner child especially in a relationship. how i need to ground myself in having a separate identity that’s different from my partner and it’s perfectly okay. how it’s perfectly ok to feel deeply about everything and in the long run how beautiful pain can be. he may not have loved me but i would have loved that clingy girl who just wanted to be held everyday and be listened to with an open heart
Honestly the part of being with others and being isolated really affected me. For years I’ve been alone and isolated. Recently I’ve tried opening up but it didn’t work out and I’m finding myself isolating again. But I want to try again, maybe I need to try it differently. Either way thank you so much for sharing! It was beautiful.
i wrote something very similar to this a little over an hour ago, this cleared up a lot of things i couldn’t see from the emotional state i’m in, thank you for the honesty you brought to this video
this answered a lot of questions for me. i shed some tears, reconnected with parts of myself that i had been neglecting, accepted truths about myself that i had been denying... nowadays i had been struggling to translate these intricate feelings of mine into words. your words really helped me. they felt like a big warm hug. thank you, i love you for this ❤🫂
This’s definitely what i need rn 😭😭😭 The feeling of betrayal to all the process i made before hit me so hard that I barely can not understand anything. Tysm for being here, in an exactly time that i need this the most. So happy and grateful for you to overcome all of this and then spreading the messages for people out here ❤
You were never whole or complete being with someone and accepting we are infinitly incomplete beings in finding ourselves. I love this it gave me a different perspective on loneliness and seeking love and assuming that it what makes us "whole"
This video helps me feel like I'm not the only one going through this. It hurts seeing other people that seem more so much more secure. Thank you for this video
one of my favourite videos ever. it gives me so much comfort & happiness seeing people being vulnerable enough to show their struggles and not making everyone believe that they should be perfect or be independent all the time
I agree so much! The turning point for me was to lower my expectations from life and from myself. As a result, I finally could see what it's like 'to live in the moment'. When 'this moment' is not about your greatest moments, but the insecurities too
I started writing an album that revolves around the concept of growing into a man and it’s a combination of my experiences and society’s expectations and for so long I thought it was abt being able to grow by yourself and not have to rely on others. Thank you for changing my mind ❤
this video couldn't have come to me at a better time. im going through this exact situation rn, and ive been having so many profound realisations. this needed to happen to me. they needed to leave me so i'd learn one of the most important lessons; the truth of self love. thank you, what a beautiful video
this is a beautiful work of art, it makes me happy how articulate and in touch with your emotions you are. Your work has undoubtedly made a significant impact to myself and others who resonate with your words and are moved by your cinematography. Thank you so much for creating this video and creating an environment to be vulnerable, you have a beautiful soul ❤
Glad youtube brought me here, your insights are wonderful. It's crazy how well you can put my thoughts into words. I'm not quite through chapter 3 in my own life, but this gives me hope things will get better
Never felt as validated as i do now as i watch this video... The jumbled mess in my head put into words...i felt so lost, especially beginning a year without making any of the progress i expected of myself.... gained back the weight....fell back into bad habits... which made me feel so pathetic and worthless...i didn't know where/how to start AGAIN,but this video is a sign😕🫶🏾
idk what to say. i’ve been struggling since college started bc the self-doubt was so strong and i’ve felt so out of control due to my thoughts yet i think i’m going to be okay now. this vid was comforting to watch. tysm bc you explained it so well
Some isolate shutting everyone out of your life even deleting all social accounts online,slowly deteriorating . That is what some might do after finding out you was played and lied to for 15 years . Staying convinced your in love realizing he never expressed himself or shown you emotion affection respect or showing any signs that he valued you. It happens especially when they still live with you and refuse to leave. Ignoring you and shows no interest in you or attraction.
Throughout the whole video, I felt heard and understood, and being heard and understood is being loved for me. Your each word was extremely relatable. This is what I badly needed today. Thank you, Cara.❤
Through the years of my youth, I have been unconsciously creating a persona of myself to the point that I have lost my own identity, and yet again, I have learned that the persona I have created was the invisible walls that I've built so that people will not see what was behind the facade. Yesterday, I've discovered that the only answer for me was to allow people to enter the gates of the walls I've built, to let people see who am I, and yesterday, i let them, it felt surreal, it felt like a warm embrace that I have been longing for. All these times I have been neglecting the light they are showing me, and kept embracing darkness I've been so familiar with. The heaviness that I have been carrying all those years became so light when I let them see my vulnerability, when I let myself be discovered. Hence, the line "we don't learn to fully love ourself in isolation because we don't exist in isolation".
“We don’t learn to love ourselves in isolation because we don’t exist in isolation” hit unexpectedly hard. I am not lonely. There are a few people that I can call friends, they are nice, caring and fun to be with. I’m in good relationships with my family, I’m comfortable with them. I have no social anxiety, people even seem to like me… but, apart from my family, there are no people I genuinely love. Once I recovered from long relationships with a person I gave all myself to, the person that was my only friend for two years, I lost my ability to love. I still try to reach out to people, but I never feel it’s worth it. When I lost her, I hoped that I will certainly find a substitution, but it was never to happen. I don’t think the void somewhere inside me will ever be filled.
Howbeit don’t give up, I enjoy my life, my work and my multiple hobbies. The only thing that makes me upset is that I cannot fully share it with someone. I still believe that I’m not hopeless.
“I’ve been selectively loving only the parts of myself that I was proud of” 😮 that’s such a good way to put it
100% agree I loved that !
yess i felt so called out😭
God loves you and he wants a relationship with you he wants to give you peace even in hard times and his love that surpasses all understanding he cares about you and wants to free you from sin and he wants to save you if you would let him and accept his Son the Lord Jesus Christ who died on the cross for us
Eternal life is getting to know the one true God and whom he sent the Lord Jesus Christ who loves you to give you his Holy Spirit and he died on the cross so that you can be saved from your sins if you accept
"If only I could give myself the same love and kindness and compassion I have for others" made me cry. I put so much love in the people around me and they hurt me in the longrun and then I'm destabalised all over again... I need to put that love into myself
You got this girl!! Lots of love xx
@@carasway_ You really made a wonderful video!! Thank you for sharing your journey and creativity with the world
how someone can hurt you. You looks gorgeous @@debbyvergoossen7610
There are two invaluable things I've taught myself.. one is the quote in your first sentence. The second one is that when people hurt you in the infinite ways they find to do that, it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with themselves. People don't hurt you because you deserve to be hurt, they hurt you because they are hurt in some way from their past. If you can convince yourself of that, it will hurt less. It will also help you understand why people do what they do.
Hey, you’re beautiful, and whatever you so on YT if it’s brings you joy keep killing it 🙏🤙
"true self-love isn’t about self-reliance or self-sufficiency, it’s about our interconnectedness with others and allowing to be vulnerable in their presence" is hitting
"felt like a betrayal of the progress I've made over the years"
Felt this to the core after the second heartbreak in two consecutive years I thought the first one was the lesson. Didn't know the second one was even harder 😢
that sentence is too real
"we don't learn to fully love ourself in isolation because we don't exist in isolation" damn this hit. i always feel that im a better person when im alone and i like myself more when being isolated not realizing that it is actually because im not allowing myself to be vulnerable even with my own family
it is the hardest sometimes to be authentically yourself with family, but it is definitely a process we can learn to embrace more x
@@carasway_ I don't know why some parts of us feels extremely shameful, regarding our sexuality or neurodivergencies for example. I don't know, sometimes I feel like a complete stranger in a room of full-loving life people.
holy shit, that sure hit me hard🥲
I cried. Searching answers for months on Google didn't help me, reading self-help books didn't help me, talking to other people about it didn't help me, but this video brought my anxious mind to peace, knowing that I am not alone, feeling this way, that I have not gone mad. Thank you so so so so so much for creating something like this. I'll watch this periodically to remember who I really am and wish to be❤️
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Wow thank you for your kind words! It makes me so happy that it helped you in some way. Sending you lots of love ❤️
God loves you and he wants a relationship with you he wants to give you peace even in hard times and his love that surpasses all understanding he cares about you and wants to free you from sin and he wants to save you if you would let him and accept his Son the Lord Jesus Christ who died on the cross for us
Eternal life is getting to know the one true God and whom he sent the Lord Jesus Christ who loves you to give you his Holy Spirit and he died on the cross so that you can be saved from your sins if you accept
I've only been focusing on this girl who has recently ghosted me. This brings me peace. Writing all these words of wisdom down 😢❤
I love the part about how we don’t learn to fully self love in isolation. When I feel the most down on myself I feel the need to isolate myself from others because I’m not worthy of them in that space… but ultimately it’s about accepting that no matter how we feel we are deserving of the presence of others
fuck me I just want to be held dearly and find someone that I am comfortable with, I cant believe im so starved for love that I would start getting attached to someone in a relationship. They made it clear that they arent looking to leave that relationship and yet I still held on to hope that it happens. What a sick twisted thought. Im grateful for this video because it shows how someone that is as reflected and beautiful as you also struggles with these things and makes me feel less alone. thanks to all the other comments for sharing parts of your life as well. I hope to find someone like you one day that I could love and this community gives me hope that it may happen, even if its unlikely
Sometimes I feel like having hope is like a bandaid on that desire,... And that desire only keeps on festering..
I have moments where I take the bandaid off, go through the pain of believing that it will never happen for me,... And temporarily, I experience seasons of being okay with being alone. Until probably someone starts pursuing me, and for a minute I feel wanted and those desires come flooding in. I get desperately attached very first, and usually I am the one who turns them down because mostly the values I want are usually lacking. But then again.. I have to go through the painful experience of being okay by myself again😢. Atp, I feel like I'll not even give anyone space to pursue me anymore. I am more at peace alone and without having all those desires aroused only to hurt me again😢
@@studylamp3512It'll be okay. Remember to love and listen to yourself. Remember that you don't have to be perfect, you just have to be you. Your true self. And embracing it will help you find inner peace. The same way, the people around you, they try their best. Acknowledge their efforts and accept them whole heartedly. They're just like you, trying to be perfect and looking for meaning. Embracing them for who they truly are, instead of looking for perfection will put an end to the wild goose chase you're on. I sincerely hope everything gets better. Sending lots of love and hugs
@@jayvishnuvenkatesh870 I appreciate your message. But you have assumed that I am looking for perfection.To clarify the reason as to why I do end things... Considering that we live in a hook up culture, most people want sex very first. There is no patiece to know each other well.I am not looking for perfection but it's important for one to have values, and not compromise themselves just to be with someone. Because in my opinion and from my experience, it takes time to really know someone for who they are. Having sex with them very early no matter how appealing they might appear to be, is not wise but a potential recipe for undesirable outcomes. For example you might learn that it's all they were after when you are already attached. Or they aren't who they portrayed themselves to be. Or find out things about them that are absolute deal breakers for you. So, I am better of alone than risking any of these. Just see how f'd up society is as a consequence of casual sex.
@@studylamp3512 It comforts me that we have the same values. My bad for assuming stuff, as you said, it's very hard to find someone today that knows sex is nothing about a relationship, especially ones that are really young. With your values, all you have to do is wait. Your person isn't going to be born after this, they're already waiting for you. Looking for you, and awaiting the moment you guys run into each other. That's going to be one of the best moments in both of your lives. Until that person arrives, why don't you take care of yourself good, because I know that they won't like it if you've been harsh on you, and neglecting yourself. So, do them (and you) a favor and appreciate yourself, and embrace. As the video says, embracing yourself - good and bad, is the only true way to be self loved. It takes time, a hell lotta time. But it does happen. And it's one of the best things ever. Happy that you replied, have a wonderful day friend!
@studylamp3512 I can so relate! I get attached really fast as well and just want validation 😢. When she ghosts me I cope, then eventually let go 🚶♂️ 😔
"we don't fully love ourselves in isolation, because we don't exist in isolation." thanks for this reminder
"It hurts to love someone who couldn't love themselves. It's like watching a work of art setting itself on fire."
- someone
Wow this !!
The opening part “ the part of me that I’ve been desperately running away from has finally made its way back…but this time it’s here to stay” was so terrifying and beautiful
That monologue during “shame” was something else, as if it were resonating from within me. I felt it truly, and I’ve always struggled with self love. Especially in these intimate moments when all I want is for someone to acknowledge my existence in the world and that I’m not alone in this journey. Thank you for making this
You are not alone. So glad you resonated🤍
" But no amount of external validation could ever fill the void, unless I start to offer the unconditional love that I crave." I am going to cherish this quote❤
unconditional *
hell yeah these days are the peak of content creation i guess. it's beautifully recorded and edited and feels like home. great job!
I needed to hear "We don't learn to fully love ourselves in isolation", it resonates with my daily habits. Cheers to you for making such an inspiring monologue.
I'm a psychology student and this video helped me so much to realize things. You put exactly those words that were scattered in my mind, l was wishing someone would make me understand what I was going through. I think this video in itself is therapy. If I become a therapist I'll play this to my clients for sure 😭
Aww thank you so much that means a lot xx
‘we don’t learn to fully love ourselves in isolation, because we don’t exist in isolation’ 🤍
Bell Hooks also shares this in her book ‘All About Love’, a beautiful quote
@@sarakl8393gonna have to read that again
Nice word's
God loves you and he wants a relationship with you he wants to give you peace even in hard times and his love that surpasses all understanding he cares about you and wants to free you from sin and he wants to save you if you would let him and accept his Son the Lord Jesus Christ who died on the cross for us
Eternal life is getting to know the one true God and whom he sent the Lord Jesus Christ who loves you to give you his Holy Spirit and he died on the cross so that you can be saved from your sins if you accept
“i don’t have to keep a perfect record,
as long as i keep showing up,
that’s all that matters.”
that line spoke to my soul.
thank you for being here + making the magic you do 🕉️
At first I thought this video was going to be about relationships and was afraid that it would open up the wounds of my recent break up. The title and thumbnail just made it too hard not to open and I'm so happy I did because the message was something I really needed to hear. Beautiful video!
This video is edited so beautifully just like a miniature movie it’s as if your not even talking about your self it’s like your painting a mural image with your words that slowly unfolds into real life from fantasy …keep going don’t force your self to be what everyone wants you to be life is difficult because we want to be accepted by any and all but the real acceptance comes from self 😊 I remember having a secret crush on a woman who was in a professional field but I could never express it directly so I felt as though I couldn’t truly face her life can make you feel all kinds of ways but never be ashamed of your natural feelings
Thank you for your beautiful message x lots of love ❤️
I’ve been searching for a video like this for a while that would truly resonate with me and how I have been feeling. It is nice to know someone has been through a similar process. Thank you.
aww thank you so much!!
i’m actually crying my eyes out typing this, everything about this was so beautiful, and hit home so hard. i’m so glad this video came onto my algorithm and while scrolling through the comments i’m sure most people who clicked on this feel the same way. self-love really is a process and even though it’s difficult to put a finger on the details of the processes, you brought it to life with this video, well done!!
I know right, me too :”) I relate to this so much and I feel like this video is the reassurance and comfort that I’ve been needing after all that self doubt about the way I am
Love can be a double edged sword, it’s not always simple or easy to give or receive. And when people feel unworthy or struggle with their own self esteem, their craving for love might turn into a sense of desperation or dissatisfaction.
Literally cried after watching your video, glad to know that I'm not the only one, It's a great video, Love It !
the way you express yourself is very thoughtful and introspective and you still allow yourself to be confident in the words you say despite them making you vulnerable, its refreshing and not easy to do
I have been struggling for a long time to love myself and have slowly been falling apart while trying to pretend that I was okay. Self-love is a journey. Growth is a lifetime of baby steps. Today, I am taking the first step towards healing and learning to appreciate myself just the way I am. I am not perfect and that is okay. Thank you for sharing your words and feelings and experience.
I think it's so important that often times the things we see as weaknesses or flaws are also our biggest powers and our most important traits. You cannot have light without darkness
These young people of the current generation are completely controlled by fear and social media. You are not meant to overanalyze your life, you're suppose to LIVE it.
This actually brought tears to my eyes. Your words felt so sincere and you articulated so well things that I have also felt, but could not express. Thank you for sharing this video! I feel encouraged and seen. I’m cheering for you!
Lots of love to you❤️
You’re not alone.
there's no love like your own
As I played the video , I could relate to each and every word that you were saying. Then I suddenly said to myself , "I honor you and love you for coming this far and gaining stability". Thanks for uploading this!
I am so glad youtube recommended me this video.I literally felt like I was seeing a reflection of myself.
No amount of external validation could ever fill the void, unless I start to offer my unconditional love I crave
"If there's anything I am good at, it would be my ability to be extremely honest with my self". That's me, that's absolutely me.
Been struggling with my self-worth for a few weeks. Like in the video, it crept up and came as a shock because of all the effort and work I've done over the years to accept myself, or so I thought. I'm in constant anxiety and self- pìty seeking for validation and the desperate need for someone to love me. I felt my life falling apart, I'm without a steady income, haven't found a job, I'm a mom to a beautiful 3 y.o. and feel less productive as before, my marriage is at such a vulnerable point, and I just saw myself as a common factor, so I decided I'm the problem. And all that "work" I had done just crumbled. I've been seaking for something to explain to me what is going on, something that would help me and found nothing to comfort me. Then I came upon this video and it felt like sunshine, like something warm and kind, it all resonated with me deeply. I'm not alone, we are not alone and maybe that's the comfort that I needed, a little push to "keep showing up" for myself, and be compassionate with all of me. Thank you.
Hey you probably won't see this. I am so thankful to stumble upon this video. It probably wasn't easy to share these vulnerable stories and feelings. I feel less alone thanks to this video. Thank you.
this made me cry in the most unexpected way.
Thankyou for these beautiful 9:12 minutes 🎉❤
I’m now crying at 3 am bc I’m constantly insecure about the relationships I have with people and it’s 100% that I’m not being vulnerable enough with them. Thank you so much for this. Your gift is beautiful ❤️ please keep sharing
love others, love your life, what you do, but most importantly, yourself. just accept who you are and show it to the world ❤
This hit different, but thank you for putting your experience into words. It resonated with my experience so much. I start therapy next Wednesday to hopefully come out of it a stronger believer in myself and hopefully as the grander plan of things takes its course, I'll find someone that'll understand I just wanted to love and be loved in return.
is it just me or female asian UA-camrs are really good at storytelling
*Asian Women, not "female asian". 😊
yess
“I’ve been selectively loving only the parts of myself that I was proud of” I love this quote so much ❤
This is the most beautiful video I’ve ever seen, thank you for speaking so well about these complex emotions.
This was exactly what I needed right now.
Not lying, this is my comfort video. I keep coming back to it. I am here for the 3rd time. Such a beautiful video.
Wise words Cara, I can tell a lot of diligent nurturing was compressed into this brief reminder. Sometimes I unearth these quieter corners of the internet that flabbergrasps my perception and slaps me into a completely different direction😌
this video perfectly encapsulates how I've been feeling for years. i am young, in fact, not even close to 18 yet but at my ripe age i am overwhelmed by the feeling of perfectionism which led to being overly critical of myself. for months ive been trying to heal on my own. neglecting my authentic self, burying it and replacing with a complete identity that fits the standard. this video serves as a warm hug and soft voice for me. thank you for this 😢❤
Just like you I started devouring self-help content, books, yt channels etc in an attempt to improve as fast as I could. At the same time I started to doubt that I would not repeat the same mistakes again. Your video is beautiful and made me once again realize that there will be challenges on the way and above all, made me remember this: "self-improvement is not a sprint, its a marathon". Thank you!
Oh wow. I just realized I think im so strong and independent only because im so isolated and haven't been tested since my hardest hurt a couple years ago. Thank you for making me realize im not infallible, im just in isolation
This video speaks so dearly to me, and gets at the core of my soul. Thank you for your words of wisdom and encouragement. You should be a therapist if that isn’t your current position ❤
It was like hearing myself talk, thankyou for this video and making others feel like they are not alone ❤
Every time I go through a breakup(it happens a lot sadly) I tend to lose myself. I get so wrapped up in trying to love someone else & make them happy,they end up leaving me, then I hit rock bottom. It’s a cycle:/
Thank you for this 🖤
believe yourself that you can walk out of this pattern! I have faith in you🤍
this is the best video i’ve seen on youtube. i am sobbing right now because this is exactly what i’m going through. for some reason i can give grace and compassion to everyone else but can’t seem to do it for myself. i was told inner child healing will help me so i’ll see. definitely saving this video to watch again and again
“The pain of not who knowing who I am that I was hungry for change and growth” 🙌🏽💯
Cried the whole 9mins...your words soothes my soul... It is really it is what I have been looking for years🖤
When you mentioned that you only loved the parts of you that you're proud is such a great insight that many of us can relate to. A lot of self help information revolves around taking the steps necessary to reach your goals so you can ultimately feel happy. As much as I feel this advice helps a lot of people, you have rightly pointed out that just focusing on and praising your achievements/highs leaves little room for loving the other, less desirable, parts of you. Loving yourself unconditionally puts you on a path to anti-fragility, where one cannot just withstand a shock, but actually improve from it. Great video, love from Scotland
i learn to not fall for the trap of using pain as fuel, it's too volatile and burns out too quickly. i'm trying to learn that fuel just puts us in movement, but it's up to us to set the direction or face the inevitable wall ahead, 'cuz life is a road with too many curves.
part of life is to learn when to fight and to surrender, but another something i learned is that we not only tend to fall for the same traps because we don't know how to identify when it's coming. most of the time it's actually because we don't know our habits the leads us to those traps.
i don't know if awareness helps or allows us to overcome an issue faster. often time i feel myself better for knowing what's happening, but clueless on what to do next.
it looks like to me that you know what you want from a relationship, but when you realize that your partner doesn't adequate, you catch yourself already emotionally invested. and i'm sorry if i sound arrogant or parasocial here, i'm only saying this because i think it's a good thing to know what you want and all of us set expectations based on what we want, especially when we think we found it.
and congrats on the 20k subs. i'm listening the playlist right now 😄
Yeah, using pain as fuel is not sustainable, which I've only begun to unravel. Surrendering to emotions but still having the strength to stand back up again when the time is right is definitely something I need to practice more.
You're right about the fact that because we don't know our habits, that leads us to those traps, but that's why I think awareness really helps, cos if we're not aware of the patterns, we would never be able to change. I don't think most people know what they need to do next in times of struggle, but I think once you surrender and accept things for what they are, the answer sometimes reveals itself.
Thank you for always leaving a comment:) It has been a real pleasure to have you along the journey from when I only had +1k subs! I really really appreciate it🤍
I wasn't feeling very good today, and I saw your video and it would be an understatement to say that I LOVED it. Made me feel seen and everything good. I feel so much lighter now, it's such a heartwarming video. 🥺💌
So glad that it made you feel better x
I've realized this too. I think "I could love myself if I simply had control over my life and how I act, if I never let myself falter in front of people" but then I have to remind myself. I don't exist in a vacuum, I can't pretend like this world won't change or shift me, because it will. Instead, I can accept myself as a person, with flaws and insecurities that may never go away, and I think within the capacity to love flaws itself is what helps you to truly see that in other people too. I think that's what I have been missing honestly. So thank you. This helped me.
i’ve NEVER felt something so personal like this, i really really really needed this. thank you.
after listening to this just realised you have put down my thoughts into words and found the core problem between me and boyfriend maybe its not his fault its mine i am seeking validation from him, i have to find it in myself
I am glad you. Yes you!! are living here in this moment with me. Bless you!
This video makes you feel like you've finally put all the pieces of the puzzle together...
It is obvious that you prepared this video with incredible effort. Thanks.
What a beautiful journey of self-reflection, growth and vulnerability! Sending you a big hug!
God damn I’m only halfway through and this is so real. A year after my first real breakup, going through therapy and having my previously unshakable sense of self confidence and identity be totally crushed was rough. Wanting to be someone “better” and finally having to acknowledge all these vulnerabilities I never knew were there all this time is a really hard thing to do.
I've been rushing my healing journey only made things worse and this video is just so comforting ,I feel like wanna sleep after watching.
My heart feels warm while reading all this comments , people coming here and sharing their personal experiences with others so that they don't repeat the mistakes , it just feels like I am reunited with a family that had been lost for years
I have played this video on loop for I don't know how long. I fell back into my old feelings just last night and couldn't stop shaking and frantically searching for a way out until I found this video. This video encompassed everything I had felt and saw inside of myself. Three days ago I lost someone who I put so much of my love into. I had been in relationships before, but this one I enjoyed so much I began to lose my confidence and small out of fear. Thank you for making me not feel alone
I hope you're feeling better x big hugs to you🩷
Our worlds couldn't be more different, and yet the things you've said describe me like nothing ever has done before. I thought i was alone in thinking this way, and i didn't even know how much overwhelming joy there is to be felt when you find someone like yourself. I'm so so thankful that i decided to click on this random video. Thank you Cara! And yes, i cried.
So good every word stayed in my mind. My favourite line " I was not that affected by losing him but losinga a part of me I thought I healed. "
if there is “the best video u watched”, that’s the video
aww thank you!!
My god, the way you put your feelings into words is simply outstanding! I've been feeling the exact same way but never been able to express it. This video has made reflect deeply and gave me a whole new perspective. Thank you for sharing this!
Thank you for liking it x
Oh girllll! You truly capture the feelings of every girl out there who dreams of being chosen and embracing herself just as she is! Your words beautifully express what’s been on my mind! Sending you lots of hugs 🫂 🫂 🫂 🫂 🫂 🫂 and you’re doing a greatttttttt job!
i was in the turmoils of a short relationship when you posted this and now after the breakup what you have created showed me how much i lock my emotions inside just like the little girl in me did. he told me i was too clingy physically i felt unloved now this video made me realize how much love i needed to give to my inner child especially in a relationship. how i need to ground myself in having a separate identity that’s different from my partner and it’s perfectly okay. how it’s perfectly ok to feel deeply about everything and in the long run how beautiful pain can be. he may not have loved me but i would have loved that clingy girl who just wanted to be held everyday and be listened to with an open heart
Honestly the part of being with others and being isolated really affected me. For years I’ve been alone and isolated. Recently I’ve tried opening up but it didn’t work out and I’m finding myself isolating again. But I want to try again, maybe I need to try it differently. Either way thank you so much for sharing! It was beautiful.
i wrote something very similar to this a little over an hour ago, this cleared up a lot of things i couldn’t see from the emotional state i’m in, thank you for the honesty you brought to this video
this answered a lot of questions for me. i shed some tears, reconnected with parts of myself that i had been neglecting, accepted truths about myself that i had been denying... nowadays i had been struggling to translate these intricate feelings of mine into words. your words really helped me. they felt like a big warm hug. thank you, i love you for this ❤🫂
This’s definitely what i need rn 😭😭😭
The feeling of betrayal to all the process i made before hit me so hard that I barely can not understand anything.
Tysm for being here, in an exactly time that i need this the most.
So happy and grateful for you to overcome all of this and then spreading the messages for people out here ❤
Chapter 2…. I never felt so connected and seen. My eyes feel open and I feel human again. Thank you so much for this video. 💓💓💓💓
You were never whole or complete being with someone and accepting we are infinitly incomplete beings in finding ourselves. I love this it gave me a different perspective on loneliness and seeking love and assuming that it what makes us "whole"
This video helps me feel like I'm not the only one going through this. It hurts seeing other people that seem more so much more secure. Thank you for this video
one of my favourite videos ever. it gives me so much comfort & happiness seeing people being vulnerable enough to show their struggles and not making everyone believe that they should be perfect or be independent all the time
never find a more relatable video, first time i felt someone understand how i feel
I agree so much! The turning point for me was to lower my expectations from life and from myself. As a result, I finally could see what it's like 'to live in the moment'. When 'this moment' is not about your greatest moments, but the insecurities too
The visuals, the sound, the overall delivery of this beautiful message was just so amazing 🥲. Thanks for sharing ❤️
I started writing an album that revolves around the concept of growing into a man and it’s a combination of my experiences and society’s expectations and for so long I thought it was abt being able to grow by yourself and not have to rely on others. Thank you for changing my mind ❤
this video couldn't have come to me at a better time. im going through this exact situation rn, and ive been having so many profound realisations. this needed to happen to me. they needed to leave me so i'd learn one of the most important lessons; the truth of self love. thank you, what a beautiful video
this is a beautiful work of art, it makes me happy how articulate and in touch with your emotions you are. Your work has undoubtedly made a significant impact to myself and others who resonate with your words and are moved by your cinematography. Thank you so much for creating this video and creating an environment to be vulnerable, you have a beautiful soul ❤
Glad youtube brought me here, your insights are wonderful. It's crazy how well you can put my thoughts into words. I'm not quite through chapter 3 in my own life, but this gives me hope things will get better
Never felt as validated as i do now as i watch this video... The jumbled mess in my head put into words...i felt so lost, especially beginning a year without making any of the progress i expected of myself.... gained back the weight....fell back into bad habits... which made me feel so pathetic and worthless...i didn't know where/how to start AGAIN,but this video is a sign😕🫶🏾
thank you. i really needed to hear this- it’s quite literally exactly what i needed to hear in this moment so thank you. so much ❤
idk what to say. i’ve been struggling since college started bc the self-doubt was so strong and i’ve felt so out of control due to my thoughts yet i think i’m going to be okay now. this vid was comforting to watch. tysm bc you explained it so well
Same
Some isolate shutting everyone out of your life even deleting all social accounts online,slowly deteriorating . That is what some might do after finding out you was played and lied to for 15 years . Staying convinced your in love realizing he never expressed himself or shown you emotion affection respect or showing any signs that he valued you. It happens especially when they still live with you and refuse to leave. Ignoring you and shows no interest in you or attraction.
Throughout the whole video, I felt heard and understood, and being heard and understood is being loved for me.
Your each word was extremely relatable.
This is what I badly needed today. Thank you, Cara.❤
Through the years of my youth, I have been unconsciously creating a persona of myself to the point that I have lost my own identity, and yet again, I have learned that the persona I have created was the invisible walls that I've built so that people will not see what was behind the facade. Yesterday, I've discovered that the only answer for me was to allow people to enter the gates of the walls I've built, to let people see who am I, and yesterday, i let them, it felt surreal, it felt like a warm embrace that I have been longing for. All these times I have been neglecting the light they are showing me, and kept embracing darkness I've been so familiar with. The heaviness that I have been carrying all those years became so light when I let them see my vulnerability, when I let myself be discovered. Hence, the line "we don't learn to fully love ourself in isolation because we don't exist in isolation".
I’m in Chapter 3 right now, it’s a really hard stage now and wow… thank you for the insight. This will help me get back on track to loving myself. 🙏
this gave me deep comfort on a really depressing day, thank you 🥺
“We don’t learn to love ourselves in isolation because we don’t exist in isolation” hit unexpectedly hard. I am not lonely. There are a few people that I can call friends, they are nice, caring and fun to be with. I’m in good relationships with my family, I’m comfortable with them. I have no social anxiety, people even seem to like me… but, apart from my family, there are no people I genuinely love. Once I recovered from long relationships with a person I gave all myself to, the person that was my only friend for two years, I lost my ability to love. I still try to reach out to people, but I never feel it’s worth it. When I lost her, I hoped that I will certainly find a substitution, but it was never to happen. I don’t think the void somewhere inside me will ever be filled.
(Sorry for my bad English, it’s my second language)
Howbeit don’t give up, I enjoy my life, my work and my multiple hobbies. The only thing that makes me upset is that I cannot fully share it with someone. I still believe that I’m not hopeless.
thank you!!! self-love is endless forgiveness of one's self.